LIFE UPDATE: pregnancy issues, mom guilt + 2nd Trimester recap!
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- Опубліковано 9 вер 2024
- GRWM #secondtrimester recap + venting about how I'm feeling, body image, mom guilt, pregnancy complications?
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As a therapist myself, I think if you choose to find a therapist to help you with your anxiety and pregnancy, you will get some new tools to help you through this and additional, outside support. You got this Filo ❤ sending love
The guilt is real!! I don’t want to say it vanishes once second baby is born, but it gets so much better!! And give yourself GRACE!! You deserve it.
I’m sorry you’re having such anxiety. Your feelings are valid,but never doubt yourself as a mom. You are doing amazing!
I was starting to worry since you haven't posted! Your feelings are totally normal and being pregnant is NOT easy. No one should be judging you for the way you're feeling.
Mamita, mom guilt is an awful thing. Stop being so hard on yourself you are literally building a whole human life inside of you. It is okay to be tired and slow down a little. You got this mama! ❤
No matter what everyone else is going through and what is going on in the world, your feelings are still valid.
I understand the mom guilt but it sounds like you're doing a great job! It's hard not to be so hard on ourselves. I went through something similar with my daughter, she was measuring small and they couldn't see one of the chambers. It was causing me so much stress and anxiety that I ended up doing a paracentesis to get the amniotic fluid tested for abnormalities to ease my concerns. It came back normal and it was a huge relief. I had several issues while I was pregnant with my own health and that was one last concern to worry about. She was taken at 37 weeks and was very small at birth, 5 lbs and 6 ounces and even smaller when she came home at 4 lbs and 9 ounces but she was perfectly healthy and is now 4 1/2 and has no health issues. I suggest doing what ever you need to ease your anxiety ❤ I hope he's perfectly healthy and there are no issues. My thought with getting the tests was also if we do find health issues we can start doing research and mentally prepare for whatever health issues will arise after she was born and feel more educated and prepared. I'll be thinking of you both ❤
Just because other people may have it worse than you doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid and that you shouldn't feel what you feel. It's ok to feel the way you do. Sorry you are going through this ❤
Happy new year!!! I missed y'all!
I can relate to seeing all those horror stories on social media while pregnant. I had to step back from socials and luckily I was already in therapy all the way through my pregnancy. I was included at 37+3 for gestational hypertension and my little guys was born 17.5in 5lbs 15oz and perfectly healthy. He was in the 1st percentile and now at 8 months he’s in the 40th and our pediatrician is always happy with how he’s growing! Hang in there ❤
My baby measured in the 13th percentile (based on his femur length) at multiple ultrasounds as well. I increased my protein intake, but I didn't change anything else! I don't know if it made a difference or not, but he ended up being completely average-sized at birth (7 lbs 15 oz 21"). Ultrasound measurements are almost never perfect, so take the doctors' "chillness" as the sign that it is truly nothing to worry about! Prayers for a healthy baby and mom! ❤
Thank you for this❤️ that’s what I’ve been trying to do as well! Your comment gives me a lot of hope🫶🏼 I’m glad everything ended up great with your baby!
The fact that someone else is suffering more than you doesn't mean your suffering is not valid. Suffering is not comparative. I’ve never been pregnant so I can’t say I can relate to what you’re feeling. But I know feelings aren’t meant to be suppressed. It’s normal to feel some type of way about the uncertainty of your baby’s health. That’s part of the human experience. Nobody in their right mind would judge you for worrying about your baby. So if you want to cry do it. The important thing is that you not sink into it. A good cry can be incredibly lethargic. But when all the emotions have been washed away, pick yourselves back up and keep going. Eventually this will all be in the past and you won’t even think about it because you’ll have a beautiful son that was worth it.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, for the most of my pregnancy she was measuring 1-2 weeks behind. The doctors acted concerned and by the time I was 38-39 weeks they decided to induce me since they believed she wasn’t growing. When she was born, she was perfectly healthy and average weight. Some babies are just smaller than others in the womb, and sometimes the doctors measurements can be off!
