how to radiate feminine energy - do nothing
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In this episode, Elle dives into the topic of how to radiate feminine energy by doing nothing. Elle starts by discussing what feminine energy is and how it is affiliated with nurturing, love, receptivity, compassion, and care. She emphasizes the importance of being, not doing, and how having strong boundaries is essential to achieve peace and empowerment. She shares insights from "The Courage to Be Disliked" and talks about why it's important to stop picking up the tasks of others.
Throughout the episode, Elle provides valuable insights and practical advice on how to get that bag while securing your own bag. She emphasizes the importance of minding your own business, setting boundaries, and not taking on the tasks of others. Elle also talks about the importance of being comfortable with yourself and embodying your chaos, creativity, and ability to multiply.
Keywords: Spoiled Girlie Support Group, feminine energy, strong boundaries, financial security, first date safety, types of men to avoid, well-being, peace, empowerment, personal growth, professional growth. - Навчання та стиль
"If a men wants an angel he should create heaven for her" that quote changed the way I viewed dating.
For real, my ex used to call me like that but used my kindness against me and to hurt me. Fck 😐
This is why I will do the opposite, If you only take and never give ...WELCOME TO HELL
@@nightlord8756 so you get dumped?
For those people who tries to be aesthetic but actually looks like wannabe lifeless... Red lipstick, red dress, b*tchy attitude, lana del rey; dark feminine, femma fatale, feminine energy. 💀💀💀💀 I'm glad I deleted TikTok years ago
Where did you read that quote?
Real life example of this in my life is my aunt. Girlie does NOTHING. Like, i don't think she ever work for even once in her life. She's 54 now but i swear she still pass as someone in her 30s!
Her daily activities are pilates, cooking whatever she likes, shopping, and picnic with her husband. She's the embodiment of unbothered and being very secure in herself. Love that for her fr♡
Sounds lovely, did she and her husband have any children?
Hey which one of my friends are you lol just kidding the woman you described as 54 but you could be describing me right now, except that I'm 50....... And I raised five children that I gave birth to, and I still look like I'm in my 30s. When I walk into stores people stop to stare at me, men will often times circle around a row of food and come back just to take a second look at me. I don't know I guess you couldn't really say that I did nothing for 50 years lol after all there was the five kids and the two different husbands!
So I assume ur auntie is a housewife?
When i grow up, I wanna be your auntie😍😍😍😍😚
It’s interesting that we/society views what your aunt does “as doing NOTHING” when she does so much that’s it’s not quantifiable bc it’s worth more than gold.
What your aunt does takes love, wisdom, compassion, dedication, grit, kindness, and so much more - those are qualities that take a lifetime to achieve. Hats off to your aunt
It's so sad that other women today find femininity offensive and sexist when really it's beautiful and powerful.
it's the true internalized misogyny projecting "internalized misogyny" on women embracing what makes them feel good about themselves 😭
@@therealmanifestelle That's a good way of seeing it! It's a beautiful energy, how does it harm your life? I never get it :(
Hate this for all of us 😭😭
Only modern *western women, you need to understand the world doesn't revolve around the west
I see this opinion everywhere online but I literally have never seen women shitting on femininity. The mainstream status quo if anything is being feminine and looking good and that’s about it.
- she is at peace so she brings peace to others
-mind your own business
- being in your feminine is less about doing and more about being.
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I'm the opposite, I'd like to be more masculine, action-oriented and a risk taker.
@leonore3349..WHAT???😧 No thanks! I prefer just BEING, thank you very much!! I “do” with all my hobbies & passions💅
@@leonore3349 so valid be however u want to be
@@leonore3349 same
As a woman, I feel this about other women! I see them and I go “wow, women bring so much grandeur and peace and calm by just existing”. And it makes me embody my own femininity with so much more grace 💕✨
same🥹
Yes so true! I’ve been organising events (mostly parties) for some years now. And the best one‘s (good vibes, less incidents) were always the ones with a high percentage in woman (like 45% or more). Fun fact: if we book more female DJs, more woman come to the party 👯
Oooo financial independence so exhausting 🤗🤗🤓
This! OMG! I literally met a girl the other day who was so feminine, so soft-spoken and calm, it made me want to be like her. I just loved her vibe, it was so relaxing being around her.
