Philosophy for Breakups | BUDDHISM
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- Опубліковано 23 вер 2020
- That breakups can be horrifyingly painful isn’t a secret to people who have gone through one. The amount of suffering some people experience after a breakup is a symptom that something about this situation isn’t quite right.
From a Buddhist point of view, the breakup itself isn’t the problem, because losing the people that we meet in our lifetime is a natural thing, as it’s part of the ways of an impermanent universe. The problem lies in the way we approach the idea of love, which is mainly characterized by desire and attachment.
But true love, in the Buddhist sense, has very little to do with attachment and desire. Love shouldn’t hurt. Instead, it should be a blissful experience that benefits all people involved.
When we suffer from a breakup there’s been too much attachment involved, to a point that we began to feel dependent on the person we’re connected with, thinking that we need this person to be happy. So, to some extent, we can compare ourselves with addicts who are separated from their drugs.
But, there’s hope. We can build attachments, but we can free ourselves from them as well. Freedom from attachment, and certain desires, lies at the heart of the Buddhist path, which aims for enlightenment from the suffering of life.
This video explores Buddhist teachings that can help us cope with and prevent a painful breakup.
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"...we don't even want this person, but simply want to be free of pain."
You need to watch the videos of eckhurt tolle
there is a lot of truth in that statement holy crap
Ashwajeet Rajpal can you recommend any in particular? For the situation.
@@blueberrydiw8340 eckhurt tolle end of suffering
Ashwajeet Rajpal thank you 😊
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”
― Mark Twain
Thanks for posting this.
So true, 🙌🏽🙌🏽
How true, although it does not quite apply here.
So don’t simp, then?
@@wreckniklewaylon8033 Yes, do not simp.
“It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone… but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.”
--Kahlil Gibran
Thats beautiful poetic but too painful. Many suffer so long because of a lost love...
Nah
Sir i didn't even forget the people i have met.. And why do we need to forget them i mean you are not a computer to erase someone... Past is just memories so why stress on that.
@@bullfitness5398
It's funny in some way, bc you are basically saying the same thing:
" But it takes a lifetime to forget someone"
In other words, he can't and he won't until his life is over.. 😉👋
Wauw FANTASTICO🙂
"Real love is wishing for someone to be happy.
Fake love is wishing for someone to make us happy." 7:25
- Wisdom
@sasholsuma I'm not so sure. Isn't wisdom gained by thinking about everybody else apart from yourself? You're only free, ironically, when you leave this strange conception of the self at the door and let unconditional love in. The wisdom you talk of seems to be a pathway to useful aphorisms, based on inculcated notions of "free will" (not inculcated? How else do you come to know, nevermind believe, in such conceptions?) that will help one negotiate conventional notions of "proper conduct" with much more flexibility. Much, much healthier than reproducing any kind of dogma but still based upon you, as some sort of independent thinker, distinct from other primary minds. That's not wisdom, my friend.
@sasholsuma Wisdom is being able to observe the world as it is. A wisdom is an observation about life.
Love is also suffering
And here I am wishing for someone to be happy and wishing also to be made happy by someone. Confused pickatchu.
"You only lose what you cling to"
"Be Open to everything but attached to nothing"
Buddha
What if the 'ability' to be 'attached' or not was instead a function of that particular individual at an unseen / undiscovered level? Akin to a top professional athlete saying "all you have to do is just run really fast". Loser? All you have to do is stop being one - just follow JP. All you have to do is be more compassionate; less compassionate; and so on and so forth. What makes people so sure 'they' have a 'will' at all?
@@jasonsimpson1609 Impermanence, my friend.
While you may cling on to as many objects or people or even be a top athlete, nothing lasts & nothing is permanent.
"Attachment is the cause of all suffering"- Buddha
You completely avoided the question and just repeated yourself. What makes 'you' so sure 'you' exist and have a 'will'? Ie the ability to cling or not in the way you say in the first place. What are you basing that on?
@@jasonsimpson1609 True, I don't exist & maybe some reincarnate ghost is responding to your quips
"What makes you think that I am a human ?" What is my existence, do I even have one?"
Do I have a will?
That's right, nothing, you're basing it on temperament..........
