im tired of watching others’ lives. it’s time to live my own.
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- Опубліковано 10 лют 2025
- progress is more sustainable when it comes from a true soul-drive to be well and live in harmony, and when it aligns with what God has ordained for you. ive learned that pursuing your apparent desires might not be what will lead to your prosperity.
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“The results you’re looking for is found in the work you’re avoiding”
Sooo True
What you said at 09:58 is so true, nowadays we consider religious people to be "boring" because they stay away from the things w we consider entertaining/desirable which are usually against islam or distract you from islam, for example music. So when we become more better muslims we worry that we will seem like that to people.
spot on!! it's been an insecurity of mine for a long time but im realising that it's all complete BS anyway. everything that I want from being 'cool' or 'interesting' pales in comparison to what Allah promises us!
I stopped listening/caring about music a while ago and stopped doing a lot of things for the sake of Allah, and in doing so, i felt like I became this boring, unrelatable person. It can be lonely at times, especially living in the west but I try to remind myself constantly that it doesn't mean i'm boring. I'm just living my life in a way that pleases Allah swt.
@@hafsaabdullahi6887 Really proud of you! It is hard to let go of music nowadays because you end up excluding yourself from what everyone else is doing like going on tiktok and understanding trends, but I guess that could be one of our trials nowadays, accepting that exclusion/loneliness to better our religion
Sis this is spot on! I’m 33 alhamdulilah i got a stable job in government. But i was raised on survival.. I worked hard got a house with my mom who raised us as a single mother. Now that im reaching this age. I always focused on other people and making sure they are good. Alhamdulilah last year i started my photography business while working full-time. And to just stop procrastinating . I want to achieve more iA with Allah swt help. But i had to set those boundaries to be no longer available to people as much on weekends.
So i can focus on growing and being successful in this. 2025 its time to letting watching other people success stories and not building your own.
Procrastinating where? You already sound so successful and have done so much MashAllah, have goals but keeping relationships are very important don’t sacrifice them for anything
allahumabarik, starting a business while working full-time is no easy feat! may Allah give you the strength and determination to keep going
@@unaa9380 thank you sister! immediate family i am always there for them. But i've have a lot of extended family who were always in a pickle and I helped out by offering my time and money. basically it led to burn out. Covid I got sick and was drained in many ways. but alhamdulilah regardless
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It is better to look if your Jobs are even halal, take care
Sis I rarely had someone speak my own mind like that, I sincerely pray to God that we get where we've longed for. We deserve to live at peace with ourselves
YESSSSS ILYSM a big reason to this is TikTok it makes it seem like success is all about being rich traveling the world, or working for yourself by 20, but that’s not real life for most people. Success isn’t the same for everyone it could mean having a steady 9-to-5, spending time with family, or just being happy with where you are.
The internet makes you feel like you’re behind if you’re not living this “perfect” life, but the truth is, success is personal. It’s not about what looks good online but it’s truly about what feels good to you. If you’re doing what matters to you and finding joy in it, you’re already winning in lifeeee.
literally its such a trip! im willing to bet a lot of people secretly have their own niche vision of success but they just never acknowledge it bc its too weird or “different” to the status quo. everyone is supposed to be hyper ambitious and go after the top salaries, positions, etc etc. im so over it, i just wanna focus on God & being the best human I can be 😭
100 percent agree. Like many, I have come to accept that the habits that got me through the last few years, 'the loop', as you mentioned has hindered my growth and blinding my self-belief. Social-media doesn't help if you rely on living life through others, and not taking inspiration from it. JazakAllah kheir for this, you put into words what many of us are feeling at this moment. May Allah reward you!
You speak sooo well.. such a necessary conversation and important one too. You articulated it well
I totally understand what you’re saying. I am currently pushing to be better, praying harder, using my time better & it’s hard at the start but now I’m starting to feel better. Only we can do the work on us with Allahs guidance. May Allah make this transition and understanding of this easy. ❤
you’re doing good & important work, may Allah reward you and make it easy for you
We can really feel the authenticity and the honest behind every single world you say mansha Allah well done ❤❤❤
thank you friend 🌟🌟
The fireworks being the environment has me hollering 😂
Serious note though this was such a heavy conversation.
