I'm 28 and have been unemployed for over a year

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  • @mortallydivine
    @mortallydivine 11 днів тому +9

    Bro! You're getting hate comments! You are doing something right. Keep grinding and dont give up. Keep believing you can do it you will get there. Front page on my youtube BTW

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      Love it bro thank you! I won't ever give up! I know what is possible. Looking to inspire others on their journey.
      And I know hate comments are only people hating on themselves which is sad that that haven't looked inward and would rather bring someone down instead of rising themself.
      I have never gotten hate from someone doing better they see the effort and encourage the work.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      I didn't notice he left five comments. I responded to a few of them even thought I didn't need to felt like the right thing to do.

  • @randysterling4700
    @randysterling4700 9 днів тому +4

    If this is the happiest this guy has ever been id hate to see him sad

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому +1

      I liked this gave me a good laugh this morning so thank you!
      It's true it is not a pretty sight.

  • @Mar444_
    @Mar444_ 6 днів тому +1

    Bro your content is solid you just need a niche.. keep going we’re rooting for you 💯💯💪🏾

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  6 днів тому

      Thanks man!
      What's your take on the Niche being you? Ie a personal brand

  • @MajorMoonFox
    @MajorMoonFox 9 днів тому +2

    Failure is the first step to success pal. Keep going.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      Agreed!
      as long as we don't stop we are bound to succeed!
      thank you for the words of encouragement! Sounds like you have succeed yourself!

    • @MajorMoonFox
      @MajorMoonFox 8 днів тому +1

      @@bendthemasses Not yet, but we keep going and we'll get there. 🦾🦾

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  8 днів тому +1

      @@MajorMoonFox Everyday we get one step or maybe 10 for 15 steps closer!

    • @MajorMoonFox
      @MajorMoonFox 7 днів тому +1

      @@bendthemasses Too right!

  • @nexypl
    @nexypl 11 днів тому +6

    my ex tried kill herself a few years back and told me I was a waste of her life. she was the only real friend I ever had and it completely destroyed my will to live. im in a similar place but I have nothing promising happening. I just kinda hate myself.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому +4

      bruh that fucked dude.
      People come in to our lives to show use what we do not want. what we will not stand for. They come in to teach us a lesson so we can go live a life that is right for us.
      sometimes we have to see what is not right before we can know and see what is right for us.
      If you want to share. What do you hate about yourself? actually, I want to change the question. What do you like about yourself? What have you done recently that brought you joy? Small moments count as much as big moments.

    • @DRLZEca
      @DRLZEca 9 днів тому +1

      @@bendthemasses "sometimes we have to see what is not right before we can know and see what is right for us." love that. so true.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      @@DRLZEca I have found we are better at knowing what we do not want more than knowing what we do.

  • @Tonywirthfilms
    @Tonywirthfilms 10 днів тому +4

    Props to you for putting yourself out there. I hope you can believe in yourself. I do, and I only know you from this video. But I know you are capable, more than you realize. When you told the story of talking to hikers, sharing your thoughts about the leaves - then after that story you talk about creating a dream about inspiring people. Maybe its cheesy, but bro you are inspiring people - it's a part of who you are. People pointing out that you talk to everyone on the trail are complimenting you, and you probably inspired a lot of them to do the same that day. You are living that dream. You become successful, by being successful - you just need to realize you already are that person. Wether or not he exists in the future, that person is you.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому

      This right here is why I do it. We’ll part of it as id be and have been doing it regardless.
      I don’t get to see the people I inspire of what they do after seeing me. All I can do is plant the seeds in people and what they do from there is up to them.
      I do like what you said a lot so thank you!
      I have faced a lot of there other comments on tiktok. I seem to push people’s buttons in a certain way without even knowing them. Kind of interesting.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому

      It’s not cheesy and there was one guy who was inspired to act after seeing what I had don’t a couple of time. He even wanted to come and lift with me afterwards. If I inspired one person I have done my job. Even if I inspired myself I have done my job.

  • @Tinyhatscontrolbanks
    @Tinyhatscontrolbanks 9 днів тому +7

    A lot of us in the same boat brother

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      Something will happen when it is meant to happen!

