Things We Learnt While Being Single | Our Journeys in Singleness ft Jules and Lydia K M- Part One

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  • Опубліковано 5 лип 2023
  • Hello BKS lovers! Welcome to season two of The Best Kept Secret Podcast. On this episode Jules, Lydia and our host Sharon share their Best Kept Secrets on things they've learnt while being single and what their journeys in singleness looked like.
    Please share YOUR best kept secret on singleness in the comment section.
    Thank you for watching.

КОМЕНТАРІ • 290

  • @kikinette.kofficial
    @kikinette.kofficial 10 місяців тому +73

    Jules ,sharon and lydia is definitely the trio i never knew i needed omg.I've subscribed immediately Someone to like this comment so i can come back and watch

  • @HadithiAfricanTales
    @HadithiAfricanTales 10 місяців тому +43

    Only Jesus can really fill that 'hole'. Everything else is temporary and superficial. I've been single for 10 years and God has kept me.

    • @joycenyawira7841
      @joycenyawira7841 10 місяців тому +1

      Truth!

    • @damarlswanjlru6935
      @damarlswanjlru6935 10 місяців тому

      😮😮and do you flirt

    • @ichooseviolence2532
      @ichooseviolence2532 9 місяців тому +1

      Danganya maasai

    • @HadithiAfricanTales
      @HadithiAfricanTales 9 місяців тому

      @@damarlswanjlru6935 no. To be clear I didn't intentionally choose it to be 10 years but that's what's happened. I'm 31, I believe by virtue of being single and celibate these last 10 years, I've avoided a lot of recklessness that comes with the age between 20-30 as you discover who you are. Haven't had to take contraception, worry about pregnancy and STIs, no baby daddy drama and not to mention soul ties. I'd say in many ways,I have been spared a lot. I'm a Christian so that informed my decision. My initial decision was to keep myself until marriage and it still is. Of course I see others get married and have kids and want that too but I want it the right way, the God way. So I'm enjoying my singlehood working on myself(that's something else I noticed was lacking in my previous relationship. I experienced trauma as a child and kept putting that burden on my partner. I'm still healing but in a much better place than I was before.) I've made peace with my decision and if I don't get married, although I do desire a Godly union, there's so many children that deserve love and I will adopt. However, even within that I will maintain my celibacy journey because I obey God and it has never failed me. As a Christian I've come to learn that anytime you obey God, you gain more than you lose and that's how I intend to live.

    • @carolinenjoroge1195
      @carolinenjoroge1195 6 місяців тому

      💯💯💯

  • @njambi9262
    @njambi9262 10 місяців тому +169

    Wherever Jules and Lydia go ,
    I follow 😌❤️❤️

  • @Judysheilak
    @Judysheilak 10 місяців тому +68

    Learing that you are enough by yourself is not just for single people. I feel like even in a relationship you need to find peace at being yourself first and never loose that.

  • @lulukibaaraTUSONGEVIRISKY-TV
    @lulukibaaraTUSONGEVIRISKY-TV 10 місяців тому +17

    ❤Feeling enough feels like a tree that produces apples and other people benefit by plucking the apples and eating them. If you were a tree, what are you producing? If nothing, check your soil, climate etc, not another tree. Hope that makes sense to whoever needs it.
    On cheating...it's just a concept, if you buy a tap for your kitchen and it gets spoilt, replace it, if you don't you'll get dehydrated. So some men and women cheat to fill their cup, they don't want to fix their tap...on that note, you can't fill someone fully, they have to fill themselves first. That's what being enough is to my level of understwnsing. Unlearning alot of those things we learnt is the work.

  • @mailcomtechnologies6848
    @mailcomtechnologies6848 9 місяців тому +5

    This good conversion. Being single is not easier thing.i lost my wife and it has not been easier but i thank God I am born again. God will led me to right person suitable wife for me .

