1:19 #1 “I am the price” 4:13 #2 “You look like you have a lot of women” 11:06 #3 “How much money do you have” 17:04 #4 “ I am an alpha woman” or “I am an independent woman” or “I am a feminist”; added statements as Stephan spoke: “I am a strong-alpha woman” or “I don’t need a man”
I think that stating you are a prize is boasting 😆. It’s your own opinion of yourself. Telling a man that he looks like he has a lot of women before you really get to know him is like judging a book by its cover. Not necessary to state you are an “Alpha” woman, he will discover it sooner or later. Great stuff! Thank you Stephan, you rock!
Just because one person calls themselves a prize or sees themselves as such doesn't mean the other person can't be a prize as well. "I'm Awesome" doesn't translate or mean "You Aren't". That's what you're inyerjecting into it.
@ True that. But I feel that actions speak louder than words. They will eventually find out how much of a prize you really are. I would think it but not say it out loud. 😊
@@sassykat2000 but there was a difference between knowing you are the prize and saying it. If you know you are then you don’t need to say it you would “walk to talk”. Saying it just belittles you, because it’s pretty arrogant and snobbish.
I Will never ever understand how U can ask "How much money do U have" to people...🤦🏽♀️ The Guy can be rich and never share or can not manage his money...Just by knowing his job/purposes and values can make U know the type of person he could be and How he deal with money...
@cilixialatinantillaise8664 I can kind of understand it. People come from wounded places as well as places where they have not had good mentorship or safe spaces to talk about money issues. We live in a society with so many dysfunctional beliefs about money. I can see that question as sometimes being a cry for help looking for a safe space to talk about concerns or looking for a better way to handle money issues.
Thank you Stephan! I can't imagine myself EVER stating or asking these things. Stating "I'm the prize" is SO arrogant to me and shows an inflated sense of self. People need to really get over themselves because what they think they got can be taken away from them. Just...like...that. (health, money, status, career, etc.) so it behooves us all to be humble. Tik Tok being gone as of today is a perfect example of that. "You look like you have a lot of women"..If they do it'll tell on them or they'll tell on themselves. Just watch and listen. "How much money do you have" Nah...I wouldn't ask that while dating but if we're getting serious then I would ask because that can't be overlooked. "I'm an alpha women, independent women, I don't need a man, feminist, etc." Personally....I can't stand any of those man-made titles. I don't identify with any of them. God is Alpha and Omega. Not me. In regard in independence, we ALL need somebody in one way or another. In regards to "I don't need a man"...lies. ALL LIES! LOL Who else is going to protect us women and kill the spiders, snakes and other creepy crawlers that women are afraid of?? LOL. I'm playing😂 But seriously men and women need each other! I'm excited and a little nervous about getting out there and dating again! I appreciate all your help!
16:00 When a man asks me about money I get offended and we haven't even met at that point. Next. I imagine that men would feel that way. I wouldn't bother with a woman who is asking for my finances when we are just meeting or even before a possible first date.
Thank you for this roadmap of important items and questions to focus on in the early stages of dating, and beyond. And for my reminder not to sweat the small stuff, like whether he's seeing others before we agree to be official. If we're meant to be we will be. God's will. Very helpful teaching. Thanks again!
5:44 very true. On a first date a man made comments about why do I not have a man build (different from him) a certain way in my life. Also, he is short and asked if I would date a short man. It was a turn off. Are you insecure? I am here with you that’s all that matters.
He may not be insecure, but aware that MANY women won't date bald, short or guys without any facial hair. You having an issue with him confirming says a lot though. 🙄 How would he know if he didn't ask. I'm not fat, but I certainly ask about body type. Some men have a strong preference about it, just like women. I don't take it personal AND I'm not insecure by any means. I just understand the beginning is awkward and funny sometimes. ❤
@ I hear you but before we met he mentioned other things about him that made me think he mig but he. And m no I don’t have an issue with him. I dated him. I dated short men before him. I pick men based on character. I just didn’t like that it was even brought up. But I hear you
Men are the prize for women, women are the prize for the men, a family is the prize for men and women who are together. This one side over the other is not wise or emotionally intelligent. We both need each other and without each other there's no us.
I just gone through a hard breakup. A few months ago, my five-year relationship ended, and it has been really difficult. I can't seem to get my ex lover off my mind, and I still love him a lot. Nothing I've tried to get him back has worked, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anybody else. Although sharing this here may seem strange, I miss him terribly and can't stop thinking about him.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.