  • @krisdziedzic1131
    @krisdziedzic1131 12 днів тому +5

    "nobody knows what they're doing either" should really become your mantra dude, cause it's true. If my 24yo self can have any insight on what you're getting at, I'd say you need to remind yourself, that those hypothetical accusations you're throwing your way are indeed only hypothetical: you don't have a wife and kids to disappoint with your failures because you, as the person in charge of your life, chose to be single up to this point and so you get to keep exploring your options and sure, failing along the way without causing harm to anyone other than yourself - which as you've established already: builds character, so don't fuss it. At some point down the line you'll have built a secure enough footing to get other people supported by it too, and they'll be infinitely thankful for it, so don't feel like you should rush any of it in any capacity whatsoever. Lately I've been playing your videos in the background while working out and honestly, I find a lot of what you're saying extremely refreshing. I think one of your biggest assets is how emotionally open and vulnerable you're willing to be. If like you're saying that bit of your personality has developed during that unemployed - self-reflection period then I'd say you have absolutely not wasted this past year man. Money comes and goes, our expectations of what we consider a luxurious lifestyle change drastically and honestly - none of it matters in the grand scheme of things. You'll be remembered for the words that would come out of your mouth, not the car you drove in your 20s.
    Speaking of your content I feel like if you were to structure those monologues a little while keeping up this "venting/bickering" energy they've got going on and perhaps made them available as podcasts too - you'd really be providing an escape from everyday life for people, that's not brainrot like most of the Internet these days. Ultimately lots of what you're saying is that you're a victim of this failing economy that expects you to either work for somebody else's profit or lower your own expectations while being bombarded by the rich flaunting their lifestyles. At the same time you're mature enough to recognise your own faults within the situation too, which again - is pretty rare. I'm not familiar with your other channel's so please leave them somewhere for me to check out too! And btw, maybe a $5000 sale is a big ask from one person, but start providing a consistent stream of quality content and I bet you'll get to 500 patronite supporters contributing $10 each in no time (with enough patience haha), at least I'd sure pay :)
    And to support yourself right now maybe look into copywriting? Or try teaching English online! You'd make a cool tutor I bet!

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  12 днів тому +1

      Thank you! This means more than you know. I did thank you in the video I made today. I don’t know when it will be uploaded as I’m really behind on my uploads for the channel!
      I’m grateful to hear my content and words are reaching the right people because there is a lot of brain rot out there and I don’t like it so I wanted to change it and am glad I am having this impact so thank you!
      I know the content can be all over the place. It’s life that I don’t see a lot of people talking about. I had only ever seen the big over the top content. Not the everyday life person type of content so I wanted to do what I could.
      And yes there are few people who are aware of I know my year off was not a waste maybe one of if not the best things I have done for myself.
      It’s like we have complete control of what we do in our lives. Am how we react. Nobody can make us do or feel a way we don’t want to feel. It’s been a lot of self reflecting. I’m gonna have to see how I can add these to podcast because I do like the idea!

  • @SupremeODMG
    @SupremeODMG 9 днів тому +1

    I learned to adapt way better than I can plan.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      I like this. I have started to notice something similar with myself. I can adapt a lot as I go. Having a plan works yet getting started and making adjustments seems to work better for me!

  • @slimmjesus1424
    @slimmjesus1424 9 днів тому +1

    im 18 and barley have talked to any girls in highschool. Its not like I hid away in the corner I try to talk to them it just never works out sometimes I feel like such a loser and disappointment cuz of it. My friends dont have any problems getting girlfriends and it makes me feel im never gonna have a girlfriend which sounds silly but its really how ive been feeling :(

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому +1

      I have been there myself. I talked with some girls in high school yet I didn't take it anywhere as I was scared I would get her pregnant and I was like I don't want to have a kid at 18 as I want to give my kid the best life he could ever have. Hence why I took the time to know myself better.
      I used the fact that I couldn't get a girl friend as a driving factor for me wanting to get good with talking with girls. So no it doesn't sound silly that that is how you feel. You have every right to feel the way you do.
      It is about finding the right girl. She is out there I know it.
      Also curios to know if it is your friends who are making you feel like a loser and a disappointment of it if is yourself that feels that way because you aren't doing what the other kids are doing.
      the crazy bit is you are doing exactly what you need to be doing by being yourself. 18 is a weird age I had not idea what I was doing and when I did get a GF it was not a good situation for myself. I let her in and tried to help here which took a big part of me. I have learned not to let that happened again.
      This may be a bit difficult if you are in high school still and feel like everyone is watching you, but why not try to join a club and meet girls that way. Or see if they would let you join them for lunch. Or ask your friends girl friend if she knows anyone who you could talk to.

  • @giantfatberg
    @giantfatberg 9 днів тому +1

    I am the sole provider for my wife and three children. I lost my job 3 months ago when my company closed after 18 years. Having 4 people depending on you puts the fear of survival in you.
    I think if you were in my situation you would be doing the exact same thing as me. When no one else depends on you, the fear is not in you. Despite having major depressive disorder, I have no time to sit around and be depressed. The fear completely occupies my mind
    I wish you the best man. You will figure it out

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      I was thinking about this after I made the video. I was like if I had a wife and kids would I be taking the same actions or would I be doing everything in my power to maker sure they were and are taken care of.
      I know the answer as much as you know the answer.
      Lot has changed since I recorded this video. I'd say this was the lowest I had been and I was not a fan. I had to make a change and have proactively been making moving everyday in a positive direction.
      I know you will figure it out to man! sometimes fear can be the best motivator. I will be putting out good vibes for you man! I already see you in a new job that gives you the ability to provide for your wife and kids!

