How I Stopped Self Sabotaging! | Russell Brand
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- Опубліковано 1 бер 2020
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"Don't see the self-sabotage as a negative thing, see it as an inner voice waiting to be heard"
I know, right? That gave me chills.
True.
That was weird. Emotional upset indicates you might not be doing something in alignment with your true "inner" calling and you need course correction. Freaking out isn't self sabotage..... its just embarrassing.
LOOK AT HIS HAND SIGNS,PIECE OF SHIT RB.
The pastor at one of my churches I used to goto because it was fun an I was looking for a boyfriend and the univers said if you want something you've never had you have Todo something you've never done.
Said that's His talking to you.
I quite like that
Being addicted to that feeling of being ‘flooded by madness’ and chaos is so relatable you put that in such a relatable way
Feeling flooded by rage can be a sign of being triggered in the present by an unmet need or traumatic incident of abuse or negligence from the past.
100% agree. In my darkest times I could feel myself losing grip on the better parts of myself and would revel in giving up control to my shadow self. I would enjoy the chaos that it caused, while it happened, only to feel deep shame and regret after I had “come back.” It’s nice knowing I’m not the only one to have felt this way before.
@@chrish3556 Can't you see what a self-centred bell-end this geezer is? Loving the sound of his mockney tones as he drones endlessly on covering non-topics. I suggest you go for a long walk, stop pitying yourself and get on with life.
dpurcell5 I didn’t like him decade+ ago when he was in his ”centre of attention” mode - but here I get the impression he has matured greatly, genuinely openly sharing and “talking my language” (concept-wise, exact phraseology and accent being entirely immaterial). Pleasant surprise!
dpurcell5 - shut up you dick. That’s just YOUR personal interpretation of his dialogue and YOUR opinion. I’ll bet even your wife doesn’t give 2 fux what you think so why would anyone else?
Wow.....sorry I just gave in to my dark side and succumbed willingly to the rage I felt at your dumb ass rant. My bad.
Understand self-sabotage.
Recognize self-sabotaging habits.
Identify root causes.
Take time for self-reflection.
Find your inner positive voice.
Change your pattern of behavior.
Make small, meaningful changes.
Set goals and make plans.
Treat yourself the way you want to be treated.
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Thank you, I am grateful for the way you broke it down.
Summary:
Watch your patterns
Find mentors
Develop a programme
Dont see it as a negative thing, but a voice to be heard and gained wisdom and infrormation from
🙏
Well summarized.
wtf is this fucking shit ive commented lmaoooo
@@samme1024 merci✨
Find a mentor AND BE A MENTOR..you left the last part out .bc you cannot keep it unless you give it away.
Mental illness is a real thing :( . I have ruined everything I have ever done I think stemming from never believing in myself . Now I enjoy the outdoors and go on long distance hikes . Very hard and challenging , summer of 2017 I went to Colorado to see some mountains and ended up hiking 500 miles through a lot of misfortune and mishaps . I met the most amazing people that helped me in the most crucial times .
Love this Eli are u on face book man ?
Get a job
Lucky you.
All about me. Sorry I never meant to be mean
I went out last summer, fell in love with the place. I hiked up mt elbert and slept and travelled in a van for 10 days driving through colorado, utah, arizona and new Mexico. The US is a beautiful country.
“You have to break your vow to mediocrity” - that really spoke to me. This whole video did, but I’m writing that on my mirror.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. 🙏🏻💜
Brian Cooley I write quotes I resonate with on my mirrors at home ☺️
Brian Cooley ha!! No doubt
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Every time now that I’m about to quit something I think about that phrase and it really helps hah
Camila Landi me too 💜💜💜
One of my favorite lyrics comes from "Africa" by Toto: " I seek to cure what's deep inside (then in a separate voice) frightened by this thing that I've become"
'Russell Brand reminded me of a Toto song.' Bet that's the first AND last time that ever happens.
