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  • @JF-gy7tt
    @JF-gy7tt 6 місяців тому +23

    17:09 “my husbands decisions has been made, its whatever i decide”
    😂😂😂😂 get em 😂😂😂😂

  • @JaimeLeighArt
    @JaimeLeighArt 7 місяців тому +69

    I love this rant with my whole soul. 😂 "Hi, it's me, I'm the decision maker, it's me" SENT me!

  • @maciees
    @maciees 7 місяців тому +88

    Him: "What do you value the most?"
    Me: "not wasting my time..."

    • @addieddc
      @addieddc 7 місяців тому +4

      omg when she said that, I thought "is this a job interview?" wtf 😂

    • @janesuoth
      @janesuoth 7 місяців тому

      @@addieddclmao what I thought exactly 😂

  • @lina01016
    @lina01016 7 місяців тому +107

    you know it’s going to be a good video when it starts with “I’m about to go on a rant”

  • @JaggedLittleFrill
    @JaggedLittleFrill 7 місяців тому +31

    Anytime someone tires to rush you, it's a trap. If they don't want to allow you time to think, compare--that means they know it's a bad deal and they are afraid you'll figure it out. That text was so offensive. I'm glad you stand your ground!

  • @tpolly480
    @tpolly480 7 місяців тому +21

    The slow build of the story to the final text was immaculate. I’m cackling. 😂😂

  • @desertgirl483
    @desertgirl483 7 місяців тому +34

    They tell you that your house sucks because it creates fear.

  • @nikkininja85
    @nikkininja85 7 місяців тому +38

    Dude. I feel every single second of this entire video. Literally the same exact thing for my home. I even once tried to schedule a quote to replace the front door and they REFUSED unless my husband was also home. Straight up refused. My flabbers were fully gasted.

    • @lassmalgehen
      @lassmalgehen 7 місяців тому

      And what happened then?

    • @gusdagoosesmom4902
      @gusdagoosesmom4902 7 місяців тому +2

      @@lassmalgehen I bet they went with another company

    • @nemmykate
      @nemmykate 7 місяців тому +2

      I recently had this happen to me. They explained my partner had to be home because we are both listed on the deed and the door decision is apparently very important and both parties have to agree and the installers want to know everyone is on the same page. It was weird but I kind of get it?

    • @nikkininja85
      @nikkininja85 7 місяців тому +6

      @@lassmalgehen I maaaaayyyyyyy have said I missed the section on their website where they state misogyny is one of their core values as a company and apologized for wasting their time 🤭

    • @nikkininja85
      @nikkininja85 7 місяців тому +2

      @@nemmykate I can see that. But the roofing company never asked, the window guys didn't, and neither did our painter. Thankfully, we ended up using Feldco and it wasn't an issue at all!

  • @monicamartinez-canty8939
    @monicamartinez-canty8939 7 місяців тому +39

    “Cause I’m the one who makes the decisions around here MotherFer” bahahhaaa hilarious 😂😂😂

  • @melissaf.568
    @melissaf.568 7 місяців тому +11

    “Because I make the decisions motherf$&@!” “My husbands decision has been made!” 😂😂I love you so much! 😂😂😂😂

  • @HorrorQueen67
    @HorrorQueen67 7 місяців тому +8

    My husband always says I have to ask the boss lady which is me!! 🤣🤣

  • @GretchenTheGreat
    @GretchenTheGreat 7 місяців тому +4

    It’s the ‘can I speak to the man of the house?!’ 🤬
    YOU’RE LOOKING AT HER!!! 😂

  • @sydney.principato
    @sydney.principato 7 місяців тому +10

    My husband is in HVAC and right off the bat the discount for installation this week is a load of bullshit lmfao

  • @HelloxSteffie
    @HelloxSteffie 7 місяців тому +9

    GIRL my house is the same way, every time we call someone for something it's always, "idk why they did it this way" EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. home ownership is no joke. 🤣

  • @VirgoVibe
    @VirgoVibe 7 місяців тому +10

    I'm a single female homeowner and I've let soooo many things not get fixed in my house because I don't have the patience for these jerks.

