It would be great with a topic of foreigners MARRIED to Korean guys. I’m dating a Korean guy, he is very kind and considerate, gentle,… but I feel a big difference in culture when it comes to marriage and the woman role in the husband-wife relationship, so really interested in other people stories.
Marriage is not a "place" where everything change. If people love each other they want to be all life together and they marry and continue to love each other, make their love stronger. If people don't looking for real love, just for pleasure, sleep with each other, then decided to marry and then (surprise) everything changed - this is not normal marriage and not love.
I'm a Korean woman married American men 20years ago. We talked about our role and culture , and I did the wife’s role the way we thought were right. You Dont need to follow “the Korean way” as he describes. Most young Korean girls Dont follow traditional roles anyway, and Korean parents Dont expect that much either. You can discuss what works for you and your relationship with your partner. If he wouldn't compromise, then he will not make a good husband. if you have Korean girlfriends, you may ask them about Korean culture. Some mem uses “tradition” to manipulate foreign women. If he is a good man, he will try to accommodate foreign girlfriend as much as possible.
I've noticed that some foreign girls talk about their bad experiences with Korean men and they have something in common. they met Korean men in a club or on Tinder. The normal Korean man does neither.
I really agree with this opinion. All women who have had bad experiences are men who are likely to appear in dramas. Too influenced by the drama, only very handsome men are chosen. Couples who meet men who work normally and have hobbies have no crisis
It's great hearing their experiences because I've heard all stories. I think there's some differences as well between dating one and being married to one. Being married to one is a whole different angle. (In a positive tone)
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj There's different kinds of love and I think you are speaking about Christian, benevolent love, which is different than romantic love which can come and go...such as I fell in love, then I fell out of love.
Can you interview people who are working remotely in Korea? For example: Someone from America who is working for American company, but working remotely in korea
@@QMJUN and thats exactly why people would watch it :) because that sort of information isn't easily available. If it's something we can easily just google then no one would watch it
That girl really said she's been dating that man for 6 years... no marriage, they only see each other outside, he always works on the weekend... that's definitely suspicious. Either he's scared of facing his parents or he's just having fun with her until he meets a Korean woman that he wants to marry. He could even already be married and using her as a side piece
I have a friend who dated a guy for over 6 years & they got married later on. So, maybe your right or maybe not? , I hope they do end up trying the knot later on.
If they are in their twenties, it’s not strange in Korea. Koreans tend to marry late- in their 30s. Marrying in the twenties is considered too young so many Korean couples stay just boyfriend-girlfriend for a long time in their 20s.
When you meet people in clubs I assume they are not serious lol. Tinder and clubs are for hook ups. If you want a serious guy go to serious places. It’s not rocket science.
I imagine it's difficult for foreigners to meet people organically. From what I've gathered, from watching these videos, Koreans don't speak to strangers much, so chances of a guy hitting approaching you are slim. A lot of Koreans rely on being setup on dates by friends, so if you are not in a Koren friend group then, you'll probably not meet a person that way either. The only way, really, is going online and meeting guys at Clubs. Kinda sad
Koreans only looking western woman if you're not of course they treat you bad. Becoz this happen to one person in my country she got scammed from her Korean boyfriend that she's meet on Tinder. So be careful i see many women got scammed if you're from South East Asia becoz not many of them like us
In Korea, online dating apps like Tinder aren't as widely used, and clubs tend to attract people with specific agendas. It's often more advisable to meet others through usual avenues like restaurants, mutual friends, classmates, and colleagues. Opting for Tinder and indulging in club scenes can unfortunately heighten the risk of coming across individuals with less favorable intentions, given that these are the platforms/spaces they predominantly inhabit.
Really good interview. I wish all the best for these girls. They are very open minded and respect the culture of the country. Of course, in each country, you have different personalities, good guy, bad guy. The most important is happiness. Enjoy your life !
You always choose the most interesting themes for your interview😊, I will always support you, every interview is interesting after our first interview in itewon, I like it😅, good luck Jin)
I feel like manners shouldn’t be such a weird thing to expect. HowEVER, I do feel bad for Korean guys cause Kdramas really do make it hard on them to be SO perfect 😂
I think the girl from Israel with the 6 year relationship is a concern .there are some red flags.he works every weekend and can only see her on Tuesday. They don't visit each other's house like in Israel? What does culture have to do with it. if he is dating her they should be able to frequent each other'other's homes.PERIOD.
What's wrong with expected too much? What is hard for one person may not be hard for another. You have to risk putting yourself out there. To see what more you want for yourself. Then where you focus on what you want for yourself. The more you will start to see if there are people in the world willing to give you what you need. Keep the faith, guys. Love is here for all of us!❤
I really love your interviews! Those women came from 3 totally different backgrounds and they still have similar experiences in Korea. As some already pointed out here, the concept of Western women being the liberal - meaning sexually super active and open and a bit like typical men - is incorrect. What the women mentioned is being treated with respect and being cared for. A lot of men in Western cultures seem to think that after the emancipation of women and feminism manners are not needed anymore. It's also that many are unable to express emotions and take things for granted. Women are always the ones to care about men and the family. These girls are surprised that those Korean men actually cared for them. It's very moving and I hope Korean mem see this as a huge compliment. There are many cultural differences and not everyone can experience the full on kdrama but those ladies in the interview seem to enjoy themselves. Good sign.
The fact that they have manners or treat their girlfriends with respect doesn't mean men in Korea respect women as a whole. I think it's more of a 'couple' thing, like I will treat her right because she's my girlfriend. I'm sure they're very respectful men but I don't think they're very different from Western guys when it comes to respecting women in society. I think Korean people are generally more into the dating and couple culture.
@@4651adri That could be however I blame that on the fact that the social revolution and feminist ideas that have grown in the West for more than 150 years are very new to Korea with maybe 40 years, if we are nice. I cannot treat societies the same way with that knowledge.
@@06Yvonne06 as you've mentioned in some way some ideas of feminism have changed the way in how men behave in some western conutries. I don't generalize, but my husband is British and I'm Mexican. From his experience beign a gentleman or trying to do some things were misunderstood by some British women. They took that as offensive or like he'd have another intention. He told me that he was afraid of beign accused of sexual harassment or being seen as a "macho". Probably, not all women would think like that but nowadays some men are afraid of that. However,he's very respectful with all women and with me he isn't afraid to show his feelings,romantic, caring and gentle side. Things that I didn't experience with my Cantonese ex boyfriend (not all are like him). It depends on each person, their background and their experiences.
As an American, I think that I am too independent and think that I would have a difficult time dating a Korean. Unless there's a guy out there who doesn't get jealous, doesn't get mad that I speak up, and often say "no" regardless of position or age... I understand the culture difference, but I'm unwilling to change who I am or sacrifice my core beliefs. I'm a true believer in love though. If you truly love that person, compromise will find itself.
Very good Points.Very Well Sayed.I don't think the majority are Ready to understand all :Experience are needed:)Good luck and stay so how you are:Strong good soul and Confident:)
1. “doesn'tget jeolous”- it depends more on the individual. Korean boyfriends and girlfriends tend to be more obsessed with their partners, but the jealousy or obsession varies a lot depending on the individual. 2.”get mad when I speak up”- Korean women are direct and straightforward. They are not afraid of speaking up to their partner. I found American women were indirect and speak “ considerately “ so it was hard for me Korean woman behave politely in public. Korean men prefers their women speak their opinion directly and dislike women who don't speak up because they want to know how to please her. If a Korean man doesn't like a woman who speak up, then he might not a good man - big red flag for Korean woman. 3. “Say no regardless of position or age”- that depends. In America too sometimes you have to put on a mask at workplace. It's similar to that. You want to be polite to your boss, but you probably speak your mind too, or sometimes you just shut up. For eldery people you should be nice even when they are grumpy. If someone is higher rank or a little bit older, and he/she expects obedient manner from you, that person is an a-hole- so don’t mind them. In short, you don’t need to change yourself. You will compromise with your environment rationally.
There is a huge misconception with regards to Western women. We don't live like in movies, and even though our culture is more "liberal" women still don't like to be treated as objects. Some men and women are very promiscuous but that's everywhere in the world I think. Maybe the difference is made by small population. In sum, westerners alike Korean women like to be treated with respect, and to be loved for who they are not for just their looks.
Thank you for your words. I understand the pressures that women can sometimes experience. And men, like women, are in the same problems. In Korea, men are required to have economic power, appearance (high height, muscles, etc.), and masculine personality (kindness, patience..etc.). It is targeted with many demands and pressures. K-drama is popular because most dramas are based on women's desires. More than 90% of K - drama/broadcasting writers are women. There is a lot of female desire in it, and there is pressure for Korean men to live up to women's expectations. Of course, the dangerous demands and desires that some men demand from women are a problem. This is not just a problem in Korea, but it happens in most countries. And if we think about it, both men and women have their own pressure.
