Breaking Generational Cycles of Trauma | Brandy Wells | TEDxKingLincolnBronzeville

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  • Опубліковано 21 лис 2024

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  • @jameslozano8323
    @jameslozano8323 3 роки тому +236

    “Going back to the place in which I was wronged as a child, and telling her ‘I’m sorry that happened to you.’” Thank you for this. I can’t explain what this did for me as soon as I heard it.

    • @tyq517
      @tyq517 2 роки тому +5

      Hit like bricks

    • @emilydavid3104
      @emilydavid3104 Рік тому

      That just struck my heart. So deep.

  • @christinea7092
    @christinea7092 2 роки тому +84

    “You cannot pour from an empty cup.” Love this.

  • @hannahh5514
    @hannahh5514 3 роки тому +35

    “I refuse to leave a story written of pain”

  • @choaticlifeofpurvi
    @choaticlifeofpurvi 3 роки тому +68

    she was nervous but kept going
    such a brave person she went through so much

  • @cherhaffen-ut1xb
    @cherhaffen-ut1xb 10 місяців тому +7

    It grows one up right! Children are wonderful teachers if people will listen? a beautiful masterpiece!

  • @Nikitaxo24
    @Nikitaxo24 2 роки тому +29

    I love the poetic language of masking ourselves from trauma. Very touching.

  • @wellbodisalone
    @wellbodisalone Рік тому +14

    It's time to break the cycle of generational trauma. You deserve something a lot better.

  • @JanieandMuma
    @JanieandMuma 2 роки тому +40

    3 Minutes in I can relate tremendously. The birth of my first daughter at 21 was so pivotal, never did I experience a love for another being the way I did when I first saw her. Forget "puppy love" boyfriends or "best friends", my daughter was the beginning of my healing journey and she has not a clue. I saw her look at me like I had never seen anyone look at me. She looked at me like I was the best thing God put on earth . At 21 I had such a low self esteem (of course I didnt realize it then), how could this baby think that of me. It opened up my eyes to see that I had in fact been in an emotionally abusive relationship with her biological father. She saved my life. Now, here, 8 years later I realize God put her in my life to remind me of all the suffering or traumatic moments I had experienced as a child in order to pave a new life for her and ensure she got what she deserved, the space to blossom and grow into WHATEVER makes her life fulfilling. Thank you for sharing this!

  • @RestorationEdenMinistries
    @RestorationEdenMinistries Рік тому +7

    When she said EPIGENETICS I could have fainted. Yeesss!!! Epigenetics also explains spritually inherited proclivities also.

  • @eddiern
    @eddiern 3 роки тому +40

    I needed to see this now. The universe sent me here🙏🏽

    • @malkahavah5853
      @malkahavah5853 3 роки тому +1

      His name is YAHUAH! YAHUAH sent me here

  • @alexisramirez9574
    @alexisramirez9574 Рік тому +2

    I am no good to anyone if I am no good to myself!!! ❤❤❤❤

  • @scientificallysatvik1650
    @scientificallysatvik1650 2 роки тому +20

    Dammm. I can relate sooo much. I am feeling and reliving every single word of hers. The - " I was getting triggered when I saw my husband being the best one. Because "I" Wanted that". Sooo true. I get trigger when I see my brother being the best Dad to her daughter. Coz I wanted that. Nd I didn't got that. That triggers me like anything while I love my neice with all my heart 🙏🙏

  • @winnd44
    @winnd44 7 місяців тому +1

    She ate this whole speech 👏👏👏
    A lot of things to thinks about

  • @simiremubalamaofeimu8166
    @simiremubalamaofeimu8166 2 місяці тому

    you are just talking about my life and i am so grateful for my husband and honestly thank you for sharing our story and i am so grateful thankful that i choose not to pass it to my children’s 💜💜💜

  • @dmquinta1140
    @dmquinta1140 4 роки тому +39

    That was beautiful and made me cry. Thank you for sharing your story!

  • @loretta10
    @loretta10 3 роки тому +57

    Love this ... one question , why don’t we have cable shows all day everyday like this ?
    Keep on keeping on Brandy

    • @JanieandMuma
      @JanieandMuma 2 роки тому +3

      I think because the TV networks can't profit if the viewers know their self worth. I am so thankful for youtube and it's content. It can be so educational when you are trying to improve yourself.

  • @JesseMeyers-yv7rb
    @JesseMeyers-yv7rb Місяць тому

    I've heard her speech before. A few valid points. Good for her

  • @MsBrandeeMsHayes
    @MsBrandeeMsHayes 8 місяців тому +1

    I'm so glad you over came and thank you for sharing your story Brandee Hayes 🙏

  • @melissasue3328
    @melissasue3328 2 роки тому +6

    Girl YES! I hear you. I see you. I feel you and I am with you!

  • @rollavibez
    @rollavibez 2 роки тому +10

    This is the most relatable speech I have ever heard. Loved this

  • @User_forbidden
    @User_forbidden 4 роки тому +57

    took me awhile to get to this video, but the moral of the story is generational pain runs so deep its internalized in order to survive. we fear whippings so much that we become tramatized from the degree of punishment over reward. ask the reason why? help strengthen within

  • @Healing_luv
    @Healing_luv Рік тому +1

    Healing in this message. Taking notes & putting it into action. Sonya.. I am proud of you for being such a dope mom. I went thru allll of the trauma at such a young age just to protect my lil princess from inheriting that trauma.

