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Why do you think it takes a long time to meet an infj? I personally meet them all the time, but lack meeting enfps. (I'm infj). Is this common? For the enfp/infj to be compatible but never meet?! 😄
@@scottishkiwi1747 It's easy to meet people of your same type because we are naturally drawn to what we already know. It's easiest to spot ourselves in a crowd. Despite being extroverts, ENFPs are known as the most introverted of the extroverts which might make it more difficult for INFJ and ENFP to find each other and connect. Both types can also get shy which can limit the amount of encounters. I don't know if this is speaking from my observations or if anyone else will agree, but it takes time for INFJs and ENFPs to learn about what they like in people. There is a lot of exploring before we finally realize what compliments us all along. I think society also devalues ENFP and INFJ traits, so we might not initially be interested in each other through social conditioning. Example: We can both be whimsical, shy, quirky, etc.
I am an INFJ female married to an ENFP personality type and I am so so sorry for what is happening to you.... unfortunately you are already caught in their vortex... the magnetic pull. It’s 4 months later after you posted this and not sure how the two of you fared but the INFJ usually tests you in the beginning by placing your personality type in a friend zone. Your persistance is key and is what will gain her respect. She has the potential to be the love of your life and will aways keep you interested as you have a tendancy to get bored very easily as well as the ability to get really impatient. *eye roll* She needs you but doesn’t know it. Show her how amazing you are. You will literally wow her and sweep her off her feet! :-)
Giving away our secrets, Leedra? I see you over there.. friend zone and respect and whatnot. Okay okay lol. I think the INFJ girl is overanalysing to see if he's worthy to be more than a friend. Patience & persistence is what we need, when we're calm and trusting we will share our affectionate self. I've noticed this video is old. Will check out the latest videos, I'm new to his channel.
Haha! I thought at first not to comment and just creep, reading the comments. Laughing at the best comments and hiding my INFJ self 🤣 but... he seems so sweet I had to comment and kind of give constructive and potentially useful info.
I love this comment, it resonates so much with me (infj). It's true, we are very compatible with enfp's. But also I believe that zodiac signs do matter, too. It's better to look for our "mirrored selves" among the people of the same element.
We infjs do indeed exist. Usually the stars and planets have to aline perfectly and we need to find a safe quiet spot to land our spaceships, but we’re out there 🙃
I like that you noticed how outgoing infjs can be. I am an infj and I’m always misunderstood because people see how shy I am and think I can’t be outgoing. It takes a very long time to open up and I enjoy listening to someone more at the start. But then once I’m comfortable and I share the stronger side of my personality then some people are off put. Like they don’t realize I’m not sharing everything right away so they assume I’m always mild and have no strong opinions when I’m truth I do. I’m just selective who I show that to
Yess, As an INFJ we always disagree because we can see situations from every angle. With INFJ’s it’s okay to be childish but not to the point of hurting INFJ’s intelligence. (INFJ types know when people are being vindictive) INFJ’s are easy to spot 😏 They’re the ones trying to stay far away from big groups and people. Not friends with bullies and the gossip group. INFJ’s are sexy but socially awkward because they can feel everybody’s emotional state. ❤️
Namya Omna i think we have social anxiety, but are anything but socially awkward. Because we have extroverted feeling. We get people. Is that more what you mean? Because I had crippling anxiety as a child and teen, because, as I see it clearly now, I was far to aware of too many social dynamics at work in this man made environment full of kids my own age, confined to a building, for a set amount of time per day. I think this notion was inherently absurd to me, so I never bought in, fully, and YET, I kept going to school, became a professor, and have had that school schedule far beyond the point I needed to. Is that absurd or what? Guess I was working some shit out..what a weirdo. But, when I got to college, I was perfectly fine. However, I can only manage a certain amount of socializing. Then I need to be alone. Like, I need to have the blinds shut, the lights off, and be me and my iPad. Which sounds psychotic to most people, but sometimes it’s truly my happy place.
INFJ here: I have a 15+ year friendship with an ENFP, and her “child-like” sensibilities is what I love most about her. I’m always happy to be the grounded friend that can be a sounding board or offer advice, but her fun-loving nature is so important to balance out my more serious sensibilities. We can analyze things and talk about life for hours, but I would give that up to just have fun with her and enjoy life. Also, because of my more insular nature and her adventurous spirit, she has experienced way more out of life than I have. This isn’t a source of envy. It’s actually awe-inspiring and makes me respect her as someone who is wise and can teach me things about life that I may or may not get to experience. So, there is definitely a balance, but it has also come with time and trust with each other.
I am an enfp and my friend is infj but he does not consider me his best friend and I have realized that I have always been the one who invested more than 75% in the friendship, and I even have told him that but he is just not that interested in me, maybe he has an intp best friend , finally I made an infp my best friend It feels so good when someone considers you as much special as you consider them
Manoj Jain as in I NFJ, I agree that most of my friends tell me that they invest more than I do, but the thing is, we perceive relationships really differently, so you have to first define what’s investing first, if it’s texting and hanging out, we probably won’t be that interested. Then try to ask an INFJ friend for help he will be there right away, sometimes we just want to be absent and forgotten, but we deeply appreciate when our friends ask about us. Don’t lose us, a text here and there is always appreciated 🤓
The INFJs hang out in your comment section lol. The whole INFJ viewing ENFP as a child is true but not in a demeaning way- consider that an INFJ has been an adult trapped in a childs body. It's taken me years to losen up and relax and have fun. I LOVE my ENFP relationships and two of my younger siblings are ENFP but I always end up depending on these people- even though my sensibilities would tell me they can be immature and I'm the one keeping them grounded- my "sensibilities" aren't flawless lol. Even though my younger brother is ENFP we have spent a good portion if our relationship where he treats me like a child and I go to him for things I need help with. It's important to note that roles can easily switch because if the mirror affect between INFJ and ENFP though 2 months is not long enough for that to happen. My ENFPs may be very carefree and pure thinkers- they can come up with mind blowing concepts and ideas I never could think of- but I wouldn't say they're any less mature than me- we're just immature in different ways- one being that darn overthinking. If you can handle it, let the INFJ talk through overthinking with you because if you make an INFJ feel like they can't be honest about their overanalyzing they will pull back and keep you at arms length. We don't overanalyze forever or all the time. Once we know and trust someone or something then even when doubts or confusion creep in we have an easier time holding onto what we know and being able to escape our own vicious cycle. When it comes to day to day overthinking that can be a thing but I think all INFJs fight this and there are compromises in our own systems when we naturally decide to stay in the shallows, probably due to sheer exhaustion lol. Anyway as an INFJ gets to know you better, they'll begin to see you as a person they can depend on for your grounded thinking that can bring them out of overanalyzing and back to reality.
@@silentgrove7670 yeah but I have had social anxiety and painful shyness that I feel makes most people distance themselves from me so I look for people who aren't phased by my shell and want to make friends with me anyway. Some people try ripping shy people out of their shells or trying to keep them out or something- an understanding and healthy ENFP will know how to draw you out and respect the boundries of how much you can take. A good ENFP makes you 'want' to come out of your shell.
I agree. I’m infj and I think someone who is a bit childish is one of the most amazing things. It’s a bit fascinating and helps me to open up and makes me very happy to be around
I agree with you. I'm an INFJ and I want also remind the not INFJ types that our overanalyzing comes from the fear of being hurt. Overanalyzing it's all about control, we protect ourselves. And like you said we need to know someone better to feel more calm, trusting. But of course we also have to learn to live the moment. Sorry if my English is not correct but I am from Poland 😉
INFJs can read as extroverts, that's why we can seem hyped up sometimes. I call it being "on". But it's draining for us. I say I'm 51% Introvert, 49% extrovert! But that 2% difference is huge!
Most INFJs I have met are good listeners. Have you noticed the INFJ stare and how it affects you ? I always wonder if this only works on ENFPs. I remember it feeling like the mysteries of the universe were unfolding right in front of me. Childlike natures: I like that part of me, keeps me young. Without it , it feels life wouldn't be worth living. You appear way more mature than most other adults I have met. I do not feel you need to be concerned on this matter. I find you to be rather well rounded. Speaking without thinking: Lol, ENFPs are self actualizing in the moment, processing ideas in real time; it is how we grow. It's like trying on a hat to see it if fits. Doesn't mean it is our truth until we have looked at it for awhile. Ultimately we will concretize our truth from this process or remove that which no longer serves us. I have met over 10 INFJs now, though only 3 did I get to know much at all. They are all different. I see some recurring themes, anxiety, need a lot of space from others, tend to isolate often to their detriment, slow to trust, prone to depression and burnout, unlikely to initiate contact, can have strong negative inner critic. Upside , tend to be good listeners and be empathic to others, have deep minds capable of exploring almost any idea, highly intuitive, can see how the present will unfold into the future, high resiliency, able to hold space with another more easily than almost any other type. That last gift is particularly rare in humanity. Quite a few have had encounters with narcissists personalities. Two were married with those and got away and have recovered.
I am an INFJ & i still miss the person who i believe was an ENFP who i knew a few years ago. I STILL miss him in my life, I want to ring him up and get him to help out with 'something' I actually need his help with BUT there's a BUT. ....Anyway. If an INFJ lady is trying to 'look after' you, its not because she thinks your a child. Its because she finds you endearing, probably trusts you and just wants to be good to you in whatever way possible..Its what we do.
I missed mine for 30 years!. Until he reached to me and we reconnected. I was not happy in my life but successful one would say. However, I never knew how missarble my life was until this person came back into it. It is his ENFP personality that I feed on, rejuvenate and come out of my shell. Feel accepted and understood. His depth of trapted feelings are enormous because he has a very rich personality but was in a long and superficial relationship with a user! So to him my insightful, giving nature and a focus in life are comforting, healing and safe to open up. So never give up hope!
What every ENFP needs to understand about the INFJ: Our brain is practically hyperactive with half-baked ideas just like yours. We just won't share them. Ideas are fragile and many won't survive before they bake inside our own brains first. ENFP's are the rare soul who with time and trust we can share our precious in-process thoughts in a way that will be examined but not crushed. Hint to ENFP's who have spent some time building trust with an INFJ: Ask us about our half developed ideas (because experience has shown us to keep our mouth shut while we secretly are dying to share!) As to the over-analyzing thing. That NEVER goes away!!! Our brain never shuts down. But ENFP's can help with us finding healthier balance, like we can help you with laser focusing when needed. Both are signs of maturity that we admire in each other. And those who had a deeper emotional connection in this pair never leave the same. It is truly intense and life-changing. From the INFJ side, it's like finding a part of my heart that I never knew existed (our Fi is burried so deep we have trouble accessing our feelings). They're there, we just stumble over them on accident!!! Or people can read them on our face while were nearly oblivious in our own mind.
