Unexpected Surgery | All the details of a D&C

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 317

  • @LookingGlassLibrary
    @LookingGlassLibrary 3 роки тому +382

    This insane series has taught me so much about pregnancy that I'd never heard of! Sending you and your family so much love and positivity in this difficult time.

    • @bebita113
      @bebita113 3 роки тому +3

      Seriously!!! God Bless Her!✨✨🙌🏼❣️💫

  • @HannaGirl955
    @HannaGirl955 3 роки тому +500

    when you got out of the surgery and were talking waiting for Alex you sounded so southern! Accent very strong under aneasthetic.

    • @samanthaetak
      @samanthaetak 3 роки тому +5

      Yes!!!

    • @FHG2088
      @FHG2088 3 роки тому +14

      You are so brave for sharing Elle, you’re going to help so many people feel less scared and less alone. Wishing you peace and healing. ❤️

    • @JessSidey
      @JessSidey 3 роки тому +4

      I thought this too!

    • @alyg6109
      @alyg6109 3 роки тому +3

      Yes!!!

    • @Jess236
      @Jess236 3 роки тому +9

      I thought the same! So southern! It was cute to see. X

  • @Books4breakfast
    @Books4breakfast 3 роки тому +301

    I immediately teared up when you said “My mama will be there”. I could tell you were so relieved at the thought of her waiting for you at home. Sending you lots of healing love ❤️

  • @Peachessxo
    @Peachessxo 3 роки тому +412

    Your southern accent really came out after the surgery which made me chuckle. I know this is a really rough video but that moment was so real and I loved it!

    • @laurac7752
      @laurac7752 3 роки тому +12

      Oh i noticed that too 😆

    • @Lindsay2313
      @Lindsay2313 3 роки тому +18

      I caught myself chuckling also! I was like no Lindsay she just had to have a d & c! But it was funny to see what “Drunk Elle” would be like🤣 my Midwestern twang likes to come out after I have a couple adult beverages lol

    • @YouAdii
      @YouAdii 3 роки тому

      Yes, on a lighter note. That southern accent showed up and showed out! lol.
      I only had my headphones on. I was like "Who is this sweet, older, southern lady talking?"
      After waking from my first surgery I felt euphoric.
      In that moment I understood why people take drugs.
      But I digress. Back to being serious.
      Bless you Elle for sharing your experience for others to find.

  • @Kamarca
    @Kamarca 3 роки тому +270

    Elle, a bunch of us shared your story with Mama Dr. Jones, hoping she would approach you to collab. I think it would help so many women. Please consider reaching out to her if she hasn't already contacted you.

    • @lindacollings8554
      @lindacollings8554 3 роки тому +12

      Yes !! Oh my gosh this would be so good !

    • @mariefroehlke1813
      @mariefroehlke1813 3 роки тому +6

      Omg yes! I would love to see this

    • @Dee-oe3ww
      @Dee-oe3ww 3 роки тому +3

      I would love to see this as well! She is so informative. Please do this if you are comfortable.

    • @bryanaperry8760
      @bryanaperry8760 3 роки тому

      I agree!

    • @evelynf.8790
      @evelynf.8790 3 роки тому

      I think this is such a great idea!

  • @smilesarelove111
    @smilesarelove111 3 роки тому +132

    1400 even with insurance??? Lord. The Healthcare system is bullshit

    • @lovelylivie14
      @lovelylivie14 3 роки тому +17

      As a healthcare worker, can confirm 🙊😂🤦🏼‍♀️ I fully think IVF, IUI, D/Cs should be covered fully. Infuriating!

    • @cvjjhfsdgh
      @cvjjhfsdgh 3 роки тому +2

      @@lovelylivie14 well in Germany it’s similar, you get one cycle for free and after that you are on your own. My sister couldn’t afford it, it was heartbreaking :/

    • @tiffprendergast
      @tiffprendergast 3 роки тому

      @@lovelylivie14 yup

  • @herwritingwords
    @herwritingwords 3 роки тому +35

    Thank you for sharing this side of pregnancy that not many know about. So many women will thank you for providing them with this informative video should they ever find themselves in the same situation. I hope you have a very smooth recovery, and I am so sorry for your loss.

  • @PaperTerrace
    @PaperTerrace 3 роки тому +91

    Your accent right after you woke up heheh! Ugh I’m so sorry you have had to go through so much. Fellow infertility mama. I spent 5 years trying to conceive my second baby who is now 2! It’s a road I don’t wish on anyone yet totally worth it in the end.

    • @brat32179
      @brat32179 3 роки тому +2

      I was going to say the same thing. Post-surgery Elle gets real southern. :-)

    • @Keepinitreal55
      @Keepinitreal55 3 роки тому

      What was your reason do you know?

