The slug story could be considered attempted murder. Some of them will kill you, especially if they have the deadly parasites. Having that many slugs in your food could be incredibly deadly. That is so insane. He should be locked up.
This is actually pretty dangerous. There was a guy who recently passed away because he ate a slug and developed a brain condition. He could have killed her wtf
And not only that but she had a heart condition and was on beta blockers to help with it and he stopped her taking it. She could have gone through withdrawal and died or she could have had a heart attack clearly it did severe damage considering she now has to have a heart surgery
I was already confident, but that factor made me BEYOND sure that this was deliberate torture. Her own pet? That was PURPOSEFUL evil. He wanted to do the sickest, most hurtful and wrong thing he could to her. This man is a true DEMON.
@@abbyleeclark0542For real. This dude needs to not be in jail but locked up in a padded room with a straight jacket. He made her eat her own pet… what… this sounds like a movie. Jeez. Insanity…
The slug story: It sounds like she already had heart surgery planned, not due to the slugs. Propranolol is a beta blocked, typically used for blood pressure, so it sounds like she already had an issue. The fact that he was replacing that medication with SALT is borderline murder.
We don't know how long she's had those heart issues though, it might have been caused by him and another one of his experiments 🤷♀️ They've been together for 4 yrs, so he's had time
Salt instead of beta blockers? It would make blood pressure worse. He was trying to kill her… he was poisoning her. She wasn’t getting her medication and he was feeding her something that would make it worse 😭
I was so upset! The UTI story made me cry, because can you imagine the level of manipulation this girl is subject to tolerate shit like that? Girl, RUN.
Seriously! I gave birth six weeks ago, two weeks post partum I thought I had a UTI and kidney infection. My husband insisted that we go to the ER because I was also vomiting. Over the next 5 days I had a total of three ER visits, each one my husband insisted that I was not ok and that I needed to be seen in the ER, and insisted that I go in. The first one they found that I had several blood clots on my right lung. Second visit they discovered that I had a huge number of large gallstones, the third visit they discovered that I had clots in my uterus, and acute pancreatitis. I was admitted to the hospital and had surgery to remove my gallbladder the next day. And my husband took time off of work to care for our newborn and we are four weeks post surgery, and he is still off of work caring for me and our newborn. This poor girl is in a relationship with a man child, not a man. A man doesn’t do the kind of crap he pulled.
I've been through something like that and I kept thinking of my ex and how much of a douch he was... Told him I had severe trouble breathing and told me to stop being such a drama queen and that I was lying cause if I can talk obviously I can breathe... He didn't take me seriously until I almost passed out and even then acted like taking me to the hospital was the biggest nuisance of all... Seems so ridiculous now to accept shit like this
The whole thing made me so angry and sad. I’m am so grateful for my husband, but it’s NOT because he gives me basic human care!!! Holy shit. I can’t imagine if my husband was like this when I was on 101 days of bedrest with my twins…
*Update on the UTI/kidney stone story* They did break up. OP wrote: “this actually pushed me into breaking up with him, so there’s a little hope left in the world - sorry to disappoint.”
“The bar is so low the bar is in hell” like if your okay with someone screaming in agony asking for help (let alone your partner) how are you even psychologically sane
My son at 16 years old heard me screaming in pain and said I am taking you to the hospital and called school and said I am taking my mother to the hospital. I said I will go after work he said no. He said mom you can not wait. I had to get surgery on my hand. Thankful I raised my son right. Sad a young son can see that and not this grown a$$ adult can not see.❤️
The 3rd story is terrifying. Imagine putting your full trust into this person's hands, especially regarding medication that literally helps them stay alive, and he pulls that shit?? I hope the investigation turned up with a charge, that literally could've killed her/them!
It's almost comical how he was so close to killing her in multiple ways (switching her heart medication, giving her food that caused multiple stomach ulcers, feeding her snails and slugs which typically host many parasites and can be poisonous) but the toothbrush in the toilet was to much
literally think this guy has like munhausen by proxy because he said that he thinks his life's purpose is taking care of her. Like the fact he was messing with the stuff that keeps her healthy makes me think that he's doing that not only for the "joke" but to keep her ill and dependent on him
With the doctor's belittling your pain as a woman, I told my primary care doctor that I felt a lump in my breast. She asked me if I had some kind of panic or anxiety disorder, because I had just finished talking to her about my chronic nausea. As if I can't have two issues at the same time. Turns out I do have a lump in my boob, and it's considered high risk for cancer. I'm changing my doctor. You can't fucking trust these people. Crazy thing is, I went to this doctor on my dad's recommendation, because she always took him seriously. The misogyny, even from women.
My sister went to the emergency room because her heart rate was super fast and she couldn’t stop crying and her muscles felt so fatigued. She couldn’t get up and move anywhere without feeling overwhelmed and crying. ER doctor told her there was nothing wrong with her and that she was just being “hysterical“. It turns out that she has an auto immune disorder similar to MS. I couldn’t believe he use the word hysterical. That word has been used to belittle women for so many years.
I have a laundry list of chronic illness and see so many doctors. I have gotten to the point when they start going down the condescending/gas lightning path, I stop them and start saying 'Can you see through my eyes? Can you hear my thoughts, feel my feelings?'. When they say no, cause they always do, I finish the talk with 'Then how in the hell are you sitting there saying it is all in my head? Or that it is not as bad as I say it is?'. It generally shuts them up.
Exactly! I've been having ongoing UTIs for the past 2 years, and most of the doctors I go to (all of them being women) say there's nothing wrong with me and that I'm completely fine. It's so invalidating and hard to cope with. Luckily I got an OB that actually cares about my issues.
Med school was made for men, therefore theyre teaching women doctors to behave like the misogynistic men who created the theories and science behind medicine.
I’ve no idea what are you guy’s diagnosis, but I’ve got a psychosomatic pain syndrome, and I think part of the issue might be that we doctors (I’m a doctor as well as a patient) don’t get much training in how to recognize or treat those conditions. Ruling out physical issues is easy, understanding why someone has debilitating symptoms when their body seems fine is the hard part. Besides, it really saddens me that we as a society treat things like anxiety as not as valid as other conditions. We always have to rule out physical problems, but what if it’s anxiety? We shouldn’t be considered hysterical, or problematic, because of that… Btw, if anyone has weird symptoms that no one can diagnose, maybe you might want to check out the “like mind, like body” podcast (at curablehealth.com) and see if what’s happening to you has any similarities to the stories there. I’m not being sponsored by them, just sharing something that has helped me
Idk if someone has said it, but in the slug story when OP said “he likes taking care of me” made me think he maybe has Munchausen syndrome and wanted to make her ill on purpose to take care of her
I saw an episode of 1000 ways to die and a couple died because they ate raw snails and that’s all I thought of during this story… I hope she doesn’t get really sick!
@@thatonedog819 yeah... i immediately thought about that one but you’re right, but it’s definitely some type of mental state, definitely erratic behavior
The fact that the girlfriend said the dad's on her radar, later "joked" about leaving the brother for OP's boyfriend and the brother STILL thinks it's not his gf's fault??? Wow. No words.
I was literally thinking the same thing! Like, why do you want to date someone who makes it seem like you are her last choice? I wouldn't want to date someone who was hitting on my brother and dad!
Third/slug story: on top of the trauma that girl must have, the experience could likely trigger OCD-related food anxiety/paranoia. I truly hope she's okay.
I got a really bad rash during a vacation with my boyfriend &, though we suspected it probably wasn’t life threatening, it was so itchy & painful that I was suffering. After 2 days of seeing the rash worsen my boyfriend took control: he called to get us on the next ferry home (we were in a different country), then drove like a mad man to get me there. He took me to the first emergency room once we were off the ferry & stayed my side for hours. Once I got released with only a prescription for an antihistamine he said he wanted to take me to a different ER near our home a few hours away because he felt they hadn’t done enough to help my current state. He proceeded to drive all night to get me to the other ER where they took me in right away & gave me something for the itching/burning. The man literally did not rest until he saw me doing better. I cannot believe the AUDACITY of the dude who ignored his girlfriend to get a couple more hours of sleep after playing video games all night. No way, do better but do better with someone else because she shouldn’t even stick around after that.
My EX husband asked me to let him sleep for 30 more mins when my contractions were 5 minutes apart. That's after I initially woke him up at 15 mins apart, & also knowing I'd been having contractions all day, so it's not like it was a big suprise.
If I felt like the fear of my partner being in that much pain didn’t wake me up enough to safely drive them to the hospital. I’d Uber us both in a heartbeat or take the financial hit of an ambulance. I can’t fathom going back to sleep when I know my partner is in that much pain unless they told me I could (and even then the anxiety would probably keep me awake)
THE SECOND STORY IS INSANE. one of the comments asked “are you really “known to overreact”? is that something other people have told you, or just your boyfriend?” AND SHE REPLIED: “Ahhhh mostly boyfriend. After posting this it’s kinda starting to make sense why he keeps cheating and I can’t get him to stop because it’s starting to become clear he doesn’t care 🥲” WHAT THE FUCK
Yeah, we all know, bf is garbage, throw the whole man away....anyone else wondering why her parents weren't more concerned or offered to drive her to the hospital? It didn't say they were unable to, her mom's response was "make him take you". Maybe I'm lucky, but my mom would have set the bed on fire and to get his ass out, put the fire out, locked the door and driven me herself after the first scream....
