I feel like this mindset is so prevalent especially among those working social media jobs. The internet holds people to such crazy high unrealistic standards. It is so beautiful to be human and imperfect. Thanks for sharing
Old souls can feel obligated to take on a lot during one lifetime. It's the urge to be and do more. Thank you for sharing this level of authenticity, which in and of itself is MORE than enough!
I feel that today’s society is putting too much pressure on us - to be successful, to be fit, to be thin and sexy....What’s happening is that we’re constantly striving to be more and to achieve more, not appreciating what we have NOW...not living NOW. It’s good to create goals for ourselves, that’s what I do, but we must choose to be happy NOW, with everything we have NOW. Now is the moment we can be sure of. Thanks for sharing Raya.
Aw Raya, this is such a strong message.. I cried with you. Let's all remember to take a moment from time to time and reflect on everything we've come through, look back and appreciate where we are now. And with this in mind, we can be consciously open to aall the new possibilities that the future holds for us ❤️ sending love and positive energy to all of you!
this is so so important!!! happiness, joy, satisfaction, whatever we want to call it does not come from doing or achieving. it comes from just being. learning to access joy in every moment; allowing yourself to feel it. so many of us postpone that feeling for the illusion of "when." "i'll happy when..."
I find as i get older (I turned 40 in March), my perspective on what ive achieved & how my life is going & who ive impacted or what my foot print is & if ive done enough takes on new meaning. Ya I still struggle from time to time & have the thoughts you just described but I dont know, they are less often, and less devastating now. at your age I felt so sad at the prospect of not being able to reach my full potential, & kind of felt empty because the world was so big & i was just a speck of dust in the grand scheme of things.. Im not saying age is a factor in how you feel now, I just found that, for me, when i hit 35 things just sort of shifted. now I think that as long as my heart has the best intentions in everything I do, then it just has to be enough & im ok with that. I can honestly say when I look at someone like you who inspires me & has done by far more then I have in less time, I dont compare, I rejoice that there is someone else doing something too. a little goes a long way, and if everyone is doing a little, that little becomes a lot. doing enough is not achieved by one person alone & personal happiness is a choice. I have no regrets. your a beautiful, wonderful, smart woman & i think you will also one day have this feeling. my favorite quote by a young man who died of cancer named Chris Aiff. "The decision to be positive is not one that disregards or belittles the sadness that exists. It is rather a conscious choice to focus on the good and to cultivate happiness-genuine happiness. Happiness is not a limited resource. And when we devote our time to trivial matters, and choose to stress over things that ultimately are insignificant. From that point, we perpetuate our own sadness, and we lose sight of the things that really make us happy and rationalize our way out of doing amazing things." ps. love u, thank you for sharing & being vulnerable.
I really relate to this. I had a conversation with my mum about how I am always trying to be more, do more, have a more positive impact on the planet and trying to heal all the crud in my life. But I forget how far I have come. How I’ve learnt to love my body vessel that I was once so shy about. How I’ve learnt to express myself in ways I never knew before. It’s important to bring our focus back to what we are rather than what we are not, and the truth Raya, is that you just being here on this planet IS enough. You simply being is rippling our through the planet and the cosmos in the most beautiful way. It’s painful on Earth, and we are so connected to her and feeling what she is feeling as well. Stay strong beautiful warrior of love. X
Recently I had the most powerful meditation that drove me to tears in regards to this. I am enough and will always be enough. Last couple days have been hard for me. Just yesterday I was crying hopeless that living a life when people would tell me I’m not enough, I’m not as smart, I am not as thin, I am not enough to become this or that. This is draining and keeps our ego full to make us believe of such. Thank you beautiful Raya for this. So honest, so raw. You are doing what you are capable of and I see you’re always improving yourself continuously and that is enough to live a happy, kind life. Improving yourself to go to bed happy but free of limitations and judgements, and full of compassion and kindness towards yourself. Thank you for this.
Thank you for being so vulnerable. I think this will help a lot of people. The sad thing is, if a friend was telling you they have achieved what you have achieved, you would be celebrating them and feeling inspired by them. Be kind to yourself!
wow. thank you so much for sharing this. I feel the exact same way.. and I am on my journey to trust myself more and trust that everything will be okay. there is so much potential in all of us, but I believe if we write down the intentions that are most important to us and live by them, then life will always be good enough in some way. good for us. sending you a hug🦋❤️
This resonates with me sooooo much. I have a lot of toxic perfectionism that I inflict on myself. And even though I’m so much more successful and stable than I was even just 2 years ago, I still find it hard to appreciate that and let myself be PROUD of myself. Thank you for this reminder to let myself just, be. And be happy.
"if you can't appreciate the little things now, you won't appreciate the big things later". I think Western society is a victim of its own success. We are always pushing to do more, be more, buy more. Achieve, excel, out pace. Grow, evolve, transform. Skies the limit. It almost feels wrong it you don't have big lofty goals to strive for. And then I read a blog post called "what if all I want is a mediocre life" on the blog A Life in Progress and it really opened my eyes. I still feel guilty for not striving for more. But every now and again I find myself happy with what I have.
Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Exactly what you explained in your video, is what I’m feeling today... I worked out, I had a healthy breakfast, I worked for a bit, I played with my dog... yet I feel so empty. Perhaps it’s quarantine but maybe not. This is a feeling I have experienced countless times. I’ll blame my relationship for not intellectually stimulating me. Or my living situation... I’m at a point where I simply feel helpless and empty. Thank you for sharing. It’s comforting to know that someone who may seem like they have it all together, is still human like me and feels the same emotions. It’s humbling that I am not the only one. I trust that We will rise and we will overcome this feeling. Sending you so many hugs and comfort especially during this time. Xo
This is exactly what I feel all the time.. No matter what I do or accomplish, I feel like I did nothing and I need to do more!! Which is making me miserable.. Thank you.
