So sorry about the wind, guys! Real amateur move on my part. It has better moments and worse moments throughout the video. Promise I will film inside next week! 😂. To those of you with high tolerance for sound, thank you for sticking out the video and watching. You deserve a gold star ⭐️ today.
I am a stay at home mom to allow my husband to work outside the home without fear of child care issues or cost. We have a combined family and have 8 children collectively and two grandchildren. I've been in the thick of it for many years. Finding your family several years ago has been such a blessing. I've learned so much. I've felt validated with many things. I've seen where I need to make changes in how my family functions based on watching you succeed or share your lessons. What you are doing here on YT matters. Thank you.
Sara, one of the greatest compliments I have received in life was from our older son. He was almost 6 years older than his brother. We had a little girl who died at age 18 months because of a congenital tumor. I got pregnant again and had another boy. So you know how harried a young mother can be with a small child and a baby. You feel like you’re probably rushing and snapping and just can’t find enough time. But I was bathing the baby one day and my older son was watching me bathing his baby brother. He said “I wish I could be a mom.” I said “oh really? why is that? He said “because you look like you have so much fun!” I told him, “ oh how sweet! well when you are grown and your wife has a baby, then you can do it all the time.”
I’m team donor mom. It takes a village but it doesn’t have to be your spouse that fills that roll. Being a parent is incredible and worth so much to me, I wouldn’t change it for the world! That empty feeling of infertility was a nightmare and I’m so blessed to have an angel who blessed me with my baby boy.
@rosabacketts 1668: A child needs a mother and a father. A sperm donator is not a proper paternal contributor to raising a girl or a boy to adulthood. Men and women need to understand the sacredness of begetting a child.
I’m a 37 year old single mom by choice to a 13 month old boy. I used an anonymous donor and went through IVF when I was 35. It’s an enormous challenge but doable and worth it. My son is my world and cannot imagine life without him. If Jasmine is reading this, if your heart is calling you to motherhood you know yourself better than anybody and should make that choice for yourself. Sarah makes very valid points about support systems, and being on your own in all choices is HARD. But being a “village mom” versus being someone’s actual mom does not equate to the same thing.
I agree it is not the same thing, but I don’t think Sarah meant that. I think she just meant if you absolutely cannot have a child of your own, you might find comfort in filling that mothering ‘urge’ with the village. Or even if you can have kids, but didn’t or whatever the case is! Just positivity!! 🤗🤗
@Ariel, I just read your comment! I'm so happy to hear of so many smbc stories. I'm definitely going to pursue this route; I was trying to ask Sarah what age to start (not if I should do it!!). Thanks for sharing your story, and for giving encouragement. It'll be my most difficult life pursuit, but worth it 🩷🩷🩷
To Jasmine: I adopted my daughter a month before turning 40. She’s been the greatest blessing of my life. It hasn’t been easy financially but I would definitely do it again. If I had been financially able I would have adopted more or taken in foster children. I worked as a special education teacher so obviously have a great love for children. There are many pro’s and con’s to single parenthood but I think my daughter had it better with me than many of my students had it with 2 parents. Follow your heart 🙏💚
@@valcomments3045 I chose the private route because it was the quickest method and the one I had most control of. I almost went the foreign route but that usually requires several trips abroad and I just didn’t have the time. Fost-adopt is a much less expensive route but for infants you’re looking at babies who are born testing positive for maternal drug abuse and are not normally released to the mother (though this may vary by state) and mom has 6 months to get clean and can take the baby back. If you’re open to older children the foster care system is a great place to start. A lot depends on your budget and how long you’re willing to wait. After months of research, I chose to work with an adoption attorney. He told me average time to be matched with a birth mother is 6 months and is usually about a year before you have a baby. He also warned me that as a single parent it might take a bit longer since most birth mothers are single and choosing not to raise their child alone. Many want their child to have 2 parents. All that being said…I submitted my paperwork on Halloween
Sorry, that sent before I finished. I submitted my paperwork on my lunch break on Halloween and had a message from my attorney 3 hours later saying he had a birth mother for me. We met, liked each other, she chose me over other potential adoptive parents primarily because I was 100% open to an open adoption. I wanted my child to know her birth mother. My beautiful daughter was born January 7 meaning the entire process took less than 2 1/2 months. That’s unheard of. Because it all happened so smoothly and quickly I truly believe it was divinely ordained. My beautiful daughter is now 22 and the most amazing young woman I know. I wish you all the best.
I watch every video but today the comments about single mums hurt. We get judge everyday! At work. At the park and just by general. People that never have been a single parent don’t understand. It like when you get bad comments on you tube about your family and how that makes you feel. That’s what you did to mine. My child is so happy.
Sarah, I appreciate your comments about being a single mother by choice. I also think God has different plans for different people. I was in a very similar situation as the woman who asked the question. I prayed fervently and asked God if it was His will for me to adopt to please let me feel at peace. Within one month a birth mother sought me out and 3 days later I was that baby boy’s mother! I have always known God’s hand was in this adoption! That baby is now 29 years old and an amazing man. He has had male mentors and a great relationship with his grandpa. He was very involved in Boy Scouts through church and became an Eagle Scout. When God is at the center you KNOW it!! 💜
I'm a single mother by choice to two young boys and it is the best decision I've ever made! Obviously not the way I would have planned it but I knew I really wanted to be a mum more than anything and now I have my wish.
This makes me so happy!! I've been preparing to take on the journey solo (if I can't find a mate) - no need to miss out on motherhood when we have modern day options. Thanks for sharing. 🩷🩷
First let me say I LOVED THIS VIDEO!!! It was great hearing the questions and your responses. To the women with the 10 month old who's husband works many hours. My husband drove school bus during the day and was the night custodian at the school. Poor guy was never home, but my daughter's and I 2 nights a week would make dinner, pack the picnic basket, nice plates, tablecloth, drinks, go to the school, meet him and have a wonderful family dinner. We made it work! It's not easy but we came up with plans to keep family time. Hope this helps. God bless ❤
The single women who don't have children around me are such a blessing to me and my children. They have adopted my kids as their own and they are able to give so much love to our family!
Wow I was always a babysitter an had lots of kids in my house but having lots of kids an they never get to go home... 😂 I'm sure u love them wholeheartingly. I would have had a bunch of them too but it takes 2 to raise kids.
Wow I was always a babysitter an had lots of kids in my house but having lots of kids an they never get to go home... 😂 I'm sure u love them wholeheartingly. I would have had a bunch of them too but it takes 2 to raise kids.
