Being an only child is so sad. And I went into a relationship and that person was my everything we called every sec . We messages every sec . Now that I part my way with them , I feel alone . I feel like calling people but then I realise I might be irritating them .coming off as clingy. I have been struggling, no one to speak to , I am just lost , confused , frustrated.
I pray that it gets better for you and easier. I am the mother of one. She has siblings from her father and close relations with her 1st cousins five of them, two girls and three boys all a year apart. So technically she’s my only but not really what some would consider an only child. I pray things get easier to manage emotionally and mentally.
@MissTeaq shukran so much I really appreciate your comment , I live in a foreign country far from relatives and I grew up with three adults, sometimes it can get really tiring and lonely but I am glad your daughter has company alxm ❤️
What I learned throughout the life is when you understand them most important thing in life and your purpose, which is 'Allaah', then you worry less. Like when you do a lot of 'dikir', like: subhaanallah, Alhabdullilaah, Allaahu akbar, etc. I mean to focus the creator instead of his creation. Jasaaka Allaah khayr sister
very true. although humans are created with in-built, natural needs and desires. community is one of those needs. but always: hasbanullah wanimal wakil 📿
Definitely feels very lonely, in my case it may be c-ptsd related, I catastrophise and think I’m the only person going through it. I still socialise with friends but not as often, I don’t feel the need to share all my trauma with them or family because they either don’t understand or will point it out as a weakness. It’s difficult to find like minded people outside online spaces because people aren’t as ‘real’ irl in my opinion, they all portray they’re getting on with life and work like a robot. It’s like the hierarchy of needs you were talking about, many people are stuck in the lower stages. So to keep my peace I’d rather keep my vulnerability to myself since my family aren’t safe ‘mirrors’.
very relatable. thats basically the predicament im in- its hard to relate to people who dont have some sort of trauma. i also have c-ptsd and part of that is the relational aspect of trauma. i want to make a whole video on this someday!
@@hyphalknottt yeah, its a shame that interactions with people who haven’t been through or aren’t aware of their trauma feels fake and like there’s no real connection, may Allah make it easy for us. And looking forward to the video!
I feel the same but over time I found comfort in being alone which to be honest scares me, I make time for my family but not for friends or people around me. I gotta work on that!
Document your own journey healthy relationship is important Don't get lost frustrated confused but remember you are progressing and you moving forward you are best youtuber i have ever seen your chanel is amazing 🙏❤️🙏
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I can relate to the feelings you express regarding loneliness and disconnection. I think you creating this platform will be a way for you to connect to and create a family of like minded individuals. Don’t let the dark feelings get the best of you. There is light to be found. You may have to make more efforts to identify and connect with these types. But once you make the decision to do so I believe things will start falling into place in that respect. Peace be unto you beautiful soul. Willing you the best. Try and keep your spirits high. I know some days may be harder than others but I believe in you and wish you peace of heart and mind.
i feel for you man. same thing happened to me- used to be extroverted and enthusiastic but trauma forced me to self-identify as an introvert. the good news is that the essence of “you” never changes. the True you, the person you’re supposed to be, is always a potential waiting to be actualised. i believe in you dude!
@@omulita are you able to do therapy where you are sis? I only referred myself recently and a professional can understand you and help you understand yourself❤️
@JJ-qd9yl I am based in south africa , coming from a somali household can be challenging , especially when they don't understand what therapy is . Shukran for reaching out sister .
@@omulita no problem i can relate, I’m somali in the uk and I haven’t told my family about therapy bc when I told them I have ADHD they denied it as if my diagnosis isn’t real. I just stay in contact with my school friends, ngl we don’t have the same interests but we hang out every once in awhile.
Third spaces are not disappearing, you yourself said that people are using them less...the internet, like most things, is a double-edged sword...recently so many people came together for those celebrity look alike contests (like the Timothee Chalamet one)...most of those took place in parks...and the gatherings were facilitated by the internet...I think community is become less stable and more transient because everyone's interests are so niche, so you may not have the same community that lasts for decades like our parents once did...I think the world is becoming more and more like Tokyo, for better and worse
in my country, or at least in my local area, the funding for public third spaces is gradually decreasing which makes them less usable/attractive to the general population… i hear you though, internet does feel increasingly transient. nothing feels permanent anymore
genuinely just want to pack up and live slowly on a farm in the countryside, no WiFi, in a community who isn’t dependant on WiFi. do you write on substack by any chance?
that’s the dream. though i imagine that comes with its own issues 🥲 funnily enough i do, but ive released a grand total of 4 (very bad) pieces in the last ~1.5 years 😎 @forthepeaks
Being an only child is so sad. And I went into a relationship and that person was my everything we called every sec . We messages every sec . Now that I part my way with them , I feel alone . I feel like calling people but then I realise I might be irritating them .coming off as clingy. I have been struggling, no one to speak to , I am just lost , confused , frustrated.