  • @brentryczak
    @brentryczak 10 днів тому +3

    Don’t let the dream die man. Twitch streaming is another avenue for income. Working in public and talking to your chat while you work. I was able to pull in 1000$/m which isn’t enough but it was fruitful.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому

      I will never let my dream die! I have considered steaming on twitch as well. an extra 1K a month is a good place to start

    • @DRLZEca
      @DRLZEca 9 днів тому +1

      im in the same boat as OP and really wanna do streaming but hate that im struggling finding a job that provides security and isnt too demanding... i need to get into streaming soon, feel like im running out of time

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      @@DRLZEca Run your first stream tonight. You never know where it could lead you. The best way to start is by starting.
      And if you feel you are running out of time this would be the best time to start.

  • @NARDHQ
    @NARDHQ 9 днів тому +1

    nothing changes, if nothing changes

  • @Rage_Harder_Then_Relax
    @Rage_Harder_Then_Relax 9 днів тому +1

    Most social media success is purely down to luck. Being there at the right time in the right place with the right message/product is how most success is made. Many successful people openly admit that luck has played a big part in their success. Successful streamers/gamers/ UA-camrs/Twitch streamers don't do anything extraordinary. They just happen to be lucky enough to be discovered by their audiences and not by how they do anything different. There are a million others doing the same thing but 999,995 of them won't see any major success of the millionaire kind. It sucks but that's the way it goes

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      I believe each post, each video, each idea shared online increased the luck factor. It seems, and I could be wrong, the reason why a lot of other people don't make it is because they stop trying.
      I'd also say we are always at the right place at the right time even if it seems like we are not as the only place we can ever be is the place we are at right now. Now is the only moment we can change. And now is the only moment our lives can change.
      I still believe this is possible.
      I think back to Edison, about how he had 1,093 patents and the one thing he is remembered for is the light bulb. Yet if he would have stopped and gave up then he never would have stumbled upon this idea.
      Sure luck is a factor, yet the only way I know how to increase my luck is by showing up.
      I used to get frustrated, and maybe the video shows this as well been a couple weeks since I recorded it, I was trying to do what everyone else was doing. Then I started to think. Why do people hang around me at the gym. Why do people like being around me. And I was like it's my authenticity and willingness to learn and listen. So I have started to share more of my thoughts and ideas here. If it resonates with people cool. If not cool. If I get big cool. If not cool. I like making videos and sharing my thought.
      Everything always works out in the ways it needs to. Have seen this too many times and experienced it first hand too many times not to believe anything is possible.

  • @eccentriceel8197
    @eccentriceel8197 11 днів тому +1

    Hey man. I have similar thought patterns as you. Whenever I try to explain my internal dialectic, I sound similar as you do. Especially with the getting in my own way part. I saw a psychiatrist recently and got diagnosed ADHD Inattentive type. I got medicated and have so much better executive function and am able to accomplish tasks so much easier. Just seeing someone and talking with them helps a lot in identifying patterns of behavior or past experiences that mold how our brain works. I'm not telling you to go get therapy pejoratively, but I'm saying that having that conversation could help you identify what it is you feel you are missing. I know what its like to feel super super close to 'getting' something about yourself and not quite being able to grasp it... it makes us feel lost. Good luck on your journey and future successes brother :D

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому

      Appreciate your help! And I don’t have issues completing tasks. When I know what it is I need todo.
      Since I recorded the video. Lots has changed. Sometimes we need to sit down and have a talk with ourself get the words out. I didn’t expect anyone to see this video or for it to get the attention it has.
      I’m grateful for it though because it’s cool getting to see others have been here and their perspectives.
      And the psychiatrist could help. I don’t like the idea of having a diagnosis that could be in my chart. It’s like I have done pretty good up until this point and have a feeling I will continue to do good going forward.
      Have talked with other coaches in the past who worked under and was trained by a psychiatrist. She couldn’t prescribe anything and she had helped. I do have a good group of friends and family now.
      I had made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t talk to people for a year. And it was a brutal year. Didn’t enjoy it yet needed to do it.
      Sometimes to move forward we need to take a step back look at life and see how much more we can truly do.

  • @MrBaltimoreRon
    @MrBaltimoreRon 9 днів тому +1

    Can you list your other channels please or tell me where i can find them? Thank you and i enjoy watching you~ A new sub.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      For the time Being I am keeping them separate. If one of them shows up on your homepage you will know.