This same exact thing happened to me my last pregnancy, in 2021. She was my 4th and I was already seeing MFM due to other pregnancies and they told me she was measuring behind in femur growth, so I had all these scans and ultrasounds every week until she was born, only for them to push my due date back a week and it put her measurements on track. They had told me she could be a little person, all these worries we had turned out to be all for nothing. I had 2 ultrasound scans a week and two stress tests so it was a lot! I was so stressed out and it all ended fine. Doctors can be wrong, stay positive and do things to keep your mental space as calm as possible ❤
Pregnancy emotions are hard to express and navigate that it truly makes you feel like you’re alone, but know that you are not. Do not feel guilty for feeling what you are feeling. You’re still an amazing mom and you will continue to be an amazing mom through and through! ❤
FILO! No amount of weight you have gained or lost could ever change how insanely beautiful you are! You are one of the most caring, attentive, and driven mothers, I have ever seen. It truly shows through Olivia and will continue to show through baby boy! We all love you and are rooting for you out here. You are almost at the end! ❤️❤️❤️
Girl give yourself a break. Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs on earth. You can only do the best that you can do at the moment. Take care.
I’ve never been pregnant but I feel for you! I’ve been having a lot of anxiety over my chronic pain. I hope your anxiety eases and that everything turns out great! You sound like a great mom! I like the haircut you look pretty
One day at a time friend! You’re a great mom and this season will pass ❤️ love you!
Filo!!! My bestie just had her baby boy Dec 19! It was super scary as she ruptured and the baby got an infection from the blood. And he wouldn’t feed from her. He almost lost his life but PRAYING 🙏🏽 helped save it I think🫶🏽! We were all praying so hard and he turned a corner and he’s ok now!!!! I’ve never prayed so hard for anything in my entire life!!!! 😂 but I came here to tell you to pray to your higher power when you get scared, just talk to him or her, a lot, and it will help!!! I promise!!! And btw there’s a pic of this baby in your dms!!!
I haven’t been on UA-cam in a bit. But I saw this video and had to watch. I feel for you. My first time around was so hard I’m scared for if I decided to do it again. It’s so hard and no one talks about the downs, it’s all about the ups. I hope you know you are good enough and you will get out of this headspace. ❤ your feelings are so valid. Sending love.
Glad there were no scans when I had my baby.
Your feelings are valid! I’m sorry you’re going thru this! Keep strong, you got this ❤
Omg sweetheart you need to relax God doesn’t make mistakes, your baby will be born perfect. I am barely 5 feet tall and my first baby was a preemie she came at 27 1/2 weeks 4 lbs 4 oz she was healthy all will be well don’t let them scare you with all the scans just let nature take it’s course! Pray for God to give you peace.
You are beautiful! Mija you will get through this. Stay strong and know baby boy will be perfect. Your fears are validated but be strong your son will soon be in your loving arms.
I am now a grandmother and my daughter and daughters-in-law and my mom all had all of these crazy feelings. It is normal and your complaints are completely valid. Be kind to yourself...rest when you need to and I am happy you have support team....keep using them for your anxiety. It will happen over and over as a mom. You are doing the best you can and it is enough.
First off, you are beautiful! I love your hair and I didn’t notice a change in your face. 2nd this is YOUR pregnancy so you have the right to feel whatever you feel. I really hope things improve for you and baby boy, and honestly if it was that worrisome, would they wait so long to do another scan? I’ll be praying for you and your baby and family.