  • @muthonithejoy
    @muthonithejoy 10 місяців тому +138

    This didn't feel like a podcast episode but a conversation among friends.
    This was lovely,can't wait for part 2❤

  • @mytinylittlechannel5240
    @mytinylittlechannel5240 10 місяців тому +60

    I loved it here. Thank you Sharon K ❤. Lydia my darling, always a pleasure! Jules xo

  • @carolinemukundi4918
    @carolinemukundi4918 10 місяців тому +73

    I love Jules..she is very authentic,Lydia ❤ she has good energy...wisdom..

  • @Ruethamy
    @Ruethamy 10 місяців тому +21

    lydia with jules in one episode😍😍😍

  • @talkthetalkwithmelody6410
    @talkthetalkwithmelody6410 10 місяців тому +72

    Jules and Lydia should start up a podcast❤️❤️❤️what a combo goodjob🎉

  • @shiru_njogu
    @shiru_njogu 2 місяці тому +2

    When love finds me again, l want it to find me submerged in my own love....Lydiaaa😢😢

  • @NeemaKamwana-qs8bg
    @NeemaKamwana-qs8bg 10 місяців тому +59

    I don't know how to act😍😍😍my favs on one single episodee😭❤Goooddddd !

  • @hinesightmind
    @hinesightmind 10 місяців тому +16

    My way of showing myself love is going out on solo dates i rewrite my goals,tick goals achieved.. enjoy good food, ...take good pics.. some days solo movie dates.

  • @whitneymorrah9108
    @whitneymorrah9108 10 місяців тому +189

    Jules and lydia should be friends

    • @lilywhite8029
      @lilywhite8029 10 місяців тому +17

      Infact they should have a podcast. They are so similar

    • @Awinomoraa
      @Awinomoraa 10 місяців тому +11

      I really love Lydia and Jules together do something for us girls

    • @annemi428
      @annemi428 10 місяців тому +3

      Rich conversations.

    • @brendagitonga8040
      @brendagitonga8040 10 місяців тому

      Yes please

    • @muthonimaina7998
      @muthonimaina7998 10 місяців тому +10

      They are great friends❤

  • @lilianjerikamau
    @lilianjerikamau 10 місяців тому +56

    I am 26 and I relate so much to Julia. In a job I don't love and so lonely but I'm so adamant on quality over quantity

    • @edinahkendi9871
      @edinahkendi9871 10 місяців тому +2

      It's gonna be okay hunny

    • @fidelisasunta3974
      @fidelisasunta3974 10 місяців тому +8

      @liliankamau5164 I understand what you mean. I just got a new job a few months ago and Imposter syndrome has been real. So i have been feeling so down and lonely since I moved to a new town. To make it worse I am going through a break up. So in short I know what you mean but i believe it gets easy with time.

    • @racykamau2394
      @racykamau2394 10 місяців тому +6

      Girl i know what you mean and i feel you, i am 25 i got pregnant at 23 went through a shitty break up and had bed rest most of my pregnancy i had to move back to my parents and completely depend on them.. now am approaching twenty six trying to figure out what the hell i want to do with my life and watching everyone else "win" in life

    • @gracewangari2073
      @gracewangari2073 10 місяців тому +1

      You define me some years back

    • @Cynthia-Moses
      @Cynthia-Moses 10 місяців тому +7

      Are all the 25 and 26-year-olds in the same boat? Cause I'm here too, feels like I'm moving but not getting anywhere! Sigh.

  • @daisykoskei9711
    @daisykoskei9711 10 місяців тому +20

    Where Jules is,i am there! ni kama aliniwekea juju🤣🤣🤣

  • @joycegachua2524
    @joycegachua2524 9 місяців тому +2

    @28 the feeling of loneliness is a real giant. Self-doubt,,sleepless nights, tears ,,but then again realising that it is a phase that will eventually come to an end keeps me moving

  • @diananyambura5872
    @diananyambura5872 10 місяців тому +17

    Sharon gives me pretty queen quiet confidence 😍. Like angelic
    Jules is just good vibezz period,
    Lydia is vibes and also like a very good friend 😊.
    Love love this podcast

  • @jacquemwemathecoach
    @jacquemwemathecoach 10 місяців тому +7

    Before i was betrayed i betrayed myself 😮
    So true...

