this really hurt to read, I think child sexual abuse is one of the worst things to happen to a person, and from personal experience I don't think I will ever get better and I don't think anyone can recover from it.
@@NoName-pu5ls thanks, I've learnt just to keep living, we can never change the past I hope you can do the same. its just that your words are truly touching x
I lost minw at a young age...too, though my family didnt knew and when symptoms sjowed up my parents and everyone else shamed for it instead trying to figure why i acted like that...either way, becuse of what the little boy did to me my mental health started to decline at an early age and instead of fixing it my parents would have learn educstipn and put that first before anything even thlugh i did that with video games....it got bad i ended up abusing another child in my teenage years.....i regret what i did...but i csnt help to think that if i wasnt abuse would things have diffrent
I was sexually abused as a kid... I have PTSD from all the sexual abuse I am 34 years old and still a virgin... I don't think i will ever be okay being naked with another person... I think what hurts the most is all the men who did this to me all have wives and kids... Like they take the my ability to be in love away from me but they still have it... Its like I'm jealous of them... IF I HAD ONE WISH IT BE TO BE LIKE EVERYONE ELSE...
I am so sorry reading of your suffering. My brother was abused in a sexual influence way as a 9 year old. With all the voicing there is listening, and empathy in the appropriate places. Being Health or Government centre or family friends. We all need support. It takes time to heal. You are OK and you are not alone. Abusers are not worth nothing. What you describe as your feelings are completely normal. These sods are waste of space and are often married after their lines of abuse. Often one victim is not their one & only. Do not suffer in silence. Perpetrators are not worth it. You are.
I have been abused when I was 14 by a guy who was six years elder to me..he kept relationship with me and promised to marry me no matter what..but when I was 22 he got married to his gf in a temple ..and my dad is a narcissist who always saw his children as an investment.It affected me academically I was drowning in search of help that how would I survive and I started things I liked to do.. I'm 25 im still virgin..and now I ended my engineering final year exam waiting for my results..his wife and he both are living happy lives and they both have actually abused me when I was a little girl both mentally , emotionally and the guy did it physically I'm lucky I managed to know the meaning of love and could understand the difference between love and lust ..so I could only save my self physically..I'm still suffering and the culprits are enjoying..Some times I feel this world has no place for truth and justice but I still have hope in the power of belief. I started modelling from 2 years for inner peace and I have been accepted and even mocked many times bcz I'm dusky. ..and it's sad
I was sexually abused by my mom and her boyfriends from 5-12. I love my mom but what she did to me has damaged me in ways i can’t even describe. I’m only 18 and still feel like i can’t speak out because i don’t want my mom to get in trouble. It’s like I’m still that little girl, alone and helpless. The system failed me and my sister 3 times and left us to endure her abuse until i moved at 17. I wish it never happened. I want to forget.
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Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try to tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤
I was abused in every imaginable way for my entire childhood from age 6 onward - sexually, physically, verbally, emotionally, psychologically, neglect..... Even with treatment, there is no real recovery. The damage is done and these things break you. You can survive, but you are always going to be wounded and society will always treat you like garbage because of the pain you carry with you.
I really feel that it’s a horrible feeling to feel like everyone is going to leave you from such a young age, I’m trying to not let it bother me but I didn’t get the chance to heal when I was little because I didn’t know I was suffering so now that everything has caught up to me I feel miserable all the time
@@Lemon_Zhark your going to need help Healing the Trauma, if you try to do it on your own, well it's not safe. I just about drank myself to death. If you can't afford therapy join a twelve step group. I'm so sorry 😭 I love you
Sadly....me too. Do you know it could have been early as 1-3 years or so...why I say this, we are too small to know or realise it...I hate when people talk about God or getting professional help. To cry out loud...we are the victims here and it's so hard...
Same with me. I'm 64 and finally seeking help, life became unbearable and was thinking only suicide could end the insanity and pain. Was diagnosed as bipolar, and after 60 yrs I am realizing it owned me. I want to die free and at peace, something I've never really experienced in my life. I'm definitely a late bloomer as they say. Don't let your life, your true self pass you by.
Somebody I know was sexually abused when they were a child, by another child who was one year younger than her. She never knew if it was abuse or not but she blamed herself and grew up now having flashbacks and self loathing and embarrassment about it. She loathes to be in a sexual relationship and it hurt her when she was...nothing to do with her boyfriend, it’s the pain from the past. She’s now 22. It happened when she was 7-8 1/2.
This is quite similar to what happened to me. I'm a male, and when I was a kid, I was sexually abused at a daycare by a girl who was younger than me. It went on for four years, from ages 6 to 10. Now I'm 24 years old, have never been in a sexual relationship, and avoid girls who have an obvious interest in sex. Even to this day, 14 years after the abuse ended, I will still have dreams of it every once in a while.
Same thing happened to me by my cousin who is a month younger than me from the ages of 9-12. I always think it's my fault. He's my first cousin and I still have to see him everytime during the holidays, in my college, etc. I don't know if this qualifies as abuse.
I was molested by my stepfather for years, he was persecuted because my sister spoke up after it happened to her. I was the older brother.. Still messes with me till this day and im 30 years old now. Reading through all your comments, I can feel what you feel and i'm sorry. I hope you all find peace.
Anyone who got sexually abused in their childhood, but is living a normal life now, a life full of self-respect, self-love and healthy relationships? If yes please share how you managed yourself to pull ourself out from the childhood aur teenage trauma. It will help everyone who is struggling right now to find self-love. Please write and help others. Thanks
@@eden1634 thanks for sharing this with us. I am so sorry with what you had to go through in your childhood. I loved it when you said that you have got to stop ignoring the past, and you must accept and move on in your life. I surely needs a lot of strength and support and courage to be able to do so, but you must to do for your own beautiful self. Wish you health and happiness :)
I was 3 years old. At daycare. Another child, one year older than me pulled me under a blanket and told me to put my finger in his butt. I had severe trauma and fear of being under blankets with another. I didn’t quite understand what had happened because I was 3. I told my parents, and alarmingly, they put me into a child therapy center. I went on to go to therapy for 2 years to undo what was done to me in the span of 10 minutes. I went on to live a happy childhood, however, my daycare watcher was my aunts mom. So that sparked a 7 year feud between my parents and my dads brother and his wife. After 7 years of barely seeing my cousins grow up, we were invited over to their new house for dinner. There me and my older sister hung out with my cousins, and our parents talked everything over. We went on to end the 7 year feud in 2017 and since then we have hung out almost every weekend.
@@capo200christian Of course it is. My point, though, is that there are people on the verge.. leaping off to the unknown.. in need for a kind word or a helping hand, and not for a cruel insensitive comment to push them over. Please man, if you can't help others just stay away from them. Words are powerful, use them prosper not to ruin.
Yeah it can be traumatizing. But we have to more stronger than our abusers... Everyone will say it is not easy and all, and do you know the feelings..Yes I know it.I was sexually abused by my own father and now I am 22 .. I am actually happy..I told to my bf and he supports me and show the other side of the gender which I thought very hard to trust..He care for me and most importantly he repsects me , that helped me guys... It's not us that has to suffer.... please don't suffer yourself.. At some occasion I cry for what happened ... If you are not comfortable with anyone knowing just go to a counselor ..pls..plss
I can understand how its feel i faced sexual abuse but at that moment I couldn't do anything bcz I was child I didn't even know what happened with me .but now I am teenage girl and whenever I think about it I am filled with shame and blame myself for that
@@silentgirl1222 it was the same case with me..but now am not ashamed or afraid..my bf knows about it and he played a major role in helping me from recovering ...be strong..it's oke to cry but it's not good to feel ashamed of something when you are the victim..and yes our body is not our identity...so please don't ne ashamed
I was raped when I was a toddler/baby I don't allow these things to curse me, personally We have more power than we realize. This isn't a soul sentence
I was 6 years old the first time I was molested, then at 8, then at 13th year by different people from one family. at the age of 14 I had to run away from my country to find my freedom, because I felt it wasn't a safe place for me. A lot of Children in Nigeria are voiceless today. Nigeria is where I come from. terrible place to live. sorry, my opinion
My parents used to do it while i was still in the room when i was in elementary school i didn’t have my own room yet because my siblings had all the other rooms and i was always scared to move or make any noise because everytime they realized i was up they would get mad at me and blame me for interrupting so i had no choice but to just lay there and wait for them to finish this went on for years i sleep across from their room now unfortunately i still hear it. A couple years ago my mom was sitting in the living room and i walked past her and she told me to come here and she just started pressing on my chest under my shirt and at the time guys from my school were also grabbing me without my permission even guys i thought were my friends. Sometimes ill take a bath and my mom will come in not in a creepy way but more so in a “our house is crowded and we need our own bathrooms” kind of way and she’ll do something like brush her hair or wash her face and ill cover up by crossing my legs and putting a wash cloth over myself and she’ll act like I’m doing the most and “its not that big of a deal” almost as if she’s irritated that i cover up around her? Idk some of this is just strange to me but i don’t know if it necessarily counts as SA. Sometimes i wonder if they actually knew i was awake and got some kind of enjoyment out of it 🤮 it just makes me sick because why would u do that with your 8 year old daughter in the room??? I’m 16 now and in a way I’m pretty obsessed with thinking about “the deed” throughout the day but I still haven’t done anything with anyone yet and am at the same time extremely grossed out by anything s**ual and i think them introducing this to me in early childhood is what caused it. I’ve read lots of accounts of people who had to hear their parents but actually being in the room and them completely crossing boundaries with whats appropriate for a kid to be in the presence of is even worse.
Just remember how horrible they made you feel and when you have your own kids NEVER subject them to this type of questionable abuse. Very sad and I’m so sorry you went through this.
No it’s not normal! That’s a straight abuse! No shame! Invading your boundaries! You have the right to cover your body from everyone! They seem to have got rid of “shame feeling” they act wild as if it’s normal. Sorry for that my dear. Just know that’s not normal nor healthy environment. Don’t assume all homes like that. God bless you ❤
Please, please, please get help! If you don’t have anyone in your household who you trust, then please message a friend, and ask them to send help. I don’t know exactly what to do, and this is just my advice, as I have been abused like that too. Just please know that you are not alone and that you will get through this. You don’t have to do anything that you are not comfortable with, but I strongly advise you tell someone you trust
All you people who call yourselves victims, you are more than that. You are survivors. You are greater than any obstacle which befalls you. The plus is your age to be empowered.
I was a victim of childhood abuse at just age 4. It’s affected me in many ways. Although I waited until I was 14 to finally say something to a parent about it because I was ashamed of it. If you were a victim just like me PLEASE don’t wait as long as I did because then it will be too late. Tell a trusted adult so they can help you and know that you will not be punished. I felt like I would get in trouble for having something like this happen to me but I wasn’t. I was given so much support. You can also start counseling too which can help some kids cope with the trauma. Hope this was somewhat helpful.
