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Wishing you the best with your pain, I know it sucks. Sometimes that is not the right word , I’m sure you know what I mean. I 💜 your you tube page with potato 🥔 and Judy. Woof 🐶 to them.
im loving the "bestie you look the same as you always do" art
Not the consequences of her own actions 😢
ALR could never comprehend the absurdity of your statement 😂❤
Imagine ALR thinking she’d get wifey back by making her jealous, but then wifey uses this as an excuse to finally cut all contact. ALR would be forced to blame herself, but she can’t do that. She will self destruct and short circuit now
Same with zach and his health not? Not right cooking wct weight gain? He looks so much worse then 5 sears ago! Iam healhy and thin but i have lipodema and i saw amerlyn she HAS lipodema!!!! StGe 4! Iam a nurse and so sad to see a zach making fan of poeple and always laughing exp on lipodema and lymphodema. Im thin and ha e it and saw her photos she has it omg. No wonder zach looks so so old nd he is so young😭
Wich one? Tell? Lynphedema?
@@colleenharding8665 she reminds me of someone i know with a lot of narcissistic tendencies. Once this person made an extremely rash decision to get me to beg them to let me stick around and I used it as an excuse to nope out, like alr and feline. This was like 3 years ago and the person still cannot fathom that i am done with them. So they call me every bad name under the sun because they cannot accept fault. I feel like alr probably was harrassing tf out of feline for awhile before going "no contact"
"What's the difference?" - The difference between riding around on a scooter with Becky vs Wifey was that she had successfully dehumanized Becky to the point where her thoughts, feelings, and concerns were irrelevant to Amber's desire to be comfortable. She didn't feel the need to impress Becky - Becky already loved her and was willing to do anything she could to keep her. Wifey needed to be convinced that Amber wouldn't be a burden. Wifey needed to be wooed.
this this this this
narcs love to do this, they treat u like shit and then turn around and put their best face for someone who doesn't know who they really are...until they find out and the circle repeats
Totally, it’s so “obvious” lol
It wasn't that Beck was so in love with ALR and "would do anything to keep her." It's that Beck was broken down after years of narcissistic and abusive behavior. Narcs will do that. They break you down. Until thankfully, Beck broke the cycle and broke up with ALR. So, ALR moved on to a new victim.
@@lhvy5066for real omg
I was diagnosed with bpd at 19. after loads of therapy, cutting people out, letting people in, learning how to create and maintain positive relationships, almost ten years later, I no longer meet the criteria. I get why she kept it a secret, people hear it and form opinions instantly. it takes a lot of work, like she says, and it's _so_ worth it.
❤ I know I am just a stranger, but your comment heartened me greatly. Allow me to acknowledge the scope of such a feat, and let you know how much I appreciate you commenting.
Work in therapy is so hard. You should be proud of all the work you put in and continue to put in! It's so beautiful to hear success stories - they inspire others.
Congratulations on your remission. It's usually 7-10+ years of hard work and understanding to get to that point.🎉 You miss feel so free :)
Thank you for sharing this!! And congratulations.
Had therapy basically mentally whup my ass to get some of the more toxic bpd traits under control for me. I still have a few hiccups but oooo boy was I a toxic little shit in the past.
"I went through a heart break in private" ....seen crying daily on tik tok 🙄
IF wifey told Amber she was hurt by Amber "falling in love" with a likely troll, it was an excuse to go no contact without having to cite the real reasons.
Right. Because it was only days after she broke up with Becky that she was in love with Jade. Make it make sense.
The fact that wipey told the future?? Wowie
BPD makes a lot of sense to me. Her mirroring others, the cycles she goes through, intense and unstable relationships, the attachment to people and “falling in love” fast, the addiction issues…and it stems from childhood trauma and abandonment in an early age. She CAN overcome it if she puts in the work. But with that work, she can free herself. Without it, she’ll stay trapped in the toxic cycles forever. It’s a blessing and a curse to be diagnosed.
I feel like, she’s not gonna do it. With her record
An her abusing ppl
Having been close friends with people who have BPD I think it fits her perfectly.
@@jborrego2406 ignorant and quite frankly, a vile comment. You are insinuating that abusing people is a symptom of bpd. Great job showing your ignorance. There are abusive people out there that abuse other but there are also abusive people out there that have depression, or anxiety, or no disorders at all! Abuse is not a symptom of any of those. Sometimes shitty people are just shitty. Please educate yourself.
Been saying this for years
A few things, from my perspective:
1. She only went to see a BPD specialist right before moving as a last ditch effort to get wifey to stay, as if to say “See?! I’m working on my issues!” but it was too little too late.
2. Wifey’s the one who ghosted her. She just stopped answering Amber’s barrage of texts and, when confronted about that, told Amber to eff off and threatened legal action if she continues to talk about her online. Remember about a week ago she said she was having relationship drama and “isn’t allowed” to talk about it? That was all wifey. She is DONE with Amber’s bs.
3. Her “falling in love” with another girl wasn’t what hurt wifey, it was the way she FLAUNTED IT that hurt her. She says she feels terrible about it but does not. She feels terrible it didn’t make wifey want her back. That whole thing was an ego trip for her and she ended up alone. THAT’S what she feels terrible about.
I wonder how much the move to Oklahoma impacted Wifey's decision too. Not just in a "I don't want to live there way," but also knowing how co-dependent and potentially toxic her relationship with her mom was apt to be.
I wonder how much the move to Oklahoma impacted Wifey's decision too. Not just in a "I don't want to live there way," but also knowing how co-dependent and potentially toxic her relationship with her mom was apt to be.
The bpd COMES Up when this girl wants to distance herself which weirds me ...out. Its not great.
One of the most frustrating things for me is seeing someone as privileged as Amber, with every resource at her fingertips, ultimately do nothing to really work through her issues…what I would give to be able to afford therapy and be able to truly work through my shit…
It's because she needs to have her issues not be adressed, so she can use them as a crutch to explain away her bad behaviour and also use it as s victim card. That is why she NEVER adresses her issues. She doesn't take medication nor does she do treatment plans.