Thank you for being so vulnerable Raya. I used to think this way too, and still do if I’m not careful, but honestly I’ve learned that what we can do won’t ever be enough for us. It’s because we’re not made for doing, we are made for being. We bear the image of an almighty God that our souls long to know simply by our being human. And until we are reunited with Him, our souls will be endlessly longing for that sort of love and goodness. You are so loved, not for what you do, but because of what you are. If you want to know what will be enough, ask the one who made you. Much love always💛
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable, with similar fears and thoughts I’m sure we all have had ( I know I have). You have such a beautiful soul which shines through all you stand for and do🤍!
I feel you and I think many people do! We live in a time where our enough isn't just surviving and finding something to eat and a safe place to sleep anymore. We live in a time where everybody has to define its personal enough and that is so hard! "Man is condemned to be free." Sartre
Thank you for being vulnerable to show all of us that we are not alone in feeling that way. Seeing someone else have those same thoughts and feelings makes me feel less lonely in those feelings. I feel a little more okay and that it is enough x
I feel the exact same way every night before I go to bed. How I never do good enough and how much I could have done better. How I could be better. No matter how hard I work/ do things, its never enough or right. I pressure myself to go above and beyond people's expectations but end up getting used. Every night I lay and wish I wasn't so scared to face bigger dreams head on. How much it hurts that I can't believe a person when they compliment my work ethic because under the surface, I'm screaming for air and I cannot allow myself to believe what I'm doing is meaningful to anyone. Your life is absolute goals and I do hope one day you feel good enough!
praying for you 💕💕💕 I feel the same way. Everything I do is never enough, and I never give myself credit. We can find a way to work on this! WE can work towards self-love. We can work towards having compassion towards ourselves. This is the hardest thing to learn and work towards, but it is so rewarding in the end. I hope I can get there, and I hope you will too 💕💕
Just sending you love ♥ You are doing great! Maybe it's an idea to tell yourself you're doing great before going to bed and as soon as you wake up, even when you don't believe it yourself. It should work kind of like a mantra. Maybe it doesn't work for you but at least try, you deserve that love ❤️
It's definitely difficult to live in the present and think of my ego as more of a tool to contentment and not the guide to happiness. Easier said than done.
Literally what occurs in my head every day and it is exhausting. For anyone reading this- know that you are not alone in this feeling. I hope you find self belief as we all deserve that at the very least.
True love is loving yourself. Being kind to yourself. Validating yourself. Give yourself credit. I was You 3 weeks ago - From a single mom of two who works in the health care 40+ hrs, financially depending on her own, going to school, take care of her parents and family, have supportive friends --- the great start is that you realized it, now you’re in the accepting phase it’s only going to get better from here - I promise ♥️
I've spent too much of my life feeling this way. One day, I decided to reflect back on the years and I could not remember anything, even the good times with loved ones- until they reminded me of those moments. That's what you get when you live in fear of the past/future. Life goes by quick and you're left feeling empty. Anyway, I was guided towards 2 books; "The Universe Has Your Back" & "Super Attractor" both by Gabrielle Bernstein. They offered perspectives that COMPLETELY changed my life. Love you, Raya 🌻🌼
I hope all is well with you & Louis. You've done more than enough over the last 6 years, Raya. More adventures most will see in a lifetime. You continue to inspire millions. The video archive & sustainable lifestyle speaks for itself. Celebrate it, & look back on it during this down time. You have a whole long life ahead to accomplish more goals. There's plenty of time.
YOU are enough. I truly hope one day, you are able to calm that "not enough" voice in your head and see who you are and what you are doing in life is MORE than enough. And... simply by acknowledging it..you've already took away some of its power. *hugs*
Sending you love❤️ Maybe try to talk to yourself as if you were your best friend and see if that helps. At least you're worthy of that way of talking ❤️
Hello Beautiful divine feminine soul, I see you as a reflection of my self With a core belief running in the subconscious "I am not enough" which drives to push ourselves to achieve (so we will be enough, lovable, accepted, good enough) .... But the thing is you are enough and always have been enough. The only thing to do is to reprogram our minds... with I AM ENOUGH.... I am enough no matter how I look, how I feel, who I am with, what am wearing... Right now if I did nothing changed nothing , was just me 100% me I AM ENOUGH... You are Enough.... I am not enough has been my core belief thats ran my life.... I am constantly reprogramming my mind, with I am enough... YOU ARE ENOUGH TO YOUR CORE BEAUTIFUL SOUL, BEAUTIFUL LIGHT THAT YOU ARE, Thankyou for your vulnerability, your beauty, your light...THE only person that needs to know your enough is you. 💛💛💛💛
I felt this so much Raya. 💖💖💖 I have a tendency to hold myself back from doing my best. I tell myself that it's because I don't want other people to always expect that level of performance from me... But deep down I think I'm afraid of my own greatness and don't want to let myself down (another form of never enough). Most of the time it doesn't even feel like a choice because I've been doing it for so long.
A beautifully impactful and important message I about mental wellbeing and acceptance. You're strong for acknowledging that you're more than enough, and this brought me peace too. ♡
Hey ! It's so brave of you to show that vulnerability ! I just want to send you some good vibes !! I think that something we are all guilty of, specifically in our modern society, is to project ourselves a bit too much. And I think it can be really healthy but the line is fine between wanting to be a better version of yourself by just growing and evolving versus putting pressure on ourselves to be the supposedly perfect version of ourselves. And I beleive that when we are stuck at the ladder, it is very important to bring ourselves back to the present moment. You know what I mean ? Like I have goals for my body that comes along being healthier but I need to accept the way my body looks right now, not constantly thinking that it will be worthier (my worth is anyway not supposed to be valued by the way I look !!) when I'm gonna be healthier. I don't know if that helps in any way but I wanted to share my thoughts on the matter ! I wish you all the best, take care of yourself and of your mental health !