I simply used your useful information to look him up online. Amazing I looked up Father Obah Eze online, and he seems like a sincere person. Again, thank you ❤
Hey! " Im The Prize" ! Haha. Somethings do and can sound a little arrogant, whomever is saying it, but having Confidence is good . That can be displayed sometimes with out saying it. Me im just not comfortable saying certain things about myself, but if someone tells me, ill take it. I mean im not going to deny if something is great about me either. Iol. But hearing those things definitely means something and more when it comes from someone I admire and care about. I agree, people that love eachother are usually praising or commenting on their spouse or partner first, not themselves. And honestly Some people are just a Blessing. ♥️ And asking eachother about how much money you have or make can be a turn off to either party If we even like each other or want to get closer and official , yes lets talk more about money and other things. But especially not on the first date or conversation and definitely Not directly asking someone in a certain way or time. I think its untasteful and can be very offensive and rude. Good Advice As Always. You take Care. ♥️🙏
I have had two men recently say have you not got any interest in having man,this afternoon me saying nicely that I'm single and enjoy being single. They were both annoyed and got defensive and annoyed. I wasn't saying it as men are bad,just that I'm happy as I am. So do they not realise that is a huge turn off anyway Why not just accept that and as you were having a pleasant conversation previously,just be accepting and respectful. Not angry and annoyed
I personally have never asked a guy how much money they have, but I don't believe it's a bad idea to ask a guy what is their current occupation/career, and if they don't what is their goal towards that...
“I’m the prize.” It’s one thing to think this and say it to yourself as an affirmation or a reassurance of your worth. But to say it to the man you’re dating just sounds really egotistical, obnoxious and arrogant. Especially if you’re not exactly a woman of class. But someone who just likes to be treated as a princess or queen right off the bat. I just feel you lose a bit of that softness feminine touch when you make such claims. Because if you truly are the prize, you would “walk the talk” be about it confidently without having to necessarily advertise it. Just sounds cheap, and I say this respectfully ladies. 🙏🏼
I don't know if this is because I am secure in who I am, but these statements and questions in and of themselves really do not bother me. If a woman said, "I am the prize." I would just calmly say something like, "Ok.", and see if she says or does anything else afterward that reflects what direction she was going in with that statement. If a woman said, "You look like you have a lot of women.", I would say something like, "I appreciate your confidence in my ability to attract women. I might even follow up with, "Honestly, you have more confidence in my ability to attract women than I do myself. I do good just to pursue one.". As for the money one, I do believe in discretion, but I am not bothered by direct, bottom line, money questions. I would rather people just be blunt on that and say what they are thinking or feeling. Of course I am not going to tell people how much money I have unless it is at the right stage in the relationship, but I would also assure her that I am not upset by the question and that I would like for her to continue being honest with me. There are also things that I don't mind disclosing as an alternative to give her something. I never mind telling someone whether or not I do or do not live paycheck to paycheck, or whether or not I am debt free. Some people never grew up feeling like they had a safe space to talk about money in a healthy way. As for the alpha statement, once again, I would say, "Ok." And see what direction that she is going in with it.
Stephan, please tell me how is it that my fiance’ is a physician, and has millions in his Wells Fargo bank account. Why do he have needs that warrant him asking me for money? He even told me last year something him wandering if I would have his back in the wake of a serious crisis. Is he testing me?
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Ladies & Gents, dating multiple people at once is a dating strategy. It is not what dating is. If you aren’t the kind of person that wants to participate in such a strategy DON’T! Vet this mindset asap. It speaks to your level of compatibility and being likeminded. It also doesn’t mean you want to get into a relationship from the gate. Common misconception.
"I am the prize." 🤣 Oh goodness these women out here... what do you think we are without men in the world LOL! And if the woman is the prize and not the man then why women want a man so bad? 😅 "You look like you have a lot of women." 😬 Yeah don't say that LOL "How much money do you have?" 😳 Whoever asks this when you first meet or in the dating stages is clearly just after money and not after love. "I'm an alpha woman." --- "I'm an independent woman." --- "I'm a feminist." --- "I'm a strong woman." 🥴 Never gonna experience the beauty of a relationship with this attitude. The independent one isn't as scary as the others but still keep that obvious point to yourself.
And and just no coming back she for u I'm home crying u w her u ppl ick her I was home for months not no more I'm not wasting my time u did what u did u choose to do that
Making theese 4 statements to any man while dating will just be the gateway leading down a slippery slope ,ladies avoid this,listen and learn when STEPHAN speaks
I know some woman are full on and not perfect. but I have been single and happy for a while and could not be bothered top toeing and massaging a man's ego .
