HOW TO SPOT A FRENEMY!!!!!!!!! 💃🏿💃🏽💃 👀 | SISTER - 2 - SISTER! | Fumi Desalu-Vold
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Its saddest when the frenemy is your on biological sister/brother or your own mother. It hits different. And when they get the family to gang up on you, even the family's social circle, and extend it to your social circle, then you know things are really really thick.
This is sad especially with families
Yoh I can relate,I'm going thru it right now
You are describing my sister! Its sad when it's a family member. Frenndemies won't show up for happy times either. They love when you have drama or negative things going on. When you are happy and doing well.... they are distant.
Facts
My frenemy is my mother and I have no siblings. It’s painful but God loves us all and can replace all connections.
YES! I recently distanced myself from someone your describing. It's like in their head you're not a "project" for them to work on or "broken" for them to fix, so they don't know how to function around you. It's really weird. But I'm not gonna spend time trying to understand...I love my peace too much SO bye bye 💕😎
@@Sapphire1721 wow! Big hugs to you ☹️
Yup very unfortunate when it’s within the family
I’m an empath. I have dealt with a lot of hate in my life. People I didn’t even do anything to just hate me and give me attitude. I used to think it was me, then as I get older I realised my confidence intimidates them . The competition is something else . The hate me , criticises me spread false rumour about me yet everything I do they wanna do 😀. It’s so terrible it’s unreal. You have no idea guys. The new me created boundaries, loves my own company. I must be that special for people to always want to do me dirty. A lot happier with life since I started loving people from a distance.
That is the new me. Cut a few out after several decades of being surrounded by the true definition of evil
And that's on period ❤️👍🏽💯
Yeah had a few colleagues who always tried to do a 'friendly' bop on my head. Similar pattern. They thought I would get mad, maybe hoping to get me into trouble if I acted out, but I think they got more mad that I didn't. Yea I only have 2 people I've known for more than 10 years that I speak to. They say you need to put yourself out there and filter out the bad apples, but sometimes you may find out too late and for what purpose? Yeah I like cooking, doing my diy projects and watching YT. My mum calls me a hermit but I'm ok with that ✌
You just described my life ! I finally arrived at that place too, where I cut off haters in my life . There are some still lingering in the background but I can see them and I am aware.
. great work
I was married to a frenemy and didn't realize it until the sly things he said about me got back to me from several friends and family members. He actually said something about me not doing my part as a wife (right after having a baby) to my family. My Aunt heard what he said and called my Mom and my Mom called me. I was done with him then. He was trying to set me up for something, then. I scooped up my baby and left immediately. People like that are so dangerous that you are safer with a thug on the street.
These kids of males have STRONG feminine energy and re jealous of you as a woman. If you look closely, he might be a closet homosexual.
I as well was married to a FRENEMY and over heard him with my on two ears 👂talking about me to another man that wouldn't mind being with me 🤷🏽♀️ and he was a cheater so I Divorced his ASS‼️Now living My Best Life!😊😉
I am struggling realising my husband is doing the exact same. It really hurt so much to think my enemy is sharing my bed.
This is the truth Fumi ... A frenemy is dangerous and is driven by insecurity and envy... They see your light, potential and power and are intimidated!!!
U just said a word!!
That is so true,
Frenemies can be there for you but you start to pick it up they are intimidated by you....it is not always materialistic but get jealous of your mind.....they might want to take over your ideas or suppress them......so if you don't have spirit of discernment you might miss it...
Yes discernment is necessary
I called them frenemies/silent assassins in disguise.
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Yes...I had to learn that you can't tell everything to everybody (and I'm 53 lol) a "friend" I have I had mention to her what kind of design style I liked (as in furnishing) don't you know she rearranged her whole house to reflect the style that I said I like???? I am still in shock, trying to get her the benefit of the doubt but I am slowly distancing myself from her.
Facts
Girl do not forget the fact that these frienemies will also go behind your back to the people that you are happiest with and close to especially your man.