My boyfriend and I got food poisoning a couple weeks into dating, it was awful but a blessing in disguise because we didn't have to pretend to be civilized people after that. Something about having to bring each other a trash can while one of us was on the toilet was a very weird bonding experience
The UTI one.... Sister I had strep 3x this past winter and on the last round I was in SO much pain I was having panic attacks because it felt like I couldn’t breathe and my boyfriend almost drove me to the ER at 2 in the morning, and then STAYED UP ALL NIGHT just to watch me sleep and make sure I was okay AND THEN WENT TO WORK THE NEXT MORNING. IF HE WANTED TO, HE WOULD 👏🏻
First guy sounds like early warnings of an abuser. He doesn’t want her to have friends. He wants to be her only lifeline. My ex used to call my friends “snakes in the grass” trying to ruin our relationship. This guy’s just a step away from that.
It feels like the three boyfriend stories are a progression of abusive relationships: story one - isolation; story two - neglect and gaslighting; story three - physical harm.
Yes I know I'm late but I wanted to say he freaked out because he thought he had her on lock. This was a test after months of investment and he failed at controlling her.
I feel like no one really fixated on the fact that HE SWICHED OUT HER BETA BLOCKERS knowing she trusted him with her medication for a very serious reason he needs to be charged with assault and evaluated also though, HE COOKED YOUR PET AND FED IT TO YOU
THIS! No one has that kind of reaction to their partner ignoring them SCREAM IN PAIN unless they have been invalidated to the point their view of reality get distorted.
100%! I had a small kidney stone a few years ago - wasn't screaming but as soon as I started crying and vomiting, Mum put me in the car and took me to hospital - like sje was SCREAMING - COME ON
As a trauma therapist, most of this behavior is most definitely red flag worthy; if not the marks of an abuser or narcissist. Everything you two have said is true. All of this behavior is toxic; classic gaslighting, isolating, insecure, controlling, manipulative, self-centered… and none of these are going to be isolated incidents…
Fifth story: The bride probably would have “forgot” to give the necklace back bc of the wedding. She was probably envious that the friend had something beautiful and probably expensive given to her and wanted to take it
Actually I got to read the update. The fiance of op actually played a prank on the brides sister by pretending to daughter and gave her the exact same necklace and it ended horribly and when he gave the necklace to op he wanted the sister of the bride to see it. He planned it.
@@jessicaweldon6915i’m confused on what you’re saying. he pretended to be the brides sisters daughter and gave her the necklace? so she would be pissed that… the fiancé ALSO had the necklace?
I find it odd that no one mentions she's having heart problems, & her bf is REPLACING HER MEDICATION WITH SALT! He is obviously trying his best to harm/kill her over time
My husband is so good at gossip which is so fun. He comes home and tells me all the tea at work. His boss thinks it's hilarious how much I know. Find you a man to gossip with
You asked what all-male friend groups talk about, so here you go: I’m a trans guy - most of my super close friends are women cuz I grew up around them. I’ve seen both sides of the proverbial coin, so to speak. I was recently inducted into my boyfriend’s (online) friend group, and I’m not kidding when I say this; *It’s all fart/shit jokes. All of it.*
Your commentary for the second story is spot on. My fiancé has severe medical anxiety. Like to the point where going to the doctor or a hospital will trigger panic attacks for him. He would simply rather die than deal with the anxiety of being in any kind of medical office. HOWEVER, every single time I’ve had an ER visit or a doctors appointment this man has driven me and been in the room with me. Without fail, every time.
my anxiety causes me to have severe physical pain even if nothing is wrong and my boyfriend knows this, but a couple months ago i thought i was having kidney issues, i was tested for basically everything, mri’s, blood cultures, ultrasounds, etc. during the summer we went to the lake on a 90° sunny day and were there for 6 hours, i felt very sick, but i still decided i wanted to hangout with him and his friends. while hanging out with them i started having severe pain and thought it was my kidneys, or maybe even my appendix, (my bf new there was nothing medically wrong with me,) but i begged him to take me to the er, he was willing to drop everything we were doing, including his friend being in the car with us, and take me. my dad said that i needed to come home and he’d take me, but it was a 30 minute drive home then another 15 from the er, my boyfriend begged my dad to just let us go ahead and go because he saw how much pain i was in even though he knew there was nothing physically wrong with me, and it did turn out there wasn’t actually anything wrong just typical anxiety, but the point is he was willing to stop plans that he had, make his friend go to the er with us, and ignore my dad even when he knew it was just anxiety.
Fourth Story: the brother has a thing for her. Why would he become upset and things get tense as soon as he found out about the future engagement and then randomly get a girlfriend for the first time since he was 16? Yes. he has a thing for her.
The slug story... all of that was deliberate torture. He got pleasure knowing he was doing sick, evil things to her without her even knowing. He loved the knowledge that she felt safe when she wasn't. That she was totally vulnerable to ANYTHING he wanted to do to her. This man is a MONSTER. In the complete sense of the word.
With that second story: ladies why the heck are you seeing men who don’t care about you. If he’s unwilling to take you to the hospital when you’re in pain, leave him.
If you’re raised in an environment that this isn’t abnormal, then you don’t know anything is wrong. Until you figure out it’s not normal, you won’t know that you deserve better
The fourth story, the older brother definitely had a thing for his younger brother’s girlfriend. He probably specifically brought this girl in because he knew she would try to get with his younger brother and was hoping that he’d slip and get them to breakup that night so he could swoop in and save the day and “console her”. When it didn’t work he went for attacking the entire family and threatening to leave.
That 4th story was ridiculous 😂 the brother telling him to break up with his future fiance so that the brothers new psycho girlfriend doesnt feel threatened by his gf
The slugs guy should get sued and she should just leave lol. Something is wrong with that man to do such a gross thing for no reason!! Her physical health was literally compromised because of him!
i asked my boyfriend once what him and his friends talk about and he says “we just make up stupid scenarios that could happen right now, like what if a car crashed through the window right now” like… what?😂😂
I just went to a medieval t*rture museum and SOOOOOO many of the exhibits were specifically punishments for gossiping. History just proves that m3n h8 womxn
!!! i went to one in italy several years ago and was thinking the same thing when they were talking about it like so many of the awful devices were just for women being promiscuous or talkative… the iron muzzle things they’d put on “gossips” that like stabbed into the mouth if you tried to talk? sir what are you so scared of her saying that you came up with something that fuckin horrifying??? museum was museo della tortura in lucca if i remember correctly, i hope they’re doing well. a rly educational place, super well designed exhibits. men rly just turn into the guy from Saw if they don’t get their way sometimes oy
In relation to the UTI story, I had a doctor in high school that told me that "DIRTY DICKS WILL MAKE YOU SICK" I will never forget this. That dude's got to go. Get him the fuck out. 😤
The slug story; y'know withholding beta blockers and replacing the with salt would be enough to kill her, the slugs and snails could kill her, the meat literally wrecks her system but still sneaking it in and whatever other horrific shit this dude did. She needs to leave if she wants to live and press damn charges!!! It would also warn other girls in the future that he does this shit. Especially since he triggered an ED.
My theory: He enjoyed the feeling of her eating her sail pet. He enjoyed that she ate her pet. He enjoyed killing the slug and due to the argument, he wanted to be the mastermind of hurting her. He said he was born to be her care taker but only to exploit and control. He latched onto finding slugs because it’s Similar to snails without shells that will most likely leave behind evidence. He is reliving that “high” of controlling her and getting her to eat things that she has an emotional attachment too. Although she didn’t know about the slugs, she was emotionally attached to the mouse family. He controls her emotions, food, and the slugs. Everyday he relives this high as a fun game to control someone else without them knowing. He’s a true psychopath due to lack of empathy, pretending emotions, inability to attach relationships (no guilt and feeling unashamed to tell his friends about his action), manipulative, dishonest, and able to plan out long term manipulation tactics. He also takes long term Risks in schemes regardless of punishments
@@moonlace1560 ASPD is a personality disorder. Psychopath tendencies are more violent in nature compared to other personality disorders. I do not want to say that if you have a personality disorder that you’re more prone to violence. Looking at both ASPD versus psychopathic tendencies some psychologist believe that they are the linked but others think it is separate. I would look into whether or not he does have that or has those tendencies because a SPD is very common personality disorder
Yes, he is EVIL. How DEEPLY hateful!!! I would rather someone give me a poisonous chemical than something people would consider *gross* to eat, and I think that was his very purpose for choosing what he did. He liked that it was MORE sick to FEED her things that would be considered "disgusting." It is a far more personal, hate-driven, and intentionally demeaning and dehumanizing action. And as far as making her eat her own pet... I cannot even describe how hideously, disgustingly evil and cruel this was. And for what reason? To his long-term girlfriend who loved him? This would be unfathomable even to do to an enemy. Which, to me, just illustrates that he is truly on the same plane as the most famous serial killers in regard to his mental state and his lack of humanity.
I’m in pharmacy school, and I was absolutely FLOORED when you read the portion of this man replacing his gf’s propranolol. The fact she has cardiac issues and he did that (propranolol is for cardiovascular problems)…that’s so dangerous wtf?!?!