It’s real and it can ruin people... we have to be stronger than our abusers... we can lead a good life. It’s so difficult but I believe everyone can eventually be happy again. We all have to stay strong, even though it’s difficult. Things will get better, life is constantly changing and it will get better.
Christian a well 1) it’s still abuse no matter the relation 2) I know that kind of situation is more difficult to navigate- a family member abusing you I mean, but still, if you’ve been abused by a family member (especially if they are still in your life) you deserve justice, you deserve to not be worried constantly, and your other family members.. well they might not react in a horrible way, hopefully they wouldn’t.
To anyone that has been a victim or is depressed get help take the first step on telling someone and if they don’t respond or listen tell someone else , take walks get out get some fresh air and read or meditate, or call a online councilor ? I was sexually abused at 5 years old and as a teen I was fully raped . I’ve had sever anxiety and Sociol problems to were I had to drink to get brave . Nope I’m not a alcoholic, just used it for brave juice in my early days . I survived so can you . I try everything to keep myself happy from hiking to camping to listening to good music or festivals or something different. I am a survivor not as victim anymore!!!
They won't talk to children that are 3 years old or less even if you have concerns they are ignored. Child abuse is normalized by the Government and enabled by the courts.
It starred when I was 5! Yup! 5! When I was in kindergarten and it ended when I was 7 at the end of 2nd grade! Edit: Why is there so many likes on this comment?
I was 5. I dont remember how long it went on for. But, I do know that it happened more than once. It was my father's girlfriend's daughter. She was 12 or 13 when she did this. I denied that it happened for 17 yrs. I feel shame and guilt. I didnt tell my dad until I was 9. But, then when I brought it up again at 21 he claims that I never told him. And when I did tell him again he just told me I need to get over it.
I am abused by my own brother. I am getting suicidal thoughts and feeling very insecure. No positive people in my life . I get scared of every person who come close to me and touch me. I need some help.
Say to parent/s or trusted adult. If no proper support Go to Police. 62 year old woman now, been there in same position as 5 year old child. Abuser needs help.
@@fighter3194 I’m sorry you’re going through that. The best advice I can give you is to probably move out. You can rent out a room for like $400 a month. Get a job at a call center they pay fairly well. I can help you if you’d like.
I was sexually abused when I was 3 years old and a few times later on as a child. I’m 41 now and I just started my path to recovery. I started listening to an audio book called. On The Road To Recovery: How to Heal from Childhood Abuse, Trauma And Neglect and Reclaim your Life. By Philip Newton. I am new to recovery and this book has been a great start. It’s easy to listen to, simple to understand and provides a lot of ways to find compassion and self healing. Recovery is a life long journey but this has been a great starting point. I wish you all love, compassion and healing.
As a retired psychiatrist, recovering alcoholic/addict, and child sexual abuse survivor, the missing part of this well-meaning video is that a child ALWAYS blames him/herself for the abuse, is ashamed, and filled with anxiety and self-loathing, so rarely ever reveals the abuse to a parent, and mine weren't there and didn't care for or protect me anyway. After a lifetime as a practicing mental health professional, I have finally found that long missing protection and care in a "reparenting" experience in a 12-step group, sadly a rare experience. Don't let the shame/self-loathing/addiction keep you from seeking help and God bless us one and all. Why do we keep having children we can't provide the essential protection and care for? Now, that is THE question. Stress R Us
I don’t know how old I was or how long it lasted for all I know it was repressed for a long time. The first time this thought came back it didn’t that much because I made to touch him not the other way around. After more though he was six years older me so he knew what he was doing was wrong. Now every time I see him I freak out.
That first line you wrote is exactly how mine is, I 'remembered' in my mid/late teens (33 now) half convinced myself that it must have only been a nightmare until he mentioned it (he said that he was sorry for what happened when we were kids) and I was stunned. That was probably a decade ago now and there isn't a day that goes by when I don't think about it. I feel like I need to talk to someone but don't know who to reach out to! I hope you are doing OK.
@@Anonymous-pp9gi hey, I'm doing OK thank you. Hope you are. Well I finally spoke to someone about it, to be honest it was dragged out of me in a way I didn't want to happen but now it feels like a weight has been lifted and that I can be stronger and more honest about day to day issues that come up. I was round about the same age when it happened. Thank you for your thoughts and I hope you are staying safe and keeping well!
I've been sexualy abused by my dad and he lied saying it was just a game and he told me not to tell anyone one time I did when I was 5 but since I was that young he managed to lie his way out of trouble this made me angry but I knew i couldn't do anything about it because they wouldn't believe me so I just accepted that telling them at that age wouldn't work fast forward to when im 11 some things ended up happening between me and my mom that ended up with me saying I hate my life when my mom asked why I told her that my dad sexualy abused me that was also why I hated going to my dad's on the weekends and after an investigation they found him guilty and that what I said to the person that helps kids who've been abused the judge found it true to because he admitted he did it after the day I told my mom what happened I never went to that hell of a place again although I'm still angry because he didn't even go to jail or get charged for the crime he literally admitted to but at least I'm never gonna have to fear him again I hope but I hope he burns in hell and stays there but for some reason my brother thinks I'm the bad guy just because of a crime that my dad did not me and just because we can't see him anymore because it was said by the social services and stuff but honestly I don't really care what my brother thinks all I'm glad about is that I never have to see that b()sterd again for good and once again I hope he BURNS IN HELL 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 FOR THE CRIME HE DID TO ME THAT EMOTIONALLY TAMARATISED ME AND APPARENTLY HE COULD'VE EVEN GOTTEN ME PREGNANT CAUSE I WAS ACTUALLY ALREADY AT THE AGE TO ACTUALLY HAVE THE EGG THING THAT MALE SPERM HAS TO GET TO TO POSSIBLY MAKE ME PREGNANT I HOPE HE BURNS IN THE DEEPEST DARKEST PITS OF FUCKING HELL
Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try yo tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤If nothing works Read the bible and trust in god.
I'm 14 now and I've been putting the pieces together and found out that I was sexually abuse by my teenage cousin back when I was 7-9 years old. I haven't told anybody however my father knew and didn't do crap. Idk if there's anything to do now bc I kept my mouth shut about it but since I'm planning to get him arrest or sued, how would that work? Would the people at court be able to do something or not?
My wife says she was abused by her stepdad when she was younger and for 10 years. She says she lied a lot when she was younger and nobody believes her , but now as an adult I still do t think they believe her. She wants to see her mom for Christmas and thinks it’s ok to have our kids around him if we just ignore him and do other things . I’ve told her they are not allowed in the same building as him. And she gets angry with me and says it’s not fair because I can see my parents whenever and she can’t see her mom whenever. Her mom moved back to El paso with the stepdad a year ago and she blames it on me for not being able to have normalcy with her mother or family. I told her I didn’t do it , the kids didn’t do it , nobody hurt you except him and you’re making everybody pay for his mistakes. She wants her cousins kids to play with their kids but again same place and area. And they don’t believer her or she thinks the family will not choose to distance him for a day for her . I told her it’s wrong that she’s even thinking of putting the kids in that area if he abused you. She refuses to go to therapy and it’s always stressful because of her emotional issues that we can’t even leave the kids with my parents to go out on a date because of her bitterness towards my parents being able to see the kids
i just couldnt held tears, why did i have to go through this? i am now a porn addict to the most unwanted things? and so tired mentaly how can i survive? i will never get a real clusre in mylife about that.. can i be strong one day? can i be loved and love? do i deserve it even?
Hii how are u. sigh whatever had happened, i'm really sorry. It's not ur fault!! you deserve love, ur human. There are still persons out there who cares, caring is love. I know it's hard, but you keeping yourself positive, this will eventually get u out of this. For those who view this comment, please say something positive and/or paste a link below with tips on how to overcome this problem.
I’ve faced this too. You will survive. You do deserve love and you are worthy of love. You will come out stronger through the challenges you faced. Eat well, take care of yourself, have fun doing the things that you love, surround yourself with people who love you for your beautiful self, and you must keep going! There is only one you in this world and that makes you a diamond and diamonds deserve to shine. 💍
The worst is to have no one believe you about an assualt, then when they do the predator physically beats you unconscious at age five for "having him kicked out"
In my experience and from my experience anybody that I know that is suffered from this for me personally can't afford therapy. I don't have health insurance so even if I did want to get the help all those things that they need to recover from this aren't available unless you can pay over $100 an hour per session and I don't really know anybody in my world that can afford to do that not even my parents.
Hi Vanessa, EFT tapping is a very powerful, free technique. A guided session with a therapist would be best, but there are many free videos explaining the technique, guided videos for specific challenges and online support groups. It just may help.
I was 5-6 yr when it happened for the first time then it often happened to me till 12-13 ...after that I was nearly 14-15 when this kind of thing happened again..this time with different person.. different way..and then it happened again ...and recently i m young adolescent now ..and Teenage boy did this to mee..and seriously I can't come over this... this just goes repeating in my head over and over again...pls somebody give me cure to this nightmare...I want to focus on my studies ...and these things just killing me
I don't know how to find help without jeopardizing my life. Without giving away what I consider my own freedom. Without adding more weight onto my shoulders, when I've already carried so much through my life... I just don't know. Please say a prayer for me.
I was abused from the age 2-11by a stranger , and my two uncles and two cousins and my older brother and my older sister she did something horrible ) and my dad once touched me ... and I am absolutely heartbroken, I have the most horrible life , I wish I was young again so I can escape my home or kill my self or die All the abusers are free and happy 💔💔
i love you. i am so sorry this happened to you but i want you to know that the people who have/had it the roughest come out the toughest. know that you are not alone...your story is quite similar to mine actually, i was molested when i was nine by my uncle but i told my moms years later because i was afraid around the same time my two cousins would just touch me in ways i didn’t want to and said it was just a game. um and then i was again molested when i was fourteen by my own father. i am 17 now. and it’s hard but i know it’s not always gona be like this:’)
@@montanadickens3897 I appreciate you so much, and I’m so sorry that we share this trauma ! I hope one day our good karma comes in, and settled us to this amazing life .
For me it was my dad and it wasn’t as bad as you might think I was just touched and while I know that that’s still awful and it started when I was six (and then stopped) and then I forgot about it until now and I’m sixteen but I live in Britain and since it only happened when he was really drunk I still love him and I don’t want him to go to prison or for my mum to find out or my dad because my mum won’t look at me the same way and I’ll be estranged from my dad and our relationship will never be the same because when he isn’t drunk he is really nice. But I can’t get help until I’m 18 because then if I tell a therapist it’s their legal duty to tell my mum until I become 18 and to be honest all I want is to be able to forgive my dad but I just can’t. I really do love him but I just want things between us to go back to the way they were.
Hi , you are very strong , but please , report your father , he could be dangerous for other kids. Being drunk is not an excuse. Also you should seek help as soon as possible , the sooner the faster you will heal ! Good luck♥️ (and sorry for my english)
You telling someone about what happened to you, is not ruining your relationship. Your dad did that all by himself when he got drunk and took advantage of a child. He did that all by himself. Speak up. Those that love you and support you will stand by your side.
im the only girl cousin in my family, and 3 of my cousins sexually abused me 4-10. ive had a 25 year old man groom me and killed himself later when i “failed him”. no matter how much i get better and grow, i will forever be tramutized and nothing can ever stop that.
Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try yo tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤ If nothing of that works Read the bible and trust in god.
I don't know what to do anyore..sometimes I feel I concure my depression...other times I feel like I haven't...I don't know if I need to seek help or not....I just don't know what to do... One time I tried to seek help but I guess I don't know what to even say...Or what's my issue...all I know is I'm sad...I feel like I don't matter...I feel like I'm not important enough to my family...They say they do love me when I ask them but I don't know anymore...I feel like all my laugh I was just on my own...I was sexually abused for a long time I guess...from when I was like i don't know...5? Until I was 13 I think....I never told anyone or confess to my mom at first. But another child told their mom that my dad abused them, which is true, and then I was asked questsions as well...I first didn't admit to my mom but later I did... ...I just don't know but I wish for once I see that fire in her....to yell at my dad..be angry...tell him what you feel... Like what I remember as a child, after my dad was arrested was that we was finally free. That we get to do what we want now...but it felt the same to me....I still felt alone....I tried to ask my mom for us to go out as a kid...to do something because we free from my dad...but she didn't wanted to do anything...I never felt like my mom being like i don't know....More protective I guess? Or help me go through this pain after the abuse...I felt like I was always alone.... And I still feel alone now...Like I don't want a relationship but my family....But I don't feel like they dedicated... I don't know if I'm wrong to feel this way or if something is wrong with me... I don't know what to do no more.. I'm tired of feeling sad...I don't know how to get help or what to say if I see a therapist.... Sometimes I wish I wasn't here no more and just dissapear..... I feel like there is no reason to even be here... I don't know if its because what happen in the past... I just feel stuck....I'm 32 now and I don't know why I still experience this sadness... I'm I crazy? Is something wrong with me? Why cant I just be normal and be happy?
Hi @Diana Morales, it's completely normal to feel sad. There are ways to heal. Methods. You can do it, one step at a time. When it gets difficult, you stop. And pick it up again later. Be kind to yourself. You've been through so much and you're a survivor. One powerful technique is EFT tapping. There are many videos that explain how it works.
It is the same with me and therapy helps. It is really hard at first but it helps I went immediately after the sexual abuse happened for 3 years and got over the depression portion of it but you have to pay attention because you might also have ptsd like I apparently do now so try to get to therapy if you can.
That is a great Video, it's very important, to get help asap. I've got abused as a child by my father, my mother wasn't really looking for Help, it haunts you all you Live. Stop Child Abuse when ever you can.
@Guy Whom Pissies People Off. That is sad to know, but sometimes we need time, to be able to talk, the best to someone, you can trust. Sorry, i'm not an Expert, i wish you all the best.
I’m a child, who was recently re-victimized. I’m getting help, yet therapy isn’t gonna work according to my therapist because I’m so far gone. I don’t know what sources to use, I don’t know what to do I miss my abuser and everything hurts.
It be nice to have websites where we could all go chat and become friends like depression chat who we are related to this stuff I'm sure we would understand each other and get along
Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try yo tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤
Hi darling. I know that those memories can be hard to get away from and they haunt you. You are so strong. I want you to know that it wasn't your fault, and that God or the higher power(s) you may believe in know it wasn't your fault. You should not have to feel dirty, or unworthy. Yet someone did something wrong to you. I am so so sorry dear. I am sending you much love and you are such a strong person to confront this. Just because you are forced to remember it doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
I know it feels so icky now that you know what was right and not. Maybe you had a sense something was off but your trust of this person was overriding that judgement. Your trust did not make you bad. You are good. And if you're a little boy, then you're still a very good little boy and I'm so so sorry someone ripped your childhood away. If you're a little girl, I'm so so sorry. I am a girl too and being touched like that can be so horrible because that's supposed to be a special thing reserved for when you are much older and for only those you really really trust. And love. I urge you to let yourself trust good people, and to trust your heart, and that not all people are bad and to practice trust so that you may heal. :) Whoever you are, beautiful child, I wish this never happened to you
GOD is the only one who can truly set you free. Survivors may ask “why did God allow this to happen”? I’m not sure why. Child sex abuse happened to me from 6-11. I don’t think I ever questioned why God, why me? When I became an adult, I got in church. During 1 service, my former pastor was preaching about forgiveness. It was at that point, I forgave all my abusers: 3 still living and 2 had passed away(both from suicide). It was more for my sanity than theirs. But, I forgave them none the less. 1 of them apologized for abusing me. The other denies it ever happened. To this day, I still have issues with intimacy.
Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try yo tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤ the bible and the church are definetly superb options too. God is Big.
Im perplexed when I hear people say the abuse continued into the teen and even adult years. My "father" SA me from ages 4-12. At around age 8, Id often try fighting back. Of course, I always lost because my adult abuser was bigger and stronger, but at least I'd try. By age 12. It was on. Bu this time I was bigger and stronger and more capable of doing battle. I told my mom when I was 12. Her response was "get out of here you liar". This gave me even more resolve to fight to end the abuse. At age 12, my abuser attempted to SA me and I pulled a knife from the kitchen drawer. I told him I'd kill him. He never attempted to abuse me again. This is why I dont understand how a teen or adult could 🎉allow someone to sexually abuse them when they can fight back and or report the abuse.
I have a real question and I’m not trying to discount the fact that people here have had terrible things happen to them. Is it sexual abuse if your peers talk about and make fun of your brother and how he did something sexual in public, but the whole middle school and high school knew about it? It was a rumor while I was in middle school but I remember feeling like a dark cloud was over me and some kind of stress started to develop that’s hard to explain. I remember clearly after that I started avoiding crowds and being seen in public and I also have anxiety when I hear people laughing in public and it comes off like I’m serious. But I never tied it to my sexuality and lack of relationships. I always find myself distancing myself from women even though they really want to know me and such. I can’t explain it very clearly but all I know is that it’s not normal. So my question is it more emotional abuse or is it sexual abuse? Or is it something else entirely?
I'm not an expert, but I think it's an emotional abuse, these people are just looking for something to laugh about, to make themselves feel better, even if you're just a little bit different than them, that's why I've always hated school, but you should know that it's not your fault. You'll find yourself eventually. Also, you had nothing to do with what happened to your brother. I know that it's hard to accept the fact that your sexuality may have been affected because of the trauma (just like what happened to me when I got abused as a child), It sucks, but it's okay. Please remember to talk it out to someone you can trust or a therapist or at least search up for emotional and sexual abuse and read about them also check what other people have been through, knowing that you're not alone is a great help.
Thanks for your thoughtful response! I’m definitely going to talk with someone. That makes a lot of sense for it to be emotional abuse because I always felt like I close myself off to people emotionally. That also helps knowing that they probably just wanted to feel better about themselves. It makes me feel less targeted and more empathetic. I hope you also heal fully from your abuse if you haven’t already. It’s a terrible thing to go through. Nobody deserves this.
Feeling of shame even when you did no wrong nd people who did wrong you have to see them most of the day as they live near by how to heal when knowingly or unknowingly come in front of you..I almost heAled and forgotten Bt again when I see them in front of me childhood trauma comes back also can’t leave my hometown . I was 9 and they took advantage three of them 16 13 and 14 ...don’t know exactly how old they were at that time but it’s impossible to make people understand wt I went through ..I told my best frnd she reacted that time Bt didn’t asked me how I feel never ..told my mother she listened me once reacted after that even she didn’t bothered me to ask how iam feeling...it took huge strength to poat here as it bought feeling of shame low self esteem it’s a struggle..I worked on it meditation I healed by the moment I saw them in front of me again trauma hit me ..rage of anger stress my happy mood turns into bad wish I could share with some people don’t understand I have been fighting all alone ..I forgave them sometime I want to kill them don’t kno wt to do ..I pray to Vid I never want to see these abuser’s again but the more I pray more God brings them in front of me..I see I. There eyes they have no regret and Themis brings more anger to me ..I did no wrong to anybody why they did that to me sometimes I ask God but it’s so tough specially when you can’t share it with someone and worst when you share people don’t understand nd see you as if it’s your fault ..
Not too long ago. I went back home with mom where it happened. I think I had like ptsds. My anxiety was through the roof. Probably so I wouldn't meet them. I split up with mom. After she came back she told me she met one of them. Gosh so lucky I went back. And about what happened she just said just don't think about it not like she even tried to be mad or trying to hurt him
It started as a wrestling game the he held me down and sexually abused me, I wanted to disappear and sink into the earth but he was to strong for me, read below to see the rest of my sex abuse.
Ive been sexually and mentally abused by my brother from 3-4 to 11-12 years old and that didn't kill a woman in me. After all i could fall in love and be in a relatonship. The man just used me like a toy and then threw me out, took away the dream of my life that i can never get back. I believed to men even after being abused by my brother but the last man just killed the entire trust in my. I will never be able to love, to live, to achieve dreams, nothing. I feel like my life is useless and stupid and i hate him even more than my brother. Idk maybe it was just my child brain that washed away all the fear and pain that i went through, but the abusive relationships affected my health much more.
Just because someone might be going threw something worse does not make your issue less important your entitled to your felling and to get help no matter how small or big you thing your situation might be it’s still important to u .
Wow, i feel like you. This quarantine thing made me have so introspection about how I am and why. I had 3 experiences with different men. 1rst I was less than 4, the teenage son of one of my moms took me to he's room while my mom and his was outside and I think he putted his penis in my face, but I don't know if I don't remmeber because I was so little or because it was to stressful. Nothing else happened thanks to my clever brother whom was 6 at the time and notice something was wrong. The thing is, I didn't know what was happening, but the surprising thing is my mom never dealt with it, even close family members where asking me about it and I didn't want to remember. Than when I was older 8 years i guess my mom had a boyfriend, partner who was living with us and I always thought something was up with him, like I didn't felt secure with him, I guess I always felt like that with every Male but with him it was worse. 1 day he came to the bathroom and "gave me a bath" touching my vulva and i was in shock but the worse day was when he came to my room ome night and got into my bed and made my touch his penis while i was asleep, I knew what was happening but I guess i didn't want a real memory of it so i made myself sleep. The next day i replayed it again and again, I was usually at 6 at school, I cried all morning, shaking and anxious. The 3th experience was actually my brother in law, while staying with my older sister while sick I was taking a shower and after I realize I forgot my underwear so when I was going to get it that I opened the door he was trying to see under the door and I was in utter shock, felt sick to my stomach. I had another experience that one of my elementary school friends dad groped me too and I could see in his eyes the sickness of desired for a minor. This experience thanks to God didn't lead to rape but still fucked me up. I stayed a virgin until 21 because I didn't trust no one but yet without wanting to I felt aroused and it made me uncomfortable. I suffer from anxiety and I have never dig that with a therapist, I'm 23 and I can't take myself to talk about with a stranger. I feel scare that I would be judged or blame even though I know I wasn't. There was situation where I didn't wanna believe that and adult man wanted to harm me and I didn't avoid it. And still I feel like I can't consider myself abuse and yet I know I was.
