I feel bad for the dad in the second story, he was so traumatized by his father that he was scared to discipline his kids in fear that he would traumatize them.
@@hido... he did break the cycle, but its how he did it. Did he not trust himself? was he scared of becoming the minster that his dad was to him? may his soul rest in peace.
Used to be like that but me and dad are good now but since it’s been 2020 I have been treating both of my dad like shit because of how controlling he was and how he whip me over nothing and I barely did anything wrong now that i’v grown we just argued all the time and shit like that but we’re good now he said I’m sorry if I ever took anything to far. If I could be in a foster family back in 2018 I would but you can’t change the past
My mom used to whip and lock me and my siblings up in the dark basement if we didn't finish to eat our dinner in less than 10 minutes, i couldn't find my spoon or knife and we would stay there overnight. My dad was too busy drinking to notice
Is it normal if you went out without a jacket during winter and your dad found out so he used his belt to whip the crap out of you non stop? I was 7 that time so idk if it’s because he’s just worried or abusive
It’s wild how abuse can feel so normal when you’re born into it. It’s just all you know. It really takes another person to make you realise that what you’re going through is abusive and that not all families are like that.
ali hadi babar oh, i’ve actually realised on the other day that it does take quite a bit of intelligence to understand you’re being abused and to fight against the (often manipulative) abusers a lot of people will never realise they were being abused and they will just continue doing it to others
GRAVER0BBERY I literally thought being punished normally was being beat up and all your things being broke 😳, this year I found out this is not ‘normal’
Ender Wolf Hahahaha I have to eat everything on my plate and I'm stuffed. Everytime I'm at a friend's house I'm scared they would get mad at me for not finishing my food.
That’s what my dad did I would end up crying and then I would get spanked and had to stand in the corner until I ate and they wonder why I was fat and got an eating disorder and started starving myself I’m only 12 😓
one thing I'll never forget is that one time when my mom got upset about something I did and teared all the drawings (made by myself) on my wardrobe door while I was crying pleading for her to not do it. I don't even remember what I did wrong, but this is one of the first things that comes to my mind when thinking about "childhood punishments"
Kind of on the opposite side of that, I remember getting scolded in 4th grade that my art piece for a class project was too complicated and I was intentionally trying to make the other kids jealous. I ended up ripping the art piece up entirely because I felt awful that I was theoretically hurting the other students. Kind of surprised it didn't destroy my motivation for drawing in the long term. (also had a teacher in freshman year rip a doodle of mine).
Lmfao for those of you wondering, the word jizz in his language translates to a word used with kids to describe a small to moderate infliction of pain. The most common use of it is a small electric shock which kinda makes a jizz (or bzz) sound if you think about it, but it can also be used to describe things like pricking your finger. A lot of young kids who may be doing something mildly dangerous will often get scolded by adults who will tell them that the dangerous item they're playing with is "jizz" and to leave it alone. I got more and more bewildered with that story too until I remembered the use of that word in the Iranian language lmao
I love how my parents tell me to get over my anxiety (diagnosed). No wonder their names are Karen and William. I love how my parents tell me to stop eating so much. Sorry that you don’t let me eat after I breathe. I love how my parents tell me to come out of my room more, sorry that you yell at me for being in your presence ❤️
It's literally the parents fault that the kids are overweoght and fat and then they'll be slapping the kids?Why don't you slap yourself for not looking after the way your child eats tf
My mom and dad make me have MASSIVE moodswings. One second im happy and cheerful next im mad and grumpy. My dad can't be bothered to account for things that make my nose and eyes burn like hell even though I've told him multiple times. My mom can't tell that comparing me to my classmates, soccer teammates, and my friends makes me feel unloved even though I give her many signs- So yeah this is why I separate myself from my parents the best I can-
@@Notvia-c4m dude, seriously. Tell them how you feel. You are inevitably causing this so just tell them and they should understand because they love you and. Care..
@@brittlebonesnickey1444 I try to but I never really get the message out to them- And I'm also afraid of what they will say to me because they always call me spoiled and rude when I make an effort to tell them that they are causing a minor problem-
My dad said that his grandfather used to get belted alot, or so that's what his grandfather told him. Apparently one time my dad's grandads dad(so my great great grandfather) tried to belt my great grandfather for whatever reason, and my my great grandfather snatched the belt and tore it up. What a legend.
@@cyclone4273 bruh me and my sisters were abused and neglected for decades between us. Multiple CPS cases and nothing came of it. Relying on the government to save you is about the worst option.
I hate how it works. When kids sometimes have very little things to compare their lifestyle with. It’s crazy. And then, they still care and sometimes defend their parents at a late age. For me, I had an (somewhat) abusive step father and I am just now realizing how bad of the stuff he did to my sister and I was. He has been kicked out of his own house and I have an order of protection from him, if that puts it in perspective.
My mom always told her friends: "She fakes being sick so often" I have never in my entire life faked being sick. Also, i once told her about my suicidal thoughts (I was 9-10) and she ignored me. I still have suicidal thoughts, and since then i started hiding my emotions even more.
Ah yes. My dad had told me to open the back door (it had broken and I didnt know how to open it the new way) So my dad got hella mad and yelled at me for being stupid. (Well I'm sorry I was supposed to pull it up with my foot and not my knee like you had told me) So I hella just ran inside and started screaming throwing my notebooks on the ground (cant break shit cuz that equals more bruises on my butt) and *slamming* my head on the walls. Weak head. Started bleeding. Just had a bandaid. He didnt question.
My mom used to lock me inside the bathroom for hours at a time with the lights off as a sort of time out. The light switch was located outside so when I calmed down, I just played with water until I was let out. Instead of developing claustrophobia, I actually became claustrophilic so now, I cannot sleep unless I am being smothered in a heavy duvet and half a dozen pillows and my way of self-soothing is playing with water. Thanks, mom!
AAhhhhhh she thought darkness was her ally... she merely adopted the dark. You were locked in it, left alone in it, you didn't see the light til she left you out but by then you were doing nothing but playing with the WATER
Bro that one about the dad not hitting his children because he doesn't want them to go through what he went through is amazing. Shows how you can change and not be like your parents.Also self control
This is why I love my mom and dad. They love me, care for me and never pressured me in doing anything I didn't really wanted to do... If I didn't want to go out or something, they just say "Okay" and move on. Heck, they were the ones who encouraged me to write, to do what I wanted not what others wanted me to do! Cause some of my family members kept asking if I was gonna be a doctor or nurse or teacher or engineer like them and I always reply: "My worst subj. is Maths and you want me to enter jobs centered mostly in mathematics?
That's one thing I used to hate when I was a kid. I was so scared of my mother that I couldn't help but cry when she'd yell at me like that. So then she'd start screeching at me to stop crying. Which would make me cry harder. She does the exact same thing to my little brother now. I hate that too.
@@muscar1.a or come up with some bullsh!t excuse like “we do this cuz we love you” Oh in that case hand me that knife over there and I’ll show you how much I love you I’m convinced when some parents beat the living sh!t out of their kids they do it just for fun like it amuses them ugh
For those defending it by saying it’s “tradition” or part of “culture”, cultural acceptance does not mean accepting the unacceptable. I say this as an Asian who endured years of verbal and physical abuse with others passing it as “culture”
I sksked Ur mom It’s relevant to the video, abuse passed of as “discipline” is a norm in numerous cultures and people use culture and tradition as an excuse to abuse their children not seeing the wrong in their actions.
@Alexfc Nintendo Peer pressure can be good or bad, but it's usually bad because you *feel* like you're being forced to do something you don't want to do. And tradition can also be good or bad. If you excuse immoral actions because it's "tradition" you have some things to re-evaluate. "What?! I can't beat my wife? B-but it's tradition!1!!1" Not that all tradition is bad or peer pressure, but some people just use it to excuse their actions and some traditions are just immoral to any sensible or considerate person.
There was this old lady at the dialysis centre where my mom went to, her daughter is really really rude to her, never spend a minute longer there, just dropped her mother there and came to pick her up. That old lady seems really nice and friendly tho. One time me and my mom talked about it and she commented how rude the old lady's daughter is and how ungrateful child she is. Then i said to her, we never know what kind of a mother she was when her daughter is still young and we cant really judge how a child treat their parents not knowing how the child got treated in their childhood. And my mom responded, that made sense. There was another family, a father and a son. The son always accompanied his father at the centre and always helping to ease his father. And i always think, if you want your child to respect you and treat you well in your old days, please treat them the same when they were still a child. Dont ever think that children are stupid because we can remember things.
I can’t remember the last time my dad even called me by my name and yet my mom wonders why I never want to talk to him. We’ve probably exchanged less than a hundred words this year so far.
my parents never spent too much time with me, so you can imagine how uncomfortable I get around when I see kids who hang out with their family and act like their best friends.
Actually a lot of parents know my parents aren’t around too much and then they would insist me to come with them. Sometimes being with another group or family would feel so different when they insist “No don’t worry, get what you want.” Or “It’s okay, stuff happens” Never got those opportunities at home.
Strap in fellas, this is a long one. I feel like venting anyway. My parents were already kind of abusive in my childhood years, like pulling my hair and dragging me in front of a mirror to look at my own sobbing face and tell me I looked gross, pulling on my brother's OPERATED EAR, getting pissed at very small things, only allowing our response to be "yes papa" & "yes mama", basically bullying me for my chubbiness and abusing my little brother because of his autism/ADHD behavior. I always forgave my parents because I loved them and I didn't tell anyone because I thought it was normal. Turns out it's not. I found out later that both my parents were abused in their own childhood and carried that with them all this time. They were exhausted, cigarette addicts, drug addicts & sex addicts. At some point I just learned to walk on my toes in order to avoid pissing anyone off at home. When I was about 10 and my little brother 8, my parents had the biggest fight I've ever seen them have, causing my mom to go to jail and my dad to go to a hospital, which I didn't know at the time. My dad got out quick and my mom was let out soon after. They officially divorced before the fight but they decided to continue living together under the same roof until either one of them could move into another house. It was apparent that this was not going to work any longer, so they shared the house (one staying with me and my brother for a week while the other was living with a family member and then switched) until my mother was given an opportunity to live in a new house. She got most of the custody so we went to live under her roof and went to my dad's every other weekend. My mom always ranted to us about how awful my father is behind his back; calling him a drug/sex addict, a manipulator, a short tempered asshole and a narcissist right to our faces. I never dared to tell her to stop, so I just agreed. Meanwhile my dad did the exact same about my mom behind *her* back. I taught myself to listen to them while they were ranting and would later try to forget everything. I was obviously not doing well.. I was incredibly insecure about my weight so I stopped eating breakfast and lunch in an unhealthy attempt to loose weight, my grades got so bad I was failing my classes and started calling myself in sick more often, my social skills were awful so I had a hard time making and keeping friends at school, I hated my job (I worked at my dad's store because he forced me to become his employee, making our father-daughter relationship even worse since I found out he was an asshole boss too) and basically just fell deeper and deeper into depression. One day my mom snapped at me for "looking too depressed" every time I came home from school, and guess what she did? She said she wanted me to "pack my shit and leave the house". I was told this approximately *4 times* in my teenage years. First time by my mom when I was 13, once by my dad when I was 15 and twice last year by both of them when I was 17. I had no choice but to go to my other parent (by that I mean switching from staying with my mom to my dad and back continuously) because I had no other place to go to. While I was busy becoming suicidal and stocking up on sleeping medication, my parents would start crying and beg me to come back and get offended when I refused, they both manipulated me into telling me it was my fault for being an awful child that they had no other choice but to send me away from my home and excused themselves because they were "ill" and it is completely normal to send your kids to your ex even though you're VERY MUCH aware of how abusive your ex is and how awful their relationship is with your child. They literally told me to my face that they didn't want me, then days later would tell me that their ex didn't want me to try to get me back. I am now 18, and after a few months of me trying my best to continue my job and find a new fitting education while (once again) trying to get over new trauma and abandonment issues, have been sent back to my mother once again. I have cut contact with my dad almost completely and don't want to see him anymore. I decided to open up to my mom and told her I'm scared of her and that I have a hard time forgiving and loving her, and that I spend most of my time in my head just hoping I won't be sent away again, because it causes so much pain. She said I'm overreacting but promised she won't tell me to leave anymore. I hate her so much and I wish I could cut her out of my life as well but I'm just not responsible and mentally stable enough to live on my own right now, besides I don't want to leave my brother here alone, since he's still underage. Basically the only reason I'm still here is because it's more convenient for me, not because I want to. I'm giving her one more chance to redeem herself and hold on to her promise, but if she disappoints me and sends me away AGAIN, I'm going to take my chances with my mentality and money and leave for good. Hopefully being able to take my brother with me and live on our own in silence. I don't know what the future has in store for me, and honestly I'm terrified. But I still have a job that I'm able to go to even now with the whole Corona virus and I'm gonna try to go back to school as soon as I can. My story doesn't really have a happy ending so far but I have faith I'll get there eventually. Thanks for reading. Goodnight. *Edit, for those who are wondering:* I have mentioned this in the replies but I want people to know that I'm slowly recovering and doing better. In a nutshell I'm still living with my mom who is sadly only going deeper into insanity but at least I don't let it get to me anymore, I have recontacted my dad and we're slowly building up our bond. My brother is struggling but his grades are higher than ever and I'm really proud of him. I quit my job and went back to school and I'm doing quite well so far. Want you all to know that if I am able to get to a more positive place, then I am 100% sure you'll get there too.
