I noticed that in soaps, the places that people work and live in are like cults, too. So Brookside, Coronation Street, Ramsay Street, and Albert Square are where people are in and out of each other's houses and even shop in the homes of their neighbours and employ each other like they live in an isolated village. It's like they are not allowed friends, jobs, or relatives elsewhere. Sadly, that is the expectation on many council estates with regular visitors from outside getting questioned by the street busybody who watches all these soaps. Some of us don't like our neighbours, and some of us don't want to get too close to neighbours too quickly because falling out is difficult as you would still be bumping into them most days. But the busybodies can get threatening to those who dont want to hang out with them. So, I wonder if the producers and scriptwriters have been boarding school educated.
You can sometimes see this with politicians - including those like Tony Blair who have been to boarding school. If you are not honest with yourself then it is not possible to be honest with other people. Blair does not want to admit to himself, I think, the horrendous damage he did in supporting the USA during the 2003 Iraq war and its appalling aftermath. So he cannot come clean to anyone else. This not only works for people - it also works for institutions and countries. Boarding schools need to come clean to themselves that things went really wrong. Not just occasionally but systematically. Only then can they come clean about it in a general public sense and give people the utterly appropriate apologies that they deserve. It is also true about this country (the UK) as it is for many others. We as a country need to fully come clean about the systematic abuse that happened during the time of Empire. Only then can we be transparent about it in a global sense and offer the necessary apologies and compensations. To give another example Japan is only going to say sorry over the rape of Nanking in 1938 when its leaders come clean to themselves about the horrendous sadism and damage that was caused. And so it goes on for many many other countries too all over the world. But boarding schools will always be suspect secretive institutions if they cannot come clean to themselves as the first vital step.
Nothing I hate more than boarding schools and the damage they do to pupils, any children they may have in the future, future spouses and who they affect through a future career such as in politics or the media. Gordon Brown, Ed Miliband, and Theresa May attended state day schools, but they attended university afterwards with ex boarders who would have had an influence on them too, but the influence wouldn't have been as great. Tony Blair and Peter Mandelson have ruined the Labour Party and it will never recover. It looked as if the party was recovering under Jeremy Corbyn with a doubling of the membership but by then the damage had been done with the undermining him by staffers and MPs so Labour wouldn't win a general election.
Yes, they are. And also it’s a mini Lord of the Flies. The older boys dish out cruel painful, and embarrassing punishments to the younger boys. I haven’t been to prison but I did visit one for work and I felt the same hierarchy is there. The weak and meek don’t have a good life.
This is an interesting video. As a working class woman and I understand class differences come into play here but I find it highly disgusting that any mother no matter her social class could allow her young child especially before the age of puberty to go to a boarding school and be looked after by a bunch of p##dophiles and people who are basically training these children to be psychopaths and sociopaths so when they grow up and make bad decisions that adversely affect millions of people they don`t care as they don`t have any empathy to begin with as it was drummed out of them at boarding school. David Icke can tell you more about the types of people in power and how the world is really run (I`m not talking about shape shifting lizards). I honestly feel that these upper and middle class mothers would have been better off having a##rtions than having children they clearly didn`t want as they`re either so brainwashed by these cults into handing over their children without a second thought or they just clearly don`t care about their children and just see them as an ornament and that it`s expected of you to have children so it is just something one does! You`re both right in that these boarding schools are cults as they have all the hallmarks of a cult including brainwashing people.
If this true I have stuffed up of relationships with this. What is the answer to these problems please. Done therapy a lot years. I seem to met women want to take money and leave.
It explains why I found certain friendships difficult because they were either ex boarders or married to ex boarders, and they hadn't recognised boarding school syndrome in themselves or their marriage and had therapy for it. I refused to go on holiday with a certain friend (an ex boarder) to Spain one year so she invited another friend F instead. Then after the holiday she shamed F publicly on MySpace for her behaviour while on holiday. F apparently was drinking too much alcohol and flirting with local men, but rightly or wrongly she didn't deserve to be shamed like this. My former friend knew F behaved like this so why invite her to go on holiday with her. F then replied on MySpace that she had felt very stifled and that the friendship had felt more like relationship than a friendship. I wouldn't even put up with a relationship that stifling let alone a friendship. Even in the most suffocating relationships I was allowed two evenings off a week to attend evening classes or go out for a drink with housemates. It seemed if I had gone on holiday instead of F I would have been tightly controlled by my former friend and not be allowed to talk to other people be they locals or other tourists in the same hotel. Or even get slightly tipsy one evening. Also I would not be allowed to spend any time apart from her even if it was for a short walk alone before or after breakfast let alone a full day on separate trips. Whenever I had gone on holiday with another friend we agreed to spend a day apart in the middle of the holiday to give each other space from each other and we got on better afterwards because of that. Two or three days being in the same hotel room, eating together and being around them almost 24/7 is stifling hence the day apart on separate trips. But my former friend doesn't recognise those feelings of being stifled and the best way that most of us manage them is to give each other space for a while to put things into perspective. She wouldn't do that however. It could be for an hour, a half day, a whole day or a week but even five minutes apart is like an eternity to her. Instead she expects the stifled friend to put up and shut up and do only what she wants to do until there is a huge falling out. Because in boarding schools there is no option to give each other space so you end up bullying a friend who irritates you or being bullied by them. Those attending day schools go home to separate houses and families each day and may or may not meet up with school friends living nearby after school that day. We fall out with a friend and can take some time apart from each other in the evenings either temporarily or permanently though we still have to see each other at school.