My older sister brought me and my two older sisters and one older brother and one younger brother up by herself because my mother died of cancer when l was 7 years old my father died of angina 18 months ather my mother died of cancer my sister married fell apart because of my brother in law not very nice person as well as her own two children she did such a good job rasing us that social services here in uk asked her and us as one family to be Foster mother to looked ather children in social services care she did it for 20 years we as a family loved looking ather looked ather children sadly my older big sister died nearly 9 years ago now still have one of her looked ather child living with me still she's adult now but has special needs she had the choice to go back 8n to adult care but she had think about it ather couple of days she told me that she loved living with me and my family wanted to stay with me my other sister how is two years older than me lives down road from me if there's problem she or any other of my family will come and help if it's needed that's wot big family do they help each other when needed
I really appreciated your honesty with your answers, it can be hard to be honest without passing judgement and also not just give platitudes. I am in my late 40's without children and really appreciated what you said about other ways to 'mother'... I love kids, and between working with them, and being close to and helping with my siblings' and friends' kids, I have found a lot of fulfillment in that part of my life. Thanks for sharing!
I definitely agree with you with the organic stuff. The health issues that you can get from not eating your fruits and vegetables is more important than being obsessed with organic. I grew up with potato farmers in my family and I always wondered why they sprayed the pesticides and if it was necessary. And then as I'm older, I lost my entire garden in one day due to blight. The risk of disease is much higher when you have big field and it's better to have good crop then to lose everything and then people have less food to buy
I love this new video series you are doing! I can’t count how many times I’ve thought “I wish I had a friend like Sarah to hear her thoughts on x or y. And I really respect you answering the tough questions and doing it so thoughtfully and respectfully. I completely agree with you on the fatherhood point and I loved hearing your perspective on organic! We’ve been primarily organic buyers for about a decade and I am being less impressed with it and more impressed with food grown locally as well! But I love the perspective of doing the best we can when we can and I feel like your channel has helped support that perspective for me when I struggle to be perfect sometimes.
About organic fruit: thick skinned fruit such as banana, avocado, orange etc. is not even worth to buy because the pesticides hardly ever make it to the fruit it stays in the skin. Where it's worth it to buy organic fruit are berries but with your large land just buy some blueberry, raspberry and currant shrubs and you can have your own organic berries on a dime and they are low maintenance too!
Good morning from East Texas! Loved this video. I’m 67…and my Babymaking ended at 29 😊. But my Season as Nana is just as fulfilling as a Mom of 2. I completely agree with your position on buying “organic” from the grocery store. Same for “Keto” labeled foods. Prices are ridiculous…and you are better off with scratch made whenever possible. Many Blessings to you all ❤
Great job with your honest answers. I liked that you clearly emphasized that these were your opinion and that you responded with what works for you and from what you have observed.
To the mom of the 10 month old whose husband is working a lot: what has helped me, is getting outside often with my little one. It's relaxing and refreshing for both mom and baby!
@@OurTribeofMany hello Sarah. I have left you the following message a few times 😅now but I don’t know if you have read it or if you are simply ignoring it. There is a person in your common section who goes by the name Dear Leah, I am sure you have seen her because she is everywhere. She is rude, obnoxious, and very mean towards anybody who may have a question for you. Something as simple as someone asking your age or what does Belle want to study, she attacks them and tells them to mind their own business, and that they have no right asking such questions. She truly needs to be spoken to by you to ask her to stop harassing your viewers. You are losing viewers due to her because I see people right back and say that they will unsubscribe because of her.
Hi Sara! BRAVO for the advice to the person thinking about doing parenting alone by choice… Children need if at all possible both a mom and a dad……It can be done but is such a difficult road…You were brave for saying so!
I'm just enchanted with your little girl hovering around behind you. She's not actually seeking attention, but rather she seems to be more interested in being with you. I always want to hug your little ones!!
I completely agree with you in regards to organic food. I do buy some organic and prefer it but I definitely think that some things are being considered organic when it’s not.
To Donor Mom, If you are financially able and prepared for emergencies, then follow your heart. Being married is not a guarantee for anything, good husband, provider or father. If having kids is important to you, you should try.
I've never found "that one man" but have always had a desire to have children. I ended up adopting a child internationally who happens to have Down Syndrome, then fostering and adopting another baby that was a micro premie at birth. It is definitely hard sometimes without a husband (but then probably easier at other times). But I knew God was calling me to it, which meant he would definitely provide. There are so many children in this world that need help...pray for direction on where you can go.
May God bless you and your children! I had a friend years ago that was single but felt a calling to adopt a special needs girl from overseas. Years later that turned into her adopting two more children with the same situation … and in the midst of that process God brought her the right man to help her. It takes special people to do such a thing. 😇 🕊 Blessings to you!
Thanks for sharing. Just a thought for your other viewers. Most people I know in ministry will NOT ask for help (and some might need to be persuaded to accept it!), but it's always greatly appreciated. As a school teacher, with many extended family and close friends in ministry, I would use some of my "down time" (vacations, holidays, summers) to volunteer to watch/plan fun-filled play days for ministry worker's families. I'd also make myself available to watch their kids for "date nights," etc. Just a thought for your other viewers. Most people I know in ministry will NOT ask for help (and some might need to be persuaded to accept it!), but it's always greatly appreciated. ❤🙏 There is nothing "special " about me, and I do not seek rewards here, but as a child, I observed this need throughout my family and realized that 'I could help.'
To the woman whose clock is ticking. Follow your heart. There are a lot of worse things than being a single mom. You can wait for the right man and end up single anyway and have the drama of custody fights. If it’s meant to be a wonderful man will come into your and your child’s life and be a dad to him or her.
Just want to say that I respect you for honestly giving your opinion without being judgmental even if you disagree. I'm a Christian, single mother via a donor (originally planned to adopt but decided not to). I believe I have the children God wanted me to have. So glad I moved forward with it. I have a teen and a tween.
Sarah, you are correct about organic- I have talked to 3 farmers and all 3 had said, "How do you think they're going to grow crop w/ out pesticides to keep bugs from destroying their crops. So, that was the answer I got. I pick and choose on if I want some organic or not when it comes to buying. I believe the best you can do is have your own garden and that itself is a another chore, for sure- God bless you all, your great people.
Oh you are so right on the present of a father, in kids lives. My grandson has a daughter and him and mom don’t get along but he gets his daughter almost everyday she spins the night every week. She loves him so much and he her. I raised two with the help of my family. Believe me it would have been nice to have their dad. Financially and well as general help. ❤amen Sarah!
I have 4 kids 11, 5, 4 & 4. I am planning on homeschooling them next school year. The only problem is that I hardly know how to start it up. I’m very introverted but I’m trying to push through and get this started for my kids. Sorry for the rambling. Love your videos!
Brotherly and sisterly love is so important. I love the way they care for each other and e can tell they enjoy each others company. So many smiles all the time
We used to live in the middle of the Central Valley in California surrounded by agriculture. Organic fields and orchards grow side by side with those that use all of the chemicals and pesticides. There is no way to keep those things from getting onto the "organic" produce when you consider the wind and the overspray from crop dusters, etc.
