I am single! 38 yr old woman no kids, I agree that the church idolizes family and marriage. I do desire a partner in this life but i'm not settling either. The Lord told me that I am complete, so no one is going to tell me otherwise. I am part of a church currently that I serve at as a greeter and the women's small group but I refuse to make church my whole life. I will miss a Sunday without a second thought or guilt. My good friend is the pastors wife and she stepped down as a pastor and sleeps in a lot of Sundays because she prioritizes her health. I love that for her! If If they had not taken over this church in 2020 I probably would not be going anywhere. I left my previous church in 2017 because I felt like an outcast as a single woman, there was no real community for me because they do treat you different. I felt ignored and overlooked. Besides my current church, I don't see myself being part of the church system again if I move away from my area but I do really enjoy the people at my church.
Best thing about this channel is seeing believers who know the word, are spiritually discerning and have critical thinking skills 🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥 the church loves man made philosophies and traditions but y’all are bringing Romans 12:2 to LIFE 🙏🏽
Thank you. We appreciate the appreciation! 😂 Love the Rom. 12:2 reference. I almost started a podcast called R12. You know what's interesting? Not many people understand what we do in our conversations. You hit the nail on the head. R12.
@@churchdropout Wow! Romans 12:2 is one of my favorite verses so I know when I see it in action. The people who don’t understand probably haven’t had their minds renewed but those of us who have understand exactly what y’all are about.
@@daydreamdirty Yeah some things have to change in the culture of church in America. It’s pitiful but people refuse to abandon the traditions of men. It’s so frustrating
@@daydreamdirty Agreed. And the willingness of men to blindly follow behind other men who don't follow Christ really just comes down to fatherlessness. I guess that's what this whole life really boils down to in the grand scheme of things. Our need for our heavenly father.
I'm glad that I made peace with this in my late 20's. Once I really dug into Paul's writings, that peace was cemented for me. My parents didn't have a perfect marriage, but they were married when they had children. I determined that this was the only way I would have children. I'm fully settled into God's plan for my life concerning this. I look at the hardships and the attacks in my life now. God is all wise. And whatever He does, is better than anything we can put together. Great episode!
I really appreciate that you get ideas from reading your comments. It makes this podcast more of a conversation and experience, and I think everyone wants to be heard. Iron sharpens iron.😁
Thank you for addressing this. As a single, never-married woman in my 40s, I've struggled to feel at home in most churches. Too much emphasis on marriage, family, and various programs always leaves me feeling disconnected. Which is a shame, because we singles have so much to offer. I can think of many single women in particular who have been used mightily by God...Amy Carmichael, Gladys Aylward, Jackie Pullinger, just to name a few. Often without 'official' church support, interestingly. There IS a place for us, in God's kingdom and in his work, but we may have to go outside the confines of the institutional church to follow his call on our lives.
I'm thankful that comments people make here are taken to heart, and addressed Allen, you're providing a place for us to have care and concern for each other as Christ's body. Keep bringing issues to light ! Good work, blessings to you both 💕🙏
❤ Right Exactly I believe that to be so very true and It Is very Ridiculous 🙄 because who are those people to say that Holy Spirit Filled Singles cannot fulfil the call of God in/on their lives. ❤
@@churchdropout sure! I was dating a guy I met in youth group. We dated for a couple of years. I made an appointment for marriage counseling with the pastor. I was having some concerns about whether it was going in the right direction. When we got to the session, he just pulled out his calendar and scheduled the first available wedding date. It seemed he was more concerned about if we were being intimate than if we were compatible or ready. It turned out my concerns were valid. He had several issues that included substance abuse. As well as spousal abuse and serial infidelity. I went to ministerial counseling, and was taught more codependent behaviors. I eventually sought professional counseling and read Drs Cloud and Townsend’s book about boundaries as well as learned about codependency. I did divorce him and was rejected by so many in the church without them even knowing why I did this. I guess I was required to justify it to everyone. I didn’t feel it was my place to confess his sins to everyone. I ended up leaving the church I’d been going to since I was 12yo. I healed and am married to an amazing husband for over thirty years now. Our family (to include our daughters and their husbands) serves God. It does work out bc God is faithful.
In Christian fundamentalist groups they basically preach Gods will for you is to get married and have a quiver full of kids, if you don’t it’s like your not fulfilling your God given assignment
I am single! 38 yr old woman no kids, I agree that the church idolizes family and marriage. I do desire a partner in this life but i'm not settling either. The Lord told me that I am complete, so no one is going to tell me otherwise. I am part of a church currently that I serve at as a greeter and the women's small group but I refuse to make church my whole life. I will miss a Sunday without a second thought or guilt. My good friend is the pastors wife and she stepped down as a pastor and sleeps in a lot of Sundays because she prioritizes her health. I love that for her! If If they had not taken over this church in 2020 I probably would not be going anywhere. I left my previous church in 2017 because I felt like an outcast as a single woman, there was no real community for me because they do treat you different. I felt ignored and overlooked. Besides my current church, I don't see myself being part of the church system again if I move away from my area but I do really enjoy the people at my church.
