My Birth Story
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- Опубліковано 23 лип 2023
- This is my birth story, I know... super long video (skip to 18:16 if you want to just hear the story) but this is for my core followers who want to know all the details, I also share a lot of my views and beliefs in this video. I want to say that there was nothing that went wrong with the home birth that made me end up in the hospital, it was just that my body "wasn't cooperating" and therefore I needed medication/surgery to move things along. For my second pregnancy, I would definitely still consider a home birth as it was such a great experience being able to labor at home, moving freely and feeling comfortable. I am thankful to all my birthing team, including the doctors and nurses at the hospital. The beautiful photographs are taken by Kristie: www.kristierobin.com/
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Stefan is so blessed to have a wife like you. Lucas will be an incredible human being. God bless you. 🙏
Aw thank you ❤️
You were so vulnerable here and I love that you soldiered through an extremely difficult birth and shared the real story without any 'fluff'. Other expecting moms will feel better about their story not going as planned. Wonderful Tatiana.
I really appreciate you taking the time to make this video and share all this information with us, you and Stefan are warriors!! I can’t even imagine everything you both went through emotionally and physically. I am so glad your baby is healthy and well, it made me cry seeing the pain you had to endure but I’m so glad you are both feeling better now and that Baby Lucas is healthy ❤
Thank you so much ❤️ he’s definitely worth it 🤗
Hey! Tatiana I have never clicked so fast and thank you so so much for sharing this video with us and I was eagerly waiting for this video you are my inspiration and I will support you till end🤗💫💗
Aw well then this video was made for you because only my true followers will watch me talk for an hour about my birth 😅❤
Tatiana, I watched the whole video. As a mommy myself to an 8 year old boy. I feel every thing you have said near my heart. Being a mommy is so hard from the start but what a beautiful outcome it is. Your journey just started and the tears just keep coming from every little step. Take your time mama. Your doing great! From one of your fans 🤍
Thank you for that encouragement ❤
In a weird way the way you speak and your voice calms me down and is soothing lol
You name so many of the struggles/transitions I had. Your right it feels like no one talks about it, but I feel like after the fact and looking back about 1-2 years after the birth I do realize that people talk about it, but it’s just impossible to comprehend what they really mean until you live through it. I am so happy for you and your little family and hope that each day gets a little easier.
I agree! Thank you darling 😊
You and Stefan are an incredible team! You are in for the most fulfilling joy of your lives! Every day gets a little easier. I was so excited to find today that you became parents. There’s so much I could say. I’ve followed your channel for quite some time and find you very classy and inspiring and resonate very much with a ton of your outlook. It’s like finding a twin out there. The universe shows us a mirror sometimes and it’s neat. I’m so happy for you! You’re a great communicator and storyteller. There’s so much to unpack here. Very exciting!
Thank you so much 🤗🤗
Congratulations Tatiana! ❤️ ive always known you'd be an amazing mother 🥹 so happy for you.
Yeah she is already blessed
Aw thank you dear 🥰
Wow, thank you for telling your story. It is really informative and even made me tear up. Every story is so different, and I really enjoyed it. You definitely did the best you could. After my birth, everyone I know said they had baby blues and ppd for a minimum of 3 months. I had ppd for a year so know your feelings are valid. I'm happy you and your baby are healthy. ❤
Thank you 🥰 One year must have been very tough, for me even just one month was very mentally exhausting. You’re a strong mama ❤️
Thank you for being so open about this Tatiana and for the very informative video. I’m happy you all are doing well ❤
My pleasure ❤️
Thank you Tatiana for sharing your beautiful birth story. I cried so much during the whole video. I’m also planning for a home north in a few months so hearing your perspective is so helpful and so enlightening. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and honest
Thanks for sharing your experience, Tatiana! I love watching you! You got this, girl! Your child is very lucky to have you guys as his parents!
Thank you so much!!😊
Loved this video and thank you for being so vulnerable. I appreciate how honest you are, been following you for a very long time❤. Would love to see/hear about your fitness and nutrition (food and supplements) during pregnancy.😊
Tatjana, a cheerful journey and joyful ride with your lovely child to both of you! Truly happy that everything is good with Lucas! This is so mindblowing how thoroughly you were prepared for the birth and still had to run such a gauntlet which is totally crazy.. But after following you for a few years, I guess who knows why this was necessary. Just so happy that it all went well and you truly are a strong woman! Thanks for sharing the story and look forward to the new chapter! All the best to you!