I am also subscribed to That Jewish Family. To help with the question of competing or jealous siblings, Sarah answered the way they did. They said that when their second child was born, they introduced both children by telling the first child that the new sibling was his baby and they were very exited about acting as though they were gifting the younger sibling to the older. This makes the older sibling feel responsible for the child, instead of having the older feel replaced.
With me having 8 kids, I am also like you Sarah. We don't expect our older kids to care for any of the youngest ones. That's my job. 😁 But when my kids want to learn how to change a diaper, make formula for her bottle, and just hang out with the younger kids I let them. I also let them know, they are your siblings and hanging out with each other isn't always a bad thing. Especially since with the smaller kids: they have a fun sense of imagination. My 4 year old can create the wildest tales ever.
Loved your response to the organic food. We buy almost everything organic not just NON GMO and we are a family of 13 but I’ve been living this way for 20 years and you are right a family would have to make a good budget to live this way. It’s sad they charge so much but farming for organic valley I know why they do. Love your doing these talks! Love from Wisconsin!💕
I totally agree with you on the organic labels in the stores! I don’t feel like I can ever trust them. Also, places like Whole Foods get their products outside of the country but the standards for organic labels aren’t as strict in other countries!
You are so right about a lot of 'organic' labeling in stores. A family member lived in several different islands that exported lots of fruits and vegetables to USA. She laughed when when she came home to see all the organic rage here. She said most of those farmers don't know the meaning of the word, but because the USA wants/loves organic, they slap that labeling on most of their produce and get better prices for them!
Dear Sarah, thank you for your segment on ladies who are over the age and not ever being able to have children - I've been teaching for almost 22 years and nothing surpresses the pain of going home every evening alone and not being able to have children of your own🙏
A lot of good answers Sarah!!! I am a 59 yr old woman who grew up without a Dad because he was killed when i was 6. It was very tuff not having a Dad in my life I still at my age now have issues with it.
I am very sorry for your having had to go through this. My son had a father who was alive but did not have the slightest interest in him. Whatever the reason for not having a father, it's very traumatic and never really goes away.
@@marianapgar4409 that is the saddest and more traumatic than my situation. I hate that for your son. The only thing that I cling to is that I have a Heavenly Father who is that Father to the fatherless and loves me way more than anyone ever could.
You’re correct about not trusting organic. I know 100% that some of the sellers at our farmer’s market who say they’re organic, source their plants from a local nursery that is not organic.
Totally agree about the balance of never involving the elder kids and having them raise the younger kids. I raised my younger brothers - never harbored any hard feelings about it but my friends who did raise theirs did - so it’s very, very important to have that balance. It’s so hard to describe what that balance is, but it is there. Take care Sarah!
Your friend Kim is right You are Great I love watching you and Solo and your sweet family ...yall are so patient and your kids are a lot to be proud of ..no doubt they are or are growing into wonderful adults...Great Job
Them Before Us is a great book that shows the other side of using a donor by choice, single parenting, etc. It's such an eye-opener and includes facts I just had no idea about.
Great video! Was a single parent for many years because my first marriage was a bust and after it had to raise 3 daughters. Am thankful they were girls because as a woman can relate to them a lot, but honestly must agree that the dynamic of having both parents together is critical to raising kids. They help each other while raising and guiding those kids.
You are so amazing. Your “Ask Sarah” was the best idea you’ve had yet. You basically covered every topic out there with the help of your viewers. I love listening to you and your thoughts on any and every topic. Stay cool and Godspeed.
Totally agree about trusting the organic label! My brother worked in a particular aspect of the industry, and shady things were going on concerning using insecticide. Anyone with a garden knows you cannot produce food that looks that good without commercial, non-organic pesticides. Especially now that the demand for “organic” is so much higher. It has caused me to lose faith in the label as well.
I definitely think having kids is important to me. And I’m 34 so that question hits home. I would definitely say if you want a kid do what your heart desires. I’ve thought about having a baby or adopting so maybe in the next few years. But truly you do what your heart desires.
Regarding the morning sickness question asked: I became nauseous from the first month through the third. My first trip to the bathroom was to throw up even though my stomach was empty after sleeping through the night. It was mostly dry-heaving but still upsetting for my stomach. Fortunately, the vomiting was only once in the morning for three months. I also could not stand the smell of coffee at any time during the entire pregnancy: my husband loved having his coffee frequently. Painful leg cramps upon awakening in the mornings were a constant annoyance. My food cravings were mostly for seafood like shrimp, and even clams that I never liked before. I think genetics has a lot to do with a woman's pregnancy and the conditions she experiences.
Yes! I totally agree about the validity of organic labels in the stores. Also, organic fertilizers can cause issues as well. Arsenic is a naturally occurring compound so it isn't just about if something is occurring naturally to be safe!
1000% agree with you on everything you said. If you didn’t grow it from your lane then you don’t know it’s truly organic, I have many friends who have chosen single motherhood and while I admire their determination I personally couldn’t do it without my husband. The value he adds to our lives is unimaginable. We did the vegan challenge with y’all and on day two we made cauliflower buffalo wings and were immediately like nope we want our ranch and real wings lol
I am a 73 yr old woman from Oregon, with 2 children, and a lovely husband. Motherhood came with two children in diapers, three years apart. You would think at 49 I would know a lot about babies and toddlers but that was not the case. How I wish I had a friend like you. I've learned so much from your family. My strength and my hope has been in the Lord. My son is 25, and my daughter is now 22. And my blessings are too many to count. What is success. It's not the sum totals of our mistakes and successes. It's what we have become. I love my children, my husband's other children (his first wife died) and my husband. The secret is getting up when trials come and allowing God to be a part of our life. Keeping a song, a melody in your heart and the "Word" in your life. Allowing mistakes to become our stepping stones. Allowing service to others to become permanently part of our life. You exemplify these traits to me. Thank you.
I had an absent husband and he would only come home on weekends every 4/5 weeks I don’t know how I did it but I had to do it there was no other choice. Thank god I only had 4 I never had anyone to share the chores or the care of them. I admire men who are willing to step up to the plate and do their share. While I only had an absent husband my children had to live with an absent father and that was really hard on them. Thank god the boys grew up to be involved fathers with their own children.
You are so right about the organic quality. We know an all organic farmer who works very hard to keep organic but we also know farmers market farmers who remove labels and sell it as organic 😮
I agree with this. My children have second mothers they chose for themselves. So so many children need loving mother figures even if they have wonderful mom's you can never have too many women who love you spend time with you and support you in life.
What a blessing you are Sarah. This is such a great idea GOD gave you. Your servants heart can reach so many mamas this way. You are so kind and thoughtful in your answers and your advice is spot on. GOD bless you my dear!! I’m an old lady long past raising children but very much love watching you do it. I can pass this on to lots of young mothers that I do know. ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
I had morning sickness with my daughter 1 day, with my son 2 weeks, with my last son it was about 3 days. Just remember every pregnancy is different and all were special and you remember that you can handle it, God never gives you more then you can handle.
