The most important green flag in a girl.

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 802

  • @anonymous_0199
    @anonymous_0199 2 місяці тому +2589

    well it's no surprise ruff is quite the hot topic among the girlies

    • @MiddleBroski
      @MiddleBroski 2 місяці тому +255

      and among boys

    • @ketiviv
      @ketiviv 2 місяці тому +68

      yes because the thing is not about the looks but the mindset and personality ☃️

    • @ItsMeRuff
      @ItsMeRuff  2 місяці тому +1061

      ive had like multiple girls say they would date just to get access to my cat. im the afterthought bro 💀💀

    • @ketiviv
      @ketiviv 2 місяці тому +115

      @@ItsMeRuff it is also an acceptable reason

    • @Eclipse_5369
      @Eclipse_5369 2 місяці тому +20

      @@ItsMeRuff lmaoo 💀

  • @hottrashyoucanthave7901
    @hottrashyoucanthave7901 2 місяці тому +4997

    watching this to see if I'm a green flag💀

  • @anushkaverma2203
    @anushkaverma2203 2 місяці тому +2714

    "i was attracted to the fact that she was attracted to me" i know way too many people who can benefit from hearing that lmaoo

    • @Valentinahehee
      @Valentinahehee 2 місяці тому +8

      Exactly 😂😂😂

    • @yfsmilesfru
      @yfsmilesfru 2 місяці тому +35

      yep , my first rs was like this kinda. i liked him all bc of his looks and bc he was funny. meanwhile he wasn't sure ab himself and wasn't stable, and js being in the rs js fr the sake of it. he was really busy nd we barely talked, only been on 1/2 dates the entire 5 months. everytime i checked up on him and showed him i care he was dry, nvr said gn/gm, no updates no communication nth. all those months i was blind to see he wasnt even srs. i kept thinking i needa be thr to support him at his worst and celebrate at his best but what's the point if he nvr had feelings in the first place, all those affection js fr the sake of it, i was confused cuz sometimes he seemed like he was srs ab it nd sometimes we talked as if we were friends . i was too humble then. we argued alot n towards the end we didn't talk 3 days straight. so i typed a para ending things and he typed a para saying he was thinking ab ending things too (most sincere and undry para he ever typed in 5 months) and yeah we js ended things.

    • @yfsmilesfru
      @yfsmilesfru 2 місяці тому +11

      wth i typed

    • @azryl2006
      @azryl2006 2 місяці тому +12

      ​@@yfsmilesfrujust improve your communication skills and be genuine like that's all you need to maintain a long term relationship with anyone and not only with your boyfriend but in overall sense

    • @epicgaming7813
      @epicgaming7813 2 місяці тому +31

      @@yfsmilesfru
      “rs js fr”
      I didn’t expect 3 in a row lol

  • @trra7785
    @trra7785 2 місяці тому +1583

    The most important part is, Are you a green flag? What are your qualities that makes you deserve the girl of your dreams?

    • @sushih3302
      @sushih3302 2 місяці тому +205

      YES, you are right! But I think knowing the girl of your dreams will make you want to be able to deserve her, if the person has the right mindset.
      Both parties have to be in the same position.

    • @trra7785
      @trra7785 2 місяці тому +103

      @@sushih3302 I agree, still we have to humble ourselves to not feel entitled to everything 🤝

    • @shine-uy5fq
      @shine-uy5fq 2 місяці тому +4

      Facts

    • @suzystar3
      @suzystar3 2 місяці тому +21

      Idk while it is more important to be a green flag part of that is not obsessing over people you're incompatible with and are pursuing people genuinely. For that it helps to know your 10/10 people because if you are pursuing based on non-superficial stuff that is a green flag.

    • @suh0093
      @suh0093 2 місяці тому +30

      Absolutely right ✅️, i feel like everyone is so obsessed in finding red flags in other people but no one actually tries to self-reflect and see if we are good people as well, we should do that more.

  • @JustSomeone286
    @JustSomeone286 2 місяці тому +770

    as a girl i can relate to the intro. im not very attractive, so if anyone ever shows even the slightest interest in me, i get super obsessed. knowing they probably dont like me that way. its sad. i wonder why it happens

    • @wiiwlcm
      @wiiwlcm 2 місяці тому +57

      Many people compliments me, but those people are either my friends or family, so i mostly get excited and surprised from the compliments of people i don’t know that good and don’t expect them to make them. So you’re not alone

    • @JustSomeone286
      @JustSomeone286 2 місяці тому +46

      @wiiwlcm im talking more about like, if a guy makes eye contact or is nice to me or interacts w me in any way, shape or form. it’s really embarrassing. ig it’s just an aftermath of loneliness? i just romanticise the situation too much, and end up getting hurt because of course they wouldn’t like me lol

    • @evermore317
      @evermore317 2 місяці тому +8

      ​@@JustSomeone286 i really really can understand you honey same here :)

    • @riyaanna2756
      @riyaanna2756 Місяць тому

      ​@@JustSomeone286 same lol

    • @issa893
      @issa893 Місяць тому +14

      My thoughts on the subject:
      I've thought about this topic for a while, and I can say that perhaps it might be due to a low self-worth. Based on my observations, believing one is not good enough to have good things or be surrounded by good people can lead one to believe that perhaps nobody would want to be around oneself. Then, as with human nature, people will contract this notion by being nice; because humans (generally) want to do good in the world, so of course there'll be people who will be nice for no reason.
      Since this belief is an integral part of one's identity (in this example), when it is shaken by irreputable proof from reality, it can make one get swept up in all kinds of emotions. This sharp change in emotions can make it feel like one has fallen in love or has "butterflies" (similar to the "suspended bridge effect" aka "misattribution of arousal").