I realized this year I was a frenemy and had only frenemies around me. I was just as toxic and I wasn’t truly conscious about it. It’s sad but I need to learn to love myself
Same too, but I distance from her so I don't hurt her
Same hun. I believe it was just a lesson so we can be our own bestfriend and evolve into becoming a good friend for others. You need context to be and do better
It takes a lot to admit that
@@ruesamz fr i commend her … not everybody takes accountability on their behalf
very impressive realization. girl i am proud of you. may God help you grow through this experience
I cut off my frenemy 2 years ago. We have known each other for over 30 years, but in 2020 she started showing signs of jealousy. I didn't ignore it, I kept mental notes of the things that she would say to me. The last straw was she tried to shade me on FB, so I unfriended her. Then she started texting me non-stop, so I blocked her.
You did the right thing cut the head off before it’s too late.
This is my story. Friend of 30yrs said she wanted to be just like me. I got suspicious. She interfered with new guy was talking to. Went around my family pleading her case. Following them around creepy. Called her out then blocked her on FB.
I just let go of a friend a few days ago as a matter of fact 25 yrs of friendship and found out she didn’t like me at all secretly talking about me but trying to be me always bragging about her relationship thinking I would be jealous of her and asked me for money the other day I told her I didn’t get paid til
2 days to ask her boyfriend she got mad and said what does he have to do with this got mad and ended the call there were previous signs that I ignored saying we all have issues we need to work on but no she didn’t like me and told her man all my business so good bye and God bless
I finally let my frienemy go after 9 years. She picked me up when she felt like it and put me down. We would go out from time to time. I invited her several times to my apartment and wanted to see hers, that never happened. She kept me at arms length. When I called, she texted. When I texted, no answer for 2 weeks, then she answered like nothing happened. I was always available for her, celebrated her, was concerned for her through her illness. But she was not there for me. When I dropped off the face of the earth, she reached out more than once through a friend on Facebook to try and get to me. Nope, it's too late, I felt bad about myself for too long.
Good on you
Yea, that wasn’t a friend… glad you let her go.
Good for you 😊
I seriously had a friend like that and I want to be rid of her completely. I want to unfriend her on Insta, but I don’t want her to reach out if I do 😅
Glad you walked away from the frenemy. 🫂💕
Fumi, this baby pink you are wearing --- -it is your color!!! It looks sooo good on you. You look amazing.
Very true
Yes the frenemies are out there I've had a few decided to only keep one female friend. I will never forget I was working with a really nice young lady who got married and got pregnant. The girl at work that was supposed to be her best friend was so jealous, when she heard she was pregnant she started crying and was in a tantrum at work! I had never in my life seen anything like it.
🤣🤣 wow
Wow! 😳
Wow
Oh wow… 😩🤦🏾♀️😅
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WOW! Excellent topic to help people out there. FYI your frenemy's actions can also be seen (sorry to say this) in family as well. It's not pleasant when you see it there either but DON'T IGNORE THE SIGNS.
First I'd like to mention that I absolutely LOVE your fabulosity, positive energy and self love that you express. In regards to the subject at hand, I've discovered that my two older sistes are my frienemies which is really sad. I didn't realize this until I was in my mid- thirties. I'm now 54 and it seems that the hate that they have for me has gotten worse. I've survived sickness, divorce (my sister slept with my husband) but it didn't break me. This really pissed them off.
Fumi, congratulations on 13 years of marriage:-)
I cut off a frenemy this year and I couldn’t be happier. She came with a mask but i sussed her out. This girl went and tried to do the worst, but it back fired on her. I thank God for saving me from that frenemy. My dear shine your eyes and run away from frenemies, they are gossips and they are liars
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And they can hurt you. Keep them out of your life. 🙏🏾
📣📣📣UA-cam sisters: this applies to family members as well! 📣📣📣
Yaaaaasssss!!! That part!