I mean she has money but she certainly doesn’t have a support system from friends and extended family that’s for sure. I would say the resources are extremely limited and her privileged days are numbered.
She doesn't make the money she use to. Her views are way down. Social Blade shows her estimated earnings at about $3,000 a month now. People are losing interest in her lies and behavior.
Right! If I had her money I'd go to ed recovery but a bitch is broke over here 😂
She doesn't need to apologize for not posted to the YTs...she needs to apologize for those cringy tik toks
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And gaslighting TF out of us saying she’s not looking for a new gorl
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The diagnosis makes sense, it explains why she picks up the personality quirks of her friends, partners and media consumption
Everyone has been diagnosing her with this for years. And we were right
Heck a lot of folks with bpd like myself clocked her on it for years. @@amandah3619
But it doesn't explain her lack of empathy, lack of guilt, or her lack of accountability. Sociopathy does explain that however.
@amandah3619 all the armchair therapists aren't qualified to diagnose her. It takes licensed professionals years to give a BPD diagnosis because it's symptoms align with so many other personality disorders. Amber has never stayed in therapy long enough for a correct diagnosis.
It depends. If I go thru a switch with someone ( Where I go from really liking someone to really hating them quickly ) my brain pretty much saves all my empathy for other people. Once its made up its mind about someone, its really hard to undo that. Kinda why Amber is so easy to win over. Thankfully whenever she's mean, she's also hella dumb @@ximar0ckstrx
"i REALLY hurt her by falling in love with someone else" yeah that's why she sat there crying on camera for a month because wifey clearly made the breakup decision and giggled about still messing around with wifey after the breakup and flirted with her whenever she was nearby during a vlog-because she was in love with someone else. how is she going to say "i thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with this girl" and then say i fell in love with someone else?? oh that's right, because everyone always has to be in love with and obsessed with ALR and be torn apart when they can't have her anymore.
I thought she meant she fell in love with someone after the breakup and wifey was upset about it. Girly needs to be clearer about things, then she wonders why everyone gets confused
she REALLY thinks she's a catch omg
ALR has the emotional intelligence of a 10 year old. It’s really sad. I don’t think she knows what being in love is.
To be fair, she is fully convinced she's going to marry and spend the rest of her life with every single person she dates/talks to for a month 😅
Its only been FIVE DAYS since Amber left Jade alone .
Amber has no consideration for people’s boundaries. This has been proven time and time again. Krystle would cover her face and literally run away from amber when she’d catch her filming her. She’d film destiny in various stages of undress. She harassed her aunt so bad that her aunt blocked her number. Then amber harassed her on FB and multiple other social platforms and her aunt had to block her on those as well. Destiny had to tell her to leave her aunt alone. And now jade. I’m curious how long she was harassing jade.
She’s a celery stalkie.
@@Citykitty23and don't forget Amber was stalking her destiny when she had her new girlfriend had her co-worker drive her to destiny's new girlfriend's house and texting destiny I know where you are
@@Citykitty23 AND the nutritionist/dietician who felt sorry for her and volunteered to help her free of charge. ALR repeatedly texted/called her, including while the woman was having Thanksgiving dinner with her family!!! That woman finally blocked her as well. ALR is certifiable and will continue being a disaster and wreaking havoc in other people's lives until she is no longer with us...which I predict will be within two years. I would pity her too if not for the blatant arrogance/conceit (worshipping herself in the mirror, kissing the air with her ducklips, constantly caressing her hair, thinking she's so "desirable"). But I stopped feeling sorry for her when I realized what a sociopath she really is. JMO
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THANK YOU, ZM! I felt the exact same way when she rolled out the BPD dx, but you worded it eloquently. She finds out the answer to a problem, she'll talk about it, but then stalls. Life is not hard for just you, ALR. There are so many more people out there battling just as much, if not more, with much less. 😒🙄😠
Let me get this straight: she didn't care what Becky thought or felt when Pookie was cruising around in the scooter but she was ashamed for Wipey to see her do it? For real..? Wipey blocked that number as soon as she dumped Amber on the curb and pulled off.
She always thought she was better than Beck, even when she couldn't wipe herself or walk. Since she felt like she was above her, she had no real need to feel shame. She didn't feel superior to Wifey, and I think she felt like she had to maintain some pretense of "I'm going to get better so we can travel and do the things you want to do" in order to keep her around. That's why I still think backing out of surgery was kind of the last straw - Wifey wanted more out of life and she had to accept that Amber just isn't interested in changing. Amber didn't care about upholding that pretense with Beck since she thought she was better.
Amber also thinks she's superior to the people on My 600lbs Life, she sees those people on the show as beneath her, no joke.
@@petty-davis I agree with this. I think its no coincidence the relationship failed after she stopped pursuing WLS. its pretty plain to see that amberlynn gives up at the last second before the hard work ever really begins
Thank you Zach for verbalizing what I felt while listening to Amberlyn. I have major depressive disorder which is currently under control by medication, ACT therapy, and excercise. Although I'm in a good place now, it took a lot of hard work and years to get here. To hear her reduce it to a "just take a pill" cure is frustrating.
I am diagnosed with BPD, PDD, c-PTSD, Disassociative Disorder and Panic Disorder. Listening to Amber speak on any mental health issues so nonchalantly truly angers me. No, none of it is as simple a popping a pill. It's all hard work. REAL work! I'm currently 3.5 years into my DBT therapy and am now starting EMDR to minimize my triggers. I was also looking into ECT but I ended up having a stroke and the side effects were the same as ECT 🤷🏽♀️. None of this is cute or quorky. But BPD is cureable with extensive and long term therapy. Her saying there is no treatment, there is no pill, is reading like she's preparing her forever excuse to condone her atrocious behavior
@@ximar0ckstrx sending you a virtual hug. I have done EMDR to deal with some specific incidents from my past. It did help with reducing my anxiety. I hope it works for you.