  • @najifaanjum4740
    @najifaanjum4740 2 місяці тому +1217

    I'm a straight teen girl. And now I'm being a good boy like ruff said to be and listing down the things I find attractive in a girl.

    • @dazzlingforest
      @dazzlingforest 2 місяці тому +138

      HUH💀?

    • @green_143
      @green_143 2 місяці тому +45

      If you aren't able to make that list, maybe put the description of yourself there.

    • @Rotuwam_1
      @Rotuwam_1 2 місяці тому +41

      You go girl 🔥🔥

    • @Anu-zz378
      @Anu-zz378 2 місяці тому +6

      Do u mean u are a girl but acc to what he said ur writing down things u found attractive in a girl?

    • @iCubely
      @iCubely 2 місяці тому +61

      i had a stroke reading what you said

  • @BrandonOConnell-te6dx
    @BrandonOConnell-te6dx 2 місяці тому +924

    Ruff Currently WifeMaxxing

  • @ItsMeRuff
    @ItsMeRuff  2 місяці тому +873

    trying to be more open on youtube now, first video with this mindset - hope it was interesting. mwah mwah

    • @DisDaineWasDetained
      @DisDaineWasDetained 2 місяці тому +28

      How should I imagine what the 'mwah mwah' sounds like?

    • @twinkalkanwar14
      @twinkalkanwar14 2 місяці тому +8

      it is really great , keep it up bro

    • @edanchang847
      @edanchang847 2 місяці тому +8

      I’m in Nan yang first year in design and media , I will find you ruff

    • @bloxxdude
      @bloxxdude 2 місяці тому +4

      Mwah

    • @Luigimaestro
      @Luigimaestro 2 місяці тому +1

      Great video! luigi approves

  • @im_just_vidu
    @im_just_vidu 2 місяці тому +152

    "I wasn't attracted to her. I was attracted to the fact that she was attracted to me". I think most of the people go through this at least once in their life time

    • @danielle-bi3tk
      @danielle-bi3tk 12 днів тому

      bro i am scared that my current bf thinks the same way for me
      but my gut says that he actually likes me but i may be blinded by love
      do u know any signs that i should be looking for to know his true feelings

  • @r3kt_duuud
    @r3kt_duuud 2 місяці тому +227

    Green flags in a girl: breath, funny (optional), cute (unecessary)

    • @LeFrenchDude
      @LeFrenchDude 2 місяці тому +64

      Alive (optional)
      Human (unnecessary)

    • @manciv510
      @manciv510 2 місяці тому +15

      @@LeFrenchDude unsmashable (dealbreaker)

    • @wuxian1
      @wuxian1 2 місяці тому +7

      😐​@@manciv510

    • @enderspygamer5006
      @enderspygamer5006 Місяць тому

      ​@@manciv510if it fits the law it is smashable

    • @rafimations9256
      @rafimations9256 14 днів тому

      Bros the Joker 💀

  • @mauser_
    @mauser_ 2 місяці тому +593

    "you can go super obsessive with this and write everything down to like the RGB colour of her skin" im dead 💀💀

    • @dIvYaa487
      @dIvYaa487 2 місяці тому +34

      Yeah that made me upset, that skin colour matters to even ruff :(
      I thought he only wants a good girlfriend whos supportive caring and all, but he seems a red flag himself

    • @mauser_
      @mauser_ 2 місяці тому +6

      @@dIvYaa487 😔😔 there's nothing we can do

    • @cosmos3128
      @cosmos3128 2 місяці тому +24

      ​@@dIvYaa487We'll in the end everyone has a preference I guess is what It is

    • @RodionRaskolnikov333
      @RodionRaskolnikov333 2 місяці тому +30

      It's not racist, just his preference

    • @r_saccount77
      @r_saccount77 2 місяці тому

      ​​​@@RodionRaskolnikov333its stupid to base your type solely on skin colour 💀💀 like we're looking for a person that we're want a relationship with not a main character in a story. You're looking for a human nota robot, plus if you fall in love with the right person rhose things won't matter

  • @dustofsnow217
    @dustofsnow217 2 місяці тому +1075

    Ruff, your content is awesome, no doubt. But I've noticed a trend in your language that's kinda off-putting. Here's the thing - your audience isn't just a bunch of teen guys, there are girls here too, taking in what you're saying. And when you pass statements like 'for the guys...' or 'girls are bitches bro' 'don't be a pussy', it feels like you don't appreciate your female audience.
    I get it, maybe you've had some rough experiences in the past that color your perspective, but being a part of your female audience, to me, it somewhat feels unwelcoming and stereotyped.
    Growing your channel does not just come from making good content, but also appreciating your audience, even if it's female audience. So, it'd mean a lot if you could dial back on the gendered language and be more mindful about this. We're all here to learn and grow, right?

    • @elidavv_
      @elidavv_ 2 місяці тому +188

      Omg yes 😭 I thought I was the only one who felt this way

    • @chips-vo4zg
      @chips-vo4zg 2 місяці тому +71

      thissss

    • @user-rq6pc1no9z
      @user-rq6pc1no9z 2 місяці тому +78

      Exactly my thoughts. Thank you

    • @iiamyes
      @iiamyes 2 місяці тому +43

      frr

    • @trra7785
      @trra7785 2 місяці тому +288

      I noticed a lot from watching his videos that he views highly of himself just because he's on self improvement. Even though one of the most important part from improving yourself is to be humble. But in this part of his life, the ego shines so much in his videos.
      I still enjoy his content, but It's not the best to take it all of it to the heart.

  • @squidddy-dg2em
    @squidddy-dg2em 2 місяці тому +162

    Bro i swear we’re not an alien species, idk why people act like women need to be studied to search for green and red flags in them
    also the same principle can be applied to men

    • @snxw69420
      @snxw69420 2 місяці тому +48

      While I agree with this, I do believe that we (both genders) should check for red and green flags in the opposite. A lot of people would not want to be with a drug abuser, a red flag.
      I think this transcends beyond relationships too. These traits can be found in business partners, friends etc too.