This is such a spot on description of the INFJ emotional experience in concert with an ENFP. Even saying emotional is difficult, but the feelings that arise in this pairing for the INFJ have this almost other-worldly quality. When it doesn’t work out, it’s also incredibly painful.
Thank you so much for the tip! (About asking about your half-baked ideas because you are dying to share them).. I am in a beautiful relationship with an INFJ and I want to do my best 💕 to stay in this precious relationship 🙏 we only recently found out about this ENFP-INFJ thing. We found each other without knowing ☺️
YES. We INFJ are "old souls" but at the same time feel like we never quite lived our childhoods because everyone told us how mature we were for our age and we constantly have this need to take on the burden of responsibility for the sake of maintaining harmony. Finding someone to feel safe enough around to unleash our repressed inner child is a rare thing.
We love ENFPs and are quite protective of your type. Not personally, but more in principle, your right to exist in the world, uncorrupted. We will guard you while you are busy being your lovely ENFP selves. You won’t know it because you’ll be lost in your pureness.
@2:37 - Okay I needed to hug you right there. As Dr. Mike (on UA-cam) said, ENFP-INFJ pairs are like a girl flying a kite. The kite being the ENFP. INFJs are the girl, anchoring you. We can have fun flying you, you get to be like weeeeee!! And we're also like weeeee!! Because we get to stay on the ground but vicariously fly through you. My sister and I have that dynamic and it's the poutine's gravy.
Yesss!!! Best way to put it . I never knew how to put it into words. Although I just met a ENFP we haven’t hung out yet but as an INFJ I already feel so connected and smiley. I love it and will appreciate it while I can
Full warning! 😂 I’m an INFJ & my husbands an ENFP & I laughed hard watching this video because you two sound like my husband and I. I actually learned that ENFP’s tend to contradict certain “words” or “things” that they’ve just said which drives an INFJ crazy cause we listen very carefully & take everything you say word for word and we don’t forget. So that’s one of the things my hubby and I struggle with but I learned to accept our differences. Also, she clearly sounds comfortable with you. INFJ’s often get mistaken for Extroverts because although they’re Introverts they’re extroverts to people they love & trust. So she trusts you which is a good thing. Ask me anything 😄 I’ll be happy to help! My hubby & I respect each other so I let him do his thing and he lets me do my own thing. She may just want to help. But be open about what you want and she should respect that.
Yeah sometimes I just say things. Half to get a reaction and the other is just thinking out loud. Think of it as pure, unfiltered, creativity pouring from our mouths. Not meant to be taken anything more than it is. Unless we ask for input.
Sweeneytv if it wasn’t for your videos I would have never known that about my hubby. It taught me how to communicate better with him. INFJs are supposed to be good listeners. But it’s hard when we think the conversation is going all over the place 😆
Okay now I know that I'm not the only one who says other than what I actually meant because my words come out before by brain is aware of it. So whenever someone parrots my words I get confused as I don't remember saying it since I'm thinking out loud. ENFP here ✋😔 apologies to all the people who got confused
Couldn't help but snicker at your surprise at her ability to be "extroverted" 😂 When in intimate settings with someone we're actually comfortable with, that tends to be the result. I've had friends say I suddenly start "acting like a crackhead" 🤦🏾♀️💀 when really it's just me feeling comfortable enough in the moment to let loose a little bit. It kinda irritates me when people would point that out to me, like what you really expect me to be quiet & reserved ALLL the time? Lol.. also I feel like people try to force us into this box, perhaps not realizing we're considered to be the most extroverted introverts and walking contradictions. So anything about us that doesn't seem to make sense, actually makes sense.. let's just leave it at that lol
I would love to see you two do a video together and see what her first impression of you was! Maybe as an INFJ she picked up on different things than you did 😊
I'm an INFJ, we absorb others' energy super easily that's why we perfer to hang out with ENFP who can be silly and playful, we think it's very cute and funny, and it makes our mood better, like A LOT. And with the planing... oh boy we LOVE to plan everything in our life, but being with an ENFP will help INFJ to become more spontaneous and relax, and we are of course always open to try that, eventhough we might feel a lil anxious at first hehe so yeah I think ENFP and INFJ will help balance each other's life
ENFPs have taught me so much about living in the moment and being more relaxed and less controlling. Their ability to embrace the moment is awe inspiring to me, since I can too easily get stuck in the comfort of living in my head and often struggle to wake up to the present and actually smell the roses. ENFPs are children at heart, but I love that. As an elementary school teacher, I think children are wiser than adults a lot of the time, and I wish more adults didn't let go of their inner child so easily. Also, as an INFJ, I see myself as a child at heart, too...I'm really careful about who I show that side of myself, though. INFJs and ENFPs can help each other grow and mature, and they have the ability to create magnificent life long partnerships together. I'm always drawn to ENFPs--I feel so at ease around them, and they tend to bring out the best in me.
Hey.. thanks for sharing. I'm appreciative that you did share.. and so glad you found an infj. i'm an INFJ and my guy is an ENFP. We have been together for six years. He continues to be amazed at me that I "get" him and that we are so compatible. At first glance, we are very "opposites attract", but I love him and adore him... I just let him do his thing; and I don't try to fix him. Relationships are hard . With all due respect to you... you're pitfall comments are too harsh on both of you . I get what you're saying... but don't but so much stock into it. Things have a way of working out. Keep the videos coming. You're helping a lot of people!
INFJs can get very hyped when their around people who are. We tend to absorb others people's emotions and energy so if we get very excited is because the person we are around is too and we like the energy they transmitting.
As an INFJ, I think I can say that it's highly unlikely she just sees you as a child in an adult body. INFJs are just really bluntly rational in their heads, not so spontaneous and in touch with our own emotions as much as you are. We're in touch with them from an intuitive and thinking perspective but not so much direct experience, kind of like a robot stimulating emotions. Or at least that's how I feel a lot. We appreciate and respect those qualities very much in ENFPs because not only are they mystifying to us by they lift us out of our typically dark and contemplative inner moods. Typically INFJs don't judge people like that. We can step into your shoes to a significant degree and without bias so if we're talking to you, it means we think highly of you and appreciate your company. Typically it means we love you. And statistically speaking, ENFPs have the most lovable personality type, so it makes rational sense for INFJs to like ENFPs especially. Plus, we INFJs are routinely misunderstood and underappreciated, so to hear you say you like an INFJ so much is poignant. But I can see how our intensity can come off as lack of respect, but we often have an impulsive need to help people and really enjoy giving advice because it's easy for us, how our brains work best. If it were me, I'd rather someone hurt my feelings and tell me it's too much than to risk letting me hurt theirs.
I love your videos. ENFPs are awesome. My husband is an ENFP. You guys are childlike yet wise beyond your years. That's actually how I view myself minus being a social butterfly. I'm very friendly but nowhere close to the level you guys are. Love your communication style btw. Very easy to listen to. And the music blends well with the video. ❤ You have a gift for this. Side note: Though I do see ENFPs as childish at times, we all have things that drive others crazy. I definitely don't view myself as my husband's mother at all. And a party with only ENFPs and INFJs would result in lots of marriages lol
If you see a group of people and one of them is bouncing back and forth between each group member and as they do this they are getting more and more animated, that is likely the ENFP. I (we?) seem to like being in the spotlight somewhat. Watch for very open friendly disposition and someone that wants to talk to everyone, its likely the ENFP. If they are on their own and you sit near one and even give a slight glance they are going to initiate a conversation. I do that all the time with strangers everywhere.You can already see my ENFP type behaviour happening now in text, look all the stuff I am already discussing and its not even in person, lol. Giant idea factories seeking contact and connection = ENFP. It's not hard to get our attention either :)
@@chrissyofoldstones3210 Welcome. One of the strangest experiences is how easy it is to be drawn to someone that is shy. It is strangely endearing. I am also HSP as an ENFP which might not be seen considering how bold I can be. It's a funny combination. I do not think that is an ENFP thing, that is just me. So what is the worst that could happen if you said 'hi' to someone that seemed animated and a possible ENFP ? Given the high intuition of INFJs, say hi if it seems okay. It's just 'hi', see where it will lead you. Your next best friend might come from hello to a stranger.
Yayyy Austin!!! This information helps us a lot and hopefully you can meet someone whom you want to pursue. ENFPs are rare too! 7% of the population. So this case study helps both personalities 🙂♥️
Actually 7% is slightly higher than 1/16 of the population, statistically speaking not so rare.. Males slightly rarer than female. When I began meeting INFJs after my first encounter there is a funny synergy I notice with your type. I feel not all the INFJs I have met know they are INFJ, of course I could be wrong as well.
As an ENFP female I totally agree with you; however, make sure you give enough personal space to the INFJ. I think that was my mistake with my INFJ friend: I wanted to be around him 24/7. Well, we‘re still friends, but not as intensively as before. Anyway, there‘s just so much magic in an ENFP-INFJ relationship that it‘s like a dream come true, and you do feel like you‘re in seventh heaven when you‘re with that person, there’s so much synchronocity. When I met my INFJ buddy I was radiating so much happiness out that people kept asking me about it, ha-ha. 🤣 Happy new year 2020 to you both! 😉🙋🏻
I can agree with this statement! Im an INFJ who has a couple enfp friends. Overall we have very "easy" relationships. We just seem to fit like puzzle pieces. However, one of my enfp friends is very....needy? Im not sure how to explain it but when we're together i have to be 140% intune with every word and every movement she makes or else she'll get upset. As an INFJ, sometimes, especially when im burntout, i just need time to be in my head. She absolutely can not handle that at all. If im not telling her my every thought or actively reacting to her every move she makes then she gets irritated. Shes started to become one of those friends that i cant be around for an extended amount of time. I guess emotionally "needy" would be the term to use. My other ENFPs dont do this and i can be around them a long time before needing to go off and "introvert". For most INFJs, space is really important. When a person can respect my need for space, it makes me feel so safe around them. And after a while, because i feel safe around them, i wont need as much space as time goes by.
Ya INxJ need time to recharge and self reflect them self... if they can't do this they get build up emotions and will get stressed.. depending on the INxJ basically how inverted they are will reflect how much time they need.. sometimes even beening in large groups can highly stress them out
you gotta be good at what you do if you can keep my attention (ENFP) while speaking about a totally random INFJ that might turn into a love interest. Love your channel man, you help me improve myself and my relationships with all these people that are confused by my enfp-ness :D Also I´m trying to figure out my ESFJ girlfriend... seems like she thinks of me as a child-man as well haha
I'm an INFJ, and my sense of humor is very, very snarky, and I have no idea if that's just me or not. So I'm wondering, when you said she was funny, was she also snarky?