To the single lady who wanted to know about using donor sperm to have a baby. Follow ur heart ❤️ being a mother is amazing , doing it alone , or with someone you will be an amazing mother ! any man down the road will stick around if they truly love you.
I agree with so many of your opinions but not on single parenting. I would never suggest someone forgo the Mom experience, not have a child because they are unmarried. I was a single parent most of my child’s life. He had a Dad that was involved but I carried the bulk of responsibility. I would never want for a woman to not experience Motherhood and later having a grandchild, because of a societal standard.
This is something I have been really struggling with lately. I want so badly to experience motherhood but at the same time I do not want to selfishly bring a child into the world if they will not have what is best for them.
This is the third channel that I am subscribed to with and American and Kenyan couple. I also watch "Benjamin and Akinyi" and "The Wanyonyi Family". All beautiful, loving, Christian families!
I think the little bit of wind noise was worth it to have the view! The wind wasn’t bad at all! I am really digging the three uploads a week! Thank you!
Love, love this new "Ask Sarah" vlog! I was wondering how you and Solo met? Would love to know how your family got started!! Keep up the great work Sarah! Much love from Canada! ❤
I love your chanel I'm 73 and my kids are grown, but is nice to see the you doing alot of things I did for my four. I became a singe mom when my baby was 18 months. I had to figure out everything because I was nurse and had to go back to work. So I worked nights so my children could have a normal life. This was back in the 80s so freezer meals was not a thing buy I did it,and the crockpot was my friend . Sorry for to long post.
Yes!!! To choose to have a child who won't have both parents is statistically not a good idea and the child will always feel like something is missing.
Some kids do not benefit equally from a mom and dad. If your dad hated his wife and children, was abusive etc. no one benefits. People always go on and on about having both parents RUBBISH....... Each family is different.
I definitely fell into the camp of NOT letting older siblings help with younger ones because I have watched cousins have to do more than just helping younger siblings at all family functions/gatherings. I was worried that my own overwhelm with motherhood would lead me to fall down that slippery slope as well and refused to do that to my children. HOWEVER, I can see that not allowing it has also had a negative impact on their relationships and we are now working to build those connections they missed out on in healthy ways.
Jasmine-do it. I live near Sarah-I’m in Omaha nebraska-I just turned 37 and have a 1 month old daughter via ivf who is a donor baby. I love Sarah but I disagree because she doesn’t know. I have it to god as well to bring me somebody to have a baby and it didn’t happen. I believe ivf/donor and that entire process was also given by god, he made drs to fix us if we have cancer, etc-he also made them to help us bring more blessing into this world. Being a mother figure to others was not enough for me. I am an amazing aunt and girl member tribe for my other mamas in my life but it is not the same. I am holding my daughter as I write this-it isn’t. Iwanted to be a mom. It may seem selfish and I get not everybody agrees but I wanted to be a mom, I’m a great mom even tho I’m new at it lol, and I deserve to be happy and I believe this soul was meant to be here and meant to be mine. If you have ivf questions you can email me! Take care and god bless
Yeah children need fathers in there development. My baby is 10 months old and her dad plays a role one her development and has been a big support of me breastfeeding this long
My daughter has an 18 year old, a 16 year old and an 18 month old! She plans to try for another soon. She is forty and for her it has been like starting a whole new family. Praying for the mom who is in her blessed situation.
To the woman who asked about solo motherhood. Please do not be pu off by one person's opinion. Lots of well rounded kids come.from solo mums. Don't give up your chance of kids waiting for a man.
Agree. I was married but after 2 kids got divorced amicably (twice actually🙆) & while the boys were options for them, they NVR were for me. Great kids. Best of luck to you💞✌
A child is a blessing no matter your marital status. Your child will be wanted and loved. Go for it. Life is short and it is not a one size fits all world.
true about organic. fruit/vegetables grown in other countries have no oversight not to mention that they are flown/handled extensively. local is the way to go along with cleaning the fruit before eating it.
Well done Sara, you've tackled a few tough questions, I totally agree with you regarding organic foods, I live in NZ and the price of organics is hideous. I hope people are respectful with this new segment of Q&As, I adore your channel, in a world that is chaotic and full of woe, your channel and content brings that splash of wholesomeness. Thank you.
So sorry about the wind, guys! Real amateur move on my part. It has better moments and worse moments throughout the video. Promise I will film inside next week! 😂. To those of you with high tolerance for sound, thank you for sticking out the video and watching. You deserve a gold star ⭐️ today.
It's just wind no one fell off the dock or was run over by a boat. The scenery was gorgeous! 👍🌻
Everything was beautiful Sarah, including you. Amen to all your answers!
Don't worry about the wind your fans are down to earth like yourself and I just enjoy listening and watching you and your gorgeous family. Xx
I'm a boater and love the background ❤.
The wind wasn’t bad at all. I heard you clearly.
I am a stay at home mom to allow my husband to work outside the home without fear of child care issues or cost. We have a combined family and have 8 children collectively and two grandchildren. I've been in the thick of it for many years. Finding your family several years ago has been such a blessing. I've learned so much. I've felt validated with many things. I've seen where I need to make changes in how my family functions based on watching you succeed or share your lessons. What you are doing here on YT matters. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your comment. Sounds like you are doing an amazing job with your family!
Sara, one of the greatest compliments I have received in life was from our older son. He was almost 6 years older than his brother. We had a little girl who died at age 18 months because of a congenital tumor. I got pregnant again and had another boy. So you know how harried a young mother can be with a small child and a baby. You feel like you’re probably rushing and snapping and just can’t find enough time. But I was bathing the baby one day and my older son was watching me bathing his baby brother. He said “I wish I could be a mom.” I said “oh really? why is that? He said “because you look like you have so much fun!” I told him, “ oh how sweet! well when you are grown and your wife has a baby, then you can do it all the time.”
That's great! Our kids are watching us all the time.
I’m team donor mom. It takes a village but it doesn’t have to be your spouse that fills that roll. Being a parent is incredible and worth so much to me, I wouldn’t change it for the world! That empty feeling of infertility was a nightmare and I’m so blessed to have an angel who blessed me with my baby boy.
Don't agree. It is selfish.
@rosabacketts 1668: A child needs a mother and a father. A sperm donator is not a proper paternal contributor to raising a girl or a boy to adulthood. Men and women need to understand the sacredness of begetting a child.
I’m a 37 year old single mom by choice to a 13 month old boy. I used an anonymous donor and went through IVF when I was 35. It’s an enormous challenge but doable and worth it. My son is my world and cannot imagine life without him. If Jasmine is reading this, if your heart is calling you to motherhood you know yourself better than anybody and should make that choice for yourself. Sarah makes very valid points about support systems, and being on your own in all choices is HARD. But being a “village mom” versus being someone’s actual mom does not equate to the same thing.