    • @MishaMikhailovich
      @MishaMikhailovich Місяць тому +18

      FRR i hate when ppl are like "how to dissect the female mind" or that stupid "pizza comes in a square and it's made in a circle but you eat it as a triangle" analogy. bc not only does it present women as an otherworldly species, but it creates the idea that all men are simple-minded. no, we are ALL complex bc we're HUMAN!!

    • @s.r1racha
      @s.r1racha 29 днів тому

      Ikr this vid screams redditor 💀

    • @gektoast4968
      @gektoast4968 2 дні тому

      @@MishaMikhailovichit’s not inherently a bad thing. Women grow up with a lot of shared perspectives and experiences, as do men. Thus, sometimes men need help understanding those perspectives and experiences they themselves did not grow up with. It can be extreme at times, but how else would you do it?

    • @MishaMikhailovich
      @MishaMikhailovich 19 годин тому

      @@gektoast4968 i do get that, but it's kind of weird that most of the people making that type of content are men themselves. like if you want to understand a female perspective, why not go talk to a woman? i agree with you, but we're talking about very different things. you're talking about when people genuinely want to know what the other gender may be feeling/experiencing and have no ill intent, while i'm talking about those podcast bros that tell macho men what they want to hear even if it's not true at all.

  • @iatetonkatsu3902
    @iatetonkatsu3902 Місяць тому +53

    With your example "She watches Netflix, scrolls insta yesterday and she done the same thing today". Sometimes, chilling on the couch is okay. That's what I want in a partner too. Don't need someone to push me all the time, I can do that myself. What I really want is someone who makes our life feel comfy and relaxed. Self-improvement doesn't have to be all work, gym, financial, or some shit we hear from inspirational youtubers that says we need to improve. It can be learning new things, making friends, planting a tree, or even watching a movie from Netflix and talking about it after. My partner can do whatever they love, as long as they're not forgetting the basic stuff.
    The most important thing is being there for our kids, even on boring, uneventful days. Building forts, reading the same book a million times, just being there with them - that's what matters. Not every day needs to be a big SELF-IMPROVEMENT DAY. A partner who gets that, who enjoys those quiet moments with our family, that's the best! Sure, someone who just scrolls all day or never tries anything new isn't ideal. But everyone needs to relax sometimes. In the end, I want someone who's just as excited to grow as I am, but also loves spending chill time with our family. Someone who makes life feel balanced and not suffocating. you only get one life, why not just do what you really want? and not what others want.

  • @werallgnnadieintheend
    @werallgnnadieintheend 2 місяці тому +345

    I need a girl version of these lessons, because they all apply fr

    • @spamvirtix13
      @spamvirtix13 2 місяці тому +62

      if they apply then just learn them from here and apply them in your life anyways, good advice is good advice regardless of who it is preaching it to you

    • @werallgnnadieintheend
      @werallgnnadieintheend 2 місяці тому +6

      ​@@spamvirtix13 Yup , done (;

  • @SadiaAkther-nr9ux
    @SadiaAkther-nr9ux 2 місяці тому +206

    I SERIOUSLY have that complex.
    When I heard from my friend ,that a guy in my coaching likes me. i just couldn’t stop myself thinking about him or day dreaming even though I haven’t seen him without the mask on his face it’s seriously stupid 😑

    • @Random_Ladd__
      @Random_Ladd__ 2 місяці тому +28

      Be careful!
      masks are quite deceiving, learnt it the hard way🙃

    • @jindipity4772
      @jindipity4772 2 місяці тому +14

      Gurl, see him without his mask first. I made that mistake before, the guy who had a crush on me was tall and had beautiful eyes and I just said yes, but when I saw him without a mask...my attraction was gone. I felt so bad and guilty the whole time we dated, then broke up with him without saying the real reason, just told him I need to focus on my studies. It was my first ever relationship too so I also learnt a lot, never dated ever since then

    • @nikhil9886
      @nikhil9886 2 місяці тому +23

      @@jindipity4772 maybe don't date on the basis of looks

    • @nathaliadorothylolong6487
      @nathaliadorothylolong6487 Місяць тому +3

      @@nikhil9886 preach

    • @duck-cc4cx
      @duck-cc4cx Місяць тому

      @@nikhil9886if u arent attracted to them dont waste their time 🤷‍♀️

  • @ambika_j_
    @ambika_j_ 2 місяці тому +280

    These are exactly my standards in a boy as well. And that is why I've never dated anybody since I've never actually found the right one (no rush tho) as I take the time of being single to improve myself & my life so that whenever I meet the one, I'm in my best version. ⭐

    • @bigman9731
      @bigman9731 2 місяці тому +26

      Awesome more female ruff viewers I thought it was just guys.

    • @amara9667
      @amara9667 2 місяці тому +5

      Lowkey ruffs og list is a red flag

    • @bigman9731
      @bigman9731 2 місяці тому

      @@amara9667 frs

    • @ambika_j_
      @ambika_j_ 2 місяці тому +2

      @@amara9667 why do you think so?