Maybe the reason you don't both talk each other out is because you "see" each other more if that makes sense.. it's mutual and therefore more aware of each other's presence.
INFJ is said to be the extroverted introvert.. but also we're naturally empathic (unless we're born a psychopath> hitler).. so she could be just picking up on your vibe.. Personally I'm also autistic, if you can believe that... but when I can actually connect with with someone I'm really happy so maybe it's the same for other INFJs Idk.
Sorry to spam you here, she probably doesn't want you to talk before thinking first in this instance because she worries that you make yourself vulnerable? (Show your cards too soon, although she likely does this herself too) She's possibly picking up on things about the environment that you aren't or she has less faith in ppl ? Or just that neurosis that comes with being an INFJ I guess.. which is possibly because of the 2 recent reasons I just mentioned. It's good and bad for both of you. If not a romantic relationship then at least a good friendship to have.
I (being a male INFJ) have that kind of friendship with a male ENFP. Another pitfall I have noticed is that when we talk about problems/conflicts we may have with other people, that is negative energy to him and it sticks with him the rest of that day. I can listen to other people's problems all day and not really get affected by it. On the contrary I feel privileged that they chose to share anything personal with me. So I'm getting careful not to bitch about things with him.
I notice myself (ENFP) I will discuss problems and then want to work on solutions and empowerment with the other. I will not do b*tch and c*mplain mode for long. I can absorb negative energy and have to be mindful of that. I have an INFJ friend?:status unclear, and she experiences a lot of anxiety. I can be super happy and begin to absorb the anxiety even at the best of times. That is my issue not hers. I am trying to figure out how to stop the energy of others coming in without my permission.
@@silentgrove7670 do you feel like she expects you to come up with a solution for her, and that's why you keep thinking about it? If so I think you can learn to let it go. Most likely she felt better just talking to someone who understands her and that's solution enough. You already made her feel better. If it's not a matter of expectations and just a negative feeling, joy is gone, it's probably harder to change.
If she is true iNFJ she will quickly pick up your concerns and feelings and reflect on it. I had a lovely relation with ENFP for 5 years but we were very young that time. I left my country for 30 years and never could forget him because he was the only person I knew who made me feel so good. He also could never get me off his mind. After so long we hooked up together and picked up as if we left yesterday. The bond, connection and understanding is all there and now we help each other to heal from our very unhealthy relationships and plan life together. I am INFJ he is just like you! The way you talk and have this sparkles in your eyes is so precious, so vivid and sincere and we INFJ's feed of this!!! You ENFP's bring so much happiness, ideas, action and spontanuity in our lives that we find this very precious because it relaxes and calms us down. Yes we do oveanalize, overthink, deal with all this emotions and scrutinizing that we need your cheerful, bubbling personality outlook for life. We feed off each other and take best from it. The rest is simply talked about and laughed at! Yes maybe it is our maturity, self awareness and life experience that helps now because we left each other long time ago not fully knowing why. But there is this great magnetic pulling towards each other which I cannot explain despite being separated in our case by ocean and COVID.
Thank you for pointing out the pitfalls! It's really useful to learn about your mistakes. Recently my ENFP-friend seems to be unwilling to have conversations with me (INFJ)... I've been thinking a lot about this friendship, particularly about my faults. Now I see where the problems came from. It's like a revelation. Thanks a ton!
Hey man. I know you threw that *disclaimer* at the front. Maybe it’s because you’re in a relationship? But you’re definitely into this girl, or at least her personality. Thank my Ni later.
Your roundup is brilliant! I'm an INFJ and have just realised ENFP is my best match. And going through the ENFP traits, I can see why. I would say that the things you called out as complementing you, are definitely traits I have as an INFJ, so it was great to hear how they landed. In terms of the childish commentary, my brother is an ENFP, so I know what growing up with one is like, and his youthful energy is something that I cherish, because it balances out my tendency to overanalyze. When we were younger, I did think of him as the eternal child, but tbh that was on me and my own immaturity - I needed to evolve. Now I relish his company for all the reasons you mentioned, but also because of the traits in him that I don't have - specifically his ability to remind me of the joy in the life. He's rubbed off on me big time and I'm a better person because of him. So I guess that sets me up well for when I meet my ENFP. Another part of the childish thing that might be worth noting is that you seem to have some connection with Ireland and culturally we (I'm born and raised Irish) have a bit more of a focus on 'having the craic (fun)' and not apologising for it. If you're not meeting INFJs with that reference point, they may need a little reminding of what matters in life :)
I don't know any ENFP's but I like the bubliness of all Ne users. You guys are refreshing. Men usually don't like being regarded as childlike and you say you don't need to be taken care of. Understandable. But have you considered that maybe infjs need to care about someone? Just this morning under the shower I figured that the only thing that snatch me out of my depressive states is when I'm taking care of someone. Then I thought why can't this someone be me? Food for thought.
ENFP here- excellent video and pretty much summarised my INFJ friendships. Its the unspoken intuition in my opinion which is why the ENFP and INFJ get on so well. From my experience, the pairing see things other people don't which brings them together. INFJs generally speaking are fairly rare, so they already feel like an underdog in a sensory dominated world. The ENFP recognises this through the natural curiosity and interest in people and listens, which is well received. The ENFP-INFJ humour is electric, I would go as far as saying its indescribable. The analysing (people) is one aspect to it. There is an understanding of humour and an ability to bounce back ideas. Honesty/authenticity is valued in general, though I have met some very untruthful INFJs, and even then they are fun to be around I just avoid sharing certain things.
I'd be so tempted to go to an INFJ - ENFP party... it sounds exhausting but why the hell not ♡ Aussie tho- so I'm probably way too far away... INFJ friends can totally be excitable and outgoing- especially if they trust you. It sounds like you guys really click. One of my best friends told me it took her 6 months to break into my orbit. I'm so thankful she did tho. INFJ - INTJ mates for life ♡
@@Sweeneytv I mean, I do agree 😂 I really do wish there were personality parties tho. It sounds brilliant. I also recently discovered 2 friends of mine are INFJ - and we get along insanely well - so I wonder if we unknowingly travel in packs 🤔🤔😂
The problem ENFP have, that annoys INFJs is that you guys plan things without any consideration of consequences. There is no strategies, no how-tos. Your idea of a blue-print is a piece of blue paper, with nothing on it. Don't be surprised when an INFJ says in the end: "I told you so." Our faults is that we can't stop loving you, even with a Door Slam. But sometimes you guys have to learn on your own pace. We really want to help you but sometimes, enough is enough. INFJs can only take so much. And "parties"? Are you serious? Handling one of you guys is tough enough. We're only social if we have to.
I am an INFJ but I feel so much like a child a lot of the time. Honestly, there are days where I feel like I could be an ENFP. Maybe most of the types are actually all children?
I am a female infj, and my enfp is a boy 17 years younger. We met when he was 13 and I was 30 y.o. We got close as two musicians in church when he was 16 or 17. Yesss, at first (and for the next 5-6 years), i saw him as a little boy i have to take care of. But after he reached 25, somehow our relation ship took another turn. Now to me he is like someone equal (that surprisingly makes me feel 10 years younger!). I will take many advices from him, learn a lot about life from him. Still, as far as our 17 years friendship, we never loose our cry and laugh together. ❤
There’s something so special about ENFPs. My three best friends are ENFPs. Actually, if anyone’s interested, look up Frank James’s channel on UA-cam as well. Hilarious and super insightful about the INFJ mind. Often says things I didn’t even realize about them, and that’s funny because I AM one. Thanks for posting this! Super helpful and insightful. 🤔
The thing is dont take it too literal. I don't think she says you are a child like non adult. Just you still have that child spark that is lost when kids become adults. The spark of curiosity, fascination, etc etc, etc. Don't be afraid to ask "what did you mean by, when you said this." We wont get offended, We will be like.. wow he really took time to think about what I said. Gold Star Sicker to you. Sometimes we think our explanations are understood as spoken, But we dont realize other people might see it or understand it differently or wrong. But that is just me coming from a MALE not a female INFJ.
The best relationship I have ever had in my life was with an INFJ as an ENFP. It was truly the first relationship where I actually felt I could be completely me. We called one another our favorite weirdos. She had the best sense of humor of any woman I have ever met. Unfortunately she did the “door slam” about 7 months ago after a 5 year relationship. We are still friendly, but I truly miss our very unique friendship. She was truly my best friend. They are awesome humans. Searching for another…
I think it’s unlikely that an INFJ would see you as childish. (Just one INFJ perspective) but I think it’s more likely that they would appreciate the “lightness.” INFJs want to be appreciated for their wisdom and want someone who intrinsically seems to understand them, but really benefit from a person who is playful and free, and can bring out that side of them too. Good luck 🙂
I'm an INFJ and I love the goofy childishness of an ENFP. Garrett Watts is an ENFP and I love his childish personality but ofcourse have you seen him in serious situations? It's sexy that an ENFP can be so goofy and childish but also they know when to be serious. They know how to handle a serious moment and I love that! I love when people are so fun and goofy all the time but the moment something of importance pops up, they immediately become thoughtful, concerned and serious. Yes we have this maternal instinct so strong and we want to nurture ENFPs.. We want to make them feel safe and calm. But we would never de-mean an ENFP's goofy behavior. We love that kind of energy. That with an intellectually thoughtful side to it? Man that's a 10/10. It's so impressive.
I like a fun inner child in a person, we INFJs know actions speaks louder than words, there's a difference from us being naturally nurturing and being aluturistic (which actually makes us feel good about ourselves) to us having to "parent" a grown adult that should had learned to behave like one, that would be a chore for us. If you're being proactive...it's all good, but if you're just playing video games all day wanting a mommy/daddy...gets old very fast . We also like compatible extroverts, because between our introspection and future oriented thinking style, we need someone to snap us into the present time frame.(its a big relief for us living in the now, a break in our overanalyzing...so thank you ENFP for facilitating that).
As an INFJ we analyze deeply but ENFP's are adorable ! I found one and we discuss a lot but mainly just to show the other side of things only🦄🦄💕praise and respect to weirdness.
I have 1 ENFP in my life. He was my first son's friend. We just never parted. His kids are my grandkids. He makes me feel safe. And we love many things people think crazy. He scares me because he crazy, explotions literally will be going off if we are together. Not that I am against anything. It's a debate who is more in control when I am with him. Fast minds are really fun. The pause is a killer for me. My wife I s f j. Keeps up great. But is no match. Angels are very good to have your back while the infj mind is running full steam on something deemed a must. Thanks for sharing. Helps.