Its not fine if your dad touches you at your butt for fun, right?? I dont know, my mom always said that he is just joking and mean no harm. Is it wrong of me to feel this way?
Victoria Cookiez Productions if it didn’t bother you then it would not matter but you don’t like it and it makes you uncomfortable which means what he is doing is wrong you need to tell them that it makes u uncomfortable and to stop say it firmly to get your point across I’m not saying it is but he could be testing the boundaries with you and it needs to be stopped
I didn't know rather if I was sexually abused or not up until a week ago but I found out that I was the child hood sexual abuse that I exsperienced was mild but still none the less it was sexual abuse what happened to me I already knew that I was physically and emotionally abused and neglected for along time but I couldn't exsactly remember that I was sexually abused as a child and a teen ager but I did and it does feel like I have a bit of closure knowing my question was answered I already know I was controlled pretty Bradly by my parents and caregivers and I wasn't surprised that one of the m did feels pretty good to have more answers
Hi doctor can I ask pls ? my daughter is 5yrs old and I'm working from 7 to 13:00. who left at home every day is her father and 2 half-brother. When I came home my daughter crying telling me she has blood and stomach pain and I went to the weekend doctor to check my daughter and according to the doctor she has UTI and then prescribing her an antibiotic but in the next day evening I let her pee in toilet pot but I found her pee has a blood and sticky slime my question if that is Normal because of the antibiotic or there sexual abuse? My husband is difficult he has a difficult behaviour if I ask he is easy to get stress and act agressively.. please tell me I wanna know pls might someone could answer me.. In the country where I live there is always appointment and it takes time to visit again to the doctor. Im curious to know about my daughter UTI caused ... please help me atleast I know ...thank you verymuch to all doctors who could answer my questions atleast I have any clue.
I am not a doctor but by what you are saying it sounds suspicious. I would take her in and have her get checked out again. Blood is not normal for a 5 year old. Don’t stay silent to protect your husband . Protect your daughter
where can i bring her for professional check..? the doctor only asking me to bring urinalysis if they can see something on it..so , after taking her antibiotic for 5days doctor told me to go back to bring her urinlysis then in 2days i called to the doctor about the result...doctor answered me its normal. I keep asking my 5years old daughter if someone touching her , Her replied no mama no one. then I Keep asking again to her same question then she get mad. :(( I hope she don't abuse by her own father huuhu now she playing again normal seem happy again.Thank you very much of your reply.
I think it's the worst thing anybody can experience It takes forever to recover from. I literally feel the age I was. Fortunately I didn't remember anything till I was twenty five But at the same time when I finally did remember and everything emerged, including my sex drive And I was pretty screwed up. I took about twenty years To feel somewhat normal Counseling helped to a degree, EMDR therapy helped to a degree, but I need more Fortunately at my church we have inner healing which is also helpful. However since I moved back to america I find that I have new memories emerging. I've only been back five months but it feels like five years sometimes i'm not married and I don't have kids I'm hoping I start my new job next week that has actual health insurance I'm really hoping I can get e m d r therapy. I want to get some counseling again and some medications on my body stops hurting.
I was a child.. I should’ve been protected but I was physically abused in home and sexually abused outside.. and I still live with my physical abuser and I still get manipulated by him to this day and idk how to act.. my older brother used to make me go to school everyday with face wounds bc of how much he’d beaten me up and as I grew up he kept reminding me of it saying well? Do u wanna get beaten again ? And it just breaks me I hate him.. but to my family I can’t hate my so called brother . But I HATE HIM I wish him all bad in life just as he ruined my childhood
i was sexually abused at my 6 years old from my cousin .Now after all these years i am annoucing thati overcomed the abuse .It's possible .Yes it's hard but it's people . LETTER to my abuser : you made me very strong. thank you asshole :)
Well, this certainly answers a lot of questions about wtf is wrong with me. my mental illness is linked to what has plagued me for the last 30 fucking years. Pretty much answers everything. (I missed the part where, how I’m suppose to heal from this?)??🤷♂️. Hmm?,?🤬
Deer light , please tell a adult or someone or call CPS, I know that it is difficult, promise you you will feel a hundred times better once you are free of that mental, sexual abuse! Also free of them ! You don’t have to hide you’re feminine side , your probably a very beautiful person on the out side and inside. Please don’t be afraid just make that call.
I think no one will see this but I just want to put this here. Hello :) I am 16 but I just want to get this off my chest. It’s not nearly as bad as what so many others go through but when I was nine my uncle used to come up from behind me and put his hands in my pants and touched me and I never told anyone. I think I’m making a big deal or something but, I’m crying right now haha and I have no idea why it wasn’t even that bad :/ I just wanted to say that. Thanks if you actually read this :)
I went through the same but was a guy i just know . He touched me and idk whyyyyyyyyyyyyy did i even laughed w/him and let him . I was just a child maybe 4/5/6 y/o .
Please cherry try to reach out to to anyone that you feel comfortable sharing your trauma with. Don't keep it to yourself cause it makes more damages than good
Just to be clear, children have never lost their innocence. That would conclude that they are somehow at fault too. I would say that it is terrible when a child loses the ability to trust and the security, protection and safety that they are worthy of and deserve in the first place. No child has lost their innocence. It is always with them. It is the essence of who they are. They deserve to have that recognized. It is a part of their identity and self worth. Please never tell a child that you are sorry they lost their innocence. Just that you will protect them going forward from anyone who has hurt them that way and will help them rebuild their safe world. 😢 I was also a victim multiple times and this just broke me.
I believe I may be being harassed by a preditor from my past. I was at an Easter Egg hunt when I was just about to go after eggs off thrme beaten path in the bushes. I had a panicy feeling and ran away instead. A person made a reference to "an egg i missed" on a movie website and then there was a styrafoam egg on my balcony one day rapped in some kind of rubber. It took me a while to put the pieces together. There are also benign seeming "triggers" on another source that refers to being kept and terrized in a fun housr, haunted house. If you thonk you might have a bad feeling about something you re prob right. Don t patronize watch these programmes.
I was raped when I was 14 years old by neighbourhood shopkeeper by giving drug in juice..... I remain in Dark for several years even couldn't tell to my parents. They blamed Me to its your fault. Presently from 10 years I am consulting to psychiatrist & feeling better but not fully
Hi I am also struggling with homosexuality when I was born in a family I had also face sexual abuse I saw my parents having sex infront of me for more than 10 years in the same room and also I was inappropriate by my father and I donot know whether it is a sexual abuse or not but my sexual urges were way beyond the right age which further led me to the path of homosexuality and porn and masturbation addiction I feel that having sex will be my coping mechanism and right now I am at that phase of life that I am struggling with homosexuality this is not the life I wanted live and I am lost everything
No matter what ever happened to me in adulthood I never wished to be a child again.
Shana Neidig sending you hugs 🤗
this really hurt to read, I think child sexual abuse is one of the worst things to happen to a person, and from personal experience I don't think I will ever get better and I don't think anyone can recover from it.
listed I trying to piece together a shattered psych is a lifetime sentence. I understand you! 🌹
@@NoName-pu5ls thanks, I've learnt just to keep living, we can never change the past I hope you can do the same. its just that your words are truly touching x
Same here
To lose ones innocence is a terrible thing.
I think I did at 4 and didn't realized it.
I lost minw at a young age...too, though my family didnt knew and when symptoms sjowed up my parents and everyone else shamed for it instead trying to figure why i acted like that...either way, becuse of what the little boy did to me my mental health started to decline at an early age and instead of fixing it my parents would have learn educstipn and put that first before anything even thlugh i did that with video games....it got bad i ended up abusing another child in my teenage years.....i regret what i did...but i csnt help to think that if i wasnt abuse would things have diffrent
I was 10.He was in the age group of 32-36
Just found out through my grandmother this weekend I lost mine at 2. Yay. 😔
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I was sexually abused as a kid... I have PTSD from all the sexual abuse I am 34 years old and still a virgin... I don't think i will ever be okay being naked with another person... I think what hurts the most is all the men who did this to me all have wives and kids... Like they take the my ability to be in love away from me but they still have it... Its like I'm jealous of them... IF I HAD ONE WISH IT BE TO BE LIKE EVERYONE ELSE...
I am so sorry reading of your suffering. My brother was abused in a sexual influence way as a 9 year old. With all the voicing there is listening, and empathy in the appropriate places. Being Health or Government centre or family friends. We all need support. It takes time to heal. You are OK and you are not alone. Abusers are not worth nothing. What you describe as your feelings are completely normal. These sods are waste of space and are often married after their lines of abuse. Often one victim is not their one & only. Do not suffer in silence. Perpetrators are not worth it. You are.
i am 13 ;( i think i was seggsually abused but i cannot remember i had a lot of problems when i was younger a lot of behavioral problems
I have been abused when I was 14 by a guy who was six years elder to me..he kept relationship with me and promised to marry me no matter what..but when I was 22 he got married to his gf in a temple ..and my dad is a narcissist who always saw his children as an investment.It affected me academically I was drowning in search of help that how would I survive and I started things I liked to do.. I'm 25 im still virgin..and now I ended my engineering final year exam waiting for my results..his wife and he both are living happy lives and they both have actually abused me when I was a little girl both mentally , emotionally and the guy did it physically I'm lucky I managed to know the meaning of love and could understand the difference between love and lust ..so I could only save my self physically..I'm still suffering and the culprits are enjoying..Some times I feel this world has no place for truth and justice but I still have hope in the power of belief. I started modelling from 2 years for inner peace and I have been accepted and even mocked many times bcz I'm dusky. ..and it's sad
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I was sexually abused by my mom and her boyfriends from 5-12. I love my mom but what she did to me has damaged me in ways i can’t even describe. I’m only 18 and still feel like i can’t speak out because i don’t want my mom to get in trouble. It’s like I’m still that little girl, alone and helpless. The system failed me and my sister 3 times and left us to endure her abuse until i moved at 17. I wish it never happened. I want to forget.
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@@Anonymous-pp9gi I hope you do heal. Healing is possible.
Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try to tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤
Nothing will or no one can stop our personal traumas...this nightmare will be in our heads forever...
So true
I hope not
@@chickennugget8923 me too.
Yes but I want to recover
I know its over for me
I was abused in every imaginable way for my entire childhood from age 6 onward - sexually, physically, verbally, emotionally, psychologically, neglect..... Even with treatment, there is no real recovery. The damage is done and these things break you. You can survive, but you are always going to be wounded and society will always treat you like garbage because of the pain you carry with you.
I pray to God to fix you the broken you. I have been there too.
