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@@drnot442 Yeah, those people are the worst. As soon as someone labels themselves as "anti-racist", I'm prepared to hear/read pretty racist things from them. It's the same as people who call themselves "empaths" end up being complete trash.
There was a guy in my trans group, who proceeded to tell the whole group that he’d essentially sexually harassed his hairdresser. When he was called out for it, he pulled his autism card as an excuse to literally harass and stalk someone. He left the group when people refused to give him an autism pass for it, and hasn’t posted that shit since. Your issues do not give you a free pass, to mistreat anyone.
What's telling is that the people that normally do that refuse to be held accountable. I think we all understand that autistic people may have a difficult time recognizing social cues at times but when the group let him know that what he did was inappropriate he should've just taken it as a learning experience. Just like any other person that's responsible and owns their mistakes. I hate how people like that give autistic people a bad rep
I worked with a guy who used that for being chronically depressed. He really was, but everytime he would lash out at an employee and yell and scream at them he would back track and say he was chronically depressed. That stopped when I showed up because I'm Borderline Schizophrenic, the shadow people talk to me, I'm also ADHD and have all the goodies that come with it. Reason I can get so much stuff done at work is because one of the side effects is always being hyper. So he tried this with me and I gave him my long list but told him I deal with my crud because I have to work with people and told his wasn't an excuse to treat people like dirt. He yelled at me. Told me he'd never had a problem with anyone before, with back talking him as he was the manager and I his assistant. I flat out told him. "That's because I'm making it a problem." The look on his face was priceless when he realized an employee showed up who he couldn't bully and shove around. He straightened up real quick. Until he tried defending himself following a child around the store and making sexual comments to her, while also on the clock. He was quickly fired.
I don’t even understand how you can use that as get out of accountability card for doing bad things. You’re obviously functioning well enough and have the mental capacity to know it’s wrong.
@@GigglewithFelix321 right!! To me, its like they're saying: If ur not judging me then u wouldnt have to hold me accountable for anything. So it MUST be a you problem. Hence, fatphobia. 😒Accountability = fatphobia😮💨
Because it's easier to say that things are totally out of your control and blame others/society/whatever, and continue to do nothing to try to change them. Being accountable would also mean doing some work on yourself and putting in some effort. And that's the last thing they want to do!
The only way they can pretend to have a meaningful, convincing argument is to catastrophise any criticism against them as "hate speech." Says a lot, doesn't it?
@@redakara6721 it seems there's a specific type of people who just do that with everything. Like people whose sole defining trait in life is being a mom, or their nationality, or a car they have. Honestly have no idea how anybody even sticks around, it's always annoying and never engaging
@@tertiaritus that's true. i really wish those types were more interesting as people, it's kind of pathetic to devote your entire being to a single trait.
The funniest part is Michelle has a ton of folks who could've given her our fat cards...we're in her workout/weight loss group so she can help us NOT have those cards anymore lol. If you ever need another one, you can use mine (but hurry because I don't intend to still have it much longer!)
I am mentally ill and disabled. Also a DI athlete. Body positivity tells you not to try to better yourself. I will not let my disability let me turn myself into a victim.
As someone with autism i am disgusted. My grandmother, father, and cousin, are autistic, my grandmother had a saying "is it autism or bad behavior?" Using autism, disability, or being trans as a shield makes me cry.
My friend was assaulted by a classmate who was autistic she tried telling her mom and others but they blamed his autism and saying “he doesn’t know any better”
@@Fl0rales there’s bad people everywhere. Some people kill even tho they have bad anxiety disorders. I have bad anxiety disorders and I’d never hurt anyone. It’s a combination. But some, not most, autistic people can get scary mad and violent. Not the majority but some do
@@Fl0ralesif he didn't know any better then they should have taught him better, we aren't incapable of learning, it's not a learning disability. His mom was insulting him just as much as she was victim blaming your friend. The evil little genius was probably laughing behind her back wondering what else he could get away with.
I was in a "fat positive" group on reddit before (i was an emo teenager leave me alone lmaoo) and when I started losing weight, all of my "friends" started praying for my downfall and acted like I was committing the worst possible sin. Even going as far as reporting my account to the point that I was eventually banned all for making one post detailing the pros I've started feeling and seeing after losing weight
Good for you! Unfortunately, when people do things to better themselves and make healthy lifestyle changes, they find out quickly who their true friends are. Like, I dunno, if my friends have awesome things going on in their lives, why wouldn't I be happy for them and share in their joy? Hope you have an awesome day!
It's a good thing they took the initiative and banned you. You don't need people like that trying to sabotage your progress. Getting the motivation and determination to lose weight is hard enough as it is without others bringing you down. All the best :)
You'd think a fat positive group would be positive to improvement as well. That's horrible you went through that but i for one am proud of your achievements 👏
As a fat girl who is working hard to not be fat anymore, I don’t get it when people say, “You’re naturally skinny! You don’t have to work for it!” I know one person in my life, one, who doesn’t have to work at it. Everyone else in my life who is thin and fit works at it. They don’t eat junk all the time like I used to. They keep themselves active. They put in the effort needed! I am striving to be more like them!
i'm sure you're gonna get it girl, but NEVER compare. when you'll be skinnier lose fat, your body still have its own body structure, so don't think you're gonna have the exact same body. it sounds dumb like that and most probably you already know a bit about this but as someone who tends to have anorexic phases, when i'm into the eating disorder shit, i can't think straight and i'm looking at thin pictures telling myself "okay i only lost 7 pounds, but if i lose twenty more i'm really going to look like this". like NO! never! so don't compare yourself okay? do that for you and to reveal your beautiful own body to your eyes and the world. also stay safe and make sure you don't develop unhealthy habits when trying to lose weight
@Dana I'm a naturally thin person, i don't watch what I eat or work out. Yet I don't gain pounds other than the occasional bloating from water weight. I eat out a lot, tons of junk food, sometimes I often skip breakfast cause i tend not to be hungry in the mornings but when i eat i eat A LOT. My brother is the same way. Although it's not due to ant genetic disorder. That's on our metabolism. But still, a small size isn't everything and watching Michelle has brought to my attention that im not actually healthy. I SHOULD be more aware of what I'm putting into my body and working to stay active. So while staying skinny really is naturally easy for some people, being naturally healthy isn't a thing; it takes hard work and discipline to be healthy. Something that im working on. (I obviously can't speak for the people you mentioned in your comment because i don't know their genetics. But i hope this was helpful to hear from the perspective of someone who is naturally slim from a high metabolism gene.)
I thought I was just naturally skinny, but it turns out that I am actually just chronically ill. I just wasn't eating often due to it hurting, and I never noticed it because I thought that pain was something everyone felt. So, yeah technically naturally skinny, but not for a good reason. The only other person in my life who is also 'naturally skinny' is my dad, but it turns out he is also chronically ill, so idk what to think of it. I do know that there are some people with naturally faster metabolisms, but I don't know if it is as common as some people think.
UGH yes! I was on lunch break and I was just eating a whole bag of steamed broccoli (I love broccoli lmao) with my chicken and whatever else I had and some old hag said “you’re skinny, why eat that and not a burger or something?” I replied “idk, maybe I’m skinny bc I eat this, also, I’m trying not to die in my 40s of a heart attack like my dad did”. She shut up lol. I was bullied when I was fat, and then bullied for being too skinny when I was anorexic. People are so fucking annoying lol.
You know as a gay guy, who is having mental issues the fact that some of these people use "being off a group that gets discriminated" as an excuse or as a way to deflect criticism is part of the problem. I wanna be seen as equal to other people and not as some sort of weak little thing that crumbles in the wind over criticism.
I'm sorry you're struggling right now, and I agree, accountability is so important. Not to sound bombastic, but I really think when people like FatSapphicBro pull the "I'm multiply marginalized, you're mocking a trans person!" because we think it's bullshit they say stuff like "dieting weakens your heart", it burns up bandwidth that could go to say, some poor LGBTQ+ kid that is being bullied to the point of suicidal ideation by their family or how trans people have a harder time just finding employment due to discrimination.
I'm with you!!! I tell people about me being bisexual disabled mentally ill etc to show them not all of us think the same but I know and hope people will criticize me
Most autistic people have been bullied over their whole life and we don’t use it as an excuse. I really hope people don’t generalize us because of a couple people. I’m guessing Michelle is talking about FA community because the autistic community is kind and resilient. We don’t normally bully because we’ve been bullied. If you generalize people, some may say “all gay men . . . “. That’s not good or fair. Please don’t generalize people with a disability. And yes, it’s a disability because the world favors neurotypicals. That’s the only reason. Just like being blind is a disability because the world favors seeing people. After trans youth, autistic people are the next likely to commit suicide. It should be taken seriously. We don’t get as much sympathetic attention, but I hope that changes. The problem is it is “in” to misinform people about autism or blame autism for things that have nothing to do with it.
Can we talk about how harmful being called a "bully" or "aggressive" is? Especially when you're not bullying and you're literally just speaking your mind?! People throw that shit around like it doesn't suck to be labeled as that. Michelle is not a bully. Opinionated followers are not bullies. 😤
If she's gonna pull the minority card about her autism, can we talk about how the first thing she could think to call a black woman who disagreed with her was aggressive?
Especially as a poc..picture... being labeled as aggressive then when the cops show up n ppk already talking about how "aggressive" you are leads to scared officers and senseless deaths all because some ppl can't take criticism and choose to attack ppls character. Such a mess.
Yep! They've weaponized the word for anyone that disagrees with them. They get to look like the righteous and down-trodden underdog, and the person they disagree with gets to be cancelled.
The real bullies (or rather, ABUSERS) love to label their victims as bullies just for standing up for themselves. I speak for experience. Guess I'm a bully, probably even worse then lmao XD
I'm also detecting a hint (more like a big stink) of racism behind calling a black woman mean and aggressive for absolutely no reason. Michelle is able to make such beautiful in depth break downs without even touching the wider social ills that so many other people seem to have gotten lost in. Example: "I'm autistic therefor it's ablest to call out my bad behavior waahaa." Actually it's ablest and infantilizing to treat autistic people like they are incapable of behaving like a decent human being in public.
I have ADHD and it is REALLY hard for me to work out and keep up a routine. It had gotten to a point where i had a bad health scare that i actually started saying "fuck my ADHD" and decided to work out more, eat less, and be consistent. Took an entire week but i eventually got five pounds off me before i started realizing that my ADHD was holding me back and fogging my brain from realizing how bad my health had gotten (i was 224.8 at 4"11 when i first started working out). Now im two weeks in at 209 and making progress. 🎉
YOU GOT THISSSSS Im 4'10, also have adhd, and started at 175, and it took me 3 years, but now im 110!! You CAN do it, and its *totally* fine if you cant keep consistent. Dont beat yourself up about it, and know that any effort is effort!!!! Go girl go
Imagine if someone came to you, said something about you, you criticized back, and they suddenly go "KEEP GOING, HATE ME FOR BEING AUTISTIC, TRANS, HAVING ADHD, DEPRESSION, OCD DVD AND ALL MENTAL DISORDERS" when you didn't even know their name 😐
Could you please not use DVD in your comment? It triggers me as I struggle with DVD and so it's highly triggering and you're insensitive to MY feelings that get triggered by your triggering comment. I've had it for 18 years... It's hard to struggle with DVD everyday. I try to get my DVD to function like anyone else's. But it doesn't. It doesn't play any movies anymore. It can't possibly be broken. I've had it for 18 years and I simply can't part ways with it... Because then I would have do have... OCD... CD, sorry! Please don't speak about DVD ever again. It's a highly sensitive topic that's been demonized, scrutinized, romanticised, sexualised and ionised for centuries now and it does not deserve to be used in your comment as a joke. Sincerely, Fuck off (and be nicer next time), Me
Yeah as a neurodivergent i kinda hate this narrative “oh, i have this and this, therefore i am untouchable”. No. It only makes us look worse, cuz people then think that we are incapable of living a normal life. Some tasks or processes are hard for us, but we still are people capable of living in a social environment and we are able to take criticism and learn from it (or most of us do…). Shes doing way more damage than good. And the social worker thing…. Yeah, she def shouldnt be doing that. Poor people Edit: thank yall so much. I was diagnosed with ADHD and some learning disorders when I was five, so Ive been living with it for a while. I appreciate all of you, no matter the diagnosis or even its presence. Ur great ❤️ and i also dobt support using your diagnosis as an excuse, unless it is justified. I am never gonna have an organised clean room. Or car. Or workplace. And Im probably never gonna remember what i am supposed to do, cuz my working memory is zero. And thats find. Its important to learn how to work with it and actively making desicions to make your health issues more managable.
I’m neurodivergent af and honestly I think it’s the part of me that hates this kind of thing. I will like you if you’re a good person and nice full stop. You can be a rainbow alphabet autistic person and if you act like a jerk I won’t )and don’t have to) like you or your ideas.
"I'm triggered!" Psychologist here: there's a big difference between being triggered and being convicted. Too many people are twisting conviction and claiming it's a trigger in order to play the victim. You touched on this SO WELL! Also: I felt like I HAD to get up and do some stretching at the start of your video. My oldest gave me some weird looks, LOL.
@@crawdadorgy Fr! Rlly wish I can take words like triggered, gaslighting, venting, etc. Away from ppl cuz they almost never use in the right/responsible way ever
Even then, is "you're triggering" even an argument? Regardless of what the mental condition or topic at hand, is it not the responsibility of the afflicted to keep away from their own personal triggers? I'm less upset by the misuse of language there than I am by the insinuation that everyone else tiptoe around a stranger's sensitivities and that they're defacto "in the wrong" for saying something that strikes a nerve.
I’m a fat girl myself, and the body positivity is literally toxic like there is a difference in trying to get better and accepting you might not fit the standard, and glorifying unhealthy obesity.
