Aro Knits n Purls - Ep. 37 "Unboxing Woolberry Yarn AND Trauma"
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- Опубліковано 15 жов 2024
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Wearing:
Ali's Sweater by s.knits (to be released 9/2)
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Yarn: Explorer Knits and Fibers
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Designs:
Miles Tee by Ozetta (not yet released)
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Double Date Sweater by Winters Weather Knits (not yet released)
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Rib Lace Raglan by James Watts
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Misc Makers:
Wax and Wool candles
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Hello Lavender
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Yarn:
Murray Wool "Fillory Wings"
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Woolberry Fiber Co. "Coral" and "Beachcomber"
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Amano Ayni
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Knitted Wit
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Dear Aro, I work in the domestic violence field and this is exactly why we have groups for women, nothing affirms the women affected as other women who have experienced exactly the same behaviour and tactics these men use. I am so sorry you’ve had to deal with one of these toxic men with their gaslighting and coercion. So glad you were able to leave as it’s often difficult especially as these men isolate their partners. Hopefully anyone listening to you will help to find strength from your words. Thanks for sharing and shining a light on this inexcusable behaviour 💐💕
Dear Aro, I so enjoy your podcasts. As a longtime volunteer in a domestic violence pgm, I totally agree with Bern bee's advice. The fact that you have regular followers to your podcast demonstrates that you have value to others and you are generous to share the yarns and finished products with us. Ideally, you will need to stop with the "significant other" relationships for a couple of years to get your feet back on the ground. Meanwhile you can make acquaintances with lots of people. You would be such a nice friend to anyone.
Hugs. My dad is emotionally abusive and I had to cut him out of my life several years ago. Sadly, that also impacted my relationship with my mom. This summer, after 40 years, she finally decided to leave him, and now I finally get my mom back. It's so validating that she's now recognizing those experiences as abuse instead of blaming herself for everything. 💙
Aro so glad that you are working through the bad experience that you had. Keep your chin up and fight. You deserve a good fulfilling life. You enrich my life as I simply love to watch and listen to you whilst I knit. Keep doibg what makes you happy x
Don't ever feel you have to apologise for sharing some of the tough stuff, that's what we're also here for, it's only by talking about this stuff we can support each other. :) Sending lots of positive vibes your way
“Active participant” - I love that! Thank you for sharing your healing journey with us.
Hi Aro. Thank you for another lovely podcast. I always love seeing what you’re up to. You have such a sweet vibe about you and your knits.
Thank you for sharing a bit about your personal experiences and growth. I love that you have decided to be an active part in the direction of your life. Life is more about how you react to any given situation than it is “what happened to you”. My brother had a saying when we were kids that still lives with me to this day. He would say, “You can have a good attitude or a bad attitude, the choice is up to you.” So even when thing are out of our control, we always have control over how we respond. And how we respond is the direct correlation to the quality of our life and happiness.
And great friends will always build you up so get out there and make close quality friends. You are on your way to great things. HUGS 🤗
Thank you so much for sharing the honest real life stuff along with the fun yarn things. Will always be following and will have unwavering support for you. ♡
Sending hugs to you. Thanks for sharing this story. You’re helping other women. I’m so glad you got out when you did.
I don't know what happened in June because I was on a social media break, but as a survivor of an abusive ex who I couldn't see anything wrong with for 5 years of deluding myself as well as dissociation, I am very aware of how things can trigger you and make you feel terrible or powerless all over again, but through therapy and friends, I've realised that just because I still get triggered it doesn't mean I haven't grown and healed, only that some days are worse than others, I am so happy for you that you found solace and validation, it can bring up mixed feelings but ultimately it is so affirming, and I'm also so grateful that you speak out and share, you are very much loved
I’m proud of you and happy for your healing. Prayers from Canada.
You go lady! You did not bum me out. I’m proud of you Aro.
Aro, you're just the best. We're so happy to be here with you.
For anyone else struggling, the Something was Wrong podcast has a lot of resources on their page. Additionally, there are multiple seasons of the podcast telling women's stories, which can be helpful. Take care everyone ❤️
Thank you for sharing this dear heart. I am sending such love and fuzz. I had my own version of this and survived some horrific things and the most beautiful part is knowing you just can be... you can just be a participant which you so astutely realized, there is no backward and forward just what is in this gift of a moment of life. Also, love love love how you describe things so don't stop or feel shy about it. You paint pictures with your words and I am transported and I love it. Thank you for being vulnerable also about how you feel and sharing it because just as you did with the pattern donation, it does does help.