Seeking outside approval and living after people's expectations makes the doubt to creep forward -- self-sabotaging becomes an escape
“Makes the doubt to cripple forward”? 🤨
@@AxeKick80 thanks
If you're doing that you're full of doubt
I agree with you.. I believe in me but I am surrounded by people who expect more and I am always wanting their approval but never get it.. Which makes me believe in myself less which leads to self sabotage..
@@MrMrutube1987 My personal take on this topic is that self sabotage is inherently intrinsic. Typing that out makes it sound obvious but as the OP stated, we often times perceive external expectations as the initiating sequence of our inevitable downfall. This formula is skewed because the beginning is always us(you). Everything you experience is through your lens and nobody else's. External influence is there but at the end of the day, you are the ONLY experience of your life. Self sabotage is the reluctance to accept responsibility of such a daunting concept. Success is infinitely more frightening and infinitely more foreign of a environment than failure. The current human psyche prioritizes comfortability over anything else and unfortunately alot of us are simply more comfortable in failure than success. Accepting responsibility over ones life is accepting a life of uncomfortableness, and this journey always starts from within.
Self-sabotaging is exactly what you said: mostly self-esteem, purpose and relationship issues
Sometimes I listen to you because I’m genuinely interested in topics, other times the content becomes secondary to the melody of your language. I can’t help it.
American?
@muff patrol no :)
Etienne Bunbury, I’ve always been taking him seriously, even when he was being funny! :)
Brian Cooley, that was when you were teething mate x
Brian, if you’re looking for a tiff you came to the wrong place hunny
I feel like that "thing" that Russell talks about that causes many of us to self-sabotage is actually *ego.* I've been reflecting a lot and trying to be more aware and awake, and I've started to see how much my ego influences me to make the dumbest and most petty of decisions toward my loved ones, my friends, strangers and most importantly myself.
Ego is like this nebulous, amorphous ever-changing cloud that can disguise itself in so many different masks. Sometimes that mask is aggression and anger, and sometimes that mask is understated arrogance disguised as "understanding" and white little lies. Ego is insidious, but the more I've been committed to *seeing* it, as Russell so emphasizes, the easier it is to resist and make better decisions because I'm understanding the root cause of why my ego influences me to make certain decisions.
Everyone is enough being themselves,
Oscar Wild “ be yourself as everyone else is already taken” - you are the best in the world at being you which is all you have to be. Stop beating yourself up, you really don’t need to
Anthony Woodhouse dr laura fan
Shadap
But being me sucks hard
@@Rodrigoooous but you’re the best at being you so you may as well enjoy it -
In 6 minutes he summed up and communicated what every self-help book and long-winded seminars have been trying to do for the past 10 years. Such a strong message and straight to the point.
So glad I'm seeing this video, I've turned away from so many good things and opportunities due to self sabotaging. It's definitely a habit I want to break, now that I'm realizing what it is I believe I can overcome it. Lately I've been talking to myself when I sense a path of self destruction coming along to get out of that mindset.
I’m dealing with self sabotage right now. That’s all I ever do is sabotage everything. It gets me so down but hearing this I relate to it all so much. I’m on it now and I won’t let it beat me or hold me back anymore. Thank you x
You are not alone.
I have a “chicken or the egg” situation when I self-sabotage. People seem to begin not to like me, then it’s as if I play up to that. I prove they’re right and I’m not to be liked. But that’s my comfortable place.
I've done a similar thing in the past lol,
hmm, these folks don't like me anymore huh, I'll give`em something to dislike,
at other times it's much more subtle & I don't realise I'm doing it, it's kinda like watching a slow car crash unfolding & you can't do anything but watch yourself micro self destruct those relationships lol
Love the advice Russell! Agree that the principles of what it means to be spiritual (love and kindness) is an essential aspect of being human.
It's a beautiful thing to become self-aware and see your own toxicity when it rears it's head. Once you know this is a flaw in us you can work on it. I myself am often over-critical of others and have expectations that I am learning are too high... I'm still trying to get better at not judging others or myself. Acceptance and understanding I think are key.