Can say that again 🤷🏾♀️💯
My sister is always jealous of me and she pretends not to but I know and see it
Dam right
@@rihs989 True, it's happening to my two sisters...the eldest is competing with the youngest and it irks my soul.
My mother has been jealous of me since I can remember! I didn’t know what it was. I just kept trying to please her a I never could so I stopped trying. I’ve put boundaries in place to protect my heart 🙏🏽👍🏽💯🙌🏾💕
Girl I Know the feeling.. mit really hurts a lot when it's your own mother.....
Yeah same with mine, my mother's twisted she's jealous of my relationship with my dad she's fucking weird, narcissist mothers are so damaging.
It's horrible. I didn't understand what I was looking at for years... unsettling and disturbing. I pray for peace and keep my distance. Constantly lies on me
You have the same problems I have with my Mother who his 79 and is still the same way
I cant fathom how such a thing can even happen! Your own mother? !
I did this during the pandemic. I kicked frenemies and our mutual friends out of my life. I had to change phone numbers to avoid being contacted by them. Yes, I was that aggressive. It is amazing how much my life has changed. So many things I was working and praying for, for years, just came so easily back-to-back. Frenemies do carry bad energy around that contaminates one’s life. I didn’t know the signs earlier; but now I do and Aunty Funmi did NOT miss one detail 😅😂
And yes, people do see them for what they are and people will avoid you for relating with them.
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Absolutely! Once you let go, their energy leaves you and you thrive!
Exactly she said it all not one details was left I was just screaming through out the video 😂😂she got everything correct hmmm it's so sad that the people we love and call friends could actually be the devils that we pray to God for protection from not knowing we sleep, laugh & eat with..
@@favouratta6047 🍪: A MOST UNFORTUNATE FACT!(😔smh!! )
I had a frenemy from childhood and once I saw her for who she was, I cut her off with a quickness. At her father's funeral, I ignored her and spoke to everyone else in her family. I have learned to identify them early now. I older, wiser and I just don't have time for that. Thank you for this Sis. God bless you and family.
"I'll take the enemy before the frienemy" IKTR!
I've experienced a frenemy!
Everything you described!
Whenever I miss the fun times, I think of the competition, the snarky comments whenever a man was around and the "look" she gave me when she thought I didn't notice!
I just cut off a frenemy. She wanted me to work for free in a business she was starting with my nursing license. She never came to visit me in my home. I had to always go to hers. She was just exhausting! I have to admit I’m glad to be over it. But I’m sad I wasted so many years of my life in it blind.
Great episode 👏 It reminded of a girl I went to college with who used my name and wanted my life. We are no longer friends. The straw that broke the 🐫 back was the last trip we took. She took me to a family reunion of a guy she wanted but he didn't want her. His parents sat me down and said "She's not a friend to you and you all don't have anything in common. You need to get away from her." When we got back home I distance myself from her and we haven't spoken in years.
Wow.. what made them say that?
When people show you who they are believe them stop making up what you want to see
Who else cannot wait for Mrs. Fumi to bring the real ? Whew, the wait is ova !! I know she has a family to tend to, business opportunities, however, guys I cannot wait to hear the words of wisdom. She just make sense .
Sometimes just that fact that you remain committed to your growth is reason to be jealous. Sometimes u broke as hell but keep pushing and they jealous!!
The saddest part for me is that I was a good and loyal friend. When I departed the connection it was sad to see she had surrounded herself with snakes in the grass and I had been the most authentic friend.
Loveeee this baby pink on your chocolate hued skin...just beautiful 😘😘. Keep praying for discernment and wisdom to see that/those who mean you harm!
Fumi I just let a Frenemy go about a couple of months ago. I feel so much peace. Not so easy when you’ve been friends for years. Mistreatment several times. God weighed on my heart to release this Frenemy this time and not look back.❤
There is nothing like difficult times to highlight the frenemies in your life. Thank God for hardship to help me get rid of the fake friends and frenemies in my life.
