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I'm so happy you said that we can be cautious without fearing being foolish. I think the biggest reason I stay on guard--even if I know it's unhealthy for me--is because I'm so concerned the second I let my guard down is when shit hits the fan
I completely understand this feeling. My DA is more like this, but him and I talked about the "unpacked boxes" habit we both have. Every time he's moved or I've moved, we always leave at least ONE box packed. It's like a subconscious fear that when we finally unpack that last box, that's when the other shoe will drop and everything will go to shit. I totally feel you. ❤
You're absolutely right-finding that balance between caution and self-trust is a process. Taking care of yourself without being constantly on guard is key.
I love that you said you don’t believe in affirmations. I’ve tried them and they absolutely don’t work. I have to visually see or physically feel what the affirmation is saying. Thank you so much for clarifying that.
I don’t usually comment but I had to because this is the first time I feel truly understood. You have explained what I’ve been going through with my relationships and with myself so well. Thank you so much for this video, I will definitely start doing this exercise. I’ve reached a point where I’m just so tired and I just wanna get better.
didn't expect that I'll be dropping tears when watching this video... i can imagine myself crying for 21 days if i really start doing this reprogramming
I recently sabotaged a relationship with someone I was newly dating because of abandonment wounds after days of non communication I ended things. I realized it's my subconscious mind at play after learning this video and now I want learn how to heal to have better relationship success.
I’m basically doing that too. It was a month of daily texts and seeing him consistently. Now the pattern changed and I am in high anxiety. I’m trying not to lash out at him, I want to ask calmly, and I don’t think I wanna end things just yet but it’s hard not to.
This sounds a lot like focus shifting. I remember when I was broke and sleeping in my car I read several books on how to shift your focus on what's going wrong with the solution of how to fix the problem. I'm happy to say it worked! Great suggestions on this video!
Oh I love this!!!! Also wow! Thank you for sharing. My brother went through that exact scenario, and I have had some version of that compared to where I am at now and I agree so much about shifting focus! I find myself leading in that way in my relationships now also
@@Kinteresting congrats on your brother pulling himself out of that! I actually ended up becoming martial art school of the year in my area in 2023 and even training celebrities in Los Angeles! It's amazing what you can accomplish with drive and laser-like focus!
If there would be a way of giving 10 likes for information like this I would. Thanks for changing my life for the better. I wish I would have found it years ago.
I’ve hung out with a guy for 2 months, first month was consistent and now it’s changing and we barely talk. He thinks we fight but it’s just talking and he’s pulling away. I am trying not to let my anxiety lash out, so this is helpful. I pray I overcome my triggers.
Go to ONLINE MEDITATION EVENTS, google this and you will be very glad you did. Start with the meditation and get an understanding of what is being presented. It's unbeatable.
So whenever I am in the ocean I do 360s looking out for sharks. Im not sure if its the shark movies that traumatized me when I was little lolll. Your forest analogy with the bear made me think of this lol
Hi Thais, So is this video for those that are FA ? As someone with predominantly AP tendencies, why can i relate to these core wounds ? And is there a video for AP's like this please ? Appreciate all you do 🙏
Thank you for breaking this down, separate from the other vid where you went over this quickly. To clarify, is it 10 memories for each “opposite” in step #2?
Its best to pick 1 main thing youre working on, for example I am not good enough. You need 10 examples for the opposite. I am good enough and here's my proof. 1) At work yesterday blah blah 2) with my friend 2 months ago blah blah 3) this morning blah blah And so on
The tool she taught is great for DAs too 😊 pick 1 core wound thst DAs have and find 10 memories for the opposite. I am not good, I am alone, I am excluded, I am defective, I am unsafe and more are all wounds most DAs have. Remember to only pick 1 and focus on it and begin luck with your healing journey 😊
I wont watch this..its just too long But in my simple short words & from what I learned / still learn is…. I believe doing subconscious work helps, but also the partner u have. If there is trust & communication like u know u just need some check ins...and they work with u Then all is good nervous system will be👍🌻
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I'm so happy you said that we can be cautious without fearing being foolish. I think the biggest reason I stay on guard--even if I know it's unhealthy for me--is because I'm so concerned the second I let my guard down is when shit hits the fan
I completely understand this feeling. My DA is more like this, but him and I talked about the "unpacked boxes" habit we both have. Every time he's moved or I've moved, we always leave at least ONE box packed. It's like a subconscious fear that when we finally unpack that last box, that's when the other shoe will drop and everything will go to shit.
I totally feel you. ❤
You're absolutely right-finding that balance between caution and self-trust is a process. Taking care of yourself without being constantly on guard is key.
yt algorithm is doing a good job in giving me the appropriate self help content. this comes in my gratitude jar today
Glad to hear! 💜
I love that you said you don’t believe in affirmations. I’ve tried them and they absolutely don’t work. I have to visually see or physically feel what the affirmation is saying. Thank you so much for clarifying that.
You didn't do them long enough. You expected to have them work right away.