"Almost everything in life is more important than being in magazines." - choice words
Finding a Mentor....I found one. Whenever I listen to you, I feel enlightened and better than before. It makes me think about certain things and at the same time your openness is inspiring. Much love from Germany!
“A person is, among all else, a material thing, easily torn and not easily mended.” “It wasn't only wickedness and scheming that made people unhappy, it was confusion and misunderstanding; above all, it was the
failure to grasp the simple truth that other people are as real as you.”
It is fascinating, how naturally he articulates! I swoon...
@@TheBlocklandPlayer You will be able to articulate like he does if you too spend as much time reading the works of eastern thinkers and gurus like he does. I personally read the works of Christian thinkers and apologists and most of all I read the Bible. There is a world of wisdom in there, it’s amazing! So I like to go to the source of all wisdom and of love. Love teaches me a lot about myself and about others naturally without using much effort, without using philosophical ideas and big, sophisticated words because God is simple but profound. I’ve come to realize that the harder people try to analyze the human soul the more it doesn’t make sense...
@@margokupelian344 That's what’s up.
Thank you Russell. I really needed to hear that message. My life is completely turned upside down . .I know it could be worse but I lost my girlfriend due to self sabotage and my esteem is low. It's like a bad spiral to not keep the sabotage going.. I do have a therapist who I meet weekly over Zoom while were social distancing ..I am moving into my own place and out of hers.. everything feels like I created my own shit storm and not sure I won't do it again.. I'm resilient but this one hurt.. this loss feels devastating. If you're reading this thanks for you video and I just bought your book Recovery too. ❤️✊🏿
Face your deepest fears my friend
I totally agree. My husband died and I am doing all I can do not to numb myself by sabotaging myself. It's hard, but thanks to my own spiritual belief I have to live life day by day. Appreciate all your videos. You are paying it forward 🙏🌹♥️
This is so beautifully stated- thank you for sharing ❤
The reason for doing something is love, bc love lasts. Bc God is forever.
Thank you so much for this❤
I like when you say “we”
Suzanna 2014 so do I...so “we” do
The book on addiction is incredible. Helped me quit smoking. Highly recommended! ♡
What book is that?
@@smoozerish “recovery”,
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Just started therapy cause honestly I can't handle me by myself. What you said about not trusting others and having doubts about myself, that is so me
You are a beautiful and brilliant “enlightened” being. So very enjoyable to listen to and learn from. Thank you Russell
Thank you so much for this. I really appreciate someone describing my own self-sabotaging behaviors especially when that person has broken free of acting on them. My self-sabotaging is about denying myself the opportunity to engage in the creative things I love to do and replacing them with love affairs. Russell you've help me to see I don't have to beat myself up for having this damaging behavior/energy in me. I always felt like such a loser for being self-sabotaging. I'm about to give myself the opportunity to engage in creative outlets once more. Maybe once I've allowed creativity back into my life I can also allow myself a meaningful, healthy romance.
I don't agree with everything but that last little bit about that voice of self sabotage being something to listen to for its wisdom definitely piques my interest
The "creating surfaces around yourself that are bearing the sheen of you inner adulation" is the most brilliant and practical way I've ever heard anyone describe Karma. Thank you for the insight!
Thanks Russell! I can relate to this so much. It's hard to admit your struggling and need help. I've self-sabotaged my whole life. Always talking myself out of everything. Now I'm here, admitting I have a problem and ready to break the negative patterns on my spiritual journey to enlightenment.
I love the fact that you said u take yourself out of everything cuz that’s what I do
Appreciate you taking the time to enlighten
This is such a great topic! We really have to be aware of our negative thoughts and step away from them!! Once we are aware of them instead of just being in them and allowing them to take over, then WE ARE IN CONTROL! Love your tips too !