    • @Wookie_pookie_ffs
      @Wookie_pookie_ffs 2 місяці тому

      ​@@bigman9731reeeeal, i was looking for my women😭

  • @charlmasherblitzgaming809
    @charlmasherblitzgaming809 2 місяці тому +145

    Hey Ruff, I know you mean good when you uploaded this, and I mostly agree with your perspective about the certain qualities a general dream girl people could have, especially as a person on self-improvement. What I kinda disagree on is the notion that you're kinda arbitrarily laying a sense of intrinsic value on a woman based on whether she's on self-improvement or not. I mean, I completely agree with the whole schnitzel of how certain habits will define life trajectories. If you translate it to how you view and handle the actual relationship, imo it seems that there's this type of conditional love where "if you are not this, I don't like you anymore." or "if you can't improve yourself, I have no other choice but to leave you behind. "
    I also disagree with the notion that moving a girl from level 0 to level 1 is very hard. Is it hard? Sure. Will it take a lot of time and effort? Of course it does. Does having a girl who has bad habits affect your progress because she kinda influences you? Absolutely.
    But isn't the nature of healthy relationships that you accept them wholeheartedly as they are without judgment along with their flaws and imperfections? That when you love and accept a person for who they are, isn't that where growth can begin to happen within a person? Isn't it a given that when you're in a relationship, growing together will take a lot of time, patience, and understanding from each other?
    Okay, let's suppose they're degenerate in a sense that they still have some bad habits that they do that would objectively say that their life will go to shit in x amount of time. Wouldn't it be easier to understand where they're coming from if you actually wanted to help them grow? To understand the motivations and the underlying precursors as to why they act a certain way, then help them understand that they need to leave that space in order for them to become better?
    Sure, they can definitely choose whether or not they wanna shift their path or not - they're their own person who can decide how they wanan live their life. I would as though is, isn't the point of getting people onto self-improvement meeting them where they're at and then going from there?
    Then, sure, it'll set you back a bit because it's gonna take more time. I would still argue that if you have found the actual person you wanna spend your eternity with, doing shit like this is worth it because you love them that much, and you actually wanna see them blossom.
    Idk if you'll actually see this shit, but for other people who do, I'd like your input on this.

    • @mishuru5773
      @mishuru5773 2 місяці тому +12

      Good take 🤝

    • @charlmasherblitzgaming809
      @charlmasherblitzgaming809 2 місяці тому +36

      @mishuru5773 thanks lmao. Most people be finding the "ideal" partner instead of being one 💀

    • @HeyItsEzli
      @HeyItsEzli 2 місяці тому +26

      ​@@charlmasherblitzgaming809I really like your take on this. Sure I do agree on some points of Ruff, but I do see the negative flaws in this "conditional love" mindset.

    • @HellaHamster
      @HellaHamster 2 місяці тому +17

      You're right. If u want the real one how would the "gotta be this and that" make sense? U just love whom u love, and work from there. That's love and lifelong relationships. This dude in the video throwing me off big time, i don't understand him 💀💀💀🙏

    • @cloakedinmaple
      @cloakedinmaple 2 місяці тому +12

      @@HellaHamster the main takeaway i'm getting from this is the separation between "must-haves" and "preferences." you can be open-minded and keep your "checklist" small, but it's not unreasonable to have basic standards like loyalty. i definitely don't agree with everything ruff is saying lol

  • @Intj.gi07
    @Intj.gi07 2 місяці тому +104

    Ig same goes for while looking for a green flag boy.
    ( Extremely useful especially nowdays when we are blindly getting into or 1-2 month or toxic relationship )
    Thank you ruff you are actually helping alot us in self improvement and especially for me being mature

  • @werallgnnadieintheend
    @werallgnnadieintheend 2 місяці тому +45

    Ok, last comment lol.
    I believe this applies on all relationships , including partnership in business AND friendship, a bad friend is gonna pull you down and so will any other bad partner. Golden Advices fr, the thumbnail is being too specific but these are universal suggestions.

  • @snakefoot5608
    @snakefoot5608 2 місяці тому +31

    “I like a girl with a personality. She has 15!”

  • @fxrii.h
    @fxrii.h 2 місяці тому +89

    As a girl who has never dated before, I think I will like it if my partner is understanding and loyal BUT anime and kdrama stuffs have made the standards too high for me so I guess I'll be single until I find someone who fits atleast 70% of my list.. no compromise hehehe! Thanks for the advice though, tRuffle :>

    • @odin376
      @odin376 2 місяці тому +1

      same really

    • @Leilani.beemoni
      @Leilani.beemoni 2 місяці тому +6

      As a girly who loves anime and kpop too❤ I found a way to make those high standards work for me .like fruits basket l love yuki and momiji then I think what do they like in a girl?
      Example being considered and having a positive mindset and I ask myself would having this traits be harmful to me or my future partner if not I try to adapt them😅

    • @smilesmile1237
      @smilesmile1237 2 місяці тому

      so what do you bring to the table?^^

    • @Leilani.beemoni
      @Leilani.beemoni 2 місяці тому +2

      @@smilesmile1237 what table ??you want table recommendations??

    • @smilesmile1237
      @smilesmile1237 2 місяці тому +2

      @@fxrii.h no, actually I was talking about you. What would you offer in return?^^
      For example are you extroverted, good looking/can handle makeup, maybe lots of money etc?
      I think this is also the point of Ruff's video.

  • @najifaanjum4740
    @najifaanjum4740 2 місяці тому +91

    Funny thing is, I never fully agree with ruff on most things. Not that he's wrong, I just have my own self improvement ways that fit me more as an Bangladeshi teenager. And also I cringe everytime he says big tittys😂. Anyways, for all the other south asian teen girls out there, just don't get into the romantic shit until you get into a good university. And when you do, remember that knights in shining armours don't exist. Just be the man you want to marry. No one is going to financially or emotionally save you, bro. Guys are a huge waste of time. Have fun, but don't take it too seriously. At least that's my philosophy. You don't have to necessarily agree to it, but do consider this approach.

    • @urbi-ob8qv
      @urbi-ob8qv 2 місяці тому +15

      As a Bangladeshi, I can relate. Also "Knight in shining armour doesn't exist " is the most important thing to realize.

