Girl, That's TOXIC! - Signs They’re A Narcissist & How to Set Boundaries ASAP! | Dr. Ramani
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- Опубліковано 9 чер 2024
- Today I'm joined live by the one and only Dr. Ramani! She's here to answer YOUR questions about how to spot the signs you're dealing with a narcissist. Have you wondered if your parent might be a narcissist? Maybe a sibling or a partner? What do you do after you've spotted the red flags? How do you set boundaries with a narcissist? Join us live to get these questions (and more!) answered by the incredible Dr. Ramani!
p.s. Ramani has a new book coming out in February! Pre-order it here:
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Dr Ramani has saved my life! Been watching since 2020 survived divorcing a horrible narcissist!
Same here. She is the reason I am alive today. I am not exaggerating. She is the ultimate, fearless truth speaker. She explains the turmoil and confusion we go through so eloquently, so concisely - the message gets through and lives change for the better.
Ramani and Romano (Lisa a) literally armed me to the teeth to battle the narcs thwarting me since birth!
Yes, yes. Same here. Just love Dr. Ramani
Angel on Earth she is💖💖💖
Dr. Ramani has gone out of her way to destroy my life. She is here to promote herself, not help anyone, and neither one of these frauds care about the harms of abuse. Ramani is an imposter, a fraud, a perpetual abuser, a person who has no reality or truth.
Dr. Ramani really saved me because I thought it was all my fault, that is was my responsibility to keep the peace I'm the house. That keeping quiet and just taking the punches would just be a normal thing. But then Dr. Ramani made me realize that I lose myself more when I try to keep pleasing the narcissist. And it is a very dark place to be and I didn't want to be at a point where I have completely lost myself. Thank you Lisa for honoring the legend Dr. Ramani. If it wasn't for her videos, I would still be in hell. The narcissist left already, I kept my silence with her. And didn't react anymore to the baiting, triggering, manipulation, triangulation, gaslighting, hovering, control, her victimhood, entitlement. How I wish I could tell my story. Dr. Ramani is an angel on earth, she is a God Send! 🙏
Ramani has preyed on strangers, violated, exploited, targeted, abused, defamed, and enslaved strangers over years to promote herself, terrorizing people in their own home, feeding on their life over years. Ramani has gone out of her way to cause harm, destruction, and trauma, and she blames the people she abuses, for years. This lady is scum of the earth, pathetic, and delusionally hateful, and cruel. So many think she is so great because she has lied to them. This absolute fool is no angel, and she has benefited from endless pain she causes, for no reason. She's truly a disgusting person, no conscience, evil.
God bless Dr. Romani for helping thousands of women who are privileged to access the internet and rightly utilize information come out of toxic relationships. Her clarification, thought provoking self questions and words of affirmations are just heavenly. In Africa, so many women are been abused daily even unto death and our culture is taking forever to address it. Imagine, mothers who had gone through these wicked torture and trauma doing nothing about it and even indirectly promoting domestic violence by saying, " keep enduring, you don't want to be stigmatized, women are supposed to be seen and not heard, etc". Lots of women run to churches to seek solace but unfortunately the inadequate teaching of the scriptures from corrupt pastors in churches only silenced them leading to their gradual death and having nothing tangible and significant pass on to the next generation.
Dr Ramani saved my life. It was the first flashlight i saw when i was drownin'
Dr Ramani has transformed my life. For me, my most physically dangerous abuser was a former female intimate partner, and that very year, Child and Family services of WNY brought art by domestic violence survivors to the lawmakers for the first time. That was the year that they passed a law for NYS that same sex domestic partners would be included under the umbrella of laws protecting abused women. I was able to get an order of protection that year (2012). I firmly believe that i may not have survived had that law not been passed. This year, i found an article online that my abuser is now in jail for starting a fire in a building knowing that there were 2 adults and 2 kids inside. I am FOREVER grateful to have escaped that individual.
This is life changing ❤, when you understand the psychology behind someone’s behaviour it can set you free ❤
After 22 too long years, I have made the sound decision to disarm and leave a narcissist. Thee BEST decison I could've made was stepping into my power and taking control of my life, period! 🙏🏾💪🏾💃🏿 👋🏾 🎉 🍾
I absolutely love Dr. Ramani, and her work. Thank you for another great episode with her, Lisa.