I was fat men before...I lost weight. I understand both sides and there is nothing good being fat. However if that makes you happy, good you you. Just don't spread the lie being fat is healthy cuz many young and still learning people think its true
@@bg.dragon1419 i very much agree with your words as a currently fat man, the lies about fat is healthy, were tingling my fat-senses in a bad way, it really hurts to see that fat is being glorified
I have an unsettling inkling that a lot of god-complex people get into the field of social work... i don't want to be right. But i have a racist (uses the n word as a white person), bigoted (son is not allowed to play with dolls because he'll become gay), low-talented cousin that is a social worker and i fear for her clients! :(
@@CityKanin Sadly, you're definitely right. Just like how there's wicked ppl in the medical field and what-not. I just try to keep positive by reminding myself that their practices/bigotry will eventually be exposed 😓
@@andreaben9978unfortunately someone else will just replace them! There are far too many narcissistic, manipulative, overly sensitive people out there who are just waiting to get into a position of control/power over others (physically, emotionally, psychologically or mentally) It’s like weeds! The more you get rid of the more will show up! You unfortunately can’t win with these types of people and they are everywhere! ESPECIALLY online!
I was a social worker, and my coworker was the first true narcissist that I met. She wasn't an internet "narcissist", but a real one. She forced her crying daughter to wear a "slutty" (her daughter's word) dress to prom even when her daughter was crying about it over the phone. She told her she'd be ugly in anything else and that if she didn't wear it, she wasn't allowed to go to prom. Her daughter was dating a football star and she would call her mom during work (we shared an office) and tell her that she didn't feel safe with him. Once she needed a ride from school and her mom said "go with your boyfriend or walk" and her daughter was crying saying "I don't want to be alone with him" and her mom's response was "too bad, you'll thank me some day." She told teenage boys that she was in her twenties (she was around forty) and that she was her daughter's sister and would get angry when her daughter corrected her. Her son was once saved by a life vac, then later she started a petition to remove the life vac because the sound of the helicopter was annoying. She dressed like she was still in the early 2000s and talked like a teenager. She was super mean to me. She didn't drink coffee, (me and the boss were the only coffee drinkers). I saw her stealing the pods, but I didn't want to confront her (she was super mean). 2 or 3 weeks later I was called into the office for stealing the coffee. I looked crazy when I told my boss it was my office-mate doing it. "Are you serious right now? She doesn't even drink coffee. Just replace what you took, and we will move on." So I bought a box of pods and left it there, and I stopped using the coffee machine altogether thinking I would catch her when everyone saw me with a fake Starbucks every morning (I was reusing the cup every morning because I didn't have money). Guess what? She stopped stealing them, and that's when I realized that she had set me up. Before that, I just thought she wanted coffee pods. She wrote my name on a rank tupperware in the refrigerator and made a huge deal of it and got everyone in the office to come look at how dirty I was. I don't buy tupperware or write my name on things, so despite the fact that I sometimes gaslight myself, I knew it wasn't mine. But the problem was, if I said anything, everyone would think I was lying. She was only mean to me specifically, so they didn't know. She also messed with the thermostats constantly, but before and after work. When I fixed them during work, the boss saw me, and I got called into the office again. "Please don't touch the thermostats, we keep them at..." And after that call to the office, the narcissist never touched them again. She stole credit from me and constantly tried to sabotage me. Once she got free milk, and when she realized she had no place to put it, told the boss that it was me and left the milk to spoil in the office. Luckily for me I knew her games at that point and I called a local mega-church to use their refrigerator and I transported 200 gallons late into the night. She was mad when I got the credit for the free milk afterwards, but she couldn't go back. There were so many things. She tried to get me worried about my weight and appearance by constantly commenting on my meals negatively. Social workers can be monsters too 😅
I’m autistic and it annoys me whenever somebody else on the autism spectrum tries to use being autistic as a “reason” for why the way they are because it’s not; it’s an excuse. Autistic or not people’s behaviors being out of line should be held accountable.
In my opinion no condition or illness or disorder gives you free pass to be a terrible person. Period. I am autistic too, and personally that never prevented me from behaving like a decent person.
@@lise7538 exactly. While I do encourage/advocate for being understanding that there are physical and psychiatric conditions/disabilities it doesn’t give anybody a pass to not be respectful/civil with other people of any race, gender, religion, etc.
Exactly! I’m autistic too and I know a guy who has ADHD and steals money from his parents, almost gets arrested all the time etc, using it as an excuse, like what the f*ck??
@@lise7538 It's interesting and, I would say, refreshing to hear these things from people with Autism. I work with youth on the spectrum (in dreaded ABA therapy). But most of the clients I work with have very severe behaviors, like eating inedible things, no speech, toileting problems, highly repetitive behaviors (like ramming into or grabbing people to feel a sensation of pressure), aggression, and self-injurious behavior. I have gotten used to hearing the argument that Autism is just individuality--how it isn't a disorder and it does not require behavior management because that is making people into robots. I never respond because I am not in the spectrum and I feel that I cannot voice my opinion on anything anymore. But I'm glad to see people on the spectrum say these things. Yes, individuals who have more skills do not need the same therapies as people with few skills. If they need any at all. For a individual with more skills, they might practice--as someone above said--distress tolerance or appropriate interactions with others. My main problem is that I feel the "individuality" conversation is being steered by people who can ACTUALLY SPEAK. Versus the individuals on the severe end of the spectrum who cannot even voice their needs or interact with anything in the environment in a safe manner. Anyway, I hope this made sense.
"Judgement free" says a girl judging you for being fit. She isn't willing to have a CONVERSATION. She wants to change your mind and get you to apologize for hurting her feelings when you didn't even know she existed.
The body positive trend was such a good idea in the beginning, and morphed into this fat positive and again into this fat is great trend and NO ONE can speak on it if ur under a certain size. As someone who is struggling with my weight and all the problems with it, I simply can't comprehend the disregard of ppls health from the fat positive community encouraging this!
And it seems like the “no one can speak on it if you’re under a certain size” just keeps getting bigger and bigger i am a xl size 14-16 and in their words I can’t speak on it because i am a “small fat” like please be serious
I hate so much, because the body positivity movement wasn't supposed to be about fat acceptance, it was about DISABLED people with noticeably physical differences, like people in wheelchairs, people missing limbs, people with those large birthmarks that I can't remember the name of, and so on. It was about treating people with respect no matter what they look like. The movement got coopted by literally the shittiest kind of people >:(
I’m 250, a 2X (18-20) I’m definitely fat but I’m still not fat enough for the fat positive movement even though I’m almost 300 fucking pounds. Still not fat enough. You have to be fucking immobile for them to even consider your opinion.
Body positivity is nice. Fat positivity is toxic. They co-opted body positivity is the problem. It was meant to be about all bodies, but especially disabled people who often feel broken or weird.
It's one of many avenues to bring people around to socialism and communism. Every movement that preaches playing the victim and we should be able to do what we want with no accountability or consequences, they all lead to the same thing. Once they go all cult-like and suck people in, then it rabbit holes into the idea of everyone having the same in life, whether they earn it or not. They don't share the many major negatives of socialism and communism, just the supposed benefits. There are several movements that have been hijacked and "rerouted".
Ironically, the body POSITIVE community have to be some of the most negative, narcissistic, and judgmental, people on the internet. Edit: Yo cool to see a Star-san cameo!
As a veteran with mental illnesses one of the most important things I’ve learned in life is that your triggers and behavior are your own responsibility at the end of the day no matter what.
Thanks for your service. I have PTSD from awful things that happened to me throughout my 20s and I too believe my triggers and struggles with them are a me problem that I have to manage and do not expect society to coddle me over it.
As a grown ass woman with autism, this is embarrassing 🙄 Why do we need to make our gender, sexual orientation, and diagnoses our identity?? Isn't the whole point supposed to be that we're *more* than those things? The time in my life when I was the most outspoken about being LGBT+ was when I was deeply insecure about other parts of myself. Not saying this is the case for everyone, but policing other people & using your gender/orientation/medical diagnoses to prove you should be excluded from discourse around the content YOU yourSELF posted screams "I'm not okay with myself so I'm not okay with your criticism". (from my own lived experience)
I ran the gambit between skinny-fat when I was younger, fat fat in my twenties and now the best shape of my life and working at a gym in my 30s. The whole experience really just leaves me finding these body positivity people absolutely ridiculous. Like, how are you being positive to your body when you're abusing it?
Being fat is also hard af. Everything hurts. Everything is a struggle when it shouldn't be NEVER AGAIN😂😂 I'll take the pain of crossfit over the pain of being out of shape, overweight, and unhealthy any day
As an autistic person, I think the main root of her issues is a lack of distress tolerance. Usually when people face distress and can't handle it properly, they'll get defensive and try to rationalize how said distress is caused by other people with ill intent instead of properly learning how to deal with triggers (not the internet slang, but rather an external stimuli that causes people to experience distress or become symptomatic depending on a condition). It's okay to be triggered and experience distress (everyone does to some extend over something), it's how we manage these things that matters the most. I hope her well, and if her claims of autism is legit (I say because unfortunately people do fake these things sometimes) then I'd recommend DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) which helped me out in recognizing that people making criticism that I don't understand aren't necessarily coming from a place of ill intent. Admittedly I have trouble phrasing things properly, so I hope this made sense.
Thank you for commenting. I have a sister who is autistic. How she reacted to Michelle felt very similar to how my sister would have reacted. Her “so you think I should kill myself,” comment was her feeling horrible about her inability to effectively communicate with others. She feels that way, and she feels that other people think that way towards her. Her “people are making fun of me because I’m autistic” comment; probably no one directly made fun of her for her autism, but she *feels* like people are making fun of her autistic quirks.
Ooh yes, DBT saved my life. Not exaggerating. I don’t have autism but I do have C-PTSD and I used to use food to cope. The hard part about having graduated DBT is seeing just how many people are clearly in need of the skills taught, especially when they attack and get defensive online, etc.
As an autistic person myself, I feel like people like her make my life harder. By trying to pull the ‘tism card to deflect, it makes all autistic people look bad. It’s hard to be seen as more than a disability and it’s even harder to get out of that box when there are people like her making it their whole thing. People going “but I’m autistic” are the reason that I’m sometimes not taken seriously.
Wait, if her account has been private for six years, how did all your followers flood her page with hate? She's something. I'm very scared that this person is a social worker and helping others with mental health. On the other hand, the intro was pure gold and I'll be watching this video again when my boyfriend is home so he can enjoy it too!
I was a bit horrified that she was a social worker, but do we know that's true? Someone who is so over-the-top dramatic and lies about trivial stuff...I take leave to doubt all sorts of things - her claimed career, her claimed autism. (I do believe she has genuine mental health issues - that is quite clear - I'm just inclined to believe she picked autism out of a hat and diagnosed herself with that because it's more trendy than whatever undiagnosed stuff is actually going on with her.)
Sadly this type of person is the current state of social work. It's why I never went clinical (my background is psychological anthropology), but the more I think about it, maybe the more I should have? Not sure. It's crazy out there.
@@tungstenwolfram1064 tends where you work too. My office the workers there were way more grounded in reality and we're pretty chill. Although, yes we also had a few outliers in the office. But I also got really lucky with my coworkers. So there is that too!
@@tungstenwolfram1064 Shudder. That is not what I wanted to hear...Sometimes I kinda want to turn in my human card and just go live on a planet somewhere full of sensible aliens, lol.
i mean regardless of, as how Michelle showed, she couldn't have the account private all the time, i do think she might have meant not people in the comments but people in DMs or DM requests telling her shit. I don't think she talking about receiving these insults must necessarily be lying, but i also think that this is a thing that does not depend on Michelle - she doesn't control unhinged people who could just want to shit on someone else on the internet (i think we all know that DMs are actually waaay worse than public comments in case of insults etc.). So yeah - maybe someone called her a fat wh0re or told her to kill herself. But that is not Michelle's fault.
It's funny because I got run off TikTok by the FA community...they decided that commenting on my appearance AND my autistic trans daughter because I DISAGREED with splotchmaker (politely) was the best thing to do. Bullying is ok if we aren't agreeing with them
Wow, how Intersectional of them. Nothing says they're in a radical feminist movement like making ableist, transphobic attacks against a girl or mocking another woman's appearance. They love to play the victim so they justify being bullies to people who disagree with them, no matter how respectfully.
As a social worker, I would never call the people I work with "clients". They don't pay me, I have to help them even if I don't receive nothing from them. Also, if you work with vulnerable people, you need to be stronger and lead them to better paths. No to indulge themselves in victimhood.
I’m autistic and I hate that it’s become “trendy” in this way. Thank you Michelle, for pointing out that it’s not a quirk because it definitely isn’t all fun and games.
Honestly I am high functioning and being autistic has/always will impact my life negatively in some way. I'm almost normal and I can't imagine the negative implications for other people on the spectrum.
Me too. Most if us aren't gifted genius who only experience the most stereotypical symptoms (and not the debilitating ones like panic attacks or social isolation).
.I hide the fact that I'm autistic cause kids used to get bullied if others found out they were on the spectrum. These days, people have it on their profile and most are lying, in my opinion. It's just a trend at this point to be disordered in some way to feel special. Its stupid. It doesn't help I'm also schizoaffective and I've seen a handful of people lie about having that disorder too!! I hide everything in order to seem normal. Only two people that aren't my family know, and one of them is also autistic but has BPD. We struggle on a daily basis due to our mental illnesses. It's not fun at all. If I touch certain types of bendy rubber, I have to rub my hands on something I do like to touch to get rid of the last feeling. I do it until my hands go fucking raw cause i can still feel the last texture. It's not just "ewwy. I dont like this feeling" and be done with it. Its extremely uncomfortable and I get into a state of panic due to certain textures or noises. I wear earplugs most of the time cause I have really sensitive hearing. I hate people faking it just to use as a cloak to defend themselves from accountability of their words/actions. I'm sick of it.