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu
Question Everything - Thought Provoking Ideas how many comments do you usually make on every video?
I agree. @question everything
@CosmoPolite that is so true 👍
Same with women
@@adityajassal6630 Just curious but, why are you asking? I thought they were good comments.
peej m I don’t know I see this channel everywhere and I guess I was a bit curious myself
Realise that some love affairs are meant to confuse us, break us, improve us. Being dumped by the person you love the most might just be your greatest chance of becoming a better person. Such a profound and painful loss might even lead to our ultimate salvation. Let go of grief and feel the energy, then start to love all the good and the bad life throws at you. Most importantly: Love yourself even more profoundly than your ex once loved you while all was well.
This right here was beautiful and exactly how i feel about my last breakup. It's like i opened my eyes and felt like a completely improved person. Yeah the pain is still there but for some reason I'm even happy about it because one door closed but so many more opened up, i simply had to pick up my head and look & wouldn't have done it any other way.
And you don't miss the person? I'm having a hard time after my breakup because I miss them. I miss laughing with them, watching our favorite shows, eating our favorite meals together. I miss my companion. I never needed them to be happy. I also have great friends and family I spend time with. But I deeply miss the fun I had with my ex significant other. I miss my best friend. That is something that really bothers me. Yes I can live without them, I do love myself and am improving on myself everyday. But i have moments where I guess my grief is missing them. Missing the happiness I had with them because it doesn't compare to the samw happiness I have with anyone else. I do love myself but their companionship really brought me joy. I guess I simply have to learn to understand that that was a moment in time and that time is over. How do I stop missing them?
@@elmembrenoid Sometimes you don’t stop missing them . But you learn how to carry that loss more gently as time moves on.
What about the pain? The pain of losing the person?
@@going-mute You didn't loose them, you returned them. I think be grateful for the good times you had, but make sure to remember the bad aspects so you don't look on the past with rose tinted glasses.
The pain will be there and diminish. I still feel the scar from my last one, but I also know I would not have grown into the person I am now without that injury.
Don't be scared to feel hurt, don't be scared to be sad, pain is a blessing that forces you to change and level up, use your situation to better yourself even if it crumbles you at first
You never stop loving someone
You just learn to live without them
It is so true man
6:47
When a 9 year relationship I had broke up , I was so unhappy and moved out of town. Three ,months later he was over it, and a year later he was married, even though he said he didn't want that.... I was in the tunnel until someone said, "You were his interim angel." That allowed me to still love him but from a distance. That was 2011 and I still say good night to him every night.
@@grey1hound
That is so beautiful dear.
You have a precious heart and a generous soul.
@@lamaelcharif1523 Thank you for your reply... It seems that we are all learning to love from a deeper place in our hearts that we never knew existed!
My relationship of 2 years just ended today. It's my first proper relationship and It really hurts... it hurts so much... But there's nothing i can do about it. I wasn't the one she was searching for. I am not good enough. I am filled with regrets of the things we promised but will never be able to achieved together. I am really sad and broken. Facing a breakup with quarter-life crisis at the same time... its really tough...
thank you for reading my comment and i hope you will eventually be free and find your happiness.
Currently going through the same thing. It sucks that the promises and dreams will only remain as words uttered to the wind. I hope you are doing better now. Keep your head up man. Better days to come.
Don't say that you are not good enough. I know the pain of the first serious breakup, but you should always put yourself first and foremost. The only thing that should matter is whether you are enough for yourself, don't put yourself down for someone who doesn't want to be with you.
Damn! Same here brother! How are you now?
I hope by now (April 29th 2021) you’re feeling much better o even better. You’re completely healed!
What a surprise. I am also at quarter life crisis and are going rhrough a breakup of a 2 years + relationship.
"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things." - Albert Einstein
It is always the attachment to the impermanent that causes the suffering...
Delusion/Ignorance is the cause of seeing reliable sweetness and ease in things that are actually uncertain stressful and dis-ease. When we see things as they really are, unreliable unsatisfactory and impersonal, We turn away from the causes of suffering.
We learn to enjoy a feeling, so much so we get over attached. Humanity needs to learn to ok on our own as individuals. True happiness comes from ourselves, not others.