  • @alimarkus4033
    @alimarkus4033 3 роки тому +50

    Thank you again for being so candid and sharing your experience with the world. You have no obligation to publicly display this really difficult experience, but the fact that you are using your platform to help other people feel less alone is so incredible.

  • @letstalkabooutthis
    @letstalkabooutthis 3 роки тому +45

    Just a warning to other mamas. D&Cs don’t always look like this. Sometimes you have to advocate for yourself.
    I didn’t know this and was subjected to an unmedicated d&c on the spot after I was told my baby hadn’t grown since my last ultrasound.
    It was deeply traumatic. I saw everything, I heard and felt everything.
    You don’t have to go through that. But I didn’t know.

    • @letstalkabooutthis
      @letstalkabooutthis 3 роки тому +8

      That said. It brings me comfort to know not all women are subjected to this kind of treatment.

    • @vickyw9898
      @vickyw9898 3 роки тому +7

      I’m so sorry you experienced that 😞

    • @Shield954
      @Shield954 Рік тому

      Men are given anesthesia for vasectomies, testicular biopsies, prostate biopsies, etc. It's barbaric and inhumane for doctors to perform gynecological procedures on women without anesthesia. If you were not given anesthesia, I would sue for gender discrimination. You can ask a lawyer what your options are. A lot of lawyers offer a free consultation and they don't charge their client unless they win the case. It's time for women to start fighting back and stop putting up with the blatant sexism in the healthcare industry.

    • @Shield954
      @Shield954 Рік тому

      Women are treated like livestock in the healthcare industry

  • @LifeIsSpectacular
    @LifeIsSpectacular 3 роки тому +26

    Others have pointed it out but your accent after your surgery is so cute. I love that you put that clip in, you are so precious. I know it must be hard to put everything you’re going through out in public, but I am so thankful for it. I’ve been following your channel for so long and I love the direction it’s going. I start infertility treatment soon and I am so nervous!

  • @Clisare
    @Clisare 3 роки тому +26

    This is so informative, thank you for sharing. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in November but as the foetus stopped growing at 7 weeks, I ended up passing the foetus naturally and didn't need a D&C, so I found this so educational to hear about the other option. Sending love. 💕

  • @MsRed45
    @MsRed45 3 роки тому +122

    Now I know Alex doesn’t appear in your videos often but I would like to hear from him in his words his experience and his advice to others.

    • @jottamartins
      @jottamartins 3 роки тому +21

      Particularly in the last video, when Elle was talking about how she was focusing on the miss opportunity of trying the next cycle, but Alex just wanted to make sure she was ok, and get healthy again, how scare he was for her.... I remember thinking how women are more openly sharing their stories and emotional and physical struggles regarding miscarriage, but what about their partners? How it affects them? I would never dream to ask, but it's a rare perspective on the subject.

    • @xMia311
      @xMia311 3 роки тому +11

      I’ve been saying this on most of her videos in this series! She made the wonderful point that having these videos to help other women, and I feel that Alex could be a great source for the fathers and or Significant others to have a clue what they might be going through,

    • @laurac2657
      @laurac2657 3 роки тому +4

      I think it would be useful to partners looking to support their significant other during this, and to help them feel heard and valid in their way or processing what’s happening. I imagine it’s hard to be on the “outside” not actually experiencing the miscarriage, but also grieving the loss, and seeing your wife or girlfriend deal with it first hand.

    • @laurabrown7133
      @laurabrown7133 3 роки тому +3

      I thought this too! I would love a video on this from a husbands’s perspective.

  • @arielkpowell
    @arielkpowell 3 роки тому +11

    Thank you so much for making this video Elle!! I am going into a D&C on Friday 😔 and I’m terrified since I’ve never had a surgery (ever) but this has helped me know what to expect and pray that mine goes as smooth and painless as yours!! 💖💖 I’m so sorry you had to go through this whole crazy journey but you are helping so many people like myself and we’re all in this fertility journey together

    • @serobinson1
      @serobinson1 3 роки тому +3

      I’m so sorry for your loss

    • @arielkpowell
      @arielkpowell 3 роки тому

      @@serobinson1 thank you 💖

  • @kammieheff
    @kammieheff 3 роки тому +7

    I just had a full hysterectomy, and I woke up with no pain....I had hyped it up for WEEKS in prep for the pain .....felt like a bad period really❤❤ glad you had your mama....we would do anything for our kids

    • @akajol
      @akajol 3 роки тому

      So glad to read this... I’m having one in the next few months.

  • @LookingGlassLibrary
    @LookingGlassLibrary 3 роки тому +106

    $1400?? After insurance??? Dang. As a Canadian, I'm always so shocked by the cost of things in places that don't have universal healthcare.

