I can't think of a song that was written and sung from the bottom of the heart more than this song was. No phony gushing here. That lady is singing her guts out.
@knutjobgoblin True. All true. I guess what sets this song apart for me is that she puts so much emotion into singing it that there's no denying she clearly has a real life front row seat to the man she loves destroying himself with alcohol.
Been a drunk most of my adult life. This song came out in my early 20’s…Such a magnificent delivery from the singer and band. Just brilliant and heart felt. I loved it then and I love it now. I still struggle with the bottle. God bless all of you, forever and always.
All of us struggle with the bottle, some bottles have booze, some sex, some drugs. I got addicted to partying and beer stationed in Germany, for some strange stupid quirk of fate once I got stateside I quit. 30 years later I occasionally will drink half a beer. Once a week it’s a dram of scotch my preferred vice. Hang in there dixie I believe in you.
Fellow Drunk here, well now recovering drunk. I’ll have 16 years sober on December 23rd. Your comment made me just want to say something. I’m 52 now, when I got sober I was wanted in three counties in two different states for probation violations. I was habitual violator DUI. I was 50k behind on my child support, it wasn’t a totally accurate calculation but I was substantially behind. I obviously once again messed up my opportunity to have Christmas with my kids as the sobriety date suggests. I was a morning drinker because my body was dependent on alcohol and getting drunk in the morning made it virtually impossible for me to have any sort of normal life. I had little faith on 12-24-07 that I was going to be able to quit drinking this time but here I am nearly 16 years later and I still haven’t taken a drink. I had been to 13 plus detoxes and at least half that many rehab stints and none of those or my kids made me not drink. I finally got sick and tired of being sick and hopeless inside. I wanted a better life. If I told you I now have a life I could only have dreamed about you might question me. But I really do and all those problems with institutions and people I told you about are not a part of my life anymore. All because I put the bottle down. You can do it! Message me if I can help in anyway! I love you and I’m praying for you tonight. Rich Murphy ( rmurphy37@gmail) PS. In 09 I met my now wife and we have a daughter who will be 9 on Christmas Eve. So that 23rd sobriety date is significant for us in more ways than one.
@@OlliGarch If there is a great song then it belongs to the world, not one person, even if it doesn't measure up to the original. Creativity is an open channel ~
I just had to finally make a comment about this song after more than 30 years ago when this song came out. I lost my boyfriend in a car accident and his name was Joey. This song came out the same week he passed away. He never knew I was pregnant but now I am the mother of his almost 31 year old daughter. She is beautiful and she looks so much like him. This song has always been close to my heart and for my daughter who never got to meet her dad Joey. RIP my love Joey ❤️
That is so heartbreaking.Thanks for your vulnerability to share this. I hope this song brings you peace and how beautiful that he gifted you a daughter to always remember your connection. I hope she has brought much joy to your life❤
The lead singer looked so old when I watched the video as a kid..now that I’m 48 years and revisiting the song, she looks so young. The way we see the world throughout the decades is really wild
I know what you mean. I'm watching an old show from the 90s and one of the characters who was 60 years old was very old looking to me back then but now that I'm almost 57 close to his age he doesn't look so old to me he is actually quite cute now. 😂
I noticed that with ballplayers. They all looked so old to me in the 80s and 90s as a kid. Now that I'm ancient, watching the baseball game last night (game 5 alcs clev+nyy) all the pitchers on the mound ooked like little leaguers to me.
I love this song n even though my name isn't Joey I've known many Joey's Joey's who have lived myself included but many Joey's who hadn't made it thru that secret war we fought.this is for my girl Patti she overdosed n died in 1995..I love you patti
@@dr.OgataSerizawa Well it went to number 2 on the Australian music charts, but number 19 on billboard. It was a big hit in Australia, but less at home in USA. I think that's one definition of underrated. Also It still has as much meaning today as the day it was released.
Absolutely. Johnette is one of my favorite vocalists. She’s got that Ann Wilson power. Very beautiful too. If you haven’t seen it look up her performance on the John Stewart show. She’s got a cold but still sounds amazing
She played Las Vegas Downtown near Fremont street a good number of years ago. Maybe 2012? Shes still Magnificent. However, life has gotten to her. And, all things rock n roll industry especially. I don't know that she'll Ever know just what an incredibly talented timeless creature she is. Her vocals are unforgettable. The music and lyrics of her songs unmatched too.
My husband included this song in a CD he gave me a week after we met. We were married for 26 years, and he passed away in 2018. I am barely able to listen to it again without breaking down in tears.
Perfect, heart-wrenching, beautiful song. It reaches in and grabs my heart every time I hear her voice singing, "Oh, Joey, I'm not angry anymore." Every. Single. Time.
My husband passed away from liver cirrhosis secondary to alcoholism on 2/8/21. I’m a recovering alcoholic, sober a little over 5 years. This was always one of my favorite songs. Now it has so much more personal, raw meaning. Such an accurate, haunting depiction of the disease of addiction.
I'm so sorry for your loss of your husband but heartened that you have been sober for so long. God bless you and give you continued strength on your journey.
I lost my son Joey 13 years ago to addiction . He struggled with alcohol and crack cocaine.he was 39 when he died of an overdose. I will miss his smile until the day I DIE. MISS YOU JOEY, MY BOY. Prayers
+Jim Vicious Wow. That was the most descriptive word-combo I've ever seen written about song nostalgia! I love that. I love this song cuz it makes me feel EXACTLY the same! I went and bought the cassette single of this song cuz I liked it so much.
Joey here ...literally my name is Joe and I've been sober off heroin for 8 years. Everyone who is still struggling it is possible keep trying if you fail that's ok keep getting up!!
Joe, you keep that shit up! You keep winning at life! I was in the same boat years ago and I can't believe how far I have come. Mad respect for you my brotha.
Had the time of my life opening for Concrete Blonde four dates on the west coast. The shows were sold out, it was fantastic. Had dinner with Johnette, she was hilarious, smart, just the coolest ever. Those are some of my favorite memories.
For everyone listening to this in 2021- I absolutely love this song, there is something about it that makes you want to sing your heart out and sing along when it comes on.
Sober since December 5th, 2009. At rock bottom, I had nowhere else to go. For all of you out there who still struggle, hold on. One step, one day. . . One breath at a time. There is a bright light in that dark place.
That rough, raw, throaty contralto. Sends shivers down the spine. That weary, lovelorn, nearly-defeated lyric. Almost makes me cry. The tremolo-inflected guitar solo. A burst of uplifting melody and power. The drums and bass: a throbbing, gut-churning call to arms. All in all, a blistering song, and so painfully underrated, it's not fair.
For my son Joey who passed on, at age 27, 12 years ago July 21st. I envision him reading great books and listening to even greater music. This would be his heaven
As a recovering drunk with 13 years clean, this song gets to me on so many different levels. During my active addiction I was with guys also in active addiction and I know the pain they caused me and the pain that I caused them, over and over again. I bet we've all had a Joey in our life in one capacity or another.
My mother always loved this song. She loved all music. This was one of the many random songs from any and all decades so would play as I grew up. One year after she unexpectedly passed, listening to all these ‘favourites’ of hers that she would play while I was growing up .. now have meanings. Like she couldn’t tell me this life lesson at that time, because I was young. But music ( these strong familiar songs) made such a huge impression on me. And now, I understand all these stories and lessons, she wanted to teach me. You don’t need to understand the lessons, because they were for me. A year now later after she passed, I think. Was this on purpose? Was she implanting thoughts in me that I wasn’t supposed to understand till I was older?? Maybe she just loved the songs, now I feel them too. Maybe it is all magic.