Dr Ramani, you have saved my life. so many dark nights and days I have survived thanks to your validation. I thank you always
Dr. Ramani save my life also! I didn’t know about narcissistic until i saw her videos! I find them very helpful and informative! I always thought it was me doing something wrong when im in narcissistic relationship and now i know its not me!
Great person. I must say she is one of the few that instead of taking bad about narcissists, she makes you feel validated and seen. Ii think is the most beautiful feeling after all we have been through. We don't want revenge, first of all we want to be heard and seen ❤❤ thanks Dr Ramani
I reported Patrice Howard for several things. Sorry if that bothers anyone but i got tired the abuse personally
Good...she was a horrible distraction...thank you
It was so clearly a vindictive, psychopathic, malignant narcissist - a prime example of the abuse we went through, and still face on occasion.
Yes, narcissists are that bad. They are that delusional and destructive.
The British family civil court system needs Dr Ramani. Narcissistic abuse is devastating and the courts have no clue about it and often continue to perpetrate the abuse towards the victim as they just see a broken relationship as a tit for tat problem as the narcissist can be such a charming chameleon.
Preach girl! It's bad enough that we are traumatised, and then we have time to fight for our children in court.
@@loveyourselffirst549 I'm sorry you have gone through or still going through similar. It is indeed very traumatising, but we have to fight to save the children 🤗🤗
KUDOS x 10^100!!!
Dr. Ramani is a hero...
Dr Ramani, on this channel, was one of the first resources that helped set me free ❤
I pre-ordered ‘It’s Not You’ for my birthday present to myself in February 💖 Thank you Ramani, and thank you Lisa for bringing her back on. What a great episode! I will be sharing it with my Tribe ❤️🌈🦋
Dr. Ramani has been a constant in my life for years - transitioning to healthy after narc abuse. Thank you!
I am not in any relationship at all I am just healing myself
Yes. Dr Ramani has saved my life. She has showed me what I did and that was nothing wrong. Thank you ❤
Idk if anyone’s going to see this comment. I started dating this amazing guy last summer and things escalated very quickly in the beginning and I think it was around a few months in, we were flying from LA to nyc and I remember walking past dr ramani on the way to my seat and I was thinking how familiar she looked not until later I realized it was her and it told my bf at the time and now knowing he’s a high spectrum narc that’s the psychologist I’ve been following for years who specializes in narcissism. Now thinking back, I wish I went back and said hi to her, she would’ve def caught how “charming” the nex was
Dr Ramani you have changed my life. God bless you and protect you 🙏🙏🙏
Love Dr Ramani, she’s helped me so much. And how we question ourselves .. even hearing it’s not our fault . Baby steps to healing .
Dr. Ramani saved my sanity. I followed her for years, and every time I fall back into old programming her knowledge picks me rigth back up to the life I love living 🙏
Thank you, will never be enough to describe the huge difference for a life worth living she makes 🙏❤️🙏
I was able to leave and heal because of you! I I learned it wasn’t me! I’m free!
LOVE Dr Ramani! She's so spot on, and she has helped me so much in understanding the relationships I've had with narcs (including my own mother).
Wow, that narc in the live chat was off the chain! 🤣Everybody saw them for WHO they are.
I thank God for Dr Rami she's a beautiful woman and has used her talent to bless the masses. The truth will set one free, much of what this woman says is the truth the truth will set you free you'll be free indeed.
The narc also profesesses they are the "best" driver. Every narc is the "wheelman". The "accident" was never their fault😆
I appreciate both of you more than I could ever put into words.
I’m still working through the information, but it’s so powerful, it’s mind-blowing. Thank you both.
♥Dr. Ramani is a treasure! ...saving the sanity of so many (from Toxic Narcissistic Abuse)!
You’re a living legend, Doc!❤
What a great live. Thank you for posting the replay. Love all Dr Ramani work. Can't wait for the next season of the navigating narcissism podcast as well. Her work has helped me beyond words. So much good every video.
Saved m’y Life twice In this year. So great Dr Ramani 🎉
Dr Ramani is the only UA-cam professional that my very AWESOME pyschotherapist recommends.