@saswatakrsarkar9759 in sum: a more liberal culture doesn't make women promiscuous. It is a personal mindset and choice. I don't use my liberty to jump beds, so to speak. And I find that as Koreans wants to be treated with respect when abroad, and the consideration each deserves, that Western women deserve to be considered for who they are individually. Not based on silly movies prejudices.
Am i the only one seeing the interviewer sweeter than other korean boys. He is gentleman, open minded, smiling,sweet, he seems like good person like kdrama characters.. I dont think most guys same like kdrama characters. But he is 😉💐flower for him
He is a sweet man in Korean standard too. I bet he is popular among ladies. But I see a lot of young Korean men are sweet like him so he is not unusual. Many old Korean men are grumpy, but many young Korean men are sweet like butter . I was surprised at this huge generation gap when I came back to Korea after staying in the US for long.
Your interviews are very interesting and knowing about Korean guys more important information for youth generation How they are experienced about their life 😊
Can meet good people and bad people anywhere There is no specific place for that, it is all stereotypes)) In general need to be careful anyway and anywhere... doesn't matter
10:29 I really like this girl mintality, because she got lucky but she knows not everybody have this lucky. Is not good to have a naive mind and trust everybody.
Not a stereotype. The better word to use is "idyll" or "notion". A stereotype is based on general behavior, like machismo is associated with Hispanic men because of culture. But the image of Korean men as "gentle" is based more on kdramas, and kpop idols.
Korean Man are not us Soft us we Westerners think.They are much Stronger,much+much Stronger:.Spiritual and Physical.Its just the way they are is Very Sweer.Conservative life Resonance
The girl from Israel who dated 7 years. Girl make the man to marry you 😂❤ it's time😂. Israel has the same culture as the Netherlands. Even if you want to be intimate with your boyfriend Dutch parents understand. And you don't have to go to a motel, hotel or video box. Dutch parents leave you alone when you go upstairs 😊 It's amazing how you get people to talk so easily to you knowing it's on UA-cam ❤ Maybe you must get a hosting show for television 😊
For the Israeli lady...you want to notice she never said she MET his parents. She said, she "started talking to" his parents after 2-3 months but made clear he MET hers. Six years is a long time to date. Hmmm
it's sad when people (mostly men) say "don't expect a nice guy" which means - they are scumbags. and if we expect a nice, gentle, considerate man, we are expecting too much! LADIES, WE NEED TO HAVE STANDARDS! men need to do better!!!
i totally disagree. i think that men say that to curb unreasonable female expectations. Like, women equal "nice" with all sorts of outlandish self-sacrifice, so men try to nib that in the bud. Though i agree that "nice" isnt the right word to use for either party in this situation. Also, ladies, most likely you already have very high standards. How about we women try to look honestly at ourselves and at our male counterparts? Analyze our behaviour without false pride or entitlement. I think that would go a long way to being happy and finding a partner.
having standards is a good and important thing but it should be kept reasonable and realistic. Recently I see a lot of TikToks from women who say the only true man are the providers who pay all you bills, buy you gifts very often, being super romantic and have all the classic gentlemen characteristics so they can feel like princesses while the women themselves are most often anything else but princesses and are not willing to put similar effort in for their man. At the same time you have to understand that those traits also come with certain expectations. For example always being expected to wear make up, dress and behave feminine 24/7, don't have any male friends, have sex with him if he wants to etc.. Being nice, gentle and considerate certainly seems like a fair standard. Though I think in current society girls are the pickier ones with higher standards anyway.
I just want to know where to find a good Korean man?!?! I live in the US in California. I am trying to learn how to speak Korean. So far, everything I have seen about Korean men, I really like. They are my dream men now. And yes, I know it won’t be like the K-dramas, but I still want to have a Korean man to spend the rest of my life with. Which isn’t a lot as I am going to be 46 in January and I have a 19 year old daughter.
I’m sorry to tell you this. Korean men who are in the middle age and young Korean men are very different. There is a huge generation gap. Many young Korean men are sweet, gentle, romantic, polite- like the nice men in k-drama. (Of course there are many terrible young Korean men too.) on the other hand, most Korean middle-aged men don’t have the romantic manners, and they have patriarchal mindset, which results in high divorce rate among middle-aged Korean couples. (I.e. Middle-aged Korean women are dumping their a-h husbands nowadays). Unless you are looking for very young Korean men, it will be hard to find sweet Korean men. Your daughter has a chance to meet a nice, sweet Korean men if she become friends with many young guys. First become friends- get to know each other well - Ssum - commitment - skinship - ….. Korean relationships take this route typically.
I met korean guys when i was living in USA and cheating among them is quite normal when they're abroad. I remember this guy i was close with, he always cheated on his gf while she was living in korea
It's like dating any other man, they are human beings, you will find good ones and bad ones like in any part of the world. The end. What is the big deal with Korean man now?? Are these women just looking for a Korean man? Is this a requirement? That's all they can see when they are looking for a partner. No wonder relationships are so superficial nowadays.
I think you're interpreting too much into the video. No-one implied that they are specifically looking for Korean men to date and we don't know why they came to Korea. The interview was done by someone from Korea who is probably interested in the perception of Korean boyfriends by foreigners. It's not the interviewees here who decided to make their own video about their Korean boyfriends just because they are Korean out of the blue
Their experiences are very interesting and positive. Good for them! 🎉 Recently, I've just seen videos about bad experiences of foreigners with Korean men, and how some women have unrealistic expectations as consequence of K-Dramas which make them travel to Korea for finding their dreamed man. Regardless what we see in KDramas, it depends on each person, the background, age , experience, culture, family, how open-minded he/she is and couple agreements. From my experience (I don't generalize), I dated two Asians (non Korean). The first one a Cantonese guy who was born in Canada, even he was very opened minded about women's rigths and beign independent. On the other hand, he was very traditional and concerned about his mum expections. After 4 years dating his parents "suspected" about our relationship but he never introduced me (he wasn't married or dating someone else) just he was kind of afraid of his mum's opinion and approval. His mum wanted a Cantonse/Chinese girl for him, which was funny because his siblings were married with non Cantonese /Chinese. Plus, he used to say negative things about my appearance and my nationality (he considered his comments as jokes). At the end we just broke up, but that relationship was too far from a healthy relationship. The other one was a Vietnamese guy, who just didn't take things seriously. At the end, I've learnt it's just about how you're as a human beign and how your context and experiences influence you. It's funny, but without expecting I fell in love with a Scottish man, who is the most caring, romantic, respectful, kind and loving person (very opposite of some stereotypes of western men).
See if this is a good tip. I think that the goal is to predict if a mate is going to be a good mate. 1. What is their core motivation? If you ask why enough so that there's nothing left to ask, that's the core motive. 2. What will they sacrifice for those core motives. From this you can figure out someone's character and what they care about. It will be very predictive. Narcissists know how to act but can't introspect or explain it. Others are very shallow and you'll see that either they don't have core motivations or the motives are self centered, unhealthy or bad. Finally, if they will sacrifice a lot for something that is a good thing to do, wow, that's rare. It could Jesus, haha. Well, it could be a knight or a real gem.
Me watching the video to not idealize Korean men but all the girls saying that it's true that korean guys are more gentle, caring and romantic!!! Booking a ticket now!! lol, just joking, very nice video!
I am married to a Korean guy many years. I mean.. every individual is different and nobody is perfect.. but my husband definitely has that consideration and gentle factor. I am pretty sure that came through in him in part because of Korean cultural factors and influences I can say after being married to him many years. 🩷
Some advice from an European man who is 40 years married and has some basic knowledge of the Korean culture: 6 years of dating equals "I will never marry you and treat you like a substitute for my future partner". Men working at the weekends means that there is a high chance of an other girlfriend. Telling someone that they have gained weight when one is not very acquainted is down right rude and not a sign of concern.
@@maya_jones3411 celebrities who are bound by crazy agencies to not date or show any commitment to a partner when they are in their prime age (25 to 35) are supposed to be a model for the general public? A few brave souls are breaking out of this madness. I do watch Korean Dramas with subtitles and know at least the twenty most famous actresses. Hardly anyone being married and if so often at the age of + 35 and even less a children. Korean birth rate is the lowest of the industrial world. In Seoul just 0.8. Your magnificent culture has gone the wrong way by not adjusting to the views of young women.