Aro you never ever bum me out! I love that you don’t pretend everything is always peaches and fairytales. As someone who’s life is definitely not peaches and fairytales I find it refreshing to hear from someone who is talking about life realistically. I appreciate you and your podcast and always love your knits. Never have to apologize 🥰
Thank you for sharing your beautiful makes and for sharing the good as well as the bad in your life. As someone who also left a physically abusive relationship several years ago now, I know how hard it is to leave and how long it takes to stop believing the lies these abusers tell us to make us feel helpless and worthless. But they isolate us specifically because they know that when we have a support network (especially among other women), their tactics become useless because we know our worth. I'm so happy that you've found a community to support you through these tough times and that you're here sharing with us to hopefully help others as well. Take care!
Awe sweety! I'm so sorry. I was in a relationship for several several years many ups and downs and a lot of emotional distress. So proud of you for staying strong and moving forward even when times are really dark. I've been there. Virtual hug
Aro, far from being a bummer, your personal talk was inspiring that you are sharing your experience not only with your fans but another person who is currently going through the same situation. I know from experience that being in a toxic environment, it diminishes your self esteem. Mine was not from a relationship but a workplace. I didn't have the strength to get out but did survive until the person causing it for me retired. Kudos to you for surviving and recovering from that horrible situation and even more for your sharing that helps others as well as yourself.
Love you Aro! Thank you for sharing... All of it. Hugs 🤗🌟💪
Aro 자랑스럽고 너무 사랑스러워 ♥♥ in the same way you are proud of so many women who reached out to you, I want you to know there are so many of us so so proud of you and also inspired by you, I hope you take care of yourself and continue to thrive 🙌
I also work as an advocate for people experiencing domestic violence. Everything you have described is exactly what I have heard from so many women. It's wonderful to hear you describing and understanding your journey so well, and clearly healing on your own terms. I'm so proud to walk with you both as a knitter and a healing person. Knitting is such a comfort. Much love.
Your Ali's sweater is just fantastic. It's just lovely and perfect for you!
You’re a fighter, you’re a survivor, and you’re a light in this world. Thank you for the honor of knowing you ❤️
Aro you are brave and strong and creative and brilliant; I can tell all of that just from seeing what you have chosen to share with us here! Whatever amount of personal news you choose to share, at any given time, is the perfect amount! Your candor is nourishing to me and I hope it feels that way to you too. BTW I totally agree with another comment I saw; you attract a community who share at least one thing in common (our craft and materials) but each of us arrive here as complex individials with interests, facets, struggles, milestones, and dreams. I personally relate to so many struggles you've shared. I also find knitting to be emotionally grounding and helpful in tough times.. as far as I can tell, it seems you do too. Sending good vibes and congratulations on all the progress, on knitting goals and on ALL the stuff ;)
Amazing beautiful wips and gorgeous yarn choices!
Thank you so much for your podcasts, Aro. I am still working from home with this pandemic, I find your podcasts great company. (Australia)
Big hugs to you Aro. You're such a lovely person and I always look forward to your videos, seeing what you've knit and are knitting, and of course the yarn.
Always happy to catch up with you and pretend like we're friends
People are cruel. But that is so kind of her to reach out and talk to you. Life will get easier, but missing mom will always be a thing we have to learn to live with. Lost mine to pancreatic cancer. I think you make you happy as needed. We all love to connect. All the best to you! Wishing peace, Kimberly
Sending you so much love and warmth Aro.
I don’t think you know what an inspiration you are to so many! You’re absolutely beautiful inside and out💖
I love your yarn hauls - it allows me to live vicariously through you (especially after I forget about Ali’s second Ireland update and am now missing out on some muckross suri 😭).
I'm obsessed with your Ali's sweater, the pattern is so stunning. Also had a bit of a cry with you. I'm glad you're healing ❤️
Happy you’re here, too ❤
Thank you for sharing your recent experience.
I am in awe of your vulnerableneas and honesty! You are the real deal!!
Keep on keeping on!
Lots of love to you, Aro ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Please know you can do and feel anything you want ! Be you and you will be happy
So proud of both of you for bonding and being able to move past it! I've been a situation similar to you and I still have this anxiety sometimes. I'm sad so many of us have gone through/still go through this, but so happy for us to move on!
Aro, you never have to apologize and I am SO PROUD of you. You’re such a sweet person whose valid and wonderful and amazing ❤️ also you are allowed to “bum” us out I know at least ID rather you talk about it cause we care about you. Also you’re reaction to you saying fuck was so cute
💕💕💕 Lots of love to you, Aro !