Dr. Ramani opened my eyes. God bless You all🙏🏻
Dr Ramani ❤ 🙌🙌🙌
8:40 My ex ( a grandiose narcissist) used to drive down the lane that was for buses passing all the traffic and then forcefully cutting in to get in front of everyone. He would speed everywhere even with our little kids in the car and ignoring me when I'mtelling him to slow down with the children in the back of the car. The covert narcissist is always shouting at other drivers, he even has altercations but one thing that really stands out early on in the relationship was when he pulled his van out in front of another car nearly causing an accident and then started shouting at the other driver thinking he was right and the other driver was in the wrong, even though uncomfortable with his reaction I ignored it because of the love bombing stage. Also a pyschopath I knew ( my exes brother, who turned out to be a pimp), he used to purposefully drive the wrong way against oncoming traffic, really dangerously, like playing chicken sort of thing, he really enjoyed the danger that he was creating. It definitely shows up in the driving!
15:30 Yeah calling out the partner and talking bad about the partner often leads to more isolation. In my case even though the police ended up becoming involved I turned my back on everyone to support my bf especially my family and DA worker and ended up cutting off from from all sources of support. It was so hard for me as all his family looked at me as this terrible person who'd involved thd police and he was the victim yet I'd taken nearly 8years of emotional abuse and gaslighting and was completely isolated from my family and friends.
5 years on I'm just about to reach out to D.A ( domestic abuse) to finally get the support I need to leave the relationship. It's complicated at the moment because of his situation and I can't just push someone into homelessness but I am slowly working my way out of the situation. I have a plan to leave and recognise the need for support. I'm waiting to see a therapist and I'm going to try rebuilding my self-esteem to gain my self-respect. It's been 13 years ( 13 years too long) and may take another year or two but I now have a plan to get out!
17:08***
You are not alone. Keep the faith and stay strong! 🙏🏾💪🏾
I can say God blessed me to find her in the midst of things...where she truly helped to save my life.
Thank you Dr Ramani for sharing your great advice on dealing with people like this. Especially with the covert types, hard to see as it's so hidden.
She saves lives!!!! Literally!!!’
00:45 📚 Dr. Ramani's book "It's Not You" aims to empower those healing from narcissistic relationships, offering universal guidance at any stage of recovery.
01:54 🌟 Dr. Ramani's impactful work has genuinely saved lives, providing validation and understanding for those navigating toxic relationships.
02:37 🌍 Understanding toxic relationships is vital; many suffer silently, feeling unheard, impacting their potential contribution to the world.
03:47 🗣 Dr. Ramani advocates for everyone's voice to be heard, aiming to liberate those stifled by toxic relationships.
05:12 🚩 Identifying a narcissist in a relationship might take time; love bombing obscures red flags, making recognition challenging.
06:47 🚩 Signs of potential narcissism: interrupting, stress mismanagement, erratic driving, constant comparisons, disrespecting time, isolating or rapidly integrating into your life.
11:20 🚩 Trust your feelings in the relationship; feeling unsafe or restrained from being yourself could be a red flag.
12:30 🤝 Approach friends in narcissistic relationships with empathy, avoiding labeling their partner as a narcissist outright to prevent defensiveness or entrenchment.
14:20 🤔 Encourage friends to make their own decisions in these relationships, maintaining a supportive role without imposing directives.
17:20 💔 Assisting someone trapped in a relationship with a covert malignant narcissist requires subtlety, such as suggesting therapy or engaging them in activities beyond the relationship.
20:32 🗣 Focus on your mom's interests, steering conversation away from negative topics about your dad, promoting joy and separate experiences.
22:37 🎭 Narcissists can maintain a facade for years, especially in public settings, while exhibiting abusive behavior in private.
25:12 🎭 Narcissists fear being unmasked publicly, often reserving their abusive behavior for private, controlled spaces.
26:23 💔 Leaving a narcissistic relationship is challenging; seek support, expect potential post-separation abuse, and document incidents for safety.
29:25 📚 Dr. Ramani's book offers invaluable insights into managing narcissistic relationships; pre-order for bonuses and access to events.
Dr Ramani is absolutely great. Her videos helped me go through a smear campaign by a narcissistic colleague who being himself a professional zero poisons everything and everyone around him down to his niveau. A year has passed since I was physically separated from him by my former boss, but he still tries to take control and revenge on me through his flying monkeys (former colleagues with whom I still had to finish some work). Yesterday, I cut the ties to all of them (incl my former boss) without finishing the work AND I FEEL GREAT! Thank you Ramani for your work, thanks Lisa for your work as well, you both are great women!