Time-Tested Self-Improvement Principles > It is just attachment that causes suffering. You don’t need the qualification about attachment to the impermanent because everything is impermanent.
Ikr..
Build a loving relationship with yourself and you'll truly be able to love another
YEP TOTALLY RIGHT.....THANKS FOR YOUR GOOD INSIGHT🙂👍❤!!
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I'm on a buddhist path and also gained a shit ton of muscle living like a monk, hitting the gym and eating well. Put the pain to good use.
Great!
Keep at it!
I am on a buddhist path too!! It is so painful going through a breakup.
f!@k relations, solitude rules.
Same here
Learning to let go can save us a lifetime of suffering.
🔥🤘🔥🤘
Letting go of the past also allows new things to form in its place.
Hey I'm Sam. Nice to meet you. 😁
@@Sam-fp1cd did you just hit on the girl
The best way to be happy and complete with someone, is to be alone.
i dont know if you refer to the complete lonliness, i just know that the lonlines is a worldwide problem, and the most part of people who spend so much time alone have depression and more likely to get a disease . there are a lot of studies which prove this.
@@octavioenriqueromerocorona1997 you said right, "the most part of people". I am the minority, I get sick with others, therefore, this is for me and it's my thoughts plus my unique life-style...
But I agree that the majority that suffer with loneliness and depression should seek help and it is not this case of mine.
(45 likes? Why? 🤷🏻♀️ Coming here since a long time because of a comment... My UA-cam never notifies me of anything else)
@@schrodingersdino It depends of the case but the human is made to be a social being. Maybe today aren't feeling alone,but you don't know in the future it happened to me. Since I opened my mind and I left to be shy, I'm feel better than I was alone, and I was alone I feel good, but it was because I spent so much time with shitty people. Maybe it isn't your case,
@@schrodingersdino its likely that you have Schizoid personality disaster
@@octavioenriqueromerocorona1997 yes, not my case. I worked in clubs for a long time, at airport as interpreter, as pianist for decades and graphic designer for 11 years, restaurants, bars, and I am very open minded and easy going abt speaking to others and even strangers use to come to me abt doubts, questions, information or even a simple complaint.
At the end, being alone, it was and it is always my desire, my all. Nor even relationships I had made me change my mind. I love being alone, it is not loneliness for me, it is solitude. And I was alone my whole life, in everything, and I want to die alone too, maybe in the sea, maybe on a mountain, maybe in a tsunami to take me away very very far and never bring me back to this so called "civilization".
So, this "schizoid personality disorder" must be in me. I didn't know it until you tell me, and it explain a lot and made my life easier now without explaining why I love being alone. I'll just say that!
Thanks for this info ☺️
Einzelganger is now a relationship coach, applying that 2500 yrs old wisdom for therapy lol
Einzelgaenger is a Shill : selling you a narrative for rape and death roll over cult culture for the "golden ages"
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as far as love is concerned :
reclaim your Giulio/Giulia, reclaim the *Scapegoat* or be lost in fake is.Rael and love is not pretending. (to deep for most)
@@citaprevia9833 I mean, what?
@@MrCokoRock You tell me...
@@citaprevia9833 Step away from the keyboard. Breathe...
@ if your ego dies thats when freedom occur.. i guess you need to work for it than making mumbo jumbo..
my girlfriend has just dumped me and she has treated me badly and unfairly. this video came at the right time. thank you so much.
She has done you a favour, you are free now.
You deserve better! Keep your head up and make sure u keep bad people out of ur life.
@@gabrielgarcia7554 at first it was so hard to accept, but then I realized that it's probably the best decision for both of us. thank you for you support
@@LLLadySSS Thank you :( I'll be more selective in choosing my significant other
Me to man me to
Your breakup videos are helping me a lot, thank you so much
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Even though heartbreak is universal, it is truly one's own lonely journey of pain.....I've been there
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"Attachment is forbidden. Possession is forbidden. Compassion is the true way of the Jedi.'
- Yoda
If you forbid you contain desire, therefore it grows stronger. No. Buddha tried everything (pleasures) in life before becoming enlightened. Let it be a choice, of consciousness. Less of a rule, more of self observation
Last night and this morning I was in some deep meditation. I have numerous tension and knots in my gut and I came to the realization that I had not truly healed from any past relationships. Every time I focused on a knot, it released memories and emotions from a specific relationship and the knot slowly let go. This video couldn't have come at a better time as I continue healing. Thank you brother.
