3:18, My method: I’ll put a video on, which is a specific amount of time long, and requires no thought(no distraction). This is a shower trick, where I’ll be in there for an hour, without realizing, so I limit time showering, to 15 mins, via video/song. When it’s over, I have to get out.
I use Brili kids. It's the same idea. They have flashcards *shower* *get dressed* *make breakfast* etc. Halfway the task you'll hear a notification sound, also when the task should be finished, and when it's finished, and when it's overdue. I can set Starttime or Endtime for one routine set. When I shower too long, the next tasks give you less time so will be out of the house on time.
This is the only way can force myself to shower. I HATE showering. All of it. I love being clean and feel so accomplished after, but damn that inertia problem she talks about just to make myself do it.. especially bc I work mostly from home. Ughhhhh
sometimes it blows my mind how the intense struggle that I go through everyday, there are people who relate 100% to that. like you could be white brown black orange purple but you KNOW the struggle
I hate hate hate ADHD videos, and never watch them on youtube, because they leave me feeling really bad and uncomfortable. But as soon as I saw you on thumbnail, I somehow felt like you're more of an ally, not another entitled content creator, who actually knows nothing about adhd and looks down at such people. I'm so thankful to you! The amount of comfort I felt during this video is incredible and tips are very very helpful. I wish you best of luck in life !
YOU ARE SAYING THINGS THAT HAVE BEEN DESTROYING ME FOR YEARS the efficiency thing with the workout is so on point that I'm quite literally shaken by it. It feels so good to hear someone say it. Goddamit im almost 30... So much time spent in AuADHD hell
Thank you so much for this video. I’m undiagnosed but I’ve been thinking I have ADHD for about a year now and the examples you have about cleaning and not feeling dopamine after you finish a big project made me cry because I’ve never felt so seen. THANK YOU for helping me not feel alone and for showing me how I can better manage!
im so glad u mentioned the lack of excitement u get when u finally finished a big project, i never really feel that relief or happiness that i should, even tho the people around me are telling me how well i did, i just fell kinda meh about it. then i start to work on another project straight after, and begin to feel burnt out. its very disheartening, especially when i work so hard at it.
AUDHDer here! Same with the ASD part of my brain getting SO STUCK wanting to things the most efficient way possible. And if I can’t do it that way in that order or the way I had planned, I have a meltdown 😭 Great video. Thanks.
Until I reached about 65 years of age I was able to literally force myself to stay on track at least part of the time but then the exhausting aspect of it just started getting to me worse and worse and now, over 5 years later I can't get back on my feet. The mind tricks I used to play on myself don't work anymore. I hope I can put some of these hacks and tips to work in my life and maybe get get out from under my chaos again. By God's grace.
“So you pull out your phone and go on Amazon” *Instantly remembers I need to finish my Amazon order and now having to fight the feeling to drop things to go do it* 😂 I can’t believe I wasn’t diagnosed as ADHD till I was 27. Like, holy crap man, all of the random weird things I did when I was younger made so much more sense after my life lenses changed.
While I have no diagnosis (and know so little I wouldn't know how to get one), ADHD hacks really resonate with me. The body-doubling thing? I was only semi-aware that it was a thing. I often ask my partner to 'come help me' without any real idea of what it is I want him to do, other than exist in the same space. I nearly cried when this was revealed! I am convinced he is on the autism spectrum so it frustrates him that I ask him to 'come help' without telling him what with. He demands clarity! I am so happy I can tell him 'just exist with me!' and he can pick his own activity. If I don't have a plan, I have to pick one, and I panic and choose at random, and then he complains about the half-assed way I've gone about things... this will relieve so much friction for both of us! Thank you so much these videos. Inertia problem?! YUP. Time-'blindness' (I agree that it does need a new name, its not blindness its more like... time-insenitivity. Like, I can't feel time accurately, the way the skin on my knee that was damaged in a car accident doesn't feel touch properly. I know its being touched, but I'm not sure exactly where or if its soft or rough, just that 'something' starts then stops) I HAVE BEEN APOLOGISING FOR THIS ALL MY LIFE WHILE RESENTING EVERYONE WHO EVER POINTS IT OUT. To do lists? I have two - a long one (to remember the 500 things that always need doing) and then I triage out onto a small one for 'doable' - either time sensitive or quick to deal with, always a mixture. I delight in a completely crossed off list. Oh, and being stuck in a loop?! Yes! 😭 So yep, I do things the 'silly' way so I don't get stuck in a 'do this, then that, but need to do this to do that' priority loop. I just do what I have to so both get done. I count 'the long way' towards my step goal anyway. Its hard to get 10,000 steps in if you are stuck in a house all day... doing things the long way solves that problem! "Junebugging" - yup. So guilty its my whole personality. If there was a nature documentary about me I'd be compared to entire colony of ferrets on a sugar rush. EFT - that is going to be huge for me. Its true! I sometimes don't know why I'm stuck and can't 'make progress', because there's a 'big feeling' in my way. Most of the time I have to write the day off. No more lost days! And the final one? Yep, I celebrate every win, no matter how small. I find a cheer-squad helps, and its probably why I love animals so much - did you know dogs will hype for anything, they just like to be part of it? Cuddle-dance sessions, random treats, an extra cup of coffee, a colouring-in session, it doesn't matter what it is that brings me joy (heck, I'm a gardener, sometimes its just more work) but as a novelist, waiting til the end of a long-ass book to celebrate is dooming myself. Finishing a book is just the start of more work. Celebrating every 'ending' is like trying to come home and have a 'cured' party after the first session of therapy. Nope, long way to go buddy! Great first step though! A completed and published novel is so far into the whole process (and just the end of the easy part of being an indie author 😅) that if I wasn't celebrating all the little wins there'd be no win at all. I don't see it as coddling (as some do, it was a popular criticism in my tender years), it is a genuine part of my process. It has taken me so long to find ways to work with myself that I weep for my younger self... but only for a minute or two, then its time to make the best of what I have now! These videos are so helpful. They are reassuring, affirming and provide a wonderful launch-pad for me to explore options to get know myself and lead a productive and enriched life. Thank you! 💛❤💙💜
This was the most seen I’ve ever felt. And not sure why, but at the end when you talked about celebrating incremental progress by giving yourself a hug and telling yourself how great you’re doing… I got a little emotional. I guess because I never feel that way anymore as a single mom with ADHD working in corporate America… every day just feels so overwhelming. Thanks for all of this. New subscriber!