@@TabeaSrn I am 66 and married in 1982 at the age of 24. My children are in the mid thirties and I have worked all my life with younger people. Keep your below 1.0 birthday rate and South Korea will be reduced to the current population of Seoul within two generations. Good luck dealing with a population where the 60 + outnumber the below 25 by the factor of 3 in the future.
I understand your point. In my generation or yours, dating for 2 years was enough to get married. Nowadays people date for a long time. Sometimes they have children and never marry. I know a couple from Church who got married when their children were 13, 14 years old. I'm from another generation but if I were on my 20’s now I wouldn't get married until……..🤔🤷🏻♀️. (and I support marriage)
Lovely stories ❤😊 If to compare with my hometown ours are cold and careless But if to compare at least with guys I talk even online from language app.. there is a big difference, I like that they are emotional and interesting))
And why are we generalizing all these men? Like just having a bad expeirience with one doesnt mean all korean men are bad? Same as all over the world. There's good and ugly everywhere
Me da gracia lo que dice de los chicos de Belorusia, si dice que los coreanos son más demostrativos y menos fríos, no me puedo imaginar el nivel de frialdad que tienen los Belorusos jajaja
Are there ulterior motives with women in these Soviet era countries? I just see a lot of them who appear to be wanting to get out of their country? For example the woman from Belarus in the interview. From what I understand opportunities there are pretty bad, especially for younger people. Is this some type of Korean green card motive?
I had my 10 years experience in a up and down, break up and make up relationship with korean bf, he is basically everything all the girls mentioned here.. he can be very sweet romantic considerate taking care of me and pay attention to me alot even to my weight😅 and he would work many hours to the point he could be missing a few days without news😅 we met in our late 20s until we are in late 30s he actually going on 40 korean age and he never mention about marriage plan, and end up he asking me to find other guy to settle down cuz he cant picture his future with me😅. Im from southeast asia country anyway.. which it seems thats the issue, maybe if im white people we would've marry me long time ago😊
Straightforwardly to say, most young Korean guys are so sweet only in front of Western beautiful ladies. At the same time, they are so honest to check their girlfriends' outfits or looks day by day. They wanted to have a date with gorgeous Western girls. Hollywood & European movies made Korean guys Western girl trackers nowadays because many awesome attractive actresses have shown their stunning body shapes and fascinating faces. If those Korean males can have a chance to marry Western girls, might do that without any hesitation. The reason is most unmarried young Korean women don't want to become housewives and also want to dodge their housework and babysitting. Recently, many Korean guys who married Western girls became popular UA-cam video creators introducing their sweet marriage to subscribers. And they are regarded as a major trend by lots of Korean video watchers these days.
@@zisd1111 Man! What the heck are you saying now? I didn't say the word "Statistical data" but just said the word "latest trend" on UA-cam. So far, only Korean middle-aged guys from 40 to 50 ages used to marry Vietnamese girls and other Southeast Asian girls such as Thai about 10 years ago. But as time goes by, many young Korean guys have married American or European girls, generally speaking. Most of them have their UA-cam accounts and also became popular video creators through other young Korean dude's passionate subscribing. Repeat, I didn't quote the concerned statistical data but just referred to the current major stream on the Korean guys' UA-cam channel. You shouldn't have exaggerated what I said. Check it out again in my comment to find the word "statistics"
@@jyd1384 I don't think your opinion, the main trend, is right either. Korean Japanese couples are the top trend, the most and closest, but where did white people come from? Honestly, it's hard to see Westerners except for Seoul, do you think there's a basis for what you say?
@pruitv3 Then you must have been a knucklehead who does not know how to googling on UA-cam to find it out. I subscribed to many UA-cam channels operating by KM & WF partners, of course, they are all married couples or BF & GF. If you don't want to accept my comment, just ignore it. That's better. Period.
@@zisd1111 If don't want to admit what I said, just skip it and go your way and ignore my comment. Do you want to become a talk battler? Save your time noob. Period.
항상 영상 잘 보고 덕분에 영어공부에도 정말 많은 도움을 받고 있습니다. 감사합니다!! 제가 유튜버가 아니다보니 편집에 관해서 잘 몰라서 혹시나 큰 어려움이 없는 과정이라면 한가지 부탁을 드려볼까합니다~ 진님의 영상으로 영어듣기 또는 영어 구어체를 배워가는 구독자들이 많은 걸로 알고 있습니다. 그렇다보니 최대한 자막을 가려서도 보고 자막 쪽으로 눈길을 안 주면서 영상을 시청하려 노력해도 자막이 달려있는 이상 눈이 자꾸 자막으로 가더라구요ㅠㅠ 단순히 영상이 재밌고, 외국인들의 시선에서 한국을 알고 싶은 사람들은 자막을 보면서 재밌게 시청하고, 영어 공부를 주된 목적으로 보는 사람들은 자막을 해제 후에 자막 없이 볼 수 있는 기능을 추가 해주실 수 있을까요? 영상을 편집하시는데 번거롭거나 어려움이 없을까 하는 걱정을 하며 조심스럽게 댓글을 남깁니다. 더운 날씨에도 길거리로 나가 외국인들과 소통하며 한국인인 저도 몰랐던 한국의 장점과 또는 개선해야할 부분들에 대해 배울 수 있게 되어 진님께 너무 감사드립니다. 앞으로도 건강하시고 항상 알고리즘의 선택을 받아 크게 번창하셨으면 합니다. 감사합니다~!!! (제 요구사항으로 인해 편집에 문제가 생기고, 편집 시간에 더 많은 시간이 할애된다면 가볍게 제 댓글을 넘겨주셔도 괜찮습니다~!!)
i also had foreign girlfriend before. when her friends talked about korean guys, they are not serious about relationship with foreign girls. but that is not true. nowadays, many korean guys want to marry with foreign girl. but sad thing is foreign girls try to get korean boyfriends in hongdae or some other club area. i'm sure about that is stupid. why they try to find nice guy in club area. that sounds like trying to find gold in the junk yard. if the foreign girls want to get korean boyfriend, just talk to them first in the street or cafes. not a club. korean club have only shitty guys. like ons. nice and kind korean guys hardly go to club and they are so shy.
What I notice is any marriage with a Korean person whether woman or man, the person only ends up adapting and changing to the Korean culture. It’s never the other way around. I never see a Korean guy or girl adapting and speaking the other language or culture except one girl. Koreans in the end prefer to stick to their own kind, I also notice this society after watching many documentaries about lonely /suicide deaths of lots of young people in their 20’s to 30’s, its not the healthiest society to live in or married into. No disrespect, it’s what it is. Nothing is like the dramas.
6 years and he's never brought her to his house? They only see once a week? She still hasn't met his parents? That doesn't sound normal even for Korean, that sounds almost like shes the side chic.
girls rule no 1 never run after men find good man in your locality because if he cheats you atleast you can tell other people or have support in family
Mmh, I don't know what they've been watching but there plenty of nasty bad guy characters in kdramas. I don't believe anyone thinks that those are representative of Korean men...? And that teenagers who are known to be infatuated easily and sometimes can be delusional, might fantasise about such a guy, can be excused as youthful naivité. No reason to put anyone down. smh
자 오빠가 솔직하게 적어줄게. 우리 한국 남자들은 그동안 수많은 K드라마들과 인식변화의 과도기때문에 엄청난 훈련을 해왔다. 여자에겐 이렇게 해야된다. 저렇게 해야된다. 여자들은 이런옷을 입으면 싫어한다 좋아한다.여자에게 이런행동하면 감동받는다 등등 여자들에게 가스라이팅을 당해왔다. 이건 나만의 생각이 아니라 내 나이대 사람이라면 너무나 공감할거다. 여자들의 그런 말들속에서 우리는 대비를 할 수 밖에 없는 처지가 되었었다. "아...원래 나처럼 행동했다간 여자 손 한번 못잡아보고 인생 하직하겠구나.." 라는 불안감 때문에 나름대로 스스로 익히고 공부해야했다. 예를 들어 데이트 비용을 남자가 지불하지 않으면 개 찐따 쪼잔한 새끼가 되는것이다. 또는 헐렁한 바지에 양말신고 샌들을 신고 나가면 여자가 도망갈 수 있다 등등.. 그래서 한국 남자들이 어떻게 해야 여자의 마음에 드는지 온몸으로 체득하며 살아왔다. 그렇게 힘든 과정을 거쳐 여자를 만나면 초반에는 여자 마음에 쏙 드는 행동들만 골라서 어느정도 버틸 수 있지만 사람이기에 결국 본모습이 드러난다. 원래의 내 모습이 여자에게 비춰지면서 처음과는 다른 남자친구의 모습들을 보게되는것이다. 여자도 그런것에 실망하고 떠나겠지만 사실 남자들도 원래의 '나' 로서 여자를 만나고 싶은게 사실이다. 그러다보니 스트레스가 쌓이면서 그냥 어느순간 나사가 하나씩 풀리면서 본모습을 보이는것이다. 원래 내 모습을 사랑해줄 수 있는 사람을 만나고 싶지만 그렇지 않은게 현실이다. 원래의 내 모습이 너무 완벽하고 멋있다면 괜찮겠지만 일반적인 남자들의 모습은 다 그럴 수 없는것 아니겠는가. 한국여자들이 한국 남자들을 너무 쥐잡듯 압박하는것도 맞고 심한경우 결혼하고서도 여자에게 잘해야 한다는 생각에 버티고 버티다가 큰 싸움으로 이어지기도한다. 내 친구의 경우 힘들게 회사일 마치고 집에오면 집안일을 다 해야된다. 집에 하루종일 있었던 아내는 그냥 남자가 당연히 해야되는거라는둥 내 친구를 압박한다고 했다. 난 그냥 한국 일본 중국 여자만 아니면 정말 괜찮다고 생각한다. 일본은 왜? 라고 하는 사람 있겠지만 일본의 실상은 굉장히 차가운 관계로 겨우겨우 이어져 살아간다. 이걸 버틸 한국 남자 많지 않다. 그래서 한중일 빼고 다른 나라 여자라면 모두 괜찮다는것
Some ladies complain about being dumped, but.. Just as a lady can reject a man, a man can reject a lady. Why do ladies think men shouldn't always leave them? Just as ladies don't like unsuitable men, men also don't like unfit ladies.