You just explain things so elequently and it's so easy to comprehend. I can connect and relate easily. Thanks for putting this out there for others Russell
I feel like you are talking directly to me. This is so me. Even though I never had a drug addiction (religion being a major inhibitory factor), I do have the perfect personality for an addict: emotional, ideate 24/7, obsessive personality, self-sabotage, and to top it off, highly ambitious and have high expectations for myself, so I'm setting myself up for disappointment. Seeing you talk about all this so frankly has been so freeing for me to hear. I love your books and talks, and I hope you never stop being in this space for people like me.
This is divinely received, appreciate your wisdom brozay.
It is interesting that he became "successful" even during his self-sabotaging ara.
He's had problems with relationships and drugs for basically all of his career. Rich people can have emotional problems aswell dude.
That's a good point. One which suggests that 'self-sabotage' does not always lead to general 'failure' or lack of success. I can't speak for Russell Brand, but as someone who studies these dynamics (e.g. motivation and procrastination) but has stopped using the term 'self-sabotage, I can say that quite often people achieve what appears to be outward objective success but feel internally, subjectively like they've failed. Take the photo shoot example, while he was seen as successful by the world the next day, the next day he felt bad, felt he'd blown it, regardless of how much money he had or what the next gig was. Failure, like success, is a feeling as much as an external attainment. Also, one can feel unworthy of one's success, and in fact, if one feels unworthy as a person, one can feel MORE unworthy of fanfare, success, admiration--it all feels false, a reflection of something one is not (or at least feels they are not) and so create more distress. I would offer a different interpretation of the photo shoot. Perhaps he is, instead, testing these people, the magazine, etc. Will they value him even if he doesn't do this thing? Will they value and stick with him--see him as worthy--enough to change the schedule for him? If we feel we are unworthy in others' eyes we are likely to try to test that through our actions to see if these people's caring can be trusted, by testing the relationships of those around us. The aim, in my view, is not sabotage, but that is easily the result when we put our achievements in jeopardy repeatedly. Act this way enough times, and even a star will be rejected--thus affirming the fear that one was not worthy or lovable. There is a lot of wisdom in this short video, great insight into human motivation that is corroborated by contemporary psychological research.
Nic Voge may I ask you a question
@Brian Cooley would you be happy if you had millions but were an absolute failure in every other aspect of your life? Being constantly drunk, high, obnoxious, rude and just a general dick to everyone?
Get off your high horse, when you're a millionaire you can tell us how wonderful it is.
@Brian Cooley lol...If I could take off 20 years it would be a fun time.
Thank you, that was wonderful!! I could feel myself mentally ticking off the boxes of the items you mentioned and marvelling at the simplicity of my self-sabotage. It's been right in front ofme the whole time!! And I have only in the last months come to recognise how this condition hurts my progress in all arenas of my life. Kudos to you for being open and honest, it is very refreshing and motivating. Right now, I feel like I am turning a corner to a new chapter. Again, thank you. Cheers, Al.
Russell Brand: "I watch my thinking". I'd like to suggest that you adopt the method of "the Self observing the Self, observing the Self" to eliminate self-sabotage. This is the only method that has helped me cut to the chase.
Once we have self love and understand we deserve we can stop self sabotage
Thanks Russel. The programme I use is called 'Steps To Knowledge' and has really helped me. I'm an advocate for this mysterious book as it has given me so much and I hope that others that need it will find it.
Same here! Beautifully written "practical spirituality" and self-knowledge practice
Long time student of the Steps. I wouldn't be anywhere close to where I am without it. The direction, motivation and concentration that it helps you find are invaluable.
We all have a "program" exactly! (it's just that most people aren't aware of it as it's in their subconscious ;)
Somehow you always upload the exact content exactly when I need to hear it. Being at the start of a relationship, this is the most important video I could’ve watched. Thank you!
i've loved you for so long, you have such an excellent state of mind that i believe we share. you've helped me get through lots of mental blocks thank you so much Russell💗
Thanks so much Russell, I love hearing from you. Smile today my friend.
"Break your vow to mediocrity" that hit home. Thanks mate.
Thank you for pointing out that our negative thoughts have a purpose. I tend to get caught up in the displeasure of them that I miss the meaning behind their presence.