Drew's boyfriend and mine have something in common, not being able to say anything when someone is trying to pursue them, just get really uncomfortable. On my birthday in December, I was literally in a tiara putting a girl in a headlock because she tried to make-out with my boyfriend right in front of me and he didn't want to push her, he just started yelling "no, no, no" then I took over LOL
last story: I would have left. OP did better then me. I would have told my "friend" if she literally ignores me over a NECKLACE. I would have said, "Ok so you want to end a friend ship over a NECKLACE. Then thank you for saving me for the struggle to have you at my wedding."
The man who was doing “experiments” on his partner and said he felt “compelled” to do it sounds like he might want to consider treatment for munchausen’s by proxy. He said that he feels it is his “purpose to care for her.” Yet he feels compelled to do her harm, so that he can then continue of in his caretaker role. I know when most people think about munchausen’s by proxy, they think of mothers with children. And while that is the most commonly caught case, it is not the only expression of the illness. People with this disorder have been known to seek out elderly partners, chronically ill partners, or even mentally ill partners to care for before they proceed with sabotaging their health.
You're right, but I don't believe Münchhausen by proxy includes taking pleasure of experimenting with someones health - the way I understand it the taking care part, being the rescuer and thereby being put in the spotlight are the main objectives. But I'm not an expert.
I found out after I left that my ex told his entire family that I had mental illnesses that I don’t have before I met them I did get diagnosed with PTSD after living with him, but that wasn’t one of the diagnoses he made up for me
@@prairieN Beautiful soul, that's am abuse tactic. It's most commonly used in cases lacking empathy (narcissism, sociopathy, etc..) It's done to separate and discredit you before you have a chance to connect or defend yourself and commonly coupled with things like, "GF is crazy, she's got mental issues and freaks if we talk about it. Don't bring it up, I don't want to upset her, but she's always having mood swings and I worry about her stability." Absolutely terrifying.
Literally my husband and his friends discuss the news, politics, and their jobs. I’m not spending my precious time with friends just talking about that when we could be talking about intimate stuff!
I once had an undiagnosed UTI and I found out because I got so fatigued I couldn't walk, and I also lost a lot of sense in my left side. When I finally went to the doctor, she said it was kidney pelvic inflammation, which, when undiagnosed, could evolve to blood posioning and possibly death. This man saying "I need 2 more hours of sleep before taking care of you" when she easily could've been in real, physical danger scares the living shit out of me. I hope she realises this man will not be there for her when she really needs it later.
The last story had an update that totally changes the opinion on the bride and the OP fiancé, you should do an updates episode cuz oh gad sometimes we get some big plot twists.
The second story really hit home for me. I just had a kidney stone problem while driving last weekend and my boyfriend left work, immediately drove to where I was, drove me to the hospital, and then took me to a different one when the first one couldn't treat me. He spent 7 hours in hospital waiting rooms and another hour and a half holding my hand while I laid in a hospital bed getting fluids and medication through an IV. He was in communication with my family all day letting them know how it was going and he took me to all my follow up appointments and lab work I needed to have done. We haven't even been together that long! I don't know what I would've done without him and can't imagine having such an unsupportive partner.
THE POINT ABOUT CARING FOR SOMEONE EVEN IF THEIR SITUATION SUDDENLY CHANGES IS SO IMPORTANT! My grandpa had cerebral palsy, and my grandma married him, knowing that as he got older he would need help getting on and off the toliet, washing up, everything. They weren’t super affectionate in front of me, but there was never a doubt in my mind that she loved him more than I could ever imagine.
All of these stories make me realize how lucky I am that I have an amazing husband 🥺 The uti story made me think of when I went into labor. I spent the night trying to rest in between contraction before they were finally close enough to go to the hospital at 3 in the morning. With every contraction, my husband would wake up and breathe with me and tell me my mantra to get through them 🖤
That slug one is lucky he didn’t start putting Rat Poison in her food. It sounded like he was starting to go that way. I hope they get him on attempted murder/premeditated murder. That is so bizarre. 😟
Omfg the algorithm is crazy. I’ve watched a couple new episodes of the podcast and Morgan always references the slug story. Is this the origin of the slug story?! thank you algorithm
A girls, gays and theys night in has been a part of every friend group I've ever been in. We sit around in baggy clothes, eat too much food, drink wine and talk. Who the hell is this guy? Why is this toxic!?
The one with the UTI and medical professionals belittling your pain: I went through 22 hours of labour, just to have an emergency c section and while I was screaming as my spinal block wore off during them stitching me up- I heard a nurse say “she just has a low pain thread hold” I had major abdominal surgery and felt while they were stitching my abdomen together and she had the audacity to throw that comment out there
The UTI story gives me Vietnam flashbacks from my ex… Looking back at it I cannot even believe that I allowed myself to be treated that way… Narcissistic abuse takes a toll on your brain and warps your perception of reality…breaks my heart dude
People are forgetting about what weddings are, like, it's about the person you're with and celebrating that you'll spend the rest of your life with. Literally, how a friend's NECKLACE can ruin your day???
I’ve had kidney stones while pregnant and I couldn’t have any medicines except Tylenol. It was as painful as labor and I had back labor. I feel so bad for her. Like the pain is excruciating. I thought for sure I was miscarrying or dying. I was crying I was literally screaming in pain and could barely move. I just can’t believe she dealt with it for that long with so many other pains at the same time. She’s a literal warrior.
This honestly hits home with the UTI, I was in the military and knew I had a UTI but the mission comes first so I was going to try and push through a 3 day in the middle of no where work set. We aren’t allowed to leave the compound and for 3 days it got progressively worse and my stomach was in such pain it felt like I was being stabbed at every move. Mind you we were roving on country hills in busted humvees. I told my superior at the time and he told me to sleep it off and if I wasn’t sure it was my period. After sleeping it was worse and he finally let me go after the 3 days and one of my friends drove me two hours back to base. Then at the hospital the doctors made jokes asking if I wasn’t sure I was pregnant and prescribed me some advil. I got to my barracks late at night and woke up in physical pain and barely able to move. I tried calling my boyfriend to tell him to get the military ambulance to my barracks and he texted back “what do you want me to do about it” ….. suffice to say my best friends boyfriend who was a coreman ended up getting me an ambulance. Sadly on the ambulance ride both the men in there were making jokes and how I was being dramatic and when I told them their driving was making me sick they didn’t believe me. On a 2 min ride I threw up twice and when I got to the hospital and they took tests again I had a kidney infection from the UTI… and they finally were concerned about the blood in my urine. 😞 this was just one of several things that would happen.
THIS man bought her a necklace to wear to her friend's wedding, AND made sure it MATCHED. Keep him,he loves you. You could would not catch me away from that necklace. If either of my 2 best friends asked me, I'd switch for the official pictures. But I'd want it back before the reception.
Okay so two things: 1. How did the older brother not get bothered by his girlfriend’s comments towards his dad and brother or by how she sat on their lap. 2. Something “borrowed” is supposed to be from a happy long lasting marriage. It would be bad juju since it was her fiancé that gave it to her. These people are messsssed up 😑
The one where the brothers girlfriend sat on her boyfriends lap, I would of lost it and thrown her out myself. You should not touch someone let alone sit on their lap without consent. Like that blows my mind. And if I was the wife I would have been equally upset.
LOVING the dynamic between Morgan and Drew! Would love to see the sisters in action! Love you both and the rest of the crew that got breaks this week! 💕💖
52:40 he doesn’t want to end the relationship because of OP since she isn’t related but he would end his family relationship for a girl also not related 😂🧐🙄
I was once in curl in a ball type pain and my mom really tried to tell me to go to work and that it was probably me “ovulating”. I called In and went to the dr. Turned out I had an internal cyst bursting.
11:10 As a guy, I don’t generally talk about things, I want experiences. When I’m with my boys, we’re all talking about our past shared experiences/escapades, having experiences/adventures, or setting up what new experiences we want to have.
If it weren't for Drew I would never have watched your podcast but now I am obsessed!! Literally this show is my daily routine to watch this while getting ready for work. ♥️♥️♥️
"Is that the person you want standing next to you at their funeral?" - Sis this HIT ME. My mom just died a few months ago, and if I didn't have my boyfriend standing next to me, I don't know what I would do. I think of other boyfriends I've had and put them in that position... just no. The biggest bare minimum thing he does is believing me when I tell him how I feel, physically or emotionally.