I've met soo many of these type of western women in Korea. They are what we call the new Eat Pray Loves crowd that got fixated on K-dramas. Many many go back to the west disappointed with the guys here and not finding the romance they thought they would get by just being here. But to be fair I have met a couple or two where the fantasy has worked out but its very rare.
The Israeli woman- conforming to what she believes is right, whereby it should be both the man and woman in the relationship adapting to each other. NO ONE should just adapt for the sake of someone else. Adapting the culture is different. Getting used to it, being respectful is totally different. But to say the foreign partner HAS to adapt (basically change) to fit in is ludicrous 😒. All I heard was red flags 🚩 from her. 6yrs n you are the one who only has to change? No chance. The lady who met the bloke on the dodgy website? I .. yea no words 😂! Dumb move. Just… no. I saw on another platform, someone said this - you’d have more chance meeting a Korean bloke outside of the country, than within. Who knows! Could be right or wrong. There good blokes n bad (women too) everywhere! I dk much about KR to want to visit, even though I do like K-pop guy groups, so I won’t be booking a flight anytime soon👍🏾. Especially not for a guy. Did that once, and never again!😂 Culturally, would be good to see more and know more. But ladies, be careful where you meet blokes! Western women are not the same, but if you’re of a more whiter complexion, you’d have more chance, than someone like myself who is a black female 👍🏾
take a chance on him\here Than always wondering what could of been. Not all have happy endings . Just live in the moment .Its best to have lived and loved than not at all....Its always easy to judge a book by its cover , than when you open it you will find you in it....
Nice interview. I dont understand one thing why Slavic and Causcaissian girls opt the korean girls gesture and style after arriving korea. While talking, their hand moment, talking style, pauses in talk, nodding head, everything copied from korean girls. Sometimes not match their physical features and look weired as these gestures only suit for korean girls 😊
@CoolNumber1 nah, my dear. Underdeveloped countries generally get faded with developed countries' culture quickly. But here, the reason is somehow different in Korea. A curious mind can only find the reason
I don't believe this. It's just that foreigners are not really embedded in Korean society. Back in the day those dramas reflected Korean life. Although today many are for entertainment now but dramas really reflected Korean life back in the day.
It would be great with a topic of foreigners MARRIED to Korean guys. I’m dating a Korean guy, he is very kind and considerate, gentle,… but I feel a big difference in culture when it comes to marriage and the woman role in the husband-wife relationship, so really interested in other people stories.
Marriage is not a "place" where everything change. If people love each other they want to be all life together and they marry and continue to love each other, make their love stronger. If people don't looking for real love, just for pleasure, sleep with each other, then decided to marry and then (surprise) everything changed - this is not normal marriage and not love.
a lot of people reveal their true selves after marriage, it's sad but true (also universal)@@one.girl...1
So he’s basically a weak, beta male that you doesn’t respect…got it🤦♂️
I'm a Korean woman married American men 20years ago. We talked about our role and culture , and I did the wife’s role the way we thought were right. You Dont need to follow “the Korean way” as he describes. Most young Korean girls Dont follow traditional roles anyway, and Korean parents Dont expect that much either. You can discuss what works for you and your relationship with your partner. If he wouldn't compromise, then he will not make a good husband. if you have Korean girlfriends, you may ask them about Korean culture. Some mem uses “tradition” to manipulate foreign women. If he is a good man, he will try to accommodate foreign girlfriend as much as possible.
현재 결혼적령기 남성들은 육아 및 가사에도 적극적인 편입니다. 과거 ‘아내는 시부모에게 잘해야 한다’ 는 말이 많았으나 요즘은 그렇지도 않습니다. 애정표현이나 로맨틱한 부분은 줄어들 수 있습니다. ’가장‘ 이라는 책임감에 좀더 집중하는 경향이 있습니다.
I've noticed that some foreign girls talk about their bad experiences with Korean men and they have something in common. they met Korean men in a club or on Tinder. The normal Korean man does neither.
I really agree with this opinion. All women who have had bad experiences are men who are likely to appear in dramas. Too influenced by the drama, only very handsome men are chosen. Couples who meet men who work normally and have hobbies have no crisis
맞아 서비스일하는데 대부분좋은데 클럽나이트가는이는 별루긴해😊
So true! You can't meet a nice person in so-called entertainment places.
So where Korean women meet decent Korean men, at work? At the gym? At the bank...?? Just curious 😂
@@Forbiddenjadetheonly I think it's best to meet at a place related to work. You can see his sincerity
It's great hearing their experiences because I've heard all stories. I think there's some differences as well between dating one and being married to one. Being married to one is a whole different angle. (In a positive tone)
I couldn't understand why people are running after love, the most important thing that people must look for is loyalty and trust
I think love, loyalty and trust all go hand in hand.
I don't think they all in serious relationship. My friend's got love scam from Korean guy
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj There's different kinds of love and I think you are speaking about Christian, benevolent love, which is different than romantic love which can come and go...such as I fell in love, then I fell out of love.
Ive dated korean guys and my experience has been mostly positive. Definitely more gentlemanly and respectful than other guys ive dated.
How many ?
Can you interview people who are working remotely in Korea? For example: Someone from America who is working for American company, but working remotely in korea
That would be me (sort of). I'm a Korean Canadian, but work for remotely for a US tech company in Korea.
I’ll try
Yellow fever
That would hard to find interviewee
@@QMJUN and thats exactly why people would watch it :) because that sort of information isn't easily available. If it's something we can easily just google then no one would watch it
That girl really said she's been dating that man for 6 years... no marriage, they only see each other outside, he always works on the weekend... that's definitely suspicious. Either he's scared of facing his parents or he's just having fun with her until he meets a Korean woman that he wants to marry. He could even already be married and using her as a side piece
I agree
Agreed. Still just "dating" after 6 years is not a good sign.
very true.
I have a friend who dated a guy for over 6 years & they got married later on. So, maybe your right or maybe not? , I hope they do end up trying the knot later on.
If they are in their twenties, it’s not strange in Korea. Koreans tend to marry late- in their 30s. Marrying in the twenties is considered too young so many Korean couples stay just boyfriend-girlfriend for a long time in their 20s.
I just love how chill this interview is
When you meet people in clubs I assume they are not serious lol. Tinder and clubs are for hook ups. If you want a serious guy go to serious places. It’s not rocket science.
I imagine it's difficult for foreigners to meet people organically. From what I've gathered, from watching these videos, Koreans don't speak to strangers much, so chances of a guy hitting approaching you are slim. A lot of Koreans rely on being setup on dates by friends, so if you are not in a Koren friend group then, you'll probably not meet a person that way either. The only way, really, is going online and meeting guys at Clubs. Kinda sad
My roommate met her current husband at a club and they are happily married with 2 kids now. But it was in the US but it still depends on your luck.
