Muslim Women & High Aspirations Outside Home
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It's very sad that there are women that have to fend for themselves because they have abusive mehrams who don't take care of them, and if they don't fend for themselves they'll literally die. :/
May Allah ease the affairs of such victims.
It's crazy that even the places we think are halal for us, end up compromising our religion entirely. I worked at a day care from 7.30am to 6.30pm for a month and a half an quit because of how uncomfortable I felt. Number 1 is I can't wear a niqab or khimar or jilbab there. I had to wear joggers and a top dress and a normal scarf on my head. I would always go home and come in my khimar and abaya and would put it over me when work finished. There were no men there except one, the managers husband and an electrician. I found it very uncomfortable and it was degrading to an extent. Then it was also during Christmas time and also Halloween where there are regular Christmas activities and such we're there would be singing , taking pictures and so much more. Another problem was salah. There as no set place for it and there would always be pictures and things in every single room. It required me travelling 1 hour to and from by bus or train and during lunch we'd have to serve children their food and a lot of it was pork and whatnot which alhamdulillah I was always able to pass on that responsibility. And the list goes on. It made me tired, suffered many panick attacks during then, strained my relationship with my dad, created problems with house duties and just wasn't that amazing really. Alhamdulillah I got out just before Christmas came. Salah would either be delayed or prayed on time or done when I was extremly tired. Wallahi sisters we were not made to do this, your home is a safe haven for you. You really have to weigh up your options and do what is in your best interest and not what people say. They'll tell you to go out there and earn for the household when this is clearly the role given to men. To earn money just to be able to spend it on clothes or whatever... its all a con. The media and social media will make you want everything, to buy more, eat more, purchase more and make more money and make money just as a man does. Do not listen to these lies
Alhamdulillah for the last few months I've stopped working and I feel so content. I'm attending attending Islamic institute since last, I get time for myself at home, I get to easily visit relatives and keep ties with them, I get to stay at home, attend madrasa, attending classes at the masjid and cook and learn new skills and habits and even revise in my free time and mainly worship Allah with ease and comfort. I get time for my mum and my aunts and cousins and I don't have any stress or such during Ramadān, I can attend tarawīh and do much more with my time.
Sisters, your home is the place ypu will flourish in and attend classes and seek knowledge, visit the masjid when you can with your guardians permission, it will emancipate you wallahj
(Whoever left something for God, God compensated him with something better.) 🌹💐
Manshallah thank you for your sincere advice.
Since you stopped working have you found halal way to support yourself financially if you don’t mind sharing
@@Sara-pn7kd not at the moment eventhough I'm looking into private tuition. This way I can work from home, my own hours to an extent and I can pick and choose who I can work with. But this is all on hold because I want to finish off my degree (4 years part time, it's not through UCAS or such so I don't have to pay 9.25k every year). I want to work part time so I can help my parents pay off debt in shaa Allah.
Alhamdulillah, if we search hard enough and do plenty of research then there are plenty of opportunities out there that are halal and you won't have to compromise your haya or religion. It's very easy to do in most work environments. May allah aid you sis 🤍🤍
@@dnaty8975 when you give up something for the sake of Allah swt he will replace it with something better barakullah fiqh may you be exalted with patience and reward.
Almost all jobs nowadays are in mixed environment which makes it haram, it goes directly against the modesty and shyness of a woman
Staying home away from fitan outside is a blessing wallahi, which many don't understand unfortunately
Is true 👍🌹
@@programferris1018 Uber driving is more haram
Food delivery can potentially make you serve haram food, etc
So on and so on
And would a woman marry a man who does hard labour (completely halal but very less income)?
@@programferris1018 seclusion in Uber
In the west, high chance of delivering haram food, you won't even know what you are delivering (shows your ignorance in these fields of labour)
Shuyookhs like sheikh assim, speakers like Abu mussab who are better qualified than you have said, a man can work in mixed environment with conditions
These are respectable speakers on the correct aqeedah
Unless you are more knowledgeable than them, I don't want to continue this useless conversation
@@programferris1018 btw, learn fiqh lol
Income from mixed environment is NOT HARAM INCOME
Yes, being in mixed might be haram, but the income from that isn't 'haram'
Haram income in Islam means different
So please learn
@@programferris1018 a woman has extra shyness as compared to a man
That's a fact
Can be proven in hadith
BaarakAllaahu feekum!
