The Unspoken Rules of Love

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  • @slandynoel99
    @slandynoel99 6 років тому +32

    I have been divorced for 3 years and this past year I have gotten excited to date. I started dating this gentleman last year and we dated for 8 months. I thought he was an amazing man but I knew that he was not the one for me. His values were very different from mine, he truly believe that a couple should live together before getting married. I thought absolutely not, why in the world should I perform all these wifely duties without being married. 3 months ago I politely told him that I am not for every body neither was he. I was not the one for him therefore, I couldn't see him anymore. He was shocked because we were doing great. My number one job is to guard my heart. I have no intention on pouring in my time, energy into a relationship that was not going anywhere. I know my values and I am not willing to compromise them. I simply walked away without feeling any remorse. Au revoir, Cheri!😂😂😂

    • @sierrakamau1510
      @sierrakamau1510 5 років тому +1

      If you are Christian, you cannot divorce and then remarry if your previous partner is still alive.

  • @ritahood3286
    @ritahood3286 10 років тому +108

    "If he's willing to live without you then he should"! Amen. 😏✨

  • @Seniag28
    @Seniag28 8 років тому +13

    I don't know how I came across this video but it came at the right time.

  • @jennlife69
    @jennlife69 10 років тому +40

    Wow this guy has my full attention!!!!! now it's time to value myself on a higher level thank you guys for sharing it help me a lot!!!!!

  • @elijah6262002
    @elijah6262002 12 років тому +19

    I agree, It does not take years to know if that person is the right one.

  • @Happey67
    @Happey67 8 років тому +19

    Michelle, you are right when you value something you protect it. If you do not know how to value you are not ready for relationship.

  • @aqueenwaits
    @aqueenwaits 9 років тому +7

    I love the way the manner in which both of the speakers have chemistry in their collaboration.
    I would love for GOD to send me a man who thinks and speaks like this man.

    • @realtorjenn3282
      @realtorjenn3282 7 років тому

      aqueenwaits maaan, u r reading my thoughts.

    • @wshelby83
      @wshelby83 6 років тому

      @@realtorjenn3282 Right!!!!

  • @brookecrane3564
    @brookecrane3564 12 років тому +2

    Thank you for enlightening me on this subject. I left with so much wisdom and with so many handy and useful tools. Some issues I was just stuck on! I was so blind. Please forgive the mean people on some of these comments. God bless!

  • @tanjam27show46
    @tanjam27show46 8 років тому +8

    THIS IS PRICELESS!!! 🙌🏾💞💞💞

  • @Xol259
    @Xol259 11 років тому +10

    this guy is on Point.woooooooooooooooooooooooooooow

  • @fragrancedeparadis1275
    @fragrancedeparadis1275 3 роки тому

    Awesome eye openers.
    This video should be all over the place.
    I found the only way a woman can keep her heart safe is to give it to the Lord

  • @mikalemcnish6532
    @mikalemcnish6532 12 років тому +4

    he is right on point not all men but most fall in this category

  • @dbedazzling1
    @dbedazzling1 11 років тому +5

    Joel is amazing...I love how he thinks.

  • @mrviallator
    @mrviallator 10 років тому +36

    guy has a great voice

    • @STNY2012
      @STNY2012 7 років тому +3

      Tom Viall i know, he can make a killing on commercials

    • @summertime1875
      @summertime1875 7 років тому

      Tom Viall I agree, very manly and a natural alpha male, not a beta one trying to be an alpha, alphas in my opinion are born, true leaders in all walks of life.

    • @a.8774
      @a.8774 4 роки тому

      Great for voiceovers, jingles and radio

  • @ginab.4605
    @ginab.4605 8 років тому +4

    Good stuff!!! I'm 37 and still learning...

  • @kaysmilez758
    @kaysmilez758 11 років тому +1

    I really enjoyed watching this video.Great advice.Thank God for wisdom

  • @ilonachance4461
    @ilonachance4461 10 років тому +6

    This is funny, but very interesting, thanks for sharing! :)

  • @mymindsmadeup1
    @mymindsmadeup1 13 років тому +3

    I love the point he made about vaule when he was talking about the belt. I thank God for wisdom!!