Koreans only looking western woman if you're not of course they treat you bad. Becoz this happen to one person in my country she got scammed from her Korean boyfriend that she's meet on Tinder. So be careful i see many women got scammed if you're from South East Asia becoz not many of them like us
In Korea, online dating apps like Tinder aren't as widely used, and clubs tend to attract people with specific agendas. It's often more advisable to meet others through usual avenues like restaurants, mutual friends, classmates, and colleagues. Opting for Tinder and indulging in club scenes can unfortunately heighten the risk of coming across individuals with less favorable intentions, given that these are the platforms/spaces they predominantly inhabit.
Really good interview. I wish all the best for these girls. They are very open minded and respect the culture of the country. Of course, in each country, you have different personalities, good guy, bad guy. The most important is happiness. Enjoy your life !
진님 항상 영상 잘 보고 있습니다 덕분에 다른 문화권 분들의 생각을 이해할 수 있어서 굉장히 유익해요! 앞으로도 응원하겠습니다 :)
감사합니다❤
The Israeli lady has a nice voice and all the girls are adorable 🥰
You always choose the most interesting themes for your interview😊, I will always support you, every interview is interesting after our first interview in itewon, I like it😅, good luck Jin)
Slow,kind, and considerate ❤. So sweet 😊
Best topic of the year 🤍
Different people are all over the world. Good guys, bad guys and in between. It totally depends on the individual person 😊
True. It depends what they care most about and what they will sacrifice for doing something that's good. Ask, why they care?
I feel like manners shouldn’t be such a weird thing to expect. HowEVER, I do feel bad for Korean guys cause Kdramas really do make it hard on them to be SO perfect 😂
I think the girl from Israel with the 6 year relationship is a concern .there are some red flags.he works every weekend and can only see her on Tuesday. They don't visit each other's house like in Israel? What does culture have to do with it. if he is dating her they should be able to frequent each other'other's homes.PERIOD.
Most Korean guys I have met are really gentle and handsome. just avoid dating apps and clubs
Where do you meet them?
Honestly men are men everywhere don't expect to much
Women are the same everywhere too.
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Honestly women are women everywhere don't expect too much
What's wrong with expected too much? What is hard for one person may not be hard for another. You have to risk putting yourself out there. To see what more you want for yourself. Then where you focus on what you want for yourself. The more you will start to see if there are people in the world willing to give you what you need. Keep the faith, guys. Love is here for all of us!❤
Yeah women are everywhere, dont expect much lmao. I swear to God, women love to blame men when they are as sinful as men but in a different way
I really love your interviews! Those women came from 3 totally different backgrounds and they still have similar experiences in Korea. As some already pointed out here, the concept of Western women being the liberal - meaning sexually super active and open and a bit like typical men - is incorrect. What the women mentioned is being treated with respect and being cared for. A lot of men in Western cultures seem to think that after the emancipation of women and feminism manners are not needed anymore. It's also that many are unable to express emotions and take things for granted. Women are always the ones to care about men and the family. These girls are surprised that those Korean men actually cared for them. It's very moving and I hope Korean mem see this as a huge compliment. There are many cultural differences and not everyone can experience the full on kdrama but those ladies in the interview seem to enjoy themselves. Good sign.
The fact that they have manners or treat their girlfriends with respect doesn't mean men in Korea respect women as a whole. I think it's more of a 'couple' thing, like I will treat her right because she's my girlfriend. I'm sure they're very respectful men but I don't think they're very different from Western guys when it comes to respecting women in society. I think Korean people are generally more into the dating and couple culture.
@@4651adri That could be however I blame that on the fact that the social revolution and feminist ideas that have grown in the West for more than 150 years are very new to Korea with maybe 40 years, if we are nice. I cannot treat societies the same way with that knowledge.
@@06Yvonne06 as you've mentioned in some way some ideas of feminism have changed the way in how men behave in some western conutries.
I don't generalize, but my husband is British and I'm Mexican. From his experience beign a gentleman or trying to do some things were misunderstood by some British women. They took that as offensive or like he'd have another intention. He told me that he was afraid of beign accused of sexual harassment or being seen as a "macho". Probably, not all women would think like that but nowadays some men are afraid of that.
However,he's very respectful with all women and with me he isn't afraid to show his feelings,romantic, caring and gentle side. Things that I didn't experience with my Cantonese ex boyfriend (not all are like him).
It depends on each person, their background and their experiences.
As an American, I think that I am too independent and think that I would have a difficult time dating a Korean. Unless there's a guy out there who doesn't get jealous, doesn't get mad that I speak up, and often say "no" regardless of position or age... I understand the culture difference, but I'm unwilling to change who I am or sacrifice my core beliefs. I'm a true believer in love though. If you truly love that person, compromise will find itself.
Very good Points.Very Well Sayed.I don't think the majority are Ready to understand all :Experience are needed:)Good luck and stay so how you are:Strong good soul and Confident:)
1. “doesn'tget jeolous”- it depends more on the individual. Korean boyfriends and girlfriends tend to be more obsessed with their partners, but the jealousy or obsession varies a lot depending on the individual.
2.”get mad when I speak up”- Korean women are direct and straightforward. They are not afraid of speaking up to their partner. I found American women were indirect and speak “ considerately “ so it was hard for me Korean woman behave politely in public. Korean men prefers their women speak their opinion directly and dislike women who don't speak up because they want to know how to please her. If a Korean man doesn't like a woman who speak up, then he might not a good man - big red flag for Korean woman.
3. “Say no regardless of position or age”- that depends. In America too sometimes you have to put on a mask at workplace. It's similar to that. You want to be polite to your boss, but you probably speak your mind too, or sometimes you just shut up. For eldery people you should be nice even when they are grumpy. If someone is higher rank or a little bit older, and he/she expects obedient manner from you, that person is an a-hole- so don’t mind them.
In short, you don’t need to change yourself. You will compromise with your environment rationally.
I think saying "no" is ok as long as you're also prepared to hear "no" from guys
There is a huge misconception with regards to Western women. We don't live like in movies, and even though our culture is more "liberal" women still don't like to be treated as objects. Some men and women are very promiscuous but that's everywhere in the world I think. Maybe the difference is made by small population. In sum, westerners alike Korean women like to be treated with respect, and to be loved for who they are not for just their looks.
What do you said that?? I don't understand your viewpoint
Thank you for your words. I understand the pressures that women can sometimes experience. And men, like women, are in the same problems. In Korea, men are required to have economic power, appearance (high height, muscles, etc.), and masculine personality (kindness, patience..etc.). It is targeted with many demands and pressures. K-drama is popular because most dramas are based on women's desires. More than 90% of K - drama/broadcasting writers are women. There is a lot of female desire in it, and there is pressure for Korean men to live up to women's expectations. Of course, the dangerous demands and desires that some men demand from women are a problem. This is not just a problem in Korea, but it happens in most countries. And if we think about it, both men and women have their own pressure.
@saswatakrsarkar9759 in sum: a more liberal culture doesn't make women promiscuous. It is a personal mindset and choice. I don't use my liberty to jump beds, so to speak. And I find that as Koreans wants to be treated with respect when abroad, and the consideration each deserves, that Western women deserve to be considered for who they are individually. Not based on silly movies prejudices.
@@Forbiddenjadetheonly what?😑
@@Forbiddenjadetheonly I think you can certainly make the argument that westerners are more promiscuous in general though
Am i the only one seeing the interviewer sweeter than other korean boys. He is gentleman, open minded, smiling,sweet, he seems like good person like kdrama characters.. I dont think most guys same like kdrama characters. But he is 😉💐flower for him
He is a sweet man in Korean standard too. I bet he is popular among ladies. But I see a lot of young Korean men are sweet like him so he is not unusual. Many old Korean men are grumpy, but many young Korean men are sweet like butter . I was surprised at this huge generation gap when I came back to Korea after staying in the US for long.
Your interviews are very interesting and knowing about Korean guys more important information for youth generation How they are experienced about their life 😊
Hyung make the interview with a guy who are dating korean women.....
Got ya bro👌🏻
Can meet good people and bad people anywhere
There is no specific place for that, it is all stereotypes))
In general need to be careful anyway and anywhere... doesn't matter
LOOOOOOVE IT, THANKS🎉🎉 GREETINGS FROM ROB FROM SWITZERLAND
10:29 I really like this girl mintality, because she got lucky but she knows not everybody have this lucky. Is not good to have a naive mind and trust everybody.
Not a stereotype. The better word to use is "idyll" or "notion". A stereotype is based on general behavior, like machismo is associated with Hispanic men because of culture. But the image of Korean men as "gentle" is based more on kdramas, and kpop idols.
Korean Man are not us Soft us we Westerners think.They are much Stronger,much+much Stronger:.Spiritual and Physical.Its just the way they are is Very Sweer.Conservative life Resonance
@@elenakursteiner4729 Being soft doesn't mean you're weak.