The UTI story resonated with me and I’m sure a lot of other girlfriends to terrible boyfriends. I got a story, bear with me: I lived with my boyfriend and I’d been having some digestive troubles (I always do, no biggie) so I took a slow acting laxative so it could work when I went to the bathroom the next morning. I wake up a few hours later in EXCRUCIATING gut pain. I’ve never felt this kind of discomfort before. Turns out, the laxative mixed with the colitis I didn’t know I had gave me severe constipation. Like a herd of cattle stampeding with nowhere to go. It could’ve killed me. And I spent an hour in the bathroom trying everything to relieve myself short of using my hands. At one point I was sobbing so hard that I was silent. Like when u quietly scream cry. I finally woke my boyfriend up because he hadn’t heard me rolling around on the floor crying apparently, and had him take me to the hospital. I couldn’t sit in the car, and we were 35 minutes away from my hospital. The whole car ride I’m writhing in pain and it’s the slowest he’s ever driven. He was going the speed limit in the outside lane on the highway. When my mother went into labor, my dad fucking flew down the highway to get her to the hospital. When my mom had to take me to the hospital early one morning for my kidney stone, we saw deer in our yard and my mom got distracted and then went “OH IM SORRY WE NEED TO GO” & I was like “mom it’s deer they’re so beautiful we can wait a second” like I had a calcified 16ct rock scraping its way through my ureter and I was fine to wait. This pain was worse, I could not wait. So I get to the hospital and I’m admitted immediately and my boyfriend waits in the room with me, but only until my parents could get there because hospitals make him nervous and he needed to go. Whatever, go. Come to find out through multiple scans I had an aggressive case of colitis that yes, I made worse with the laxative. But the scan also revealed that my appendix was about to burst. They gave me something to help the colitis and took me in for emergency surgery. My parents kept my absent boyfriend updated even though he wasn’t showing much interest. I come out of surgery and I’m gonna be fine but I need to stay a few extra days to be monitored for everything. My boyfriend never visited me again while I was in the hospital. I woke up groggy to a text saying we were just in different places in life and he didn’t want to be together anymore. I just had a whole ass appendectomy and this man dumped me over text. Not twelve hours ago people cut into my body to remove an organ that was going to poison me and he just went “this seems like a good time to breakup.” And another thing like…… how can u belittle a woman’s pain like that? The colitis was the reason I decided to go to the hospital. I’d been living with appendicitis for days before this but I’ve dealt with so much pain before that full blown appendicitis felt like a lil cramp. When women are telling u that they’re in pain, they could actually just be dying. We’re like cats. When u can tell we’re not feeling good, we’re probably way worse off than u would think. I would’ve wiped this man’s ass, and he used emergency surgery as his out. He didn’t even say “hope u feel better.” Fellas, u worried about breaking up with your girlfriend? Just wait until you can shoot the text while she’s sedated in the OR. Easy peasy 😌
thank you for sharing so sorry that happened! but the audacity is somehow hilarious "i need someone that wont depend on me for a life threatening emergency" the self roast hes too incompetent to help in an emergency he basically admitted hes useless 😂😂
I really like the point Drew and Morgan made about finding someone who would wipe your butt and vise versa if needed. Last December I was really sick in the hospital and my man helped me use the bathroom and pee into a cup. True love right there. If I could have dropped to one knee right then and there I would have. When I went home he couldn't sleep in the same bed as me due to surgery but still wanted to sleep near me, so he pulled a mattress into the room and slept next to the bed. He never complained and never hesitated if I needed anything. ❤
Hi! So I just wanted to respond to some of the comments regarding UTIs in women! Cystitis (bladder infection) is actually extremely common among women. It’s thought this is because there is a shorter distance between the “back door” and the urethra. Common causes can include: not peeing after intercourse, wiping from back to front, certain types of contraception, kidney stones, etc. Also, dysuria (painful urination) is a common symptom in both UTIs and certain STIs! So if your urinalysis does not show evidence of infection, it is a good idea to check for STI. Just thought this might be good information to share, especially for other women. 😊
I remember I told my first serious boyfriend I had a UTI and he went off on me for cheating because they only call STDs, UTIs 🤦🏽♀️ y’all this dude is teaching children now 🙄
Recently I had a bad UTI, no clue until I was at the hospital for a whole different reason, idk how I didn't notice based on how they're talking about it here 22:00
I don’t have guy friends often but my favorite thing is to talk about sex and basically just inform them on what they should be doing. Giving them insight. Saving some poor girl from an infection cause they want to pour syrup on their girl’s kitty. You can tell they’re always excited to be able to finally talk about these things and get some legit advice
i realised it was true love from my bf when he took such great care of me after having a invasive surgery. i could barely move and i had no strength, i got my period and he said: ‘oh no!! babe im prepared to put in ur tampon if u want me to!’ 😭😭😭
3am to 11am in the second story is already 8 hours. That's enough sleep. And in terms of an emergency situation you can run on significantly less. He was asking for 10 to 11 hours of sleep while she was screaming
Short of being drunk/high, unable to drive, if someone I care about is sobbing in pain, I'm doing whatever I can to help. I cannot imagine being like, let me sleep, you deal with your own shit.
Feminine conversation = people, experiences about people, gossip about people, talking shit. Masculine conversation = weird ideas like when your high, how to fix a problem, advice on how to fix a problem, mechanical things, exaggerated stories of “this one time I did this awesome thing”, making fun of each other and talking shit to each other. Feminine conversation tends to be about people and experiences people have, masculine tends to be about things and objects as well as ideas. I have been around both groups and find myself very much in the middle and not always fitting in. But I have enough of a Birds Eye to have noticed this in my guy friend groups and my girl friend groups. Hope this helps 11:41
Time stamps:
First story: 1:40
Second story: 14:00
Third story: 31:30
Fourth story: 47:15
Fifth story: 1:04:30
👏thank you
Love this thank you 😊
You’re amazing 🤩
Oh my gosh ty for all the love on this! I'll def try to timestamp the next video they do if the creator will allow it! 😁
Thank you!!!
The first guy gives incel energy “women shouldn’t congregate together alone! They might discuss things!”
‘Her friends might notice that I’m trying to control her and let her know before I’ve separated them !’
"They're going to cultivate opinions! And thoughts! We must tell the church!"
“ oh no independent women we must burn them”
like ???? what a red flag
ONG YES! I dont know what incel means, but he is being controling.
The slug story could be considered attempted murder. Some of them will kill you, especially if they have the deadly parasites. Having that many slugs in your food could be incredibly deadly. That is so insane. He should be locked up.
and he replaced her beta blockers (for a literal heart condition) with salt...that could also kill someone...I think he was trying to kill her
@@themaddiemads in my country, just the pill thing counts as attempted murder since he puts her intentionally in a situation where she could die
forreal he needs to be locked up.
And that he switched her actual medication is illegal
for real like this is the type of story you hear about SERIAL KILLERS before they start killing
The slug one: “am I overreacting?” MAAM YOURE UNDERREACTING.
THAT PART!
Right!! Shes literally making excuses for what he did 😳
I could not stop laughing 😂 that one was disgusting and she still thought it was rational behavior
Omg the update… 4 years of this shit! Like whaaaaaaaat
This is actually pretty dangerous. There was a guy who recently passed away because he ate a slug and developed a brain condition. He could have killed her wtf
The snail story broke me. Not only did she eat things that are dangerous, but she also ate her pet. Like that mustve broken her heart so badly.
The amount of trust issues I’d have if I were her is unfathomable.
And not only that but she had a heart condition and was on beta blockers to help with it and he stopped her taking it. She could have gone through withdrawal and died or she could have had a heart attack clearly it did severe damage considering she now has to have a heart surgery
@@abbyleeclark0542 And he caused the condition!!
I was already confident, but that factor made me BEYOND sure that this was deliberate torture. Her own pet? That was PURPOSEFUL evil. He wanted to do the sickest, most hurtful and wrong thing he could to her. This man is a true DEMON.
@@abbyleeclark0542For real. This dude needs to not be in jail but locked up in a padded room with a straight jacket. He made her eat her own pet… what… this sounds like a movie. Jeez. Insanity…
The slug story: It sounds like she already had heart surgery planned, not due to the slugs. Propranolol is a beta blocked, typically used for blood pressure, so it sounds like she already had an issue. The fact that he was replacing that medication with SALT is borderline murder.
Propranolol can also be used for tachycardia! In some cases, salt can help with tachycardia as well! 😊
We don't know how long she's had those heart issues though, it might have been caused by him and another one of his experiments 🤷♀️ They've been together for 4 yrs, so he's had time
Propranolol can also be used for migraines
Propranolol can be used for heart problems, blood pressure, migranes, and has been found to relieve anxiety!
Salt instead of beta blockers? It would make blood pressure worse. He was trying to kill her… he was poisoning her. She wasn’t getting her medication and he was feeding her something that would make it worse 😭
I was so upset! The UTI story made me cry, because can you imagine the level of manipulation this girl is subject to tolerate shit like that? Girl, RUN.
Seriously! I gave birth six weeks ago, two weeks post partum I thought I had a UTI and kidney infection. My husband insisted that we go to the ER because I was also vomiting. Over the next 5 days I had a total of three ER visits, each one my husband insisted that I was not ok and that I needed to be seen in the ER, and insisted that I go in. The first one they found that I had several blood clots on my right lung. Second visit they discovered that I had a huge number of large gallstones, the third visit they discovered that I had clots in my uterus, and acute pancreatitis. I was admitted to the hospital and had surgery to remove my gallbladder the next day. And my husband took time off of work to care for our newborn and we are four weeks post surgery, and he is still off of work caring for me and our newborn. This poor girl is in a relationship with a man child, not a man. A man doesn’t do the kind of crap he pulled.
I've been through something like that and I kept thinking of my ex and how much of a douch he was... Told him I had severe trouble breathing and told me to stop being such a drama queen and that I was lying cause if I can talk obviously I can breathe... He didn't take me seriously until I almost passed out and even then acted like taking me to the hospital was the biggest nuisance of all... Seems so ridiculous now to accept shit like this
honestly i can’t even imagine how he would be when she’s in labor with his child. literally terrifying
The whole thing made me so angry and sad. I’m am so grateful for my husband, but it’s NOT because he gives me basic human care!!! Holy shit.