  • @chrisberinger5815
    @chrisberinger5815 11 днів тому +7

    Man you gotta plan this out. A lotta UA-camrs worked while producing content. If you are truly happy what is this talk about thinking you’d make millions and have many followers. You shouldn’t care. You don’t seem so happy. Those that receive thousands or millions of views have stuck to it for so long. You need to give yourself a 2 year run of nonstop posting and then you still need to continue to post. You’re into the UA-cam life for all the wrong reasons. UA-cam is a saturated market. Coaching is a saturated market. You gotta find the things that are less saturated especially if you want those views faster. You gotta make it something that’s better than what’s out there. And yeah you need money. You are an adult. Stop the pity party. Make it constructive. Shorter videos. Less drawn out on woah was me.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      I posted the video for me. these are my thoughts so I will make the videos how I want to make the videos. I didn't post content on here for sometimes and was only recording them for my sake.
      I don't plan on stopping anytime. haven't stopped yet. the only way I could fail is if I do stop and that is not the plan.
      And sure I have had some not so great day, who hasn't. sometimes we need a little pity party nothing wrong with any of that.
      I'll ask this and you don't have to respond. If you had a dream or have a dream and someone told you it was over saturated would you stop. or would you move heaven and earth to make you dream a reality.
      Just because you see a video or have heard from this person or that person, that coaching, youtube, and anything is oversaturated doesn't make it true. You can go out and get what you want if you want it. Maybe you are right. Maybe I wasn't doing youtube for the right reasons. Maybe I was thinking in the sort term. Maybe this will never happen.
      That will never stop me from trying. From showing up. From being the person you can count on each and everyday.

    • @kmoov90
      @kmoov90 11 днів тому

      Yeah he also claimed to gained 38,000 views which is BS cuz he's barely getting pass 500. Take a huge grain of salt of whatever he says.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому

      @@kmoov90 Have other channels my friend.

    • @kmoov90
      @kmoov90 10 днів тому

      @@bendthemasses tag your channels then

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      @@kmoov90 Don't need to. You don't have to believe me when I know it's true.
      Plus the other content I make I have a feeling is not something you are interested in.

  • @JomarAmomas
    @JomarAmomas 11 днів тому +5

    Dude, I am 35 and I don't know what the f I am doing. You'll figure it out eventually. P.S. I still didn't figure it out.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому +2

      I've noticed this! Nobody know what the F they are doing some people seem to be better at hiding it. I have a feeling we can figure it out together

    • @absolutummaximum993
      @absolutummaximum993 9 днів тому +1

      @@bendthemassesAlso 35. Moving in with my father to take care of his worsening Parkinson’s. I dropped out of college and have been job hoping ever since. Surviving with the gig economy. I’m going back to school part time. You got this brother.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому +1

      @@absolutummaximum993 Appreciate it man! we all have our own journey's and It sounds like you are doing what feel right for yourself!
      What you going back to school for?

    • @absolutummaximum993
      @absolutummaximum993 9 днів тому +1

      @@bendthemasses Psychology. Been living on the edge for so long that I feel I can really contribute to this field. Tired of watching strong men take their lives. We will march through this.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому +1

      @@absolutummaximum993 We always do! I have considered going back myself. I am leaning more towards hypnotherapy instead lately.
      Have a friend who I have been helping him get thing in order. seeing now that not everyone wants to change some only want to complain.
      Some could say this is what I did in this video, which can be true, while after this I did make and have continued to make a lot of changes.
      You'll have to let me know how the degree goes! It's sad that we don't get to talk about men's mental health or that we struggle as well as we are taught to be men. I have found being a man means so much more than I had known. Like showing emotions and being vulnerable is actually a strength not a weakness.

  • @he478
    @he478 9 днів тому +1

    Are you interested in meteorology or weather at all?

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      I am! You have wisdom or ideas to share?

  • @leahcimolrac1477
    @leahcimolrac1477 11 днів тому +2

    You make some good points. But you also seem depressed. I’ve been there. Many people have.
    You quit a job. It’s not a big deal because you’re only 28. If you were 50 and suddenly quit a career you’d been at for 25 years, that would be significant.
    I think you need to snap out of it and work. I’m talking from experience. I went through a similar rut somewhere in my 20’s. Just find a job that covers the bills and you don’t take home with you. Then you can spend the rest of your hours video journaling, coaching, etc…

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому

      This is why I quiet. It’s like I can always go back. And maybe I was depressed. Or maybe I was upset. Or maybe I was burnt out.
      Everyone says to take risks in your 20s so it’s what I did. Could I have done it better yes. Have I enjoyed every aspect not so much yet I know that the work I have done the past year needed to be done as a lot of people I have talked to would not do the work I have done.
      Do I know that