I've been a Buddhist for almost 35 years.
Still hurts to the bone though when a *special* relationship goes awry, no matter how much meditating and chanting you do.
It's not the chanting and meditating... it's the idea buddhism gives you about life. Everything happens for a reason and that happens according to the karmic power you bring in with you.. So, don't just do meditation to get away with pain.. understand the lessons you learn from the philosophy. I recommend you to read Achan Cha Brahma Thero's books.. you will understand it.
Try vipassana
Sorry to say but you need to strengthen your practice. Buddhism is a strong fortitude!
That because you are still attaching to the person to love you back. Even if you are Buddhist for a thousand years if you practice incorrectly you will be still suffering.
you are sincere and authentic. i love you. i love truth. most people are afraid to FEEL. 🌄
"Chances are that we don't even want this person, we simply want to be free from pain". Exactly how I feel about my current relationship. All he does is lie and then when I expose him he love bombs me. I see through it now and I'm tired of repeating the cycle. I'm trying to find my own place, but trying to break up with someone you LIVE with is extremely hard. I wish I had never moved in with him. I feel trapped now.
You can do it! The right choices for ourselves are usually the hardest ones. You just need to take that leap and commit to changing your life for the better. It will definitely be hard and a lot of things in your life will have to change, but if you don't, you will constantly wonder "what if". Commit to creating the best reality for yourself!
Omg.. literally going through this now. How are you now?
mindfulness is freedom. i have never felt better leaving a 4 year situationship. whatever you want from them you can obtain for yourself 💗
Wow. We don't even want this person but wants to be free from pain. Enlighting. Thank you.
People seek happiness outside and that's the problem. You always gonna feel pain and disappointment until you realize that happiness lives within you not in others
Self love is everything ♥️ this what i understood from my life never ever give someone the place where you will loose yourself
True
@@sayleenikam7428 😄😄😄
Unconditional love is an almost unattainable goal for most humans in today's age. Their mind is way too fragmented and wounded. Even many spiritual leaders can't practice it all the time. A better negociation of the relationship terms/boundaries, coupled with self-inquiry before, during and after the relationship, is a more reasonable goal for most humans today.
Even so, the strive itself is a good thing. Also I wouldn't blame it on a wounded mind, you wouldn't exactly call the idea of monogamy a wound and yet it's the most common condition in any relationship. So common, it's not even spoken of but simply presumed. The problem I'd say originates from being brought up in a world where most things and most people that one comes in contact with, teach you in one form or another to first and foremost or pretty much always even, look outwards rather than inwards. Or simply put, the focus is placed almost exclusively on the world without rather than the world within. It is a feeling that everyone ultimately is after, whatever the attainment desired, it is desired for one knows, consciously or not, that with it there will come a feeling, a feeling that can not seem to be produced is it not for the outside attainment, whatever that may be.
And the trick, if we're to call it that, is in the realization that feelings are the product of thoughts and that thoughts don't really have to reflect the world without. To have one's thoughts be a product of reality is to be reactionary. It is to be the effect rather than the cause, for the only way to be the cause is to think deliberately in accordance with how you want to feel.
And one can really only think in 2 ways - positive or negative.
We are what we think and we feel what we think and through the law of attraction, everything else is a result of that in one way or another. But that makes little sense to a mind so habitually focused on the outside. A mind like that, if presented with the question of "what does it want" would much more often than not, point to something outside. When ultimately, what everyone wants... is happiness. And we think... what better way to attain that than getting together with this person over there which we're so attracted to. And then the person goes away and we don't even know what to think anymore. As reluctant as we might be to admit it, things do tend to come and go and so do people. Everything seems to be transitional and the only thing that can truly be ours... is our thoughts. Oneself is what one is stuck with for the rest of their life and so one better find a way to first and foremost build a good relationship with themselves. It's not that Buddhism is against romantic relationships, the point is however that one enters such not to fuel their happiness but merely to compliment it which brings us right back to the question of unconditional happiness and what the hell is even that. Can one truly be unconditionally happy? The point isn't so much in being happy even at the face of great misfortune but rather to realize that one's happiness should not be based on the external for it is the external that one can never have control over and if one has no control over this which they base their happiness on, then that happiness is anything but unconditional.
