Andy I spent 36yrs as a L.E.O and Medic. I have issues with PTSD, people like you and your Videos help me out. Hang in there brother and keep the Fath.
The fact that you see and know what it is you're dealing with, and are open about it, is proof that You're already WAYYY ahead of the curve than most!! I will add you to my prayers brother. Don't forget to lean into God for everything. For what do you have, that you have not received? Love you man!!
I appreciate your reply. Here is my daily routine: 1 Up at 3:30 or 4:30 AM, get put together and do 1 hour of low weight exercise Mon. Wed. Fri. 2 Do some kitchen chores, make breakfast, 3 Hour of Bible study and prayer, learn the truth, happiness is worldly, joy is Godly. 4 Take care of work: your home, your business. Aid a widow or neighbor, no charge. 5 At days end focus on family, wife needs you to lead, and to be there for her, and children, 6 At anytime take a break and go visit, eat, watch toob, rest, design, plan, compute, play and always be thankful, always. 7 Early to bed and early to rise makes a healthy camper. Take care!
Peace over happiness. As you said happiness is momentary. Peace is what carries you each day through the good and the bad times. Search for Peace and it will find you. Keep fighting the good fight. God bless.
You are not alone. I have personally fought depression and the accompanying anxiety off and on throughout my life. Funny you mention firewood. Years ago we had a large cedar tree taken down with what seemed like an overwhelming amount of limbs to deal with. It just so happened at the time I was in a dark place. I don’t know what made me do it as I have several chain saws but I purchased a bow saw and began cutting the limbs into useable firewood length every night after work. As I worked each evening the darkness lifted. I look back now and I was working 60+ hours a week with countless hours serving as a volunteer firefighter and emergency medical technician. Spent several years visiting with a therapist and in group therapy sessions. I quit going when I realized life was never going to be perfect and it was okay to take care of myself. Relaxation exercises are a large help in my case to stop the racing mind. I quit trying to hide things and became very open about my struggles with my family, friends and co-workers and what I found was many were in the same boat trying to keep up with the rat race. Also when confronted with issues and too many tasks, I take a step back and I realize they are first world problems in many cases really have no major consequence to my life. What you have done with this video is to be admired and will likely help those who see it either because they have experienced it themselves or know somebody who has. I’m retired now and my passion now is to spend as much time in the woodlot as possible. Keep up the good work.
Love you man! No one want to talk about it. Splitting wood being in the woods is like church. Fishing hunting outdoors family. Having land tractors projects is all you need. Keep busy = good mind set.
I feel you, brother! My wife and I are going through a rough patch due to her physical and mental health right now. I understand what she's going through because I've lived with depression for about 45 years. I used to say I "suffered" from depression. But for me, that was taking on the victim mentality I guess. I started saying I "live" with it because at least that shows that I'm fighting it and not surrendering. What you said about caring for someone struck home. I'm 65, my lovely bride is 56. I waited all my life to find a woman like her and I married her in July 21st 2023. I fight for her when she can't and she fights for me when I can't. Guys like you and me are lucky to have someone that important in our hearts. My wife was laying down about to take a nap when I fired up this video. She LOVED what you had to say. She's getting the help she needs in a hospital right now and I'm there right by her side 100 percent. Love you, Andy. Love your videos too. Huggs....in a manly kind of fashion. 😂
Man, sending you a big bro hug. Long time subscriber from Australia. Thank you for being honest and sharing. That in itself shows me great strength. Psalm 121 comes to mind I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? 2 My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. Also Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Bless you mate. Just wanted to say I appreciate who you are.
Andy...here is the CliffsNote (TM) version...Deployed many moons ago (discharged in January of '92). Lost some folks over in the great nothingness and mourn their loss every day. I strive very hard to not squander the chance I had by coming back to the world (physically anyway). Loving your videos brother, I appreciate your honest take on the things in your life that you choose to share with us, your audience. As the great Joe Dirt says “Life is too short to waste doing nothing. Make every day count, because we all don’t know when we will leave this world. Cherish every moment you have with loved ones and never regret anything in life, because everything happens for a reason. Look at every day and smile that God has kept you alive, ‘cause there’s nothing sweeter than life.” - Joe Dirt. Yes...from Plato, Socrates, and Shakespeare, to Joe Dirt...we have evolved brother!! Have a good one and get back to processing that wood...later.
Thank u so much for talking to ur viewers, I am 62 and have been dealing with depression all my life, at 61 was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer which made it even worse. I am very sorry ur dealing with that but the best thing is just talking about it. My heart goes out to u
That’s brutal. I’m sorry you have this new battle. But I’ve seen it beat, and you will. One way or another! Your in my prayers, for determination, pain management and recovery. Gos IS with you.
It sucks, no lie. But you found a way to deal with it for a little bit by sharing with us. There's more of us dealing with depression than you may think. Thank you for making the hard choice to share this with us. You're lived and appreciated and you ARE a good man. Thank you Andy
I can relate from a different perspective. My dad has depression. Has had it as long as I can remember. so close to 45 years I have been observing it and its effects on peoples lives. it took until i was a teenager to undertstand it to any extent. Then it took until I was in my 20s to get my dad to understand what we all saw. Everytime it hit him hard and he stayed active he got passed it quicker than when he didn't stay active. Now active and quicker are all relative terms but for him it made a huge difference. And as I am the oldest of 7 it made a huge difference in my youngest siblings lives also. Now as I have gotten older One thing I wish I would have understood back then is. Chasing happiness always leads to disappointment. This is especially bad for someone who suffers from depression. Instead chase joy. Joy is everlasting and comes only from our heavenly father. I am still working on this myself. I am also working on getting my dad to understand it. A lot of people will not agree nor understand this. But joy and happiness are to totally different things. Joy is heavenly while happiness is earthly. Joy is what we feel when we have that fulfilled feeling. Happiness is what we are when we are having fun. Lots of people try to substitute happiness for joy. it can not be done. You are doing a great job from all I can see. We all suffer depresion at sometime in our life. however some like my dad and you suffer from it more. This is does not make you or him a bad person it just makes you different. May God bless you and bring you to you and your family. Remember. Take care of yourself. It is not your responsibility to make others happy. Take your time and get to feeling better.
Right there with you brotherman! The list and overwhelm. The depression hitting. The elusive purpose. The animals needing to be fed and their expressions for connection always help on the farm...
You are a good man; father; and husband. You are a free man and you live in beautiful Northern Michigan (my home state). THAT is the very definition of happiness my friend. You are a lucky man.
From one First Responder to another. TALK to the therapist. I did it and had to get over myself and the whole thing of I've gotta help everyone else. I hit rock bottom and almost didn't come home to the family. Woke me up and got help. Mentally am I 100%... hell no I know I'll never get there and I still have bad days but I now know that support exists when I'm in a funk. You got this if you need anything let me know. Thanks, Justin
Andy… Young man… you have a whole lot of shoulders and ears here to vent to that belong to folks that truly care about you! That saying, “It takes a village”…? We are your village. We are here anytime you need to vent! You are an amazing person that impresses me more everyday! What is even greater, is how much you have learned about yourself and grown as a great guy, husband, dad, friend to many and inspiration to your subscribers! Take care! God bless, and all my prayers. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hey Andy, thanks for coming out and talking to us, we love you and your videos, please try to keep that in mind. We all suffer from something and do the best we can. Know we are here and behind you, with you, and rooting for you. Few of us can go through life without getting down or falling in a rut. If I may offer to you, please try to do one thing each day, even if it’s a small task, like chopping wood, doing the dishes, organizing your tools, fixing a tire, whatever the case may be. Then you can say well I got that done. And you will feel better. Don’t worry about that list, know you can circle back and pick something back up later, and don’t feel pressure to make videos, we like them, but do what is best for you. Take care my friend and keep it positive.
This was 15 minutes of beauty. I’ve been in a real Bad spot for the last 6 months. A spot I never thought I’d find myself in. I keep waiting for the old regular me to return and I’ve not had much success so far. You pretty much word for word explained how I’ve been feeling. And to make things even worse I’m prideful and don’t like to ask help with anything. I wish you the best my fried and thanks for your words and bearing your soul.
Andy i agree 👍 I have had bad health problems for over 28 years. That controls my life. I get depressed, i don't drink or smoke or drugs. But with that gives me strength and I have come to peace with how i am.
It’s a big hurdle that I deal with every single day Andy,it’s tough. I was even admitted to the mental institution and I spent 9 days in there. And I felt better coming out but as soon as the everyday routine was introduced there I went again back into my depression. It’s hard man. Some days I don’t know what to do. Just keep your head up brother,I’m trying my best to do so as well. We have a bigger purpose in life,weather it’s to impact the next person or help an old lady across the street,we are here for a reason. Love you brother and just keep on moving forward.