  • @officialamonplays
    @officialamonplays 9 днів тому +1

    Turns out not working your ass of 9 to 5 to life up to a sickening social idea of success and instead meditate at home for a year and reflecting on yourself is better for your mental and physical health after all.
    thats why the bible had the concept of sabbaticals. work 6 days. 1 day off. work 6 years. one year off.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому +1

      I was as surprised as you.
      Don't get me wrong, I have seen now I would rather have a good amount more than I need than not enough. Both have their ups and downs as all things do.
      taking time off when we need it is importune. Give time to reflect and grow!
      i like the 6 days on one day off. or 6 years on one year off.

  • @AlphaMaleBuddhistPodcast-qs6tn
    @AlphaMaleBuddhistPodcast-qs6tn 9 днів тому +1

    Great talk, I just recorded my most recent podcast episode speaking on this very topic expressed within the framework work of Frederick Nietzsche's Thus spoke Zarathustra's the 3 metamorphosis of man, the Camel, the lion, the dragon

  • @brkentelevision
    @brkentelevision 9 днів тому +1

    As an impartial observer of your video, I see a lack of focus. Your thoughts appear disjointed, and I suspect you are overanalyzing your current situation. A well-known adage suggests, “The most difficult task is often the simplest one to begin.” If you are experiencing a lack of motivation, it is advisable to take action regardless.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      Which is what I have been doing. Taking action in some form: posting videos, talking to people, asking questions, looking at past success and ideas I have had that I enjoyed and making a progress progress in that direction. There are so many things I can be doing and I am narrowing down what i want to do by finding out what I do not want.

  • @realmcafee
    @realmcafee 11 днів тому +1

    im also putting everything into my dream. im in a one room apartment with my wife working on out projects. it sounds tough where you at and i wish you grow. like, comment, sub.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому +1

      Love it bro! Same to you! I know you can reach your goal and achieve your dream. As long as we don’t stop we can do it.

  • @THXx1138
    @THXx1138 11 днів тому +3

    Chasing happiness isn't fulfilling. Purpose is. Life is hard. Put on a helmet.

  • @taterrhead
    @taterrhead 9 днів тому

    the supply of 'coaches' has oversatured the market of people with $ needing coaches. People are going to have to go back to building real products and things for a while.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      Even if things are 'oversaturated' there is always room for innovation!
      and apparently the coaching business is expected to reach a market size of around $11.7 billion by 2032 with exceptions of reaching $6.2 billion by the end of the year. Almost double in market size in 8 years seems like something to get in on.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      I also thing this will bring better coaches to the surface, one's who truly want to help their clients as my goals and intentions are always to help the person out in the best way I can and meet them with where they are.

  • @SupremeODMG
    @SupremeODMG 9 днів тому +1

    I'm 35 in the same boat man

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      We will make it through! Sometimes the only way to grow is through the storm.
      you doing anything daily to overcome or move you forward?

  • @PetersGameChannel
    @PetersGameChannel 11 днів тому +2

    Bro I got kids and a wife. I’m an engineer. I been working six years straight no brake right out of college. One day my car broke and I rode a bike and took the bus. You need to get a humbling job and start building up. This UA-cam stuff is over saturated. You can still do it but you need a job.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      My car breaking down was the best thing that could have happened. Got me to break the routine and see things from a different perspective.
      Everything is too saturated.
      People say engineering is saturated and people are getting laid off. People say youtube is saturated yet there are people blowing up everyday for brain rot content.
      I'm grateful for the year I took off one of the best experiences I have had and I was in a position where I did not have wife or kids so I could take a leap.
      I have the work ethic as you can see from the channel. Post everyday.
      I don't see why more people don't post content. It like buying a free lotto ticket everyday. All it takes is one video to completely change you life. Happens over night for people all the time.
      I'm thinking of the Hacktou girl which is super dumb yet her life changed over night. Why can't mine, or yours or anyone else watching any video.
      you have control over your life and get to do what you want.
      I do appreciate the advice. Curious if you ever took a risk, or a gamble and had it pay off?

    • @WoodsSooperDooperShop
      @WoodsSooperDooperShop 9 днів тому

      You are on a path towards self destruction dude. What do you wanna coach? Getting to a hundred subs on youtube? UA-cam is and has always been a HOBBY until it wasn't.
      Keep posting, but do so while not ripping a huge gap into your CV and wasting years that you should build wealth and health and having kids and fulfilling yourself to follow AdSense.
      Imagine you were on your son, what would you tell him?

