You just answered my prayers. I asked God that if my partner was not right for me to please let him abandon me (because I suspected he was a narcissist and he was just pretending to be nice to make me stay with him). After a few weeks he made a drama and said he would leave (but he didn't) so I thought I wasn't right. But he completely abandoned me emotionally and financially (that he did already for years and now it's pretty clear). Thanks for this.
God bless you and your family with wisdom and strength. The Almighty God wants us to be happy, to enjoy our life and family not to be miserable. God bless you. 🤗🤗🤗🙌🙌🙌
I struggled with this for the years I was married thinking that my husband had to physically leave but we've been separated in the house for almost 3 months and he doesn't even talk to me or try to fix the marriage he's definitely a narcissist and I knew that I waited to see what God wanted me to do I fell into the Trap was thinking that God wanted me to stay in the marriage but now I see that it was more like devil wanted me to stay so I would suffer I know this now because my husband has had three months to talk to me about how we can fix the marriage and he says nothing and every time I ask he tells me it's my responsibility not his typical narcissistic response blame shifter Gaslight you so I filed for divorce couple of days ago I understand whoever's feeling down about everything because we love Jesus but I believe that I was emotionally abandoned for very long time when the abuse started and now I know by him being on the couch for three months and not talking to me at all he has no intentions so he's abandoned me emotionally is that anybody else's feelings on this?
My ex on the way home from the honeymoon told me "Now that I have you I don't have to do anything with you", he meant it, we divorced, God gave me my Mr right. We have been married almost 26 years
It's addictions (Bible specifically mentions "drunkards" as grounds for divorce with God's approval). We can assume that includes all addictions today ie. Alchohol, drugs, porn, sex addictions, etc
My husband completely abandoned me emotionally. He used to gaslight me, barely ever comforted me, was not there for me and our kids. I haven't shared a room with him in 3 years now. I was wondering if divorce was okay or not. Thank you for giving me hope.
No he isnt. He doesn’t know his Bible. Doesn’t even sound like he has READ it…but only cherry picks what he wants. Where in Gods would does it say divorce is accepted by God….I’ll wait….
#3 in the Bible is addiction (specifically "drunkards" are mentioned) but today that would equate to alcohol, drugs, porn, sex outside of marriage, etc
Divorce just about destroyed my life. 18 years of marriage. You are connected. You’ve become one. Divorce makes you feel like you’ve been torn apart. If I didn’t have God helping me and that divorce class. I would not be here. Especially after finding out she cheated on me, with a preacher friend and they are now married, and he lives in the house I payed for.
I feel ya! 15 years here...my tip: PRAY for forgiveness, strength, and guidance. The faster you cultivate your new spiritual life, the faster the pain leaves. Even if you dont feel like it...fake it til you make it. Go through the motions til the Emotions catch up!
See Malachi chapter 3. God hates divorce, but in cases of adultery, physical, emotional and mental abuse or sex, drug or alcohol addiction (idolatry) God allows divorce. One of the first commandments is: You shall not have other gods before me.
Thank you for sharing this! Some Christians beat me down because I am divorced. I have been told that if I remarry I am committing adultery because I am still technically married to my ex (according to them as they don't acknowledge the divorce). Some sects of Christianity even tell me I may not fully join their church and cannot receive the Eucharist/Communion because of being divorced. I think it's disgusting and contributes to abuse that many go through in a marriage. When we treat someone that is divorced as less than and not as worthy of partaking in worshipping God fully and unworthy of partaking in the Eucharist, we very well may end up turning these individuals completely away from Christianity. Christ would not turn away someone seeking Him...we are not gatekeepers for others to God, only Christ is the way to God and He sees into our hearts. My ex husband became abusive mentally, emotionally, and started some physical abuse via throwing things at me and shoving me. He committed adultery many times and even brought one of the women to our home right after I had our second child. He became addicted to pornography and talked to women sexually online. He ignored me and our sons. He would scream at us and my oldest son has memories of me locking us in the bathroom to get away from his dad. I would hold my son (he was 3 at the time) and sing songs and pray loudly to drown out his dad. My ex refused marriage counseling. He went to work overseas as a contractor. He started cheating over there with the military women and other civilian contractors. One of the women was an IT worker and when working on his laptop she found my email. She ended up emailing me all the gross details of her sexual encounters with my husband and sent pictures. He would take LWOPs and travel on mini vacations with his various women while sending me and the boys very little money some months. My ex thought because he made a ton of money that he could just buy me when I finally had enough. I told him I would not raise my boys in such an abusive dysfunctional environment. He said he would buy me a new home anywhere I wanted in the world and give me a large "allowance" if I would just not divorce him. His proposition was that he would continue to live and work overseas in various areas (I had asked him to come home and do counseling if he truly wanted to be with me and the boys. He told me absolutely not and that he didn't want to be a father any longer to our sons and he didn't want the monogamy that was expected from a husband). Part of his proposition included that he would continue to sleep with whoever he wanted. I was to not question it and to pretend it wasn't happening. He wanted his perfect little family at "home" though, or when we were needed to make him look good. But he wanted all of his other women and men still and sexual escapades when not with us. He wanted to live these two seperate lives. I was also not to see anyone else. He said he would divorce me if he found out I was seeing anyone or had slept with anyone else (He was my first and only for the 10 years we were together). God does not want me nor my sons to be with a man like that. He turned away from Christianity, he denied the Christ, he was abusive, he abandoned us, he was an adulterer.... We were no longer equally yoked and I had to do what was best for my sons. I prayed and read the bible and did what I felt God had laid on my heart to do. It's disgusting to be looked down upon or treated as less than because I chose to remove me and my children from an abusive man...a man that had clearly stated he no longer truly wanted the two amazing little boys God had blessed us with and expected me to happily live in an abusive and adulterous relationship with someone that had decided to denounce his faith. The God I know does not want that for me and especially not for my sons.