Hey man. I really appreciate you being open about depression and men's mental health. I just found out somewhat recently that I've been dealing with mental health issues for a long time. I lost my little brother to suicide about 2.5yrs ago due to his depression and mental health. I'm doing therapy and I think it's saved my own life. I just wanted to say thank you again for addressing this and being able to talk about it. I'm a recent subscriber, I could just tell you were a good dude. I hope your days get better brother.
You are not alone young man. Life isn’t the same for everyone. Depression is real and the last several weeks I’ve been dealing with the same thing. God bless you.
Physical labor is my therapy as well. I think the fact that you're this self aware, is an amazing thing. Keep it up, and don't give up. The world needs more men like you.
Thank you Andy for sharing your struggles. As my therapist explained to me, people don't connect at the level of their happiness or success, they connect at the level of their struggles. We don't know each other, but I can connect with you, what your doing, and your depression. God speed.
One Breath, One Thought, One Task at a time! Do the best you can and try to push everyday to deal with it better than yesterday! Won't always work but it gives you a small goal to work towards. Take care Andy, make yourself happier first then focus on the rest!
Some days when I can't get out of my own head and find it hard to get outta bed I watch your old videos till I've seen them all again if my broken body lets me get up i go right to my shop since its heated with the same outdoor wood burner piped into the central heat ducting and a boiler for warm floors in the shop and i get a small project knocked out for a neighbor somedays thats all i can manage but your videos have helped me so much because of the way your journey into my life and so many others it reminds me no matter how hard i have it things could always be worse I've been blessed to own land near my family built my house starting in my Jr year of high school in the middle of our first add on to our home before my oldest was born i had a bad accident that jacked my spine up the Dr said id never walk again and I checked out i couldn't think of any reason to go on my family did research and found a surgeon who specialized in spinal injuries he was pretty confident he could get me outta the chair moving on my own so i said do what you can but if something goes wrong don't hook me upto machines or do anything to bring me back id already figured out disability is such a joke if you can pay your bills you have nothing left for food by the next spring id doubled my garden so the excess i sold at farmers markets got more chickens sold eggs and baby chicks the bees were growing and people came for honey when i had extra it took a couple years to join my kids in the shop again they were fixing neighbors vehicles and welding projects to help after their mother abandon us the shop garden and critters became out family therepy after i realized they were doing what they could to help me without me asking they just jumped in I still have my days and probably always will but you came into my life at a point where i was looking for a way to end it that my kids wouldn't know was purposely done and wouldn't involve anyone else and you talked me down and even though i have days (mainly winter or before big storms) i physically cant get out of bed the arthritis wont let me I've refused alot of pain meds because I fought addiction once and almost talked myself into a permanent solution to all my temporary problems and God bless you brother for catching my attention while I had no other direction to go but up i was raised don't show your emotions or ask for help because of weakness so i was out of options you and a couple other people posting videos saved my life so whenever you're feeling like just staying in bed remember theres at least 1 person who admired your leap of faith to pack up your life and move to the state where Hell freezes over ( i have family from Hell and Alpena Michigan) and openly talk about your problems i could battle my demons and go back to to my roots growing hunting trapping and raising my own food to save money and trade with people to get what i needed and help them with something they needed as i was slowly working on regaining strength to open the shop up i found my kids the oldest in their teens had already done it now everyday i wake up in pain slowing me down getting out of bed i just realize the pain just lets me know im still alive and have a purpose to get up and do something thanks to you and a couple other homesteaders and a Navy SEAL who after being medically retired from a roadside bomb talking about his struggle with addiction and thoughts of ending it all because his skillsets didn't transfer to a civilian job qualifications and if people like yall could keep putting 1 foot in front of the other so could i even on the days i needed a cane or crutches God bless and thank you
It aint personal, its just chemical. - thank you for that nugget of wisdom! Hell yeah brother! I appreciate that you made this, i am feeling like i am at that precipice of feeling fine and stareing into the abyss. This is helpful.
Andy, I feel for you. Since 2012, I have been dealing with Depression and a Bi-polar disorder. Were it not for the perfect storm of simultaneous family issues I would not have known about my issues. I thank my therapist and my psychologist for helping me lead, now, a happy, balanced life. Courage Amigo! Hold tightly to those who love you.
This is crazy, I’ve been thinking a lot the last few weeks about Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, and have been thinking about making a video on it as well. I don’t know if he got it wrong, or people have just bastardized his work. But I think where the teaching misses the mark, is humans look for what’s wrong, always. If we don’t have basic problems to look for, then we just manufacture other problems in our minds. So I don’t think the idea of self actualization people have, is ever possible. I really appreciate you making this video and your vulnerability. I think this a problem plaguing our society and a real honest assessment will be helpful for so many people. I often think about how everyone says now, “Put your own oxygen mask on first!” Which of course is great advice, IF you’re on a plane, and IF that plane is going down. But most of us aren’t on a plane, and we have plenty of oxygen, and really we just need to get outside ourselves and focus on others. Once again, you hit the nail on the head. As a fellow Michigander, even if you may be a reluctant Michigander, I love and appreciate everything you do! Keep up the great work!
1:32. This has been me for a few weeks, I've been fighting with my truck for a couple weeks, being a contractor without a truck is hard. Running a business and a home, scheduling between finding work and doing the work I have, keep the truck and tools going, keep a happy home that I'm not always working on a project at home, . . . Thanks for your videos, and wise words
Wow Brother, I am in awe; total respect for the courage it took to share your personal struggle. Your situation mirrors mine. I’m 65 years old and here’s a few things I’ve learned along the way. True happiness will never be found in: PEOPLE PLACES or POSSESSIONS So many mornings I too struggle (just like you) to get out of bed. To find the ‘start button’. I recall reading somewhere that we tend to default to ‘feelings’ to get ourselves motivated. We don’t FEEL like doing X. But if we can summon the strength to DO the task, to just get started, feelings will follow. It’s expressed like this: ACTIONS = FEELINGS not FEELINGS = ACTIONS Don’t forget, you are an adopted Child of God. No one has an adoption on accident. It’s a willful act. I’ll be praying for you.
Sir Andy, I deal with what seems to be the same darkness myself. Some days are good, some days not so much. I’m so fortunate to have come out the other side of some very dark places alive, honestly. A word to you and me alike, keep your head up, talk to someone, find what breaks your cycle and remember that it’s okay to not be okay. I love YOU and God Bless.
Hey Andy. I’m the same way. What I do is remember the kid’s hospital commercials where when my kids would be acting up and the commercial would come on, kids automatically stop and start listening. They would start asking questions. I would tell them look how happy those kids are and they might not live another month but the smile on their faces are wholesome. My kids cared and I don’t know why but that helps me knowing my kids have good hearts. I pray for all kids to be healthy and happy. Amen 🙏
I suffer from depression daily it's a horrible thing to deal with I've had dark days I haven't even told my mom about. No thoughts of suicide but I've had some pretty dark days. Counseling has helped some but there's just things I've gotta deal with on my own. With all the relationships that have failed and losing contact with my 2 boys for reasons I still choose to get out of bed everyday and push on. Guys are expected to just shove it all inside but it just doesn't work. We all love your work and we all support you depression doesn't ever go away some days are just easier than others. We love you and God bless
Same here brother, many tiny projects turn into a huge pile. Keep the faith. I turn to the study of the good book. I am having a bout of depression now, I remembered your videos giving me a moment of happiness and have not watched them for about year. I actively searched your channel again because it gave me a glimmer of light. It is hard times, we can not always WORK are ways out of our issues. I am truly looking forward to you making vids with you loving life. Take a day to enjoy rest and don't worry about tomorrow. Nice backhoe.
We love you Andy, we may be random Internet strangers from all over the world - but I believe that YOU have created this community of curious like-minded folks and if you’re open to receiving it you can feel our love - it is genuine ❤ Lots of love from New Zealand
It's easy to get overwhelmed, I suffer from depression also, I've been medicated for years on many different medications, they work for a little while then nothing. Now that I have become disabled it is much much worse, waking up in the morning and wondering "why get up" then I look at my wife or hear my grandkids playing and drag my crippled butt out of bed. That works for me, I'm not saying it is a total fix, but it gets me through the day. You have a beautiful family let them help you. I Love You Brother
I've been dealing with depression since I was 6 years old, and I tried to take my life three times before I even turned 20 (the first time was at 7). I can admit this these days because I finally understood that nobody is in their right frame of mind. I know what I've endured, both the things that caused the depression and the really bad decisions I've made over the years to keep it going, and one thing that helps me is talking to the so-called "voices in my head". I've learned to be a bit kinder towards them (because I realize I'm talking to myself, and self-anger just makes things worse), but sometimes, I have to tell them to take a hike (and that's putting it mildly). Self-hatred is one of the most difficult things to treat, and I've had to go it alone for the most part; I'm not very good at picking good therapists, and all have deftly avoided the issue. So yeah, I'll be dealing with this until I'm done. I'm beginning to realize that, because of what I've been through, I'm rather compassionate. I know what it is to hurt, to be alone, to be struggling, to feel that nobody cares, and I don't want anyone feeling like that. Maybe that's the reason we're going through things like this, because it teaches us better ways of interacting with the world. I don't have most of the answers, I don't even know everything that works for me; even if I did know, it doesn't all get done because I'm just barely tolerating my existence at this point. That's actually progress, you should have met me 10 years ago. Anyway, keep moving forward, no matter what. If firewood helps, by all means, level the forest. Me, I've been knitting since high school, but it didn't really become therapy until I began giving gifts to everyone, which makes them happy. That, in turn, brings me some happiness. My days start with a few hours of knitting, I also get a sense of accomplishment as a result. For what it's worth...