1:25 An Omegle couple that actually worked😂😂👍👍❤
9:33 The subtitles are wrong at 9:33. She said, “My friends who date Koreans.”
This is fantastic Really enjoy your videos. :)
The girl from Israel who dated 7 years. Girl make the man to marry you 😂❤ it's time😂. Israel has the same culture as the Netherlands. Even if you want to be intimate with your boyfriend Dutch parents understand.
And you don't have to go to a motel, hotel or video box.
Dutch parents leave you alone when you go upstairs 😊
It's amazing how you get people to talk so easily to you knowing it's on UA-cam ❤
Maybe you must get a hosting show for television 😊
영어공부하기 최고의 채널!! 항상 잘보고 있습니당
There must be alot of European foreigners there for work ,study or live in the country?
For the Israeli lady...you want to notice she never said she MET his parents. She said, she "started talking to" his parents after 2-3 months but made clear he MET hers. Six years is a long time to date. Hmmm
it's sad when people (mostly men) say "don't expect a nice guy" which means - they are scumbags. and if we expect a nice, gentle, considerate man, we are expecting too much! LADIES, WE NEED TO HAVE STANDARDS! men need to do better!!!
i totally disagree.
i think that men say that to curb unreasonable female expectations. Like, women equal "nice" with all sorts of outlandish self-sacrifice, so men try to nib that in the bud.
Though i agree that "nice" isnt the right word to use for either party in this situation.
Also, ladies, most likely you already have very high standards. How about we women try to look honestly at ourselves and at our male counterparts? Analyze our behaviour without false pride or entitlement. I think that would go a long way to being happy and finding a partner.
so true
Standards???..nothing is perfect in life
having standards is a good and important thing but it should be kept reasonable and realistic. Recently I see a lot of TikToks from women who say the only true man are the providers who pay all you bills, buy you gifts very often, being super romantic and have all the classic gentlemen characteristics so they can feel like princesses while the women themselves are most often anything else but princesses and are not willing to put similar effort in for their man. At the same time you have to understand that those traits also come with certain expectations. For example always being expected to wear make up, dress and behave feminine 24/7, don't have any male friends, have sex with him if he wants to etc..
Being nice, gentle and considerate certainly seems like a fair standard. Though I think in current society girls are the pickier ones with higher standards anyway.
@@ZuLiAnO_FaRhAn you won't get anything perfect if you won't make efforts to find it lol
The lady from Belarus seems really sweet
I just want to know where to find a good Korean man?!?!
I live in the US in California. I am trying to learn how to speak Korean. So far, everything I have seen about Korean men, I really like. They are my dream men now.
And yes, I know it won’t be like the K-dramas, but I still want to have a Korean man to spend the rest of my life with. Which isn’t a lot as I am going to be 46 in January and I have a 19 year old daughter.
I’m sorry to tell you this. Korean men who are in the middle age and young Korean men are very different. There is a huge generation gap. Many young Korean men are sweet, gentle, romantic, polite- like the nice men in k-drama. (Of course there are many terrible young Korean men too.) on the other hand, most Korean middle-aged men don’t have the romantic manners, and they have patriarchal mindset, which results in high divorce rate among middle-aged Korean couples. (I.e. Middle-aged Korean women are dumping their a-h husbands nowadays). Unless you are looking for very young Korean men, it will be hard to find sweet Korean men. Your daughter has a chance to meet a nice, sweet Korean men if she become friends with many young guys. First become friends- get to know each other well - Ssum - commitment - skinship - ….. Korean relationships take this route typically.
This is a really bad idea. Wake up from your dream, or maybe you will crash hard…
I met korean guys when i was living in USA and cheating among them is quite normal when they're abroad. I remember this guy i was close with, he always cheated on his gf while she was living in korea
It's like dating any other man, they are human beings, you will find good ones and bad ones like in any part of the world. The end. What is the big deal with Korean man now?? Are these women just looking for a Korean man? Is this a requirement? That's all they can see when they are looking for a partner. No wonder relationships are so superficial nowadays.
I think you're interpreting too much into the video. No-one implied that they are specifically looking for Korean men to date and we don't know why they came to Korea. The interview was done by someone from Korea who is probably interested in the perception of Korean boyfriends by foreigners. It's not the interviewees here who decided to make their own video about their Korean boyfriends just because they are Korean out of the blue
Why are all three of the ladies wearing rings on the wedding finger if they are only dating?
Maybe they’re wearing couple rings. Not all countries put the ring on the same hand when they’re married.
@@gigicornett4795I see 😎👌
Their experiences are very interesting and positive. Good for them! 🎉
Recently, I've just seen videos about bad experiences of foreigners with Korean men, and how some women have unrealistic expectations as consequence of K-Dramas which make them travel to Korea for finding their dreamed man.
Regardless what we see in KDramas, it depends on each person, the background, age , experience, culture, family, how open-minded he/she is and couple agreements.
From my experience (I don't generalize), I dated two Asians (non Korean).
The first one a Cantonese guy who was born in Canada, even he was very opened minded about women's rigths and beign independent. On the other hand, he was very traditional and concerned about his mum expections. After 4 years dating his parents "suspected" about our relationship but he never introduced me (he wasn't married or dating someone else) just he was kind of afraid of his mum's opinion and approval. His mum wanted a Cantonse/Chinese girl for him, which was funny because his siblings were married with non Cantonese /Chinese. Plus, he used to say negative things about my appearance and my nationality (he considered his comments as jokes). At the end we just broke up, but that relationship was too far from a healthy relationship.
The other one was a Vietnamese guy, who just didn't take things seriously.
At the end, I've learnt it's just about how you're as a human beign and how your context and experiences influence you.
It's funny, but without expecting I fell in love with a Scottish man, who is the most caring, romantic, respectful, kind and loving person (very opposite of some stereotypes of western men).
See if this is a good tip. I think that the goal is to predict if a mate is going to be a good mate.
1. What is their core motivation? If you ask why enough so that there's nothing left to ask, that's the core motive.
2. What will they sacrifice for those core motives.
From this you can figure out someone's character and what they care about. It will be very predictive. Narcissists know how to act but can't introspect or explain it. Others are very shallow and you'll see that either they don't have core motivations or the motives are self centered, unhealthy or bad. Finally, if they will sacrifice a lot for something that is a good thing to do, wow, that's rare. It could Jesus, haha. Well, it could be a knight or a real gem.
한국남자 만나면서 외국애들이 이야기하는 안좋은점은
1.고스팅 (싸우고 잠수 타는거...특히 일본여자애들이 엄청 뭐라하는거 봄)
2.초반에 러쉬해서 로맨틱하다가 익숙해지면 말도 함부로하고 소중하게 대하지않음 (금방사랑에빠지고 식고나서 외모지적이나 폭언등등
외국은 좀 잔잔하게 릴레이션쉽하는데
한국은 초반에 모든 기운쏟는듯)
3.마마보이 (데이트하는데 엄마 전화와서 아들 밥먹었니?이런안부묻는게 독립적인 성인같지 않다고 이것도 일본여자가 그럼)
진지하게 접근하는게 아니니깐 당연하지 ㅋㅋㅋ 쉽게보고 접근할텐데
한국 아주머니들 여기까지 와서 분탕질이네 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 이래서 한국여자가 싫은거임
JIN YOU ARE GOOD AND VERY TALENTED
안녕하세요 혹시 저희 비디오는 언제 업로드 될까요? 😊
재선님!! 오늘 업로드 됩니다ㅎㅎ 조금만 기다려주세용
F to ppl who think all Korean boys are similar to the ones on Kdramas
Me watching the video to not idealize Korean men but all the girls saying that it's true that korean guys are more gentle, caring and romantic!!! Booking a ticket now!! lol, just joking, very nice video!
They lie...all men is the same
I am married to a Korean guy many years. I mean.. every individual is different and nobody is perfect.. but my husband definitely has that consideration and gentle factor. I am pretty sure that came through in him in part because of Korean cultural factors and influences I can say after being married to him many years. 🩷
Cuz they met those red flag guys in nightclub... If they met the normal korean guys, is a big difference.
@@ZuLiAnO_FaRhAnyou sound jealous , what country are you from?
@@KG-ii2yx why angry???..are you korean??
Some advice from an European man who is 40 years married and has some basic knowledge of the Korean culture: 6 years of dating equals "I will never marry you and treat you like a substitute for my future partner". Men working at the weekends means that there is a high chance of an other girlfriend. Telling someone that they have gained weight when one is not very acquainted is down right rude and not a sign of concern.