Listened to the whole thing. You’re a badass! Congratulations!! It sounds like you made the best decisions with the cards dealt. Despite also being a homebirth “planner” I would have done the same as you in your position. It sounds like your body did so much work and dilated to 10 in the end so next time that will still be in your body’s core memory if you choose a Vbac it should go more smoothly. My friend had 2 successful homebirth vbacs after an initial emergency C-section. She says the risk isn’t as great as it’s made out to be for vbac so long as your placenta isn’t positioned near the C-section wound checked via ultrasound because the biggest fear is that the placenta could tear at the wound site (and especially if you wait 18 months for healing you should be good to go) Just thought her perspective on it was interesting and worth sharing.
Thank you for sharing your story and congratulations! It makes me so happy to see how you're mentally awake and aware of everything. I'm not mom yet but I know how much is important to educate yourself and work on your mindset. It is so nice of you to talk about all less-beautiful moments you and Stefan have been through.
I would like to know more about what you read through your pregnancy and how you prepared yourself mentally for this whole process? Best regards! 💕
Thank you dear! Okay I will make a video on this topic :)
I am in awe seeing you in your mommy role now. Lucas is so adorable!!! Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️💕 I appreciate the time you take to continue making videos.
Thank you so much!!😊😊
Thank you very much for sharing your experience 🧡 I’m happy for you that everything turn out well!
Wow, thank you for sharing. I feel like I've learned so much from hearing your story and thank you so much for informing the side that RARELY gets talked about. I hope to have kids of my own in the future and have always wanted a at-home birth. I genuinely appreciate you for sharing your experience, I found so many hidden gems that I'm taking with me for life. May God bless you and your new family member :)
I thought it really was sunshine and a bit of pain, but I never thought so many unexpected moments can happen and you have to "roll" with it as best you can. Thank you for helping me realize this
Im so glad you found the story helpful! I do think that’s a good thing to pull from the story, just anticipating that the unexpected can happen and preparing yourself to be in the mental state to be flexible for when it does. At the end of the day, meeting your baby will always be the most magical moment in life ❤
thankyou very much tatiana for being so transparent with us and sharing the unpredicted & scary parts of your experience too. You're a very strong and resilient woman and you'll be an amazing mother, congratulations on the start of this journey!
I appreciate that thank you!
I resonated with everything you said about preparing for birth. I also had zero fear going into my 3rd birth. The previous 2 were c sections and I successfully had a VBA2C and it was the most amazing experience of my life! I had the same mindset with my contractions. I actually didn't even realize I was in the first stages of labor when I was because I had been having prodromal labor for 3 days prior. I was ignoring it until I couldn't anymore because I was convincing myself I wasn't in labor yet. The mind is a powerful thing!
I'm sorry you couldn't have the home birth you envisioned. C sections are rough, the shivering is the worst and so painful. But thank God you and baby are here and safe. ❤ Congratulations Tatiana!!
Aw this is so nice to hear. Thank you dear ❤
This was such a great video! I have even more respect for you after hearing how thorough you were in researching what's best for baby regarding the unnecessary shots and procedures that mainstream medicine pushes on new parents. (Coming from the States it's still so normalized and it makes me so sad!) But I am so glad to hear you and Lucas are doing well now and I love how big you are on mindset and getting mentally prepared for this huge change in your life 👏👏
Regarding a future video/content, I would love to hear about the relationship dynamics of new parents and how involved Stefan is/is able to be. As someone who is planning on starting a family in the next couple of years, this causes me some anxiety....how do you make things as equal/ "fair" as possible when it comes to taking care of the baby? Do you have to manage your expectations regarding the role Stefan plays and just accept that as the mother you will be the one staying up and losing sleep, etc most of the time? Is there a way to balance this all out so you don't end up resenting the other partner? No one ever talks about this and it's something I really worry about.
