@@Johnconno Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. You clearly haven't had enough exposure to various alcoholics to know how they can hide it. If you think it is always obvious, then you need to reevaluate your observational skills.
I care for my elderly mother who is an alcoholic. It is heart breaking to watch her destroy her already vulnerable body and mind. I have tried talking to her about my concerns, but she has no interest in quitting. I don't live with her, but I might as well be. I was home 3 days last month because I am so nervous she will fall as she is so unstable when she walks, but much wobblier when she drinks, which is daily beginning at about 11am. Sometimes I resent looking after her, missing out on professional and social opportunities so I can be at my mom's place making sure she is safe, fed, clean, not falling prey to telephone scams, etc. When I do leave her alone overnight I have so much anxiety that she'll fall or burn herself on the stove or something and grief that this once vibrant, social, intelligent, motivated, kind, healthy, beautiful woman has devolved into a lonely, unmotivated, stranger who stopped caring about herself and her appearance years ago. I don't know what to do.
When my dad was having alcohol dementia symptoms, doctors found that his electrolytes were low. The electrolytes went low 1-2 days after days of 12 beers per day. Also, his body didn't absorb nutrients properly because of the alcohol (I think it was from inflammation), so he was malnutritioned.
Many alcoholics/ substance abusers have brain chemistry issues. They are ,in fact, self medicating. This wasn't well recognized some years back. This was a terrible tragedy which,today, we are just beginning to understand.
This hit home. I have been advocating for my older brother, a veteran, for the last six years. What people don’t understand is that they no longer have capacity in executive function. They cannot be in the community without constant support. Because so little effort exists to differentiate between personality disorders coupled with AID--caring for them in the home is HARD! The caregiver is very neglected and invalidated. To add, non profits, especially the veterans groups use them as a money grab and case studies-where they learn nothing and financially abuse under the ruse of “helping with their independence”. The resources lack to support families and people with this issue. Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome is real. “There is no carbon copy of what we go through.” Thank you for your story!
Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking story. While the US has many great things going for it, mental health care and healthcare in general is not one of them.
My husband is alcoholic and is having memory problems. He eats maybe around 600 calories a day and that’s when he does eat. It’s hard to watch your loved ones slowly die. He will not go to a dr. I’ve tried everything to help him. Through counseling I’ve come ti terms with myself that he has problems that I can’t fix. It’s sad.
Completely agree! I think we are going to see a rise in alcohol induced dementia. My sister, mom and I watched my dad deal with early onset dementia (not from alcohol) and it was really heartbreaking to witness and see him deteriorate and pass. His last days are etched in my brain, but I try to think on the better days I experienced with him as a child.
Did Mary Ellen write a book? We are going through this exact same thing with my mom. I’m wishing I’m knew more of what to expect as this disease progresses. There’s no literature out there. It’s so disheartening.
Alcohol-Induced Dementia is a serious issue that needs more attention.
My second husband had this. He hid his alcohol abuse for years. He became paranoid and angry. It was awful.
@@bethkelsey1 Alcoholism is impossible to hide without the denial/acceptance of all the people close to you.
@@Johnconno Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. You clearly haven't had enough exposure to various alcoholics to know how they can hide it. If you think it is always obvious, then you need to reevaluate your observational skills.
@@bethkelsey1 Fair enough. Half of my family have died of Alcoholism.
The stink and insane behavior usually makes people suspect.
What a courageous young woman to sacrifice so much for her father.
Your passion for writing and education shines through your words, Mary Ellen.
Your dedication to helping your father is commendable. Respect, Mary Ellen.
Your commitment to supporting your father is admirable. Respect, The person is Mary Ellen.
I care for my elderly mother who is an alcoholic. It is heart breaking to watch her destroy her already vulnerable body and mind. I have tried talking to her about my concerns, but she has no interest in quitting. I don't live with her, but I might as well be. I was home 3 days last month because I am so nervous she will fall as she is so unstable when she walks, but much wobblier when she drinks, which is daily beginning at about 11am. Sometimes I resent looking after her, missing out on professional and social opportunities so I can be at my mom's place making sure she is safe, fed, clean, not falling prey to telephone scams, etc. When I do leave her alone overnight I have so much anxiety that she'll fall or burn herself on the stove or something and grief that this once vibrant, social, intelligent, motivated, kind, healthy, beautiful woman has devolved into a lonely, unmotivated, stranger who stopped caring about herself and her appearance years ago. I don't know what to do.
You've been very good to your mother. I hope you will not blame yourself, when her end comes.
So sad for you and your mom. That is a tough place to be in. Sending hugs.
This young lady really shows true strength and courage!
When my dad was having alcohol dementia symptoms, doctors found that his electrolytes were low. The electrolytes went low 1-2 days after days of 12 beers per day. Also, his body didn't absorb nutrients properly because of the alcohol (I think it was from inflammation), so he was malnutritioned.
That's why we love All Home Care Matters - they tell real stories of real people!
Am I the only one who never knew alcohol could lead to dementia?
Yes.
Wet brain. Wernicke’ s. If internal bleeding doesn’t get you first.
R u kidding. It s neurotoxic❤poison that destroys the brain and heart.
No. You are not the only one who never knew alcohol could lead to dementia. ❤
Yes. 🤔
Many alcoholics/ substance abusers have brain chemistry issues. They are ,in fact, self medicating. This wasn't well recognized some years back. This was a terrible tragedy which,today, we are just beginning to understand.
😆Really?
Heartbreaking story, Mary Ellen. Your strength and love are inspiring.