I lost my Dad when I was 5. I grew up listening to "his music" just to feel closer to him and to try to know him. Lots of Seger. Lots of Allman Bros. At 47, I still learn new lessons from his favorites. I agree with you so much--music is magic and a gift. Sending love!
My mom has been battling dementia. It's amazing how music can unite... I was exposed to some great music, Elton, Three Dog Night, etc.. from her random piano playing. It took years for me to understand what a beautiful world the melody and later, lyrics and appreciate the passion and history of music.
My dad drank heavily for most of his life and finally got sober at the age of 74…just a few years ago. He’s 79, now. We lived this song. Who can relate?
My Daddy never got sober. He left this world in 2010 I was in my early 20s and despised him because I had grown up listening to my toxic mother. I never gave him a chance. I now understand the grip and depths of addiction and hate myself for not loving him . I'd give anything to have my Daddy.
@@Cowboy287 Good thing she’s your ex wife!! That’s so sad that you had to experience the trauma for so long!! I hope you’re finally able to take a breather, now!!
@@valariebirkholz3844I wrote a reply to you, but I don’t see it here…so, I’ll repeat it “My heart really does break for you, but, I really hope you can find some comfort and peace in your heart, soon.
My father told me he drank to drown his sorrows and pain (mental & physical). I told him I loved him and forgive him for our childhood without him, but that drinking knows how to swim. This took me a while to type out, my eyes kept spilling out tears and memories. All of you in recovery, I am holding you in my heart. Be well. Try to keep swimming.
Beautiful comment ! Inspirational and true ! I didn't speak with my father for 5yrs. because of the problem but we finally reconciled . I was happy I did and just held on to the good memories..glad I did less than 10yrs. after that he passed away. With all that's going on these days we're all just very fortunate if we're still breathing ! Peace 🕊️
My dad died a demented alcoholic. I am the guy who tried to get him to stop drinking. I am the guy who ended up taking care of him the last three years of his life. Alcohol, drugs and hate, belong to Satan the devil. DO NOT fall into his trap.
i was just thinking that. some songs are meant for some certain singers. like rick danko singing It Makes No Difference. others might try but none can match
I'll go on...I used to be Joey. I almost lost everything to drinking. My now wife, Julie, put up with so much of my shit but she always picked me up, dusted me off and forgave me. She would cry herself to sleep and tell me to please bring back the great man she had met. One morning, I woke up with half of my body in the front door of our home and my wife, son and toddler daughter staring down at me with a disappointment in their eyes that I had never scene. Crying and in a whisper, my wife said, "what do you think of these memories you are giving your kids?" It hit me, it hit me hard!!! I sobered up & cleaned up that day. It's been 9 years. I thank her & my kids for saving my life.
G Alexander I've went down that road too....with myself. I wish your friend and his wife the best. I hope he gets well. I did not think I would ever be able to stop either, but he has that power within himself, and he has something I didn't...someone that loves him.
A BIG FUCK YOU... that comment actually got me emotional. On duty right now and have to be straight. Bless you for finding sobriety. I know that's a ruff road.
I just lost my father, and his name was joey. It's only been a few months, and I still can't listen to this song without crying. In fact, it's the first time I have heard it since he passed away. I know it's about addiction, but to me, just hearing his name, Ugh I hope the waves are huge and you are happy up there, Daddy. I love you so much❤.
When listening to Concrete Blonde you realize that Johnette voice and bass guitar take you to places in your mind and soul that you have not visited before.....you find yourself going back to the music again to get that same feeling.....intoxicating.....
My sister lost her battle in 2003 and i haven't been the same since. We were supposed to raise our children together but i guess God had other plans. He children are all grown up and so beautiful. Especially the twins who were 4 days old and never got the chance to know their Mom. This beautiful Masterpiece brings back so many memories and I can't stop crying 😭🤣 every time I hear it. Rip Rhonda. You are Truly Missed 💕💕🙏🙏
Johnette is one of the greatest singers ever.....her melodies, harmonies and timing are incredible, her voice gives me chills to this day.......she has always been my favorite and reminds me of a mix between my two other favorites....Terri Nunn and Martha Davis.....beautiful
@@dr.OgataSerizawaMY GUY, you may very well be right and I'm not gonna waste time trying to convince you. But if you are right, how would knowing there's no god assist me with this existence? I've been chronically ill (joints) for last 5 years. If I knew there was no god. I would of said adios many moons ago. I'd rather lie and fly then know and die till the very end!
James Mankey's solo (and hell, his tone and playing thru out the song) is just beautiful. The man is a killer guitarist. Such a great song that introduced me to this band so many years ago.
It took forever too find out the reasons i never experienced were what kept me at a distance and still no way to find advice for their happiness and my rest.
No voice...has been better projected from a human mouth. Perfect in it's inflection, powerful in its delivery. Breathes the proper life into each lyric. THIS...is the voice, of a woman. Now a days..you hear little girls...even in the adult singers. This is how it's suppose to be.
Every single time I've heard this song, it's brought tears to my eyes. This song was written from real life. Had to listen again 1/11/24, still makes me cry. Lost my Joey 5 years ago...an amazing drummer and incredibly loving man to all who knew him. We both loved this song for her heartfelt honesty about addiction, and forgiveness. You can hear the emotion in her voice. RIP Joey Grillo.
I can only play this song with the volume blasting to the max so that my crying soul is drowned out by the music and the heart wrenching vocals of Johnette. God Bless and Peace to Everyone.
Reading everyone’s stories here inspired me to tell my own. Addiction took my dad away from me as well, he told me it helped with the pain, I was a kid so I didn’t know what type of pain. I wish I could have done something to help him. He loved music and was a musician, so I always try to keep that alive, by being one myself. Amazing song, and I applaud everyone here who has shared their story. We’ll get better.
I feel your story and I'm sorry you lost your dad. When this song came out I was single building house's in Phoenix. Now I'm late 50s and struggle with alcohol addiction for the same reasons your dad told you. Chronic back pain. It's hard I'll go up to a year sober and then it happens. I have 3 daughter's that try they'r best but I still f up and hurt them. Just remember he didn't want to hurt you. It's hard to explain I still can't
My dad showed me this song. It’s older than I am (the song is from 1990), but I love it. Just the right amount of beauty and sadness. So many stories in these comments who have had experiences with these problems. Whoever you are, if you’re struggling, you are stronger than it.
I don't have an addiction, but I know many others who do. It is a terrible way to live, similar I suppose to chronic pain or mental illness but different. Her voice and this song are amazing and I do not understand how underated it is. So powerful on so many different levels. I will never stop listening to it. So glad I found. Thx for inspiring the world...
One of the most underrated songs during the early 90s with one of the most iconic bands during the 90s . And most respected. Love this bad so much. This song happens too be my most favorite song ever.
I agree with you...I can't stop listening to it at home and in my car, I just blast it ! Too bad they didn't play it at other places. I always use to listen to it back in the 90's too.