  • @austinkibsey5555
    @austinkibsey5555 7 місяців тому +3

    This video is a work of art

  • @kristeenanelson1063
    @kristeenanelson1063 7 місяців тому +7

    Kylie: “I’m about to go on a mega rant”
    me: Immediate likes vid.

  • @LadyAudi
    @LadyAudi 6 місяців тому +1

    "I make the decisions MF"! Yep. This is so true. I'm talking to a service guy for a quote and if my husband enters the chat, he immediately focuses on him and ignores me. These guys have no clue who is in charge of what or who pays for what in our household. Don't get it twisted.

  • @greenfloatingtoad
    @greenfloatingtoad 3 місяці тому

    The more technology the more that can go wrong is also great programming advice. If the simple option works, going complicated is asking for trouble.

  • @rhichey
    @rhichey 7 місяців тому +4

    Me every time I'm at the mechanic for an oil change.

  • @Dani_D00dle
    @Dani_D00dle 7 місяців тому +2

    “Can I help him with his decision?” I replayed that back so many times 😂Your face says it all!! 😂😂

  • @g3355gg
    @g3355gg 7 місяців тому +4

    This is such a common and frustrating experience. Once I was communicating a problem to my landlord and the advice he gave me started with “if you were my daughter…”

    • @beccaleigh524
      @beccaleigh524 7 місяців тому +2

      I’m confused…I would find that to be a reassuring phrase because he’s basically saying “if I were giving advice to someone I cared the most about in the whole world”… how is that offensive?

  • @27sweetpea27
    @27sweetpea27 7 місяців тому +2

    So true when it comes with appliances the less computer boards the less issues!

  • @gabriella13
    @gabriella13 7 місяців тому +3

    "his decision has been MADE. its whatever i decide!" ok slay

  • @spookyastronauts
    @spookyastronauts 7 місяців тому +1

    omg Kylie this gets me so heated!
    I once had a furniture delivery and they had to assemble it, I was home alone and they were so unprofessional i realised later they thought I was the KID of the owners.
    I am the owner... a 34 year old ladyyy

  • @gigimac8459
    @gigimac8459 7 місяців тому +5

    OMG! This is so typical. I'm the decision maker too! I had an old guy, AC guy, who, when I told him no way was I paying his price, said "Can I talk to the man of the house then". I reported him to the company and chewed him out also. They kept apologizing over and over.

  • @abbielindell
    @abbielindell 7 місяців тому +3

    God if this isn’t start to finish the most relatable!!

  • @the_caffeinated_hustle
    @the_caffeinated_hustle 7 місяців тому +5

    Everytime I need a quote on anything, inside my home or if I have to go somewhere, I always set the time limit up front. If the quote apt is at 1pm, I ask "how long will this take, I have to leave for an apt at 2pm so I have one hour blocked for this" and all the other things you also said. This keeps us on a timeline and then they are forced to move quickly and cut the bullshit. If they say they need more than 1 hour, I say all the other quotes I've gotten took them about an hour, I am not rescheduling with you, I will just go with another quote.

  • @kasperbubbles
    @kasperbubbles 7 місяців тому +8

    This just happend to me a few weeks ago, I posted a motorcycle for sale on Facebook. The guy and about 5 of his buddies showed up to see it and as I was showing him everything my husband comes out. He looks at him and goes “would you take 3,000” my husband looked at him and said “ask her, it’s her bike” and I was like no absolutely not.
    He bought the bike 🏍️
    🤦🏼‍♀️
    It was MY motorcycle, posted on MY Facebook, messaging with ME
    I can’t.

    • @BeforeTheFIt_Vlogs
      @BeforeTheFIt_Vlogs 6 місяців тому +1

      I sold a toolbox that went in the bed of my truck and the guy who bought it thought it was my husband’s. Nope it’s mine. It didn’t fit into my new truck. Also don’t have a husband.

  • @moriahbh951
    @moriahbh951 7 місяців тому +7

    The fake phone call 😂 that's maddening haha

  • @pinkkkngirly101
    @pinkkkngirly101 7 місяців тому +2

    I’m the decision maker it’s me 😂 love it!!!