  • @lizlilly3246
    @lizlilly3246 10 місяців тому +8

    And over 25 which is on a break 😭😭
    ❤️❤️

  • @michelle7226
    @michelle7226 10 місяців тому +6

    Jules & Lydia should start something together ❤️

  • @DeDollyshow
    @DeDollyshow 10 місяців тому +8

    Where ever I see lydia, I pause everything and watch, you ladies look stunning

  • @user-ug7fn2uq6g
    @user-ug7fn2uq6g 10 місяців тому +22

    Anywhere Jules is...is where my heart is. Amazing conversation Ladies!

  • @vanessanderu2016
    @vanessanderu2016 10 місяців тому

    This was soooo insightful. 👏👏👏 Cannot wait for Part 2.

  • @mums1992
    @mums1992 10 місяців тому +28

    Educative and relatable conversation. No to idolizing marriage no matter our age.

  • @gacoki
    @gacoki 10 місяців тому +7

    Can't take my eyes off Lydia's jacket ❤❤❤

  • @belindamelvine2133
    @belindamelvine2133 10 місяців тому

    The two are just🥰🥰the best and thanks for sharing this with us

  • @shanealnixon6802
    @shanealnixon6802 10 місяців тому +7

    Can't wait for part two🎉🎉This is wholesome!

  • @patty161
    @patty161 10 місяців тому

    This is very insightful. Thank you guys❤

  • @jaelmulovi1615
    @jaelmulovi1615 10 місяців тому +3

    Just what I needed today. Very educative😊

  • @amutuheirenina6178
    @amutuheirenina6178 10 місяців тому +1

    Your hair looks good 😍😍 Sharon!

  • @anitarita7754
    @anitarita7754 10 місяців тому

    This felt so therapeutic and such an eye opener!

  • @diariesofpinky
    @diariesofpinky 10 місяців тому

    Such a wholesome conversation ❤️love love this

  • @ashleey9754
    @ashleey9754 10 місяців тому +3

    Best kept secret combo!!! These three are gold!!!

  • @esthernyaga9656
    @esthernyaga9656 10 місяців тому +1

    Love this and I can relate to so much of this conversation😊

  • @ludza32
    @ludza32 10 місяців тому

    Such an eye opener conversation

  • @brigidkashoi8847
    @brigidkashoi8847 10 місяців тому +10

    Thank you for bringing Jules and Lydia.

  • @sharonkendi356
    @sharonkendi356 10 місяців тому +1

    this was amazing. A girl was taking notes! Looking forward to part two

  • @naomionyango4280
    @naomionyango4280 10 місяців тому +4

    I really enjoyed this episode ❤️🤗

  • @rita_mutheu
    @rita_mutheu 10 місяців тому +4

    I loved loved this episode 💗

  • @rachelwamwere2275
    @rachelwamwere2275 10 місяців тому +1

    This was so beautiful to listen to. I definitely will re-listen

  • @CurioCityKE
    @CurioCityKE 10 місяців тому +1

    So interesting and helpful✅✅💙

  • @katypolly_
    @katypolly_ 10 місяців тому

    This is very eye opening, I love the insights

  • @jeniferaswine4370
    @jeniferaswine4370 10 місяців тому

    This is top tier explicit 💥💯💕...love y'all ❤️ ❤️❤️

  • @keshymacharia5204
    @keshymacharia5204 10 місяців тому +1

    Waiting for part two❤.. learning alot

  • @gladysnjangiru1169
    @gladysnjangiru1169 10 місяців тому

    Beauty & brains.. looking all amazing

  • @muthonii162
    @muthonii162 10 місяців тому

    Favs in one video😍 Definatelyy here for it!