As a child I was never good enough per parents and teachers and I grew up believing this ...no matter what I did ...but it was my own self that was in my way. I’m 50 now and just realizing that I had compared myself to others instead of looking within often just repeating in my mind what others judged. Get past what everyone else thinks is “good enough” and you’re gold. However if I fell asleep happy every night That would be enough. I’m a single mom with chronic illness and have no one but my kids. I have to be happy with me! Much love to all! 💞🕊
That's how I always feel ... and it's what keeps me from doing anything because I feel I could never go to bed happy and satisfied. Sending hugs and love
Maybe it's an idea to tell yourself you're doing great before going to bed and as soon as you wake up, even when you don't believe it yourself. It should work kind of like a mantra. Maybe it doesn't work for you but at least try, you deserve that love ❤️
We are all enough we dont need to follow anybody else's standards... we need to live and let other live freely!! . Thank you for sharing your thoughts! 🙂
I have the same problems.. it’s really hard cause I wanted to feel grateful and happy what I have and how much I’ve grown and learn and did. Thank you for sharing.. it helps me realise that I’m not alone and this is what my friend and I came out with, focus on being progressive not productive. Because somewhat, it’s never going to be enough.
Such a brave and important video! I have dealt a lot with my perfectionism when everything was falling appart last year. But I see so much bravery and growth in you, which on a broader and spiritual and energetic level is just mirroring my own. Much love to you!
I would love to just believe for a tiny second I'm enough of anything but I feel like I'm never enough. And I relate a lot for the part of just stop and take into account you are actually doing more than enough... But I cannot believe it for myself.
Sending you love❤️ Maybe try to talk to yourself as if you were your best friend and see if that helps. At least you're worthy of that way of talking ❤️
As someone who has not even come close to all the amazing accomplishments you have, I can guarantee that you are not alone in feeling these feelings. It is comforting to see someone who influences people everyday and who looks like they “have it all together” to share this vulnerable moment that you’ve been feeling. We are all the same and we are all only human. We should all be a little easier on ourselves and I too should definitely take my own advice when saying this. Thank you for making and posting this wholesome and very real video. I also want to say that I think you’re doing great Raya.💕
Thank you for sharing this Raya! So relatable and enlightening. What helps me personally to be content is through my Christian faith of seeing who I am and who God is and see living my life everyday as living loved. 1 Timothy 6:6-12 But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness. Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses. Thank you for your content Raya!
"The mystery of life isn't a problem to solve, but a reality to experience.” Frank Herbert, Dune Dear Raya, I appreciate who you are. I appreciate you because you exist and want like me to go back to our roots. And our roots are made of love. And love is unconditional. We re enough because we are. All the lies that told us we have to prove to the world to be enough is bullshit. We re moving in a capitalism world where things and people are worthy if they sell well. Its not what we want to follow. I m grateful God made you and I ask him to bless you and show you how enough you are to him. Love to you from Switzerland, Claire
UA-cam is such a cruel world. The algorithm is such that when your views and subscribers are stuck at a very low point its difficult to sustain a good life. My best friend suffered similar problems and it's this bad world of social media. Just need to keep working hard and be happy with what you have. These are first world issues and we should just be grateful with we have .
This was so emotional and touching and spoke right to my heart. Thanks you Raya. I hope you have a good day. I go to the woods now with my dog and be happy together with her. All the love to you and everyone out there...
I feel like when our government is failing to protect us and our elected officials are being controlled by corporate greed it leaves us feeling like we need to do everything ourselves and we are ultimately left feeling like our actions are too small and inconsequential.. it’s hard to feel like you’re doing enough when we’re surrounded by so much pain and destruction.. Sorry I don’t have any answers but I just wanted to let you know we all feel like this at least sometimes and it’s hugely influenced by the world we live in, you’re doing an amazing job Raya and I hope you are having a beautiful day with the ones you love spreading love and aloha 💞
True peace with ourselves comes from the Lord. He knows you, he loves you, he doesn’t require you to do anything but come to Him and find peace! God bless you and I pray you will meet Jesus and know your true identity is Him and His love for you!
I celebrate you for your honesty and your courage to share these intimate thoughts! I don't know if this resonates with you, but for me I could only find peace and contentment when I realized that it's not about doing, but about being. Being loved by God, knowing that there is so much more than my limited human life. Resting in the purest form of love, knowing that I am exactly where I need to be. Trusting. It's not about me but about something much greater that I can't even understand completely. And that is ok. This is where I found rest. This is where I find my happiness that is not tied to circumstances. I wish you from the bottom of my heart so much love and peace. And know you are enough. It's not about what you do, but about who you are. You are loved.
You're so beautiful and vulnerable! You're human and these are incredibly human feelings. Feel them all without shame! You don't have do enough to be enough. Sending LOVE.
I got so emotional with you raya, it means so much when someone share this feelings that we all are going through at this time. Indeed going to bed happy and content with no pain no worries is a bliss we should consider. Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Whosoever begins the day feeling family security and good health; and possessing provision for his day is as though he possesed the whole world."
Too many times we judge ourselves against the greatness of others but that is not good for us. We are individuals. Our greatness comes from the simple way we live and how we make others feel. Kindness, listening, giving time and love to someone is the unit of measurement we should have for ourselves. Keep to the basics and the "enough" grows to be those bigger achievements. You are living a good life and those voices in your head will break you but only if you allow it. Just tell the voices, Not today! Go bug someone else! Wrap your arms around you and give yourself a hug. Love yourself completely.
Thanks for this video. I feel the same and I’m so glad to have watched this. Thanks. You’re more than enough and because of this video, I now feel I’m good enough. Again. Thank you
First I wanted to just say thank you so much for you honesty and vulnerability. 2nd I'd also like to say that girl YOU are enough! You are precious not matter what you do or dont do. We are human beings not human doings. So YOU in and of yourself are enough! Sending love your way.