I agree it is not the same thing, but I don’t think Sarah meant that. I think she just meant if you absolutely cannot have a child of your own, you might find comfort in filling that mothering ‘urge’ with the village. Or even if you can have kids, but didn’t or whatever the case is! Just positivity!! 🤗🤗
@Ariel, I just read your comment! I'm so happy to hear of so many smbc stories. I'm definitely going to pursue this route; I was trying to ask Sarah what age to start (not if I should do it!!). Thanks for sharing your story, and for giving encouragement. It'll be my most difficult life pursuit, but worth it 🩷🩷🩷
To Jasmine: I adopted my daughter a month before turning 40. She’s been the greatest blessing of my life. It hasn’t been easy financially but I would definitely do it again. If I had been financially able I would have adopted more or taken in foster children. I worked as a special education teacher so obviously have a great love for children. There are many pro’s and con’s to single parenthood but I think my daughter had it better with me than many of my students had it with 2 parents. Follow your heart 🙏💚
If you don't mind sharing, what route did you take to adopt? I am single and looking into adoption but am not sure about the route to take.
@@valcomments3045 I chose the private route because it was the quickest method and the one I had most control of. I almost went the foreign route but that usually requires several trips abroad and I just didn’t have the time. Fost-adopt is a much less expensive route but for infants you’re looking at babies who are born testing positive for maternal drug abuse and are not normally released to the mother (though this may vary by state) and mom has 6 months to get clean and can take the baby back. If you’re open to older children the foster care system is a great place to start. A lot depends on your budget and how long you’re willing to wait. After months of research, I chose to work with an adoption attorney. He told me average time to be matched with a birth mother is 6 months and is usually about a year before you have a baby. He also warned me that as a single parent it might take a bit longer since most birth mothers are single and choosing not to raise their child alone. Many want their child to have 2 parents. All that being said…I submitted my paperwork on Halloween
Sorry, that sent before I finished. I submitted my paperwork on my lunch break on Halloween and had a message from my attorney 3 hours later saying he had a birth mother for me. We met, liked each other, she chose me over other potential adoptive parents primarily because I was 100% open to an open adoption. I wanted my child to know her birth mother. My beautiful daughter was born January 7 meaning the entire process took less than 2 1/2 months. That’s unheard of. Because it all happened so smoothly and quickly I truly believe it was divinely ordained. My beautiful daughter is now 22 and the most amazing young woman I know. I wish you all the best.
I watch every video but today the comments about single mums hurt. We get judge everyday! At work. At the park and just by general. People that never have been a single parent don’t understand. It like when you get bad comments on you tube about your family and how that makes you feel. That’s what you did to mine. My child is so happy.
Sarah, I appreciate your comments about being a single mother by choice. I also think God has different plans for different people. I was in a very similar situation as the woman who asked the question. I prayed fervently and asked God if it was His will for me to adopt to please let me feel at peace. Within one month a birth mother sought me out and 3 days later I was that baby boy’s mother! I have always known God’s hand was in this adoption! That baby is now 29 years old and an amazing man. He has had male mentors and a great relationship with his grandpa. He was very involved in Boy Scouts through church and became an Eagle Scout. When God is at the center you KNOW it!! 💜
Beautiful story!
I'm a single mother by choice to two young boys and it is the best decision I've ever made! Obviously not the way I would have planned it but I knew I really wanted to be a mum more than anything and now I have my wish.
Me too, with two boys also ❤
This makes me so happy!! I've been preparing to take on the journey solo (if I can't find a mate) - no need to miss out on motherhood when we have modern day options. Thanks for sharing. 🩷🩷
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I'm a single Mama to one little boy, and I wouldn't have it any other way!! I love my little dude with everything I am/have! ❤❤
Been a single mother is hard work but the reward is so great.
Sarah I respect that response regarding being a single mom on purpose ❤
First let me say I LOVED THIS VIDEO!!! It was great hearing the questions and your responses. To the women with the 10 month old who's husband works many hours. My husband drove school bus during the day and was the night custodian at the school. Poor guy was never home, but my daughter's and I 2 nights a week would make dinner, pack the picnic basket, nice plates, tablecloth, drinks, go to the school, meet him and have a wonderful family dinner. We made it work! It's not easy but we came up with plans to keep family time. Hope this helps. God bless ❤
The single women who don't have children around me are such a blessing to me and my children. They have adopted my kids as their own and they are able to give so much love to our family!
Shout out to the Mama with 8 aged 8 and under!!! Whew!!! I'm a mama to 9 aged 12 and under, and it's intense! I just imagine it's more so for you!
I agree!!!! Shout out to her! 👏
Wow I was always a babysitter an had lots of kids in my house but having lots of kids an they never get to go home... 😂 I'm sure u love them wholeheartingly. I would have had a bunch of them too but it takes 2 to raise kids.
Wow I was always a babysitter an had lots of kids in my house but having lots of kids an they never get to go home... 😂 I'm sure u love them wholeheartingly. I would have had a bunch of them too but it takes 2 to raise kids.
My older sister brought me and my two older sisters and one older brother and one younger brother up by herself because my mother died of cancer when l was 7 years old my father died of angina 18 months ather my mother died of cancer my sister married fell apart because of my brother in law not very nice person as well as her own two children she did such a good job rasing us that social services here in uk asked her and us as one family to be Foster mother to looked ather children in social services care she did it for 20 years we as a family loved looking ather looked ather children sadly my older big sister died nearly 9 years ago now still have one of her looked ather child living with me still she's adult now but has special needs she had the choice to go back 8n to adult care but she had think about it ather couple of days she told me that she loved living with me and my family wanted to stay with me my other sister how is two years older than me lives down road from me if there's problem she or any other of my family will come and help if it's needed that's wot big family do they help each other when needed
I really appreciated your honesty with your answers, it can be hard to be honest without passing judgement and also not just give platitudes. I am in my late 40's without children and really appreciated what you said about other ways to 'mother'... I love kids, and between working with them, and being close to and helping with my siblings' and friends' kids, I have found a lot of fulfillment in that part of my life. Thanks for sharing!
I definitely agree with you with the organic stuff. The health issues that you can get from not eating your fruits and vegetables is more important than being obsessed with organic. I grew up with potato farmers in my family and I always wondered why they sprayed the pesticides and if it was necessary. And then as I'm older, I lost my entire garden in one day due to blight. The risk of disease is much higher when you have big field and it's better to have good crop then to lose everything and then people have less food to buy
I love this new video series you are doing! I can’t count how many times I’ve thought “I wish I had a friend like Sarah to hear her thoughts on x or y. And I really respect you answering the tough questions and doing it so thoughtfully and respectfully. I completely agree with you on the fatherhood point and I loved hearing your perspective on organic! We’ve been primarily organic buyers for about a decade and I am being less impressed with it and more impressed with food grown locally as well! But I love the perspective of doing the best we can when we can and I feel like your channel has helped support that perspective for me when I struggle to be perfect sometimes.