  • @kmarie.11
    @kmarie.11 7 місяців тому +4

    OMG I feel this in my core!!! I have had situations like this and it drives me insane!! One time at a car dealership, they asked me if I needed my husband to sign for the car loan.. ahhh NO, I'm the breadwinner, guy. 🙄

    • @catsav1
      @catsav1 7 місяців тому +2

      I just bought a car and the finance manager asked what my husband does for work. Does it matter? I'm buying the car for myself, he's not buying it for me.

    • @kmarie.11
      @kmarie.11 7 місяців тому

      @@catsav1 Right??!!! Wth!

  • @xandriarobinson8019
    @xandriarobinson8019 7 місяців тому +1

    My husband and I got a quote from some window people in our area, and they were at our house FOR FOUR HOURS. They even stayed while I made dinner…..it was absolutely nuts! They still call us from random numbers and this probably happened a year ago!

  • @arielrose2012
    @arielrose2012 7 місяців тому +2

    Yes! I had this problem when I bought my car and the sales guy kept pressuring me to buy GAP insurance! I was already at max with the payment and GAP would have added $100+ and the guy kept saying “are you sure you don’t have a little wiggle room?” I finally told him that if he tried to sell me one more thing other than the car that I would walk out

  • @megg0810
    @megg0810 6 місяців тому

    This is so funny! My husband sells building material ( anything you can think of) to builders and contractors and is such a regular guy-straight to the point and can clock those weirdos 😂 Always use small contractors ❤

  • @FreyaWarr
    @FreyaWarr 6 місяців тому +1

    I had to replace both furnace and ac a few years ago and it’s was $18,000. Home owning sucks. I’ve also had to replace my water filtration system (I’m on a well), and my water heater, in the last 5 years. Adulting is the pits.

  • @leahs4844
    @leahs4844 6 місяців тому

    The literal SAME THING happened to me when I was getting the top row on my porch brick repaired. People are so slimy, and he also kept tiptoeing around the price. He was at my house for 3 hours and quoted me 6,800 😂 I literally LOL'd and was like "nope." I found someone to do it for 1/4 of the price.

  • @nataliem872
    @nataliem872 7 місяців тому +1

    Whenever we have someone in our house for a quotr, my husband will barely acknowledge them. He's well aware of the time and effort I've done into researching what we need exactly for our house. If he happens to get stuck talking to someone, he tells them, "You'll have to talk to my wife. She knows more about this than I do."

  • @kassieperkins5986
    @kassieperkins5986 7 місяців тому +1

    Alexa play Taylor Swift’s “The Man”

  • @amyr4944
    @amyr4944 7 місяців тому

    Fired up, down with the patriarchy Kylie is now my favorite. 😂🙌🏼💪🏼

  • @maciees
    @maciees 7 місяців тому +6

    I love that Nate Bargatze reference lol

  • @Design-Mission
    @Design-Mission 7 місяців тому +2

    When we purchased our home, I coordinated everything, including homeowner's insurance. Imagine my surprise when all of the mail about the insurance was addressed to my husband! They never even met him!! I called and complained, and they were dumbfounded when I asked why they would use him name when all communications and dealings were with ME. The issue is real.

  • @fil0sofia
    @fil0sofia 7 місяців тому +1

    YESSS "I'm the decision maker MF", tell them Kylie! ✊🏼♀️

  • @ploppyplops
    @ploppyplops 7 місяців тому

    The eye contact thing you mentioned at the end is so true! I dont really mind because i know nothing about cars/house stuff but i definitely notice

  • @mommypov4958
    @mommypov4958 7 місяців тому +2

    Yea, same, if I tell you I need to speak with my husband...that's my way of nicely teeling you I'm done, get out, it's not going any further!

  • @beanie6366
    @beanie6366 7 місяців тому +1

    I've never had anyone, but the installer come out to my house. That's super weird. Was it a big company or something?