For me a man who is stable, established in a good job. If I'm working they better be. Good values, how they treated their last lady women, are they looking for long term.
@ hi there Mr Stephan please don’t think I mean any bad by it I just want to learn from it & I don’t make a rude assumption when a man says it to me or me to them! Thanks for your input🤗👋🏻
1:19 #1 “I am the price”
4:13 #2 “You look like you have a lot of women”
11:06 #3 “How much money do you have”
17:04 #4 “ I am an alpha woman” or “I am an independent woman” or “I am a feminist”; added statements as Stephan spoke: “I am a strong-alpha woman” or “I don’t need a man”
#1 I am the PRIZE
Thanks for the time stamps.
Hey, Stephan. That's a beautiful last name.
( I updated this comment ☺️.)
You are appreciated, Brotha for all you do.
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A healthy relationship is the prize 🏆
And that takes both
Both people are just as important to the other. 😊❤
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Yes both are blessings to each other 🙏🏽💜
I agree with the way how femanism has been turned to hate men, when it's supposed to be about uplifting and encouraging women.
Thank you for sharing these points. I enjoyed watching the gentleman's reactions in the glass reflection😊
lol 😂 im glad you enjoyed it
I love the topics & how you break everything down!
You’re doing a remarkable job!
Excellent video! 👏🏼👏🏼💯💯❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for your support
@ you’re welcome 🫶🏼👍🏼😉
True..both men and women are equally important, or "the prize", but he's making the first move though...
I think that stating you are a prize is boasting 😆. It’s your own opinion of yourself. Telling a man that he looks like he has a lot of women before you really get to know him is like judging a book by its cover. Not necessary to state you are an “Alpha” woman, he will discover it sooner or later. Great stuff! Thank you Stephan, you rock!
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Just because one person calls themselves a prize or sees themselves as such doesn't mean the other person can't be a prize as well.
"I'm Awesome" doesn't translate or mean "You Aren't". That's what you're inyerjecting into it.
@ True that. But I feel that actions speak louder than words. They will eventually find out how much of a prize you really are. I would think it but not say it out loud. 😊
Also that high valued man is the same BS
@@sassykat2000 but there was a difference between knowing you are the prize and saying it. If you know you are then you don’t need to say it you would “walk to talk”. Saying it just belittles you, because it’s pretty arrogant and snobbish.
I Will never ever understand how U can ask "How much money do U have" to people...🤦🏽♀️
The Guy can be rich and never share or can not manage his money...Just by knowing his job/purposes and values can make U know the type of person he could be and How he deal with money...
@cilixialatinantillaise8664 I can kind of understand it. People come from wounded places as well as places where they have not had good mentorship or safe spaces to talk about money issues. We live in a society with so many dysfunctional beliefs about money.
I can see that question as sometimes being a cry for help looking for a safe space to talk about concerns or looking for a better way to handle money issues.
First here. We love you stephen❤.much love from ghana🇬🇭
I truly appreciate that 🙏
Thank you Stephan! I can't imagine myself EVER stating or asking these things. Stating "I'm the prize" is SO arrogant to me and shows an inflated sense of self. People need to really get over themselves because what they think they got can be taken away from them. Just...like...that. (health, money, status, career, etc.) so it behooves us all to be humble. Tik Tok being gone as of today is a perfect example of that. "You look like you have a lot of women"..If they do it'll tell on them or they'll tell on themselves. Just watch and listen. "How much money do you have" Nah...I wouldn't ask that while dating but if we're getting serious then I would ask because that can't be overlooked. "I'm an alpha women, independent women, I don't need a man, feminist, etc." Personally....I can't stand any of those man-made titles. I don't identify with any of them. God is Alpha and Omega. Not me. In regard in independence, we ALL need somebody in one way or another. In regards to "I don't need a man"...lies. ALL LIES! LOL Who else is going to protect us women and kill the spiders, snakes and other creepy crawlers that women are afraid of?? LOL. I'm playing😂 But seriously men and women need each other! I'm excited and a little nervous about getting out there and dating again! I appreciate all your help!
Hey thank you for all the tips =]
Happy to help 🙏
Enjoyed thanks for sharing.
16:00 When a man asks me about money I get offended and we haven't even met at that point. Next. I imagine that men would feel that way. I wouldn't bother with a woman who is asking for my finances when we are just meeting or even before a possible first date.