    • @zt7769
      @zt7769 3 роки тому +23

      Omg same here. I can‘t imagine paying that much money for a surgery. Literally terrifying as a German.

    • @44amanda
      @44amanda 3 роки тому +19

      Same! Having babies here is mostly free so I was very unaware that it can cost like 30 thousand to have a baby in America. That seems insane.

    • @LookingGlassLibrary
      @LookingGlassLibrary 3 роки тому +20

      @@44amanda Right?? It seems deeply unethical to make someone pay 30k just to have a child.

    • @BrunkenLady
      @BrunkenLady 3 роки тому +13

      I think it's beyond horrible that people have to pay for health care. Like this is not an elective surgery this is a critical situation. It's crazy!

    • @justawir
      @justawir 3 роки тому +8

      Right!? And what , if you cant afford 1400 ( not even talking about not being able to have insurance) ? Are you left to die ? 😱

  • @RaquelAlbaBeauty
    @RaquelAlbaBeauty 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much for putting your story out there. I never knew this side of pregnancy, and this is something no one ever talks about, so thank you again. Praying for you and your sweet family through this time 🙏💕

  • @Lighxx
    @Lighxx 3 роки тому +34

    Honestly the burning when you were peeing was most likely because they put in a catheter when you were under! Lol

  • @AshlieNicole22
    @AshlieNicole22 3 роки тому +2

    Oh Elle, this whole video was tough to watch, but something about the particular way you said “my mama will be there” when you were waking up, made my eyes tear a bit. Nothing quite like the comfort of a mother. Sending you and your family love during this difficult time

  • @NikkiCox81
    @NikkiCox81 3 роки тому +5

    I'm so happy you had an easy recovery. You were so sweet in the clip where you were waking up. That southern accent was strong. :) All the prayers for you and Alex!

  • @lindsayanne5023
    @lindsayanne5023 Рік тому

    I am driving home from my D&C right now. I had a very similar experience to yours. Your videos have truly helped me. Thank you for you openness, kindness, and all your encouraging words and advice to your viewers. This hasn’t been easy, but watching your videos makes me feel less alone.

  • @JohannaB19
    @JohannaB19 3 роки тому +6

    I’m glad to see the end of this story as it’s been so painful to watch. The only way is up from here and I can’t wait to hear your happy news 💕

  • @eileenyanez
    @eileenyanez 3 роки тому +21

    This whole video breaks my heart. As a long time follower I just wanna see you have everything your heart desires.
    But I appreciate everything you are sharing. It’s eye opening and educational to me. Growing up they tell us our bodies can just have children no problem. They never highlight the struggles and the other things that can happen.
    I’ve been getting my eggs collected because being single in my 30s I’m worried of the genetic issues later for children, the collection has been a whole different adventure. I didn’t even know I had untreated cysts and they left scar tissue. No one teaches us these things!
    Take care sending love and positive thoughts for you and your family.

  • @MadelynDarby
    @MadelynDarby 3 роки тому +2

    You’re such a strong woman, thank you so much for sharing your story and helping others through this tough time❤️

  • @larataylor6800
    @larataylor6800 3 роки тому +67

    I’m an OR nurse and I’ve been in lots of D&Cs. The anxiety medication they gave you usually makes people forget the part right before surgery. And yes they wait to give it to you so you are fully aware of signing consent and speaking to the members of your care team. Usually you are awake but just don’t remember moving over to the OR table from the bed, breathing oxygen through a face mask, and ultimately being put to sleep by medicine going into your IV. The anesthesia usually makes people shiver or shake after they wake up. Let me know if you have any more specific questions about the surgery part! I’d be happy to help.

    • @ericam2465
      @ericam2465 3 роки тому +3

      Shout out to a fellow OR nurse!! Yes, it is important we share this experience so other women can have the knowledge of what to expect. I always give my D&C patients that extra care and attention because of the circumstances. Had a friend experience both the miscarriage at home, and the D&C. We just do anything we can to offer comfort and support. Glad you had a successful and smooth procedure and experience Elle 💙

    • @jenk7962
      @jenk7962 3 роки тому

      Me too❤️

    • @ijeomachinonsoogunnayaigbu1166
      @ijeomachinonsoogunnayaigbu1166 2 роки тому

      @ lala taylor How long can one wait after D&C to try conceiving again. I have missed miscarriage and when through dnc 5weeks ago. I miscarried at 8 weeks

    • @melissajohnson1082
      @melissajohnson1082 2 роки тому

      Just had mines Tuesday morning

    • @Lizhorrorfan
      @Lizhorrorfan 8 днів тому

      @@melissajohnson1082 Did you have to get a catheter and were you awake when it was inserted?