Sending you love❤️ Maybe try to talk to yourself as if you were your best friend and see if that helps. At least you're worthy of that way of talking ❤️
Just sending you love ♥ You are doing great! Maybe it's an idea to tell yourself you're doing great before going to bed and as soon as you wake up, even when you don't believe it yourself. It should work kind of like a mantra. Maybe it doesn't work for you but at least try, you deserve that love ❤️
Trust me you are awesome! Perhaps my story could help... Grew up with narcissist parents. I’ve been married twice to abusive spouses and my second husband almost killed me and took his life then our then 8 yr old son was hit by a car a month later sustaining severe brain injury being in hospital and rehab 3 months, recovery 2 years then my older son almost lost his eye recovery of 4 months in darkness. My “best friend” was a con artist and put me through more trauma right after that was so over top I can’t trust. I now have chronic illness from all the stress and grateful my sons are healthy now but live with me and due to illness I can’t take care of them as I would like. My roof has a leak and neither of my toilets flush nor does my kitchen sink work... I promise if I can make it through and still believe in me anyone can. I have no friends and haven’t dated in 7 years. Sometimes perspective helps. I’m grateful for a roof even leaky and my kids that I can enjoy watching them become self aware in a way I was never taught so they know they are good enough just how they are. You can too and you are great! Much love 😊💞🕊
We are thankful for you and you make our worlds better. I begun my journey of loving my body from your words and your influence. Don't worry about a goal just do what you love ❤
what is the point if everything is done!, life would be boring .. someone said wisely "Celebrate the moments and work towards the next one." You have done so much of great work impacting thousands of lives. Be Kind to Your Mind. :) Lot of love and support .. we will be here waiting for whenever you want to share something. We love you. :)
I am much older than you..I have experienced a lot of physical, mental and emotional abuse with the voices of my attackers in my head all the time..about 20 years ago I finally got so tired of the voices and the major unanswered question "What If?"..My mental healing began when I accepted what the Word of the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob says about me and accepting the His Love for me that he sent His Son, Jesus Christ to earth to die for me and all of mankind..God says that we are His handiwork, a new creation when we accept Jesus as our Saviour and He delights in us..Once I began the path of mental healing, the emotional and physical fell into line..I am now not the person I was 20 years ago..It is a process and you do this for yourself, not for others..Seek God's face and His approval and you will be happier than you've ever been..
Raya you are an amazing person. There could be a long standing reason why you feel how you feel, it could be something from your childhood that instilled the need to be more and do more or from an experience or just the world we live in. I say this with love and respect for you and because i work in mental health...it might help to speak to someone like a councillor who can support you. The majority of people on this planet could do with talking to someone openly about any struggle they are dealing with. It takes work and its not going to make you think or feel differently instantly but its a start. I say this as someone who also needs to get support with things that i havent dealt with yet. I've followed you for a few years now and i respect you so much for being vulnerable and brave. Sending you lots of virtual hugs ❤
Thank you for sharing that, it’s really powerful . I know it must have been hard to share. Also I hope posting this helps you realise the amazing things you have achieved and that you can feel happier with the lovely person you are ❤️
So much love to you Raya! You’re amazing, thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities with us, I too struggle with this battle with the voice in my head telling me I’m a failure, not good enough etc. It’s exhausting. I did your kind challenges last year and can’t express enough how much it helped me and pushed me into my self care and self love journey. I love your content and you always inspire me! Big hugs xo
You ARE enough and worthy just by being alive and breathing! I hope you've been going to sleep content these days. 💙 I have the same inner voice critic and it almost brought me to extremely negative thoughts about myself and deep depression... Being kind to ourselves the same way we would be to our best friend is the first step. It always comes back to self-kindness and self-acceptance. It's crucial for being able to live this beautiful life fully. Uh, I SOOOO needed to hear this....Thank you Raya. 🙏 💗💗💗
Raya you are enough beautiful girl ,you need to live your happy life and dont judge yourself to harshly. you are doing your best you are in a great position to shine bright , Dont let anyone dim your light.you are a ray of sunshine,
The path of happiness is satisfy of what we have. You think what you have is not enough for you but actually you already have it, you are more lucky than many perople over there inluding me who is still following you and learn so much from you to improve myself every single day. You are very beautiful, kind and intelligent, you might think you did not inspire enough but at least you are inspired me - a fan of you from Vietnam. I hope you will live happily and enjoy your life by the way you are. Love you !
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” - Lao Tzu
Love this quote so much
I love that quote!!
I feel like this mindset is so prevalent especially among those working social media jobs. The internet holds people to such crazy high unrealistic standards. It is so beautiful to be human and imperfect. Thanks for sharing
😢 you’re not alone - thanks for being brave & show courage by saying what most of us are thinking and feeling . You are amazing & enough 😘❤️🙏🏽
this hit home for me. thankyou for this angel
This is exactly what lot of us go through in our heads...Lots of love to you!
Old souls can feel obligated to take on a lot during one lifetime. It's the urge to be and do more. Thank you for sharing this level of authenticity, which in and of itself is MORE than enough!
I feel that today’s society is putting too much pressure on us - to be successful, to be fit, to be thin and sexy....What’s happening is that we’re constantly striving to be more and to achieve more, not appreciating what we have NOW...not living NOW. It’s good to create goals for ourselves, that’s what I do, but we must choose to be happy NOW, with everything we have NOW. Now is the moment we can be sure of. Thanks for sharing Raya.
Aw Raya, this is such a strong message.. I cried with you. Let's all remember to take a moment from time to time and reflect on everything we've come through, look back and appreciate where we are now. And with this in mind, we can be consciously open to aall the new possibilities that the future holds for us ❤️ sending love and positive energy to all of you!
Everything you’ve accomplished makes me feel like I’m not enough. I am constantly comparing myself. I’m so sick of it. I never feel enough.
One of my doggies heard you crying and came to my phone while I watched your video. I think she wanted to give you a hug 🐶
this is so so important!!! happiness, joy, satisfaction, whatever we want to call it does not come from doing or achieving. it comes from just being. learning to access joy in every moment; allowing yourself to feel it. so many of us postpone that feeling for the illusion of "when." "i'll happy when..."