I can’t imagine if my husband was like this when I was on 101 days of bedrest with my twins…
She had sepsis and pyleo plus a kidney stone. She’s lucky she’s okay. Holy shit, her bf is awful
*Update on the UTI/kidney stone story*
They did break up. OP wrote: “this actually pushed me into breaking up with him, so there’s a little hope left in the world - sorry to disappoint.”
thank you for sharing! she deserves so much better
“The bar is so low the bar is in hell” like if your okay with someone screaming in agony asking for help (let alone your partner) how are you even psychologically sane
Thank fuuuuck
he also cheated on her ughhh!!!
Maybe don't make fun of men when you look like a used tampon lol.
morgan ur a damn GENIUS for having drew on, she's the funniest person ever and i love that u love her
Drew is my dream co-host, this was the best idea
I've literally NEVER clicked a video faster, drew is my favorite person in the world
@@corinnewolfe963 me too omg. Her laughing at entitled douchebags lights up my life 😂
Yessss I love her 😍 have her become a regular
Petition for Drew to make another appearance!! I looooveeedddd this episode
My son at 16 years old heard me screaming in pain and said I am taking you to the hospital and called school and said I am taking my mother to the hospital. I said I will go after work he said no. He said mom you can not wait. I had to get surgery on my hand. Thankful I raised my son right. Sad a young son can see that and not this grown a$$ adult can not see.❤️
That’s honestly so precious
I hope you’re doing better❤️ good on you for raising a caring son!!
Raised him right!!!
UTI story: If OP had died from his neglect, the bf probably would’ve nudged her corpse out of the way to return to gaming.
The 3rd story is terrifying. Imagine putting your full trust into this person's hands, especially regarding medication that literally helps them stay alive, and he pulls that shit?? I hope the investigation turned up with a charge, that literally could've killed her/them!
It's almost comical how he was so close to killing her in multiple ways (switching her heart medication, giving her food that caused multiple stomach ulcers, feeding her snails and slugs which typically host many parasites and can be poisonous) but the toothbrush in the toilet was to much
literally think this guy has like munhausen by proxy because he said that he thinks his life's purpose is taking care of her. Like the fact he was messing with the stuff that keeps her healthy makes me think that he's doing that not only for the "joke" but to keep her ill and dependent on him
With the doctor's belittling your pain as a woman, I told my primary care doctor that I felt a lump in my breast. She asked me if I had some kind of panic or anxiety disorder, because I had just finished talking to her about my chronic nausea. As if I can't have two issues at the same time. Turns out I do have a lump in my boob, and it's considered high risk for cancer. I'm changing my doctor. You can't fucking trust these people. Crazy thing is, I went to this doctor on my dad's recommendation, because she always took him seriously.
The misogyny, even from women.
My sister went to the emergency room because her heart rate was super fast and she couldn’t stop crying and her muscles felt so fatigued. She couldn’t get up and move anywhere without feeling overwhelmed and crying.
ER doctor told her there was nothing wrong with her and that she was just being “hysterical“. It turns out that she has an auto immune disorder similar to MS. I couldn’t believe he use the word hysterical. That word has been used to belittle women for so many years.
I have a laundry list of chronic illness and see so many doctors. I have gotten to the point when they start going down the condescending/gas lightning path, I stop them and start saying 'Can you see through my eyes? Can you hear my thoughts, feel my feelings?'. When they say no, cause they always do, I finish the talk with 'Then how in the hell are you sitting there saying it is all in my head? Or that it is not as bad as I say it is?'. It generally shuts them up.
Exactly! I've been having ongoing UTIs for the past 2 years, and most of the doctors I go to (all of them being women) say there's nothing wrong with me and that I'm completely fine. It's so invalidating and hard to cope with. Luckily I got an OB that actually cares about my issues.
Med school was made for men, therefore theyre teaching women doctors to behave like the misogynistic men who created the theories and science behind medicine.
I’ve no idea what are you guy’s diagnosis, but I’ve got a psychosomatic pain syndrome, and I think part of the issue might be that we doctors (I’m a doctor as well as a patient) don’t get much training in how to recognize or treat those conditions. Ruling out physical issues is easy, understanding why someone has debilitating symptoms when their body seems fine is the hard part. Besides, it really saddens me that we as a society treat things like anxiety as not as valid as other conditions. We always have to rule out physical problems, but what if it’s anxiety? We shouldn’t be considered hysterical, or problematic, because of that…
Btw, if anyone has weird symptoms that no one can diagnose, maybe you might want to check out the “like mind, like body” podcast (at curablehealth.com) and see if what’s happening to you has any similarities to the stories there. I’m not being sponsored by them, just sharing something that has helped me
Idk if someone has said it, but in the slug story when OP said “he likes taking care of me” made me think he maybe has Munchausen syndrome and wanted to make her ill on purpose to take care of her
Munchausens by proxy is rare, and he was laughing with the pet snail one. Idk if this is it.
I saw an episode of 1000 ways to die and a couple died because they ate raw snails and that’s all I thought of during this story… I hope she doesn’t get really sick!
This was my first thought too
@@thatonedog819 yeah... i immediately thought about that one but you’re right, but it’s definitely some type of mental state, definitely erratic behavior
Omg yes!! Thats so scary and like she kept making excuses for him literally trying to kill her 😳😬
The fact that the girlfriend said the dad's on her radar, later "joked" about leaving the brother for OP's boyfriend and the brother STILL thinks it's not his gf's fault??? Wow. No words.
I was literally thinking the same thing! Like, why do you want to date someone who makes it seem like you are her last choice? I wouldn't want to date someone who was hitting on my brother and dad!
Third/slug story: on top of the trauma that girl must have, the experience could likely trigger OCD-related food anxiety/paranoia. I truly hope she's okay.
I got a really bad rash during a vacation with my boyfriend &, though we suspected it probably wasn’t life threatening, it was so itchy & painful that I was suffering. After 2 days of seeing the rash worsen my boyfriend took control: he called to get us on the next ferry home (we were in a different country), then drove like a mad man to get me there. He took me to the first emergency room once we were off the ferry & stayed my side for hours. Once I got released with only a prescription for an antihistamine he said he wanted to take me to a different ER near our home a few hours away because he felt they hadn’t done enough to help my current state. He proceeded to drive all night to get me to the other ER where they took me in right away & gave me something for the itching/burning. The man literally did not rest until he saw me doing better.
I cannot believe the AUDACITY of the dude who ignored his girlfriend to get a couple more hours of sleep after playing video games all night. No way, do better but do better with someone else because she shouldn’t even stick around after that.
My EX husband asked me to let him sleep for 30 more mins when my contractions were 5 minutes apart. That's after I initially woke him up at 15 mins apart, & also knowing I'd been having contractions all day, so it's not like it was a big suprise.
@@deadthelma omg babe he didn't deserve you 🥺 I hope you will find someone much much better than him
If I felt like the fear of my partner being in that much pain didn’t wake me up enough to safely drive them to the hospital. I’d Uber us both in a heartbeat or take the financial hit of an ambulance. I can’t fathom going back to sleep when I know my partner is in that much pain unless they told me I could (and even then the anxiety would probably keep me awake)
Where do I get a man like that? Amazon?
@@deadthelma my ex husband did this too but instead of taking me he started washing the dishes! I am glad your out of that.
THE SECOND STORY IS INSANE. one of the comments asked “are you really “known to overreact”? is that something other people have told you, or just your boyfriend?” AND SHE REPLIED:
“Ahhhh mostly boyfriend. After posting this it’s kinda starting to make sense why he keeps cheating and I can’t get him to stop because it’s starting to become clear he doesn’t care 🥲”
WHAT THE FUCK
Christ, i don’t get why some people go through all kinds os humiliation just not to be single…
@@isacarral2736 because it’s hard/scary to leave.
@@isacarral2736because their partners trick them into believing they're nothing without them.
Yeah, we all know, bf is garbage, throw the whole man away....anyone else wondering why her parents weren't more concerned or offered to drive her to the hospital? It didn't say they were unable to, her mom's response was "make him take you". Maybe I'm lucky, but my mom would have set the bed on fire and to get his ass out, put the fire out, locked the door and driven me herself after the first scream....
@@brianna058I mean her literal life is on line and she’s scared to leave him? Tf kind of thinking/mentality is that
First girl: *has friends*
Boyfriend: HOW DARE YOU
My boyfriend and I got food poisoning a couple weeks into dating, it was awful but a blessing in disguise because we didn't have to pretend to be civilized people after that. Something about having to bring each other a trash can while one of us was on the toilet was a very weird bonding experience
The UTI one....
Sister I had strep 3x this past winter and on the last round I was in SO much pain I was having panic attacks because it felt like I couldn’t breathe and my boyfriend almost drove me to the ER at 2 in the morning, and then STAYED UP ALL NIGHT just to watch me sleep and make sure I was okay AND THEN WENT TO WORK THE NEXT MORNING.
IF HE WANTED TO, HE WOULD 👏🏻
First guy sounds like early warnings of an abuser. He doesn’t want her to have friends. He wants to be her only lifeline. My ex used to call my friends “snakes in the grass” trying to ruin our relationship. This guy’s just a step away from that.
It feels like the three boyfriend stories are a progression of abusive relationships: story one - isolation; story two - neglect and gaslighting; story three - physical harm.
I totally agree with both of you @Julia @Faelan
Yeah i tried so hard to find female friends for my girlfriend, he’s lucky.
Yes I know I'm late but I wanted to say he freaked out because he thought he had her on lock. This was a test after months of investment and he failed at controlling her.