Just in case you needed to hear it today or any day, as someone who has also gotten out... I'm proud of you too.
I haven't been watching you for very long but I can see that you are a good, kind person. I am glad to hear that you have left that toxic relationship. It is so hard to do and takes a lot of strength and perseverance. It sounds like you are on the right track, just keep knitting and enjoy your time with your friends. I look forward to your videos, they bring sunshine into my day.
Oh Aro I relate to you so much 🥺 Your videos make me feel validated and like I'm not alone. Thank you for being real. ❤️
So much beautiful emotion in this video, thank you for sharing and never apologise for being vulnerable and honest and real ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
(Also, stunning, stunning yarns and I also want them all 😍🤤)
I love how real you are and thank you for sharing these sensitive feelings with the whole world. (internet haha). ❤️ I love how your face lit up when you opened your yarn box. Seeing how truly happy you are and mesmerized by the yarn, brought SO MUCH joy to my day. :)
I also got some strawberry swirl and sorbet from Ali, the yarn is amazing
Hard relate to the friendships while in a toxic relationship. My ex was an expert at running everyone off so I had no support or other influences to see that our relationship wasn’t healthy/normal. Yrs it’s hard to watch someone you love be in a bad relationship but the best thing a friend can do is stick around. Glad you got out and are in your healing journey. ❤
Your Ali’s Sweater is so beautiful! 😍 You are so amazing and thank you sharing your existence with us.
I cackled at your reaction to dropping the f-bomb!! So many hugs to you!! I absolutely love your honesty. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
First time watching your video and I am so happy to be here. I am so sorry about all your negative experiences this year. I am glad that you are no longer with your ex. Make friends and valuable ones that you can connect in a positive way. Take care and thanks for unboxing such beautiful yarn.
🥰 all I can say is codos to you. I been in your situation I was moved and understand what you're saying. Keep on m moving a wise man says to me, stay positive, remember your worth. Sometimes it's good to vent. You had me in tears. Never apologize for expressing your feelings it could help the next person. I'm Proud of you Aro!
Aro, as always thank you soo much for sharing your personal life with us. I appreciate and respect you so strongly. I also had an ex like that and I have connections with someone who went through it by the same hands. It is definitely a validating experience and it does give some closure for sure. I just want you to know I am proud of you also for taking the steps to get to a better place and back to Aro. You deserve all the good things 🤗
I just wanted to let you know that even though I don’t personally know you and I don’t know in detail everything that you have been through; I’m so very proud of you and how much you have grow up. I think when ever you feel you are going down you should come back to this video and listen to yourself and be proud of yourself for been were you are right this moment. Don’t ever forget you are worthy, you are love and you are more than enough
Thank you for another episode, and so glad you are sharing yourself with us. You deserve to be proud of your progress and honesty. ❤️
alternate title: aro says fuck in this one (LOVED the ep, so proud of you!!)
I like to think of this knitting community as a bunch of friends who all have at least one thing in common. I was in a bad / the wrong relationship for almost 12 years before I got out. I’ve been gone about 8 years now, with my new partner for 7 and I still have dreams, I still have anxiety, I still get out of my mind with anger. Luckily he understands and is always happy to talk, unfortunately he has his own traumas to deal with. All that to say thank you for talking about this, it helps to know there are others struggling to leave behind their pasts
I'm so sorry for what you've been through with your awful ex, Aro. I have the same experience except I endured the pain for 20 years before I could escape. Like you, two of my ex-husband's ex's reached out to me after they went through it and you are so right, it's the MOST validating feeling in the world to hear someone else speak of the same experiences you've had!!
I see you as the luckiest girl in the whole wide world. You have another chance. You have your freedom now. You have free will. You can speak your mind without consequence and you can feed your soul with all the love, kindness and positivity it desperately needs. I'm SO proud of your strength. I didn't have any of that left. You are strong!
xoxo Hugs, Judy
p.s. Your podcast is incredibly inspiring to me!
Pretty sweater.. I enjoy watching your channel even though I only crochet. Just subscribed 😉Thanks for sharing your perspective on domestic violence. It’s such a pervasive problem in society . You are helping someone by talking about it here .
Bless you Aro. My daughter is 20 weeks pregnant and then finds out another chick is 10 weeks pregnant. And he was seeing two others while living with her. And all the lies and his mother enabling him. Omgosh. Thank goodness the other chick that is pregnant to him also , reached out to her and told her what was happening.