Never been romantically interested in a enfp before but I think its because the only enfp I've ever met is my childhood friend/best friend/personally adopted sister. We became friends in second grade and are still close friends to this day. (Were both 28 now). We sadly don't get to hang out as much these days but we still talk to each other and both of us still encourage each other. I try to make sure she never doubt for a second how treasured she is to me, whether were just kicking back wating tv. Having some witty banter or going to a mall. I really feel like I can be myself around her which is EXTREMELY rare for me. I usually have to go into chameleon mode around other people because I can sense I did or said something that disrupted any kind of peaceful interaction whether its me or something else. She really surprised me as a kid because I hadn't come out of my shell yet around strangers as a kid. I was quiet and faded into the background alot so I thought no one would be interested in being friends with me. She surprised me by seeking me out and constantly trying to talk to me on the phone even though we just talked at school. At first I had been worried she may just want to use me to talk my ear off about her problems. But to my surprise and later relief, she'd LISTEN TO ME. As an INFJ atleast in my experience when someone in the past asked me 'is something wrong?' I'd try to open up about something bothering me that I took personally and the person who would ask ethier looked like they regretted asking me that *why did you bother asking me in the first place if you really didn't care?* or gave an answer or acted dismissive of it. *I took your problems to heart, is mine not worth the trouble to you?* so for most the time still to this day depending on the person, when asked how are you doing I'll clam up and spit back an answer they most likely want to hear. 'Eh I'm good....' Enfps are literally a breath of fresh air because they break us from this cycle and help us breathe instead of holding it all in and acting fine. Id die and kill (kill as in defense) for my friend/sister and I know she do the same. Thats how much we can count on eachother.
I'm pretty sure my best friend growing up was an ENFP. I think one of the reasons our friendship of 10 years ended was because I (an INFJ) saw her as a child that needed to be taken care of. That motherly role that I put on myself was very strenuous and I allowed resentment to grow. If we ever rekindle our friendship or I meet another ENFP, I will be more respectful and acknowledge that they can take care of themselves- even if they do so in a way that is not "acceptable" to me.
I get the INFJ motherly aspect but personally I hate being the motherly type. Idk if it's how I grew up or what but I only mother those that I feel need it, aka small children. Playing the mother role with adults irritates the hell out of me 😂 and I love when people come up with some random stuff or thoughts they've had, keeps conversation flowing and from becoming stagnant everyday talk. But maybe that's just me as a weirdo INFJ 😪👌🏻
HI as an INFJ you were spot on .... the real issue is age when you get old YOU want and INFJ to take care of you its what they do... dont let her get away....
I can assure you that it's a clear misunderstanding of what she probably wanted to say about you. If she talked about an ENFP childhish attitude, it's more in a candid, innocent, sontaneous way rather than an actual child behaviour. And INFJ are very respectful of other people feelings. It's rather these qualities that INFJ lack and cherish about a person contrary to thinking ourself superior, because we're constantly overanalysing and ENFP just have this ability to relax us and let it go. Probably the reason why she found you awkward and funny in a good way because you rather intrigue her.
INFJ can also be childlike, especially with our Ti at least.. Our Ti can get us in trouble with speaking the truth, or at least what we perceive as the truth. Also I find Ni as my dominant function is a hindrance at times, especially with the Ni-Ti loop...I wish I could just respond and do things "on the fly" more but in a good way. I've read, Alan Watts was an ENFP.
as ENFP I'm totally agree with you i'm looking for a partner who doesn't look at me as a childlike! i mean maybe the best thing for an ENFP is to be with an ENFP, we know already our needs and we can always support each other!!
Hi infj here , we may be a little child like sometimes but we can also be deathly serious too. You won't find us in bars or clubs...too much noise and emotion going on in those places!!! We'll be sat on a park bench with our quadrapeds (dog) thinking about stuff. Happy hunting. 🦄🌈
You mentioned you didn't realize INFJ could be so excitable.. well we can if we click with you, or if a subject if interest comes up. We are generally withdrawn, but we have a fun side too lol. We are just particular with whom we share that side of us.
That sounds about right! I am an INFJ and I truly love ENFP's. My brother, BFF and the guy I like are all ENFP's. This is one of the personalities that I am best able to be my true self around and dork off without being judged.
The child like personality is okay as long as it is balanced because my ex husband is an enfp and I did feel like a mother for him a lot because he didn't want to hold on to responsibilities in helping with our family and it lead to many problems...balance...
Hello!! I found your video by suggestion and I was smiling all the time while watching it, ahaha! I'm and INFJ and a PNL personal coach and I can offer you my personal thought about the last part of your video. The meaning "you're like a child" has a wide range of interpretarion. My question for you will be: do you interpreted that as negative because she said is a bad thing or because you believe is a bad thing? Can you do something to have this answered? As an INFJ, to be in touch with you inner child and to be comfortable sharing it with me, it's what will make me happier in the world because I'm also like this and its what it allowed me to see the world as a fun place and to enjoy being surprised by life. The other thing related to that is that an INFJ tends to be "the saviour" because they grow up being told by people that they were selfish if they didn't act like that. As a grown up, it take self work to liste others and offer help only if wanted and, in that case, help them find the solution for themselves (asking mirrored questions works wonderfully) and respect their choices and time to deal with it. Finally the overalazing aspect. Maybe's because is so rare to find someone that gets you in that aspect she wanted to unfold everything that she had inside because she was genuinly happy. On the other hand, there's a difference between asking yourself questions and judging (another thing that an INFJ has to work on - generalisations, beliefs and values) and even if it has this on check, is important to not burn others with any subject or tell them that you want to talk about it in advance and place a date to focus on that topic and be able to enjoy silly things . I'm going to watch more of your videos because I'm really curious about the "randomness" of your brain and your humor that I couldn't catch on this one yet (that's a good cliffhanger. Genius). Thank you again for the entertainment!! :D
8:00 this was exactly what I was looking for in this video. When an ENFP wants to troll, they can totally get me, I'm trying to figure out why. That an any ideas you can come up with we'd have a perspective on. That can pretty much go on for hours. I'll add that the child thing is true but that's only surface level stuff. Underneath that there's an undertone of seriousness and intelligence with the ENFP's that I know that I find to be great. So I don't think I would treat one like a child because of that. I respect complexity. One real pitfall far as a relationship or friendship goes, is miscommunication. Intuitives will get something wrong or misunderstand something, that has to be addressed which goes against the the default intuitive communication (unsaid assumptions that are supposedly understood etc).
I’m an INFJ and I feel like I have trouble forgiving people. I’ve finally been able to let some things go regarding my husband, things that happened almost 20 years ago.
9:25 ....and 5 months or a year later you will realize that she was right the entire time 😂 ...and then you will realize it 9:35 “like an idiot “ by yourself. And then if you would behave like a “bulldozer” 9:51 there is the INFJ-door slam 😂. 12:16 someone is in love 😍 at first sight and sending a message 😃. I enjoyed your video (you can tell 😂)
yes right...I csn honestly make anyone laugh😂😂😂 its my favourite thing to do ...and also put thier guard down....I'm actually having my guard on though ....it takes time to get my guard down ....
So interesting to hear this perspective ). Also a bit funny because I can tell you that INFJs can be soooooo different )). There are a lot of us hanging out here by the way. ). Just sayin’... Also, when will I get to meet my kind of ENFP? Are y’all hiding somewhere or what? I am all for a party of ENFPs and INFJs lol.
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Why do you think it takes a long time to meet an infj? I personally meet them all the time, but lack meeting enfps. (I'm infj). Is this common? For the enfp/infj to be compatible but never meet?! 😄
@@scottishkiwi1747 It's easy to meet people of your same type because we are naturally drawn to what we already know. It's easiest to spot ourselves in a crowd. Despite being extroverts, ENFPs are known as the most introverted of the extroverts which might make it more difficult for INFJ and ENFP to find each other and connect. Both types can also get shy which can limit the amount of encounters. I don't know if this is speaking from my observations or if anyone else will agree, but it takes time for INFJs and ENFPs to learn about what they like in people. There is a lot of exploring before we finally realize what compliments us all along. I think society also devalues ENFP and INFJ traits, so we might not initially be interested in each other through social conditioning. Example: We can both be whimsical, shy, quirky, etc.
Idk. But Scottish kiwi you have a good name.
@@Sweeneytv 😄. I think it works better that way around than Kiwish Scot.
Dude, you sound like you're in love with this woman.
Yeah for real LMAO
These two personalities are in a way the perfect pair
He said don't read into it 😡
Just kidding ;)
I am an INFJ female married to an ENFP personality type and I am so so sorry for what is happening to you.... unfortunately you are already caught in their vortex... the magnetic pull. It’s 4 months later after you posted this and not sure how the two of you fared but the INFJ usually tests you in the beginning by placing your personality type in a friend zone. Your persistance is key and is what will gain her respect. She has the potential to be the love of your life and will aways keep you interested as you have a tendancy to get bored very easily as well as the ability to get really impatient. *eye roll* She needs you but doesn’t know it. Show her how amazing you are. You will literally wow her and sweep her off her feet! :-)
Giving away our secrets, Leedra? I see you over there.. friend zone and respect and whatnot. Okay okay lol. I think the INFJ girl is overanalysing to see if he's worthy to be more than a friend. Patience & persistence is what we need, when we're calm and trusting we will share our affectionate self.
I've noticed this video is old. Will check out the latest videos, I'm new to his channel.
Haha! I thought at first not to comment and just creep, reading the comments. Laughing at the best comments and hiding my INFJ self 🤣 but... he seems so sweet I had to comment and kind of give constructive and potentially useful info.
I love this comment, it resonates so much with me (infj). It's true, we are very compatible with enfp's. But also I believe that zodiac signs do matter, too. It's better to look for our "mirrored selves" among the people of the same element.
Omg I'm a INFJ and I can identify with everything you said to a T.
The Infj joke’s are philosophical and deep and that’s is the only way we are spontaneous.
We infjs do indeed exist. Usually the stars and planets have to aline perfectly and we need to find a safe quiet spot to land our spaceships, but we’re out there 🙃
Lol... that's not fair, playing hard to get...maybe he should explain where to find ENFPs, and we'll find you.
So true. We’re rare. It’s interesting to see the discussion of the INFJ and ENFPs. I didn’t think there was a good match for an INFJ like me.
but theyre also rare af......
Here I am! 🙋🏻♂️ INFJ-A
My best friend in the world is ENFP-A. She livens me up and I calm her down. The INFJ-ENFP bond is real.
All the comments are so organised and explanatory, That's what we INFJ are!
Not one half-assed comment from an INFJ
the half-assed comments are from us ENFPs being in complete 😳 👉👈 mode after seeing you INFJ ppl
I like that you noticed how outgoing infjs can be. I am an infj and I’m always misunderstood because people see how shy I am and think I can’t be outgoing. It takes a very long time to open up and I enjoy listening to someone more at the start. But then once I’m comfortable and I share the stronger side of my personality then some people are off put. Like they don’t realize I’m not sharing everything right away so they assume I’m always mild and have no strong opinions when I’m truth I do. I’m just selective who I show that to
Yesss as an infj I relate to this so much!!