I love you brother! Thankyou soo much for sharing!!! The world needs more men like us. 44yo from oz, lived in very similar circumstances and batted the same demons for many years myself. Just keep "doing something" and "just keep moving forward". I have taken away some good food for thought from you brother. Keep it coming mate, I have and will watch anything you care to share, you do you. Luv ya!
I think your absolutely correct about depression. Some days a closet looks very inviting. Just like you I start to feel better about myself when I am helping others. We are going through a tough time right now with all the fires around us,I live in the okanagan in BC. Thank god there getting ahead of the fires and I think the worst is over. Now it’s time to help rebuild the lives of our fellow human beings.
You know Maslov, we studied the hierarchy of needs in nursing school. You know you better than anyone. You have a life that others may strive for and never achieve. You just keep going my friend. There are ups and downs, RIDE that rollercoaster!
I have followed you for years, but somehow missed this video. Months later, and just when I was going through some stuff, this video popped up... Just to let you know, you are a therapist to thousands of people, and you're doing a great job. Keep up the good work, and when you can't, let her wobble!
I know it's not easy to open up about these things, and I appreciate you taking that step Andy. I also always found splitting firewood very therapeutic. Hope everything is going well for you and yours. Thank you for sharing with us.
I believe God directed me to your channel for this video. Story time. I’ve been following you since the very beginning on Facebook and UA-cam. For some reason I clicked on one of your videos. And for some reason I followed you ever since. This video has helped me a lot. A little bit about me. I’m 14 years old. Trying my very hardest to resurrect the old family farm. I’ve made lots of progress. And I’m to the point where I want to be. I just need to maintain the progress and I think the farm will be up and running before I know it. But then one morning about a month or two ago. I woke up. Didn’t want to do anything, didn’t wanna talk to anyone. Didn’t wanna hear anyone. I’m still like that a month or two later. I’m generally a happy guy. So this has concerned myself. Just like you, I lay in bed, not wanting to get up not wanting to do anything. And when I do I just pause sit and think about everything. It sucks. I have animals to take care of, Tractors to fix, things to do. Yet here I am doing nothing. I think one of the biggest issues for me is not having someone to relate to. By you making this video, I now have some sort of confidence that I’m not alone dealing with this crap. Just like you, I have a UA-cam channel. I try to make videos. I got lots of good feedback from them. But yet nothing seems to be enough to get you motivated to do anything. I believe God somehow guided me to this video. Just having someone to relate to makes it better. I believe if we put our focus on the Lord, and not ourselves, we can get through it. A big thing for me is I’m homeschooled. That means not very many friends no girlfriend not much of a social life. Which I’m not a social guy so I didn’t think that would bother me. It bothers me. I don’t know why, but not having a girlfriend makes everything worse to me. But recently instead of focusing on not having a girlfriend I have focused more on my relationship with the Lord. I find myself getting better almost every day. By no means am I normal but I’m better. I’m in the same boat as you. Just remember, you’re not alone. On a sidenote, I do really enjoy your videos, and it helps me not be depressed lol.
wow, that is a lot of wisdom coming from someone so young. God bless you as you learn at such a young age to put your faith totally in the Lord and let God direct your steps. Enjoy your young years as long as you can without the entanglements of girlfriends, there is plenty of time for that. I was not isolated at your age, but I am now-not by choice-so I understand how lonely it feels sometimes. Just remember that God is your best friend and you can talk to Him anytime! And remember that people will always let you down in life, but God will never let you down. Make Him #1 and everything else will fall into place. I promise.
Know how your feeling, and it's probably why you connect with your audience so well. Most of us have been there and/or are still there and trying to deal with it day by day. Also seen your message to Oliver anthony, very kind of you to reach out a hand to him think it's what most of the good men who struggle do is to help others often not always helping themselves.
Andy, you're a very smart man. I truly think this will run its course and get better for ya, but dont let it get ya and dont let it affect how you deal with your wife and family. There's good meds out there, sometimes it takes a while to find the one that works for your particular chemical imbalance. Dont be afraid to seek medical help and dont be afraid to chang providers if theyre not helping. Keep talking to your family, friends, and therapists. Always remind yourself that its gonna get better. Stay close to God and dont hesitate to use the Drs., therapists, med, and nature that he has blessed us with. You have so many people that you don't even know about rooting for you!! I'm a fan!! May God bless you on this difficult journey.
Andy i feel you. i struggle to get things accomplished around the farm as well. you're videos help motivate me to get back on it. just remember there are so many of us good ol boys who look up to you. you are a true american living and doing things the old forgotten ways. thank you for all that you do and keep on keeping on brother
We all deal with depression in one way or another. We all have it at times. I'm a BOOMER who does know its there. I too have days that lower priority projects don't get done and like your firewood, may not be ready when needed. There are trucks on my lot also not running & have been for years. I too like to split wood by hand. It gets some aggression out or the time just takes some of the depression problems away (for a while). You, I and others will just have it. Part of this life and we've come this far in life (I'm 59), we'll just keep going even with days of not much being done & depressed.😊 I'm sending you a virtual HUG. Power to all of your readers seeing this.
Keep using your coping skills and keep chopping firewood. I don't know you but I watch your show that you put out here on UA-cam and thank you for sharing with us today. I know it's big step for you to show us what you're going through and it is a way of healing I think I've dealt with depression my whole entire life I'm over 60 years old and still I deal with it everyday, everyone has a different way to cope with their feelings and how they're feeling, just to let you know that you're not the only one that deals with depression and anxiety. I hope that you're coping skills will include getting better over a. Of time, one thing I've learned is not to worry about everything just to worry about yourself, and just to let you know that you're wanted , loved , respected , you have a value to be and never ever think that you don't. ❤ Take care and I hope you continue to share.
Andy, Its great to hear a real man sharing his demons with others. I do know for myself from self medicating for many years through my youth I do think it messes our internal bar height of internal happiness. I find good hard work building up a sweat, getting outside myself by volunteering or helping someone less fortunate than myself helps me. Its tough at times but one day at a time and praying. Hit your knees like a rat to cheese brother. God blessing to you and yours. Boe
Andrew, you are a very personable n likeable young man, we as men do have a purpose but we do need to slow down once in awhile n enjoy our endeavors, but also the world being as it is, we do have to stay vigilant and protect our family and friends, you have done so much so far to instill the protector status in so many that follow, I love you for that. Your awesome!💪🏽👍🏾✊🏽
No one knows what you’re going through unless they are going through it ! You’ve hit the nail directly on the head , I too go through those feelings and as men we try to work it away ! As you talk through the video I think you are mimicking everyone of us! We start thinking of our loved ones and how they will survive without us, at least that’s what I do? Trust in God talk to him he will show you the way !!!! God bless you we all love you!!!!
Intelligence can be a burden. Empathy, I have learned, is a gift. I think the fact you have taken this and put it into words so others can see and understand they are not alone is pretty powerful. As for me, some random guy on YT, I can tie my head into a pretzel for all sorts of reasons. When I get in a funk, or overwhelmed by life, similar you and your firewood, I need to find something that distracts me. Something that gets me excited. Trick is finding it. Oh, and on the lighter side, GenX....forgotten again.... Take care and I appreciate what you are doing.
Lord, please lay your healing hand on Andy. You created us and understand every molecule of our being. Some how, some of your creation has run amuck in Andy's brain. We are asking that you redirect each cell to its intended purpose. Give Andy the wisdom to know what to do and how to handle whatever comes his way, whether it's those around him or himself. Give Andy peace of mind and life. Amen
You may be dealing with depression, Andy. But you are a very wise man. You have terrific insight and that is not easily acquired. All the best to you in your search for a level playing field.
This really hit home for me. I as probably many others (with the current situation going on in this country) am feeling it more and more daily. I am new to this channel and have really been enjoying it. Thank you for being Real, and sincere. I Love what you are sharing. Keep your head up and Thanks again.
Love you all. I needed to hear this today. I will not ever forget it. Humans like yourself restore a little bit of faith in humanity for me. Makes me realize I am not alone in this fight here on Earth. Good man. I need friends around me whom think like this man.