Best thing about this channel is seeing believers who know the word, are spiritually discerning and have critical thinking skills 🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥 the church loves man made philosophies and traditions but y’all are bringing Romans 12:2 to LIFE 🙏🏽
Thank you. We appreciate the appreciation! 😂 Love the Rom. 12:2 reference. I almost started a podcast called R12. You know what's interesting? Not many people understand what we do in our conversations. You hit the nail on the head. R12.
@@churchdropout Wow! Romans 12:2 is one of my favorite verses so I know when I see it in action. The people who don’t understand probably haven’t had their minds renewed but those of us who have understand exactly what y’all are about.
@@daydreamdirty Yeah some things have to change in the culture of church in America. It’s pitiful but people refuse to abandon the traditions of men. It’s so frustrating
@@daydreamdirty Agreed. And the willingness of men to blindly follow behind other men who don't follow Christ really just comes down to fatherlessness. I guess that's what this whole life really boils down to in the grand scheme of things. Our need for our heavenly father.
I'm glad that I made peace with this in my late 20's. Once I really dug into Paul's writings, that peace was cemented for me. My parents didn't have a perfect marriage, but they were married when they had children. I determined that this was the only way I would have children. I'm fully settled into God's plan for my life concerning this. I look at the hardships and the attacks in my life now. God is all wise. And whatever He does, is better than anything we can put together. Great episode!
Amen! Thank you for sharing. Blessings.
I really appreciate that you get ideas from reading your comments. It makes this podcast more of a conversation and experience, and I think everyone wants to be heard.
Iron sharpens iron.😁
Our pleasure. Our goal from the beginning has been to build a community not a channel. Thank you for noticing and sharing!
Thank you for addressing this. As a single, never-married woman in my 40s, I've struggled to feel at home in most churches. Too much emphasis on marriage, family, and various programs always leaves me feeling disconnected. Which is a shame, because we singles have so much to offer. I can think of many single women in particular who have been used mightily by God...Amy Carmichael, Gladys Aylward, Jackie Pullinger, just to name a few. Often without 'official' church support, interestingly. There IS a place for us, in God's kingdom and in his work, but we may have to go outside the confines of the institutional church to follow his call on our lives.
Absolutely. Thank you for sharing!
Yall always on point
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I'm thankful that comments people make here are taken to heart, and addressed Allen, you're providing a place for us to have care and concern for each other as Christ's body. Keep bringing issues to light ! Good work, blessings to you both 💕🙏
Thank you! 🙏 Blessings!
❤ Right Exactly I believe that to be so very true and It Is very Ridiculous 🙄 because who are those people to say that Holy Spirit Filled Singles cannot fulfil the call of God in/on their lives. ❤
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Thank you for addressing this topic and thank you for your podcast 🙏
No problem. Thank you for listening! Blessings!
Being in a bad marriage is worse than the blessings of the church.
It sure I understand this one. Can you explain?
@@churchdropout sure! I was dating a guy I met in youth group. We dated for a couple of years. I made an appointment for marriage counseling with the pastor. I was having some concerns about whether it was going in the right direction. When we got to the session, he just pulled out his calendar and scheduled the first available wedding date. It seemed he was more concerned about if we were being intimate than if we were compatible or ready. It turned out my concerns were valid. He had several issues that included substance abuse. As well as spousal abuse and serial infidelity. I went to ministerial counseling, and was taught more codependent behaviors. I eventually sought professional counseling and read Drs Cloud and Townsend’s book about boundaries as well as learned about codependency. I did divorce him and was rejected by so many in the church without them even knowing why I did this. I guess I was required to justify it to everyone. I didn’t feel it was my place to confess his sins to everyone. I ended up leaving the church I’d been going to since I was 12yo. I healed and am married to an amazing husband for over thirty years now. Our family (to include our daughters and their husbands) serves God. It does work out bc God is faithful.
@@churchdropout I’m sorry for the incoherence. I was responding to a particular statement you made. It worked at that moment. Haha
I get it! That whole better to marry than to burn mindset. Just wanted understanding. Thank you for commenting and clarifying!
Looking forward to this
In Christian fundamentalist groups they basically preach Gods will for you is to get married and have a quiver full of kids, if you don’t it’s like your not fulfilling your God given assignment
That’s good. Definitely the case. 🔥
Wow the great commission is a retelling of be fruitful and multiply! Never saw it like that, that was good 😊
Amen bro.