😮😮😟
This isn’t true for everyone. Look at the Korean-couple celebrities who were dating for 7 or 8 years before they got married.
@@maya_jones3411 celebrities who are bound by crazy agencies to not date or show any commitment to a partner when they are in their prime age (25 to 35) are supposed to be a model for the general public? A few brave souls are breaking out of this madness. I do watch Korean Dramas with subtitles and know at least the twenty most famous actresses. Hardly anyone being married and if so often at the age of + 35 and even less a children. Korean birth rate is the lowest of the industrial world. In Seoul just 0.8. Your magnificent culture has gone the wrong way by not adjusting to the views of young women.
@@TabeaSrn I am 66 and married in 1982 at the age of 24. My children are in the mid thirties and I have worked all my life with younger people. Keep your below 1.0 birthday rate and South Korea will be reduced to the current population of Seoul within two generations. Good luck dealing with a population where the 60 + outnumber the below 25 by the factor of 3 in the future.
I understand your point. In my generation or yours, dating for 2 years was enough to get married. Nowadays people date for a long time. Sometimes they have children and never marry. I know a couple from Church who got married when their children were 13, 14 years old. I'm from another generation but if I were on my 20’s now I wouldn't get married until……..🤔🤷🏻♀️. (and I support marriage)
Lovely stories ❤😊
If to compare with my hometown ours are cold and careless
But if to compare at least with guys I talk even online from language app.. there is a big difference, I like that they are emotional and interesting))
And why are we generalizing all these men? Like just having a bad expeirience with one doesnt mean all korean men are bad?
Same as all over the world. There's good and ugly everywhere
다른 문화에선 어떨지 모르겠지만 한국에선 클럽 분위기의 술집, 클럽, 데이트 앱, 랜덤채팅 앱을 통해 만난다면 보편적으로 나쁜 인연일 확률이 높습니다. 여자, 남자 구분없이 정상적인 사람을 만나기 위해선 평범한 사회, 일상 속에서 인연을 찾으세요.
한국뿐만 아니라 다른나라도 그럼
상식적으로 클럽,술집 데이트앱, 랜덤채팅 이렇데에서 남자 여자 만나는데 정상적인 사람이 있겠냐
Me da gracia lo que dice de los chicos de Belorusia, si dice que los coreanos son más demostrativos y menos fríos, no me puedo imaginar el nivel de frialdad que tienen los Belorusos jajaja
Imagínate! 😂
달달하네욬ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 진짜 적절한 번역이네
잘봤습니다 ㅎ
감사합니다!
Are there ulterior motives with women in these Soviet era countries? I just see a lot of them who appear to be wanting to get out of their country? For example the woman from Belarus in the interview. From what I understand opportunities there are pretty bad, especially for younger people. Is this some type of Korean green card motive?
I had my 10 years experience in a up and down, break up and make up relationship with korean bf, he is basically everything all the girls mentioned here.. he can be very sweet romantic considerate taking care of me and pay attention to me alot even to my weight😅 and he would work many hours to the point he could be missing a few days without news😅 we met in our late 20s until we are in late 30s he actually going on 40 korean age and he never mention about marriage plan, and end up he asking me to find other guy to settle down cuz he cant picture his future with me😅. Im from southeast asia country anyway.. which it seems thats the issue, maybe if im white people we would've marry me long time ago😊
Gosh... This is so sad...😢😢😢😢 I'm sorry for you...
Talk to them after they marry them!
Good topic 😅😅😅
😂😂😂
I would love a handsome, stable,honest, good looking and smart korean guy, someone like Cha Eun Won or Kim Namjoon 💞 they're my favourite idols.
Straightforwardly to say, most young Korean guys are so sweet only in front of Western beautiful ladies. At the same time, they are so honest to check their girlfriends' outfits or looks day by day. They wanted to have a date with gorgeous Western girls. Hollywood & European movies made Korean guys Western girl trackers nowadays because many awesome attractive actresses have shown their stunning body shapes and fascinating faces.
If those Korean males can have a chance to marry Western girls, might do that without any hesitation. The reason is most unmarried young Korean women don't want to become housewives and also want to dodge their housework and babysitting. Recently, many Korean guys who married Western girls became popular UA-cam video creators introducing their sweet marriage to subscribers. And they are regarded as a major trend by lots of Korean video watchers these days.
am Korean and according to the statistics of Korea, Korean marry Japanese women and Southeast Asian countries the most, which statistics did you see?
@@zisd1111
Man! What the heck are you saying now? I didn't say the word "Statistical data" but just said the word "latest trend" on UA-cam. So far, only Korean middle-aged guys from 40 to 50 ages used to marry Vietnamese girls and other Southeast Asian girls such as Thai about 10 years ago. But as time goes by, many young Korean guys have married American or European girls, generally speaking. Most of them have their UA-cam accounts and also became popular video creators through other young Korean dude's passionate subscribing. Repeat, I didn't quote the concerned statistical data but just referred to the current major stream on the Korean guys' UA-cam channel. You shouldn't have exaggerated what I said. Check it out again in my comment to find the word "statistics"
@@jyd1384 I don't think your opinion, the main trend, is right either. Korean Japanese couples are the top trend, the most and closest, but where did white people come from? Honestly, it's hard to see Westerners except for Seoul, do you think there's a basis for what you say?
@pruitv3
Then you must have been a knucklehead who does not know how to googling on UA-cam to find it out. I subscribed to many UA-cam channels operating by KM & WF partners, of course, they are all married couples or BF & GF. If you don't want to accept my comment, just ignore it. That's better. Period.
@@zisd1111
If don't want to admit what I said, just skip it and go your way and ignore my comment. Do you want to become a talk battler? Save your time noob. Period.
항상 영상 잘 보고 덕분에 영어공부에도 정말 많은 도움을 받고 있습니다. 감사합니다!! 제가 유튜버가 아니다보니 편집에 관해서 잘 몰라서 혹시나 큰 어려움이 없는 과정이라면 한가지 부탁을 드려볼까합니다~ 진님의 영상으로 영어듣기 또는 영어 구어체를 배워가는 구독자들이 많은 걸로 알고 있습니다. 그렇다보니 최대한 자막을 가려서도 보고 자막 쪽으로 눈길을 안 주면서 영상을 시청하려 노력해도 자막이 달려있는 이상 눈이 자꾸 자막으로 가더라구요ㅠㅠ 단순히 영상이 재밌고, 외국인들의 시선에서 한국을 알고 싶은 사람들은 자막을 보면서 재밌게 시청하고, 영어 공부를 주된 목적으로 보는 사람들은 자막을 해제 후에 자막 없이 볼 수 있는 기능을 추가 해주실 수 있을까요? 영상을 편집하시는데 번거롭거나 어려움이 없을까 하는 걱정을 하며 조심스럽게 댓글을 남깁니다. 더운 날씨에도 길거리로 나가 외국인들과 소통하며 한국인인 저도 몰랐던 한국의 장점과 또는 개선해야할 부분들에 대해 배울 수 있게 되어 진님께 너무 감사드립니다. 앞으로도 건강하시고 항상 알고리즘의 선택을 받아 크게 번창하셨으면 합니다. 감사합니다~!!! (제 요구사항으로 인해 편집에 문제가 생기고, 편집 시간에 더 많은 시간이 할애된다면 가볍게 제 댓글을 넘겨주셔도 괜찮습니다~!!)
So for the most part they are more gentle than western men? I like that ❤
i also had foreign girlfriend before. when her friends talked about korean guys, they are not serious about relationship with foreign girls. but that is not true. nowadays, many korean guys want to marry with foreign girl. but sad thing is foreign girls try to get korean boyfriends in hongdae or some other club area. i'm sure about that is stupid. why they try to find nice guy in club area. that sounds like trying to find gold in the junk yard. if the foreign girls want to get korean boyfriend, just talk to them first in the street or cafes. not a club. korean club have only shitty guys. like ons. nice and kind korean guys hardly go to club and they are so shy.
THIS IS TRUE
Guys are guys everywhere the same but my dream is to get a korean guy but a dutch guy is good to if he dont dump me or act rude to me😒
I need a Korean guy 😢.
Isn't it normal to go to your partner's house? Girl, run. This guy seems to be just spending time with this girl.
What's white horse riding in Korea?
당신의 나라에서 Asian girl이란?
The right reply for Koreans: how much plastic cirurgies you have? You have a mister Ethiopia conquest? The mirrors are so expensive in Korea?
🤣🤣🤣
What is that grammar 😂😂😂
6 years, and he has not proposed girl what the hell are you wasting your time for ???