  • @Brandik17
    @Brandik17 7 місяців тому +1

    I used to work in a pawn shop and I was the manager. At 25.
    I gave someone a price one time on an item and they said “can I speak with the manager? Where is he?”
    I spun around in a circle and said “hi the manager here”

  • @jlstims
    @jlstims 7 місяців тому +2

    KIKI discuss the MLM beautycounter drama!!!!! The tea is PIPING

  • @autumnraye
    @autumnraye 7 місяців тому +5

    I hope the wife and children of this HVAC dude NEVER see this video. OMG 😳

  • @stefanied5723
    @stefanied5723 7 місяців тому

    Get a heat pump! It does AC too. Energy efficient and you’ll save so much on utility bills! It really is the future of home heating and cooling. I’m sure your home has so many air leaks too. Better insulation and an air source heat pump. It’ll save you so much long-term!

  • @krussell-2000
    @krussell-2000 7 місяців тому +2

    We had someone come in our law office (advertising his auto business). He says "you know how women are with their vehicles." Hands us a flyer and leaves. This is an office full of women btw. So we threw the flyer away. 😂

  • @gdaymates431
    @gdaymates431 6 місяців тому

    This was the BEST rant!

  • @jade189
    @jade189 7 місяців тому +11

    I…. Am speechless. I would fucking go off. You are so right in feeling pissed off. The patriarchy is so embedded everywhere, you can’t unsee it once you do.

  • @laura_barton
    @laura_barton 7 місяців тому

    One spouse knowing more about the house made me laugh because I feel like it's mostly true in my relationship, too. Like whenever the pest guy has come over, I primarily deal with him. Or, a funny story from recently, is my fiancé was out picking up stuff without me, and there was a cable company with a booth set up near the store exit (which, HATE, by the way). And they were trying to pitch to him, and he told me he said to them, "My wife handles this stuff." Apparently they tried to push and he just kept reinforcing the message that the wife (aka me) would handle that stuff.

  • @princessmairah13
    @princessmairah13 7 місяців тому

    When I tell you my jaw was on the floor when you showed the text message

  • @OliviaLanae
    @OliviaLanae 7 місяців тому +2

    okay so I live in the Dayton area as well (Centerville) and my ex was hired as a sales guy at one of the local roofing companies but he literally had to QUIT during his training because of how icky their entire system was. They wanted him to go door-knocking on random people's doors and tell them their roof needed fixed (whether true or not!) and do ANYTHING POSSIBLE to keep the conversation going. They had training videos telling sales people how to find something around the exterior of the house to compliment (like their flowers) to get them hooked into the conversation! My ex said that he even heard the other sales guys bragging about not leaving and keeping the conversation going when an old woman told them she wasn't interested multiple times. it was all SO GROSS! He couldn't bring himself to do the job and he was even a car salesman at one point 🤣🤣 As a woman living alone, I would be so uncomfortable if a random sales guy wouldn't leave my home. That would be a call to the police lol

  • @autumnraye
    @autumnraye 7 місяців тому +1

    I hope you get ur AC fixed asap! Have fun in NY!!!! Poor boo + Jarvis 😢

  • @Les_lee
    @Les_lee 7 місяців тому +1

    all of this...relatable. I had a furnace issue this winter and while the guy was here, he only spoke to my boyfriend. it's my house, i own it. he doesn't live here.
    also once i booked a vacation to a resort in mexico. i used my name, used my credit card only to be addressed the whole vacation as Mrs (insert my boyfriends name) when i booked and put the guest names, i put mine first, his second. whole trip, what can we get you Mrs (boyfriends name) the whole trip.

  • @raeraemillstone
    @raeraemillstone 6 місяців тому

    😂😂I have had similar situations with my older home.. some of it is yes this have not been done right.. part of it is they all say "why was it done this way" to make themselves sound like the best. Ugh hate the sales guys

  • @valerie767
    @valerie767 7 місяців тому +2

    Ohhhh my BLOOD IS BOILING

  • @cmads88
    @cmads88 7 місяців тому

    The same thing happened to me with a window guy bc my husband wasn’t there during his presentation. Like I was some dumb little woman and needed to convince my husband. It was so weird.