Something we as muslims need to revisit, through the lens of the islamic history itself, is that Muslim women don’t need to have a visible, public presence to have a sense of value and self-worth. They never have had to before in our history, and they shouldn’t have to do now.
Be warned beloved brothers:
Shaykh Rabī‘ bin Hādī Al-Madkhalī حفظه الله:
“Look for the religious woman. Even if she was from the common folk, that is better than an educated woman who mixes with the opposite gender. By Allah the women from the common folk are better and more clever than the educated ones these days. It is not a must for you to marry an educated woman, upon you is to find a righteous and fearful woman. And if she is educated as well as righteous then thats’s goodness upon goodness, otherwise just marry an ignorant woman who is upon the Fitrah (natural disposition) where you can teach her and she accepts knowledge from you. This is what I have to say, and Allah knows best”
📚Majmū‘ Al-Fatāwa 2/418
Jazakumullahu khairan AMAU team for these, they're very beneficial.
I want to be the wife who sits at home and takes care of her child واعلم أطفال القران. But nowadays people think it's bad and "that you are not independent and to need men is bad". Yet as people around me think I'm stupid tp need a men in my life and that I want my own family.
I go to school or collage, I want to get married after collage, but I can not because I dare not say I want to get married. This is because my father believes that having an education is more important than getting married and my father say always " Your husband will not respect you until you have a university degree"
اتمني ان اكون عفيفه و الزوجه الصالحه 😔 ما اتمنى احب اي شخص بالحرم او اتكلم مع اي شخص بالحرام🌹❤️.الله يسهل لكل بنت وولد يمروا نفس مشكلتي.🤲🤲
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Story of my life excerpt that I have graduated now
And then the next thing they want for me is to get a banging job
My dear sister, I had the same issue but do not let your shyness stop you from goodness. Ask Arrahman for strength and kindly ask your father that you would like to get married if that is really what you want, it might be difficult in the beginning but after every hardship comes ease my dear sister.
Yes subhan Allah, to take care of children is the most beautiful job for a women.
May Allah grant you ease my dear sister. I know of a sister who struggled so much to get married cause of a family member, but she kept begging Allah every night and she did not give up, as she so badly wanted to get married for Allahs sake, and now Alhamdulillah in a few weeks she will marry a righteous brother in shaa Allah, Alhamdulillah for every goodness.
So keep begging Arrahman and do not give up my dear sister in Islam.
It will not always be easy when you want to do that which is sunnah or fard. But we keep fighting until we have attained it with Allahs help only.
Do not let collage or shyness stop you from getting married my dearest sister.
May Allah reward and guide your father. May Allah ease your situation. This Ummah need woman again that are supportive, caring and shy.
جزاک اللّٰہ خیرا کثیرا ۔
Jazzakallahu khair Ustadh
keep up the good work!!
Barak Allahu feek
Very balanced
Barak Allāhu feeka
keep up the good work
Some women want to be a career woman. I agree, so many beneficial knowledge can be spread. Since most Muslims live amongst deviant sects with the wrong Aqeeda.
Some women want jahanam
Then they regret it when they don't have kids and they want someone who earns more than them! Allahu musta'an.
@@samkhodr9975 I also blame the parents. Since they are also a factor. They want an educated daughter.
@K. Kong I wouldn't say all women feel like that. Otherwise some wouldn't put in years of studying pursuing masters. If they really felt like that deep inside.
@@htmoh8115 Also, I forgot to mention that it is the woman's right to work and earn money if she wants (with her husband's permission and as long as she is fulfilling her responsibilities), but today it is going to extremes. Of course a woman can go to university if she wants (so long as it is halal and there is no free mixing) but it is not necessary and it won't ultimately make her happy.