great video idea!! it would be so interesting to see how you've navigated this as a conscious couple
Thank you!! I agree, that would make for an excellent video as that’s what I struggled most with postpartum. It was hard figuring out the relationship dynamic/roles and still is. I think it depends on your partner, some really embrace being very involved in everything like washing bottle parts, feeding baby, laundry etc. others really struggle with it all. In the early stages like first month, baby primarily wants mom and will cry when with anyone else for too long so accepting that mom will be the one to take care of baby is important but we figured that dads role is to support mom so she can support baby. I might make a video on this, but honestly we never really figured it out where both parties are totally satisfied, I ended up doing a lot and still do and we recently hired a nanny to help with housework and things I can no longer do.
Thank you for sharing your experience! You’ve been through a lot. Wish you a very happy motherhood! I’m very happy for you!❤
Thank you so much!
Congratulations Tatiana. I’ve been following you since day one❤❤. I am so happy for you guys on your bundle of joy🎉❤
You are an inspiration! Thank you for being one of the few to share so openly the struggles. I would love to hear how having a baby has changed the relationship with Stefan and if there’s any advice you can share on that
Congratulations Tatiana❤
I think the last 10 minutes of the video are the most powerful, meaningful message a new mom could hear. Thanks for sharing! First 3 months are intens, we should talk about this more.
Thank you very much for sharing your story! You are super brave and an inspiration!
Thank you so much!
Watched the entire video! Thank you for being soo vulnerable and your video accurately describes the postpartum journey. I had my 2nd baby last year and yes, it does get much better
You the best! Thank you for watching. I am seeing how it gets so much better now at 3 months!
You seem so naturally maternal and always have! ❤ He is so so sweet, and looks super similar to Stefan. Congratulations 😭🧡
Thank you so much for sharing Tatiana! Extremely inspiring and transformative. Koodos to you for sharing as much as you did. My husband and I want to starting trying for kids by fall so any baby related is perfect! I’d love to know more about your fitness routine and products you used during and of course after. And books! We have a dessert catering business and naturally I’m the chef so I know it’ll be challenging with kids but I know we will be fine. Just a matter of shifting some things around. Once again thank you and best of luck to the new and beautiful mama!!!
Congratulations. Thank you for sharing your story. I had to mentally prepare to watch this when I first saw this.
My son is now 18 months old. When he was born he was in the birth canal for a few hours after active labor started. The Dr was concerned about him getting stuck before he was born because of my diabetes and being a smaller frame. At the end of labor he had to get him turned and out because his shoulder did get stuck. He ended up being 8 lbs 1 oz. Unfortunately his breathing wasn’t good and we had to admit him to the NICU. He was there for 6 days. It was so hard to leave him there for those nights. I didn’t hardly sleep and was right by him as much as I could. We were at a good hospital and really felt like they took good care of him and us.
Now he’s a very active little boy and you wouldn’t even know he ever had issues.
You went through a lot. Thank you for sharing your experience and all the best to little Lucas. May he is always healthy and happy.
Tatiana! What a journey ❤ Thank you for sharing your childbirth experience it so personal and I appreciate your courage!! I’ll share this video with my daughter who’ll embark in the motherhood journey. Much love ❤
Oh what a precious mother and baby. Your story just was heartbreaking at times, and it's so good to see you both emerge victorious at the end. (& the experimental incubator that was heating your poor little up so much. Oh my goodness.... That hurt my soul.)
It's ok to feel like birth is traumatic, because it honestly is. Even for those of us that have "easy" homebirths, trauma can just be a part of the process. It's so good to be able to talk to other women about your pain and to share it with others who can feel what you've been through.
My husband said my homebirths seemed like woman on the battlefield. And I think that sums up what it is like - no matter how we give birth. Our fight for life. And you did it! And you're still doing it every day! You are an amazing magical mother!
& just in case no one told you lately, I PROMISSSSSE it gets easier.
Aw thank you mama! It did feel like a battle field and then we emerge victoriously!
Congratulations on having your baby. We wish you all the best no matter what.
Thank you!
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Congratulations on your home birth and birth of your Son may God continue to bless you and your family. You are a good mommy I can tell you are so into your Son.