I felt so seen with the "I get stuck when I can't do it the most efficient way". This is a concept that I cannot get explained to others. If the plans in my head are not the most efficient or seem to be inefficient after only 5min I will get stuck. I will do nothing except being mad at myself or making another outrageous plan that most likely will fail again. Now I am stuck in a cycle ...
The shower / exercise conundrum has haunted my brain. I had a gross job and had to shower after work to ease some intense anxiety, but I used to run after work a few times a week before I started the job. It was such a letdown every time I got in the shower after work because I missed my running, but I HAD to shower to keep from panicking about bringing contaminants into my home. I like that you turned that on its head. I think that would've helped me. Worst case scenario, I'd take 2 showers on run days. Unorthodox but not impossible or *gasp* wrong. Love it.
Blind also means lacking perception, awareness, or judgement, so "time blindness" is a perfectly acceptable and very useful term. It would help ADHDers tremendously if other people understood this system. The probably very small number of blind people who have a problem with this are being completely unreasonable as using this term isn't going to affect them as all. Some people just like to feel offended or tell other people what to say, and that's called being a bully.
EFT is amazing, on top of ADHD (and possibly autism) I have a lot of emotional regulation issues and cptsd (which means I sometimes get 10/10 reaction to 2/10 situation because emotional flashback got triggered), and tapping is one thing that helps me regulate and release those emotions so quickly and consistently! What before was 2 hours of being disregulated and hysterical and trying to calm down, is now reduced to maybe 20 mins. And it's getting easier to deal with those emotions in the future too. I recommend it so much.
Omg body doubling helps me so much. I usually have one of my friends FaceTime me if they’re available, and we will just talk about random things or sit in silence. It really helps me focus on my work. I work from home and I’m on a computer all day so I get pretty antsy just sitting here and I can’t focus for the life of me.
I seem to only be able to do the thing I avoided for days when I can’t do it and have to do something else. Like, I am super motivated do house work when I HAVE to leave and super motivated to run errands if I am stuck at home waiting for a delivery or appointment… etc
I absolutely love your videos, they helped me a lot! But one thing I want to mention, sometimes it's very hard for my brain to stay focused on your words (even using the captions) when I can hear someone (a child maybe?) screaming in the background😞😞
Thank uou for your video. Spent probably the last 2 hours stuck looking for a video before I could start my tasks today. All I could find was videos of people telling me what they do or hacks.
Ok, you really do have my number. Ie, you know me, my mind, my emotions, my body, etc. As a retired Registered Nurse I totally understand the tapping stimulating the vaguus nerve. However as a person with ADHD I'd lose interest before it did me any good. I listen to hard rock music and I recently read why that works for some of us (btw, I'm over 70, and though my mother kept saying back in the 1960s and 70s.i would grow out of that music, I haven't yet). Hard rock music, played pretty loud actually stimulates the release of dopamine in our brains...so it amounts to the same thing. One of my symptoms of either ADHD or being on the spectrum is ii study things. Ii am an info maniac. (haha). Seriously I am sso grateful that I've found your channel (is that how you say it...when you mean someone's place on UA-cam? I can never quite keep up with all this stuff). So thank you so much.