Very well said Andy. I believe everyone will deal with some form of depression at some point in their life, be it a short blurb here or there or an ongoing slugfest. Recently I lost a sister-in-law to this disease, let's face it that's basically what this is, and I've had to come to terms with the fact that some people decide that the best choice for them is to clock out. For friends and family that choice is often regarded as a bad choice, yet for them it was their best choice. I don't condone the act of taking one's life, yet sometimes that's when their timer is up. Thank you for giving your insight into this issue. I wish you luck in your endeavors. And for anyone still reading this, You Matter to someone.
Dont know how i missed this video.... Thankyou for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It is important to get it out and hear yourself talk, acknowledging an issue, setting a plan, achieving a goal and then sitting back and being chuffed at yourself. As men we give ( as you said, but we forget to give to ourselves) I feel it makes my day doing the little things that i have been putting off for a long time. I have always enjoyed your videos, knowing that you have achieved so much and clearly done it hard (not only emotionally and financially ) But.... mate.. look at what you have achieved, what you have made, what you know and the joy you have given us with every video.
This hits so close. I can relate to everything you said and you have taught me more than I knew before. Thank you for the words of wisdom. Sometimes the things you need to hear come when you didn’t know you needed to hear it. Stay strong and thank you. You have helped me more than you could know from a simple video. Thank you.
I suffer almost the same exact way brother. Especially this time of year.i have reverse seasonal depression . Takes guts to speak out on this but one day when your ready a good therapist is worth their weight in gold. Its kinda like drinking , when your ready to get help it's their but you have to go do it. Been through what your going through but just don't be alone in this , trust me .
I understand the emotions you're going through. My therapist had identified my previously undiagnosed ADHD as a major contributing factor to my anxiety and depression symptoms.
I am currently coming out of a 6-46 month long horrible depression. Thank you for sharing this. It's not easy to shake, and I have to fight it every day. I miss the world I grew up in. My family and friends are suffering also. Some of us have come together to help each other build strength and security. It has help us a lot. I also started a channel, just putting some things on video weather it makes the cut or not has been helpful also. Long story longer I will be praying for you and your family. You have been an inspiration, thank you.
Hey Andy, Thanks for Sharing! I fight it everyday! You have taught me a lot. But, this is the greatest lesson! I agree. Staying busy and praying thanking the Lord! You’re words are true! I think you’re channel is the Greatest!! Thank You!
In Australia, depression is often called "the black dog". It nearly took my daughter twice but she she fought and and fought and got on top of it and has now got her degree in criminology, her dream job and a top notch fiancé. Every day is good but some are better than others.
You are stronger than you think. Watching you talk about it like that helps more than you know and takes a whole lot of courage. You can be proud. And thank you.
It's good to see you are real human. Hang in there man. The healing may down a very long road, but the victory is that much greater. When I'm at the end of my rope, I say "Okay, God. I've been trying to follow you and here I am in the pit. We succeed or fail together, but it will be together because you will be here with me." Then, I'm not alone. I love ya. And God bless.
Mental health can be a real struggle. Thanks for sharing Andy. I always look forward to seeing your videos. You help me to understand I'm not the only one out there that's struggling. Love your faith! Self discipline: doing what you know needs to get done, even when you don't feel like doing it!
That really hit home with me Andy.. More than I ever thought it would. You may not realize it but such a simple thing as posting this video, being as honest and open as you were really connects with people. Far too many of us fight the battle every day and despite knowing that we arent alone in it, we still feel alone. This video made me not feel alone in the fight and even tho we've never met and likely never will, youve made me feel like you have my back. And for that i cannot thank you enough. Keep your head up brother
Keep on keeping on brother. I’d like to shake your hand one day. I know how hard it Life) can be and your life around the farm (Homestead) is what I live everyday. Glad to see someone take the time to video it and share it with others. God bless ya all the way from West by god Virginia. Next time you visit down south stop by and camp out with us. Always a place for you to sit around the fire here with us. Be safe god bless
Hey Brother, this video lands with me. I felt like I was listening to myself. I wish we had answers for each other. It doesn't work that way I guess. Just know that you are admired and loved for who you are or at least the portion that you allow us to see. What I see is a good man, making his mark in this crazy world, setting an example that he should be proud of. I love you brother. Sending you a bear hug and a solid slap on the back. You rock Andy! None of us are perfect and we all struggle. Good men fight demons everyday without others knowing. Thanks for sharing that it is ok to battle and acknowledge our flaws. Joe
This is one of my favorite videos you've made because I can relate to it so much and it's helped me every time I've watched it. And you're right, splitting wood helps get you going. Thank you for your videos!
So glad you talked about this today.just like you I have depression some years it’s not so bad but other years it’s bad. I did go see a psychiatrist a few years ago and he said something the stuck in my brain I would like to share it with you and others. Dr said there are people out there with analog brains, living in a digital world I was taken back at first when he said that. To much going on right now our minds can not deal with all the info entering it. He told me to pick a time write down what you are thinking,now take another piece and right down what is most important to you, now another paper and right down what needs done. Now the next day first page do the same, second page just stare at it for a bit now go to the last page cross out what got done. This has help me so much just to empty your mind from everything. Yes there will be days where the to do list gets longer but over time that list will start to disappear. Love you and yours Andy as always Gob bless
Been there brother, the only thing that works for me is getting out in the sun and working my ass off - and family, thank god for family. Stay strong Andy you'll be alright.
I’ve struggled with depression my entire life. The struggle is real. When I’m feeling low, your videos provide me with great entertainment and help me find the motivation get up and get to work on my life.
Hey there Andy I saw this video when you first put it up on here and I've been watching your content for several years now since the homesteading tools video on the machete and I keep finding myself coming back to this video from time to time when it pops up when I'm in a rough place myself and I wanted to thank you for it as it helps refocus me and to get back up and going when I really need to hear it
Thank you Andy for choosing to be totally honest. Gives us a safe place to be totally honest with ourselves as well. Life isn't easy and there are many times where we will struggle sometimes for short time other times for a longer time. None of us are immune to depression. Some of us are better able to hide it from others but it is still there something we must face one-on-one with it
Your purpose is to think about all you can do for everyone that loves you and to always remember that the pain you have will be transferred to others if we don’t control our beast! That is what I have always tried to do but it’s a battle we will always be fighting until the end! 40 + years in the battle. Praying for you brother!
I feel for you, I’m also encouraged that you’re doing what you’re doing on this medium,be aware God has a plan for you, to bless you not to harm you. I’m led to share with you Psalm 100-2 please meditate the note that I have in my Bible “ happiness is an emotional state typically dependent upon external circumstances: the biblical concept of joy involves a deeper reality. Joy includes a condition of genuine well-being, marked by confidence, hope and trust that extends far beyond our own finite perceptions. happiness is often temporary: joy is more of a process, often developed most profoundly during periods of chaos and suffering. The deep sustaining joy of the Lord comes from assurance that he is with us and will deliver us from present difficulties as well as from the scarred and stained world. Such joy is able to express its hope, even in the middle of legitimate sadness.“ God loves you Right where you are. Enjoy the channel , been watching for about 3 years , keep on Keeping on, blessings to you and yours….
Andy, very well-spoken, young man! Thanks for your honest reflection and introspection and I totally agree with you. Keep sharing and being real. You are serving your purpose. BTW this is the first video I’ve watched in a while and it was just the one I needed. Keep talking and splitting wood. Makes all the difference. ❤🙏😊
it is a issue that only once gone through then you can understand. stay strong because seeing you and your dysfunction helps me and others. Thank you. Sending you love hope and understanding to you and your wife. Blessings my little helper. X
I am ADHD and if I don’t stay busy with something I get this way. I have had some issues with addiction as well. I have finally figured out in life how to stay out of that shit storm. Keep busy and keep your head up and it will get better ❤
Andy I spent 36yrs as a L.E.O and Medic. I have issues with PTSD, people like you and your Videos help me out.
Hang in there brother and keep the Fath.
The fact that you see and know what it is you're dealing with, and are open about it, is proof that You're already WAYYY ahead of the curve than most!! I will add you to my prayers brother. Don't forget to lean into God for everything. For what do you have, that you have not received? Love you man!!
I appreciate your reply. Here is my daily routine:
1 Up at 3:30 or 4:30 AM, get put together and do 1 hour of low weight exercise Mon. Wed. Fri.
2 Do some kitchen chores, make breakfast,
3 Hour of Bible study and prayer, learn the truth, happiness is worldly, joy is Godly.
4 Take care of work: your home, your business. Aid a widow or neighbor, no charge.
5 At days end focus on family, wife needs you to lead, and to be there for her, and children,
6 At anytime take a break and go visit, eat, watch toob, rest, design, plan, compute, play and always be thankful, always.
7 Early to bed and early to rise makes a healthy camper. Take care!
AMEN!
You are 💯 correct!
Bingo 🎯
Peace over happiness. As you said happiness is momentary. Peace is what carries you each day through the good and the bad times. Search for Peace and it will find you. Keep fighting the good fight. God bless.