You are a Gift to us and a catch. Thank you!!
Thank you, I appreciate that
Thank you for this roadmap of important items and questions to focus on in the early stages of dating, and beyond. And for my reminder not to sweat the small stuff, like whether he's seeing others before we agree to be official. If we're meant to be we will be. God's will. Very helpful teaching. Thanks again!
5:44 very true. On a first date a man made comments about why do I not have a man build (different from him) a certain way in my life. Also, he is short and asked if I would date a short man. It was a turn off. Are you insecure? I am here with you that’s all that matters.
He may not be insecure, but aware that MANY women won't date bald, short or guys without any facial hair.
You having an issue with him confirming says a lot though. 🙄 How would he know if he didn't ask. I'm not fat, but I certainly ask about body type. Some men have a strong preference about it, just like women. I don't take it personal AND I'm not insecure by any means. I just understand the beginning is awkward and funny sometimes. ❤
@ I hear you but before we met he mentioned other things about him that made me think he mig but he. And m no I don’t have an issue with him. I dated him. I dated short men before him. I pick men based on character. I just didn’t like that it was even brought up. But I hear you
Prizes have to be won. Gifts are given. When two great people give themselves to each other they each receive a great gift.
Men are the prize for women, women are the prize for the men, a family is the prize for men and women who are together. This one side over the other is not wise or emotionally intelligent. We both need each other and without each other there's no us.
Thanks for sharing, Stephan great video. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there 💙💥❤️💥🧡💥💜
Thank you very much 🙂
Love ur videos ❤
I’m glad you’re enjoying them
#3 is just as much a no-no for the man as much as it is for the woman.
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I just gone through a hard breakup. A few months ago, my five-year relationship ended, and it has been really difficult. I can't seem to get my ex lover off my mind, and I still love him a lot. Nothing I've tried to get him back has worked, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anybody else. Although sharing this here may seem strange, I miss him terribly and can't stop thinking about him.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.
How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?
His name is Father Obah Eze and he's an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
I simply used your useful information to look him up online. Amazing
I looked up Father Obah Eze online, and he seems like a sincere person. Again, thank you ❤
Omg Stephen, just ❤ your energy in this one! I LOL to point #2 😂 for realz, I get asked that question from men too and that is the same thought 😂😂😂
Great points, I do have the Independant point instead of interdependence, not purposely, used to lliving alone the last 2 yrs.
Hey! " Im The Prize" ! Haha. Somethings do and can sound a little arrogant, whomever is saying it, but having Confidence is good . That can be displayed sometimes with out saying it. Me im just not comfortable saying certain things about myself, but if someone tells me, ill take it. I mean im not going to deny if something is great about me either. Iol.
But hearing those things definitely means something and more when it comes from someone I admire and care about.
I agree, people that love eachother are usually praising or commenting on their spouse or partner first, not themselves. And honestly Some people are just a Blessing. ♥️
And asking eachother about how much money you have or make can be a turn off to either party
If we even like each other or want to get closer and official , yes lets talk more about money and other things. But especially not on the first date or conversation and definitely Not directly asking someone in a certain way or time. I think its untasteful and can be very offensive and rude.
Good Advice As Always. You take Care. ♥️🙏
I have had two men recently say have you not got any interest in having man,this afternoon me saying nicely that I'm single and enjoy being single.
They were both annoyed and got defensive and annoyed.
I wasn't saying it as men are bad,just that I'm happy as I am.
So do they not realise that is a huge turn off anyway
Why not just accept that and as you were having a pleasant conversation previously,just be accepting and respectful.
Not angry and annoyed
Thank you 🫂
Navy is a good color for you Stephan!
😊 thank you
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes sir you're welcome.
❤️🙏❤️ you are soooo spot on 🙌
🙏❤️ thank you for watching
I personally have never asked a guy how much money they have, but I don't believe it's a bad idea to ask a guy what is their current occupation/career, and if they don't what is their goal towards that...
The term "divine femanine" would be a better replacement term for "alpha female" for those whom use that term.
Its off-putting when man or woman says they're the prize.
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“I’m the prize.” It’s one thing to think this and say it to yourself as an affirmation or a reassurance of your worth. But to say it to the man you’re dating just sounds really egotistical, obnoxious and arrogant. Especially if you’re not exactly a woman of class. But someone who just likes to be treated as a princess or queen right off the bat. I just feel you lose a bit of that softness feminine touch when you make such claims. Because if you truly are the prize, you would “walk the talk” be about it confidently without having to necessarily advertise it. Just sounds cheap, and I say this respectfully ladies. 🙏🏼
I don't know if this is because I am secure in who I am, but these statements and questions in and of themselves really do not bother me.