  • @noctisgamma556
    @noctisgamma556 7 місяців тому +1

    He might have thought you meant it was up to your husband when you said you had to discuss it with him- can only hope, but probably not. But it’s weird because I’ve said that so many times and never had this problem. I am in the same position- I’m home all the time and I know 100% of what’s going on with everything, and I also do all the talking even if my husband is with me. That would piss me off too if someone said that to me!
    Oh, ALSO, since he’s in sales I guarantee he’s heard this line before about let me talk it over with my husband, etc. Definitely a weird thing for him to say.

  • @battlearmanda
    @battlearmanda 7 місяців тому

    if you haven't checked already, you could ask your energy company if there are discounts for updated heating/cooling systems. A lot of them have incentives for installing energy efficient devices like that. Just a thought! :)

  • @Zomography013
    @Zomography013 7 місяців тому +3

    The nerve of they guy to think he can try to convince Jarvis’s decision to go with them

  • @beccaleigh524
    @beccaleigh524 7 місяців тому

    Tbh I don’t really understand the idea of one spouse (either sex) being the “decision maker”. My husband and I make every *major* decision together as a team. Neither one of us wears the pants in the family cause we are partners. 🤷🏻‍♀️ so I would discuss house stuff with my husband not to get his permission but to make sure we are on the same page and he would do the same with me. To me that’s just mutual respect.

  • @_tif
    @_tif 7 місяців тому +1

    I’ve experienced that myself with contractors and I am the decision maker in my house. Not my partner.

  • @JustCallMeMeghan
    @JustCallMeMeghan 7 місяців тому

    I hate the sales pitch. My housemates have fallen for it so many times. We now have a security system in our house that we pay for but don't use. Lol. Not to mention the solar panels, and the UV lights for the air filtration system. 🙄🙄

  • @catsav1
    @catsav1 7 місяців тому +1

    The longer the pitch, the more expensive the service.

  • @Thetinyfit
    @Thetinyfit 7 місяців тому

    It’s me 😂. I hate dealing with these people, I’ll do whatever I can to get a referral so it’s less slimy.

  • @debboudreau924
    @debboudreau924 7 місяців тому

    Preach!! This is so true!

  • @britbc4461
    @britbc4461 7 місяців тому +1

    Omg I would not have the patience for this!

  • @austinkibsey5555
    @austinkibsey5555 7 місяців тому +1

    The MLM cold calling 😫😫

  • @CutiePet99
    @CutiePet99 7 місяців тому +1

    lord knows I love a Kylie rant

  • @catsav1
    @catsav1 7 місяців тому +2

    When i bought my house (me sole ownership) the inspector would only talk to my husband and discuss with him anything he found and finally i said, excuse me, im the one buying the house, could you at least talk to me too?

  • @christina.sampson
    @christina.sampson 7 місяців тому +2

    16:49 🙌🏻

  • @ADHDqueenB
    @ADHDqueenB 7 місяців тому

    Oh Kiki, been there, done that. It's just awful. We need more trades businesses owned by women.

  • @MK-Hogan
    @MK-Hogan 7 місяців тому

    Girl, I feel you. My husband is just as clueless about house stuff as I am, but he also hates negotiating and dealing with people about that stuff so I do pretty much all of it. He was ready to buy his car for full price just to get out of there until I went in and negotiated them down three more times. Nah, son. You better put some respect on my name when you’re dealing with me. Just because you boys are intimidated by competent women doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

  • @gusdagoosesmom4902
    @gusdagoosesmom4902 7 місяців тому

    I had an HVAC person hold me hostage and yes I 100%know more about everything in our house.

  • @angelaocchipacheco6935
    @angelaocchipacheco6935 7 місяців тому

    This happened to me when we were in the process of buying a house. I started everything on my own since my husband was gone (military) and as soon as he came back, my lender stopped communicating with me 100% and only called my husband. infuriating and incredibly disrespectful

  • @najeebah1406
    @najeebah1406 7 місяців тому

    I’m not single, but I live in my house alone, my child is at college. Anyway.A couple of years ago I did some remodeling and also got a new HVAC system. Getting quotes was so infuriating so I asked my youngest brother to deal with them. They did the majority of the install then told my brother that they couldn’t do the gas part and we needed to find someone else! Then proceeded to make it seem like my fault because I chose gas. I was like…sir you could have at least told us or suggested all electric if you couldn’t finish the job! It took months to find someone to come behind them because most people wanted to do the full install. I literally hate these house repair people.