Thank you!! Yes I am obsessed lol
Congratulations Tatiana! That experience was tough but you got through it. God bless your family and may you always be safe and happy ❤
Thank you for sharing tatiana
Really appreciate the honesty and cannot wait for more videos on your motherly journey
Watched from beginning to end
I never gave birth but have some health problem and you really hit the nail with your analogy about pain. Going from intense pain to just a little less pain is like going to heaven. Congratulation to you both, I wish you the best !
Yes it’s true! Hope you feel healthy again ❤
Tatiana you are such a beautiful, radiant woman and mother!!! Thank you for sharing this story! God bless you and your family! I can’t imagine how hard all of this must have been but your courage and strength are so clear and your baby is so lucky to have you as his mommy!
Aweh that’s so sweet of you, thank you ❤
@@TatianaJames you're so welcome!
Thank you so much for bringing up birth trauma and postpartum blues. I thought something was wrong with me after having my son and I attributed to having an unplanned c section. We need to share more stories like this!
Totally! It’s normal to have mixed emotions when birth goes in unexpected direction and combine that with the hormone cocktail post birth, you’ve got the perfect storm!
i’ve been waiting for this! ❤
Thanks for sharing your experience, I like your reflections on being accepting of what needs to happen regardless of what you were hoping for, I had my first after 4 days of Labor, epidural was not an option for me back then because I couldn't afford it, I was left alone with no one who could be with me during that time, my second labour was 15 hours and with the third it was almost 4hrs, I'm grateful that I could have my husband with me in those births, I didn't have pain relief with them either although I could've had, just a bit of gas that made me dizzy and with the second when I was done with pain it was too late to have it lol. I do understand what you say about letting gravity do its work, I did that with my last and she came out with less pain and ease compared with the first 2. These experiences make us realise how strong we could be, exhaustion is a deal breaker, you did good for as long as you felt strong doing it. Thankfully everything turned out great and baby Lucas is healthy and enjoying both of you, he'll be stuck to you for a long while, I used to wear me babies, if I wanted to go out baby would have to come, not me stay for him to sleep, it has been my way to tell who the boss is 😅 All the best, your mind is in the right path to go through motherhood
Thanks for sharing your experience,you've been so strong... I've learnt a lot and I wish you the very best
Congratulations to you and Stefan! God bless you and your family 😊❤❤❤
Baby Lucas is so precious! I'm glad you and him are safe and happy now! God bless your beautiful family!❤ .. and I agree with you, not many people talk about post-partum depression! After my second baby it hit me bad, it took me YEARS to somehow manage it. I still struggle some days but it is nothing like how it was before. Thank you for sharing your experience. For me giving birth wasn't too difficult, but the second one for sure was wayyyyy easier. Whatever you do, as much as you love your baby, please make time for yourself! ❤ from mama to mama. ❤
Thank you! I’m sorry to hear the PPD has been so rough and for so long, I hope you find more peace soon ❤
Congratulations Tatiana!!
Congratulations! Baby is beautiful and you and Stefan are going to be great parents. ❤❤❤❤❤ wishing you all the best !
what a lovely video and so much to learn! Could you please recommend books to prepare for pregnancy please? especially natural birthing?
What an amazing video! Thank you for being so open and real! ❤❤❤ I had mental trauma after my first birth experience. Now I am about to have my second baby in a day or so and I am terrified. Listening to your story gives me feeling I am okay to feel as I feel about this upcoming event. Thank you again! Lots of love to you and your baby!❤❤❤
Sending you all the best energy and prayers for the beautiful delivery of your baby q
Congratulations on being a Mother Tatianna! I'm SO THRILLED to hear the news!!❤❤❤
congratulations! glad you both are safe and healthy
This is so honest, beautiful, and important for moms to hear ❤
Made it to the end ❤ so happy you made it through that and he’s finally here , ❤Please speake more about the post blues it’s not talked about enough
Thank you so much for sharing. I am so inspired by you❤
First comment ❤ Congrats for the baby 🎉
Love it ! Great job Mama!
Best video ever !
Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy!
Congratulations Tatiana and Stefan
Congrats !!! 🎉 he’s the cutest little boy!