OMG YES
"that is not my task" is my new favourite affirmation now I guess😅
Haha nice one
Frr
I used to say i't's not my fight' same kinda
Same
And - anyone can do that too... - is my fav too. It shows you can delegate indirectly
I can't believe it! I'm 60 years old and this amazing young lady less than half my age just summed it up better than anyone I ever heard in my life! Wow! Damn you're brilliant!
Lady, you're destined to be a great teacher, healer, psychologist, coach, whatever!
Thanks for being you! ❤
Lol I know right! I wish this intelligent young lady was around when I was young. Would have saved me a lot of heartache and money.
Right! In less than 10 minutes!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
I will not 🫡. “Can you not?” is my favorite line lol
😂💅🏽
There's another "stooop iitt"!
It’s not good to be only feminine or only masculine as a man or a woman. We all have both of the energies inside and we just have to learn how and when to use it.
That’s the ultimate powerhouse. I agree completely
agreed
BALANCE!
Agree
Yeah, the thing is, people will become lazy and incompetent this way. You are not useful if you just exist in the workplace for instance. I have a colleague who just exists and be's. She's super feminine. I'm sending out a complaint on her because I've had to pick up her slack and I feel drained. It's not fair that I've had to do my own work and am now responsible for her bullshit. I want her gone and I'll make sure she is. I'm fucking tired of OT-ing because of her, who just sits on her ass, looks pretty, texts on her phone, looks busy and then asks me hundreds of questions throughout the day which basically means I'm doing her work for her. Why is she here? You're not valuable by merely existing. Sorry but I can't ever agree with this inherent value bs. If you're incompetent, you're not allowed in my life. I'm going to make sure I make it harder for people to ask for my help and this means I'll have to speak to my boss about this as well as they constantly encourage helping your team and blah blah.
My grandmother totally has feminine energy. She has peace and brings it to others
So weird because I was literally thinking my grandma had that than this comment manifested
@@Alicia-vq8jg did it manifest or are grandma's just calm?
It’s wonderful, means you have a good example in your life🩵🩷💛
My man allowed me to fully enter my feminine energy and now even at work, all the men do the work and all I can focus on myself, my well-being, and my schooling. Im an EMT so even all the heavy lifting, the men do it for me and I bring the peace and compassion to my patients. I literally had a partner tell me “you’re the ambulance princess” 😭💕
What I meant by this comment was the heavy lifting part of my job. We would get really really heavy patients, 300lbs and up. And I would get my partners (majority men) say that they’ll do the lifting for me. I didn’t sit there and tell them to do it but I see it was kinda taken the wrong way which is understandable. I of course was able to lift my patients up but I had the men offer it to me and didn’t want me to. Hope that clears it up some.
omg loveeee, keep being the best at work
Omg love that for you!
I'm confused. All the men do the work?
awwwh, ambulance princess🤩
as a girl in a tech world, i got to where i am now because i embodied my masculine energy. i strangled my feminine energy because i had a lot of incorrect misogynistic feelings about women and also felt like i had to literally act and dress like a man for the people to take me seriously,
this really resonated with me because im healing mentally and getting more comfortable with my feminine energy recently and now i feel so much more empowered as a woman thank you. i still don't know ifm completely okay with the idea that im enough just by being a woman, because in my field women have to work hard to get valued, but i see ur point and i think itll take time
YOU ARE ENOUGH ❤️❤️❤️❤️
you’ve worked so hard and it really does suck that we have to change the way we act and appear so that we can be taken more seriously. hard work isn’t masculine though, hard work shows strength. and women have strength and pain built in. the women in my life are mentally, emotionally, and therefore physically stronger than a lot of the men i know. i wish we could be strong and feminine at the same time in the eyes of men.
Im working in tech too and I always feel like i need to be masculine to be respected. It rly gets exhausting sometimes. Im more feminine in my freetime but the constant change is rly stressful.
@@DozrarI’m in construction industry and I experienced this first but that didn’t change my femininity, I balance it.
I'm also in the tech/design world and I've seen it changing with some companies and engineers who want a more gender balanced workplace.