I am so sorry her and her family had to go through this
I experienced something all too similar to what Mary Ellen did; thanks for sharing!
Godspeed to this young woman!
This hit home. I have been advocating for my older brother, a veteran, for the last six years. What people don’t understand is that they no longer have capacity in executive function. They cannot be in the community without constant support. Because so little effort exists to differentiate between personality disorders coupled with AID--caring for them in the home is HARD! The caregiver is very neglected and invalidated. To add, non profits, especially the veterans groups use them as a money grab and case studies-where they learn nothing and financially abuse under the ruse of “helping with their independence”. The resources lack to support families and people with this issue. Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome is real. “There is no carbon copy of what we go through.” Thank you for your story!
During this trying path, may your family find courage and healing.
May your family find strength and healing in this difficult journey.
I adore how succinct and direct each of your videos are.
Mary Ellen, what a heartbreaking story. Your love and grit are an inspiration.
I applaud Mary Ellen for sharing this story - it can't be easy
I wish your tale could aid anyone dealing with comparable difficulties. Powerful!
This is such a sad story, but with a wonderful message!
It's admirable how committed you are to supporting your father. Respect, I'm Mary Ellen.
I commend Mary Ellen for telling her story; it can't have been simple.
Really displaying courage and strength is this young lady!
May this trying road provide your family comfort and strength.
Even though the narrative is tragic, the lesson it conveys is fantastic!
It's gorgeous in Rocklin, California! We're sending our best wishes from around the world.
I'm grateful you shared your journey. Raising awareness is crucial.
My beautiful, smart and strong cousin! Beyond proud of you 💛💛💛
It can't be easy, therefore I commend Mary Ellen for sharing this tale.
What a brave young lady to sacrifice so much for her father
What a strong young lady to do all that she did for her father
We love All Home Care Matters!
Mary Ellen, your thoughts exude a passion for writing and teaching.
Thanks for sharing, so similar to many things we’re going through now in our family. Hearing another story like this is so helpful.
Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking story. While the US has many great things going for it, mental health care and healthcare in general is not one of them.
I appreciate All Home Care Matters sharing this tale.
We appreciate you sharing your journey. Awareness-building is crucial.
I'm sending my love and best wishes to you and your family. The person is Mary Ellen.
I appreciate how all of your videos are brief and to the point.
I adore how succinct and to the point all of your videos are.
This is such a heartbreaking tale, yet it has a fantastic lesson!
I'm extremely grateful. God's blessings
All Home Care Matters is fantastic!
I hope that sharing your experience will benefit those who are dealing with comparable difficulties. Powerful!
Highly accomplished. Much obliged!
God Bless this young lady!
One of the reasons home care workers change a lot is because they get paid poorly, especially if the state is paying . It's just a revolving door.
That is just wonderful.I'm awestruck!
Sending love and support to you and your family, Mary Ellen.
I went through something far too similar to Mary Ellen - thank you for sharing!
I never could have done what she did kudos to you!
I'm very grateful. Blessings from God
Outstandingly well-done. I'm grateful.
This interview with Lance was excellent.
Thank you for sharing your journey. It's essential to raise awareness.
I appreciate you very much. God's blessing
This does sound incredible.I'm astonished!
Definitely fantastic, this.I'm blown away!
What a beautiful interview with Lance.
Thank you for sharing; I experienced something all too similar to what Mary Ellen did.
Extremely well-done. Thank you!
Godspeed, young woman!
I'm sending you and your family my love and support. I'm Mary Ellen.
This looks so good! I love how quick and to the point all your videos are.
What a tragic thing to have to go through at such a young age
This really does sound wonderful.I'm amazed!
I really appreciate it. God's grace
Excellently done. Many thanks!
This does sound amazing..I am impressed!
I appreciate your help very much.
I appreciate your assistance very much.
wow! thanks for sharing and such a beautiful, love it
I was very close. Thank goodness i went to therapy inhouse ,outhouse, now i dont drink anymore. No more dimentia
Thank you for sharing your story.
thank you so much. God bless
At such a young age, what a tragedy to have to experience
Well done, you; I could never have accomplished what she did.
Thank you for the information; it was very helpful!
fantastic interview
This information helped me alot, Thankyou ! 😊
Great Interview!
Love this important content
My husband is alcoholic and is having memory problems. He eats maybe around 600 calories a day and that’s when he does eat. It’s hard to watch your loved ones slowly die. He will not go to a dr. I’ve tried everything to help him. Through counseling I’ve come ti terms with myself that he has problems that I can’t fix. It’s sad.
Thiamine vitamin B 1 is the answer.
Keep up the awesome video!
fantastic video, keep it up!
I'm proud of you because I could never accomplish what she did.
amazing video, keep it up!
What a tragedy to experience at such a young age.
super cool video keep it up!
For GOD nothing is Impossible 😇❤️
What happened to the guy who took advantage of the father? Was she able to recover anything?
Lance this was a really wonderful interview
Very informative :)
There should be more focus on the major problem of alcohol-induced dementia.
Completely agree! I think we are going to see a rise in alcohol induced dementia. My sister, mom and I watched my dad deal with early onset dementia (not from alcohol) and it was really heartbreaking to witness and see him deteriorate and pass. His last days are etched in my brain, but I try to think on the better days I experienced with him as a child.
Did Mary Ellen write a book? We are going through this exact same thing with my mom.
I’m wishing I’m knew more of what to expect as this disease progresses. There’s no literature out there.
It’s so disheartening.
I am going through the same thing with my mom and it is tragic! It has taken over my life
Absolutely nothing is impossible for God.