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We can Heal
I really feel that it’s a horrible feeling to feel like everyone is going to leave you from such a young age, I’m trying to not let it bother me but I didn’t get the chance to heal when I was little because I didn’t know I was suffering so now that everything has caught up to me I feel miserable all the time
@@Lemon_Zhark your going to need help Healing the Trauma, if you try to do it on your own, well it's not safe. I just about drank myself to death. If you can't afford therapy join a twelve step group. I'm so sorry 😭 I love you
I need someone to talk to😭
Hi :)
So do I.....
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@@peralta388 Okay
I am a child that was victimized as a child from the ages 4-10. I have every issue you can think of
omg exactly like me i think i was 5 or maybe 4 but yeah till 9-10
@@sakutibi1112 please do not suffer, go speak with a professional, even your GP. please know you are believed and LOVED!
Sadly....me too. Do you know it could have been early as 1-3 years or so...why I say this, we are too small to know or realise it...I hate when people talk about God or getting professional help. To cry out loud...we are the victims here and it's so hard...
Same with me. I'm 64 and finally seeking help, life became unbearable and was thinking only suicide could end the insanity and pain. Was diagnosed as bipolar, and after 60 yrs I am realizing it owned me. I want to die free and at peace, something I've never really experienced in my life. I'm definitely a late bloomer as they say. Don't let your life, your true self pass you by.
@Abcede Fuentes how couldn't you aware of when this happening
Somebody I know was sexually abused when they were a child, by another child who was one year younger than her. She never knew if it was abuse or not but she blamed herself and grew up now having flashbacks and self loathing and embarrassment about it. She loathes to be in a sexual relationship and it hurt her when she was...nothing to do with her boyfriend, it’s the pain from the past.
She’s now 22. It happened when she was 7-8 1/2.
This is quite similar to what happened to me. I'm a male, and when I was a kid, I was sexually abused at a daycare by a girl who was younger than me. It went on for four years, from ages 6 to 10. Now I'm 24 years old, have never been in a sexual relationship, and avoid girls who have an obvious interest in sex. Even to this day, 14 years after the abuse ended, I will still have dreams of it every once in a while.
Same thing happened to me by my cousin who is a month younger than me from the ages of 9-12. I always think it's my fault. He's my first cousin and I still have to see him everytime during the holidays, in my college, etc. I don't know if this qualifies as abuse.
@@shipofdarkness7780 I'm so sorry to hear that. I know you will find some way to come out stronger from this. Giving all my support to you.
That’s so similar to me though I was 6-7 and the girl was 12 and I felt like everything was my fault for so long
Shoot wow this I can relate, I get flashbacks now. Showing me I actually have unresolved sexual trauma.
I was molested by my stepfather for years, he was persecuted because my sister spoke up after it happened to her. I was the older brother.. Still messes with me till this day and im 30 years old now. Reading through all your comments, I can feel what you feel and i'm sorry. I hope you all find peace.
the only monsters in life are people
and sometimes are family
Anyone who got sexually abused in their childhood, but is living a normal life now, a life full of self-respect, self-love and healthy relationships? If yes please share how you managed yourself to pull ourself out from the childhood aur teenage trauma. It will help everyone who is struggling right now to find self-love. Please write and help others. Thanks
@@eden1634 thanks for sharing this with us. I am so sorry with what you had to go through in your childhood.
I loved it when you said that you have got to stop ignoring the past, and you must accept and move on in your life.
I surely needs a lot of strength and support and courage to be able to do so, but you must to do for your own beautiful self.
Wish you health and happiness :)
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I was 3 years old. At daycare. Another child, one year older than me pulled me under a blanket and told me to put my finger in his butt. I had severe trauma and fear of being under blankets with another. I didn’t quite understand what had happened because I was 3. I told my parents, and alarmingly, they put me into a child therapy center. I went on to go to therapy for 2 years to undo what was done to me in the span of 10 minutes. I went on to live a happy childhood, however, my daycare watcher was my aunts mom. So that sparked a 7 year feud between my parents and my dads brother and his wife. After 7 years of barely seeing my cousins grow up, we were invited over to their new house for dinner. There me and my older sister hung out with my cousins, and our parents talked everything over. We went on to end the 7 year feud in 2017 and since then we have hung out almost every weekend.
I live a normal life for the most part my love life is my struggle I am bisexual sometimes find myself hating men I try not to
☹️we should all who experienced similar should add Each other on media's and be friends
What can I do to get the pain to stop
get a gun
capo200christian bet I’ll let you know what happens
Valerie Rose can u message me
@@asurapain6822 Your Life is Yours if you want to end it its your decision no one else can force you to live or to die
@@capo200christian Of course it is. My point, though, is that there are people on the verge.. leaping off to the unknown.. in need for a kind word or a helping hand, and not for a cruel insensitive comment to push them over.
Please man, if you can't help others just stay away from them. Words are powerful, use them prosper not to ruin.
Was a child that had been abuse in all ways... Trying to heal but it's been hard
Some parents don't deserve children
Yeah it can be traumatizing. But we have to more stronger than our abusers... Everyone will say it is not easy and all, and do you know the feelings..Yes I know it.I was sexually abused by my own father and now I am 22 ..
I am actually happy..I told to my bf and he supports me and show the other side of the gender which I thought very hard to trust..He care for me and most importantly he repsects me , that helped me guys...
It's not us that has to suffer.... please don't suffer yourself..
At some occasion I cry for what happened ...
If you are not comfortable with anyone knowing just go to a counselor ..pls..plss
I can understand how its feel i faced sexual abuse but at that moment I couldn't do anything bcz I was child I didn't even know what happened with me .but now I am teenage girl and whenever I think about it I am filled with shame and blame myself for that
I feel you, sometimes parent is suspect
@@silentgirl1222 it was the same case with me..but now am not ashamed or afraid..my bf knows about it and he played a major role in helping me from recovering ...be strong..it's oke to cry but it's not good to feel ashamed of something when you are the victim..and yes our body is not our identity...so please don't ne ashamed
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I was raped when I was a toddler/baby
I don't allow these things to curse me, personally
We have more power than we realize. This isn't a soul sentence
I was 6 years old the first time I was molested, then at 8, then at 13th year by different people from one family.
at the age of 14 I had to run away from my country to find my freedom, because I felt it wasn't a safe place for me. A lot of Children in Nigeria are voiceless today. Nigeria is where I come from. terrible place to live. sorry, my opinion
I’m trying escape my country too in the future 💔
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My parents used to do it while i was still in the room when i was in elementary school i didn’t have my own room yet because my siblings had all the other rooms and i was always scared to move or make any noise because everytime they realized i was up they would get mad at me and blame me for interrupting so i had no choice but to just lay there and wait for them to finish this went on for years i sleep across from their room now unfortunately i still hear it. A couple years ago my mom was sitting in the living room and i walked past her and she told me to come here and she just started pressing on my chest under my shirt and at the time guys from my school were also grabbing me without my permission even guys i thought were my friends. Sometimes ill take a bath and my mom will come in not in a creepy way but more so in a “our house is crowded and we need our own bathrooms” kind of way and she’ll do something like brush her hair or wash her face and ill cover up by crossing my legs and putting a wash cloth over myself and she’ll act like I’m doing the most and “its not that big of a deal” almost as if she’s irritated that i cover up around her? Idk some of this is just strange to me but i don’t know if it necessarily counts as SA. Sometimes i wonder if they actually knew i was awake and got some kind of enjoyment out of it 🤮 it just makes me sick because why would u do that with your 8 year old daughter in the room??? I’m 16 now and in a way I’m pretty obsessed with thinking about “the deed” throughout the day but I still haven’t done anything with anyone yet and am at the same time extremely grossed out by anything s**ual and i think them introducing this to me in early childhood is what caused it. I’ve read lots of accounts of people who had to hear their parents but actually being in the room and them completely crossing boundaries with whats appropriate for a kid to be in the presence of is even worse.
Just remember how horrible they made you feel and when you have your own kids NEVER subject them to this type of questionable abuse. Very sad and I’m so sorry you went through this.
No it’s not normal! That’s a straight abuse! No shame! Invading your boundaries! You have the right to cover your body from everyone! They seem to have got rid of “shame feeling” they act wild as if it’s normal. Sorry for that my dear.
Just know that’s not normal nor healthy environment. Don’t assume all homes like that. God bless you ❤
I'm sorry to hear this. You are not wrong. Please do well in school & leave as soon as you can
Today I got sexually abused by my step grandfather. I've been abused by my brothers before but never touched. I don't know what to do.
Please, please, please get help! If you don’t have anyone in your household who you trust, then please message a friend, and ask them to send help. I don’t know exactly what to do, and this is just my advice, as I have been abused like that too. Just please know that you are not alone and that you will get through this. You don’t have to do anything that you are not comfortable with, but I strongly advise you tell someone you trust
Hi, it’s one year later are you okay??
Hello. It’s another year. How are you dear girl
All you people who call yourselves victims, you are more than that. You are survivors. You are greater than any obstacle which befalls you. The plus is your age to be empowered.
I probably shouldn't even be born. My life is pointless
I was a victim of childhood abuse at just age 4. It’s affected me in many ways. Although I waited until I was 14 to finally say something to a parent about it because I was ashamed of it.
If you were a victim just like me PLEASE don’t wait as long as I did because then it will be too late. Tell a trusted adult so they can help you and know that you will not be punished. I felt like I would get in trouble for having something like this happen to me but I wasn’t. I was given so much support. You can also start counseling too which can help some kids cope with the trauma. Hope this was somewhat helpful.
I also waited a long time to tell.... but we can be proud that we said something at a
@@slaonestephens7575 yes we can. And I’m really sorry you had to go through this too. No child should have to experience this.
I was at 4 too but I waited until I was 20. I tried to convince myself it was a weird dream or I made it up.
I think I waited until few years ago and I'm 27 now. Doomed forever to be isolated alone in my room I guess
It’s real and it can ruin people... we have to be stronger than our abusers... we can lead a good life. It’s so difficult but I believe everyone can eventually be happy again. We all have to stay strong, even though it’s difficult. Things will get better, life is constantly changing and it will get better.
But Then What? Thanks cuz it happens to me ;c
What if the abuser is someone who was your friend for basically your life, your cousin
Christian a well 1) it’s still abuse no matter the relation 2) I know that kind of situation is more difficult to navigate- a family member abusing you I mean, but still, if you’ve been abused by a family member (especially if they are still in your life) you deserve justice, you deserve to not be worried constantly, and your other family members.. well they might not react in a horrible way, hopefully they wouldn’t.
To anyone that has been a victim or is depressed get help take the first step on telling someone and if they don’t respond or listen tell someone else , take walks get out get some fresh air and read or meditate, or call a online councilor ? I was sexually abused at 5 years old and as a teen I was fully raped . I’ve had sever anxiety and Sociol problems to were I had to drink to get brave . Nope I’m not a alcoholic, just used it for brave juice in my early days . I survived so can you . I try everything to keep myself happy from hiking to camping to listening to good music or festivals or something different. I am a survivor not as victim anymore!!!
They won't talk to children that are 3 years old or less even if you have concerns they are ignored. Child abuse is normalized by the Government and enabled by the courts.