Yes yes! Dr Ramani saved me. I had no knowledge about the term narssist nor trauma bond nor enablers etc learnt all from her. My mind is sane now after understanding all of this. I have my self confidence back and i am returning to my original self again slowly but surely. Thank you Dr Ramani 🙏God bless you❤
Yes. Dr Ramani saved my life and helped me to see both myself and my narc with clear eyes and head.
Yes, it is also true for me that Dr. Ramani saved my life by bringing NPD into the light giving us an understanding of what we were experiencing. Being given the labels and the corresponding patterns gave me peace and a greater understanding and everything began to make sense.
Dr Ramani saved my life. I have helped a few friends by sharing this knowledge. That's a few lives in this one post.
RAMANI IS THE BEST!! BRING HER MORE
Ordering on audible now. Thank you. I learned so much!
Dr. Ramani is absolutely correct, within the 1 year mark, I started realizing how toxic they were and also always putting me down, belittling me, making fun of me and other toxic traits.
Dr Ramani is doing an amazing work. She needs to know she is saving lives.
Dr Ramani saved me too. I love her. She is truly doing Gods work.
❤ What a joy to listen to these two powerful women, best of luck with the book. Lots of wonderful advice bless you both.
My fav Doc, I love her so much. 💞
Dr Ramani is the OG of teaching about narcissism and narcissistic abuse. Lisa thank you for having her as a regular guest, also Lisa you are looking pretty.
Your channel has saved a lot of us. Thank you 😊
As much as I admire Dr Ramani and her work.. I do feel like there is a new trend of overly focusing on 'red flags' and 'narcissistic people'.. And this traps most people in a state of fear and defense mechanisms go up (not a great place to be in of we want to have healthy relationships)
Have you taken time to watch her youtube videos, 3 years worth of information and I can confirm she doesn't focus on only red flags. Also she specialises in teaching about narcissism, narcissistic people, how they are made, their traits, tricks and the psychology behind why they do what they do and how to combat them. She also teaches about what happens in a variety of narcissistic relationships in all types of relationships, what healthy relationships feel and look like although it may be obvious, when people are in these type of relationships things become very blurred amongst many things. Dr Ramani works with survivors and victims of this partucular abuse and she also has a online healing peogram.
I divorced an abusive man after living a year in a basement and listening to Dr Ramini !!! SHE GAVE ME A NEW LIFE .
Wonderful interview with two fantastic ladies 🎉😊
That mentioning you noticed the inappropriate behavior from their partner would def validate so they know it’s not them or their fault which the narcissist would instill in that person
You have saved my life Dr Ramani 😊
Absolutely, Dr Ramani HAS saved my life....in a very literal sense. I'm grateful for her every day. XO
Dr Ramani has definitely saved my life , and continues to . I can only imagine the toll it must be on her to be on this subject all the time, but she keeps on going.
Thank you thank you thank you ❤
THANK YOU DR RAMANI!!! WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO!!! YOU SAVED MY LIFE & MY SANITY!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yep she saved not just my life but my daughter life's just by me coming across your channel and learning what I was really up against thank youuuuuu 🙏🙏♥️🤗
Omg I needed this 8 years ago. This is so spot on!!!
Yeahhh she saved my life too. Changed the game... thank u so much❤
It is 8:49 AZ.
I am constantly being bullied by my narcissistic daughter-in-law. I have to apologize for anything & everything inorder to get to see my granddaughters. I am constantly being chastised & baited in front of them and treated with such disrespect.
She uses my son & my granddaughters as pawns.
I am tired of apologizing and conforming. This has to stop! I love my granddaughters and want to be a part of their lives.
How can I get some relief from this as I have been doing this for 15 years.
Lynda S.
Unfortunately you aren’t going to change the narc…as Dr Ramani explains…you need to step away…my grandparents had to stay away so the children didn’t suffer. Think about what’s best for the children.
Yes, You saved me as well ❤. Because of you I understood to leave him.