I think I need to hear this everyday! I'm naturally feminine and masculine guys like that about me. BUT when I fell for a guy, I fell harder. That made me chase him, keep proving myself that I'm perfect for him, giving him too much attention even though we haven't even met yet! Now that I realized completely what I did, I was being a total creep! Especially because he's attractive in a lot of ways so he's used to have girls obsessed with him. I don't wanna be one of them. He was attracted to me first but he ends up pulling away 😢
Now I'm taking a step back as well, being in ghost mode so I can fix my feminine energy first. It's not my task to fix him, it's not my task to mother him. If I'm feeling at peace with myself, I'll naturally radiate peaceful energy so people can be comfortable around me 😊
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 you got this, bestie
Girl you've written my story
And mine, I really needed this video today. ❤
Sis, you have anxious anxiety attachment style. It’s ok. I have it too. Working on it and trying to maintain a secure attachment style. It stems from daddy issues… Daddy leaving young etc, when I meet a nice guy, I cling onto them. Not healthy! It’s ok we are all ‘work’ in progress!
That sounds a little bit like limerence
Yes you are so right about the drained feeling. When i was doing too much, i felt constantly exhausted. Doing less has freed me
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It’s not even just doing too much, but sometimes I feel drained when I can tell someone is dumping a lot of their emotional problems on me in the name of venting. Especially when I barely know them. Not healthy.
I soooo needed this as Gen X who was raised by a demanding narc father n mother! I often was called “useless”, “good for nothing “, “a pain in the neck”, etc so I grew up thinking I needed to be useful and prove myself to everyone. Even after years of therapy and NC w them I still hear their voices disturbing my peace.
You’re a treasure! I’m going to keep playing this vid till it sinks in.
Thanks!❤❤❤❤
I get called this still, thanks for sharing
Alright. Gotta break this down.
Definitely agree with minding your own business and not having martyr syndrome. It does no favors.
The only thing I don’t agree with is the receiving part that so many people try to peddle.
I’ve been in relationships and gone on dates with men who are well off. Yes, they were cool with paying the tickets for the first rounds or so but it would eventually turn into “we can’t afford that. It’s too expensive.” Suddenly my lifestyle and tastes were determined by his budget and comfort zone.
Not having that. Yes, I decided to become that bread winner because I’m not going to let someone else’s budget, laziness, or stinginess determine where I live or where I eat. These guys wouldn’t even wipe their own kids’ ass if they had any. It’s all a front. Except for my dad. He was a real provider, nurturer, masculine and feminine balance, but he’s a rare one.
And would you believe it that these dudes were the ones who would police what I say, my tone, my dreams, and my ambition? If “female gender roles” were introduced, duties would be assigned to me or his mother. Heaven forbid they’d get off their asses to cook or clean. Heaven forbid they would have drive to accommodate the both of us. But it was me who was, like said in the video, expected to pick up the slack?
After those upper class, pampered men revealed themselves to be princess, I changed my direction. I’m dating a broke dude for years. Does he pay my meals at fancy restaurants? My wardrobe? My car? No. But he cooks me dinner, cares for our son, changes my car tire when I have a flat, mows my lawn, landscapes my garden. Grows me food. Cleans my house.
I went into IT. He says, “go for it, babe.” I want to become a lawyer. It’s going to take 3 years and a lot of loans. He said “let me get my CDL so I can support us.”
Roles, economic situations, and actions are fluid. They’re based on circumstances and those change at a whim because a lot of our environment is beyond our control. I was born here, in a country that puts men on a pedestal. But that doesn’t mean I can’t find a man who has the willingness to see beyond it. And it definitely goes beyond who pays god your meals at dinner. Dating is a facade for the first 3 - 6 months, anyway.
Love this story x
You weren't with a real masculine man or provider. Providers are generous and hate to see you suffer. I hate to say it but your experience is not what I've experienced nor my mother not many other women I know. It's not your fault you can't find a real man these days though, especially in America.
@@laprechaun12wtf
@@laprechaun12😂😂😂 Bro wtf, you can't even read
Do what makes you happy goddamn why we blaming others…
Each time I wear a dress everyone suddenly wants to be around me and help me ❤
I’m the same person with sporty clothes, but ladies dresses effin help a lot!
