How do you cope with the trauma you didn't experience? | Leah Warshawski | TEDxTwinFalls

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  • Опубліковано 26 гру 2024

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  • @AJS_Create
    @AJS_Create 2 роки тому +14

    Deep breath, soothing music, tapping fingers, journaling, self motivation and positive thinking, working hard at school and my job, loving others and giving them a little glimpse of joy, exercise, talking, therapy, taking breaks, treating myself, living (not serving)!!!!

  • @zinarhone7642
    @zinarhone7642 4 роки тому +65

    Thank you, Leah! Many of us have inherited inter-generational trauma and many of us are wounded healers, hoping and praying that we're not impacting yet another generation.

  • @wanfarahwanzainuddin7850
    @wanfarahwanzainuddin7850 4 роки тому +58

    I like her voice. Emotionally charged topics like this is easier for me to listen to when the speaker is calm.

  • @enatp6448
    @enatp6448 5 років тому +63

    Intergenerational trauma is also the legacy of Aboriginal people around the world, as well as those taken as slaves, and any people who have been systematically targeted as being not worthy.

  • @yootoob1001001
    @yootoob1001001 2 роки тому +13

    Great talk. Unfortunately, many people don't have access to trauma informed therapists (especially one who has properly done their own work) and often insurance doesn't cover them, so even if someone is more than willing to do the work, the resources are unavailable.

  • @1984FarmDreams
    @1984FarmDreams 3 роки тому +2

    I am first generation American Polish. I am in tears watching this Ted talk. My story is similar about my family, my grandmother, and myself. Thank you so much for sharing your story and educating us on inherited intergenerational trauma.. I too am proud and Polish. ❤🤍

  • @AJS_Create
    @AJS_Create 2 роки тому +4

    It’s life changing when you learn this is your problem!!!!

  • @arlinegeorge6967
    @arlinegeorge6967 3 роки тому +13

    Sonia is indeed destined for greatness . Great great talk. Inspiring, Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true .

  • @TheRandomINFJ
    @TheRandomINFJ 4 місяці тому +1

    Mom suffered through korean war then beat us. The _only_ thing that healed me was nature. Human world is too heavy. I only feel safe in the forest. Without trees and wildlife, im pretty sure i wouldve done the deed. Thank you for saving my life, Mother Earth ❤

  • @karatecat46
    @karatecat46 4 роки тому +11

    this was somehow a blessing to me. I kinda feel empowered to deal with that intergenerate trauma and it may be a part of me but still it doesn´t make who I am. I also am affected by this.I grew up without war or hunger. My grandmother, who died being 99 years old, suffered in WWII too, but she was german and so am I. But also it caused intergenerate trauma. I want to add: I deeply am sorry for what my german ancestors did, I really am. The war was bad and she had 2 little children and her husband went missing in the war...I could write a book. When there was fire alarm, she fled with them to a security room for protection. Later she lost home. Sometime she worked on a farm in the mountains being sick of the fire alarm that woke up her and the children in the middle of the night to rush to security. , and to provide for her children to get food, all alone.
    Later after the war, she, her new husband and my mom(still a little child). fled out of DDR regime leaving behind money and home and wealth and part of the grown up family. here in the south of germany they had to work hard to earn enough money to life and buy furniture starting at point zero, not having much. Funny, my granddad and mother have/had hard time to throw away dead flowers too. I loved how Leah stayed respectful talking about her grandmother without neglecting the trauma.) Thank you Leah and Ted X.

  • @makaylahollywood3677
    @makaylahollywood3677 2 роки тому +3

    Everything she said is something we all can relate to on some level or another...at least I can. Keeping busy is good. We all are in this together.

  • @amberscottcmt7400
    @amberscottcmt7400 3 роки тому +14

    She's not figured out yet that she was a victim of complex trauma herself. She's lost thinking it's trauma she didn't experience... While there is an epigenetic component, she also admits she never saw her parents cry and remembers laughter, so that means only certain emotions were allowed so she didn't feel safe.
    This girl needs to go learn about complex trauma.

    • @vattenfrida
      @vattenfrida 3 роки тому +3

      Yeah she has both probably ...wow I can really feel her anxiety throughout the video...and when she talks it sounds like she cant breathe. Hope she finds ways to heal one day

  • @toddlawson666
    @toddlawson666 7 років тому +27

    well done Leah...so poised and well-delivered. you're a natural!

