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"lovable" sounds like "personality" cope. if you're actually attractive, you'll be having trouble just choosing one, much less keeping them around. i feel like most "attractive" people who can't make relationships last are really just above average or average but well groomed and styled. lets me mindful of how the standards of attractiveness today are vastly different than just 10 years ago due to social media induced super hypergamy
Sir its end of world for those who have born with small penis though its not his fault 99% women will reject him no matter how nice heart he has no matter how loyal he is
I was friends with a woman and eventually grew attracted towards her. I mentioned to her: "look, I want our meetings to add value, I don't want to spend time to just spend time. We have better things to do." And that's the last time I spoke to her. She was fine wasting time, she even mentioned she wanted to travel on my expenses 🤣. Dodged a friend zone there :)
Well it's the mindset of competition vs cooperative nature. Most guys are very competitive active in tearing others down. They want to be the old "alpha wolf". Then the real alpha wolf is discovered to be simply the one who fathered all other males in their group and is disciplining their son's. Their value is earned through their ability to lead and provide for their pack and expecting others to participate. Women are mostly cooperative and it's masculine women who are degraded for being competitive. Women respect guys who are cooperative and doesn't tear others down.
@@vsmith6109 From my experience female collectives have an appearance of cooperation which hides vicious competition. Meanwhile male collectives are the opposite, apparent rampant competition hides cooperation that is often superior because it is free of the usual drama, gossiping, and spiteful backstabbing.
@@saltykitty9215 I think part of it is a defense mechanism also! It becomes the story we tell ourselves to undermine our biology 'ew, men' vs 'ew, women'.
I was depressed for a long time because I am neither attractive nor loveable. What I am actually doing now is realizing that invisibility is a pretty cool super power.
looksmaxxing and chiromaxxing besides of this if the globalists really achieve what they wanted you'll have great cards in some years if you're not vaccinated
The ironic thing about the Fantastic Four’s “Invisible Girl” is that she’s usually depicted as the last kind of girl that would ever become invisible to men. 😂 Perhaps it’s time for Hollywood to gender-swap her?
Yeah not so bad after all, glad you didn't get shackled because most of them really don't care about men's life's or happiness. they just take everything they can from you without giving anything back. The fact that women are capable of ruining even men who have everything going for them tells you everything you need to know.
"If you're lovable but not attractive she's going to cheat on you"...no she's going to lose attraction for you and want to be with someone who is attractive. If your partner cheats on you it is not your fault, that's victim blaming. If they want to be with someone else they should end things and move on.
Single mothers raise nice guys and loveable guys. They just cant raise a boy on their own to be a man, men are not supposed to be nice and loveable all the time.
@@distributistsshrekvideo 2 separate problems: 1. you are no longer putting in the effort to look attractive to your partner, 2. your partner cheated. They are not the same problem and can occur independently of each other.
@@ObsidianLiger two separate problems: 1. you are going through a strret corner in a bad neighborhood with some 50's and 20's sticking out of your pocket 2. Some thugs beat you up and take your money In both cases there's an asshole who is not you, but you have some agency.
Eh idk. There’s no right relationship. Some men for example are happy with going home to their wife every night but still want to scratch that itch of just hooking up. If the woman is fine with it I see no issue.
In order for this to truly take affect society as a whole needs to acknowledge what women say they want, and what they actually want are two different things. The whole nice guy persona wasn't pulled from thin air. Young men are constantly trying to adapt to women constantly changing which leads young men to do questionable things that ultimately never work.
Women are pretty fickle though. They are ever changing. Chaotic in their wants and needs. Every day is a new challenge. Hell, sometimes every hour is a new woman
Reminds of the 70s when many feminists declared they were turning lesbian "for political reasons. " I kid you not. One of my psychology professors said that.
Who cares, If majority of Men are working and running this world. Women here in this world are just to enjoy and blame patriarchy for everything. Anyway, bisexuality doesn't make any sense. Unless it's a sexual reproduction.
@@Crisqo27 No, not at all. I literally never found a woman I was interested on the dating market. However, I do know several awesome women, femnine, gorgeous who would make a wonderful partner or wife. But they are all married. Nothing to cope; I literally never got rejected by a woman, but the women I find who are single are all undateable. There is a reasoon why they are on the dating market. Nobody of value wants them.
@@ShadowbannedAccount Well, attractive means that there is an attraction, and that comes from her attributes, one of which is being lovable. That's why I didn't wrote 'beautiful'. Most beautiful women are not attractive.
This is interesting but completely ignores the driving force of the hypergamous nature of women. Most young women unwittingly view the world as a first person shooter video game. You are either an inconsequential minion or a level boss. If you're a minion or npc, you're practically invisible. They are after the boss of the level. And once they've unlocked that "achievement", they are looking to level-up to the next level boss and conquer him. She's all about the game score: how much commitment can she collect from this level of individual. She gets bored and needs to move up the ladder. The next guy may make more money, be taller, have a stronger jaw line, have clout, buns of steel, funny, intellectual, adventurous, straighter whiter teeth, erudite, more masculine energy, give more of his resources or attention (usually multiples of these for more valuable Commitment Points) and she will 100% attempt to monkey branch over to him, even if he's in your same social circle. If she swings too high and misses that branch, she'll go after a "boss" that's not quite as difficult to get commitment from, but she's already got one foot out of the door. She all ready beat your level. She's bored. She can score your weak level of commitment in her sleep. The ultimate goal is to get to and defeat the final boss that has millions, tall, extravagant life of leisure, full mane of hair, 6-pack abs, women throwing themselves at him, and is so alpha other alphas willingly submit to his whims. But in 2022, there is no alpha of alphas. You can be the richest (Besos, Gates), the most masculine (Tom Brady, Aaron Rodgers, Jason Mamoa), the most admired or entertaining (Johnny Depp, Kanye, Bill Hader, Michael b Jordan, Kenan Thompson, Chris Pine). Once they have your commitment points, it's on to the next level of difficulty or the next game. For you it's GAME OVER. (Or at most, you can pray you're the top boss she's able to get commitment from, and she's so frustrated trying to get the next level that she reluctantly settles for you. But she will resent you forever because you were a boss she could beat and you both know that disgusts her).
Excellent summation. Of course, most women don't realize that this is a losing strategy in the long run. Half of all women living today will end up single, alone and childless because of their own actions.
The one thing happy relationships have in common, is altruism. Both people involved are naturally altruistic to the other. They both go out of their way to do nice things for the other. There’s lots of reciprocity and mutual respect. Through the whole relationship. As a side, a healthy dose of chemistry helps with the long term attraction, too.
If it's reciprocal then it's not altruistic. Altruism is by definition a sacrifice, not a trade. Even if the trade is informal or implicit and averaged over the long term, it's still trade. Altruism is bad and unstable, what you want is mutually beneficial trade.
most men feel the effort it takes to get some dirty wet box isnt worth the hassle because of what is expected of them in return and the pitfalls of what can and will happen if they get trapped into a LT relationship
Alexander Grace, the level things are presented goes beyond the reach of understanding here for a lot of people on UA-cam. The masses are usually not the smartest. Trust me when I say that you have had a major influence on others who speak about these topics. Thank you for all these years full of constructive facts. 🙏
And a lot of people are seriously low value, Not in shape, bad hygiene and dress badly but expect women to be open to interacting with them. So they rather blame hypergamy and women's unrealistic expectations ( which is a reality) for their lack of success.
@@davidclayton.1511 That's not accurate. Nowhere on the planet men care about their appearance so much as in the west. Most in shape men with the most out of shape women.
This perspective places all of the responsibility of long term relationships entirely on the male shoulders. At some point, women surely have to have work to do as well.. I rarely critique your work. I've been following for years now. Watched almost every video. But this one made me feel tremendous pressure to be so much. At some point, I need to be able to relax into what I am and be valued for it, or simply walk away. I'm glad in not in my twenties anymore. Young men have it really rough. If you're at this point where you need to do this much, she's not worth it. Go to where you're valued.
This video makes sense if you replace “lovable” with “economically lovable”. She will never “love” you, only need your resources. “Love” from women is always a conditional arrangement. You provide, she “loves”.
This is true, de monei is non negotiable for nearly all women even if they swear it isn't at the beginning of a relationship or make lots of money themselves. It's simply evolution and dating up for them.
The problem with what you’re saying is that doing the things you mentioned that makes us “lovable” is EXACTLY what gets us friendzoned. By your own admission attractiveness is everything because if the attraction isn’t there no amount of being “lovable” will matter. You probably don’t realize it yet, but you’ve just inadvertently black pilled a lot of men with this video.
Oh yeah! Attractiveness #1 - friendzone ensues immediately if she is not attracted to you physically... I don't waste my time nor give any sort of attention if she is not actively pursuing me- Then I test the boundaries of Attractiveness- I am nobody's wallet or savior. I am straight foward... "Non negotiable". Unfortunately women are insatiable no matter how you try to understand them. "Once the thrill is gone she is gone"
If you ever want to have a romantic relationship with a women, you need to attract her first, and from there if you want a committed relationship, you need to show that you're loveable. It is a blend. If you've energy watched his other videos you would know he's talked about being attractive to women, don't be a nice guy, have self worth and respect.
@@ardordeleon no, we watched the same video. in order to “attract” her you first need to be “attractive”. Attractiveness is subjective and in this context is for women to decide. So for dudes that aren’t conventionally attractive they’re $hit out of luck. Being lovable is pointless if you can’t attract her, you can’t attract her if she doesn’t see you as attractive.
Listen. I really don't have the energy of jumping trough THIS MANY HOOPS. I went monk in 2016. I still enjoy watching people scramble with relationship, but for someone, it's just not in their gears. People, if you don't like the rules of the game, remember that you have the option of simply NOT PLAYING.
That’s where I’m at right now. I was married for about 8 years and have had one long term relationship since then that recently ended. I’m too old and tired to be bothered with it anymore. I recognize that it takes effort to make it work, but there comes a time when all of the time and money spent just isn’t worth the results.
@@josephbrown9685 The thing is that effort should come from both sides, a thing that today is really not being promoted enough. You have to understand her for what she is BUT she has to understand you for what you are. It cannot be one way. I like Alexander but it seems like things are so one-sided at the moment. There is literally no pressure on women to try to be better partners to their men. If they do change things, they have to feel like they will benefit. And even then.