She tries to hurt you again call or just do it now call 911 tell them what she has done and get her put in jail he and she thatis they both played a part in this
I really hope you get out of there you should try and get them aressted and try to adopt or somthing to get your younger brother. I hope your doing better now!
My parents would weigh me as a punishment, and I’m really self-conscious about my weight and they knew that. So I started losing weight by not eating. They punished me for that. There’s just no way to win, is there?
I hate when parents do things like judge their kids weight scream at them for grades hit them or invade their privacy and then when the kids open up about possibilities of depression they get called ungrateful or they’re too young to be sAd
i was facetiming a friend who comes from a household where everyone yells at each other and she asks me if anyone was at home, i answered “yes everyone is home.” to my surprise, she responded “really? why is it so quiet?”
Yup yup yup that makes complete sense to me. I actually find myself desperately craving noise when I'm around others. Sitting in a room with someone in complete silence (unless they're on their phone) is actually a minor trigger for me. I'm currently staying at my friends house until I sign onto the lease for my apartment and I literally avoid leaving her room when it's just her parents in the living room and they aren't doing anything. First couple times I walked out and they were sitting there in silence and turned to look at me, i nearly had a fucking heart attack. Complete silence to me reads as "you're about to get your ass handed to you" and i try to guess desperately what i did wrong in my head. And they're just sitting there. Just enjoying their time together, carefree. As I'm losing my mind over literally nothing. At least with shouting, i can listen and tell if it's about me or bad enough that they'll take it out on me and I can prepare myself.
My father would do this thing where he would drag me and my brother into a separate room and yell at us at full volume by body shaming us, calling us brats, spoiled, and he even called us failures and disappointments. I only remembered it now, but he left the window open so everyone could hear.
For clarification, he was an alcoholic and my mother divorced him and she had to tell us that it wasn’t normal and it was verbal abuse. If you ever feel threatened, find someone you trust and tell them. You are not alone.
My father probably mentality abuses me I found out recently what abuse is, I don't blame him he had an alcoholic dad and that made him this, but I think that I won't try and be abusive to my future children but that probably won't happen. (P.S, I have low levels of self esteem and many also probably undiagnosed depression, at ten. Please learn from this, I am very suicidal so if you do this to your children think about me and how I want to kill myself at ten.)
is your dad making lewd comments about u and smacking your a$$ not normal? he kinda does that sometimes but not that much anymore bc i stopped giving him a reaction and put on a brave face but it kinda made me wanna cry. sorry if i wasted anyone’s time u don’t have to reply or anything lol
I was grounded from things for years on end for stupid reasons. When I was six I was grounded from pokemon for two years because I believed dinosaurs had existed in the past.
Yea getting long term grounded just makes you learn how to cheat, lie and steal. Oh I cant have pokemon cards? I'll just steal someone elses and hide them somewhere safe. True story, but not mine.
@Mairead O'Connor AKA Mo apparently the church told my mother that pokemon was poisoning my ability to tell the difference between fact and fiction. Because bible
You know I hate those people who said "Respect your elders" when a abused person tell them the story like holy crap, if you were smart enough then you would know that sometime it's not the persons fault that they were abused
@@quandaledingle6949 I have resisted to openly fight my former adversary for the mean time to solve our conflicting ideas (my mom as the only living parent now), therefore I wish to not take part in continuing this generation since for one out of many reasons, my ever increasing ego has made its way to hopefully one day seize the family's ruling in making decisions. Anyone who objects shall become a potential subject for my future rehabilitation program. Meanwhile I'm debating whether my mom is capable of surviving what I'm about to unveil if she were to be tested on that age. Might as well find a younger candidate. Need her alive so she could have the front row seat along with other people for the showcase of power.
@bisexuwhale Then lets break that habit and be someone different than the mainstream norms. You know why today there are some old people who don't demand you to respect them? It's because in the past they might have gotten a similar treatment by their superiors like you do. Then they want to change themselves so our generation today can have their support.
i'm honestly so terrified that one day i'll become abusive towards my girlfriend or our kids if we ever end up having them. i don't ever want to end up like the people in these stories.
I'm terrified of this too, but what helps me the most is abusive people aren't scared of hurting the people they do and we are. Like sometimes I'll get bad dreams where I'll hurt the people closest to me, and I wake up crying and shaking, but I think how strong that fear is is proof we won't and can't hurt them.
I don't think you'll end up like that though. You're worried about it, so you're educated on the topic. You'll know the limits so you'll know when you're being too violent. I'm sure you'll be an amazing S/O and possible future parent ^^
@Yomna I think they meant like you learned to analyse people's behaviour, character, etc. so you avoid upsetting them or them upsetting you I do that with my father. I've learned what words to avoid, how to express ideas so that he doesn't flip his shit or something, like how to ask (for) something,how to tell him something,... things like that. And then you analyse people around you, so that everything can be ok 🤷♀️
Dad: I hit and yelled at my daughter. She's crying. I threaten to hit her again. She's having a panic attack. At least she stopped crying, time for me to take a nap.
I cry when I have panic attacks, so the last time this happened (5th grade) he yelled “I’ll give you something to cry about!” And kept going. I was ten and it was over a bad grade on a test.
my dad used to snap/rip my art pieces in half. he would yell so loud and hit me on the throat. i had to start hiding my art and supplies so i could continue making it because i never wanted to give up
My friend's dad whipped him with a fishing rod and nearly broke his spine Also, verbal abuse as just as worse as physical abuse. I've been called stupid, lazy, fat and shameful. Also getting punished because you make a realistic point in an argument pisses me off so hard
I did a ton of research on emotional abuse for an argumentative essay in my senior year of high school and I vividly remember one study showing that emotional abuse in some cases can be more damaging than physical abuse and sexual abuse COMBINED. That emotional abuse was either the most or second most damaging form of abuse, right next to sexual abuse.
Is being called lazy abuse? Well my parents use to say stuff like "are you really just gonna sit on that (video)game all day?" (In ukranian) but tbh... it was completely true my mom called me lazy a lot and i kinda was i mean is that abuse?
@@marianna380 abuse cannot be narrowed down to any single instance or anything like that. If you're regularly degraded, called a worthless child, for example. If they threatened physical harm, told you they wished they never had you, etc. If it's verbal degredation on a regular basis, then yes, it's abuse. If you're just called lazy when your parents want you to get chores done, then they might just be toxic and have poor communication skills.
There is being called ugly by kids at school but then, when it's said by family? When I was younger, my mum took some photos of us and said I looked ugly AND SHE AGREED, I cried.
My parents would slap me whenever I say something bad, like the word damn or anything, but my dad would watch R-rated movies whenever I’m around thinking I’m not going to understand the words they are saying in the movie, so I start saying those words like like it’s a normal thing. And then I’M getting punished for it.
@@sh1pped-gr2co oh my bad I used to be bad at not saying curse words like if I heard someone say were is my shit I’d at what shit and they would just look at me and I’d say what because I wouldn’t realized just said that
For some reason I'm thinking of the movie Parenthood where the character played by Keanu Reeves says you have to have a license to have a car or a dog, but anyone can be a parent.
@@Tuxedoshlyukha In retrospect, yes. No child should ever have to suppress their anger, even if it's misplaced. When I moved out, I gave my grandmother every bit of the rage I was forced to withhold. She's no longer a part of my life.
Essentialy "grounding" me to my room for weeks to months on end. I spent the entirety of summer 2014 in my room getting a cheese sandwich for dinner every night. I spent Christmas break 2015 in my room. I wasn't allowed to talk with my younger siblings during these "groundings." I have autism and these groundings happened either because I had too many Meltdowns or I took apart things. (I have always had an interest in taking things apart to see how it worked.) I basically spent about 60% of my overall home time in solitary confinement from age 7-14.
That must have been depressing, my foster parents used to ground me often too, no TV, nothing to read, physical abuse, I ran away from home to try and get away from it all, I'm sorry that you had a life like that but I hope you are more happier now!
My mother: *calls me useless, dumb, lazy, annoying* Me: *has bad self esteem, constantly upset, always in a bad mood* Also my mom: *suprised pikachu face*
Hans Luden “suck it up”, really? People like you just get me on a whole new level of mad. You make it seem like someone’s problems are nothing and make them ashamed to feel ashamed. All you’re doing is making the situation worse. Why even say anything if it’s hurtful?
•Vero은미• yeah same. When I was younger, either my mom or my dad would give us the belt and I always ended up crying. But I got used to my mom’s belt hits and it eventually didn’t hurt anymore. I rarely get it now, but my dads hits will always hurt much, but when my mom hits, it’s not really anything anymore
My ex girlfriend once beat me with a pair of jean shorts. It was terrifying, but we laugh about it now because the absurdity of the situation. We're still best friends and were in childhood too
Iv been spanked with a belt like 5 times between the ages of 5-7 from where my parents come from thats super normal and even encouraged so thats totally normal for them but my mom apoligized to me for it years later. Idk im not mad or anything my parents are great (meh mostly) otherwise
SAME i literally HAD A PANIC ATTACK because i forgot to read a book and the counselor was all 'Your okay its not that bad your okay" BUT NOW SHE MOVED AND IT WAS FROM MY LAST SCHOOL, but this school is okay except one teacher my fav teacher is my art teacher:)
When i went through my "emo phase" in middle/high school, I cut myself quite a bit. In 9th grade, my parents saw cuts on me for the 2nd time and my dad punished me for self harming. The entire summer vacation he made me make homemade firestarters for his survivalist/apocalypse preparation collection. Basically I cut mcdonalds straws in 2 inch tubes, coated unraveled cotton balls in vaseline, and stuffed the cotton into the straws with a toothpick & sealed them closed by melting the ends with a lighter. I had to make 500 of those until i wasnt grounded anymore. Took me about 2 weeks to do it. My electronics were confiscated and i wasnt allowed to hang out with friends until that job was complete. Didnt realize how weird of a punishment that was until i got older.
I started crying in front of my Mom when she found out I Cut myself.. My dad has never seen my cuts but he knows and we didn't have a fight about getting to see them when he comfronted me about it.
I was 12 and had a friend that smoked cigarettes and every time her parents found out she had ciggs they would make her smoke the whole pack in one sitting.
When i was a kid, i used to make small mistakes like slipping and fall, sneezed even before i said "excuse me" (i was told to say excuse me before sneezing), accidentally dropping a trash and not get into the bin,etc. And my ex-dad would tell me to go to the corner of the room, and slap me with the door. Yes, it hurted, but he would just say it's my fault. I thought it was normal and all my friends 's dads / moms are like that too, until when me and my friends were talking about our parents. I told them about my dad, thinking it was normal, and my friend said "oh my god what the fuck" and they told me that was so weird / crazy and things like that. And then it hit me. My ex dad was crazy
Yes, kids can behave without spankings. In fact, if you reward your kids when good, and redirect them when bad, they can be amazing. If you spank them every time when they are bad, and don’t even acknowledge when they are good, they won’t be motivated to try to be the best they can be.
Lian Khai Wdym? Are you talking to me or them? And although I don't play gacha life, why hate on something someone enjoys? Either way, what I commented was genuine. I never receive any encouragement from my parents. They're only around to tell me how disappointing I am. I get a good grade, they say nothing. I get a bad grade, they tell me I'm gonna end up with a full-time job at McDonald's. I barely have the motivation to get up in the morning. If I could stay in my house forever and become a recluse I would. :/
One weird and painful thing that my mother does to me is when I accidentally injured myself, she would beat me up even though that I'm injured, this is why I wished that I'm not clumsy. (Btw, she stopped doing this to me but I don't know if she's going to do it again.)
My parents: *Yelling at me for some stupid shit* Me: *Crying* My parents: *Yelling louder and hitting me because I'm crying* "sToP cRyIng!" Me: *Thinking "How the hell do I stop crying with you hitting me, Karen?"*
4:06 "...it was all my fault anyway." Hit close to home. I'm always the one that's wrong when I point out their abusiveness. I'm always so angry but I'm not supposed to act out on it. It's piling up inside and it's so exhausting.
Same. But I always try to put on a smile for my friends. My parents aren’t abusive but one of my sister’s and my brother are. I just wish I could do something about it. But I’m the youngest so I can’t really
@@azumi4369 Yeah, my friends doesn't know about it too. I mean, what's the point? They listen, I get it out of my chest, and then I'll just receive pity. I don't want to be perceived as the friend who got serious family problems.
