Rudimental have been working in the last years with real life situations with such a powerful lovely attention! i love their music but even more their interest in communicate something strong and try to wake people's mind up. That's simply amazing and show that they do care about the rest of the world. Impressive and intense. Loved to see Elderbrook working with them on something like this!!
The Men's suicide prevention hotline and programs needs to use/show this song and video in their campaigns. As a struggling man with depression and anxiety, this spoke to me on another level. Hands down one of the most incredible music videos I've ever seen.
I’m so glad that this spoke to you. I tried to show it to a mate with depression and he was completely bamboozled by it and didn’t understand the symbology and meaning at all.
They all know the dance because they all know the sadness and pain. They don't need to practice the dance because they already know it instinctively. It's a really powerful music video
My interpretation is very similar, it's a men's support group men aren't known to be open and willing to talk emotions, micheal with his brow knit with anxiety n pain awkwardly stands up to share but his share isn't verbal it's his dance n he starts very hesitantly n scared it won't be understood, his face changes when Mr blue jeans stands and by performing the dance with Michael shows he understood and can relate, then as the rest stand up as they build up their confidence n know that they feel the same but aren't as afraid anymore to share all join in, then when they stop and pair up to me it shows that as different n opposite each pair seems to be (age appearances background culture color etc) that we can all find common ground and understanding in each other if we just try n be open with each other, then they finish strong and the group ends but Michael u see is left feeling a bit more hopeful and validated
@@yenco9649 The counsellor speaks to him at the beginning of the video and asks him if he wants to start today's session.....and he's the last guy to get up and dance.
I love the message of this video. Society burdens men with a false expectation of masculinity. Let the burdens slip from our shoulders, be yourself and lets dance in our masculinity. Strong and vulnerable!
Ok pal. Let's see how far acting vulnerable gets you in this life. Forget all the nice comments on this video from teen girls and young women saying they love a man who can express themselves. I'll give it 10 years before they need a real man and scoff at the idea of a emotional man. Lol
it perfectly describes how men are conditioned to bottle up their feelings and deal with things like depression and addiction on their own. When each man in the video stands up, the first thing he does is a strong-man pose, which to me is a metaphor for the image most men feel they have to project - strength, confidence, invulnerability - and then, slowly, they start to warm up to lowering their armor to dance, which is a metaphor for sharing their feelings with the other men. Once all of them are dancing, you start to see them become a little more confident and even a couple small smiles on their faces because they realize they're not alone, there is hope, and that things can get better. ~KyleEcoyote
great interpretation. before i read it i was like 'this video is so gay', then realized I too was thinking of myself as macho and totally missed the message of the video. it is super awkward to watch though
Keep fighting boys. You’re not weak for feeling depressed or even suicidal. You’re recognising you want more from life and you’re capable of it. Let’s get it
Hit home this song massively especially the year I'm having and reading all these comments, and yours Euan has hit me like a brick Gonna keep fighting and blessed to know I'm not the only bloke feeling like this and the encouragement yous are all given 💙 #itsoknottobeok
That’s it. For me the last ten years have been brutal. Seems like every time it can’t get any worse, it does. Topping myself really would be an easy way out at the moment But as Chris Martin says, if you never try you’ll never know. Take care mate
My first UA-cam comment ever. And I'm a 43-year-old man who has had a UA-cam account for years and watched probably thousands of videos. This video is perfect in every way. Simple. Subtle. Powerful. From the first seconds of the first viewing, it has continued to move me like no other video. Thank you for this.
I don't like the association "not crying=being strong" as it is the societal/cultural construct that pushes people to bottle up emotions. Strength is also the ability of tapping into that emotions before they build up to a breaking point. Empower yourself by embracing the human complex, our flaws and vulnerabilities.
First, and only music video that's ever made me tear up. Every part of this video strikes a chord for me. 0:00 - 0:08 : Reluctance is real. Took me 5 years to finally realize that I needed help, and that "manning up" wasn't going to solve anything. Taking that initial walk through the door is basically an admittance that you're vulnerable, and it takes a lot considering how you're at odds with your pride. 0:18 - 0:30 : No one wants to talk about it - especially those struggling with mental health. It's not exactly something easy to bring up to friends, or family. There's times you feel no one will care, there's times you think no one will relate, there's times you feel you'd be a burden to everyone, there's times you feel that people would look down on you. It's not like you can interject mid-conversation with friends "Oh yeah, I'm depressed, and I dread existence at any capacity." Being someone that has the reputation of trying to make everyone laugh all the time, it feels selfish to jeopardize the influence you have on your friends. 0:50 - 1:00 : "I'm a man, I'm strong"... Dancing is an expressive art. I think the flexing gesture coupled with the dancing says "I'm a man, I'm strong, and that should not hold me back from being expressive, or emotional." Toxic masculinity is garbage, and I think it's the source of a lot of the mental health issues amongst men today. It's instilled into our minds, and I feel like there's an obligation to fight it for the betterment of everyone else. 1:20 - 1:50: There's no feeling like meeting someone going through similar struggles - the first guy to say "you're not alone, man." 1:50 - 3:00: Reluctance again with joining in. Again, It takes a lot out of you to take that first step, but it's easier when you're not the only one. The foundation of any camaraderie is struggle. 3:00 - 3:20 : Fuck this "macho-alpha-masculinity-can't-be-emotional-around-other-dudes-bullshit" mentality man, I just need a damn shoulder to cry on. Gender, sexuality is irrelevant at this point - it's human to human, soul to soul, struggle to struggle. Being able to ditch that stigma feels liberating. 3:20 - 3:50 : Instant change in tone, body language, facial expressions, etc. Sometimes all it takes is reassurance, a spark of support, or a shared moment to help someone push through another day. 3:50 - 4:06 : Going back to our lives like nothing happened. Edit: So happy to see that this has created a positive effect on many people. Granted, I'm not a scholarly art interpreter or anything - just wanted to share my personal connection to the video, and it's amazing how many people relate!
Damn this got me going again: 3:20 - 3:50 : Instant change in tone, body language, facial expressions, etc. Sometimes all it takes is reassurance, a spark of support, or a shared moment to help someone push through another day. Same place in the video actually.
My brother passed away 3-weeks ago, caused by his addiction to alcohol. I had introduced him to Elderbrook and Rudimental as a way to remain positive and to never give up. John was 55-years old and had everything to live for. I will miss him forever.
I can’t tell you how hard this song hit me. When he asks Michael to share with group, he begins. His words are visualized by dance. The rest of the group know the dance moves because they lived the same suffering that Michael has. They dance close together because their life depends on it. I was brought to tears while watching this because it really shows that group therapy works. We’ve been there and so much I is understood between each other that is unspoken. The choreography is absolutely perfect. Top 5 music videos of all time for me.
I totally agree, the first time I watched the video I cried as soon as Michael stood and began to dance, I had to watch it again as soon as it stopped, I then watched it every day for about a month, because I wanted to connect more fully with it, I don't know why? I think the fact that as a gay man I saw how straight men have to bottle up there vulnerability and label it weakness is so unfair, the part where they dance together was so powerful, for me it meant that every man needs human contact and a shoulder to lean/rest on and that doing so isn't weak, it's about humanity. After watching this video I wanted to reach out to every man in my family to say "I know you have pain and I want to offer my shoulder".
@@stanley325 Thats truly beautiful. Loved the song but never saw the video until today. That along with your comment made me feel someting I hadn't in a long while -hope. Thank you.
Same. This carried me through alot of pain and anguish. Im grateful for this and everyone around me. Was 40 years old when i was finally taught to express emotions in other ways than selfloathing, projection and lashing out. Todays a good day!
Why did this bring me to tears? The love? The intimacy? The brotherhood? What a great representation of what men can be and do for each other. I'm so glad my friend sent me a link to this video. BRAVO!
@@elderbrook-music Agreed. I speak often to groups about love and what it can do. I plan to show this to people as an example. I really appreciate your message!
@@GiorniVenibato don't do this, don't shit on the effort made here to enable men (straight or otherwise) to *actually acknowledge, experience and celebrate HUMAN emotions*. Watch the video again. Force yourself to see the beauty of empowering your fellow human beings.
for me its another metaphor, its like being ashamed, not enough before getting together and letting it all out starting to get comfortable and enjoyng the ride, a very Beatyful and expressive coeography
Totally agree @Marcus Turner. The change in emotion and confidence relayed completely by his body language and facial expressions from the beginning of the video compared to the end is phenomenal. The look between he and the Hawaiian (?) guy at 2:00 is also very well played. Great song. Killer video.
As a father of boys - I revisit this video from time to time to remember the importance of men's mental health. Great work Elderbrook - I think you have helped a lot of people here.