  • @vanessanyaruai9911
    @vanessanyaruai9911 10 місяців тому

    Such an insightful conversation. I loved this episoide🥰

  • @brendahmuriuki8328
    @brendahmuriuki8328 10 місяців тому

    Totally loved the whole conversation

  • @brendamoraa7556
    @brendamoraa7556 10 місяців тому

    I rarely comment but this episode wow just wow ,thanks manze for sharing this

  • @_Sevanne_
    @_Sevanne_ 10 місяців тому +7

    so much wisdom in just one video !! ❤❤

  • @jecintakagai1397
    @jecintakagai1397 10 місяців тому

    Beautiful conversation

  • @melissakiplagat9611
    @melissakiplagat9611 10 місяців тому +10

    This was a whole therapy session!!! Can't wait for part 2.

  • @Glaswgows_Stylist
    @Glaswgows_Stylist 10 місяців тому

    The content is amazing but wolluuup Sharon I need details on that crown

  • @ruthwanjiru9034
    @ruthwanjiru9034 10 місяців тому

    This is soo good,loved it Jules, Lydia following you religiously where you go ❤️❤️❤️

  • @sharzmakena8649
    @sharzmakena8649 8 місяців тому

    Amazing, I love the conversation

  • @riyahshamar2222
    @riyahshamar2222 10 місяців тому +1

    So many gems

  • @annmimo37
    @annmimo37 10 місяців тому +1

    Very insightful and fun ,I always enjoy Jules energy❤thank you.

  • @wangechigathii
    @wangechigathii 9 місяців тому

    Currently in this alone phase and I appreciate your insights to this
    Will really help a bunch 🙏

  • @quiniannjambi
    @quiniannjambi 10 місяців тому +8

    Today's podcast was full of wisdom 🔥🔥🔥✨. Thank you ladies 🥰🥰🥰.

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 10 місяців тому +1

    Am new in this channel 😊and am already loving this 🎉sharon you're soo audible and clear ❤i love that

  • @jcm_r
    @jcm_r 10 місяців тому +4

    Jules, you have been my compass in the whole psychology/soul-searching and healing journey for a while now. I just want to say a big thank you to you.

  • @somegirlinsouthernafrica961
    @somegirlinsouthernafrica961 10 місяців тому

    New subscriber from Zambia! I loved this video. Thank you for this. This was inspired by God.

  • @lucymwai7540
    @lucymwai7540 10 місяців тому +1

    Very educative and relatable episode

  • @nancyjerotich8326
    @nancyjerotich8326 10 місяців тому +1

    I like the part that you guys talk about responsibility I have been blaming others but from now I'll be taking responsibility.thanks girls your the best 💗🥰💯

  • @wangecikabugi1489
    @wangecikabugi1489 10 місяців тому +6

    I am not currently single , but I appreciate your insight. Somethings I did when single and I agree being content when single and knowing it's a season is the cream of the cake .

  • @prettysoul096
    @prettysoul096 10 місяців тому

    Definitely here for Jules

  • @tracyjepkoech5996
    @tracyjepkoech5996 10 місяців тому +2

    This is amazing💯

  • @sharonjepchumba2547
    @sharonjepchumba2547 10 місяців тому +2

    And two of my favourites are here
    Amazing times here today

  • @phoebethambu2674
    @phoebethambu2674 10 місяців тому +2

    Wonderful episode Sharon💗
    Podcasts are genius.. we really are so similar as humans and I appreciate the wisdom from these sisters🫶🏾

  • @julietandekwa8771
    @julietandekwa8771 10 місяців тому

    This is just amazing❤❤❤really learning alot

  • @patriciamwaura5859
    @patriciamwaura5859 10 місяців тому +6

    I wholly embrace such wholesome meaningful insightful conversations.... Thank you for sharing and being authentic in the process! ❤❤

  • @nauyomamekondjo1382
    @nauyomamekondjo1382 10 місяців тому +9

    The best of Lydia and Jules. I feel healed coz it's like this conversation is for me.

  • @LifeIsGood49
    @LifeIsGood49 10 місяців тому +1

    All the way from South Africa, thanks for this video @Sharon. Such an incredible video n being exposed to the incredible guests.