    • @urvashi-rb9qy
      @urvashi-rb9qy 2 місяці тому +5

      I wish i came across your reply when I was a teen obsessed with toxic serials and thinking the same thing would happen with me too. i stuck with a toxic boy for so long because i thought thats how love works. i was soooo wrong. Now i am working on myself and building my dreams.

    • @aniqadelwara9212
      @aniqadelwara9212 Місяць тому

      omg im a fellow bengali teen ^_^ ure sooo right.

    • @tlotro625
      @tlotro625 19 днів тому

      I don't even know how I found myself in the comments of this video, but amen to that.

    • @KERRYN17LHZHLYX
      @KERRYN17LHZHLYX 15 днів тому

      I completely agree with YOU AS AN INDIAN BENGALI GIRL.I AM 21 BTW

  • @MaddieFishblob
    @MaddieFishblob 2 місяці тому +23

    I think it’s genius how rather than listing a few traits that everyone should look for, Ruff gave advice on how to find the right person for you-it hammers home the message that there is no one “perfect universal partner” because everyone has different values and needs. We all gotta just take the time to reflect on what we expect from ourselves and value in others

  • @jaytan6599
    @jaytan6599 2 місяці тому +21

    I recently found this channel and man am I hooked. The way you organize and talk about the points it just tick my boxes and I just feel entertained by the content. Keep It Up Ruff!

  • @LillyIsPink
    @LillyIsPink 2 місяці тому +48

    I am watching this as a lesbian

  • @mr.phoenix8012
    @mr.phoenix8012 2 місяці тому +70

    Now a video on actual friends and snakes 💀?

    • @dazzlingforest
      @dazzlingforest 2 місяці тому +5

      I would love to vote 100 hands up for this💀👍🏻

    • @step_wavey
      @step_wavey 2 місяці тому +2

      I'm pretty sure he did something similar, and it was called "how i learned to love being alone"

  • @xrosieex
    @xrosieex 2 місяці тому +90

    8:31 eh I don't really agree, instead of trying to convince her to do things, isn't it better to talk about how self improvement is necessary? I mean think about yourself, you too didn't know about self improvement but once you got to know it you had the ambition to do it right? The girl could have that ambition too! So just talking about self improvement isn't bad at all and you really don't have to switch a person for it lmao. anyways great vid as always! :))

    • @inigojeswinjdm4577
      @inigojeswinjdm4577 2 місяці тому +4

      its not that simple though, people tend to stick with their path even if they know the better path, simply because its hard to do something that is not their identity, ruff mentioned this before. You do have a point, but if we are trying to find the perfect girl for ourselves, we would usually prioritize ourselves, because this is a important decision. So to put it in a harsh way, instead of using our time talking to someone who is not ready to change (atleast at the moment), we could go for someone else who already took steps to change. this is all due to the fact we don't have enough time, well, if we already have feelings for them, this strategy will be horrible 😆.

    • @xrosieex
      @xrosieex 2 місяці тому +3

      @@inigojeswinjdm4577 haha the last part is what I was saying! If we already have feelings ig it's okay to atleast talk to them about self improvement!

    • @_Kaizen._.
      @_Kaizen._. 2 місяці тому +2

      Yeh I totally agree with you.
      My girl, I met her like 2 years ago...
      And, we both were, in a way, "degenerate"
      -Not on Self-improvement
      -Watching/Reading Anime/Manga all night
      -Eating junk
      Basically a typical High School Couple...
      But, then I met people like James Scholz (did 12 hour Study-with-me streams) & Ruff. That's when I knew the meaning of "Self-improvement"
      And then I talked to my girl... Yeh it was tough at first...
      But after like a year or so... She surpassed me... (She is like level 2)
      And I'm here... Still failing to be on track...
      She is my role-model now...
      It's okay to do some work for the girl you "REALLY" love... It took me a year, it might take longer for you... But at the end...
      It's all worth it...
      If she ticks ALL the other boxes, but falls short on one thing (Self-improvement)
      I think we can compromise a little and help them be MUCH better than they currently are.

  • @snakefoot5608
    @snakefoot5608 2 місяці тому +4

    I like watching your videos because you provide methods in a positive way to applicably improve our quality of life. It’s easy to think negatively about things, like thinking, “I have to exercise, eat better, sleep better, etc” as if it’s a burden. You talk about these things in a way that gives me hope and excitement for the future. Much love ❤

  • @Luigimaestro
    @Luigimaestro 2 місяці тому +13

    This is some pretty good stuff. i think a lot of teenagers could take a look at this and realise that their relationships aren't the relationship they want

  • @human5226
    @human5226 2 місяці тому +4

    The thing you said about your identity affecting what path you take in life is so true. I only recently started trying to improve upon some areas of my life that needed work (mainly not being skinny asf and being healthy). It takes a lot of effort to start, but once you build the habit it gets much easier because it becomes a part of your identity.

  • @DestivaKukurice
    @DestivaKukurice 2 місяці тому +3

    this advice is great! It can apply to other things as well, it's good to know what we want to not make as bad decisions in some cases.

  • @sulaimansiddiqui4907
    @sulaimansiddiqui4907 2 місяці тому +7

    ruff i refreshed my screen 10 times and this video stayed on the front page every time. whatver your doing keep doing it the algo is on your side.