@@ximar0ckstrxI'm schizoaffective bipolar, autistic, oppositional defiance disorder and a LOT more lol but it's def not j "take a pill" it helps but I know I NEED therapy. I can't wait till I can afford it n work on myself more
The way she talks about Jade and how hard it is for her to respect Jade’s boundaries is so selfish. Empathlynn strikes again
Of course she enjoyed vlogmas: it was all about presents. It was all about STUFF so no wonder it made her feel good.
And showing the stuff off that she bought for her girlfriend and everyone else. “Look how rich and kind and cool I am” 😂
@@LaurenWoz421 Exactly! And now she doesn't have a girlfriend to spoil with gifts!
as someone with BPD i am not excited for her using BPD as an excuse arc.. its already stigmatized enough as it is. i hope she actually tries but i don't have much hope for that
Just know that if you keep trying then you are doing the right thing for yourself and your loved ones. Amber only seems to care about herself so she wont put in the work.
@@justjamie1715 jamie from twitch u beautiful angel thank you 🖤🖤i have been working on getting better for years now and it's paid off a lot :,)) it's an exhausting thing to have and you have to take a lot of accountability to get better but it's doable if you really want to, especially if you actively have access to mental help. i can only hope amberlynn utilizes the countless resources she has to get better.
Welcome to the infuriation society that us bipolar gorlies have been in for the last few years 😂
You mean like every other internet BPD girlie out there? Lol
Edit: I had BPD, after years of therapy I no longer meet the criteria. I am so tired of these girlies using it to excuse their poor behavior. Get DBT y’all.
@@popartpistolI have both so I'm just over here like 🧍♂️
Therapist1: You have bipolar, anxiety, ptsd, and probable adhd. Here's some medication to help.
Amber: I don't like taking medication, so I'll just write in a journal, read books and talk to my viewers about my issues every day instead.
Therapist2: You have BPD so you have to work on yourself by filling out notebooks, reading material and talk to me about your issues every day.
Amber: Too much hard work! 😭😭😭
Exactly why I don’t feel bad for her
Exactly why I dont believe her BPD diagnosis. It's the mildest (as bad as it is) of the personality disorders that requires her to do what she already claims to do. Read, journal, talk therapy. But what Amber failed to realize is that medications ARE used to treat BPD symptoms along with DBT and EMDR therapies. DBT therapy is long and intensive and teaches you to retrain your brain. EMDR retrains your brain on how to minimize intense reactions to triggers. And of course medications treats the depression and anxiety. But the thing is, BPD usually takes years (or at least many many months) of extensive therapy to diagnose. Beczuse the symptoms align so much with other disorders like NPD, HPD, Sociopathy, etc. it's easy to misdiagnose these disorders with another. Amber also came out with this BPD diagnosis AFTER her idol Trisha Paytas was speaking about it and right at the height of the November YT sweeps. Amber's apathy, lack of accountability, and her constant blaming of others for her life are major flags that that it's not BPD, or if it is; she also has NPD or HPD. Please note, I say this as someone diagnosed with BPD and is almost 4 years into my therapy.
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@@ximar0ckstrxNot only that but there are multiple forms of BPD to consider. Schizoaffective bipolar, Bipolar I, Bipolar II, Bipolar with delusional episodes that can be a combination of those three- it's not as simple as just being bipolar, and the distinction can drastically change your treatment. I personally have bipolar II, so my lows are far lower than someone with bipolar I. I'm a higher suicide risk while they're more likely to get in trouble with the law. Neither are exactly good things, but the distinction is so important for effective treatment.
Her trying to act like she was deeply in love with wifey 2.0 while posting thirst trap tiktoks the whole time is hilarious.
good for wifey/jade/faline/Alex cutting off Amber, super weird to fall in love with someone so quickly you’ve never met
There wasn’t anyone. 😂she played herself.
@@Loohoo2right, I agree. She lied to Faline to make her jealous and it ultimately backfired on her. I think Faline was done either way but now she used it as a reason to never go back to Amber. Lol
yeah but also fleeeen should've known, I mean she's the who chose to date Amberlynn,,
also I think her name was also Francis at one point lol
@@LaurenWoz421 i agree. i think there never was a person. she might have never even told wifey about this person. and is just using it as an excuse for why wifey doesn't want to talk to her now, rather than owning up and admitting that wifey was ready to move on before she had moved out
I feel like the thing with Wifey is that Wifey wasn't angry with Amberlynn for "falling in love" with someone else. I think Amberlynn was saying "oh i found this new person and I'm so in love" as a manipulation tactic to try and get back with Wifey. Wifey saw right through this and probably did her best to stay cordial while she had to still live with Amber and once she was a safe distance away she could tell Amber that she wanted to go no contact. Of course it is also possible that Wifey was a bit hurt by Amberlynn going online 3 minutes after they broke up and saying "I found a new love of my life." I would be hurt by that and it would certainly make me want to get far far away from them.
I think that's probably the case too. I don't think she ever accepted that the breakup with Wifey was real and was trying every manipulation trick she had to try to win her back. When Wifey actually left her in OK she lost her damn mind because it finally sank in that they really were broken up and she wasn't going to have some Rom-Com ending.
That's what I think, too. And they were still living together AND hooking up, so I think most anyone would have some messy feelings in that situation.
We all saw Jade pulling away from Amber after the breakup. We rarely heard, much less saw Jade for those three months, the refrigerator emptied out, her laundry piled up, Amber was in the living room late into the night filming so it was obvious Jade wasn't there, and all the time Amber was insisting that Jade was still there. Maybe she was sometimes, but she wasn't cooking for Amber and was showing her she was pretty much done. Jade asking now to be left alone shouldn't have come as a surprise.
Jade's willingness to do the 15 hour trip (and return) to drop Amber off was a kind thing to do (period) and Amber should remember that and stop spinning fantasies about how much Jade still loves her. If Amber has BPD and/or HPD, her tendency to want to hold on to an ex and believe her own delusions is one of the symptoms of the disorder that she needs to work on with therapy. It could help her control her emotions which are hurting her, not just numb them, because she reacts badly when her fictional accounts don't match with the reality of other people's feelings and desires.