I’ve been sober 26 years. I can’t watch this without tearing up. How hard it was to share my emotions at first, and how essential it’s become. Great video
I don't really comment on videos and I've been keeping my anxiety and depression a secret for several years now, but this video and comments made me tear up a bit. I'm a 30 year old male who still struggles with stress, anxiety, and depression and there are times where I feel like I'm worthless and no one cares about me, but I just somehow find a way to keep fighting and stay alive. Music like this has helped me tremendously as well as surrounding myself with family and those with those who really care about me. I just want to thank the makers of this video for putting a smile on my face and giving me hope.
My breath literally caught when they started to Waltz with their heads on each others shoulders. Beautiful. We need to normalize affection between men just the same as we normalize affection between women.
Never say never Anything is possible possibilities are endless The Love in this video shows... no matter your gender your age your race. Together we can progress. It's good to communicate Lol🎶💂
Of course it will happen. It’s important to acknowledge how threatening male-to-male intimacy and affection is for a lot of men, so there will be plenty of men (and possibly women) who will be against it, but it is basically because they are intensely scared of it.
I love the casting of the video. They chose people of all ages, races and physical condition. How each one of them joins the dance it is a great metaphor as to how looking for help is ok, no matter who you are. What an excellent video
Love your view, totally agree, having lost some male friends, males friends family members etc, it's such a wonderful video,...it is indeed an excellent video...let's face it, music and dance is so freeing, let alone a way of communicating. 💙
Я женщина,и я "без вредных привычек"😂как у нас в России это называется,но всегда сочувствую людям страдающим от своих демонов...и так зашёл этот клип...круто❤❤❤❤❤
As a man who has been trying to deal with childhood trauma. After using drugs and lying to deal with it, burning so many bridges, sabotaging relationships, I finally found the strength to reach out and get help.. thank you for this amazing song and video..
So glad you got help... stay strong!!! My oldest passed away almost 4 years ago to a drug overdose and he did all of the things you did... except find the strength to find help. Wishing you many happy years of freedom!
I heard this song on the radio the other day. I could only vaguely remember “there’s something about you, Keeping me sober” but I can just relate to that so much. I have a boyfriend that’s kept me six months clean so far. I’m feeling really emotional right now so if you took the time to read this, thank you.
Not to be a negative nancy, but if things go wrong: Stay with your clean attitude. Beleive me, you don't want to blow it all on some puny feeling you have for a while. Stay strong, NO MATTER WHAT! (I ofc hope you will live happily ever after or how tf that saying goes
sirskorge it’s really hard to stay clean, I get withdrawals of the smell, the feeling and the taste in my mouth, but definitely. I know Dow tainted substance abuse is and don’t plan on abusing it at all. Thank you for taking the time to write that. It means a lot to know that you care (:
@@yessir5205 I had the perfect gf, my mind went boom, I ended the relationship because I thought she would take too much damage from being with me as the fucked up thing I was. Never let feelings get in the way of self preservation!
I've watched this countless times and I just now realized all the moves are "steps". Baby steps, first steps, 12 steps, etc. It's only after they've begun these steps they are able to embrace, which, aside from the "strong man" pose at the beginning, is all their arms do. Strength isn't merely lifting/holding up, it's taking steps. Wow.
That's a cool insight i hadn't considered. What i noticed was that there was multiple gaps in the dance, each incentivizing more ppl to join (is this part of traditional line-dancing?). I only just noticed it on this watch. Yeah the arms are important, i think arm movement is a symbol of aggression/vitality/energy (regardless of gender). Lack of arm movement seems to communicate trepidation or weakness/vulnerability (a normal part of being human - to be embraced not rejected), or at least it sure did to me in the vid. 👍 I read the beginning strong-arm pose as an addressing what is expected of them (with a nod to the possibility that those expectations may be inappropriate & unfair), with a _"Yeah, we absorbed these messages back when we were lil' kids tho"_ energy. (Honestly, i'm pretty unfamiliar with line-dancing, and just assumed from the vid that it was a traditional part of the start of the dance).
@@roidroid Ya I think the "strong man" pose is doing a lot here. It's pleading, it's admission, it's a mask, it's recognition and understanding, it's true strength. There's three people that really get focused on when they pose that stand out. The first guy shows this sort of mask and/or admission of "I'm trying to be strong, please think I'm strong." The first guy to join has more confidence, he seems to say "I see your mask, I've worn you mask, stepping forward is truly strong." Then there's the guy that stand and flexes with a smile. That's the opposite of the first pose we see, not pitiable but hopeful, not bashful but confident.
I have been a moderate Elderbrook fan for the last 4 years but have never seen this video until today. Simply deep and heart felt… The more I consume his art the greater he becomes to me. As a man who grew up in sports and not being able to show weakness, I have worked hard to be ok with vulnerability. Thank you for making inspirational music and videos that bring the feels. 🙏
My teenage years were a dark place for me because I was "being a man" and hid all the emotions from my Dad's death. It took me 11 years of pain until I realised to let go of my emotions and deal with them. Men have emotions too and we should stand together and be vulnerable. Thank you so much for the video and the wonderful message it portrays. Beautiful music too. Big love
Elderbrook Music Thanks for responding they play your song here in Seattle and never saw the video it just hit me and I called in to request it daily to show some love. Thanks for your work m808 💜
I lost my uncle a month ago and you can say he raised me and gave me meaning in life. I cant let go of the stress and reality that he's gone, and it hurts. So same here brother..
It’s poetic how reluctant they were to join the dance they wanted so badly to be a part of, and how it just took one for them to discover the courage they had all along. This was a powerful anthem heard loud and clear.
What I love most about this video is their facial expressions. The subtle changes in their demeanor as they start to realize that they're not the only ones that feel that way, that they're not alone in their suffering; and the level of confidence that reassurance builds is perfectly conveyed through that. And believe it or not, just watching that actually cleared the stress that I'm currently facing. Bravo to the director, the actors, the artists, and anyone else involved in the project - for putting in the time and effort into making a video that can transcend its message beyond our computer/phone screen.
@@josephsavage1540 Feed your head is a great video. But it's definitely got a different message. Feed your head is a fantasy where he imagines all the people who have hurt him have come together, and understand his music. They are very similar stylistically though.
I'm sober 2 years this month. This works on so many levels. The simple set, catchy music, angst in the first guy's eyes (especially), then the reluctant "tough" image they are all exhibiting slowly accepting the "reality" (in this case doing the dance). It goes to a whole new powerful level when these straight guys break out into couples, just craving for the comfort of the other drunk/addict's support and love. So powerful.
I am currently writing a paper on the societal effect on Men's Mental Health. When being told we can use a song as a source this immediately came to mind. I'm so excited to share this with more people who may have never seen it or heard it. I love all the messages and interpretations in the comments! I don't know you but i love all of you for your bravery and choosing to be vulnerable on this platform. Continue to be strong and thank for also choosing today as another in your struggles. A big thank you to all the people involved to make this happen, the power of song and dance continues to change the world!
This is a great one to use when speaking about men's struggles with vulnerability, intimacy and and how masculinity and the cult of toxic masculinity keeps men isolated from each other and from the world...and makes them lonely and unhappy. Good luck!
the video is not about diversity lol , It is the reference to a suicide group or alcoholics who are mostly men , looking for diversity everywhere doesn't do any good as Morgan Freeman himself says
That slight smile at 2:05 always gets me. The feeling of not being alone has such a strong impact on someones life yet can be so subtle at the same time.
The feels in this song for me... the pure hurt on his face, they are all there for heartache and pain. They all come together as one to forget there pain and find comfort in not being alone and exposed. Men need to do this for eachother ❤
Think its more people battling addiction hence them being at an AA meeting. And the lyrics (There's something bout you, keepin' me sober) these people are fighting addictions and when the video starts they're all depressed and don't want to share. Then when the guy gets up and put his arms up that's symbolises strength and courage. The others seen him doing the dance and were courageous enough to get up and join in. Such a powerful video and lyrics 🖤
@@Mikebornthisway I don't know. I'd say it's about opening up with each other, and letting people through our defenses. Look at the first guy, his moves are slow, small, and he is worried hat he will be judget. The very first move is a show of his muscles. He doesn't expect to be understood, but then someone else stands up, and he gets more comfortable. Then more, and more, and the guy gets happier and even smiles in the middle of the video. In the end, there is that sly embarrassment that men have after they open up to each other. I think the song and the video try to give out two different meanings.