About organic fruit: thick skinned fruit such as banana, avocado, orange etc. is not even worth to buy because the pesticides hardly ever make it to the fruit it stays in the skin. Where it's worth it to buy organic fruit are berries but with your large land just buy some blueberry, raspberry and currant shrubs and you can have your own organic berries on a dime and they are low maintenance too!
Good morning from East Texas! Loved this video. I’m 67…and my Babymaking ended at 29 😊. But my Season as Nana is just as fulfilling as a Mom of 2. I completely agree with your position on buying “organic” from the grocery store. Same for “Keto” labeled foods. Prices are ridiculous…and you are better off with scratch made whenever possible. Many Blessings to you all ❤
I’m from Southeast Texas!
Your season of nana came after your season of motherhood.. two totally different things.
Hey I am from Wills Point I miss E Texas
@@shellyb5014 wasn’t my point
@@rebeccasanford8607 oh ok. I thought your point was about single people being mother figures to other people’s children.
Great job with your honest answers. I liked that you clearly emphasized that these were your opinion and that you responded with what works for you and from what you have observed.
I agree with you 💯 regarding organic foods in grocery stores.
To the mom of the 10 month old whose husband is working a lot: what has helped me, is getting outside often with my little one. It's relaxing and refreshing for both mom and baby!
That does help a lot!
@@OurTribeofMany hello Sarah. I have left you the following message a few times 😅now but I don’t know if you have read it or if you are simply ignoring it. There is a person in your common section who goes by the name Dear Leah, I am sure you have seen her because she is everywhere. She is rude, obnoxious, and very mean towards anybody who may have a question for you. Something as simple as someone asking your age or what does Belle want to study, she attacks them and tells them to mind their own business, and that they have no right asking such questions. She truly needs to be spoken to by you to ask her to stop harassing your viewers. You are losing viewers due to her because I see people right back and say that they will unsubscribe because of her.
Hi Sara! BRAVO for the advice to the person thinking about doing parenting alone by choice… Children need if at all possible both a mom and a dad……It can be done but is such a difficult road…You were brave for saying so!
I'm just enchanted with your little girl hovering around behind you. She's not actually seeking attention, but rather she seems to be more interested in being with you. I always want to hug your little ones!!
I completely agree with you in regards to organic food. I do buy some organic and prefer it but I definitely think that some things are being considered organic when it’s not.
To Donor Mom, If you are financially able and prepared for emergencies, then follow your heart. Being married is not a guarantee for anything, good husband, provider or father. If having kids is important to you, you should try.
I've never found "that one man" but have always had a desire to have children. I ended up adopting a child internationally who happens to have Down Syndrome, then fostering and adopting another baby that was a micro premie at birth. It is definitely hard sometimes without a husband (but then probably easier at other times). But I knew God was calling me to it, which meant he would definitely provide. There are so many children in this world that need help...pray for direction on where you can go.
May God bless you and your children!
I had a friend years ago that was single but felt a calling to adopt a special needs girl from overseas. Years later that turned into her adopting two more children with the same situation … and in the midst of that process God brought her the right man to help her. It takes special people to do such a thing. 😇 🕊 Blessings to you!
@@WS-by5cl Love this!
Knowing what God wants is the most important thing.
I'm surprised some are saying this is poor video quality - yes, there's some wind noise at times but Sarah can be heard very clearly
Some people seem to forget that this is not a movie set 😂
That's great.
Wonderful!! The lovely view out weighed the wind noise!! I am sure you are enjoying your time in Florida!!
Thanks for sharing. Just a thought for your other viewers. Most people I know in ministry will NOT ask for help (and some might need to be persuaded to accept it!), but it's always greatly appreciated. As a school teacher, with many extended family and close friends in ministry, I would use some of my "down time" (vacations, holidays, summers) to volunteer to watch/plan fun-filled play days for ministry worker's families. I'd also make myself available to watch their kids for "date nights," etc. Just a thought for your other viewers. Most people I know in ministry will NOT ask for help (and some might need to be persuaded to accept it!), but it's always greatly appreciated. ❤🙏 There is nothing "special " about me, and I do not seek rewards here, but as a child, I observed this need throughout my family and realized that 'I could help.'
To the woman whose clock is ticking. Follow your heart. There are a lot of worse things than being a single mom. You can wait for the right man and end up single anyway and have the drama of custody fights. If it’s meant to be a wonderful man will come into your and your child’s life and be a dad to him or her.
The scenery was well worth the wind! So glad you are doing these Q&As.
Just want to say that I respect you for honestly giving your opinion without being judgmental even if you disagree. I'm a Christian, single mother via a donor (originally planned to adopt but decided not to). I believe I have the children God wanted me to have. So glad I moved forward with it. I have a teen and a tween.
Sarah, Great answer to the motherhood question. There are so many kids who would love a mother figure. ❤ Ask God for His will!!
Sarah, you are correct about organic- I have talked to 3 farmers and all 3 had said, "How do you think they're going to grow crop w/ out pesticides to keep bugs from destroying their crops. So, that was the answer I got. I pick and choose on if I want some organic or not when it comes to buying. I believe the best you can do is have your own garden and that itself is a another chore, for sure- God bless you all, your great people.
Oh you are so right on the present of a father, in kids lives. My grandson has a daughter and him and mom don’t get along but he gets his daughter almost everyday she spins the night every week. She loves him so much and he her. I raised two with the help of my family. Believe me it would have been nice to have their dad. Financially and well as general help. ❤amen Sarah!
I have 4 kids 11, 5, 4 & 4. I am planning on homeschooling them next school year. The only problem is that I hardly know how to start it up. I’m very introverted but I’m trying to push through and get this started for my kids. Sorry for the rambling. Love your videos!
You can do it! There is a lot of help in most communities.
Brotherly and sisterly love is so important. I love the way they care for each other and e can tell they enjoy each others company. So many smiles all the time
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We used to live in the middle of the Central Valley in California surrounded by agriculture. Organic fields and orchards grow side by side with those that use all of the chemicals and pesticides. There is no way to keep those things from getting onto the "organic" produce when you consider the wind and the overspray from crop dusters, etc.
I am also subscribed to That Jewish Family. To help with the question of competing or jealous siblings, Sarah answered the way they did. They said that when their second child was born, they introduced both children by telling the first child that the new sibling was his baby and they were very exited about acting as though they were gifting the younger sibling to the older. This makes the older sibling feel responsible for the child, instead of having the older feel replaced.
Interesting concept.
With me having 8 kids, I am also like you Sarah. We don't expect our older kids to care for any of the youngest ones. That's my job. 😁 But when my kids want to learn how to change a diaper, make formula for her bottle, and just hang out with the younger kids I let them. I also let them know, they are your siblings and hanging out with each other isn't always a bad thing. Especially since with the smaller kids: they have a fun sense of imagination. My 4 year old can create the wildest tales ever.