I can relate to the teen mom one. My parents once left for their late honeymoon and left me, my brother, my baby sister, and my grandma in the house. My grandma is really stubborn, mean, strict, and perverted. She’d always slap my ass, grab my brothers.. thing, but thankfully she never did anything to my baby sister. She was also extremely lazy and wouldn’t do ANYTHING around the house. When I asked her if she could cook something, she’d yell at me for being lazy. Like woman seriously?! Anyways, I had to do everything around the house, since my brother was in high school already and he had to study. He helped a bit but still! I had to change diapers, shower my sister, change her, make her milks, all of that. I also had to learn how to cook, and my grandma would complain about the food every time. I cooked, cleaned, changed diapers, and on top of all that, I had to study and do homework. When my parents came back, my grandma claimed that she was doing all the work and we didn’t do anything, AT ALL. I got grounded for 3 months, but as soon as my parents figured out I WAS THE ONE doing EVERYTHING, they kicked my grandma out and yeah. We all lived happily ever after yeet
@@g3ckofish44archive EXACTLY! And then they act like it's our fault,like we ask the same thing 5 times. like fam,i just want to ask you a simple question,so why are you giving me a 28 minute long lecture about getting some soda? *Logic is dying*
Bloody hell, most of these are like hearing about my childhood: the gaslighting, the constant beating, the breaking of my things...If I'm ever lucky to have kids, I'll NEVER do these things to them. Yes, I'll discipline them, but these stories are just examples of severe abuse.
When i was younger, my father used to take me to my bedroom, and then lock the door. He would get a belt, put it around my neck, tighten it and drag me as a “lesson”. The most extreme was when he dragged me through the corridor. Now that i look back, that was extremely abusive lol
Tristan Games I’m proud of you for forgiving because it isn’t easy to do. I believe you’ve already won 90% of the battle. The rest is only to live your life anyway that makes you happy. Letting go, for me, just means to stop looking back. Don’t let what happened play in your head over and over, and when something goes wrong don’t point to the past as a cause. Make life about today and tomorrow, not about yesterday. It all takes time and if keep moving forward you’ll keep making the past less significant. You’ve opened the door to better things by forgiving :)
Ever get when parents are shouting at u and ur crying and they’re like: ILL GIVE U SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT!! clearly I have something to cry about if I’m crying..?
Yeah, it traumatized me to the point of bottling up my emotions till I was at least [Insert older age] when I started watching try not to cry videos to make myself cry. Other than that I've been "Tough" for never really crying until I broke my lower fibula, once I did that I was silent and started to sob into myself to muffle it and everyone freaked out, long story short.. I don't cry much anymore. XD Edit: Sorry for the bad English.
The perfect idea! With some smoothing of details, we can make this an applicable law! We just need someone to get into the legislative branch, once we’ve set down the basis of the laws, and if we can get the president to respond, we’ll be set…
That one father that didn't physically discipline his children is the kind of father that I think everyone wishes they had. I completely understand where that father is coming from.
I completely understand, I’m kind of like that as a mom, I’m so terrified of my children ever feeling scared of me. If I feel like I’m getting angry I will shut off totally. I’m working on it with my therapist, having a crappy childhood never goes away.
Honestly, in defense for physical discipline of children by parents. I am thankful for my parents beating me so I can learn from right from wrong. Growing up in elementary I was one bad ass kid and it straightened me up real quick. Growing up in my teens after that made me relatively humble as a person and so I thank my parents for what they have done. I hated it as a kid but as I realised how all the other kids have NO discipline and are on a one way trip on a blue bus instead of a yellow one. I noticed the significance in physical discipline by belt. Though, there is a point to where its abuse if this becomes a common routine for the child and if the parents take joy out of it. Then it is abuse.
Erusean Lt. Colonel it’s great that you realize that there’s a line between discipline and abuse, but not every kid that wasn’t hit will turn out bad lol. i was never hit with a belt but i still know right from wrong. but i do agree a spanking is needed sometimes
Seems like people cannot relate to this comment, I completely forgot about this till I received notifications that some people had replied to this comment, now since I don't want to cause any confusion, I'll just say that this comment was based on my experience, and not the whole population in general. Anyways, that's it. To whoever is reading this, have a great day/afternoon/evening.
Well parents before this generation also thought beating your child with a switch was okay so I think this generation of parenting being stupid isn't as bad as before.
Idc that first one is straight up imprisonment. If anyone EVER found out about that the dad would have been in jail the moment they saw the way the door was set up.
Yup. On top of being abusive, that's also a little thing called "false imprisonment". Had to research it a couple months ago when my boss at work physically barred me from walking out the door at the end of my shift and forced me to work overtime against my will. The use of physical force, threats, etc to hold someone in a room or building, restricting their freedom of movement, is considered a crime. Obviously if its something like a parent telling their kid they can't run around town in the middle of the night, that's different. But locking someone in a room all day? Um, literal imprisonment.
Probably not because depending on the year of when that was happening which I’m assuming the 80’s or 90’s there wasn’t a bunch of laws on child abuse so if a police offer saw that, they would’ve just gave the man a warning until he did it about 3 to 4 more times to finally put him in jail (laws obviously weren’t as crucial back then, child wise)
"I'll give you something to cry about!" "Why do you beat me?!" "Because I love you!" "If you loved me you wouldn't beat me!" Probably when I was old enough to talk
Breaking my stuff was my mother's go-to. My father, however, loved silent treatment. He completely ignored me for days, apart from shouting commands when he wanted me to do chores or something like that. Oh, and he also breaking stuff using my "bad behaviour" as an excuse. "Of course", there also was the occasional slap. Generally, the few times I opened up to my parents, I was blamed. Funniest thing is my parents' surprise regarding the fact that our relationship sucks big time while labeling my chronic depression and suicidal ideation as lazyness. And there are much, MUCH worse cases of abuse. This comment section alone is proof. So sad how many "parents" just screw their children up.
My ex-stepdad yeeted my ass off the roof because I might have gone to an after school social without permission. I cracked a rib in the fall, it didn't heal correctly and it still hurts to take a full breath in sometimes
Uhhhh... i am a student that gets into honors and has pretty high grades most of the time but if i got a grade lower than 90 they would question me why i got low grades and it made me sad and feel like a disappointment to my family.
I fear nothing, except one thing. There is nothing I have a genuine fear of, not even death. I don’t get scared easily, never have, but I do fear turning out like my mother. I don’t want to be like her, and that’s the main reason I’m not having children. Because, before me, everyone said she was a lovely and great person. Everyone says, after she had me, she changed. And that scares me to no end.
My mom once tried to shove a slug in my mouth for having a fit. Whenever I tell her about it now she would say "oh I don't remember doing that, I hate slugs"
Denial. My grandmother beat my mother with a wooden coat hanger for the things her stupid sister did and will deny everything today. She gets really angry when she gets confronted with that and will call everyone liars.
I mean for my "family" they'd do the same for yelling at petty situations, telling me that "friends are not worth my time" and that I'm "better off being alone" (lol I remember when exactly, I was in 4th grade), and yelling at me when I ask them who my real parents are. As much as I found out my parents myself and they deny all of these situations, idk why but tbh I could care less about these "issues", just wanted to put my experiences out.
Child: *does something wrong* Parent: ah, I could tell them why it is wrong and not to do it again kindly and reasonably so they don’t hate me forever, but let’s abuse them instead lol.
Yall I’m not saying all parent’s do this, but it’s done a lot. Whether or not it is intentional or not is a different matter. The thing is some parents do this and that’s what I’m saying.
Chai Zan spanking are actually kind of normalized,but the rest (punching,breaking thing etc) is abuse,so i don’t think someone shouldn’t have kids just because they believe that kids deserve a spanking for something wrong they’ve done so they don’t do it again (only if they won’t listen,of course)
When I was a kid (like in elementary school age) my parents divorced and in the meantime I was also being kind of bullied (cause of my chubbiness and shyness, not in a physical way, but It really hurt my self esteem for a few years till maybe the start of High school). The divorce on its own can be quite traumatizing for a little kid that already has some other issues, the feeling at the time could be described as seeing something you still didn't quite understand and always took for granted (the marriage and love of your parents) slowly sinking like the Titanic, while you are watching powerless like the orchestra that played till the end. I don't have really clear memories before age like 7-8 years old, I remember majorly events that particularly sticked/hit with me, all in a kind of slideshow-style way, some negative, some positive. I remember that when the other kids were mean in class I sometimes basically wrapped up in a ball and sat under a desk with the wall to my back for what at the time felt like 20, sometimes 40 minutes, in complete silence. One time, still in elementary, we each borrowed one book from the class shelves for a project, the day we were supposed to return them we all left them in a box, I later were told that I didn't return the book and was called out in front of the class by the teacher, for every day this book wouldn't show up I would get a public lecture and a bad grade, this went on for about one week till I discovered my book hidden by someone and even then my teacher didn't remove any bad grades she gave me. (Remember all of this while I was having self esteem issues) One time, after some kind of argument I don't remember with my mother, I made a little crack (remember I was still a kid, not strong at all) in my wardrobe door repeatedly headbutting it as strong as I could while autoconvincing me that if I died everyone would have cared more about the broken door than me(don't know if It was only in my head or I actually said that). After another argument in another house, I remember I sat on the window sill while effectively thinking about jumping and what would have happened afterwards. In a classic kid argument with my brother we broke a glass door, and on another occasion I got the aluminum ladder from our tower bed smashed on the back. There are numerous other minor occasions, some I don't even recall: one where to clear my head during a period of frequent arguments (this time with my mother's new man) I took my bike and went as far as 35km from my town, some other times involving friends or classmates (up until the start of High school) where people were pretty much blunt at saying that I sucked and someone I thought was a friend basically directly hinted me that he didn't want to be seen with me around others, (he was kinda popular and I clearly wasn't) to this day I still don't know if he ever actually liked my company or not. Along the years I thought numerous times about killing myself, came as close as writing down my will, never told anyone nor actually tried It fortunately, this is also the first time I'm writing It down, don't know for what reason I felt like sharing it this time. Everything is better now, at the time I firstly applied an "apathetic" behaviour, then I switched and I'm still on "I'm going to do things my way, I'm gonna put up there an objective and get maximum effort towards it, commit to it, and if I fail then at least I tried (it's easy not to fail if you don't even try). Despite all the things that were going on, I was always the jokester for the people I had around, if I could catch a laugh then I was genuinely happy to make them happy, so even today I've put as my general objective to help others while also living decently: police, firefighter, as a person itself, don't care as long as I don't miss the goal I put there. When and if I will ever get married and have children myself I vowed myself to do everything in my power to have them experience a bright childhood. Went to the gym, and in four months I lost nearly 15kg while also increasing muscle mass, still some road ahead but downhill thanks to the change in mindset, still working on opening up to people tho, I still prefer to keep It superficial. I'm 18 btw, doesn't matter. Don't know why I wrote this but I guess it's fine since it's going to get lost in the digital maze of comments in UA-cam. If someone that had something like this happening to them is reading this then I can tell you that a change of mindset can change your life bottom to top in just months, if you are willing to commit to it. Do things your way, but do them!👊🏻
You are so young man it’s great that you are getting into the right mindset right now. You are at one of the best points of your life where you get to jump out of the nest and spread your wings and fly. Maybe find some hobbies or something that interest you, after getting out of school if you don’t have a bunch of friends it’s kinda hard to find new ones if you aren’t involved with anything where you can meet people. Xbox or gaming is a good way to make friends from all over, friends you can talk to all the time. The trick to hanging out with people is just being yourself and not caring what others think. I suffer from anxiety but when I really stopped caring what others thought of me it let go of so much of my daily stress. You are right at the age where you still have that school mentality of wanting to be cool but once you graduate nobody really cares anymore who is cool and who isn’t. If you do meet some new people just make sure they want to be your friend for the right reasons. I would rather have no friends than someone who is taking of advantage of me (which Has happened many times and I had to break it off). There are lots of people out there who will except you for you and love you and once you get so comfortable with someone you don’t have to worry about what you say or do and if they have a problem with something you say or do “as long as it isn’t offensive or super annoying” then they aren’t a good friend and you don’t need them anyways. Many people don’t make it out to the other side from having the mindset you used to have so consider yourself very lucky and cherish every moment of this beautiful life. You can’t pick what cards you are dealt but you can choose what to do with them.
@@experienceofchris1108 Thanks man, just the fact you took time to write a comment like this is very appreciated, since I know how much time it may take to find the right words. 👏🏻
My mom compares me to my cousins all the time especially when it came to a youtube career always comparing views and things but I'm trying to improve with animation and no sort of encouragement
Same, once my parents threw my brother outside, untill he learned his lesson. It was a winter night. And he calls him idiot/stupid, etc. Now i realize its not normal. Tho i dont hate him.
Never been punished besides being told to sit quietly in a room for 10 minutes😂 Its pretty stupid that a normal childhood is counted as “lucky” these days.
But the real question is: What is a normal childhood? Especially because many households have abusive parents since that’s how they grew up. Are normal childhoods when you don’t have abusive parents? But is abusive is normal then...