    • @inflatablefilm665
      @inflatablefilm665 6 років тому

      Thank you so much Todd - I'm just seeing this comment now, sorry for the late reply... Grateful for your support!

  • @icare6076
    @icare6076 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this. ❤

  • @monikavs1
    @monikavs1 7 років тому +26

    Thank you for sharing your story Leah!

  • @Gili44
    @Gili44 9 місяців тому

    As an israeli jewish woman looking for videos to cope with the horrors of october 7th what a surprise the video is on my actual ancestors trauma💔🇮🇱

  • @Fiziologix
    @Fiziologix 3 роки тому

    @Inflatable Film This was fantastic. Especially coming into it with the lens of having gotten to see and experience 'Big Sonia' and talk about the experience with you and Todd after the screening. Thank you for sharing your story, Leah! Big hugs to you and Todd from back in the great PNW.

  • @AJS_Create
    @AJS_Create 2 роки тому +1

    Good talk.

  • @debrag.3900
    @debrag.3900 5 років тому +3

    Thank you. This is a wonderful talk.

  • @tal4976
    @tal4976 4 роки тому +11

    The audience was soo bland :( they didn’t laugh at any of her jokes. This is a fantastic TED talk!!

    • @irinadelrey
      @irinadelrey 4 роки тому +1

      I thought the exact same thing

  • @scres87
    @scres87 4 роки тому +2

    Great talk, thank you for sharing!

  • @conniearonson706
    @conniearonson706 7 років тому +5

    You are extraordinary Leah. Your talk makes my heart swell.

  • @weareremnants
    @weareremnants 6 років тому +8

    This was one of the best TedTalks I've ever seen. Thank you

  • @dorothyhome577
    @dorothyhome577 4 роки тому +2

    The operative Q should be - How does one cope with both????🤦🏼‍♀️😭

  • @zahnayblakney8500
    @zahnayblakney8500 5 років тому +4

    That’s also a thing I think everyone has trauma from childhood/ ect so we have to acknowledge difference ect

  • @aunabreslingaming3279
    @aunabreslingaming3279 4 роки тому +1

    i'm definitely dealing with this right now.. it's not fun

  • @ivanpetryshyn
    @ivanpetryshyn 4 роки тому +2

    So sad, that people can do such terrible things to other people. upsetting

  • @aishwaryas5734
    @aishwaryas5734 4 роки тому +2

    I believe, we do choose our parents.

  • @amy_ford
    @amy_ford 8 місяців тому

    The title is misleading. You get to 12 minutes and 49 seconds before she gets into generational trauma.

  • @wildlyintuitive6187
    @wildlyintuitive6187 4 роки тому +1

    Great video!

  • @07FreshMaker
    @07FreshMaker 5 років тому +3

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @brittanyhayes1043
    @brittanyhayes1043 Рік тому

    If you didn't experience the trauma then it should not affect you.

  • @GamerGrl90
    @GamerGrl90 4 роки тому +1

    Amen

  • @deanhowell6730
    @deanhowell6730 4 роки тому

    Sounds like The Inqubasitor story

  • @C2G2
    @C2G2 6 років тому +10

    I hate this TedTalk just something about this TedTalk just triggered me it's probably the way the speaker makes trauma sound like it's nothing. 😑😑😑😑😑😒😒😒😒😒😒😒

    • @christawildflower5633
      @christawildflower5633 6 років тому +18

      Renee Smith I think it sounds like nothing coming from because she’s healing

    • @sharonshapiro8963
      @sharonshapiro8963 5 років тому +11

      watching the documentary "Big Sonia" helped me understand the context for this TED talk.

    • @KarmasAbutch
      @KarmasAbutch 5 років тому +33

      I sound like this when recounting my trauma... like I’m just rattling off a grocery list in a monotone voice... many people do, for me its a result of coping mechanisms put in place years ago and of being so emotionally overwhelmed at the times you were traumatized, that your emotional responses become numbed and blunted at other times in response.

    • @debbieb1719
      @debbieb1719 4 роки тому +10

      @@KarmasAbutch I relate to this 100%. I always refer to it as distancing myself from the situation. It was how I handled being treated for non-hodgkins lymphoma.

    • @curlykathi
      @curlykathi 4 роки тому +14

      Coping with trauma doesn't mean to be dramatic. 🙏