@@inconnu4961 I don't believe it is feminism by itself. It is simply female nature that was before kept under control by societal norms. People think that the rules before were keeping women down. I believe it was just ancient wisdom being put into practice in order to save women from their tendencies. Today's modern woman has never been more free to make the choices that she wants and just look at what choices they are making. All driven by their nature. It seems women really have issues with thinking long term and understanding the reality of the world. Maybe you have heard of this book, but you can find it for free on the internet. The manipulate man by Esther Vilar. It explains a lot actually.
Once upon a time...I was just plain unattractive. I was in school back then. Then I gave up and stopped chasing. Now I'm in a relationship wondering how I got here.
attractive, loveable, looks, money, status, masculinity - work on that and you get a chance to get a relationship where you have to maintain those traits, maintain her (mentally, financially and emotionally, for sure) for couple years, before you will fail one s-test and she will dump you for chad. Sounds like awesome dating and relationship market situation, I'm in
Wait you forgot a few more superficial things!! That are empty and vapid and meaningless and and soul sucking!! 😊😊😊 Height, huge d, nice car, nice house, great credit score, over 1 m in the bank!! It’s all easy bro, just totally do it now and let her have it all!! ❤❤
Don't forget having to pretend that you enjoy weekend brunches with her dumb friends and their dumbass boyfriends else you fail at the loveable part and lose her to someone who is "always there" socializing. No wonder so few men achieve anything substantial when chasing and keeping tail is a full time job.
Listening to this video it's easy to surmise that dealing with women is a full time job, who actually has time to keep walking on eggshells to appease a woman's 16 personalities and to keep her mood stable enough to have sex later, and to live paranoid that she's going to leave you for something simple.. As someone with primary psychopathy I can't get rid of these women because I intrinsically show them indifference and I only care about myself, I never listen to what they want or what they say, I don't do it on purpose, it's just part of how I am, I noticed it puts them in a constant state of chasing validation and approval.
Interesting. I have high functioning autism, and studied game. The same applies for me. I know when and how to be indifferent, so I also used to get women chasing me for validation.
@@Skelfi The difference is with me is I don't turn it on or off or even know how to turn it on and off, it's just like that for me (always on ), its just how I am.
But its weird that women seek validation if the guy doesn't like them .I really don't understand it at all . Thats also why nice guys usually finish last because they are to "nice" to them .For some reason they dont like that .
I wouldn't call myself a player but I've been with enough women to realize that they want it all, but at different times.. the perfect dude doesn't exist
I’d actually say you hit the nail on the head for me about that lovable thing. I’ve been straight up told by a few females that they’d sleep with me, but not date me. I don’t wanna do that tho, I just turn them down as I don’t want a woman who sleeps around so why would I contribute to that.
One thing I've learnt is "You have to keep doing the same thing that initially attracted your girlfriend / boyfriend to you, while adding other elements" I have to disagree with the "lovable" aspect to an extent. How many women have choosen bad dating matches. How many women have left "lovable" men (there's many reasons some you've stated in this video, other reasons are in other videos)
You have to keep adding those other elements. And keep adding them. And then more. Because the goal post is always going to move, there will never be a good enough. You'll always have to top yourself, because what you did last time will instantly become "the bare minimum" in her eyes.
what he means by lovable is having the time, compassion and money for a woman. they get bored of someone only lovable. its like driving a minivan when you know there's party buses around. it's not enough to be everything they could ask for, you have to have a wild element too, like being so attractive that you could be stolen from her instead of her eloping in spite of you. OR someonewho knows how to pull her strings. on paper, it sounds nefarious, but they just simply do not want still waters.
Difficult to please on their best day is a massive understatement Haha but seriously though, simple and sweet women are the best. But have become rare, and are becoming rarer and rarer as the days go on. Thanks to unchecked feminism and unchecked hypergamy
Attractive and loveable are still not enough. A guy has to be admirable. Admiration and respect are essential for a woman to deeply love a man. This is why older, accomplished men can appeal to younger women beyond the sugar-baby lifestyle perks. As a healthcare professional, I worked closely with many women and some of them fell deeply in love with me, not out of attraction but of admiration. It was awkward, as I'm happily married with 5 kids. A few times a young coworker had to switch jobs because it hurt them to work so closely with a man they couldn't have.
He has a girlfriend now! We can only assume she is aware of his other videos treating women more 'harshly' ( in womens opinion) so perhaps she had undue influence here?
Alright boys, I have spent at least a year on this form of self improvement in a relationship sense. I’m 24, confident in myself, and know that I can attract someone; however, I am not at a point where I love myself completely. While I have an understanding of how to attract a woman to me, I cannot commit to pair bonding until I have addressed my past traumas that come out as constant sexual desire. Best of luck to you all
Even nice guys aren't that lovable because most are simple yes-men who value short-term peace maintenance over doing what needs to be done even when it's uncomfortable.
You can't 'make' a woman fall in love. Love is a action, a choice you make regularly. She either chooses to love you or not, regardless of your position.
Yep. It should ultimately be viewed as a choice. If you become unlovable then the relationship is over? Sounds ridiculous. People change. The only thing that should be clear for both is that they chose each other.
@@dragoscosma84 cock carousel. that means they have been riding the d*cks of chad, tyrone, etc. basically wh0ring around with no remorse or consideration whether this behaviour is good for their mental situation. since youtube bans certain words, manosphere content creators are forced to use place holders for certain types of terms, like CC, or 304 or garden tool (both means "hoe").
Here’s my attempt at a solution: Jordan Peterson & Co. have been going on and on about the importance of stories. We, the crimson-pilled guys, need to write the change we want to see into existence. If we create inspiring myths, we create self-fulfilling prophecies. Not just by writing about guys who know about female nature and apply that knowledge (that’s just power fantasy). It’s time for us creative men to write the “strong female characters” we want to see. And not to take the cheap shortcut that is writing a NAWALT. Unicorns are but a figment of our imagination. We need to *show* female nature play out on screen, make it part of the misbeliefs fictional characters have to overcome. After all, that’s what makes us human: The ability to rise above our instincts. If male nature can change (such as most men being *too nice* these days), who’s to say female nature can’t? Write female characters that get wrecked by their own hypergamy (at the disaster plot point) - and then find a way to be content with what they have. Write female characters that lack empathy for their male partners - and then have a shocking realisation about the struggles their boyfriends and husbands are actually going through. And female characters that come to the realisation that they can’t use their ability to get pregnant as a go-to excuse for everything. And the devious little trick is: Because of female own-group preference, if we write compelling female protagonists, women will start identifying with them, looking up to them, putting the values these characters represent into practice.
Those stories already exist, and most of them are written women. If you browse the erotica section of any adult book retailer, you'll find that the bestselling titles, for the majority female audience, are books about women being dominated in all kinds of extreme ways. The female leads are pursued aggressively, hunted down, chained, bought and sold, and generally abused and manhandled by charming but controlling and emotionally detached love interests. Women portray female nature better than anyone else, but they only do it in books that no-one else reads, and they are only interested if it describes a scenario they might enjoy. Any sexual situation where the gender roles are starkly defined in high contrast really grabs their attention. In any case I write some of this fiction aimed at female audiences and this is essentially the formula I use to create stories. One of my upcoming titles will feature a colonized planet in the future run by butch feminists and beta men. The lead is a female soldier whose only concept of a man is a weakling that likes to get pegged, until she gets captured while trying to exterminate a 6'7'' rebel warlord covered in battle scars. A lifetime of indoctrination in a feminist utopia comes crashing into the unforgiving reality of what a group of rugged alpha men can achieve when their survival is threatened. That stuff drives them wild. It also makes them confront the internal contradictions between their feminist thoughts and innate sexuality.
Women/ sex/ relationships are overrated. It cost mentally and financially. Doesn't matter if you're Alfa or beta. High quality or low quality man. Live thru other men's experiences and save your money energy attention and time (CGA)
@@carlospita6442 Censored for asking, "what do you do besides have a Vagina ?" Shame on me :) I'd be happy if someone implied that all I have to do is exist to be loved. Shame on me for having a penis.
Heh, five years. Maybe seven. Your optimism is gonna get ya hurt. Hurt bad. Possibly turned into an indentured servant to a woman enforced by the government. I'm not saying your advice isn't good, Alex. It probably is. But your hope that a woman won't cheat on you and destroy you anyway is woefully misplaced. The fact is, you can do everything right and the best woman you know will still take your house, your kids, and half your retirement just for the butterflies and validation of another man that only wanted her for the practice.
Women with a few sexual partners behind her can't love a man anyways, regardless of how great the guy is. I'm 51, I've observed this for years now. Forget getting love from a woman who isn't a virgin.
I did the pretending to be a badboy thing in the 90s, it worked to get numbers up, but that in itself it insecurity stemming from ego and toxicfmnizm. Ayahuasca, bufo or dmt is a good cure all for emotional and psychological damage, as well as a few years in monk mode and never accepting red flags, unless you are unexperienced (if you never have the scent of a woman on you, you will basically never have women on you)
The sad truth I keep coming across is that I can both attract and be lovable but it all feels too exhausting to maintain. Most social interactions I find to drain me a bit so I keep them to a manageable level just to keep my social skill alive.
Your information is vital Alexander. You coupled with several other youtubers... I have a circle of friends I can rely on for information. It's invaluable and needed for men to progress in this time in society
I don't understand how a grown adult male could feel lonely if the women around him aren't even close to meeting his standards. He's not missing out on anything.
Loneliness is our instinct for survival as we are pact animals by nature. For the very reason you don't need a woman for not to feel lonely. Get friends, get a dog, find a quality woman when you are NOT lonely.
@@Ounouh If we are speaking to the matter of evolutionary biology, humans started as a migratory species. Loneliness was not a matter of survival. Making it to the next meal was. Procreation was happenstance and parents grew to love what they had created through instinct. Loneliness is just not instinctual, it's learned.
@@shaunsteele8244 despite a sex drive i live in a state with a lot of fat people and I'm not desperate. Sex drive is biology, I'll give you that but a lack of sex is a far cry from being lonely
The popularity of pick up is because I think most guys are more loveable than attractive. And many of the attractive ones have so many girls throwing themselves at them that they legit don't want more than flings, especially in this relationship market. Heck, there are lots of loveable guys that are good looking enough to land the occasional girl, but they've given up on long term relationships for all the logical redpill reasons, so now they need lots of attractiveness and game if they want regular sex outside of those.
"Make yourself loveable and attractive or you'll get nowhere" great advice...make yourself perfect and remain optimistic in today's dating world this is dogshit advice
The same is true for men. Many of us need both also. Simple test: Do you want to spend time with her, explore her personality and share experiences AFTER the gymnastics part?
Yeah not all men are just after the looks you know . This label is really annoying. I get why it is there because many men are like that but the majority are not .