  • @dovetales3
    @dovetales3 7 років тому +1

    Necessary Book for every Woman!

  • @shellyortiz1977
    @shellyortiz1977 8 років тому +2

    i really needed this in my life.. .

  • @MrBamshy
    @MrBamshy 11 років тому +12

    I am Single and still experimenting and formulating my theories about relationships. Honestly, these theories about relationships aren't permanent, situations cause anomalies and variations we never anticipated. Unfortunately, people close their eyes and fixate on rules that people come up with as a result of their experiences. For example, The best woman i have ever known didn't make me "work" that hard. The ones that did, never loved me that much. My point, realize your situation is unique, learn from experiences around you, come up with your own rules as it applies to you and most importantly, be open minded. I believe the more matured you become, you'd recognize patterns and then make the best decisions

    • @tiathompson6674
      @tiathompson6674 10 років тому +4

      I think what you said is some good valid stuff....But I think that the point they were trying to get across to SOME women, is that they should know there worth and not allow themselves to be treated any kind of way. Unfortunately, there are some guys out there who take advantage of that....and the poor girl ends up with her heart broken, because she allowed some guy to run a game on her because she did not know that she was worth more than how he was willing to treat her. And yes, unfortunately, there are some girls out there who treat males badly.
      But I got what you were saying about generalizations.

    • @johnnielondon3305
      @johnnielondon3305 9 років тому

      T Thompson

  • @melissaslade9652
    @melissaslade9652 7 років тому +2

    This is excellent. I have to get the book.

  • @vielkarodriguez7966
    @vielkarodriguez7966 5 років тому +1

    This is powerful. Lower my value then:. "No one wants to pay full price for something someone else's got free."

  • @pastoralexiaburgesshuart2020
    @pastoralexiaburgesshuart2020 9 років тому +2

    Very informative....Ladies, listen up!

  • @sweetsugar1014
    @sweetsugar1014 9 років тому +21

    As a Christian, for many years I, like most other single Christian women sought to be married before a certain age. Most of us at the time, wanted to be married b/c we wanted to have 'SEX' inside marriage. (So sad). As a much older Christian, I look back on that concept and think- 'whew, we're so shallow!!' Need we think of marriage for much more than that? I say, most definitely. Marriage offers so much more than the safety net of having sex without conviction. I personally feel that the church should elaborate on the other concerns/benefits of marriage besides JUST sex.

    • @agapefitmommy3973
      @agapefitmommy3973 9 років тому +3

      true.. although Jesus did say that we should marry if we cannot control ourselves. I'd rather marry though cause I've fallen in love and found my true soul mate ❤

    • @realtorjenn3282
      @realtorjenn3282 7 років тому +1

      Sweet Sugar 101 u right on. Except I think church folks should not downplay the importance of sex. Because it is a goood thing with many health and mental benefits when applied properly and "frequently". If u have the mentality of JUST sex, u could be fooling yourself or not be a real good sex partner because of guilt or other mixed feelings about it. it's like this: something is valuable only if u give it value and loses value if u devalue it. plus men will see u as a holier than thou person, and find it unattractive because it makes them feel like they are pigs or something. But again I understand and agree with the fact that we shouldn't be obsessed with SEX. Especially while single, as that can lure u into sin or wrong marriage.

    • @wshelby83
      @wshelby83 6 років тому

      @@agapefitmommy3973 I totally agree with you!! I want to marry because I've fallen in love and the same for the guy. I also agree with you Jenn

  • @itahhange2298
    @itahhange2298 7 років тому +3

    Amazing. i realised that i make friends with men more than women and i always thought it was becoz i wasn't attractive enough or that there was something wrong with me but i think i agree with you that there is an initial attraction but may be its how you handle it that determines which type of friendship it becomes. Thank you for that

  • @mariislands
    @mariislands 7 років тому +3

    This was so good!