  • @iebbobLuV78
    @iebbobLuV78 3 роки тому +2

    Such heartache I’m so sorry for your pain 🤍🙏🏻

  • @emmalavinnia9457
    @emmalavinnia9457 3 роки тому +29

    This is so amazing & brave to share❤️ I did want you to know that my friend couldn't find this in search because D&C wasn't in the title (she's going through the same thing & I told her to look it up!) I sent her the link, but just wanted to let you know in case other women specifically searching for a D&C experience struggle to find it too! Completely up to you- just wanted to let you know! Lots of love!

    • @emmalavinnia9457
      @emmalavinnia9457 3 роки тому +3

      Never mind I can see you updated it! Praying for you and your family💜

  • @lindacollings8554
    @lindacollings8554 3 роки тому +16

    As a nurse I have looked after a few d n c patients, I always used to wrap them up in cotton wool in a way. I always gave them the nicest cubicle, warmer blankets and best gowns !
    Sending you all my love Elle!!

  • @pheline24
    @pheline24 3 роки тому

    Bless you for detailing the surgical process you went through. Shining your light into the unknown will be so very helpful for others going through this. You’re such a thoughtful lady. Sending you positive, uplifting thoughts and prayers. 🙏🏻💙💙

  • @chloewest5
    @chloewest5 3 роки тому +1

    You are an angel, and all of us can feel your mothering and nurturing love through everything you post. Also I LOVE to see the Hello Fresh sponsor. You go, girl!!!! All of the love and support in the world for you.

  • @jessparadis2150
    @jessparadis2150 3 роки тому

    I am so glad that you are sharing your story. My sister lost her pregnancy last fall, and had to do this surgery also. It was something none of us had heard about because people just dont talk about it.
    Thank you, this will be so helpful to so many women out there. ❤️

  • @MoonShoesPotter231
    @MoonShoesPotter231 3 роки тому +20

    You're so incredibly strong Elle ! I don't really know what to say but I just want you know that I am sending you endless positive thoughts and to say also thank you for sharing this with us, it can't be easy but I know someone out there will stumble across this video when they need it and it'll make all the difference 💖

  • @kinzaislam5384
    @kinzaislam5384 3 роки тому

    Hi Elle, I have been following you since 2009 and I feel I have grown up with you in a way. I just wanted to reach out and say that I am so sorry for the loss of your baby girl and I really hope that you have the family you have always dreamed of. But I think it is remarkable the way you are transforming your pain and suffering into a force of good to help other mothers who are going through this. Thank you for your strength and bravery and being such a light in the darkness for so many people when they need it the most!

  • @HannaGirl955
    @HannaGirl955 3 роки тому +39

    omg, what would that surgery be without insurance?!? As a Canadian, that sounds so cruel like you lost a baby and almost died/could have cancer and on top of that they are charging you 1400$, insane.

    • @loridar1305
      @loridar1305 3 роки тому +6

      I know right ...my question is what do Americans do if they can't afford the $1400 or no insurance at all? God bless her..she is blessed with strong family support...💕

    • @serobinson1
      @serobinson1 3 роки тому +1

      @@loridar1305 if you are lucky you can get medical assistance ( free insurance) if not the hospital still does what you need and then you have a huge bill you have to make payments on, and if you don’t they sue you

    • @mrsparrish10
      @mrsparrish10 3 роки тому

      The US has a lower tax rate so health insurance isn’t free

    • @serobinson1
      @serobinson1 3 роки тому +1

      @@mrsparrish10 it doesn’t balance . Many people pay over $500 month for insurance and still have $5000 deductibles . We also don’t get monthly child checks

  • @Raenelly7
    @Raenelly7 3 роки тому

    Thank you so very much for sharing all that you are! I wish I had videos like yours when I miscarried. You are helping so many women. You’re helping women who will watch now and don’t know it yet but will unfortunately go through this someday and because of you they will be more prepared.

  • @ohmyrainingducks
    @ohmyrainingducks 3 роки тому +4

    Your story is very very similar to mine. I took the pill and suffered through the horrific pain and vomit. And then the next week I started bleeding heavily at the office and started fainting and woke up in the ER. It turned out there was a blood clot issue and I almost died. I had the DNC and lost 50 pounds over a month from depression.