Relationships will belong to 5 general classes. Level 1 - No commitment just cordial; Level 2 - Civil community/team spirit but no trust.
Level 3 - More commitment and depth but with limits; Level 4 - Level 3 ➕ trust ( family should be at this level).
Level 5 - Level 4 ➕ absolute trust ( All things are laid bare)
Once we are able to categorise the relationship, disappointment and betrayals are less likely.
Oh my goodness. Thank you for this
Excellent, true friends are very hard to find. Frenemys just want to use you and it's sad because all along you thought these people were your friends.
One of life's hardest lessons is to find some hates you because they are not you and there is nothing you can do to change that
I recently found out that someone was a frenemy. She told me that she "didn't like me but had to love me cause the Lord said to love everybody>" What!? After she stopped talking to me she persisted to steal my bubbly pleasant personality. She's still the same person with an ugly personality and also she's jealous of everybody. I didn't realize it at the time. Sometimes you have to separate to see.
"she persisted to steal my bubbly pleasant personality" ----- Could you explain this ?
Fumi!! You are so on point. BRILLIANT and transparent video. Frenemies are opportunistic, desire your life BUT have no inclination of the work, effort or sacrifice to garner what you have accomplished. I love those individuals from afar, pray for them, and continue in the purpose God has for my life. #changeagent
Exactly my sister in-law.... Nkt
My very sister is my Frienemy, never been close ever....grew up together in the household together and when we became adults I saw her for who she really was, haven't laid eyes on her since 2018. So I can relate to what you are saying, love your videos enjoy hearing and watching you drop wisdom nuggets. Keep being BEAUTIFUL! Oh Yeah! Your frienemy is watching your videos for sure to keep up with what you are doing and saying. LOL!!
Oh My!
It’s so funny because I was having a conversation with one of my colleagues at work just yesterday. She’s in nursing school and are starting to realize that her friends aren’t really her friends.
Fumi I’m trying to teach my 12 year old daughter about real life long friendships.
U r totaly right they r their own problem, i leant about frenimies very late, no contact is d only solution. As u uplift them while they r destroying u. My cousin was like tht always comparing comoeting envy manipupation lies
Aunty Funmi, hope Adrian is much better now, sending hugs. Watching all the ads for Peduski. I know I’ll enjoy this episode.
Dear Funmi,
Great video. I seem to be surrounded by frenimies. Even my only sister who has everything wants the little that I have: my children and grandchildren. I question myself - why all these green eyed monsters around me? Only God knows. 🤷♀️
Love your channel. 💕💕💕🥰
Lolol they r everywhere
Kill them with kindness... Especially family
you might have a light within that they envy.
Your LIGHT shines over their darkness and they resent you for it. It’s THEIR Problem, not yours. Stay prayed up and more discerning.🙏🏾🙌🏾❤
Hello Fumi, this was a thoughtful life-learning lesson! This realness will help us wake up and see people for who they really are, much love!
You have said it all Fumi, facts facts facts, I’ve been there done that. My best friends are my four daughters and I’m loving it!
you have NAILED it!!!!! OMG
Oh yes Fumi, I have to say they are even sitting right in our families! I have learned to 'love them from afar.' I have deleted so many numbers from my phone. They don't know where I live and will never be invited. I can't say it enough, 'love them from afar' and tell them n-o-t-h-i-n-g. Leave them in the dark and keep the distance. See straight through their maybelline...
She's 💯 realistic on this topic. Thanks for the words of wisdom.
I guess I’ve had so few close friendships I can’t think of too many frenemies. One who readily comes to mind (two actually, both tight with each other because they were miserable with their lives) had insulting remarks after my daughter was born. They were miserable with either the children they had or not being on the same page with a spouse on starting a family, so weren’t happy for me and mine.