Yess, As an INFJ we always disagree because we can see situations from every angle. With INFJ’s it’s okay to be childish but not to the point of hurting INFJ’s intelligence. (INFJ types know when people are being vindictive) INFJ’s are easy to spot 😏 They’re the ones trying to stay far away from big groups and people. Not friends with bullies and the gossip group. INFJ’s are sexy but socially awkward because they can feel everybody’s emotional state. ❤️
Sounds kinda similar to me. Expect I’m social and I have the intelligence of a rock.
Sweeneytv 😂 no you don’t.... All teachers are students first 😉
@@namyaomna782 that's a great comment 🙏
Namya Omna i think we have social anxiety, but are anything but socially awkward. Because we have extroverted feeling. We get people. Is that more what you mean? Because I had crippling anxiety as a child and teen, because, as I see it clearly now, I was far to aware of too many social dynamics at work in this man made environment full of kids my own age, confined to a building, for a set amount of time per day. I think this notion was inherently absurd to me, so I never bought in, fully, and YET, I kept going to school, became a professor, and have had that school schedule far beyond the point I needed to. Is that absurd or what? Guess I was working some shit out..what a weirdo. But, when I got to college, I was perfectly fine. However, I can only manage a certain amount of socializing. Then I need to be alone. Like, I need to have the blinds shut, the lights off, and be me and my iPad. Which sounds psychotic to most people, but sometimes it’s truly my happy place.
So true
INFJ here: I have a 15+ year friendship with an ENFP, and her “child-like” sensibilities is what I love most about her. I’m always happy to be the grounded friend that can be a sounding board or offer advice, but her fun-loving nature is so important to balance out my more serious sensibilities. We can analyze things and talk about life for hours, but I would give that up to just have fun with her and enjoy life. Also, because of my more insular nature and her adventurous spirit, she has experienced way more out of life than I have. This isn’t a source of envy. It’s actually awe-inspiring and makes me respect her as someone who is wise and can teach me things about life that I may or may not get to experience. So, there is definitely a balance, but it has also come with time and trust with each other.
Thanks for sharing :)
we chill alone most of the time
ya'll gotta get out there and EXPOSE yourselves. but not like that
Accurate. I try to get out- but it had to be something I really want to do to get me out of the house ♡
We are in the library studying 🤓
I am an enfp and my friend is infj but he does not consider me his best friend and I have realized that I have always been the one who invested more than 75% in the friendship, and I even have told him that but he is just not that interested in me, maybe he has an intp best friend , finally I made an infp my best friend
It feels so good when someone considers you as much special as you consider them
Manoj Jain as in I NFJ, I agree that most of my friends tell me that they invest more than I do, but the thing is, we perceive relationships really differently, so you have to first define what’s investing first, if it’s texting and hanging out, we probably won’t be that interested. Then try to ask an INFJ friend for help he will be there right away, sometimes we just want to be absent and forgotten, but we deeply appreciate when our friends ask about us. Don’t lose us, a text here and there is always appreciated 🤓
The INFJs hang out in your comment section lol. The whole INFJ viewing ENFP as a child is true but not in a demeaning way- consider that an INFJ has been an adult trapped in a childs body. It's taken me years to losen up and relax and have fun. I LOVE my ENFP relationships and two of my younger siblings are ENFP but I always end up depending on these people- even though my sensibilities would tell me they can be immature and I'm the one keeping them grounded- my "sensibilities" aren't flawless lol. Even though my younger brother is ENFP we have spent a good portion if our relationship where he treats me like a child and I go to him for things I need help with. It's important to note that roles can easily switch because if the mirror affect between INFJ and ENFP though 2 months is not long enough for that to happen. My ENFPs may be very carefree and pure thinkers- they can come up with mind blowing concepts and ideas I never could think of- but I wouldn't say they're any less mature than me- we're just immature in different ways- one being that darn overthinking. If you can handle it, let the INFJ talk through overthinking with you because if you make an INFJ feel like they can't be honest about their overanalyzing they will pull back and keep you at arms length. We don't overanalyze forever or all the time. Once we know and trust someone or something then even when doubts or confusion creep in we have an easier time holding onto what we know and being able to escape our own vicious cycle. When it comes to day to day overthinking that can be a thing but I think all INFJs fight this and there are compromises in our own systems when we naturally decide to stay in the shallows, probably due to sheer exhaustion lol. Anyway as an INFJ gets to know you better, they'll begin to see you as a person they can depend on for your grounded thinking that can bring them out of overanalyzing and back to reality.
Do the ENFPs have a tendency to want to pull you out of your "shell" ?
@@silentgrove7670 yeah but I have had social anxiety and painful shyness that I feel makes most people distance themselves from me so I look for people who aren't phased by my shell and want to make friends with me anyway. Some people try ripping shy people out of their shells or trying to keep them out or something- an understanding and healthy ENFP will know how to draw you out and respect the boundries of how much you can take. A good ENFP makes you 'want' to come out of your shell.
I agree. I’m infj and I think someone who is a bit childish is one of the most amazing things. It’s a bit fascinating and helps me to open up and makes me very happy to be around
I agree with you. I'm an INFJ and I want also remind the not INFJ types that our overanalyzing comes from the fear of being hurt. Overanalyzing it's all about control, we protect ourselves. And like you said we need to know someone better to feel more calm, trusting. But of course we also have to learn to live the moment. Sorry if my English is not correct but I am from Poland 😉
I'm an ENFP here and I hang out in the comments section too lol
INFJs can read as extroverts, that's why we can seem hyped up sometimes. I call it being "on". But it's draining for us. I say I'm 51% Introvert, 49% extrovert! But that 2% difference is huge!
Most INFJs I have met are good listeners. Have you noticed the INFJ stare and how it affects you ? I always wonder if this only works on ENFPs. I remember it feeling like the mysteries of the universe were unfolding right in front of me.
Childlike natures: I like that part of me, keeps me young. Without it , it feels life wouldn't be worth living. You appear way more mature than most other adults I have met. I do not feel you need to be concerned on this matter. I find you to be rather well rounded.
Speaking without thinking: Lol, ENFPs are self actualizing in the moment, processing ideas in real time; it is how we grow. It's like trying on a hat to see it if fits. Doesn't mean it is our truth until we have looked at it for awhile. Ultimately we will concretize our truth from this process or remove that which no longer serves us.
I have met over 10 INFJs now, though only 3 did I get to know much at all. They are all different. I see some recurring themes, anxiety, need a lot of space from others, tend to isolate often to their detriment, slow to trust, prone to depression and burnout, unlikely to initiate contact, can have strong negative inner critic. Upside , tend to be good listeners and be empathic to others, have deep minds capable of exploring almost any idea, highly intuitive, can see how the present will unfold into the future, high resiliency, able to hold space with another more easily than almost any other type. That last gift is particularly rare in humanity.
Quite a few have had encounters with narcissists personalities. Two were married with those and got away and have recovered.
We love one on one time. We don’t mean to give you the state, it just happens when you’ve captured our attention.
I am an INFJ & i still miss the person who i believe was an ENFP who i knew a few years ago. I STILL miss him in my life, I want to ring him up and get him to help out with 'something' I actually need his help with BUT there's a BUT. ....Anyway.
If an INFJ lady is trying to 'look after' you, its not because she thinks your a child. Its because she finds you endearing, probably trusts you and just wants to be good to you in whatever way possible..Its what we do.
I miss my INFJ best friend. Three years now. Is there a way around the BUT ?
Awee
I missed mine for 30 years!. Until he reached to me and we reconnected. I was not happy in my life but successful one would say. However, I never knew how missarble my life was until this person came back into it. It is his ENFP personality that I feed on, rejuvenate and come out of my shell. Feel accepted and understood. His depth of trapted feelings are enormous because he has a very rich personality but was in a long and superficial relationship with a user! So to him my insightful, giving nature and a focus in life are comforting, healing and safe to open up. So never give up hope!
INFJ here. We hang out mostly at home! Good luck finding more of us! :D
What every ENFP needs to understand about the INFJ: Our brain is practically hyperactive with half-baked ideas just like yours. We just won't share them. Ideas are fragile and many won't survive before they bake inside our own brains first. ENFP's are the rare soul who with time and trust we can share our precious in-process thoughts in a way that will be examined but not crushed. Hint to ENFP's who have spent some time building trust with an INFJ: Ask us about our half developed ideas (because experience has shown us to keep our mouth shut while we secretly are dying to share!)
As to the over-analyzing thing. That NEVER goes away!!! Our brain never shuts down. But ENFP's can help with us finding healthier balance, like we can help you with laser focusing when needed. Both are signs of maturity that we admire in each other. And those who had a deeper emotional connection in this pair never leave the same. It is truly intense and life-changing. From the INFJ side, it's like finding a part of my heart that I never knew existed (our Fi is burried so deep we have trouble accessing our feelings). They're there, we just stumble over them on accident!!! Or people can read them on our face while were nearly oblivious in our own mind.
This is such a spot on description of the INFJ emotional experience in concert with an ENFP. Even saying emotional is difficult, but the feelings that arise in this pairing for the INFJ have this almost other-worldly quality. When it doesn’t work out, it’s also incredibly painful.
Thank you so much for the tip! (About asking about your half-baked ideas because you are dying to share them).. I am in a beautiful relationship with an INFJ and I want to do my best 💕 to stay in this precious relationship 🙏 we only recently found out about this ENFP-INFJ thing. We found each other without knowing ☺️
YES. We INFJ are "old souls" but at the same time feel like we never quite lived our childhoods because everyone told us how mature we were for our age and we constantly have this need to take on the burden of responsibility for the sake of maintaining harmony. Finding someone to feel safe enough around to unleash our repressed inner child is a rare thing.
@@ladyk131 very interesting! Thank you 🙏
We love ENFPs and are quite protective of your type. Not personally, but more in principle, your right to exist in the world, uncorrupted. We will guard you while you are busy being your lovely ENFP selves. You won’t know it because you’ll be lost in your pureness.
@2:37 - Okay I needed to hug you right there. As Dr. Mike (on UA-cam) said, ENFP-INFJ pairs are like a girl flying a kite. The kite being the ENFP. INFJs are the girl, anchoring you. We can have fun flying you, you get to be like weeeeee!! And we're also like weeeee!! Because we get to stay on the ground but vicariously fly through you. My sister and I have that dynamic and it's the poutine's gravy.
i like that analogy better than someone saying ENFP INFJ is like sipping from a fire hose.