Preach ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing this vulnerable part of yourself in the hopes of inspiring others, it sure did inspire me :)
Thank you for this real and raw moment! I feel this way a lot of the time. You're not alone. 💜
Lots of love from me to you ❤️❤️
I find as i get older (I turned 40 in March), my perspective on what ive achieved & how my life is going & who ive impacted or what my foot print is & if ive done enough takes on new meaning. Ya I still struggle from time to time & have the thoughts you just described but I dont know, they are less often, and less devastating now. at your age I felt so sad at the prospect of not being able to reach my full potential, & kind of felt empty because the world was so big & i was just a speck of dust in the grand scheme of things.. Im not saying age is a factor in how you feel now, I just found that, for me, when i hit 35 things just sort of shifted. now I think that as long as my heart has the best intentions in everything I do, then it just has to be enough & im ok with that. I can honestly say when I look at someone like you who inspires me & has done by far more then I have in less time, I dont compare, I rejoice that there is someone else doing something too. a little goes a long way, and if everyone is doing a little, that little becomes a lot. doing enough is not achieved by one person alone & personal happiness is a choice. I have no regrets. your a beautiful, wonderful, smart woman & i think you will also one day have this feeling. my favorite quote by a young man who died of cancer named Chris Aiff.
"The decision to be positive is not one that disregards or belittles the sadness that exists. It is rather a conscious choice to focus on the good and to cultivate happiness-genuine happiness.
Happiness is not a limited resource. And when we devote our time to trivial matters, and choose to stress over things that ultimately are insignificant. From that point, we perpetuate our own sadness, and we lose sight of the things that really make us happy and rationalize our way out of doing amazing things."
ps. love u, thank you for sharing & being vulnerable.
THIS.
I really relate to this. I had a conversation with my mum about how I am always trying to be more, do more, have a more positive impact on the planet and trying to heal all the crud in my life. But I forget how far I have come. How I’ve learnt to love my body vessel that I was once so shy about. How I’ve learnt to express myself in ways I never knew before. It’s important to bring our focus back to what we are rather than what we are not, and the truth Raya, is that you just being here on this planet IS enough. You simply being is rippling our through the planet and the cosmos in the most beautiful way.
It’s painful on Earth, and we are so connected to her and feeling what she is feeling as well. Stay strong beautiful warrior of love. X
Thank you for sharing in this honest way, many of us feel just like you ❤️ you are enough, we are enough ❤️
Recently I had the most powerful meditation that drove me to tears in regards to this. I am enough and will always be enough. Last couple days have been hard for me. Just yesterday I was crying hopeless that living a life when people would tell me I’m not enough, I’m not as smart, I am not as thin, I am not enough to become this or that. This is draining and keeps our ego full to make us believe of such.
Thank you beautiful Raya for this. So honest, so raw. You are doing what you are capable of and I see you’re always improving yourself continuously and that is enough to live a happy, kind life. Improving yourself to go to bed happy but free of limitations and judgements, and full of compassion and kindness towards yourself.
Thank you for this.
Thank you for being so vulnerable. I think this will help a lot of people.
The sad thing is, if a friend was telling you they have achieved what you have achieved, you would be celebrating them and feeling inspired by them. Be kind to yourself!
Totally!! Thankfully, I’ve been getting much better with this 💕
wow. thank you so much for sharing this. I feel the exact same way.. and I am on my journey to trust myself more and trust that everything will be okay. there is so much potential in all of us, but I believe if we write down the intentions that are most important to us and live by them, then life will always be good enough in some way. good for us. sending you a hug🦋❤️
This resonates with me sooooo much. I have a lot of toxic perfectionism that I inflict on myself. And even though I’m so much more successful and stable than I was even just 2 years ago, I still find it hard to appreciate that and let myself be PROUD of myself. Thank you for this reminder to let myself just, be. And be happy.
"if you can't appreciate the little things now, you won't appreciate the big things later". I think Western society is a victim of its own success. We are always pushing to do more, be more, buy more. Achieve, excel, out pace. Grow, evolve, transform. Skies the limit. It almost feels wrong it you don't have big lofty goals to strive for. And then I read a blog post called "what if all I want is a mediocre life" on the blog A Life in Progress and it really opened my eyes. I still feel guilty for not striving for more. But every now and again I find myself happy with what I have.
Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Exactly what you explained in your video, is what I’m feeling today... I worked out, I had a healthy breakfast, I worked for a bit, I played with my dog... yet I feel so empty. Perhaps it’s quarantine but maybe not. This is a feeling I have experienced countless times. I’ll blame my relationship for not intellectually stimulating me. Or my living situation... I’m at a point where I simply feel helpless and empty. Thank you for sharing. It’s comforting to know that someone who may seem like they have it all together, is still human like me and feels the same emotions. It’s humbling that I am not the only one. I trust that We will rise and we will overcome this feeling. Sending you so many hugs and comfort especially during this time. Xo
This is exactly what I feel all the time.. No matter what I do or accomplish, I feel like I did nothing and I need to do more!! Which is making me miserable..
Thank you.
Thank you for being so vulnerable Raya. I used to think this way too, and still do if I’m not careful, but honestly I’ve learned that what we can do won’t ever be enough for us. It’s because we’re not made for doing, we are made for being. We bear the image of an almighty God that our souls long to know simply by our being human. And until we are reunited with Him, our souls will be endlessly longing for that sort of love and goodness. You are so loved, not for what you do, but because of what you are. If you want to know what will be enough, ask the one who made you. Much love always💛
Thank you for reminding me how important gratitude is ☀️ 💕
A typical sign of a burn-out. Raya, use this temporary period to get well.
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable, with similar fears and thoughts I’m sure we all have had ( I know I have). You have such a beautiful soul which shines through all you stand for and do🤍!
I feel you and I think many people do!
We live in a time where our enough isn't just surviving and finding something to eat and a safe place to sleep anymore. We live in a time where everybody has to define its personal enough and that is so hard!