My little brother Joey passed away, Thursday, 10-17-24. This song was dedicated to him when it came out. His passing has broken our hearts so listening to this song again is bittersweet.
This song is an enigma to me. I had no connection to it (that I can remember) during the 90s. But I listen to it and watch the video and instantly know, 'Oh, yes... this is classic early 90s stuff' So my first instinct is to brush it off as nothing serious-- a cheesy period piece. And yet... I keep coming back to it. Her voice, the emotion the subtle dark drive of the rhythm. Obviously, it's being recommended for review 30 years later, which means other people see genius here. I think I'm finally ready to declare this out loud: I love this song. It's a gorgeous, haunting perfect masterpiece.
Life gets hard and really is a constant daily struggle. I've had too many friends die from alcohol, heroin and other drugs. They were my best friends in the World. They were awesome great loving and talented people. I miss them so much. Sometimes all a person needs is too be heard and a hug is always welcome. Thanks Concrete Blonde for this. RIP my friends. I miss you all so much!!!
Roy chapican Wow, it's like someone (God) was reaching out to you with song...Cool and I hope you never feel like you have to go back to that poison. God bless you and keep you safe bro and good for you!!! :)
Just discovering this song today and I cannot believe I’ve never heard it. It’s been on repeat for hours. About to learn it on guitar and try to cover it. Absolutely amazing. Chills. Hits my heart so hard.
The ultimate song about an alcoholic-addict and the woman that loves him despite/through his addiction. This song is PASSIONATE and she MUST be telling her own story here. WOW!!!
I played this song at my girlfriends funeral. She died of a drug overdose; and I remember when it was my turn to go and speak I was just trying so hard not to cry; I had horrible stage fright and my voice kept wavering but I got up there. I began by telling everyone that despite her mistake, I refuse to let it define my opinion of her. She was a wonderful, caring and giving person who had been struggling with horrible anxiety and depression for 7 years of her life. I went on to tell everyone there a few stories about our time together; like the time she sold her drum set to pay for an operation for my dog, just as I was getting ready to put him down. Like the time she spent her savings so we could go visit my grandmother when she was dying of cancer... I protested against it, but she had told me there will always be more money, but if I don't go see my grandmother one last time I will regret it the rest of my life. If only I had known how little time I had left with her... anyways, then I talked about how this song is about a woman who is deeply in love with a man, and has to live with his addiction despite being constantly hurt by it. I said I blame the drug, never my girlfriend; that I loved her just as much as the day I met her, even if her habit tore me to pieces... though what I suffered is nothing compared to what she went through. I ended off by saying that when I got the news I was angry, sad and terrified beyond anything I had ever felt in my life.. but I'm not angry anymore, just heartbroken. I love you Maya, and always will. I will never meet a girl as beautiful both and the inside and outside ever again. I will remember you until the day I die... I will be 90 and forget how to use the toilet and brush my teeth before I forget you babe :'(
Thanks for sharing this with us... it takes a lot to make me cry, but you had me completely choked by the end of it. As someone who has struggled on and off with multiple drug addictions over the years and who is married to an alcoholic who is struggling to get control over his life, I understand that addiction does not make a person bad... it's just a very difficult challenge that some people have to fight. Indeed, I think that some people are more beautiful and compassionate because of the hardship they have faced through their struggles with addiction. I'm very sorry for your loss... she sounds like a truly amazing person.
I have a sister named Rachel. When i was strung out, she was the only member of my family that didn't turn on me. She said this song made her think of me. As a poet, that is a huge compliment. To know someone loves you enough to recognize you in a song. Love that girl so much!
When I hear this song it always makes me think of my childhood friend Joe. We alway drank and drugged far too much. We both came from really messed up homes but sadly we never shared a single emotion, we just pushed it down and partied on. I got some help later in life and gave up the substance abuse. Joe never did and passed many years ago. I wish we could have shared more about what was truly hurting but back in the day that just was never happening. RIP my friend. You are never forgotten
One of the rare songs that just stops me in my tracks, no matter what I'm doing and makes me reminisce about so many things. And wow, it's also rare because it sounds even better live. Just a wonderful masterpiece of music
This is a very beautiful and poetic song, and Johnette’s voice is one of the most haunting and underrated voices of rock and roll to ever come out. According to Johnette herself, she actually struggled with writing the lyrics and put off writing it until the last minute because the subject matter (a young woman falling in and out of love with an alcoholic young man) was actually inspired by her relationship with the late great Marc Moreland of Wall of Voodoo fame (who if I am not mistaken struggled with alcoholism), so it made it all the more personal to her, saying, "I knew what I wanted to say, but I wasn't looking forward to saying it. So it was the last vocal that I recorded. And I remember Chris every day, "Do we have vocals to 'Joey' yet? Do we have words to 'Joey' yet?" And I'm like, "Not yet." So I literally wrote them in a cab. I knew what I was going to say, it's just a matter of like a cloud's forming and then it rains. The lines are forming in my head and they're all in my head, and I know the chorus, and I know what I'm going to say. It's just a matter of fine tuning the details and how I'm going to lug it out. And then it rains. The clouds all formed and it rained. And then it happened. And that was it. And it was just there." It was the last song of the record (Bloodletting) because of this. RIP Marc Moreland (1958-2002). May you forever live on in your music and the memory of this song.
Possibly the most powerful song about alcoholism I've ever heard. Johnette Napolitano is one of rock music's most powerful and skilled vocalists, but she almost never gets a minute's credit for it.
This song captures the sad desperation of being a drunk or addict so achingly and beautifully. Years ago, I was struggling with drinking and told my girlfriend how this song reminded me of our relationship, thinking that she would also sympathetically relate in and feel sorry for me. Instead, she did something better and more important. She got mad at me (which she rarely did) and said, do you think I'm some enabling pushover and that I will just keep going on like this with you? It helped wake me up and soon after I got help and have now been sober almost 11 years despite the pandemic and losing my mom to cancer. We're also still together and married. Emotions when you're in the the throes of addiction are out of control, have a life of their own. When you're crying while you're drunk, it's because you're destroying yourself and coming up with every reason why after the fact. When you're sober and crying, however, especially in early sobriety, it's because you're healing and getting better and stronger. As sad and sweet and tragic as a drunken cry may sometimes seem to be on the outside, it doesn't compare to the inner strength and confidence you get from being sober no matter what no matter what, whatever the circumstances. That's real beauty.
Podia escrever um livro! Esta página já foi o suficiente para demostrar como seria uma história envolvente 🤗🌹 Parabéns! Eu não tive a mesma sorte com o ,"Joey " da minha vida. 🍷
Jhonette Napolitano is one of the most incredible singers, of all time. Concrete Blonde takes me back to a very specific point in life, of moments I'm glad to still recall.
I can't think of a song that was written and sung from the bottom of the heart more than this song was. No phony gushing here. That lady is singing her guts out.
Adele Janis Whitney Miss Nina & Amy pure power
Sinead O'Connor
Old school songs had heart and soul, new crap is gutless and empty.
@knutjobgoblin True. All true. I guess what sets this song apart for me is that she puts so much emotion into singing it that there's no denying she clearly has a real life front row seat to the man she loves destroying himself with alcohol.
@@thomastaylor8740 Freddie Mercury
The lyric that crushes me: "I just stand by and let you fight your secret war." Damn Johnette!
@TheArtofGuitar yess!! Definitely the stand out lyric for me too.