You are not alone. I have personally fought depression and the accompanying anxiety off and on throughout my life. Funny you mention firewood. Years ago we had a large cedar tree taken down with what seemed like an overwhelming amount of limbs to deal with. It just so happened at the time I was in a dark place. I don’t know what made me do it as I have several chain saws but I purchased a bow saw and began cutting the limbs into useable firewood length every night after work. As I worked each evening the darkness lifted.
I look back now and I was working 60+ hours a week with countless hours serving as a volunteer firefighter and emergency medical technician.
Spent several years visiting with a therapist and in group therapy sessions. I quit going when I realized life was never going to be perfect and it was okay to take care of myself. Relaxation exercises are a large help in my case to stop the racing mind.
I quit trying to hide things and became very open about my struggles with my family, friends and co-workers and what I found was many were in the same boat trying to keep up with the rat race.
Also when confronted with issues and too many tasks, I take a step back and I realize they are first world problems in many cases really have no major consequence to my life.
What you have done with this video is to be admired and will likely help those who see it either because they have experienced it themselves or know somebody who has.
I’m retired now and my passion now is to spend as much time in the woodlot as possible.
Keep up the good work.
Love you man! No one want to talk about it. Splitting wood being in the woods is like church. Fishing hunting outdoors family. Having land tractors projects is all you need. Keep busy = good mind set.
Also explains all the goats n chickens. Animals cure all.
I feel you, brother! My wife and I are going through a rough patch due to her physical and mental health right now. I understand what she's going through because I've lived with depression for about 45 years. I used to say I "suffered" from depression. But for me, that was taking on the victim mentality I guess. I started saying I "live" with it because at least that shows that I'm fighting it and not surrendering. What you said about caring for someone struck home. I'm 65, my lovely bride is 56. I waited all my life to find a woman like her and I married her in July 21st 2023. I fight for her when she can't and she fights for me when I can't. Guys like you and me are lucky to have someone that important in our hearts. My wife was laying down about to take a nap when I fired up this video. She LOVED what you had to say. She's getting the help she needs in a hospital right now and I'm there right by her side 100 percent.
Love you, Andy. Love your videos too.
Huggs....in a manly kind of fashion. 😂
Man, sending you a big bro hug. Long time subscriber from Australia. Thank you for being honest and sharing. That in itself shows me great strength.
Psalm 121 comes to mind
I lift up my eyes to the hills.
From where does my help come?
2 My help comes from the Lord,
who made heaven and earth.
Also Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
Bless you mate. Just wanted to say I appreciate who you are.
Andy...here is the CliffsNote (TM) version...Deployed many moons ago (discharged in January of '92). Lost some folks over in the great nothingness and mourn their loss every day. I strive very hard to not squander the chance I had by coming back to the world (physically anyway). Loving your videos brother, I appreciate your honest take on the things in your life that you choose to share with us, your audience.
As the great Joe Dirt says “Life is too short to waste doing nothing. Make every day count, because we all don’t know when we will leave this world. Cherish every moment you have with loved ones and never regret anything in life, because everything happens for a reason. Look at every day and smile that God has kept you alive, ‘cause there’s nothing sweeter than life.” - Joe Dirt. Yes...from Plato, Socrates, and Shakespeare, to Joe Dirt...we have evolved brother!! Have a good one and get back to processing that wood...later.
Stop watching the news, find one thing to be grateful for. Focus on good. That’s a start.❤
Thank u so much for talking to ur viewers, I am 62 and have been dealing with depression all my life, at 61 was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer which made it even worse. I am very sorry ur dealing with that but the best thing is just talking about it. My heart goes out to u
That’s brutal. I’m sorry you have this new battle. But I’ve seen it beat, and you will. One way or another! Your in my prayers, for determination, pain management and recovery. Gos IS with you.
@@hrisyelgen1610 Thank u for the well wishes
You have a lot of courage talking about it publicly and not keeping it in. On the bright side you have a brand new splitting maul! Gods speed.
It sucks, no lie. But you found a way to deal with it for a little bit by sharing with us. There's more of us dealing with depression than you may think. Thank you for making the hard choice to share this with us. You're lived and appreciated and you ARE a good man. Thank you Andy
The world needs more honest talks like this. Thanks for putting yourself out there and not sugar coating it!
The simplicity of splitting firewood is my therapy as well, good video, thanks for posting.
I can relate from a different perspective. My dad has depression. Has had it as long as I can remember. so close to 45 years I have been observing it and its effects on peoples lives. it took until i was a teenager to undertstand it to any extent. Then it took until I was in my 20s to get my dad to understand what we all saw. Everytime it hit him hard and he stayed active he got passed it quicker than when he didn't stay active. Now active and quicker are all relative terms but for him it made a huge difference. And as I am the oldest of 7 it made a huge difference in my youngest siblings lives also. Now as I have gotten older One thing I wish I would have understood back then is. Chasing happiness always leads to disappointment. This is especially bad for someone who suffers from depression. Instead chase joy. Joy is everlasting and comes only from our heavenly father. I am still working on this myself. I am also working on getting my dad to understand it. A lot of people will not agree nor understand this. But joy and happiness are to totally different things. Joy is heavenly while happiness is earthly. Joy is what we feel when we have that fulfilled feeling. Happiness is what we are when we are having fun. Lots of people try to substitute happiness for joy. it can not be done. You are doing a great job from all I can see. We all suffer depresion at sometime in our life. however some like my dad and you suffer from it more. This is does not make you or him a bad person it just makes you different. May God bless you and bring you to you and your family. Remember. Take care of yourself. It is not your responsibility to make others happy. Take your time and get to feeling better.
Right there with you brotherman! The list and overwhelm. The depression hitting. The elusive purpose. The animals needing to be fed and their expressions for connection always help on the farm...
I've suffered from depression myself for over 40 years, you're not alone and I'm glad that you made this video and share this with us. ✌️🇺🇲
You are a good man; father; and husband. You are a free man and you live in beautiful Northern Michigan (my home state). THAT is the very definition of happiness my friend. You are a lucky man.
Keep talking Andy! You can help yourself and others with your words. Let’er wobble Andy. We all appreciate your candid honesty. We all hear and care.
From one First Responder to another. TALK to the therapist. I did it and had to get over myself and the whole thing of I've gotta help everyone else. I hit rock bottom and almost didn't come home to the family. Woke me up and got help. Mentally am I 100%... hell no I know I'll never get there and I still have bad days but I now know that support exists when I'm in a funk. You got this if you need anything let me know.
Thanks, Justin
Who needs a therapist. He bought a new splitting maul. 👍
Andy… Young man… you have a whole lot of shoulders and ears here to vent to that belong to folks that truly care about you! That saying, “It takes a village”…? We are your village. We are here anytime you need to vent! You are an amazing person that impresses me more everyday! What is even greater, is how much you have learned about yourself and grown as a great guy, husband, dad, friend to many and inspiration to your subscribers! Take care! God bless, and all my prayers. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hey Andy, thanks for coming out and talking to us, we love you and your videos, please try to keep that in mind. We all suffer from something and do the best we can. Know we are here and behind you, with you, and rooting for you. Few of us can go through life without getting down or falling in a rut. If I may offer to you, please try to do one thing each day, even if it’s a small task, like chopping wood, doing the dishes, organizing your tools, fixing a tire, whatever the case may be. Then you can say well I got that done. And you will feel better. Don’t worry about that list, know you can circle back and pick something back up later, and don’t feel pressure to make videos, we like them, but do what is best for you. Take care my friend and keep it positive.
This was 15 minutes of beauty. I’ve been in a real
Bad spot for the last 6 months. A spot I never thought I’d find myself in.
I keep waiting for the old regular me to return and I’ve not had much success so far.
You pretty much word for word explained how I’ve been feeling.
And to make things even worse I’m prideful and don’t like to ask help with anything.
I wish you the best my fried and thanks for your words and bearing your soul.
Andy i agree 👍
I have had bad health problems for over 28 years. That controls my life. I get depressed, i don't drink or smoke or drugs. But with that gives me strength and I have come to peace with how i am.
It’s a big hurdle that I deal with every single day Andy,it’s tough. I was even admitted to the mental institution and I spent 9 days in there. And I felt better coming out but as soon as the everyday routine was introduced there I went again back into my depression. It’s hard man. Some days I don’t know what to do. Just keep your head up brother,I’m trying my best to do so as well. We have a bigger purpose in life,weather it’s to impact the next person or help an old lady across the street,we are here for a reason. Love you brother and just keep on moving forward.
Hey man. I really appreciate you being open about depression and men's mental health. I just found out somewhat recently that I've been dealing with mental health issues for a long time. I lost my little brother to suicide about 2.5yrs ago due to his depression and mental health. I'm doing therapy and I think it's saved my own life. I just wanted to say thank you again for addressing this and being able to talk about it. I'm a recent subscriber, I could just tell you were a good dude. I hope your days get better brother.