ReallyUnexplainable I think if you put both those ideas together it also makes sense, they’re in a meeting and have to find the strength to be vulnerable and open as it is such a challenged thing for stereotypical men. Anyways I like both of your guys deductions on the video, either way it’s beautiful
That moment at 2.05 when he realises more of them have joined him dancing and he smiles slightly? That hits deep, such an amazingly beautiful video. So expressive 🩵
I have struggled with Ptsd, anxiety, depression and panic attacks for nearly 40 years and this video has inspired me so much. The next time I have anxiety or a panic attack I will think to stop, salute and dance my way through it. This video is so incredibly touching and cast perfectly.
You are stronger than you know.... power on! You have inspired so many people without even knowing it. I hope you're feeling a bit better now xxx sending lots of love x
You are doing an amazing job.. I don't know you personally but I know you are trying to do your best... Just keep going on and please don't ever get hurt because of us petty humans... Never resort to drinking and drugs because you are stronger then them and you CAN face them head on... You have been born with a purpose so just look for it.. Once you'll find it nothing will matter to you anymore.. You'll be happy, content and at peace.. Help others and smile more... Even if you have a penny give it in charity... Plant trees and surround yourself with people who will make you mentally stronger...talk to God more often and confine in Him... You will feel most heard when you'll discuss your problems with him, when you'll cry out your burdens in front of Him. He's like an antidepressant... I have found peace in following his ways and not the "do whatever you want" type of ways.... They always made me feel incomplete, off of direction and meaningless... They make me feel purposeless... So you can tell Im talking from experience.... Just breath and relax. Everything will be okay with time❤️
SO proud of you! I started therapy 3 years ago and it was one of the best decisions of my life. How amazing is it that a music video can literally change our lives like that?
I'm a counsellor that works mainly with men. I applaud your courage and wish you well! It's not always easy, in fact, it can be bloody difficult and the bravery needed far surpasses the what society sees as traditional male bravery, in my opinion. Going into therapy has nothing to do with weakness and everything to do with being strong enough to face oneself. Those out there shaming people for it are the ones that are often the most defended and scared. Even just to get to the first sessions shows your strength. peace!
I just by chanced found this video- I have watched it 5 times and cry every single time. I deal with depression and have lost friends to addiction- this video speaks to me on so many levels- I can't thank you enough for this.
@@elderbrook-music Hey Alexander. Saw this and your Live Lounge set last night for the first time. Amazing genius talent. Shout out to the vid. Us men around the world need more of it to save us from ourselves. Brave comes about through challenge and to challenge is heroic.
A message to all brothers... this video shows something so powerful. As men we have to present as strong and independent, we are not allowed to show we are human and carry pain and hurt. The reality is sometimes its only another man that can understand our pain and we need another bro to connect with, but we fear that connection. This video is so powerful because it breaks that barrier. I was blessed than when my mum died I had a male friend who had also lost his mum that saw a tear in my eye and pulled me aside and joyed me in the pain. It was a profound moment and one I will never forget. If you need help or if you have a friend that you know needs help… fuck the social rules of what is means to be a man. To survive this crazy world we need people to understand us so we are not alone. Never leave a bro alone if you know he needs you. It will change both your lives to be bold and reach out. The modern world is all about the struggle of women and I don’t intent to take away from that, but the pain of life for a male is also real. To all my bro’s listening. You are not alone, and we are all finding it hard. I’m 45 and life has been both a blessing but also a tough and rough ride. It would have been easier if society would make it ok for guys to connection with other guys with out it being a sign of weakness. Reach out if you need and reach out if you know someone else is finding it hard. It may be the most rewarding thing you do. Thanks, Elderbrook for this amazing video and song that encapsulates this. Much respect X
This is, without question, the MOST beautiful music video that has ever been made. When I first saw it during lockdown, I blubbed, a lot. Now I can watch it and just smile. Thank you Elderbrook, Rudimental, the producers of the vid, and the actors. Just superb.
You made me cry, it's a beautiful, emotional video. I come back to this video and watch it, I now weep with sheer love but it's striking for so many to hear to watch. I send it to people at times, but unfortunately they don't seem to grasp it's resonance and vitality
I also wanted to say every man in that video did a brilliant job of emotion and dance. Kudos to the choreographer Jacob Holme and director Luke Davies and the entire cast and production.
I must have watched this video more than 50 times in the last 3 weeks; sometimes several times in a row. I still get misty eyed and cry every time I try to discuss it. I'm moved. It is the perfect combination of good acting and direction matched with an important story to tell set to music that never gets old. I LOVELOVELOVE the normalization of platonic intimacy and allowing men to be vulnerable. We need more of that. I could go on and on. This video is perfect.
You've described my current feeling after having found this video today and watching it unashamedly over 20 times now. I'd like to add, your comment is perfect too.
Seeing this video so late after its release. I'm a father to two beautiful young kiddos. I'm a teacher, a man, a father, a veteran, a child who grew up in a family where males weren't the best role model for me, all the while the women in the family kept the family going and surviving. It's hard knowing what is masculine and the tipping point for toxicity when there's so much mixed information from men and women alike.. I personally struggle with this coupled with ADHD and depression. This video really gave me another perspective. Beautiful video.
The moment the other man stood up and joined in is so powerful. The confidence that followed in their movements the more people joined in shows us how important human connection is. We make each other stronger. Especially in these difficult times. We aren't alone, and we need one another. As easy as that is to forget. Reach out, Learn on each other, Don't let that voice in you head keep you from feeling alive
Such a refreshing change seeing these comments. Brought a lot of people together this track and especially the video has. My fav track of the year by far. It’s special. Keep holding on people, you/we have got this 💛💛
When that 2nd guy stood up to support him in his dance.. had me crying. Men don't need much support to survive and it's heartening that there isn't even a single person to help us when we need someone the most. Stay strong brothers.
I am a rape survivor... this happened a few days ago.. your song is on repeat for me every day. Thank you for such a creation. There is strength in numbers and we are all going through something.
I am going to be starting therapy in a few days. It's been rough to say the least. I am very wary while out in public, my anxiety makes me want to run home as fast as I can. But everywhere I go, this song plays... giving me the confidence I need to push through.
hold in there.. i hope you have support and love around you... so so sorry to heat this, i was raped as a child so i feel your pain. sending love.. you can and will get through. try not to shut people out, you are loved ok.
Me too. Because they're all obviously at some addiction group and are all a bit down and depressed then asked to share, he expresses through dance and then they all join in and the arms going up is like a sybol of strength. Such a beautiful song and a very well thought out video. I struggled to hold back the tears when I first watched this 🖤
I've made it my purpose on this earth to message as many depressed people to ask whether they've had their thyroid checked as a route cause. Doing so changed my life and new research is showing up to 60% of all depression cases can be caused by a hyper/hypo thyroid gland. Good luck, my friend :)
I lost my big brother to alcoholism a few months ago. This song/video makes me cry because I wish he had gone to get help and found a brotherhood. I encouraged him gently, the doctors and the hospital too, but his denial was too big. He was lovely before he became his addiction. He was so alone. Many men need to learn to hug, mentally and physically...So much loss...
If this video doesn't make any man hold back a tear, then sadly you lack emotion... beautiful song and video and I am sure its helped so many guys who believe they are strong, but deep down they want to open up.
To me his dance represents everything that's not working in his life. Then the others share their problems and realize they are very similar. Big hugs to all who feel broken but fight to stay alive and positive 🤗
This comments section is just awesome, so much love for all you incredible strangers, just shows if the toughest fight is actually against yourself then asking for help should always be admired, not shamed.
My hand goes up to you guys I'm a 43 year old guy and I've struggled with depression and emotions most of my life and still struggle my girlfriend sent me this and I filled up keep doing what your doing upmost respect for you all and for showing everyone how brave you all are ❤️
hi you dont know me but im the same im 46 have had it all my life for reasons i cannot go into but your strong just like them as it takes strenth to keep waking up and try every day to carry on when all you want to do is end it all so be proude of yourself my friend and every time you feel like giving up just come back to this video and become strong again ok i wish you the best of luck its now 2022 so dont know if you will ever see this message but i hope you do so you know your not alown anymore we may live in diffent parts of the world but your never alone now peace 😉
the song, the choreography, the precision of the dancers, the mix of body types and ages, the simple yet graceful moves, the pure masculinity of the performance! i must have watched this video fifty time already. oh! and big plus, michael socha!
I feel you brother! Same here, not really fighting but i have no meetings here. Only online. This video made my night, i miss real meetings a lot. Hugs and just feel the people. And that dance just showed me we are all the same in the rooms. The first verse is so true... This is what i miss the most! Its crazy but, It is what it is! Stay strong, stay clean! I miss the touch of morning sun Making silhouettes of us Way back when we had our bad times We're staying up all through the night Smoking, drinking, getting high
This video is powerful and I hope all guys suffering many mental issues get the courage to speak, scream, dance and reach out to others to end the suffering.