Wow. I have a very similar situation. may the Lord Richly Bless You and your children and have His will be fulfilled in your life, because God wants us to have an abundant life. In God's eyes, you're His masterpiece. I know God has a good plan for all, regardless of what we go through. Stay encouraged in Christ, sister 🙏🩷
@@cincin4515 but the word does say their are those with a reprobated mind and therefore, pre destined to hell. The Holy Spirit sent me a dream about the man I was with as I have been praying for discernment about him. Bam 💥. He woke me up to reality! Jesus is alive and he’s proven it to me! Thank you Lord for loving me enough to keep me out of harms way!
I have narcissistic traits and i am worried it would take the most out of me, also a big factor that leads to narcissism is being conceived out of wedlock. I am a product of unequally yoked adultery where my dad was the Christian and my mum wasn't. I don't ever believe i would be in heaven, one reason is my conception, second is my grudges towards my dad as a result, third being i am not righteous
This explains that I did follow the Bible in getting divorced when I did . I tried so hard to make the marriage work but he continued the same emotional abandonment over an over again.
My X did all two or maybe 3 but I did not hear #3 , and he divorced me and married one of the women that he was having affair with but he kept telling me that God has forgiven him and her but the women that he married told me God will punish my daughter and I…..hope there is justice🙏🙏🙏🙏
Adultery, physical abuse or mental and emotional abuse and drug, alcohol addiction! Sexual addiction, drug & alcohol addiction is IDOLATRY or worship of other than God Almighty, Jahweh, Jehovah God!
I felt porn was wrong enough when younger in marriage I was devastated. I wanted to divorce him now idk. I'm so used to it it's part of life now. He loves me but can not stop porn addiction. It's also rampant people our age, including women. I don't know what to do. He has no one else he's in poor health but I haven't felt the same love I used to, I settled. The thing is I have had many opportunities to physically cheat on him and didn't. Maybe I'll live alone for a while.
Nothing is too hard for God. Turn to Him. Surrender all of your mess in the marriage. Spend some time seeking Him and his word. Not the internet, not your girlfriends, not youtube doctors posting reels…set it all down. What does GOD have to say about your situation? Let Him speak to you. He will. He has a will and purpose for your marriage.
my husband had severe mental illness and he got involved with these Sacred Name groups. I wanted nothing to do with it & he cut me off! He wouldn't even buy my food or my medicine (even when he got his income tax return!) He finally came to me on Christmas Eve 2005 and said, "Unless you denounce your Messiah, I am sinning by being married to you". so I said, " You do what you're gonna do. Cause there's no talking to you. But denying Christ IS NOT AN OPTION so I guess we're done". and he made ME pay for the divorce!
That narc did everything a narc is suppose to do when I was in that hellship. Haven't heard anything yet that I didn't experienced during those times. I had every right to divorce.
Unfortunately religion is taught behavior and restricts the freedom that comes from learning by one's own journey with God. It's extremely difficult to break someone from believing they can't go outside the religious box.
I used to call Nintendo and the black hebrew israelites Demons, it turns out just calling an image of God a demon is worse than murder I struggle with feelings like "what if I'm the narcissist?"
Addiction makes sense. I left due to his addiction to spending and discovered the savings was wiped out. I carried that guilt as i grew in faith. This offer insight n some relief of guilt. He still has a spending addiction
I’ve lived with a passive aggressive husband for 35 years. He’s an emotional terrorist. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I was determined to make it work for the sake of our kids, plus I really loved him, but it was destroying my soul. Every time I would psych myself up to be brave and leave him, he would see I was emotionally checking out and he would flip the script and start being Mr. Wonderful again, just until I was fully sucked back in, then the passive aggression was back in full force and all the misery that goes with it. I finally gave up trying to please him or win his love or even trying to leave, and now I’m just comfortably numb. I feel nothing, and now I’ve also emotionally abandoned the marriage (and physically, too) but it’s the only way I can survive in this marriage. The passive aggression doesn’t even control me anymore. I live in my own little world under the same roof. He gets to be an emotional terrorist, and I get to not be affected by it anymore. It seems to be working. I make decent money but I have no pension. He has a great pension so maybe after he retires I’ll take my half and “slip out the back, Jack”. I still pray God can do a miracle, but he will have to do something in my heart also at this point. Maybe my story helps others in the same situation with a passive aggressive person, to know they aren’t going crazy, and even though they are constantly being punished, it’s not their fault. The other person is the one with the glitch.