  • @ashietyvivibesty247
    @ashietyvivibesty247 9 років тому +23

    The one who love the least have the POWER...I never knew, interesting!!!

    • @RealLadi228
      @RealLadi228 8 років тому +3

      Banigo ViviBest
      No emotional investment equals more control

    • @hunneylipps
      @hunneylipps 7 років тому

      Banigo ViviBest saw this quote in the outkast movie. Was great. Terrence Howard was the one who said it

    • @Yahsgirl1967
      @Yahsgirl1967 6 років тому +1

      If God is in the mix, it's never about control. No emotion equates to having less to lose.

  • @truth_treasures9310
    @truth_treasures9310 3 роки тому

    Very interesting! Great interview. Good view point from Joe? (Joel?).

  • @TVKennedy3
    @TVKennedy3 8 років тому +5

    Need to hear more from Joel

  • @patriciaroman7985
    @patriciaroman7985 6 років тому

    Thank goodness for this video

  • @elmyra.jackson
    @elmyra.jackson 7 років тому

    Wow, this is so good!!💕

  • @agapefitmommy3973
    @agapefitmommy3973 9 років тому +12

    I love this so much I wish I had heard this before I met my x. it would have saved me 3 years of what might be wasted time. but with God nothing is wasted. my concern was when he says for the woman who has sex before marriage. that it can cause problems later on because nobody will want something that somebody didn't have to pay full price for. something like that. that's good..but not really. how many of us have truly waited. that sounds hopeless. Its basically sounding like he's telling women that if they have made a mistake or mistakes that she should basically give up on love. But men makes these same mistakes and it don't affect them? also nobody ever talks about single Moms. Are we out of the love picture? None of this should be taken without prayer. But I do Love this ... such awesome confirmation. I left a guy who was saying we were friends. God finally put it in my heart that I am to treat him like a friend instead of how he wanted me to treat him..(like a wife or a maid) when I walked away it was difficult but I was obedient.I didn't know what I was doing until the Lord personally took me by the hand and pulled me aside and spoke directly to me. This confirmed I did the right thing. Thank You so much.

  • @softwet1398
    @softwet1398 6 років тому

    Good stuff! Thanks for sharing.

  • @tirzahdoveheshbon3618
    @tirzahdoveheshbon3618 6 років тому

    Balance is the key to life.

  • @chikomborerotabethbaureni5708
    @chikomborerotabethbaureni5708 8 років тому +1

    wow, powerful, I will not avail. myself or give too much infor... why did I get to know this late

  • @tirzahdoveheshbon3618
    @tirzahdoveheshbon3618 6 років тому

    Excellent advice!

  • @ellee1708
    @ellee1708 5 років тому

    Good heavens!!! If your peace leaves ...make him leave and get your peace back! 👐🏽

  • @leonalowe7074
    @leonalowe7074 6 років тому +1

    Valuing Yourself , knowing that any Intimacy that would lead to things that God Only Meant For Marriage, I believe needs to be Addressed as the conversation begins . So, that both people know & agree. Then to make sure that You are in a Safe & Healthy Atmosphere, date with another couple that has Your same values. : )

  • @SandraJamesmentor
    @SandraJamesmentor 11 років тому +3

    Thank you for sharing :-)

  • @sipseewithki828
    @sipseewithki828 5 років тому

    Is there another part to this???? Where can I find it???

  • @daniesavage
    @daniesavage 8 років тому +35

    Audience is super dry >: O

    • @realtorjenn3282
      @realtorjenn3282 7 років тому +2

      Danie The Poet I think it's more that they are convicted, seeing their whole life story in those words, lol.

  • @rooseveltgreen1126
    @rooseveltgreen1126 8 років тому

    I would PAY any cost for YOUR LOVE , PBH,, you are INVALUABLE to my EXISTENCE,KNOW THIS ,(in GOD'S OKAY)

  • @hannahmelissa333
    @hannahmelissa333 7 років тому +1

    awesome advice

  • @TheWizzie2012
    @TheWizzie2012 11 років тому +7

    He looks like Steve Harvey if you do not look at him keenly. Good illustrations for knowing the value of something rare.