I ❤ their imaginations at that age, 😮😅😊, truly creating individuals n character in the early years 💗💥💗❗
Loved your response to the organic food. We buy almost everything organic not just NON GMO and we are a family of 13 but I’ve been living this way for 20 years and you are right a family would have to make a good budget to live this way. It’s sad they charge so much but farming for organic valley I know why they do. Love your doing these talks! Love from Wisconsin!💕
I worked in the grocery industry for over a decade and it's not that organic is expensive, it's that the non organic is really cheap.
@@americanmomma7744 Yes, a lot of conventional foods are subsidized by the government.
@@naturalsimplelivingwhat’s wrong with that?
I totally agree with you on the organic labels in the stores! I don’t feel like I can ever trust them. Also, places like Whole Foods get their products outside of the country but the standards for organic labels aren’t as strict in other countries!
You are so right about a lot of 'organic' labeling in stores. A family member lived in several different islands that exported lots of fruits and vegetables to USA. She laughed when when she came home to see all the organic rage here. She said most of those farmers don't know the meaning of the word, but because the USA wants/loves organic, they slap that labeling on most of their produce and get better prices for them!
Dear Sarah, thank you for your segment on ladies who are over the age and not ever being able to have children - I've been teaching for almost 22 years and nothing surpresses the pain of going home every evening alone and not being able to have children of your own🙏
A lot of good answers Sarah!!!
I am a 59 yr old woman who grew up without a Dad because he was killed when i was 6. It was very tuff not having a Dad in my life I still at my age now have issues with it.
wow...thanks for sharing.
I am very sorry for your having had to go through this. My son had a father who was alive but did not have the slightest interest in him. Whatever the reason for not having a father, it's very traumatic and never really goes away.
@@marianapgar4409 that is the saddest and more traumatic than my situation. I hate that for your son.
The only thing that I cling to is that I have a Heavenly Father who is that Father to the fatherless and loves me way more than anyone ever could.
@@sheriturner6118 Thank you for your kindness. My son and I will remember your comforting words.
Sarah I have been watching you and Solo for a long time. You both are amazing people. Keep doing what you're doing.
Thanks! So glad you enjoy our channel.
Your so true about certified organic labels.
You’re correct about not trusting organic. I know 100% that some of the sellers at our farmer’s market who say they’re organic, source their plants from a local nursery that is not organic.
Totally agree about the balance of never involving the elder kids and having them raise the younger kids. I raised my younger brothers - never harbored any hard feelings about it but my friends who did raise theirs did - so it’s very, very important to have that balance. It’s so hard to describe what that balance is, but it is there.
Take care Sarah!
Yes....balance!
Your friend Kim is right You are Great I love watching you and Solo and your sweet family ...yall are so patient and your kids are a lot to be proud of ..no doubt they are or are growing into wonderful adults...Great Job
Them Before Us is a great book that shows the other side of using a donor by choice, single parenting, etc. It's such an eye-opener and includes facts I just had no idea about.
Thank you for your response regarding the donor question and your comments on women who never marry or marry later in life and don’t have children. ❤️
Great video! Was a single parent for many years because my first marriage was a bust and after it had to raise 3 daughters. Am thankful they were girls because as a woman can relate to them a lot, but honestly must agree that the dynamic of having both parents together is critical to raising kids. They help each other while raising and guiding those kids.
You are so amazing. Your “Ask Sarah” was the best idea you’ve had yet. You basically covered every topic out there with the help of your viewers. I love listening to you and your thoughts on any and every topic. Stay cool and Godspeed.
So glad!
I'm in Australia. And I also question the validity of " organic " products
Totally agree about trusting the organic label! My brother worked in a particular aspect of the industry, and shady things were going on concerning using insecticide. Anyone with a garden knows you cannot produce food that looks that good without commercial, non-organic pesticides. Especially now that the demand for “organic” is so much higher. It has caused me to lose faith in the label as well.
Enjoying the Ask Sarah Tuesday!
I definitely think having kids is important to me. And I’m 34 so that question hits home. I would definitely say if you want a kid do what your heart desires. I’ve thought about having a baby or adopting so maybe in the next few years. But truly you do what your heart desires.
Regarding the morning sickness question asked: I became nauseous from the first month through the third. My first trip to the bathroom was to throw up even though my stomach was empty after sleeping through the night. It was mostly dry-heaving but still upsetting for my stomach. Fortunately, the vomiting was only once in the morning for three months. I also could not stand the smell of coffee at any time during the entire pregnancy: my husband loved having his coffee frequently. Painful leg cramps upon awakening in the mornings were a constant annoyance. My food cravings were mostly for seafood like shrimp, and even clams that I never liked before. I think genetics has a lot to do with a woman's pregnancy and the conditions she experiences.
Yes! I totally agree about the validity of organic labels in the stores. Also, organic fertilizers can cause issues as well. Arsenic is a naturally occurring compound so it isn't just about if something is occurring naturally to be safe!
Thank you for the comment on Organic foods! I have felt this way myself! Nice to know I am not alone!
1000% agree with you on everything you said. If you didn’t grow it from your lane then you don’t know it’s truly organic, I have many friends who have chosen single motherhood and while I admire their determination I personally couldn’t do it without my husband. The value he adds to our lives is unimaginable. We did the vegan challenge with y’all and on day two we made cauliflower buffalo wings and were immediately like nope we want our ranch and real wings lol
I am a 73 yr old woman from Oregon, with 2 children, and a lovely husband. Motherhood came with two children in diapers, three years apart. You would think at 49 I would know a lot about babies and toddlers but that was not the case. How I wish I had a friend like you. I've learned so much from your family. My strength and my hope has been in the Lord. My son is 25, and my daughter is now 22. And my blessings are too many to count. What is success. It's not the sum totals of our mistakes and successes. It's what we have become. I love my children, my husband's other children (his first wife died) and my husband. The secret is getting up when trials come and allowing God to be a part of our life. Keeping a song, a melody in your heart and the "Word" in your life. Allowing mistakes to become our stepping stones. Allowing service to others to become permanently part of our life. You exemplify these traits to me. Thank you.
I agree on your statement regarding organic foods. Sometimes I am shopping and question if products are really organic lol
Sarah. I completely agree with you regarding non-gmo and USDA Certified organic foods/labeling. I stopped buying these about 3 years ago.
I had an absent husband and he would only come home on weekends every 4/5 weeks I don’t know how I did it but I had to do it there was no other choice. Thank god I only had 4 I never had anyone to share the chores or the care of them. I admire men who are willing to step up to the plate and do their share. While I only had an absent husband my children had to live with an absent father and that was really hard on them. Thank god the boys grew up to be involved fathers with their own children.
Florida is beautiful. Water everywhere which I love. Too bad the humidity is AWFUL.
You are so right about the organic quality. We know an all organic farmer who works very hard to keep organic but we also know farmers market farmers who remove labels and sell it as organic 😮
I agree with this. My children have second mothers they chose for themselves. So so many children need loving mother figures even if they have wonderful mom's you can never have too many women who love you spend time with you and support you in life.