My ex husband was a narc. He left me and my child 5 years ago. Shockingly, I've had guys ask me to be in a relationship with them, but I tured them down because I don't want to go to hell. I wish I heard this earlier, because maybe I wouldn't have been so scared to date and pretend I wasn't interested. I don't want to be alone. But if I have to, for the kingdom of God, than so be it. That hurts to say, but I don't want to make God angry and go to hell. That's my biggest fear.
12 years of ABANDONMENT ABORTION ABUSE ADDICTION ADULTERY ANGER I feel I can be so much further in life without him. now we have 4 children and I feel obligated to stay and fake being in love.
@@ravenvane2227 if my children were being abused I would not have stayed this long. Being a great mother is different from being a horrible wife! in my case my husband is a great father! just a lousy husband.
I knew this about 7 years ago that's pretty sad that people don't want to fight for their marriages anymore there's no commitment imagine doing that to us thank God he's not like us 💯❤️👍🏼👍🏼
My husband was great in many ways, but he was addicted to sex and had many affairs. I didn’t realize he wouldn’t forsake his ways! He eventually divorced me. I turned my back on him and walked away in order to heal. He was shocked that I turned away! I have had a peaceful good life once my heart healed. I am happy with my LORD GOD.
Yep sounds about right he meets all the criteria. You know what’s sad? I try to work it out even despite the fact that he was a terrible husband but then I realized I’m worth so much more in God’s eyes.❤
I am a Christian and I married a Muslim man and he was very nice until after we were married then he became abusive; silent treatment, would leave the house etc… so basically, I felt like he emotionally abandoned me and so I left and came back to America with my family. I considered him still my husband, but then, according to the quran, he is to say “I divorce you” three times.. I had tried to get along with him, but all he would do is verbally abuse and curse me (a lot of the C word), even after his mother and his book told him this was not permitted. This went on for about five years. Now I’m confused, whether I am able to remarry as I left the house as I couldn’t handle the neglect and abuse?
my wife, 21 years together left me and family before Christmas. since then, new car, new huge boobs, trips, alcohol plus other stuff. says bible is outdated. wants divorce now. says I’ll be alone forever in front of my kids and now i’m not allowed to contact her as I tried to repair the marriage. Every time I prayed, she became worse, as if God doesn’t want me with her. I’ve been crying daily and in pain. I went through 2 years of hospitals and operations. Just when I was slowly recovering, this happens. She was only person i ever dated. (not for her though). I pray to God something blessed comes out of this. All I ask from all is prayers. God Bless you all!!!
Some things require a complete rearrangement of puzzle pieces in order to get something where it needs to be. It's not that you weren't heard, it's the process of rearranging isn't finished.
I married someone whose non-believer. He took my virginity which I was saving for my husband. Then he broke up with me via phone call. After 1 month of our wedding. God is the only one who gave me the strength to overcome this after going thru depression and suicidal tendencies
yes emotional abandonment is why my husband did to me after he cheated with a stranger in another country. he never said sorry what he didn't know was i had three men say to me why are you still with him? yes looking back this is what he did because he never said sorry. he died riddled with cancer 5 years ago now.he could not tell me why he cheated as he had a good sex life at home.
No. No you didn’t. Man plans but God establishes his steps. He has a purpose for your life and your marriage. Seek Him. And Him alone. What does He have to say about your marriage?
The voice is written by Moses, but in the beginning, God said no, that’s what Jesus says in Matthew, so no matter what you say, even if you get a divorce, you’re not divorced in to that person dies
Jim Cymbala's father was an alcoholic but he was a professing Christian. His wife did not keave him, and Jim became a pastor (Brooklyn Tabernacle Church) and perseveringly interceded for his father. The father repented & served the Lord in the latter years of his life. I think "in all our ways, we should acknowledge and consult the Lord on what His particular will for us in whatever situation we find ourselves in". The wife was not violating the Word, since the husband did not separate from her.
You but my mind at ease it was all that you said I'm divorced for those reasons and tried to poison me strangle me so happy now was feeling guilty about being divorced and my religion
Yes! My brother in law claimed he was a Christian. Whenever he was angry, he pushed my sisters face down in the dishwater and held it there! She would think she was going to drown! He would throw her against the wall until she had bad bruises. Sometimes he’d get angry in the car. He’d say- I’m gonna run up under that truck and kill us all! Then he’d speed up, but then he’d step on the brakes just at the last minute. If one of the children ate the last of the ice cream and there was none for him he would pitch a tantrum! My sister filed for divorce after 28 years. He told her he was going to kill her. He remarried first. She married the kindest man and is very happy. Thank God!
He is teaching false doctrine No divorce is approved. None. Research? There are no biblical qualifications for divorce NONE. HE NEEDS TO STOP TEACHING LIES
Mark 10:11-12 English Standard Version 11 And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
What about 1 Corinthians 7:15? I didn’t remarry, but marriage in today’s world is a gamble. It is hard to be alone all of your life. I had a Bible reason to remarry.
Is your #s 1,2 & 3; 1. abandonment physically, 2. abandonment emotionally, 3. adultery? I didn't quite catch your #3, could you please explain it to me? I'd put; 1. Adultery, 2. Abandonment, 3. Emotional Abuse. 🤦🏻♀️Been there with a non-Christan and realized some⛰mountains just can't be moved, I pray the Lord❤️loves us all in the🐑flock. 💐Thanks for sharing.