  • @lex1203
    @lex1203 3 роки тому

    Hi Elle! I really appreciate your sharing this difficult experience in your life. Your videos will help a lot of people... Hope you and your family are feeling a little better. My heart is with you. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @meagankreydin3519
    @meagankreydin3519 3 роки тому

    It is so brave of you to share your story. I truly feel this video will be a godsend to woman in a similar situation. I’m so deeply sorry for you loss and happy you are on the mend physically. I wish you so much luck on your pregnancy journey. ♥️

  • @trailertrish
    @trailertrish 3 роки тому

    ur experience w ur surgery sounds a lot like mine when i had a lipoma removed from my neck. they make u feel so comfortable and cozy and safe. i was so nervous at first but felt really good during and after. 🥰

  • @sillyvillanueva5246
    @sillyvillanueva5246 3 роки тому +13

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I’ve had a few family member and friends that unfortunately have gone through miscarriages too and I can’t believe everything they had to go through. Apart from your baby not being “here” anymore, making all those difficult decisions, etc. No one stronger than a woman and no one more giving than a mom 😔😔😔😔

  • @baileywest8522
    @baileywest8522 3 роки тому

    Happy to hear you are having a smooth recovery, Elle. I've been thinking of you a lot!

  • @Mangomartinisful
    @Mangomartinisful 3 роки тому +9

    What you are doing is so important! We as women only see the the half of what can occur during pregnancy, I had no idea of so many things you (just one person) went through! Can you imagine the information we are missing on what our bodies may go through. Thank you! I know it might have been difficult to relive this and it was not necessary, but you are helping so many!!

  • @elostaunau
    @elostaunau 3 роки тому +11

    Thanks for sharing your difficult experience, southern twang and brutal honesty. You’ve made it that much better for the next person that has to go through this awful ordeal. Sending you lots of hugs from NC!

  • @3scandalous3
    @3scandalous3 3 роки тому

    Learning so much through your videos.
    You're such a strong woman, Elle!
    I'm sure you're helping a lot of people by sharing your experiences❤️.
    Wishing you only the best!

  • @natwandering
    @natwandering 3 роки тому

    Fascinating how your accent was so southern after the surgery when you just woke up! thanks for sharing your story!

  • @246Duckey
    @246Duckey 3 роки тому +10

    I LOVE how southern you sound coming out of anesthesia! So cute!

  • @lmmbchampion
    @lmmbchampion 3 роки тому +8

    I felt so emotional throughout this video. This series is so important but also a tough one. I remember my own journey and all the tests, procedures, angel babies, surgeries, IVF’s. But, it was all worth the 3 year struggle because- I have 2 beautiful miracles 🌈 💗💙. Elle, I know we will be rejoicing your rainbow miracle baby one day soon!! 🙏🏻😘🌈👶🏻

  • @Evie9741
    @Evie9741 3 роки тому

    Thank you for making this video! I’m having a d&c in the morning and I haven’t even been able to sleep because I’m so anxious... this made me feel better🙂

  • @rmilkyswife
    @rmilkyswife 3 роки тому +8

    God be with you. I had a DNC and Ablation after mine.

  • @sammasucci73
    @sammasucci73 3 роки тому

    Wow! I'm shocked the incubated you for this surgery! I'm glad your mom was there for you ❤

  • @pua9435
    @pua9435 3 роки тому +8

    When you’re under the influence of the anesthesia- it’s gotta be the most wholesome high I’ve ever seen 😂

  • @GauchoGirl2015
    @GauchoGirl2015 3 роки тому +22

    Did you notice your southern accent came back when you were waking up from surgery?! 😂😂

  • @Keepinitreal55
    @Keepinitreal55 3 роки тому +6

    I totally relate to wanting your mom there when you have a surgery! when I had my lap surgery, they asked me who do I want to see right after, my fiancé or brother or mom, and I chose my mom. And freakin started crying when I saw my mom. Don’t know why I felt so emotional but it was like seeing home after being so scared about the whole thing! there’s nothing like a bond with your mom!

  • @LaLaKait
    @LaLaKait 3 роки тому +14

    The accent is crazy strong

  • @Kitch3ntoolz
    @Kitch3ntoolz 3 роки тому +13

    They gave me that anxiety med before my back surgery and apparently it was too much and I couldn't stop laughing. It was fantastic lol

    • @lindacollings8554
      @lindacollings8554 3 роки тому +2

      Lol I had it pre oral surgery the specialist was like "ok then" lol

    • @dace8828
      @dace8828 3 роки тому +2

      I could not stop giggling on my way to the operating room. I had this urge to tell stupid jokes and could not shut up. Also i asked if they could slip me some when i go home. They said no. Gutted.

  • @kaseyg77
    @kaseyg77 3 роки тому +7

    The clip of you vlogging post-surgery made me giggle! Thank goodness you got your snack. :) Thank you for sharing your story and providing insight to so many.

  • @RebeccaDziwulski416
    @RebeccaDziwulski416 3 роки тому +5

    I’m a periop/ and recovery nurse, a lot of patients wish we gave the meds sooner, legally we cannot. If we give it to you early, we are liable.