I'm proud of you for how far you've come, Russell.
I love this and your book on Addiction and the 12 steps has really been helping me work through what fears and patterns seem to repeat themselves in my life. Thank you for all of the content you put out for everyone.
Actually like the use of the word foul here!
Russell you are very,very smart. Thank you for teaching us and sharing your knowledge. Russell I honestly learn something new everytime you upload a video. I wish you could teach us about everyday life and how go become bigger than we have allowed ourselves to be. Thank you Russell your a great teacher as well as a friend!! 🤗💖😘♥️😊💝
Mary Scott,His the best 🙏🏻🙏🏻🤙
Russel Brand, I recently found your videos I feel like they’re something I’ve been missing my whole life
So many of your inspirational videos have saved my life over these past few weeks. I salute you, Russell Brand.
I need you in my daily life. I need help mentally and its very hard to break out of the darkness inside of my OWN shell. Just getting out of bed to get on my computer is a challenge and I hate it.
Oh the synchronicity, this is the video I need right now, thank you 🙏 My journey seems to always be 2 steps forward and 1 step back. Which I’m okay with as long as I’m moving forward eventually. I used to think that one day if I worked hard I’d figure it all out and never have problems again but unfortunately that’s not life at least not for me. I’m grateful for the mistakes I make because they are a lesson that will help me take another step forward. 💛💛💛
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Have you watched any video by Abraham Hicks, there might lie an answer for you. Search for Abraham Hicks success with ease and comfort. My sister struggled for 5 years and “worked hard” but with ease and comfort theory, she got a brilliant job and got a permanent position with good salary. God bless you! 🙏🏼😇
Good video. Getting off the booze helped me to stop self-sabotaging. Self-esteem, purpose, behavioural and relationship issues all fell l into place when I removed alcohol from my daily programme.
Jamie Cox congratulations. You have the victory. I’m proud of you. You are a survivor
I’m loving this Russell Brand! It’s great to see a man becoming more comfortable with himself in this way. I’ve been on the same journey of self discovery and hearing your take on the relationship with the self is
Loving these moments when you come clean. And you're looking really good lately 🌈
Cat Yes he is looking very handsome to me 😍!
He’s blooming wonderfully! I don’t know if his mum’s alive, but I assure, she’s beaming!
"Almost everything in life is more important than being in magazines!" Absolute gold, love what you do and that line really made me laugh!
He is so personable! Comes across like he’s right in your room!
I'm really glad you decided to get on you tube Russell. You're very uplifting. I Love what you have to say and how you say it. I'm really struggling with my communication and listening to you gives me Hope.
These videos have been so helpful and it’s striking to me how much overlap and relatable this all is. I guess we’re all people at the end of the day, no matter the fame, etc.
So much gratitude for your words of wisdom Russell
Love and infinite blessings to you xx
I used to think he was just a funny guy, nice enough. Now I think he's funny (clearly) but I am in awe of the man's intellectualism, and emotional maturity.
He's a true gem.
Loved your book “recovery”, very moving conclusion btw. Loved your Commune course as well. Thank you 🌞
Where can I get a copy. I work with teens in a group home and they're all on drugs or alcohol. Our drug & alcohol class once a week is of no help. Thank you dear soul💗
Kimberly Cox got mine on Audible so I could listen to the big guy. It would be very useful for you.🌞
@@niallmartin9063
Thanks for the info Niall, how much did you pay if you don't mind my asking..?
Sydneytowngirl €9.99
Niall Martin Never thought about audible! Have to check it out.
Wow, I can't tell you how sadly relatable this was. It's not until someone points things out (that you tend to try forget about) this stuff! I hadn't subscribed to Russell's channel for that long but he was always on the telly when I was a teen and I am amazed at the extent that he has transformed his life! Impressive stuff x
Love the pod casts. Feels like you are in a living room having a Convo with Russell.
I am struggling with this now. Thank you
Love you man! Thanks for the advice!