  • @beatriceowusuachaw6210
    @beatriceowusuachaw6210 Рік тому

    Love is when you get it right

  • @danielamckenzie9908
    @danielamckenzie9908 5 років тому

    Vital advise😘😘

  • @hotdrumchick
    @hotdrumchick 12 років тому +9

    She looks like Wanda Sykes with a weave.

  • @deborahlloyd8088
    @deborahlloyd8088 6 років тому +2

    Isnt it true though when you cant attract the right man theres some more healing process that needs to start with you n when thats healing process is complete and your active in your purpose than thats when the right man will come along

  • @evelynjm7
    @evelynjm7 8 років тому +3

    Joel You are a very Handsome Man and all I can say is Thanks for Helping us Ladies, We truly appreciate You and your valuable information: it has been a BLESSING!...THANKS.
    Im single and I choose to meet a Man Gods way. As I embrace my royal identity, As Ester in 2:15-17 woman of character, and royal identity: who is suitable for a king. or who is Noticeable, Excellence and Magnificent..inner confidence of being a Queen even when that man does not see you that way. I Peter 2:9 tell me that I am a chosen People a royal Priesthood.. so Ladies dismiss what others say about you like BET..VH1..MTV.hollywood etc..Embrace what God has called you to be, a Queen..a higher than not a Less Than!...I know my worth and I know who I am, Ladies know your WORTH? know who you are: know that you are worth more than he is willing to Treat You?..be good and be blessed...

  • @sing.staylor
    @sing.staylor 7 років тому

    Thank you

  • @pal2056
    @pal2056 7 років тому +5

    Ok my husband and never even kissed before our wedding day we wanted to keep our relationship pure and holy . Only to discover he cheated throughout our entire marriage apparently he was a compulsive liar and sex addict all the while telling me I was the only woman for him

  • @terryabrams604
    @terryabrams604 7 років тому +3

    how many accents does she have?

    • @crystalkennedy5149
      @crystalkennedy5149 6 років тому

      Terry Abrams is that all you gathered ? 🙄🙄🙄

  • @fastisfreddie
    @fastisfreddie 12 років тому

    awasome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @jewelrybeauty
    @jewelrybeauty 12 років тому

    i so do agree

  • @daliacordero8436
    @daliacordero8436 11 років тому +2

    how is it unspoken when they are speaking of it

    • @svclark9238
      @svclark9238 5 років тому

      Meaning of unspoken not expressed, unsaid, unheard of, unuttered, unmentioned....

  • @diragurl
    @diragurl 12 років тому +5

    "If men are wiling to live w/o u, he should..." but we know he wont cuz he want to keep his options just in case...they can be selfish sometimes, can't live without them rhough:)

  • @diragurl
    @diragurl 12 років тому

    U are not alone, I thought he did too

  • @mstonua
    @mstonua 13 років тому +2

    Are you the one or should I look for another?

  • @Happey67
    @Happey67 9 років тому +6

    That is why I do not date because in this western world when a man takes you to dinner or spend money he wants cookies. I will go to the park with you and follow behind in my own car. If I go to the museum I will pay my own way.

  • @donnaallenministries
    @donnaallenministries 12 років тому +9

    if you don't have value in yourself until a MAN validates you .. you are a CHEAP COMMODITY!

  • @brookecrane3564
    @brookecrane3564 12 років тому +4

    U can feel right about the wrong person?

  • @agapefitmommy3973
    @agapefitmommy3973 9 років тому +4

    also about the one who loves the least... thats a worldly view and a tool to find out what your getting yourself into. cause ultimately...He's supposed to love You as Christ loved the Church and gave His life for it. that attitude should never enter a Christian Marriage.