    • @williamtburt
      @williamtburt 9 днів тому

      ​@@bendthemasses I think you might be underestimating the cost of the 'lotto tickets' you are buying.
      "posting every day" is not effective work. Improving your studio, implementing a clear story structure (hook, exposition, content, reveal), and finding a video editor would be a much greater use of your time.
      If the hawk tuah girl is your inspiration, you might want to change your strategy. Acknowledging it's dumb is good, but it still shows that you don't understand the market for content. She got picked up because she's a great unfiltered older-sister role model type.
      That's as nice as I can be. It's hard to trust men who have lived soft lives.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      ​@@williamtburt She's not. was only an example. I didn't know much about here until a friend form my HS reunion told me. I don't get it.
      I'm also not trying to reach everyone. I am only wanting to reach the people who need to hear my message. I don't know if you have ever heard of Dry Creek Ranger School. He videos are great. They are raw. Just a guy talking to the camera. I have enjoyed these videos more than the overly edited videos as a lot of the videos I watch/listen to are not highly edited. It is someone sharing their ideas about the world.
      "She's a great unfiltered older-sister role model type" What does this even mean?
      I don't think I said this to you and maybe I have, either way it is worth driving the point home. I am only a projection of yourself. A mirror reflection. If you are seeing me as a man who has lived a soft life, I would recommend looking at yourself and asking what is giving you that impression.
      I suggest doing this because a lot of the time and I have been guilty of this as well, We see someone online and we project out own insecurities on to that person because it is easier for use to look at them and think those things compared to looking at ourself and thinking "oh maybe it was me and not him and all he did was show me an aspect of myself I can work on to improve and move up to the next level," if that is what you choose.
      Just some random dude on the internet so do with this as you will.

    • @williamtburt
      @williamtburt 9 днів тому

      ​@@bendthemasses Appreciate the response.
      As my opinion, it feels to me like you use the reflection idea to deflect a lot of legitimate criticism people have of your business strategy. Instead of taking advice, you are trying to redirect the focus of the issue to me. I have looked at myself, and I am aware of the privileges that I am afforded in my life thanks to the work of my father, and his father. My grandfather was born in Arkansas and picked cotton on a plantation as a child. For Christmas, they would get fruit in their stocking, as they didn't have the luxuries we have today.
      I am doing my forefathers an honor by acknowledging their sacrifice, and by being conscientious of my finances, time management, and knowledge base.
      You're asking me to find an issue within myself to work on. Maybe you can help me by highlighting one. I am always willing to take criticism. I won't deflect. I'll respond directly to what you say with the realest part of my soul.
      I live a soft life, compared to most in the world, and it's due to a combination of luck and work. It's a long story, but I understand why my dad is the way he is, and what kind of person I should be to do good by the family name.
      I appreciate you for reading my comment fully. I want you to know that I write this because I feel very connected with your mindstate. I had lofty ideals with no real roadmap of how to pursue them. All the energy and zeal in the world and unsure of where to put it effectively. I hope you take my advice of structuring the videos well with a hook, exposition, content, and reveal. If I get hooked by a thumbnail, I will definitely click and watch. We will probably never really meet in real life or have a large part in each other's prosperity, so all I can do is pray that things go well for you man. You seem like a genuinely good guy. I see you as an equal, because I also have not found crazy unbelievable success (though I am chasing it). Maybe we can influence each other in a positive way.
      I am working on an accessory business. Maybe I will circle around, if I can finally launch one day. A great thing for me would be if someone could help set up a social media marketing campaign. I don't know how to organize an ad campaign, but it would be immensely valuable.
      PS:
      The unfiltered older-sister role model of hawk tuah girl is important because people need role models. We model our behavior from people we wish to emulate, and her charisma stemmed from the fact that she seemed like she was thriving. I could be wrong, but to me this seems pretty consistent with internet culture.

  • @ti2809
    @ti2809 11 днів тому +2

    LOL he gave up a good job IN THIS ECONOMY

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому

      Didn’t keep up with the economy. And people are always buying something.

  • @steelearmstrong9616
    @steelearmstrong9616 9 днів тому +1

    💚

  • @Baylough.Technologies
    @Baylough.Technologies 9 днів тому

    Lmao. "I quit my job for UA-cam and now im depressed." Why is this in my recommended?

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      Great title. I wonder if that would have gotten more clicked and views than the title I chose?
      Life has highs and lows everyone seem to jump to depressed when people seem sad or upset.
      Also maybe my video is trying to show you something about yourself. Do you feel depressed? Do you need someone to talk to?

  • @LOVESPACEDREAMS
    @LOVESPACEDREAMS 11 днів тому +1

    Those are rookie numbers

  • @bmcrak
    @bmcrak 11 днів тому

    Happiness “whack-a-mole”

  • @DakotaFord592
    @DakotaFord592 2 дні тому

    decent looking white man. He could easily get a rich boyfriend!!!!!