You say Mr Clarke that emotional or physical abandonment by a spouse is justified divorce IF the spouse is non-Christiian. So, you heard it here narcissistic spouses who consider yourself Christian: BECAUSE you are Christian,you get to treat your spouse like garb. age for the rest of your life.
Amen. He is miserable and Grinch. He is misleading Many. And 1 Corinth 7:15 never says. You can divorce.,....It never say you can REMARRY THEY ARE ADDING WHAT IS NOT THERE IN THE BIBLE....
Abandonments, wether financial, physical, mental, emotional or spiritual is grounds for separation not divorce. Adultery or Death are the only 2 Bible based reasons to end a marriage union.
You just answered my prayers. I asked God that if my partner was not right for me to please let him abandon me (because I suspected he was a narcissist and he was just pretending to be nice to make me stay with him). After a few weeks he made a drama and said he would leave (but he didn't) so I thought I wasn't right. But he completely abandoned me emotionally and financially (that he did already for years and now it's pretty clear). Thanks for this.
God bless you and your family with wisdom and strength. The Almighty God wants us to be happy, to enjoy our life and family not to be miserable. God bless you. 🤗🤗🤗🙌🙌🙌
Keep moving forward, I'm almost out and can't wait mine did all of the above
I struggled with this for the years I was married thinking that my husband had to physically leave but we've been separated in the house for almost 3 months and he doesn't even talk to me or try to fix the marriage he's definitely a narcissist and I knew that I waited to see what God wanted me to do I fell into the Trap was thinking that God wanted me to stay in the marriage but now I see that it was more like devil wanted me to stay so I would suffer I know this now because my husband has had three months to talk to me about how we can fix the marriage and he says nothing and every time I ask he tells me it's my responsibility not his typical narcissistic response blame shifter Gaslight you so I filed for divorce couple of days ago I understand whoever's feeling down about everything because we love Jesus but I believe that I was emotionally abandoned for very long time when the abuse started and now I know by him being on the couch for three months and not talking to me at all he has no intentions so he's abandoned me emotionally is that anybody else's feelings on this?
Amen 🙏🏻🤍@@liviapopsor8242
I pray that God will give you the strength to move forward with your life, in the name of Jesus 🙏🏻🤍@@donnaroosa4469 Amen.
My ex on the way home from the honeymoon told me "Now that I have you I don't have to do anything with you", he meant it, we divorced, God gave me my Mr right. We have been married almost 26 years
How long did it take you to divorce him after that?
@@SimplySurrender 5 years. I didn't know what a narcissistic personality was,
Remarried? Your living in sin
@@MMAGUY13 adultery had taken place on his part, physical abuse also. I repented. The lord forgave me. End of story.
@@MMAGUY13 you're ignorant of the word of God entirely
We’re waiting on #3
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😮 omGosh cliffhanger 😱
Should be ‘abuse’
It's addictions (Bible specifically mentions "drunkards" as grounds for divorce with God's approval). We can assume that includes all addictions today ie. Alchohol, drugs, porn, sex addictions, etc
And you mentioned, Abandonment.... that's what made me divorce many years ago. You can lie with a spouse every night and still be abandoned 😮
More than not that is the case in broken marriages, I'm sorry u went thru that, I did as well
That is a very lonely place to be!
You cannot remarry. Make sure you did the right thing because divorce was never lawful and remarriage is impossible if the other spouse is alive…
@excatly
@ It's possible. If she left, it isn't. If he did, it is. Remarriage is possible if the reasons were biblical.
My husband completely abandoned me emotionally. He used to gaslight me, barely ever comforted me, was not there for me and our kids. I haven't shared a room with him in 3 years now. I was wondering if divorce was okay or not. Thank you for giving me hope.
I wonder are you my wife sounds familiar
@@wannabemgtow2540 😂
Think and pray on this…Mstt 5:32
I pray that Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ show you way and courage to step in to His divine opening doors,in Jesus name I pray Amen...
@@gracehannah5977 thank you. I don't mind staying alone.
#3 is chronic abuse. Lots of videos by this guy. He is good
No he isnt. He doesn’t know his Bible. Doesn’t even sound like he has READ it…but only cherry picks what he wants.
Where in Gods would does it say divorce is accepted by God….I’ll wait….
I think it's narcissism
@@Brenda0312FWrong, Matthew 5:32 is sexual immortality; 1Corinthains 7 - divorce is permitted for desertion. Seems like you do not know the Bible.
@@Brenda0312FHa. God himself got a divorce. He divorced himself from the Jewish people. Look it up yourself
Got to be physical, mental or emotional abuse.No one has to live with that.
I'm still waiting for # 3. I wondered if I missed something, 🤔 but another person who replied thought this also.
Me too what manipulation and abusing people you left that out? What about an alcoholic in denial? What about that?
What’s 3???
I think #3 is Narcissistic spouse?
#3 in the Bible is addiction (specifically "drunkards" are mentioned) but today that would equate to alcohol, drugs, porn, sex outside of marriage, etc
I need to know I've been puzzled about the 3rd one for years.
All the above and I am free! Thank God! Satan take back your son.😂
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😂@ satan take back your son. My sentiments exactly
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@@jodyjackson7100 facts 😂
I can tell u are free. U made my heart smile in the middle of this. Take care MUCH gratitude from FL. 💪❤😁👍👍
I think physical abuse on you or your child is grounds for divorce
I did not kjow you wrote the bible.