Same ❤💔❤️🥹❤️
... no whimsy, this is one the best all-time female rock/pop performances.
That's a heart crusher for sure, bruh. 👍
"Everyone is fighting a battle that you know nothing about" (Robin Williams)
The kind of voice that you not only hear but feel.
So underrated this song.
Like Hope Sandoval's voice it infects you.
Off key
@@MeadeFatLossidiot. She nailed it.
The entire album is underrated!
So true.
Been a drunk most of my adult life. This song came out in my early 20’s…Such a magnificent delivery from the singer and band. Just brilliant and heart felt. I loved it then and I love it now. I still struggle with the bottle. God bless all of you, forever and always.
All of us struggle with the bottle, some bottles have booze, some sex, some drugs. I got addicted to partying and beer stationed in Germany, for some strange stupid quirk of fate once I got stateside I quit. 30 years later I occasionally will drink half a beer. Once a week it’s a dram of scotch my preferred vice. Hang in there dixie I believe in you.
Fellow Drunk here, well now recovering drunk. I’ll have 16 years sober on December 23rd. Your comment made me just want to say something. I’m 52 now, when I got sober I was wanted in three counties in two different states for probation violations. I was habitual violator DUI. I was 50k behind on my child support, it wasn’t a totally accurate calculation but I was substantially behind. I obviously once again messed up my opportunity to have Christmas with my kids as the sobriety date suggests.
I was a morning drinker because my body was dependent on alcohol and getting drunk in the morning made it virtually impossible for me to have any sort of normal life.
I had little faith on 12-24-07 that I was going to be able to quit drinking this time but here I am nearly 16 years later and I still haven’t taken a drink. I had been to 13 plus detoxes and at least half that many rehab stints and none of those or my kids made me not drink. I finally got sick and tired of being sick and hopeless inside. I wanted a better life. If I told you I now have a life I could only have dreamed about you might question me. But I really do and all those problems with institutions and people I told you about are not a part of my life anymore. All because I put the bottle down. You can do it! Message me if I can help in anyway!
I love you and I’m praying for you tonight.
Rich Murphy ( rmurphy37@gmail)
PS. In 09 I met my now wife and we have a daughter who will be 9 on Christmas Eve. So that 23rd sobriety date is significant for us in more ways than one.
Beautifully said. Be well.
U STAY UP
Same here. Jesus helped. 👍
This song is so underrated and Jhonette Napolitano maybe the most underappreciated female rock singer ever. Her vocals are astounding.
yes..........absolutley........
So clean, and notice the lack of vibrato. We can only hope someone remakes this, and manages to one-up her.
@@brianmurphy4016 no!!! No one can ever do this song. It’s perfect the way it is.
@@OlliGarch If there is a great song then it belongs to the world, not one person, even if it doesn't measure up to the original. Creativity is an open channel ~
@@marysalvi242 no one can so this song like her big give it a Try
I just had to finally make a comment about this song after more than 30 years ago when this song came out. I lost my boyfriend in a car accident and his name was Joey. This song came out the same week he passed away. He never knew I was pregnant but now I am the mother of his almost 31 year old daughter. She is beautiful and she looks so much like him. This song has always been close to my heart and for my daughter who never got to meet her dad Joey. RIP my love Joey ❤️
That is so sad so sorry for you and your Daughters lost.
Sorry for your loss, God bless you sweetie ❤️
OMGGGGGG.....I am so sorry:( How absolutely heartbreaking
That is so heartbreaking.Thanks for your vulnerability to share this. I hope this song brings you peace and how beautiful that he gifted you a daughter to always remember your connection. I hope she has brought much joy to your life❤
I'm so sorry that you had go through that, my heart goes out to you and your precious daughter
My brother lost his battle. May you find love and peace in God's realm that you never found here. Love ya Bruce.
♥ditto
We need to visit Lark misses u
My condolences to u.
So sorry to hear
Sorry for your loss.
This song got me sober, 1989, it changed my life, Thank you Concrete Blonde
I don't know you but am happy for you, God bless
@chrisstanek3336 Thanks much! I love my life sober💕💕💕
Cannot tell how many levels this song hits at. Just that it is a true masterpiece.
I've listened to this 20 + times today
l Fa r v cret
I haven't heard this song in awhile. It brings up so many memories. Some good some bad. But what a walk down memory lane.
What a voice!!
This comment is heart breaking. My son’s name is Joey and I can’t talk about my story still but I love this song. Thank for sharing!
The lead singer looked so old when I watched the video as a kid..now that I’m 48 years and revisiting the song, she looks so young. The way we see the world throughout the decades is really wild
I agree.
I know what you mean. I'm watching an old show from the 90s and one of the characters who was 60 years old was very old looking to me back then but now that I'm almost 57 close to his age he doesn't look so old to me he is actually quite cute now. 😂
Yes - that happens!
I noticed that with ballplayers. They all looked so old to me in the 80s and 90s as a kid. Now that I'm ancient, watching the baseball game last night (game 5 alcs clev+nyy) all the pitchers on the mound ooked like little leaguers to me.
@helenhines2712 so you're still watching peewees playhouse huh
After all these years, this song still gives me chills.
You might have a virus
40 years? Me too.. 🎶♥️
❤
Hits hard and emotionally moving gut wrenching realities
@@marybennett4160 33 yrs
I saw this band play this song at a venue in KC in summer '90. They definitely sounded exactly like this. No gimmicks, all talent and heart.
Cool!
This is a criminally underrated band. The lead singer’s voice is being measure; what a gift from God. 💪🏽🇺🇸
Pure gold 💯
Agree friend. This is an old song, but pure gold.
The drummer is Paul Thompson from Roxy Music.
I love this song n even though my name isn't Joey I've known many Joey's Joey's who have lived myself included but many Joey's who hadn't made it thru that secret war we fought.this is for my girl Patti she overdosed n died in 1995..I love you patti
@@JohnnyTirico If it makes you feel any better, the guy who this song was written about wasn't named Joey either - it was Marc.
Saw them in Seattle years ago. They were incredible. Joey is one of the most underrated songs in the history of music.
Not to mention one of the most painful. She wrote it for her ex boyfriend who died at 44 from alcoholism.
@rod stone
On what do you base your comment?
You know, the history of music goes back thousands of years.
@@dr.OgataSerizawa Well it went to number 2 on the Australian music charts, but number 19 on billboard. It was a big hit in Australia, but less at home in USA. I think that's one definition of underrated. Also It still has as much meaning today as the day it was released.
@@pgardner4269
Don’t get me wrong…..I love the song and think it’s great! But underrated? I don’t know. It’s just an opinion, right?
Maybe the same show? I remember them at the Moore Egyptian Theatre, must have been 1989 or 1990. One of the best live shows I've ever seen, period.
Still one of the best voices in music ever. No question.
@@newyorknight I get that. She had a very haunting voice.
Absolutely. Johnette is one of my favorite vocalists. She’s got that Ann Wilson power. Very beautiful too. If you haven’t seen it look up her performance on the John Stewart show. She’s got a cold but still sounds amazing
Yes.. so rich in town
She played Las Vegas Downtown near Fremont street a good number of years ago. Maybe 2012? Shes still Magnificent. However, life has gotten to her. And, all things rock n roll industry especially. I don't know that she'll Ever know just what an incredibly talented timeless creature she is. Her vocals are unforgettable. The music and lyrics of her songs unmatched too.