Yes please share more for motherhood and giving birth 💗💗💗 I am 15 weeks pregnant tomorrow! I have been following you and Stephen for years! Congratulations 🎉❤
Aw congratulation mama!
Great video. Very details and informational. Sorry it was a rough road but I think you made all the best choices for you. And I agree on the home birth points, I'd want it done that way too.
God bless you. Thank you for sharing your story. Lucas is lucky to have you. You are vibrant as always and I look forward to continuing to follow you on your journey as you evolve from who you were, to who you will become in this new chapter of your life.
Wow I really appreciate this video and your full transparency and honest experience. I struggle with mental health, and I could only fathom how difficult that was for you. you're incredibly strong and I would love to hear more in regards to your postpartum journey. sending lots of love and blessings your way!❤
Congratulations on the birth of your baby! I just had homebirth two weeks ago! I'm glad you didn't feel like a failure for choosing to go to the hospital. Each woman has to do whatever is best for them. I had my first birth in the hospital. The recent baby I had is my 8th (6th child living) The more babies you have, labor and delivery gets faster and easier.
Thank you and congratulations on all your babies, you are a veteran mommy!
As a mom of two: congratulations on your way to this point!🙌🏼
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
Thank you 🤭
i'm nowhere near being a mom but it is always so refreshing hearing your perspective 🤍 thank you so much for sharing
Aw well thanks for watching ❤
Awww I love this congratulations
It will be magical 😊
Thank you so much for sharing, Watched the whole video . I currently expecting 😅 been reading a lot about vaccines maybe you can share what you know about vaccines and what you chose for Lucas
Wel well done , what a story , and well done on all your preparations and study , research , and finally be with him and it’s all over , a different route , and that’s ok . ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing such a personal experience with us Tatiana. ❤I am now 40 weeks pregnant with my baby and feeling so emotional. I felt your pain and could not hold tears when you were talking about actual birth of Lucas and your scare when he was not crying. You are fantastic mum! Thank you again.
Would be nice to hear how are you finding breastfeeding as a lot of women having problems with it.
Aw thank you dear ❤ breastfeeding was extremely painful for two weeks, I was in tears most feedings and thought “it’s not possible for it to hurt this much” after two weeks I either got used to it or baby’s latch improved because ir stoped hurting as much. Now it just hurts from time to time but mostly it doesn’t hurt st all. All I have to say is just push through ir for those two weeks and get the silverettes for nipples and the mama earth nipple balm
@@TatianaJames Thank you so much! ❤️ God bless you.
WOWWWW so I already had 0 plans to have kids, but I still couldn’t turn your video off! Your experience sounded AWFUL and so very traumatizing. You had me fighting back the tears girl! 😢 I am so very sorry your experience went completely opposite as you had planned it to go, and I’m so happy that you and the baby are ok! 🙏🏻 You still look as beautiful as ever, and baby Lucus is beyond adorable! As far as future videos, I would like to hear about your calm birthing process more, for anytime I’m experiencing horrible cramps/pain, the candles, salt lamps, and other soothing things you used etc! Also I‘m a fitness trainer so I would like to learn more about training pregnant women, so would love a video about your workouts as well❣️
What a beautiful family!
Congratulations ❤
Aww, Mama and baby look great!
Thank you for sharing❤🎉
Oh girl. Your story is so similar to mine. So heartbreaking to not have the birth of your baby according to plan. They always say what matters is a healthy baby in the end and it is so true but there are a lot of trauma for the mother after going against everything you wanted or did not want. It took me a long time to really come to peace with my c section. Beautiful birth story super mama you are a warrior ❤
Thank you dear ❤ it was hard but accepting it because I couldn’t change it was key and then looking for all the things I had to be grateful for came next. Now I don’t feel pain when I think back at it!
Thanks for sharing your experience.If I ever have a child, I was thinking of doing the home birth as well.