@@TheNDofUO very good point
I feel like no one really fixated on the fact that HE SWICHED OUT HER BETA BLOCKERS knowing she trusted him with her medication for a very serious reason he needs to be charged with assault and evaluated also though, HE COOKED YOUR PET AND FED IT TO YOU
I haven’t gotten to this one yet but what the fuck
I came here for this comment!!! They didn’t touch on this at all!!
He laughed while she ate it!!
@@rebeccah4177 He's a real demon. I wish the worst of his own evil imagination on him.
That’s like serial killer behavior
The second girls boyfriend has definitely gaslighted her their entire relationship
THIS! No one has that kind of reaction to their partner ignoring them SCREAM IN PAIN unless they have been invalidated to the point their view of reality get distorted.
and she said “i’ve been known to over react” was she known to over react or is he known to invalidate her?
100%! I had a small kidney stone a few years ago - wasn't screaming but as soon as I started crying and vomiting, Mum put me in the car and took me to hospital - like sje was SCREAMING - COME ON
As a trauma therapist, most of this behavior is most definitely red flag worthy; if not the marks of an abuser or narcissist. Everything you two have said is true. All of this behavior is toxic; classic gaslighting, isolating, insecure, controlling, manipulative, self-centered… and none of these are going to be isolated incidents…
Fifth story: The bride probably would have “forgot” to give the necklace back bc of the wedding. She was probably envious that the friend had something beautiful and probably expensive given to her and wanted to take it
Actually I got to read the update. The fiance of op actually played a prank on the brides sister by pretending to daughter and gave her the exact same necklace and it ended horribly and when he gave the necklace to op he wanted the sister of the bride to see it. He planned it.
@@jessicaweldon6915 daaaamn what?!!!! The fiance is horrible, why did he do it? It's really shady....
@@jessicaweldon6915 Where'd you find that update? I went to the link they put in the story and searched OP's account for it and didn't find that lmao
@@jessicaweldon6915i’m confused on what you’re saying. he pretended to be the brides sisters daughter and gave her the necklace? so she would be pissed that… the fiancé ALSO had the necklace?
Why isn't this episode called "The bar for men is on the floor" ?
Wait we need a episode named that
The floor? Lol. The bar is at the Earth’s core 🤦🏾♀️😂
🤣😆🤣😆 omg LMAOOOOOO
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣perfectly sums this ep up
the sea floor
I find it odd that no one mentions she's having heart problems, & her bf is REPLACING HER MEDICATION WITH SALT! He is obviously trying his best to harm/kill her over time
I know! That part could literally be considered attempted murder
Definitely he should be charged and in prison .
My husband is so good at gossip which is so fun. He comes home and tells me all the tea at work. His boss thinks it's hilarious how much I know.
Find you a man to gossip with
hahah mine too...he gossip with friends about who got pregnant or divorced and I really enjoy listening to the tea :D
Mine loves to hear the gossip and it’s great. He’ll call me up just to hear the newest gossip it’s great
Gossiping men are not just adorable, they're the best.
my bf and I gossip too! ahahaha
SAMEEEE!! Lol
the slug story is so crazy and to think she’d never know that he was doing that to her food without the help of the friend
You asked what all-male friend groups talk about, so here you go: I’m a trans guy - most of my super close friends are women cuz I grew up around them. I’ve seen both sides of the proverbial coin, so to speak. I was recently inducted into my boyfriend’s (online) friend group, and I’m not kidding when I say this; *It’s all fart/shit jokes. All of it.*
It's not, but you can keep the stereotype going if you like it
@@giulioceresini1435 late reply but this person is clearly talking about THEIR male friend group since Morgan asked for insights
Your commentary for the second story is spot on. My fiancé has severe medical anxiety. Like to the point where going to the doctor or a hospital will trigger panic attacks for him. He would simply rather die than deal with the anxiety of being in any kind of medical office. HOWEVER, every single time I’ve had an ER visit or a doctors appointment this man has driven me and been in the room with me. Without fail, every time.
As he should. Showing he truly cares.
A KING
my anxiety causes me to have severe physical pain even if nothing is wrong and my boyfriend knows this, but a couple months ago i thought i was having kidney issues, i was tested for basically everything, mri’s, blood cultures, ultrasounds, etc. during the summer we went to the lake on a 90° sunny day and were there for 6 hours, i felt very sick, but i still decided i wanted to hangout with him and his friends. while hanging out with them i started having severe pain and thought it was my kidneys, or maybe even my appendix, (my bf new there was nothing medically wrong with me,) but i begged him to take me to the er, he was willing to drop everything we were doing, including his friend being in the car with us, and take me. my dad said that i needed to come home and he’d take me, but it was a 30 minute drive home then another 15 from the er, my boyfriend begged my dad to just let us go ahead and go because he saw how much pain i was in even though he knew there was nothing physically wrong with me, and it did turn out there wasn’t actually anything wrong just typical anxiety, but the point is he was willing to stop plans that he had, make his friend go to the er with us, and ignore my dad even when he knew it was just anxiety.
Fourth Story: the brother has a thing for her. Why would he become upset and things get tense as soon as he found out about the future engagement and then randomly get a girlfriend for the first time since he was 16? Yes. he has a thing for her.
Agreed! 💯%
And that's probably why he doesn't want to attend the wedding
Not to mention his new gf is the same age as op like ?? Coincidence 🤔
Yeah I definitely think Drew was 100% right on that. As usual lol. Her intuition is spot on.
I don’t know if he likes her or is just insanely jealous of her relationship to his brother and the family
I would drive my WORST ENEMY to the hospital if they were screaming in pain. Good god
i was thinking the same!!!!
I wouldn't, but I'm petty
@@dream6562lol at least you have honesty going for yourself 😂
thank God the friend is a better person than the BF who is feeding her slugs and actually told her what's going on
The slug story... all of that was deliberate torture. He got pleasure knowing he was doing sick, evil things to her without her even knowing. He loved the knowledge that she felt safe when she wasn't. That she was totally vulnerable to ANYTHING he wanted to do to her. This man is a MONSTER. In the complete sense of the word.
the guy who did slug experiments on his girlfriend is serving jeffrey dahmer realness
PLSSSSS
For real.. compulsions to poison you is equated to OCD??
Not even close. Stay away from psychology if you don't understand it.
@@TerminusEst1982 actually really fucking close because Jeffrey Daumier experimented with corpses of people he killed, insane shit
This dude is so afraid she is going to tell her other friends how he acts and they’re gonna call out his red flags to her!
B i n g o
THAT!
With that second story: ladies why the heck are you seeing men who don’t care about you. If he’s unwilling to take you to the hospital when you’re in pain, leave him.
Insecurity
If you’re raised in an environment that this isn’t abnormal, then you don’t know anything is wrong. Until you figure out it’s not normal, you won’t know that you deserve better
She was literally screaming in pain and he wasn’t concerned about her… that’s fckn sociopathic
That’s exactly what I did shortly after this happened to me…
Abuse. Gaslighting is a tactic for a reason. It completely changes your perception of reality and your own judgement
The fourth story, the older brother definitely had a thing for his younger brother’s girlfriend. He probably specifically brought this girl in because he knew she would try to get with his younger brother and was hoping that he’d slip and get them to breakup that night so he could swoop in and save the day and “console her”. When it didn’t work he went for attacking the entire family and threatening to leave.
I never thought of this… mabey
That 4th story was ridiculous 😂 the brother telling him to break up with his future fiance so that the brothers new psycho girlfriend doesnt feel threatened by his gf
The slugs guy should get sued and she should just leave lol. Something is wrong with that man to do such a gross thing for no reason!! Her physical health was literally compromised because of him!
^^^ agreed
Right?? I agree! He could have killed her! If the slugs had lungworm parasite she could have died. 😟
i asked my boyfriend once what him and his friends talk about and he says “we just make up stupid scenarios that could happen right now, like what if a car crashed through the window right now” like… what?😂😂
They literally live in constant stress thoughts lmao
I’m convinced men just make friends off of the smallest connections and stick to them for life
That’s actually so cute. It’s the exact same energy as a kid yelling “the floor is lava” and all the other kids play along.
Honestly that's what I do a lot and I'm a girl, then again I do have anxiety. so maybe I'm just weird
I just went to a medieval t*rture museum and SOOOOOO many of the exhibits were specifically punishments for gossiping. History just proves that m3n h8 womxn
Was it the one in st. Augustine?! Went there a year ago and I remember thinking they needed to chill and let girls talk lol
@@daipovs YES! So terrifying. They really hate us and look for any sign of witchcraft
men are to scared of our power without them😒
@@alien_from_andromeda patriarchy isn’t natural that’s why they have to maintain it with violence.
!!! i went to one in italy several years ago and was thinking the same thing when they were talking about it like so many of the awful devices were just for women being promiscuous or talkative… the iron muzzle things they’d put on “gossips” that like stabbed into the mouth if you tried to talk? sir what are you so scared of her saying that you came up with something that fuckin horrifying???
museum was museo della tortura in lucca if i remember correctly, i hope they’re doing well. a rly educational place, super well designed exhibits.
men rly just turn into the guy from Saw if they don’t get their way sometimes oy
Drew and Sarah are both the best guests to come onto this show please bring either back! They’re so funny
In relation to the UTI story, I had a doctor in high school that told me that "DIRTY DICKS WILL MAKE YOU SICK" I will never forget this. That dude's got to go. Get him the fuck out. 😤
The slug story; y'know withholding beta blockers and replacing the with salt would be enough to kill her, the slugs and snails could kill her, the meat literally wrecks her system but still sneaking it in and whatever other horrific shit this dude did. She needs to leave if she wants to live and press damn charges!!! It would also warn other girls in the future that he does this shit. Especially since he triggered an ED.