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  День тому +1

      You offering?

    • @DakotaFord592
      @DakotaFord592 День тому +1

      @bendthemasses it's possible. I recommend reading about the French Royal mistresses. Madame du Barry etc.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  День тому +1

      The mistress route could be a solid one. Have seen that route go a bit south. Would rather have a women who grows with me. Feel like this is ever man’s dream.

    • @DakotaFord592
      @DakotaFord592 День тому

      @@bendthemasses I know, I'm just telling you. Haha. I've seen it. I know it. You're a beautiful man. You COULD get a boyfriend, husband to pay for everything.

    • @DakotaFord592
      @DakotaFord592 23 години тому

      @@bendthemasses not gay men lol 😀😀

  • @UNTITLEDPR0JECT
    @UNTITLEDPR0JECT 11 днів тому +3

    Read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius brother ❤

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому +2

      Great book dude!
      I listened to it. I liked the one line were he talked about being a vine reaching from branch to branch growing each day.

    • @UNTITLEDPR0JECT
      @UNTITLEDPR0JECT 11 днів тому +1

      @@bendthemasses what makes Aurelius so special is that he was an absolute ruler who was as virtuous as it gets. A real life version of Plato's philosopher king. With each day I do my best to try to embody that. There's an Epictetus quote that's something like "I do not intend to be better than Socrates so long as I am not worse." So long as we do our best every day to embody who we most look up to we'll all make it. Stay strong and be the best human you can be you'll make it bro.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      @@UNTITLEDPR0JECT Agreed! It has been a couple of weeks since I recorded this. A lot has changed since then. I also like the quote from Jordan Peterson, "Don't compare yourself to someone else, compare yourself to who you where yesterday."
      I do my best everyday some days I am on top of the moon other days not so much yet I keep showing up in the ways I can. Who know what will happened. I will keep trying. I don't plan on stopping anytime.

  • @PetersGameChannel
    @PetersGameChannel 11 днів тому +1

    Also, you definitely living off someone’s money. I feel bad for the financial strain whoever you are putting on. For gods sake get a job!! Not everyone is supposed to be this successful gigga chad

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому +1

      I am only a projection of you. You will see in me what you like or do not like about yourself.

    • @Gurra_Gforce
      @Gurra_Gforce 11 днів тому +1

      @@bendthemasses Nonsense answer. Where do you get the money from?

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      @Gurra_Gforce What do you mean? You ask the people. you provide a service or deliver a product and you get paid for the service or product you delivered. Easy.

    • @Gurra_Gforce
      @Gurra_Gforce 11 днів тому

      @@bendthemasses “One can speculate that the tardiness and wobbliness of humanity's progress on many of the "eternal problems" of philosophy are due to the unsuitability of the human cortex for philosophical work. On this view, our most celebrated philosophers are like dogs walking on their hind legs - just barely attaining the treshold level of performance required for engaging in the activity at all.”

    • @hamadkennedy6295
      @hamadkennedy6295 9 днів тому

      @@bendthemasses what service or product do you deliver that allows you to live without a job in 2024?

  • @BizzaroBrainBoi
    @BizzaroBrainBoi 9 днів тому +1

    ive been there before

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      Sounds like you made it out?
      How'd you do it? Or. What did you do?

    • @BizzaroBrainBoi
      @BizzaroBrainBoi 9 днів тому

      @@bendthemasses applied for all the I.T. jobs for help desk i could find and got lucky. main thing is, dont ever give up, and dont lose hope. shit gets real dark, and real scary, real fast.

  • @kmoov90
    @kmoov90 11 днів тому

    38,000 views? Last I checked you barely making over 500.

  • @billbennington4444
    @billbennington4444 11 днів тому +3

    youve grown delusional. BRO WAKE UP. it isnt working. who would hire you to coach them? anyone who hires you to coach them is gonna fail, because hiring you shows a complete lack of good judgement.

    •  11 днів тому

      a

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      If you want to chat I'm always open. It seems I have hit a nerve. I don't know If I remind you of someone from your past or you have been let down before by a coach or someone.
      I don't see anything wrong with being delusional. its like being a child. your might as well have fun in life and if your toys break that's okay there is always another toy or a way to fix the toy.