@@Sweeneytv Ok yah...the fire hose one doesn't hit the spot lol.
Yesss!!! Best way to put it . I never knew how to put it into words. Although I just met a ENFP we haven’t hung out yet but as an INFJ I already feel so connected and smiley. I love it and will appreciate it while I can
Full warning! 😂 I’m an INFJ & my husbands an ENFP & I laughed hard watching this video because you two sound like my husband and I. I actually learned that ENFP’s tend to contradict certain “words” or “things” that they’ve just said which drives an INFJ crazy cause we listen very carefully & take everything you say word for word and we don’t forget. So that’s one of the things my hubby and I struggle with but I learned to accept our differences. Also, she clearly sounds comfortable with you. INFJ’s often get mistaken for Extroverts because although they’re Introverts they’re extroverts to people they love & trust. So she trusts you which is a good thing. Ask me anything 😄 I’ll be happy to help! My hubby & I respect each other so I let him do his thing and he lets me do my own thing. She may just want to help. But be open about what you want and she should respect that.
Yeah sometimes I just say things. Half to get a reaction and the other is just thinking out loud. Think of it as pure, unfiltered, creativity pouring from our mouths. Not meant to be taken anything more than it is. Unless we ask for input.
Sweeneytv if it wasn’t for your videos I would have never known that about my hubby. It taught me how to communicate better with him. INFJs are supposed to be good listeners. But it’s hard when we think the conversation is going all over the place 😆
Okay now I know that I'm not the only one who says other than what I actually meant because my words come out before by brain is aware of it. So whenever someone parrots my words I get confused as I don't remember saying it since I'm thinking out loud. ENFP here ✋😔 apologies to all the people who got confused
Thank goodness u see her as calm. Mostly ppl will think/feel INFJ is cold person.
Nah she was on the level
Couldn't help but snicker at your surprise at her ability to be "extroverted" 😂 When in intimate settings with someone we're actually comfortable with, that tends to be the result. I've had friends say I suddenly start "acting like a crackhead" 🤦🏾♀️💀 when really it's just me feeling comfortable enough in the moment to let loose a little bit. It kinda irritates me when people would point that out to me, like what you really expect me to be quiet & reserved ALLL the time? Lol.. also I feel like people try to force us into this box, perhaps not realizing we're considered to be the most extroverted introverts and walking contradictions. So anything about us that doesn't seem to make sense, actually makes sense.. let's just leave it at that lol
I thought it was cute that your cheeks flushed as you were saying it is "platonic".:-)
Infj woman- We love one on one time. We don’t mean to give you “ the stare”, it just happens when you’ve captured our attention.
14:16 OMG he is trying to analyze INxJ thought process...🤣🤣 I feel so sorry for him 🤣🤣🤣
We aren't saying anything~ you're blushing all by yourself~🤭
I would love to see you two do a video together and see what her first impression of you was! Maybe as an INFJ she picked up on different things than you did 😊
she would never agree to that. I'll have to find another XD
Sweeneytv lets hope 2020 is the year of the INFJ’s ✌🏼
I’ll drink to that
That would be great. My favourite videos are watching ENFP INFJ synergy.
@@Sweeneytv I can't imagine an INFJ who would agree to that 😂 Maybe a textpost video instead?
I'm an INFJ, we absorb others' energy super easily that's why we perfer to hang out with ENFP who can be silly and playful, we think it's very cute and funny, and it makes our mood better, like A LOT.
And with the planing... oh boy we LOVE to plan everything in our life, but being with an ENFP will help INFJ to become more spontaneous and relax, and we are of course always open to try that, eventhough we might feel a lil anxious at first hehe
so yeah I think ENFP and INFJ will help balance each other's life
i'm ENFP and my gf is INFJ, it have been 6months now and i can actually relate on most of this, the accuracy !
ENFPs have taught me so much about living in the moment and being more relaxed and less controlling. Their ability to embrace the moment is awe inspiring to me, since I can too easily get stuck in the comfort of living in my head and often struggle to wake up to the present and actually smell the roses. ENFPs are children at heart, but I love that. As an elementary school teacher, I think children are wiser than adults a lot of the time, and I wish more adults didn't let go of their inner child so easily. Also, as an INFJ, I see myself as a child at heart, too...I'm really careful about who I show that side of myself, though.
INFJs and ENFPs can help each other grow and mature, and they have the ability to create magnificent life long partnerships together. I'm always drawn to ENFPs--I feel so at ease around them, and they tend to bring out the best in me.
Hey.. thanks for sharing. I'm appreciative that you did share.. and so glad you found an infj. i'm an INFJ and my guy is an ENFP. We have been together for six years. He continues to be amazed at me that I "get" him and that we are so compatible. At first glance, we are very "opposites attract", but I love him and adore him... I just let him do his thing; and I don't try to fix him.
Relationships are hard . With all due respect to you... you're pitfall comments are too harsh on both of you . I get what you're saying... but don't but so much stock into it. Things have a way of working out.
Keep the videos coming. You're helping a lot of people!
Congratulations, Austin. I’m happy for you. May your life be blessed with a myriad of INFJs to expand your ENFP horizons!⭐️
thank you
"I mean...I can't account for the things I've just said.." So True 😂 😂 🤣
INFJs can get very hyped when their around people who are. We tend to absorb others people's emotions and energy so if we get very excited is because the person we are around is too and we like the energy they transmitting.
Wow, it's insane to read all of these comments. I feel validated, that there are other people out there like me, it's insane!
Infj's Inherintely have a calm aura about us. (Been told by many people)
thats true (saying as an enfp)
Sim. Tom Holland (ENFP) costuma dizer o mesmo da Zendaya (INFJ).🥰
I burst out laughing when you talked about your dog exploding at the supermarket 😂
As an INFJ, I think I can say that it's highly unlikely she just sees you as a child in an adult body. INFJs are just really bluntly rational in their heads, not so spontaneous and in touch with our own emotions as much as you are. We're in touch with them from an intuitive and thinking perspective but not so much direct experience, kind of like a robot stimulating emotions. Or at least that's how I feel a lot. We appreciate and respect those qualities very much in ENFPs because not only are they mystifying to us by they lift us out of our typically dark and contemplative inner moods. Typically INFJs don't judge people like that. We can step into your shoes to a significant degree and without bias so if we're talking to you, it means we think highly of you and appreciate your company. Typically it means we love you. And statistically speaking, ENFPs have the most lovable personality type, so it makes rational sense for INFJs to like ENFPs especially. Plus, we INFJs are routinely misunderstood and underappreciated, so to hear you say you like an INFJ so much is poignant. But I can see how our intensity can come off as lack of respect, but we often have an impulsive need to help people and really enjoy giving advice because it's easy for us, how our brains work best. If it were me, I'd rather someone hurt my feelings and tell me it's too much than to risk letting me hurt theirs.
I love your videos. ENFPs are awesome. My husband is an ENFP. You guys are childlike yet wise beyond your years. That's actually how I view myself minus being a social butterfly. I'm very friendly but nowhere close to the level you guys are. Love your communication style btw. Very easy to listen to. And the music blends well with the video. ❤ You have a gift for this.
Side note: Though I do see ENFPs as childish at times, we all have things that drive others crazy. I definitely don't view myself as my husband's mother at all. And a party with only ENFPs and INFJs would result in lots of marriages lol
i'm an infj, I can relate to her. she sounds pretty similar to me :D now if only i can find an enfp friend :(
apparently we are as common as dirt. so it should'nt be too hard XD
If you see a group of people and one of them is bouncing back and forth between each group member and as they do this they are getting more and more animated, that is likely the ENFP. I (we?) seem to like being in the spotlight somewhat. Watch for very open friendly disposition and someone that wants to talk to everyone, its likely the ENFP.
If they are on their own and you sit near one and even give a slight glance they are going to initiate a conversation. I do that all the time with strangers everywhere.You can already see my ENFP type behaviour happening now in text, look all the stuff I am already discussing and its not even in person, lol. Giant idea factories seeking contact and connection = ENFP. It's not hard to get our attention either :)
Silent Grove 😺😺 thanks, I’ll keep my eye out next time 😉 I’m extremely shy & never initiate conversations lol
@@chrissyofoldstones3210 Welcome. One of the strangest experiences is how easy it is to be drawn to someone that is shy. It is strangely endearing. I am also HSP as an ENFP which might not be seen considering how bold I can be. It's a funny combination. I do not think that is an ENFP thing, that is just me.
So what is the worst that could happen if you said 'hi' to someone that seemed animated and a possible ENFP ?
Given the high intuition of INFJs, say hi if it seems okay. It's just 'hi', see where it will lead you. Your next best friend might come from hello to a stranger.
Silent Grove what is HSP? Is that another personality type thing?
Yayyy Austin!!! This information helps us a lot and hopefully you can meet someone whom you want to pursue. ENFPs are rare too! 7% of the population. So this case study helps both personalities 🙂♥️
haha thanks. I am as they would say. a man of the people.
Actually 7% is slightly higher than 1/16 of the population, statistically speaking not so rare.. Males slightly rarer than female. When I began meeting INFJs after my first encounter there is a funny synergy I notice with your type. I feel not all the INFJs I have met know they are INFJ, of course I could be wrong as well.
As an ENFP female I totally agree with you; however, make sure you give enough personal space to the INFJ. I think that was my mistake with my INFJ friend: I wanted to be around him 24/7. Well, we‘re still friends, but not as intensively as before. Anyway, there‘s just so much magic in an ENFP-INFJ relationship that it‘s like a dream come true, and you do feel like you‘re in seventh heaven when you‘re with that person, there’s so much synchronocity. When I met my INFJ buddy I was radiating so much happiness out that people kept asking me about it, ha-ha. 🤣 Happy new year 2020 to you both! 😉🙋🏻
I can agree with this statement! Im an INFJ who has a couple enfp friends. Overall we have very "easy" relationships. We just seem to fit like puzzle pieces. However, one of my enfp friends is very....needy? Im not sure how to explain it but when we're together i have to be 140% intune with every word and every movement she makes or else she'll get upset. As an INFJ, sometimes, especially when im burntout, i just need time to be in my head. She absolutely can not handle that at all. If im not telling her my every thought or actively reacting to her every move she makes then she gets irritated. Shes started to become one of those friends that i cant be around for an extended amount of time. I guess emotionally "needy" would be the term to use. My other ENFPs dont do this and i can be around them a long time before needing to go off and "introvert". For most INFJs, space is really important. When a person can respect my need for space, it makes me feel so safe around them. And after a while, because i feel safe around them, i wont need as much space as time goes by.
