Steve Harvey | Parenting Tip: Yelling Vs Whispering

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  • I asked my audience two questions: "How many thought it was ok to yell at their kids?" And "How many thought yelling at their kids is unnecessary?" For those who didn't, I told them they are going to catch hell 😁😂I don't know how I could've raised my kids without yelling! Watch this parenting tip and more #SteveTVShow on SteveHarvey.com
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 269

  • @JaniceMba
    @JaniceMba 5 років тому +466

    I laughed because I experienced all of them & the consequences.

    • @laurajenny1999
      @laurajenny1999 5 років тому +3

      Me too 😂😂😂😂

    • @blazayblazay8888
      @blazayblazay8888 5 років тому +4

      Exactly not cause it's witty or funny he still stuck in def comedy jam style comedy ..." women be shoppiiinnng " 🙄 my girl funnier than this cornball

    • @mihailshevchenko2368
      @mihailshevchenko2368 3 роки тому +1

      Balkan parents dont even look at you they go straight to the shoe or the belt

  • @JonahGhost
    @JonahGhost 5 років тому +575

    when parents whisper threats its more scary.

  • @Avant402
    @Avant402 5 років тому +144

    Lord, I remember the squint. That means you need contact yo next of kin😂😂

    • @SarahLizDoan
      @SarahLizDoan 5 років тому +3

      Connie Avant ROTF....my mama, too!

  • @noxmagubane
    @noxmagubane 5 років тому +221

    I can totally relate ,my mom has successfully delivered all three

  • @Sam-iy1nt
    @Sam-iy1nt 5 років тому +281

    How does Steve know my mother?🤣🤣🤣

  • @Pot404
    @Pot404 5 років тому +87

    We don't deserve this man y'all 👏

  • @Noix009
    @Noix009 5 років тому +310

    My sister would ask her kids if they wanna use the bathroom 😂😂😂
    When they’re out n they know what that means and they’d just behave 😂😂😂

    • @WifeofaJer
      @WifeofaJer 5 років тому +6

      Let me show you the way to Jesus! In a whisper because only Jesus can save your ass now. I was out with friends and my friends brother was acting a fool. His mama smiled at all the ladies in the group and said those words to her son. I was standing right next to them and heard what she whispered. I thought um I dont even want to mess with her. One kid had kept saying to her mama I need to go to the bathroom. Her reply you didn't need to 2 minutes ago and unless you want the trots like that little boy you better behave and wait.

    • @JacquiceWynnette
      @JacquiceWynnette 5 років тому

      Temi David 😂😂😂😂

    • @moitah01
      @moitah01 5 років тому +2

      🤣🤣that is exactly what my mama did if we were misbehaving in church.

    • @motrin34
      @motrin34 5 років тому

      Lol

    • @RayRayManUtdFan
      @RayRayManUtdFan 5 років тому

      Oh lol I do same 😂😂😂😂

  • @olgasa6943
    @olgasa6943 5 років тому +191

    When you get that long stare! Its because she's trying to decide between the big kitchen spoon or the homemade paddle.

    • @LORGSW6
      @LORGSW6 5 років тому +1

      Hahaha true!

    • @johnlopez3996
      @johnlopez3996 5 років тому +3

      What about syllable spankings? I (whack) told (whack) you (whack) to (whack) get (whack) down(whack)! My parents had a paddle that said, "To heck with psychology!"

    • @rubenthompson5900
      @rubenthompson5900 3 роки тому

      I’d use both

    • @janinecox256
      @janinecox256 3 роки тому +1

      Sometimes she has to cool off before she beats you because if she does she could really hurt u!

  • @ef9374
    @ef9374 5 років тому +71

    My mom balls up her eyes....from this 😑to👀....scariest stuff ever no words needed 😂

  • @noraako7250
    @noraako7250 5 років тому +97

    That clinched teeth😁🤣🤣😂.. I love u steve❤️

  • @clarencejacksonjr.
    @clarencejacksonjr. 5 років тому +53

    Steve, my mother did all of that! And it was VERY EFFECTIVE! Mama even carried a paint paddle in her pocket book in the store in case we misbehaved!

    • @janinecox256
      @janinecox256 3 роки тому +1

      My grandmother gave us a look!

  • @botlhalemaredi9164
    @botlhalemaredi9164 2 роки тому +2

    Lol. Even the silent eye-pop!