I don't know if people really know how incredible her vocals are on this song ! Her raspiness is so freaking good!!!
When did this come out?
@@americansfirst10951990 on the album, 'Bloodletting'. The entire album is a masterpiece.
It gives me chills. Fission ✨🫶🏼✨
@@americansfirst1095 early to mid nineties I believe. ❤
Yes indeed
Damn this woman can sing. Pure talent! No auto-tune or gimmicks.
she is awesome
Woman???? Seriously?
@@wreyokredmis2704 Transgender Punk
@@Redbirds1100 exactly
@@daytonasnowangel You suck.
You can feel the pain, despair and loss in her voice. Such a loving devotion. RIP Marc Moreland.
Went to Same High School when he was in High School ! Both him and his brother !
12 years, 21 days as of 10/2/23. Damn proud.
Well done
Well done Chef! 4 years 5 months 18 days on 2/29/24! We are both killin it!
So happy for the both of you, keep putting the work in. Peace & Love.
Damn good..hope It stuck
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"Still sometimes I get a strange pain inside.. Oh Joey if you're hurting so am I"
The lyrics.. the voice.. favorite!!
This song hits home so hard… if you’re out there struggling I hope you find peace!
Thanks, man. You, too.
🙏
My husband included this song in a CD he gave me a week after we met. We were married for 26 years, and he passed away in 2018. I am barely able to listen to it again without breaking down in tears.
May Jesus ease your pain! We have authority in savior JESUS name! God bless you always!
So truly sorry for your loss.
That made me cry, I'm so sorry about your husband. Maybe someday those tears will be not so sorrowful for you. I hope your heart can heal
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LUCKY YOU GIRL !!!!!!!!
One of the greatest songs regarding unconditional love and forgiveness.....
almost 30 years later. powerful words. fucking incredible voice.
drugs are good.
Relaxing to great Music by getting drawn into it is better...
the Dgenr8one my favourite song is tomorrow Wendy . I think I wore out 3 cassettes in my truck lol. One of my very constants in my tape deck❤️
I'm drinking to this song..sorry
STILL THE BEST!
Perfect, heart-wrenching, beautiful song. It reaches in and grabs my heart every time I hear her voice singing, "Oh, Joey, I'm not angry anymore." Every. Single. Time.
I know.
If you want listen also to her new song called Joey Dear!It is gorgeous!
Yup
Yup
Yes me too! What great line.
I'm 57 and girrrlll...you are still making me dance around the house to your incredible voice!!!
Brilliant
Fellow Gen Xer here ...meet tooo still a banger
That's a really young seeming reply from a gem x
Every once in a while THE PERFECT SONG is recorded. This is one of those songs. Her passionate and powerful vocals complete the perfection...❤
This is one of those songs that just hits you down deep in your soul. I believe that we all have a "Joey."
Or Joette
I love this song
Yes.
I’m the Joey 💔
For some of us,....we are our own Joey
“If you’re hurting, so am I” that’s love right there
Yep
funny how a song can remind you of someone after many years have passed. his name was joe, that might be why
Heart literally aching at that point. So good..
One of the best lines ever
Actually, that's a bit of unhealthy attachment.
My husband passed away from liver cirrhosis secondary to alcoholism on 2/8/21. I’m a recovering alcoholic, sober a little over 5 years. This was always one of my favorite songs. Now it has so much more personal, raw meaning. Such an accurate, haunting depiction of the disease of addiction.
God bless you and savior JESUS keep you safe always !
Hope you are well.
Glad you saved yourself. Never stop fighting. Love you sister.
@Mandy Landry Love the 5yrs and your future moments, a step at a time, wonderful that your here ~ 💗
I'm so sorry for your loss of your husband but heartened that you have been sober for so long. God bless you and give you continued strength on your journey.
I lost my son Joey 13 years ago to addiction . He struggled with alcohol and crack cocaine.he was 39 when he died of an overdose. I will miss his smile until the day I DIE. MISS YOU JOEY, MY BOY. Prayers
Hang in here for him. He would want that. Live the best you can always.
Thank you for sharing I'm sorry for your loss
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Ouch
Damn.... That's brutal! So sorry for your loss! Keep your head up and keep living for him! 🙏🏻
Of all of the tunes that open those secret doors back to another time and place, Joey still brings back the vividest of memories for me.
It's a lovely nostalgic feeling isn't it? :)
+Jim Vicious Well worded sir.
+Jim Vicious Me too.
+Jim Vicious Wow. That was the most descriptive word-combo I've ever seen written about song nostalgia! I love that. I love this song cuz it makes me feel EXACTLY the same! I went and bought the cassette single of this song cuz I liked it so much.
+Jim Vicious Yes sir. I can feel her. I'd be a liar if I say I didn't cry when I just heard this tonight.
Joey here ...literally my name is Joe and I've been sober off heroin for 8 years. Everyone who is still struggling it is possible keep trying if you fail that's ok keep getting up!!
Congratulations. I have 4 years clean from heroin next month
I got 1 month clean
Great job, Joe.
@@ericwilson710 thanks man appreciate that
Joe, you keep that shit up! You keep winning at life! I was in the same boat years ago and I can't believe how far I have come. Mad respect for you my brotha.
Had the time of my life opening for Concrete Blonde four dates on the west coast. The shows were sold out, it was fantastic. Had dinner with Johnette, she was hilarious, smart, just the coolest ever. Those are some of my favorite memories.
That’s awesome 😎
How awesome!!! She's my all time favorite. Her and Siouxsie!!
I wish they had more good songs. Imagine if Led Zeppelin only had stairway to heaven and that's it.
Duh Duh Duh that's awesome what was the name of your band?
@@davidrhenley look up Someday. Great song too, and not as well known as this
It isnt just the composition of the song - her voice is raw and silky at the same time. She is a phenomenal talent.
9 months sober and this song and video hits so different now ❤
Congratulations. It’s not an easy journey ❤
For everyone listening to this in 2021-
I absolutely love this song, there is something about it that makes you want to sing your heart out and sing along when it comes on.
After the past 22 months of 2020 & 2021... this is a GREAT song!
love when i hear it on the radio when im driving.
Ive lived this song. The lyrics are as cutting as they were when i first heard them. Great song
Remember it's about the singer's alcoholic boyfriend who died at 44.
I'm here in 2022.
Sober since December 5th, 2009. At rock bottom, I had nowhere else to go. For all of you out there who still struggle, hold on. One step, one day. . . One breath at a time. There is a bright light in that dark place.
Over 30 years sober
Congratulations guys.
Stay strong
👍⭐️❤️
Well done sir!
Damn, how I miss the 90's !!! Us kids that come of age in that decade are so fortunate .
A great voice and a beautiful lady! This track is ageless and features one of my all time favourite guitar riffs!
That rough, raw, throaty contralto. Sends shivers down the spine. That weary, lovelorn, nearly-defeated lyric. Almost makes me cry. The tremolo-inflected guitar solo. A burst of uplifting melody and power. The drums and bass: a throbbing, gut-churning call to arms. All in all, a blistering song, and so painfully underrated, it's not fair.
You summed it up very well, my friend.....
Omg I want to give an award to this description. Said the words I could not
Very well written my friend!!!