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@@therealmanifestelle makes you instantly a queen 👸🏻 or a Cinderella if you will 🤣
I remember I used to wear skirts mostly to work. Anytime I would go get a coffee , get gas every single man would smile at me, open the door for me etc. Just lovely all around . I can relate .
I find the same thing!!!
Girl….you are wise beyond your years. I’m 35 and I’m learning so much from you, you confirm a lot of what I thought I knew.
I’m glad I bumped into this video. Because funnily enough, yesterday I was just thinking about how I’ve been more connected to my masculine energy throughout my late teens, all my 20s and early 30s… and how I ended up being truly exhausted.
I’ve reached a point where I just can’t continue living like this anymore; so I recently decided, around my 37th birthday, to embrace more and more my femininity, and now I can feel how my peace is coming back to my mind.
Thank you 💕
I think for me I achieved this by listening to inner child healing affirmations at night to heal my unconscious beliefs. Then, I continued to do inner work and level up each day. Finally, I decided I was responsible for my own happiness and chose to not place it in the hands of things outside of myself✨️🌱
That’s beautiful sis! I’m so happy for u❤
Hey bestie, do you mind sharing the affirmations that helped you? Thank you!!
@@whatsnew955 thank you 🥰
@isisrodriguez4468 i use dylan james and jessica hessop's nightly sleep affirmations. There are so many to choose from!
@@isisrodriguez4468yes that would be nice!!
This goes hand in hand with people not necessarily truly liking you because you're a people pleaser. People like people who can say no because it can make the other person see you as an individual and are less likely to take advantage of you.
“Get that bag” 💁🏻♀️😂 it’s so soothing to hear that women just need to *exist* around men. I used to always question my worth by asking myself “what am I bringing to a relationship if I don’t have a job and don’t earn money, why would he then be with me?” But these two have absolutely nothing in common 😅
Yess, agree it feels soo good to hear this! I often feel less than my boyfriend because I don't manage to work (cause of my health) and also that I should be smarter and more intellectual in my conversations with him. I know he loves me, but still, in my mind I keep on comparing myself to all his outer achievements.
But when I listen, in my heart I know I bring warmth and softness and realness just by being me with all my waves of emotions and also playfulness. Bo need for achieving this and that. It is sometimes easier to see the value in the feminine in other women for me..
@@smelloforangesomg you just explained how i feel🤭
Yeah, she put in a plain simple way, finally i get that it means to start believing you are enough the way you are without thinking you must be the one who always has to have sth to bring to the table, which i actually find so hard
i just love being feminine. i used to try so hard to be tomboy when from like age 8-14ish but now for a while (couple years) ive been finding my peace in femininity.. i just love being in a unity with us women...girls for girls ⭐
Feminine energy and masculine energy is meant to be embodied by both men and women it’s just a matter of finding harmony between those two in my opinion🫶🏻
Agree 100%
came here for this comment ♥️
3:50 yep. Carl Jung also agrees (anima/animus)
Edit: 5:39 they will learn, the hard way, eventually and they will be hard and look hard and be the ones complaining about men aging like fine wine and women aging like milk. If you are a woman, act accordingly and receive -- just like the moon (feminine energy)
when u were reading out the quote from the book "|Courage to be Disliked" it kinda reminded me of something Lord Krishna says which is if you embody another person's life you'll always be stressed because you will never be good at it, once you start embodying yourself you'll discover how amazing you are and essentially be a peace !
Thank you so much love. I really needed to hear this. As a woman who’s constantly been trying to prove to others for them to “like me” - it has ruined me, and people take advantage of me. I will try to focus on understanding that I don’t need to do anything other than my tasks. I am enough by simply existing. And if it’s not for me - then I don’t need it.
Story of my life. Sending hugs, we have got this x ❤
@@ayumisae6864 amen sister ❤️❤️
Mine too! Sending hugs. For the longest time I looked down on softness, kindness and femininity because they brought me nothing but being exploited to the core, being taken advantage of and bled dry! Also brainwashing me and making me feel like my contributions were insignificant. I’m on my healing journey now and learning to see my values and saying no to other ppl tasks without feeling bad! Still work in process but I’m so thankful for knowing about Manifestelle and reading about similar experiences🌱🙏
Hey bestie! Nice to see a different take on femininity, I'm so glad to see a definition that actually feels real and relatable
thank you bestie 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Yes I'm well surprise about finding this honest youtuber among all that shit videos
🎉 agreed
I’ve been taking steps to be healthy after a traumatizing relationship. He did everything to make me feel worthless and now I’m trying to get over trying to PROVE my worth. This video is amazing.