19 still struggling never been able to talk about it in person with anyone no one wants to listen
Here is my email Dan F . I was also abused , if you want to talk my email is keiranrobb99@gmail.com
If u ever need someone im here. Your voice is heard
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I am a girl who was abussed in every possible ways.. Its hard to live with this memories..
It starred when I was 5! Yup! 5! When I was in kindergarten and it ended when I was 7 at the end of 2nd grade!
Edit: Why is there so many likes on this comment?
@zombie slayer 22 no my stepdad
@Abcede Fuentes 😶
THX FOR THE LIKES
I was sexually abused by my boss at a bar
I was 5. I dont remember how long it went on for. But, I do know that it happened more than once. It was my father's girlfriend's daughter. She was 12 or 13 when she did this. I denied that it happened for 17 yrs. I feel shame and guilt. I didnt tell my dad until I was 9. But, then when I brought it up again at 21 he claims that I never told him. And when I did tell him again he just told me I need to get over it.
I am so sorry for everyone that had or is going through this omg 💔
I am abused by my own brother. I am getting suicidal thoughts and feeling very insecure. No positive people in my life .
I get scared of every person who come close to me and touch me. I need some help.
How old are you?
Say to parent/s or trusted adult. If no proper support Go to Police. 62 year old woman now, been there in same position as 5 year old child. Abuser needs help.
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@@mzperlz I attempted to suicide but my mother saved me. And I didn't tell anything but I want to live for my parents
@@fighter3194 I’m sorry you’re going through that. The best advice I can give you is to probably move out. You can rent out a room for like $400 a month. Get a job at a call center they pay fairly well. I can help you if you’d like.
I was sexually abused when I was 3 years old and a few times later on as a child. I’m 41 now and I just started my path to recovery. I started listening to an audio book called. On The Road To Recovery: How to Heal from Childhood Abuse, Trauma And Neglect and Reclaim your Life. By Philip Newton. I am new to recovery and this book has been a great start. It’s easy to listen to, simple to understand and provides a lot of ways to find compassion and self healing. Recovery is a life long journey but this has been a great starting point. I wish you all love, compassion and healing.
As a retired psychiatrist, recovering alcoholic/addict, and child sexual abuse survivor, the missing part of this well-meaning video is that a child ALWAYS blames him/herself for the abuse, is ashamed, and filled with anxiety and self-loathing, so rarely ever reveals the abuse to a parent, and mine weren't there and didn't care for or protect me anyway. After a lifetime as a practicing mental health professional, I have finally found that long missing protection and care in a "reparenting" experience in a 12-step group, sadly a rare experience. Don't let the shame/self-loathing/addiction keep you from seeking help and God bless us one and all. Why do we keep having children we can't provide the essential protection and care for? Now, that is THE question. Stress R Us
I don’t know how old I was or how long it lasted for all I know it was repressed for a long time. The first time this thought came back it didn’t that much because I made to touch him not the other way around. After more though he was six years older me so he knew what he was doing was wrong. Now every time I see him I freak out.
That first line you wrote is exactly how mine is, I 'remembered' in my mid/late teens (33 now) half convinced myself that it must have only been a nightmare until he mentioned it (he said that he was sorry for what happened when we were kids) and I was stunned. That was probably a decade ago now and there isn't a day that goes by when I don't think about it. I feel like I need to talk to someone but don't know who to reach out to!
I hope you are doing OK.
@@Anonymous-pp9gi hey, I'm doing OK thank you. Hope you are. Well I finally spoke to someone about it, to be honest it was dragged out of me in a way I didn't want to happen but now it feels like a weight has been lifted and that I can be stronger and more honest about day to day issues that come up. I was round about the same age when it happened. Thank you for your thoughts and I hope you are staying safe and keeping well!
I've been sexualy abused by my dad and he lied saying it was just a game and he told me not to tell anyone one time I did when I was 5 but since I was that young he managed to lie his way out of trouble this made me angry but I knew i couldn't do anything about it because they wouldn't believe me so I just accepted that telling them at that age wouldn't work fast forward to when im 11 some things ended up happening between me and my mom that ended up with me saying I hate my life when my mom asked why I told her that my dad sexualy abused me that was also why I hated going to my dad's on the weekends and after an investigation they found him guilty and that what I said to the person that helps kids who've been abused the judge found it true to because he admitted he did it after the day I told my mom what happened I never went to that hell of a place again although I'm still angry because he didn't even go to jail or get charged for the crime he literally admitted to but at least I'm never gonna have to fear him again I hope but I hope he burns in hell and stays there but for some reason my brother thinks I'm the bad guy just because of a crime that my dad did not me and just because we can't see him anymore because it was said by the social services and stuff but honestly I don't really care what my brother thinks all I'm glad about is that I never have to see that b()sterd again for good and once again I hope he BURNS IN HELL 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 FOR THE CRIME HE DID TO ME THAT EMOTIONALLY TAMARATISED ME AND APPARENTLY HE COULD'VE EVEN GOTTEN ME PREGNANT CAUSE I WAS ACTUALLY ALREADY AT THE AGE TO ACTUALLY HAVE THE EGG THING THAT MALE SPERM HAS TO GET TO TO POSSIBLY MAKE ME PREGNANT I HOPE HE BURNS IN THE DEEPEST DARKEST PITS OF FUCKING HELL
Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try yo tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤If nothing works Read the bible and trust in god.
I'm 14 now and I've been putting the pieces together and found out that I was sexually abuse by my teenage cousin back when I was 7-9 years old. I haven't told anybody however my father knew and didn't do crap. Idk if there's anything to do now bc I kept my mouth shut about it but since I'm planning to get him arrest or sued, how would that work? Would the people at court be able to do something or not?
You're only 14 so it's not too late to press charges against him
same thing happened to me, i recently realized and now im 27. its not too late
My wife says she was abused by her stepdad when she was younger and for 10 years. She says she lied a lot when she was younger and nobody believes her , but now as an adult I still do t think they believe her. She wants to see her mom for Christmas and thinks it’s ok to have our kids around him if we just ignore him and do other things . I’ve told her they are not allowed in the same building as him. And she gets angry with me and says it’s not fair because I can see my parents whenever and she can’t see her mom whenever. Her mom moved back to El paso with the stepdad a year ago and she blames it on me for not being able to have normalcy with her mother or family. I told her I didn’t do it , the kids didn’t do it , nobody hurt you except him and you’re making everybody pay for his mistakes. She wants her cousins kids to play with their kids but again same place and area. And they don’t believer her or she thinks the family will not choose to distance him for a day for her . I told her it’s wrong that she’s even thinking of putting the kids in that area if he abused you. She refuses to go to therapy and it’s always stressful because of her emotional issues that we can’t even leave the kids with my parents to go out on a date because of her bitterness towards my parents being able to see the kids
i just couldnt held tears, why did i have to go through this?
i am now a porn addict to the most unwanted things?
and so tired mentaly
how can i survive? i will never get a real clusre in mylife about that.. can i be strong one day? can i be loved and love? do i deserve it even?
Hii how are u. sigh whatever had happened, i'm really sorry. It's not ur fault!! you deserve love, ur human. There are still persons out there who cares, caring is love. I know it's hard, but you keeping yourself positive, this will eventually get u out of this. For those who view this comment, please say something positive and/or paste a link below with tips on how to overcome this problem.
Thx 💙
I’ve faced this too. You will survive. You do deserve love and you are worthy of love. You will come out stronger through the challenges you faced. Eat well, take care of yourself, have fun doing the things that you love, surround yourself with people who love you for your beautiful self, and you must keep going! There is only one you in this world and that makes you a diamond and diamonds deserve to shine. 💍
I feel you , same w/me .
I may be 17 now but damn my mom needed this 12-7 years ago
The worst is to have no one believe you about an assualt, then when they do the predator physically beats you unconscious at age five for "having him kicked out"
In my experience and from my experience anybody that I know that is suffered from this for me personally can't afford therapy. I don't have health insurance so even if I did want to get the help all those things that they need to recover from this aren't available unless you can pay over $100 an hour per session and I don't really know anybody in my world that can afford to do that not even my parents.
True facts, I have insurance but therapy is not part of the coverage, still $25/35 per session isn't either an option as it may be per week.
Hi Vanessa, EFT tapping is a very powerful, free technique.
A guided session with a therapist would be best, but there are many free videos explaining the technique, guided videos for specific challenges and online support groups.
It just may help.
@@hannespeters1055 thank you
There are free therapists that help abuse survivors. Look up centers in your area. Or even farther away they may help over the phone
@barb thank you. Love and light!
I was 5-6 yr when it happened for the first time then it often happened to me till 12-13 ...after that I was nearly 14-15 when this kind of thing happened again..this time with different person.. different way..and then it happened again ...and recently i m young adolescent now ..and Teenage boy did this to mee..and seriously I can't come over this... this just goes repeating in my head over and over again...pls somebody give me cure to this nightmare...I want to focus on my studies ...and these things just killing me
I never knew I have been sexual abused.. is this normal? when I look at the mirror I don’t see my spark after sometime I see it again.
Same here i thought he was my bf :/
TAKE SOME CRUSHED GLASS OR TACKS AND PUT THEM AROUND THE BED.
I like that you addressed cocsa. Thank you
I don't know how to find help without jeopardizing my life. Without giving away what I consider my own freedom. Without adding more weight onto my shoulders, when I've already carried so much through my life... I just don't know. Please say a prayer for me.
Why 8 disgusted people dislike this video
Probably the abusers
I was abused from the age 2-11by a stranger , and my two uncles and two cousins and my older brother and my older sister she did something horrible ) and my dad once touched me ... and I am absolutely heartbroken, I have the most horrible life , I wish I was young again so I can escape my home or kill my self or die All the abusers are free and happy 💔💔
i love you. i am so sorry this happened to you but i want you to know that the people who have/had it the roughest come out the toughest. know that you are not alone...your story is quite similar to mine actually, i was molested when i was nine by my uncle but i told my moms years later because i was afraid around the same time my two cousins would just touch me in ways i didn’t want to and said it was just a game. um and then i was again molested when i was fourteen by my own father. i am 17 now. and it’s hard but i know it’s not always gona be like this:’)
@@montanadickens3897 I appreciate you so much, and I’m so sorry that we share this trauma ! I hope one day our good karma comes in, and settled us to this amazing life .
@Child Molester 👈👈👈👈REPOR’T🚫🚫
For me it was my dad and it wasn’t as bad as you might think I was just touched and while I know that that’s still awful and it started when I was six (and then stopped) and then I forgot about it until now and I’m sixteen but I live in Britain and since it only happened when he was really drunk I still love him and I don’t want him to go to prison or for my mum to find out or my dad because my mum won’t look at me the same way and I’ll be estranged from my dad and our relationship will never be the same because when he isn’t drunk he is really nice. But I can’t get help until I’m 18 because then if I tell a therapist it’s their legal duty to tell my mum until I become 18 and to be honest all I want is to be able to forgive my dad but I just can’t. I really do love him but I just want things between us to go back to the way they were.