  • @thecrow9003
    @thecrow9003 5 років тому +39

    Respect 4 Steve Harvey

  • @eileenwelter90
    @eileenwelter90 5 років тому +8

    Y’all I am a yeller of a type of parent. We had weather to open windows and I sent a goodie bag with muffins and a letter apologizing to my neighbors
    “If you hear me use a crazy mama voice just know I told my family 5 times nicely first. The kids are fine. Promise.”
    Got a couple of text laughing but I swear I know they hear me and they too get off the darn couch.

  • @biancaredifer6570
    @biancaredifer6570 5 років тому +27

    As a teacher I love the look lol....it workshop even the baddest kids. Sometimes it'll be a staring contest but I always win

  • @MargaritacPena
    @MargaritacPena 5 років тому +26

    OMG so true!!!!
    When you get that long stare... you already know what's going to happen lol.... 🤣😂🤣😄😃

    • @ferzinhaN
      @ferzinhaN 5 років тому +1

      You know you gotta get your act together real quick!😅

  • @jclus8156
    @jclus8156 5 років тому +57

    as asian, hanger, sandals, belt, and mosquito racket delivers the rage better than it should. Kinda universal language for us.

  • @ReannaKennedy1
    @ReannaKennedy1 3 роки тому +2

    I got the eyes and silent mouthing in church all the time😂😂

  • @chrisxavier7612
    @chrisxavier7612 5 років тому +49

    This guy is a living meme

  • @laurenk.7325
    @laurenk.7325 2 роки тому +6

    My Mom had every look and whisper, absolutely perfected!
    LOL 😆 Especially during Church events.
    Wow! I truly do miss her. ❤
    There's not a single day which goes by that our beautiful and loving Mother isn't thought about or deeply missedI

  • @myabynes546
    @myabynes546 5 років тому +41

    To me yelling or whispering does not matter. Its what you say that has the real effect.

    • @elisebean1
      @elisebean1 5 років тому

      Get out of here

    • @crystalortega2156
      @crystalortega2156 5 років тому +1

      elisebean1 exactly what I was thinking. That be the kids with no discipline! When u just gotta 1,2, and the kid knows that’s when u know u doing it right. Lol My daughter is 3 and I’m like 1,2 and she’s already know lol

  • @remmy3571
    @remmy3571 Рік тому +2

    lol the little whisper when you actin out in the grocery store
    "oh dont worry. i got something for you at home."
    just knew i was about to catch an ass whooping when we got back to the house.

  • @farhanazm
    @farhanazm 5 років тому +6

    I ❤️ Steve Harvey. He’s hilarious!🤣

  • @johannspurlockallen8743
    @johannspurlockallen8743 Рік тому +1

    All it took was a LOOK for me and I was straight 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @sssalsera
    @sssalsera 5 років тому +1

    I love him!!!

  • @namulindwapr0ssy368
    @namulindwapr0ssy368 5 років тому +32

    The long look was done in 90's, yelling up loud was done in early 2000 now parents whisper to their children

    • @SnookOnTheFly
      @SnookOnTheFly 5 років тому

      And the whispers are only sweet nothings

  • @CJ_Pharaoh
    @CJ_Pharaoh 5 років тому +5

    The old adage comes to mind . . .
    Spare the rod . . .
    Stay blessed Mr Hightower 🙏

  • @oreemmanuel
    @oreemmanuel 5 років тому +18

    My mother's Nigerian and in church she'd do what I call, the "silent twist" maneuver to which she would whisper in my ear and pinch and twist my side. Lord knows if shrieked from the pain, It be more trouble for me
    Shaped me to learn quick & fast not to act up😂😂

    • @lovebunniemack
      @lovebunniemack 5 років тому +1

      oreemmanuel ooooo Haitians do the same thing. It is the worst! Makes you want to cry right then and there.

  • @prajaktachandekar9112
    @prajaktachandekar9112 3 роки тому +2

    That's how Indian moms work.. omfg.I died laughing. That's the best one steve !!!💓

  • @LessonsInLife
    @LessonsInLife 5 років тому +11

    Engage the child where she is, while she is in that mood, and do what you can do to help her negotiate it. Do not expect from your child a level of maturity that she does not possess. You are the parent. Be the big person. 😘😘😘

    • @brendahenry134
      @brendahenry134 5 років тому +3

      Lessons In Life thanks I needed to hear that. Sometimes I have too many expectations for the lil ones😩 I’m learning how to be the bigger person as I am 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💪🏾

    • @LessonsInLife
      @LessonsInLife 5 років тому

      @@brendahenry134 Your welcome 😘

  • @susanndungumuriuki4897
    @susanndungumuriuki4897 5 років тому +1

    The long look with a squint is a personal favourite. It works all the time.