I think everyone has to understand their makeup of feminine and masculine energies and accept that it can change as they grow. There are some women who would suffocate in a life like this and there are some women who came into this world as dainty beings. But you’re right everyone has inherent worth and their own blend of feminine and masculine
Exactly. I think the energy “balance” is on a spectrum
Yes, we must know our worth to move in this way. Mantra of the day: I deserve good things. ❤
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Also, "I am worthy of receiving!"❤
my mom called me useless because of my femininity... I use to struggle with my worth because of not having material things only due to other negative thoughts that eventually instilled in me but I'm back confident now and watch these videos to keep it up thanks ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Literally the same, she'd call me useless. She'd respect me and be proud of me only if I was in my masculine like 24/7.
@@vetr17384 so true the most I get love is when I'm acting like a slave basically but I replaced that so called love by filling up my own cup atp no matter who it is if I can't trust them they are not good for me and I don't enjoy their company it's draining me I'm gone wasted too many years I love the space I'm in mentally now 🥰
sad how one of my classmates said "men are going to cheat we should just try hard and forgive them" like no girl. just no.
Bestie, thanks for posting this, it really hits home! I love how you have broken this down and explained this to us. I too am guilty of trying to prove myself and overextended myself to the brink of extinction of self in the past. It was exhausting. I love that you are spreading this message to women, you are truly an inspiration not only to myself but to many other women who need to hear this. I too am on a mission to help others know their worth because in this patriarchal society it is not something that has been imparted to us. Ladies, be the feminine Goddesses that you are and don’t let anyone dim your light!
Hey Elle, what about proving things to yourself? Like, doing big things while embracing the art of being because you know you have limitless potential and well, you just wanna prove yourself you CAN reach those big dreams?😁
That line is so true " a women disvalues another woman because they disvalues themselves" ..... always like that society put us on a pedestal where pit us against each other ... women should be careful about this fact snd take care of themselves.
Wow this was a beautiful video Elle! I've been taking it SUPER easy these last few months (reading, creating art, feeding my mind and body intentionally) and I also started reading Courage to Be Disliked recently! This was timed perfectly for where I'm at in life 💗
thank you odemi! I love to see you blossom in creativity.
You really healed within me the always “striving to achieve “, always stressed in case i was not productive even for just an hour during the day. Thank you so much !!!! 🙏🙏 we all need this. We all need to hear that just by existing we have immense value
i wanna have a soft life, but only provided by myself, you can never trust a man, they'll leave you as soon as you age a bit
😂...true
i really do understand this and your advice is amazing but my mum is a provider for my family and she exudes so much feminine energy and grace. her signature perfumes , lipsticks, dresses, she is effortlessly femenine . so in that way i think your take on gender roles is slightly wrong, i want to work and strive for what i want just like my mother, even if the task of providing falls on to me and my husband or wife does not provide- at least i have a loving partner who i also truly love regardless of money. i can be femenine as well and that's ok. nowadays, i think a lot of men feel pressure as well to provide, and for me the bare minimus is to be respectful to everyone and be in tune and be allowed to express their emotions.
Thank you for creating this video. I’m going through a major change of accepting my nurturing creative messy chaotic and most authentic feminine self ❤
Love this, I feel like the message is hard to hear like someone is shouting at me, when in reality I still have a long way to go on healing my feminine energy. This was great inspiration to keep working at it.
I needed to hear it ! I’m always anxious to do more to fit in & being amazing so that people will like me more. Overthinking gets the best of me. But doing nothing & being silent is so relaxing to me.
Nah your energy is something youtube was missing for the girlies, you are straight to the point, honest, but still caring and real. So glad I found you and your fantastic content bb wishing you the best
I just literally said, “thank you, Elle”, when this video ended like you could hear me!! Lol!! Love you & another one knocked out of the park!! 💓💓
you bless me bestie 😭😭🫶🏽
Wish I would have had a friend like you, telling me this in my teens. Would have been of great help. Hope every girl hear this soon enough
You are explaining things to us with such ease. You actually give us therapeutic advices. Like after months of therapy, the baseline of all was for me to understand, others happiness and others decisions were not my responsibility and I should not have burdened myself with other people's tasks. And here you are, saying exactly the same. You are so cool!