I also find it a little disturbing that Amber said her mother "doesn't really know how to be a mother", when it seems to me her mother has been trying really hard lately to be there for her. Amber needs to be realistic about her expectations for her family's involvement with her on a day to day basis and not go off on how much they love her because that start to sound like her expectations of Jade.
Didn’t see that one coming. Good for you, wifey.
I was taken aback initially but then I thought about it and her track record actually would indicate they were probably over it by the time they broke up. Beckles density they all get tired of our gorls nonsense
Mental health professional here, a lot of symptoms overlap that's why so many people get misdiagnosed all the time.
That makes sense. Thanks for sharing 💕
Especially when they fish for them, or creatively interpret what one’s doctor says
@@creatrixZBD are you salty? 😂🤣 A FP is hardly ever correct as they did not go eight years to medical school to learn a speciality (like a psychologist that learns how to interpret diagnostic tests).
Thank you!!! Symptoms also overlap because a lot of them are so close together… as someone can have MULTIPLE diagnoses hence why the overlap. Something I don’t know why someone, such as ZM can’t seem to comprehend as he’s “so into mental health.”
(not a professional, so probably I'm way off)
But I wonder if the actual diagnosis (PTSD, CPTSD, BPD, ... whatever) is really that important at this point?
I think because for me it has always been like that: Before you get into the nitty-gritty you first have to undergo a phase of stabilisation, learning healthy coping skills etc. Just to be able to confront what lies underneath.
It seems she hasn't taken those first steps which are not that different for the different diagnosis, or are they?
To me it seems like stalling, this waiting for the final diagnosis, if you could have started with the basics a long time ago.
Man I wish Amber would stick to pursuing mental health help because CLEARLY this move is really doing a number on her.
If ahe cared about getting help and change, she would have done it by now. She just wants to keep adding sh*t to her "mentals" list, so she can make excuses for her behavior.
amber being upset that she has to put in actual work to deal with her bpd is infuriating
I was friends with someone who has BPD a long time ago. Every other word out of her mouth was “it’s my BPD” and it was absolutely exhausting. She was an incredibly difficult person to be around, hence why we aren’t friends anymore. One of the biggest symptoms of BPD is latching onto one person and not being able to maintain a relationship with anyone OTHER than that one person. It puts tremendous pressure on that one person, and it adds insult to injury by excusing every little behavior you exhibit by saying it’s your disorder. This brings back so many memories for me. And not in a good way.
That's how I feel about life plus cindy. When Zach stopped covering her I subbed to her channel to keep caught up but slowly realized but was just the same thing over and over and over again
They will wear you out, and suck the life out of you.we deserve to be happy. Bye❤❤❤😊
Your ex friend did not put in the work 😂 and it’s good you were able to create a boundary for yourself there. You are not obligated to deal with other people’s negative behaviors
@@missinchoate exactly. I loved her dearly and still hope the best for her and her life! But I did not deserve the strain that was put on me in that relationship. She genuinely was not putting in any work, just coasting through life using her diagnoses as a barrier from accountability. Who else do we know that does that…? 🤔
I have a couple of friends with BPD who are the most wonderful, caring, rational people BUT the huge difference is they put in so so soooo much work. Every single day they're actively using DBT skills, analysing their behaviour and doing their best. It's absolute night and day between people who take responsibility and those who don't. Amberlynn is the latter.
Zach's "ya'll were broken up" is giving "We were on a break!!!"😂
Faline saw how dumb it was of Amber to try and claim she loved someone else and decided she didn't have time for the BS
Also RIP Matthew Perry
She really does sound so goofy talking about being in love with this stranger 😭
Have you ever had an ex tell you to stop calling after a breakup? She must have been badgering Jade like a psycho. It must have been really bad for her to completely cut Amber off. They don’t live in the same area anymore so it’s not like she’s calling for rides. She probably just wants to talk, but she’s so awful and exhausting Jade’s done. Soulmates forever and she doesn’t even want to waste her energy with a text. I think Amber was in a different relationship this whole time.
If I broke up with someone and they were texting me and telling me they loved and missed me every day, I would block them SO fast. Wild that she doesn't recognize how messed up that is.
What? Amber saying ignorant things about mental health issues? No way.....
Honestly it’s probably what wifey had to do in order to move on, cut amber completely off and say DONT CALL ME DONT TEXT ME WE ARE NOT FRIENDS
I've been saying for years if she had anything it was BPD and damn did I get crucified for not believing it was bipolar 🙃
I was diagnosed with bipolar in 2015, as soon as she popped off with that, I was like, no ma’am. Dr Google may have given her that Pokémon chip but a real doctor didn’t.
Tbf, bpd and bp are highly co-morbid. I have both, professionally diagnosed with both by two psychiatrists and my clinical psychologist who is treating me. Not my place to dx her, but if she does have bp it's bipolar II not bipolar I. She hasn't shown any signs that imply mania or psychosis. If she has bp then she should be on meds, but we all know how bad she is with taking meds.
All I can think of during this Rachel Bloom singing "My Diagnosis" at the top of her lungs.
For those who may not have seen the show "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" it's a song that the character Rachel plays sings just before she gets diagnosed with BPD. She has this release of excitement and happiness and seems to crave being labeled as something, as if the diagnosis itself is the cure. And, like Amber she has been diagnosed with other things in her life...depression and anxiety and i cant remember what else. The character up until this point has shown to be on medication, off medication, taken herself off meds...
But of course, as in reality, it turns out to just be the start of a very hard journey to manage her disorder for the rest of the series.
What an awesome coincidence! I just posted a link to the song on another site yesterday! :) That said, the "diagnosis" song appeared rather late in the TV series, and I feel it may have been a bit of a mockery. :)
Amberlynn math is that she doesn't say a specific date in the video, so she can twist orders of events when they happen.
In most cases exes don't want to be friends. lol And why would anyone..? It was bad enough to break up.