I’ve been in the other boat. A woman took an interest in me, so I just went with it. She was loveable, but there was just zero attraction for me. As much as she wanted a relationship, I didn’t because there was no attraction. I couldn’t commit to going through life with no attraction to my partners. She would be and was a great friend, but my mind could never get to the point of wanting a relationship, and it hurt her - I hurt her - pretty badly because I didn’t want it. I wasn’t being mean about it, it was the fact that I wasn’t interested and wasn’t attracted that hurt her so badly. I can totally empathize with it too, because I’ve been on that end of unrequited feelings more times than I care to count.
This is a good channel, with a lot of salient observations, though I don't want to be happy; I simply want serenity and to be content. Pursuing either happiness or women, or especially pursuing women to BE happy is a futile endeavor. As far as the modern woman goes, the juice is NOT worth the squeeze.
Never had a woman fall in love with me. They always keep coming back around and wanting to screw, I've never thought that was a thing about me. I thought that was about women being women. I never really worried about it, I just gave up because I wasn't getting what I wanted from the experience. In fact I was getting a lot of what I didn't want. Maybe it was me all along, it's to late to worry about it now.
What women want is too much work. I don’t want to have to work to get a relationship and then maintain it. But, it may be exceptional if she plays the woman role
Exactly men literally have to do most things to get into the relationship and to stay in the relationship. Women don't have to do much . I know this considering men always ask the women out and the women always dumps or divorces the men if they are not happy with them . Take note i said most of the time . Because there are relationships were it works the opposite way
I don't dislike them, personally, but I just gave up early on, due to some personal anxiety and an alternative outlet aka free pn. The juice wasn't worth the squeeze, so I never put in the effort. Now at 48, I'm still so not inspired by women, that I've let myself get terribly out of shape. My appearance was never all that impressive but I'm a good height and reasonably well built frame-wise, but if you don't put yourself out there, you get nothing. Which I'm not bothered by, really. For every positive thing I've missed out on, there's a negative thing I've potentially also missed out on.
Honestly flirting is useless. Best way to get a girlfriend is if you were her friend for awhile to get to know her .Then you ask her out if she is interested.
I agree with Alex here. Most of the comments are blaming the women for not having good relationships. While I can agree with that it doesn’t mean he is wrong. If the woman has the virtues of selflessness,gratefulness, and patience than this delicate dance between being attractive and lovable will be a great for the relationship. If the female isn’t to a certain quality than it’s not going to work regardless. Alex has previously discussed not settling for these low quality women. We as men should be placing high standards on ourselves to grow and be better. Don’t expect good quality women if your a low quality man. I understand in the current dating market there isn’t an abundance of good women. You will never even have a chance though if your low quality.
Really helpfull advice In response to the neccessary skills of "game and teasing", would you say that aquiring Acting skills is mandatory for men? For at least me teasing a woman im attracted to goes against my nature, and that is exactly why I failed so much. Yet I get angry at the fact that I have to basically rewrite myself to take women... idk, not seriosly animore(?) I guess it would help with attraction but not lovability. I just dont know, would you like to share a bit of your learning process for a virgin
The game is so stupid when you think of it. Why can't women simply understand that it is not a good long term strategy to play such stupid games? It is like the moment women were allowed to make free choices in dating, they seem to most of the time make bad choices. Why? It is just the mentality of it, of basing everything on how you feel this moment or the next and having no reasonable way to look at the relationship.
I had this same kinda thinking. I'm gonna be honest, like it or not. "For at least me teasing a woman im attracted to goes against my nature" It's what your mom told you and you believed it. "you need to treat women good because...." If you have some good male friends you are (hopefully) always teasing each other like calling them fat, big nosed, bold, short, poor, noob whatever. So if you can't do the same thing with women because they have different thing between their legs. Then i'm calling you a hypocrite. I say this with love, hope you get it.
@@simosavustaja9420 I think there is a very big problem today. Women simply cannot accept the masculine nature as it is. Before, that was pretty well understood by women of the time. Now, you have to abide by ridiculous rules that make no sense. This gives them a lot of power to decide what is correct behavior and what is not correct behavior. That is how simps were created. By imposing the female perspective at a grand scale. The game is rigged. Women cannot take criticism. Anytime you bring up the fact that they could do better, they call you negative. Any little things that you bring that is a bit critical is negative and thus irrelevant. They are basically looking for enablers. And they are finding them. This is a huge societal problem especially moving forward. If women cannot be put in their place when they make mistakes, how the hell can we say we are moving towards equality?
@@Alnivol666 Women are slaves to their own biology! Reasoning is not something they are very comfortable with, its not really encouraged in groups of women and they are therefore not CONSISTENTLY good at it, on whole.
Yeah man so much of this side of the internet is all about the attraction side of things. Shallow traits and pursuits. If that's as deep down the rabbit hole you go, you will only end up feeling empty. You have to go all the way down. As scary as it is, going as deep into your pyschy as possible is what will help you find the person ideal for yourself
You clearly dont understand the video. He didn't say you just need to be attractive but be loveable as well . Attraction plays a big role in relationships .Idk how you dont realise that
I have that problem, I live alone since I bought a house and it's been lonely. In 18 months I have easily slept with 18 women, but sometimes I think 'are they just using me for sex?' and I'm right!
Oh. Like always, women date handsome fellas cause of their looks, then cry cause he ditched her for someone with better looks. Very sorry, the unicorns who do manage to meet current insane requirements for average woman have also access to a lot of women much higher quality than average. And his looks will also let him get away with nearly everything.
Anyone else gone for good like me after watching tons of videos about female nature, and now I don't like anyone telling me to be with women as if I will loose something meaningful, bullshit.
Sleeping with a lot of women brings a lot of satisfaction, but it ultimately gets old. The end game is in relationships. And for that, pickup artists have only found half of the solution (how to get a woman in bed). The other half is about keeping this woman over the long term. That's a whole other level of game.
The problem with all of this Alex is that women change their mind at the drop of a hat. What you are doing one-day that makes them attracted to you, can vanish when they decide they want someone with whatever else it is that they’ve decided they need today. They are shameless in their hypergamy, and they are encouraged by society to dump whoever they are with and try and get a higher value person. Most guys can just see through all their bullshit and they don’t bother any more.
Women don't love men. They love how you make them feel. You just need to keep that same 3 month dating period and perpetuate that feeling. With women it's all about feelings you make them happy and sad. Women go through these feelings easily don't take them seriously. But if they don't find you attractive none of this matters.
Unfortunately Grace is an RP guy that thinks RP men should fake being a BP man. Just maybe this BP is his true state of being? "To thine own self be true," if you truly want to have a good life that runs true to who you are. Trying to force being 'lovable' so that a woman will see you as a long term prospect sounds like a recipe for disaster! Just be who you are, your own' lovable self' to the right fit and never ever fake who you are. When you are comfortable in your own skin and have a life worth living many, even most women, will see you as a possible prospect. Vetting goes both ways. Then it is up to you to vet for a fit to your life if that is what you want and to never lead any woman on as a really immature thing to do to someone. I agree that not being an outright slob as regards attractiveness is a must but not to the point of obsessiveness. Dress well for your own style, have a healthy lifestyle and engaging in your passions seems an attractive to women of quality...and the rest of them also so be careful in your vetting!
I know you probably feel like your own relationship is strong. When you get a true understanding of women on this level though. Even you must be very weary of them. I am this guy in your video at its very core. I have been lucky with the opposite sex. Slept with plenty of dimes. Stayed friends with many of them. The top notch women I have been with want the top notch guy. Period. If you are not training for a triathlon and writing self help real estate novels your not getting them. Not for anything more than a brief expierence and some fond memories. Never married at 48, no kids and it is for the best. If I could not be with my child I would not survive it. Better to never have had a kid. Great thought provoking video. As usual.
I totally wish I could trade places with you! I have children that I am not able to see. And on top of it, when people ask, and i attempt to explain, it is ALWAYS and without exception my fault, even if they dont know enough of the back story! its their preferred bias! I am sure it gets lonely sometimes, but it is lonely in a relationship with a spouse who has fallen out of love and resents you for it! At least you have peace of mind!
This is very true on "I can make women be attracted to me and sleep with me but cant make them fall in love with me" I'm pretty decent looking guy from what Ive been told but I can never hold onto a relationship. Women stay around because I'm cute but most part lose interest because I guess I don't really want a long term relationship and I don't put in the work as much as I should.
I just want to unalive myself I am not masculine. I do lift weights, but that's about it. I look masculine and it's because I don't wanna get kiIIed painfully or bothered. I'm lazy af. I really want to isolate myself from the world. Become a skinny twig , never touch grass. And unalive myself slowly through maybe starvation. What is even the point .
Sorry its rough buddy! many of us are here with you! And the sad thing is: society is coming undone, so it will get worse before it gets better! What is your mission in life? What propels you, what are you passionate about doing in life? Try to get firm on this! You have a purpose and a destiny, beyond mere suffering. Do try to stay focused on that! We need you as part of the tribe! Many hands makes the work light! Dont be too quick to Zero yourself out! people notice you & appreciate you and your contributions! unfortunately, we are horrible at getting this across to people before they have completely despaired of life! You are not the only person who feels under-appreciated! So maybe part of your mission is to do what others are unwilling to do: show appreciation to others so they wont feel how you feel? But dont check out & deprive the world of your needed contribution!
Some of us turn to spirituality to fill all the voids that physical life can not fill! There is a good & valid reason why religion & spirituality exists! So be open to adding that to your life if you havent already! Dont buy into the atheist LIES, as they are not there to offer you freedom! They don't care about people; they only pretend to! Your soul is just as much a part of you as your arms, legs & the sex organs, and it needs to be nourished also!
In general, I’ve been enjoying the Australian manosphere creators a lot more. The US American ones always load their claims up with politics. Usually wanting to feed you the “orange pill” together with the red one… 😂
The desperately sad truth, is that having a “successful relationship” with a woman demands that you continuously play a complicated game. Honesty and authenticity aren’t going to help. You’re better off with a pet dog.
If you make it to the 8 min mark of the video (and I do agree with Alexander), what you SHOULD ask yourself, imo, is are they really worth it? Most modern Western wahmen themselves HAVE no depth.
Well define loveable. If loveable means being nice, that's not it either. They don't like nice. It either happens or it doesn't. Wahmen don't know what they want. The happiest men are the men that can be OKAY being alone.
This notion that if you can't attract a woman you're going to be lonely is total nonsense. Just because you don't want to date or even get married doesn't mean you're never going to be around anyone. I guess people that think like the person in the video have never heard of people who are just friends. You're not going to date them you're not going to marry them but you still go places and do things to have fun. And some people even have many friends.