I love you sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. Thank you for being true to yourself and your family!
What a blessing you are Sarah. This is such a great idea GOD gave you. Your servants heart can reach so many mamas this way. You are so kind and thoughtful in your answers and your advice is spot on. GOD bless you my dear!! I’m an old lady long past raising children but very much love watching you do it. I can pass this on to lots of young mothers that I do know. ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
That's great that you want to pass this on to others!
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Yes!! ✋✋👍 I'm looking at that now. I enjoy watching the farmers market.
I had morning sickness with my daughter 1 day, with my son 2 weeks, with my last son it was about 3 days. Just remember every pregnancy is different and all were special and you remember that you can handle it, God never gives you more then you can handle.
To the single lady who wanted to know about using donor sperm to have a baby. Follow ur heart ❤️ being a mother is amazing , doing it alone , or with someone you will be an amazing mother !
any man down the road will stick around if they truly love you.
I agree with so many of your opinions but not on single parenting. I would never suggest someone forgo the Mom experience, not have a child because they are unmarried. I was a single parent most of my child’s life. He had a Dad that was involved but I carried the bulk of responsibility. I would never want for a woman to not experience Motherhood and later having a grandchild, because of a societal standard.
This is something I have been really struggling with lately. I want so badly to experience motherhood but at the same time I do not want to selfishly bring a child into the world if they will not have what is best for them.
Definitely going to enjoy the Ask Sarah Videos for sure! This was great even with the wind lol. All great advice!!
Great video highlighting the questions sent in!
Loved this video, Sarah. Very interesting to hear different questions and issues that people are dealing with.
This is the third channel that I am subscribed to with and American and Kenyan couple. I also watch "Benjamin and Akinyi" and "The Wanyonyi Family". All beautiful, loving, Christian families!
I think the little bit of wind noise was worth it to have the view! The wind wasn’t bad at all! I am really digging the three uploads a week! Thank you!
Good! The view is amazing.
Love, love this new "Ask Sarah" vlog! I was wondering how you and Solo met? Would love to know how your family got started!! Keep up the great work Sarah! Much love from Canada! ❤
They’ve got a few videos up about that. 😊
In the description box there is a link to the video were we tell our 'story'!
Good advice. Unfortunately many fathers aren’t hands on parents. ☹️. The wind is lovely background music 🥰
I am oldest of 7. Growing up, us older 4 kids, we had to, dish up younger 3 kids dinner. It helped us bond together.
I love your chanel I'm 73 and my kids are grown, but is nice to see the you doing alot of things I did for my four. I became a singe mom when my baby was 18 months. I had to figure out everything because I was nurse and had to go back to work. So I worked nights so my children could have a normal life. This was back in the 80s so freezer meals was not a thing buy I did it,and the crockpot was my friend . Sorry for to long post.
Jazmine..kids really benefit from mom and dad equally. ❤ single mom not by choice...but by circumstance
Yes!!! To choose to have a child who won't have both parents is statistically not a good idea and the child will always feel like something is missing.
Some kids do not benefit equally from a mom and dad. If your dad hated his wife and children, was abusive etc. no one benefits. People always go on and on about having both parents RUBBISH....... Each family is different.
@@julietrostvit8211 This is a straw man. On average a fatherless upbringing has devastating consequences. That's just a statistical fact.
I definitely fell into the camp of NOT letting older siblings help with younger ones because I have watched cousins have to do more than just helping younger siblings at all family functions/gatherings. I was worried that my own overwhelm with motherhood would lead me to fall down that slippery slope as well and refused to do that to my children. HOWEVER, I can see that not allowing it has also had a negative impact on their relationships and we are now working to build those connections they missed out on in healthy ways.
I love this new series of questions I'll be looking forward to it each week
Jasmine-do it. I live near Sarah-I’m in Omaha nebraska-I just turned 37 and have a 1 month old daughter via ivf who is a donor baby. I love Sarah but I disagree because she doesn’t know. I have it to god as well to bring me somebody to have a baby and it didn’t happen. I believe ivf/donor and that entire process was also given by god, he made drs to fix us if we have cancer, etc-he also made them to help us bring more blessing into this world. Being a mother figure to others was not enough for me. I am an amazing aunt and girl member tribe for my other mamas in my life but it is not the same. I am holding my daughter as I write this-it isn’t. Iwanted to be a mom. It may seem selfish and I get not everybody agrees but I wanted to be a mom, I’m a great mom even tho I’m new at it lol, and I deserve to be happy and I believe this soul was meant to be here and meant to be mine. If you have ivf questions you can email me! Take care and god bless
I get the biggest tickle that Noelle makes an appearance is just about every video. She’s precious ❤
Yeah children need fathers in there development. My baby is 10 months old and her dad plays a role one her development and has been a big support of me breastfeeding this long
Lucky you 🩷
My daughter has an 18 year old, a 16 year old and an 18 month old! She plans to try for another soon. She is forty and for her it has been like starting a whole new family. Praying for the mom who is in her blessed situation.
My kids are 35, 16&14 plus I have a 5 year old grandson
To the woman who asked about solo motherhood. Please do not be pu off by one person's opinion. Lots of well rounded kids come.from solo mums. Don't give up your chance of kids waiting for a man.
Agree. I was married but after 2 kids got divorced amicably (twice actually🙆) & while the boys were options for them, they NVR were for me. Great kids. Best of luck to you💞✌
A child is a blessing no matter your marital status. Your child will be wanted and loved. Go for it. Life is short and it is not a one size fits all world.
You are so right Sarah the food in the stores are horrible thanks for sharing 5-25-2023👍🏽👍🏽❤
true about organic. fruit/vegetables grown in other countries have no oversight not to mention that they are flown/handled extensively. local is the way to go along with cleaning the fruit before eating it.
I agree with the grocery store foods validity on true organic or not
True it’s best to grow your own.
Sarah I love your channel, so wish we had had youtube and you 3 years ago!, I have 7, 23 to 36 all homeschooled. Great thoughts! Thanks for sharing
You are such an inspiration, thank you for your honest thoughts and you warm and kind advice on parenting and being a parent.
Love love love ask Sarah. Your honest, fresh, Christian focus is so important. Thank you. Sending love from Minnesota. 🐥
Love that you love this!
100% agree on the labels! Want to support sustainable foods, but not sure organic label means as much as people think.
These are great questions! And great answers!
Thanks for answering my organic question! It's something I've been trying to sort through in my own mind lately.
Well done Sara, you've tackled a few tough questions, I totally agree with you regarding organic foods, I live in NZ and the price of organics is hideous. I hope people are respectful with this new segment of Q&As, I adore your channel, in a world that is chaotic and full of woe, your channel and content brings that splash of wholesomeness. Thank you.
Thanks so much!