Happy New Year Love. The mom guilt is in every one of us. This isn't going to be the 1st or the last time you feel this way and it's totally normal. As they grow up there will be times you're going to feel like your best isn't enough and although it's not fair to ourselves that we feel this way, it just means your love for your babies is so real and so strong. They will be in elem school, middle school, and even high school and we'll still feel this way. It's part of how we love them. Your feelings are valid, your concerns are valid, your emotions are vaild but as you already know with your beautiful baby girl, Olivia...it's so worth it and you're strong enough to get through it. Pray for more strength and more understanding and He'll see you through it. You have your familia for support and of course you have us! Use your videos to vent if you need to...we're here to listen, don't hold it in. Thank you for always being there for us when we're stressed during the holidays and you give us those great gift guides...it's our turn to be there for you! Sending prayers your way...always remember HE does not put you in situations you can't handle and prosper from. We love you! ❤❤❤❤
Filo, you look beautiful amiga! I love your hair color. I just want you to know your feelings are valid. You got this. Good bless you and baby boy. You might have a touch of seasonal blues, sending you extra hugs and love with great vibes. Keep posting if it makes you feel better and as much as we miss you…. If posting is adding stress then don’t post. We will still be here when you are ready. I’ve really missed you since I’m not on TikTok. Keep your head up amiga 💕💕💕
Aww try not to worry everything will be fine 🙂 ❤ can't wait for baby boy 💙 and your awesome mum x
Awwwww.
When inwas 27 weeks pregnant with my baby girl, my stomach measured 25 weeks. I had to have additional testongs and ultrasound done.
She was almoat 8 pounds by the time I gave her and was conpletely healthy. She is now alsmot 12 years old.
My son was measuring very small 3 weeks before his due date, I went into labor 2 weeks early..he weighed 7 lbs and is completely healthy and over 6 feet now. I also had a 16 month old daughter..I carried her and still exercised. You are doing amazing. 💚
My son had IGUR, he was born small and is still a thin 6 yo but incredibly smart and healthy, no problems. Thanks for posting about that. We are here for you and you are an incredible mom!
my DIL is the same height as you. She gave birth to her 3rd child a week ago. She was a smaller baby than her brothers who are 2 and 4. DIL felt so gulity for having a 3rd baby so soon. She kept her feelings hidden. She is a labor and delivery rn so she had to face her feelings daily. You look beautiful just know that. Come on baby boy!
You are a great mom. You have a ton of people who love you. Day by day my friend. It’s not easy being a mom wife woman and it can be very difficult to be pregnant. I’m praying for you and your baby boy.
My baby measured small. They would tell me the same as you. My sister was an ultrasound tech and scanned me and reassured me that everything's fine, but they kept telling me the same thing at the OB's office. Sure enough I had a healthy baby boy who was perfect 🩵
I want to say STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF!!! But that is much easier said than done. It will get better I promise. Get a therapist to help give you some tools to deal with all the things!! You look beautiful by the way. ♥️
Praying (for me anyway) is very calming. Sending big hugs.
Stay strong n many prayers ❤
Had IUGR with my first baby. The ultrasound showed she was 5lbs 1oz but she was born weighing 4lbs 14oz when I was 37.6 weeks pregnant. She came home with us - no NICU time. Her dad is over 6ft tall so she was long but just small. They did induce since she wasn’t making progress so it’s good to be ready just in case. My cousin was also told her baby would be small but she was born weighting over 6lbs so sometimes it’s correct and other times it’s not. Please don’t feel guilty. You’re doing awesome!! Hope you have a peaceful birth 😊
I have two grown daughters and when they were born they didn’t do ultrasound unless they felt it was necessary,,,, I’m glad . I’m so sorry Angel 😢. I am sure everything will be fine. It’s going to be ok . And I did lose all the excess weight after the second child it for me just took a lot of motivation which you have a ton of. May the angels give you loving thoughts of yourself. You’re so special.