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I’m loving this Russell Brand! It’s great to see a man becoming more comfortable with himself in this way. I’ve been on the same journey of self discovery and hearing your take on the relationship with the self is all at once enlightening, self-affirming and, as with all things you seem to do, highly entertaining! More please! 👍
You’re so humble and helpful these days Russell. Thanks for helping us better ourselves 😊
When I started working early in my career I though we, as a people, were naturally progressing. Collectively working toward a better more responsible government, cleaner production plants, peace on earth, etc. Now I realize, that's all propaganda. My kids will likely have a shorter life span, will never know peace, will continuously be dealing with chemical spills and poisoned water, they're more likely to be working 50 hours a week and not making ends meet than they are to work 30 hours a week with security. We are going backwards in this world. Still fighting imperialism as we were a 1000 years ago.
I mean the planet is fucked yeah but world hunger has reduced significantly and this is the most peaceful time ever.
@@zeldazoned The most peaceful time for who? Middle class Americans? There haven't been so many millions of war displaced people since ww2, when Hitler was on the loose. We have over 2 million in jail in our own country mostly for drug charges. Last 3 years our life expectancy has dropped. Healthcare costs are ever increasing along with student debt and home ownership is now classified as everyone with a mortgage. Even though we all know another 2008 is coming, if it hasnt started already over the last 2 week market slump, meaning there will eventually be mass job loss again, pay cuts and thus foreclosures. Foreclosures that the banks have lobbied to be covered by taxpayers. Meaning FHA loans, the most common home loans, the banks get paid in full whether it forecloses or not. So prices just keep going up because there is no risk and they are making a killing in the process. ua-cam.com/video/wJtfWZGxnGI/v-deo.html
This will depress you, but if you want the truth give it a look.
Yes, it HAS been traumatic for so many, and I would not minimize your suffering; and I swear to you our children have the world at their feet, we will guarantee it be so; I only say to you to PUT IT BEHIND (*it being the despair; there’s a lot that’s been hid; we must learn from what has happened but we are NOT to wear it like a cross `Step down from the cross, we could use the wood! #LOL) If we are too bound up, full of an idea or ideas- we leave no room for something to come in; we have to let some ideas go to make room for new ones. This is what has to happen for those suffering from Trump Derangement Syndrome; they are so full of hate for him that they cannot remember where is their love for their country and fellow man…it is heartbreaking to watch the vitriol and to feel the hatred in their hearts, but we have to brush that aside and realize they are trapped in their illusion; we can only reach our hand to pull them out; it is their task to grasp it. We must decide to make a sufficient cut to certain ideals of the past at this time; wasn’t that the transversal when we dissected a frog? Slice the underbelly open wide; have the hardiest peer inside & all decide on the path of least resistance sounds mighty wide to me; out we go, off we go to what’s next to know. We’re getting into the intensity section of understanding; look how far we’ve come with microscopes…analyzing everything around us. What we’re forgetting to analyze is that most important thing-ourselves, Yet we feel qualified to sit and pass judgement upon others around us, as if we were the authority on (name the “offense”) Examine ourselves for weakness; support our Brothers and Sisters in their own Paths To Ascension; this should be a given in our geometry proof. Right now, we have the most amazing opportunity; it is an absolute glorious time to be alive, and we are blessed to be both cognizant and capable of accomplishing whatever is required of us. Let us all, at the very least, reach for competency. For pure will, unassuaged of purpose, delivered from the lust of result, is in every way perfect. 93s
This brought me to tears. I will utilize this with my whole being ❤️
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I agree, "fouling the arena" it makes sense to me. I think "bearing witness" to ourselves is harder than we think... and the power of positive or negativity is so much more vast than we know.
self sabotage is probably one of my unperceived issues. Thank you.
what I love about Russell Brand is no matter how many times he fell, he got back up (with the help of those closest to him, I'm sure) and just wants to tell everyone what he has learned so far. He is giving us some shortcuts on our roadmap.