What about a woman who has high aspirations of seeking beneficial Knowledge, attending local Masjid but unfortunately being bother by her male teacher and other male around just because she's unmarried (i.e she's willing to seek knowledge but rumours about her being single....) which cause her lots of tension, pain and distractions. What should she do, she should leave that gathering?? May Allah reward you all abundantly for your incredible efforts.
May Allah reward the sister abundantly.
Acquiring Islamic knowledge and teaching it, with the right niyya, will insha Allah grant the person a lofty status with Allah.
Definitely she has to leave. If she is close enough (meaning not completely separated) so that men can harass her, then both genders are engaging in sin. How can these Muslims hope for Baraka if they are sinning in the house of Allah?
She should look to either study from Shuyukh in separated rooms, writing her questions on paper, and not engaging personally with the men. Best case marry and attend with her husband, or father.
Or she should take female teachers and attend female only gatherings. Or just go to female Islamic colleges.
Mixing is absolutely dangerous. And if she marries it will give her peace bi idhnillah.
Staying at home is better than this evil of what you're claiming
Mixing is dangerous, studying Islam doesn't justify it
Women should go to female teachers or segregated areas to study where there are no men around
Protect your reputation, remove yourself from negative environments but also continue seeking knowledge.
There are a lot of options for seeking knowledge these days. Especially online. You can enroll in one of the online programs / madrassas / Islamic universities. You can also find qualified female teachers to give you private classes online or face to face. You also have the explanations of the all the books you need by some of the most senior ulama of this ummah online.
Better to leave such a place, not just because it is religiously immoral to stay in such a place with perverts around but also because it is not good for your own health and safety. Please put yourself first girl, find yourself a safe and healthy environment for your religious studying, give up on the factors that hinder your growth but don't leave growth in itself, which is the studying and improving. ❤️ I myself have gone to a madrasa that was toxic although it was just women around and that affected my studies and mental and physical health alor and that's always my advise, if people are toxic, leave. Don't wait till it affects you and you're literally depressed out of it. Nobody is worth that.
Doesn't AMAU has online programs that you can use to seek knowledge?
What if a woman does have goals but is unable to achieve them because of family and kids. What shud she do then??
Personally I end up crying a lot when I see my entire day was with my kid and family and other responsibilities. I feel like a failure.
please remember sis you arent a failure for fulfilling your duties and role as a mother islamically. in fact you are rewarded. this is a role that many women aspire to have but are unable to have due to many factors. remember Allāh rewards you for this. as for your goals, make dua to Allāh and ask for his aid. He will make a way for you inshAllah. I am not in a position or knowledgeable to give advice regarding how to go about your goals as a busy mother though. maybe ask other mothers in your community. Allāh knows best.
@@meow5490 jazakiAllah khair sister. Thank u. May Allah make it easy for all mothers.
@@SrastiShrivastava ameen wa iyyaki !
As the other person stated, you are not failing for fulfilling these duties. If you think of it like this then you will begin to resent your children and your relationship with them will become spoiled. You are doing something very crucial by being there for your children and looking after the house, so your effort is not being wasted In Shaa Allah. Someone needs to look after the children and the house, and the mother best qualifies for this role as they are the children she birthed.
If you feel like the chores are too much then you can have your children assist you by doing a portion of the chores. It might take some time to get them to habitually help you depending on the amount of assistance they provide you right now. This will allow you to have time for your goals that you want to achieve In Shaa Allah.
Your effort is definitely not going to waste. You are fulfilling a very important role, which is the role of the mother.
@@shaharyarahmad8477jazakaAllah khair for kind words... sometimes a perosn just needs a pat on back saying that you are doing fine...
I think this was enough for me.. InshaAllah I will remember it..
it's just my first time being a mom.. may Allah guide me in future...
For someone who says shirk is haram and not kufr is he a kaafir?
Yes he is a kaafir
One of the biggest calamities today is the muslim woman going out to work today