Anjali a normal childhood is where you have at least a parent or guardian that looks after you until you reach adulthood. Put it this way, children should rather have their parents in their lives then not. All the lovey dovy crap is dumb, you just need the basics and you have a normal childhood
6:09 this is seriously crazy the EXACT same events happened to me, also a stepdad, also 10 years old, also very protective and literally praised my mom when I was in pain (she didn't care either) I also had/have anxiety😪 .... I wonder if that guy's stepdad was named brian cause this all happened a year ago too..😳 differences: they divorced for like a month and got back together🙄 and i have a horrible relationship with her cause of him. i didnt get my happy ending. Life sucks
...I may have a similar problem, although I tend to remember the bad stuff, I have what seems to be scars of some sort on my back, but don't remember anything to have caused them?
I think that what happened to me. I hear stories about myself and I'm like, damn, I went through some serious shit. I was abandoned, beaten, drowned (my parents didn't give a fuxk, my sister who is older by 1 and a half had to recuse me). I also heard that my mother pulled out a knife on my brother when he was a baby, threatening to kill him and that my dad threatened to shoot his mom with his gun. Sounds fucked up. My Uncle and Aunts refused to tell me more details, saying it's better to not think about the past and just live the present. Who knows what other things happened.
Yup. I have absolutely no confidence because I get called a piece of shit hourly. Then my moms like “Why are you saying that? Don’t say that!” Not in a kind way, as in she wants me to change my mindset in a forceful way
the one about believing ur children is SOOOOOOO true it took until i was 18 for my parents to finally take me to the doctor about my leg hurting i was complaining about it when i was 11-13 i was 2 years away from being wheelchair-bound from arthritis caused by hip dysplasia they always just told me i was being lazy and to grow up LOL
My Dad used to whip me with a belt whenever I bed wetted. Bed wetting is something that I can’t help it when I was 4 to 5 years old and being punished for something I’m not in control during those years is something I will never forget about even if I forgotten most of my childhood memories.
Everyone has their own sense of pain, and horrible memories. Just because some other people had it worse than you, doesn't mean your pain is invalid or that you are ungrateful.
Being forced to stay in the same position, rice or not, is a form of torture. One example I remember was a group of PoWs being tortured for information, and one of them had to stand with his hands in the air for like 18+ hours a day for months
When I got a grade under a seventy or did something they didn’t like my mom wouldn’t grab a belt with rhinestones and hit me with it (that only happened twice or three times) Or when I did something they didn’t want me to my mom would slap me and grab my shoulders and throw me across the room My dad never ever ever even dared to try to slap me
"The game survived, the pot died"
She tried to break his stuff, instead she broke her own stuff
Karma at its finest
How about the turntables
Not stoncks
Oh how the tables have turned
Uno reverse card
I feel bad for the dad in the second story, he was so traumatized by his father that he was scared to discipline his kids in fear that he would traumatize them.
DroxBratt yeah
Props to him for not falling into the cycle
@@hido... he did break the cycle, but its how he did it. Did he not trust himself? was he scared of becoming the minster that his dad was to him? may his soul rest in peace.
My dad is exactly like him . I've always womdered why he'd only shout and threaten to beat . His father was abusive af
How about the mother though
The sad thing is most kids don’t know that they are being abused until it’s too late to do anything..
I've come to recognize some of my parents behavior as toxic or abusive, but I'm still learning what is and isn't normal or acceptable.
Used to be like that but me and dad are good now but since it’s been 2020 I have been treating both of my dad like shit because of how controlling he was and how he whip me over nothing and I barely did anything wrong now that i’v grown we just argued all the time and shit like that but we’re good now he said I’m sorry if I ever took anything to far. If I could be in a foster family back in 2018 I would but you can’t change the past
My mom used to whip and lock me and my siblings up in the dark basement if we didn't finish to eat our dinner in less than 10 minutes, i couldn't find my spoon or knife and we would stay there overnight. My dad was too busy drinking to notice
@Soleïna Kepseu how old were you (sorry if this offends you, I'm just interested and curious)
Is it normal if you went out without a jacket during winter and your dad found out so he used his belt to whip the crap out of you non stop? I was 7 that time so idk if it’s because he’s just worried or abusive
*”All children deserve a parent, but not all parents deserve a child.”*
Truer words never spoken
TRUE WORDS THAT EVERY 'PARENT' NEEDS TO KNOW
More like the other way around, have you watched that video of crazy phsyco chilren? 😟
I feel like this is a lie, a child killed her mother for NO REASON
@@sleepy2221 well what did the child have that allowed him/her to kill their parents?
It’s wild how abuse can feel so normal when you’re born into it. It’s just all you know. It really takes another person to make you realise that what you’re going through is abusive and that not all families are like that.
ali hadi babar oh, i’ve actually realised on the other day that it does take quite a bit of intelligence to understand you’re being abused and to fight against the (often manipulative) abusers
a lot of people will never realise they were being abused and they will just continue doing it to others
Not to mention when others bring up worse events and it makes it harder for people to realize that they were being abused.
some of these people are just pussies
Ant lips
GRAVER0BBERY I literally thought being punished normally was being beat up and all your things being broke 😳, this year I found out this is not ‘normal’
The second one got me. He was just trying to avoid becoming his father.
It's not really abuse, as he didn't want his kids to suffer the same fate as him. He wanted to avoid abusing his own kids.
I never said it was abuse.
@@snapmyneck8818 You missed the point. He/she meant he didn't want to be HIS father, not father of the kids
BroadwayDumpling Ohhhh! Shit, my bad
@patrickcasey no just why
Parents: *forces kid to eat everything on their plate even if they're full*
Kid: *gets fat*
Parents: *surprised Pikachu face*
Ender Wolf Hahahaha I have to eat everything on my plate and I'm stuffed. Everytime I'm at a friend's house I'm scared they would get mad at me for not finishing my food.
THATS EXACTLY WHAT MY PARENTS DO
MY MOM SAYS “THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FULL”
THATS EXACTLY WHAT MY PARENTS DO
MY MOM SAYS “THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS BEING FULL”
Omg thATS WHY IM FAT! AND THEN MY DAD IS LIKE ‘WHY R U FAT’ OMG!!!!
That’s what my dad did I would end up crying and then I would get spanked and had to stand in the corner until I ate and they wonder why I was fat and got an eating disorder and started starving myself I’m only 12 😓
one thing I'll never forget is that one time when my mom got upset about something I did and teared all the drawings (made by myself) on my wardrobe door while I was crying pleading for her to not do it. I don't even remember what I did wrong, but this is one of the first things that comes to my mind when thinking about "childhood punishments"
My mum tore the head off my sister's favourite toy once. Can't remember what caused that either.
@DJ UA-camr TMJ It was a stuffed toy of a Sesame Street character.
Kind of on the opposite side of that, I remember getting scolded in 4th grade that my art piece for a class project was too complicated and I was intentionally trying to make the other kids jealous. I ended up ripping the art piece up entirely because I felt awful that I was theoretically hurting the other students.
Kind of surprised it didn't destroy my motivation for drawing in the long term. (also had a teacher in freshman year rip a doodle of mine).
Sub to Connor pugs right now
Ok, all that sounds pretty bad-
"My dad would jizz on me and my siblings"
Excuse me, what-
The language barrier excuse doesn't make sense to me. He just sounds like a deviant and should have never been alone with children
Renzo Revilla Pacheco I didn't even let him finish the story.
What word translates to jizz. Thats what u want to know
I WAS SO RELEIVED WHEN THEY TOLD THE WHOLE STORY
Lmfao for those of you wondering, the word jizz in his language translates to a word used with kids to describe a small to moderate infliction of pain. The most common use of it is a small electric shock which kinda makes a jizz (or bzz) sound if you think about it, but it can also be used to describe things like pricking your finger. A lot of young kids who may be doing something mildly dangerous will often get scolded by adults who will tell them that the dangerous item they're playing with is "jizz" and to leave it alone. I got more and more bewildered with that story too until I remembered the use of that word in the Iranian language lmao
I luv how while all these abusive stories are being told, there's such easy-going, calm music playing in the background
Gatta balance it out
Tavros Nitram 💀💀
So I was almost killed an- hmmm hmmm hmm
*calming shopping store music playing*
My mom emotionally abuses me and doesn't let me have basic madness or sadness without being sarcastic at me!
upBEAT music
I love how my parents tell me to get over my anxiety (diagnosed). No wonder their names are Karen and William. I love how my parents tell me to stop eating so much. Sorry that you don’t let me eat after I breathe. I love how my parents tell me to come out of my room more, sorry that you yell at me for being in your presence ❤️
Fat shaming is a great parenting way to get your kids, self-conscious, lower self-esteem and your kids hate you.
Eating disorders included.
It's literally the parents fault that the kids are overweoght and fat and then they'll be slapping the kids?Why don't you slap yourself for not looking after the way your child eats tf
xXXFeuriXXx XD Exactly.
My friends mom is an amazing mom but she keeps body shaming her badly...
@@hellokittysjuicebox906 That's not an amazing mom
@@feurilol1029 it's a myth that food alone is the cause of weight gain :)
A lot of people don’t realize that most mental illnesses can be caused by the parents themself
I love ur profile pic xD
My mom and dad make me have MASSIVE moodswings.
One second im happy and cheerful next im mad and grumpy.
My dad can't be bothered to account for things that make my nose and eyes burn like hell even though I've told him multiple times.
My mom can't tell that comparing me to my classmates, soccer teammates, and my friends makes me feel unloved even though I give her many signs-
So yeah this is why I separate myself from my parents the best I can-
@@Notvia-c4m dude, seriously. Tell them how you feel. You are inevitably causing this so just tell them and they should understand because they love you and. Care..
:') ...
@@brittlebonesnickey1444
I try to but I never really get the message out to them-
And I'm also afraid of what they will say to me because they always call me spoiled and rude when I make an effort to tell them that they are causing a minor problem-
Some teenagers don’t “rebel,” they just simply realize what their parents are doing is not right and wanted better for themselves
Jimin’s Chocolate Abs are you a *”depressed”* 14 year old
Jimin’s Chocolate Abs and your a bts fan girl of course you are :/
skyshadowhunter did you notice I put quotation marks and I highlighted it some 14 year olds think their depressed when their not :/
skyshadowhunter no they *fake* being depressed they act like their sad but their not they are fine :/
skyshadowhunter you were actually depressed
My dad said that his grandfather used to get belted alot, or so that's what his grandfather told him. Apparently one time my dad's grandads dad(so my great great grandfather) tried to belt my great grandfather for whatever reason, and my my great grandfather snatched the belt and tore it up. What a legend.
That story was epic enough to reach 4 generations.
@@truedickhead2073 lmao fr tho
@@truedickhead2073 LMAO
Damn bro wait is this 5 generations or 4 wow! That’s amazing! Hahaha. Very coool man I like that you told this story!
@@truedickhead2073 true in deed!
Parents: * is abusive and badmouths their kid *
Kid: * spends less time with them and uses bad words *
Parents: *IT'S THAT DANG PHONE*
WhY Is mY kID AlwAYs sAd
@Angie MontoyaCuri ItS ThE dAmn VaCcInes.
WhY dO yOU nEVeR sPenD TiMe WItH US?!?!
@@stefanoidez3867 YoU SpOiLEd BrAt, I rAseD YoU aNd GaVe My LiFe tO yOu
gEt OfF tHe GaMe ThEn CoMe OvEr HeRe AnD gEt YoUrE wHiPpIn
Some of these stories are so horrifying, they made me sick to my stomach.
Alexander The Snivy they didnt make me sick to the stomach
Yeah that's apart of life rip
@@dainakawilliams7454 honestly they should do checks and behavioral test on people and see if they are safe to have kids
@@cyclone4273 bruh me and my sisters were abused and neglected for decades between us. Multiple CPS cases and nothing came of it. Relying on the government to save you is about the worst option.
I KEEP SEEING U ON VIDEO COMMENTS
What’s heartbreaking is that these kids were innocent and young and thought these things were normal
Edit: I forgot I made this comment
I hate how it works. When kids sometimes have very little things to compare their lifestyle with. It’s crazy. And then, they still care and sometimes defend their parents at a late age. For me, I had an (somewhat) abusive step father and I am just now realizing how bad of the stuff he did to my sister and I was. He has been kicked out of his own house and I have an order of protection from him, if that puts it in perspective.
maya rose that’s literally the fucking title
LMAO that's literally the whole point of the video
@Poop still heartbreaking
Monkey D Luffy the video is about punishments,just a teeny bit slightly different
My mom always told her friends: "She fakes being sick so often"
I have never in my entire life faked being sick. Also, i once told her about my suicidal thoughts (I was 9-10) and she ignored me. I still have suicidal thoughts, and since then i started hiding my emotions even more.
There's not much I can do, but I hope you find better people who love you ♡
I hope this doesn't happen now ❤️
Please try to see a therapist
They really can help
I hope this reply helps
Here have a virtual hug *le hugs*
I always fake being sick so I don't go to school
“Slamming my head into walls”
*relaxing jazz piano continues playing*
Nadav Cohen Music *jazz music stops*
I think it's continuing to Play so we don't rage at how horrible some of these are
💃💃
._.