She just thinks that she is so likeable, that how could anyone not want to stay friends with her
She didn’t want to be friends. She wanted a fall back. She wanted Fleen to COME BACK TO HER 😩🤣
I get the fear of bpd because everytime you are convinced everyone else is wrong, theres a chance its you. And sometimes it's you having to put youraelf first and still being seen as wrong because everyone else puts themselves first too. Its confusing and unstable. Its easier to blame others than deal with the confusion and panic that comes with not being able to deferent your symptoms from reality.
This video is about Amber, not you. Keep that in mind... Zach is reacting to her and not anyone else. Be kind to yourself.
Sorry many people dated or had to live with someone with borderline personality we all know how abusive they can be physically and emotionally
To be fair, if you’ve *_just_* broken up with someone, even if you dumped them, and within days they’re saying they’ve found love again with someone else, you’re going to feel some level of sadness because it’s going to make you feel like you never meant anything to them
I believe she also went so far to suggest it was the greatest love of all.
I was raised by awoman with untreated bpd. I've always felt Amberlynn reminded me of those symptoms.
It was hell for me growing up. I hope she can get help because people with this disorder can be very abusive and always end up convincing people they are the victim.
Thats why they help to get assisted death to people with bpd, im sad i cant at the moment cuz i dont live in a country that does.
idk if its appropiate, but how did/does it affect you to be raised by someone with bpd?
My aunt who lived with us was very attention seeking. And disorganized. She would be in her room for a week then come downstairs and clean the whole house. It was like a roller coaster most of the time and you never know what you are getting... one night she grabbed pills and swollowed them on video chat and said she was going to unalive herself. Then very shortly after called 911 and had the police ambulance and fire company at the house. She told them no sirens or she was done. We slept through the whole thing but my mom found her note in the bathroom trash 😢
She is doing so well now and finally just living her life with moo and too her 2 fat cats and is doing amazing after lots and lots of hard work to get there. We are all so proud. Not everyone with bpd is that extreme BUT she was hard to love with during those years.
@Riccardax3 Everything in their life is about an constant need for outside approval. They have a constant need to have their fear of abandoned soothed. They often intentionally emotionally cripple their children so they don't leave to live their own adult lives.
@brittneybeiler5528 yes my mother frequently threatened to unalive herself in my presence as a child when she didn't get her way. It was so damaging.
I'm glad your aunt got help and got stable.
AL needs to stop journaling and start writing fantasies. No one weaves such fantastical tales as she does on a daily basis. “It was mutual”. “I am over her”. “I wouldn’t take her back”. “I hurt her so much”. “We love each other” GORLLLLLLL, who dropped off whom in Oklahoma and immediately left and sounds like, blocked you?!?!?! Stappppph your fictional life, we do not believe you 😂 😂
Both my daughter and i are regular viewers of your channels, and get a huge amount of enjoyment and giggles from your content. Though not all from you ! But from Judy and little Poe. Both my daughter and myself missed your intro as we were in stiches watching poe try and berry himself under the blanket only for it to fall off of the chair, and then he follows it onto the floor!! Please keep up the amazing content, as the joy and laughter you bring is worth it every time ! :)
this is so so cute! i love how you and your daughter can bond over zach & the dogs like that!!
@@thisisjustaflashback My daughter and I have 2 dogs and 2 cats who provide us with so much love ,joy and crazy antics that send us into fits of laughter. @ZacharyMichael and his 2 adorable puppy's, prove every upload that just been who you are, is perfect, and that No matter what, just be you bestie!!
Ah you teach your dauther to laugh and giggle at a big person with lymphodema and lipodema? Im a nurse and thin but for 37 years! What you are saying is the😢 most horribel thing! You judge her and get existment hope you do the same with drug- alkohol and sport addict. Addiction for food is the same like other! Shame on you sad
38:16 "ain't none of these people like her" MY JAW DROPPEDDDD 😭😭😭😭😭
I died 😂😂😂
I’m a therapist in Chicago. Accepting a diagnosis of BPD is so hard. It’s a very stigmatized condition. Many therapists won’t work with folks with BPD because it can be so draining. And it’s often misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder. Most folks with BPD have some type of trauma history that needs to be addressed. I do think ALR deserves a hat tip for accepting this diagnosis, as many with BPD can’t even get that far. Not sure what resources she’ll find in OK. I hope she finds someone to work with.
Shes only accepting it because she can use it as an excuse to be a shitty person.
My mum won't accept hers she tells people she has bipolar even though she has only been dignosed with bpd it's so hard to around someone I'm denial
@kellyprice2582 as someone diagnosed with BPD, distance yourself from your mother. You do not deserve to deal with someone who does not want to get better.
I still don't believe she was diagnosed. It takes licensed professionals years to diagnose BPD at times because the symptoms are the same as many other personality disorders such as NPD, HPD, and Sociopathy. My therapist took about a year and a half to diagnose my BPD. I was told I had BP2 by another therapist, and I kept telling them they were wrong. I am a very self-aware person and started doing my own in-depth research regarding personality disorders against my own behaviors, relationships, and habits. I also had to accept that while the people in my life were not wholly blameless, I was a major part of my problem. So I switched therapist, and she was hesitant on giving a BPD diagnosis because of the stigmas it comes with. But I was adamant about wanting to do and be better. I'm almost 4 years into my treatment now and while I'm not perfect, I am certainly better than where I used to be. My issue with Amber is that she doesn't care to get help. She thinks she's perfect as she is. She displays clear narcissistic or histrionic personality traits that don't align with BPD. Like her apathy and pathological need to blame everything on other people
@@ximar0ckstrx You make a good point in that if ALR got that diagnosis recently, it could not have come from someone who has worked with her for very long. And there is so much overlap. For me in my practice, I don't get too concerned about a diagnosis, unless it's important to my client. I collaborate with them to decide what they want to work on. My clients who are accepting of their BPD can notice impulsivity, relationship challenges, etc. that they want to address. But it's hard with other clients (BPD, NPD, etc.) who cannot/will not step into vulnerability to really acknowledge what they want to change. Or even if they need to change. @ximar0ckstrx, I'm glad you found a therapist you trust and who listens to you. Wishing you the best!