  • @shaylaahava6413
    @shaylaahava6413 5 років тому +2

    Steve is bringing back horrific memories for some folks! Flashbacks! 😁

  • @tegabaahmedia
    @tegabaahmedia 5 років тому +35

    The last one.... particularly common amongst African mother... it’s called the ‘one time mention name’... all my momma had to do was say Tega!

    • @priscilladavenport5791
      @priscilladavenport5791 5 років тому +1

      My mother would say your first middle and last name with the Dead Eye stare. Worked every time

  • @sarebear4351
    @sarebear4351 5 років тому +4

    😂😂😂 best advice. My aunty told me the same a few years ago. I still yell but once i whisper they move

  • @mysteriousdude280
    @mysteriousdude280 5 років тому +2

    I can so relate to this, cause I can remember all of them and the beating that followed when the message was ignored

  • @anjusmith843
    @anjusmith843 5 років тому +5

    Steeeeeeve....you are right on point

  • @elisabeth4543
    @elisabeth4543 5 років тому +5

    Lmfaoooo I'm working with kids everyday and I should say I don't yell but always being pacific. Our mamas are the greatest teachers of the earth

    • @elisebean1
      @elisebean1 5 років тому

      Pacific? Lord Jesus.

  • @krizzthekid25
    @krizzthekid25 5 років тому +29

    Just my opinion but there's a time and place for yelling and a time and place for whispering I whisper or talk normally the first few times I asked him to do something then after that it's time for the voice to get raise a little bit and if it is at a point of yelling somebody's ass is in trouble.

    • @jasminevaliente96
      @jasminevaliente96 5 років тому

      Lol oddly enough the yell usually comes first my house the whisper means I'm about to go to jail and the kids usually put up and shut up when I get to staring and whispering

  • @crystalfrager3828
    @crystalfrager3828 5 років тому +5

    My sister and I experienced all of those growing up as a kid. Oh, and don't let me have to call your first name, middle name and last name or if I have to tell you a third time ... you just knew you were in deep trouble. The funny thing is we use those same methods of discipline on our kids as well...generation after generation. 😂😂😂😊 If it ain't broke don't fix it. Go with what works. 😂😂😂😊😊😊

  • @amyw595
    @amyw595 5 років тому +2

    Yeah I got the look!

  • @dadandadan2571
    @dadandadan2571 5 років тому +2

    So so so true!!!

  • @IdanActual
    @IdanActual 5 років тому +10

    My man Steve🔥

  • @rozenabashir7773
    @rozenabashir7773 5 років тому +8

    So true🤣

  • @heatherparker2491
    @heatherparker2491 5 років тому +19

    Yes, I yell. Not to be abusive, but to get the point across. It put the fear of God into me as a child and I survived. I got my booty whipped. I survived and mine will too. I learned respect via an Agner belt lol!!

  • @dmac8671
    @dmac8671 5 років тому +2

    I work with school children and they have selective hearing, sometimes you got to raise your voice not to demean them, but they literally will tune you out or act as if they can't hear you. You'll be trying to get your attention, and the more you try to get their attention the louder they get.

  • @blessngifted
    @blessngifted 5 років тому +18

    Also, when they "appear" calm and say...OK...that means run

  • @priscilladavenport5791
    @priscilladavenport5791 5 років тому +3

    My brothers and I were talking about this over Christmas. LOL. We used to call it my mother's evil eye. Act up somewhere like church or in the doctor's office and you would start crying when she looked at you because you knew what going to happen once you got home. She never open her mouth but she gave you the evil eye

  • @CMJoules
    @CMJoules 5 років тому +5

    Those are all of me with my children.

  • @lystraalexander9783
    @lystraalexander9783 5 років тому +3

    Lol...sure right Mr. Harvey!!! I remember my mama!! 😂😂

  • @kensakiro
    @kensakiro 5 років тому

    Thank you mr. H... Your description is literally my Mom's description. The best moms :)

  • @yankubafatheo6764
    @yankubafatheo6764 5 років тому +5

    💯correct

  • @missevans626
    @missevans626 5 років тому

    Behavior management strategies I’ll use in my classroom 🤗

  • @melindmccluske8109
    @melindmccluske8109 5 років тому

    Powerful parenting tips steve.highly appreciated.