Ah yes. My dad had told me to open the back door (it had broken and I didnt know how to open it the new way) So my dad got hella mad and yelled at me for being stupid. (Well I'm sorry I was supposed to pull it up with my foot and not my knee like you had told me) So I hella just ran inside and started screaming throwing my notebooks on the ground (cant break shit cuz that equals more bruises on my butt) and *slamming* my head on the walls. Weak head. Started bleeding. Just had a bandaid. He didnt question.
My mom used to lock me inside the bathroom for hours at a time with the lights off as a sort of time out. The light switch was located outside so when I calmed down, I just played with water until I was let out. Instead of developing claustrophobia, I actually became claustrophilic so now, I cannot sleep unless I am being smothered in a heavy duvet and half a dozen pillows and my way of self-soothing is playing with water. Thanks, mom!
As a person who is terrified by the thought of being locked in the bathroom with the lights out i want to say im really sorry that happened to you.
We are opposites. I hate small spaces i literally freak out
@Mairead O'Connor AKA Mo This is one of those times where the differences between comfort and happiness are like night and day.
Hmm... being under a heavy duvet with tons of pillows sounds rather nice.
AAhhhhhh she thought darkness was her ally... she merely adopted the dark. You were locked in it, left alone in it, you didn't see the light til she left you out but by then you were doing nothing but playing with the WATER
Bro that one about the dad not hitting his children because he doesn't want them to go through what he went through is amazing. Shows how you can change and not be like your parents.Also self control
saniya lee floyd my parents are encouraging I don’t act like them and I like that to
This is why I love my mom and dad. They love me, care for me and never pressured me in doing anything I didn't really wanted to do...
If I didn't want to go out or something, they just say "Okay" and move on.
Heck, they were the ones who encouraged me to write, to do what I wanted not what others wanted me to do! Cause some of my family members kept asking if I was gonna be a doctor or nurse or teacher or engineer like them and I always reply: "My worst subj. is Maths and you want me to enter jobs centered mostly in mathematics?
@@g3ckofish44archive well he can't, he died.
Parents: *Yells and hits child with belt for one silly mistake*
Child: *Cries*
Parents: *Surprised Pikachu face*
That's one thing I used to hate when I was a kid. I was so scared of my mother that I couldn't help but cry when she'd yell at me like that. So then she'd start screeching at me to stop crying. Which would make me cry harder. She does the exact same thing to my little brother now. I hate that too.
@@sarahpanther I feel bad for you, similar thing happened to me except it was my father and he still does it. :(
My parents say it hurts me more than it hurts you or ILL GIVE YOU A REAL REASON TO CRY and hit me more and make me work outside more
@@muscar1.a or come up with some bullsh!t excuse like “we do this cuz we love you”
Oh in that case hand me that knife over there and I’ll show you how much I love you
I’m convinced when some parents beat the living sh!t out of their kids they do it just for fun like it amuses them ugh
@@sarahpanther alot of ppl can relate
The jizz story gave me a freaking heart attack before it was explained.
Same
Minecraft Kunoichi yeah 😰
@@RogueWallEnthusiast NO
I know I was like "what sick porno is this?!"
*ALABAMA: 100*
Oh, wait.
For those defending it by saying it’s “tradition” or part of “culture”, cultural acceptance does not mean accepting the unacceptable. I say this as an Asian who endured years of verbal and physical abuse with others passing it as “culture”
Culture & tradition is just peer pressure from the dead, and we're always villainizing peer pressure, soooooo...
Who honestly even said that in the first place? Nobody’s defending the video lol
I sksked Ur mom It’s relevant to the video, abuse passed of as “discipline” is a norm in numerous cultures and people use culture and tradition as an excuse to abuse their children not seeing the wrong in their actions.
Alexfc Nintendo Damn, who pissed in your Cheerios ?
@Alexfc Nintendo Peer pressure can be good or bad, but it's usually bad because you *feel* like you're being forced to do something you don't want to do. And tradition can also be good or bad. If you excuse immoral actions because it's "tradition" you have some things to re-evaluate.
"What?! I can't beat my wife? B-but it's tradition!1!!1"
Not that all tradition is bad or peer pressure, but some people just use it to excuse their actions and some traditions are just immoral to any sensible or considerate person.
parents: be abusive, mean and really mean.
also parents: tHeY nEvEr sPeNd tImE wItH uS :(
Facts
That's soo true, my parents always yells at us for nothing and then says that
There was this old lady at the dialysis centre where my mom went to, her daughter is really really rude to her, never spend a minute longer there, just dropped her mother there and came to pick her up. That old lady seems really nice and friendly tho. One time me and my mom talked about it and she commented how rude the old lady's daughter is and how ungrateful child she is. Then i said to her, we never know what kind of a mother she was when her daughter is still young and we cant really judge how a child treat their parents not knowing how the child got treated in their childhood. And my mom responded, that made sense. There was another family, a father and a son. The son always accompanied his father at the centre and always helping to ease his father. And i always think, if you want your child to respect you and treat you well in your old days, please treat them the same when they were still a child. Dont ever think that children are stupid because we can remember things.
I can’t remember the last time my dad even called me by my name and yet my mom wonders why I never want to talk to him. We’ve probably exchanged less than a hundred words this year so far.
Not all of them
my parents never spent too much time with me, so you can imagine how uncomfortable I get around when I see kids who hang out with their family and act like their best friends.
Actually a lot of parents know my parents aren’t around too much and then they would insist me to come with them. Sometimes being with another group or family would feel so different when they insist “No don’t worry, get what you want.” Or “It’s okay, stuff happens”
Never got those opportunities at home.
Fr
Strap in fellas, this is a long one. I feel like venting anyway.
My parents were already kind of abusive in my childhood years, like pulling my hair and dragging me in front of a mirror to look at my own sobbing face and tell me I looked gross, pulling on my brother's OPERATED EAR, getting pissed at very small things, only allowing our response to be "yes papa" & "yes mama", basically bullying me for my chubbiness and abusing my little brother because of his autism/ADHD behavior. I always forgave my parents because I loved them and I didn't tell anyone because I thought it was normal. Turns out it's not. I found out later that both my parents were abused in their own childhood and carried that with them all this time. They were exhausted, cigarette addicts, drug addicts & sex addicts. At some point I just learned to walk on my toes in order to avoid pissing anyone off at home.
When I was about 10 and my little brother 8, my parents had the biggest fight I've ever seen them have, causing my mom to go to jail and my dad to go to a hospital, which I didn't know at the time. My dad got out quick and my mom was let out soon after. They officially divorced before the fight but they decided to continue living together under the same roof until either one of them could move into another house. It was apparent that this was not going to work any longer, so they shared the house (one staying with me and my brother for a week while the other was living with a family member and then switched) until my mother was given an opportunity to live in a new house. She got most of the custody so we went to live under her roof and went to my dad's every other weekend.
My mom always ranted to us about how awful my father is behind his back; calling him a drug/sex addict, a manipulator, a short tempered asshole and a narcissist right to our faces. I never dared to tell her to stop, so I just agreed. Meanwhile my dad did the exact same about my mom behind *her* back. I taught myself to listen to them while they were ranting and would later try to forget everything.
I was obviously not doing well.. I was incredibly insecure about my weight so I stopped eating breakfast and lunch in an unhealthy attempt to loose weight, my grades got so bad I was failing my classes and started calling myself in sick more often, my social skills were awful so I had a hard time making and keeping friends at school, I hated my job (I worked at my dad's store because he forced me to become his employee, making our father-daughter relationship even worse since I found out he was an asshole boss too) and basically just fell deeper and deeper into depression.
One day my mom snapped at me for "looking too depressed" every time I came home from school, and guess what she did? She said she wanted me to "pack my shit and leave the house".
I was told this approximately *4 times* in my teenage years. First time by my mom when I was 13, once by my dad when I was 15 and twice last year by both of them when I was 17. I had no choice but to go to my other parent (by that I mean switching from staying with my mom to my dad and back continuously) because I had no other place to go to.
While I was busy becoming suicidal and stocking up on sleeping medication, my parents would start crying and beg me to come back and get offended when I refused, they both manipulated me into telling me it was my fault for being an awful child that they had no other choice but to send me away from my home and excused themselves because they were "ill" and it is completely normal to send your kids to your ex even though you're VERY MUCH aware of how abusive your ex is and how awful their relationship is with your child. They literally told me to my face that they didn't want me, then days later would tell me that their ex didn't want me to try to get me back.
I am now 18, and after a few months of me trying my best to continue my job and find a new fitting education while (once again) trying to get over new trauma and abandonment issues, have been sent back to my mother once again. I have cut contact with my dad almost completely and don't want to see him anymore. I decided to open up to my mom and told her I'm scared of her and that I have a hard time forgiving and loving her, and that I spend most of my time in my head just hoping I won't be sent away again, because it causes so much pain. She said I'm overreacting but promised she won't tell me to leave anymore.
I hate her so much and I wish I could cut her out of my life as well but I'm just not responsible and mentally stable enough to live on my own right now, besides I don't want to leave my brother here alone, since he's still underage. Basically the only reason I'm still here is because it's more convenient for me, not because I want to. I'm giving her one more chance to redeem herself and hold on to her promise, but if she disappoints me and sends me away AGAIN, I'm going to take my chances with my mentality and money and leave for good. Hopefully being able to take my brother with me and live on our own in silence.
I don't know what the future has in store for me, and honestly I'm terrified.
But I still have a job that I'm able to go to even now with the whole Corona virus and I'm gonna try to go back to school as soon as I can. My story doesn't really have a happy ending so far but I have faith I'll get there eventually.
Thanks for reading. Goodnight.
*Edit, for those who are wondering:* I have mentioned this in the replies but I want people to know that I'm slowly recovering and doing better. In a nutshell I'm still living with my mom who is sadly only going deeper into insanity but at least I don't let it get to me anymore, I have recontacted my dad and we're slowly building up our bond. My brother is struggling but his grades are higher than ever and I'm really proud of him. I quit my job and went back to school and I'm doing quite well so far.
Want you all to know that if I am able to get to a more positive place, then I am 100% sure you'll get there too.
Stay strong. You will make it.
Abuse them back, dont let them get away with that.
How did he force you to work for him?
She tries to hurt you again call or just do it now call 911 tell them what she has done and get her put in jail he and she thatis they both played a part in this
I really hope you get out of there you should try and get them aressted and try to adopt or somthing to get your younger brother. I hope your doing better now!
Therapy: expensive
Listening to people’s stories about their abusive parents to make you feel better about yourself: free
Paloma's Playground omg me rn
Paloma's Playground same except I also have abusive parents
Yes, Expect reading this made me realize how awful my childhood was and how my parents are still bad
Not gonna lie this makes me feel better about my shit childhood
Naw Therapy In Canada Isn’t Expensive! (At Least For My Culture In Canada Nothing Is Expensive For Us.. :P)
The Jizz Story: *They had us in the first half, I’m not gonna lie*
I R A N
That one scared the shit out of me for a second 😂
You are egyption right ????
LMFAOOO 😂😂😭
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My parents would weigh me as a punishment, and I’m really self-conscious about my weight and they knew that. So I started losing weight by not eating. They punished me for that.
There’s just no way to win, is there?
Eat all your food and play some sports
Same
their most likey trying to help
@@Bxufu how, by traumatizing them?
I learned in life that sometimes you just can’t please people
I hate when parents do things like judge their kids weight scream at them for grades hit them or invade their privacy and then when the kids open up about possibilities of depression they get called ungrateful or they’re too young to be sAd
Oof story of my life
The kid is in the wrong
Pedro Espinoza I- what?!
看k
My parents try to do invade my privacy all the time ( looking at my messages ) gotta keep a password on my device
The joy of a normal child: exists*
Abusive parents: who said you could exist?
Even Dio can be a good parent.
Aiden Scovel lol what was that for
@@jonoliravioli1787 I don't know myself lol
Aiden Scovel lol
Take care of your son properly, DIO
i was facetiming a friend who comes from a household where everyone yells at each other and she asks me if anyone was at home, i answered “yes everyone is home.” to my surprise, she responded “really? why is it so quiet?”
Yup yup yup that makes complete sense to me. I actually find myself desperately craving noise when I'm around others. Sitting in a room with someone in complete silence (unless they're on their phone) is actually a minor trigger for me.
I'm currently staying at my friends house until I sign onto the lease for my apartment and I literally avoid leaving her room when it's just her parents in the living room and they aren't doing anything. First couple times I walked out and they were sitting there in silence and turned to look at me, i nearly had a fucking heart attack. Complete silence to me reads as "you're about to get your ass handed to you" and i try to guess desperately what i did wrong in my head.
And they're just sitting there. Just enjoying their time together, carefree. As I'm losing my mind over literally nothing.
At least with shouting, i can listen and tell if it's about me or bad enough that they'll take it out on me and I can prepare myself.
