Body Language Expert Keynote Mark Bowden at TEDx Toronto - The Importance Of Being Inauthentic
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Mark Bowden is an expert in human behavior and body language, and creator of TRUTHPLANE™, a communication training company and unique methodology for anyone who has to communicate to an audience with impact. Mark gives keynote speeches worldwide on persuasive verbal and nonverbal language and communication structures to stand out, win trust and profit when you speak. Mark's publications are bestselling Winning Body Language (McGraw Hill 2010); Winning Body Language for Sales Professionals (MH 2012); and Tame the Primitive Brain (Wiley 2013).
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Chapters:
00:00 Body Language Expert Mark Bowden
0:06 Behavior, Body Language, Tone
4:22 Brain's Search for Connections
8:04 Universal Signal: Smiling
11:22 Manipulation through False Image
16:49 Importance of Crowd Connections
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Stunning. THANK YOU
The case for inauthenticity. "Choose not to be indifferent" is probably one of the best pieces of advice that I've heard in quite some time. Thank you, Mark.
yeah..you're right.how are you?
@@alvinzady764 This is sad ... but come on, it was your fault. You could choose a more recent comment to ask that lol.
@@tacitozetticci9308 you should also check out Joe Navarros book on body language if u found this interesting
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This video might be the best 20 minutes anyone can spend on UA-cam in their life! Mark is amazing and so inspirational. Well done. I have shared this video hundreds of times, watched it about 7 times and made my entire family watch it multiple times.
Life changing! Thank you Mark ✨
This speech didn't just blow my mind but it changed my life, it moved me, it granted me perspective in how I live my life and how I treat people. Thank you Mark
That's the same thing
@@W1NTERSEND😂
Brilliant Mark! Love watching you on the Behaviour Panel too 😊🇬🇧xx
His understanding can make him to a great comedian...
After I watched this I had an urge to watch some old Ricky Gervais
@@stevensullivan5282 p
True!!!
I was raised in a city that everybody says hello to everybody, even if you dont know them and life was so enjoyable.
Now I live in a city that if you do so people see you with contempt or worst, they seem to be trained to never make eye contact. Its so awful.
I'm southern and when I moved to NYC in my twenties, I'd say, 'Hey!' to people as I passed them on the street. 😂 One time, a guy responded with, 'Hey what? I owe you money!?'
Mark love u on the Behaviour Panel. But LOVE SEEING U WITH THE WHOLE STAGE TO YOURSELF, unhindered by others in a group situation and all that entails!!!
Bravo!
Encore!!
Top Class talk and presentation...
Brilliant! I love the advice. And even as his “predatory, authentic” self I loved him. Such a genuinely well-meaning person. Of course I’m an avid Behavior Panel fan, where he ALWAYS provides out-of-box right-brain insights. ❤️❤️❤️
Good job Mark, I'm a psychologist and I've been explaining body language for decades. I like your approach. I'll be presenting on body language to Animators next month in Chile. I'll take some of your ideas. You describe the famous
"Uncanny valley" effect in virtual human design. Insufficient data = Creepy.
Peter Plantec I need your email id.
Peter Plantec cc. calm Porte
Thanks for the info
It's amazing how this 20 minute chunk golden wisdom has eradicated crippling shyness.
Wow! notice how he's changing his tone of voice from friendly, to low and defensive and to strong and angry. notice his hands, once in his pockets it appears as he has low confidence, then slowly taking them out and pointing and yelling.. that is a true body language expert.
i agree, wow! When he raised his voice and that I felt fear haha! So cool!
Also he also started looking at the floor as if avoiding eye contact.
That was magical. Thank you Mark! I can't begin to express my gratitude towards yourself and the other guys on the Behaviour Panel. This is life-changing stuff!
