Nurturing the Heart of a Perfectionist

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  • Опубліковано 17 гру 2024

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  • @natalielizabeth
    @natalielizabeth 2 роки тому +23

    A verse I really love is this:
    “For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”
    Romans 6:14 NKJV
    It proves that victory over sin is not through performance/legalism/perfectionism but through the grace of God which we receive.

  • @shadia2000
    @shadia2000 2 роки тому +34

    Being a teacher right now, I feel this strongly. I'm going to ask for God's help to stop withholding love from myself until I "get it together."

    • @tee1763
      @tee1763 2 роки тому +5

      I feel this!!!! 🙏

    • @katiesanders96
      @katiesanders96 2 роки тому +2

      I hear you so much!!! I have been subconsciously telling myself the same thing for years!

  • @TheDreamDetective888
    @TheDreamDetective888 2 роки тому +10

    Pressure screams, love encourages💥🙏💯

  • @doralaka9820
    @doralaka9820 2 роки тому +23

    This is what I have learned from your podcasts, that I'm not going to give myself deadlines, this is a journey, I remind myself of this every time I feel overwhelmed. I'm reading "Exposing the rejection mindset " and is sooo good. Thank you brother be blessed you and your family.

  • @Feathers_and_rivers
    @Feathers_and_rivers 2 роки тому +20

    Thanks for this Mark! I can’t wait to have fun again. I’ve become so consumed with intrusive thoughts that I’m a shell of myself and forgot how to have fun. Constant fear, worry, and anxiety is no fun.

    • @timchristmas7278
      @timchristmas7278 2 роки тому +1

      I feel this so much. My intrusive thoughts has destroyed me. I wish I could have mark as a mentor! We will be joyful again one day!! TULA

    • @JenniferPost
      @JenniferPost 2 роки тому +3

      This is me, too. Feels like I spend more time in my head than actually living.

  • @micheal7628
    @micheal7628 2 роки тому +4

    First of all I hugged myself ...and that worked. What you said about taking the pressure off our expectations not lowering them was sooo good that's where faith in God is not just faith in self.

  • @mikem4883
    @mikem4883 Місяць тому +1

    Mark, you have been given the Wisdom of Solomon in all of your videos. God has really blessed you, to bless us. I really mean that. Love you brother. Mike

  • @Jesusandmentalhealth
    @Jesusandmentalhealth 2 роки тому +5

    Mark, you are so unapologetically compassionate. I appreciate your videos so much. This is definitely what the soul needs but we tend to not offer ourselves as perfectionists. Blessings.

  • @marti5173
    @marti5173 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you Mark . Us perfectionists definitely need a hug and be still ❤

  • @daughteroflight8624
    @daughteroflight8624 8 місяців тому +5

    This is so heart touching 😭😭😭today I realise that I don't know what nurture feels and looks like. My mother is extremely critical and controlling and my father is unbothered type!
    ~ April 16, 2024

  • @cvanessa0105
    @cvanessa0105 2 роки тому +8

    Thank you! I am dealing with this right now!

  • @katiesanders96
    @katiesanders96 Рік тому +4

    14:10 “You’re watching this video, and it’s 2 AM. Yes, you. You’ve got insomnia. You’re spinning. This message is for you tonight: it’s ok if you’re not ok.” Mark, that was literally ME the other night when I listened to this part!! It felt like you were addressing me personally! THANK YOU so much for such a deeply nurturing talk, my brother from another mother!!! I can’t stop replaying it to soak it up and marinate. Sometimes I wish I could be transported right into your cozy office and share a hug with you and Melissa.

    • @katiesanders96
      @katiesanders96 7 місяців тому

      @@ovld2023 Agreed! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @tee1763
    @tee1763 2 роки тому +12

    I so needed this right now.. feeling this hard right now and trying to be a parent, especially to a child with ASD, with these needs/problems is so hard.. Thanks so much for posting this. I needed this because I don't know how to nurture because I was never nurtured. Thanks for this, Mark 🙏🙏

  • @Coachaaronclark
    @Coachaaronclark 2 роки тому +5

    Thanks for posting this. I'm a perfectionist. I learned this when I did the DISC personality test. Honestly I didn't know what it meant at first. But little by little it has become clearer. I'm reminded of how I need to grow in loving myself. Thank you for this message on nurturing. I feel this is the need of the hour for Christian men and I want to be equipped as much as possible.