This sentiment is one of the things that is wrong with interpersonal relationships today. Yes, you can choose who you are attracted to. Love is not a feeling it's a choice. Understanding this fact is some thing that separates adults from children regardless of age. People want to believe the opposite is true because if it was it makes them not responsible for their actions and feelings. Your feelings are your responsibility to control and direct. This includes who you choose to be attracted too.
If you date a traditional Oriental woman, born and raised in the far east, you can find a very pretty woman even if you aren't super attractive as a man. They place a much higher value on other attributes besides looks. They will treat you as though you are attractive because they find your work ethic, your traditionalism, your desire for a strong family, etc. above your looks. Western women won't do this, but definitely women from the far east will do this.
You kinda forget something. Looks = Face+Race+Height. If you're european, and especially have blonde hair and blue eyes then you'll have at any place where the concentration of european people is low an far higher chance. This is scientifically backed btw. And they still love you only cause of your looks, the values only have a saying in if she is allowed to marry you, and she likely wont if your not an muslim (in oriental)
I’m so sick of all the things a man has to do to “KEEP A WOMEN ATTRACTED“ . My question for you Alexander is, what value is a woman bringing to a men's life that will make us want to do all those things you mentioned in this video ??
Bros. This man is 100% right. Trust me listen to him. Everything he is saying is true. Reason why I am happily married with a son and now trying for another baby. Women don't want just a cuddle buddy they want a real man at the same time they can talk to about anything. And know you got their back all the way. But also be able to put your foot down when things are happening.
When their physical beauty standards start with 6 foot tall and below it is considered as dwarf or invisible then there is not much you can do to become attractive in her eyes physically.
Honestly I've known "nice Guys" who really had many women fall for them and desire them but the difference they had to the stereotypical "nice guy" is that it absolutely came from a geniune place and given unconditional. If you base niceness on covert contracts it becomes meaningless. If niceness just becomes submission to girls it probably won't work either. Girls can be quite emotionally intelligent and can smell those things out and won't be attracted anymore. But from whate I've seen geniune niceness and kindness even when your are really shy or a bit socially awkward can get you far with some girls. At least from personal expierences. Those guys were nowhere near to a chadlike look either. (And none of my girl friends have ever dated a chad either).
I'm one of those girls and I confirm what you've said. I only had long-term relationships (or attempts at) all my life, and only with the genuinely polite, respectful, above-average-cooperative guys. Absolutely stayed away from the "male model" looking ones (face and body) since highschool. Those are the least grateful ones. And I am consciously looking for a man with a high level of thankfulness for being in a relationship (with an emotionally stable, cooperative, positive attitude kind of girl that I am). With that said, I definitely had a radar that immediately detected when a guy is being "strategically nice". "Commercial trade-off" obedient. I could be merciless to those when I was younger. Like, he's doing everything perfectly, he's saying all the right things, but I feel there is a scheming conniving brain behind it all. I see it's a person who just needs to have a control over every situation in life. Which reveals - fear. Fear is not sexy in a man. Fear and panic are underlying all the "seduction artist" skills. "Skills" being just bio-hacking tricks and shortcuts. The more skillful a guy is at chatting me up, the more alarmed I am that he would probably be a Sociopathic, Narcissistic Personality Disorder type of person. I always took the clumsy, dorky, shy, no fashion style, average looking guy, but truthful to whatever and whoever he is, over a guy who's so obviously "learned" "everything" about women in various UA-cam channels created by bitter men lacking empathy and lacking capacity for self-criticism, for owning their part of responsibility for failure in relationships. Funnily enough, I always "friend zoned" those pretty boys who could have any girl they wanted. They actually make great friends, these narcissistic types, charming, witty, theatrical, above average intelligent, etc. We go out in a group of friends, we put on a show, we attract attention, we have fun, and then.. boy do I love coming home to my sincere, non-instagrammable man.
No, they just happen to fall for those nice guys because, again, they just happen to be extremely good-looking in a feminine prettyboy sense, if they were average looking they wouldn't give a S about their niceness, they only like him because of his POWER (his good looks), woman aren't wired to reward nice behaviour, it isn't appealing to them on a instinctual/primal level, nice try.
@@marcelobasilio2028 No they weren't, I'm sorry. Not even in a pretty boy way. Not everything can be blamed on looks alone. Of course it's a factor as you tolarate more from an attractive person, but it isn't the only attractor in the world, it helps, for sure, but it isn't everything.
@@marcelobasilio2028 I seem to be wired to "reward" nice behavior. In my case, and even to my own surprise, it actually is very appealing to me on an instinctual level, to be more precise, the moment I see him all sweet and clumsy and shy, and obviously into me, suddenly my heart races and I am turned on, seksually. I feel like a predator, a lioness that just saw a young, inexperienced, limping antilope. It's on. I'm gonna get ta. Don't be shy, I'll teach you everything you need to know. And I will be extra careful not to hurt your self-esteem in the process, but rather to boost it. Voilà. To each his/her own. Some girls ( ok most of my girl-friends, although not all) like so called tough guys, guys who display power as you said. But some of us totally want to puke around those types, and have no respect for those others who, though originally nice, try to imitate the genuine bad boys. I appreciate and respect myself. If a guy's behavior towards me doesn't match that, something in me, both in my brain and in my vagina, doesn't recognize that as mating material. Guys with some form of "Power"? Instantly want them to be my friends, as I said already. It's great to hang out with someone powerful. But I would fear letting such a savage in my inner world. I hope I explained myself more clearly this time.
@@miovicdina7706 oh you are old(30+) that explains it. We man often when speaking of woman we are referring to 18-25 past that is old, yeah when woman are old they like and chase good man hence good man finish last. But I'm sure this guy is talking about normal pre-wall smashers. Lastly where I'm from you are known as a VB (virg.n breaker) a woman who has given up chasing the chads(bad boys)and being used by them to chase and give less experienced man(good man) a go, often forming lasting relationships with them. My first was a VB most men have 3 opinion when a v on who will take it since regular woman all chase they same guys and won't ever touch a less experienced guy. the vb, the pro and the cougar. So thank you woman like you are needed as well. I'm sure the guy you are with is grateful
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No Patreon. 2500$ penalties for truth were avoided recently, but that is where they want to go. Go Locals.
"lovable" sounds like "personality" cope. if you're actually attractive, you'll be having trouble just choosing one, much less keeping them around. i feel like most "attractive" people who can't make relationships last are really just above average or average but well groomed and styled. lets me mindful of how the standards of attractiveness today are vastly different than just 10 years ago due to social media induced super hypergamy
Sir its end of world for those who have born with small penis though its not his fault
99% women will reject him no matter how nice heart he has no matter how loyal he is
Do you have a video or somewhere I could learn examples of being more attractive & loveable. Or is it just on your patron?
I was friends with a woman and eventually grew attracted towards her. I mentioned to her: "look, I want our meetings to add value, I don't want to spend time to just spend time. We have better things to do." And that's the last time I spoke to her. She was fine wasting time, she even mentioned she wanted to travel on my expenses 🤣. Dodged a friend zone there :)
you should have talked less and screwed her more, sadly thats just the way it is
@@ray076NL hate that you're right 🤣
Sounds like you proposed a business meeting framework with her and she bolted.
@@BruceKarrde what's with your subscription lists
Your first mistake was being friends with her lol
"Boys are icky." is about the level of maturity in these women.
Well it's the mindset of competition vs cooperative nature. Most guys are very competitive active in tearing others down. They want to be the old "alpha wolf".
Then the real alpha wolf is discovered to be simply the one who fathered all other males in their group and is disciplining their son's. Their value is earned through their ability to lead and provide for their pack and expecting others to participate.
Women are mostly cooperative and it's masculine women who are degraded for being competitive.
Women respect guys who are cooperative and doesn't tear others down.
I know right? They never grew out from their childhood "ew boys" phase.
@@vsmith6109 From my experience female collectives have an appearance of cooperation which hides vicious competition. Meanwhile male collectives are the opposite, apparent rampant competition hides cooperation that is often superior because it is free of the usual drama, gossiping, and spiteful backstabbing.
@@GeneralProfessor yep... groups want to compete...it's better for the individual to have 2 or 3 good friends that earned their value
@@saltykitty9215 I think part of it is a defense mechanism also! It becomes the story we tell ourselves to undermine our biology 'ew, men' vs 'ew, women'.
Once you understand female psychology and biology. It's hard trying to be attracted to them, forget them being attracted to you.
But do you udnerstand your own biology?
@@danielcarlsen8975 1000% more than you probably EVER will tbh bud.
@@snowfrosty1 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yeah you just stop wanting them
Exactly how I feel. Still I'm happier without those fairytale goggles on
I was depressed for a long time because I am neither attractive nor loveable. What I am actually doing now is realizing that invisibility is a pretty cool super power.
looksmaxxing and chiromaxxing
besides of this if the globalists really achieve what they wanted you'll have great cards in some years if you're not vaccinated
The ironic thing about the Fantastic Four’s “Invisible Girl” is that she’s usually depicted as the last kind of girl that would ever become invisible to men. 😂 Perhaps it’s time for Hollywood to gender-swap her?
Saved you from the fate of a beta buxxer which is way worse than being alone.
True. Being invisible has its own nice things. BETTER BE ALONE than miserable
Yeah not so bad after all, glad you didn't get shackled because most of them really don't care about men's life's or happiness. they just take everything they can from you without giving anything back. The fact that women are capable of ruining even men who have everything going for them tells you everything you need to know.
"If you're lovable but not attractive she's going to cheat on you"...no she's going to lose attraction for you and want to be with someone who is attractive. If your partner cheats on you it is not your fault, that's victim blaming. If they want to be with someone else they should end things and move on.
Single mothers raise nice guys and loveable guys. They just cant raise a boy on their own to be a man, men are not supposed to be nice and loveable all the time.
sometimes the victim is taking part on the problem
@@distributistsshrekvideo 2 separate problems: 1. you are no longer putting in the effort to look attractive to your partner, 2. your partner cheated. They are not the same problem and can occur independently of each other.
@@ObsidianLiger two separate problems:
1. you are going through a strret corner in a bad neighborhood with some 50's and 20's sticking out of your pocket
2. Some thugs beat you up and take your money
In both cases there's an asshole who is not you, but you have some agency.
Eh idk. There’s no right relationship. Some men for example are happy with going home to their wife every night but still want to scratch that itch of just hooking up. If the woman is fine with it I see no issue.