Really enjoy your Behaviour Panel vlogs
You have changed the way I think about being authentic. I have been on this planet for 56 years and have always struggled when meeting new people. I tried alcohol for a number of years which did get rid of my inhibitions but created other problems as you can imagine but that is another story. I always used to dislike "phonies" passionately for not being authentic. Acting, they were just acting. As an example I can think of an ex that would behave one way in private and another way in a group environment and I always thought - what a phony. 56 years! That's how long I have misunderstood positive communication with others. I get it now and forgive the people in my life that weren't being what I believe to be genuine. So a big thank you to you and the universe for our paths crossing. I will work on being inauthentic to make my world a more colorful place.
Thanks for taking me on this ride, Mark. I almost started crying, PTSD, but you gave me just enough to make me feel safe to where I can handle it.... my chin up and I can handle it, my emotions.
Hi Mark, the very fact that this TED Talk from over seven years ago is still having a great impact is so amazing. I loved this talk and will take what you advice on board. I love watching The Behaviour Panel and just saw the Donald Trump video where Chase mentioned this talk. The fact that he couldn’t lift his beer after deploying your advice made me laugh and had me so intrigued that I made a beeline to this site. I loved it, I’ve subscribed and look forward to learning much more from you. Manny thanks for this and best wishes ‘friend’. X
Being raised Christian, I've been inauthentic since I was thirteen years old. It has served me well and didn't hurt any of those who felt better about themselves because of the positive attention I directed towards them. This attitude I project has emboldened many to become my friend. During my lifetime, there have been those who were suspicious but, in time, they came around and learned to appreciate my inauthenticity. It helps a lot that I try not to judge, as I believe everyone does the best they can with the experiences they've had, and that I truly love my fellow human beings and accept that we are ALL imperfect. Keep spreading the good word, Mark, and maybe the world will be a nicer place for all of us.
I tried this today, and the feedback is amazing. Almost everyone smiled back, making me feel really good about myself. I will definitely try to do it every day now!
what did you do?
This assumes that most people will be like that. That's not true. If you did this in a Slavic country for instance many people would not be smiling back at you. There seems to be a lot of cultural and personality bias here.
@@nik8099 Definitely not the case! In slavic countries, girls love when you smile to them in the street. Especially when they are walking with their boyfriends! In Ukraine a girl winked at me 😁 when she was walking with her boyfriend.
@@nik8099 - local customary behaviour does not overrule thousands of years of biology
@@alfiegretchen8380 tff lool nice ig
Out of the four guys on the Behavior Panel, Mark's always been my favorite by far. Now he has informed why.
He’s always amazing and so interesting to listen to, isn’t he!
The differences in style, manner and modes makes the team riveting. Makes everyone seem so much more uniquely themselves. The interplay is great ! But… I know my level of attention shifts when Mark speaks.
Me too ✋
He’s my favorite too….’knew’ there had to be a reason, as I’m just seeing this for the first time! 😊
This is one of the most important speeches to me I’ve heard.
Same.
This is a video that we need to watch 3-5 times before we grasp the profound message. One message I received it this, when there are people on Smartphones, being 100 percent indifferent to people around them, they can miss out on all sort of wonderful opportunities, they need need to attempt to be in-authentic, do not be themselves, stop being indifferent and give a smile to their world.
+HoboTraveler Very true. Also there is a fine line for us living in the cities, between minding your business and not staring, and having your nose up in the air and being a smug snob.
But is there anything more in-authentic than social media? SOmeones instagram or facebook feed is so far away from the real them that its almost a persona. Its like just watching a few good scenes in a movie and thinking that was the point of the movie.
That smile part... I'll tell ya. If you pay attention and give people half a smile I promise the odds are. 10/1 for getting a returned bigger smile or kinda word ... I love humans and I dislike humans equally. But I love how we can influence one another
Wouldn't be just better to work on our authenticity-to transform it into a good one?
Love the transition to your authentic self. Pacing from side to side, raising your voice, hands in your pockets... Some serious skill
Open posture -no tools, no weapons: I've been teaching this to healthcare professionals caring for people living with dementia: great to see I've been on the right track. Great stuff -enjoyed watching, Thank you.