  • @cathymartina7888
    @cathymartina7888 10 місяців тому +7

    In a relationship, and I loved every single second of this. Woow, such gems, so beautiful.
    Thank you girls🎉

  • @ilukolwinnie952
    @ilukolwinnie952 10 місяців тому

    This is beautiful and authentic ❤

  • @livingastyra9005
    @livingastyra9005 10 місяців тому +1

    Not me taking notes 📝 Oooh this was for me ❤

  • @muchirinjoki7332
    @muchirinjoki7332 10 місяців тому +6

    I totally relate with Jules....human connection is so important

  • @estellemuthoni
    @estellemuthoni 10 місяців тому +1

    Such a wholesome conversation👌👌, also the three of you can launch another podcast 😊

  • @wangeciwatene9172
    @wangeciwatene9172 10 місяців тому

    such an empowering video

  • @jenniferkago3351
    @jenniferkago3351 10 місяців тому +1

    Jules you look amazing.

  • @kawaa1234
    @kawaa1234 10 місяців тому

    Woooow, discovering yourself is the first step before relationship

  • @deekmuninga
    @deekmuninga 10 місяців тому +6

    Great conversation! Love love it! Came for Jules and Lydia and I loved it!!! Watching from Uganda.🇺🇬

  • @sandrawacera4289
    @sandrawacera4289 10 місяців тому +1

    Part two pliiizzz 😭❤️❤️

  • @julietmacharia5825
    @julietmacharia5825 5 місяців тому

    This was amazing,have really learned more and most of the things have discovered about myself and working on them. Thanks so much .

  • @beloncekamz2821
    @beloncekamz2821 10 місяців тому +4

    Yhoo! All my faves #Lyd❤ and #Jules❤ in same session. I know I'm gonna enjoy this one😎😅. Good vibes🔥🔥.

  • @Blozae_
    @Blozae_ 10 місяців тому +16

    It was my first time coming across your channel. I enjoyed the conversation, it is relatable and I can’t wait for part 2😊. 🇿🇦

  • @nosicelosivuka8366
    @nosicelosivuka8366 10 місяців тому +1

    Powerful discussion, educational and eye opening. I like the fact that you share things that are hardly shared because we are scared of disgrace from our communities, I can relate to a lot of what you discussed.

  • @loisealandy5690
    @loisealandy5690 10 місяців тому

    This are points to write down and internalize bcz its very hepful, very educative and encouraging too. Thank you❤❤❤

  • @useryoutube167
    @useryoutube167 10 місяців тому

    Part 2 please🎉🎉

  • @risperkariuki1459
    @risperkariuki1459 10 місяців тому +2

    So amazingly to hear that authentic second point. I grew up without the extreme edification of marriage. I recently discovered that the whole concept of how marriage is like the" it" for a woman... Was learned in church/religion. Spiritual women really get it good on this one.

  • @lucynduta6272
    @lucynduta6272 10 місяців тому +8

    Best idea ever.. Lydia and Jules 😍😍

  • @teresandonj6835
    @teresandonj6835 10 місяців тому +8

    I love Jules. Jules, I love ya! Also, this is very wholesome.

  • @itsmusaN
    @itsmusaN 10 місяців тому

    Watching this podcast for the first time, I must say I'm here to stay...interesting indeed ❤

  • @EasyAcess
    @EasyAcess 10 місяців тому

    Enjoyed the show!!! Indeed as a woman you need to figure out your self worth and what does self love look like to you before you betray yourself.

  • @annekinuthia1750
    @annekinuthia1750 10 місяців тому

    This is refreshing.

  • @melissagitts
    @melissagitts 10 місяців тому +8

    I 100% related to this particular conversation
    The base of one allowing themselves get to the point of choosing aloneness/loneliness is never to get ourselves into something that will cost our peace of mind..and generally put our authenticity to jerpody
    We dont need to be fully healed to be in our next relationship, is such a game changer!

  • @faithomudho7281
    @faithomudho7281 10 місяців тому +4

    I'm in the journey of singleness, and it needs a lot of commitment and discipline for you to find alone time, self-worth, self-love, and feel enough for oneself. Thank you ladies

  • @catherinetheuri2346
    @catherinetheuri2346 10 місяців тому

    This episode was bomb!!!