Oh my God, this is life changing.
I've been so caught up in drama (other people's drama) that I forgot myself.
Mantra rn is "that is not my task".
Thank you so much bestie.
Subscribed!
I've just discovered your channel yesterday and I can't express how happy and lucky I feel to listen to your wise words ♡♡
thank you 🙏🏽
“that is not my task” reminds me of a short story i read in highschool abt a guy named bartleby. he would always say “i prefer not to” !
You're such a blessing to me. Getting that bag and thank you bestie.
Thank you so so much for this video! You just earned a subscriber. This is so true, what belongs to you will simply find you, and also if you feel like you have to put any effort with a man for him to consider you or love you, just move on, he's not the one. Idk if this will help anybody, but women shouldn't be the ones that are chasing. If you're worried about love, don't do anything, your soulmate will come into ur life and court you without doing anything. Don't chase, don't flirt first.
The bare minimum task that a man need to be able to do is provide. 💯
Hugs, sister ❤ This is my first time viewing a video from this channel and this message couldn't have come at a better time. Being raised in an orthodox South Indian family and taught to be meek, helpful, and supportive at any cost (coz self sacrifice and compromise is equated with thr degree of love), it's taken me a very long time to realize my worth.
I needed to hear the line “embrace your chaos”. Thank you for saying that.
Me too!
I couldn't hear it, where was that exactly? Which minute?
6:46
i LOVE your content, this needs to reach as many people as possible!!! YOU'RE SUCH A QUEEN
thank you bestie 🥹
the gender roles thing is so true because what happens in reality is, if we remove the ‘established roles’, women end up overburdened with all of the tasks while men breeze around just existing and not even carrying their own weight.
Thank you so much!! You are helping so many women like me reclaim our power and healing our feminine wounds
your words got me for sure, im the middle daughter in my family and as more im busy as more everyone is resting , everyone depending on me to do things , espacialy my father , im just so pressed and on pressure everyday because everyone wants me to do things and no one do the same . i'll start to make them know how much im tired and i need to rest . pray for me yall 🤍
🥺thank you for sharing bestie
Taking care of your Father/parents in old age is different than taking care of your man. Take your rest and let everyone know that you're exhausted and tired from the burden, but there is NOTHING wrong with or masculine about a women taking care of her OWN parents. Who'd take care of them if not you, their child? it's definitely not your boyfriend or husband. LITERALLY LOVE AND TAKE CARE OF YOUT FATHER. (I'm a girl in my late teens and not a grandma)
@@smollilbean yes i am, i love taking care of my family. as a muslim girl i don't have a boyfriend neither a husband, im living with my family so im forced actually too, also i have actually 5 sisters and brothers but yup it's kinda im the one who's on the show always but it's fine because at last they are my family and i love them no matter what, it's actually an amazing thing and im always looking at the bright side of it and im happy for it, thankyou for sharing your opinion 🤍
Thank you for these points ! 😊
I find that DANCE is the best way to ACTIVATE the mind-body connection and harness our internal feminine energy (Diva energy) for me and most of my students!
She is at peace, so she brings peace to others. Yes 🙌
Omg ! ❤Thank you for spelling it out! This is what I’ve been feeling for years but not all being able to put my finger on it. I’m going to just be from now on 🙌🏻❤️🤗
You are so right, we have been raised to be career women so everyone can depend on us and now my hubby depends on me too much. I feel to my core that this isnt the right way and trying to find my feminine energy, which I never had in my life. So it’s extra difficult, but videos like this help, so thanks
Femininity doesn’t mean not having any responsibilities. It’s all about finding a balance. It’s true that we woman gain energy from the inside, so we have to rest and relax to share with others. But life would be too pretty if we would be just taken care of and not having any responsibilities at all.
@@edytaalexandra1814 Women already have many responsibilities, especially when they have a family. You are just a pick me.