Hello Sheena, hope you're doing okay?
So helpful, accurate, and funny. Authentic self was the best...I love that he went there.
What's hard is being authentic and also changing your body language w/o letting your ego control those actions. The learning and growing never end!
Great comment!
I've read a pretty good amount into body language (around 4 books) and this speech is mind shattering. Puts it all together. Well done.
That was amazing! I actually got a bit scared when his "authentic self" came out, that was freaky.
Van Islandlights it was cool
Hope not too scared?!
Pre-progammed to be indifferent to the 7 billion people. Behavioral psychology, Evolutionary Psychology. Friend. Enemy. Or potential sexual partner. Implications to how we engage our learners. Body language for I come unarmed.
Your brain ALWAYS WANTS TO MAKE YOU SUCCESSFUL!
I CHOOSE MY BEHAVIORS AROUND YOU. T-RUMP IS ONLY MANIPULATIVE. BUT HE'S MANIPULATIVE AT A LEVEL OF GENIUS NOT SEEN IN MOST.
Mark
You are a great guy. Glad to have found you.
Cheers
How can someone so intelligent also be so funny. This man is in a league of his own!
Hello Sharon, hope you are doing okay?
Mark, you're Awesome and very entertaining. I always enjoy the banter of the Behavioral Panel.
There’s something compelling about this guy I watched transfixed and was not ready for it to end.
Watch him with 3 other behaviour specialists on "Behaviour Panel", you wont regret!
Amazing stuff for hospitality industry!!!
It might just be because I'm really high, but Mark is a really absorbing, entertaining bloke.
The real meaning behind "Fake it till' you make it" huh? Thumbs Up!
You reduced that down to the main point!
Well i dont think faking it till you make it takes you there complete, sounds like you gotta fake it and then fake it some more even once you make it still fake it
Mark, l really enjoyed this presentation. Been watching you on The Behavior Panel, and am fascinated with your use of your evolution theory there. You have added so much new nuance to what I used to see as an interviewer/interrogator that you make me want to come out of retirement and have fun again breaking through deceptions. Keep up the good work.
Great to hear all that, Chris! Thanks!!!
This will make a huge difference in your life , your friendships and your self confidence!
definitely one of the best TED talks I've ever seen, bravo!
Thanks, Alex! :-)
Yes one of the best TED talks is what I was thinking while watching! I really respect how you demonstrated and alluded to your idea instead of spelling it out. I frankly had to think for a little while about what you were really getting at. Perhaps different people might walk away with different conclusions. You could have ended the talk with a bunch of poetic “niceities” that would sum up the key points and ideas instead you left us hanging a bit. I deeply appreciate you of falling into that temptation of summing up your talk because it shows you trust the intelligence of the audience! Absolutely brilliant and thought provoking. Thank you!
Hello Alex, hope you are doing okay?
Fantastic! Bright, wity and intellectually stimulating. As a physician, proper body language is important to instill confidence, demonstrate compassion and communicate effectively.
Thanks for that great feedback, David! I agree.
Its a strange thing, reading your comment 4 yrs on. It sounds like you are coming from a place of having a desire to support and heal others. These kind of doctors are a gift to mankind. However many of us over the years have grown to mistrust the medical profession, regardless of how they try to project themselves. Its as if many within it do not really believe deepdown, what they are saying themselves..and therefore use bully tactics to drown out all contradiction or dissent; overriding, discouraging and even destroying a 'patient's' ability to think for themselves or to contend... and in some areas even trying to take away their right to do so. It is commanding respect with the sword of 'authority'. They even do it to their fellow practioners and scientists.
When we need help, we seek out others who know more than ourselves. We are grateful for those we encounter who have genuine compassion. But there are many times when people place their trust in the hands of those who are not their saviours, but even deceivers..Even if that is not intentional.