  • @scientificallysatvik1650
    @scientificallysatvik1650 2 роки тому +4

    It just 2minutes in nd I cannot tell you how relatable this looks like. Dammm😭❤

  • @eimyroman8879
    @eimyroman8879 Рік тому +2

    To just know you’re not alone in this world and you can fix so many things within . So comforting 💖. Everyday I wake up and aspire to be a better person and to run into these types of videos it’s just so powerful . I wish my parents knew all of this .

  • @bradhunt9518
    @bradhunt9518 Рік тому

    No facade,just the real you. Be proud,you are the only you on the face of the earth, make you as good as can be made. Its a short life.

  • @jorgeberumen751
    @jorgeberumen751 3 роки тому +9

    This will help others in so many ways. Thank you for sharing!

  • @stellaforde8378
    @stellaforde8378 4 роки тому +27

    Thank you, this was great. It really opened my mind and bettered my understanding of transgenerational trauma!

  • @playsavedthechild.2848
    @playsavedthechild.2848 3 роки тому +7

    I liked your talk.
    on many levels.
    Especially meeting kids where they learn.
    resonates with me.
    Thanks for your "witness" statements., and caring for community and children's development.

  • @nelsoncarreiro6099
    @nelsoncarreiro6099 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you for your beautiful gift to the world. 🙏💕

  • @XiomaraThaGoddessMeow
    @XiomaraThaGoddessMeow 4 роки тому +14

    Wow, I NEEDED this... So many confirmations of my own story, told through another. ✨💚✨

  • @MwapeLaxtone
    @MwapeLaxtone Рік тому +1

    Profound!! It's worth the time thanks for sharing

  • @BeeYou369
    @BeeYou369 4 роки тому +6

    Thank you for your bravery Brandy Wells

  • @YahuahIsKing1229
    @YahuahIsKing1229 2 роки тому +4

    Absolutely incredible. Thank you, Brandy!

  • @BritneyDearestFamilyVlogs
    @BritneyDearestFamilyVlogs 5 років тому +7

    Beautiful work Brandy. Since I began following you on Instagram, I have been inspired by your words and experiences you have been transparent enough to share. I hope you continue to reach many more people who are encouraged to take action. 👏👏👏

  • @m.m.williams5776
    @m.m.williams5776 5 років тому +17

    Yes!!!! I’ve been waiting for this!!

  • @alexisramirez9574
    @alexisramirez9574 Рік тому +1

    Teach and model the behavior I want to see !!❤

  • @suzannesanders3286
    @suzannesanders3286 3 роки тому +3

    Important work you are doing! Thank you for sharing!

  • @littletiff1000
    @littletiff1000 3 роки тому +2

    Beautiful words it almost feels like you’re speaking my story

  • @alexisramirez9574
    @alexisramirez9574 Рік тому

    Thank you this is so helpful and I appreciate all you taught me.

  • @arlinegeorge6967
    @arlinegeorge6967 3 роки тому +1

    Interesting n informative talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

  • @christophersimonbrennan6479
    @christophersimonbrennan6479 4 роки тому +2

    Thanks for sharing your process. So much for me to think about. C

  • @RR-pn6kf
    @RR-pn6kf 4 роки тому +6

    9:24 Powerful!

  • @blueorion13
    @blueorion13 4 місяці тому

    amazing, thank u

  • @QueenTenasia
    @QueenTenasia 3 роки тому +4

    This was EVERYTHING! Give Thanks 👑💓💯🙏🏾

  • @mshannahloganshow
    @mshannahloganshow Рік тому +1

    This is just gorgeous.

  • @tyq517
    @tyq517 2 роки тому

    Im just at a loss of words..this hit hard

  • @stantonspoons
    @stantonspoons 3 роки тому +2

    Watching this just in time. 👌

  • @jo1681
    @jo1681 3 роки тому +2

    I'm surprised that this doesn't have more views

  • @bevanboth9125
    @bevanboth9125 3 роки тому +1

    Brilliant, love you Randy 4rm RSA Cape Town ❤️👏💕

  •  4 роки тому +3

    Thanks you, very inspiring ! 🙏

  • @santigabriel333
    @santigabriel333 Рік тому

    This helped me so much

  • @oonajane6605
    @oonajane6605 4 роки тому +1

    this is so important; thank you!

  • @funfrugalfly
    @funfrugalfly 2 роки тому +1

    Wow. Just wow.

  • @reginab8145
    @reginab8145 2 роки тому

    Put on your mask FIRST! Great job lil sister!

  • @lovealways2544
    @lovealways2544 2 роки тому

    BRAVO!

  • @Caliban201
    @Caliban201 4 роки тому +3

    Very touching. ***An outfit

  • @santigabriel333
    @santigabriel333 Рік тому

    Amazing 🤍

  • @bribriconte
    @bribriconte 3 роки тому +1

    youre beautiful brandy

  • @lisagibuu498
    @lisagibuu498 3 роки тому

    Me too I’m in out reach in urban

  • @racheal2036
    @racheal2036 10 місяців тому

    Learned behaviours

  • @firesign4297
    @firesign4297 Рік тому

    🙏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🙏🏿♥️

  • @alexisramirez9574
    @alexisramirez9574 Рік тому

    11:09

  • @penyarol83
    @penyarol83 3 роки тому

    You had to stop... using a belt?

    • @salmyrle1920
      @salmyrle1920 2 роки тому

      I think that was metaphorical 😆

  • @Epicsburg
    @Epicsburg Рік тому

    I hope she's not just talking

  • @santigabriel333
    @santigabriel333 Рік тому

    This helped me so much