This all might come across as rather mystical but it's very simple for the world within is the world of thought. And thought isn't just a voice in one's head, it's the pictures too, it's the visualizations, it's the daydreams...
The world within is where one lives first and foremost, the world without is but a reflection of it - as inside so outside.
"But before the mind can create the world - the world creates the mind." A mind always operating from the basis of memory is a mind looking backwards while hoping to go forward. This isn't saying "forget that the stove is hot and touch it again", the past has value for its lessons, but it should not be what one identifies with. And so to think and therefore always choose based on past experiences is to create a future based on the past. That is how nothing ever changes. If the answers were in the past, we'd have seen them. To create the dream future one has to... well, dream it first. This is called "future oriented thinking". This is what visualization is all about, but most of us were taught to be realistic and so we wouldn't allow ourselves to dream big, we dream only as far as our past allows us to, which often isn't much. But thoughts turn to things and the mind was creating the world all along, the problem is it was creating it by default, based on what reality suggested to be possible. This is important for deliberate thinking is deliberate creation. A positive mind will mostly produce positive results, and this if truly realized is suppose to take one's attention off the past and ease their worry of the future, in affect less and less hijacking their focus from the present. Because it is in the present that one lives. This seems to be the most difficult truth to understand. It isn't to say that one's goal is unimportant, quite the opposite - it's vital for without a distant destination, a vision of a desired future, one would not begin the journey at all. Everyone needs a distant goal towards which to strive but in traveling towards it one should keep in mind that as sure as much as the destination already reached and left behind, the purpose of it is not so much a resting place but rather the reason for the trip. "Where a person goes is not nearly as important as how he gets there. That a house is built is not important, it’s the manner in which it’s built that makes it great, poor or average. That we live is not nearly as important as the manner in which we live. I think it’s in misunderstanding this that often keeps people in a state of unhappiness and anxiety. They forget what they’re really looking for or what they should be looking for - the discovery of themselves." But this sounds so foreign already. What the hell does it even mean to discover oneself? Most people, if they're to associate it with anything at all, do so in the way of thinking that they have to someway somehow find a way to be deemed worthy, but that is yet another external attainment. The discovery of oneself has nothing to do with others. The discovery of oneself is self-sufficiency of being. To be ok with oneself, as they are where they are. Because the only difference between loneliness and solitude... is in one's head. The realization that life is ultimately a game and that by design, games were meant to be fun. And that as Allan Watts once said "the only thing that can be bad is to take it seriously", for when you take a game seriously, you take the fun out of it. And life was meant to be fun. It is reality that taught us how to complicate it. The basis of one's life is freedom. The purpose of one's life is happiness and the result of life is growth. So one needs to free their mind, for external freedom can never be achieved unless internal such is present first. "Whatever it is you’re looking for must first be found within yourself, whether it be peace, happiness, riches or great accomplishments. Everything we do outwardly is only an expression of what we are inwardly. To ask for anything else is as absurd as looking for apples on an oak tree."
As dissatisfying as it may sound, one is either happy right now, or they aren't, period. The past is not to be blamed and the future is yet to be created. And one's past was once their future and so the only difference between yesterday and tomorrow... is today. The only difference between the past and the future... is in the now. What are you thinking right now? And more importantly, how is it making you feel?
@@sterix_gg we all agree on what you're saying but it's really hard to apply since as human beings we often lie to ourselves and end up living in a negative way cause we cannot control all things you stated , perfection is possible but it's really hard to accomplish
True. We will be applying these teachings and advice throughout our lives, but our romantic experiences won't simply end from day to night and we'll have to manage them.
This one is a keeper. Buddhism became part of my life after an addictive destructive relationship...among my sobriety it means so much to me.
Your channel speaks directly to my soul ever since I discovered it. Best channel for my personal well-being. This video speaks to me at the right moment as I am almost through a deep heartbreak and needed to hear every word. Thank you and may you receive many blessings. ♥♥♥
Thanks, and best wishes!