2 years, 1 month, 20 days, 5 hours, 36 minutes, and 4 seconds sober... as a young adult male combat veteran that kept holding onto alcohol and drugs as a means of self medicating to the point of losing a lot of friends and finding myself in a 12 day coma from motorcycle wreck (just me no one else involved) this song hits home. Many group meetings I sat quiet to the point I finally spoke up on my story and the fact I fell and needed help getting back up. PLUR
I love this video. One man in a group of men finds the courage to show his vulnerability. The rest eventually find their courage and do the same. It makes me emotional. Every. Single. Time.
I like how he struggles to dance well at first, as though he has trouble expressing himself, but as more and more people listen and join, his dancing is more and more confident and articulate. Shows how expressing yourself is hard at first, but with practice and when seeing other people also speak out, it gets easier. I also like the last verse where they're dancing as partners. It's ok to show affection and to be compassionate. It doesn't make you any less of a man to comfort and to be comforted
so me and my gf broke up when i was like 21,one time when i was drunk ,my eyes just threw up water for like a minute when a song came up,i was embarassed as fuck,didnt't go out for like 2 months because of the shame,every dude was like wtf man,i'm 36 now and ppl still remember that shit and nag me about it,welcome to our world
Tiny Twinkler - That’s exactly what I was thinking ! Watching this video and the live version, he portrays himself the same way. It actually made me a quite a fan of him tonight
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This is, without a doubt, the most powerful music video advocating mental health in men I have ever watched.
Yep, I'd agree with that 100%. This music video really strikes a key. Nicely done
TRUE
Agreed
Rudimental have been working in the last years with real life situations with such a powerful lovely attention! i love their music but even more their interest in communicate something strong and try to wake people's mind up. That's simply amazing and show that they do care about the rest of the world.
Impressive and intense. Loved to see Elderbrook working with them on something like this!!
@@krimenation1901 cool info krime nation. There work is tremendous.
The Men's suicide prevention hotline and programs needs to use/show this song and video in their campaigns. As a struggling man with depression and anxiety, this spoke to me on another level. Hands down one of the most incredible music videos I've ever seen.
Feel ya mate.
💝💌💝💌💝💌💝
Lifeline Australia 13 11 14
Too right.
I’m so glad that this spoke to you. I tried to show it to a mate with depression and he was completely bamboozled by it and didn’t understand the symbology and meaning at all.
This video is the kind of video that deserves awards.
Absolutely
Love it!
Wow
Yep, it's beautiful.
💯 👌
They all know the dance because they all know the sadness and pain. They don't need to practice the dance because they already know it instinctively. It's a really powerful music video
100% ❤
Sounds right to me
"Same old walk and dance."
My interpretation is very similar, it's a men's support group men aren't known to be open and willing to talk emotions, micheal with his brow knit with anxiety n pain awkwardly stands up to share but his share isn't verbal it's his dance n he starts very hesitantly n scared it won't be understood, his face changes when Mr blue jeans stands and by performing the dance with Michael shows he understood and can relate, then as the rest stand up as they build up their confidence n know that they feel the same but aren't as afraid anymore to share all join in, then when they stop and pair up to me it shows that as different n opposite each pair seems to be (age appearances background culture color etc) that we can all find common ground and understanding in each other if we just try n be open with each other, then they finish strong and the group ends but Michael u see is left feeling a bit more hopeful and validated
I listen to this before therapy and do the dance to help give me courage to tell her my story
My partner was incredibly lucky to be part of this video and I'm so proud of him every time I watch it....❤
Emily Webb which one is your partner? I’m curious
you should be very proud....which one is he?
@@martinspencer4477 The guy who is the last to get up to dance ❤ x
@@yenco9649 The counsellor speaks to him at the beginning of the video and asks him if he wants to start today's session.....and he's the last guy to get up and dance.
Emily Webb...respect...Looked like great fun
I adore this ... - it just feels like they are speaking to men being allowed to be both strong and vulnerable!!!
Paladin 4 Poets 🥰 yes they can be both
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Nailed it.
Well said!
Vulnerable is a strong trait.
Who's the freaking genius who thought this up, and the amazing choreographer who brought it to life?!
Choreographer: Jacob Holme
The replacement: with Keanu Reeves
@@Edualdo_here Jacob Holme might really know a thing or two about depression
I'm sorry but why is this genius? I feel like I am missing something, I genuinely want to know.
Me😎
Officially the "Greatest Music Video of All Time"
I used to laugh at line dancers. Now I really get it.
I love the message of this video. Society burdens men with a false expectation of masculinity. Let the burdens slip from our shoulders, be yourself and lets dance in our masculinity. Strong and vulnerable!
English teachers be like
Ok pal. Let's see how far acting vulnerable gets you in this life. Forget all the nice comments on this video from teen girls and young women saying they love a man who can express themselves. I'll give it 10 years before they need a real man and scoff at the idea of a emotional man. Lol
CEEJLESS You seem narrow minded.
CEEJLESS you’re right. Being too “vulnerable”, mainly with women will do nothing but slap you in the friend zone.
@@BennettParsons1 aawh you must be atleast 12 years old, how cute.
it perfectly describes how men are conditioned to bottle up their feelings and deal with things like depression and addiction on their own. When each man in the video stands up, the first thing he does is a strong-man pose, which to me is a metaphor for the image most men feel they have to project - strength, confidence, invulnerability - and then, slowly, they start to warm up to lowering their armor to dance, which is a metaphor for sharing their feelings with the other men. Once all of them are dancing, you start to see them become a little more confident and even a couple small smiles on their faces because they realize they're not alone, there is hope, and that things can get better. ~KyleEcoyote
read the producers mind like a fucking book imo worth the small read
Its literally just displaying fragile masculinity being toxic af and its fine to show emotions as a male. lmfao.
Really good analysis. Bravo.
This is a fucking great message
great interpretation. before i read it i was like 'this video is so gay', then realized I too was thinking of myself as macho and totally missed the message of the video. it is super awkward to watch though
Keep fighting boys. You’re not weak for feeling depressed or even suicidal. You’re recognising you want more from life and you’re capable of it. Let’s get it
Euan let’s get it!! Let’s live b4 we die!!
Hit home this song massively especially the year I'm having and reading all these comments, and yours Euan has hit me like a brick
Gonna keep fighting and blessed to know I'm not the only bloke feeling like this and the encouragement yous are all given 💙 #itsoknottobeok
That’s it. For me the last ten years have been brutal. Seems like every time it can’t get any worse, it does. Topping myself really would be an easy way out at the moment But as Chris Martin says, if you never try you’ll never know. Take care mate
awesome 🙏🏾😝
Sam Toms with more bricks we can build a solid wall...
My first UA-cam comment ever. And I'm a 43-year-old man who has had a UA-cam account for years and watched probably thousands of videos. This video is perfect in every way. Simple. Subtle. Powerful. From the first seconds of the first viewing, it has continued to move me like no other video. Thank you for this.
Respect to you sir .
💙 same, brother.
No more stigma on addiction and mental health .. seek help to everyone who struggles ❤️🙏
Felt the same 💗
u sound like an educated man👍
“Crying doesn't mean you are weak. It just means you have been strong for too long” - I love this quote
I LOVE that!!!!
Itatchi Uchiha be like tho
I don't like the association "not crying=being strong" as it is the societal/cultural construct that pushes people to bottle up emotions. Strength is also the ability of tapping into that emotions before they build up to a breaking point.
Empower yourself by embracing the human complex, our flaws and vulnerabilities.
So true.
So true M8, from the late 70s, till finding true love in 03 to this day.
There's that tiny smile at 2:05 is like he realises he's not alone
I've seen the smile, but as I read your comment that exact moment was on the screen.
😍 bless him x
I agree. Special moment and some damn fine acting.
First, and only music video that's ever made me tear up. Every part of this video strikes a chord for me.
0:00 - 0:08 : Reluctance is real. Took me 5 years to finally realize that I needed help, and that "manning up" wasn't going to solve anything. Taking that initial walk through the door is basically an admittance that you're vulnerable, and it takes a lot considering how you're at odds with your pride.
0:18 - 0:30 : No one wants to talk about it - especially those struggling with mental health. It's not exactly something easy to bring up to friends, or family. There's times you feel no one will care, there's times you think no one will relate, there's times you feel you'd be a burden to everyone, there's times you feel that people would look down on you. It's not like you can interject mid-conversation with friends "Oh yeah, I'm depressed, and I dread existence at any capacity." Being someone that has the reputation of trying to make everyone laugh all the time, it feels selfish to jeopardize the influence you have on your friends.