Absolutely!!!
Thats the true description you give of this heartfelt song. It even touches your soul.
For my son Joey who passed on, at age 27, 12 years ago July 21st. I envision him reading great books and listening to even greater music. This would be his heaven
Death is not the extinguishing of a flame, it is the blowing out of a candle because the sun has come up.
Awesome sentiment!
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March 21, 2017 Joey celebrating his 40th birthday with his brother Johnny, his dad Dougie, and his aunt Pauline. Playing cards in heaven
Ahhh, so sorry for your loss
3:13 "and when you said i scared you well i guess you scared me too" chills😊
As a recovering drunk with 13 years clean, this song gets to me on so many different levels. During my active addiction I was with guys also in active addiction and I know the pain they caused me and the pain that I caused them, over and over again. I bet we've all had a Joey in our life in one capacity or another.
I still dont get how this song is about an alcoholic the lyrics dont really say anything about that
Were the lucky ones who escaped it, some stay in that fog
@@justinstojanoski2015 Just look up interviews with Johnette Napolitano regarding this song, and you will see how it pertains to alcoholism.
This page has the most beautiful comments. Thx.
@@justinstojanoski2015 Does the lyrics "somewhere drunk and passed out on the floor," not click or register. Keep trolling or keep scrolling. Lol jk
This woman can sing. You feel the emotion in her voice.
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My mother always loved this song. She loved all music. This was one of the many random songs from any and all decades so would play as I grew up.
One year after she unexpectedly passed, listening to all these ‘favourites’ of hers that she would play while I was growing up .. now have meanings. Like she couldn’t tell me this life lesson at that time, because I was young. But music ( these strong familiar songs) made such a huge impression on me. And now, I understand all these stories and lessons, she wanted to teach me. You don’t need to understand the lessons, because they were for me. A year now later after she passed, I think. Was this on purpose? Was she implanting thoughts in me that I wasn’t supposed to understand till I was older?? Maybe she just loved the songs, now I feel them too. Maybe it is all magic.
I lost my Dad when I was 5. I grew up listening to "his music" just to feel closer to him and to try to know him. Lots of Seger. Lots of Allman Bros. At 47, I still learn new lessons from his favorites. I agree with you so much--music is magic and a gift. Sending love!
My mom has been battling dementia. It's amazing how music can unite... I was exposed to some great music, Elton, Three Dog Night, etc.. from her random piano playing. It took years for me to understand what a beautiful world the melody and later, lyrics and appreciate the passion and history of music.
My dad drank heavily for most of his life and finally got sober at the age of 74…just a few years ago. He’s 79, now. We lived this song. Who can relate?
My Daddy never got sober. He left this world in 2010 I was in my early 20s and despised him because I had grown up listening to my toxic mother. I never gave him a chance. I now understand the grip and depths of addiction and hate myself for not loving him . I'd give anything to have my Daddy.
Both parents raging alcoholics and my ex wife
@@Cowboy287 Good thing she’s your ex wife!! That’s so sad that you had to experience the trauma for so long!! I hope you’re finally able to take a breather, now!!
@@valariebirkholz3844 My heart breaks for you. I hope you can find some peace in your heart, soon😔❤️🩹
@@valariebirkholz3844I wrote a reply to you, but I don’t see it here…so, I’ll repeat it “My heart really does break for you, but, I really hope you can find some comfort and peace in your heart, soon.
My father told me he drank to drown his sorrows and pain (mental & physical). I told him I loved him and forgive him for our childhood without him, but that drinking knows how to swim. This took me a while to type out, my eyes kept spilling out tears and memories. All of you in recovery, I am holding you in my heart. Be well. Try to keep swimming.
Beautiful comment ! Inspirational and true ! I didn't speak with my father for 5yrs. because of the problem but we finally reconciled . I was happy I did and just held on to the good memories..glad I did less than 10yrs. after that he passed away. With all that's going on these days we're all just very fortunate if we're still breathing ! Peace 🕊️
Well done for getting it out and writing it down . I understand. Great song. Wish you all the best 🦋❤️
Sorry to hear that... 😔
My dad died a demented alcoholic. I am the guy who tried to get him to stop drinking. I am the guy who ended up taking care of him the last three years of his life. Alcohol, drugs and hate, belong to Satan the devil. DO NOT fall into his trap.
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What a voice. Hauntingly beautiful and perfect for this song.
i was just thinking that. some songs are meant for some certain singers. like rick danko singing It Makes No Difference. others might try but none can match
Like a sensual ghost ❤
Johnette Napolitano may quite possibly be the most under rated singer in the history of modern music. Her voice gives me chills. Love it.
i totally agree. i always thought if i could do a duet with anyone it would be her...
Agreed!!!
soooo agree with you
Her and Linda Perry
J Wallaert,you're right! 4 Non Blondes was awesome as well!
March 2024 still love this
Me too 💯 ❤
October now & ever
Nobody needs to know the year
October of 2024 still sounds great to me!
December 2165, still love this.
I'll go on...I used to be Joey. I almost lost everything to drinking. My now wife, Julie, put up with so much of my shit but she always picked me up, dusted me off and forgave me. She would cry herself to sleep and tell me to please bring back the great man she had met. One morning, I woke up with half of my body in the front door of our home and my wife, son and toddler daughter staring down at me with a disappointment in their eyes that I had never scene. Crying and in a whisper, my wife said, "what do you think of these memories you are giving your kids?" It hit me, it hit me hard!!! I sobered up & cleaned up that day. It's been 9 years. I thank her & my kids for saving my life.
I’ve been right there man .... 11 1/2 years sober for me, 12 on 12/23/19
Jesus Martinez ♥️
Good for you!!!
A good friend of ours is going thru this right now. He finally checked himself into Rehab before he loses his wife.
G Alexander I've went down that road too....with myself. I wish your friend and his wife the best. I hope he gets well. I did not think I would ever be able to stop either, but he has that power within himself, and he has something I didn't...someone that loves him.
A BIG FUCK YOU... that comment actually got me emotional. On duty right now and have to be straight.
Bless you for finding sobriety.
I know that's a ruff road.
I just lost my father, and his name was joey. It's only been a few months, and I still can't listen to this song without crying. In fact, it's the first time I have heard it since he passed away. I know it's about addiction, but to me, just hearing his name, Ugh
I hope the waves are huge and you are happy up there, Daddy. I love you so much❤.
Sorry for your loss.
Lost my Mama this yr. My heart goes out to you.
When listening to Concrete Blonde you realize that Johnette voice and bass guitar take you to places in your mind and soul that you have not visited before.....you find yourself going back to the music again to get that same feeling.....intoxicating.....
Totally agree
Great pun at the end, there!
🤘🤘🤘🤘🤘😎😎😎😎😎✡✡✡✡✡
My sister lost her battle in 2003 and i haven't been the same since. We were supposed to raise our children together but i guess God had other plans. He children are all grown up and so beautiful. Especially the twins who were 4 days old and never got the chance to know their Mom. This beautiful Masterpiece brings back so many memories and I can't stop crying 😭🤣 every time I hear it. Rip Rhonda. You are Truly Missed 💕💕🙏🙏
Johnette is one of the greatest singers ever.....her melodies, harmonies and timing are incredible, her voice gives me chills to this day.......she has always been my favorite and reminds me of a mix between my two other favorites....Terri Nunn and Martha Davis.....beautiful
One of the most underrated songs in the history of Music.