"Man is condemned to be free." Sartre
Thank you for being vulnerable to show all of us that we are not alone in feeling that way. Seeing someone else have those same thoughts and feelings makes me feel less lonely in those feelings. I feel a little more okay and that it is enough x
You are SO enough 💛 You are SO loved 💛
Agreed. No one needs to do or be anything more that who they already are 💛
I feel the exact same way every night before I go to bed. How I never do good enough and how much I could have done better. How I could be better. No matter how hard I work/ do things, its never enough or right. I pressure myself to go above and beyond people's expectations but end up getting used. Every night I lay and wish I wasn't so scared to face bigger dreams head on. How much it hurts that I can't believe a person when they compliment my work ethic because under the surface, I'm screaming for air and I cannot allow myself to believe what I'm doing is meaningful to anyone. Your life is absolute goals and I do hope one day you feel good enough!
Thank you Raya. I'm crying with you. I resonate so much with what you shared and I appreciate your authenticity and vulnerability.
praying for you 💕💕💕
I feel the same way. Everything I do is never enough, and I never give myself credit. We can find a way to work on this! WE can work towards self-love. We can work towards having compassion towards ourselves. This is the hardest thing to learn and work towards, but it is so rewarding in the end.
I hope I can get there, and I hope you will too 💕💕
Just sending you love ♥
You are doing great!
Maybe it's an idea to tell yourself you're doing great before going to bed and as soon as you wake up, even when you don't believe it yourself. It should work kind of like a mantra. Maybe it doesn't work for you but at least try, you deserve that love ❤️
It's definitely difficult to live in the present and think of my ego as more of a tool to contentment and not the guide to happiness. Easier said than done.
Literally what occurs in my head every day and it is exhausting. For anyone reading this- know that you are not alone in this feeling. I hope you find self belief as we all deserve that at the very least.
True love is loving yourself. Being kind to yourself. Validating yourself. Give yourself credit. I was You 3 weeks ago - From a single mom of two who works in the health care 40+ hrs, financially depending on her own, going to school, take care of her parents and family, have supportive friends --- the great start is that you realized it, now you’re in the accepting phase it’s only going to get better from here - I promise ♥️
I've spent too much of my life feeling this way. One day, I decided to reflect back on the years and I could not remember anything, even the good times with loved ones- until they reminded me of those moments. That's what you get when you live in fear of the past/future. Life goes by quick and you're left feeling empty.
Anyway, I was guided towards 2 books; "The Universe Has Your Back" & "Super Attractor" both by Gabrielle Bernstein. They offered perspectives that COMPLETELY changed my life. Love you, Raya 🌻🌼
I'm so happy to see you spreading positivity and helping others. Keep on being amazing ♥
I hope all is well with you & Louis. You've done more than enough over the last 6 years, Raya. More adventures most will see in a lifetime. You continue to inspire millions. The video archive & sustainable lifestyle speaks for itself. Celebrate it, & look back on it during this down time. You have a whole long life ahead to accomplish more goals. There's plenty of time.
*Giant group hug for all wonderful people who feel the same way*🌸
What a powerful message 💜❤️ wow Raya! You are enough! You will always be enough!
YOU are enough. I truly hope one day, you are able to calm that "not enough" voice in your head and see who you are and what you are doing in life is MORE than enough. And... simply by acknowledging it..you've already took away some of its power. *hugs*
It's great to see someone spreading positivity ❤️ Keep on being amazing!!
I have the same voice in my head saying it’s not enough. I completely understand how you feel ❤️
Sending you love❤️
Maybe try to talk to yourself as if you were your best friend and see if that helps. At least you're worthy of that way of talking ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing. Struggling with these things too. You are not alone 🧡💛thank you for the reminder to just stop.
Hello Beautiful divine feminine soul, I see you as a reflection of my self
With a core belief running in the subconscious "I am not enough" which drives to push ourselves to achieve (so we will be enough, lovable, accepted, good enough) .... But the thing is you are enough and always have been enough. The only thing to do is to reprogram our minds... with I AM ENOUGH.... I am enough no matter how I look, how I feel, who I am with, what am wearing... Right now if I did nothing changed nothing , was just me 100% me I AM ENOUGH... You are Enough.... I am not enough has been my core belief thats ran my life.... I am constantly reprogramming my mind, with I am enough... YOU ARE ENOUGH TO YOUR CORE BEAUTIFUL SOUL, BEAUTIFUL LIGHT THAT YOU ARE, Thankyou for your vulnerability, your beauty, your light...THE only person that needs to know your enough is you. 💛💛💛💛
I felt this so much Raya. 💖💖💖
I have a tendency to hold myself back from doing my best. I tell myself that it's because I don't want other people to always expect that level of performance from me... But deep down I think I'm afraid of my own greatness and don't want to let myself down (another form of never enough). Most of the time it doesn't even feel like a choice because I've been doing it for so long.
Oh this vibes a lot with me, been thinking about releasing that greatness and to be honest, it is way out of my comfort zone 🙈 keep trying it 💪
Feeling this right now, thank you for being real and sharing things that are on your mind. Sending love.
A beautifully impactful and important message I about mental wellbeing and acceptance.
You're strong for acknowledging that you're more than enough, and this brought me peace too. ♡
Hey ! It's so brave of you to show that vulnerability ! I just want to send you some good vibes !! I think that something we are all guilty of, specifically in our modern society, is to project ourselves a bit too much. And I think it can be really healthy but the line is fine between wanting to be a better version of yourself by just growing and evolving versus putting pressure on ourselves to be the supposedly perfect version of ourselves. And I beleive that when we are stuck at the ladder, it is very important to bring ourselves back to the present moment. You know what I mean ? Like I have goals for my body that comes along being healthier but I need to accept the way my body looks right now, not constantly thinking that it will be worthier (my worth is anyway not supposed to be valued by the way I look !!) when I'm gonna be healthier. I don't know if that helps in any way but I wanted to share my thoughts on the matter ! I wish you all the best, take care of yourself and of your mental health !