  • @amandanicole2715
    @amandanicole2715 3 роки тому +6

    What a wild ride. I have to say it’s nice to hear that little spark back in your voice at the end. Understandably you’ve been beside yourself but that spark is coming back and a silver lining that this will all be okay.

  • @melaniemacdonald2530
    @melaniemacdonald2530 3 роки тому +5

    Elle I've been were you are now. It will get better. I was finally blessed with 2 beautiful baby boys after my 3 miscarriages and 1 DNC. It makes all the moments with my boys even more special. You are an amazing person. This heartache will pass and has only made your stronger.

  • @geminigurl92
    @geminigurl92 3 роки тому

    My heart is with you Elle.

  • @kimzrymiak9040
    @kimzrymiak9040 3 роки тому

    Wow! I’m so glad I already have hello fresh coming next week! Love supporting companies who support their people

  • @efroggys
    @efroggys 3 роки тому +6

    You make me always want to try your sponsors. I feel like you get really good sponsors and good codes. Maybe it’s time to finally try HF!

    • @ElleFowler
      @ElleFowler  3 роки тому +5

      I'm picky with sponsors! Hello Fresh has been incredible.

  • @victoriamorgan7046
    @victoriamorgan7046 3 роки тому +9

    For the anxiety stuff, some people (like me!) have a very chatty and bouncy reaction to it. I started chattering to every single nurse and tech in the place.

    • @dace8828
      @dace8828 3 роки тому

      Same. I was cracking jokes and thought it was hilarious.

  • @fairiedepp
    @fairiedepp 3 роки тому +4

    The D&C was the best decision I've ever made. The pain of my loss was so heart breaking and I didn't want to think about my physical recovery.

  • @HasminRose
    @HasminRose 3 роки тому +2

    The panties part made me giggle too. Thank you so much for sharing 💓

  • @ankyara86
    @ankyara86 3 роки тому +9

    I don't want to be insensitive but I really like post surgery Elle ❤️

  • @oliviabaker6488
    @oliviabaker6488 3 роки тому

    So glad you're ok! So sorry about your sweet baby

  • @julieward1761
    @julieward1761 3 роки тому +2

    Your journey has been so informative and sounds very close to mine except for the molar pregnancy. However, I had a D&C for my miscarriage and it was incredibly painful. It was much worse that I expected. The pain pills didn’t touch the pain abs I cramped for weeks. I’m glad you had a different experience but I’m wondering if that is because you didn’t have the miscarriage that way.

  • @LoveBaseballLove
    @LoveBaseballLove 3 роки тому +4

    I've watched this whole series of videos and my take away from this one is that I'm happy to see you doing better emotionally! The raw grief you have shared is incredible since this situation is so common and still not talked about and you should be commended on your vulnerability. And kudos to hello fresh for sponsoring a video like this, too!

  • @RicanStarz
    @RicanStarz 3 роки тому

    Thanks so much for sharing. I enjoy learning what to expect. Can’t wait to see the home videos.

  • @justmonika3635
    @justmonika3635 3 роки тому +4

    I hated when I woke up after my d&c. I was alone and didn't have my glasses since they took them away from me before the surgery so I was basically blind in a recovery room full of people from all types of day surgeries

  • @ritaalovesmac
    @ritaalovesmac 3 роки тому +5

    I used to think the extra checks were comical too until I went into the hospital last week for endometriosis excision surgery and they had me registered as a deceased person. I will never take it for granted again. Sending lots of love

    • @dace8828
      @dace8828 3 роки тому

      Hope you are recovering well

  • @plannergirljones2551
    @plannergirljones2551 3 роки тому +1

    I had the worst experience I was 13 weeks baby had passed at 7 but no symptoms u til I bled a little I was still sick and growing and sore boobs they send me away to lose it myself I was bleeding and contracting for three weeks!! I finally said my body doesn’t want to let go so insisted on and d and c they said due to asthma I couldn’t be put asleep so got an epidural and was awake the whole time I saw everything they did from the scraping to the blood and the tubes suctioning and even at one point she stoped and said to me oh that unusual I said what! She said oh the baby came out whole in the sack like actually wtf it’s was so so traumatic

  • @ashleybauman8606
    @ashleybauman8606 3 роки тому

    Same about the IV! The hand IV literally gives me so much anxiety, even on other people. Only in the arm!

  • @morganmckittrick199
    @morganmckittrick199 3 роки тому +4

    When you came out of surgery, your accent really came out. ♥️ Love your heart, thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing this with us!