I think the best advice I've gotten while pregnant was not to compare myself to others because just like you the mom guilt is real! I have an 8 year old and girl I don't have the energy to do anything with him and I feel so bad because since I found out I was pregnant I said I didn't want him to feel left out. Even simple things like going out doing family things I can't for the life of me and that it's ok. Do what you can when you can, I've realized that it's better to do things little by little, idk about you but as exhausted as I am I do randomly get bursts of energy and try to use that to get things done and take a nap after lol We as moms are always gonna be our biggest critics and that will never go away but we do gotta cut ourselves some slack and realize how much we do and go through especially through pregnancy. Also don't ever invalidate your feelings however silly they may seem, like about your body. We are entitled to feel how we feel and nobody can take that away from us. I'm feel the same way about my body, some days I love that I get the opportunity to be pregnant and go through it all but others days I hate it because I feel so sluggish which makes me feel like I look it. My closet doesn't fit me either, I be stealing my bfs clothes so feel comfy but they get sad but I realize none of my own clothes fit me. I hope you get the answer you're hoping for as far as baby boy cause I know what it feels like to be an overthinker and always just to the worst case scenario especially when it comes to our kids. Just know that you're doing the best you can and everything will always work out the way its supposed to. Dont be so hard on yourself ❤
So sorry for what you’re feeling 🥹 totally valid! My 1st baby had an IUGR diagnosed at 36 weeks where her femur measurements flagged it. I was a MESS but my OB reassured me all was okay, “just a small baby and easier to deliver”. She was right!
She also dropped percentiles pretty quickly and ended up being under 10% pretty quickly (from like a 40%) so I was induced at 39 weeks. She weighed 5lbs exactly when she was born and aside from a little jaundice, was perfect 🥹 my doc said my placenta was smaller than she’s normally seen when I delivered it but there was no real explanation for it. We even sent it to pathology but came back normal. Sometimes just happens but I remember feeling all the guilt and fear I did something wrong 🥹
Sometimes the MFM doctors can be a little intense given they’re so used to working with high risk pregnancies and almost lose some of their empathy with how analytical they are (and should be) with all the scans.
Baby girl now is in the 99% percentile and it’s so hard to believe how tiny she was!
I will say to pack some preemie sized things if he is a little tiny. All the clothes I brought for her were NB and my SIL had to run and buy us some premie things for her to wear and stay warm during our hospital stay. I also took all the preemie diapers I could take from the hospital because we had only bought NB sized back at home.
Sending you so much love! You’re at the finish line 🫶
I’m so sorry this has been rough! As moms we just put too much guilt on ourselves 😞
I had 2 boys then my daughter and spent that whole pregnancy with an irrational fear of a miscarriage. So I get your fear 🥺 I hope it all gets better! 🙏🏻❤
Please try to cut yourself some slack. Being a pregnant Mom is really hard. I had 4 kids in 6 years. It was harddd. I think it's difficult to give yourself any leeway when you are a mother of a toddler and pregnant. But your body is working so hard. Olivia won't remember that you were tired in this blip of a timeline. Try and put your mental health as a priority, more than doing activities with Olivia (easier said than done, I know). You are great!! It's really difficult right now but it will get better. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Rest as much as you are able to.
Hey girl! I would stop doing all the extra scans bc that could really make you crazy. Boys tend to look more like mommy and girls tend to take more of daddy’s genes so he made be a little short right now. My daughter was in the 10 percentile until she turned 3 and now she is average and doing AMAZING! God has you and EVERYTHING under control. The best thing you can do for you and Baby is to keep the faith and not stress out because stress is not good for you or Baby. ❤️
🌸🌸🌸You might have a “village” and family support but YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP and there is nothing wrong with that! There is no shame in it, Please you own it to yourself to get it 🌸🌸🌸
Sounds like your feeling depressed. It's definitely hormonal. Try to take some walks everyday outside and get some vitamin D, that May help. Also foods like baked potatoes and sweet potatoes. You will get through this, you got this😂
Number one: change your tiktok algo asap. Don’t interact with preg complication videos anymore. Change your input and it will change how you feel. Number two: see number one.
Girl try and relax, you are tiny. Idk what “average height” for your husband means but my husband was a premi and he’s 6.4” . All babies are different a few oz are nothing if all your tests came back good.