Hey Russel I wonder if you read these posts ! . Thanks for sharing these perspectives , You are a valuable resource!
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What about traumatic experiences? How to deal with them? They go so deep. 💜🌌
I am so Grateful that this video showed up on my UA-cam news feed in such perfect timing. Blessings
Thanks Russell, you've hit the nail right on the head there. Applies to what's going on directly with behaviours I'm struggling with. Thanks for the head's up
Didn't realise this was what I was doing until I read the title and it clicked, I related to it, now I can work on it.
Lovely video again.., very thankful for your insights and words.
I come from a narsistic mother childhood... and work on it everyday.
Cptsd is a daily job ( not sure🧐 about my spelling / in dutch.😬😬)
All doing it carefully step by step💕💪🙏👌🏻
Thank you russel. from a bottom of the hearth of a random internet stranger. Your way of understanding and visualizing life helped me a lot when i needed a spiritual guidance.
I had done this a lot in my life especially in work and relationships. Sometimes I say the wrong things so I don’t get the job, or to make me sound not worthy of it and the same in my relationships I purposely mess them up! I’m learning how to control these urges now and love myself more
Just what I need right now!
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I have self sabotaged to the point of losing nearly everything
Feel the same way....it sucks to realize to late that it was me, not everyone else.
@indigosigh You're right. Everything was and more importantly is myself. I was rather incomplete in my first comment. An event in my life caused me to start smoking cannabis from a young age. It stayed with me and shaped my life for many years. I lost everything that was myself over the years. Sometimes I appeared as if like a spectre in a mist, or a shadow in light, but then I faded away to be replaced by the driving force of addiction. I never nearly lost everything.. More like I was never present for nearly everything. This event caused many instances of self sabotage over the years. My subconscious would deliberately drive me to behave in a way that was destructive to any state of prosperity.
I have ruined many good things in my life because of this pattern of behaviour. I have finally stopped the substance abuse. I will never go back to it, but much has been paid in terms of life lost already. I lost myself. I was trapped in myself. I was driven by impulse and addiction. It nearly made me lose touch with myself completely. Lose touch with feelings, emotions, and most importantly love. To point of nearly losing everything..
i routinely self sabotage because all i ever knew and grew up with was chaos...i hate order and things becoming better because at the back of my head all I'm thinking about is it's all gonna be taken away or it's all too good to be true...
For me, I self-sabotage by doing things out of convenience and ease in the short-term. I fall prey to my human instincts and just do what feels good in the moment while ignoring the long-term consequences. To get around this, I try to be mindful of all my actions and always ask "to what end?" and analyze how each action may affect me in the future.
Dear Russell... you are helping many live a more content and healthy, and aware life - I am so pleased that your platform is well established and that you are who you are - even when you were at your most unhealthy, you still exuded kindness and strength. I'm quite up myself and confident in my ability to do much/endure, but my heart breaks at the thought of those who struggle and feel devastated... You and your actions are a bright light.
I was doing so well during this pandemic but fell off and into a darker no motivated place because 1) my absolute inability to sleep and 2) this guy who I thought was a sure thing ghosted the hell out of me.. and that crushed me a tad. Maybe he just died of coronavirus, it does hit men harder than women.
Xx xX relatable. I’ve had real good times and some crappy times during this pandemic. Insomnia check seeking external validation check. Definitely re-listen to this I will be. I’m finally dating again after like a 20 year hiatus maybe 15, something like that. And I keep reminding myself of one thing: I don’t want to be with anybody who doesn’t wanna be with me. And I just wanna date around to find I don’t know the one. Although I don’t really believe in the one but it’s the best way to put it. Takes a lot of the pressure off. Just. I mean you could be right; he could be dead. Or if not he ain’t worth it. You got to love yourself first.
Felicia Dixon - I had my life ruined by people seeking external validation, and then not being able to handle the rejection, these people are so toxic so I’m glad you moved on from that.
I really need my last name not to become Sabotage but believe me I’ve thought about this.🤘🤞✌️30 today🤘🤞✌️
Jeff Benjamin_ have a good one man I am 42 today !