Congratulations!!!🎊❤
You are very brave 🙏🙏
Wow!! What an amazing birth story. Thank for sharing.
thank you for making this video, such an emotional experience, your boy is absolutely adorable. Id love to hear how you and your husband parent. the things you will allow and won't, do you guys view parenting the same? many thanks, you look great! hope your recovering
Thank you! That’s a good video for me to make down the line as Lucas gets older. I definitely have a lot of my own views/beliefs but I can only use them once he’s more into the toddler years. Right now I’m just helping with his development by talking to him all day and playing with him/helping him explore the world and helping him emotionally by forming a secure attachment with his primary caregiver and I do this by always being there for him, no crying it out, holding him/baby wearing him a good portion of the day
He is so cute and precious. You are so strong.
Hi Tatiana, Im so sorry for what you went through with the labour and the jaundice. Just a tip for your next birth, if you can find a way to have the baby taken outside to resolve the jaundice issue this would be better and more natural. Of course it depends if there's a bit of sun where you are but this is much better and will avoid the endless foot pricking which must have been so hard for you. Let me know if you would like me to send you a link to the natural circadium and quantum biology way of pregnancy and birthing. You're doing a great job and you're a great mum xxx
The dog is adorable too ❤
Congratulations Tatiana to you and Stephan, and Lucas is a beautiful boy! Also, although your entire birth process didn't go as you wanted, I think you having those hours of serenity and calm at home, was excellent preparation for the challenges later on in the process. Lucas couldn't have better and more loving parents.
Thank you so much!!❤
Hi Tatiana, thank you for sharing your story with us. I had the same birth experience. I mentally and physically prepared for the birth. I wasn't afraid. First my water broke, I had contractions and after 9 hours I was only 3 cm dilated. I was exhausted, I couldn't drink or eat anything because I was always vomiting. After a long period of time I received an epidural and then I dilated to 10 cm. I am also very active, I go to the gym, and I think that's why I couldn’t dilate because I'm very stiff. Thank God there is an epidural, otherwise I would not have survived the birth🙏 greetings from Europe, wish you all the best❤
Wow! And my doula said the same thing, it happens more often with fit people because of the strength in muscles and tightness
Congratulations!!! He is beautiful 😍 ❤
Amazing video thank you! Can you please talk about the body changes and the c section recovery process. Basically all the body changes including breastfeeding.
Thank you
Beautiful baby and family. Thank you for sharing.
Would love to see your videos on baby products that are essential or baby milestones by month or anything baby related since you do so much research 🤓 ❤
Congrats❤
Omg congratulations ❤. Didn’t know you was even pregnant to begin with. You look great!!!
He is adorable 🥰
What a beautiful baby ❤
I had the same thing happen to me with my body pushing on its own...The nurse kept telling me to stop pushing like I was voluntarily pushing..it was SUPER frustrating! She was actually getting frustrated with me....super bad experience ☹️
Congratulations
So cool that you’re also into homebirth! I’m planning my second homebirth any day here now despite transferring last time; I’m 40 weeks, just waiting for baby boy. In my first (went to 42 weeks) I also transferred to a hospital after not progressing as quickly as anticipated. In the end it took 36 hours and she arrived naturally in the hospital. I did have intense contractions and even urge to push almost the entire time so I’m not sure why I didn’t dilate much. I figure my body was simply trying to reposition the baby. I’m curious to see how baby #2 goes. I’ve done all the mind prep. I’m actually going with an unlicensed midwife this time because she’s not required to transfer me after 24 hours after water breaks. My waters broke very early on in labor. I have found this midwife is actually much more sought after than a licensed midwife because she’s not bound by the same laws. (Also I’ve been exposed to this concept now of “medwifes”, licensed and obligated to laws whether their intentions are pure or not.) Apparently I didn’t get the memo the first time. I still trust we would transfer if needed. Birth for first time mothers can take 24 hours on average so it’s kind of a scam that we can be rushed. Obviously I don’t want to risk infection so have to find the right balance there. I’ve heard several stories of local women laboring for up to even 5 days. I wouldn’t necessarily be comfortable with that length of time but it’s incredible what our bodies can do. This time we’re not going to obsessively check dilation because from what I’ve learned it’s actually not an adequate way to estimate how much time is left and it could increase risk of infection. (As you know.) I’m using hypnosis this time too. I’ll update
back and tell you how #2 goes.
Amazing mama, sending you my prayers for a beautiful birth!