I also hate that these things ie Autistic, depression etc are trendy in this way too. People that actually have this aren’t being taken seriously due to this
Saying she needs to private her account bc she’s a social worker implies she has info about her clients on her profile -which would be a huge violation of HIPAA (patient privacy protection)
Michelle, thank you thank you thank you. I am autistic (recently diagnosed). It is not fun, it is not cute, it is not quirky. It is sobbing and having a meltdown in the Las Vegas airport because you have to go through TSA. It is having to throw away clothes that you used to love because the feel of them now makes you want to vomit. Thank you for addressing this. It is not an excuse, it is not a privilege. It is a hurdle in life that many of us have to overcome in order to become stronger 💚💚 much love 6:22
My son is autistic and I work with autistic adults in college and girls definitely slip under the net a lot because we 'blend' better than boys into the social norm..now you know you can learn how to manage it better wishing you the best ❤😊
I argued with someone like this once and they legit said “how dare you argue with someone who has cancer” like wut? How does that have anything to do with our conversation?
The phrase " thin privilege " infuriates me. Being thin isn't a privilege granted to me. There are so many reasons why I'm not obese, even though I come from a family that struggles with obesity. I've made a conscious decision to take care of my body, because it's the only one I have. I have underlying health issues that make it difficult for me to exercise, but I *still* do what I can, with modified workouts. I eat real food. Yes, I let myself have the cake, but not every day, and I'm not going to apologize or feel shame for this. Eating well and taking care of your body is a form of self-respect. The delusion within this movement is strong!
The crossover we deserve I will never understand when people get angry when people post and comment on their public posts. They're public. On the Internet. You put it out there to be consumed and critiqued. That won't always be positive.
I'm an autistic woman and I roll my eyes when I see the victim complex either from neurotypical, autistic or whatever group it might me... Oh yes narcissism and victim personality exist in all groups including autistic communities and it's so tiring, these people will suck the life out of you if you go on and on and on, I mean I gotta agree great for Michelle content 😂👌 cuz we here for the dramaaaa I love the poor me card Tiff threw and she has a lot of cards to throw apparently 😂😂😂😂
My mom used to call me the eye roll queen when I was a kid lol. We’re all autistic in my family, a few adhders too. My sis has an big victim complex and was gaslight constantly as a kid. Let me tell you this is an unpleasant mix for everyone involved, and the need to roll your eyes is ever present
When the body positive movement started I loved it because I have a visable physical disability; I'm missing the radius in both my arms. It helped a lot to me for gaining my confidence. It's anger inducing and depressing what it evolved to. It's a shame it became a fat acceptance movement and the ones who really need it are pushed to the sidelines.
I didn't even realize that... now THAT is the biggest shame in this whole BP thing honestly.. someone should create a movement with a different name for this ❤️ then you're not lumped in with the "bOdY PoSiTiViTy" (read: morbid obesity positivity) -movement.
A bunch of fat people, mostly fat middle-class white women, saw body positivity, demanded a seat at the table, and once they got it, they started dictating who could and couldn't be in it-- and surprise surprise, it happened to be the movement belonged to people who mostly looked like them.
Being a part of a marginalized community does not give you automatic immunity from criticism. It really grinds my gears when people use mental health issues or physical health issues as a one up card when they are being criticized. If someone comes out and says terrible things to you just because they're mean, that's one thing, but people disagreeing with you or challenging your line of thought is not the same as a personal attack.
Being overweight isn't a person who is part of a marginalized community it's the consequences of lifestyle choices you don't have to be fat if you don't want to be
@@mauricehamilton4025 Yes but the people this video was talking about were inferring that being a part of a marginalized group should mean they be shielded from criticism.
It also really messes up the outside view of such marginalized communities. I have seizures and OCD, and there is already enough ill infomed people on those topics (I have simple seizures, and most people don't even know what those are). I don't need someone out here trying to pretend that it makes us immune or gives us this one up on people. It just hurts the people in apart of those marginalized communities, because people who aren't appart of these communities who see this kind of stuff will assume we are like this. That we feel entitled or that we have a better life then them.
We know bud, but it's pretty hard to remember to make the distinction when is these people who get a platform to spit their bullsh@t on. You hardly see any of the normal trans people making posts or talking about stuff in general. It's allways the crazy stereotypes talking for all.
I promise you not all of us believe that all trans people are like this! You’re okay!! And trans people who act like this just make it harder for trans people who are actually being discriminated against and harassed to be taken seriously. Because then y’all get told you’re just a ‘snowflake’ and getting upset over nothing even though you have a valid reason to be upset and I apologize for that. But I believe you. I’m autistic and bisexual myself and I really hope people don’t assume or associate me with people who act like this either
HELL YEAH! The aerobics cosplay bit takes me BACK to being a small child in the early 90's and watching my mother work out to her Jane Fonda aerobics VHS tape, where all the women were dressed exactly like that! A+++ grade for this outfit and now I kinda wanna dress similarly for my next work out. 😆
Girl this intro was everything. Flashed back to my mom's Kathy Smith tapes and how I'd do workouts with her as a little kid 😂 (mostly I'd dance, but workouts nonetheless)
Imagine being THIS bothered by someone defending themselves. A hater will hate ALL THE WAY. That woman is obsessed with attention from you, but she also seems just to want attention. And I mean, ALL the attention. She creates a public problem, and wants a special pass from any critique or criticism. Like SWEETY. SWEETHEART. Don't start what you can't finish 🤷🏻♀️ What part of Michelle screams "I back down when people come at me sideways" Fucking hilarious Also, I LOVE YOU BOO. BEST MISTRESS OF THE CULT EVER!!!!! 😍😍😘💜💙💜💙💜💙 Any time you need fat bitch permission, I'm the fat bitch for you 💙💜
I love the fact that if you're not currently obese that means you have zero experience with the struggle 😑😑😑. "Don't judge! Don't assume things about my health! Don't talk about my body! All bodies are good bodies!" EXCEPT if you're recovering from BED or trying to find your own balance. This FA bunch is the most hypocritical group of people I've ever witnessed.
I think my final straw with the “body positivity” (I say it in quotes because the fat acceptance movement co-opted actual body positivity from disabled people/ burn victims/ people with severe acne/ etc etc) came at two points. The first was when I had to put my kitty on a diet. He was gaining weight really rapidly and the vet said it may be because he’s a senior kitty now, and a diet may help him stay healthy and happy for longer. He had started to develop a lipoma too, and that was really scary, so, with the vet’s help, we created a food plan for him and, huzzah! He started slowly losing weight, his lipoma shrunk, and he is more energetic and vocal! The vet said he is on the path to a nice long, healthy life, and now we are working on incorporating more play-time into his schedule to get him more exercise. So, to do this, I started watching UA-cam videos and TikToks on helping cats play more and feline weight loss. It was then that I found fat acceptance tiktokers stitching videos saying we were “body shaming our pets” and that it was unfair to them…. Like what? My cat relies on me for his health, so it’s my responsibility as an owner to provide him what he needs to be healthy. It was just so bizarre, and when people called them out for it being a ridiculous point, they just buckled down and said we all were fatphobic and were hurting our animals. Like I promise you, my cat has no concept of “skinny” or “fat,” nor does he feel “shamed” by me switching his food. Stop projecting your insecurities onto a literal cat. The second is a little more sad so quick TW for EDs. I’ve had anorexia for almost 7 years now. It goes back and forth, and about a year ago I had a really severe relapse. I want to clarify that I’m not thin. I’m 5 feet tall and about 150 pounds. I’m pretty muscular, but I’ve got a tummy. I wear a medium or a large, and I was bullied for my weight CONSTANTLY as a kid. And when I say bullied, I mean BULLIED (not just told I was overweight). During my relapse I found solace in other creators who posted about ED recovery and support. I began to post too, because those videos really helped me and I wanted to help others. I got a bit of engagement from a lot of people around my size who were also struggling, and we all tried to help each other in recovery. My illness got so bad I became severely I’ll and was getting injured constantly (sprains, fractures, etc from malnourishment), and that when I tried to find support in the body positivity movement, which had been helpful for me during past relapses. But the movement isn’t what it was 2 years ago. Suddenly, instead of seeing creators posting about appreciating your body for what it does for you and being kind to yourself, I was surrounded by people making incendiary posts about thin people. While I agree that being told to “eat a burger” is not the same as what many fat people go through, and that many people who try to compare thin struggles to fat struggles can come across as a bit insensitive, these posts weren’t educational about that, they were just mean. There were posts comparing fatphobia to literal assault and fat activists (usually white women) using black women as a shield for their arguments by saying “fatphobia is rooted in racism so if you are mean to me you are racist.” Like yes, fatphobia is rooted in racism, but not in that way, and don’t use that for your benefit. Also, using terms like “thin-tears” (a co-opted version of “white tears”) or “thinsplaining” (a co-opted version of mansplaining) put me off. But the final straw came when they had the nerve to say that having an ED was fatphobic. It’s just so insane. First off, binge eating disorder exists and is extremely painful and that statement just completely ignores it, fat people with restrictive eating disorders exist (hello!) and it is so dehumanizing to us, and eating disorders are not something you choose! I mean I already dealt with so much shame and embarrassment from my disease, so to hear that was just awful because, at the time, I was too impressionable to realize that this was just them projecting. I internalized that idea and thought that I was just some awful person for having this disease, and it made it worse and harder to talk about. I still believe fat shaming is wrong, and I believe in what some fat activists preach, but I’m glad to have found nuance in channels like yours and Fundie Times. I think everyone deserves respect and I don’t believe in randomly getting in fat people’s business and giving health advice, but, like with everything, I think the fat acceptance movement desperately needs to find nuance and monitor the very harmful message it sometimes spreads.
Lol. Don't take it personally. They're trying to live a fantasy and they all think they're in a movie. I had a meth addiction that left me emaciated and they said my drug addiction was fat phobic.
Omg all the autism excuses! My husband is autistic and he use to try and pull that. I shut that shit down fast. "Autism is an explanation, not an excuse."
Yea say that to someone who defines themselves that way they flip...idk why autism is even an excuse or a thing why not stand out instead of try victimize yourself...glad u stopped that tho it disables them instead if empowering imo especially on TT they attack ya
that girl is literally the icon of "you offended me over something dumb so I bring forth all my life long misfortune upon you cause internet taught me that that's how I win this argument I started and clearly can't defend in a normal way."
As an autistic individual I hate how people use the diagnosis as a weapon against those who disagree with them. It is a real struggle every day and incredibly exhausting sometimes but I NEVER think to use it to excuse words or actions. I mention I am autistic when it’s relatable but I still take accountability for my actions.
This! I don’t have autism but I do have mid-low functioning ADHD and get overstimulated easily and when I end up getting annoyed and say something I don’t mean, I ALWAYS apologize that I was being rude and will take accountability for what I did! Now, I did have a “friend” (in quotes because they ended up being crappy) who seemed to use her mental health as an a excuse. She repeatedly triggered my PNES seizures and cried that she was “stressed” when she had ditched me for other people and told me “we can’t always help you all the time” completely ignored my problems yet when ANOTHER “friend” had a problem she was right on it. These people have no accountability whatsoever and when I finally stood up for myself, I was the bad person even though I had just told the school’s administrators everything that had happened and how someone tried to fight me after sticking their nose in my business and calling me names for no reason. For context, I was in a wheelchair this whole time because I have problems walking large distances or my hips lock up because I had spinal fusion. I agree with you on this 100% and I hated the fact that NONE of these people ever took accountability for their actions and would continue to bring negativity everywhere they went which almost brought me down but I caught myself and surrounded myself with better people. These people would deflect everything and always talked trash about people they didn’t even fully know or made up bull crap lies to keep me away from them. They took advantage of me and my vulnerability and I hate them for that.
Well that depends on what they disagree about like as autistics we have specific needs and most of the time allistic people disagree on our needs. But we have this needs and nothing can change it. So yes using you autism in that case is actually a needed thing So much using of the word needs 😂 Like I already hear somebody told me he disagree with my needs to no go out to often and I was like wtf 😂 So yeah depend on what people disagree, you also have to stand your ground in order not to get burn out because being burn out is like having a little death 😂
When someone flat out says "you can't change my mind, because I don't want to change it" there's not point talking to them anymore. Absolutely loved the 80s style aerobics intro! 💜💜
The fact there’s SO many grown adults who act like this and don’t 1) see how embarrassing it is and 2) realize we can see everything they’re doing and LITERALLY SEE that it’s all bullshit 💀 It’s like watching a toddler in a store steal a candy and when you confront them they just start screaming and crying….
And imagine if they actually were a case worker? I'm sorry, but being a social worker is a really hard job and I know I couldn't do it, but the last person I would want is someone like this person who switches to victim mode. How can she really serve the needs of her community if she's this quick to pull the victim route like this?
am i trans? yes! am i fat? also yes! do i make excuses, especially ones that link the two? no! it's not that hard to use the "trans" thing as a blanket of protection. gender and body size don't have much to do with each other
A fragile mind will interpret everything as damage, even innocuous things. A lot of people on the internet, especially armchair activists are glass cannons, quick to dole out criticism, but are utterly incapable of receiving it. I agree with you, she seems unwell and might need a break from the internet to recollect herself.
A way I had a psych Dr explain it, is when you have trauma, it's like having a really bad sunburn. When someone gives you a tap on your arm, it feels like a slap, until you heal your sunburn
Diabetes runs in my family, and before I just kinda accepted that if I get it, I get it. But since I started watching your videos I've really gotten motivated to change. I've started going to the gym at my work and eating a lot better. Videos like this are great to watch/listen to while I work out lol, and I've definitely noticed a change in me. Thank you 🥰
Same situation here. Been eating healthy, consuming less sugar and going to the gym almost everyday of the week and the workouts may be hard but I’ve never felt better if that makes sense haha.
As an autistic nonbinary person, people who say “you can’t talk about this because you’re not XYZ” annoy me so much. Imo everyone should be allowed to have an opinion on anything. While personal experience should hold some weight (no pun intended), it’s only one small factor. Being able to properly research, think critically, and present your findings is WAY more important, because no single person has enough personal insight to speak for an entire community. I was gonna say that “no one would tell a doctor that they can’t diagnose them with an illness because they themselves don’t have it,” but then I remembered that’s exactly what so many of these HAES people do. It’s wack
@@retiredreligion they don’t need to, but have every right to an opinion. 🤷 not giving a fuck leads to things like childhood obesity with kids developing diabetes in their early stage in life.