It's all an illusion.
Especially your love life.
But what a beautiful illusion it is😊
I'm really moved by this because I experienced something similar the day before yesterday. Me and my boyfriend broke up in February, no contact since then for my choice. Yesterday I saw a friend we still share and she told me that he always asks her how I am, to which I answered "I'm glad he's fine, I wish him all the good in this world" and I teared up a little bit. In that moment I realised I've finally forgiven him and I can move on. And also that my feelings for him were true. It's been so heart wrenching yet powerful. Now I'm free.
(Thank you for your amazing contents Einzelgänger, by the way! I love your channel).
If we broke up and decided not to talk anymore in order to respect our boundaries and move on I don't see what's the abuse here.
You've got no idea how right in time your are. Be blessed.
The one who broke my heart recommended this channel to me 😅. I wonder if he’s watching it as well. I wish him well, we had some lovely moments together..
Wow for real? Do you still talk to each other? 😅
Sounds sad, have a nice day.
Stephen Belascuain nope, that ship has sailed 😅
MiguelPpM thank you, you too
That's all we can do, treasure how those good moments made us feel and keep on living
"Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering"
Wise one, you are.
My wallpaper
Look at relationships as a mirror. Every relationship is perfect. Because it is through the intimate relationship that you get to see how you yet have to grow, how you need to heal your inner self. Until we are mostly healed we will keep using relationships for the wrong reasons.
The wrong reasons are for dependency, needs for being possessed, for possessing the other, for control, because it’s a repetition of what you did as a child with your parent.
If your parents kind of expected things from you, needed things from you, controlled you, conditionally accepted you, that’s what you’re going to repeat in most relationships until you awaken, until you heal your inner child so you don’t need the other to fulfill you. Otherwise you will always attracts what is familiar to you.
But there is a big difference between the need for love and being needy for love.
And romantic love is really predicated on the inner void. It preys on our inner hunger that it fools us to believe that that hunger can be filled by somebody on the outside. And you cannot love yourself until you heal yourself.
Good luck everyone when you are going through a breakup while you are still being attached to the persona of that person, attached to whatever you think you are losing. Sending you so much love💝💝💝
Thank you for writing these words of truth & wisdom so elegantly. Sending you love and appreciation as well.
Adrian Brooks 🌺 🌺🌺 Thank you dear one for taking the time for the nice words and showing your kindness. Much appreciated 💖😊 Wishing you a super awesometastic ridiculously fantabulous blessed crazy kind of weekend filled with whatever makes you SMILE! 👌😃
Thank you so much for your words. It meant a lot to me. I am starting to understand the importance of healing myself.
Gabriela Teixeira 🌹🌹 🌹 Dear one, thank you for taking the time to share it with me. ❤️
People love at their level of consciousness. We all attract love to the degree that we believe we are worth it.
Wishing you profound, light-filled healing that lifts your spirit, and courage to be brave enough to heal yourself even when it hurts. Please know that beautiful real love is available to you and that you are lovable, and you are worthy of love, deserving of love, you are a beautiful loving soul. You don’t have to ‘earn’ love. Eventually, you will find love, and love will find you 💞💖💞
This is accurate, how do you know so much?
"How can real love me so close to hate" this is an extremely powerful statement to think about.
I agree with him😊😊😊
As a meditation teacher, it’s funny to know that all you’ve listened to, essentially, is a thoughtful and articulate summary of basic Buddhist concepts. However, being reminded of them in this way has been tremendously helpful during a most painful time. Thank you. Truly. And keep doing your brilliant work, the world needs it! 🙏
Thanks, Henry! It's nice to read such a comment from a meditation teacher :).
You cannot share what you don’t have. You can’t give love when you don’t have it from the inside. True love comes from within, not externally, only then you can give love and won’t be needing to ask for it from someone.
Hi everyone. I am from india.5 months back got break up and till today suffering. Day before yesterday my x got engaged with other girl and he posted the pick of his engagement. Very pain full. Last 2 days not getting sleep whole night. Plz pray for me to overcome 🙂
Please go watch some Sadhguru videos, it will shed some light for you.
How are you now?