Hi , you are very strong , but please , report your father , he could be dangerous for other kids. Being drunk is not an excuse. Also you should seek help as soon as possible , the sooner the faster you will heal ! Good luck♥️ (and sorry for my english)
You telling someone about what happened to you, is not ruining your relationship. Your dad did that all by himself when he got drunk and took advantage of a child. He did that all by himself. Speak up. Those that love you and support you will stand by your side.
I understand your point of view.
im the only girl cousin in my family, and 3 of my cousins sexually abused me 4-10. ive had a 25 year old man groom me and killed himself later when i “failed him”. no matter how much i get better and grow, i will forever be tramutized and nothing can ever stop that.
Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try yo tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤ If nothing of that works Read the bible and trust in god.
I don't know what to do anyore..sometimes I feel I concure my depression...other times I feel like I haven't...I don't know if I need to seek help or not....I just don't know what to do...
One time I tried to seek help but I guess I don't know what to even say...Or what's my issue...all I know is I'm sad...I feel like I don't matter...I feel like I'm not important enough to my family...They say they do love me when I ask them but I don't know anymore...I feel like all my laugh I was just on my own...I was sexually abused for a long time I guess...from when I was like i don't know...5? Until I was 13 I think....I never told anyone or confess to my mom at first. But another child told their mom that my dad abused them, which is true, and then I was asked questsions as well...I first didn't admit to my mom but later I did...
...I just don't know but I wish for once I see that fire in her....to yell at my dad..be angry...tell him what you feel...
Like what I remember as a child, after my dad was arrested was that we was finally free. That we get to do what we want now...but it felt the same to me....I still felt alone....I tried to ask my mom for us to go out as a kid...to do something because we free from my dad...but she didn't wanted to do anything...I never felt like my mom being like i don't know....More protective I guess? Or help me go through this pain after the abuse...I felt like I was always alone....
And I still feel alone now...Like I don't want a relationship but my family....But I don't feel like they dedicated...
I don't know if I'm wrong to feel this way or if something is wrong with me...
I don't know what to do no more.. I'm tired of feeling sad...I don't know how to get help or what to say if I see a therapist....
Sometimes I wish I wasn't here no more and just dissapear.....
I feel like there is no reason to even be here...
I don't know if its because what happen in the past...
I just feel stuck....I'm 32 now and I don't know why I still experience this sadness...
I'm I crazy? Is something wrong with me? Why cant I just be normal and be happy?
Hi @Diana Morales, it's completely normal to feel sad.
There are ways to heal. Methods. You can do it, one step at a time. When it gets difficult, you stop. And pick it up again later.
Be kind to yourself. You've been through so much and you're a survivor.
One powerful technique is EFT tapping. There are many videos that explain how it works.
There are people out there who cares... also ur not alone :) pls watch this link: ua-cam.com/video/y2LMPCnZhtY/v-deo.html Hope it helps.
It started when i was 6 and stopped when i was 12
Im 17 now and i still don't know how to cope;(
It is the same with me and therapy helps. It is really hard at first but it helps I went immediately after the sexual abuse happened for 3 years and got over the depression portion of it but you have to pay attention because you might also have ptsd like I apparently do now so try to get to therapy if you can.
That is a great Video, it's very important, to get help asap. I've got abused as a child by my father, my mother wasn't really looking for Help, it haunts you all you Live. Stop Child Abuse when ever you can.
@Guy Whom Pissies People Off. That is sad to know, but sometimes we need time, to be able to talk, the best to someone, you can trust. Sorry, i'm not an Expert, i wish you all the best.
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I’m a child, who was recently re-victimized. I’m getting help, yet therapy isn’t gonna work according to my therapist because I’m so far gone.
I don’t know what sources to use, I don’t know what to do
I miss my abuser and everything hurts.
I understand you. For now, relax. In a few years you will see things clearer.
So many sad truths.
I’m so glad that I know that this is why I cant function properly
I was abused by my uncle like 12 years ago and i think about i like everyday but no one knows about it please someone help me
Marek Tarek hiya honey, im here. do you need to talk?
I'm here for you. Do you need company?
It be nice to have websites where we could all go chat and become friends like depression chat who we are related to this stuff I'm sure we would understand each other and get along
I was molested by my step monster starting when I was 10 years old to 18 years old. I am 52 years old and I am finally starting trauma therapy.
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Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try yo tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤
It happens to me to but I feel to guilty and I never knew it was not good until I was like 7 and right now I’m 9
Can I have someone to talk to?
Banana Raider yo I can give you advice
ok thx
Im here, you wanna talk?
Hi darling. I know that those memories can be hard to get away from and they haunt you. You are so strong. I want you to know that it wasn't your fault, and that God or the higher power(s) you may believe in know it wasn't your fault. You should not have to feel dirty, or unworthy. Yet someone did something wrong to you. I am so so sorry dear. I am sending you much love and you are such a strong person to confront this. Just because you are forced to remember it doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
I know it feels so icky now that you know what was right and not. Maybe you had a sense something was off but your trust of this person was overriding that judgement. Your trust did not make you bad. You are good. And if you're a little boy, then you're still a very good little boy and I'm so so sorry someone ripped your childhood away. If you're a little girl, I'm so so sorry. I am a girl too and being touched like that can be so horrible because that's supposed to be a special thing reserved for when you are much older and for only those you really really trust. And love. I urge you to let yourself trust good people, and to trust your heart, and that not all people are bad and to practice trust so that you may heal. :) Whoever you are, beautiful child, I wish this never happened to you
GOD is the only one who can truly set you free. Survivors may ask “why did God allow this to happen”? I’m not sure why. Child sex abuse happened to me from 6-11. I don’t think I ever questioned why God, why me? When I became an adult, I got in church. During 1 service, my former pastor was preaching about forgiveness. It was at that point, I forgave all my abusers: 3 still living and 2 had passed away(both from suicide). It was more for my sanity than theirs. But, I forgave them none the less. 1 of them apologized for abusing me. The other denies it ever happened. To this day, I still have issues with intimacy.
Hey dear. Im so sorry for what you went through at such a young age. But listen. No one has the power to ruin your life. No one! Everything you feel is inside you and with your actions you will heal little by little. Try yo tell the truth about what happened at least first in therapy. You cant change others and your past but you can change yourself and make a better present and future. Read the power of now by eckhart tolle please and keep healthy and social. Read about nutrition for a healthy brain by jim kwik and meditate. Grow and help others around you to grow as well. You are here for a reason! Find it! Wish you good luck ❤ the bible and the church are definetly superb options too. God is Big.
What if therapy has not worked? I’ve tried confronting the family about it but that has not worked either. What is another option?
I’d suggest praying about it. I’m definite it’ll work. God does change things.
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I was abused I’ve been grappling with the feeling of being unheard and unseen.
Same, and sometimes it's difficult to tell others for whatever reason, but you're not alone and you got this ❤
Im perplexed when I hear people say the abuse continued into the teen and even adult years.
My "father" SA me from ages 4-12.
At around age 8, Id often try fighting back. Of course, I always lost because my adult abuser was bigger and stronger, but at least I'd try.
By age 12. It was on. Bu this time I was bigger and stronger and more capable of doing battle.
I told my mom when I was 12. Her response was "get out of here you liar". This gave me even more resolve to fight to end the abuse.
At age 12, my abuser attempted to SA me and I pulled a knife from the kitchen drawer. I told him I'd kill him. He never attempted to abuse me again.
This is why I dont understand how a teen or adult could 🎉allow someone to sexually abuse them when they can fight back and or report the abuse.
I have a real question and I’m not trying to discount the fact that people here have had terrible things happen to them. Is it sexual abuse if your peers talk about and make fun of your brother and how he did something sexual in public, but the whole middle school and high school knew about it? It was a rumor while I was in middle school but I remember feeling like a dark cloud was over me and some kind of stress started to develop that’s hard to explain. I remember clearly after that I started avoiding crowds and being seen in public and I also have anxiety when I hear people laughing in public and it comes off like I’m serious. But I never tied it to my sexuality and lack of relationships. I always find myself distancing myself from women even though they really want to know me and such. I can’t explain it very clearly but all I know is that it’s not normal. So my question is it more emotional abuse or is it sexual abuse? Or is it something else entirely?
I'm not an expert, but I think it's an emotional abuse, these people are just looking for something to laugh about, to make themselves feel better, even if you're just a little bit different than them, that's why I've always hated school,
but you should know that it's not your fault. You'll find yourself eventually. Also, you had nothing to do with what happened to your brother.
I know that it's hard to accept the fact that your sexuality may have been affected because of the trauma (just like what happened to me when I got abused as a child), It sucks, but it's okay.
Please remember to talk it out to someone you can trust or a therapist or at least search up for emotional and sexual abuse and read about them also check what other people have been through, knowing that you're not alone is a great help.
Thanks for your thoughtful response! I’m definitely going to talk with someone. That makes a lot of sense for it to be emotional abuse because I always felt like I close myself off to people emotionally. That also helps knowing that they probably just wanted to feel better about themselves. It makes me feel less targeted and more empathetic.
I hope you also heal fully from your abuse if you haven’t already. It’s a terrible thing to go through. Nobody deserves this.
Feeling of shame even when you did no wrong nd people who did wrong you have to see them most of the day as they live near by how to heal when knowingly or unknowingly come in front of you..I almost heAled and forgotten Bt again when I see them in front of me childhood trauma comes back also can’t leave my hometown . I was 9 and they took advantage three of them 16 13 and 14 ...don’t know exactly how old they were at that time but it’s impossible to make people understand wt I went through ..I told my best frnd she reacted that time Bt didn’t asked me how I feel never ..told my mother she listened me once reacted after that even she didn’t bothered me to ask how iam feeling...it took huge strength to poat here as it bought feeling of shame low self esteem it’s a struggle..I worked on it meditation I healed by the moment I saw them in front of me again trauma hit me ..rage of anger stress my happy mood turns into bad wish I could share with some people don’t understand I have been fighting all alone ..I forgave them sometime I want to kill them don’t kno wt to do ..I pray to Vid I never want to see these abuser’s again but the more I pray more God brings them in front of me..I see I. There eyes they have no regret and Themis brings more anger to me ..I did no wrong to anybody why they did that to me sometimes I ask God but it’s so tough specially when you can’t share it with someone and worst when you share people don’t understand nd see you as if it’s your fault ..
Sometimes The signs can be right in front of someone but it’s not talked about or reported by the adults that witness it. #gabrielfernandez
Not too long ago. I went back home with mom where it happened. I think I had like ptsds. My anxiety was through the roof. Probably so I wouldn't meet them. I split up with mom. After she came back she told me she met one of them. Gosh so lucky I went back. And about what happened she just said just don't think about it not like she even tried to be mad or trying to hurt him
I never want to be a child again
I hate childhood
Bro what happened to you? I think you will be ok
I haven't sleep in years I see there face nothing help can anyone give me a good direction or person who can help
It started as a wrestling game the he held me down and sexually abused me, I wanted to disappear and sink into the earth but he was to strong for me, read below to see the rest of my sex abuse.