You made me cry! You're so inspiring! 😥🥰❤
I have those same thoughts and conversations in my head. Thank you for sharing
As a child I was never good enough per parents and teachers and I grew up believing this ...no matter what I did ...but it was my own self that was in my way. I’m 50 now and just realizing that I had compared myself to others instead of looking within often just repeating in my mind what others judged. Get past what everyone else thinks is “good enough” and you’re gold. However if I fell asleep happy every night That would be enough. I’m a single mom with chronic illness and have no one but my kids. I have to be happy with me! Much love to all! 💞🕊
That's how I always feel ... and it's what keeps me from doing anything because I feel I could never go to bed happy and satisfied.
Sending hugs and love
Maybe it's an idea to tell yourself you're doing great before going to bed and as soon as you wake up, even when you don't believe it yourself. It should work kind of like a mantra. Maybe it doesn't work for you but at least try, you deserve that love ❤️
We are all enough we dont need to follow anybody else's standards... we need to live and let other live freely!! . Thank you for sharing your thoughts! 🙂
I have the same problems.. it’s really hard cause I wanted to feel grateful and happy what I have and how much I’ve grown and learn and did. Thank you for sharing.. it helps me realise that I’m not alone and this is what my friend and I came out with, focus on being progressive not productive. Because somewhat, it’s never going to be enough.
Thank you for sharing this Raya! This hit a bit close to home. Sending lots of love!!
Such a brave and important video! I have dealt a lot with my perfectionism when everything was falling appart last year. But I see so much bravery and growth in you, which on a broader and spiritual and energetic level is just mirroring my own. Much love to you!
Thank you!! Yes, the growth we see in others is the growth in ourselves ❤️ much love back! ✨
I would love to just believe for a tiny second I'm enough of anything but I feel like I'm never enough.
And I relate a lot for the part of just stop and take into account you are actually doing more than enough...
But I cannot believe it for myself.
Sending you love❤️
Maybe try to talk to yourself as if you were your best friend and see if that helps. At least you're worthy of that way of talking ❤️
This was lovely. 🙏🏾 ✨💕thank you for sharing!
I felt this so much 😢
you are such a strong person!! You're doing the greatest job, I'm so proud of you girl and you rock. Thank you for sharing ❤️
As someone who has not even come close to all the amazing accomplishments you have, I can guarantee that you are not alone in feeling these feelings. It is comforting to see someone who influences people everyday and who looks like they “have it all together” to share this vulnerable moment that you’ve been feeling. We are all the same and we are all only human. We should all be a little easier on ourselves and I too should definitely take my own advice when saying this. Thank you for making and posting this wholesome and very real video. I also want to say that I think you’re doing great Raya.💕
Thank you for sharing this Raya! So relatable and enlightening. What helps me personally to be content is through my Christian faith of seeing who I am and who God is and see living my life everyday as living loved. 1 Timothy 6:6-12 But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness. Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses. Thank you for your content Raya!
"The mystery of life isn't a problem to solve, but a reality to experience.”
Frank Herbert, Dune
Dear Raya, I appreciate who you are. I appreciate you because you exist and want like me to go back to our roots. And our roots are made of love. And love is unconditional. We re enough because we are. All the lies that told us we have to prove to the world to be enough is bullshit. We re moving in a capitalism world where things and people are worthy if they sell well. Its not what we want to follow. I m grateful God made you and I ask him to bless you and show you how enough you are to him. Love to you from Switzerland, Claire
Your videos are always so chock-full of content I love them
Hi Raya
One of the most powerful videos I have watched ever! Thank you!
UA-cam is such a cruel world. The algorithm is such that when your views and subscribers are stuck at a very low point its difficult to sustain a good life. My best friend suffered similar problems and it's this bad world of social media. Just need to keep working hard and be happy with what you have. These are first world issues and we should just be grateful with we have .
This was so emotional and touching and spoke right to my heart. Thanks you Raya. I hope you have a good day. I go to the woods now with my dog and be happy together with her. All the love to you and everyone out there...
Same girl, same .. sending you lots of love 💕💞💕✨
Lots of love to you too!! ❤️❤️
I feel like when our government is failing to protect us and our elected officials are being controlled by corporate greed it leaves us feeling like we need to do everything ourselves and we are ultimately left feeling like our actions are too small and inconsequential.. it’s hard to feel like you’re doing enough when we’re surrounded by so much pain and destruction.. Sorry I don’t have any answers but I just wanted to let you know we all feel like this at least sometimes and it’s hugely influenced by the world we live in, you’re doing an amazing job Raya and I hope you are having a beautiful day with the ones you love spreading love and aloha 💞
True peace with ourselves comes from the Lord. He knows you, he loves you, he doesn’t require you to do anything but come to Him and find peace! God bless you and I pray you will meet Jesus and know your true identity is Him and His love for you!
Wow you read my emotions as well... And the end of your video is so true gave me goosebumps!! ❤️
I celebrate you for your honesty and your courage to share these intimate thoughts! I don't know if this resonates with you, but for me I could only find peace and contentment when I realized that it's not about doing, but about being. Being loved by God, knowing that there is so much more than my limited human life. Resting in the purest form of love, knowing that I am exactly where I need to be. Trusting. It's not about me but about something much greater that I can't even understand completely. And that is ok. This is where I found rest. This is where I find my happiness that is not tied to circumstances. I wish you from the bottom of my heart so much love and peace. And know you are enough. It's not about what you do, but about who you are. You are loved.
You're so beautiful and vulnerable! You're human and these are incredibly human feelings. Feel them all without shame! You don't have do enough to be enough. Sending LOVE.
Success is doing what’s best aligned for you in ONLY this now moment.
I got so emotional with you raya, it means so much when someone share this feelings that we all are going through at this time. Indeed going to bed happy and content with no pain no worries is a bliss we should consider. Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Whosoever begins the day feeling family security and good health; and possessing provision for his day is as though he possesed the whole world."