Hope you have healed sister
People come into our life to teach us a lesson
And at the right time
They leave
And I am happy to let them go because das higheste wisdom lies in letting go.
Empty my self of everything
And let my heart be at peace.
Thank you so much for this video. I'll get through this pain, eventually.
The fact that we often approach love from an all-consuming standpoint means it's difficult for it not to turn toxic to some extent. That's why detachment should be an important component of it.
Im saying that, The best channel on UA-cam!!!
Stoicism and Buddhism are two remarkably similar philosophies that were created independently thousands of miles apart.
As a Stoic I love seeing the direct relationships between Stoicism and Buddhism, it gives me that cathartic feeling that they are one and the same.
It's like a verification of an unprovable belief or a unifying theory of physics.. or the universe telling me "YOU'RE DOING AT LEAST ONE THING RIGHT! KEEP GOING!!!"
that's a very good explanation right there. i've been moving on in an ease since i learned about buddhism a long time ago. it's very liberating and the fact that you acknowledge that nothing is permanent in this world is liberating as well.
This is stunning!
I got lost in loving someone along the way, and social media has also influenced us on what we need and what will make us happy based on the superficial grandiose kind of happiness that we expect from our loved ones.
I told him he didn't know how to love, but I was the one forcing him to love me in a way that made me happy, which isn't love.
Einzelganger once again coming out with the videos exactly at the time when I need them. Thanks, man. I hope this can help me.
Dear Einzelganger, I deeply appreciate your videos. Prior to watching this video I thought it came two years too late. After watching it, I realized it came in perfect time. Thank you, sincerely for your videos, your words of encouragement. I’ve been listening to you for over a year and half more or less. Along with the school of life both of your videos have gotten me through personal dark moments, the type where you think all is lost. I watch, meditate and apply on to my life. You’ve made a great difference in my life. Thank you
I got dumped by my friend over superficial reasons. They said thank you for all the times I’ve been there. I was only treated as a therapist.
This channel has honestly helped me with so many phases of my life. Thank you for making these videos.
I'm experiencing a mind blown. This video is amazing. Came to me at the perfect time. Thank you❤
"Real love is wishing for someone to be happy" - Ejnzelganger
What about our happiness then?
Have you tried loving yourself or the present moment?? Try it
Love is selfless. If not it's not true love.
Wishing for someone to be happy does not mean you will not be happy...for instance you could start with yourself and say: I deserve to be happy i wish myself happiness, then do the same for the people that you love and appreciate, then try to do it with the ones you like less, then the ones that hurt you (that's what I do...it works and it sets me free)...I love myself and I deserve to be free!)
Freedom bestows peace, peacefulness is being content with our self. That is happiness, at least for me.
Dumper: laugh now, cry later”
Dumped: cry now, laugh later”
More like Dumper: laugh now, still laugh later :P
@@Simithy 🤣
I'm more like dumped: cry now, die later.😅
Dumper:- go for dating now, laugh, updates their happy fantasy pics and cry later.
Dumper:- opposite of what the dumpers do.
lmao
Not even close to being a truth.
Thanks for this, really helpful video which puts into words exactly what I've been thinking recently.
Being able to just let go and remove your impulse to control others (especially your partner) is a big step forward towards finding inner peace.
Your videos have been a source of (self-)contemplation and provide calmness. Thank you for this
You're welcome, and best wishes!
I love how it's compared to drug and alcohol addiction.
This video could not have come at a better time. Thanks for the awesome content as usual!
This video is a hug to the heart. ❤️
You'll never fully know how much my soul needed this right now 💛💚💙💜🖤❤️ Thank you
Thank you for these videos, they always tend to come into my feed when I require the information.
I’m slowly forgetting her face, but i still feel her presence. I miss her so much, but i have to face the reality that she wasn’t the one for me. My greatest mistake is i never left a love for myself. I give it all to her, now i’m trying to rebuild myself again. But i know i’ll be okay soon. I’ll be okay soon right?
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Thank you Einzelganger, this is just what I needed, thank you
Can't argue with a word of this. Thank you for sharing, Einzelgänger.
Confront ur biggest fear every day.. then the fear finally disappear when the bad is happening . Since u know it's bound to happen
Kinda needed this, thanks man you're doing something really great.