Looking back the signs were there they were miserable & looking to take it out on someone. One couldn’t even be happy when a medical exam I was dreading came back in the clear “You can’t always trust doctors, a family member of mine is in the late stages of that cancer.”
I’m done with those frenemies and enjoying my little family and pets.
Sometimes frenemies are blood relatives
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I can totally relate, sometimes we give excuse for frenemies behavior because of our nice nature, but eventually they will do something that will make us make the decision to let go of them. I had this friend for like 20+ years, yes, way before I went to college and now I'm 45ys . I just told her off about a year ago. She just was never really there for me. Never help when I needed it, only when she feel like, which is when I don't need it.🙁
I love your definition of frenemies. I have had a coupe of them and I had to cut them off. They benefitted more from me than I have from them.
You described not just friends but some family members which is sad.
Thank you so much I needed to hear this. Thank you Aunty Fumi
OMG Fumi, you completely described my old friend's behavior toward me.
I had a friend in which our friendship had changed over the years. We weren't as close. So, earlier last year I would often stop by her shop and buy something to support her. If I didn’t have the money to buy something, I would still stop by to check on her. Of course, she didn't check on me. When my work schedule changed and I could no longer stop by her shop, she NEVER once contacted me to see if anything was wrong or if I was OK. She showed no concern at all. Then I noticed she made a shady post on Facebook and that was it for me. I no longer consider her a friend, frenemy or anything.
GOOD. 👍
Sis, your personality is very infectious!
I really needed this video Fumi you have no idea. I have distanced myself from all of my friends really because I have had frenemies that I only got to know after I had distanced myself from them unintentionally. And I have had friends who wanted to take everything I had and use it for their benefit. I have just stopped trusting friends at this point. I speak to people yes, I am kind to them but I keep my distance for a reason.
Whew..."They love you for what you have, but they hate you because you have it and they don't 🔥🔥
Excellent advice sis Fumi!💙💐I have had to cut off a frenemy too! My mom and some of my other friends saw her from a thousand miles away but you know us girls alway think we are “wiser” than our parents and I didn’t want to cut her off because I thought we were “good” friends.
She went dark and vicious immediately after my engagement too, I had advised myself and quietly withdrew until I traveled out of the country. I thank God for that experience today though because now I am better equipped to advise my daughter about girls like that.
Frenemies are users. They are just there for what they get from you. I'll rather stay in my space than let people in to release negative energy. I'm better off by myself. I even found out I started to save more. You hit the nail on the head, Fumi. I love the sarcastic laughter😃 😀 😄 More wisdom 🙏
This was such a great video! Yes, cut off the frenemy as soon as possible because they are taking up space for real friends.
You are a sweet person Ms Fumi. May God continue to bless you and your family❤🙏 thanks for the opening up my eyes and wisdom😊
YES! This topic is coming through to me in many ways and is confirmation that getting rid of some toxic 'friends' recently was the right decision and that the gut instincts I had initially, I should have followed them.🇦🇺🇿🇦. Thanks always for the great advice Fumi💕Love your content, keep it up💯
Your true friends are truly happy for you when thing's are going well for you and are supportive when they don't however it must work both ways
You look absolutely beautiful Fumi. I love the make-up.
Oh my this is hitting me so hard. The description of a friend-enemy I am now seeing why various people have been removed from my life. It’s hard to make friends as an adult.
Sometimes a frenemy can be a family member, too. That’s sad when that happens. I have a cousin who is married and has two beautiful children with her husband, and yet she can’t seem to keep my name out of her mouth.
A little over a handful of years ago, I ran into an ex at a wedding reception. At some point during the night when we were catching up, he shared that my cousin had been in a group setting (she was friends with his cousin) and she was trying to speak authoritatively about my life, that she knew such and such and such about my romantic life because we’re cousins. Never mind that she and I don’t hang. On top of that, my ex told me that he was refuting what she said because he, of all people, would’ve had more romantic/intimate insight than she ever would. Yet, she was trying to convince the people at that gathering of certain things about me.