Too many times we judge ourselves against the greatness of others but that is not good for us. We are individuals. Our greatness comes from the simple way we live and how we make others feel. Kindness, listening, giving time and love to someone is the unit of measurement we should have for ourselves. Keep to the basics and the "enough" grows to be those bigger achievements. You are living a good life and those voices in your head will break you but only if you allow it. Just tell the voices, Not today! Go bug someone else! Wrap your arms around you and give yourself a hug. Love yourself completely.
Thanks for this video. I feel the same and I’m so glad to have watched this. Thanks. You’re more than enough and because of this video, I now feel I’m good enough. Again. Thank you
Thanks for another great vlog, sending love and positive vibes to all the humans on this blue marble we call earth.
First I wanted to just say thank you so much for you honesty and vulnerability. 2nd I'd also like to say that girl YOU are enough! You are precious not matter what you do or dont do. We are human beings not human doings. So YOU in and of yourself are enough! Sending love your way.
Also I believe success is not defined by what we do in this world but by our heart and our character. ❤
This is exactly how I feel !!
Sending you love❤️
Maybe try to talk to yourself as if you were your best friend and see if that helps. At least you're worthy of that way of talking ❤️
Thanks for sharing such a powerful message. Sending much love your way ❤️
I feel like that too! I have a fantastic husband children, but I feel like a failure.
😢😢😢😢💔💔💔💔
Just sending you love ♥
You are doing great!
Maybe it's an idea to tell yourself you're doing great before going to bed and as soon as you wake up, even when you don't believe it yourself. It should work kind of like a mantra. Maybe it doesn't work for you but at least try, you deserve that love ❤️
Trust me you are awesome! Perhaps my story could help... Grew up with narcissist parents. I’ve been married twice to abusive spouses and my second husband almost killed me and took his life then our then 8 yr old son was hit by a car a month later sustaining severe brain injury being in hospital and rehab 3 months, recovery 2 years then my older son almost lost his eye recovery of 4 months in darkness. My “best friend” was a con artist and put me through more trauma right after that was so over top I can’t trust. I now have chronic illness from all the stress and grateful my sons are healthy now but live with me and due to illness I can’t take care of them as I would like. My roof has a leak and neither of my toilets flush nor does my kitchen sink work... I promise if I can make it through and still believe in me anyone can. I have no friends and haven’t dated in 7 years. Sometimes perspective helps. I’m grateful for a roof even leaky and my kids that I can enjoy watching them become self aware in a way I was never taught so they know they are good enough just how they are. You can too and you are great! Much love 😊💞🕊
We are thankful for you and you make our worlds better. I begun my journey of loving my body from your words and your influence. Don't worry about a goal just do what you love ❤
Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable Raya
We pray for you for your love !!!!!!
Keep it up do not loose ❤
I love this,thank you.
what is the point if everything is done!, life would be boring .. someone said wisely "Celebrate the moments and work towards the next one." You have done so much of great work impacting thousands of lives. Be Kind to Your Mind. :) Lot of love and support .. we will be here waiting for whenever you want to share something. We love you. :)
Love you Raya! Smell the roses, it’s time ❤️😘
I am much older than you..I have experienced a lot of physical, mental and emotional abuse with the voices of my attackers in my head all the time..about 20 years ago I finally got so tired of the voices and the major unanswered question "What If?"..My mental healing began when I accepted what the Word of the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob says about me and accepting the His Love for me that he sent His Son, Jesus Christ to earth to die for me and all of mankind..God says that we are His handiwork, a new creation when we accept Jesus as our Saviour and He delights in us..Once I began the path of mental healing, the emotional and physical fell into line..I am now not the person I was 20 years ago..It is a process and you do this for yourself, not for others..Seek God's face and His approval and you will be happier than you've ever been..
I love u. Thanks for this
Raya you are an amazing person. There could be a long standing reason why you feel how you feel, it could be something from your childhood that instilled the need to be more and do more or from an experience or just the world we live in. I say this with love and respect for you and because i work in mental health...it might help to speak to someone like a councillor who can support you. The majority of people on this planet could do with talking to someone openly about any struggle they are dealing with. It takes work and its not going to make you think or feel differently instantly but its a start. I say this as someone who also needs to get support with things that i havent dealt with yet. I've followed you for a few years now and i respect you so much for being vulnerable and brave. Sending you lots of virtual hugs ❤
Thank you for sharing that, it’s really powerful . I know it must have been hard to share. Also I hope posting this helps you realise the amazing things you have achieved and that you can feel happier with the lovely person you are ❤️
So much love to you Raya! You’re amazing, thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities with us, I too struggle with this battle with the voice in my head telling me I’m a failure, not good enough etc. It’s exhausting. I did your kind challenges last year and can’t express enough how much it helped me and pushed me into my self care and self love journey. I love your content and you always inspire me! Big hugs xo
You just made me so happy and appreciate myself a lot more thanks ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Needed this today ❤️
I love you, you are strong & you are enough❤️
You ARE enough and worthy just by being alive and breathing! I hope you've been going to sleep content these days. 💙
I have the same inner voice critic and it almost brought me to extremely negative thoughts about myself and deep depression...
Being kind to ourselves the same way we would be to our best friend is the first step. It always comes back to self-kindness and self-acceptance. It's crucial for being able to live this beautiful life fully.
Uh, I SOOOO needed to hear this....Thank you Raya. 🙏 💗💗💗
Raya you are enough beautiful girl ,you need to live your happy life and dont judge yourself to harshly. you are doing your best you are in a great position to shine bright , Dont let anyone dim your light.you are a ray of sunshine,
The path of happiness is satisfy of what we have. You think what you have is not enough for you but actually you already have it, you are more lucky than many perople over there inluding me who is still following you and learn so much from you to improve myself every single day. You are very beautiful, kind and intelligent, you might think you did not inspire enough but at least you are inspired me - a fan of you from Vietnam. I hope you will live happily and enjoy your life by the way you are. Love you !