Ive been sexually and mentally abused by my brother from 3-4 to 11-12 years old and that didn't kill a woman in me. After all i could fall in love and be in a relatonship. The man just used me like a toy and then threw me out, took away the dream of my life that i can never get back. I believed to men even after being abused by my brother but the last man just killed the entire trust in my. I will never be able to love, to live, to achieve dreams, nothing. I feel like my life is useless and stupid and i hate him even more than my brother. Idk maybe it was just my child brain that washed away all the fear and pain that i went through, but the abusive relationships affected my health much more.
I'm so sorry to hear that, i also got sexually abused when I was 11, but you got this, and you can overcome it!
I wish you all the best. I love you❤
My name is Rosemarie D. I was abuse in torturous abuse, multiple sex abuse. I was even made to eat my own vomit. How do I get 9ver so much?
ive been forced to touch a man and a man groped me. its only happened twice. i dont feel like im allowed to feel this way.
Just because someone might be going threw something worse does not make your issue less important your entitled to your felling and to get help no matter how small or big you thing your situation might be it’s still important to u .
Wow, i feel like you. This quarantine thing made me have so introspection about how I am and why. I had 3 experiences with different men. 1rst I was less than 4, the teenage son of one of my moms took me to he's room while my mom and his was outside and I think he putted his penis in my face, but I don't know if I don't remmeber because I was so little or because it was to stressful. Nothing else happened thanks to my clever brother whom was 6 at the time and notice something was wrong. The thing is, I didn't know what was happening, but the surprising thing is my mom never dealt with it, even close family members where asking me about it and I didn't want to remember. Than when I was older 8 years i guess my mom had a boyfriend, partner who was living with us and I always thought something was up with him, like I didn't felt secure with him, I guess I always felt like that with every Male but with him it was worse. 1 day he came to the bathroom and "gave me a bath" touching my vulva and i was in shock but the worse day was when he came to my room ome night and got into my bed and made my touch his penis while i was asleep, I knew what was happening but I guess i didn't want a real memory of it so i made myself sleep. The next day i replayed it again and again, I was usually at 6 at school, I cried all morning, shaking and anxious. The 3th experience was actually my brother in law, while staying with my older sister while sick I was taking a shower and after I realize I forgot my underwear so when I was going to get it that I opened the door he was trying to see under the door and I was in utter shock, felt sick to my stomach. I had another experience that one of my elementary school friends dad groped me too and I could see in his eyes the sickness of desired for a minor. This experience thanks to God didn't lead to rape but still fucked me up. I stayed a virgin until 21 because I didn't trust no one but yet without wanting to I felt aroused and it made me uncomfortable. I suffer from anxiety and I have never dig that with a therapist, I'm 23 and I can't take myself to talk about with a stranger. I feel scare that I would be judged or blame even though I know I wasn't. There was situation where I didn't wanna believe that and adult man wanted to harm me and I didn't avoid it. And still I feel like I can't consider myself abuse and yet I know I was.
I had a similar experience. Your feelings are completely valid.
Its not fine if your dad touches you at your butt for fun, right??
I dont know, my mom always said that he is just joking and mean no harm. Is it wrong of me to feel this way?
Victoria Cookiez Productions if it didn’t bother you then it would not matter but you don’t like it and it makes you uncomfortable which means what he is doing is wrong you need to tell them that it makes u uncomfortable and to stop say it firmly to get your point across I’m not saying it is but he could be testing the boundaries with you and it needs to be stopped
Thank God she actually gets it right on childhood sexual abuse.
What would be the best advice to give to a boy who was sexually abused at 11 by a woman?
I didn't know rather if I was sexually abused or not up until a week ago but I found out that I was the child hood sexual abuse that I exsperienced was mild but still none the less it was sexual abuse what happened to me I already knew that I was physically and emotionally abused and neglected for along time but I couldn't exsactly remember that I was sexually abused as a child and a teen ager but I did and it does feel like I have a bit of closure knowing my question was answered I already know I was controlled pretty Bradly by my parents and caregivers and I wasn't surprised that one of the m did feels pretty good to have more answers
This happend to me!
I will never forgive that fucking neighbor EVER.
it happened to me this year by my ex girlfriend. im struggling so much
Hi doctor can I ask pls ? my daughter is 5yrs old and I'm working from 7 to 13:00. who left at home every day is her father and 2 half-brother. When I came home my daughter crying telling me she has blood and stomach pain and I went to the weekend doctor to check my daughter and according to the doctor she has UTI and then prescribing her an antibiotic but in the next day evening I let her pee in toilet pot but I found her pee has a blood and sticky slime my question if that is Normal because of the antibiotic or there sexual abuse? My husband is difficult he has a difficult behaviour if I ask he is easy to get stress and act agressively.. please tell me I wanna know pls might someone could answer me.. In the country where I live there is always appointment and it takes time to visit again to the doctor. Im curious to know about my daughter UTI caused ... please help me atleast I know ...thank you verymuch to all doctors who could answer my questions atleast I have any clue.
I am not a doctor but by what you are saying it sounds suspicious. I would take her in and have her get checked out again. Blood is not normal for a 5 year old. Don’t stay silent to protect your husband . Protect your daughter
where can i bring her for professional check..? the doctor only asking me to bring urinalysis if they can see something on it..so , after taking her antibiotic for 5days doctor told me to go back to bring her urinlysis then in 2days i called to the doctor about the result...doctor answered me its normal. I keep asking my 5years old daughter if someone touching her , Her replied no mama no one. then I Keep asking again to her same question then she get mad. :(( I hope she don't abuse by her own father huuhu now she playing again normal seem happy again.Thank you very much of your reply.
If you have to ask this you need to leave.
Sensitively listen to what your daughter has to say. Observe her behaviour change. Silencing, retreating into self?
I think it's the worst thing anybody can experience
It takes forever to recover from.
I literally feel the age I was.
Fortunately I didn't remember anything till I was twenty five
But at the same time when I finally did remember and everything emerged, including my sex drive
And I was pretty screwed up.
I took about twenty years To feel somewhat normal
Counseling helped to a degree, EMDR therapy helped to a degree, but I need more
Fortunately at my church we have inner healing which is also helpful.
However since I moved back to america I find that I have new memories emerging.
I've only been back five months but it feels like five years sometimes
i'm not married and I don't have kids
I'm hoping I start my new job next week that has actual health insurance
I'm really hoping I can get e m d r therapy. I want to get some counseling again and some medications on my body stops hurting.
I was a child.. I should’ve been protected but I was physically abused in home and sexually abused outside.. and I still live with my physical abuser and I still get manipulated by him to this day and idk how to act.. my older brother used to make me go to school everyday with face wounds bc of how much he’d beaten me up and as I grew up he kept reminding me of it saying well? Do u wanna get beaten again ? And it just breaks me I hate him.. but to my family I can’t hate my so called brother . But I HATE HIM I wish him all bad in life just as he ruined my childhood
i was sexually abused at my 6 years old from my cousin .Now after all these years i am annoucing thati overcomed the abuse .It's possible .Yes it's hard but it's people . LETTER to my abuser : you made me very strong. thank you asshole :)
You can’t just get over it
Maybe in the future we can get over it.. I've became an Alcoholic. and Its destroying my life..
Well, this certainly answers a lot of questions about wtf is wrong with me. my mental illness is linked to what has plagued me for the last 30 fucking years. Pretty much answers everything. (I missed the part where, how I’m suppose to heal from this?)??🤷♂️. Hmm?,?🤬
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It's been 8 months since that post Brian , How are you now ?
I really need help 😔😭
Deer light , please tell a adult or someone or call CPS, I know that it is difficult, promise you you will feel a hundred times better once you are free of that mental, sexual abuse! Also free of them ! You don’t have to hide you’re feminine side , your probably a very beautiful person on the out side and inside. Please don’t be afraid just make that call.
I think no one will see this but I just want to put this here. Hello :) I am 16 but I just want to get this off my chest. It’s not nearly as bad as what so many others go through but when I was nine my uncle used to come up from behind me and put his hands in my pants and touched me and I never told anyone. I think I’m making a big deal or something but, I’m crying right now haha and I have no idea why it wasn’t even that bad :/ I just wanted to say that. Thanks if you actually read this :)
it does matter and its super serious
I went through the same but was a guy i just know . He touched me and idk whyyyyyyyyyyyyy did i even laughed w/him and let him . I was just a child maybe 4/5/6 y/o .
It was that bad
I am in the UK. Where can I go to talk to someone?
thegreatouv go to Safeline.org x
thegreatouv try napac.org.uk they should be able to help you in sha Allah
Somebody plz help me I was touched inappropriately..o m feeling like I m impure plzz help mee
Please cherry try to reach out to to anyone that you feel comfortable sharing your trauma with. Don't keep it to yourself cause it makes more damages than good
Plsss Help
Shame on those
Just to be clear, children have never lost their innocence. That would conclude that they are somehow at fault too. I would say that it is terrible when a child loses the ability to trust and the security, protection and safety that they are worthy of and deserve in the first place. No child has lost their innocence. It is always with them. It is the essence of who they are. They deserve to have that recognized. It is a part of their identity and self worth. Please never tell a child that you are sorry they lost their innocence. Just that you will protect them going forward from anyone who has hurt them that way and will help them rebuild their safe world. 😢 I was also a victim multiple times and this just broke me.
I have also being abused in childhood by a relative...
@Child Molester oh that was fucking bad and i hated it....What the fuck is wrong with you Nobody choose to be abused or molested
Same here
I ain’t telling anyone whether I’ve been abused I trust NOBODY!!!
I believe I may be being harassed by a preditor from my past. I was at an Easter Egg hunt when I was just about to go after eggs off thrme beaten path in the bushes. I had a panicy feeling and ran away instead. A person made a reference to "an egg i missed" on a movie website and then there was a styrafoam egg on my balcony one day rapped in some kind of rubber. It took me a while to put the pieces together. There are also benign seeming "triggers" on another source that refers to being kept and terrized in a fun housr, haunted house. If you thonk you might have a bad feeling about something you re prob right. Don t patronize watch these programmes.
I was raped when I was 14 years old by neighbourhood shopkeeper by giving drug in juice..... I remain in Dark for several years even couldn't tell to my parents. They blamed Me to its your fault. Presently from 10 years I am consulting to psychiatrist & feeling better but not fully
Hi I am also struggling with homosexuality when I was born in a family I had also face sexual abuse I saw my parents having sex infront of me for more than 10 years in the same room and also I was inappropriate by my father and I donot know whether it is a sexual abuse or not but my sexual urges were way beyond the right age which further led me to the path of homosexuality and porn and masturbation addiction I feel that having sex will be my coping mechanism and right now I am at that phase of life that I am struggling with homosexuality this is not the life I wanted live and I am lost everything
My daughter needs HELP PLS
I'm a victim I guess. And I'm doomed to be mentally ill and alone forever