I’m currently in therapy for anxiety, but recently realized I could have adhd or autism. I’m terrible with time, my brain is on 24/7 365, I procrastinate like no other, and etc. This leads to my anxiety and or panic attacks. To do lists and my phone calendar are my bffs and without them I wouldn’t know what to do. I do need to get the timer so I can get out of the house on time 😅
I am so glad to learn about “time” and not keeping up with it. And the “body doubling!” I used to always ask people to just sit and talk with me not do anything . I had no idea these were ADHD things. The more I learn the more I am convinced I have it. Maybe my two grown kids can start to understand I really have a problem with some of these things and it isn’t because I am lazy or I don’t care. I now need to figure out how to get a diagnose check. This constant loop you talk about is EXACTLY what I feel. Thank you thank you thank you
I love showering first before I exercise! It seems inefficient in some ways because you do sweat, and drying hair just fir it to get semi-soaked again is unpleasant. Still, exercise while feeling oily and gross makes it feel so much worse for me, and I don’t feel like I’ve “started” to be ready for my day until I shower, meaning I don’t want to do anything until then. It also means the action-mode I get after exercise doesn’t get put out.
That clock idea is amazing! My issue with once I start something (cleaning bathroom) I start cleaning EVERYTHING. Thats like once a month. Its mentally draining sometimes.
I do this too, so I have started using the timer coming from the other direction, so to speak. You have ONLY 30 mins to do the bathroom. When it's done it's done. I make myself walk away unless finishing will only take five. If you finish your set tasks, you CAN go back and do all the DEEP cleaning you were tempted to do. But they probably didn't need doing. They need doing SOME time, but not in the middle of your timed work.
This video is great! Would love to see more suggestions for non-money related small treats. This is the first time I've seen giving yourself a hug suggested as a small reward and it sounds like it would work!
EFT has been so incredibly helpful for me, I have huge issues with emotional disregulation and when I get triggered and have 10/10 reaction to 2/10 situation I just couldn't get myself to calm down and not spiral which could cost me literally HOURS of my time while I was just riding this rollercoaster of feeling like complete shit, not being able to do anything. Learning and trying EFT has been so helpful for that, it calms me down miraculously and additionally helps me process those emotions without getting stuck in activated state. Thank you for sharing that technique here, I feel like not enough people know about it (I'm a late diagnosed AuDHD with cPTSD btw)
That was first glass. Absolutely A-grade. Thank you. Objectively a very worthy bit of work. I'm very grateful for thr video and I shall check out you other stuff now. James
I have heard other people talk about june bugging, but then it always sounded like something that wouldn't help at all. And NOW the WAY you explained it, I finally get why it could work for me (having ADHD) thank you for explaining things so well!!❤
Omg I've been using the body doubling thing without knowing that was a legit hack, i never understood why I was more motivated around people but I just did and it makes no sense also doing things in the most inefficient way is such a advice, I do the showering before working out and cleaning as well, it just helps me get started.
you called out the eisenhower matrix^^ i like the 80/20 method if it says somebody what. for my household i have a 3 point system 1. Dishes 2.Garbage 3. laundry when these 3 things are done it could be chaos as much but it is not dirty
hey, serious inquiry here! I am blind with ADHD and I'm wondering if there is an audio version of the visual timer… Like something that create a sound that gets louder or softer with the task time? I think this would be so handy for me, but obviously if I'm blind, color changing isn't going to work… Time blindness (I'm blind, so I'll say I don't care if somebody uses time blind right. Is one of my biggest issues. Even if I check the time all the time, I'll hear the time and not even register it. I end up asking that for the time again for my cock two seconds later like "what time did it say? "
The irony of listening to this video for helping with ADHD and halfway through the video the ONLY thing I could focus on was the baby crying nonstop 😭😅
On the time blindness thing, i get how from an external view people can see our time blindness as blindness. We're not blind to time, i can tell approximately how much time has gone by pretty well. I'm not sure how it is for others, but it's really our ability to oriente our behavior in relation to time.
I say time myopia because it's not that we don't perceive time at all, it's that we perceive only the present. And that's not a word specific to eye conditions. I do have a diagnosed visual disorder called Meares Irlen Syndrome so I want to appease the visually impaired and blind community but also have a word that is not exclusive to that community ❤ so I use time myopia or poor time perception.
This is so wierd but my hubby works 7 on 7 off and when he is not home I do nothing but when he is home I accomplish so much. I am also mildly afraid of looking useless when he is around not that he makes me feel that way.
Love these tips!! however, I turned this video on as I’m getting ready and lowkey rushing so I’m walking around my apartment looking for stuff and missing the most important parts lol I have to keep replaying your video.
I find doubling only works for me if the other person is also doing the task. Otherwise I get too distracted by what they’re doing. I can’t imagine focusing on my own work when a friend is sitting next to me s rolling on their phone for example.
Wow, who said you could spy on my life? This was so helpful for me and I listen to it while I was doing a task that I don’t like to do. I listen to a lot of uttering in organizing videos but they never seem to get to the issue. Thank you very much.
I get stuck when “the thing” i have to do has multiple other “things” that have to be done first to do the thing first.. and they HAVE to be in that order…example doing taxes, i need to get my w-2, and it’s on in my jobs intranet, then i gotta wait til monday..and where’s my password..when RIGHT NOW i have the urge to just do the thing… veryyyyy frustrating
I can’t do any of these. I need the opposite. Something that tells me when I will have time to do tasks based on the time it takes to complete it for an ADHDer.