To be honest, I don't understand nonbinary, but it's important to not thought police people. I have no platform to say non-binary isn't a thing, I just don't get it. I can and should never be able to control that about anyone non-binary, and it's vice versa.
As a fat (read obese) guy I also give Michelle my fat pass as backup to talk about whatever the eff she wants (not that she wouldn't anyway, but that's why we love her) ❤️
It would be hilarious to start a campaign where all of Michelle's fat or fluffy audience send in a "fat pass" along with their photo, so she can "turn one in" every fat chick video. The screeching on fat tok would be awesome.
Hey, Tiffany, as a previously obese to overweight now person, let me tell you what I say to my 3 kids. Nobody is going to cater to you. If you have a problem, fix it yourself. Don’t you expect people to change themselves for you. You ain’t a victim, you haven’t been assaulted. Figure yourself out and love yourself. Once you do that, you’ll be better for it.
“We reaching! We reaching today!” Girl, you petty as *shit* and I’m 100% here for it 😂. (You keep doing you. The rationale world hears your message and loves it)
Them saying you can't speak on obesity is like people telling me I can't speak on the 13 years I spent with ana. bc I have since over come it and gained weight. That was my reality for nearly half my life. I can speak on whatever I want 🗣
Fake victims cannot make a logical argument - they just spout random sob stories that are totally disconnected. Thanks for presenting a clear, experience-based and positive perspective that any open-minded person can understand.
Michelle I’m babysitting my gramma’s bird for a couple weeks and the little beb absolutely LOVES your voice! Every time I play one of your videos she just starts chirping away she’s so happy ❤️
Love to see a self proclaimed mental health advocate saying her profile has been private for years, instead of just admitting that she needed to private her account for her mental health. That's definitely something someone who cares about reducing a mental health stigma would do.
WHY is this intro so epic and perfect?! LOVE all of those puns, the quick cuts , the legwarmers! Yes to everything that just happened in front of my face.
I never understood the need for the “acceptance” cults. I’m Latina and bisexual. I am neither part of the LGBT or Latinx community. When I meet someone new I tell them my name, my interest, and my hobbies. Being Latina and bisexual is who I am but it’s not what I am. I don’t need acceptance I need freedom to be what I want to be and that’s one thing the US already grants us all. Tired of these victim games. It’s a sad Olympics with no winners and losing spectators.
Gods I hate the Latinx community. If they tried to correct me in using their term I'm going to use violence. If they call me Latinx (I'm Hispanic) I'm using violence. I'd rather be called a 'spic than *that term*
As a big person there's a part of me that wishes there was a movement called respect at any size. It's not really about "acceptance" it's about being respected. Things have gotten person but people used to treat big people horribly. I would go for a walk and people would honk and call me fatty telling me to go to mcds. People are nasty and i wish there was more respect out there.
i feel this 100%. im a lesbian and i am not a part of the LGBT community. ive seen my uni offer roles to LGBT as a priority and it makes me angry. since when did me liking other girls affect my uniwork? no one even knows im lesbian… safe to say that i stay away from people trying to give me handouts and put in the WORK i pay for at university.
I’m sorry you’ve been treated that way kitty. Unfortunately I’ve been disrespected on the grounds of being Latina before myself. Things like that used to effect me, but I’ve come to learn that most of the people who treat others with hostility and insults due to their weight, sex, race, etc do it from a stance of ignorance. I refuse to feed into their stereotypes by killing them with kindness. It’s not easy to control your emotions when being offended since it’s not something we are usually taught and requires to be practiced, but it’s so practical and necessary to live a happier life. We can’t force people to accept us, but we can learn to control our emotions and mentality. Unfortunately a lot of the times it requires being the bigger person and it’s usually so much easier to that an insult to heart. Hope you can find peace soon.
I completely agree with you Roxanne. It almost feels like they are implying something by offering those type of handouts. I’m in the tech field and had scholarships offered to me simply for being a girl in tech. I understand that the tech field is majority male, but to me that implies that I’m not as good as my male counter parts and need handouts to achieve what they can do on their own. It also seems unfair to the people who actually put in the hard work and time. The focus of scholarships should be based on merit.
I'm autistic and the amount of ppl running around screeching "autistic defense" for being called out for behaviors and comments has reach peak insanity levels.
As someone who struggles with weight maintenance and has to work hard to be healthy, I appreciate your videos. I literately yes literally lol or as my generation says laugh out loud every video! Keep up the great work!
She kept bringing up the autism thing, though, and it was driving me insane. I have a sibling who is autistic, and was recently told I fall on the spectrum, so her behavior was massively insulting to me. SHE brought it up. SHE drove the focus of the conversation. SHE needs THERAPY. I have also been told to unalive myself on social media (being careful so my comment doesn't get censored). I boycotted social media for almost a month because it upset me so much. That could just be how I choose to handle it, but taking a break from social media when things get toxic is a healthy way to handle things. I stress social media, because in order to do my job and go to university, I have to go on the Internet. However, I have this ability to hyper focus (I guess that comes with being neurodivergent/autistic?), and if I have decided that social media is not going to be my focus, it tends to get ignored.
So glad you’re talking about this. As someone who is currently going on a weight loss journey, it’s absolutely RIDICULOUS that this “movement” is trying to tell people that obesity is fine. It’s like a doctor gaslighting you into thinking poison is cough syrup.
True love for yourself is making sure your loved ones don’t bury you too soon. Most of these body positive community people are just plain old selfish!
I am a mother of a little one who is autistic… and it really makes me angry when I see these people use these terms in their bios as a blanket of protection and brownie points like you said. I know a few, and they’re all similar. Considering how hard and daunting it is to get a diagnosis in my Province for children and adults, these people seem to have got these diagnosis’s pretty easily 🙃
If my autistic cousin did something bad, either a cringey opinion, entitled behavior, or as big as a crime, they should get as much criticism/consequence as a nonautistic person gets. The condition explains it, it doesnt excuse it. If other autistic people refrained from doing something dumb or illegal, than one autistic person can be a decent person as well. No one is immune from criticis, even God is criticized.
5:55 "its disgusting that your actively harassing a trans person" sounds like something id say to my friends as a joke/sarcastically when were messing with eachother 💀like its crazy that this person is actually using that as an excuse wtf lol
Her matrix line doesn't even make sense because you have to take the "red pill" which means accepting the truth, even if you don't like it. She would be the one stuck in the matrix if we really went with this line of thinking. 😂
While I do agree that there are many elements of diet culture that are a problem, i.e. the idea of "spot reducing", the idea that everyone should have the exact same body, the idea that people have to give up there cultural foods in order to lose weight (none of which are true) it doesn't negate the fact that at a certain point, our weight can most definitely negatively impact our health and sometimes weight loss and making adjustments to our diet will significantly improve our daily lives
i’m obsessed w you!!! New subscriber - i lost 80lbs in 1 year, used to be part of the movement & thanks to content like yours i am very inspired to continue my journey to a longer and happier life!
I swear this has to be an archetype on the internet because I dealt with someone EXACTLY like this (hiding behind their sexuality and mental illnesses) to chronically lie about me because I disagreed with them over a freaking video game character, like how are people like this real??? How do they function in actual society???
As a professional social worker, I’m horrified that she’s a social worker. People pay to place their mental vulnerability in her hands and this is the shit she does? Oh dear god.
Thanks Michelle. I'm down 75lbs. Thanks you for making your content. It opened my eyes. Still got about 50lbs to go but I'm feeling good. You made me realize I can change into a healthy body if I tried and did not give up.
This video was one of your best yet IMO. The intro, the cameo by Starsan, the mention of Cynical Dude, and not taking shit from some wannabe victim! Keep doing what you do.
Michelle, I truly look up to you.. You're gorgeous, strong, super fit, confident and so refreshingly open about your own opinions without putting down others, you're so mature and I wish i could be able to deal with situations like you do, maybe one day when i grow up more! ❤ Lots of love to you Michelle, thank you for being our laugh, motivation and refreshment! xxxxxxxx
These people act all tough and stuff when they have power or people on their side, but as soon as that power is taken away they freak out and try anything to make themselves the victim. It’s like a dog being backed into a corner. All they can do is bark back but there’s not much else they can do. I strive to not have as much of a victim complex as these people
Im so glad you're talking about people weaponizing their mental illnesses. I have manyyy yet I never talk about them because it's not my entire identity. I have struggled for decades and have symptoms 24 7 but I'm not my diagnosis!
It's wild, I've been thinking about this on dating apps this week, 2 separate people asked me about mental illnesses I have to see if we share them like I don't know your hometown or how many siblings you have but I guess we can talk about psychiatric hospitals now...? I am all for normalizing talking about it, but wearing your pain on your sleeve is risky and odd
@@arctic_desert that's so bizarre! I wonder if people's personalities have become so flattened that they're clinging to labels to give them a sense of self. I'm technically bi but I never talk about that either, and I see the same thing with those labels. Everyone needs to get offline and get some life experience.
It kinda sucks though because it’s those people that end up making those suffering not wanting to talk about it at all because they don’t want to be associated with them or labeled the same
@@CaulkMongler I'm dragging my feet getting a new psychiatrist because I feel like she won't even believe me, after everyone coming in diagnosed on tik tok lol.
It's not these people's race, gender, sexual orientation, national origin that is made fun of, it is their complete lack of common sense and inability to hear a differing point of view. People like that are always victims. They aren't comfortable unless they can claim some sort of persecution on the daily. Great content
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Already dying at the intro 😂. Please more 80s aerobics bits 👩🏽🤝👩🏼
Nope...i pulled the muscle. I WASNT READY!!!😂😂😂 They praising to sky daddy with that reach😂😂
Fairy Fat Mother! I love her!!!! 💖
Love your new profile icon, it’s so cute!
Loved the intro! 🤩
Her: “Let black people speak!”
Michelle: “okay 🙂”
Her: “No.. not like that.”
This
This 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@drnot442 Yeah, those people are the worst. As soon as someone labels themselves as "anti-racist", I'm prepared to hear/read pretty racist things from them. It's the same as people who call themselves "empaths" end up being complete trash.
Leftists tend to be like that
@@Hiphop618 nailed it
There was a guy in my trans group, who proceeded to tell the whole group that he’d essentially sexually harassed his hairdresser. When he was called out for it, he pulled his autism card as an excuse to literally harass and stalk someone. He left the group when people refused to give him an autism pass for it, and hasn’t posted that shit since. Your issues do not give you a free pass, to mistreat anyone.
What's telling is that the people that normally do that refuse to be held accountable. I think we all understand that autistic people may have a difficult time recognizing social cues at times but when the group let him know that what he did was inappropriate he should've just taken it as a learning experience. Just like any other person that's responsible and owns their mistakes.
I hate how people like that give autistic people a bad rep
I worked with a guy who used that for being chronically depressed. He really was, but everytime he would lash out at an employee and yell and scream at them he would back track and say he was chronically depressed.
That stopped when I showed up because I'm Borderline Schizophrenic, the shadow people talk to me, I'm also ADHD and have all the goodies that come with it. Reason I can get so much stuff done at work is because one of the side effects is always being hyper.
So he tried this with me and I gave him my long list but told him I deal with my crud because I have to work with people and told his wasn't an excuse to treat people like dirt. He yelled at me. Told me he'd never had a problem with anyone before, with back talking him as he was the manager and I his assistant. I flat out told him.
"That's because I'm making it a problem."
The look on his face was priceless when he realized an employee showed up who he couldn't bully and shove around. He straightened up real quick. Until he tried defending himself following a child around the store and making sexual comments to her, while also on the clock. He was quickly fired.
gosh im autistic and thats so DISGUSTING:|
I have the same problem with a guy who won't leave me or my friends alone :(
I don’t even understand how you can use that as get out of accountability card for doing bad things. You’re obviously functioning well enough and have the mental capacity to know it’s wrong.
Why is the body positive community so allergic to accountability 😑
It's easier to blame you, me, them, than to blame themselves.
@@GigglewithFelix321 right!! To me, its like they're saying: If ur not judging me then u wouldnt have to hold me accountable for anything. So it MUST be a you problem. Hence, fatphobia. 😒Accountability = fatphobia😮💨
Because it can't be eaten
Because it's easier to say that things are totally out of your control and blame others/society/whatever, and continue to do nothing to try to change them. Being accountable would also mean doing some work on yourself and putting in some effort. And that's the last thing they want to do!
@@misskay6831 you understand the internet. 😂👍🏾
Michelle: being obese is unhealthy
Tiffany : so you just want me to ☠️ myself and make fun of my autism .
Michelle: wtf 🫤……?
Just checked the previous video and it said 'Rae'. Please change 'Tiffany' to 'Rae' because she doesn't deserve anonymity lol
@@Anonymous-df8it she's not worth knowing either, so call her Billy Bob for all anyone cares
@@KikiChan_007 Good point. Still think that she doesn't deserve anonymity.
The only way they can pretend to have a meaningful, convincing argument is to catastrophise any criticism against them as "hate speech." Says a lot, doesn't it?
as a self-ID AuDHDer, this makes my head wanna actually explode,,,,
You being given a fat card by your friend was brilliant. SO funny and clever.
I didn’t understand what was happening at first. Then I started cackling.
As a fat woman, I can’t imagine making my fatness my entire personality and lifestyle. 😂
People make their sexuality their entire personality, so why not fatness too. Anything goes. It’s just the way the world is today. Unfortunately.
@@fatoumfatoumehdiasagree on the sexuality part
@@xgamejamesx4083 as an lgbt person i actually agree with the earlier comment, a lot of people do like to make their being lgbt their defining trait
@@redakara6721 it seems there's a specific type of people who just do that with everything. Like people whose sole defining trait in life is being a mom, or their nationality, or a car they have. Honestly have no idea how anybody even sticks around, it's always annoying and never engaging
@@tertiaritus that's true. i really wish those types were more interesting as people, it's kind of pathetic to devote your entire being to a single trait.