"Real love is wishing for someone to be happy. Fake love is wishing for someone to make us happy." wow 🙏🔥
This struck me to the bones.. Thank you for this wonderful wisdom. It helps me to cultivate and to be free of any inevitable pain.
I love you man. You do more than you could understand in helping me navigate this great entropy.
That’s legit what I needed.
Thank you Einzelgänger!
Always perfect timing with these videos. Thank you 😌
The solution is to live a life of suffering and accept that as reality that can't be changed
I love this guy. Great video. I've come to this philosophy as ive gotten older. Especially after i hit 30. The older i get, the more buddhist i just kind of become.
To wish peace to other is true love. well said.
It is curious but wonderful how your videos come at the perfect timing. On the past days I ended a relationship that had been very painful. I wish her the best.
Thank you, pal.
I found the buddist point of view of love so comforting and helpful. I still love the person I broke up with, but letting go of the attachment I felt for him has help me a great deal.
The timing of those vids is amazing! 🤯
Fantastic insights! Best material I’ve come across on this topic thank you!!!
A million thanks to your channel. It helps me a lot as a traveler here on earth
This video makes me feel good even though I am still in a healthy relationship.
Not gone through a break up recently, but this is such a nice reminder that you don’t need a person in order to be happy
Thank you for this Einzelganger. I've been confused with what I've felt with a person, and it's been unconsciously consuming me. I understand more know how I feel.
Such a beautiful message! Bless you!
Watching this video disipated all my anxiety after my breakup, you made me realize that love should first be directed inwards and expressed outwards in a free maner. People should not attempt to make each other happy, but strive to independently find fufilment in themselves and express the love generated by fulfilment towards each other and towards the people around them.
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@@aireltd1019 to late for me, mine left with another man and any form of peaceful comunication resulted in hate messages from her, don't think there is anything I can do to mend that bridge apart from letting time do it's thing.
Dr. Oss. can help you, I'm sure he can help you. Just contact him and explain what you went through. I know he can help you like he helped me
@@aireltd1019 send me he's details, I don't get my hopes up as the hate is strong in my ex...but I do care about her a lot
@@vladvilceleanu8731 +14422190915. Just have to believe, I know he can help you
what a great video, may you be blessed for helping so many people with your videos.
Well done. These are thoughts I have often had (I often lean towards Buddhism spiritual ideas and ways). You put it so well. Excellent video.
Your channel is amazing teaching! Your words of wisdom is so awesome. I love your art video. So glad I found your channel. Please keep sharing your gifts!
Wow this is so helpful.....has given me a new perspective on what I thought was pain but in actual fact is an unhealthy attachment......
One of your bests. Thanks and real love to you ♥️
Makes sense! Love Buddhist point of view.
One thing of this Chanel that is, there are no background motivational music like other videos and that's why i like the video of this Chanel.
perfect timing ,thank you this video.
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you ❤️
Wow ! The universe sent this to me ! Thank you Einzelganger! Make more videos like this one
Thank you.
Practical wisdom from the philosophers themselves.
Being single my whole life kinda sucks, but at least I’m safe from that kind of pain.
To anyone in pain this video uffff helps a lot!
The part where he theorizes that the longer we are able to be independent the less we will feel co dependent, uhm... not happening for me as of yet. I have been single for at least 5 years. I only have the desire to be in the presence of one person, (the object of my obsession/adoration), whom I haven't even spoke to in close to a year. I have reasoned from every possible angle to free myself of the horrible addiction /love's grip. I have come to believe that, we are a small part of the larger whole. We, with some sense of etheric empathy, feel the feelings of others (not with everybody though, which is why it feels so special), via waves and/or frequencies. Then, possibly mistake those unshakable feelings for our own. I believe this is what has happened to me. I guess that being said, I just have to allow it to pass through me. Please excuse this mess of a comment, this was hard for me to explain. Lol
Share those feelings or let go! Don't spend your whole life wondering, and if it doesn't work out, do so in a a way you can hold your head high and respect yourself. Until you reach out it's ALL in your head. Good luck friend
s i g h . . . beautiful & very relatable... image these perspectives can be really helpful to everyone going through grief from breakups, separations of all forms... 🕊️