Ooooh I’ve heard of the time unawareness of adhd and have always been like hmm that is an aspect of adhd that does not resonate… lol I have just been in waiting mode my whole life 😅
Crazy thing after 20 years of knowing I had ADHD finally got diagnosed on my own and its a releif. Meds aren't a cure all but help. Once I researched adhd didnt realize autism signs over lap. So its crazy I can have empathy for autism since I feel theres a lot of symptoms alike.
It's so confusing to me that how we function is not normal for everyone! I am also pretty sure that I have ADHD and am waiting for a diagnosis but it's just so weird to me that most of other people don't have issues with all of the things ADHDers have issues with
Question: if we can’t say time blindness, then how can we cay color blindness? Not being facetious, genuine question. Wouldn’t it be the same insensitivity? They see something, it’s not a physical blind spot but rather they look at the thing and it’s grey or a different color - isn’t it just like how those of us with a lack of time perception know time exists, we can look at a clock, but we can’t perceive time passing?
I have an ADHD diagnosis and I am being treated with methylphenidate. It fits the criteria a lot but being very Cartesian I have very little faith in this disorder because it is not quantifiable. I know that it is a dopamine defect and therefore treating by inhibiting dopamine reuptake helps relieve the symptoms. But from when is it a disorder and from when is it just a character ultimately? A variability in the population. Your criteria, a bit like horoscopes and other esoteric bullshit, how do we know that they target ADHD or autistic people and not lots of other people? In the end, getting a diagnosis gives you access to drugs. and because of that I am addicted to methylphenidate. I remain skeptical about this and I don't know to what extent I am just stupid and to what extent I really have a disorder. All I know is that taking drugs to succeed in my studies (I'm in medicine, what an idiot I am, but you can't choose your passions) makes me different, irritable, addicted and I still don't know if this fucking disorder is real or if it's not just a physiological variable.
Does anyone remember the series of kids books "If You Give a Moose a Muffin", "If you give a Mouse a Cookie"? Those animals could definitely benefit from Junebugging (and so can I).
For constipation: eat an apple a day. Especially eat the middle part around the seeds. Don't eat the seeds, pick them out and eat the crunchy part where they were. Try Honeycrisp apples, they taste really great. Or any kind of apple u can get. U will feel much better.
As for controlling ADHD without medicine, it's kind of like expecting someone with no legs to get around without a wheelchair. We cannot treat schizophrenia well, we don't have good medicine for manic-depressive, but ADHD is treatable with ADHD drugs and u can achieve a much better level of function through behavior mod and ADHD drugs. They are not all stimulants. Guanfacine can treat ADHD, also lowers blood pressure. Check out Dr. Russell Barclay's short 5-8 minute videos clipped from his longer lectures for more information on ADHD medicine. Also, exercise. Exercise helps u think better. Good luck!
3:18, My method: I’ll put a video on, which is a specific amount of time long, and requires no thought(no distraction). This is a shower trick, where I’ll be in there for an hour, without realizing, so I limit time showering, to 15 mins, via video/song. When it’s over, I have to get out.
Love this!!!!
I use Brili kids. It's the same idea. They have flashcards *shower* *get dressed* *make breakfast* etc. Halfway the task you'll hear a notification sound, also when the task should be finished, and when it's finished, and when it's overdue.
I can set Starttime or Endtime for one routine set. When I shower too long, the next tasks give you less time so will be out of the house on time.
This is the only way can force myself to shower. I HATE showering. All of it. I love being clean and feel so accomplished after, but damn that inertia problem she talks about just to make myself do it.. especially bc I work mostly from home. Ughhhhh
sometimes it blows my mind how the intense struggle that I go through everyday, there are people who relate 100% to that. like you could be white brown black orange purple but you KNOW the struggle
Currently Im undiagnosed, but WOW THIS IS CHANGING MY LIFE RIGHT NOW🤯
Love that youtube is now showing me smaller channels that are super helpful
The shower/workout quandary is one of the most relatable things I’ve ever seen in UA-cam ❤️
I hate hate hate ADHD videos, and never watch them on youtube, because they leave me feeling really bad and uncomfortable. But as soon as I saw you on thumbnail, I somehow felt like you're more of an ally, not another entitled content creator, who actually knows nothing about adhd and looks down at such people.
I'm so thankful to you! The amount of comfort I felt during this video is incredible and tips are very very helpful. I wish you best of luck in life !
is it normal that i started tearing up watching this video? its just SO nice to feel UNDERSTooD 🥺
Same here, I was full on crying at the end. Almost 35 and I now know I should go and get that diagnosis.