I pray that it gets better for you and easier. I am the mother of one. She has siblings from her father and close relations with her 1st cousins five of them, two girls and three boys all a year apart. So technically she’s my only but not really what some would consider an only child.
I pray things get easier to manage emotionally and mentally.
@MissTeaq shukran so much I really appreciate your comment , I live in a foreign country far from relatives and I grew up with three adults, sometimes it can get really tiring and lonely but I am glad your daughter has company alxm ❤️
What I learned throughout the life is when you understand them most important thing in life and your purpose, which is 'Allaah', then you worry less. Like when you do a lot of 'dikir', like: subhaanallah, Alhabdullilaah, Allaahu akbar, etc. I mean to focus the creator instead of his creation.
Jasaaka Allaah khayr sister
very true. although humans are created with in-built, natural needs and desires. community is one of those needs. but always: hasbanullah wanimal wakil 📿
Definitely feels very lonely, in my case it may be c-ptsd related, I catastrophise and think I’m the only person going through it. I still socialise with friends but not as often, I don’t feel the need to share all my trauma with them or family because they either don’t understand or will point it out as a weakness. It’s difficult to find like minded people outside online spaces because people aren’t as ‘real’ irl in my opinion, they all portray they’re getting on with life and work like a robot. It’s like the hierarchy of needs you were talking about, many people are stuck in the lower stages. So to keep my peace I’d rather keep my vulnerability to myself since my family aren’t safe ‘mirrors’.
I am literally feeling the way u feeling .
very relatable. thats basically the predicament im in- its hard to relate to people who dont have some sort of trauma. i also have c-ptsd and part of that is the relational aspect of trauma. i want to make a whole video on this someday!
@@hyphalknottt yeah, its a shame that interactions with people who haven’t been through or aren’t aware of their trauma feels fake and like there’s no real connection, may Allah make it easy for us. And looking forward to the video!
I feel the same but over time I found comfort in being alone which to be honest scares me, I make time for my family but not for friends or people around me. I gotta work on that!
same- being comfortable alone is good but you dont want to get TOO comfortable
Document your own journey healthy relationship is important Don't get lost frustrated confused but remember you are progressing and you moving forward you are best youtuber i have ever seen your chanel is amazing 🙏❤️🙏
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I can relate to the feelings you express regarding loneliness and disconnection. I think you creating this platform will be a way for you to connect to and create a family of like minded individuals. Don’t let the dark feelings get the best of you. There is light to be found. You may have to make more efforts to identify and connect with these types. But once you make the decision to do so I believe things will start falling into place in that respect. Peace be unto you beautiful soul. Willing you the best. Try and keep your spirits high. I know some days may be harder than others but I believe in you and wish you peace of heart and mind.
I am like in a slob . Yo i am hurt hurt . I went from extroverted to an introvert . Its so sad
i feel for you man. same thing happened to me- used to be extroverted and enthusiastic but trauma forced me to self-identify as an introvert. the good news is that the essence of “you” never changes. the True you, the person you’re supposed to be, is always a potential waiting to be actualised. i believe in you dude!
I just want to make friends that i can talk to where i dont feel like i am annoying them .
@@omulita are you able to do therapy where you are sis? I only referred myself recently and a professional can understand you and help you understand yourself❤️
@@omulita what about community groups? or school/work?
@JJ-qd9yl I am based in south africa , coming from a somali household can be challenging , especially when they don't understand what therapy is . Shukran for reaching out sister .
@@JJ-qd9yl yh I am trying, but everyone is for themselves
@@omulita no problem i can relate, I’m somali in the uk and I haven’t told my family about therapy bc when I told them I have ADHD they denied it as if my diagnosis isn’t real. I just stay in contact with my school friends, ngl we don’t have the same interests but we hang out every once in awhile.
Third spaces are not disappearing, you yourself said that people are using them less...the internet, like most things, is a double-edged sword...recently so many people came together for those celebrity look alike contests (like the Timothee Chalamet one)...most of those took place in parks...and the gatherings were facilitated by the internet...I think community is become less stable and more transient because everyone's interests are so niche, so you may not have the same community that lasts for decades like our parents once did...I think the world is becoming more and more like Tokyo, for better and worse
in my country, or at least in my local area, the funding for public third spaces is gradually decreasing which makes them less usable/attractive to the general population… i hear you though, internet does feel increasingly transient. nothing feels permanent anymore
genuinely just want to pack up and live slowly on a farm in the countryside, no WiFi, in a community who isn’t dependant on WiFi. do you write on substack by any chance?
that’s the dream. though i imagine that comes with its own issues 🥲 funnily enough i do, but ive released a grand total of 4 (very bad) pieces in the last ~1.5 years 😎 @forthepeaks
Wow wonderful so cute your chanel is amazing ❤❤
I can relate
May Allah help us
Alone is not lonely ukhty
agreed- but they can go hand in hand