It is even more apparent in the present times, when we are being lied to so much, but many 'choose' to 'believe' what they are told out of fear ... not out of genuine trust or confidence in the medical profession, but because they are not told they have other options.
And I say none of this with any kind of disrespect to you at all. I admire what physicians are capable of, so I do not mean this personally.
But many of us have witnessed the side effects of all the narrow mindedness that has been allowed and actively encouraged, esp by those organisations who profit by assuming a monopoly over the lives of others.
Wow, Mark. This may be one of those things a person hears and never forgets. Thank you.
Marc! This is why I voted you as the number one body language reader when it came to voting for one of you guys on the panel. You know how to visually describe really, really, really well. And you’re probably wondering why I’m saying this! Reason being is, I’m completely blind, and as a person who is blind first of all, I guess I must be in authentic as I know people can be uncomfortable around persons with physical disabilities. The other reason you describe extremely well with detail. Yep! This is why I consider you one of my favorites, especially when it comes to reading body language. Thanks Marc! I really love what you do and the way you describe things. Later!
Such an awesome talk.. Found Mark on the behavior panel and just can't get enough.. Wow
Love all the value Mark delivers in a joyful and clear way! Bravo 👏
Hello Kelly, hope you're doing okay?
Wow!! He managed 20 minutes intensely, greatly, amazingly!! what a great skill!
One of the best videos on communication skill
It's amazing how you can switch between 'predator' and 'friend' so swiftly. When you were behaving like a 'predator' I was thinking 'I don't like this' and a second later when you switched to 'friend' I was smiling away.
I have Asperger's Syndrome and I find analyzing non-verbal human language (even verbal) to be extremely hard. I'm trying to watch some human language/behavior videos to understand people better.
I'd say that's probably the main reason I analyzed human behaviour as a kid and even now as an adult
Very wise. As someone with a form of autism, i can tell you that studying body language helped me immensely.
Wow! :0
I am an Introvert and I really like to scan body language because I see things/details other peoples don't see
That's why I'm here also :)
The importance of being inauthentic to discover more about who we truly are..
That's a freaking life changing talk .. x)
Finally here from the Behavior Panel. Outstanding message here. Thank you, Mark.
I'm here from there too. I love those guys, really hope Scott's ok❤
That was great! I am addicted to The Behaviour Panel and quite apart from your obvious talent, you bring a refreshingly non military, European viewpoint (like not asking viewers to sing "Star Spangled Banner' as if everyone knows the words). Although I do love that you all bring your own take on it and SUCH a great team, but it was so fantastic to just see you do your stuff alone. Loved this talk and really interesting. I'm gonna totally try to be inauthentic from now on! thank-you Mark!
Hello Rose, hope you're doing okay?
Hahaha, I love this guy! This is probably one of the best videos from TED ever!!
This is up there with tai Lopez 33%
Wow! I learned so much ❣️
me too, I guess his body language technique worked😂
Very true.. I have always thought that I only wanted to hangout with people that shares the same values as me.
Then I started approaching people that do not have the same core value as me. Got to say now it made me understand why I am stagnating at some point in my life.
Being open and wanting to synergize is really important.
Fantastic talk. Sorry I didn't see this until 2018, but better late than never.
Mark Bowden is a brilliant speaker. I loved his opening line and what followed was simply amazing. Nice work! :) I wish I could speak like him someday.
It's really interesting to hear this after being raised on the mantra of "Be Yourself". Perhaps authenticity isn't always the best thing; especially when it comes to dealing with unfamiliar people.
Extremely thought provoking.
I don't want 1/4 of my default perceptions to be indifference.
Going forward it won't be.
Thank you, friend. 😊
This guy is amazing! My son has Aspergers and the non-verbal is so truth telling.