Divorce just about destroyed my life. 18 years of marriage. You are connected. You’ve become one. Divorce makes you feel like you’ve been torn apart. If I didn’t have God helping me and that divorce class. I would not be here. Especially after finding out she cheated on me, with a preacher friend and they are now married, and he lives in the house I payed for.
My ex and his GF and kid live in the house I paid for, sleeping in the bed I chose for us. It's like a nightmare.
I feel ya! 15 years here...my tip: PRAY for forgiveness, strength, and guidance. The faster you cultivate your new spiritual life, the faster the pain leaves.
Even if you dont feel like it...fake it til you make it. Go through the motions til the Emotions catch up!
See Malachi chapter 3. God hates divorce, but in cases of adultery, physical, emotional and mental abuse or sex, drug or alcohol addiction (idolatry) God allows divorce. One of the first commandments is: You shall not have other gods before me.
With a preacher friend😮? Did you all go to church together also? My gosh what is church coming too!
You should be happy you got rid of her
Thank you. I always feel abandoned. He completely ignores me because alcohol is his first love sadly..
Whenever someone is addicted to alcohol, drugs or sex they are abusers. Run!
I am going through the same thing, just not married. ♥️❤️🩹
#3 has to be physical abuse or your life is in danger.
Thank you for sharing this! Some Christians beat me down because I am divorced. I have been told that if I remarry I am committing adultery because I am still technically married to my ex (according to them as they don't acknowledge the divorce). Some sects of Christianity even tell me I may not fully join their church and cannot receive the Eucharist/Communion because of being divorced. I think it's disgusting and contributes to abuse that many go through in a marriage. When we treat someone that is divorced as less than and not as worthy of partaking in worshipping God fully and unworthy of partaking in the Eucharist, we very well may end up turning these individuals completely away from Christianity. Christ would not turn away someone seeking Him...we are not gatekeepers for others to God, only Christ is the way to God and He sees into our hearts. My ex husband became abusive mentally, emotionally, and started some physical abuse via throwing things at me and shoving me. He committed adultery many times and even brought one of the women to our home right after I had our second child. He became addicted to pornography and talked to women sexually online. He ignored me and our sons. He would scream at us and my oldest son has memories of me locking us in the bathroom to get away from his dad. I would hold my son (he was 3 at the time) and sing songs and pray loudly to drown out his dad. My ex refused marriage counseling. He went to work overseas as a contractor. He started cheating over there with the military women and other civilian contractors. One of the women was an IT worker and when working on his laptop she found my email. She ended up emailing me all the gross details of her sexual encounters with my husband and sent pictures. He would take LWOPs and travel on mini vacations with his various women while sending me and the boys very little money some months. My ex thought because he made a ton of money that he could just buy me when I finally had enough. I told him I would not raise my boys in such an abusive dysfunctional environment. He said he would buy me a new home anywhere I wanted in the world and give me a large "allowance" if I would just not divorce him. His proposition was that he would continue to live and work overseas in various areas (I had asked him to come home and do counseling if he truly wanted to be with me and the boys. He told me absolutely not and that he didn't want to be a father any longer to our sons and he didn't want the monogamy that was expected from a husband). Part of his proposition included that he would continue to sleep with whoever he wanted. I was to not question it and to pretend it wasn't happening. He wanted his perfect little family at "home" though, or when we were needed to make him look good. But he wanted all of his other women and men still and sexual escapades when not with us. He wanted to live these two seperate lives. I was also not to see anyone else. He said he would divorce me if he found out I was seeing anyone or had slept with anyone else (He was my first and only for the 10 years we were together). God does not want me nor my sons to be with a man like that. He turned away from Christianity, he denied the Christ, he was abusive, he abandoned us, he was an adulterer.... We were no longer equally yoked and I had to do what was best for my sons. I prayed and read the bible and did what I felt God had laid on my heart to do. It's disgusting to be looked down upon or treated as less than because I chose to remove me and my children from an abusive man...a man that had clearly stated he no longer truly wanted the two amazing little boys God had blessed us with and expected me to happily live in an abusive and adulterous relationship with someone that had decided to denounce his faith. The God I know does not want that for me and especially not for my sons.
Wow. I have a very similar situation. may the Lord Richly Bless You and your children and have His will be fulfilled in your life, because God wants us to have an abundant life. In God's eyes, you're His masterpiece. I know God has a good plan for all, regardless of what we go through. Stay encouraged in Christ, sister 🙏🩷
Truly we are living in the last days. false teachings are surely on the increase.
#3 could be the narcissist. Its not what God in mind. No reciprocal love
I believe this is a possibility
I agree.
The Bible doesn't buy into pop phycology and buzz labels.
@@cincin4515 but the word does say their are those with a reprobated mind and therefore, pre destined to hell.
The Holy Spirit sent me a dream about the man I was with as I have been praying for discernment about him.
Bam 💥. He woke me up to reality!
Jesus is alive and he’s proven it to me! Thank you Lord for loving me enough to keep me out of harms way!
I have narcissistic traits and i am worried it would take the most out of me, also a big factor that leads to narcissism is being conceived out of wedlock.