Ya INxJ need time to recharge and self reflect them self... if they can't do this they get build up emotions and will get stressed.. depending on the INxJ basically how inverted they are will reflect how much time they need.. sometimes even beening in large groups can highly stress them out
you gotta be good at what you do if you can keep my attention (ENFP) while speaking about a totally random INFJ that might turn into a love interest. Love your channel man, you help me improve myself and my relationships with all these people that are confused by my enfp-ness :D
Also I´m trying to figure out my ESFJ girlfriend... seems like she thinks of me as a child-man as well haha
ENFP reacts to INFJ criticism on reddit:
ua-cam.com/video/ZwEqXpPJLmA/v-deo.html
I'm an INFJ, and my sense of humor is very, very snarky, and I have no idea if that's just me or not. So I'm wondering, when you said she was funny, was she also snarky?
Maybe the reason you don't both talk each other out is because you "see" each other more if that makes sense.. it's mutual and therefore more aware of each other's presence.
INFJ is said to be the extroverted introvert.. but also we're naturally empathic (unless we're born a psychopath> hitler).. so she could be just picking up on your vibe..
Personally I'm also autistic, if you can believe that... but when I can actually connect with with someone I'm really happy so maybe it's the same for other INFJs Idk.
Sorry to spam you here, she probably doesn't want you to talk before thinking first in this instance because she worries that you make yourself vulnerable? (Show your cards too soon, although she likely does this herself too) She's possibly picking up on things about the environment that you aren't or she has less faith in ppl ? Or just that neurosis that comes with being an INFJ I guess.. which is possibly because of the 2 recent reasons I just mentioned.
It's good and bad for both of you. If not a romantic relationship then at least a good friendship to have.
So ..did you date
I (being a male INFJ) have that kind of friendship with a male ENFP. Another pitfall I have noticed is that when we talk about problems/conflicts we may have with other people, that is negative energy to him and it sticks with him the rest of that day. I can listen to other people's problems all day and not really get affected by it. On the contrary I feel privileged that they chose to share anything personal with me. So I'm getting careful not to bitch about things with him.
That’s good intuition you’ve got there. Sound like a class friend indeed.
I notice myself (ENFP) I will discuss problems and then want to work on solutions and empowerment with the other. I will not do b*tch and c*mplain mode for long. I can absorb negative energy and have to be mindful of that. I have an INFJ friend?:status unclear, and she experiences a lot of anxiety. I can be super happy and begin to absorb the anxiety even at the best of times. That is my issue not hers. I am trying to figure out how to stop the energy of others coming in without my permission.
@@silentgrove7670 do you feel like she expects you to come up with a solution for her, and that's why you keep thinking about it? If so I think you can learn to let it go. Most likely she felt better just talking to someone who understands her and that's solution enough. You already made her feel better. If it's not a matter of expectations and just a negative feeling, joy is gone, it's probably harder to change.
Sweenytv - Maybe show her if an opportunity presents, that you can be her protector too and that could change..??
I'm a male infj I act silly and awkward all the time and very childish. It hasn't caused any issues with people I know.
If she is true iNFJ she will quickly pick up your concerns and feelings and reflect on it. I had a lovely relation with ENFP for 5 years but we were very young that time. I left my country for 30 years and never could forget him because he was the only person I knew who made me feel so good. He also could never get me off his mind. After so long we hooked up together and picked up as if we left yesterday. The bond, connection and understanding is all there and now we help each other to heal from our very unhealthy relationships and plan life together. I am INFJ he is just like you! The way you talk and have this sparkles in your eyes is so precious, so vivid and sincere and we INFJ's feed of this!!! You ENFP's bring so much happiness, ideas, action and spontanuity in our lives that we find this very precious because it relaxes and calms us down. Yes we do oveanalize, overthink, deal with all this emotions and scrutinizing that we need your cheerful, bubbling personality outlook for life. We feed off each other and take best from it. The rest is simply talked about and laughed at! Yes maybe it is our maturity, self awareness and life experience that helps now because we left each other long time ago not fully knowing why. But there is this great magnetic pulling towards each other which I cannot explain despite being separated in our case by ocean and COVID.
Thank you for pointing out the pitfalls! It's really useful to learn about your mistakes. Recently my ENFP-friend seems to be unwilling to have conversations with me (INFJ)... I've been thinking a lot about this friendship, particularly about my faults. Now I see where the problems came from. It's like a revelation. Thanks a ton!
You are welcome !
Hey man. I know you threw that *disclaimer* at the front. Maybe it’s because you’re in a relationship? But you’re definitely into this girl, or at least her personality. Thank my Ni later.
I really thought the same too. Like it’s in his eyes ...I believe
LOVE when ENFP's get the zoomies ! 🥰
Wanna see em go ape sh*t ? Hand em your marbles, ask which is their favourite, produce slingshot...
Your roundup is brilliant! I'm an INFJ and have just realised ENFP is my best match. And going through the ENFP traits, I can see why. I would say that the things you called out as complementing you, are definitely traits I have as an INFJ, so it was great to hear how they landed. In terms of the childish commentary, my brother is an ENFP, so I know what growing up with one is like, and his youthful energy is something that I cherish, because it balances out my tendency to overanalyze. When we were younger, I did think of him as the eternal child, but tbh that was on me and my own immaturity - I needed to evolve. Now I relish his company for all the reasons you mentioned, but also because of the traits in him that I don't have - specifically his ability to remind me of the joy in the life. He's rubbed off on me big time and I'm a better person because of him. So I guess that sets me up well for when I meet my ENFP. Another part of the childish thing that might be worth noting is that you seem to have some connection with Ireland and culturally we (I'm born and raised Irish) have a bit more of a focus on 'having the craic (fun)' and not apologising for it. If you're not meeting INFJs with that reference point, they may need a little reminding of what matters in life :)
I don't know any ENFP's but I like the bubliness of all Ne users. You guys are refreshing. Men usually don't like being regarded as childlike and you say you don't need to be taken care of. Understandable. But have you considered that maybe infjs need to care about someone? Just this morning under the shower I figured that the only thing that snatch me out of my depressive states is when I'm taking care of someone. Then I thought why can't this someone be me? Food for thought.
ENFP here- excellent video and pretty much summarised my INFJ friendships. Its the unspoken intuition in my opinion which is why the ENFP and INFJ get on so well.
From my experience, the pairing see things other people don't which brings them together. INFJs generally speaking are fairly rare, so they already feel like an underdog in a sensory dominated world. The ENFP recognises this through the natural curiosity and interest in people and listens, which is well received. The ENFP-INFJ humour is electric, I would go as far as saying its indescribable. The analysing (people) is one aspect to it. There is an understanding of humour and an ability to bounce back ideas.
Honesty/authenticity is valued in general, though I have met some very untruthful INFJs, and even then they are fun to be around I just avoid sharing certain things.
I'd be so tempted to go to an INFJ - ENFP party... it sounds exhausting but why the hell not ♡ Aussie tho- so I'm probably way too far away...
INFJ friends can totally be excitable and outgoing- especially if they trust you. It sounds like you guys really click.
One of my best friends told me it took her 6 months to break into my orbit. I'm so thankful she did tho. INFJ - INTJ mates for life ♡
Yay. Aussie are more fun
@@Sweeneytv I mean, I do agree 😂 I really do wish there were personality parties tho. It sounds brilliant.
I also recently discovered 2 friends of mine are INFJ - and we get along insanely well - so I wonder if we unknowingly travel in packs 🤔🤔😂
The problem ENFP have, that annoys INFJs is that you guys plan things without any consideration of consequences. There is no strategies, no how-tos. Your idea of a blue-print is a piece of blue paper, with nothing on it. Don't be surprised when an INFJ says in the end: "I told you so." Our faults is that we can't stop loving you, even with a Door Slam. But sometimes you guys have to learn on your own pace. We really want to help you but sometimes, enough is enough. INFJs can only take so much. And "parties"? Are you serious? Handling one of you guys is tough enough. We're only social if we have to.
3:54 Him: The couple that's supposed to be together... in a joking way.
Me: Riiiiiiiiiiggggggghhhhhhttttttttt.
I am an INFJ but I feel so much like a child a lot of the time. Honestly, there are days
where I feel like I could be an ENFP. Maybe most of the types are actually all children?
I know 3 other INFJs in my Computer Science class, so apparently you'll find more of us in programming careers :D
I am also an INFJ taking computer science classes. 🤓
Haha you nailed it! I’m another INFJ who’s favorite class at uni was computer science 🤪
Unsurprising
That's not true. I'm an INFJ and I'm in management.
I'm an infj. I have 2 male friends that are enfps with whom I have a strong bond. I relate to everything that was mentioned.
I am a female infj, and my enfp is a boy 17 years younger. We met when he was 13 and I was 30 y.o. We got close as two musicians in church when he was 16 or 17.
Yesss, at first (and for the next 5-6 years), i saw him as a little boy i have to take care of. But after he reached 25, somehow our relation ship took another turn. Now to me he is like someone equal (that surprisingly makes me feel 10 years younger!). I will take many advices from him, learn a lot about life from him. Still, as far as our 17 years friendship, we never loose our cry and laugh together. ❤
There’s something so special about ENFPs. My three best friends are ENFPs. Actually, if anyone’s interested, look up Frank James’s channel on UA-cam as well. Hilarious and super insightful about the INFJ mind. Often says things I didn’t even realize about them, and that’s funny because I AM one. Thanks for posting this! Super helpful and insightful. 🤔
The thing is dont take it too literal. I don't think she says you are a child like non adult. Just you still have that child spark that is lost when kids become adults. The spark of curiosity, fascination, etc etc, etc. Don't be afraid to ask "what did you mean by, when you said this." We wont get offended, We will be like.. wow he really took time to think about what I said. Gold Star Sicker to you. Sometimes we think our explanations are understood as spoken, But we dont realize other people might see it or understand it differently or wrong. But that is just me coming from a MALE not a female INFJ.
Yeah I can tell when someone's not interested in talking still .. it makes you feel uncomfortable and I stop.
The best relationship I have ever had in my life was with an INFJ as an ENFP. It was truly the first relationship where I actually felt I could be completely me. We called one another our favorite weirdos. She had the best sense of humor of any woman I have ever met. Unfortunately she did the “door slam” about 7 months ago after a 5 year relationship. We are still friendly, but I truly miss our very unique friendship. She was truly my best friend. They are awesome humans. Searching for another…
I think it’s unlikely that an INFJ would see you as childish. (Just one INFJ perspective) but I think it’s more likely that they would appreciate the “lightness.” INFJs want to be appreciated for their wisdom and want someone who intrinsically seems to understand them, but really benefit from a person who is playful and free, and can bring out that side of them too. Good luck 🙂
I'm an INFJ and I love the goofy childishness of an ENFP. Garrett Watts is an ENFP and I love his childish personality but ofcourse have you seen him in serious situations? It's sexy that an ENFP can be so goofy and childish but also they know when to be serious. They know how to handle a serious moment and I love that! I love when people are so fun and goofy all the time but the moment something of importance pops up, they immediately become thoughtful, concerned and serious. Yes we have this maternal instinct so strong and we want to nurture ENFPs.. We want to make them feel safe and calm. But we would never de-mean an ENFP's goofy behavior. We love that kind of energy. That with an intellectually thoughtful side to it? Man that's a 10/10. It's so impressive.