@@Elisabetta.Scalisi I’m actually very picky about man,but let’s leave it there. So, I think both - man and woman have responsibilities. At work and at home. Both can work, both can clean. It’s all about finding the right partner and talk about it together. If both are working, you should both share responsibilities. Most often man are making bigger salary than women, so depends on that you can share responsibilities and who pay for what. How about - If he makes better money - He pay all the bills, you pay for the grocery and you are in charge of cooking, but he always pay when you both eat out ? I think that’s fair. But we can’t expect man to pay for everything and do everything. Another thing is - once you married, all the money should be together, not separate, it often saves a lot of problems. You agree on who spends mostly on what etc. But, It all takes the right partner… loving, mature understanding and caring. And if children’s are there, I think that women should not work (if she doesn’t want to), because we are the ones going through all the pregnancy,pain and postpartum.
I’ve always loved being in my feminine energy and I am so glad that now I am able to embody and be that soft confident energy. It wasn’t always like that for me as the women in my life have encouraged me to be in my masculine energy. It was tiring for me and I felt so suffocated. Now I can balance both energies and exist peacefully xx
I partly agree with this. I think there's nothing wrong with doing, if you're doing it for yourself. You can study and work and care about what you like to become your best self, but I agree with it that you shouldn't do it for others to prove that you can do it.
At the end of the day: don’t overthink anything that you do or say. Trying to emulate something or someone that feels inauthentic to you will show and that alone hinders your blessings and the right people from coming to you. As simple as it seems yet arduous as it is, love who you are and who you want to be! 🫶🩷
thissss 👏🏽👏🏽 there is no ONE version of femininity. whatever makes you feel at peace and at home is IT💅🏽
@@therealmanifestelle yes!!!
Ma'am you are bringing us to the sea and helping us cross like a whole She-Moeses! The content is giving EVERYTHING.
i feel this sudden calmness after listening to your insights on femininity. Thank you ❤
Thank you so much for this channel. I've done all the things to de-center romance from my life, and your work is really helping me to contemplate how I might reintroduce it, and maintain my priorities attitudinally and behaviorally. Also immensely helpful in recovering from a depression. I watch you daily and you're a part of my support team. Thank you with all sincerity.
I love the aggression and exhaustion in your voice when saying "below bare minimum"
I love this! Thank you so much bestie for this video!
thank you 👏🏽👏🏽
Girl, you preached with that catchphrase: “That is not my task.” I love it!
Thank you for doing this video, it's like an alarm that's awakening me from my feminine energy. This video means a lot😊
I just discovered your channel and already got soo much value from your videos. Love u!
both man and women should use both feminine and masculine. it called equilibrium. masculine =logic thought giving. feminine = feel emotion receiving.
the moment you started talking about how women often get the short end of the stick when couples (and society too tbh) decide to abandon gender roles i subscribed INSTANTLY. we need more people who think like u. i’m sick of women being forced to be masculine
women get the short end of the stick when they're in traditional relationships as well
I think it should be "not do free work for others". I think doing stuff with your hands (sewing, gardening, scrapbooking) or whatever is satisfactory. Just being a "being" is nice, and meditation helps for the peace, but doing nothing is not the exact solution. Do what you like and what makes you feel great, but "do nothing" is not the best alternative to "do free physical, mental and emotional work for others".
I see the point of going the other side, but this is exaggerated. Just do not crave external validation: do things that will provide you internal validation, whichever those are: painting figurines, leatherworking your own bags, scrapbooking, the gym, rock climbing... but DO something. Doing nothing at all is a recipe for depression. Do nothing for external validation. Do everything that will make you feel proud of yourself (internal validation). That's the true path to happiness.
This is soooo good. Thanks for this!!!
This video is so empowering that I cannot wait for the next video!!! thank u so much sissss 💗 i am so blessed that your channel reached me in this huge internet world 💗
thank you 🥹
This video just really put me to ease.
"That's not my task" 😌😌
AHHH IM SO HAPPY TO HAVE FOUND YOU, MUCH LOVE FROM THE PHILIPPINES MWAAA
I love how you kept calling me bestie while whipping me into shape 😂 Thank you ❤
I agree but this is privilege. Not everyone has the ability to find the right man. Some women have to work their asses off and live in survival mode just to make rent. It would be nice to be able to relax but that’s not always the case
I did not expect this to make me tears up, towards the end of the video... just like, shit, how much I've made myself try so hard all these past years. Thank you so much ❤️🦋
I was in a 10-year relationship where I did it all so guess what happened in the end, i figured out being single was less work lol so I left him. I am happy and free. I have been working on myself and healing. I am a goddess. I no longer accept anything less. I am happily single . I attract what i want and until then i will continue to work on myself .