She does that with too many people, even though on paper she has it all: the marriage, the children, the career, the home.
My mother and sisters are exactly like that friend you described. They are petty and jealous, and no longer in my life. However, in their case it is very frustrating bc they outwardly behave and come off as angels, and churchgoers. So many people think they are awesome. Except anyone who has gotten very close to them, even for a short time.
You hit the NAIL on HEAD!!! Yes, these PEOPLE ARE DANGEROUS! I keep my head held HIGH AND KEEP A CUTE SMILE ON MY FACE!💋💋💋
Fumi, you are so right. I didn't realize that I had friendamise until they show themselves to be so. They are all up in your social circle, wedding, home. Until one day you see the light. The light bulb 💡 clicks on. Lesson learned the hard way.
Do you do coaching/mentoring?😊 It would be helpful for those who want private talks
Oh gosh woman!!!! 😂 I have watched about 3 of your videos so far and I absolutely love your personality!!! You speak truth and your also so funny lol Thank you for having this channel. God bless you. ❤
Aty Fumi
Ur makeup on this topic, is very beautiful 😍
Everything seat well and perfect ❤❤❤❤
I have ZERO tolerance for negative energy. Once I spot someone who is even close to a frenemy I escort them out of my surroundings PERIOD!
Your words are so real because they are your own personal experiences, I experienced a lot of this kind of frienymies which shocks me because I always thought they love me as I do love them, but I've learnt a lot of lessons about this part of humans now and I am now far from their circles, it's really painful and shocking experience. Good stuff.
Fumi you on point sister brilliantly said 🕊🔥🙏
Speak sister, speak. Been there too, was hated for my kindness but now I love my own company and much happier cos I don't have to put up with peoples lies, and bullshit.
I just kicked a fake friend out of my life. It didn't used to be that way but she's changed. The best revenge is living well and not being around her anymore. I have no interest in working through the friendship. She might not realize it but were OVER and I'm so glad. Sorry no second chances
Good talk! I totally get it when you said that one kind of make excuses for little snide things friend/enemy say or do...I did the same because I really liked her/ them and wanted her/their friendship...Over time I realized I was the one visiting, texting, showing concern...it was never reciprocated...I mourn the loss and let the one sided friendship go...
Can you qualify this person as a frenemie? Sometimes people want to be in your life but you might not feel connected or have things in common with them and do not know how to handle it especially if you are an introvert.
Fumi you're such a light. Such a light. Watching you makes me so happy, you have no idea
I feel the same way 🥰 much love for Fumi 💝💖
I have had frenemies I thought were true friends for eighteen years, but a downturn in my life helped reveal their true selves. It took me three years to shed them. Life is too short.
U so agree Auntie Fumi
They are not worth your time.
It's so important that young ladies know what a friend is, not everyone has the same love as you.
I tell my daughter, not everyone is your friend, sometimes you will have to make those friends more to the balcony (so she can see how fabulous you really are) lol
When she make a lot of noise mot being nice, rude and hurtful, you will have to open the doors and tell her to go. "The doors of the church are open" please leave! 😀
Roman 12: 15-21
Don't worry about payback for its not your worry, leave that to The good Lord. 😉
Sorry , should say move to the Balcony
Underline current of shade👌🏾... I gave my ‘cousin sister’ multiple passes , kept forgiving her even when she lied n didn’t come for my wedding, I moved to a different city , it’s been one year n she still hasn’t called to ask ‘ did your flight land ok’. I cut her off, pains me daily cos I was there for her, was her last Minute Maid of honor, was always there for the birth of her boys. It’s sad because I loved her kids but I can never go back to that friendship
I had a frenemy she used and abused me so glad that friendship ended when I needed her the most and to be there for me when my eldest had to have hip surgery I had to be there for him in hospital back and forth she turned around and had the cheek to say I didn't take her out for her birthday and made it about her like really my son is recovering from hip surgery I still made the effort to buy her a gift and drop it to her and said once he is out of hospital we will do something but no that wasn't good enough then she started picking at my daughter and making her son turn against my daughter. She was always in competition and when anyone completing me in front of them she would say why don't they compliment me what about me d
Another fabulous video Fumi! I had a male frenemy at work. Always competing with me and trying to throw me under the bus, but also wanted to have coffee break together every day. I blocked him on my phone. Now I can breathe and do me. Thank you for speaking non this topic.