Brilliant request Bowden stated at the end! This world would definitely be a different and more loving place! Thank You Bowden!❤️
Damn brits, knowing the facts of the universe and stuff
Brilliant! I'm learning so much! I never felt respected so now I'm old and grew to not ever make any attempt to reach, impress, or, win over, any adult at work. I work with young people and I did want to reach them, but didn't know about the truth plan. Well those students, don't TRUST anymore than I do, so if I can add the truth plane to my work, perhaps they will trust me a little bit.
This is one of the best Ted Talks I've ever watched. So powerful.
Masterful!! Truly brilliant!
Brilliant!
Agreed!
And gorgeous
That was such a beautiful message. ❤️
Hello Tammy, hope you're doing okay?
Mark I’m such a HUUUGE!!!!!!! Fan. Love watching your videos. You have a gift. I’m a big fan of The Behavioural Panel too. Can’t wait to see the next video 😁
life changing, Mark. i'm so happy you happened to us.
We must get over our natural instincts and do what it takes to be approachable (and to approach others), so we can connect, serve, and be served. Mark, this is a brilliant presentation! Thank you.
Hi Barbara hope you're okay?
4 years later this video is still amazing! great story telling skills and a perfect way of getting your point across.
Hi Mark, I'm a standup comic - I just want to point out something you may be missing! From 13:00 - 16:00...They love you!! It's a very odd but important thing to note, right? Technically speaking, they're laughing, which has to indicate some sort of companionship, despite you dropping all your techniques you'd talked about the first 13 minutes. In fact, I'd argue they like you *more* from 13:00 - 16:00; the proof is in their genuine response (more authentic laughter) to your genuineness!
I truly do believe that if you really commit to selling your authentic self, people will love you (of course, this is very challenging for most to do and opens up a host of philosophical questions; and so I would agree, the standard techniques of smiling etc. are probably good to default to). But perhaps assimilating this understanding of what's going on from 13:00 -16:00 that causes people to love you would open up a whole new avenue for you to think through. As it's a lot more specific to the individual (this expression of the true authentic self) it's probably more nuanced than the standard, general techniques.
Great talk!
God! This guy can convince anybody to believe whatever he wants them to. Brilliant. Absolutely magical. This talk can actually change our life, if we act on it. Stupendous. Salute, Sir!!
I found you recently on the behavior panel, so excited to see you have an exclusive platform as well. I’ve enjoyed the group videos but your eyeball flash and three second smile sessions lured me to search out more of you!! I’m impressed, and can’t wait to get your book Truth and Lies🤩
What if you truly aren't "Indifferent" to those around you, but rather "Empathetic"? I don't find myself to be indifferent to strangers around me at all, since childhood, to the point I've had to "learn" indifference due to the fact that I would take on the heartache and pain of other's so much that "I" suffered while helping them to feel better about what was going on in their lives, rescuing them from their suffering, even though I had been suffering my own personal life issues at the same time, which in turn caused me more suffering due to taking on someone else's pain with them....I do find this all to be totally fascinating and appreciate the lesson so very much!
Mark presents a timeless and very important message in a thoroughly entertaining way. Thanks, Mark!
Hello Caroline, hope you're doing okay?
What a joy to listen to! Interesting, humorous, self deprecating, warm personality - great stuff!
This is genuinely my favorite TED talk
Amazing talk. To be honest, around the 14:25 mark is when I started getting anxious. Of coarse I realize what the speaker was going for. Still I got so uneasy, to the point of agitation as he went on. Oddly enough there were people laughing during that part - it seemed an out of place response to me. But I gotta say - the talk was done masterfully and I know the speaker was trying to illicit the negative response in that bit, I was just surprised at how uneasy it's made me feel.
It's that nervous laugh. You remember that everything was going great and all of a sudden things change, but you don't want the change.
Whatch the video enough times to understand it.
I realized what he was doing but damn did I want to slap the bitch for the nonstop walking back and fourth lol
Is it weird that it got him even more into friend cuz I knew exactly what he was doing and I loved it
Your reaction was authentic. That was real HIM. The guy is professional but he does not like people and does not trust them. After he called everybody stupid he lost me
Loved this so much. I kept thinking, wow that’s why I do that! I have been doing this my whole life, because I have always wanted to be liked.