What I notice is any marriage with a Korean person whether woman or man, the person only ends up adapting and changing to the Korean culture. It’s never the other way around. I never see a Korean guy or girl adapting and speaking the other language or culture except one girl. Koreans in the end prefer to stick to their own kind, I also notice this society after watching many documentaries about lonely /suicide deaths of lots of young people in their 20’s to 30’s, its not the healthiest society to live in or married into. No disrespect, it’s what it is. Nothing is like the dramas.
그럼 인터뷰한 여성들이 거짓말을 하고있다는건가요?😅
6 years and he's never brought her to his house? They only see once a week? She still hasn't met his parents? That doesn't sound normal even for Korean, that sounds almost like shes the side chic.
girls rule no 1 never run after men find good man in your locality because if he cheats you atleast you can tell other people or have support in family
Am I the only one seeing red flags with the girl that has been in a 6-year relationship? Lol
한국 전통의 가부장적인 책임의식과 서양의 레이디 퍼스트가 합쳐져 이렇게 되어버렸다..
"Strange website"
Is it Omegle ???
Tinder
@@Hakseng127Tinder is an app.
I immediately thought the same thing as you. Was it Omegle?
@azkarah2007 that's what foreign girls use to find korean guys. As Tinder has negative image in society so they just keep it secret saying website
Could've been one of thousands pen pal websites out there
The girl from Israel is so cute!
All around the world boys and girls date or try to hook up. If the person is genuine, they will treat you well.
South Korea has high standards in beauty.....it’s tough to measure up.
Mmh, I don't know what they've been watching but there plenty of nasty bad guy characters in kdramas. I don't believe anyone thinks that those are representative of Korean men...?
And that teenagers who are known to be infatuated easily and sometimes can be delusional, might fantasise about such a guy, can be excused as youthful naivité.
No reason to put anyone down. smh
자
오빠가 솔직하게 적어줄게.
우리 한국 남자들은
그동안 수많은 K드라마들과 인식변화의 과도기때문에
엄청난 훈련을 해왔다.
여자에겐 이렇게 해야된다. 저렇게 해야된다. 여자들은 이런옷을 입으면 싫어한다 좋아한다.여자에게 이런행동하면 감동받는다 등등
여자들에게 가스라이팅을 당해왔다.
이건 나만의 생각이 아니라
내 나이대 사람이라면 너무나 공감할거다.
여자들의 그런 말들속에서 우리는 대비를 할 수 밖에 없는 처지가 되었었다.
"아...원래 나처럼 행동했다간 여자 손 한번 못잡아보고 인생 하직하겠구나.." 라는 불안감 때문에
나름대로 스스로 익히고 공부해야했다.
예를 들어
데이트 비용을 남자가 지불하지 않으면
개 찐따 쪼잔한 새끼가 되는것이다.
또는 헐렁한 바지에 양말신고 샌들을 신고 나가면
여자가 도망갈 수 있다 등등..
그래서 한국 남자들이
어떻게 해야 여자의 마음에 드는지 온몸으로 체득하며 살아왔다.
그렇게 힘든 과정을 거쳐 여자를 만나면
초반에는 여자 마음에 쏙 드는 행동들만 골라서 어느정도 버틸 수 있지만
사람이기에 결국 본모습이 드러난다.
원래의 내 모습이 여자에게 비춰지면서
처음과는 다른 남자친구의 모습들을 보게되는것이다.
여자도 그런것에 실망하고 떠나겠지만
사실 남자들도 원래의 '나' 로서 여자를 만나고 싶은게 사실이다.
그러다보니 스트레스가 쌓이면서 그냥 어느순간 나사가 하나씩 풀리면서 본모습을 보이는것이다.
원래 내 모습을 사랑해줄 수 있는 사람을 만나고 싶지만
그렇지 않은게 현실이다.
원래의 내 모습이 너무 완벽하고 멋있다면 괜찮겠지만
일반적인 남자들의 모습은 다 그럴 수 없는것 아니겠는가.
한국여자들이 한국 남자들을 너무 쥐잡듯 압박하는것도 맞고
심한경우 결혼하고서도 여자에게 잘해야 한다는 생각에 버티고 버티다가 큰 싸움으로 이어지기도한다.
내 친구의 경우 힘들게 회사일 마치고 집에오면 집안일을 다 해야된다.
집에 하루종일 있었던 아내는 그냥 남자가 당연히 해야되는거라는둥
내 친구를 압박한다고 했다.
난 그냥 한국 일본 중국 여자만 아니면 정말 괜찮다고 생각한다.
일본은 왜? 라고 하는 사람 있겠지만
일본의 실상은 굉장히 차가운 관계로 겨우겨우 이어져 살아간다.
이걸 버틸 한국 남자 많지 않다.
그래서 한중일 빼고 다른 나라 여자라면 모두 괜찮다는것
쪽팔리지도 않냐 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
오빠가 이지랄ㅋㅋ
넌 어딜가도 여자는 못만나겠다 ㅋㅋㅋ
에휴.길게도 써놨네..드라마 작가인가..ㅋ
@@울아들귀엽 첫댓글의 중요성..
응~ 안읽어~
The 6 year hearing her story she sounds like a side chick but she doesn't know it.…..
Some ladies complain about being dumped, but.. Just as a lady can reject a man, a man can reject a lady. Why do ladies think men shouldn't always leave them? Just as ladies don't like unsuitable men, men also don't like unfit ladies.
How lovely to hear how Korean men date. It's a credit to their mpthers and fathers.
I would never date Jhope of BTS
He sent me messages and I blocked him and he sent me messages again
alright then ladies let's book our flight to korea 😭
Don't be drenched in k fantasy Miss 😂
@@Anonymous_422 go wash your ass first😂
Koreaboo
I've met soo many of these type of western women in Korea. They are what we call the new Eat Pray Loves crowd that got fixated on K-dramas. Many many go back to the west disappointed with the guys here and not finding the romance they thought they would get by just being here. But to be fair I have met a couple or two where the fantasy has worked out but its very rare.
@@ZuLiAnO_FaRhAn shutttttttupppppp
2:10 it's called Palestine, not Israel
if you meet guy in a club, its hard to meet decent guy.
The Israeli woman- conforming to what she believes is right, whereby it should be both the man and woman in the relationship adapting to each other. NO ONE should just adapt for the sake of someone else. Adapting the culture is different. Getting used to it, being respectful is totally different. But to say the foreign partner HAS to adapt (basically change) to fit in is ludicrous 😒. All I heard was red flags 🚩 from her. 6yrs n you are the one who only has to change? No chance.
The lady who met the bloke on the dodgy website? I .. yea no words 😂! Dumb move. Just… no.
I saw on another platform, someone said this - you’d have more chance meeting a Korean bloke outside of the country, than within. Who knows! Could be right or wrong.
There good blokes n bad (women too) everywhere!
I dk much about KR to want to visit, even though I do like K-pop guy groups, so I won’t be booking a flight anytime soon👍🏾. Especially not for a guy. Did that once, and never again!😂
Culturally, would be good to see more and know more. But ladies, be careful where you meet blokes!
Western women are not the same, but if you’re of a more whiter complexion, you’d have more chance, than someone like myself who is a black female 👍🏾
The girl with 6 years of relationship, you should brake up immediately. You are just a side chick for him. Don't do this to yourself.
So its true. Asian guys are very gentleman.
take a chance on him\here Than always wondering what could of been. Not all have happy endings . Just live in the moment .Its best to have lived and loved than not at all....Its always easy to judge a book by its cover , than when you open it you will find you in it....
I am a Russian woman and have dated 4 Korean guys, really small there...sorry.
omg you have to meet big korean man haha
@@ksojfnnsksgdg I need atleast 20 cms!
Shame on yourself You are very rude and shallow Do women in your country sexually harass and ridicule foreign men? The womb is not a medal
הבחורה הישראלית❤😅
I wish you can interview some Latinos to get there point of view.
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Nice interview. I dont understand one thing why Slavic and Causcaissian girls opt the korean girls gesture and style after arriving korea. While talking, their hand moment, talking style, pauses in talk, nodding head, everything copied from korean girls.
Sometimes not match their physical features and look weired as these gestures only suit for korean girls 😊
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May be they all are impressed by Korean girls
Its probably unconscious
@sports_boy129 that's exact point
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Unconsciously impressed by the korean girls
@CoolNumber1 nah, my dear. Underdeveloped countries generally get faded with developed countries' culture quickly. But here, the reason is somehow different in Korea. A curious mind can only find the reason
the Israeli girl is so sweet btw!
I don't believe this. It's just that foreigners are not really embedded in Korean society. Back in the day those dramas reflected Korean life. Although today many are for entertainment now but dramas really reflected Korean life back in the day.