  • @Rkyu97
    @Rkyu97 7 місяців тому

    Have fun in new york 👏💕💕

  • @gusdagoosesmom4902
    @gusdagoosesmom4902 7 місяців тому

    That price for the AC unit is INSANE. I bought two furnaces and one AC for a 5,000 sq. ft. house for $7,000 (we had already replaced one AC).

  • @kayladyeann3306
    @kayladyeann3306 7 місяців тому

    Oh wow this sounds just like I had with a solar guy lol

  • @ariajadexox
    @ariajadexox 7 місяців тому

    OMG I love your rants!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @marleneflanagan7137
    @marleneflanagan7137 7 місяців тому

    you probably need a separate one for the upstairs bedrooms.

  • @krussell-2000
    @krussell-2000 7 місяців тому

    Your rants are my favorite 😂

  • @Fht9
    @Fht9 7 місяців тому

    Always remember it is okay to hate people and hate people’s speech because it is not one’s responsibility to like everyone in this world nor is it one’s responsibility to like what others say. Surely one can make it their responsibility to like everyone in this world and or like what others say but it defeats one’s purpose of CHOICE.

  • @karadixon8696
    @karadixon8696 7 місяців тому

    I think it’s funny because sometimes I blame my husband for why I don’t want to make a decision. If I happen to answer the door to solicitors (which I never do) I always tell them that I’m not interested because my husband isn’t there to talk to and I don’t want to change anything without him lol 😂😂 It’s an excuse so I don’t have to talk to people lol

  • @maddielmay
    @maddielmay 7 місяців тому

    YES I’m so sick of these companies literally doing a whole presentation for a SINGLE quote. My husband and I had a company come over to look at tiled shower install. The guy sat us down, pulled out a laptop to give us a presentation and mini models of showers like BE FOREAL

  • @lesleycarlson_
    @lesleycarlson_ 7 місяців тому +1

    Have you been covering the TPD events somewhere? I need your commentary!

  • @LoveSarahJean
    @LoveSarahJean 7 місяців тому

    I’ve had this happen if I ever bring a guy with me if I’m buying a car. Legit will only talk to the man, not the woman with $$$$.

  • @supposeyounever675
    @supposeyounever675 7 місяців тому

    you’ve gotta interrupt people lol I do ALL the time it’s great lol I also use the phrase “dont ask me a again” when it comes to this crap lol

  • @CharleneOrtizTraining
    @CharleneOrtizTraining 6 місяців тому

    Get mini split s. They're So much more efficient

  • @bellati2006
    @bellati2006 7 місяців тому +1

    Agree!!!💯

  • @ninoshbz
    @ninoshbz 7 місяців тому

    Did that happened the same date with the window guy?

  • @Dancewithloveforever
    @Dancewithloveforever 7 місяців тому

    A-F***ING-MEN Kylie.
    I’m also the decision maker in my house and constantly they only look at my fiancé while he just stares blankly at them as they waste their time.

  • @krystleday382
    @krystleday382 7 місяців тому

    Lobe this soooo much

  • @ladygoodmen
    @ladygoodmen 2 місяці тому

    My partner and I moved in together in June and literally it’s so true that all of the guys we’ve had come in to look at plumbing have talked to him and he has NO idea 😅 I feel like I’m invisible, despite it being me asking all the questions… and they answer MY questions to my BF 😂😂😂
    I’ve got an awesome female electrician and I just take recommendations from her now - I’ve had enough of being mansplained to and scammed!! 🙄🙄🙄

  • @jenb.8724
    @jenb.8724 7 місяців тому

    My system broke and we were told it couldn’t be fixed and we needed a complete new system ($24,000). We said no had another Tech come out and turned out to be a $40 fix that my husband did himself.

  • @jodygibson9593
    @jodygibson9593 7 місяців тому

    Best rant. What the hell is wrong with these men? F the Patriarchy! Side note, my hubby always uses me as the bad cop. Says yeah if she doesn't want it, it doesn't happen.