46:15 “this just explains so much about me” because our gorl LOVES to have an explanation but wants it to magically resolve itself
(Also you said basically that exact thing as I was typing so…great minds think alike I guess 🤣)
It’s been forever since I’ve heard any ALR news and I’m ready. I’ve been bipolar most of my life and I was always skeptical about her saying she’s bipolar. BPD I’m not surprised or skeptical about her being diagnosed as borderline. Looks like all of those college psych classes were helpful for me. Class became interesting when you open your Abnormal Psych book and read about yourself, we all started diagnosing each other. I love psychology.
The way amber recalls events is infuriating. She’s acting like she was so brave to try and stand in the shower. I was around when this happened and she was lying through the whole thing. There was no issue. She does everything that everyone else does and she even has sx like 8 times a day so
5 hours sex sections and 12 orgasms a day, our gorl is a machine
she didn't wanna move, she had poor Becky enabling her to not move a finger, to not put any kind of effort into surviving bc let's be honest, she does have pretty severe depression and having Becky there to do anything for her and also her having 0 shame of herself for it is what allowed her to just not move...she weights the same, she could do all of this back then, she convinced herself she couldn't shower just to not shower.
Amberlynn uses the phrase ✨️falling in love✨️ wayyyyy too Loosely😂😂
Another thing about VagueLynn is like...she isn't consistent with what she shares. I can totally understand not sharing certain aspects. What annoys me is she'll hide wifey's name but show them groping on camera, she'll stay hush hush about verry triggereeen things but then discloses how she pooped her pants etc. make it make CENTS!
BPD. For ALR is the diagnosis’ that really does make the most sense. As many have said, it’s one of the hardest to treat, is very frustrating and draining for the therapist, as well as friends and family members. The avoidance, and manipulation, not following through with anything….all very typical. And she DID reveal that her previous therapist told her she needed to get with a therapist trained in Trauma-based therapy. Many disorders like BPD, Bi-Polar, and PTSD have their roots based in Trauma. I’m just not sure our girl is ready to embrace the diagnosis or put in the work necessary to gain the insight necessary to learn how to manage and live with it.. I rather see her as a person who is in search of a disease that she can hyper-focus on, that has no basis in fact, and which she can continue to deny $and deflect away from the real issues at hand. And as to the OP who talked about her casually throwing around fictional diagnoses like she does, it IS very invalidating to those of us who actually do have those diagnoses, and put forth the effort to do the the work in therapy, and follow through ,so it become# easier to manage, and live a good life.
Zachary, ive been a silent viewer of yours for years but I just want you to know that I love when you share things about yourself. It gives us context and background for your thoughts and I genuinely would like to know more about you! It also helps that you’re grounded and very relatable 😊
I turned my work email notifications off when I took a week off of work- that was a month ago and they’re still silenced because I’m like 10x less stressed. I’ll answer your email when I feel like Debby
Edit: this is in relation to the burn out convo lol
Based on what Destiny said, our gorl is still needy and clingy after being broken up with. That must be really annoying when trying to put an end to a romantic relationship. She thinks if she acts this way it will endear these women to her but it ends up having the opposite effect
Truly. I understand that breakups are hard, but if I broke up with someone and drove them halfway across the country only to have them texting me telling me they loved me and missed me every day after, I'd block them so damn fast.
She really thinks her audience didn’t know how bad off physically she was?! Her Mom being oblivious checks out because she doesn’t seem to care very much for Amber anyway, but anyone with sight connected the dots. She really thinks we’re dumb.
Idk, I have been living with ADHD my entire life without being aware of it and when I was finally diagnosed with it, I wasn't upset because it gave me "something else" to work on, it was actually RELIEVING and validating to finally know that there were reasons behind my behavioral patterns and emotional dispositions on a daily basis. It also gave me something to look forward to, e.g. improvements in my daily life through therapy and newly learned coping mechanisms, as well as medications to manage the more severe symptoms.
I guess there is looking at things from a positive perspective and then there is looking at things from ALR's perspective. 🤷♀
ive been told by a neuropsych professional that i probably have bpd and it’s been so difficult to find a therapist that fits what i need even living in a pretty big city, so i genuinely hope she has or is able to find someone who can help her even though she’s on the littlynn praire (hopefully she sticks with it too)
She probably won't but don't let her decisions discourage your own path to healing. Amber is notorious for collecting diagnoses and abandoning them because it requires effort to heal. She seems to enjoy being a victim, sadly.
@@justjamie1715 oh i definitely wouldn’t take amberlynn as my model for healing lol, i’ve made a lot of progress in other areas! it’d just be nice to see her actually figure things out, no matter how i feel abt her personally
Girl, next Q&A I'm going to ask her to read the definition for infatuation out loud.
"Where I need ZERO help" ...says the woman who needs to be driven to the shops. Not saying she NEEDS to get her driver's license if she doesn't want to, she doesn't have to, but if she would do the shopping with zero help she'd uber or she'd walk. Which she MAY be doing, but mostly we see her at the store with MamaLynn, who drives.
Amber just casually revealing she's a stalker and a bunny boiler and says 'some people will say this is unhealthy'. SOME???
😂 bunny boiler 😂
Am I the only one who remembers (3 months ago ?) her wearing that step counter gadget on her wriest and claiming she get in 8 (or 10?) THOUSAND steps a day ...🙃 This is why I like drunk Lynn .. she always tells the truth.
“I really hurt her by falling in love with somebody else so quick 😢” oh like you hurt Becky too???? Where were the tears then? Yeah……..
So if she drinking without medication for her mental illnesses, the follow up question should have been, why aren't you medicated and is it wise to even drink with the mental illnesses she has? And how irresponsible is it that she moved weeks ago, and hasn't obtained new healthcare, mental or physical?
Great job, Zach. I love your channel. You always make me laugh, and you're right on spot with Amber.