In order for this to truly take affect society as a whole needs to acknowledge what women say they want, and what they actually want are two different things. The whole nice guy persona wasn't pulled from thin air. Young men are constantly trying to adapt to women constantly changing which leads young men to do questionable things that ultimately never work.
The essential nature of women would have to change too.
@@johnowen9349 LMAO! Well we are doomed then!
@@johnowen9349 no it wouldn't.
Women are pretty fickle though. They are ever changing. Chaotic in their wants and needs. Every day is a new challenge. Hell, sometimes every hour is a new woman
You're delusional.
None of women's flaws will be acceptable ever. Because gynocentrism is part of our DNA
How bout the population of men who are able to attract women, but think there are almost zero women worth marrying in this era?
Those are the lucky ones. Looks and wisdom in one hand 😁
Reminds of the 70s when many feminists declared they were turning lesbian "for political reasons. " I kid you not. One of my psychology professors said that.
@John Grigg what does that mean?
Like Adrienne Rich. Shortly after divorcing her husband, he minecrafted himself and she just moved on with a woman
Who cares, If majority of Men are working and running this world.
Women here in this world are just to enjoy and blame patriarchy for everything.
Anyway, bisexuality doesn't make any sense.
Unless it's a sexual reproduction.
The oldest ancient scam used by women, useing sex as a weapon against men. Its their most powerful play card.
It's still for political reasons.
There is a third category of lonely men ; those who are attractive to women but who can't find an attractive woman on the dating market.
I don't know you or your situation, but this sounds like copium.
@@Crisqo27 yeah sorry but I agree
@@Crisqo27 No, not at all. I literally never found a woman I was interested on the dating market. However, I do know several awesome women, femnine, gorgeous who would make a wonderful partner or wife. But they are all married. Nothing to cope; I literally never got rejected by a woman, but the women I find who are single are all undateable. There is a reasoon why they are on the dating market. Nobody of value wants them.
Change "attractive woman" to "lovable woman" and I'll agree with you.
Lovable women are absolutely rare, while attractive women are dime a dozen.
@@ShadowbannedAccount Well, attractive means that there is an attraction, and that comes from her attributes, one of which is being lovable. That's why I didn't wrote 'beautiful'. Most beautiful women are not attractive.
This is interesting but completely ignores the driving force of the hypergamous nature of women. Most young women unwittingly view the world as a first person shooter video game. You are either an inconsequential minion or a level boss. If you're a minion or npc, you're practically invisible. They are after the boss of the level. And once they've unlocked that "achievement", they are looking to level-up to the next level boss and conquer him. She's all about the game score: how much commitment can she collect from this level of individual. She gets bored and needs to move up the ladder. The next guy may make more money, be taller, have a stronger jaw line, have clout, buns of steel, funny, intellectual, adventurous, straighter whiter teeth, erudite, more masculine energy, give more of his resources or attention (usually multiples of these for more valuable Commitment Points) and she will 100% attempt to monkey branch over to him, even if he's in your same social circle. If she swings too high and misses that branch, she'll go after a "boss" that's not quite as difficult to get commitment from, but she's already got one foot out of the door. She all ready beat your level. She's bored. She can score your weak level of commitment in her sleep. The ultimate goal is to get to and defeat the final boss that has millions, tall, extravagant life of leisure, full mane of hair, 6-pack abs, women throwing themselves at him, and is so alpha other alphas willingly submit to his whims. But in 2022, there is no alpha of alphas. You can be the richest (Besos, Gates), the most masculine (Tom Brady, Aaron Rodgers, Jason Mamoa), the most admired or entertaining (Johnny Depp, Kanye, Bill Hader, Michael b Jordan, Kenan Thompson, Chris Pine). Once they have your commitment points, it's on to the next level of difficulty or the next game. For you it's GAME OVER. (Or at most, you can pray you're the top boss she's able to get commitment from, and she's so frustrated trying to get the next level that she reluctantly settles for you. But she will resent you forever because you were a boss she could beat and you both know that disgusts her).
pretty much
Oye. Dats deep
yup
In my opinion this is really true about toxic and narcissistic women. Thank you for sharing this information to us. Have nice day.
Excellent summation. Of course, most women don't realize that this is a losing strategy in the long run. Half of all women living today will end up single, alone and childless because of their own actions.
"You can't just be attractive. You need to go further. You need to go deeper."
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Luckily I got the length to do so
The one thing happy relationships have in common, is altruism. Both people involved are naturally altruistic to the other. They both go out of their way to do nice things for the other. There’s lots of reciprocity and mutual respect.
Through the whole relationship.
As a side, a healthy dose of chemistry helps with the long term attraction, too.
If it's reciprocal then it's not altruistic. Altruism is by definition a sacrifice, not a trade. Even if the trade is informal or implicit and averaged over the long term, it's still trade. Altruism is bad and unstable, what you want is mutually beneficial trade.
most men feel the effort it takes to get some dirty wet box isnt worth the hassle because of what is expected of them in return and the pitfalls of what can and will happen if they get trapped into a LT relationship
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Alexander Grace, the level things are presented goes beyond the reach of understanding here for a lot of people on UA-cam. The masses are usually not the smartest. Trust me when I say that you have had a major influence on others who speak about these topics. Thank you for all these years full of constructive facts. 🙏
Agree. And I think he's influenced many. When you see guys like ABA and preach reacting to him you realized they have followed him for a long time...
And a lot of people are seriously low value, Not in shape, bad hygiene and dress badly but expect women to be open to interacting with them. So they rather blame hypergamy and women's unrealistic expectations ( which is a reality) for their lack of success.
@@davidclayton.1511 That's not accurate. Nowhere on the planet men care about their appearance so much as in the west. Most in shape men with the most out of shape women.
@@oemj7147 am talking about the guys on here.
@@oemj7147 of course, am not saying women don't have unrealistic standards. Just saying, guys not looking after themselves doesn't help either.
This perspective places all of the responsibility of long term relationships entirely on the male shoulders. At some point, women surely have to have work to do as well.. I rarely critique your work. I've been following for years now. Watched almost every video. But this one made me feel tremendous pressure to be so much. At some point, I need to be able to relax into what I am and be valued for it, or simply walk away. I'm glad in not in my twenties anymore. Young men have it really rough.
If you're at this point where you need to do this much, she's not worth it. Go to where you're valued.
This video makes sense if you replace “lovable” with “economically lovable”. She will never “love” you, only need your resources. “Love” from women is always a conditional arrangement. You provide, she “loves”.
This is true, de monei is non negotiable for nearly all women even if they swear it isn't at the beginning of a relationship or make lots of money themselves.
It's simply evolution and dating up for them.
The problem with what you’re saying is that doing the things you mentioned that makes us “lovable” is EXACTLY what gets us friendzoned. By your own admission attractiveness is everything because if the attraction isn’t there no amount of being “lovable” will matter. You probably don’t realize it yet, but you’ve just inadvertently black pilled a lot of men with this video.
Oh yeah! Attractiveness #1 - friendzone ensues immediately if she is not attracted to you physically... I don't waste my time nor give any sort of attention if she is not actively pursuing me- Then I test the boundaries of Attractiveness- I am nobody's wallet or savior. I am straight foward... "Non negotiable". Unfortunately women are insatiable no matter how you try to understand them. "Once the thrill is gone she is gone"
@@demarzbarz5162 I can relate to what you're saying. I don't try with women anymore because most of them use you
If you ever want to have a romantic relationship with a women, you need to attract her first, and from there if you want a committed relationship, you need to show that you're loveable. It is a blend. If you've energy watched his other videos you would know he's talked about being attractive to women, don't be a nice guy, have self worth and respect.
I think we watched different videos. What he said is, be lovable once you have already attracted her in order to keep her. And never go 100% lovable.
@@ardordeleon no, we watched the same video. in order to “attract” her you first need to be “attractive”. Attractiveness is subjective and in this context is for women to decide. So for dudes that aren’t conventionally attractive they’re $hit out of luck. Being lovable is pointless if you can’t attract her, you can’t attract her if she doesn’t see you as attractive.
Listen.
I really don't have the energy of jumping trough THIS MANY HOOPS.
I went monk in 2016. I still enjoy watching people scramble with relationship, but for someone, it's just not in their gears.
People, if you don't like the rules of the game, remember that you have the option of simply NOT PLAYING.
That’s where I’m at right now. I was married for about 8 years and have had one long term relationship since then that recently ended. I’m too old and tired to be bothered with it anymore. I recognize that it takes effort to make it work, but there comes a time when all of the time and money spent just isn’t worth the results.
@@josephbrown9685 The thing is that effort should come from both sides, a thing that today is really not being promoted enough. You have to understand her for what she is BUT she has to understand you for what you are. It cannot be one way. I like Alexander but it seems like things are so one-sided at the moment. There is literally no pressure on women to try to be better partners to their men. If they do change things, they have to feel like they will benefit. And even then.
I feel you, bro, I'm so sick of all the things guys have to do to “KEEP A WOMEN ATTRACTED” like if women bring something of value to the table
@@carlospita6442 They used to in a better time, but not in modern times! feminism has taught women to LEAN into their narcissism! And they have been!
@@inconnu4961 I don't believe it is feminism by itself. It is simply female nature that was before kept under control by societal norms. People think that the rules before were keeping women down. I believe it was just ancient wisdom being put into practice in order to save women from their tendencies. Today's modern woman has never been more free to make the choices that she wants and just look at what choices they are making. All driven by their nature. It seems women really have issues with thinking long term and understanding the reality of the world.
Maybe you have heard of this book, but you can find it for free on the internet. The manipulate man by Esther Vilar. It explains a lot actually.
Once upon a time...I was just plain unattractive. I was in school back then. Then I gave up and stopped chasing. Now I'm in a relationship wondering how I got here.
Same here bro
Luck or God
Whatever you do, DO NOT GET MARRIED. And accept she will leave you sooner or later, no matter what you do.
attractive, loveable, looks, money, status, masculinity - work on that and you get a chance to get a relationship where you have to maintain those traits, maintain her (mentally, financially and emotionally, for sure) for couple years, before you will fail one s-test and she will dump you for chad. Sounds like awesome dating and relationship market situation, I'm in
I know, right? where do we sign up and how can we pay for such misery? LOL
Wait you forgot a few more superficial things!! That are empty and vapid and meaningless and and soul sucking!! 😊😊😊
Height, huge d, nice car, nice house, great credit score, over 1 m in the bank!!
It’s all easy bro, just totally do it now and let her have it all!! ❤❤
@@onward2727 words of real man here!