    • @hamadkennedy6295
      @hamadkennedy6295 9 днів тому +1

      @@bendthemasses
      you just admitted that you have no problem avoiding reality, yet you're whining about the consequences of being unemployed with no life skills...and you think people should be paying you money for how to be successful in life? holy shit lol

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  9 днів тому

      @@hamadkennedy6295 It's been a couple of weeks since I recorded this, I don't think I claimed to have all the answers, or that I could fix anyone problems. Everyone has issues and i am not going to tell you how to live your life. I ask questions, and give ideas on what you can do, from there is up to you.
      Have you ever hired a personal trainer or seen a personal trainer and thought to yourself, "How is this person training someone? They do not look they way I want?"
      Just because someone seems like they are whining about their problems doesn't mean they don't have valuable advice to offer. I would rather work with someone who has been where I was and then pulled themselves out of the whole they are in.
      To me I can relate more with this person than I could with someone who has not gone though the lows that I had gone through because now I can say it does get better. Keep trying each day no matter how small it may be and how little progress you may appear to be making because the progress you are making today will compound and something magical will happen.

  • @billbennington4444
    @billbennington4444 11 днів тому +4

    youtube aint it for you chief. go back to sales

    •  11 днів тому +2

      breath

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому +2

      UA-cam is for me! It is for anyone and everyone.

  • @mortallydivine
    @mortallydivine 11 днів тому +1

    Fake it till you make it for real

  • @billbennington4444
    @billbennington4444 11 днів тому +4

    i have truly thought about it, you sound cracked. you can do youtube as a hobby. get a real job. make money with the real job. pay for therapy, fix the crack in your brain. if you get lucky, maybe you can build something on youtube. i mean you arent going to, but you can pretend like maybe to fuel your hobby. get a job. get therapy. save money.

    •  11 днів тому

      take

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      I'm so confused.
      Have you tired youtube and it didn't work?
      Did you give up on your dream?
      What have you wanted out of life?
      What bring you joy?
      What makes you happy?
      Who do you want to be?
      Where would you like to be?
      What interests do you have?
      I have never met a person who is doing well for themselves leave comments like you do. I would love to help you in the ways I can. I have a feeling you may not like hearing this as it sounds like you think anyone who gets coaching from me would fail and you have every right to think this way. Maybe I could surprise you. Maybe something magical could happen. Maybe we can work on getting you to a place where you feel good about yourself if you don't already.
      I do wish you the best on your journey and am glad I could be of service for a brief period to show you aspect to look at within yourself. Because all you are seeing when you look at me is a projection of yourself. I am only a mirror friend. Nothing more and nothing less.

  • @billbennington4444
    @billbennington4444 11 днів тому +2

    its hard to make calls, cause you arent selling anything. before you were working for a company that sold something. now you have nothing to sell. your "coaching" is worhtless, so you arent selling it. thats why you cant make calls.

    • @themuleontrantor
      @themuleontrantor 11 днів тому +5

      Dang bro five triggered comments? Maybe touch grass

    •  11 днів тому

      @@themuleontrantor ya guy is spam raging. probably 12 or insecure McDonalds working 30 year old.

    •  11 днів тому +1

      it will be ok

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      I didn't notice this at first.
      I have offered him 4 free weeks of coaching going to see if he takes me up on my offer.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      I would love to help the guy! if he is open.

  • @jamaljordan28
    @jamaljordan28 11 днів тому +1

    Jobs are out there start looking around they are there companies are hiring every day even if you have to work at home Depot or Lowe's jobs are available.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      Been hitting the phones, networking, putting out videos. been doing all the good work I can. I believe once you have a skill you can find a job.
      I agree with the home depot and lowe's I have seen and know other ways to make money that are better suited to my temperament. This was a rough day bro and sometimes in order to move forward we have to be completely sick of the person we are in order to change.

  • @billbennington4444
    @billbennington4444 11 днів тому +5

    so many excuses. wawa my car doesnt work. uber is expensive....get your ass on that bike boy. its not a decoration. and go work at mcdonalds.

    •  11 днів тому +3

      deep

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  11 днів тому

      Dude I didn't noticed you commented 5 times.
      I will give you 4 free weeks of coaching. we can work together. I know you said you don't like my coaching as anyone who works with me will fail. Why don't we test your theory?
      If you do the work and don't get even a little bit better we can discuss part ways and you can continue thinking my coaching and everything I do is garbage. However if you so succeed and your life does improve you have to provide the worlds best testimonial.
      Change won't happen if you are not open to changing. So are you open? Want to test your theory?

  • @Legoazz
    @Legoazz 11 днів тому +2

    pity party

    • @Legoazz
      @Legoazz 11 днів тому

      fix your car on video

    • @Legoazz
      @Legoazz 11 днів тому

      gl

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому +1

      It’s fixed G it was a battery issue. Sometimes you need a catalytic to get the reaction started.

    • @bendthemasses
      @bendthemasses  10 днів тому +1

      Nothing wrong with a party.

    • @Legoazz
      @Legoazz 10 днів тому

      @@bendthemasses goodluck friend