That's a good point! As somebody with a variety of mental and physical health issues myself, if I moved states one of my first priorities was to make sure my health insurance was set up/I had all new doctors to continue my care. Amber's priorities are f**ked up though so I'm not surprised she isn't bothered by this.
hasnt she never gotten healthcare? like for no reason at all? she's one trip over a tiny curb away from being bedbound and has no shortage of funds but yet she's out here raw dogging life waiting for that $100k emergency. like literally just take 25 mins to research and get a plan. its insane to me
In 2019 she wasn't completely bed bound. She did many exercises videos. She recorded herself walking outside. She recorded how long she could do each of her exercise routines and her improvements. She went on the famous Lexington vacation. Went to the mall. Posted try on hauls. She did her sausage fest, shrimp, and whole chicken videos. She went to the ER and the doctor many times. So when was the "most of if not all of bed bound in 2019"
Goodbye forever sounds like she realizes her career is nearing the end.
I thought that too I was like hell she may be talking to us 😅
Her bedbound era was the wifey era but she'll keep denying it
What does Amberlynn know about a sausage fest?
Her career is over and she knows it.
@@lucianagarbimreally the only time we never saw her go anywhere
Funny, she didn't even give a second thought to wifey when chasing someone else & texting 24/7.. "in love". When that didn't work out, back to being in love with wifey. If she was THAT important, ALR wouldn't have been looking for or into someone else. Esp not so quickly or while Faline was still right there in the same house.
I very much think Amber pretended to fall in love with someone else to try to make wifey jealous and then it backfired 😂
💯 yup!
This
I have GAD, major depression, and PTSD and I snorted one marijuana and I'm now cured
As someone who also most likely has BPD too - it makes the most sense for ALR. The excitement & overwhelming happiness feeling in a new relationship, being obsessed with your SO, mood swings and either feeling incredibly high or low..
"that version of me doesn't exist" okayyyy than.. Stand up? 😂😂 At this point she only speaks lahs 😂
Zach shouting “y’all were broken up!” At amber was giving me Ross on friends vibes 😂
Sounds to me that she kept Faline in arms reach in case her “new love” fell through. So she probably felt she was being led on and why she can’t be friends anymore, especially if Amber continuously texts that she loves her.
When ZM says *“YALL WERE BROKEN UP!”* All I can think of is Ross to Rachel *“WE WERE ON A BREAK!”*
Thank you for speaking out for the people who watch Amber that put in the work to help themselves through their mental health struggles. They will not make adsense money on their issues but hopefully they will get personal satisfaction by knowing that their efforts paid off. Brava, Zach.
I want to add that Amber acts like this new change was brought up....on her own. It wasnt . She was with someone who had boundaries and stated them to her. It ultimately lead to her having NO choice but to do things for herself....and now she has lead to her more stamina.
With wifey she was forced to adult . I truly believe that wifey always told her/confronted her about things and Amber was not use to that because her exes did not do that. You tell people how to treat you and thats what wifey did.
Becky did not have boundaries nor did Amber respect them enough to care about them ..She was miserable but without that dynamic with wifey she wouldnt be walking now and hanging out with her mom. I feel so irked that she acts like she woke up one morning and suddenly acts like it was her idea not to do bad happens.
Amber has no consideration for people’s boundaries. This has been proven time and time again. Krystle would cover her face and literally run away from amber when she’d catch her filming her. She’d film destiny in various stages of undress. She harassed her aunt so bad that her aunt blocked her number. Then amber harassed her on FB and multiple other social platforms and her aunt had to block her on those as well. Destiny had to tell her to leave her aunt alone. And now jade. I’m curious how long she was harassing jade.
@@Citykitty23 I agreeWether she respects you or not . That’s why people who defend her or that one UA-camr do not see the bigger picture…of how she’s never changed just did her best to hide it better after Becky. ( Not very well though because she’s immature and cannot help herself but tell us everything she does to people ,her harmful tendencies and chooses to behave.)
Yes one thing remains the sane she doesn’t know what boundaries are and makes her friends/partners uncomfortable. I cant imagine why she is bothered after she expresses how she feels and not liking the response she gets for others? The moment how you feel disregards others that’s when it becomes wrong. (See Becky situation where she hurt that girl to the point of trauma after that breakup and said it’s bc she was blind sided. ) now look at what she does to someone she claims to respect. If she feels any KIND OF emotion she will act out on it and expect people to to just deal with it. Yet now she lost wifey to this behaviour….. at one point you can’t keep saying ‘mental illness guys 😔’ and expect people to stay. She is frustrating because she expects everyone to do it for her…and doesn’t see that can be draining on others and their mental health.
If this isn’t a sign she needs to take therapy seriously than I don’t know what is .
Doesn’t take her mental health medication but then turns to alcohol
I'm guessing the breakup was not mutual, and Wifey was just done. That road trip to oklahoma was probably torture as well 🫣
If we choose to believe wifey posted "finally free" on snapchat then that checks out
I literally said aloud "BITCH YES" when I got the notification 😂, you are always right on time bestie! ❤
as someone recently diagnosed with audhd, I totally get that feeling of like... knowing you have so many "simple" things you can do to help yourself and just having zero motivation to do any of it. it's a lot easier to find excuses if you're not actively hitting rock bottom, running up against a deadline. but acknowledging that no one can help you until you start helping yourself is the first step, and time and time again she proves she's unwilling to do that. she just keeps making the same mistakes and then getting surprised when people cut her out of their lives once they can't take it anymore. it's not her fault for being mentally ill, but it is her fault for putting the burden of her mental illness on everyone around her.
...also I'm pretty sure people with borderline personality actually do get put on meds to mitigate symptoms.
I find it really curious how much she coincidentally has in common with Cindy. I think ALR is clutching to anyone to "be in her court", or anyone that says they like her, though I don't know what the benefit of that would be besides maybe using it to seem more like a victim or having support though it? (Is it like a "see I'm on your side, we're bullied online" thing???)