The funniest part is Michelle has a ton of folks who could've given her our fat cards...we're in her workout/weight loss group so she can help us NOT have those cards anymore lol. If you ever need another one, you can use mine (but hurry because I don't intend to still have it much longer!)
Love the going out of business sale on fat cards. Set up a booth in the (fat) body positivity community. I hear they are the target demographic.
That's so wholesome, good luck to you in your journey, you're all amazing.
Imagine what a big moment it would feel to finally hand in your fat card! 🤣
I 2ed that
This comment made me smile so much! Keep up the good work!
I am mentally ill and disabled. Also a DI athlete. Body positivity tells you not to try to better yourself. I will not let my disability let me turn myself into a victim.
Fuck YESSSSSSS!! 💪
Exactly!
Stay human!
You’re awesome
We love you for this
PERIOD! Love to see you striving to be the healthiest version of yourself 🖤
love how that woman tried to call Michelle a "liar" when Michelle is literally the most BRUTALLY honest person I've known to grace the earth
☝️
Shes like the clean descendant of Filthy Frank
right 😂
Hahahaha so true!!
And Michelle has proof.
As someone with autism i am disgusted. My grandmother, father, and cousin, are autistic, my grandmother had a saying "is it autism or bad behavior?" Using autism, disability, or being trans as a shield makes me cry.
the neuro-spicy community do not claim her 🙃🙃
Don’t worry ❤ we know that most autistic people are great humans!
My friend was assaulted by a classmate who was autistic she tried telling her mom and others but they blamed his autism and saying “he doesn’t know any better”
@@Fl0rales there’s bad people everywhere. Some people kill even tho they have bad anxiety disorders. I have bad anxiety disorders and I’d never hurt anyone. It’s a combination. But some, not most, autistic people can get scary mad and violent. Not the majority but some do
@@Fl0ralesif he didn't know any better then they should have taught him better, we aren't incapable of learning, it's not a learning disability. His mom was insulting him just as much as she was victim blaming your friend. The evil little genius was probably laughing behind her back wondering what else he could get away with.
I was in a "fat positive" group on reddit before (i was an emo teenager leave me alone lmaoo) and when I started losing weight, all of my "friends" started praying for my downfall and acted like I was committing the worst possible sin. Even going as far as reporting my account to the point that I was eventually banned all for making one post detailing the pros I've started feeling and seeing after losing weight
Good for you! Unfortunately, when people do things to better themselves and make healthy lifestyle changes, they find out quickly who their true friends are. Like, I dunno, if my friends have awesome things going on in their lives, why wouldn't I be happy for them and share in their joy? Hope you have an awesome day!
Wow! I'm so sorry that happened to you. It's hard leaving so-called friends behind but trust me, you are and will be better for it.
It's a good thing they took the initiative and banned you. You don't need people like that trying to sabotage your progress. Getting the motivation and determination to lose weight is hard enough as it is without others bringing you down. All the best :)
Wow. That’s to show how sad they are with their-self.
You'd think a fat positive group would be positive to improvement as well. That's horrible you went through that but i for one am proud of your achievements 👏
As a fat girl who is working hard to not be fat anymore, I don’t get it when people say, “You’re naturally skinny! You don’t have to work for it!” I know one person in my life, one, who doesn’t have to work at it. Everyone else in my life who is thin and fit works at it. They don’t eat junk all the time like I used to. They keep themselves active. They put in the effort needed! I am striving to be more like them!
i'm sure you're gonna get it girl, but NEVER compare. when you'll be skinnier lose fat, your body still have its own body structure, so don't think you're gonna have the exact same body. it sounds dumb like that and most probably you already know a bit about this but as someone who tends to have anorexic phases, when i'm into the eating disorder shit, i can't think straight and i'm looking at thin pictures telling myself "okay i only lost 7 pounds, but if i lose twenty more i'm really going to look like this". like NO! never! so don't compare yourself okay? do that for you and to reveal your beautiful own body to your eyes and the world. also stay safe and make sure you don't develop unhealthy habits when trying to lose weight
I was one of those ppl naturally skinny but then I turned 30 and had to go on anti depressants and my ass blew up 😂😭😭😭😭
@Dana I'm a naturally thin person, i don't watch what I eat or work out. Yet I don't gain pounds other than the occasional bloating from water weight. I eat out a lot, tons of junk food, sometimes I often skip breakfast cause i tend not to be hungry in the mornings but when i eat i eat A LOT. My brother is the same way.
Although it's not due to ant genetic disorder. That's on our metabolism.
But still, a small size isn't everything and watching Michelle has brought to my attention that im not actually healthy. I SHOULD be more aware of what I'm putting into my body and working to stay active.
So while staying skinny really is naturally easy for some people, being naturally healthy isn't a thing; it takes hard work and discipline to be healthy.
Something that im working on.
(I obviously can't speak for the people you mentioned in your comment because i don't know their genetics. But i hope this was helpful to hear from the perspective of someone who is naturally slim from a high metabolism gene.)
I thought I was just naturally skinny, but it turns out that I am actually just chronically ill. I just wasn't eating often due to it hurting, and I never noticed it because I thought that pain was something everyone felt. So, yeah technically naturally skinny, but not for a good reason. The only other person in my life who is also 'naturally skinny' is my dad, but it turns out he is also chronically ill, so idk what to think of it. I do know that there are some people with naturally faster metabolisms, but I don't know if it is as common as some people think.
UGH yes! I was on lunch break and I was just eating a whole bag of steamed broccoli (I love broccoli lmao) with my chicken and whatever else I had and some old hag said “you’re skinny, why eat that and not a burger or something?” I replied “idk, maybe I’m skinny bc I eat this, also, I’m trying not to die in my 40s of a heart attack like my dad did”. She shut up lol. I was bullied when I was fat, and then bullied for being too skinny when I was anorexic. People are so fucking annoying lol.
You know as a gay guy, who is having mental issues the fact that some of these people use "being off a group that gets discriminated" as an excuse or as a way to deflect criticism is part of the problem. I wanna be seen as equal to other people and not as some sort of weak little thing that crumbles in the wind over criticism.
I'm sorry you're struggling right now, and I agree, accountability is so important. Not to sound bombastic, but I really think when people like FatSapphicBro pull the "I'm multiply marginalized, you're mocking a trans person!" because we think it's bullshit they say stuff like "dieting weakens your heart", it burns up bandwidth that could go to say, some poor LGBTQ+ kid that is being bullied to the point of suicidal ideation by their family or how trans people have a harder time just finding employment due to discrimination.
I'm with you!!! I tell people about me being bisexual disabled mentally ill etc to show them not all of us think the same but I know and hope people will criticize me
Most autistic people have been bullied over their whole life and we don’t use it as an excuse. I really hope people don’t generalize us because of a couple people. I’m guessing Michelle is talking about FA community because the autistic community is kind and resilient. We don’t normally bully because we’ve been bullied. If you generalize people, some may say “all gay men . . . “. That’s not good or fair. Please don’t generalize people with a disability. And yes, it’s a disability because the world favors neurotypicals. That’s the only reason. Just like being blind is a disability because the world favors seeing people. After trans youth, autistic people are the next likely to commit suicide. It should be taken seriously. We don’t get as much sympathetic attention, but I hope that changes. The problem is it is “in” to misinform people about autism or blame autism for things that have nothing to do with it.
It's not the gays it's the T's
Saaaaaaaaame
Can we talk about how harmful being called a "bully" or "aggressive" is? Especially when you're not bullying and you're literally just speaking your mind?! People throw that shit around like it doesn't suck to be labeled as that.
Michelle is not a bully.
Opinionated followers are not bullies. 😤
If she's gonna pull the minority card about her autism, can we talk about how the first thing she could think to call a black woman who disagreed with her was aggressive?
Especially as a poc..picture... being labeled as aggressive then when the cops show up n ppk already talking about how "aggressive" you are leads to scared officers and senseless deaths all because some ppl can't take criticism and choose to attack ppls character. Such a mess.
Yep! They've weaponized the word for anyone that disagrees with them. They get to look like the righteous and down-trodden underdog, and the person they disagree with gets to be cancelled.
The real bullies (or rather, ABUSERS) love to label their victims as bullies just for standing up for themselves. I speak for experience.
Guess I'm a bully, probably even worse then lmao XD
I'm also detecting a hint (more like a big stink) of racism behind calling a black woman mean and aggressive for absolutely no reason.
Michelle is able to make such beautiful in depth break downs without even touching the wider social ills that so many other people seem to have gotten lost in.
Example: "I'm autistic therefor it's ablest to call out my bad behavior waahaa." Actually it's ablest and infantilizing to treat autistic people like they are incapable of behaving like a decent human being in public.
I have ADHD and it is REALLY hard for me to work out and keep up a routine. It had gotten to a point where i had a bad health scare that i actually started saying "fuck my ADHD" and decided to work out more, eat less, and be consistent. Took an entire week but i eventually got five pounds off me before i started realizing that my ADHD was holding me back and fogging my brain from realizing how bad my health had gotten (i was 224.8 at 4"11 when i first started working out). Now im two weeks in at 209 and making progress. 🎉
Congrats!! I hope your health journey is still going well, lots of big love to you!! You got this!! ♥️
hell yeah man! proud you, and hope you’re super proud of yourself! keep it up, and remember the conviction!
YOU GOT THISSSSS Im 4'10, also have adhd, and started at 175, and it took me 3 years, but now im 110!! You CAN do it, and its *totally* fine if you cant keep consistent. Dont beat yourself up about it, and know that any effort is effort!!!! Go girl go
Imagine if someone came to you, said something about you, you criticized back, and they suddenly go "KEEP GOING, HATE ME FOR BEING AUTISTIC, TRANS, HAVING ADHD, DEPRESSION, OCD DVD AND ALL MENTAL DISORDERS" when you didn't even know their name 😐
OCD DVD 😂
@@noni4315 EXACTLY
@@noni4315 lmao
Could you please not use DVD in your comment? It triggers me as I struggle with DVD and so it's highly triggering and you're insensitive to MY feelings that get triggered by your triggering comment. I've had it for 18 years... It's hard to struggle with DVD everyday. I try to get my DVD to function like anyone else's. But it doesn't. It doesn't play any movies anymore. It can't possibly be broken. I've had it for 18 years and I simply can't part ways with it... Because then I would have do have... OCD... CD, sorry! Please don't speak about DVD ever again. It's a highly sensitive topic that's been demonized, scrutinized, romanticised, sexualised and ionised for centuries now and it does not deserve to be used in your comment as a joke.
Sincerely,
Fuck off (and be nicer next time),
Me
@@lpsfankanr1 Funniest comment I have ever seen in my whole life
Yeah as a neurodivergent i kinda hate this narrative “oh, i have this and this, therefore i am untouchable”. No. It only makes us look worse, cuz people then think that we are incapable of living a normal life. Some tasks or processes are hard for us, but we still are people capable of living in a social environment and we are able to take criticism and learn from it (or most of us do…). Shes doing way more damage than good. And the social worker thing…. Yeah, she def shouldnt be doing that. Poor people
Edit: thank yall so much. I was diagnosed with ADHD and some learning disorders when I was five, so Ive been living with it for a while. I appreciate all of you, no matter the diagnosis or even its presence. Ur great ❤️ and i also dobt support using your diagnosis as an excuse, unless it is justified. I am never gonna have an organised clean room. Or car. Or workplace. And Im probably never gonna remember what i am supposed to do, cuz my working memory is zero. And thats find. Its important to learn how to work with it and actively making desicions to make your health issues more managable.
And also people then think we use it as an excuse... Cause some ppl do😒
agreed
As a neurodivergent content creator...THANK YOU
I see people doing the same thing with ‘neurotypical’ and ‘neurodivergent’.
I’m neurodivergent af and honestly I think it’s the part of me that hates this kind of thing. I will like you if you’re a good person and nice full stop. You can be a rainbow alphabet autistic person and if you act like a jerk I won’t )and don’t have to) like you or your ideas.
i am trans and have autism and i HATE when ppl act like they can use these things as a shield it just make us seen as ppl who cant take accountability
LEGIT
I’m not trans and understand it to a certain extent, but I do have autism and can relate hella to that part
"I'm triggered!"
Psychologist here: there's a big difference between being triggered and being convicted. Too many people are twisting conviction and claiming it's a trigger in order to play the victim. You touched on this SO WELL!
Also: I felt like I HAD to get up and do some stretching at the start of your video. My oldest gave me some weird looks, LOL.
You were triggered into stretching!!
Lol
@@crawdadorgy Fr! Rlly wish I can take words like triggered, gaslighting, venting, etc. Away from ppl cuz they almost never use in the right/responsible way ever
I guess the term cognitive dissonance isn’t as trendy
Even then, is "you're triggering" even an argument? Regardless of what the mental condition or topic at hand, is it not the responsibility of the afflicted to keep away from their own personal triggers?
I'm less upset by the misuse of language there than I am by the insinuation that everyone else tiptoe around a stranger's sensitivities and that they're defacto "in the wrong" for saying something that strikes a nerve.
I’m a fat girl myself, and the body positivity is literally toxic like there is a difference in trying to get better and accepting you might not fit the standard, and glorifying unhealthy obesity.
I was fat men before...I lost weight. I understand both sides and there is nothing good being fat. However if that makes you happy, good you you. Just don't spread the lie being fat is healthy cuz many young and still learning people think its true
@@bg.dragon1419 i very much agree with your words as a currently fat man, the lies about fat is healthy, were tingling my fat-senses in a bad way, it really hurts to see that fat is being glorified
It's a damn shame when you have to tell a SOCIAL WORKER that they need therapy 💀 either she's not a very good one or she's lying
I have an unsettling inkling that a lot of god-complex people get into the field of social work... i don't want to be right.
But i have a racist (uses the n word as a white person), bigoted (son is not allowed to play with dolls because he'll become gay), low-talented cousin that is a social worker and i fear for her clients! :(
@@CityKanin Sadly, you're definitely right. Just like how there's wicked ppl in the medical field and what-not. I just try to keep positive by reminding myself that their practices/bigotry will eventually be exposed 😓
I doubt she is a social worker. If she is she should be reported. Lot of lies who make up all kinds of BS.