Happy bday
30 soon. Currently in therapy to sort out all this shit I don't need
Happy bbbbirthday!
thank you
Russell, thank you so much for posting this
It gave me something of a "light bulb" moment. I long ago recognized the pattern of self-sabotage in my life but persisted with it for years, knowing it was there but not knowing what the underlying causes were. From the outside I would likely appear to have taken anything good in my life and burned it to the ground. It's resulted in not really even knowing who I am anymore, but maybe that is an important key - not being that same person. Your conveying this in a personal and relatable way has given me much food for thought.
Many thanks.
You are literally helping me change my life, from one of suffering to one of happiness. Thank you for sharing your journey in the way you do!
I laughed at what you said about the word “foul”! I hate that word and was thinking the same thing. Great talk!
Kathryn Willette, you look stunning 🌷🌹🌷🌷🌷🌹🌹
Oscar Williamson Well, thank you very much!
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My wife does it for me , she’s perfect she tells me all my bad points every day
I hope you’re not being serious lol
This video has opened my eyes and helped me understand that I need to work on my self in much deeper ways
Russell your ability to spill thoughts, ideas, experiences and such genuine gifts of wisdom is such a joyous contribution to me and obviously many others.
Thank you for your hardworked, generous humaness in its highest form. xxoo blessings
*Each new day gives us an opportunity to make the right choices on the path do a better self. Will you make the right choices today?*
Every day you choose to not give up you've made the right choice
Agreed, but i also think it's important for folks to remember that if they fuck up,
& make a bad decision, it's not the end of the world, striving for perfection is an ideal, but we learn from our mistakes along the journey.
Sometimes, when things go wrong, particularly in recovery, we reach for something to make us feel better, that cloaks us in security, or we get overwhelmed by having to make amends for our previous behaviour,
we need to remember that we can stumble & recorrect, & it's ok,
far better to do that than set yourself up to fail & go down the same old self destructive path because going into the unknown realm of recovery is scary.
So whilst failure/bad choices is often seen as a negative, it doesn't define you - where there is life - there is hope.
I'm just gonna hit you with music as No1 cares for saving life most addicts never get on the internet...
# Clapton In my father's eyes
Eye-opening, mate! I’m at a very important crossroads in my life, and your vid, and how earnest you were, has opened my eyes to go a different direction. Blessings, Russell and much success to you. Love your journey, brother!
I recognize this pattern so well, I’ve been following it all my life. I focus on something and work hard enough to get noticed for it, and then I just go off the rails. I start thinking I don’t deserve this, I don’t deserve to be here, and I think I want people to hate me so that I don’t disappoint them later when they realize I’m not supposed to be here. Self fulfilling prophecy of destruction. Then it’s that descent into chaos and madness, feeling like a passenger in a raging storm, out of control. There’s always a part of me that’s watching and thinking “Why am I doing this? I don’t want to be doing this.” I love your videos and podcast, they have helped me decide to change my life and this pattern.
Feeling like a passenger in a raging storm, out of control, sums up the moment the mind becomes triggered. Feeling ungrounded and unstable then dissociating and slipping into some past program and going into an autopilot nose-dive as intense feelings overwhelm you. Kind of funny in a tragi-comic way when you come to and gaze at the debris. Think of Patsy in Ab Fab emerging from a pile of rubbish beside a dumpster to get the drift. "We are all lying in the gutter staring at the stars," as Oscar Wilde eloquently reminded his audience.
I THINK I NEED DMT CEREMONY
Looking rather attractive today, Mr Brand 👍
Whatever you're doing, keep doing it 😉
I have experienced more healing from your videos than I have done with 2 years of therapy, thank you Russel.
This is exactly what I needed to hear today, I found myself attaching expectation on a relationship and reacting to something that is completely pointless and is from an old pattern of behaviour. Although I reacted I recognised it pretty quickly so we move forwards. Thank you Russell! 🙏❤