The fact that you're able to visualise where you want to be and the person you want to become (have defined goals) makes "me" believe that you are at least halfway there.
Thank you for this! You really expressed how I've been feeling this last few months so clearly 🥺
You’ve got 127 subscribers and I’ll be your 128th Subscriber ❤
girl you’re so well spoken and relatable i wish you the best!
wow thank you! all the best to you also 🌻
2:49 😂 it's never funny, but the humor in it made me smile for give me, stay fast you're blessing will come soon,
Girl you are so good at speaking! Keep going!
Abayo Macaan I’m so glad this came up on my feed. I have never related to a video like this one and I’m so proud of you! May Allah make all your dreams come true, you have inspired me ❤
much love sister 💗💗
Jazak Allahu khairan for sharing I feel Allah swt guided this video to me at the right time, Alhamdu Lillah.
May Allah swt reward you immensely sister in you pursuing your dreams and goals and I pray that he gives you the highest of jannah al firdous Ameen
Sis I’m 1min & 19secs in and I NEED this allahuma barik! Jazakallah khair 🥰
im so glad this landed for you and so many others! i thought i was a lil crazy so its nice to see haha
thank you for your comment 💗
When I saw the title....😢 I'm like me too
This is so relatable thank you for sharing
Allah (God) is Always the solution to all our problems whether internally or externally. Seeking his help through the Quran is the ultimate solution. The way to solve these problems.
this 100%!
@@hyphalknotttcheck your thyroid levels(tsh level & tpo antibodies level). Some people have unchecked hormone issues which make them lazy or tired or anxious or depressed etc.
Period 👏🏾👏🏾 that’s why I just started my UA-cam channel now. My time.
as you should! 👏🏾
Subscribed and rooting for you sis 💛
I really needed to see this video. As a young teen I’ve picked up certain hobbies as a form of escapism from my environment. It saved me back then, it was the only thing I had to protect myself, but I cannot partake in it any further. 2025 is about growing and breaking free of past experiences and bad habits. Thank you so much sis, I can’t wait to see the growth of your channel.
My beautiful sister Jazaki Allahu khayran , thank you much for speaking the words that have been stuck in the back of my head for the past years and not being able to word it at all..this video was so helpful to me and I'll come back to it as a reminder that I have to keep going once again THANK YOU :)
thank you for sharing this- im glad it gave words to what youve been feeling for a long time, and youre welcome to come back whenever you want!
I'm your 130 followers ,hope to see this channel grow
thank you
I love this. You worded it perfectly.
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I love the way u speak and i am happy this came up on my fyp . Really love your youtube watching from the get go
Subhan'Allah sis your words have been articulated so clearly. I have subscribed and you have words speaks true to all our lived experience. I know where I need to go but the overwhelm the anxiety has caused me to freeze and deal with what problems day to day.
this is such a struggle- learning to face your life every day and regulate your emotions while doing so is a skill
Sister, thank you for this video so much. May Allah continue to bless you with the ease of expressing yourself and expressing so much of what we are feeling💕
jazakAllah, may Allah shower you with His love 💖🌟
you've gained a subscriber :)
much appreciated 😌
What is your insta? I feel like I need to talk to u
And another
❤ yes 100 percent right. Live your life - its your journey
This was really vulnerable and your advice is definitely what I need to implement but it’ll be hard
You are speaking to me, thanks so much 😢❤ I went through all you are talking about🙏
SubhanAllaah, this resonated as though it was my own thoughts! JazakAllaah khair sis, you articulated something that can be messy and confusing into an engaging video which gives comfort and clarity. ♥️
Mash'Allah sister! This video was amazing. I can recognise everything you say. But alhamdulillah no more. This year is all about changing that, in sha Allah 💕
inshaAllah! may Allah guide us and give us strength on this path 🌻
I’ve never subscribed to anything this fast. I love your content i truly hope you continue to make more videos
thank you so much!