Lisa you are my idol! You always invite people I really want to hear
This was absolutely tremendous, Thank you so much for this DR Ramani and Lisa, Keep shining light, Speaking truth and educating people, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the most high God 💙💛💚💜💗❤✌🌌🌈😃🦁🕆🕊🎆🚀🌲👽🦄♱☘🍎🍏⚖🍄
Thank You Dr. Ramani for spreading the knowledge about narcissism. It was hard for me to realize that this is something real and people have this disorder. I’ve been devalued by my ex so much that I was in a complete depression for 3 months but slowly because of therapy and UA-cam videos I got to know that there is nothing wrong with me and now I’m doing better. Thank You again
So lucky to have one day watched her channel ! It for sure saved me to turn crazy.
I also learn english by listening both of you.😊
Thanks Dct Romani and Lisa. ❤❤❤ from France.
God bless you both...you both literally saved my life Thank you!!...🤗❤❤❤❤🤗
YAY DR RAMANI
Honestly she probably saved my life. I swear my ex was trying to kill me and would have if I didn’t hear her videos about narcissist
Wow. Thank you so much ❤ so worthy 🏆
ADHD people talk over one another all the time. So that’s a pretty difficult generalisation because even though symptoms of ADHD can look like narcissistic tendencies it’s often just impulsivity and a poor memory management system
Agree with this actually
Hi Dr R. You sooooo described my ex boyfriend who I believe is a narcissist definitely a toxic person for sure my goodness you described him to the t I have chills from it. I was with him for almost a year we are not together anymore. I’m trying to tell my story and share my experience to help support others. Thank you so very much.
Even if I am wrong and my opinion is wrong about him being a narcissist I do really believe in my opinion that he’s definitely toxic and it’s absolutely crazy because I do miss him like crazy. I feel like I’m soooo messed up in my head.
❤😊 Yes, The Love of both Dr. Rahman and you Lisa I am graced and grateful 🙏 for how both of you have helped me.
Book preordered 👍
❤ i have him recorded on my phone on his tirades. For what purpose? Future crime unit? I do not know. But the put downs yelling screaming 4 letter words are all recorded. Where can I upload them so people can share these to hear and learn?
You have me knowledge to help my sister understand the relationship she was experiencing with her ex
no one have told me anything about what was going on about anything so I really don’t even know what’s going on with any of this and right now I am not trying to do anything except healing myself
Great video
She saved me. ❤
Lisa. You are a trendsetter ❤❤❤❤
I love that leg warmers are back. Had mine on yesterday because I like how my legs look like with them on 😁 ... and I felt I was out of this planet. In a non positive way. Now I can wear them with confidence 😀 Thank you for being you ❤
Ps Im also healing from childhood with my schizoid narcissistic mother and a long time with narcissistic partners. I find this interview very helpful ❤.
It's a real silly look 😅
@@suzzy1790narc bully alert.
She saved mine!
❤❤ thank you ladies, you are in my heart and in my gratitude practice, always ❤️❤️
DoctorRamani saved my life also. Men suffer from toxicity as well.
I read a book "Should I stay or should I go" - to fit all the thoughts & feelings on their shelves in my head and leave my ex-wife, after 7 years of relationships.
Now I am myself again, feel better than ever, found a woman I love and with whom I am comfortable, calm, happy & relaxed.
P.s. Of course I used to think it would never happen. That I'm doomed to be by myself.
❤❤❤
When Dr. Romani speaks on this issue we listen. She has years if experience in this area and has studied this disorder. People keep throwing this term around and have no idea what it truly means.
1:55 - Dr. Ramani saves lives.
I'm actually a diagnosed ADHD dyslexic.
How is that first bit of this video not horribly misleading?
Wtf!
Anyone else?
How do you coparent with a narcissist? I have twin girls 3 yrs old its difficult when all the responsibilities fall on me when ghosting and gaslighting for days at a time. Help, advice should i just leave and not let him see his kids for my our own good being?
❤ ideally was safe
I love you both THANK YOU BEAUTIFUL ANGELS AND THANK GOODNESS FOR YOU ❤ 1:52 HONOR YOU BOTH ❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Facts
Hi, ladies 🙋🏾♀️ I saw Dr. Ramani on “Ancient Aliens” tonight in NYC market. Shout out, Dr. Ramani.
"..it actually kinda makes me sick". Those who feel it, know it!
🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪Love for Lisa and Doc
She mentors will smith and Jada . It's sometimes helping the narc becoming a better barc
Spoken like a predjudice wierdo…
3:15 EXACTLY 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 3:22 😅