I am a product of unequally yoked adultery where my dad was the Christian and my mum wasn't.
I don't ever believe i would be in heaven, one reason is my conception, second is my grudges towards my dad as a result, third being i am not righteous
Just because you're living in the house with your mate, doesn't mean you're not alone and lonely.
What about an alcoholic in denial and what about being abused for 14 years psychological manipulation what about that?
That's adultery and abandonment
What about it? Leave.
If he's a Christian, you're out of luck, according to Mr. David here.
@@susank1646no- not so if he is abusive physically or mentally!
LEAVE!!!!!!
This explains that I did follow the Bible in getting divorced when I did . I tried so hard to make the marriage work but he continued the same emotional abandonment over an over again.
Absolutely been there done that got the T-shirt now he is brainwashing his son to disrespect me
Our Lord Almighty bless you and your son with strength and wisdom. Praise the Lord.🙌🙌🙌🤗🤗🤗
Ask God to get you out of that in some way.
@@liviapopsor8242that is so badly affected.
My X did all two or maybe 3 but I did not hear #3 , and he divorced me and married one of the women that he was having affair with but he kept telling me that God has forgiven him and her but the women that he married told me God will punish my daughter and I…..hope there is justice🙏🙏🙏🙏
"Some miserable skank" took me off guard 😭
What’s the 3rd reason?? Video cut off. 😢
Physical abuse.
What about unequally yoked?
@@patrickschabel3955stop lying
No 1 is what I needed to hear. Our father confirmed it to me through you.
Why does it cut off before revealing number 3? Regardless, I know personally God considers abuse a valid reason for ending a marriage.
Adultery, physical abuse or mental and emotional abuse and drug, alcohol addiction! Sexual addiction, drug & alcohol addiction is IDOLATRY or worship of other than God Almighty, Jahweh, Jehovah God!
I felt porn was wrong enough when younger in marriage I was devastated. I wanted to divorce him now idk. I'm so used to it it's part of life now. He loves me but can not stop porn addiction. It's also rampant people our age, including women. I don't know what to do. He has no one else he's in poor health but I haven't felt the same love I used to, I settled. The thing is I have had many opportunities to physically cheat on him and didn't. Maybe I'll live alone for a while.
So many people are in the same boat as u.
Nothing is too hard for God. Turn to Him. Surrender all of your mess in the marriage. Spend some time seeking Him and his word. Not the internet, not your girlfriends, not youtube doctors posting reels…set it all down. What does GOD have to say about your situation? Let Him speak to you. He will. He has a will and purpose for your marriage.
Im so glad youre posting these because a lot of people stay in abusive marriages
my husband had severe mental illness and he got involved with these Sacred Name groups. I wanted nothing to do with it & he cut me off! He wouldn't even buy my food or my medicine (even when he got his income tax return!)
He finally came to me on Christmas Eve 2005 and said, "Unless you denounce your Messiah, I am sinning by being married to you".
so I said, " You do what you're gonna do. Cause there's no talking to you. But denying Christ IS NOT AN OPTION so I guess we're done".
and he made ME pay for the divorce!
I missed #3 also. That was covered by Michelle. Ty you Michelle
Wish my Narcissist Christian ex wife had read that
That is why I divorced my first husband. Due to adultery.
That narc did everything a narc is suppose to do when I was in that hellship. Haven't heard anything yet that I didn't experienced during those times. I had every right to divorce.
Darn right. And the people who use religion as a reason to stay are cowards and must love the abuse. So they need serious help.
Unfortunately religion is taught behavior and restricts the freedom that comes from learning by one's own journey with God. It's extremely difficult to break someone from believing they can't go outside the religious box.
Thank you for posting this! So true! I agree 100%
Thank you for this message. Still waiting for the 3rd reason. ❤
My narc husband committed adultery I'm filing for divorce asap gone no contact that demon will reap what he sows
I used to call Nintendo and the black hebrew israelites Demons, it turns out just calling an image of God a demon is worse than murder
I struggle with feelings like "what if I'm the narcissist?"
Also sad to see so many people NEEDING to hear number three.
Those are people looking for a reason out of their marriage. Very sad.
The 2 were all I needed to hear_ Hooray!
Addiction makes sense. I left due to his addiction to spending and discovered the savings was wiped out. I carried that guilt as i grew in faith. This offer insight n some relief of guilt. He still has a spending addiction
I’ve lived with a passive aggressive husband for 35 years. He’s an emotional terrorist. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I was determined to make it work for the sake of our kids, plus I really loved him, but it was destroying my soul. Every time I would psych myself up to be brave and leave him, he would see I was emotionally checking out and he would flip the script and start being Mr. Wonderful again, just until I was fully sucked back in, then the passive aggression was back in full force and all the misery that goes with it. I finally gave up trying to please him or win his love or even trying to leave, and now I’m just comfortably numb. I feel nothing, and now I’ve also emotionally abandoned the marriage (and physically, too) but it’s the only way I can survive in this marriage. The passive aggression doesn’t even control me anymore. I live in my own little world under the same roof. He gets to be an emotional terrorist, and I get to not be affected by it anymore. It seems to be working. I make decent money but I have no pension. He has a great pension so maybe after he retires I’ll take my half and “slip out the back, Jack”. I still pray God can do a miracle, but he will have to do something in my heart also at this point. Maybe my story helps others in the same situation with a passive aggressive person, to know they aren’t going crazy, and even though they are constantly being punished, it’s not their fault. The other person is the one with the glitch.