@@andreaben9978unfortunately someone else will just replace them!
There are far too many narcissistic, manipulative, overly sensitive people out there who are just waiting to get into a position of control/power over others (physically, emotionally, psychologically or mentally)
It’s like weeds! The more you get rid of the more will show up!
You unfortunately can’t win with these types of people and they are everywhere! ESPECIALLY online!
I was a social worker, and my coworker was the first true narcissist that I met. She wasn't an internet "narcissist", but a real one.
She forced her crying daughter to wear a "slutty" (her daughter's word) dress to prom even when her daughter was crying about it over the phone. She told her she'd be ugly in anything else and that if she didn't wear it, she wasn't allowed to go to prom. Her daughter was dating a football star and she would call her mom during work (we shared an office) and tell her that she didn't feel safe with him. Once she needed a ride from school and her mom said "go with your boyfriend or walk" and her daughter was crying saying "I don't want to be alone with him" and her mom's response was "too bad, you'll thank me some day."
She told teenage boys that she was in her twenties (she was around forty) and that she was her daughter's sister and would get angry when her daughter corrected her.
Her son was once saved by a life vac, then later she started a petition to remove the life vac because the sound of the helicopter was annoying.
She dressed like she was still in the early 2000s and talked like a teenager.
She was super mean to me. She didn't drink coffee, (me and the boss were the only coffee drinkers). I saw her stealing the pods, but I didn't want to confront her (she was super mean). 2 or 3 weeks later I was called into the office for stealing the coffee. I looked crazy when I told my boss it was my office-mate doing it. "Are you serious right now? She doesn't even drink coffee. Just replace what you took, and we will move on." So I bought a box of pods and left it there, and I stopped using the coffee machine altogether thinking I would catch her when everyone saw me with a fake Starbucks every morning (I was reusing the cup every morning because I didn't have money). Guess what? She stopped stealing them, and that's when I realized that she had set me up. Before that, I just thought she wanted coffee pods.
She wrote my name on a rank tupperware in the refrigerator and made a huge deal of it and got everyone in the office to come look at how dirty I was. I don't buy tupperware or write my name on things, so despite the fact that I sometimes gaslight myself, I knew it wasn't mine. But the problem was, if I said anything, everyone would think I was lying. She was only mean to me specifically, so they didn't know.
She also messed with the thermostats constantly, but before and after work. When I fixed them during work, the boss saw me, and I got called into the office again. "Please don't touch the thermostats, we keep them at..." And after that call to the office, the narcissist never touched them again.
She stole credit from me and constantly tried to sabotage me. Once she got free milk, and when she realized she had no place to put it, told the boss that it was me and left the milk to spoil in the office. Luckily for me I knew her games at that point and I called a local mega-church to use their refrigerator and I transported 200 gallons late into the night. She was mad when I got the credit for the free milk afterwards, but she couldn't go back.
There were so many things. She tried to get me worried about my weight and appearance by constantly commenting on my meals negatively.
Social workers can be monsters too 😅
I’m autistic and it annoys me whenever somebody else on the autism spectrum tries to use being autistic as a “reason” for why the way they are because it’s not; it’s an excuse. Autistic or not people’s behaviors being out of line should be held accountable.
In my opinion no condition or illness or disorder gives you free pass to be a terrible person. Period.
I am autistic too, and personally that never prevented me from behaving like a decent person.
@@lise7538 exactly. While I do encourage/advocate for being understanding that there are physical and psychiatric conditions/disabilities it doesn’t give anybody a pass to not be respectful/civil with other people of any race, gender, religion, etc.
Exactly! I’m autistic too and I know a guy who has ADHD and steals money from his parents, almost gets arrested all the time etc, using it as an excuse, like what the f*ck??
@@lise7538 It's interesting and, I would say, refreshing to hear these things from people with Autism. I work with youth on the spectrum (in dreaded ABA therapy). But most of the clients I work with have very severe behaviors, like eating inedible things, no speech, toileting problems, highly repetitive behaviors (like ramming into or grabbing people to feel a sensation of pressure), aggression, and self-injurious behavior. I have gotten used to hearing the argument that Autism is just individuality--how it isn't a disorder and it does not require behavior management because that is making people into robots. I never respond because I am not in the spectrum and I feel that I cannot voice my opinion on anything anymore. But I'm glad to see people on the spectrum say these things. Yes, individuals who have more skills do not need the same therapies as people with few skills. If they need any at all. For a individual with more skills, they might practice--as someone above said--distress tolerance or appropriate interactions with others. My main problem is that I feel the "individuality" conversation is being steered by people who can ACTUALLY SPEAK. Versus the individuals on the severe end of the spectrum who cannot even voice their needs or interact with anything in the environment in a safe manner. Anyway, I hope this made sense.
Depends on where you are on the spectrum.
"Judgement free" says a girl judging you for being fit. She isn't willing to have a CONVERSATION. She wants to change your mind and get you to apologize for hurting her feelings when you didn't even know she existed.
being autistic has literally nothing to do with this situation, yet if i took a shot every time they brought it up i'd die of alcohol poisoning
New drinking game let’s go?
@@KazraptorEno thanks, I want to live 😂
Knuckles pfp!!!
The body positive trend was such a good idea in the beginning, and morphed into this fat positive and again into this fat is great trend and NO ONE can speak on it if ur under a certain size. As someone who is struggling with my weight and all the problems with it, I simply can't comprehend the disregard of ppls health from the fat positive community encouraging this!
And it seems like the “no one can speak on it if you’re under a certain size” just keeps getting bigger and bigger i am a xl size 14-16 and in their words I can’t speak on it because i am a “small fat” like please be serious
I hate so much, because the body positivity movement wasn't supposed to be about fat acceptance, it was about DISABLED people with noticeably physical differences, like people in wheelchairs, people missing limbs, people with those large birthmarks that I can't remember the name of, and so on. It was about treating people with respect no matter what they look like. The movement got coopted by literally the shittiest kind of people >:(
I’m 250, a 2X (18-20) I’m definitely fat but I’m still not fat enough for the fat positive movement even though I’m almost 300 fucking pounds. Still not fat enough. You have to be fucking immobile for them to even consider your opinion.
Body positivity is nice. Fat positivity is toxic. They co-opted body positivity is the problem. It was meant to be about all bodies, but especially disabled people who often feel broken or weird.
It's one of many avenues to bring people around to socialism and communism. Every movement that preaches playing the victim and we should be able to do what we want with no accountability or consequences, they all lead to the same thing. Once they go all cult-like and suck people in, then it rabbit holes into the idea of everyone having the same in life, whether they earn it or not. They don't share the many major negatives of socialism and communism, just the supposed benefits. There are several movements that have been hijacked and "rerouted".
Ironically, the body POSITIVE community have to be some of the most negative, narcissistic, and judgmental, people on the internet.
Edit: Yo cool to see a Star-san cameo!
Gym bros are more body positive than these ppl lmao
They truly are the most negative community!
💯
Successful mental self-isolation.
As a veteran with mental illnesses one of the most important things I’ve learned in life is that your triggers and behavior are your own responsibility at the end of the day no matter what.
thank u for ur service
Thanks for your service. I have PTSD from awful things that happened to me throughout my 20s and I too believe my triggers and struggles with them are a me problem that I have to manage and do not expect society to coddle me over it.
As a grown ass woman with autism, this is embarrassing 🙄
Why do we need to make our gender, sexual orientation, and diagnoses our identity?? Isn't the whole point supposed to be that we're *more* than those things?
The time in my life when I was the most outspoken about being LGBT+ was when I was deeply insecure about other parts of myself. Not saying this is the case for everyone, but policing other people & using your gender/orientation/medical diagnoses to prove you should be excluded from discourse around the content YOU yourSELF posted screams "I'm not okay with myself so I'm not okay with your criticism".
(from my own lived experience)
Sending internet hugs. Docs can't tell if I actually have it, or Asperger's or not, and feeling secondhand cringe and embarrassment.
@@antithoughtpolice7497 love to you my friend 💝
Lol and neurodiverse or not, I think most of us feel the cringe & secondhand embarrassment 🤣
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@@lexyjo agreed
thats me with lgbt, i see someone use their sexuality to escuse shit and omg its so annying
I love that you pulled out the Uno reverse card on her "anti-racist" bullshit and pointed out her hypocrisy
I ran the gambit between skinny-fat when I was younger, fat fat in my twenties and now the best shape of my life and working at a gym in my 30s.
The whole experience really just leaves me finding these body positivity people absolutely ridiculous.
Like, how are you being positive to your body when you're abusing it?
Being fat is also hard af. Everything hurts. Everything is a struggle when it shouldn't be
NEVER AGAIN😂😂
I'll take the pain of crossfit over the pain of being out of shape, overweight, and unhealthy any day
A very good question Sir!
I don’t know who Starsan is but I approve of her moment. She made me laugh with her humor and charisma. ✌🏻
I love Starsan, her humor, and her no-bullshit perspective. Definitely check her out!
As an autistic person, I think the main root of her issues is a lack of distress tolerance. Usually when people face distress and can't handle it properly, they'll get defensive and try to rationalize how said distress is caused by other people with ill intent instead of properly learning how to deal with triggers (not the internet slang, but rather an external stimuli that causes people to experience distress or become symptomatic depending on a condition). It's okay to be triggered and experience distress (everyone does to some extend over something), it's how we manage these things that matters the most. I hope her well, and if her claims of autism is legit (I say because unfortunately people do fake these things sometimes) then I'd recommend DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) which helped me out in recognizing that people making criticism that I don't understand aren't necessarily coming from a place of ill intent.
Admittedly I have trouble phrasing things properly, so I hope this made sense.
This is very insightful
Thank you for commenting. I have a sister who is autistic. How she reacted to Michelle felt very similar to how my sister would have reacted. Her “so you think I should kill myself,” comment was her feeling horrible about her inability to effectively communicate with others. She feels that way, and she feels that other people think that way towards her. Her “people are making fun of me because I’m autistic” comment; probably no one directly made fun of her for her autism, but she *feels* like people are making fun of her autistic quirks.
Ooh yes, DBT saved my life. Not exaggerating. I don’t have autism but I do have C-PTSD and I used to use food to cope. The hard part about having graduated DBT is seeing just how many people are clearly in need of the skills taught, especially when they attack and get defensive online, etc.
As an autistic person I don't claim people like her, people like her give autistics a bad name.
big agree with dbt, i have bpd and its helpful
As an autistic person myself, I feel like people like her make my life harder. By trying to pull the ‘tism card to deflect, it makes all autistic people look bad. It’s hard to be seen as more than a disability and it’s even harder to get out of that box when there are people like her making it their whole thing. People going “but I’m autistic” are the reason that I’m sometimes not taken seriously.
Wait, if her account has been private for six years, how did all your followers flood her page with hate? She's something. I'm very scared that this person is a social worker and helping others with mental health.
On the other hand, the intro was pure gold and I'll be watching this video again when my boyfriend is home so he can enjoy it too!
I was a bit horrified that she was a social worker, but do we know that's true? Someone who is so over-the-top dramatic and lies about trivial stuff...I take leave to doubt all sorts of things - her claimed career, her claimed autism. (I do believe she has genuine mental health issues - that is quite clear - I'm just inclined to believe she picked autism out of a hat and diagnosed herself with that because it's more trendy than whatever undiagnosed stuff is actually going on with her.)
Sadly this type of person is the current state of social work. It's why I never went clinical (my background is psychological anthropology), but the more I think about it, maybe the more I should have? Not sure. It's crazy out there.
@@tungstenwolfram1064 tends where you work too. My office the workers there were way more grounded in reality and we're pretty chill. Although, yes we also had a few outliers in the office. But I also got really lucky with my coworkers. So there is that too!
@@tungstenwolfram1064 Shudder. That is not what I wanted to hear...Sometimes I kinda want to turn in my human card and just go live on a planet somewhere full of sensible aliens, lol.
i mean regardless of, as how Michelle showed, she couldn't have the account private all the time, i do think she might have meant not people in the comments but people in DMs or DM requests telling her shit. I don't think she talking about receiving these insults must necessarily be lying, but i also think that this is a thing that does not depend on Michelle - she doesn't control unhinged people who could just want to shit on someone else on the internet (i think we all know that DMs are actually waaay worse than public comments in case of insults etc.). So yeah - maybe someone called her a fat wh0re or told her to kill herself. But that is not Michelle's fault.
It's funny because I got run off TikTok by the FA community...they decided that commenting on my appearance AND my autistic trans daughter because I DISAGREED with splotchmaker (politely) was the best thing to do. Bullying is ok if we aren't agreeing with them
sorry that happened to you! they just make no sense....
Wow, how Intersectional of them. Nothing says they're in a radical feminist movement like making ableist, transphobic attacks against a girl or mocking another woman's appearance. They love to play the victim so they justify being bullies to people who disagree with them, no matter how respectfully.
Oh that’s horrible. I’m so sorry your family had to endure that.
thats not cool at all, hope you and your daughter are doing well!
That’s tiktok in a whole for you. Without a doubt the most toxic app i feel so bad for all the young kids growing up with it
As a social worker, I would never call the people I work with "clients". They don't pay me, I have to help them even if I don't receive nothing from them.
Also, if you work with vulnerable people, you need to be stronger and lead them to better paths. No to indulge themselves in victimhood.
I’m autistic and I hate that it’s become “trendy” in this way. Thank you Michelle, for pointing out that it’s not a quirk because it definitely isn’t all fun and games.
Honestly I am high functioning and being autistic has/always will impact my life negatively in some way. I'm almost normal and I can't imagine the negative implications for other people on the spectrum.
My husband is Autistic and when I tell him about things like this he is like "wtf"
Me too. Most if us aren't gifted genius who only experience the most stereotypical symptoms (and not the debilitating ones like panic attacks or social isolation).