Total Trash Mammal i only hate silence because it quite literally drives me insane because i've got tinnitus
bruh moment I can relate to you my dude
oof
Oh no,thats fucked up
My father would do this thing where he would drag me and my brother into a separate room and yell at us at full volume by body shaming us, calling us brats, spoiled, and he even called us failures and disappointments. I only remembered it now, but he left the window open so everyone could hear.
For clarification, he was an alcoholic and my mother divorced him and she had to tell us that it wasn’t normal and it was verbal abuse. If you ever feel threatened, find someone you trust and tell them. You are not alone.
This isn't abusive, but when I don't want to wear something I'm automatically assumed ungrateful.
It’s so sad that there are probably millions of kids right now getting abused and thought it was normal .
Fr, they thinks its normal until they get depressed. Ik alot of children that are depressed due to their parents and its sad af.
Story of my life.
At this point it’s actually becoming “normal” lol
My father probably mentality abuses me I found out recently what abuse is, I don't blame him he had an alcoholic dad and that made him this, but I think that I won't try and be abusive to my future children but that probably won't happen. (P.S, I have low levels of self esteem and many also probably undiagnosed depression, at ten. Please learn from this, I am very suicidal so if you do this to your children think about me and how I want to kill myself at ten.)
is your dad making lewd comments about u and smacking your a$$ not normal? he kinda does that sometimes but not that much anymore bc i stopped giving him a reaction and put on a brave face but it kinda made me wanna cry. sorry if i wasted anyone’s time u don’t have to reply or anything lol
let’s face it, half of the worlds’ problems would be gone is every parent raised their child properly. and by properly, no abuse.
dhajak Amen to that!
dhajak amen
but is getting spanked abuse?
@@dottbreezy if it's for a good cause no
@@bourne8636 so like if the child deserves it?
I was grounded from things for years on end for stupid reasons. When I was six I was grounded from pokemon for two years because I believed dinosaurs had existed in the past.
Oh your parents are dumb dumb
Yea getting long term grounded just makes you learn how to cheat, lie and steal.
Oh I cant have pokemon cards? I'll just steal someone elses and hide them somewhere safe.
True story, but not mine.
Were you raised in the Mormon church by chance?
@@sileenastevens8759 southern Baptist. Although my mother did shift to Mormonism when we moved west
@Mairead O'Connor AKA Mo apparently the church told my mother that pokemon was poisoning my ability to tell the difference between fact and fiction. Because bible
You know I hate those people who said "Respect your elders" when a abused person tell them the story like holy crap, if you were smart enough then you would know that sometime it's not the persons fault that they were abused
Parents think it's disrespectful to not let them disrespect us.
*Oh you're older than me? Well that changes everything go get the belt.*
and the parents would be like in their 30s..
To me i don't give a shit how old the person is "if you respect me i respect you, simple".
I hate the phrase "ReSpEcT yOuR eLdErS" no I won't and I will never treat them like a God just because they are older than me
Yeah, like just because they’re older than u doesn’t mean they’re entitled to respect.
@@quandaledingle6949 I have resisted to openly fight my former adversary for the mean time to solve our conflicting ideas (my mom as the only living parent now), therefore I wish to not take part in continuing this generation since for one out of many reasons, my ever increasing ego has made its way to hopefully one day seize the family's ruling in making decisions. Anyone who objects shall become a potential subject for my future rehabilitation program. Meanwhile I'm debating whether my mom is capable of surviving what I'm about to unveil if she were to be tested on that age. Might as well find a younger candidate. Need her alive so she could have the front row seat along with other people for the showcase of power.
I think people say that because they are more vulnerable and weak
@@TheGamingMotionTGM dam
@bisexuwhale Then lets break that habit and be someone different than the mainstream norms. You know why today there are some old people who don't demand you to respect them? It's because in the past they might have gotten a similar treatment by their superiors like you do. Then they want to change themselves so our generation today can have their support.
i'm honestly so terrified that one day i'll become abusive towards my girlfriend or our kids if we ever end up having them. i don't ever want to end up like the people in these stories.
I'm terrified of this too, but what helps me the most is abusive people aren't scared of hurting the people they do and we are. Like sometimes I'll get bad dreams where I'll hurt the people closest to me, and I wake up crying and shaking, but I think how strong that fear is is proof we won't and can't hurt them.
@@spoon093 yknow what you're right, if i truly were an abusive person i would see nothing wrong with hurting my loved ones
Same.
I don't think you'll end up like that though. You're worried about it, so you're educated on the topic. You'll know the limits so you'll know when you're being too violent. I'm sure you'll be an amazing S/O and possible future parent ^^
@@randomfandomaddict4569 thanks dude, that made me feel real good inside :^)
Someone: you're pretty good at psychoanalysis
Me: thank you, it's a survival mechanism.
Ha ha, I do that too!
@Yomna I think they meant like you learned to analyse people's behaviour, character, etc. so you avoid upsetting them or them upsetting you
I do that with my father. I've learned what words to avoid, how to express ideas so that he doesn't flip his shit or something, like how to ask (for) something,how to tell him something,... things like that.
And then you analyse people around you, so that everything can be ok
🤷♀️
@@timmy0018 I just realized I do that too...
Hey look, some disturbingly relatable content that should never have to be relatable.
Well I am bad at it but I'm trying?? Like my mom and dad have different stuff that gets them mad
Ex something my mom wants me to do makes my dad mad
The father who was physically abused did the right thingnot hitting his children
But hitting his wife doesn't make him better than his father
@@jdjbybdhdgdhdgdhosasodhjdb8603 when did they say he hit his wife?
@@Rose-ty3wf they did
@@Rose-ty3wf at least I think he did they didn't state it literally but hinted at it
@@jdjbybdhdgdhdgdhosasodhjdb8603 hinted? Where?
Dad: I hit and yelled at my daughter.
She's crying.
I threaten to hit her again.
She's having a panic attack.
At least she stopped crying, time for me to take a nap.
*Daughter found dead in her bedroom with scars & bruises on her face & body
Dad: *sHe CoMmItTeD sUiCiDe
My dad is literally a psychopath.
I cry when I have panic attacks, so the last time this happened (5th grade) he yelled “I’ll give you something to cry about!” And kept going. I was ten and it was over a bad grade on a test.
@craplumi yeah it was a while ago
Basically my mothee
my dad used to snap/rip my art pieces in half. he would yell so loud and hit me on the throat. i had to start hiding my art and supplies so i could continue making it because i never wanted to give up
Are you an artist now? As an artist I feel your pain.
I used to draw a lot of gay couples, it made my dad threaten to take drawing away from me.
Of course that was a long time ago, he only said it once, and didn't try to go through with it.
My father does the same, i hid my art supplies yesterday so that he wouldn’t take them. He ended up juts beating me with a wood panel.
Horatio call cps that is not an ok thing to do
My friend's dad whipped him with a fishing rod and nearly broke his spine
Also, verbal abuse as just as worse as physical abuse. I've been called stupid, lazy, fat and shameful. Also getting punished because you make a realistic point in an argument pisses me off so hard
I did a ton of research on emotional abuse for an argumentative essay in my senior year of high school and I vividly remember one study showing that emotional abuse in some cases can be more damaging than physical abuse and sexual abuse COMBINED. That emotional abuse was either the most or second most damaging form of abuse, right next to sexual abuse.
@@LilChuunosuke Explains why I'm so emotionally damaged from the physical abuse I still go through.
Is being called lazy abuse? Well my parents use to say stuff like "are you really just gonna sit on that (video)game all day?" (In ukranian) but tbh... it was completely true my mom called me lazy a lot and i kinda was i mean is that abuse?
@@marianna380 abuse cannot be narrowed down to any single instance or anything like that. If you're regularly degraded, called a worthless child, for example. If they threatened physical harm, told you they wished they never had you, etc. If it's verbal degredation on a regular basis, then yes, it's abuse.
If you're just called lazy when your parents want you to get chores done, then they might just be toxic and have poor communication skills.
There is being called ugly by kids at school but then, when it's said by family? When I was younger, my mum took some photos of us and said I looked ugly AND SHE AGREED, I cried.
My parents would say “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about”
Liv Bram lol I agree
Thats normal tho
kiykno no it’s not.
Same
FriedOreos It lol
My parents would slap me whenever I say something bad, like the word damn or anything, but my dad would watch R-rated movies whenever I’m around thinking I’m not going to understand the words they are saying in the movie, so I start saying those words like like it’s a normal thing. And then I’M getting punished for it.
Basically your not supposed to say bad words like come on man why would you say it in-front of them do it when they aren’t around
@@Faithnotworks I was like 4 how would I know
@@sh1pped-gr2co oh my bad I used to be bad at not saying curse words like if I heard someone say were is my shit I’d at what shit and they would just look at me and I’d say what because I wouldn’t realized just said that
In what way is "damn" a swear word
For some reason I'm thinking of the movie Parenthood where the character played by Keanu Reeves says you have to have a license to have a car or a dog, but anyone can be a parent.
Fucking thank you
If that character in the movie was real (and a number of children do have horribly abusive parents) that your comment would be a great solace.
"I would just drink out of the garden hose" Legend here
Hi Penny
@@g.h.j.y2259 hiya Georgie
Omg pennywise wassup my dude
@@ashtr333 sleepy time. Call me 25 years later.
I've done that before
I wasn't allowed to be angry. If I got angry, I was a spoiled child and a sour grape.
Are you angry now?
@@Tuxedoshlyukha In retrospect, yes. No child should ever have to suppress their anger, even if it's misplaced. When I moved out, I gave my grandmother every bit of the rage I was forced to withhold. She's no longer a part of my life.
Same
🤣 thats not abuse
@@hussnainali2738 Its counts as emotional abuse
Essentialy "grounding" me to my room for weeks to months on end. I spent the entirety of summer 2014 in my room getting a cheese sandwich for dinner every night. I spent Christmas break 2015 in my room. I wasn't allowed to talk with my younger siblings during these "groundings." I have autism and these groundings happened either because I had too many Meltdowns or I took apart things. (I have always had an interest in taking things apart to see how it worked.) I basically spent about 60% of my overall home time in solitary confinement from age 7-14.
DAMN JUST JUMP OUT THE WINDOW AND RUN AWAY IF THAT IS WHAT THEY ARE GONNA DO....
It would have better if they got you interested in mechanics/robotics.
@@K15A6 it's literally not funny
@@XxsouleaterxX 1 year ago... And yea i agree with you
That must have been depressing, my foster parents used to ground me often too, no TV, nothing to read, physical abuse, I ran away from home to try and get away from it all, I'm sorry that you had a life like that but I hope you are more happier now!
My mother: *calls me useless, dumb, lazy, annoying*
Me: *has bad self esteem, constantly upset, always in a bad mood*
Also my mom: *suprised pikachu face*
My life in a nutshell
My classmates, my teachers, my “friends” and my family has done this to me everyday for 5 years. It sucks.
My mom called me : bitch, fag, asshole, stupid ass, etc.... (Basically everything except the F word. Also she only called me a bitch once.)
Hans Luden “suck it up”, really? People like you just get me on a whole new level of mad. You make it seem like someone’s problems are nothing and make them ashamed to feel ashamed. All you’re doing is making the situation worse. Why even say anything if it’s hurtful?
Steve Mankidy I’m sorry for what you have to go through, I hope it gets better💜🥺
Imagine you're dad chasing after you yelling:
*IM GOING TO JIZZ ON YOU!*
Can We get to 1,000 subscribers without videos ? If I witnessed that, I would call the police immediately.
😳 That's kinda *H O T*
Terra Seer *sweet home Alabama starts to play *
That's fucking awful, but Goddamn if it isn't hilarious...
@Benazir Samoon joke
Wait. _The belt isn't a normal thing?_ I thought that was a totally normal thing, the snapping of a belt still scares me a bit.
Mr Anon Guy yeah, physical punishment is terrible on children
•Vero은미• yeah same. When I was younger, either my mom or my dad would give us the belt and I always ended up crying. But I got used to my mom’s belt hits and it eventually didn’t hurt anymore. I rarely get it now, but my dads hits will always hurt much, but when my mom hits, it’s not really anything anymore
•Vero은미• Hitting with the metal part isn’t that called flogging? I think they do that when someone tries to leave the army in war or something.
My ex girlfriend once beat me with a pair of jean shorts. It was terrifying, but we laugh about it now because the absurdity of the situation. We're still best friends and were in childhood too
Iv been spanked with a belt like 5 times between the ages of 5-7 from where my parents come from thats super normal and even encouraged so thats totally normal for them but my mom apoligized to me for it years later. Idk im not mad or anything my parents are great (meh mostly) otherwise
I thought it was normal to get beaten by hand if we did something wrong. When I get something wrong at school I would cry.
SAME i literally HAD A PANIC ATTACK because i forgot to read a book and the counselor was all 'Your okay its not that bad your okay" BUT NOW SHE MOVED AND IT WAS FROM MY LAST SCHOOL, but this school is okay except one teacher my fav teacher is my art teacher:)
"What punishment did you think was normal until later?"