Thank you sir, as people, we always judge others for doing that etc pastors, it seems we are the ones lacking knowledge ❤❤
We need number three
What about if the Christian spouse abandons their Christian wife leaving her to care alone for their autistic child? Anyone please ?
I hope you're divorced now.
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All I know is He☝️delivered me from it. Praise be to the Lord,
What was number 3 watched it about 6 times over thinking I was zoning out but it cuts off!
Chronic abuse. Says so in the early comments by someone who knows of his work.
This makes me feel so much better. ❤
My ex husband was a narc. He left me and my child 5 years ago. Shockingly, I've had guys ask me to be in a relationship with them, but I tured them down because I don't want to go to hell. I wish I heard this earlier, because maybe I wouldn't have been so scared to date and pretend I wasn't interested. I don't want to be alone. But if I have to, for the kingdom of God, than so be it. That hurts to say, but I don't want to make God angry and go to hell. That's my biggest fear.
WOW my husband hit ALL 3😢
what was #3 ?
What is 3rd
12 years of
ABANDONMENT
ABORTION
ABUSE
ADDICTION
ADULTERY
ANGER
I feel I can be so much further in life without him. now we have 4 children and I feel obligated to stay and fake being in love.
I know this comment is a year old, but how are you doing?
@@ravenvane2227 I'm well thank you for asking! taking one day at a time!
@@beautyforashes5297 I’ll pray for you. If you or kids are being abused, I would recommend separating.
@@ravenvane2227 if my children were being abused I would not have stayed this long. Being a great mother is different from being a horrible wife! in my case my husband is a great father! just a lousy husband.
Triple A's for
grounds for divorce namely
1) Abandonment
2) Adultery
3) Abuse- emotional & or physical.
#2. Adultery includes emotional and physical.
❤🎉I love these ..Ty 😊
I agree and to me number three is not forgiving each other.
I knew this about 7 years ago that's pretty sad that people don't want to fight for their marriages anymore there's no commitment imagine doing that to us thank God he's not like us 💯❤️👍🏼👍🏼
My husband was great in many ways, but he was addicted to sex and had many affairs. I didn’t realize he wouldn’t forsake his ways! He eventually divorced me. I turned my back on him and walked away in order to heal. He was shocked that I turned away! I have had a peaceful good life once my heart healed. I am happy with my LORD GOD.
I’m not waiting for 3
The first 2 we’re ✔️ ✔️
so I was on safe ground
Don't fall for this fake false accursed doctrine. He is a Grinch. Adultery can be forgiven. This man is misleading Many. It is not right
Please pray for Armine that she would be Healed in her legs and back. Also for more income. Thanks.
The reason why divorce is permissable in these three cases is because divorce has already happened.
I'VE NEVER BEEN MARRIED. BUT I TAKE HEED TO WHAT MY FATHER SAYS.
I love him. He's so correct.
Yep sounds about right he meets all the criteria. You know what’s sad? I try to work it out even despite the fact that he was a terrible husband but then I realized I’m worth so much more in God’s eyes.❤
#3-Physical Abuse (literally putting your life in danger)
He is false teacher.., please run!!! Research he has is the world.
The explanation of 1 Cor. 7:15 is not accurate. The Greek term used is translated "separate". It does not mean divorce.
He felt that physicsl adultery one lol
The third reason should be “hard hearts”. A Narcissist has a hard heart
Yes for sure
I am a Christian and I married a Muslim man and he was very nice until after we were married then he became abusive; silent treatment, would leave the house etc… so basically, I felt like he emotionally abandoned me and so I left and came back to America with my family. I considered him
still my husband, but then, according to the quran, he is to say “I divorce you” three times.. I had tried to get along with him, but all he would do is verbally abuse and curse me (a lot of the C word), even after his mother and his book told him this was not permitted. This went on for about five years.
Now I’m confused, whether I am able to remarry as I left the house as I couldn’t handle the neglect and abuse?
my wife, 21 years together left me and family before Christmas. since then, new car, new huge boobs, trips, alcohol plus other stuff.
says bible is outdated. wants divorce now.
says I’ll be alone forever in front of my kids and now i’m not allowed to contact her as I tried to repair the marriage. Every time I prayed, she became worse, as if God doesn’t want me with her. I’ve been crying daily and in pain. I went through 2 years of hospitals and operations. Just when I was slowly recovering, this happens. She was only person i ever dated. (not for her though). I pray to God something blessed comes out of this. All I ask from all is prayers. God Bless you all!!!
Lifting up a prayer for you brother.
@@itsmeterri God Bless You!!! thank you!
I prayed for you.
I pray that God heals your heart from the pain.
@@mamabreakbread God Bless u, that means so much!!! thank u!!
One of my fav verses is Luke 14:26
I'm saved after 38 years of hell .... 2 years I've been begging for help ..
Some things require a complete rearrangement of puzzle pieces in order to get something where it needs to be. It's not that you weren't heard, it's the process of rearranging isn't finished.