Oh my God he did not want her alive
literally serial killer vibes...............
My theory:
He enjoyed the feeling of her eating her sail pet. He enjoyed that she ate her pet. He enjoyed killing the slug and due to the argument, he wanted to be the mastermind of hurting her. He said he was born to be her care taker but only to exploit and control. He latched onto finding slugs because it’s Similar to snails without shells that will most likely leave behind evidence. He is reliving that “high” of controlling her and getting her to eat things that she has an emotional attachment too. Although she didn’t know about the slugs, she was emotionally attached to the mouse family. He controls her emotions, food, and the slugs. Everyday he relives this high as a fun game to control someone else without them knowing. He’s a true psychopath due to lack of empathy, pretending emotions, inability to attach relationships (no guilt and feeling unashamed to tell his friends about his action), manipulative, dishonest, and able to plan out long term manipulation tactics. He also takes long term Risks in schemes regardless of punishments
an update on reddit said he's been diagnose with ASPD so yes he is a literal psychopath he admitted to doing all sorts of horrible things
@@moonlace1560 ASPD is a personality disorder. Psychopath tendencies are more violent in nature compared to other personality disorders. I do not want to say that if you have a personality disorder that you’re more prone to violence. Looking at both ASPD versus psychopathic tendencies some psychologist believe that they are the linked but others think it is separate. I would look into whether or not he does have that or has those tendencies because a SPD is very common personality disorder
Yes, he is EVIL. How DEEPLY hateful!!! I would rather someone give me a poisonous chemical than something people would consider *gross* to eat, and I think that was his very purpose for choosing what he did. He liked that it was MORE sick to FEED her things that would be considered "disgusting." It is a far more personal, hate-driven, and intentionally demeaning and dehumanizing action.
And as far as making her eat her own pet... I cannot even describe how hideously, disgustingly evil and cruel this was. And for what reason? To his long-term girlfriend who loved him? This would be unfathomable even to do to an enemy. Which, to me, just illustrates that he is truly on the same plane as the most famous serial killers in regard to his mental state and his lack of humanity.
I’m in pharmacy school, and I was absolutely FLOORED when you read the portion of this man replacing his gf’s propranolol. The fact she has cardiac issues and he did that (propranolol is for cardiovascular problems)…that’s so dangerous wtf?!?!
Drew's boyfriend and mine have something in common, not being able to say anything when someone is trying to pursue them, just get really uncomfortable. On my birthday in December, I was literally in a tiara putting a girl in a headlock because she tried to make-out with my boyfriend right in front of me and he didn't want to push her, he just started yelling "no, no, no" then I took over LOL
do you have a vid? i wanna see it 💀
last story: I would have left. OP did better then me. I would have told my "friend" if she literally ignores me over a NECKLACE. I would have said, "Ok so you want to end a friend ship over a NECKLACE. Then thank you for saving me for the struggle to have you at my wedding."
The man who was doing “experiments” on his partner and said he felt “compelled” to do it sounds like he might want to consider treatment for munchausen’s by proxy. He said that he feels it is his “purpose to care for her.” Yet he feels compelled to do her harm, so that he can then continue of in his caretaker role.
I know when most people think about munchausen’s by proxy, they think of mothers with children. And while that is the most commonly caught case, it is not the only expression of the illness.
People with this disorder have been known to seek out elderly partners, chronically ill partners, or even mentally ill partners to care for before they proceed with sabotaging their health.
He could have fucking killed her. I can’t believe someone could treat their partner that bad.
You're right, but I don't believe Münchhausen by proxy includes taking pleasure of experimenting with someones health - the way I understand it the taking care part, being the rescuer and thereby being put in the spotlight are the main objectives.
But I'm not an expert.
I found out after I left that my ex told his entire family that I had mental illnesses that I don’t have before I met them
I did get diagnosed with PTSD after living with him, but that wasn’t one of the diagnoses he made up for me
@@prairieN Beautiful soul, that's am abuse tactic. It's most commonly used in cases lacking empathy (narcissism, sociopathy, etc..) It's done to separate and discredit you before you have a chance to connect or defend yourself and commonly coupled with things like, "GF is crazy, she's got mental issues and freaks if we talk about it. Don't bring it up, I don't want to upset her, but she's always having mood swings and I worry about her stability." Absolutely terrifying.
Literally my husband and his friends discuss the news, politics, and their jobs. I’m not spending my precious time with friends just talking about that when we could be talking about intimate stuff!
I know! Like what’s the point???
I can’t talk about that stuff. Small talk is not my forte
I don’t see how politics isn’t intimate unless you don’t care
I once had an undiagnosed UTI and I found out because I got so fatigued I couldn't walk, and I also lost a lot of sense in my left side. When I finally went to the doctor, she said it was kidney pelvic inflammation, which, when undiagnosed, could evolve to blood posioning and possibly death. This man saying "I need 2 more hours of sleep before taking care of you" when she easily could've been in real, physical danger scares the living shit out of me. I hope she realises this man will not be there for her when she really needs it later.
Yea, she needed it then, he will never be there for her. No matter how much she cared for him.
How did every story get more and more insane
The last story had an update that totally changes the opinion on the bride and the OP fiancé, you should do an updates episode cuz oh gad sometimes we get some big plot twists.
what is it?
The second story really hit home for me. I just had a kidney stone problem while driving last weekend and my boyfriend left work, immediately drove to where I was, drove me to the hospital, and then took me to a different one when the first one couldn't treat me. He spent 7 hours in hospital waiting rooms and another hour and a half holding my hand while I laid in a hospital bed getting fluids and medication through an IV. He was in communication with my family all day letting them know how it was going and he took me to all my follow up appointments and lab work I needed to have done. We haven't even been together that long! I don't know what I would've done without him and can't imagine having such an unsupportive partner.
This. This is how you treat someone you care about
1) Girls night in 1:40
2) Emergency UTI 14:07
3) Food tampering 31:33
4) family drama (us or her) 47:52
5) Bridesmaid's necklace 1:04:26
thank u
@@bethanie05 you're welcome ☺️
THANK U
@@paulinarios3665 you are very welcome ☺️
I didn’t recognize her off the bat but her laugh was instantly recognizable to me lol
THE POINT ABOUT CARING FOR SOMEONE EVEN IF THEIR SITUATION SUDDENLY CHANGES IS SO IMPORTANT! My grandpa had cerebral palsy, and my grandma married him, knowing that as he got older he would need help getting on and off the toliet, washing up, everything. They weren’t super affectionate in front of me, but there was never a doubt in my mind that she loved him more than I could ever imagine.
All of these stories make me realize how lucky I am that I have an amazing husband 🥺
The uti story made me think of when I went into labor. I spent the night trying to rest in between contraction before they were finally close enough to go to the hospital at 3 in the morning. With every contraction, my husband would wake up and breathe with me and tell me my mantra to get through them 🖤
WE NEED MORE OF THIS DUO PERIODTTTT
That slug one is lucky he didn’t start putting Rat Poison in her food. It sounded like he was starting to go that way. I hope they get him on attempted murder/premeditated murder. That is so bizarre. 😟
Rewatching this and Drew was an awesome guest!!! Pls have her back
Omfg the algorithm is crazy. I’ve watched a couple new episodes of the podcast and Morgan always references the slug story. Is this the origin of the slug story?! thank you algorithm
A girls, gays and theys night in has been a part of every friend group I've ever been in. We sit around in baggy clothes, eat too much food, drink wine and talk. Who the hell is this guy? Why is this toxic!?
THE WAY I SCREAMED WHEN I REALIZED WHO THE GUEST IS OMGGGGG this is such an iconic duo
The slug one: DUDE NEEDS TO GO TO JAIL FOR ATTEMPTED MURDER
The one with the UTI and medical professionals belittling your pain:
I went through 22 hours of labour, just to have an emergency c section and while I was screaming as my spinal block wore off during them stitching me up- I heard a nurse say “she just has a low pain thread hold”
I had major abdominal surgery and felt while they were stitching my abdomen together and she had the audacity to throw that comment out there
The slug story 😂😂😂 sorry but her laugh attack had me dyingggggg! His comment “you can’t take a joke??” Hahahahaha omggggg Insane
The UTI story gives me Vietnam flashbacks from my ex… Looking back at it I cannot even believe that I allowed myself to be treated that way… Narcissistic abuse takes a toll on your brain and warps your perception of reality…breaks my heart dude
People are forgetting about what weddings are, like, it's about the person you're with and celebrating that you'll spend the rest of your life with. Literally, how a friend's NECKLACE can ruin your day???
Im sorry i am only 4 minutes in and have already screamed at this dude and this insanity. I cannot. Also LOVE having drew on!
My reaction to these stories had me so fucking livid and ready to throw hands and yall are just like "damn that's fucked up" 😂
I’ve had kidney stones while pregnant and I couldn’t have any medicines except Tylenol. It was as painful as labor and I had back labor. I feel so bad for her. Like the pain is excruciating. I thought for sure I was miscarrying or dying. I was crying I was literally screaming in pain and could barely move. I just can’t believe she dealt with it for that long with so many other pains at the same time. She’s a literal warrior.