  • @miimwa3941
    @miimwa3941 2 місяці тому +5

    I really hope you make more videos based on this whole relationship and finding the perfect person ideology, keep going on :D

  • @Dat1person_
    @Dat1person_ 2 місяці тому +1

    his videos are genuinely so well thought out and explained, i have so many people in my life that would definitely benefit from them but idk how to recommend his channel to them without seeming mean lmao

  • @ilysnb
    @ilysnb 2 місяці тому +3

    hey ruff, thanks for this vid, couldn’t have come at a better time. A few weeks ago I stopped talking to a guy because I too realised that I was more attracted to him liking me than the guy himself. It wouldn’t have worked out. Even though some time has passed, I’m still very much coping with the self-pitying, regret, and feeling like I’ve made no progress on my self-improvement journey. It’s rough when you feel like you’re seeing no progress, but I know I have to trust the process and stay consistent. Thanks for the vid man, keep it up. 👍

  • @PikaPilot
    @PikaPilot 23 дні тому +2

    Now that I think about it, Ive been doing this myself but not writing it down. As a girl, masculinity isnt terribly high on my "must haves," (bi) but I already know that my partner must be,
    a) someone who I can easily communicate with. I want to know my partner, including what's on his mind. Good or bad, I dont care. I just want to know how he's doing so I can help if he's down or encourage him if he's feeling good
    b) has a matching love language (touch)
    c) capable and independent. Im not here to fix your problems. Your life isn't going to get better just because you're in a relationship, and you need to be able to take care of yourself, just as i expect the same of myself. People who are capable are also better at reaching out for help when they know they need it.

  • @yusufphoto
    @yusufphoto 2 місяці тому +7

    10:20 I've also thought about this concept of not being all afraid of girls and simply being confident as they are "just human", and trying to live life and improve the same way as you like you said, glad someone else agrees

  • @DaFredel
    @DaFredel 2 місяці тому +28

    few months ago i found a boy that is a straight A student, in student council, has a good manner, acts of service. We got super close, even we were in a situationship. but I really needed to push him away cuz he's still addicted to porn and roblox. I was close to him bcs I was addicted to porn too that time, now that I am slightly improving, I'm glad I pushed him away. Watching your video today made me realize it was a good decision.

    • @hafy487
      @hafy487 2 місяці тому

      What the fuck

    • @hafy487
      @hafy487 2 місяці тому +1

      Nah but good job bro, cheering u on!

    • @TheWhelon
      @TheWhelon 2 місяці тому +1

      Great for you to realize that you need to step away from him 👏

    • @LadyOfTheNight.
      @LadyOfTheNight. 2 місяці тому +12

      I like the how you put being addicted to p0rn the same category as being addicted to Roblox 🤣

    • @cupcake4798
      @cupcake4798 2 місяці тому +3

      Addiction to roblox is fine dont hurt me 😭👍🏻

  • @ashwa0695
    @ashwa0695 2 місяці тому +2

    Oh god! U just made me realise the fact that I chose self-improvement and you helped me to be better at it😅 cuz till this day I thought u were the one that got me into this self-improvement stuff. Bruhh respect🤜🏻🤛🏻

  • @selfimprovementgamified
    @selfimprovementgamified 2 місяці тому +1

    This is my UA-cam-obsessed mind saying this, but the title/topic/thumbnail combo for this video is amazing. Really forces you to click, lol. Great stuff!

  • @anusijikalluvelil8965
    @anusijikalluvelil8965 День тому

    Love listening to you!!✨♥️

  • @benlokibryant
    @benlokibryant Місяць тому

    The "I was attracted to her bieng attracted to me", the spontaneous crushes and the video in general almost made me cry cos it's so relatable

  • @royalvartist
    @royalvartist Місяць тому

    This was the exact video I needed to see, thank you for making it ~

  • @mahtrickszz9669
    @mahtrickszz9669 2 місяці тому +2

    multi personality stuff got me on the floor, an reminded abt walker from iron fist lmaooo

  • @YurreeZy
    @YurreeZy 2 місяці тому +7

    Not gonna lie man, you're a brother from another to me, we have never met at all you are Singaporean and I'm Filipino. But it's just so crazy to realize from my perspective that all our ideals and habits are quite identical, but you're guiding me through things I'm struggling and I appreciate it so much. Well not the topic of this video, but all about self-improvement and life in general.
    Been here since Day 1 and it's like my first comment, I'll keep supporting you ma boi all the way through the very end even if you don't know me. Much love from the Philippines 🇵🇭💪☝️

    • @shanine2388
      @shanine2388 2 місяці тому

      Woah, didn't think there were ruff viewers from my country other than me

    • @TheWhelon
      @TheWhelon 2 місяці тому

      There are lol

  • @tomoki-1
    @tomoki-1 2 місяці тому

    Blinked, and you're suddenly at 200k! I'm not surprised. Good job, mate. 🎉

  • @Haimaijivi-bc5he
    @Haimaijivi-bc5he 2 місяці тому +4

    That smile idea was good . I will do it from now

  • @BlackCatCards
    @BlackCatCards День тому

    The intro is amazing the captions the storytelling the jokes it’s so good

  • @im_just_vidu
    @im_just_vidu 2 місяці тому +4

    "When you have rose-tinted glasses on, red flags just look like flags"
    Now that's a good thing to keep in mind

  • @R_jenn
    @R_jenn 2 місяці тому +2

    omds ruff has the most insane scripts, that intro got me 😭

  • @emmasun3698
    @emmasun3698 2 місяці тому +2

    Ruff saying “in self improvement” like it’s a drug 😂

  • @mfgrock786
    @mfgrock786 2 місяці тому +2

    Bro my exams have started and watching youre videos have helped me alot this time i didn't just wait for the exams to come and study the night before i actually worked hard and i kind of feel confident so thank you

  • @PrajaktaDapke
    @PrajaktaDapke 2 місяці тому

    I dont know why this landed on my page but bro I'm glad you created this. Like I'm a person who has standards and I want a guy who has standards and doesnt go behind everyone. So I hope guys take this video seriously Coz its very important for both men and women to know what they actually want.

  • @the_kaiii
    @the_kaiii 12 днів тому

    i needed this brother. thank you bro.