This is so relatable. I hope this year all of us can truly honour ourselves by putting in the work & putting ourselves first.
And sis, may this amazing video you created be the catalyst for you smashing your goals ❤
hello sis, a new subscriber here!! keep doing this. Also, I think people who engage in these activities want to escape pain and maximize their joyment by watching others without taking any risks.
hello welcome! thank you for subscribing!! i agree 100% (i know because im guilty of doing the same 🥲) but 2025 we’re turning escapism into ACTION!
It is so nice listening to you, the way you speak is so calming ✨
thank youuu 💖
your way of talking make me feel calm to be honest Mashaa Allah❤❤
Gurl I feel u 100%
Woow I liked already your topic about this video I didn't see before sis❤🎉
childhood trauma is seriously one hell of an interesting curse/spell that needs to be broken..and it's definitely not an easy job 😌
tell me about it. we’ve got our work cut out for us haven’t we 😮💨
Thank you for this video.
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I feel like you just read my journal and whats been going on in my mind for the last year.. ever since i did umrah in december 2023 and came back home i have been yearning for growth and positive change but i am purposely keeping myself small because of those comfortable habits and not wanting to disrupt my home environment. subhanallah.... i am scared to make change. but i also dont want what drives me to change only when something bad happens.
subhanallah its craazyy how similar our experiences are… i had a similar inner transformation after doing umrah in 2023 for the first time!
keep in mind change doesnt have to be drastic. you can commit to small but consistent things that will help move you forwards- it all makes a difference! for me it took a psychotic episode to realise that i really, REALLY needed to prioritise my healing (i made a video about it). but inshallah it wont get to that point for you. remember to keep praying and asking for guidance, He is always near and wants what’s best for you 💖 may Allah guide you and keep you STRONG!
Assalaamu alaikum young sis! I’m really encouraged by your bravery in articulating some of your difficulties. Looking forward to more videos and pray you’re doing well while away. Xoxo
walaikum salam! thank you for your kind words, much love
Thank you for this video makes me feel like im not alone!
First time watching your content and i am a fan Allahumma baarek❤
you should see my face rn im cheesing so hard, i cant believe i have a fan, hahaha! jazakAllahu khairan 💗
@hyphalknottt wa iyyaaki❤
Such a lovely way about you. May Allah ease your path.
this made my day, thank you & may Allah reward you 🌻
See you, you’re a breath of fresh air. You’ve reached a important point in your journey to enlightenment.
I write this is as Somali man who resonates wholeheartedly with your thought process. Old habits and old ways no longer serve our true purpose. Once you reach situational awareness it is both a gift and curse that lives in a very peculiar place. Once we are aware to what matters and what it is ultimately good for us we can no longer go back to ourselves if we try to then we hinder our growth.
This stage is when you turn from caterpillar to butterfly. It takes for us to hit our lowest points for us to realise the truth. I’m glad you’re healing, I’m glad you’re on your way to a more fulfilling life. Incorporate Salah, mindfulness, healthy eating into your life and you will flourish walal.
Peace and love
very well said 👏👏
Allah brought you to me
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So relatable! 8:39 Thank u for sharing 🤍
glad it resonated! 🌻
Thanks alot for this incredible piece right there 👏.
I just subscribed! I love this video!
aww inshallah kheyr
Very relatable❤
I am so proud of you!
You are doing great. Motivation and self discipline is not easy like you've put it. I think it's better to see yourself as who you want to become. Consider yourself as a creator less a consumer. Practice positive reinforcement. Our brains have plasticity and can form new structures and circuits. Don't focus too much on trauma, move from it. I am not denying it. I suggest you read "the courage to be disliked." You doing great. In sha Allah waad guuleysaneysa.
The title alone captured how am also feeling myself. I had to subscribe in two seconds..