This honestly hits home with the UTI, I was in the military and knew I had a UTI but the mission comes first so I was going to try and push through a 3 day in the middle of no where work set. We aren’t allowed to leave the compound and for 3 days it got progressively worse and my stomach was in such pain it felt like I was being stabbed at every move. Mind you we were roving on country hills in busted humvees. I told my superior at the time and he told me to sleep it off and if I wasn’t sure it was my period. After sleeping it was worse and he finally let me go after the 3 days and one of my friends drove me two hours back to base. Then at the hospital the doctors made jokes asking if I wasn’t sure I was pregnant and prescribed me some advil. I got to my barracks late at night and woke up in physical pain and barely able to move. I tried calling my boyfriend to tell him to get the military ambulance to my barracks and he texted back “what do you want me to do about it” ….. suffice to say my best friends boyfriend who was a coreman ended up getting me an ambulance. Sadly on the ambulance ride both the men in there were making jokes and how I was being dramatic and when I told them their driving was making me sick they didn’t believe me. On a 2 min ride I threw up twice and when I got to the hospital and they took tests again I had a kidney infection from the UTI… and they finally were concerned about the blood in my urine. 😞 this was just one of several things that would happen.
THIS man bought her a necklace to wear to her friend's wedding, AND made sure it MATCHED. Keep him,he loves you. You could would not catch me away from that necklace. If either of my 2 best friends asked me, I'd switch for the official pictures. But I'd want it back before the reception.
Okay so two things:
1. How did the older brother not get bothered by his girlfriend’s comments towards his dad and brother or by how she sat on their lap.
2. Something “borrowed” is supposed to be from a happy long lasting marriage. It would be bad juju since it was her fiancé that gave it to her.
These people are messsssed up 😑
if Shane doesn’t read that slug story for smosh pit 😭 i’m going insane
Pretty sure he already did
The one where the brothers girlfriend sat on her boyfriends lap, I would of lost it and thrown her out myself. You should not touch someone let alone sit on their lap without consent. Like that blows my mind. And if I was the wife I would have been equally upset.
LOVING the dynamic between Morgan and Drew! Would love to see the sisters in action! Love you both and the rest of the crew that got breaks this week! 💕💖
Deff need her back !!
52:40 he doesn’t want to end the relationship because of OP since she isn’t related but he would end his family relationship for a girl also not related 😂🧐🙄
I was once in curl in a ball type pain and my mom really tried to tell me to go to work and that it was probably me “ovulating”. I called In and went to the dr. Turned out I had an internal cyst bursting.
11:10 As a guy, I don’t generally talk about things, I want experiences. When I’m with my boys, we’re all talking about our past shared experiences/escapades, having experiences/adventures, or setting up what new experiences we want to have.
If it weren't for Drew I would never have watched your podcast but now I am obsessed!! Literally this show is my daily routine to watch this while getting ready for work. ♥️♥️♥️
"Is that the person you want standing next to you at their funeral?" - Sis this HIT ME. My mom just died a few months ago, and if I didn't have my boyfriend standing next to me, I don't know what I would do. I think of other boyfriends I've had and put them in that position... just no. The biggest bare minimum thing he does is believing me when I tell him how I feel, physically or emotionally.
The UTI story resonated with me and I’m sure a lot of other girlfriends to terrible boyfriends. I got a story, bear with me:
I lived with my boyfriend and I’d been having some digestive troubles (I always do, no biggie) so I took a slow acting laxative so it could work when I went to the bathroom the next morning. I wake up a few hours later in EXCRUCIATING gut pain. I’ve never felt this kind of discomfort before. Turns out, the laxative mixed with the colitis I didn’t know I had gave me severe constipation. Like a herd of cattle stampeding with nowhere to go. It could’ve killed me. And I spent an hour in the bathroom trying everything to relieve myself short of using my hands. At one point I was sobbing so hard that I was silent. Like when u quietly scream cry. I finally woke my boyfriend up because he hadn’t heard me rolling around on the floor crying apparently, and had him take me to the hospital.
I couldn’t sit in the car, and we were 35 minutes away from my hospital. The whole car ride I’m writhing in pain and it’s the slowest he’s ever driven. He was going the speed limit in the outside lane on the highway. When my mother went into labor, my dad fucking flew down the highway to get her to the hospital. When my mom had to take me to the hospital early one morning for my kidney stone, we saw deer in our yard and my mom got distracted and then went “OH IM SORRY WE NEED TO GO” & I was like “mom it’s deer they’re so beautiful we can wait a second” like I had a calcified 16ct rock scraping its way through my ureter and I was fine to wait. This pain was worse, I could not wait.
So I get to the hospital and I’m admitted immediately and my boyfriend waits in the room with me, but only until my parents could get there because hospitals make him nervous and he needed to go. Whatever, go.
Come to find out through multiple scans I had an aggressive case of colitis that yes, I made worse with the laxative. But the scan also revealed that my appendix was about to burst. They gave me something to help the colitis and took me in for emergency surgery. My parents kept my absent boyfriend updated even though he wasn’t showing much interest. I come out of surgery and I’m gonna be fine but I need to stay a few extra days to be monitored for everything.
My boyfriend never visited me again while I was in the hospital. I woke up groggy to a text saying we were just in different places in life and he didn’t want to be together anymore. I just had a whole ass appendectomy and this man dumped me over text. Not twelve hours ago people cut into my body to remove an organ that was going to poison me and he just went “this seems like a good time to breakup.”
And another thing like…… how can u belittle a woman’s pain like that? The colitis was the reason I decided to go to the hospital. I’d been living with appendicitis for days before this but I’ve dealt with so much pain before that full blown appendicitis felt like a lil cramp. When women are telling u that they’re in pain, they could actually just be dying. We’re like cats. When u can tell we’re not feeling good, we’re probably way worse off than u would think. I would’ve wiped this man’s ass, and he used emergency surgery as his out.
He didn’t even say “hope u feel better.” Fellas, u worried about breaking up with your girlfriend? Just wait until you can shoot the text while she’s sedated in the OR. Easy peasy 😌
It’s alarming how many uti/hospital related stories there are… I just shared mine and it’s just wild reading everyone else’s. I’m glad you are safe!
thank you for sharing so sorry that happened! but the audacity is somehow hilarious "i need someone that wont depend on me for a life threatening emergency" the self roast hes too incompetent to help in an emergency he basically admitted hes useless 😂😂
I really like the point Drew and Morgan made about finding someone who would wipe your butt and vise versa if needed. Last December I was really sick in the hospital and my man helped me use the bathroom and pee into a cup. True love right there. If I could have dropped to one knee right then and there I would have. When I went home he couldn't sleep in the same bed as me due to surgery but still wanted to sleep near me, so he pulled a mattress into the room and slept next to the bed. He never complained and never hesitated if I needed anything. ❤
drew not shaking her drink each time she picks it up is giving me anxiety
I hope you have her on here again. Drew is the best guest host you’ve ever had!
Hi! So I just wanted to respond to some of the comments regarding UTIs in women! Cystitis (bladder infection) is actually extremely common among women. It’s thought this is because there is a shorter distance between the “back door” and the urethra. Common causes can include: not peeing after intercourse, wiping from back to front, certain types of contraception, kidney stones, etc. Also, dysuria (painful urination) is a common symptom in both UTIs and certain STIs! So if your urinalysis does not show evidence of infection, it is a good idea to check for STI. Just thought this might be good information to share, especially for other women. 😊
My husband and his friends literally talk about cars. That’s it, cars.
Cars guns and green oh and stupid shit they've done 🤣
I remember I told my first serious boyfriend I had a UTI and he went off on me for cheating because they only call STDs, UTIs 🤦🏽♀️ y’all this dude is teaching children now 🙄
Recently I had a bad UTI, no clue until I was at the hospital for a whole different reason, idk how I didn't notice based on how they're talking about it here 22:00
Watching in 2023 and hearing Drew talk about Deison’s Fiance as a new Two idiot girls stan is WILD
I don’t have guy friends often but my favorite thing is to talk about sex and basically just inform them on what they should be doing. Giving them insight. Saving some poor girl from an infection cause they want to pour syrup on their girl’s kitty. You can tell they’re always excited to be able to finally talk about these things and get some legit advice
i realised it was true love from my bf when he took such great care of me after having a invasive surgery. i could barely move and i had no strength, i got my period and he said: ‘oh no!! babe im prepared to put in ur tampon if u want me to!’ 😭😭😭
3am to 11am in the second story is already 8 hours. That's enough sleep. And in terms of an emergency situation you can run on significantly less. He was asking for 10 to 11 hours of sleep while she was screaming
Short of being drunk/high, unable to drive, if someone I care about is sobbing in pain, I'm doing whatever I can to help. I cannot imagine being like, let me sleep, you deal with your own shit.
Feminine conversation = people, experiences about people, gossip about people, talking shit.
Masculine conversation = weird ideas like when your high, how to fix a problem, advice on how to fix a problem, mechanical things, exaggerated stories of “this one time I did this awesome thing”, making fun of each other and talking shit to each other.
Feminine conversation tends to be about people and experiences people have, masculine tends to be about things and objects as well as ideas.
I have been around both groups and find myself very much in the middle and not always fitting in. But I have enough of a Birds Eye to have noticed this in my guy friend groups and my girl friend groups. Hope this helps 11:41