  • @OriginalAmery
    @OriginalAmery 2 місяці тому +2

    Let this be a reminder for me to come back and listen to this video

  • @justmeli4614
    @justmeli4614 2 місяці тому +3

    honest, loyal, warm, loving, caring, self improvement(sport, read, take care of himself)

  • @bangtanmoosahu
    @bangtanmoosahu 2 місяці тому +3

    The thing you said at 0:09 I completely relate to it. My 1st relationship ( and the last one too) . I didn’t know if I’m even attracted to him or not. I just wanted him to be happy because he really liked me And just went with it. After breaking up with him I realized I wasn’t for him nor he was for me.

  • @pikachamp5500
    @pikachamp5500 2 місяці тому +2

    I didn’t even read the title, I just saw u posted and clicked and now, it’s abt romance, smt I barely know abt 😭-

  • @husaina254
    @husaina254 2 місяці тому +1

    This video has motivated me to focus on self-improvement. Thank you :)

  • @elcomsgikz
    @elcomsgikz 2 місяці тому

    This is great advice. Another question to think about is what do you want in a relationship? You might find the girl that ticks all the green flags but the girl might not be able to give what you need in a relationship. Whether that’s companionship, intimacy, family, etc.

  • @shannonward902
    @shannonward902 2 місяці тому +10

    been waiting for this all week!!

  • @Moth-dm9kp
    @Moth-dm9kp 2 місяці тому +2

    idk why but this video was hilarious in some ways lol. thanks ruff. i don't generally plan on dating until after high school or probably past uni. but until then i'll keep these in my notes :). have a good day legend.

  • @4nik4
    @4nik4 2 місяці тому +3

    Just completely got out of a relationship today, thank you.

  • @iambored238
    @iambored238 25 днів тому

    thank you for this video it has genuinely helped me realize how lucky I am to have a gf who supports me in my goals, goes to the gym with me, and has helped me out during my thorugh times i really cannot express how thankful i am towards u

  • @crit24
    @crit24 2 місяці тому +1

    crazy how simple these are while most ppl don't even consider, didn't make a list but i like to think of how she is as a person and how she reacts in situations which helps me decide. but now i don't rly feel much of a connection to most people so its difficult to connect with others let alone feel something for a girl.

  • @hk372
    @hk372 Місяць тому +1

    I'm worried I did this when getting with my current partner. I knew going into it I was compromising on a lot of preferences, but I thought it was fine because they weren't deal breakers for me (things like are they a cat person, do they play an instrument, etc). But lately I've just been feeling really incompatible with them. Like, one of my top 3 deal breakers was similar to self improvement; I wanted to start going to the gym and they had expressed interest in going with me, and I thought this could be a great partnership of working towards that goal together. But when we both started going to the gym they stopped only after a couple weeks (they were busy to be fair, but it's been 4 months). I care for them really deeply and I want to help them succeed, and when I brought up issues like me feeling lonely and neglected they promised to do better and have been making a conscious effort. But it's just not enough. I feel so emotionally and physically disconnected from them and I don't know what to do anymore.

  • @mcstupidly
    @mcstupidly 23 дні тому +1

    reminder that it should be *LEGAL* to date your perfect 10/10 girl, so be mindful of that.

  • @CashySwanson
    @CashySwanson 2 місяці тому +1

    That end always gets me bro

  • @TamilIITian
    @TamilIITian 2 місяці тому +2

    only seeing the thumbnail : the red shirt side semicirlce hair - exactly remains me of my old school one side love😭

  • @leapityellskie2412
    @leapityellskie2412 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you, needed this one.

  • @Mariri.X0X0
    @Mariri.X0X0 2 місяці тому +1

    I have a few questions:
    1. You might have answered this before, but pardon me for not knowing--How to manage being tiered after school
    2. What if you know tht something is good for you (eg: exersizing for staying fit) but you dont enjoy the process itself (hence dont stick to it). for this example, one could say picking up a sport or things as such but it isnt necesseraly accessable (atleast in my case)

  • @filipevasconcelos4409
    @filipevasconcelos4409 Місяць тому +1

    I think it should be noted that your standards should change with time. When i was in my 20s, i wanted something really different than what i want now. I became 30 this year, and i started to value peace, quiet and Jesus a lot. What i want from ny fiancee is geared towards that now.

  • @yajurraghavan4193
    @yajurraghavan4193 Місяць тому

    within the first 1:30 of the video, that resonated with me so accurately my dude! I too have felt attracted to girls who are pretty, not realising it wasnt love.
    i too felt attracted to girls just becuase she liked me. that wasnt love. that's just friendship. now im maintaining only friendship with everyone i know. I dont have any crushes at all. in fact i dont feel attracted to any women.
    IN FACT!!! I'VE GOTTEN RID OF ALL SENSE OF "DOWN BAD"ness!
    i literally actively avoid any content the moment i realise it is trying to trap me with fan service. i hate fan service. i respect women. i dont want the women i know and respect to be seen in a situation that's normally available in a fan-service environment.
    i'll comment more as i watch more.
    But now i have an issue. i am actually afraid that i might end up not falling in love. even if i did, i wont have that exciting "dopamine rush" that i used to have long back. i behave way to mature to actually feel dopanine rush. so... yeah i wont have that exciting moments of "dude! im so scared to talk to her what should i tell her?" "bro bro she looked at me!!!" "BRO BRO SHE CALLED ME WHAT DO I DO!!!"
    yeah i wont have these moments. i know exactly what to do. i dont stutter. i wont falter. i will most likely end up being the one that the "bro" for my bro's love-story.
    i should also mention i JUST finished school and im about to get into college, and with that, i should be studying for entrance not yapping here.
    yeah same thing here: i also end up saying "yeah she isnt the one. she's too rude." "nah she's that instagram girl." "nah she's not something or the other"
    and i also am a very very highly logical person. i have no fears. and by fear i refer to irrational sense of fear. no im definitely not gonna stand in front of a train. thats plain stupid. im not scared of darkness, etc. so i always end up thinking logically.
    like i said earlier, this logical thinking is what makes me fear that i wont have that "fun exciting moments of awkward eye-contact" cuz i can just talk to a girl like normal. IF IN CASE I CANT TALK TO A GIRL! for example, no matter what i cant get myself to talk to a girl, i'll just write it off as my gut feeling telling me not to talk to her or not to do something. cuz usually, my gut is right. it knows stuff about people that i dont. it pointed me to a guy, and that guy is my closest friend from that particular place. no other person comes even close to him. so i will feel far less nervous than others.
    So ruff, if ur reading this anything you wanna say to, idk soothe me? cuz one of my very mature friends said "dont worry you'll get the feels" but i know me! i dont get the feeling that i'll get that excitement. i'll only end up acting like a mature grandpa, and say stuff like "we are pillars for each other. no need for nervousness" etc.