You are not alone young man. Life isn’t the same for everyone. Depression is real and the last several weeks I’ve been dealing with the same thing. God bless you.
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Physical labor is my therapy as well. I think the fact that you're this self aware, is an amazing thing. Keep it up, and don't give up. The world needs more men like you.
Thank you Andy for sharing your struggles. As my therapist explained to me, people don't connect at the level of their happiness or success, they connect at the level of their struggles. We don't know each other, but I can connect with you, what your doing, and your depression. God speed.
One Breath, One Thought, One Task at a time! Do the best you can and try to push everyday to deal with it better than yesterday! Won't always work but it gives you a small goal to work towards. Take care Andy, make yourself happier first then focus on the rest!
Yep. Good talk. An hour of wood splitting in the morning.. An hour in the evening. Good therapy. God bless. Praying for you.
Some days when I can't get out of my own head and find it hard to get outta bed I watch your old videos till I've seen them all again if my broken body lets me get up i go right to my shop since its heated with the same outdoor wood burner piped into the central heat ducting and a boiler for warm floors in the shop and i get a small project knocked out for a neighbor somedays thats all i can manage but your videos have helped me so much because of the way your journey into my life and so many others it reminds me no matter how hard i have it things could always be worse I've been blessed to own land near my family built my house starting in my Jr year of high school in the middle of our first add on to our home before my oldest was born i had a bad accident that jacked my spine up the Dr said id never walk again and I checked out i couldn't think of any reason to go on my family did research and found a surgeon who specialized in spinal injuries he was pretty confident he could get me outta the chair moving on my own so i said do what you can but if something goes wrong don't hook me upto machines or do anything to bring me back id already figured out disability is such a joke if you can pay your bills you have nothing left for food by the next spring id doubled my garden so the excess i sold at farmers markets got more chickens sold eggs and baby chicks the bees were growing and people came for honey when i had extra it took a couple years to join my kids in the shop again they were fixing neighbors vehicles and welding projects to help after their mother abandon us the shop garden and critters became out family therepy after i realized they were doing what they could to help me without me asking they just jumped in I still have my days and probably always will but you came into my life at a point where i was looking for a way to end it that my kids wouldn't know was purposely done and wouldn't involve anyone else and you talked me down and even though i have days (mainly winter or before big storms) i physically cant get out of bed the arthritis wont let me I've refused alot of pain meds because I fought addiction once and almost talked myself into a permanent solution to all my temporary problems and God bless you brother for catching my attention while I had no other direction to go but up i was raised don't show your emotions or ask for help because of weakness so i was out of options you and a couple other people posting videos saved my life so whenever you're feeling like just staying in bed remember theres at least 1 person who admired your leap of faith to pack up your life and move to the state where Hell freezes over ( i have family from Hell and Alpena Michigan) and openly talk about your problems i could battle my demons and go back to to my roots growing hunting trapping and raising my own food to save money and trade with people to get what i needed and help them with something they needed as i was slowly working on regaining strength to open the shop up i found my kids the oldest in their teens had already done it now everyday i wake up in pain slowing me down getting out of bed i just realize the pain just lets me know im still alive and have a purpose to get up and do something thanks to you and a couple other homesteaders and a Navy SEAL who after being medically retired from a roadside bomb talking about his struggle with addiction and thoughts of ending it all because his skillsets didn't transfer to a civilian job qualifications and if people like yall could keep putting 1 foot in front of the other so could i even on the days i needed a cane or crutches God bless and thank you
It aint personal, its just chemical. - thank you for that nugget of wisdom! Hell yeah brother! I appreciate that you made this, i am feeling like i am at that precipice of feeling fine and stareing into the abyss. This is helpful.
Andy, I feel for you. Since 2012, I have been dealing with Depression and a Bi-polar disorder. Were it not for the perfect storm of simultaneous family issues I would not have known about my issues. I thank my therapist and my psychologist for helping me lead, now, a happy, balanced life. Courage Amigo! Hold tightly to those who love you.
This is crazy, I’ve been thinking a lot the last few weeks about Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, and have been thinking about making a video on it as well. I don’t know if he got it wrong, or people have just bastardized his work. But I think where the teaching misses the mark, is humans look for what’s wrong, always. If we don’t have basic problems to look for, then we just manufacture other problems in our minds. So I don’t think the idea of self actualization people have, is ever possible. I really appreciate you making this video and your vulnerability. I think this a problem plaguing our society and a real honest assessment will be helpful for so many people.
I often think about how everyone says now, “Put your own oxygen mask on first!” Which of course is great advice, IF you’re on a plane, and IF that plane is going down. But most of us aren’t on a plane, and we have plenty of oxygen, and really we just need to get outside ourselves and focus on others.
Once again, you hit the nail on the head. As a fellow Michigander, even if you may be a reluctant Michigander, I love and appreciate everything you do! Keep up the great work!
Bless your heart, Andy. You, and Yours are in my Prayers.
1:32. This has been me for a few weeks, I've been fighting with my truck for a couple weeks, being a contractor without a truck is hard. Running a business and a home, scheduling between finding work and doing the work I have, keep the truck and tools going, keep a happy home that I'm not always working on a project at home, . . . Thanks for your videos, and wise words
Wow Brother,
I am in awe; total respect for the courage it took to share your personal struggle.
Your situation mirrors mine.
I’m 65 years old and here’s a few things I’ve learned along the way.
True happiness will never be found in:
PEOPLE
PLACES
or POSSESSIONS
So many mornings I too struggle (just like you) to get out of bed. To find the ‘start button’.
I recall reading somewhere that we tend to default to ‘feelings’ to get ourselves motivated. We don’t FEEL like doing X. But if we can summon the strength to DO the task, to just get started, feelings will follow.
It’s expressed like this:
ACTIONS = FEELINGS
not
FEELINGS = ACTIONS
Don’t forget, you are an adopted Child of God. No one has an adoption on accident. It’s a willful act.
I’ll be praying for you.
Sir Andy, I deal with what seems to be the same darkness myself. Some days are good, some days not so much. I’m so fortunate to have come out the other side of some very dark places alive, honestly. A word to you and me alike, keep your head up, talk to someone, find what breaks your cycle and remember that it’s okay to not be okay. I love YOU and God Bless.
Hey Andy. I’m the same way. What I do is remember the kid’s hospital commercials where when my kids would be acting up and the commercial would come on, kids automatically stop and start listening. They would start asking questions. I would tell them look how happy those kids are and they might not live another month but the smile on their faces are wholesome. My kids cared and I don’t know why but that helps me knowing my kids have good hearts. I pray for all kids to be healthy and happy. Amen 🙏
I suffer from depression daily it's a horrible thing to deal with I've had dark days I haven't even told my mom about. No thoughts of suicide but I've had some pretty dark days. Counseling has helped some but there's just things I've gotta deal with on my own. With all the relationships that have failed and losing contact with my 2 boys for reasons I still choose to get out of bed everyday and push on. Guys are expected to just shove it all inside but it just doesn't work. We all love your work and we all support you depression doesn't ever go away some days are just easier than others. We love you and God bless
Same here brother, many tiny projects turn into a huge pile. Keep the faith. I turn to the study of the good book. I am having a bout of depression now, I remembered your videos giving me a moment of happiness and have not watched them for about year. I actively searched your channel again because it gave me a glimmer of light. It is hard times, we can not always WORK are ways out of our issues. I am truly looking forward to you making vids with you loving life. Take a day to enjoy rest and don't worry about tomorrow. Nice backhoe.
We love you Andy, we may be random Internet strangers from all over the world - but I believe that YOU have created this community of curious like-minded folks and if you’re open to receiving it you can feel our love - it is genuine ❤
Lots of love from New Zealand
It's easy to get overwhelmed, I suffer from depression also, I've been medicated for years on many different medications, they work for a little while then nothing.
Now that I have become disabled it is much much worse, waking up in the morning and wondering "why get up" then I look at my wife or hear my grandkids playing and drag my crippled butt out of bed.
That works for me, I'm not saying it is a total fix, but it gets me through the day.
You have a beautiful family let them help you.
I Love You Brother
We are imperfect men. We are meant to be constantly learning. We thrive on purpose. We figure it out with time. Keep going brother!
@TheJeepguy94 Bingo... 🎯
I've been dealing with depression since I was 6 years old, and I tried to take my life three times before I even turned 20 (the first time was at 7). I can admit this these days because I finally understood that nobody is in their right frame of mind. I know what I've endured, both the things that caused the depression and the really bad decisions I've made over the years to keep it going, and one thing that helps me is talking to the so-called "voices in my head". I've learned to be a bit kinder towards them (because I realize I'm talking to myself, and self-anger just makes things worse), but sometimes, I have to tell them to take a hike (and that's putting it mildly). Self-hatred is one of the most difficult things to treat, and I've had to go it alone for the most part; I'm not very good at picking good therapists, and all have deftly avoided the issue. So yeah, I'll be dealing with this until I'm done.