*"My dad would jizz on me and my siblings"*
Little Miss Unoriginal (pizza time stops)
*jazz music stops*
Wtf
what does jizz mean?
@@aerix-gd8917 Its another word for "cum"
12:50 thats not only abuse, thats straight up torture.
Resa's Random Stuff torture is considered abuse
@@idocovers847 torture is more than abuse
Resa's Random Stuff physical abuse is torturing, right? It’s still abuse no matter to what extent it’s being done.
@@ResasRandomStuff yeah it's much more
When i went through my "emo phase" in middle/high school, I cut myself quite a bit. In 9th grade, my parents saw cuts on me for the 2nd time and my dad punished me for self harming. The entire summer vacation he made me make homemade firestarters for his survivalist/apocalypse preparation collection. Basically I cut mcdonalds straws in 2 inch tubes, coated unraveled cotton balls in vaseline, and stuffed the cotton into the straws with a toothpick & sealed them closed by melting the ends with a lighter. I had to make 500 of those until i wasnt grounded anymore. Took me about 2 weeks to do it. My electronics were confiscated and i wasnt allowed to hang out with friends until that job was complete. Didnt realize how weird of a punishment that was until i got older.
Was your dad not, like, worried? About that?
@@kiera6326 He was. We're very close now actually. He's just weird with punishments and showing how he cares. Big tough military man.
I started crying in front of my Mom when she found out I Cut myself.. My dad has never seen my cuts but he knows and we didn't have a fight about getting to see them when he comfronted me about it.
@@earthwormsally3006 Exactly the same here.
Just curious, what were the straw things for?
I was 12 and had a friend that smoked cigarettes and every time her parents found out she had ciggs they would make her smoke the whole pack in one sitting.
Parents:"No,you dont have cancer,stop lying!"
And then they wonder why they have smoker's lungs and lung cancer
Did the parents just forget common sense?
When i was a kid, i used to make small mistakes like slipping and fall, sneezed even before i said "excuse me" (i was told to say excuse me before sneezing), accidentally dropping a trash and not get into the bin,etc. And my ex-dad would tell me to go to the corner of the room, and slap me with the door. Yes, it hurted, but he would just say it's my fault. I thought it was normal and all my friends 's dads / moms are like that too, until when me and my friends were talking about our parents. I told them about my dad, thinking it was normal, and my friend said "oh my god what the fuck" and they told me that was so weird / crazy and things like that. And then it hit me. My ex dad was crazy
Yes, kids can behave without spankings. In fact, if you reward your kids when good, and redirect them when bad, they can be amazing. If you spank them every time when they are bad, and don’t even acknowledge when they are good, they won’t be motivated to try to be the best they can be.
@*Dragon Fruit* ew a gacha
This might be the reason I am physically unable to do homework omfg
@@WhoAreYou905 .....*Just Trying To Defuse The Tension*
George Weasly, Harry Potter and And the Deathly Hallows
Lian Khai Wdym? Are you talking to me or them? And although I don't play gacha life, why hate on something someone enjoys? Either way, what I commented was genuine. I never receive any encouragement from my parents. They're only around to tell me how disappointing I am. I get a good grade, they say nothing. I get a bad grade, they tell me I'm gonna end up with a full-time job at McDonald's. I barely have the motivation to get up in the morning. If I could stay in my house forever and become a recluse I would. :/
Tanya von Rosenfeld
Nobody asked for all that
Lol I thought all adults were always a hair away from snapping at all children at all times.
Ain’t life grand?
They are, a child is "disrespectful" if not suffering from their point of view.
God damn this hits home.
teachers thought me early on
Adults are shitty and dont view kids as people, but property. Its infuriating to witness as a parent
Yea its normal not good but normal i guess
One weird and painful thing that my mother does to me is when I accidentally injured myself, she would beat me up even though that I'm injured, this is why I wished that I'm not clumsy. (Btw, she stopped doing this to me but I don't know if she's going to do it again.)
My parents: *Yelling at me for some stupid shit*
Me: *Crying*
My parents: *Yelling louder and hitting me because I'm crying* "sToP cRyIng!"
Me: *Thinking "How the hell do I stop crying with you hitting me, Karen?"*
Same
Thats fucking sad bro
@Soleïna Kepseu thats not normal..?
@Soleïna Kepseu i thought was that normal tho-
this is illegal, if ya like you can call the police on her
4:06 "...it was all my fault anyway."
Hit close to home. I'm always the one that's wrong when I point out their abusiveness. I'm always so angry but I'm not supposed to act out on it. It's piling up inside and it's so exhausting.
Same. But I always try to put on a smile for my friends. My parents aren’t abusive but one of my sister’s and my brother are. I just wish I could do something about it. But I’m the youngest so I can’t really
@@azumi4369 Yeah, my friends doesn't know about it too. I mean, what's the point? They listen, I get it out of my chest, and then I'll just receive pity. I don't want to be perceived as the friend who got serious family problems.
I can relate to the teen mom one. My parents once left for their late honeymoon and left me, my brother, my baby sister, and my grandma in the house.
My grandma is really stubborn, mean, strict, and perverted. She’d always slap my ass, grab my brothers.. thing, but thankfully she never did anything to my baby sister. She was also extremely lazy and wouldn’t do ANYTHING around the house. When I asked her if she could cook something, she’d yell at me for being lazy. Like woman seriously?!
Anyways, I had to do everything around the house, since my brother was in high school already and he had to study. He helped a bit but still! I had to change diapers, shower my sister, change her, make her milks, all of that.
I also had to learn how to cook, and my grandma would complain about the food every time.
I cooked, cleaned, changed diapers, and on top of all that, I had to study and do homework.
When my parents came back, my grandma claimed that she was doing all the work and we didn’t do anything, AT ALL. I got grounded for 3 months, but as soon as my parents figured out I WAS THE ONE doing EVERYTHING, they kicked my grandma out and yeah.
We all lived happily ever after yeet
I feel ya I grew up in a similar fashion.
Feels bad
OMG you actually had to do stuff around the house, how horrible! but the perverted grandma part is actually horrible.
@@g3ckofish44archive EXACTLY! And then they act like it's our fault,like we ask the same thing 5 times.
like fam,i just want to ask you a simple question,so why are you giving me a 28 minute long lecture about getting some soda?
*Logic is dying*
highkey arab that’s terrible
Bloody hell, most of these are like hearing about my childhood: the gaslighting, the constant beating, the breaking of my things...If I'm ever lucky to have kids, I'll NEVER do these things to them. Yes, I'll discipline them, but these stories are just examples of severe abuse.
When i was younger, my father used to take me to my bedroom, and then lock the door. He would get a belt, put it around my neck, tighten it and drag me as a “lesson”. The most extreme was when he dragged me through the corridor. Now that i look back, that was extremely abusive lol
That’s so freakin sad I feel so bad for your past self
Is your neck ok? That's basically choking a dog on a leash and taking it on a walk while running too fast for the dog so your dragging it?
.... lol...?
Life’s Tough that sounds ridiculous
WDYM LOL YOU WENT THROUGH ABUSE IT ISNT FUNNY IT MAKES ME SO SAD 😔😩
I didn’t have a great childhood, but these stories still left me shaken.
I hope you're doing better now.
el
Yes I am, thank you. You have to make a choice to let all that go. Once you do, you can recover from most anything.
@@emmy2146 Its very hard being a teenager and trying to let it go... I'm starting at forgiveness but I don't know where to go from here :P
Tristan Games
I’m proud of you for forgiving because it isn’t easy to do. I believe you’ve already won 90% of the battle. The rest is only to live your life anyway that makes you happy. Letting go, for me, just means to stop looking back. Don’t let what happened play in your head over and over, and when something goes wrong don’t point to the past as a cause. Make life about today and tomorrow, not about yesterday. It all takes time and if keep moving forward you’ll keep making the past less significant. You’ve opened the door to better things by forgiving :)
if you feel like that you're fine really
Ever get when parents are shouting at u and ur crying and they’re like:
ILL GIVE U SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT!!
clearly I have something to cry about if I’m crying..?
If im crying its for a reason, like damn sorry that ur fuckin terrifying standing there with a fuckin belt after just yelling at me
My life story.
Nope.., my parents r pretty chill tbh
Yeah, it traumatized me to the point of bottling up my emotions till I was at least [Insert older age] when I started watching try not to cry videos to make myself cry. Other than that I've been "Tough" for never really crying until I broke my lower fibula, once I did that I was silent and started to sob into myself to muffle it and everyone freaked out, long story short.. I don't cry much anymore. XD
Edit: Sorry for the bad English.
yea they don't understand if i'm crying i have a reason
There NEEDS to be a Parenting License.
This defends the saying 'all kids deserve a parent, but not all parents deserve a kid' even more
genious!
Yes. That *NEEDS* to be a thing.
True
The perfect idea! With some smoothing of details, we can make this an applicable law! We just need someone to get into the legislative branch, once we’ve set down the basis of the laws, and if we can get the president to respond, we’ll be set…
TheOdd1stOut: *My Mom Ate M&M's In Front Of Me.*
His mom chose the worst punishment of all
Rip
Savage
Fatality
Oh shi-
That one father that didn't physically discipline his children is the kind of father that I think everyone wishes they had. I completely understand where that father is coming from.
I completely understand, I’m kind of like that as a mom, I’m so terrified of my children ever feeling scared of me. If I feel like I’m getting angry I will shut off totally. I’m working on it with my therapist, having a crappy childhood never goes away.
Honestly, in defense for physical discipline of children by parents. I am thankful for my parents beating me so I can learn from right from wrong. Growing up in elementary I was one bad ass kid and it straightened me up real quick. Growing up in my teens after that made me relatively humble as a person and so I thank my parents for what they have done. I hated it as a kid but as I realised how all the other kids have NO discipline and are on a one way trip on a blue bus instead of a yellow one. I noticed the significance in physical discipline by belt. Though, there is a point to where its abuse if this becomes a common routine for the child and if the parents take joy out of it. Then it is abuse.
Erusean Lt. Colonel it’s great that you realize that there’s a line between discipline and abuse, but not every kid that wasn’t hit will turn out bad lol. i was never hit with a belt but i still know right from wrong. but i do agree a spanking is needed sometimes
@@andthebanshees My point...you stop beating your kids when they know how to act from right and wrong.
And also a husband no wife wants
Oh my god. that 2nd story is amazing. that dad was trying to break the cycle, massive props to him.
Seems like people cannot relate to this comment, I completely forgot about this till I received notifications that some people had replied to this comment, now since I don't want to cause any confusion, I'll just say that this comment was based on my experience, and not the whole population in general. Anyways, that's it. To whoever is reading this, have a great day/afternoon/evening.
Also parents: why are there so much school shootings?? What is happening to america!!!!!!!!!
More like:.....BEATS WITH BELT
a f e w y e a r s l a t e r( 2 0 2 1 n o w)
Well parents before this generation also thought beating your child with a switch was okay so I think this generation of parenting being stupid isn't as bad as before.
Lol
@@r011ing_thunder6
The US really needs gun control and to better take care of the students both physically and psychologically.
other abusive parents: *belt, hanger, etc for "discipline"*
op's father: "I'm gonna jizz on you!"
I got absolutely horrified when I read that
@@bimre2080 hahahah samee!
@Benazir Samoon - _SILENCE!_
Buuuttttttt.....a belt *IS* good for discipline, just don't do it for no reason
Itz_Qxeen_ Lvric umm. After like 12 yrs old it’s just a bit of pain, the belt or any physical punishment won’t do shit.
Idc that first one is straight up imprisonment. If anyone EVER found out about that the dad would have been in jail the moment they saw the way the door was set up.
Yup. On top of being abusive, that's also a little thing called "false imprisonment". Had to research it a couple months ago when my boss at work physically barred me from walking out the door at the end of my shift and forced me to work overtime against my will.
The use of physical force, threats, etc to hold someone in a room or building, restricting their freedom of movement, is considered a crime.
Obviously if its something like a parent telling their kid they can't run around town in the middle of the night, that's different. But locking someone in a room all day? Um, literal imprisonment.
Probably not because depending on the year of when that was happening which I’m assuming the 80’s or 90’s there wasn’t a bunch of laws on child abuse so if a police offer saw that, they would’ve just gave the man a warning until he did it about 3 to 4 more times to finally put him in jail (laws obviously weren’t as crucial back then, child wise)
Its Reddit wow you people are so gullible and most are attention seekers
"I'll give you something to cry about!"
"Why do you beat me?!"
"Because I love you!"
"If you loved me you wouldn't beat me!"
Probably when I was old enough to talk
The Official Wufpack99 Channel and then they’ll be like “THIS HURTS ME MORE THAN YOU”
Breaking my stuff was my mother's go-to.
My father, however, loved silent treatment. He completely ignored me for days, apart from shouting commands when he wanted me to do chores or something like that. Oh, and he also breaking stuff using my "bad behaviour" as an excuse. "Of course", there also was the occasional slap. Generally, the few times I opened up to my parents, I was blamed. Funniest thing is my parents' surprise regarding the fact that our relationship sucks big time while labeling my chronic depression and suicidal ideation as lazyness.