I agree as well. Also one of the most underrated band of all time.
So underrated that rarely appears in radio stations these days. I myself had forgotten about it for more than 20 years
So true !! 😊
I love her vocal range and the guitar solo in this song and I'm into metal. Cheers from Australia.
danceshadowmoon1
You got that right! Cheers!
One of the best songs in the history of songs.
God, please give everyone who reads this the Grace to see another day through!
Thank you
@PaulRobert474
Unfortunately, there is no ‘God’. We’re all alone. And that’s fine with me.
@@dr.OgataSerizawaMY GUY, you may very well be right and I'm not gonna waste time trying to convince you. But if you are right, how would knowing there's no god assist me with this existence? I've been chronically ill (joints) for last 5 years. If I knew there was no god. I would of said adios many moons ago. I'd rather lie and fly then know and die till the very end!
@@PaulRobert474
Not sure what you’re talking about in that last sentence.
You believe in whatever floats your boat.
All religions are scams.
I love the line, If you're hurting so am I.
That's a tough line.
James Mankey's solo (and hell, his tone and playing thru out the song) is just beautiful. The man is a killer guitarist. Such a great song that introduced me to this band so many years ago.
Truly. A painfully honest song of regret, with love and hope for renewal.
I can feel it. This is what great songs do. Inspire emotion.
Woke up with this song bouncing around my head. Got to love the 80’s man!!!
90s
She has such pain in her voice. Love hurts sometimes.
It took forever too find out the reasons i never experienced were what kept me at a distance and still no way to find advice for their happiness and my rest.
The best art often comes from pain, betrayal, and disappointment.
@@josephpennington2795 what?
This song is about her Ex. That's real pain we hear.
Without question one of the most powerful and moving beautifully meaningful songs ever created.
I love her vocal range and the guitar solo in this song and I'm into metal. Happy new year Cheers from Australia
Passion Packed without a Doubt!
Amazing song.
I guess this song means alot to you. Curious why?
@@wmpetroff2307 Drunks relate to it.
No voice...has been better projected from a human mouth. Perfect in it's inflection, powerful in its delivery. Breathes the proper life into each lyric. THIS...is the voice, of a woman. Now a days..you hear little girls...even in the adult singers. This is how it's suppose to be.
needs to go some ,to catch Chrissy H
Absolutely.
And Linda Ronstadt. But this is one my fave songs ever. Gets me everytme
Janice Joplin. One of the greatest rock singers/and full blown H addict.
The first part is my opinion. The second part is a fact. Loved her so much.
Too many to choose for a list of Girls with Great Singing Voices
Every single time I've heard this song, it's brought tears to my eyes. This song was written from real life. Had to listen again 1/11/24, still makes me cry. Lost my Joey 5 years ago...an amazing drummer and incredibly loving man to all who knew him. We both loved this song for her heartfelt honesty about addiction, and forgiveness. You can hear the emotion in her voice. RIP Joey Grillo.
I can only play this song with the volume blasting to the max so that my crying soul is drowned out by the music and the heart wrenching vocals of Johnette. God Bless and Peace to Everyone.
Such a masterpiece of a song. Chills everytime I hear it.
Reading everyone’s stories here inspired me to tell my own. Addiction took my dad away from me as well, he told me it helped with the pain, I was a kid so I didn’t know what type of pain. I wish I could have done something to help him.
He loved music and was a musician, so I always try to keep that alive, by being one myself. Amazing song, and I applaud everyone here who has shared their story. We’ll get better.
I feel your story and I'm sorry you lost your dad. When this song came out I was single building house's in Phoenix. Now I'm late 50s and struggle with alcohol addiction for the same reasons your dad told you. Chronic back pain. It's hard I'll go up to a year sober and then it happens. I have 3 daughter's that try they'r best but I still f up and hurt them. Just remember he didn't want to hurt you. It's hard to explain
I still can't
Such a beautiful, heart-breaking song. Powerful and real.
God bless all the alcoholics and addicts out there who are still using.Peace in Dec 2023.
LMFAO!!!!!
This or that
When you put love into the world it will come back to you. It is a secret war, your kindness makes you an ally. God bless you ❤
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Amen 🙏
Man they don’t make today’s music like they use too.
80s and 90s for life y’all.
Peace my friends
This is one of the few songs I could put on repeat and listen to all day
Eric Hall sameee!
Eric Hall that looks like David Bowie. If so I know you
And what are the rest
Ditto!
I have done that
It's one of the Greatest piece of Music to be ever recorded. Hands Down a true Masterpiece period
I’m 51 now. I remember running to the TV whenever this video came on MTV.
My dad showed me this song. It’s older than I am (the song is from 1990), but I love it. Just the right amount of beauty and sadness. So many stories in these comments who have had experiences with these problems. Whoever you are, if you’re struggling, you are stronger than it.
...Eu fui mais forte que a pessoa que bebia e dei um basta! Às vezes é uma luta sem fim conviver com alcoólatra
That's When I Was Born..
I don't have an addiction, but I know many others who do. It is a terrible way to live, similar I suppose to chronic pain or mental illness but different. Her voice and this song are amazing and I do not understand how underated it is. So powerful on so many different levels. I will never stop listening to it. So glad I found. Thx for inspiring the world...
One of the most underrated songs during the early 90s with one of the most iconic bands during the 90s . And most respected. Love this bad so much. This song happens too be my most favorite song ever.
"The Facts About Jimmy" by Shawn Colvin is worth checking out, too. ua-cam.com/video/VMnXHygaOyY/v-deo.html
Grendel Vertrue have always loved this song from both perspectives.
I agree with you...I can't stop listening to it at home and in my car, I just blast it ! Too bad they didn't play it at other places. I always use to listen to it back in the 90's too.
Keep the greats under-consumed. I don't wanna be buying pop crap. Part of a song's charm is its esotericism
I totally agree ! Music nowadays cannot compare !
My little brother Joey passed away, Thursday, 10-17-24. This song was dedicated to him when it came out. His passing has broken our hearts so listening to this song again is bittersweet.
This song is an enigma to me. I had no connection to it (that I can remember) during the 90s. But I listen to it and watch the video and instantly know, 'Oh, yes... this is classic early 90s stuff' So my first instinct is to brush it off as nothing serious-- a cheesy period piece. And yet... I keep coming back to it. Her voice, the emotion the subtle dark drive of the rhythm. Obviously, it's being recommended for review 30 years later, which means other people see genius here. I think I'm finally ready to declare this out loud: I love this song. It's a gorgeous, haunting perfect masterpiece.
If u like her , check out allison moyet " invisable" and jan arden" insensitive" to more period peices that sould get more credit
35+ years and I’m still not bored by this song. Johnette is an underrated singer/songwriter
Hey Voice is amazing. Timeless like motown
Life gets hard and really is a constant daily struggle. I've had too many friends die from alcohol, heroin and other drugs. They were my best friends in the World. They were awesome great loving and talented people. I miss them so much. Sometimes all a person needs is too be heard and a hug is always welcome. Thanks Concrete Blonde for this. RIP my friends. I miss you all so much!!!
me too
asi es
Amen.
Kurt Vine , This song came to me in rehabe too. went cold turkey on pills and coke. never touch the cheap more wicked stuff.