Bless you
Aro i love your yarn and im going to pick up my needles this week and start finishing my sisters sweater but i hope you have a better rest of the week
Great episode! The sweater you are wearing is so visually appealing. The colors and pattern really caught my eye!
So glad things are improving with your life. 💕♥️💕
Love your Ali's sweater! It looks lovely! Thanks for another lovely episode. I really enjoy your podcast, because you are so genuine and real.
Don’t ever feel ashamed of talking about things! It’s good to share to people you know that care, my sons father was extremely abusive & did horrible things to me & hurt me all the time even infront of our son, I’m sharing to know you’re not alone. You got our & you’re strong! It took a lot for me to leave, it took me two years.. but I did it & you did it! It’s been three years & I still talk about it & I don’t know if I’ll ever stop because it’s good to share & let others know they’re not alone. I still get terrified thinking about the day he finally gets in a relationship with another woman.. I just hope nobody has to go through what I go through. You buy all the beautiful yarn you want & live your best beautiful life! I am sending you all the love & all your new yarn is beautiful 🖤
i've been learning to re-word things regarding purchases i make and experiences i allow myself to have as instead of "i've talked to my partner and i'm allowed to...." to saying "i've talked to my partner and we decided its time to..." because I was in 2 relationships with controlling partners before my current relationship. its hard to get out of them. its hard to get through the whole finding yourself afterward, and you've lost your mother in that time too. its great to see how much you're growing and letting yourself be who you are, instead of who someone else wanted you to be. its great that his most recent ex and you are getting along and able to have that solidarity. it makes all the difference to talk to someone else who's had it at the same hands as you did because it validates your experiences on a whole other level. don't feel bad that it makes you emotional.
So glad you are out of that situation ❤️ no one really knows how hard things like that are unless they have loved it first hand. On a lighter note loved the accidental f-bomb 😂 great ep as always !
You are such an adorable woman and i love n care for you. You might not know me but I can feel your pain. I wish you every good things in life Aro. From someone who lives in Mauritius 🇲🇺 🏝. With love ❤️ Best of luck
Your are a inspiration to me ❤️
Oooh noooo I'm going to end up knitting an Ali's T/Sweater aren't I? Yours look fantastic. I'm not the biggest colorwork fan but... I think you might turn me into one!
Also, Aro, as someone who only follows your youtube (I don't really like spending that much time on the 'gram), I'm a bit out of the loop - but I'm glad you shared, I have noticed you've been a bit down (not that you're required to be on all the time!). While I'm sorry your ex is out there causing more damage, I'm glad you had the opportunity to connect with this woman. I'm glad you're feeling better too - my toxic ex broke up with me, luckily. And if anyone doesn't want to hear it - well, they can go suck a lemon. Or just close the video like any normal adult.
I love the way you describe colors, Aro! 😍 Also, your Ali's Sweater is gorgeous! 💖
Reshma KILLED it with the Garden Walk collection, every day it was just like what will she be doing to us today?!
I pulled out my current WIP right before you did and it was so fun to knit along with you. I don't have many irl knitting friends, and I can't believe I haven't knit along with a knitting podcast yet! It feels so wonderful! Also, very glad to hear you're doing better. 💖
First part of the video I thought: "she is so funny, she makes me laugh so much!" Second part I was: "she is so right, and so strong!" It's true what you said about letting go of the wish to control everything, I am realizing this for myself as well. I try to stop waiting for the moment where everything will be perfect; I know now that there always be bad things BUT I can face them!!! And that's incredibly empowering. As Marie Curie said (in my own translation...): "Life is not easy. So what?" Go girl!!! Wishing you all the best.
Ohhh I need an Ali's sweater just like yours! 😍🧶❤️
Could you tell me what colorway your friend chose for the “Weekender” sweater she gave to you? I saw it in another episode and I absolutely love the colorway. Was it the color “Salt” in the CFC Pepper Yarn from Camillia Fiber Co.?
You are a beautiful young lady. I wish you all the best.
Girlfriends are the best!
How did you get Moonstone? 'I'm so jealous. I can never find it.
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Xoxo
One of my exes new partner reached out to me and basically told me he was telling her all the same lies he told me, but she was still in the phase where she couldn't see that they were lies. They were positive lies, and she basically thought I was a moron for believing him. I'm sure someday she'll find out that he used her, but it's already too late for her to ever have a clean break from him. You are brave and beautiful.