Other cheap ass losers have to learn how to give everything to a woman, while being happy with it
Don't forget having to pretend that you enjoy weekend brunches with her dumb friends and their dumbass boyfriends else you fail at the loveable part and lose her to someone who is "always there" socializing.
No wonder so few men achieve anything substantial when chasing and keeping tail is a full time job.
No doubt, I've chosen the simple life and opted out about 8 years ago. Never been happier. It's very freeing.
Listening to this video it's easy to surmise that dealing with women is a full time job, who actually has time to keep walking on eggshells to appease a woman's 16 personalities and to keep her mood stable enough to have sex later, and to live paranoid that she's going to leave you for something simple..
As someone with primary psychopathy I can't get rid of these women because I intrinsically show them indifference and I only care about myself, I never listen to what they want or what they say, I don't do it on purpose, it's just part of how I am, I noticed it puts them in a constant state of chasing validation and approval.
Interesting.
I have high functioning autism, and studied game. The same applies for me. I know when and how to be indifferent, so I also used to get women chasing me for validation.
@@Skelfi The difference is with me is I don't turn it on or off or even know how to turn it on and off, it's just like that for me (always on ), its just how I am.
@@TheFriendlyPsychopath And that’s why women are attracted to dark-triad men. Or, as the less academically minded like to call them, “bad boys” 😉.
Its isnt about the sex .Its just having a good relationship with your wife . Which is not so common unfortunately
But its weird that women seek validation if the guy doesn't like them .I really don't understand it at all .
Thats also why nice guys usually finish last because they are to "nice" to them .For some reason they dont like that .
We actually can choose to be attracted to people that are not completely repulsive to us quite easily.
I wouldn't call myself a player but I've been with enough women to realize that they want it all, but at different times.. the perfect dude doesn't exist
I’d actually say you hit the nail on the head for me about that lovable thing. I’ve been straight up told by a few females that they’d sleep with me, but not date me. I don’t wanna do that tho, I just turn them down as I don’t want a woman who sleeps around so why would I contribute to that.
One thing I've learnt is
"You have to keep doing the same thing that initially attracted your girlfriend / boyfriend to you, while adding other elements"
I have to disagree with the "lovable" aspect to an extent.
How many women have choosen bad dating matches. How many women have left "lovable" men (there's many reasons some you've stated in this video, other reasons are in other videos)
You have to keep adding those other elements. And keep adding them. And then more. Because the goal post is always going to move, there will never be a good enough. You'll always have to top yourself, because what you did last time will instantly become "the bare minimum" in her eyes.
what he means by lovable is having the time, compassion and money for a woman. they get bored of someone only lovable. its like driving a minivan when you know there's party buses around.
it's not enough to be everything they could ask for, you have to have a wild element too, like being so attractive that you could be stolen from her instead of her eloping in spite of you.
OR someonewho knows how to pull her strings. on paper, it sounds nefarious, but they just simply do not want still waters.
@@johnowen9349 This is so true! women are difficult to please on their best day!
Difficult to please on their best day is a massive understatement
Haha but seriously though, simple and sweet women are the best. But have become rare, and are becoming rarer and rarer as the days go on. Thanks to unchecked feminism and unchecked hypergamy
Man you didn't understand what he was saying at all
Attractive and loveable are still not enough. A guy has to be admirable. Admiration and respect are essential for a woman to deeply love a man. This is why older, accomplished men can appeal to younger women beyond the sugar-baby lifestyle perks. As a healthcare professional, I worked closely with many women and some of them fell deeply in love with me, not out of attraction but of admiration. It was awkward, as I'm happily married with 5 kids. A few times a young coworker had to switch jobs because it hurt them to work so closely with a man they couldn't have.
Wow, you have amazing powers! I've never heard this one in my 50 yrs of living!
Lol what
That was the most blue pill video from you in a long time.
He has a girlfriend now! We can only assume she is aware of his other videos treating women more 'harshly' ( in womens opinion) so perhaps she had undue influence here?
Alright boys, I have spent at least a year on this form of self improvement in a relationship sense. I’m 24, confident in myself, and know that I can attract someone; however, I am not at a point where I love myself completely. While I have an understanding of how to attract a woman to me, I cannot commit to pair bonding until I have addressed my past traumas that come out as constant sexual desire. Best of luck to you all
Even nice guys aren't that lovable because most are simple yes-men who value short-term peace maintenance over doing what needs to be done even when it's uncomfortable.
Attraction is not a choice but being respectful is
True! and we have to exercise our right to be disrespectful sometimes!
You can't 'make' a woman fall in love. Love is a action, a choice you make regularly. She either chooses to love you or not, regardless of your position.
she does not choose it, its an emotion.
@@RustingPeace Lies .You can't fall for someone .
@@RustingPeace love isn't an emotion. Many ranges of emotions accompanies love.
@@SirShiv7 Its an emotion.
and you can be sad and happy at the same time, are suddenly happiness and sadness no emotions anymore?
@@RustingPeace Read what I wrote again. Slower this time.
IDK...people have unrealistic ideas about relationships...it's work, people don't want to hear that
Yep. It should ultimately be viewed as a choice. If you become unlovable then the relationship is over? Sounds ridiculous. People change. The only thing that should be clear for both is that they chose each other.
Od do it, like me.
My relationships did not last because all six women had serious mental health issues.
I just want to find one that isn't damaged beyond repair.
good luck finding a modern women that isnt damaged from the CC
@@maxmuller6730 CC ?
@@dragoscosma84 cock carousel.
that means they have been riding the d*cks of chad, tyrone, etc. basically wh0ring around with no remorse or consideration whether this behaviour is good for their mental situation.
since youtube bans certain words, manosphere content creators are forced to use place holders for certain types of terms, like CC, or 304 or garden tool (both means "hoe").
One of reasons why most men prefer younger women…
Exactly , even here in the U.K it is so hard to find a balanced woman.
Here’s my attempt at a solution: Jordan Peterson & Co. have been going on and on about the importance of stories. We, the crimson-pilled guys, need to write the change we want to see into existence. If we create inspiring myths, we create self-fulfilling prophecies.
Not just by writing about guys who know about female nature and apply that knowledge (that’s just power fantasy). It’s time for us creative men to write the “strong female characters” we want to see. And not to take the cheap shortcut that is writing a NAWALT. Unicorns are but a figment of our imagination. We need to *show* female nature play out on screen, make it part of the misbeliefs fictional characters have to overcome. After all, that’s what makes us human: The ability to rise above our instincts. If male nature can change (such as most men being *too nice* these days), who’s to say female nature can’t?
Write female characters that get wrecked by their own hypergamy (at the disaster plot point) - and then find a way to be content with what they have. Write female characters that lack empathy for their male partners - and then have a shocking realisation about the struggles their boyfriends and husbands are actually going through. And female characters that come to the realisation that they can’t use their ability to get pregnant as a go-to excuse for everything.
And the devious little trick is: Because of female own-group preference, if we write compelling female protagonists, women will start identifying with them, looking up to them, putting the values these characters represent into practice.
Those stories already exist, and most of them are written women. If you browse the erotica section of any adult book retailer, you'll find that the bestselling titles, for the majority female audience, are books about women being dominated in all kinds of extreme ways. The female leads are pursued aggressively, hunted down, chained, bought and sold, and generally abused and manhandled by charming but controlling and emotionally detached love interests. Women portray female nature better than anyone else, but they only do it in books that no-one else reads, and they are only interested if it describes a scenario they might enjoy. Any sexual situation where the gender roles are starkly defined in high contrast really grabs their attention.
In any case I write some of this fiction aimed at female audiences and this is essentially the formula I use to create stories. One of my upcoming titles will feature a colonized planet in the future run by butch feminists and beta men. The lead is a female soldier whose only concept of a man is a weakling that likes to get pegged, until she gets captured while trying to exterminate a 6'7'' rebel warlord covered in battle scars. A lifetime of indoctrination in a feminist utopia comes crashing into the unforgiving reality of what a group of rugged alpha men can achieve when their survival is threatened. That stuff drives them wild. It also makes them confront the internal contradictions between their feminist thoughts and innate sexuality.
The advice you give is always spot on, easy to understand and extremely simple to put into action.
Yeah... "simple". Just follow these 3467 steps to be able to be attractive to w0m3n.
Women/ sex/ relationships are overrated. It cost mentally and financially. Doesn't matter if you're Alfa or beta. High quality or low quality man. Live thru other men's experiences and save your money energy attention and time (CGA)
U r right 👍
I feel you, bro, I'm so sick of all the things guys have to do to “KEEP A WOMEN ATTRACTED” like if women bring something of value to the table
@@carlospita6442 Rite on . Women are like, "entertain me. Ok, next". And the guy it's like, " so what do you do besides have a vagina ?
UA-cam censored your comment. Best wishes to you bother
@@carlospita6442 Censored for asking, "what do you do besides have a Vagina ?" Shame on me :) I'd be happy if someone implied that all I have to do is exist to be loved. Shame on me for having a penis.
Heh, five years. Maybe seven. Your optimism is gonna get ya hurt. Hurt bad. Possibly turned into an indentured servant to a woman enforced by the government. I'm not saying your advice isn't good, Alex. It probably is. But your hope that a woman won't cheat on you and destroy you anyway is woefully misplaced. The fact is, you can do everything right and the best woman you know will still take your house, your kids, and half your retirement just for the butterflies and validation of another man that only wanted her for the practice.
Women with a few sexual partners behind her can't love a man anyways, regardless of how great the guy is. I'm 51, I've observed this for years now. Forget getting love from a woman who isn't a virgin.
I did the pretending to be a badboy thing in the 90s, it worked to get numbers up, but that in itself it insecurity stemming from ego and toxicfmnizm. Ayahuasca, bufo or dmt is a good cure all for emotional and psychological damage, as well as a few years in monk mode and never accepting red flags, unless you are unexperienced (if you never have the scent of a woman on you, you will basically never have women on you)
The sad truth I keep coming across is that I can both attract and be lovable but it all feels too exhausting to maintain. Most social interactions I find to drain me a bit so I keep them to a manageable level just to keep my social skill alive.
Why is it exhausting for you though?
Your information is vital Alexander. You coupled with several other youtubers... I have a circle of friends I can rely on for information. It's invaluable and needed for men to progress in this time in society
I don't understand how a grown adult male could feel lonely if the women around him aren't even close to meeting his standards. He's not missing out on anything.
Loneliness is our instinct for survival as we are pact animals by nature. For the very reason you don't need a woman for not to feel lonely. Get friends, get a dog, find a quality woman when you are NOT lonely.