    • @loryanninchrist6415
      @loryanninchrist6415 2 місяці тому

      Which letter is perfectionist? I’ve done the DISC but have never seen the connection with perfectionism.

  • @chucktown169
    @chucktown169 Рік тому +4

    Hey Mark, this really helped me brother. I've been following you for a few years now and I guess I wasn't at a place to receive this healing until now. Thank you for putting into words my internal struggle and bringing light and clarity to my journey. The funny thing about revelation, growth, and healing is that you don't know what you don't know......but God.... Keep it up brother you are bearing good fruit.

  • @melissaphillis7247
    @melissaphillis7247 7 днів тому

    Thank you for actually speaking out the nurture, I had no idea how to say those things.

  • @loriwicker1095
    @loriwicker1095 2 роки тому +4

    Thanks Mark, I'm realizing I have perfectionism in myself. Good teaching.

  • @Slizzsamurai
    @Slizzsamurai 2 роки тому +3

    This is sooo good! God brought me to your videos after revealing to me that i'm a perfectionist and as i am going through the 'restoring nurture course' this video is really personal to me. It speaks right to my heart. Gonna have to watch this a couple of times

  • @zuzu_1
    @zuzu_1 2 роки тому +4

    Thanks Mark, this video was really helpful.. Perfectionism is a huge problem in my life. I feel angry with myself a lot and afraid to :/ even be in relationships, if I’m not “perfect” enough. I truly hope to be able to overcome this, it’s frustrating.

  • @alanhoward9974
    @alanhoward9974 7 місяців тому

    Thank you so much brother. Your ministry has done so much for changes in my life over the last few months.

  • @nikkibailey6583
    @nikkibailey6583 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you, Mark!! So often, we received harsh messages which greatly contributed to why we're perfectionism-oriented & performance based. It's stressful to say the least. Thanks for sharing Jesus Lighter & easier burden!!

  • @emmyreed-poysden466
    @emmyreed-poysden466 2 роки тому

    Yet AGAIN….another really powerful video from Mark! This one has really spoken to my heart and stirred some emotions within me. I can see how hard I have been on myself growing up, trying to reach an unattainable standard that God didn’t even set for me or expect of me. He just loved me for who I was, in that moment and nothing more. Powerful ❤️‍🔥🔥🕊

  • @Hollyfilly
    @Hollyfilly Рік тому +3

    Amazing video, you are so kind in your honest message. I needed to hear this message today. 🤗 My 'yeah but ' was I'm not a perfectionist because I'm not good enough at being perfect like the other perfectionists.

  • @shanicer1803
    @shanicer1803 6 місяців тому

    Mr. DeJesus, you are really anointed! Last weekend was so emotionally painful for me, that I felt like my life was over...I took some time off work... I just couldn't take it anymore. Yesterday, after I left my church, after crying out my soul at the altar, I saw this video first in line on my feed...With my tough emotional journey, from being raised by a narcissistic parent...The Lord has spoken through you to comfort me and tell me that He understands...This message was so specific to what I was feeling and needed from God yesterday...Thank you so much for the work you do. God bless you and your family!

  • @MauriceApe
    @MauriceApe 4 місяці тому

    I just spent probably twice the length of this video writing down pretty much every single word you said 😂You’re content and ministry has helped me out so much Mark, God bless❤️

  • @pattyweber1725
    @pattyweber1725 2 роки тому +1

    Wow...needed this. So, so good. Thank you for taking time to post.