If a woman said, "I am the prize." I would just calmly say something like, "Ok.", and see if she says or does anything else afterward that reflects what direction she was going in with that statement.
If a woman said, "You look like you have a lot of women.", I would say something like, "I appreciate your confidence in my ability to attract women. I might even follow up with, "Honestly, you have more confidence in my ability to attract women than I do myself. I do good just to pursue one.".
As for the money one, I do believe in discretion, but I am not bothered by direct, bottom line, money questions. I would rather people just be blunt on that and say what they are thinking or feeling. Of course I am not going to tell people how much money I have unless it is at the right stage in the relationship, but I would also assure her that I am not upset by the question and that I would like for her to continue being honest with me. There are also things that I don't mind disclosing as an alternative to give her something. I never mind telling someone whether or not I do or do not live paycheck to paycheck, or whether or not I am debt free. Some people never grew up feeling like they had a safe space to talk about money in a healthy way.
As for the alpha statement, once again, I would say, "Ok." And see what direction that she is going in with it.
✋🏼 Roger that, Mr. AlmondJoy. 😊
Who says "I am the prize"😂I would never this is so weird
Thanks sir
My pleasure
Thanks Stephan am yr student from Uganda
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I have self sabotage so much thinking positive feels out of character😢😢😢 i’m working to improve though
Stephan, please tell me how is it that my fiance’ is a physician, and has millions in his Wells Fargo bank account. Why do he have needs that warrant him asking me for money? He even told me last year something him wandering if I would have his back in the wake of a serious crisis. Is he testing me?
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The word, feminist, gets thrown around so much, I don't know what it exactly means from one person to the next.
Ladies & Gents, dating multiple people at once is a dating strategy. It is not what dating is. If you aren’t the kind of person that wants to participate in such a strategy DON’T! Vet this mindset asap. It speaks to your level of compatibility and being likeminded. It also doesn’t mean you want to get into a relationship from the gate. Common misconception.
Basically only smile knowing that smiling might trigger too 😂😂😂😂
Jesus God calling everyone make these men stronger 🙏
Lol 🙏
Awww I'm glad she helped u get stronger
"I am the prize." 🤣 Oh goodness these women out here... what do you think we are without men in the world LOL! And if the woman is the prize and not the man then why women want a man so bad? 😅
"You look like you have a lot of women." 😬 Yeah don't say that LOL
"How much money do you have?" 😳 Whoever asks this when you first meet or in the dating stages is clearly just after money and not after love.
"I'm an alpha woman." --- "I'm an independent woman." --- "I'm a feminist." --- "I'm a strong woman." 🥴 Never gonna experience the beauty of a relationship with this attitude. The independent one isn't as scary as the others but still keep that obvious point to yourself.
Thanks for writing in 🙏
As a feminist, I was just sitting sweet and pretty❤
I am humble, not a prize.
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Some men need to Stop Slow Footing around about getting things done then u wouldn't have to be, so independent. I don't have the patience for that🤬
No so how many I don't knkw
And and just no coming back she for u I'm home crying u w her u ppl ick her I was home for months not no more I'm not wasting my time u did what u did u choose to do that
Making theese 4 statements to any man while dating will just be the
gateway leading down a slippery slope ,ladies avoid this,listen and learn
when STEPHAN speaks
My friend has soooooo many women 😂😂😂😂😂 he loves to dance so I will not house brake him. I'm cool with it.
I know some woman are full on and not perfect.
but I have been single and happy for a while and could not be bothered top toeing and massaging a man's ego .
Am all about the TURN ONS ,never anticipating any TURN OFFS 🤣🤣
For me a man who is stable, established in a good job. If I'm working they better be. Good values, how they treated their last lady women, are they looking for long term.
So I hear u saying u want to be to provider
like the Haitians say, salt don't brag about being salty.
My man should be the one telling me I am the prize, not me telling myself I am the prize
Why would anyone call themself s prize. Good grief
Isn’t saying this narcissistic behavior🥴from either side! Just asking?🤗
totally
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@ hi there Mr Stephan please don’t think I mean any bad by it I just want to learn from it & I don’t make a rude assumption when a man says it to me or me to them! Thanks for your input🤗👋🏻
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Who says this stuff? Maybe it's because I'm a white girl, but I can never imagine saying any of that stuff. Sounds needy