I was sure when I'd look down you'd be one of those youtubers with a million subs. Thanks, bestie. I've been an overachiever all my life like many of us, and somehow this just made me sit straighter like "yeah!" I might not know yet how to access the courage to not people-please but... the will is there. (Also you're right that is a fantastic book!)
my most favorite video of you so far 🥺🥺
I need to listen to all your videos on repeat everyday till it sinks in.
Would you say being a high-achiever and wanting to earn a lot of money can coexist with this feminine way of “being?” I have strong ambitions because money is power, and it’s like self protection. But idk if I can get carried away with these things
I’m curious about this 🤔
Yes because womanhood can encompass this but is also more than this lol. Same way Athena was heroic and feminine the same way Artemis was goddess of the hunt you have your own blend of masculine and feminine energies. And it probably varies throughout ur lifetime.
It's all about balancing your energy, your ambition is you in your Masculine energy (doing), your Feminine energy well you can define for yourself but like she said its mainly about (being) and receiving. So just make sure they're in harmony & stay in harmony.
This is just what I needed this morning, thanks bestie. As woman, our softness and presence is so valuable to a man in his healthy masculine energy. The masculine and feminine union is truly magical when you love yourself enough to let go! Thankyou xx
This was really great! Thank you for sharing this all soooo beautifully! 🪷🪷🪷🪷🪷🪷🙏🏾
Thank you for this vid! Hearing you say "If you feel drained, it's bc you're being taken advantage of" is so validating. I've been doubting myself for so long abt this, thinking Im just too sensitive or smthng🥲
This is the first video I’ve seen from you! I’ve now subscribed! Absolutely adore! “Can you not?” So good!
The Second Shift by Arlie Hochschild talks about the incompatibility in relationships when it comes to traditional/egalitarian models of relationships. It’s from the late 80s but I think still holds up in relation to what you said about ‘egalitarian’ relationships usually devolving into women doing everything. She finds, however, that rather than one model (trad vs transitional vs egalitarian) being better than the others, it comes down to both couples’ conscious perception of the relationship, actual behavior, and true desires being compatible. While the book focuses on the often unequal division of labor between heterosexual couples, the resentment and tension between couples did not necessarily come from the unequal or differences in labor/roles, but rather a clash of expectations. I understand there are a lot of women who do really to be the ‘feminine’ in a relationship and take on a more receptive role. However, I think it’s kind of reductive to dismiss the value of egalitarianism in other people’s relationships because you believe that men and women naturally have different roles. I totally respect that that’s the kind of relationship that feels right to you, and I also know there would be (and are) lots of miserable people in more ‘traditional’ relationships because the dynamic doesn’t fit what they really want for themselves. My two cents anyways, especially coming from a non-binary perspective.
I strongly agree
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I love your videos, they come right on time! Thank you bestie! 💛
thank you bestie
This is such loving and powerful video. I'm so grateful to this advice. It popped up in the right moment in my life. Thank you 🙏
Wow! This was so simple and insightful at the same time. My eyes are just wide open. Thanks!
Finally hit 6 figures and never felt more depressed miserable anxious and alone
Thank you bestie!! 🎉 can't wait until you blow up 🎉 ❤ keep shining ✨️
thank you bestie 😭
im crying while watching this. always felt its my responsibility to be independent all the time, and i felt incredibly comfortable with that. I met my bf who brings out my feminine side and its heaven!
True I dated a guy for 3 and half years most of the finances was my reposibity, I used to gift him buy books for him to practice for job, did lot of emotional efforts, and today he wear those gifts, didn't give me my money back and now brag about having lot of girls to flirt in front of me as we already broke up but he thinks he have access of me whenever he wants because I'm the only one who understands him and natured always. I blocked him the moment I realise that he still sees me as a comfy couch to lean on and use and then move on and come back when he want to use me again