I often get on even better with ENFP females than I do males and can relate to the dynamic you expressed in this video.
Digging the OPM-poster!
Haha thanks. OPM rules
I like a fun inner child in a person, we INFJs know actions speaks louder than words, there's a difference from us being naturally nurturing and being aluturistic (which actually makes us feel good about ourselves) to us having to "parent" a grown adult that should had learned to behave like one, that would be a chore for us. If you're being proactive...it's all good, but if you're just playing video games all day wanting a mommy/daddy...gets old very fast .
We also like compatible extroverts, because between our introspection and future oriented thinking style, we need someone to snap us into the present time frame.(its a big relief for us living in the now, a break in our overanalyzing...so thank you ENFP for facilitating that).
Coochee, coochee, coo. That’s how INFJ feels back.
just had a weekend-date with an infj, as an enfp and i can completly subscribe to everything you said.
As an INFJ we analyze deeply but ENFP's are adorable ! I found one and we discuss a lot but mainly just to show the other side of things only🦄🦄💕praise and respect to weirdness.
I have 1 ENFP in my life.
He was my first son's friend. We just never parted. His kids are my grandkids. He makes me feel safe. And we love many things people think crazy. He scares me because he crazy, explotions literally will be going off if we are together. Not that I am against anything. It's a debate who is more in control when I am with him. Fast minds are really fun. The pause is a killer for me.
My wife I s f j. Keeps up great. But is no match. Angels are very good to have your back while the infj mind is running full steam on something deemed a must.
Thanks for sharing. Helps.
How dare you, an enfp, try to throw us off about your true feelings?? You clearly have a crush on this great gal! 🥳
Never been romantically interested in a enfp before but I think its because the only enfp I've ever met is my childhood friend/best friend/personally adopted sister. We became friends in second grade and are still close friends to this day. (Were both 28 now). We sadly don't get to hang out as much these days but we still talk to each other and both of us still encourage each other. I try to make sure she never doubt for a second how treasured she is to me, whether were just kicking back wating tv. Having some witty banter or going to a mall. I really feel like I can be myself around her which is EXTREMELY rare for me. I usually have to go into chameleon mode around other people because I can sense I did or said something that disrupted any kind of peaceful interaction whether its me or something else. She really surprised me as a kid because I hadn't come out of my shell yet around strangers as a kid. I was quiet and faded into the background alot so I thought no one would be interested in being friends with me. She surprised me by seeking me out and constantly trying to talk to me on the phone even though we just talked at school. At first I had been worried she may just want to use me to talk my ear off about her problems. But to my surprise and later relief, she'd LISTEN TO ME. As an INFJ atleast in my experience when someone in the past asked me 'is something wrong?' I'd try to open up about something bothering me that I took personally and the person who would ask ethier looked like they regretted asking me that *why did you bother asking me in the first place if you really didn't care?* or gave an answer or acted dismissive of it. *I took your problems to heart, is mine not worth the trouble to you?* so for most the time still to this day depending on the person, when asked how are you doing I'll clam up and spit back an answer they most likely want to hear. 'Eh I'm good....' Enfps are literally a breath of fresh air because they break us from this cycle and help us breathe instead of holding it all in and acting fine. Id die and kill (kill as in defense) for my friend/sister and I know she do the same. Thats how much we can count on eachother.
There's nothing wrong with being a mature child. You have a heart of wonder, what most people lack
I'm pretty sure my best friend growing up was an ENFP. I think one of the reasons our friendship of 10 years ended was because I (an INFJ) saw her as a child that needed to be taken care of. That motherly role that I put on myself was very strenuous and I allowed resentment to grow. If we ever rekindle our friendship or I meet another ENFP, I will be more respectful and acknowledge that they can take care of themselves- even if they do so in a way that is not "acceptable" to me.
Yes!!! I’m an INFJ & my best friend is an ENFP! The relationship is the best ever!!
I get the INFJ motherly aspect but personally I hate being the motherly type. Idk if it's how I grew up or what but I only mother those that I feel need it, aka small children. Playing the mother role with adults irritates the hell out of me 😂 and I love when people come up with some random stuff or thoughts they've had, keeps conversation flowing and from becoming stagnant everyday talk. But maybe that's just me as a weirdo INFJ 😪👌🏻
HI as an INFJ you were spot on .... the real issue is age when you get old YOU want and INFJ to take care of you its what they do... dont let her get away....
I'm FINE with being taken care of. I just don't them to look at me as a smol boi.
I can assure you that it's a clear misunderstanding of what she probably wanted to say about you. If she talked about an ENFP childhish attitude, it's more in a candid, innocent, sontaneous way rather than an actual child behaviour. And INFJ are very respectful of other people feelings. It's rather these qualities that INFJ lack and cherish about a person contrary to thinking ourself superior, because we're constantly overanalysing and ENFP just have this ability to relax us and let it go. Probably the reason why she found you awkward and funny in a good way because you rather intrigue her.
This. Is. Spot. On!!
(INFJ yo)
INFJ can also be childlike, especially with our Ti at least.. Our Ti can get us in trouble with speaking the truth, or at least what we perceive as the truth.
Also I find Ni as my dominant function is a hindrance at times, especially with the Ni-Ti loop...I wish I could just respond and do things "on the fly" more but in a good way.
I've read, Alan Watts was an ENFP.
Right, totally plutonic. Good luck with that.
as ENFP I'm totally agree with you i'm looking for a partner who doesn't look at me as a childlike! i mean maybe the best thing for an ENFP is to be with an ENFP, we know already our needs and we can always support each other!!
Hi infj here , we may be a little child like sometimes but we can also be deathly serious too. You won't find us in bars or clubs...too much noise and emotion going on in those places!!! We'll be sat on a park bench with our quadrapeds (dog) thinking about stuff. Happy hunting. 🦄🌈
We're also extraverted introverts ,but not for long...it's too tiring. 🦄🌈
This friendship sounds so much like mine it's insane.
You mentioned you didn't realize INFJ could be so excitable.. well we can if we click with you, or if a subject if interest comes up. We are generally withdrawn, but we have a fun side too lol. We are just particular with whom we share that side of us.
That sounds about right! I am an INFJ and I truly love ENFP's.
My brother, BFF and the guy I like are all ENFP's. This is one of the personalities
that I am best able to be my true self around and dork off without being judged.
the connection is unreal
The child like personality is okay as long as it is balanced because my ex husband is an enfp and I did feel like a mother for him a lot because he didn't want to hold on to responsibilities in helping with our family and it lead to many problems...balance...
Hello!! I found your video by suggestion and I was smiling all the time while watching it, ahaha! I'm and INFJ and a PNL personal coach and I can offer you my personal thought about the last part of your video. The meaning "you're like a child" has a wide range of interpretarion. My question for you will be: do you interpreted that as negative because she said is a bad thing or because you believe is a bad thing? Can you do something to have this answered? As an INFJ, to be in touch with you inner child and to be comfortable sharing it with me, it's what will make me happier in the world because I'm also like this and its what it allowed me to see the world as a fun place and to enjoy being surprised by life. The other thing related to that is that an INFJ tends to be "the saviour" because they grow up being told by people that they were selfish if they didn't act like that. As a grown up, it take self work to liste others and offer help only if wanted and, in that case, help them find the solution for themselves (asking mirrored questions works wonderfully) and respect their choices and time to deal with it. Finally the overalazing aspect. Maybe's because is so rare to find someone that gets you in that aspect she wanted to unfold everything that she had inside because she was genuinly happy. On the other hand, there's a difference between asking yourself questions and judging (another thing that an INFJ has to work on - generalisations, beliefs and values) and even if it has this on check, is important to not burn others with any subject or tell them that you want to talk about it in advance and place a date to focus on that topic and be able to enjoy silly things . I'm going to watch more of your videos because I'm really curious about the "randomness" of your brain and your humor that I couldn't catch on this one yet (that's a good cliffhanger. Genius). Thank you again for the entertainment!! :D
8:00 this was exactly what I was looking for in this video. When an ENFP wants to troll, they can totally get me, I'm trying to figure out why. That an any ideas you can come up with we'd have a perspective on. That can pretty much go on for hours. I'll add that the child thing is true but that's only surface level stuff. Underneath that there's an undertone of seriousness and intelligence with the ENFP's that I know that I find to be great. So I don't think I would treat one like a child because of that. I respect complexity. One real pitfall far as a relationship or friendship goes, is miscommunication. Intuitives will get something wrong or misunderstand something, that has to be addressed which goes against the the default intuitive communication (unsaid assumptions that are supposedly understood etc).
As an infj I really enjoyed this:)
Bruh, you like her. 🤔
I’m an INFJ and I feel like I have trouble forgiving people. I’ve finally been able to let some things go regarding my husband, things that happened almost 20 years ago.
9:25 ....and 5 months or a year later you will realize that she was right the entire time 😂 ...and then you will realize it 9:35 “like an idiot “ by yourself. And then if you would behave like a “bulldozer” 9:51 there is the INFJ-door slam 😂. 12:16 someone is in love 😍 at first sight and sending a message 😃. I enjoyed your video (you can tell 😂)
yes right...I csn honestly make anyone laugh😂😂😂
its my favourite thing to do
...and also put thier guard down....I'm actually having my guard on though ....it takes time to get my guard down ....
So interesting to hear this perspective ). Also a bit funny because I can tell you that INFJs can be soooooo different )). There are a lot of us hanging out here by the way. ). Just sayin’... Also, when will I get to meet my kind of ENFP? Are y’all hiding somewhere or what? I am all for a party of ENFPs and INFJs lol.
Yeah.i still have to coordinate that. Oh shit maybe on discord or VRC that could be funny as hell
Your ENFP will find YOU!!! :) - ENFP
@@lindatran767 lol thank you
is it just me or you kinda have eyes like Chris Evan's?
YES THANK YOU that's who he reminded me of xD
I was like aw cap met an infj!
I'm an INFJ!!! Check out Katie Marie on youtube. She is an INFJ and talks about her experience on her channel.
Where do we hang out? In our minds...😬😄😅
As an ENFP this sounds great to meet an INFJ but yet sounds deadly haha because I’d probably be swooned haha!
Great insight.
Thank
I am an ENFP and I have a crush on an INFJ. Can anyone help me out on what I should do to draw their attention?