I'm beginning to realize that, because of what I've been through, I'm rather compassionate. I know what it is to hurt, to be alone, to be struggling, to feel that nobody cares, and I don't want anyone feeling like that. Maybe that's the reason we're going through things like this, because it teaches us better ways of interacting with the world. I don't have most of the answers, I don't even know everything that works for me; even if I did know, it doesn't all get done because I'm just barely tolerating my existence at this point. That's actually progress, you should have met me 10 years ago. Anyway, keep moving forward, no matter what. If firewood helps, by all means, level the forest. Me, I've been knitting since high school, but it didn't really become therapy until I began giving gifts to everyone, which makes them happy. That, in turn, brings me some happiness. My days start with a few hours of knitting, I also get a sense of accomplishment as a result. For what it's worth...
I love you brother! Thankyou soo much for sharing!!! The world needs more men like us.
44yo from oz, lived in very similar circumstances and batted the same demons for many years myself.
Just keep "doing something" and "just keep moving forward".
I have taken away some good food for thought from you brother.
Keep it coming mate, I have and will watch anything you care to share, you do you.
Luv ya!
I think your absolutely correct about depression. Some days a closet looks very inviting. Just like you I start to feel better about myself when I am helping others. We are going through a tough time right now with all the fires around us,I live in the okanagan in BC. Thank god there getting ahead of the fires and I think the worst is over. Now it’s time to help rebuild the lives of our fellow human beings.
You know Maslov, we studied the hierarchy of needs in nursing school. You know you better than anyone. You have a life that others may strive for and never achieve. You just keep going my friend. There are ups and downs, RIDE that rollercoaster!
Where motivation ends.... discipline begins. Thank you Andy, I needed to hear this today, more than you'll know. Thanks Again
I have followed you for years, but somehow missed this video. Months later, and just when I was going through some stuff, this video popped up... Just to let you know, you are a therapist to thousands of people, and you're doing a great job. Keep up the good work, and when you can't, let her wobble!
I know it's not easy to open up about these things, and I appreciate you taking that step Andy.
I also always found splitting firewood very therapeutic. Hope everything is going well for you and yours. Thank you for sharing with us.
I believe God directed me to your channel for this video. Story time.
I’ve been following you since the very beginning on Facebook and UA-cam. For some reason I clicked on one of your videos. And for some reason I followed you ever since. This video has helped me a lot.
A little bit about me.
I’m 14 years old. Trying my very hardest to resurrect the old family farm. I’ve made lots of progress. And I’m to the point where I want to be. I just need to maintain the progress and I think the farm will be up and running before I know it. But then one morning about a month or two ago. I woke up. Didn’t want to do anything, didn’t wanna talk to anyone. Didn’t wanna hear anyone.
I’m still like that a month or two later. I’m generally a happy guy. So this has concerned myself.
Just like you, I lay in bed, not wanting to get up not wanting to do anything. And when I do I just pause sit and think about everything. It sucks.
I have animals to take care of, Tractors to fix, things to do. Yet here I am doing nothing.
I think one of the biggest issues for me is not having someone to relate to. By you making this video, I now have some sort of confidence that I’m not alone dealing with this crap.
Just like you, I have a UA-cam channel. I try to make videos. I got lots of good feedback from them. But yet nothing seems to be enough to get you motivated to do anything. I believe God somehow guided me to this video. Just having someone to relate to makes it better. I believe if we put our focus on the Lord, and not ourselves, we can get through it.
A big thing for me is I’m homeschooled. That means not very many friends no girlfriend not much of a social life. Which I’m not a social guy so I didn’t think that would bother me. It bothers me. I don’t know why, but not having a girlfriend makes everything worse to me. But recently instead of focusing on not having a girlfriend I have focused more on my relationship with the Lord. I find myself getting better almost every day. By no means am I normal but I’m better.
I’m in the same boat as you.
Just remember, you’re not alone.
On a sidenote, I do really enjoy your videos, and it helps me not be depressed lol.
wow, that is a lot of wisdom coming from someone so young. God bless you as you learn at such a young age to put your faith totally in the Lord and let God direct your steps. Enjoy your young years as long as you can without the entanglements of girlfriends, there is plenty of time for that. I was not isolated at your age, but I am now-not by choice-so I understand how lonely it feels sometimes. Just remember that God is your best friend and you can talk to Him anytime! And remember that people will always let you down in life, but God will never let you down. Make Him #1 and everything else will fall into place. I promise.
@@ima40schic wow. Thank you very much.
@ima40schic Amen...🙏
Know how your feeling, and it's probably why you connect with your audience so well. Most of us have been there and/or are still there and trying to deal with it day by day. Also seen your message to Oliver anthony, very kind of you to reach out a hand to him think it's what most of the good men who struggle do is to help others often not always helping themselves.
Andy, you're a very smart man. I truly think this will run its course and get better for ya, but dont let it get ya and dont let it affect how you deal with your wife and family. There's good meds out there, sometimes it takes a while to find the one that works for your particular chemical imbalance. Dont be afraid to seek medical help and dont be afraid to chang providers if theyre not helping. Keep talking to your family, friends, and therapists. Always remind yourself that its gonna get better. Stay close to God and dont hesitate to use the Drs., therapists, med, and nature that he has blessed us with. You have so many people that you don't even know about rooting for you!! I'm a fan!! May God bless you on this difficult journey.
Andy i feel you. i struggle to get things accomplished around the farm as well. you're videos help motivate me to get back on it. just remember there are so many of us good ol boys who look up to you. you are a true american living and doing things the old forgotten ways. thank you for all that you do and keep on keeping on brother
We all deal with depression in one way or another. We all have it at times. I'm a BOOMER who does know its there. I too have days that lower priority projects don't get done and like your firewood, may not be ready when needed. There are trucks on my lot also not running & have been for years. I too like to split wood by hand. It gets some aggression out or the time just takes some of the depression problems away (for a while). You, I and others will just have it. Part of this life and we've come this far in life (I'm 59), we'll just keep going even with days of not much being done & depressed.😊 I'm sending you a virtual HUG. Power to all of your readers seeing this.
Keep using your coping skills and keep chopping firewood. I don't know you but I watch your show that you put out here on UA-cam and thank you for sharing with us today. I know it's big step for you to show us what you're going through and it is a way of healing I think I've dealt with depression my whole entire life I'm over 60 years old and still I deal with it everyday, everyone has a different way to cope with their feelings and how they're feeling, just to let you know that you're not the only one that deals with depression and anxiety. I hope that you're coping skills will include getting better over a. Of time, one thing I've learned is not to worry about everything just to worry about yourself, and just to let you know that you're wanted , loved , respected , you have a value to be and never ever think that you don't. ❤ Take care and I hope you continue to share.
like dad says, "its hard to be depressed when youre too tired to think"
I stuggle with the same problems. I tell myself and my friends, the best way to get past you own problems is to go and serve others.
Same brother, same. And remember, I love you and God bless.
Andy,
Its great to hear a real man sharing his demons with others. I do know for myself from self medicating for many years through my youth I do think it messes our internal bar height of internal happiness. I find good hard work building up a sweat, getting outside myself by volunteering or helping someone less fortunate than myself helps me. Its tough at times but one day at a time and praying. Hit your knees like a rat to cheese brother. God blessing to you and yours. Boe
Andrew, you are a very personable n likeable young man, we as men do have a purpose but we do need to slow down once in awhile n enjoy our endeavors, but also the world being as it is, we do have to stay vigilant and protect our family and friends, you have done so much so far to instill the protector status in so many that follow, I love you for that. Your awesome!💪🏽👍🏾✊🏽
No one knows what you’re going through unless they are going through it ! You’ve hit the nail directly on the head , I too go through those feelings and as men we try to work it away ! As you talk through the video I think you are mimicking everyone of us! We start thinking of our loved ones and how they will survive without us, at least that’s what I do? Trust in God talk to him he will show you the way !!!! God bless you we all love you!!!!
Intelligence can be a burden. Empathy, I have learned, is a gift. I think the fact you have taken this and put it into words so others can see and understand they are not alone is pretty powerful. As for me, some random guy on YT, I can tie my head into a pretzel for all sorts of reasons. When I get in a funk, or overwhelmed by life, similar you and your firewood, I need to find something that distracts me. Something that gets me excited. Trick is finding it. Oh, and on the lighter side, GenX....forgotten again.... Take care and I appreciate what you are doing.
Lord, please lay your healing hand on Andy. You created us and understand every molecule of our being. Some how, some of your creation has run amuck in Andy's brain. We are asking that you redirect each cell to its intended purpose. Give Andy the wisdom to know what to do and how to handle whatever comes his way, whether it's those around him or himself. Give Andy peace of mind and life. Amen
Keep on serving. Mark 10:41-45. True satisfaction can only be found in doing all we can to spread the borders of Gods kingdom. ❤
You may be dealing with depression, Andy. But you are a very wise man. You have terrific insight and that is not easily acquired. All the best to you in your search for a level playing field.