  • @jessypooh24
    @jessypooh24 13 років тому

    @1985journal I am learning

  • @draytonwifecooks
    @draytonwifecooks 10 років тому +1

    Nice! :)

  • @subhamanroikhonglah4592
    @subhamanroikhonglah4592 3 роки тому

    Amen

  • @Trelli28
    @Trelli28 13 років тому +1

    Before I clicked on the video, I thought the man was Steve Harvey

  • @user-gw6sb5wn4p
    @user-gw6sb5wn4p 9 років тому +1

    I think he is right

  • @RealLadi228
    @RealLadi228 8 років тому +5

    Women can be thirsty acting and men give them plenty to drink but strangely the man is the one with the loud belch!!!
    #refills are free too!

  • @little1intheuk
    @little1intheuk 12 років тому +2

    lmaooo. spot on

  • @deborahlloyd8088
    @deborahlloyd8088 6 років тому +2

    Does hes words line up with his actions if so he has a good heart if not than move on

  • @yvonnebishi5723
    @yvonnebishi5723 6 років тому +1

    Women dont know their worth. So true! That audience "wow" lol

  • @roenhiggins5105
    @roenhiggins5105 11 років тому +5

    Ded... thought the same thing re Steve Harvey and Wanda Sykes looka likes

  • @laphiphila
    @laphiphila 11 років тому +1

    me too it tought it was steve harvey

  • @1985journal
    @1985journal 13 років тому +2

    Women please understand your worth.

  • @mikalemcnish6532
    @mikalemcnish6532 12 років тому +1

    i know alot of cheap commodity

  • @annmariegallimore8666
    @annmariegallimore8666 9 років тому +1

    youtube background

  • @fastisfreddie
    @fastisfreddie 12 років тому

    who!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @favored81
    @favored81 12 років тому +4

    Wanda Sykes with a weave

  • @deborahlloyd8088
    @deborahlloyd8088 6 років тому

    Are we really supposed to date as Christians

  • @tulifranz9336
    @tulifranz9336 5 років тому

    There is more to a relationship than meets the eye. There are polygamists men and women. Let us not forget some people are in your life for one , two or three seasons. This monogamy does not fits all.

  • @grapiken7766
    @grapiken7766 10 років тому +3

    There's some good advice here, but I lost interest when the bible was brought into the subject.

    • @annmariegallimore8666
      @annmariegallimore8666 9 років тому

      etyii

    • @annmariegallimore8666
      @annmariegallimore8666 9 років тому

      etyii

    • @annmariegallimore8666
      @annmariegallimore8666 9 років тому

      etyii

    • @ellamccrea7645
      @ellamccrea7645 8 років тому +1

      +Gra Piken That's what people of God is called by God to do. Did you not know that? Live by God word. BIBLE (B asic I nstructions B efore L eaving E arth)Matt.4:4“But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.”

    • @realtorjenn3282
      @realtorjenn3282 7 років тому +1

      hmm strange. yes bible people CAN be fun.

  • @rooseveltgreen1126
    @rooseveltgreen1126 8 років тому

    NOT WILLING ,PBH

  • @Goodforyouman
    @Goodforyouman 5 років тому +1

    Why is she acting like some sort of SNL or other comedy show character? Like she is in a parody. 😕

    • @xulyns.4572
      @xulyns.4572 3 роки тому

      She is just a joyful person.

  • @FfLexxxtube
    @FfLexxxtube 11 років тому +2

    This dude is asleep.

  • @edithhall7831
    @edithhall7831 7 років тому +1

    mechelle why are there never any black women in your audience. (1) maybe

  • @ALLYSONBUCK
    @ALLYSONBUCK 12 років тому

    he kinder looks like steve

  • @thewrongshoes
    @thewrongshoes 5 років тому

    Wow that’s a real fake paid audience

  • @azuriwhitlock
    @azuriwhitlock 6 років тому

    This was soooooo good!

  • @annmariegallimore8666
    @annmariegallimore8666 9 років тому +1

    youtube background