I noticed that in soaps, the places that people work and live in are like cults, too. So Brookside, Coronation Street, Ramsay Street, and Albert Square are where people are in and out of each other's houses and even shop in the homes of their neighbours and employ each other like they live in an isolated village. It's like they are not allowed friends, jobs, or relatives elsewhere. Sadly, that is the expectation on many council estates with regular visitors from outside getting questioned by the street busybody who watches all these soaps. Some of us don't like our neighbours, and some of us don't want to get too close to neighbours too quickly because falling out is difficult as you would still be bumping into them most days. But the busybodies can get threatening to those who dont want to hang out with them. So, I wonder if the producers and scriptwriters have been boarding school educated.
Powerful words and so beautifully eloquent in their delivery. Thanks guys for this great episode.
You can sometimes see this with politicians - including those like Tony Blair who have been to boarding school. If you are not honest with yourself then it is not possible to be honest with other people. Blair does not want to admit to himself, I think, the horrendous damage he did in supporting the USA during the 2003 Iraq war and its appalling aftermath. So he cannot come clean to anyone else. This not only works for people - it also works for institutions and countries. Boarding schools need to come clean to themselves that things went really wrong. Not just occasionally but systematically. Only then can they come clean about it in a general public sense and give people the utterly appropriate apologies that they deserve. It is also true about this country (the UK) as it is for many others. We as a country need to fully come clean about the systematic abuse that happened during the time of Empire. Only then can we be transparent about it in a global sense and offer the necessary apologies and compensations. To give another example Japan is only going to say sorry over the rape of Nanking in 1938 when its leaders come clean to themselves about the horrendous sadism and damage that was caused. And so it goes on for many many other countries too all over the world. But boarding schools will always be suspect secretive institutions if they cannot come clean to themselves as the first vital step.
Nothing I hate more than boarding schools and the damage they do to pupils, any children they may have in the future, future spouses and who they affect through a future career such as in politics or the media.
Gordon Brown, Ed Miliband, and Theresa May attended state day schools, but they attended university afterwards with ex boarders who would have had an influence on them too, but the influence wouldn't have been as great.
Tony Blair and Peter Mandelson have ruined the Labour Party and it will never recover. It looked as if the party was recovering under Jeremy Corbyn with a doubling of the membership but by then the damage had been done with the undermining him by staffers and MPs so Labour wouldn't win a general election.
Yes, they are. And also it’s a mini Lord of the Flies. The older boys dish out cruel painful, and embarrassing punishments to the younger boys. I haven’t been to prison but I did visit one for work and I felt the same hierarchy is there. The weak and meek don’t have a good life.
I think the characters in Lord of the Flies attended boarding school.
@ yeah indeed🤣I didn’t even thought about that.
Profound - goes to the heart of what we are and how we got here.
This is an interesting video. As a working class woman and I understand class differences come into play here but I find it highly disgusting that any mother no matter her social class could allow her young child especially before the age of puberty to go to a boarding school and be looked after by a bunch of p##dophiles and people who are basically training these children to be psychopaths and sociopaths so when they grow up and make bad decisions that adversely affect millions of people they don`t care as they don`t have any empathy to begin with as it was drummed out of them at boarding school. David Icke can tell you more about the types of people in power and how the world is really run (I`m not talking about shape shifting lizards). I honestly feel that these upper and middle class mothers would have been better off having a##rtions than having children they clearly didn`t want as they`re either so brainwashed by these cults into handing over their children without a second thought or they just clearly don`t care about their children and just see them as an ornament and that it`s expected of you to have children so it is just something one does! You`re both right in that these boarding schools are cults as they have all the hallmarks of a cult including brainwashing people.
Thank you!🙂
If this true I have stuffed up of relationships with this. What is the answer to these problems please. Done therapy a lot years. I seem to met women want to take money and leave.
It explains why I found certain friendships difficult because they were either ex boarders or married to ex boarders, and they hadn't recognised boarding school syndrome in themselves or their marriage and had therapy for it.
I refused to go on holiday with a certain friend (an ex boarder) to Spain one year so she invited another friend F instead. Then after the holiday she shamed F publicly on MySpace for her behaviour while on holiday. F apparently was drinking too much alcohol and flirting with local men, but rightly or wrongly she didn't deserve to be shamed like this. My former friend knew F behaved like this so why invite her to go on holiday with her. F then replied on MySpace that she had felt very stifled and that the friendship had felt more like relationship than a friendship. I wouldn't even put up with a relationship that stifling let alone a friendship. Even in the most suffocating relationships I was allowed two evenings off a week to attend evening classes or go out for a drink with housemates.
It seemed if I had gone on holiday instead of F I would have been tightly controlled by my former friend and not be allowed to talk to other people be they locals or other tourists in the same hotel. Or even get slightly tipsy one evening. Also I would not be allowed to spend any time apart from her even if it was for a short walk alone before or after breakfast let alone a full day on separate trips.
Whenever I had gone on holiday with another friend we agreed to spend a day apart in the middle of the holiday to give each other space from each other and we got on better afterwards because of that. Two or three days being in the same hotel room, eating together and being around them almost 24/7 is stifling hence the day apart on separate trips. But my former friend doesn't recognise those feelings of being stifled and the best way that most of us manage them is to give each other space for a while to put things into perspective. She wouldn't do that however. It could be for an hour, a half day, a whole day or a week but even five minutes apart is like an eternity to her.
Instead she expects the stifled friend to put up and shut up and do only what she wants to do until there is a huge falling out. Because in boarding schools there is no option to give each other space so you end up bullying a friend who irritates you or being bullied by them.
Those attending day schools go home to separate houses and families each day and may or may not meet up with school friends living nearby after school that day. We fall out with a friend and can take some time apart from each other in the evenings either temporarily or permanently though we still have to see each other at school.