This really hit home for me. I as probably many others (with the current situation going on in this country) am feeling it more and more daily. I am new to this channel and have really been enjoying it. Thank you for being Real, and sincere. I Love what you are sharing. Keep your head up and Thanks again.
You are in My prayers! I'm in recovery and I can say the world is definitely a better place. Hang on. God's got you.❤
Love you all. I needed to hear this today. I will not ever forget it. Humans like yourself restore a little bit of faith in humanity for me. Makes me realize I am not alone in this fight here on Earth. Good man. I need friends around me whom think like this man.
Service to family, service to self. Keep moving brother.
Very well said Andy. I believe everyone will deal with some form of depression at some point in their life, be it a short blurb here or there or an ongoing slugfest. Recently I lost a sister-in-law to this disease, let's face it that's basically what this is, and I've had to come to terms with the fact that some people decide that the best choice for them is to clock out. For friends and family that choice is often regarded as a bad choice, yet for them it was their best choice. I don't condone the act of taking one's life, yet sometimes that's when their timer is up. Thank you for giving your insight into this issue. I wish you luck in your endeavors. And for anyone still reading this, You Matter to someone.
Dont know how i missed this video....
Thankyou for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It is important to get it out and hear yourself talk, acknowledging an issue, setting a plan, achieving a goal and then sitting back and being chuffed at yourself. As men we give ( as you said, but we forget to give to ourselves)
I feel it makes my day doing the little things that i have been putting off for a long time.
I have always enjoyed your videos, knowing that you have achieved so much and clearly done it hard (not only emotionally and financially )
But.... mate.. look at what you have achieved, what you have made, what you know and the joy you have given us with every video.
This hits so close. I can relate to everything you said and you have taught me more than I knew before. Thank you for the words of wisdom. Sometimes the things you need to hear come when you didn’t know you needed to hear it. Stay strong and thank you. You have helped me more than you could know from a simple video. Thank you.
I respect that fact that your aware of this.
Splitting wood is great medicine
I suffer almost the same exact way brother. Especially this time of year.i have reverse seasonal depression . Takes guts to speak out on this but one day when your ready a good therapist is worth their weight in gold.
Its kinda like drinking , when your ready to get help it's their but you have to go do it.
Been through what your going through but just don't be alone in this , trust me .
I understand the emotions you're going through. My therapist had identified my previously undiagnosed ADHD as a major contributing factor to my anxiety and depression symptoms.
I am currently coming out of a 6-46 month long horrible depression. Thank you for sharing this. It's not easy to shake, and I have to fight it every day. I miss the world I grew up in. My family and friends are suffering also. Some of us have come together to help each other build strength and security. It has help us a lot. I also started a channel, just putting some things on video weather it makes the cut or not has been helpful also. Long story longer I will be praying for you and your family. You have been an inspiration, thank you.
Hey Andy, Thanks for Sharing! I fight it everyday! You have taught me a lot. But, this is the greatest lesson! I agree. Staying busy and praying thanking the Lord! You’re words are true! I think you’re channel is the Greatest!! Thank You!
In Australia, depression is often called "the black dog". It nearly took my daughter twice but she she fought and and fought and got on top of it and has now got her degree in criminology, her dream job and a top notch fiancé. Every day is good but some are better than others.
You are stronger than you think. Watching you talk about it like that helps more than you know and takes a whole lot of courage. You can be proud. And thank you.
Hey Brother, talking about it takes the power out of it. Thank you for sharing with us. God has this, drop the rock and turn that shit over!!
It's good to see you are real human. Hang in there man.
The healing may down a very long road, but the victory is that much greater. When I'm at the end of my rope, I say "Okay, God. I've been trying to follow you and here I am in the pit. We succeed or fail together, but it will be together because you will be here with me." Then, I'm not alone.
I love ya. And God bless.
Mental health can be a real struggle. Thanks for sharing Andy. I always look forward to seeing your videos. You help me to understand I'm not the only one out there that's struggling. Love your faith! Self discipline: doing what you know needs to get done, even when you don't feel like doing it!
That really hit home with me Andy.. More than I ever thought it would. You may not realize it but such a simple thing as posting this video, being as honest and open as you were really connects with people. Far too many of us fight the battle every day and despite knowing that we arent alone in it, we still feel alone. This video made me not feel alone in the fight and even tho we've never met and likely never will, youve made me feel like you have my back. And for that i cannot thank you enough. Keep your head up brother
Keep on keeping on brother. I’d like to shake your hand one day. I know how hard it Life) can be and your life around the farm (Homestead) is what I live everyday. Glad to see someone take the time to video it and share it with others. God bless ya all the way from West by god Virginia. Next time you visit down south stop by and camp out with us. Always a place for you to sit around the fire here with us. Be safe god bless
Hey Brother, this video lands with me. I felt like I was listening to myself. I wish we had answers for each other. It doesn't work that way I guess. Just know that you are admired and loved for who you are or at least the portion that you allow us to see. What I see is a good man, making his mark in this crazy world, setting an example that he should be proud of. I love you brother. Sending you a bear hug and a solid slap on the back. You rock Andy! None of us are perfect and we all struggle. Good men fight demons everyday without others knowing. Thanks for sharing that it is ok to battle and acknowledge our flaws. Joe
This is one of my favorite videos you've made because I can relate to it so much and it's helped me every time I've watched it. And you're right, splitting wood helps get you going. Thank you for your videos!
So glad you talked about this today.just like you I have depression some years it’s not so bad but other years it’s bad. I did go see a psychiatrist a few years ago and he said something the stuck in my brain I would like to share it with you and others. Dr said there are people out there with analog brains, living in a digital world I was taken back at first when he said that. To much going on right now our minds can not deal with all the info entering it. He told me to pick a time write down what you are thinking,now take another piece and right down what is most important to you, now another paper and right down what needs done. Now the next day first page do the same, second page just stare at it for a bit now go to the last page cross out what got done. This has help me so much just to empty your mind from everything. Yes there will be days where the to do list gets longer but over time that list will start to disappear. Love you and yours Andy as always Gob bless
Been there brother, the only thing that works for me is getting out in the sun and working my ass off - and family, thank god for family. Stay strong Andy you'll be alright.
I’ve struggled with depression my entire life. The struggle is real. When I’m feeling low, your videos provide me with great entertainment and help me find the motivation get up and get to work on my life.
Hey there Andy I saw this video when you first put it up on here and I've been watching your content for several years now since the homesteading tools video on the machete and I keep finding myself coming back to this video from time to time when it pops up when I'm in a rough place myself and I wanted to thank you for it as it helps refocus me and to get back up and going when I really need to hear it
Thank you Andy for choosing to be totally honest. Gives us a safe place to be totally honest with ourselves as well. Life isn't easy and there are many times where we will struggle sometimes for short time other times for a longer time. None of us are immune to depression. Some of us are better able to hide it from others but it is still there something we must face one-on-one with it
Your purpose is to think about all you can do for everyone that loves you and to always remember that the pain you have will be transferred to others if we don’t control our beast! That is what I have always tried to do but it’s a battle we will always be fighting until the end! 40 + years in the battle. Praying for you brother!
I understand, I'm glad you're trying to sort it out brother. Splitting wood is good for the soul.
I feel for you, I’m also encouraged that you’re doing what you’re doing on this medium,be aware God has a plan for you, to bless you not to harm you. I’m led to share with you Psalm 100-2 please meditate the note that I have in my Bible “ happiness is an emotional state typically dependent upon external circumstances: the biblical concept of joy involves a deeper reality. Joy includes a condition of genuine well-being, marked by confidence, hope and trust that extends far beyond our own finite perceptions. happiness is often temporary: joy is more of a process, often developed most profoundly during periods of chaos and suffering. The deep sustaining joy of the Lord comes from assurance that he is with us and will deliver us from present difficulties as well as from the scarred and stained world. Such joy is able to express its hope, even in the middle of legitimate sadness.“ God loves you Right where you are. Enjoy the channel , been watching for about 3 years , keep on Keeping on, blessings to you and yours….
God bless you brother! You are helping so many people. With these videos. I'm praying for you and Carlos and kids
Andy,
very well-spoken, young man! Thanks for your honest reflection and introspection and I totally agree with you. Keep sharing and being real. You are serving your purpose.
BTW this is the first video I’ve watched in a while and it was just the one I needed. Keep talking and splitting wood. Makes all the difference.
❤🙏😊
it is a issue that only once gone through then you can understand. stay strong because seeing you and your dysfunction helps me and others. Thank you. Sending you love hope and understanding to you and your wife. Blessings my little helper. X
I am ADHD and if I don’t stay busy with something I get this way. I have had some issues with addiction as well. I have finally figured out in life how to stay out of that shit storm. Keep busy and keep your head up and it will get better ❤