I've often wondered why I 'act' open-hearted, open-minded, acknowledge that I am listening (willing to listen), remain empty-handed, moderate my eye contact (not too much/not too little), refrain from fidgeting etc with a person I DISLIKE or feel UNCOMFORTABLE with. I've wondered if I was some sort of fraud/fake ... or survival instinct? It is wonderful to learn from Mark's talk that it is healthy INAUTHENTICITY!
I loved this! Mark, you’re amazing! 💕 and I love listening to your take on things on the Behaviour Panel 💕
Hello Lisa, hope you're doing okay?
wow incredible! best ted talk ever!
Mark's closing statement alone is priceless. His idea/premise is potentially world-changing!
Great speech mark, you speak so proper and you help me see the visual as opposed to the hearing and smell base I seem to be X much love, you are truly inspiring x
I have a strong feeling that Mark would be immensely successful in just about any field of his choosing. He's be an incredible trail lawyer.
Trial*
At exactly 12:00 I started to doubt him and think he could just be manipulating the audience. Then he comes up and says the same thing! Like dude, did you time this?! And most importantly, he doesn't deny it and gains my full trust. This man knows exactly what he's doing, amazing speech!
Who would dislike this? Amazing content Mark!
I have watched many videos about body language but never came across a video as brilliant as this. After watching this video now I want to purchase your book and learn more about body language. Seriously, I have to say this video deserves millions of views.
I need more people like this in my life.... Come on internet! Give me more people who like to think!
Four years later and you never got a reply!! That's sad! Hello!
This man is a magician. As a student of all things mercurial, I hope to be a master like him one day
Very wise and absolutely true.
I went to Time square with a friend and in the crowds of people nobody mafe eye contact with anyone. I saw so many people that day and i met NOBODY. To be fair i wasnt trying hard to. But i told my friend how we were surrounded by thousands and thousands of people all day but him and i were alone. this video reminded me of that.
Mark is great...he brought this down to a level we can all understand and made me laugh as well...peace to ya Mark.
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Just watching this episode. What a great idea to share with the world, today. Ps I love watching y'all on The Behavior Panel!
You’re very good ...can’t imagine how Tracy feels being analyzed every day 🤣🤣
@@kikihowe4799 People think that, but I think they only use those skills during certain times in their personal lives, maybe during a disagreement or something like that.
Namaste Mark.
First thank you for sharing your knowledge and time with all that choose to listen. 😁 On the light side of life I think my fight or flight response may be a bit askew. I found myself more drawn to you demonstrating "your " authentic tantrum-y arrogance self than anything else.
On point, great message and delivery. I will check out more of your work. Friend zone response engaged :D
this speech is as good and fresh to me as it was 7 years ago...it's a pleasure to listen to this talented man...thank you Mark Bowden, you are helping us beyond your immagination
You manipulate people into thinking they know you are manipulating them, while you are actually acting on a whole other level. Salute, Mark :)
Fantastic. Mark is funny and engaging- authentic or not. 😉
I'll add that if you can go round the world smiling on the outside, not only will it make you feel better, be better, it'll change someone else's day.
That alone makes it all worthwhile.
Hi Mark...I watched your Keynote in Toronto tonite . I was mesmerized by your energy and life lessons. Thank you for being who you are because you taught me something invaluable. You are amazing.
Wow - superb video! Mark, you are a champ. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
This is like the fifth time I watch this video, a strong message put in the clearest way. I´ve been applying the principles and they work marvels, literally.
Great talk! Sometimes I do some busking as a singer, so I have to instantly make a positive impression on passers-by, I was always keeping my hands in front of me, holding my musical sheet to feel more secure and look more relaxed. Might be a good idea to have them completely open then and seem more welcoming! Thanks for inspiration!
Has to be one of my favourite Ted videos 🔥