0:50 - 1:00 : "I'm a man, I'm strong"... Dancing is an expressive art. I think the flexing gesture coupled with the dancing says "I'm a man, I'm strong, and that should not hold me back from being expressive, or emotional." Toxic masculinity is garbage, and I think it's the source of a lot of the mental health issues amongst men today. It's instilled into our minds, and I feel like there's an obligation to fight it for the betterment of everyone else.
1:20 - 1:50: There's no feeling like meeting someone going through similar struggles - the first guy to say "you're not alone, man."
1:50 - 3:00: Reluctance again with joining in. Again, It takes a lot out of you to take that first step, but it's easier when you're not the only one. The foundation of any camaraderie is struggle.
3:00 - 3:20 : Fuck this "macho-alpha-masculinity-can't-be-emotional-around-other-dudes-bullshit" mentality man, I just need a damn shoulder to cry on. Gender, sexuality is irrelevant at this point - it's human to human, soul to soul, struggle to struggle. Being able to ditch that stigma feels liberating.
3:20 - 3:50 : Instant change in tone, body language, facial expressions, etc. Sometimes all it takes is reassurance, a spark of support, or a shared moment to help someone push through another day.
3:50 - 4:06 : Going back to our lives like nothing happened.
Edit: So happy to see that this has created a positive effect on many people. Granted, I'm not a scholarly art interpreter or anything - just wanted to share my personal connection to the video, and it's amazing how many people relate!
This is intense and very powerful. Thank you for this.
I was prepared to write something similar but I'm glad you did that better! Awesome!
Problem is the help is lacking.
Damn this got me going again:
3:20 - 3:50 : Instant change in tone, body language, facial expressions, etc. Sometimes all it takes is reassurance, a spark of support, or a shared moment to help someone push through another day.
Same place in the video actually.
Dar H STEP by STEP
👁❤️ it.
Thank you...💝
My brother passed away 3-weeks ago, caused by his addiction to alcohol. I had introduced him to Elderbrook and Rudimental as a way to remain positive and to never give up. John was 55-years old and had everything to live for. I will miss him forever.
Condolences.
Condolences.
Condolences.
Hi will live on with you bro. He is with you he probably loved this tune you showed him. Hang in there mate and im sorry for your brother
So very sorry for your loss. We do what we can, sometimes we just can't save the people we love. He is not in pain any longer.
This masterpiece should have a billion views
agreed
I've been doing my part by watching it over and over again.
@Scott Miller A billion is 1000 millions. Approximately 40x.
We all need a support system. Be there for someone who needs a reminder of who they are so we can ALL shine
Girl Vibes 🙏
😊😇💕💕💕
oh love it.. ill share this on my facebook account.. 😊😊
I love people who bring out the best in others and help them SHINE. Best wishes to all!
👍
I can’t tell you how hard this song hit me. When he asks Michael to share with group, he begins. His words are visualized by dance. The rest of the group know the dance moves because they lived the same suffering that Michael has. They dance close together because their life depends on it. I was brought to tears while watching this because it really shows that group therapy works. We’ve been there and so much I is understood between each other that is unspoken. The choreography is absolutely perfect. Top 5 music videos of all time for me.
Totally agree
👏👏👏 excellent explanation
Yes ❤
I totally agree, the first time I watched the video I cried as soon as Michael stood and began to dance, I had to watch it again as soon as it stopped, I then watched it every day for about a month, because I wanted to connect more fully with it, I don't know why? I think the fact that as a gay man I saw how straight men have to bottle up there vulnerability and label it weakness is so unfair, the part where they dance together was so powerful, for me it meant that every man needs human contact and a shoulder to lean/rest on and that doing so isn't weak, it's about humanity. After watching this video I wanted to reach out to every man in my family to say "I know you have pain and I want to offer my shoulder".
@@stanley325 Thats truly beautiful. Loved the song but never saw the video until today. That along with your comment made me feel someting I hadn't in a long while -hope. Thank you.
I love this video so much. I can’t count how many times I’ve come back here to watch it again.
Same for me, it is just perfect! :)
Same. This carried me through alot of pain and anguish. Im grateful for this and everyone around me. Was 40 years old when i was finally taught to express emotions in other ways than selfloathing, projection and lashing out. Todays a good day!
You and me both!
Michael Socha. Probably one of the most underrated actors of his generation.
Agreed
You say that like he’s in a lot of stuff
I was like omg! Michael Socha from Being Human!!! ❤️❤️
But this is Jake Gyllenhaal??
@@boncreationsza similar. Hence my Donnie darko comment 🙂
The actor's facial expression is the best. Congratulations.
That glance at 2:05
He's such a great actor! You should check out "This Is England" and its TV series
Check out Paul kalkbrenners feed your head if you think this is good. I'm convinced they stole the idea, and the original has so much more emotion
@@thanksnplease.8190 That one gets me every time.
He plays one of Robin Hood's companions in Once Upon A Time !😁
Why did this bring me to tears? The love? The intimacy? The brotherhood? What a great representation of what men can be and do for each other. I'm so glad my friend sent me a link to this video. BRAVO!
@@elderbrook-music Agreed. I speak often to groups about love and what it can do. I plan to show this to people as an example. I really appreciate your message!
It's a fun video and the song is catchy.
zimzimzalabim totally agree
It’s a homosexual anonymous group
@@GiorniVenibato don't do this, don't shit on the effort made here to enable men (straight or otherwise) to *actually acknowledge, experience and celebrate HUMAN emotions*. Watch the video again. Force yourself to see the beauty of empowering your fellow human beings.
3:23 part - goosebump’s every time
The dance is simply a metaphor for everyone letting their emotions out after bottling them up for so long, and it's amazing, very touching
🙏❤️ so true .
for me its another metaphor, its like being ashamed, not enough before getting together and letting it all out starting to get comfortable and enjoyng the ride, a very Beatyful and expressive coeography
What?! No! No way?! For real? Wow!!
@@awesomesauce3110 Might be obvious to some, might take a decade for others to finally face their problems head on.
i see it as. not everybody knows the steps at first but as the song goes on everybody in their own time learn what steps need to be taken
The part that struck me the most is the steps of the first guy. His foot work is so light and timid. Amazing expression of nervousness.
Think it's suppose to represent the fear of being vulnerable
His name is Michael socha he is one of my favourite actors
That actor straight kills it. His face before he stands up....I feel that shit in my soul!
Totally agree @Marcus Turner. The change in emotion and confidence relayed completely by his body language and facial expressions from the beginning of the video compared to the end is phenomenal. The look between he and the Hawaiian (?) guy at 2:00 is also very well played. Great song. Killer video.
It is hard to dance
never in my life have i ever wanted to learn a dance routine until now
X360HotSwap go for it!! ❤️
It was AWESOME I agree I want to learn it too when my shoulder heals!
SAMEEEE I LOVE IT
Righy ?!
RIGHT?! plus it doesn't look that hard!
As a father of boys - I revisit this video from time to time to remember the importance of men's mental health. Great work Elderbrook - I think you have helped a lot of people here.
I’ve been sober 26 years. I can’t watch this without tearing up. How hard it was to share my emotions at first, and how essential it’s become. Great video
💯👍🏼
Welldone brother
More power to you brother
15 years sober! I tear up too.
Good on you 👏 life is tough sometimes, hope you're still going strong.
I don't really comment on videos and I've been keeping my anxiety and depression a secret for several years now, but this video and comments made me tear up a bit. I'm a 30 year old male who still struggles with stress, anxiety, and depression and there are times where I feel like I'm worthless and no one cares about me, but I just somehow find a way to keep fighting and stay alive. Music like this has helped me tremendously as well as surrounding myself with family and those with those who really care about me. I just want to thank the makers of this video for putting a smile on my face and giving me hope.
you're not alone mate. hold on in there. we might be miles away but i know what you mean.
You definitely aren’t alone. You are strong to share this.
Dude, i'm 32 and i feel the same way... It started at around 31 for me... I feel burnt out... Music helps a lot!!!
My breath literally caught when they started to Waltz with their heads on each others shoulders. Beautiful. We need to normalize affection between men just the same as we normalize affection between women.
Will never happen.
Never say never
Anything is possible
possibilities are endless
The Love in this video shows...
no matter your gender your age your race. Together we can progress. It's good to communicate
Lol🎶💂
Bring camaraderie back
Of course it will happen. It’s important to acknowledge how threatening male-to-male intimacy and affection is for a lot of men, so there will be plenty of men (and possibly women) who will be against it, but it is basically because they are intensely scared of it.