STRONG feminine energy an most likely dl.
Auntie Fumi you’re so funny 😂😂😂, I love your facial expressions 🤣. You really lighten up my mood. You make me so happy. Thanks so much for your advice. God bless you🥰🥰. I love what you’re wearing❤️🔥❤️🔥. Your earrings are also fire🔥. I live, I love♥️
Aunty Fumi believe me this sister-to-sister is very timing. I was sharing with someone just today an experience with a frenemy. Very insghtful story.
Thank you Sis for sharing! So true. Shady comments could be seen as witty by others and Ive been told to lighten up, but the underlying issue is insecurity, envy leading to jealousy. My antennae goes way up. 💕😇✝️
Love you from South Africa 🇿🇦 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦I just discovered your channel a few days ago and I've been binge watching all your videos. Your laugh is so contagious 🤣🤣🤣🥰🥰🥰 I love you mommy.
Ruby from another South African love Fumi she is just beautiful love her Advise . Hope you have a blessed day 🙏🙏🇿🇦🇿🇦
@@SiphaG stay blessed💜
so happy I found you you are amazing the gossip section so true when I hear people that gossip constantly I get away as fast as I can
I love your eloquence Fumi
I can literally listen to you all day
Great episode,thanks alot
I am going through that now, letting go is hard, but it is for the best. My best,yours and ours. Thanks big sis 🥰
Letting go of negativity is hard because sometimes it may be a condition your use too and a comfort. Let it go !
It’s not hard
@@amerokeewiya1320 It can be for some people...
Fumi, My Sister, you are on POINT!!!!! Love Yah
An Eye Opener! Thank you Queen Funmi! ❤️💕
I thank God i got the energy to confront my freennemy. She was in my life for 3 years and i had never felt soo low on self esteem and confidence as wen i was with her. I had spent 2 years unemployed when i finally got a nice job she was uneasy n disturbed thats when i knew she wasnt a good frd
Oh my. Reading my life story!! So sad. I’m in tears.
They are in the way of their own destiny... So True!!!
Thank you so much for this video!!!!!!!! I had a childhood who snubbed me in the end because of things I went through and she blocked me and I had to find out from her own brother which was terrible because I was trying make amends and repair our friendship but when I finally did talk to her she tells me she had too much going on and should have handled things differently but for me reading her message I felt like she should have been woman enough to face me in that sense of things and that hurt me for a long time.... but now I don't let it bother me because I have other friends I've really been close to that do encourage me
I have a sister that is like that . And it took me years to realize that I had to distance myself from her. I did it the same way, and have not spoke to her in going on 19 years now. I work in psych nursing now and understand more why she acts the way she does. All you can do is accept the things you cannot change. I love your videos!
I had a frenemy gaslight me for the last time yesterday. I have finally grown a spine.
I unloaded my feelings into an AI platform and got some great advice. Identical to yours. Cheers!!
Wow! God bless you Big Sis for this.
I'm thankful to God for my life.
I'm a living testimony of God's grace.
I have my own share of these evil frenemies and I've decided to always run, whenever I smell or sense any of those traits they display.
Lately, God is blessing me with beautiful friendships I still marvel at. Ladies who are kind, loving and thoughtful too.
Evil doers shall never prosper! We ❤you Fumi! 💋
Good job, Fumi 😆👍
A lot of frenemies hating you now because you're teaching nice people how to spot an enemies or jealous people ⛄😆👍