Because Cindy said that she followed ALR (and felt bad for her) WAY before Cindy was struggling and got discussed here. Then Cindy gets talked about here and later ALR comments in one of her streams "welcome to gorl world" or w/e the fuck it was (where Cindy was surprised and just said "wow I've followed you for ages"). Then Amber's suddenly talking about being interested in tarot and specifically names Cindy's channel as one she watches. Now BPD too I guess? Though don't remember if that was in ALRs history or not but still. Idk why she'd want to be on Cindy's good side when they have almost nothing to do with each other. I never say shit like this but it's really fishy and annoying lol. I hope they stay separate just because it makes me feel stressed for Cindy tbh. There's enough going on for her lol.
Anyways there's my two cents.
Omg, last txt i swear. I just have to say- can someone dm her to quit the eukanuba fancy feast Pomeranian hairdo. Please, thx😊
Ommmmggg the hiss anytime she says a word with the letter “s”. Idk if it’s her video or the audio coming through your video, bestie but it’s giving Herbert the pervert.
Must be nice to get diagnosed easily... my friends and I are almost positive I have ASD or ADHD and including having MDD and GAD but I'm having trouble getting diagnosed, so I have to work double hard with none of resources. Thank God I have friends who will tell me to go walk it off when I get overwhelmed. I hate that she using the resources that someone else could use and not do the darn work!!!
I have bipolar and a couple other things but the thought that 'you just take the meds' is so upsetting. It is a lifetime of work - and so incredibly expensive*. If I didn't have the compassionate job and resources I have, I would be the person talking to the voices in their head on the streets. I have to constantly go through med changes. I cannot stop therapy. The side effects of bipolar meds are brutal* too. I was on one that actually started making me blind, rid me of my balance, made me constipated, and my hair was falling out - one made me so manic I threw away everything I owned and hurt myself so bad I was forced into inpatient. Medication is a gamble. I eat clean, exercise, and try to keep a routine with my ESAs and self-care. I told my best friend my 'warning signs'. I work so hard and have to just keep it together - existing is exhausting. 😓
We’ve heard this song and dance every single year about how her stamina has improved so much. Gorl…..
In fact.. GORL PROCLAIMED A WHOLE HEARTBREAK ERA.
She was anything BUT silent.
AN ERA. 🤦🏼♀️
18:46 The idea that standing up for no reason was an improvement is just, UUGGHH!
Yay for Zach's take on the ghosting! So sorry you are still feeling pain but i have say that you look fabulous, Bestie!
I think stamina to her is placebo. She weighs 30 lbs less than her highest and does absolutely nothing to fix it but all of a sudden, she has this stamina?! Girl, bye. It's mental. If you want to do it, you will. It's that simple with her.
Big “I can walk to the mailbox 10 times over if I want to” energy
honestly BPD checks out for her. I dated someone with BDP in college (who was not managing it - he was actually fully in denial) and it was a nightmare. I feel for her previous partners.
I love it when I can predict your "what do you know"s lol
I'm really good friends with an ex and I cannot imagine how far I would have run away if everyday for months after we broke up he texted me "I love you, I miss you" like talk about the ICK
It’s like that friends episode
WE WERE ON A BREAK
Thank you for bringing up the medicine thing. I have Bipolar 1 and I'm very med resistant. It's so frustrating because if I get out of my routine I'll have a manic episode. If I stay up late to study I'll have a manic episode. I can't "just take meds" because they barely work. I have to keep a schedule. I have to do emotional processing. I have to eat healthy. It's more work than just taking a med.
I think the whole falling in love with some IG person and then blamin that for why wifey cut her out, is her way of proving to herself that wifey did love her. Amber has a constant need to feel like someone wants her and that’s the narrative that helps her.
Her saying other disorders are solved by taking medication is like a knife to the heart for everyone with a mental disorder. Personally I have bipolar, and I can safely say it is way more than that.
What did I say from the start. She fits BPD more. NEVER a narc. Which is why it is so irritating seeing some people with enough platform to perpetuate the trivialisation of the term “narcissist”. Just because you don’t like someone doesn’t make them one.
We all have narcissistic traits on occasion but diagnosis of any cluster B personality disorder is not an easy or trivial thing to do. You really can't do it from someone's short UA-cam videos.
@@justine8387Which is why everyone calling her a narc is a joke. As I said, she fits BPD more. Notice that I didn’t say you could tell she has BPD.
“i was in love with someone else and i hurt faline but i was also fucking faline even tho we were broken up and continued to flirt with other people but now i’m crying because i couldn’t have faline and this other person i “fell in love with” and now faline rightfully so wants nothing to do with me” i mean be serious
If this is a cycle...of where she loses friends and gfs. She has always mentioned this in the past as a teen and she doesnt like that she has it because it doesnt fit her image of herself.
I really hope Amber takes her mental health seriously. I have a best friend with BPD and she agrees ..that amber seems to not what to accept something that she actually has to put in the work for. Thats the only thing you can do if you have BPD... because we knew this BPD diagnosis was a thing she was in denial of ...i am sorry she adds to the stigma to it. It makes me so mad ...
it didnt fit into the vision she has of herself. Mental health never benefits you in anyway. The cycle of straight up having people distance themselves from you wont stop if you refuse to work on yourself. I wish her luck I feel super bad for her in that regard because she knows the answer to her own problems. But now we are full circle.
I really do think this was the last straw for wifey , because I can imagine it was really hard to have to watch someone like amber struggle to be a functional adult. I do think thanks to wifey Amber is giving adulting a chance even if its the very first time she's ever tried to take care of herself. It helped her be able to stand on her feet today at least. With Beck she wouldnt have ever tried because didnt care about impressing Becky than she did wifey. Hell that saved her life to feel that type of pressure. Becky broke up with her for these same reasons and I hope wifey understands Becky wasn't exaggerating about the flawed mentality of our girl. She wants someone else to do all the work and save her and thats just not realistic lol.
Wow, so brave of her to ‘stand for no reason’ for 30 seconds. Such a warrior
How is she burnt out? She has barely filmed ANYTHING!? It's a little crazy to me why she's burned out all the time when she has filmed less than ever before. She doesn't understand that right now there really is very little other options for her with the money she makes here. I wish I started a youtube years ago and could make that type of money without doing a ton! More channels like yours, for example, do way more than her channel!
If I’m ever like her after a break up please just put me out of my misery