  • @Azh_Tiel
    @Azh_Tiel 2 місяці тому

    Like that wise man once told me "It's easier to make decisions, when you know what you want"

  • @tejashwiniraj4883
    @tejashwiniraj4883 Місяць тому

    I also didn't had any standards, or I lowered them too much...As my experience, my recent ex of 2 months, i dating that guy for 7 months and I think he was just with me because i liked him, and he did what he wanted to in the relationship💀 like touching me when I denied and then blaming me for getting mad, giving fake expectations and goals and dreams and doing nothing to achieve them, getting anxiety disoder because of him, and WHEN I broke up with him he went crazy like he hated me to death. In the end he was just 'getting' something from me and when it stopped he became normal. And I kid you not I didn't cry a tear for HIM after break up.

  • @yljasus3707
    @yljasus3707 2 місяці тому +1

    The quote with the Glasses and the Red flags is from "Bojack Horseman", so that u all know. Also i love ur vids ruff, iam currently learning for my oral exams for the Abitur (highest school graduation in Germany) and ur Videos give me Motivation, thank u for that!!

  • @awiosquad
    @awiosquad 2 місяці тому +1

    Best advice I’ve heard is to not look for a 10, but to become the 10

  • @rdnphbic
    @rdnphbic 2 місяці тому

    needed this thankyou sm

  • @LINA-je9my
    @LINA-je9my 2 місяці тому +18

    The chuckle after saying "akhordingly" got me blushing-

  • @bluprosgames4818
    @bluprosgames4818 2 місяці тому +1

    “No hair? At least the shower drain won’t clog” wow

  • @One-mon
    @One-mon 2 місяці тому +1

    been a while since i have seen you hope your doing good man and as always good vid.

  • @voiceofarsa8601
    @voiceofarsa8601 2 місяці тому +16

    can you make a " how to not take stress of study" video aswel?

  • @shizuka.9624
    @shizuka.9624 День тому

    You're the guy who ticks all the boxes i want, love your videos bro😇❤

  • @TamilIITian
    @TamilIITian 2 місяці тому

    bro did 2 things : he educated all and also roasted his past and the entire teen communit itself

  • @Kowalskis_analysis
    @Kowalskis_analysis 2 місяці тому +3

    rizz lessons from the master 🙏

  • @columbinafan
    @columbinafan 29 днів тому +1

    0:16
    me, a girlie who came here to learn a perspective:

  • @mayukha_creation
    @mayukha_creation 13 днів тому

    Instructions unclear : I wrote down my ex as my dream girl.

  • @user-zb6ub1rh9e
    @user-zb6ub1rh9e 2 місяці тому +6

    i wonder if ruff showed his face to the girl or he is always in a mask there as well lol

  • @someonesomeone7871
    @someonesomeone7871 2 місяці тому

    Thanks I just wrote my list while I’m watching the video

  • @pokepanda2298
    @pokepanda2298 2 місяці тому

    first 25 seconds truly resonated with me bro

  • @KalimbaKirb
    @KalimbaKirb 23 дні тому

    totally not me absolutely annihilating my mental state by realising that in fact i HAVEN’T started on self improvement any my life is on a trajectory to eternal suffering
    learning coding is hard okay

  • @ThatLocalAsian
    @ThatLocalAsian 2 місяці тому +3

    ruff i needed help pulling thanks

  • @nxtsuh
    @nxtsuh Місяць тому

    I remember dating a guy who was overweight, loved video games, had bad relationship with his parents and thought to myself, I can change him, I can push him to go to the gym. Once I realized he had no plans to start gyming or get a job, I ditched that relationship so fast lol. I can safely say that I dodged a bullet because he's still gaming, overweight, and has made little to no improvement to start college, get a job, or move out, and that was 5-6 years ago.

  • @Femzsq
    @Femzsq 2 місяці тому +4

    Me watching this to be a green flag

  • @thestraltheundead4093
    @thestraltheundead4093 2 місяці тому

    I have never been in a relationship so for fun sakes I wrote down 30-35 traits that I want in a guy in my diary and it seemed that I had very high standard and someone told me if you yourself cant be your ideal type you cant expect others like that to just fall in love with you so ever since then I am just trying to be my ideal type, its hard but I am getting somewhere close everyday.

  • @Shpoon_
    @Shpoon_ 11 днів тому

    I was absent for afew days and two of my classmates got together, i went absent again and they broke up. Highschool relationships really do jsut come and go

  • @greeshab
    @greeshab 2 місяці тому +9

    Ngl i love your content but some statements you pass are kinda offputting as a female viewer

  • @Longngt77.
    @Longngt77. 2 місяці тому

    I think it also works with building friends

  • @riya.aiken_
    @riya.aiken_ 2 дні тому

    "RGB Color of her skin" 😭