@@Ounouh If we are speaking to the matter of evolutionary biology, humans started as a migratory species. Loneliness was not a matter of survival. Making it to the next meal was. Procreation was happenstance and parents grew to love what they had created through instinct. Loneliness is just not instinctual, it's learned.
@@Ounouh it's an extension of envy
because no one is meant to be alone. Most adult men don't have a lot of close friends, and the sex drive is constantly pushing them to "find a woman"
@@shaunsteele8244 despite a sex drive i live in a state with a lot of fat people and I'm not desperate. Sex drive is biology, I'll give you that but a lack of sex is a far cry from being lonely
The popularity of pick up is because I think most guys are more loveable than attractive. And many of the attractive ones have so many girls throwing themselves at them that they legit don't want more than flings, especially in this relationship market. Heck, there are lots of loveable guys that are good looking enough to land the occasional girl, but they've given up on long term relationships for all the logical redpill reasons, so now they need lots of attractiveness and game if they want regular sex outside of those.
"Make yourself loveable and attractive or you'll get nowhere" great advice...make yourself perfect and remain optimistic in today's dating world this is dogshit advice
Then you will probably have a far better advice and that is also scientifically backed
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Yeah women are attracted to loveable my ass.
The same is true for men.
Many of us need both also.
Simple test: Do you want to spend time with her, explore her personality and share experiences AFTER the gymnastics part?
Yeah not all men are just after the looks you know .
This label is really annoying.
I get why it is there because many men are like that but the majority are not .
I’ve been in the other boat. A woman took an interest in me, so I just went with it. She was loveable, but there was just zero attraction for me. As much as she wanted a relationship, I didn’t because there was no attraction. I couldn’t commit to going through life with no attraction to my partners. She would be and was a great friend, but my mind could never get to the point of wanting a relationship, and it hurt her - I hurt her - pretty badly because I didn’t want it. I wasn’t being mean about it, it was the fact that I wasn’t interested and wasn’t attracted that hurt her so badly. I can totally empathize with it too, because I’ve been on that end of unrequited feelings more times than I care to count.
This is a good channel, with a lot of salient observations, though I don't want to be happy; I simply want serenity and to be content. Pursuing either happiness or women, or especially pursuing women to BE happy is a futile endeavor. As far as the modern woman goes, the juice is NOT worth the squeeze.
Never had a woman fall in love with me. They always keep coming back around and wanting to screw, I've never thought that was a thing about me. I thought that was about women being women. I never really worried about it, I just gave up because I wasn't getting what I wanted from the experience. In fact I was getting a lot of what I didn't want.
Maybe it was me all along, it's to late to worry about it now.
If you don't mind me asking, what are your specs ? 😆 (I am serious)
@@koroglurustem1722 2015 HP Pavilion, Intel Core i5, 8gb ram, and an old hard drive that psses me off
What women want is too much work. I don’t want to have to work to get a relationship and then maintain it. But, it may be exceptional if she plays the woman role
Exactly men literally have to do most things to get into the relationship and to stay in the relationship. Women don't have to do much .
I know this considering men always ask the women out and the women always dumps or divorces the men if they are not happy with them .
Take note i said most of the time .
Because there are relationships were it works the opposite way
I don't care about women . The juice isn't worth the squeeze , simple .
I don't dislike them, personally, but I just gave up early on, due to some personal anxiety and an alternative outlet aka free pn. The juice wasn't worth the squeeze, so I never put in the effort. Now at 48, I'm still so not inspired by women, that I've let myself get terribly out of shape.
My appearance was never all that impressive but I'm a good height and reasonably well built frame-wise, but if you don't put yourself out there, you get nothing. Which I'm not bothered by, really. For every positive thing I've missed out on, there's a negative thing I've potentially also missed out on.
Flirting and teasing won't help with being attractive if you are short. Physical things come first, they are even more non-negotiable.
Honestly flirting is useless.
Best way to get a girlfriend is if you were her friend for awhile to get to know her .Then you ask her out if she is interested.
No scrap of a relationship with a woman will ever make me happy.
I agree with Alex here. Most of the comments are blaming the women for not having good relationships. While I can agree with that it doesn’t mean he is wrong. If the woman has the virtues of selflessness,gratefulness, and patience than this delicate dance between being attractive and lovable will be a great for the relationship. If the female isn’t to a certain quality than it’s not going to work regardless. Alex has previously discussed not settling for these low quality women. We as men should be placing high standards on ourselves to grow and be better. Don’t expect good quality women if your a low quality man. I understand in the current dating market there isn’t an abundance of good women. You will never even have a chance though if your low quality.
Women are too damn complicated. I'll stick to something simpler, like quantum physics.
Really helpfull advice
In response to the neccessary skills of "game and teasing", would you say that aquiring Acting skills is mandatory for men?
For at least me teasing a woman im attracted to goes against my nature, and that is exactly why I failed so much.
Yet I get angry at the fact that I have to basically rewrite myself to take women... idk, not seriosly animore(?)
I guess it would help with attraction but not lovability.
I just dont know, would you like to share a bit of your learning process for a virgin
The game is so stupid when you think of it. Why can't women simply understand that it is not a good long term strategy to play such stupid games? It is like the moment women were allowed to make free choices in dating, they seem to most of the time make bad choices. Why? It is just the mentality of it, of basing everything on how you feel this moment or the next and having no reasonable way to look at the relationship.
I had this same kinda thinking. I'm gonna be honest, like it or not.
"For at least me teasing a woman im attracted to goes against my nature"
It's what your mom told you and you believed it. "you need to treat women good because...."
If you have some good male friends you are (hopefully) always teasing each other like calling them fat, big nosed, bold, short, poor, noob whatever. So if you can't do the same thing with women because they have different thing between their legs. Then i'm calling you a hypocrite. I say this with love, hope you get it.
@@simosavustaja9420 I think there is a very big problem today. Women simply cannot accept the masculine nature as it is. Before, that was pretty well understood by women of the time. Now, you have to abide by ridiculous rules that make no sense. This gives them a lot of power to decide what is correct behavior and what is not correct behavior. That is how simps were created. By imposing the female perspective at a grand scale.
The game is rigged. Women cannot take criticism. Anytime you bring up the fact that they could do better, they call you negative. Any little things that you bring that is a bit critical is negative and thus irrelevant. They are basically looking for enablers. And they are finding them.
This is a huge societal problem especially moving forward. If women cannot be put in their place when they make mistakes, how the hell can we say we are moving towards equality?
@@Alnivol666 Women are slaves to their own biology! Reasoning is not something they are very comfortable with, its not really encouraged in groups of women and they are therefore not CONSISTENTLY good at it, on whole.
"Loveable" is what I was raised to believe is attractive. Never listen to women or the media about what women find attractive.
Yeah man so much of this side of the internet is all about the attraction side of things. Shallow traits and pursuits. If that's as deep down the rabbit hole you go, you will only end up feeling empty. You have to go all the way down. As scary as it is, going as deep into your pyschy as possible is what will help you find the person ideal for yourself
You clearly dont understand the video.
He didn't say you just need to be attractive but be loveable as well
. Attraction plays a big role in relationships .Idk how you dont realise that
You are talking about Level 2 to a person who cannot finish Level 1.
As a reminder: Most dont even have the chance to start the game.
It’s like in Magic: The Gathering: Players who have to mulligan down to five or below might as well concede 😂.
I have that problem, I live alone since I bought a house and it's been lonely. In 18 months I have easily slept with 18 women, but sometimes I think 'are they just using me for sex?' and I'm right!
Oh. Like always, women date handsome fellas cause of their looks, then cry cause he ditched her for someone with better looks.
Very sorry, the unicorns who do manage to meet current insane requirements for average woman have also access to a lot of women much higher quality than average. And his looks will also let him get away with nearly everything.
Anyone else gone for good like me after watching tons of videos about female nature, and now I don't like anyone telling me to be with women as if I will loose something meaningful, bullshit.
I feel you, bro, I'm so sick of all the things guys have to do to “KEEP A WOMEN ATTRACTED” like if women bring something of value to the table
Great video and insight, thank you Alexander!
Alex: “That’s why-“
Commercial Guy “I spent 15 years trying to make the digital notebook.”
Thanks for the laugh 5:49
Alexander is overplaying his hand.
Sleeping with a lot of women brings a lot of satisfaction, but it ultimately gets old. The end game is in relationships. And for that, pickup artists have only found half of the solution (how to get a woman in bed). The other half is about keeping this woman over the long term. That's a whole other level of game.
The problem with all of this Alex is that women change their mind at the drop of a hat. What you are doing one-day that makes them attracted to you, can vanish when they decide they want someone with whatever else it is that they’ve decided they need today. They are shameless in their hypergamy, and they are encouraged by society to dump whoever they are with and try and get a higher value person. Most guys can just see through all their bullshit and they don’t bother any more.
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Women don't love men. They love how you make them feel. You just need to keep that same 3 month dating period and perpetuate that feeling. With women it's all about feelings you make them happy and sad. Women go through these feelings easily don't take them seriously. But if they don't find you attractive none of this matters.
Unfortunately Grace is an RP guy that thinks RP men should fake being a BP man. Just maybe this BP is his true state of being? "To thine own self be true," if you truly want to have a good life that runs true to who you are. Trying to force being 'lovable' so that a woman will see you as a long term prospect sounds like a recipe for disaster! Just be who you are, your own' lovable self' to the right fit and never ever fake who you are. When you are comfortable in your own skin and have a life worth living many, even most women, will see you as a possible prospect. Vetting goes both ways. Then it is up to you to vet for a fit to your life if that is what you want and to never lead any woman on as a really immature thing to do to someone. I agree that not being an outright slob as regards attractiveness is a must but not to the point of obsessiveness. Dress well for your own style, have a healthy lifestyle and engaging in your passions seems an attractive to women of quality...and the rest of them also so be careful in your vetting!
You're right. Being attractive is all that really matters. So I gave up dating.
you have been around for years! I can’t believe you haven’t blown up or been on podcasts and such.
This type of content is not mainstream popular
@@huggleskuishy no but people like andrew tate and kevin samuels has become big.
Great video, Alexander! Very, very true 😊
I know you probably feel like your own relationship is strong. When you get a true understanding of women on this level though. Even you must be very weary of them. I am this guy in your video at its very core. I have been lucky with the opposite sex. Slept with plenty of dimes. Stayed friends with many of them. The top notch women I have been with want the top notch guy. Period. If you are not training for a triathlon and writing self help real estate novels your not getting them. Not for anything more than a brief expierence and some fond memories. Never married at 48, no kids and it is for the best. If I could not be with my child I would not survive it. Better to never have had a kid. Great thought provoking video. As usual.