  • @MihaelaV68
    @MihaelaV68 5 років тому +16

    One day I wish to see “Steve and Marjorie show”

  • @JustSheaShea
    @JustSheaShea 5 років тому +6

    I had to introduce my 1 yr old to the clenched teeth whisper at church Easter Sunday. I had to add a firm squeeze to his arm to add emphasis to my point but we made it through the whole service with no problems.

  • @allanc1894
    @allanc1894 5 років тому +5

    Experienced every one of them from my grandmother...

  • @mercynasser2776
    @mercynasser2776 5 років тому +2

    Yeahhh Uncle Steve it’s all that

  • @morganwhite2176
    @morganwhite2176 10 місяців тому +1

    The other day I saw a mother in a shop with her kid and her kid was pulling her hair and slapping her whilst she ‘used reason and logic’ with it. Stupid generation will win stupid prizes. Nothing wrong with good old fashioned discipline.

  • @zoesinovich6191
    @zoesinovich6191 5 років тому +78

    Parents these days are too sensitive

    • @WifeofaJer
      @WifeofaJer 5 років тому +7

      Yes they have people scarying them into thinking their children will be taken. I was of the mindset yeah they may come take these children, but they will see and give them back.
      If you are so scared you let your children be verbally, mentally and sometimes even physically abusive in a way you would never allow someone else to treat you. You need to stop and give them something, because the world will. If they act like that the world wont love them like the parent does either

    • @melanieadams7891
      @melanieadams7891 5 років тому +1

      I'm not. I tell my about what will happen if they are disobedient to mommy and I'm 35 and. I was raised by my grandmother so I guess I'm old school

    • @crystalortega2156
      @crystalortega2156 5 років тому +1

      Anna J 🤣🤣 u had me dying with the part “they’ll give them back” lol and the second part you wrote couldn’t have been said better. Hallelujah! Amen!

    • @WifeofaJer
      @WifeofaJer 5 років тому

      @@crystalortega2156 Thank you

  • @Ms.Haleyy
    @Ms.Haleyy 3 роки тому

    Boy, when my dad whispered my whole spine would lock up sh*t so scary 🤣

  • @untiedshoelaces2588
    @untiedshoelaces2588 3 роки тому

    The whispered threats are the most effective...Mainly because it gives the parent plausible deniability. At least that's what my childhood buddies's mother always said. She was a great lady.

  • @JustLexie16
    @JustLexie16 3 роки тому +1

    My big sister is the one that always sets me straight. She does that deadly whisper and that silent mouthing 😂
    And if anyone but my sister does the whisper I just say “cho breath stink” (even when I'm not in trouble 😂)

  • @b.moffitt5348
    @b.moffitt5348 5 років тому

    Its a balance... Yell when you need to and whisper (mild statement) when needed. I yell and whisper (talk to them and not at them). Its a balance. Ive seen kids who get yelled at all the time and that is the only way they understand or take things seriously. Ive also learned that if you do not show them the harshness. Life is gonna eat them alive bc they are gonna think or perceive this is how it is suppose to be in the world. Its balance. A false balnace is an abomination but a just weigh... Be blessed all!!!

  • @ImprovementisGrowth
    @ImprovementisGrowth 5 років тому +1

    all classic mother moves

  • @elishanewton7131
    @elishanewton7131 5 років тому

    The suit and shirt priceless

  • @MzTinkerbell
    @MzTinkerbell 5 років тому +5

    You know you were raised by a black mama when... Yes lawd!!😝😅

  • @gkficker
    @gkficker 2 роки тому

    I used some of these in my classroom.

  • @derekallen7245
    @derekallen7245 5 років тому

    I swear i just got the worst flashbacks of my life with these aha. Truly very effective

  • @kimkimkimkimmie
    @kimkimkimkimmie 5 років тому

    My childhood!🤷🏽‍♀️😂

  • @SarahLizDoan
    @SarahLizDoan 5 років тому

    Soooooo true!!! I don’t have a physically loud voice, I have paralyzed vocal chords actually so I cannot yell very loudly at all. With the kids in my life, I whisper and get even quieter. Works every single time. And “that look” is ever so effective as well. Of course yelling works, too, but a whisper quiet yet stern voice and the look....bingo!!! My mama yelled, my mama was quiet, and she definitely got that look....whispering was most effective for me. Just saying.