Same here. It really does help to be seen and hurt to not be acknowledged in the ways that we need
YOU ARE SAYING THINGS THAT HAVE BEEN DESTROYING ME FOR YEARS
the efficiency thing with the workout is so on point that I'm quite literally shaken by it. It feels so good to hear someone say it. Goddamit im almost 30... So much time spent in AuADHD hell
Thank you so much for this video. I’m undiagnosed but I’ve been thinking I have ADHD for about a year now and the examples you have about cleaning and not feeling dopamine after you finish a big project made me cry because I’ve never felt so seen. THANK YOU for helping me not feel alone and for showing me how I can better manage!
im so glad u mentioned the lack of excitement u get when u finally finished a big project, i never really feel that relief or happiness that i should, even tho the people around me are telling me how well i did, i just fell kinda meh about it. then i start to work on another project straight after, and begin to feel burnt out. its very disheartening, especially when i work so hard at it.
never could have imagine that it was a sign of ADHD, just thought i was over worked and depressed
AUDHDer here! Same with the ASD part of my brain getting SO STUCK wanting to things the most efficient way possible. And if I can’t do it that way in that order or the way I had planned, I have a meltdown 😭
Great video. Thanks.
Woah I'm halfway through and I'm loving this. Thank you. ADHD can be so debilitating.
Until I reached about 65 years of age I was able to literally force myself to stay on track at least part of the time but then the exhausting aspect of it just started getting to me worse and worse and now, over 5 years later I can't get back on my feet. The mind tricks I used to play on myself don't work anymore. I hope I can put some of these hacks and tips to work in my life and maybe get get out from under my chaos again. By God's grace.
“So you pull out your phone and go on Amazon”
*Instantly remembers I need to finish my Amazon order and now having to fight the feeling to drop things to go do it* 😂
I can’t believe I wasn’t diagnosed as ADHD till I was 27. Like, holy crap man, all of the random weird things I did when I was younger made so much more sense after my life lenses changed.
Me at 69 ...
You're awesome to share your knowledge and experience! I was diagnosed with ADHD at 51. I'm grateful I found your channel. ❤
While I have no diagnosis (and know so little I wouldn't know how to get one), ADHD hacks really resonate with me. The body-doubling thing? I was only semi-aware that it was a thing. I often ask my partner to 'come help me' without any real idea of what it is I want him to do, other than exist in the same space. I nearly cried when this was revealed! I am convinced he is on the autism spectrum so it frustrates him that I ask him to 'come help' without telling him what with. He demands clarity! I am so happy I can tell him 'just exist with me!' and he can pick his own activity. If I don't have a plan, I have to pick one, and I panic and choose at random, and then he complains about the half-assed way I've gone about things... this will relieve so much friction for both of us!
Thank you so much these videos. Inertia problem?! YUP. Time-'blindness' (I agree that it does need a new name, its not blindness its more like... time-insenitivity. Like, I can't feel time accurately, the way the skin on my knee that was damaged in a car accident doesn't feel touch properly. I know its being touched, but I'm not sure exactly where or if its soft or rough, just that 'something' starts then stops) I HAVE BEEN APOLOGISING FOR THIS ALL MY LIFE WHILE RESENTING EVERYONE WHO EVER POINTS IT OUT. To do lists? I have two - a long one (to remember the 500 things that always need doing) and then I triage out onto a small one for 'doable' - either time sensitive or quick to deal with, always a mixture. I delight in a completely crossed off list. Oh, and being stuck in a loop?! Yes! 😭 So yep, I do things the 'silly' way so I don't get stuck in a 'do this, then that, but need to do this to do that' priority loop. I just do what I have to so both get done. I count 'the long way' towards my step goal anyway. Its hard to get 10,000 steps in if you are stuck in a house all day... doing things the long way solves that problem!
"Junebugging" - yup. So guilty its my whole personality. If there was a nature documentary about me I'd be compared to entire colony of ferrets on a sugar rush.
EFT - that is going to be huge for me. Its true! I sometimes don't know why I'm stuck and can't 'make progress', because there's a 'big feeling' in my way. Most of the time I have to write the day off. No more lost days!
And the final one? Yep, I celebrate every win, no matter how small. I find a cheer-squad helps, and its probably why I love animals so much - did you know dogs will hype for anything, they just like to be part of it? Cuddle-dance sessions, random treats, an extra cup of coffee, a colouring-in session, it doesn't matter what it is that brings me joy (heck, I'm a gardener, sometimes its just more work) but as a novelist, waiting til the end of a long-ass book to celebrate is dooming myself. Finishing a book is just the start of more work. Celebrating every 'ending' is like trying to come home and have a 'cured' party after the first session of therapy. Nope, long way to go buddy! Great first step though! A completed and published novel is so far into the whole process (and just the end of the easy part of being an indie author 😅) that if I wasn't celebrating all the little wins there'd be no win at all. I don't see it as coddling (as some do, it was a popular criticism in my tender years), it is a genuine part of my process. It has taken me so long to find ways to work with myself that I weep for my younger self... but only for a minute or two, then its time to make the best of what I have now!
These videos are so helpful. They are reassuring, affirming and provide a wonderful launch-pad for me to explore options to get know myself and lead a productive and enriched life. Thank you! 💛❤💙💜
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This was the most seen I’ve ever felt. And not sure why, but at the end when you talked about celebrating incremental progress by giving yourself a hug and telling yourself how great you’re doing… I got a little emotional. I guess because I never feel that way anymore as a single mom with ADHD working in corporate America… every day just feels so overwhelming. Thanks for all of this. New subscriber!