.I hide the fact that I'm autistic cause kids used to get bullied if others found out they were on the spectrum. These days, people have it on their profile and most are lying, in my opinion. It's just a trend at this point to be disordered in some way to feel special. Its stupid. It doesn't help I'm also schizoaffective and I've seen a handful of people lie about having that disorder too!! I hide everything in order to seem normal. Only two people that aren't my family know, and one of them is also autistic but has BPD. We struggle on a daily basis due to our mental illnesses. It's not fun at all. If I touch certain types of bendy rubber, I have to rub my hands on something I do like to touch to get rid of the last feeling. I do it until my hands go fucking raw cause i can still feel the last texture. It's not just "ewwy. I dont like this feeling" and be done with it. Its extremely uncomfortable and I get into a state of panic due to certain textures or noises. I wear earplugs most of the time cause I have really sensitive hearing. I hate people faking it just to use as a cloak to defend themselves from accountability of their words/actions. I'm sick of it.
I also hate that these things ie Autistic, depression etc are trendy in this way too. People that actually have this aren’t being taken seriously due to this
Saying she needs to private her account bc she’s a social worker implies she has info about her clients on her profile -which would be a huge violation of HIPAA (patient privacy protection)
Michelle, thank you thank you thank you. I am autistic (recently diagnosed). It is not fun, it is not cute, it is not quirky. It is sobbing and having a meltdown in the Las Vegas airport because you have to go through TSA. It is having to throw away clothes that you used to love because the feel of them now makes you want to vomit. Thank you for addressing this. It is not an excuse, it is not a privilege. It is a hurdle in life that many of us have to overcome in order to become stronger 💚💚 much love 6:22
My son is autistic and I work with autistic adults in college and girls definitely slip under the net a lot because we 'blend' better than boys into the social norm..now you know you can learn how to manage it better wishing you the best ❤😊
I argued with someone like this once and they legit said “how dare you argue with someone who has cancer” like wut? How does that have anything to do with our conversation?
STARSAN!!! How kind of her to gift you this Privilege. 💜🖤
That was such a hilarious cameo
The phrase " thin privilege " infuriates me. Being thin isn't a privilege granted to me. There are so many reasons why I'm not obese, even though I come from a family that struggles with obesity. I've made a conscious decision to take care of my body, because it's the only one I have. I have underlying health issues that make it difficult for me to exercise, but I *still* do what I can, with modified workouts. I eat real food. Yes, I let myself have the cake, but not every day, and I'm not going to apologize or feel shame for this.
Eating well and taking care of your body is a form of self-respect. The delusion within this movement is strong!
Love it when Michelle destroys body positivity with her most malicious weapon- Facts 🤣
The crossover we deserve
I will never understand when people get angry when people post and comment on their public posts.
They're public. On the Internet. You put it out there to be consumed and critiqued. That won't always be positive.
Especially when their brand is being fat but then they say people shouldn't comment about their fat brand? Like, I do not understand the game lmao
I'm an autistic woman and I roll my eyes when I see the victim complex either from neurotypical, autistic or whatever group it might me... Oh yes narcissism and victim personality exist in all groups including autistic communities and it's so tiring, these people will suck the life out of you if you go on and on and on, I mean I gotta agree great for Michelle content 😂👌 cuz we here for the dramaaaa
I love the poor me card Tiff threw and she has a lot of cards to throw apparently 😂😂😂😂
My mom used to call me the eye roll queen when I was a kid lol. We’re all autistic in my family, a few adhders too. My sis has an big victim complex and was gaslight constantly as a kid. Let me tell you this is an unpleasant mix for everyone involved, and the need to roll your eyes is ever present
When the body positive movement started I loved it because I have a visable physical disability; I'm missing the radius in both my arms. It helped a lot to me for gaining my confidence. It's anger inducing and depressing what it evolved to. It's a shame it became a fat acceptance movement and the ones who really need it are pushed to the sidelines.
I didn't even realize that... now THAT is the biggest shame in this whole BP thing honestly.. someone should create a movement with a different name for this ❤️ then you're not lumped in with the "bOdY PoSiTiViTy" (read: morbid obesity positivity) -movement.
A bunch of fat people, mostly fat middle-class white women, saw body positivity, demanded a seat at the table, and once they got it, they started dictating who could and couldn't be in it-- and surprise surprise, it happened to be the movement belonged to people who mostly looked like them.
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But it would need to have the word "disabled" or "disability" in the name, otherwise the jelly comunitty would take over it again
Being a part of a marginalized community does not give you automatic immunity from criticism. It really grinds my gears when people use mental health issues or physical health issues as a one up card when they are being criticized. If someone comes out and says terrible things to you just because they're mean, that's one thing, but people disagreeing with you or challenging your line of thought is not the same as a personal attack.
Being overweight isn't a person who is part of a marginalized community it's the consequences of lifestyle choices you don't have to be fat if you don't want to be
@@mauricehamilton4025 Yes but the people this video was talking about were inferring that being a part of a marginalized group should mean they be shielded from criticism.
It also really messes up the outside view of such marginalized communities. I have seizures and OCD, and there is already enough ill infomed people on those topics (I have simple seizures, and most people don't even know what those are). I don't need someone out here trying to pretend that it makes us immune or gives us this one up on people. It just hurts the people in apart of those marginalized communities, because people who aren't appart of these communities who see this kind of stuff will assume we are like this. That we feel entitled or that we have a better life then them.
@@TheLakeMorgan Agreed. The loudest one are usually the ones who get the most attention, unfortunately.
People... I'm trans... And I swear to everyone that not all of us are like that! I swear!!!
My sympathies, fellow commenter. I can’t abide militancy and unaccountability at all, no matter who’s guilty of it
We know bud, but it's pretty hard to remember to make the distinction when is these people who get a platform to spit their bullsh@t on. You hardly see any of the normal trans people making posts or talking about stuff in general. It's allways the crazy stereotypes talking for all.
Don’t worry bud. The actions of one does not determine how we should treat the whole group.
@yourmaevaa yes I second this statement!
I promise you not all of us believe that all trans people are like this! You’re okay!! And trans people who act like this just make it harder for trans people who are actually being discriminated against and harassed to be taken seriously.
Because then y’all get told you’re just a ‘snowflake’ and getting upset over nothing even though you have a valid reason to be upset and I apologize for that. But I believe you. I’m autistic and bisexual myself and I really hope people don’t assume or associate me with people who act like this either
HELL YEAH! The aerobics cosplay bit takes me BACK to being a small child in the early 90's and watching my mother work out to her Jane Fonda aerobics VHS tape, where all the women were dressed exactly like that! A+++ grade for this outfit and now I kinda wanna dress similarly for my next work out. 😆
And Susan Summers(or is it Sommers)
not fonda, but some of them other videos had suggestive moves as seen here
🎵“Let’s get physical, physical” 🎵
Haha we had a jane fonda tape
Girl this intro was everything. Flashed back to my mom's Kathy Smith tapes and how I'd do workouts with her as a little kid 😂 (mostly I'd dance, but workouts nonetheless)
KATHY SMITH LOL yes
😲 me too!!!!!😄 Except, it was Denise Austin for my mom.
Yep remember my moms work out videos. Spot on. 👍
Michelle not taking anyone's BS is honestly inspirational!
Imagine being THIS bothered by someone defending themselves. A hater will hate ALL THE WAY. That woman is obsessed with attention from you, but she also seems just to want attention. And I mean, ALL the attention.
She creates a public problem, and wants a special pass from any critique or criticism. Like SWEETY. SWEETHEART.
Don't start what you can't finish 🤷🏻♀️
What part of Michelle screams "I back down when people come at me sideways"
Fucking hilarious
Also, I LOVE YOU BOO. BEST MISTRESS OF THE CULT EVER!!!!! 😍😍😘💜💙💜💙💜💙 Any time you need fat bitch permission, I'm the fat bitch for you 💙💜
Hello Lady Starsan! 👋
Your little cameo was a very nice surprise to my morning.
Loved your part in this video and I also love your content on your channel 😻
I watched some of your vids some time ago on a queue, tiktok people 🤣 I remember saying to myself I'd have to find your channel.
Your cameo.🥰🧚🏽♀️
Just...amazing !! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
OMG IT'S STARSAN 😍
I love the fact that if you're not currently obese that means you have zero experience with the struggle 😑😑😑. "Don't judge! Don't assume things about my health! Don't talk about my body! All bodies are good bodies!" EXCEPT if you're recovering from BED or trying to find your own balance. This FA bunch is the most hypocritical group of people I've ever witnessed.
I think my final straw with the “body positivity” (I say it in quotes because the fat acceptance movement co-opted actual body positivity from disabled people/ burn victims/ people with severe acne/ etc etc) came at two points.
The first was when I had to put my kitty on a diet. He was gaining weight really rapidly and the vet said it may be because he’s a senior kitty now, and a diet may help him stay healthy and happy for longer. He had started to develop a lipoma too, and that was really scary, so, with the vet’s help, we created a food plan for him and, huzzah! He started slowly losing weight, his lipoma shrunk, and he is more energetic and vocal! The vet said he is on the path to a nice long, healthy life, and now we are working on incorporating more play-time into his schedule to get him more exercise. So, to do this, I started watching UA-cam videos and TikToks on helping cats play more and feline weight loss. It was then that I found fat acceptance tiktokers stitching videos saying we were “body shaming our pets” and that it was unfair to them…. Like what? My cat relies on me for his health, so it’s my responsibility as an owner to provide him what he needs to be healthy. It was just so bizarre, and when people called them out for it being a ridiculous point, they just buckled down and said we all were fatphobic and were hurting our animals. Like I promise you, my cat has no concept of “skinny” or “fat,” nor does he feel “shamed” by me switching his food. Stop projecting your insecurities onto a literal cat.
The second is a little more sad so quick TW for EDs. I’ve had anorexia for almost 7 years now. It goes back and forth, and about a year ago I had a really severe relapse. I want to clarify that I’m not thin. I’m 5 feet tall and about 150 pounds. I’m pretty muscular, but I’ve got a tummy. I wear a medium or a large, and I was bullied for my weight CONSTANTLY as a kid. And when I say bullied, I mean BULLIED (not just told I was overweight). During my relapse I found solace in other creators who posted about ED recovery and support. I began to post too, because those videos really helped me and I wanted to help others. I got a bit of engagement from a lot of people around my size who were also struggling, and we all tried to help each other in recovery. My illness got so bad I became severely I’ll and was getting injured constantly (sprains, fractures, etc from malnourishment), and that when I tried to find support in the body positivity movement, which had been helpful for me during past relapses. But the movement isn’t what it was 2 years ago. Suddenly, instead of seeing creators posting about appreciating your body for what it does for you and being kind to yourself, I was surrounded by people making incendiary posts about thin people. While I agree that being told to “eat a burger” is not the same as what many fat people go through, and that many people who try to compare thin struggles to fat struggles can come across as a bit insensitive, these posts weren’t educational about that, they were just mean. There were posts comparing fatphobia to literal assault and fat activists (usually white women) using black women as a shield for their arguments by saying “fatphobia is rooted in racism so if you are mean to me you are racist.” Like yes, fatphobia is rooted in racism, but not in that way, and don’t use that for your benefit. Also, using terms like “thin-tears” (a co-opted version of “white tears”) or “thinsplaining” (a co-opted version of mansplaining) put me off. But the final straw came when they had the nerve to say that having an ED was fatphobic. It’s just so insane. First off, binge eating disorder exists and is extremely painful and that statement just completely ignores it, fat people with restrictive eating disorders exist (hello!) and it is so dehumanizing to us, and eating disorders are not something you choose! I mean I already dealt with so much shame and embarrassment from my disease, so to hear that was just awful because, at the time, I was too impressionable to realize that this was just them projecting. I internalized that idea and thought that I was just some awful person for having this disease, and it made it worse and harder to talk about.
I still believe fat shaming is wrong, and I believe in what some fat activists preach, but I’m glad to have found nuance in channels like yours and Fundie Times. I think everyone deserves respect and I don’t believe in randomly getting in fat people’s business and giving health advice, but, like with everything, I think the fat acceptance movement desperately needs to find nuance and monitor the very harmful message it sometimes spreads.
Lol. Don't take it personally. They're trying to live a fantasy and they all think they're in a movie. I had a meth addiction that left me emaciated and they said my drug addiction was fat phobic.
I love how extra Michelle is 😂😂😂 she never disappoints
Omg all the autism excuses! My husband is autistic and he use to try and pull that. I shut that shit down fast. "Autism is an explanation, not an excuse."
Yea say that to someone who defines themselves that way they flip...idk why autism is even an excuse or a thing why not stand out instead of try victimize yourself...glad u stopped that tho it disables them instead if empowering imo especially on TT they attack ya
I honestly want this conversation to happen....just to see this girl crumble under actual facts
Am I the only one who desperately wants a full Michelle 80s style workout video? I would use the shit out of that!!
12/10 idea - would watch that content!
@@laurenfox1899 right?!?!
Yes!
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that girl is literally the icon of "you offended me over something dumb so I bring forth all my life long misfortune upon you cause internet taught me that that's how I win this argument I started and clearly can't defend in a normal way."
As an autistic individual I hate how people use the diagnosis as a weapon against those who disagree with them. It is a real struggle every day and incredibly exhausting sometimes but I NEVER think to use it to excuse words or actions. I mention I am autistic when it’s relatable but I still take accountability for my actions.
This! I don’t have autism but I do have mid-low functioning ADHD and get overstimulated easily and when I end up getting annoyed and say something I don’t mean, I ALWAYS apologize that I was being rude and will take accountability for what I did! Now, I did have a “friend” (in quotes because they ended up being crappy) who seemed to use her mental health as an a excuse. She repeatedly triggered my PNES seizures and cried that she was “stressed” when she had ditched me for other people and told me “we can’t always help you all the time” completely ignored my problems yet when ANOTHER “friend” had a problem she was right on it. These people have no accountability whatsoever and when I finally stood up for myself, I was the bad person even though I had just told the school’s administrators everything that had happened and how someone tried to fight me after sticking their nose in my business and calling me names for no reason. For context, I was in a wheelchair this whole time because I have problems walking large distances or my hips lock up because I had spinal fusion.