  • @waheedahsrecipes5004
    @waheedahsrecipes5004 5 років тому +1

    In our house that’s NORMAL to yelling and the tightness of the teeth UNCLE STEVE THATS SO TRUE Ha Ha

  • @SharpDesign
    @SharpDesign 5 років тому +1

    1:50 Paddington knows it as a "hard stare" when people have forgotten their manners.

  • @tselengbotlhole750
    @tselengbotlhole750 5 років тому

    This was absolutely funny 🤣🤣🤣

  • @NicholeLT
    @NicholeLT 5 років тому

    Yeeeeeees Steve. Yeeeeeeeees. Omg. This is so me.

  • @mellery23
    @mellery23 5 років тому

    Yoo! Steve hit this one dead on! 😂😂

  • @ChasingCarson
    @ChasingCarson 5 років тому

    The squint is that “ wait til we leave here or wait til we get home look”

  • @SuperMusicology101
    @SuperMusicology101 5 років тому +3

    I never yelled didn't whisper never yelled I was stern but never yelled I think women yell more because of a higher pitched voice my wife would always yell sometimes sent me into shock especially out of no where

  • @deepalin2481
    @deepalin2481 5 років тому

    this is so true

  • @tashafinnprayeatlaffluv4giv
    @tashafinnprayeatlaffluv4giv 5 років тому

    Yep I have officially effectively done all of those

  • @Aficionado2023
    @Aficionado2023 3 роки тому

    I do tell my daughter about her not playing with technology but I will not hesitate to do all of this with her. Old school discipline still works.

  • @JSMFMS
    @JSMFMS 5 років тому

    I’m thinking he knows my mom, that was her in church. When it’s bad, her line was “you just wait until I tell your dad when he gets home”. My dad was the worst with the look, or just cleaning his throat, I’d straighten up so fast!

  • @contacterase7701
    @contacterase7701 3 роки тому

    Father's shout, mother whispers 😅😅😅😅😅

  • @christophershanklin112
    @christophershanklin112 5 років тому

    😂😂Steve sound like he took some ass whoopins for the team

  • @sweetbearfanfictions5575
    @sweetbearfanfictions5575 3 роки тому

    Have gone through all with beating from rulers,hand , kitchen utensils

  • @den-yimmoli7983
    @den-yimmoli7983 5 років тому

    Yelling and whispering are parent powers, you'd just have to know how and when to use them. Yelling is for urgency...Whispering is to give a message with a menacing effect. Works well with intense eye contact.

  • @MsSHINeeTVXQSuju
    @MsSHINeeTVXQSuju 5 років тому

    My mom doesn't squint...she stares then opens her eyes real wide and gives a death stare XD

  • @tonyaneal38
    @tonyaneal38 Рік тому

    They call me the whisper mom😂😂😂

  • @catherinetiernan9413
    @catherinetiernan9413 5 років тому

    Oh Steve you should do a special on Irish Mothers. We are a law onto ourselves.

  • @miriamnaome3583
    @miriamnaome3583 5 років тому

    Mr. Steve Harvey with all due respect, how do you know my Mama, She all of these!!!Damn specially the whisper awww hell naw.

  • @dannygreen9419
    @dannygreen9419 3 роки тому

    BEEN THERE! HAD THAT DONE!! LOL MAMA!!

  • @jolenebauser408
    @jolenebauser408 3 роки тому

    I don’t like yelling! I asked my daughter to do something once and that was it. She just knew I meant business. I had no problems with her growing up.

  • @MZKISSESGETITRITE03
    @MZKISSESGETITRITE03 5 років тому

    Sooo true

  • @looksok3327
    @looksok3327 5 років тому

    Yes!!! Yelling

  • @JacquiceWynnette
    @JacquiceWynnette 5 років тому

    When I start whispering at my boys they. Think I’m crazy lol 😂

  • @tarneemalissa2539
    @tarneemalissa2539 5 років тому

    True

  • @lailahlyn9428
    @lailahlyn9428 5 років тому +1

    😂😂😂😂facts

  • @nybsbfan18
    @nybsbfan18 5 років тому

    Some of them know what's waiting for them when they get home...lol

  • @loudaudio1865
    @loudaudio1865 5 років тому

    Lol I love to clench teeth you funny Steve Harvey God bless you brother

  • @davidram9511
    @davidram9511 5 років тому

    You go how the ocean moves,

  • @melanieadams7891
    @melanieadams7891 5 років тому +1

    I do all of those with my kids and by them being special needs on different levels they all understand me and get me and people be wondering what I'm doing to them or saying to they cause they can't hear me