  • @cherielovemakeup
    @cherielovemakeup 2 роки тому +3

    A D&C is considered an abortion. And under current state anti abortion laws, women will not be dispensed medication needed to treat a miscarriage. I hope that everyone watching this video will understand why abortion care is Healthcare for all women. Not just those who are pro choice. Miscarriage affects 1 in 10 pregnancies. Women who have still born babies, will also be required to carry to term in states where abortion is banned. I'm glad Elle shared her story, because it highlights the need for this care.

  • @T_Swizzle.13_fl
    @T_Swizzle.13_fl 3 роки тому +3

    I had secondary infertility and a couple of miscarriages before I carried my second, healthy baby to term. Two miscarriages were early, chemical pregnancies that I wouldn't have even caught if I hadn't been testing and looking for faint lines (which a lot of people will call neurotic and roll their eyes) and then running in for my blood draw to start tracking my beta numbers. It is important to know about every miscarriage so you can get an accurate diagnosis. After my third miscarriage they ordered a multiple miscarriage panel and diagnosed an elevated factor 8 blood clotting factor and put me on the blood thinner Lovanox. The next pregnancy I carried to term. The third miscarriage before that panel, I miscarried at 7 weeks and they told me to wait and see if I miscarried naturally and if not they would do D&C. My doctor said he did not like to prescribe Cytotec because many times women had incomplete miscarriages and would wind up having the surgical procedure anyway. I personally know of another woman who had D&C after incomplete Cytotec miscarriage as well. All this to say, in my case anyway, the miscarriages actually led to a proper diagnosis which enabled me to have a second, healthy pregnancy. It was heartbreaking. But I met my goal in the end and have two healthy kids. I just wanted to hug you on that table. Will be thinking and praying for you, Elle.♥️

  • @debdib36
    @debdib36 3 роки тому +4

    I went through this almost exactly a year ago. I was 17 weeks pregnant. They found some problems with the baby which meant it they wouldn’t be ok. The recovery is the hardest part. And I don’t mean physically

  • @silverhiver
    @silverhiver 3 роки тому

    You went so southern after the anaesthetic hahaha I love it, sending love

  • @victoriamather2267
    @victoriamather2267 3 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing, Elle! ❤️

  • @OSheaPunk
    @OSheaPunk 3 роки тому +3

    $1400 AFTER insurance?!? Madness. Sorry that you had to go through all this.

  • @avelonpang7136
    @avelonpang7136 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for sharing your experience. May I ask how far along you were when you got the D&C?

  • @Dee2468ify
    @Dee2468ify 3 роки тому

    What would you suggest for family members to do or say. My niece found out yesterday at 20 weeks they are losing the baby. I don’t have any details and totally want to respect their privacy but want to let them know we care.

  • @magishuichi
    @magishuichi 3 роки тому +3

    I didn't enjoy the video, but I'm very thankful you put this information out there for anyone that might need it. You are strong, you are beautiful, and you are definitely worthy! Sending you all my love!

  • @jenmichelle523
    @jenmichelle523 3 роки тому +2

    You’re very brave to share this with other people in hopes of education through your heartache. Also, If no one told you (or you don’t remember they did, gotta love that anesthesia amnesia 😉) a lot of people shiver after they wake up from anesthesia..it’s your body’s way of metabolizing it.. it’s normal! (I’m a nurse, worked in PACU for a while). Hopefully they gave you the medicine we use to help! Wishing you a speedy recovery and no cancer on your pathology. ❤️
    your accent is super sweet in your pacu video by the way.

  • @lovelylivie14
    @lovelylivie14 3 роки тому +2

    You 100% deserve the giant Bubble Bar from Lush! The ones the size of your face! My husband got me one and it’s AMAZING! Thank you for sharing your experience!! 💕💕💕

  • @makenziesmith5466
    @makenziesmith5466 3 роки тому +3

    "I feel like I could do a whole video right now, I am doing a video right now"

  • @Books4breakfast
    @Books4breakfast 3 роки тому +2

    Apparently you can ask for a smaller tube for your throat. I had the same issue post-surgery and my singing tutor at the time told me it was common to have a sore throat and a smaller tube could be requested - seriously I thought they messed up and operated on my throat! This was 20 years ago but worth a shot asking for anyone going into surgery.

  • @haleighcasad8513
    @haleighcasad8513 3 роки тому

    I had surgery in June to remove my Fallopian tubes and this was almost verbatim my experience. Except they did allow my husband back in my room, where he stayed during my surgery. But I also questioned whether anything had even happened. It felt like no time at all and my surgery sites where so tiny and small, it was crazy.

  • @CSBundles
    @CSBundles 3 роки тому +3

    I've never had to go through any of this, but I think it's wonderful that you put this out there for others to be able to understand what they could expect. Bless you.