I felt so seen with the "I get stuck when I can't do it the most efficient way". This is a concept that I cannot get explained to others. If the plans in my head are not the most efficient or seem to be inefficient after only 5min I will get stuck. I will do nothing except being mad at myself or making another outrageous plan that most likely will fail again. Now I am stuck in a cycle ...
This
The shower / exercise conundrum has haunted my brain. I had a gross job and had to shower after work to ease some intense anxiety, but I used to run after work a few times a week before I started the job. It was such a letdown every time I got in the shower after work because I missed my running, but I HAD to shower to keep from panicking about bringing contaminants into my home. I like that you turned that on its head. I think that would've helped me. Worst case scenario, I'd take 2 showers on run days. Unorthodox but not impossible or *gasp* wrong. Love it.
Shared this with my ADHD husband - he thinks some of these tips will really help him get organised 💚
Blind also means lacking perception, awareness, or judgement, so "time blindness" is a perfectly acceptable and very useful term. It would help ADHDers tremendously if other people understood this system. The probably very small number of blind people who have a problem with this are being completely unreasonable as using this term isn't going to affect them as all. Some people just like to feel offended or tell other people what to say, and that's called being a bully.
EFT is amazing, on top of ADHD (and possibly autism) I have a lot of emotional regulation issues and cptsd (which means I sometimes get 10/10 reaction to 2/10 situation because emotional flashback got triggered), and tapping is one thing that helps me regulate and release those emotions so quickly and consistently! What before was 2 hours of being disregulated and hysterical and trying to calm down, is now reduced to maybe 20 mins. And it's getting easier to deal with those emotions in the future too. I recommend it so much.
Omg body doubling helps me so much. I usually have one of my friends FaceTime me if they’re available, and we will just talk about random things or sit in silence. It really helps me focus on my work. I work from home and I’m on a computer all day so I get pretty antsy just sitting here and I can’t focus for the life of me.
I seem to only be able to do the thing I avoided for days when I can’t do it and have to do something else.
Like, I am super motivated do house work when I HAVE to leave and super motivated to run errands if I am stuck at home waiting for a delivery or appointment… etc
I absolutely love your videos, they helped me a lot! But one thing I want to mention, sometimes it's very hard for my brain to stay focused on your words (even using the captions) when I can hear someone (a child maybe?) screaming in the background😞😞
try playing a video of white noise at a lower volume in another tab at the same time! or pink or brown noise if those work better for you.
Closed captioning help me so much. Idk if her videos have it, but it’s more “involved” than just listening.
@@user-kv8nx9oj5v Thank you so much for the tip! Next time I'll try💟
@@lacyahal1496 yes! I sometimes turn on the captions so I can focus on the words better!
Upping the playback speed helps me! Something about the faster cadence helps me stay engaged.
Is it crazy that I love your face? Like the color matching, the hair, the glasses- everything complements! You go girlie🎉❤
Thank uou for your video. Spent probably the last 2 hours stuck looking for a video before I could start my tasks today. All I could find was videos of people telling me what they do or hacks.
Thr shower before exercise example you shared, I've (done and) heard of this for years.👍
What I have learned with time is alarms are your friend.
Yes, i set alarms for everything 😂
Thank you! Honeslty no one but peoole like us really understand how hard it is. ❤
Ok, you really do have my number. Ie, you know me, my mind, my emotions, my body, etc. As a retired Registered Nurse I totally understand the tapping stimulating the vaguus nerve. However as a person with ADHD I'd lose interest before it did me any good. I listen to hard rock music and I recently read why that works for some of us (btw, I'm over 70, and though my mother kept saying back in the 1960s and 70s.i would grow out of that music, I haven't yet). Hard rock music, played pretty loud actually stimulates the release of dopamine in our brains...so it amounts to the same thing. One of my symptoms of either ADHD or being on the spectrum is ii study things. Ii am an info maniac. (haha). Seriously I am sso grateful that I've found your channel (is that how you say it...when you mean someone's place on UA-cam? I can never quite keep up with all this stuff). So thank you so much.
I’m currently in therapy for anxiety, but recently realized I could have adhd or autism. I’m terrible with time, my brain is on 24/7 365, I procrastinate like no other, and etc. This leads to my anxiety and or panic attacks. To do lists and my phone calendar are my bffs and without them I wouldn’t know what to do. I do need to get the timer so I can get out of the house on time 😅
I am so glad to learn about “time” and not keeping up with it. And the “body doubling!” I used to always ask people to just sit and talk with me not do anything . I had no idea these were ADHD things. The more I learn the more I am convinced I have it. Maybe my two grown kids can start to understand I really have a problem with some of these things and it isn’t because I am lazy or I don’t care. I now need to figure out how to get a diagnose check. This constant loop you talk about is EXACTLY what I feel. Thank you thank you thank you
I really like your practical way of getting started ❤
I love showering first before I exercise! It seems inefficient in some ways because you do sweat, and drying hair just fir it to get semi-soaked again is unpleasant. Still, exercise while feeling oily and gross makes it feel so much worse for me, and I don’t feel like I’ve “started” to be ready for my day until I shower, meaning I don’t want to do anything until then. It also means the action-mode I get after exercise doesn’t get put out.