I married someone whose non-believer. He took my virginity which I was saving for my husband. Then he broke up with me via phone call. After 1 month of our wedding. God is the only one who gave me the strength to overcome this after going thru depression and suicidal tendencies
yes emotional abandonment is why my husband did to me after he cheated with a stranger in another country. he never said sorry what he didn't know was i had three men say to me why are you still with him? yes looking back this is what he did because he never said sorry. he died riddled with cancer 5 years ago now.he could not tell me why he cheated as he had a good sex life at home.
Bless You Thank You AMEN AND AMEN 👩🍼
I wish I knew this 41 Years ago. I wasted my life.😢
No. No you didn’t. Man plans but God establishes his steps. He has a purpose for your life and your marriage. Seek Him. And Him alone. What does He have to say about your marriage?
Number 3 please!
Oh no what was #3?
They’re 4-
Abuse/Adultery/Abandonment/Addictions
"God hates divorce" Malachai 2:16 Along with the Scriptures he mentioned, go read this Scripture in context.
I love the book of Malachi!
Thank you
I feel a lot better now 😊
The voice is written by Moses, but in the beginning, God said no, that’s what Jesus says in Matthew, so no matter what you say, even if you get a divorce, you’re not divorced in to that person dies
Going into subjective definitions of abandonment & adultery seems very dangerous. One can subjectively justify anything to themselves
Jim Cymbala's father was an alcoholic but he was a professing Christian. His wife did not keave him, and Jim became a pastor (Brooklyn Tabernacle Church) and perseveringly interceded for his father. The father repented & served the Lord in the latter years of his life. I think "in all our ways, we should acknowledge and consult the Lord on what His particular will for us in whatever situation we find ourselves in". The wife was not violating the Word, since the husband did not separate from her.
We're in the last days for sure 😭😭😭😭
I would certainly hope ABUSE would be right up there! love is not how much you tolerate! So please tell me that is number 3!
You but my mind at ease it was all that you said I'm divorced for those reasons and tried to poison me strangle me so happy now was feeling guilty about being divorced and my religion
I am Biblically divorced for all three reasons.
Does being abused by a malignant narcissist count ?
Yes! My brother in law claimed he was a Christian. Whenever he was angry, he pushed my sisters face down in the dishwater and held it there! She would think she was going to drown! He would throw her against the wall until she had bad bruises. Sometimes he’d get angry in the car. He’d say- I’m gonna run up under that truck and kill us all! Then he’d speed up, but then he’d step on the brakes just at the last minute. If one of the children ate the last of the ice cream and there was none for him he would pitch a tantrum! My sister filed for divorce after 28 years. He told her he was going to kill her. He remarried first. She married the kindest man and is very happy. Thank God!
He looks like Jerry Springer's long lost brother! 😄
Being married to a Covert Narcissist it's fake from the very beginning. GOD-BLESS.
Totally agree 💯
I'm waiting on #3. My ex hubby did 1&2, so I want to know if he got the trifecta.
He is teaching false doctrine
No divorce is approved. None. Research? There are no biblical qualifications for divorce NONE. HE NEEDS TO STOP TEACHING LIES
Mark 10:11-12
English Standard Version
11 And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
Let's not forget one key point. You can't remarry until your ex passes away.
What about 1 Corinthians 7:15? I didn’t remarry, but marriage in today’s world is a gamble. It is hard to be alone all of your life. I had a Bible reason to remarry.
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Is your #s 1,2 & 3;
1. abandonment physically,
2. abandonment emotionally,
3. adultery?
I didn't quite catch your #3, could you please explain it to me?
I'd put;
1. Adultery,
2. Abandonment,
3. Emotional Abuse.
🤦🏻♀️Been there with a non-Christan and realized some⛰mountains just can't be moved, I pray the Lord❤️loves us all in the🐑flock.
💐Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Jesus 🙏🏻✝️
You say Mr Clarke that emotional or physical abandonment by a spouse is justified divorce IF the spouse is non-Christiian. So, you heard it here narcissistic spouses who consider yourself Christian: BECAUSE you are Christian,you get to treat your spouse like garb. age for the rest of your life.
No matter the situation, you cannot remarry after your divorce unless either one died😊.
Amen. He is miserable and Grinch. He is misleading Many. And 1 Corinth 7:15 never says. You can divorce.,....It never say you can REMARRY
THEY ARE ADDING WHAT IS NOT THERE IN THE BIBLE....
@@TriciaPerry-lf3szExcatly he is misleading his flock to sin. Only death of 1st spouse allows remarriage.
@@TriciaPerry-lf3szExcatly he is deceiving,misleading his flock to sin. Only death of Your 1st spouse alllows remarriage.
Truth
Abandonments, wether financial, physical, mental, emotional or spiritual is grounds for separation not divorce.
Adultery or Death are the only 2 Bible based reasons to end a marriage union.
So right! Christian covenant marriage needs to be far more understood today.
fornication!
Thank you!
I was married twenty five years only to find out he had an affair! Adultery so I filed for divorce and that ended that!
But that doesn’t mean we can remarry. What verses are there on that.
Emotional abandoned sometimes really 😢
Only adultery can make remarriage possible. Abuse and other problems justify separation, with the marriage intact
Number 3 please??