  • @lignesceil
    @lignesceil 3 роки тому +2

    Wow I hate the USA. I can’t believe you had to pay for that surgery.

    • @lignesceil
      @lignesceil 3 роки тому

      So glad to hear you sounding a bit more like yourself again, Elle. Thank you for sharing your journey and all the best to you and Alex (and little James) going forward!

  • @SerafinaP
    @SerafinaP 3 роки тому +2

    I haven't seen the whole video yet, but girl that accent do return with anesthesia huh? I actually have a thick one as well but consciously uncoupled with it about 15 years ago. It comes back on me too. When I woke up from wisdom teeth surgery every one was like I didn't know you were from Boston lol.

  • @Mamabearof216
    @Mamabearof216 3 роки тому +5

    Yes your accent really came out!

  • @blabhblaja
    @blabhblaja 3 роки тому +2

    I kept shivering when I went out of surgery!! Apparently it's common. So glad you are okay Elle, I wish you the best

  • @goharosen
    @goharosen 3 роки тому +5

    My doctor recommended me to do d&c to help with my heavy periods and I resisted for few years but I’m at my wits end and this video eased my mind. Thank you.

    • @TheBlondeBomb1000
      @TheBlondeBomb1000 3 роки тому +3

      I had one for the same reason, 2 years ago. I had a severely heavy period for four months out of the blue. It was because there were small uterine polyps so the uterus keeps bleeding and sloughing off lining to try to shed them (which it can't without surgery). The D&C was a piece of cake - The whole surgery lasted 15 minutes. There was a bit of bleeding after and minor cramps for a few hours, but nothing bothersome. It cured everything. My periods are light and normal ever since. Definitely well worth it.

    • @goharosen
      @goharosen 3 роки тому

      Blondie7 don’t mind me asking but how long were you off work afterwards?

    • @TheBlondeBomb1000
      @TheBlondeBomb1000 3 роки тому +4

      @@goharosen I was off for the day of surgery and the day after. It's a really minor surgery. They just scrape you out. By the next morning I felt totally normal. The cramping was very minor. You have some cramps right after you wake up and they give you IV painkiller while you're in recovery (about an hour), and then they wheel you out to your car and you go home (with your designated driver, obviously). I didn't need any painkillers after, nor did I have any real cramps after that first hour out of surgery. The bleeding tapers quickly as well. You have light spotting for a few days afterward. You feel tired/groggy for the first hour after anaesthesia, but you're only under for such a short amount of time, there's really minimal effect. I am a naturally anxious person and now that i've been through it, this is definitely nothing to worry or stress over.

    • @goharosen
      @goharosen 3 роки тому +4

      @@TheBlondeBomb1000 that makes me feel so much better about going ahead with the surgery. Thank you for taking the time to explain it to me.

    • @TheBlondeBomb1000
      @TheBlondeBomb1000 3 роки тому +3

      @@goharosen No problem! Good luck with your surgery. I think you'll be very happy (and relieved) with the results. Menstrual suffering is so exhausting.

  • @laurac2657
    @laurac2657 3 роки тому +2

    One of my best friends chose the pill, and she said the same thing; if she had to choose all over again, she would choose the D&C.

  • @lucianaleiva518
    @lucianaleiva518 3 роки тому +2

    I'm very sad about all you have to experience. But I know that this story is so important to tell, and you are doing a great job for all the people who is going through it. You are an amazing person and very strong too. I hope the best for you and your family! 💕

  • @phoenix1145
    @phoenix1145 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your experience, I’m glad you’re feeling better and processing everything. Hoping for good news from pathology! 🤞

  • @wifemombagobsessed8471
    @wifemombagobsessed8471 3 роки тому +16

    Omg your accent under Anesthesia had
    Me laughing ... thank you for sharing your story with us ... you are going to help so many people

  • @starshell84
    @starshell84 3 роки тому +1

    I've had two D and Cs for polyp removal first time I only wanted about 2 hours then was put under immediately and they did not give me anything for anxiety but I wasn't as nervous as the second time, I did wake up with chills and shaking the first time, the second time I waited hours and was so anxious they put the IV in my hand my hand was getting puffy and numb until they gave me a pillow, they finally took me in they gave something for anxiety that yes worked in seconds lol and was out instantly woke up feeling hot and so out of it, could even sit up bleeding was heavier than the first time and had the burning when I peed and they also gave me a mesh panty the second time but not the first time, I was put under both times they told me if I get s second biopsy I might not go under but will be an in office procedure which I hope and pray I don't have to do, I am hoping and praying that after these two times and polyp removals that I can conceive as I have been struggling with heavy periods and pain and unexplained infertility 🙏