We're all human first.
I love the casting of the video. They chose people of all ages, races and physical condition. How each one of them joins the dance it is a great metaphor as to how looking for help is ok, no matter who you are. What an excellent video
Love your view, totally agree, having lost some male friends, males friends family members etc, it's such a wonderful video,...it is indeed an excellent video...let's face it, music and dance is so freeing, let alone a way of communicating. 💙
Я женщина,и я "без вредных привычек"😂как у нас в России это называется,но всегда сочувствую людям страдающим от своих демонов...и так зашёл этот клип...круто❤❤❤❤❤
As a man who has been trying to deal with childhood trauma. After using drugs and lying to deal with it, burning so many bridges, sabotaging relationships, I finally found the strength to reach out and get help.. thank you for this amazing song and video..
H* k yeah, Alexander Adams. Look at you go!
That is awesome! Keep growing, keep loving yourself brother!
So glad you got help... stay strong!!! My oldest passed away almost 4 years ago to a drug overdose and he did all of the things you did... except find the strength to find help. Wishing you many happy years of freedom!
Janet K sorry for your loss ❤️❤️❤️
Keep on keeping on
I heard this song on the radio the other day. I could only vaguely remember “there’s something about you, Keeping me sober” but I can just relate to that so much. I have a boyfriend that’s kept me six months clean so far. I’m feeling really emotional right now so if you took the time to read this, thank you.
Not to be a negative nancy, but if things go wrong: Stay with your clean attitude. Beleive me, you don't want to blow it all on some puny feeling you have for a while. Stay strong, NO MATTER WHAT! (I ofc hope you will live happily ever after or how tf that saying goes
sirskorge it’s really hard to stay clean, I get withdrawals of the smell, the feeling and the taste in my mouth, but definitely. I know Dow tainted substance abuse is and don’t plan on abusing it at all. Thank you for taking the time to write that. It means a lot to know that you care (:
@@yessir5205 I had the perfect gf, my mind went boom, I ended the relationship because I thought she would take too much damage from being with me as the fucked up thing I was.
Never let feelings get in the way of self preservation!
im glad to see that you weren't the 13th step, and that is not sarcasm.
Bless you and bless your boyfriend
There is something about this, I don't know what, but it makes me feel like I'm not alone
You aren't. We are all connected. Try to remember you are part of the whole collective. Peace & love.
Same
nope your definitely not alone! right there with ya!
You aint alone mate.
SAME
I've watched this countless times and I just now realized all the moves are "steps". Baby steps, first steps, 12 steps, etc. It's only after they've begun these steps they are able to embrace, which, aside from the "strong man" pose at the beginning, is all their arms do. Strength isn't merely lifting/holding up, it's taking steps. Wow.
That's a cool insight i hadn't considered.
What i noticed was that there was multiple gaps in the dance, each incentivizing more ppl to join (is this part of traditional line-dancing?). I only just noticed it on this watch.
Yeah the arms are important, i think arm movement is a symbol of aggression/vitality/energy (regardless of gender). Lack of arm movement seems to communicate trepidation or weakness/vulnerability (a normal part of being human - to be embraced not rejected), or at least it sure did to me in the vid. 👍
I read the beginning strong-arm pose as an addressing what is expected of them (with a nod to the possibility that those expectations may be inappropriate & unfair), with a _"Yeah, we absorbed these messages back when we were lil' kids tho"_ energy.
(Honestly, i'm pretty unfamiliar with line-dancing, and just assumed from the vid that it was a traditional part of the start of the dance).
Wow great observation 👍
@@roidroid Ya I think the "strong man" pose is doing a lot here. It's pleading, it's admission, it's a mask, it's recognition and understanding, it's true strength. There's three people that really get focused on when they pose that stand out. The first guy shows this sort of mask and/or admission of "I'm trying to be strong, please think I'm strong." The first guy to join has more confidence, he seems to say "I see your mask, I've worn you mask, stepping forward is truly strong." Then there's the guy that stand and flexes with a smile. That's the opposite of the first pose we see, not pitiable but hopeful, not bashful but confident.
Bloody love this video. Moved emotionally and physically. Wish the world had a bit more of Elderbrook & Rudimental love in it...
😀😇💕💕💕
Strange you say that. Every time I watch this, I end up crying. Something special about this one.
Hey 👋 I’m 45 and a mess... sober for 10 months 🤗 music means everything to me ! Love this song ❤️
Let’s live B4 we die!!!
kasper michel keep on going we’re really proud of you ❤️
Yassine Agalmos thx 🙏 also quit smoking 3 months today 🤗
Bless you and stay healthy!!
Well done man ur not alone ok 👌 keep going u will get there
TheCheese30 thx man 🙏
Well done mate
Now that's therapy right there XXX
😀😇💕💕💕👏💪
Would attend.
I have been a moderate Elderbrook fan for the last 4 years but have never seen this video until today. Simply deep and heart felt… The more I consume his art the greater he becomes to me. As a man who grew up in sports and not being able to show weakness, I have worked hard to be ok with vulnerability. Thank you for making inspirational music and videos that bring the feels. 🙏
My teenage years were a dark place for me because I was "being a man" and hid all the emotions from my Dad's death. It took me 11 years of pain until I realised to let go of my emotions and deal with them.
Men have emotions too and we should stand together and be vulnerable. Thank you so much for the video and the wonderful message it portrays. Beautiful music too. Big love
Same here, after I lost my dad when I was 19 it was downward spiral I think still affects me
Elderbrook Music Thanks for responding they play your song here in Seattle and never saw the video it just hit me and I called in to request it daily to show some love. Thanks for your work m808 💜
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I lost my uncle a month ago and you can say he raised me and gave me meaning in life. I cant let go of the stress and reality that he's gone, and it hurts. So same here brother..
Glad your doing good now mate!! Have a wonderful 2020
It’s poetic how reluctant they were to join the dance they wanted so badly to be a part of, and how it just took one for them to discover the courage they had all along.
This was a powerful anthem heard loud and clear.
May be a bit too soon after a long
What I love most about this video is their facial expressions. The subtle changes in their demeanor as they start to realize that they're not the only ones that feel that way, that they're not alone in their suffering; and the level of confidence that reassurance builds is perfectly conveyed through that. And believe it or not, just watching that actually cleared the stress that I'm currently facing. Bravo to the director, the actors, the artists, and anyone else involved in the project - for putting in the time and effort into making a video that can transcend its message beyond our computer/phone screen.
anotger amen for you to word that so perfectly
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@@josephsavage1540 Feed your head is a great video. But it's definitely got a different message. Feed your head is a fantasy where he imagines all the people who have hurt him have come together, and understand his music. They are very similar stylistically though.
👌👌👌 Pure video, No Ads #PureTuber
This song got me through the worst time of my life. Forever in love.....2024❤
Good times will eventually come!!!
Same here
Your loved... Stay strong 💪❤️
Oh man, I feel that. I'm currently struggling with mental health, however, this video may be the light I needed.
I love how Rudimental clips are all about the motivation of figuring things out and standing up.
Well said @beyourselfmusic 😊
Elderbrook just knows how to pull my heart strings with a rhythm and emotion
3 years later and this music video still makes me cry everytime
true, nowadays 90% of videos are about tits, girls, etc but this is such a beautiful video
that has a lot to share
Same here. Every single time.
Me too.
Likewise, there is no other choice. See it, feel it
Same. Even if I watch it again and again.
I'm sober 2 years this month. This works on so many levels. The simple set, catchy music, angst in the first guy's eyes (especially), then the reluctant "tough" image they are all exhibiting slowly accepting the "reality" (in this case doing the dance). It goes to a whole new powerful level when these straight guys break out into couples, just craving for the comfort of the other drunk/addict's support and love. So powerful.
So so powerful ❤️😍
Congratulations on Your Sobriety....
I know it's not easy!!
God Bless You Always!!
Thank you for sharing
Well done Bill. Yes isn't it an incredible film, I think you've summed it up well.
You are awesome thank you for sharing
awesome explanation
Exactly what I was getting be at in my post. Way better worded. Congratulations.
I was just looking for new cardio music why am I crying ??
not sure. You're weird I guess?
zimzimzalabim guess I am, zim zim zalabim, guess I am
I'm cutting onions, Kappa
same! I am crying! lolol! Just wanted a pump song!
It's OK, me too
So beautiful to see men being vulnerable around, and connecting with each other!