I don’t usually comment but I had to because this is the first time I feel truly understood. You have explained what I’ve been going through with my relationships and with myself so well. Thank you so much for this video, I will definitely start doing this exercise. I’ve reached a point where I’m just so tired and I just wanna get better.
didn't expect that I'll be dropping tears when watching this video... i can imagine myself crying for 21 days if i really start doing this reprogramming
I recently sabotaged a relationship with someone I was newly dating because of abandonment wounds after days of non communication I ended things. I realized it's my subconscious mind at play after learning this video and now I want learn how to heal to have better relationship success.
I’m basically doing that too. It was a month of daily texts and seeing him consistently. Now the pattern changed and I am in high anxiety. I’m trying not to lash out at him, I want to ask calmly, and I don’t think I wanna end things just yet but it’s hard not to.
This sounds a lot like focus shifting. I remember when I was broke and sleeping in my car I read several books on how to shift your focus on what's going wrong with the solution of how to fix the problem. I'm happy to say it worked! Great suggestions on this video!
That's an incredible story of resilience! Shifting your focus can really open doors. Thank you for sharing your journey with us 💜
Oh I love this!!!! Also wow! Thank you for sharing. My brother went through that exact scenario, and I have had some version of that compared to where I am at now and I agree so much about shifting focus! I find myself leading in that way in my relationships now also
@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool thank you! It was the hardest three years of my life, but also the most developmental!
@@Kinteresting congrats on your brother pulling himself out of that! I actually ended up becoming martial art school of the year in my area in 2023 and even training celebrities in Los Angeles! It's amazing what you can accomplish with drive and laser-like focus!
Thais, your auto suggestion tool has made such a difference in my emotional health. Thank you!
So glad to hear it’s helping! Keep up the amazing work with it!
You guys, this works!! Believe me I literally starting feeling completely different after 5 days! Best spent money!
So happy the content has been helpful to you! Thank you so much for your support! 💜
But is it permanent??????? That's the issue.
This video is more helpful to me than any other abandonment video I have ever found! thank you thais!
best video ever related to this topic
thank you. i love how you have been doing different videos lately. i am anxious - with major abandonment issues. I needed this. thank you so much,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Love that’s been resonating with you 💜
If there would be a way of giving 10 likes for information like this I would. Thanks for changing my life for the better. I wish I would have found it years ago.
Thank you so much! Happy to hear it’s really resonating with you! 💜
I’ve hung out with a guy for 2 months, first month was consistent and now it’s changing and we barely talk. He thinks we fight but it’s just talking and he’s pulling away. I am trying not to let my anxiety lash out, so this is helpful. I pray I overcome my triggers.
Go to ONLINE MEDITATION EVENTS, google this and you will be very glad you did. Start with the meditation and get an understanding of what is being presented. It's unbeatable.
So helpful indeed Thais. God bless you for your contributing your gifting to help heal many, many suffering ppl!!!
Thank you for this
Thank you for tuning in, Janine!
Thank you, Thais. Your knowledge and strategies are so helpful. Loved this video. ❤️
Wow, this is super helpful! Really enjoying these videos more geared towards anxiously attached individuals. Thank you Thais ❤️
Great content as usual! Thank you Thais
Thank you
this video is so eye-opening for me , thank you Thais
So glad it’s resonating with you!
Great video Thais.
Appreciate your support! 💜
Amazing video! Thank you!
My pleasure! Thank you for your support!
Ty🎉
Thank you so much ❤❤
Thank you for your support 💜
what if you can’t come up with 10 examples?
So whenever I am in the ocean I do 360s looking out for sharks. Im not sure if its the shark movies that traumatized me when I was little lolll. Your forest analogy with the bear made me think of this lol
Does this exercise also apply to Fearful Avoidants?
Hi Thais, So is this video for those that are FA ? As someone with predominantly AP tendencies, why can i relate to these core wounds ? And is there a video for AP's like this please ? Appreciate all you do 🙏
Thank you for breaking this down, separate from the other vid where you went over this quickly. To clarify, is it 10 memories for each “opposite” in step #2?
Its best to pick 1 main thing youre working on, for example I am not good enough. You need 10 examples for the opposite.
I am good enough and here's my proof.
1) At work yesterday blah blah
2) with my friend 2 months ago blah blah
3) this morning blah blah
And so on
Thais você é brasileira?
I love bears. Animals are important to me. Human are more dangerous.
This is why women on the survey, said they would rather be in a wood with a bear than a man
Is there similar video for DAs? Can you make too?
The tool she taught is great for DAs too 😊 pick 1 core wound thst DAs have and find 10 memories for the opposite. I am not good, I am alone, I am excluded, I am defective, I am unsafe and more are all wounds most DAs have. Remember to only pick 1 and focus on it and begin luck with your healing journey 😊
4:18 Can some people share some links below about this concept and maybe studies?
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She's wrong about affirmations. They just aren't done long enough. Will it take a good long while, yes.
I wont watch this..its just too long
But in my simple short words & from what I learned / still learn is….
I believe doing subconscious work helps, but also the partner u have. If there is trust & communication like u know u just need some check ins...and they work with u
Then all is good nervous system will be👍🌻
Thais, you speak too quickly! It's a shame as difficult to catch everything u are saying. Perhaps it's the US accent.
You can slow down the video speed, that might help?