This this this!!!!
This was excellent! I resonate so much with everything.
Makes me wonder why I keep searching for productivity tips from Neurotypicals.
That clock idea is amazing! My issue with once I start something (cleaning bathroom) I start cleaning EVERYTHING. Thats like once a month. Its mentally draining sometimes.
I do this too, so I have started using the timer coming from the other direction, so to speak. You have ONLY 30 mins to do the bathroom. When it's done it's done. I make myself walk away unless finishing will only take five. If you finish your set tasks, you CAN go back and do all the DEEP cleaning you were tempted to do. But they probably didn't need doing. They need doing SOME time, but not in the middle of your timed work.
where were you from last 3 years when i was looking for the realistic content like yours !
I just discovered your channel today!
I wish you lived next-door to me!
Your productivity hacks are the BEST I’ve heard!
@@elbee577 omg I'm so so glad I can help!!!
This video is great! Would love to see more suggestions for non-money related small treats. This is the first time I've seen giving yourself a hug suggested as a small reward and it sounds like it would work!
EFT has been so incredibly helpful for me, I have huge issues with emotional disregulation and when I get triggered and have 10/10 reaction to 2/10 situation I just couldn't get myself to calm down and not spiral which could cost me literally HOURS of my time while I was just riding this rollercoaster of feeling like complete shit, not being able to do anything. Learning and trying EFT has been so helpful for that, it calms me down miraculously and additionally helps me process those emotions without getting stuck in activated state. Thank you for sharing that technique here, I feel like not enough people know about it (I'm a late diagnosed AuDHD with cPTSD btw)
the only adhd tips video i gained actual value from tbh . THANK YOU :D
That was first glass. Absolutely A-grade. Thank you. Objectively a very worthy bit of work. I'm very grateful for thr video and I shall check out you other stuff now. James
these are very helpful. thank you!!. i saved this to my ADHD playlist. will definitely be coming back to it over and over again. thank you!
I have heard other people talk about june bugging, but then it always sounded like something that wouldn't help at all. And NOW the WAY you explained it, I finally get why it could work for me (having ADHD) thank you for explaining things so well!!❤
Omg I've been using the body doubling thing without knowing that was a legit hack, i never understood why I was more motivated around people but I just did and it makes no sense also doing things in the most inefficient way is such a advice, I do the showering before working out and cleaning as well, it just helps me get started.
you called out the eisenhower matrix^^ i like the 80/20 method if it says somebody what.
for my household i have a 3 point system
1. Dishes
2.Garbage
3. laundry
when these 3 things are done it could be chaos as much but it is not dirty
Your hair and accessories totally pop together!
hey, serious inquiry here! I am blind with ADHD and I'm wondering if there is an audio version of the visual timer… Like something that create a sound that gets louder or softer with the task time? I think this would be so handy for me, but obviously if I'm blind, color changing isn't going to work… Time blindness (I'm blind, so I'll say I don't care if somebody uses time blind right. Is one of my biggest issues. Even if I check the time all the time, I'll hear the time and not even register it. I end up asking that for the time again for my cock two seconds later like "what time did it say? "
Such a lovely video!
Thank you just thank you. Finally the UA-cam wormhole led me here.
Great opening!
My 5 year old loves my visual timer too 😄
Thanks again for a great video. You are amazing ❤️
Me throwing my yappy coworker across the room 🤣 but for real these tips have actually been helpful and I’m going to try them out!
amazing video, thank you love
The irony of listening to this video for helping with ADHD and halfway through the video the ONLY thing I could focus on was the baby crying nonstop 😭😅
On the time blindness thing, i get how from an external view people can see our time blindness as blindness. We're not blind to time, i can tell approximately how much time has gone by pretty well. I'm not sure how it is for others, but it's really our ability to oriente our behavior in relation to time.
It varies by person. I cannot tell how much time has passed unless I look at a clock or visual aid.
Great ideas! Thank you for laying them out so concisely
It’s called “Structured procrastination”
This is so helpful thank you
I say time myopia because it's not that we don't perceive time at all, it's that we perceive only the present. And that's not a word specific to eye conditions. I do have a diagnosed visual disorder called Meares Irlen Syndrome so I want to appease the visually impaired and blind community but also have a word that is not exclusive to that community ❤ so I use time myopia or poor time perception.
Myopia is a visual disorder and one can have it so bad it renders them legally blind.
This is so wierd but my hubby works 7 on 7 off and when he is not home I do nothing but when he is home I accomplish so much. I am also mildly afraid of looking useless when he is around not that he makes me feel that way.
Thank you Megan! This video helped a ton ☺️
Love these tips!! however, I turned this video on as I’m getting ready and lowkey rushing so I’m walking around my apartment looking for stuff and missing the most important parts lol I have to keep replaying your video.
Love this ❤
great list! more ! more !