I'm a man and have tears in my eyes. And I'm allowed to have tears in my eyes 🙂
Aljoscha P. I cried so hard
Yes you are 🙂
zawitherockin And it’s fine🙂
It takes a real man to have tears in his eyes
❤️💪🏽
I am currently writing a paper on the societal effect on Men's Mental Health. When being told we can use a song as a source this immediately came to mind. I'm so excited to share this with more people who may have never seen it or heard it. I love all the messages and interpretations in the comments! I don't know you but i love all of you for your bravery and choosing to be vulnerable on this platform. Continue to be strong and thank for also choosing today as another in your struggles. A big thank you to all the people involved to make this happen, the power of song and dance continues to change the world!
This is a great one to use when speaking about men's struggles with vulnerability, intimacy and and how masculinity and the cult of toxic masculinity keeps men isolated from each other and from the world...and makes them lonely and unhappy. Good luck!
Una mujer que admira tu hermoso comentario ❤
i love the diversity, the message, the whole video and I think I just fell in love with Elderbrook
the video is not about diversity
lol , It is the reference to a suicide group or alcoholics who are mostly men
,
looking for diversity everywhere doesn't do any good as Morgan Freeman himself says
alejandro garcia bet they would love japans “diversity” 😂
@@BennettParsons1 jajajajajja rolf , tentacles and lolis diversity?
xD
@@zerofara i mean all the different types of men but okay
lrnc hllns that’s exactly how I perceived your comment! The difference in age
That slight smile at 2:05 always gets me. The feeling of not being alone has such a strong impact on someones life yet can be so subtle at the same time.
100%
It's a brief but bright little spark of hope and redemption.
always a strong influence to keep moving forward
True man
The feels in this song for me... the pure hurt on his face, they are all there for heartache and pain. They all come together as one to forget there pain and find comfort in not being alone and exposed. Men need to do this for eachother ❤
Think its more people battling addiction hence them being at an AA meeting. And the lyrics (There's something bout you, keepin' me sober) these people are fighting addictions and when the video starts they're all depressed and don't want to share. Then when the guy gets up and put his arms up that's symbolises strength and courage. The others seen him doing the dance and were courageous enough to get up and join in. Such a powerful video and lyrics 🖤
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@@Mikebornthisway I don't know. I'd say it's about opening up with each other, and letting people through our defenses. Look at the first guy, his moves are slow, small, and he is worried hat he will be judget. The very first move is a show of his muscles. He doesn't expect to be understood, but then someone else stands up, and he gets more comfortable. Then more, and more, and the guy gets happier and even smiles in the middle of the video. In the end, there is that sly embarrassment that men have after they open up to each other. I think the song and the video try to give out two different meanings.
ReallyUnexplainable I think if you put both those ideas together it also makes sense, they’re in a meeting and have to find the strength to be vulnerable and open as it is such a challenged thing for stereotypical men. Anyways I like both of your guys deductions on the video, either way it’s beautiful
@@ZiamIsBrilliam It really is. I like the song very much, but the video is sjust a tiny bit better for me.
That moment at 2.05 when he realises more of them have joined him dancing and he smiles slightly? That hits deep, such an amazingly beautiful video. So expressive 🩵
Noticed that part today ❤
2:05 just to make it easier to search
Love Michael Socha, such a good actor. ❤
Кто-то остро пострадал, по сааброжениям совести...!
I have struggled with Ptsd, anxiety, depression and panic attacks for nearly 40 years and this video has inspired me so much. The next time I have anxiety or a panic attack I will think to stop, salute and dance my way through it. This video is so incredibly touching and cast perfectly.
Glad to know that you’re in a better place brother 💯🙏
Hope you are doing well Ben. Remember you're not alone. Heck, even using this comment section could help if needed. Were always here
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You are stronger than you know.... power on! You have inspired so many people without even knowing it. I hope you're feeling a bit better now xxx sending lots of love x
Hello Ben , I think natural hemp helps . I hope your ok
Watch something funny 😆
- sincerely
Anonymous friendly dinosaur 🦕
This was just sitting in my "recommended videos," and BAM! New favorite song!
Me too ! My favorite New song.
New favorite video!!!
Same here, and I started this video coz I recognized Michael Socha!
Haha yes! Me too!
this music video pushed me to start going to therapy a few months back and I'm thankful for that.
You've got this man. You're stronger than you think
You are doing an amazing job.. I don't know you personally but I know you are trying to do your best... Just keep going on and please don't ever get hurt because of us petty humans... Never resort to drinking and drugs because you are stronger then them and you CAN face them head on... You have been born with a purpose so just look for it.. Once you'll find it nothing will matter to you anymore.. You'll be happy, content and at peace.. Help others and smile more... Even if you have a penny give it in charity... Plant trees and surround yourself with people who will make you mentally stronger...talk to God more often and confine in Him... You will feel most heard when you'll discuss your problems with him, when you'll cry out your burdens in front of Him. He's like an antidepressant... I have found peace in following his ways and not the "do whatever you want" type of ways.... They always made me feel incomplete, off of direction and meaningless... They make me feel purposeless... So you can tell Im talking from experience.... Just breath and relax. Everything will be okay with time❤️
SO proud of you! I started therapy 3 years ago and it was one of the best decisions of my life. How amazing is it that a music video can literally change our lives like that?
Good Job people.
I'm a counsellor that works mainly with men. I applaud your courage and wish you well! It's not always easy, in fact, it can be bloody difficult and the bravery needed far surpasses the what society sees as traditional male bravery, in my opinion. Going into therapy has nothing to do with weakness and everything to do with being strong enough to face oneself. Those out there shaming people for it are the ones that are often the most defended and scared. Even just to get to the first sessions shows your strength. peace!
What a music video man. Such a strong message ❤
I just by chanced found this video- I have watched it 5 times and cry every single time. I deal with depression and have lost friends to addiction- this video speaks to me on so many levels- I can't thank you enough for this.
Sending you the biggest tightest hugs ❤️
I send you all the best!! You are doing great, keep going, better times are ahead of you, I'm sure about this! :)
Please dont give up..life is beautifull, dark sides but then after the sun is coming for everyone Gretings from PL
I've watched this video 50 times and I've cried 50 times.
OneManMedia22 same here :)
The little smile at 2.05 is so good such a small detail
I cried, on steroids!
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Sending you lots of love m8. Keep at it, there's lots there to think and talk through.
Amazing casting. The emotions in Michael Socha's eyes/face are moving.
@@elderbrook-music MATE YOU'RE BREATHTAKING
Elderbrook Music 🎧❤️🙌🏻
watch him in Being Human
@@wicky525 watching it as I write this 👌
@@elderbrook-music Hey Alexander. Saw this and your Live Lounge set last night for the first time. Amazing genius talent. Shout out to the vid. Us men around the world need more of it to save us from ourselves. Brave comes about through challenge and to challenge is heroic.
A message to all brothers... this video shows something so powerful. As men we have to present as strong and independent, we are not allowed to show we are human and carry pain and hurt. The reality is sometimes its only another man that can understand our pain and we need another bro to connect with, but we fear that connection. This video is so powerful because it breaks that barrier. I was blessed than when my mum died I had a male friend who had also lost his mum that saw a tear in my eye and pulled me aside and joyed me in the pain. It was a profound moment and one I will never forget. If you need help or if you have a friend that you know needs help… fuck the social rules of what is means to be a man. To survive this crazy world we need people to understand us so we are not alone. Never leave a bro alone if you know he needs you. It will change both your lives to be bold and reach out. The modern world is all about the struggle of women and I don’t intent to take away from that, but the pain of life for a male is also real. To all my bro’s listening. You are not alone, and we are all finding it hard. I’m 45 and life has been both a blessing but also a tough and rough ride. It would have been easier if society would make it ok for guys to connection with other guys with out it being a sign of weakness. Reach out if you need and reach out if you know someone else is finding it hard. It may be the most rewarding thing you do. Thanks, Elderbrook for this amazing video and song that encapsulates this. Much respect X
This is, without question, the MOST beautiful music video that has ever been made. When I first saw it during lockdown, I blubbed, a lot. Now I can watch it and just smile. Thank you Elderbrook, Rudimental, the producers of the vid, and the actors. Just superb.
You made me cry, it's a beautiful, emotional video. I come back to this video and watch it, I now weep with sheer love but it's striking for so many to hear to watch. I send it to people at times, but unfortunately they don't seem to grasp it's resonance and vitality
Absolute chills when they all stood at the end , head held high knowing there not alone
I also wanted to say every man in that video did a brilliant job of emotion and dance. Kudos to the choreographer Jacob Holme and director Luke Davies and the entire cast and production.