Took the words right out of my mouth 👄
You explained that so clearly and you are so well spoken mashallah. I even took notes lol😂 this is the year I am working on myself to be the best version of myself with God’s help inshallah Please recommend some good self improvement books and how much you would rate them out of 10, keep up with uploading videos, I am looking forward to next one❤❤❤
nooo, dont take notes i dont know what im talking about! lol but seriously- thank you for your comment, and may Allah guide you on your journey and keep you strong.
in terms of self-help books- i honestly got really disillusioned with the whole self-help genre because i feel the advice is tailored to a specific type of person (who is very different to me). the only books that stuck with me were:
-Deep Work by Cal Newport (8/10)
-CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker (9/20- very good book if you have childhood trauma and want to understand it better)
-Atomic Habits by James Clear (6.5/10- helped me understand the importance and methodology of habit-forming)
all the best 💖
@ jhazkallah sis ❤️
thank you for making this video keep going bb girl u got this
Well worded ❤ just subscribed xx
much appreciated 🌻
big step your taking sister you have more courage than a lot of other people to come here and be confident infront of the camera. keep posting and remain consistent may Allah make it easy for you and grant to the akhirah and the dunya amen
I always feel like an idiot rambling with a microphone in my face so your comment means a lot, jazakallah 🌟 may Allah shower you with blessings
My sincere advice would be to turn back to Allaah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Real success is not in worldly matters. Real success is all about what is our inner state when good or bad comes along. You can get out of deprived areas and move into more privileged areas but that does not mean you are on the road to success. This could be the road to failure. We need to start rethinking what is my ultimate goal and the rest will fall into place.
Your well spoken sister Allahumabarik
jazakAllah 🙌🏾
Here for it 🎉
more power to you dude
YES SIS!!!
Masha Allaah, sister
To make your own platform, I think the first thing you ask yourself is what is your intention? The second thing is knowledge. What knowledge or skills you have? We need good people with good intentions and good knowledge, because there are many people on the social media who are sick.
So, sister jasaaka Allaah khayr
thank you, all very important to keep in mind. may Allah purify our hearts and intentions. I started this channel with the intention of recording my journey through this phase of my life, and hopefully bringing some positive change in my little corner of the world in the process. and because i enjoy yapping in front of a camera haha
I wish I could like this video a million times.
Thank you so much because I was thinking to just give up
Flying solo and thriving. Embracing the journey of self-discovery and growth. #SoloAdventure"
Hi qrelic,
I hope you are better than good!
Thank you for the wonderful insight into your world and sharing your wisdom thus far. In the video you mentioned that you could speak about this topic for years and years. If you are in a space of receiving snd giving myself like others the opportunity to join your tribe and discuss topics to do with awareness, self-actualisation, and all things development and growth, l would consider it a privilege with the utmost gratitude.
Namaste,
KJS
hi Karl, thank you for your comment! you are welcome in this space- its good to have you! 🫂
I'm already clued. New to me subscribed
That is true it's time to live your own 🎉
We want more videos like this on daily basis.😭💅🏻
i wish i could upload on a daily basis 🥲
I was thinking the exact same thing
This popped up at the right time and right period. Can we keep each other accountable? I need to talk to u
Only 1:00 min into this video and I know I need this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Im a simple muslimah, i see you speaking my mind so i subscribe 🎉
Amen to that
Well spoken young lady. A very thoughtfull perspective. May the Almighty Allah (swt) guide you on your new journey. We need more of this type of content.
Keep up the Dawa 🎉
Mashaallah
If nothing changes, nothing changes
Haven’t watched this but the title is real
i love ur speaking and please put the subtitle pretty tq❤
Girl i’m in the same phase ❤
Really nice video mashaAllah
thank you 🫶
Just subscribed to your chanel ❤
u should sis look at you your stunning mashallah x
thats so kind, jazakallah 💖💖😭
@@hyphalknottt its true sis xx
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Subscribed
Keep going
🔥🔥🔥 lets do this
This makes sense to me cause I am a Muslim and I have a start up
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Nice message. Were are you from?