I find doubling only works for me if the other person is also doing the task. Otherwise I get too distracted by what they’re doing. I can’t imagine focusing on my own work when a friend is sitting next to me s rolling on their phone for example.
Wow, who said you could spy on my life? This was so helpful for me and I listen to it while I was doing a task that I don’t like to do. I listen to a lot of uttering in organizing videos but they never seem to get to the issue. Thank you very much.
I get stuck when “the thing” i have to do has multiple other “things” that have to be done first to do the thing first.. and they HAVE to be in that order…example doing taxes, i need to get my w-2, and it’s on in my jobs intranet, then i gotta wait til monday..and where’s my password..when RIGHT NOW i have the urge to just do the thing… veryyyyy frustrating
I can’t do any of these. I need the opposite. Something that tells me when I will have time to do tasks based on the time it takes to complete it for an ADHDer.
Ooooh I’ve heard of the time unawareness of adhd and have always been like hmm that is an aspect of adhd that does not resonate… lol I have just been in waiting mode my whole life 😅
Thanks so much for this.
Thank you for this ❤️
16:41 this 'meh' it was so personal, feels the same way :/ but at the same time, thanks for sharing this content
Crazy thing after 20 years of knowing I had ADHD finally got diagnosed on my own and its a releif. Meds aren't a cure all but help. Once I researched adhd didnt realize autism signs over lap. So its crazy I can have empathy for autism since I feel theres a lot of symptoms alike.
It's so confusing to me that how we function is not normal for everyone! I am also pretty sure that I have ADHD and am waiting for a diagnosis but it's just so weird to me that most of other people don't have issues with all of the things ADHDers have issues with
2:22 holy moly! Get outta my brains!!!
When you got to #9 it broke me a little because it clicked so hard 😢
Waiting mode... 😆 yes. i thought i only used up a whole day on nothing to just have 1 appointment.
Question: if we can’t say time blindness, then how can we cay color blindness? Not being facetious, genuine question. Wouldn’t it be the same insensitivity? They see something, it’s not a physical blind spot but rather they look at the thing and it’s grey or a different color - isn’t it just like how those of us with a lack of time perception know time exists, we can look at a clock, but we can’t perceive time passing?
I have an ADHD diagnosis and I am being treated with methylphenidate. It fits the criteria a lot but being very Cartesian I have very little faith in this disorder because it is not quantifiable. I know that it is a dopamine defect and therefore treating by inhibiting dopamine reuptake helps relieve the symptoms. But from when is it a disorder and from when is it just a character ultimately? A variability in the population. Your criteria, a bit like horoscopes and other esoteric bullshit, how do we know that they target ADHD or autistic people and not lots of other people? In the end, getting a diagnosis gives you access to drugs. and because of that I am addicted to methylphenidate. I remain skeptical about this and I don't know to what extent I am just stupid and to what extent I really have a disorder. All I know is that taking drugs to succeed in my studies (I'm in medicine, what an idiot I am, but you can't choose your passions) makes me different, irritable, addicted and I still don't know if this fucking disorder is real or if it's not just a physiological variable.
and damn I was wrong the comment was intended for another of your videos (21 sign... blah blah)
Does anyone remember the series of kids books "If You Give a Moose a Muffin", "If you give a Mouse a Cookie"? Those animals could definitely benefit from Junebugging (and so can I).
One of my big things is doing stuff in the most efficient way... I didn't know it was a sign of autism
I literally cannot do this anymore
I love you
how can i control my ADHD without medicine and also share fix for adhd and constipation
For constipation: eat an apple a day. Especially eat the middle part around the seeds. Don't eat the seeds, pick them out and eat the crunchy part where they were. Try Honeycrisp apples, they taste really great. Or any kind of apple u can get. U will feel much better.
As for controlling ADHD without medicine, it's kind of like expecting someone with no legs to get around without a wheelchair. We cannot treat schizophrenia well, we don't have good medicine for manic-depressive, but
ADHD is treatable with ADHD drugs and u can achieve a much better level of function through behavior mod and ADHD drugs. They are not all stimulants. Guanfacine can treat ADHD, also lowers blood pressure. Check out Dr. Russell Barclay's short 5-8 minute videos clipped from his longer lectures for more information on ADHD medicine. Also, exercise. Exercise helps u think better. Good luck!
Who are you and why are you inside my brain?
Yep, my thoughts exactly
Did anyone else have to pause the video to go on Amazon and find that rainbow visual timer? 😂
I usually shower first then do workout.
8:03❤
Form Minute 14 i only hear the Baby crying und the background.
* googles shadowboxes *
I hear baby screaming
Can anyone hear that poor baby in the back ground?
10:00
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Bro you got to get your crying baby.
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All of these just tired me out without even trying.
I’m legit overstimulated. I wonder if this is how my poor family feels when I become the mayor of yapsville?
Just call it time blindness. It’s a simple, understandable term. No need to complicate it.
If you are targeting people with ADHD and don't come to the point even after 2 mins you have lost them..
Thanks for throwing in woke garbage. 👎👎👎