I think I could watch this a million times, and it still gives me chills as if it was for the first time seeing it. Powerful
I must have watched this video more than 50 times in the last 3 weeks; sometimes several times in a row. I still get misty eyed and cry every time I try to discuss it. I'm moved. It is the perfect combination of good acting and direction matched with an important story to tell set to music that never gets old. I LOVELOVELOVE the normalization of platonic intimacy and allowing men to be vulnerable. We need more of that. I could go on and on. This video is perfect.
I watch it almost every day several times a day! #PERFECT
Me, too. I've lost count.
You've described my current feeling after having found this video today and watching it unashamedly over 20 times now. I'd like to add, your comment is perfect too.
being strong and fearless, yet soft and vulnerable = being human.
Thank you, Michael, for stepping up sharing with the group.
Seeing this video so late after its release. I'm a father to two beautiful young kiddos. I'm a teacher, a man, a father, a veteran, a child who grew up in a family where males weren't the best role model for me, all the while the women in the family kept the family going and surviving. It's hard knowing what is masculine and the tipping point for toxicity when there's so much mixed information from men and women alike.. I personally struggle with this coupled with ADHD and depression. This video really gave me another perspective. Beautiful video.
All the best for you and your kids! I'm sure you are going to be a good role model!
All love brother. You got this.
The moment the other man stood up and joined in is so powerful. The confidence that followed in their movements the more people joined in shows us how important human connection is. We make each other stronger. Especially in these difficult times. We aren't alone, and we need one another. As easy as that is to forget. Reach out, Learn on each other, Don't let that voice in you head keep you from feeling alive
Such a refreshing change seeing these comments. Brought a lot of people together this track and especially the video has. My fav track of the year by far. It’s special.
Keep holding on people, you/we have got this 💛💛
Men should never have to feel afraid about showing their vulnerabilities.
Takes a real man 😉
I cry and show my emotion all the time. Its one of things my girlfriend loves about me.
@@jakemisselbrook5001 thats good
To show emotion is to show you really care.
and women should allow safe places for men.
When that 2nd guy stood up to support him in his dance.. had me crying. Men don't need much support to survive and it's heartening that there isn't even a single person to help us when we need someone the most. Stay strong brothers.
Wow, I’m speechless. So much positivity packed in a short video. 😍It’ll be on repeat for a while, I can already tell 😂
Exact feelings! 👍👏
Same over here.
Same man, this is purely good story telling!!
Never thought I could fall in love with a music video... 💕
I am a rape survivor... this happened a few days ago.. your song is on repeat for me every day. Thank you for such a creation. There is strength in numbers and we are all going through something.
Fuck, sorry to hear that x
I'm so sorry. I hope you get the help that you need
I am going to be starting therapy in a few days. It's been rough to say the least. I am very wary while out in public, my anxiety makes me want to run home as fast as I can. But everywhere I go, this song plays... giving me the confidence I need to push through.
@@aquaticmandi7141 so sorry to hear what happened to you.
hold in there.. i hope you have support and love around you... so so sorry to heat this, i was raped as a child so i feel your pain. sending love.. you can and will get through. try not to shut people out, you are loved ok.
Just revisited this banger again and what a song. Beautiful message as well.
I've got emotional watching this and I don't know why. Love it so much!
Me too. Because they're all obviously at some addiction group and are all a bit down and depressed then asked to share, he expresses through dance and then they all join in and the arms going up is like a sybol of strength. Such a beautiful song and a very well thought out video.
I struggled to hold back the tears when I first watched this 🖤
As someone who suffers from extreme depression, this is one of the most beautiful videos I've ever seen (and it totally fits the musical vibe!!
I've made it my purpose on this earth to message as many depressed people to ask whether they've had their thyroid checked as a route cause. Doing so changed my life and new research is showing up to 60% of all depression cases can be caused by a hyper/hypo thyroid gland. Good luck, my friend :)
Hey i got extreme depression and wanted to let you know you're not alone! All love!
I lost my big brother to alcoholism a few months ago. This song/video makes me cry because I wish he had gone to get help and found a brotherhood. I encouraged him gently, the doctors and the hospital too, but his denial was too big. He was lovely before he became his addiction. He was so alone. Many men need to learn to hug, mentally and physically...So much loss...
If this video doesn't make any man hold back a tear, then sadly you lack emotion... beautiful song and video and I am sure its helped so many guys who believe they are strong, but deep down they want to open up.
This song has got me through the darkest time of my life and all i can say is thank you
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You're not the only one
To me his dance represents everything that's not working in his life. Then the others share their problems and realize they are very similar. Big hugs to all who feel broken but fight to stay alive and positive 🤗
Thing is. Need to hold on to You. Needing someone else is the problem
This comments section is just awesome, so much love for all you incredible strangers, just shows if the toughest fight is actually against yourself then asking for help should always be admired, not shamed.
This is powerful and beautiful! .
My hand goes up to you guys I'm a 43 year old guy and I've struggled with depression and emotions most of my life and still struggle my girlfriend sent me this and I filled up keep doing what your doing upmost respect for you all and for showing everyone how brave you all are ❤️
Hey! I hope you are doing well! Maybe this comment will be a nice reminder to come back to this video that brought some brightness to your day :)
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hi you dont know me but im the same im 46 have had it all my life for reasons i cannot go into but your strong just like them as it takes strenth to keep waking up and try every day to carry on when all you want to do is end it all so be proude of yourself my friend and every time you feel like giving up just come back to this video and become strong again ok i wish you the best of luck its now 2022 so dont know if you will ever see this message but i hope you do so you know your not alown anymore we may live in diffent parts of the world but your never alone now peace 😉
the song, the choreography, the precision of the dancers, the mix of body types and ages, the simple yet graceful moves, the pure masculinity of the performance! i must have watched this video fifty time already. oh! and big plus, michael socha!
Its perfect
As a person who is currently fighting for sobriety, this video gives me hope.
Hold on! You can! Mucha fuerza!!!
heck yeah Daniel we all believe in you!!!!!
I feel you brother! Same here, not really fighting but i have no meetings here. Only online. This video made my night, i miss real meetings a lot. Hugs and just feel the people. And that dance just showed me we are all the same in the rooms.
The first verse is so true... This is what i miss the most! Its crazy but, It is what it is! Stay strong, stay clean!
I miss the touch of morning sun
Making silhouettes of us
Way back when we had our bad times
We're staying up all through the night
Smoking, drinking, getting high
We're in this together brother. Força!
@@contac0 thanks, brother
This video is powerful and I hope all guys suffering many mental issues get the courage to speak, scream, dance and reach out to others to end the suffering.
2 years, 1 month, 20 days, 5 hours, 36 minutes, and 4 seconds sober... as a young adult male combat veteran that kept holding onto alcohol and drugs as a means of self medicating to the point of losing a lot of friends and finding myself in a 12 day coma from motorcycle wreck (just me no one else involved) this song hits home. Many group meetings I sat quiet to the point I finally spoke up on my story and the fact I fell and needed help getting back up. PLUR
We do recover my brother. I’ll be ten weeks clean/sober on Tuesday.
Your story is inspiring
Wauw, stay strong bro!!!
keep your chin up, youre doing so so well
Wish I had your strength keep going soldier your smashing it
@@matthoward7645 once we were soldiers....
As a person in recovery, this was beautiful
I love the message. Let’s us all know it’s gunna be ok
This is one of the best music videos I've ever seen.
Yes😻
So true something different to all the other videos
Yes, finally one that evokes POSITIVE emotion and motivation to be BETTER in life.
Check out Paul kalkbrenner's- feed your head.
This video makes me tear up every time
I love this video. One man in a group of men finds the courage to show his vulnerability. The rest eventually find their courage and do the same. It makes me emotional. Every. Single. Time.
I like how he struggles to dance well at first, as though he has trouble expressing himself, but as more and more people listen and join, his dancing is more and more confident and articulate. Shows how expressing yourself is hard at first, but with practice and when seeing other people also speak out, it gets easier. I also like the last verse where they're dancing as partners. It's ok to show affection and to be compassionate. It doesn't make you any less of a man to comfort and to be comforted
so me and my gf broke up when i was like 21,one time when i was drunk ,my eyes just threw up water for like a minute when a song came up,i was embarassed as fuck,didnt't go out for like 2 months because of the shame,every dude was like wtf man,i'm 36 now and ppl still remember that shit and nag me about it,welcome to our world
The soft rhythmic, yet symbolic dance moves talk alot.
Gay
Tiny Twinkler - That’s exactly what I was thinking ! Watching this video and the live version, he portrays himself the same way. It actually made me a quite a fan of him tonight
@@stephanieedwards444 not gay. That's the men's association that's helping them recover from traumatic experience.
Stephanie Edwards it’s called camaraderie.
This song helped me thru a bad time in my life i will be forever grateful .