And there are much, MUCH worse cases of abuse. This comment section alone is proof. So sad how many "parents" just screw their children up.
My ex-stepdad yeeted my ass off the roof because I might have gone to an after school social without permission. I cracked a rib in the fall, it didn't heal correctly and it still hurts to take a full breath in sometimes
Did he get at least 1 year In prison or rehab or mental asylum or hospital or therapy or anything bad
At least you're fine with that to the point of being able to joke about it. Y e e t
Hope you're doing well anyway.
Let him know I just wanna talk... over a roof.
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id yeet him a good night or 2 or a year in prison
2:50 "had us in the first half not gonna lie"
Am I the only Asian who doesn't have abusive parents and parents that are okay if I didn't get A in maths..
you’re not alone, there are a lot of asian parents who aren’t abusive and are okay if their child didn’t get a in math 😄😄😄
my mum's Asian, but born in London so I guess she acts more white than actually Asian. And I have a white dad so I guess that makes it much easier
Nah my Asian mom is pretty chill.
I guess you also didn't get A in english.
Uhhhh... i am a student that gets into honors and has pretty high grades most of the time but if i got a grade lower than 90 they would question me why i got low grades and it made me sad and feel like a disappointment to my family.
I fear nothing, except one thing. There is nothing I have a genuine fear of, not even death. I don’t get scared easily, never have, but I do fear turning out like my mother. I don’t want to be like her, and that’s the main reason I’m not having children. Because, before me, everyone said she was a lovely and great person. Everyone says, after she had me, she changed. And that scares me to no end.
My mom once tried to shove a slug in my mouth for having a fit. Whenever I tell her about it now she would say "oh I don't remember doing that, I hate slugs"
Denial. My grandmother beat my mother with a wooden coat hanger for the things her stupid sister did and will deny everything today. She gets really angry when she gets confronted with that and will call everyone liars.
I mean for my "family" they'd do the same for yelling at petty situations, telling me that "friends are not worth my time" and that I'm "better off being alone" (lol I remember when exactly, I was in 4th grade), and yelling at me when I ask them who my real parents are. As much as I found out my parents myself and they deny all of these situations, idk why but tbh I could care less about these "issues", just wanted to put my experiences out.
Child: *does something wrong*
Parent: ah, I could tell them why it is wrong and not to do it again kindly and reasonably so they don’t hate me forever, but let’s abuse them instead lol.
My dad throws my brother to the ground and punches him in the face when he misses hw.
Accidents happen, but a belt on the butt is not abuse if they know that what they’re doing is wrong
Yall I’m not saying all parent’s do this, but it’s done a lot. Whether or not it is intentional or not is a different matter. The thing is some parents do this and that’s what I’m saying.
@@anner9 please dont have kids
Chai Zan spanking are actually kind of normalized,but the rest (punching,breaking thing etc) is abuse,so i don’t think someone shouldn’t have kids just because they believe that kids deserve a spanking for something wrong they’ve done so they don’t do it again (only if they won’t listen,of course)
When I was a kid (like in elementary school age) my parents divorced and in the meantime I was also being kind of bullied (cause of my chubbiness and shyness, not in a physical way, but It really hurt my self esteem for a few years till maybe the start of High school).
The divorce on its own can be quite traumatizing for a little kid that already has some other issues, the feeling at the time could be described as seeing something you still didn't quite understand and always took for granted (the marriage and love of your parents) slowly sinking like the Titanic, while you are watching powerless like the orchestra that played till the end.
I don't have really clear memories before age like 7-8 years old, I remember majorly events that particularly sticked/hit with me, all in a kind of slideshow-style way, some negative, some positive.
I remember that when the other kids were mean in class I sometimes basically wrapped up in a ball and sat under a desk with the wall to my back for what at the time felt like 20, sometimes 40 minutes, in complete silence.
One time, still in elementary, we each borrowed one book from the class shelves for a project, the day we were supposed to return them we all left them in a box, I later were told that I didn't return the book and was called out in front of the class by the teacher, for every day this book wouldn't show up I would get a public lecture and a bad grade, this went on for about one week till I discovered my book hidden by someone and even then my teacher didn't remove any bad grades she gave me.
(Remember all of this while I was having self esteem issues)
One time, after some kind of argument I don't remember with my mother, I made a little crack (remember I was still a kid, not strong at all) in my wardrobe door repeatedly headbutting it as strong as I could while autoconvincing me that if I died everyone would have cared more about the broken door than me(don't know if It was only in my head or I actually said that).
After another argument in another house, I remember I sat on the window sill while effectively thinking about jumping and what would have happened afterwards.
In a classic kid argument with my brother we broke a glass door, and on another occasion I got the aluminum ladder from our tower bed smashed on the back.
There are numerous other minor occasions, some I don't even recall: one where to clear my head during a period of frequent arguments (this time with my mother's new man) I took my bike and went as far as 35km from my town, some other times involving friends or classmates (up until the start of High school) where people were pretty much blunt at saying that I sucked and someone I thought was a friend basically directly hinted me that he didn't want to be seen with me around others, (he was kinda popular and I clearly wasn't) to this day I still don't know if he ever actually liked my company or not.
Along the years I thought numerous times about killing myself, came as close as writing down my will, never told anyone nor actually tried It fortunately, this is also the first time I'm writing It down, don't know for what reason I felt like sharing it this time.
Everything is better now, at the time I firstly applied an "apathetic" behaviour, then I switched and I'm still on "I'm going to do things my way, I'm gonna put up there an objective and get maximum effort towards it, commit to it, and if I fail then at least I tried (it's easy not to fail if you don't even try).
Despite all the things that were going on, I was always the jokester for the people I had around, if I could catch a laugh then I was genuinely happy to make them happy, so even today I've put as my general objective to help others while also living decently: police, firefighter, as a person itself, don't care as long as I don't miss the goal I put there.
When and if I will ever get married and have children myself I vowed myself to do everything in my power to have them experience a bright childhood.
Went to the gym, and in four months I lost nearly 15kg while also increasing muscle mass, still some road ahead but downhill thanks to the change in mindset, still working on opening up to people tho, I still prefer to keep It superficial.
I'm 18 btw, doesn't matter.
Don't know why I wrote this but I guess it's fine since it's going to get lost in the digital maze of comments in UA-cam.
If someone that had something like this happening to them is reading this then I can tell you that a change of mindset can change your life bottom to top in just months, if you are willing to commit to it.
Do things your way, but do them!👊🏻
I wish you the best of luck.
@@pomegranate_vi9444 Thanks. 👍🏻
You are so young man it’s great that you are getting into the right mindset right now. You are at one of the best points of your life where you get to jump out of the nest and spread your wings and fly. Maybe find some hobbies or something that interest you, after getting out of school if you don’t have a bunch of friends it’s kinda hard to find new ones if you aren’t involved with anything where you can meet people. Xbox or gaming is a good way to make friends from all over, friends you can talk to all the time. The trick to hanging out with people is just being yourself and not caring what others think. I suffer from anxiety but when I really stopped caring what others thought of me it let go of so much of my daily stress. You are right at the age where you still have that school mentality of wanting to be cool but once you graduate nobody really cares anymore who is cool and who isn’t. If you do meet some new people just make sure they want to be your friend for the right reasons. I would rather have no friends than someone who is taking of advantage of me (which Has happened many times and I had to break it off). There are lots of people out there who will except you for you and love you and once you get so comfortable with someone you don’t have to worry about what you say or do and if they have a problem with something you say or do “as long as it isn’t offensive or super annoying” then they aren’t a good friend and you don’t need them anyways. Many people don’t make it out to the other side from having the mindset you used to have so consider yourself very lucky and cherish every moment of this beautiful life. You can’t pick what cards you are dealt but you can choose what to do with them.
@@experienceofchris1108 Thanks man, just the fact you took time to write a comment like this is very appreciated, since I know how much time it may take to find the right words.
👏🏻
K
Parents: compares child 24/7
Child: ends up comparing themself to others
Parents: *Surprised Pikachu Face*
Yh Ik sometimes my mum compares me to my friend because our arithmetic score r like 1 mark difference 🙄
But I don't compare myself to others
My mom compares me to my cousins all the time especially when it came to a youtube career always comparing views and things but I'm trying to improve with animation and no sort of encouragement
My mum is guilty of comparing me to other people
@@Freaky_toe Lucky :( /nm /mj
The “teen mom” one makes me furious to no end oh my god
gailjj no??? That one just hits closer to home
Watching this makes me realize that everything my parents do isnt normal either 👀
Oh boyy
Me too
Same, once my parents threw my brother outside, untill he learned his lesson. It was a winter night.
And he calls him idiot/stupid, etc. Now i realize its not normal. Tho i dont hate him.
y x m e e n yeah mine too. I think my mom gaslights
My mum beat me until she broke the broom. She also says she don’t love me And that I have mental issues
Never been punished besides being told to sit quietly in a room for 10 minutes😂
Its pretty stupid that a normal childhood is counted as “lucky” these days.
And pro-abusers want to make you believe that will make you end up in prison 😂
@@hollyhell3772 What do you mean "pro-abusers", if you don't mind me asking? What are the arguments.
But the real question is: What is a normal childhood?
Especially because many households have abusive parents since that’s how they grew up. Are normal childhoods when you don’t have abusive parents? But is abusive is normal then...
Anjali a normal childhood is where you have at least a parent or guardian that looks after you until you reach adulthood. Put it this way, children should rather have their parents in their lives then not.
All the lovey dovy crap is dumb, you just need the basics and you have a normal childhood
No
6:09 this is seriously crazy the EXACT same events happened to me, also a stepdad, also 10 years old, also very protective and literally praised my mom when I was in pain (she didn't care either) I also had/have anxiety😪
.... I wonder if that guy's stepdad was named brian cause this all happened a year ago too..😳 differences: they divorced for like a month and got back together🙄 and i have a horrible relationship with her cause of him.
i didnt get my happy ending. Life sucks
Wait what? You died?
Imagine getting followed trough a hallway by some man saying; “i’M gOnNa JiZz On YoU” while pinching his wrist
My brain has blocked out my childhood because of the trauma
Tyler Hunter please accept a virtual hug
...I may have a similar problem, although I tend to remember the bad stuff, I have what seems to be scars of some sort on my back, but don't remember anything to have caused them?
Michelle the trauma could have been so bad that your brain was like nope don’t need that memory
I think that what happened to me. I hear stories about myself and I'm like, damn, I went through some serious shit. I was abandoned, beaten, drowned (my parents didn't give a fuxk, my sister who is older by 1 and a half had to recuse me). I also heard that my mother pulled out a knife on my brother when he was a baby, threatening to kill him and that my dad threatened to shoot his mom with his gun. Sounds fucked up. My Uncle and Aunts refused to tell me more details, saying it's better to not think about the past and just live the present. Who knows what other things happened.
When a unicorn farted, Lay existed maybe it’s best you don’t remember that then
Teens stick up for themselves and parents (most of the time) shoot down their confidence by punishing them
Yup. I have absolutely no confidence because I get called a piece of shit hourly. Then my moms like “Why are you saying that? Don’t say that!” Not in a kind way, as in she wants me to change my mindset in a forceful way
Lord Explosion Murder Time for a crusade
Whats a crusade?
Yeah, I can't stick up for myself, my mother would say "You're overdramatic, you're young you don't understand!"
Teen: -points something out-
Parents: "WHO DO YOU THINK YOU'RE TALKING TO? "WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY?"
the one about believing ur children is SOOOOOOO true
it took until i was 18 for my parents to finally take me to the doctor about my leg hurting
i was complaining about it when i was 11-13
i was 2 years away from being wheelchair-bound from arthritis caused by hip dysplasia
they always just told me i was being lazy and to grow up LOL
My Dad used to whip me with a belt whenever I bed wetted. Bed wetting is something that I can’t help it when I was 4 to 5 years old and being punished for something I’m not in control during those years is something I will never forget about even if I forgotten most of my childhood memories.
What is your relationship like with him now.
Damn dude I thought I had it bad. I can't imagine what these people have gone through. I'm lucky to just be loved. Glad most of these people are ok.
Same
Same
You are not lucky to be loved. Being loved and provided for should be the bare minimum of what a parent should grant you.
Everyone has their own sense of pain, and horrible memories. Just because some other people had it worse than you, doesn't mean your pain is invalid or that you are ungrateful.
@@febbledebble I so agree.
10:09 idk for sure, but i belive in some war camps, to toture prisoners, they were forced to kneel on rice for days, weeks, or months at a time.
Being forced to stay in the same position, rice or not, is a form of torture. One example I remember was a group of PoWs being tortured for information, and one of them had to stand with his hands in the air for like 18+ hours a day for months
When I got a grade under a seventy or did something they didn’t like my mom wouldn’t grab a belt with rhinestones and hit me with it (that only happened twice or three times)
Or when I did something they didn’t want me to my mom would slap me and grab my shoulders and throw me across the room
My dad never ever ever even dared to try to slap me
Oh my god.