Roy chapican Wow, it's like someone (God) was reaching out to you with song...Cool and I hope you never feel like you have to go back to that poison. God bless you and keep you safe bro and good for you!!! :)
Just discovering this song today and I cannot believe I’ve never heard it. It’s been on repeat for hours. About to learn it on guitar and try to cover it. Absolutely amazing. Chills. Hits my heart so hard.
Same! Heard it the day after Christmas.
Listen to Mazzy Star as well.
The ultimate song about an alcoholic-addict and the woman that loves him despite/through his addiction. This song is PASSIONATE and she MUST be telling her own story here. WOW!!!
There's a lot of pain in her voice.
Jorgen Von Strangle Yes. I still say she MUST have had this happen in her life. It is moving.
hiya just found out that someone close to my heart went to jail last week he's been battling with drug/alc. too
Diana Varichak Hopefully the song will ultimately console you.
I played this song at my girlfriends funeral. She died of a drug overdose; and I remember when it was my turn to go and speak I was just trying so hard not to cry; I had horrible stage fright and my voice kept wavering but I got up there. I began by telling everyone that despite her mistake, I refuse to let it define my opinion of her. She was a wonderful, caring and giving person who had been struggling with horrible anxiety and depression for 7 years of her life. I went on to tell everyone there a few stories about our time together; like the time she sold her drum set to pay for an operation for my dog, just as I was getting ready to put him down. Like the time she spent her savings so we could go visit my grandmother when she was dying of cancer... I protested against it, but she had told me there will always be more money, but if I don't go see my grandmother one last time I will regret it the rest of my life. If only I had known how little time I had left with her... anyways, then I talked about how this song is about a woman who is deeply in love with a man, and has to live with his addiction despite being constantly hurt by it. I said I blame the drug, never my girlfriend; that I loved her just as much as the day I met her, even if her habit tore me to pieces... though what I suffered is nothing compared to what she went through. I ended off by saying that when I got the news I was angry, sad and terrified beyond anything I had ever felt in my life.. but I'm not angry anymore, just heartbroken. I love you Maya, and always will. I will never meet a girl as beautiful both and the inside and outside ever again. I will remember you until the day I die... I will be 90 and forget how to use the toilet and brush my teeth before I forget you babe :'(
Thanks for sharing this with us... it takes a lot to make me cry, but you had me completely choked by the end of it.
As someone who has struggled on and off with multiple drug addictions over the years and who is married to an alcoholic who is struggling to get control over his life, I understand that addiction does not make a person bad... it's just a very difficult challenge that some people have to fight. Indeed, I think that some people are more beautiful and compassionate because of the hardship they have faced through their struggles with addiction.
I'm very sorry for your loss... she sounds like a truly amazing person.
Thank you
Sorry for your loss
This is so so so very beautiful. So was she. So are you. Thank you.xo
sorry for your loss , lost a lot to drugs my dad to my friend Mike and many others at different times. my heart go's out to you and her family.
This woman definitely did her job w/ this one. What a timeless piece of work. I'm going to write a song now too. Lol ❤
I have a sister named Rachel. When i was strung out, she was the only member of my family that didn't turn on me. She said this song made her think of me. As a poet, that is a huge compliment. To know someone loves you enough to recognize you in a song. Love that girl so much!
Still suffering from addiction depression and mental illness somehow this song always gives me hope
When I hear this song it always makes me think of my childhood friend Joe. We alway drank and drugged far too much. We both came from really messed up homes but sadly we never shared a single emotion, we just pushed it down and partied on. I got some help later in life and gave up the substance abuse. Joe never did and passed many years ago. I wish we could have shared more about what was truly hurting but back in the day that just was never happening. RIP my friend. You are never forgotten
One of the rare songs that just stops me in my tracks, no matter what I'm doing and makes me reminisce about so many things. And wow, it's also rare because it sounds even better live. Just a wonderful masterpiece of music
This is a very beautiful and poetic song, and Johnette’s voice is one of the most haunting and underrated voices of rock and roll to ever come out.
According to Johnette herself, she actually struggled with writing the lyrics and put off writing it until the last minute because the subject matter (a young woman falling in and out of love with an alcoholic young man) was actually inspired by her relationship with the late great Marc Moreland of Wall of Voodoo fame (who if I am not mistaken struggled with alcoholism), so it made it all the more personal to her, saying, "I knew what I wanted to say, but I wasn't looking forward to saying it. So it was the last vocal that I recorded. And I remember Chris every day, "Do we have vocals to 'Joey' yet? Do we have words to 'Joey' yet?" And I'm like, "Not yet." So I literally wrote them in a cab. I knew what I was going to say, it's just a matter of like a cloud's forming and then it rains. The lines are forming in my head and they're all in my head, and I know the chorus, and I know what I'm going to say. It's just a matter of fine tuning the details and how I'm going to lug it out. And then it rains. The clouds all formed and it rained. And then it happened. And that was it. And it was just there." It was the last song of the record (Bloodletting) because of this.
RIP Marc Moreland (1958-2002). May you forever live on in your music and the memory of this song.
Easily one of the greatest songs about addiction. Sad on all levels, especially knowing that her paramour eventually died of liver failure.
Possibly the most powerful song about alcoholism I've ever heard. Johnette Napolitano is one of rock music's most powerful and skilled vocalists, but she almost never gets a minute's credit for it.
Absolutely
Listen to 'Rain'
Listen to joey dear.Her new masterpiece!
Truth
@@johnnynicki9434 thanks for the suggestion! It’s an awesome tune
This song captures the sad desperation of being a drunk or addict so achingly and beautifully. Years ago, I was struggling with drinking and told my girlfriend how this song reminded me of our relationship, thinking that she would also sympathetically relate in and feel sorry for me. Instead, she did something better and more important. She got mad at me (which she rarely did) and said, do you think I'm some enabling pushover and that I will just keep going on like this with you? It helped wake me up and soon after I got help and have now been sober almost 11 years despite the pandemic and losing my mom to cancer. We're also still together and married. Emotions when you're in the the throes of addiction are out of control, have a life of their own. When you're crying while you're drunk, it's because you're destroying yourself and coming up with every reason why after the fact. When you're sober and crying, however, especially in early sobriety, it's because you're healing and getting better and stronger. As sad and sweet and tragic as a drunken cry may sometimes seem to be on the outside, it doesn't compare to the inner strength and confidence you get from being sober no matter what no matter what, whatever the circumstances. That's real beauty.
More like of blind faith I took it as anyway missed the drinking and addiction parts
Podia escrever um livro! Esta página já foi o suficiente para demostrar como seria uma história envolvente 🤗🌹 Parabéns! Eu não tive a mesma sorte com o ,"Joey " da minha vida. 🍷
I quit along time ago, drinkn gets old....moved on
Jhonette Napolitano is one of the most incredible singers, of all time. Concrete Blonde takes me back to a very specific point in life, of moments I'm glad to still recall.
Concrete Blonde...in a league all their own. An incredible voice and band.
Probably the greatest song I’ve ever heard. And I am ashamed I’m 27 just hearing this ❤️😭🎶🙏 I bawled for two nights because this hit home.
I remember I loved this song so much when I was 16. It reminded me of my first love! I'm 45 now, God time flys by!
Hell of a great song ❤️👍👍👍