  • @daughteroflight8624
    @daughteroflight8624 8 місяців тому

    This is so heart touching 😭😭😭
    ~ April 16, 2024

  • @HS-tm4xe
    @HS-tm4xe 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you!🙏

  • @DeVaughnalexander
    @DeVaughnalexander 2 роки тому +1

    I appreciate the topics as pictures!

  • @charlabarnett6274
    @charlabarnett6274 2 роки тому

    I love this Playlist on perfectionism! This is where I am on my journey right now. God has been patience while I learned humility and now I am able to recieve these messages.( 3 years into the journey). I am not navel gazing, I am able to embrace the love, the teachings and enjoy myself learning now. Your rice experiment made me aware of the vibrations and the frequency I release through my words. It's amazing where that energy rest in our bodies. The image of shame was mindblowing and that's when I realized something has to change.(I found these images on the frequency of emotions) Thank you brother for your love, compassion and kindness! Love you bunches!

  • @suzannebunbury2961
    @suzannebunbury2961 4 місяці тому

    Thank you❤

  • @MatheusBraz-yk6pw
    @MatheusBraz-yk6pw 2 роки тому

    thank you, mark.

  • @rockerune
    @rockerune 2 роки тому +1

    I have it and healing from it. Letting go of the pressure is quite challenging, For perfectionist, I think we need let of fixing and learn to let go

  • @carlyc247
    @carlyc247 Рік тому

    Thank u so much for this. Wow❤

  • @CharlieBass5
    @CharlieBass5 2 роки тому +2

    It's easy to be kind to others, I'm the one that makes the mistakes. I find it hard to get to the intangibles, I would be better off building an engine. This would be something I could get my hands on. What you say is SO HARD to get my head around. Yes I want to be FIXED, that's what I've ALWAYS wanted.

  • @samanthawillowlane1371
    @samanthawillowlane1371 Рік тому

    Wow! This is so helpful! Thanks so much!

  • @sheerahbuilt3cities954
    @sheerahbuilt3cities954 6 місяців тому

    Thanks, very useful for me!

  • @MamaMia22292
    @MamaMia22292 2 роки тому +1

    This was great

  • @CharlieBass5
    @CharlieBass5 2 роки тому +1

    Taking my time means a lot of things won't get done. Yes I'm making up for lost time and finding out that I am also lazy on top of all the other problem of myself doesn't help. OVERWHELMING!!!

  • @MaryIsbell-i6g
    @MaryIsbell-i6g 7 місяців тому

    We need unconditional love ❤️......that's what I longed for growing up and then in my marriage i always felt i had to earn it im so tired of it all

    • @annehortsana2957
      @annehortsana2957 7 місяців тому

      Help us to give, receive Your unconditional agape love for Ourselves, PAPA, we are loved by simple being created by YOU, help us to see This Truth❤ in JESUS name I pray 😊❤

  • @MaryIsbell-i6g
    @MaryIsbell-i6g 7 місяців тому

    Ive managed to do the nurture talk down once so far

  • @MaryIsbell-i6g
    @MaryIsbell-i6g 7 місяців тому

    Its been so long i don't know what I enjoy anymore, I use to drink and be a partier that's all i knew with my husband for years and I thought it was fun until it wasn't anymore

  • @beautyforashesisaiah6137
    @beautyforashesisaiah6137 2 роки тому

    Hi Mark can you make these printables? I would love to have these on my walls as reminders, they are beautiful. Maybe like 4x6 or 8x11. Thanks!

    • @BanronS
      @BanronS 6 місяців тому +1

      Thats actually a cool idea honestly.

  • @treensscreen
    @treensscreen 2 роки тому +1

    Imagine Dragons song: “It’s Ok” (to be not okay…)

  • @nicoleanthony9398
    @nicoleanthony9398 2 роки тому +1

    Hardcore Christianity

  • @raf5.13
    @raf5.13 2 роки тому

    Guess I’m getting old man… every time u say “be kind” I mentally say “rewind”.

  • @steph9307
    @steph9307 2 роки тому +2

    Needed this so much for so many reasons 🥹♥️🙏🏼