I agree with you on this 100% and I hated the fact that NONE of these people ever took accountability for their actions and would continue to bring negativity everywhere they went which almost brought me down but I caught myself and surrounded myself with better people. These people would deflect everything and always talked trash about people they didn’t even fully know or made up bull crap lies to keep me away from them. They took advantage of me and my vulnerability and I hate them for that.
Well that depends on what they disagree about like as autistics we have specific needs and most of the time allistic people disagree on our needs. But we have this needs and nothing can change it.
So yes using you autism in that case is actually a needed thing
So much using of the word needs 😂
Like I already hear somebody told me he disagree with my needs to no go out to often and I was like wtf 😂
So yeah depend on what people disagree, you also have to stand your ground in order not to get burn out because being burn out is like having a little death 😂
When someone flat out says "you can't change my mind, because I don't want to change it" there's not point talking to them anymore.
Absolutely loved the 80s style aerobics intro! 💜💜
The fact there’s SO many grown adults who act like this and don’t 1) see how embarrassing it is and 2) realize we can see everything they’re doing and LITERALLY SEE that it’s all bullshit 💀
It’s like watching a toddler in a store steal a candy and when you confront them they just start screaming and crying….
And imagine if they actually were a case worker? I'm sorry, but being a social worker is a really hard job and I know I couldn't do it, but the last person I would want is someone like this person who switches to victim mode. How can she really serve the needs of her community if she's this quick to pull the victim route like this?
am i trans? yes! am i fat? also yes! do i make excuses, especially ones that link the two? no! it's not that hard to use the "trans" thing as a blanket of protection. gender and body size don't have much to do with each other
Why trans and fat are always linked together lately 😂
A fragile mind will interpret everything as damage, even innocuous things. A lot of people on the internet, especially armchair activists are glass cannons, quick to dole out criticism, but are utterly incapable of receiving it. I agree with you, she seems unwell and might need a break from the internet to recollect herself.
A way I had a psych Dr explain it, is when you have trauma, it's like having a really bad sunburn. When someone gives you a tap on your arm, it feels like a slap, until you heal your sunburn
Diabetes runs in my family, and before I just kinda accepted that if I get it, I get it. But since I started watching your videos I've really gotten motivated to change. I've started going to the gym at my work and eating a lot better. Videos like this are great to watch/listen to while I work out lol, and I've definitely noticed a change in me. Thank you 🥰
that's fantastic! keep up the good work!
That's great! Good for you!
Same situation here. Been eating healthy, consuming less sugar and going to the gym almost everyday of the week and the workouts may be hard but I’ve never felt better if that makes sense haha.
it runs in my family my dad died a year ago from it. I'm go I Going to the gym four days a week know feeling better.
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@@heidiburns3939 I'm so sorry for your loss. Your dad would be proud of you 💜
At least she was honest with something when she wrote, “I’m trying to MAKE people think differently”
Yep, she sure is and that’s part of the problem
Starsan X Michelle the crossover we didn’t ask for but desperately needed
As an autistic nonbinary person, people who say “you can’t talk about this because you’re not XYZ” annoy me so much. Imo everyone should be allowed to have an opinion on anything. While personal experience should hold some weight (no pun intended), it’s only one small factor. Being able to properly research, think critically, and present your findings is WAY more important, because no single person has enough personal insight to speak for an entire community.
I was gonna say that “no one would tell a doctor that they can’t diagnose them with an illness because they themselves don’t have it,” but then I remembered that’s exactly what so many of these HAES people do. It’s wack
There is nothing like nonbinary. You people need to chill with that nonsense.
Not everyone needs to have an opinion on everything. Let's normalize minding our business and simply not giving a fuck.
@@retiredreligion they don’t need to, but have every right to an opinion. 🤷 not giving a fuck leads to things like childhood obesity with kids developing diabetes in their early stage in life.
@@wake5307 No it's doesn't 🤣. What in the actual fuck are you talking about? You seem confused.
To be honest, I don't understand nonbinary, but it's important to not thought police people. I have no platform to say non-binary isn't a thing, I just don't get it. I can and should never be able to control that about anyone non-binary, and it's vice versa.
Michelle comes with knowledge, receipts, experience & pettiness. I’m here for all of it👏🏼
As a fat (read obese) guy I also give Michelle my fat pass as backup to talk about whatever the eff she wants (not that she wouldn't anyway, but that's why we love her) ❤️
It would be hilarious to start a campaign where all of Michelle's fat or fluffy audience send in a "fat pass" along with their photo, so she can "turn one in" every fat chick video. The screeching on fat tok would be awesome.
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Hey, Tiffany, as a previously obese to overweight now person, let me tell you what I say to my 3 kids. Nobody is going to cater to you. If you have a problem, fix it yourself. Don’t you expect people to change themselves for you. You ain’t a victim, you haven’t been assaulted. Figure yourself out and love yourself. Once you do that, you’ll be better for it.
“We reaching! We reaching today!”
Girl, you petty as *shit* and I’m 100% here for it 😂.
(You keep doing you. The rationale world hears your message and loves it)
Just gotta admire how buff Michelle is, I wish I have her physique!
Same!
She's definitely an inspiration!
Them saying you can't speak on obesity is like people telling me I can't speak on the 13 years I spent with ana. bc I have since over come it and gained weight.
That was my reality for nearly half my life. I can speak on whatever I want 🗣
Fake victims cannot make a logical argument - they just spout random sob stories that are totally disconnected. Thanks for presenting a clear, experience-based and positive perspective that any open-minded person can understand.
Michelle I’m babysitting my gramma’s bird for a couple weeks and the little beb absolutely LOVES your voice! Every time I play one of your videos she just starts chirping away she’s so happy ❤️
Love to see a self proclaimed mental health advocate saying her profile has been private for years, instead of just admitting that she needed to private her account for her mental health. That's definitely something someone who cares about reducing a mental health stigma would do.
WHY is this intro so epic and perfect?! LOVE all of those puns, the quick cuts , the legwarmers! Yes to everything that just happened in front of my face.
I never understood the need for the “acceptance” cults. I’m Latina and bisexual. I am neither part of the LGBT or Latinx community. When I meet someone new I tell them my name, my interest, and my hobbies. Being Latina and bisexual is who I am but it’s not what I am. I don’t need acceptance I need freedom to be what I want to be and that’s one thing the US already grants us all. Tired of these victim games. It’s a sad Olympics with no winners and losing spectators.
Gods I hate the Latinx community. If they tried to correct me in using their term I'm going to use violence. If they call me Latinx (I'm Hispanic) I'm using violence. I'd rather be called a 'spic than *that term*
As a big person there's a part of me that wishes there was a movement called respect at any size. It's not really about "acceptance" it's about being respected. Things have gotten person but people used to treat big people horribly. I would go for a walk and people would honk and call me fatty telling me to go to mcds. People are nasty and i wish there was more respect out there.
i feel this 100%. im a lesbian and i am not a part of the LGBT community. ive seen my uni offer roles to LGBT as a priority and it makes me angry. since when did me liking other girls affect my uniwork? no one even knows im lesbian… safe to say that i stay away from people trying to give me handouts and put in the WORK i pay for at university.
I’m sorry you’ve been treated that way kitty. Unfortunately I’ve been disrespected on the grounds of being Latina before myself. Things like that used to effect me, but I’ve come to learn that most of the people who treat others with hostility and insults due to their weight, sex, race, etc do it from a stance of ignorance. I refuse to feed into their stereotypes by killing them with kindness.
It’s not easy to control your emotions when being offended since it’s not something we are usually taught and requires to be practiced, but it’s so practical and necessary to live a happier life. We can’t force people to accept us, but we can learn to control our emotions and mentality.
Unfortunately a lot of the times it requires being the bigger person and it’s usually so much easier to that an insult to heart.
Hope you can find peace soon.
I completely agree with you Roxanne. It almost feels like they are implying something by offering those type of handouts.
I’m in the tech field and had scholarships offered to me simply for being a girl in tech. I understand that the tech field is majority male, but to me that implies that I’m not as good as my male counter parts and need handouts to achieve what they can do on their own.
It also seems unfair to the people who actually put in the hard work and time. The focus of scholarships should be based on merit.
I'm autistic and the amount of ppl running around screeching "autistic defense" for being called out for behaviors and comments has reach peak insanity levels.
As someone who struggles with weight maintenance and has to work hard to be healthy, I appreciate your videos. I literately yes literally lol or as my generation says laugh out loud every video! Keep up the great work!
Actually spat my drink out with laughter when some one wrote "go take several seats."
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I laughed out loud (boomer speak) at that quip, too.
She kept bringing up the autism thing, though, and it was driving me insane. I have a sibling who is autistic, and was recently told I fall on the spectrum, so her behavior was massively insulting to me. SHE brought it up. SHE drove the focus of the conversation. SHE needs THERAPY.
I have also been told to unalive myself on social media (being careful so my comment doesn't get censored). I boycotted social media for almost a month because it upset me so much. That could just be how I choose to handle it, but taking a break from social media when things get toxic is a healthy way to handle things. I stress social media, because in order to do my job and go to university, I have to go on the Internet. However, I have this ability to hyper focus (I guess that comes with being neurodivergent/autistic?), and if I have decided that social media is not going to be my focus, it tends to get ignored.
I'm sorry someone said that to you. Good luck with the uni work!
Wouldn't they catch on to this and censor 'unalive' as well?
@@Anonymous-df8it You would think so, but weirdly enough, no. The sensors haven't caught on, yet.
@@duckiekraft6893 Let's see if the sensors even work for 'suicide'. This is me testing it out.
So glad you’re talking about this. As someone who is currently going on a weight loss journey, it’s absolutely RIDICULOUS that this “movement” is trying to tell people that obesity is fine.
It’s like a doctor gaslighting you into thinking poison is cough syrup.
You talking about codein Cough syrup? 😂
True love for yourself is making sure your loved ones don’t bury you too soon. Most of these body positive community people are just plain old selfish!
I am a mother of a little one who is autistic… and it really makes me angry when I see these people use these terms in their bios as a blanket of protection and brownie points like you said. I know a few, and they’re all similar. Considering how hard and daunting it is to get a diagnosis in my Province for children and adults, these people seem to have got these diagnosis’s pretty easily 🙃
If my autistic cousin did something bad, either a cringey opinion, entitled behavior, or as big as a crime, they should get as much criticism/consequence as a nonautistic person gets. The condition explains it, it doesnt excuse it. If other autistic people refrained from doing something dumb or illegal, than one autistic person can be a decent person as well. No one is immune from criticis, even God is criticized.
5:55 "its disgusting that your actively harassing a trans person" sounds like something id say to my friends as a joke/sarcastically when were messing with eachother 💀like its crazy that this person is actually using that as an excuse wtf lol
Her matrix line doesn't even make sense because you have to take the "red pill" which means accepting the truth, even if you don't like it. She would be the one stuck in the matrix if we really went with this line of thinking.
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While I do agree that there are many elements of diet culture that are a problem, i.e. the idea of "spot reducing", the idea that everyone should have the exact same body, the idea that people have to give up there cultural foods in order to lose weight (none of which are true) it doesn't negate the fact that at a certain point, our weight can most definitely negatively impact our health and sometimes weight loss and making adjustments to our diet will significantly improve our daily lives
i’m obsessed w you!!! New subscriber - i lost 80lbs in 1 year, used to be part of the movement & thanks to content like yours i am very inspired to continue my journey to a longer and happier life!
I swear this has to be an archetype on the internet because I dealt with someone EXACTLY like this (hiding behind their sexuality and mental illnesses) to chronically lie about me because I disagreed with them over a freaking video game character, like how are people like this real??? How do they function in actual society???
As a professional social worker, I’m horrified that she’s a social worker. People pay to place their mental vulnerability in her hands and this is the shit she does? Oh dear god.
She needs her license revoked
Goddamn that opening sketch was too authentic. You absolutely rock the 80s 30 min workout tape aesthetic 🥺
Thanks Michelle. I'm down 75lbs. Thanks you for making your content. It opened my eyes. Still got about 50lbs to go but I'm feeling good. You made me realize I can change into a healthy body if I tried and did not give up.
This video was one of your best yet IMO. The intro, the cameo by Starsan, the mention of Cynical Dude, and not taking shit from some wannabe victim! Keep doing what you do.
Michelle, I truly look up to you..
You're gorgeous, strong, super fit, confident and so refreshingly open about your own opinions without putting down others, you're so mature and I wish i could be able to deal with situations like you do, maybe one day when i grow up more! ❤
Lots of love to you Michelle, thank you for being our laugh, motivation and refreshment!
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These people act all tough and stuff when they have power or people on their side, but as soon as that power is taken away they freak out and try anything to make themselves the victim. It’s like a dog being backed into a corner. All they can do is bark back but there’s not much else they can do. I strive to not have as much of a victim complex as these people
Im so glad you're talking about people weaponizing their mental illnesses. I have manyyy yet I never talk about them because it's not my entire identity. I have struggled for decades and have symptoms 24 7 but I'm not my diagnosis!
It's wild, I've been thinking about this on dating apps this week, 2 separate people asked me about mental illnesses I have to see if we share them like I don't know your hometown or how many siblings you have but I guess we can talk about psychiatric hospitals now...? I am all for normalizing talking about it, but wearing your pain on your sleeve is risky and odd
@@arctic_desert that's so bizarre! I wonder if people's personalities have become so flattened that they're clinging to labels to give them a sense of self. I'm technically bi but I never talk about that either, and I see the same thing with those labels. Everyone needs to get offline and get some life experience.
It kinda sucks though because it’s those people that end up making those suffering not wanting to talk about it at all because they don’t want to be associated with them or labeled the same
@@CaulkMongler I'm dragging my feet getting a new psychiatrist because I feel like she won't even believe me, after everyone coming in diagnosed on tik tok lol.
It's not these people's race, gender, sexual orientation, national origin that is made fun of, it is their complete lack of common sense and inability to hear a differing point of view. People like that are always victims. They aren't comfortable unless they can claim some sort of persecution on the daily. Great content