I totally wish I could trade places with you! I have children that I am not able to see. And on top of it, when people ask, and i attempt to explain, it is ALWAYS and without exception my fault, even if they dont know enough of the back story! its their preferred bias! I am sure it gets lonely sometimes, but it is lonely in a relationship with a spouse who has fallen out of love and resents you for it! At least you have peace of mind!
“Better to never have had a kid”
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This is very true on "I can make women be attracted to me and sleep with me but cant make them fall in love with me" I'm pretty decent looking guy from what Ive been told but I can never hold onto a relationship. Women stay around because I'm cute but most part lose interest because I guess I don't really want a long term relationship and I don't put in the work as much as I should.
Great content as always
The non-alcoholic beer analogy is really good.
As a guy that isn't attractive at all I can confirm that you get absolutely nowhere with women
Don't orbit, be aloof and mysterious.
Love your work. Bravo! Found your channel too late for me. Listen up men and boys. Alexander is a champion.
Dating sounds like a full time job and i already have a full time career so i'll pass
I just want to unalive myself
I am not masculine. I do lift weights, but that's about it. I look masculine and it's because I don't wanna get kiIIed painfully or bothered. I'm lazy af.
I really want to isolate myself from the world. Become a skinny twig , never touch grass. And unalive myself slowly through maybe starvation.
What is even the point .
Sorry its rough buddy! many of us are here with you! And the sad thing is: society is coming undone, so it will get worse before it gets better! What is your mission in life? What propels you, what are you passionate about doing in life? Try to get firm on this! You have a purpose and a destiny, beyond mere suffering. Do try to stay focused on that! We need you as part of the tribe! Many hands makes the work light! Dont be too quick to Zero yourself out! people notice you & appreciate you and your contributions! unfortunately, we are horrible at getting this across to people before they have completely despaired of life! You are not the only person who feels under-appreciated! So maybe part of your mission is to do what others are unwilling to do: show appreciation to others so they wont feel how you feel? But dont check out & deprive the world of your needed contribution!
Some of us turn to spirituality to fill all the voids that physical life can not fill! There is a good & valid reason why religion & spirituality exists! So be open to adding that to your life if you havent already! Dont buy into the atheist LIES, as they are not there to offer you freedom! They don't care about people; they only pretend to! Your soul is just as much a part of you as your arms, legs & the sex organs, and it needs to be nourished also!
Might as well go out with a bang then.
Hey Alexander , I think in This Video you decode the Enigma Code. This is the closest message to the truth I ever heard off.
Good on you for front-loading the topic. Most UA-camrs hide the bait.
I always like the nuanced points you are making i have the same with huMAN.
In general, I’ve been enjoying the Australian manosphere creators a lot more. The US American ones always load their claims up with politics. Usually wanting to feed you the “orange pill” together with the red one… 😂
The desperately sad truth, is that having a “successful relationship” with a woman demands that you continuously play a complicated game. Honesty and authenticity aren’t going to help. You’re better off with a pet dog.
Unconditional love 🐕
What about the ones that do attract women and they fall in love with them, but the man doesn’t want them to get attached …?
this video slapped me today. I was feeling depressed, now I am better
If you make it to the 8 min mark of the video (and I do agree with Alexander), what you SHOULD ask yourself, imo, is are they really worth it? Most modern Western wahmen themselves HAVE no depth.
Well define loveable. If loveable means being nice, that's not it either. They don't like nice. It either happens or it doesn't. Wahmen don't know what they want. The happiest men are the men that can be OKAY being alone.
This notion that if you can't attract a woman you're going to be lonely is total nonsense. Just because you don't want to date or even get married doesn't mean you're never going to be around anyone. I guess people that think like the person in the video have never heard of people who are just friends. You're not going to date them you're not going to marry them but you still go places and do things to have fun. And some people even have many friends.
This sentiment is one of the things that is wrong with interpersonal relationships today. Yes, you can choose who you are attracted to. Love is not a feeling it's a choice. Understanding this fact is some thing that separates adults from children regardless of age. People want to believe the opposite is true because if it was it makes them not responsible for their actions and feelings. Your feelings are your responsibility to control and direct. This includes who you choose to be attracted too.
If you date a traditional Oriental woman, born and raised in the far east, you can find a very pretty woman even if you aren't super attractive as a man. They place a much higher value on other attributes besides looks. They will treat you as though you are attractive because they find your work ethic, your traditionalism, your desire for a strong family, etc. above your looks. Western women won't do this, but definitely women from the far east will do this.
You kinda forget something.
Looks = Face+Race+Height.
If you're european, and especially have blonde hair and blue eyes then you'll have at any place where the concentration of european people is low an far higher chance.
This is scientifically backed btw. And they still love you only cause of your looks, the values only have a saying in if she is allowed to marry you, and she likely wont if your not an muslim (in oriental)
I’m so sick of all the things a man has to do to “KEEP A WOMEN ATTRACTED“ . My question for you Alexander is, what value is a woman bringing to a men's life that will make us want to do all those things you mentioned in this video ??
They bring all kinds of stuff, none if it will be good, so nothing, he wants you to pay for his advise... bullshit.
Clickbait title. But good advice as always Alex - Cheers!
Thanks you helped me realize that I'm lovable but not attractive. I need to work on that.
Bros. This man is 100% right. Trust me listen to him. Everything he is saying is true. Reason why I am happily married with a son and now trying for another baby. Women don't want just a cuddle buddy they want a real man at the same time they can talk to about anything. And know you got their back all the way. But also be able to put your foot down when things are happening.
@ Alexander Grace Damn good video 🏆💎👍🏼
When their physical beauty standards start with 6 foot tall and below it is considered as dwarf or invisible then there is not much you can do to become attractive in her eyes physically.
This video is bullseye for me, wow. Thank you AG!
You spelled bullshit wrong.
Attractiveness is the foot in the door.
Past that, it's how good a leader and how kind and reliable you are.
These harpies aren’t worth retaining in the first place. Get your passports brothers, it’s better overseas. Thailand 🇹🇭 thank me later
Honestly I've known "nice Guys" who really had many women fall for them and desire them but the difference they had to the stereotypical "nice guy" is that it absolutely came from a geniune place and given unconditional.
If you base niceness on covert contracts it becomes meaningless. If niceness just becomes submission to girls it probably won't work either. Girls can be quite emotionally intelligent and can smell those things out and won't be attracted anymore.
But from whate I've seen geniune niceness and kindness even when your are really shy or a bit socially awkward can get you far with some girls.
At least from personal expierences.
Those guys were nowhere near to a chadlike look either. (And none of my girl friends have ever dated a chad either).
I'm one of those girls and I confirm what you've said.
I only had long-term relationships (or attempts at) all my life, and only with the genuinely polite, respectful, above-average-cooperative guys.
Absolutely stayed away from the "male model" looking ones (face and body) since highschool. Those are the least grateful ones. And I am consciously looking for a man with a high level of thankfulness for being in a relationship (with an emotionally stable, cooperative, positive attitude kind of girl that I am).
With that said, I definitely had a radar that immediately detected when a guy is being "strategically nice". "Commercial trade-off" obedient. I could be merciless to those when I was younger.
Like, he's doing everything perfectly, he's saying all the right things, but I feel there is a scheming conniving brain behind it all. I see it's a person who just needs to have a control over every situation in life. Which reveals - fear. Fear is not sexy in a man. Fear and panic are underlying all the "seduction artist" skills. "Skills" being just bio-hacking tricks and shortcuts.
The more skillful a guy is at chatting me up, the more alarmed I am that he would probably be a Sociopathic, Narcissistic Personality Disorder type of person.
I always took the clumsy, dorky, shy, no fashion style, average looking guy, but truthful to whatever and whoever he is, over a guy who's so obviously "learned" "everything" about women in various UA-cam channels created by bitter men lacking empathy and lacking capacity for self-criticism, for owning their part of responsibility for failure in relationships.
Funnily enough, I always "friend zoned" those pretty boys who could have any girl they wanted.
They actually make great friends, these narcissistic types, charming, witty, theatrical, above average intelligent, etc. We go out in a group of friends, we put on a show, we attract attention, we have fun, and then.. boy do I love coming home to my sincere, non-instagrammable man.
No, they just happen to fall for those nice guys because, again, they just happen to be extremely good-looking in a feminine prettyboy sense, if they were average looking they wouldn't give a S about their niceness, they only like him because of his POWER (his good looks), woman aren't wired to reward nice behaviour, it isn't appealing to them on a instinctual/primal level, nice try.
@@marcelobasilio2028 No they weren't, I'm sorry. Not even in a pretty boy way. Not everything can be blamed on looks alone. Of course it's a factor as you tolarate more from an attractive person, but it isn't the only attractor in the world, it helps, for sure, but it isn't everything.
@@marcelobasilio2028 I seem to be wired to "reward" nice behavior. In my case, and even to my own surprise, it actually is very appealing to me on an instinctual level, to be more precise, the moment I see him all sweet and clumsy and shy, and obviously into me, suddenly my heart races and I am turned on, seksually. I feel like a predator, a lioness that just saw a young, inexperienced, limping antilope. It's on. I'm gonna get ta. Don't be shy, I'll teach you everything you need to know. And I will be extra careful not to hurt your self-esteem in the process, but rather to boost it.
Voilà.
To each his/her own.
Some girls ( ok most of my girl-friends, although not all) like so called tough guys, guys who display power as you said. But some of us totally want to puke around those types, and have no respect for those others who, though originally nice, try to imitate the genuine bad boys.
I appreciate and respect myself. If a guy's behavior towards me doesn't match that, something in me, both in my brain and in my vagina, doesn't recognize that as mating material.
Guys with some form of "Power"? Instantly want them to be my friends, as I said already. It's great to hang out with someone powerful. But I would fear letting such a savage in my inner world.
I hope I explained myself more clearly this time.
@@miovicdina7706 oh you are old(30+) that explains it. We man often when speaking of woman we are referring to 18-25 past that is old, yeah when woman are old they like and chase good man hence good man finish last. But I'm sure this guy is talking about normal pre-wall smashers. Lastly where I'm from you are known as a VB (virg.n breaker) a woman who has given up chasing the chads(bad boys)and being used by them to chase and give less experienced man(good man) a go, often forming lasting relationships with them. My first was a VB most men have 3 opinion when a v on who will take it since regular woman all chase they same guys and won't ever touch a less experienced guy. the vb, the pro and the cougar. So thank you woman like you are needed as well. I'm sure the guy you are with is grateful