*ATTENTION: I deleted a clip from the beginning of the video where I explained the difference between abstinence vs celibacy, as I looked up the word celibacy it states at that time- Celibacy can mean both being unmarried and sexual abstinence, but not all people who practice celibacy abstain from marriage. I DO NOT WANT TO STEER SOMEONE IN THE WRONG DIRECTION! Or be responsible for any word curses so please when praying please seek after the Lord’s guidance. Use the word abstinence when speaking about waiting for marriage instead of celibacy. I hope I made myself clear
Thanks for caring and taking the time to clarify this sis. I really enjoyed watching the whole video after coming across it randomly. You're blessed 🙌 ...and your makeup is 💯 👌
I understand Celibacy to be abstaining from sex and to never marry. Nuns and Priest take a vow of Celibacy. I use abstinence now because I desire marriage.
@@keepthefaithwithtori my understanding as well. One can abstain from ANYTHING (food, internet usage, sex) but a vow of celibacy pertains directly to sex which in the kingdom of Christ is only had within marriage anyway 🤷🏾♀️
I also have done that switch with terminology it has been a game changer for me. Because I need to be doing that everyday, and if God blesses me with a husband, I still need to be honoring Jesus with my body in marriage. Purity doesn't end when a ring is on nope it’s a constant deveotion to the Lord. Our sin impacts ourselves and others and so does our devotion to the Lord!
Amen. I use both terms depending on the context in a conversation. I start off by saying my commitment is to honor God with my body and for that reason in doing so I decided to wait until marriage.
i asked a similar thing that God would brand me from this kind of thing, it was a hellish 3 yrs but I learned my lesson and I can fully say I've been branded and I'm in freedom . That was a great prayer!
For starters, let us applaud this beautiful woman of God for posting this testimony. She is helping people who made this mistake. I would also like to add please don't be quick to judge. This could happen to you. There is no condemnation in Christ Jesus. Also, pride comes before the fall. Some people get amnesia when God finally calls them out of sin. Let's be humble and remember not too long ago, we were lukewarm and or up close and personal with the enemy.
I’ve been waiting for 7 years and still waiting on God to send me my husband❤ but some man walked into my life and almost made me break my celibacy, he wanted sex,But God helped me hold on, and I’m still holding on until marriage in Jesus name🙏
Fasting, praying and worshiping the Lord, humbly asking Him to free you from lust, perversion, and lukewarmness will break the spirits off a person. And as well keeping the boundaries Vanessa discussed here. Cry out to Jesus and tell Him you want to honor HIM in every way. He really honors those that turn down the plate and seek him wholeheartedly. Jesus understands first hand how difficult fasting is. I’m a new sub, and really enjoy your content even as a married woman. God bless you WOG! James 4:8, Hebrews 4:15-16, John 14:15-31 ❤
Masturbation and abstaining is a slippery slope. My understanding and life experience, When we abstain from masturbation it cleanses our thoughts of temptations of not having a sensation or feeling that mimics the idea of sex. Some may think because there's zero penetration then masturbation, oral, and foreplay is a pass to participate. Telling God and ourselves that we are committing to waiting is devoting all the desires and self-pleasures and that's when step by step God gives us the strength when we feel tempted. You will get to the point that the thought of turning against your commitment and participating in that act is off limits. The enemy will tempt you, but you'll find strength in the midst of it and then the urge goes away.
Thnak you so much for this. I have recently started my journey of waling with Jehovah seriously and this was something I was struggling with, I keep falling back to masturbation and it makes me feel worse than before. I am more motivated to keep moving.
This message is for me. My fiancé was the one that helped me in my celibacy journey. We prayed together, he supported me and held me accountable. I had never in my life abstained from sex but we both are now together until we are married 3/1/25!!! I just wanted to be pleasing to God and treat my body as the temple, having meaningless interactions will hold you back from his blessings.
Each time I hear you pronounce sexual morality as sexual mortality, I realize God wanted me and others to hear it as it is, and that is death to the soul. And in many cases to the body with diseases that are incurable. His word said the wages of sin is death. It hit. Thank you for sharing.
@@MarNicole76 wowwwwwwwwwww now that is deep thank you for your comment. I was beating myself up the whole time. I was editing because I know how to pronounce the word and I can’t believe the whole entire video. I was pronouncing it wrong. But this is what God wanted everyone to hear
I let him spin the block this second time after I cut him off. Initially I didn’t have my boundaries in place. I was pretty much a “yes woman” to him. He came back consistent, putting in the effort, only 1 date in since May. He got cold recently, and ghosted me, it’s been 10days since we’ve talked. So I blocked him(no need for closure).I am so proud of myself for not giving up my body again, he didn’t deserve it. God knows I wanted to, but I stayed obedient. But still have the urge. All they do is fantasy talk, actions don’t match their words. Alcohol really was my issue. I left it behind bc when I do, those spirits wake up. There was just never peace between us. Always conflict(def God protecting me). Also music, and tv shows I no longer watch or listen too,they bring nothing but temptation! Ty for this ❤
same here! I realized they never change, they might for a little bit to try to reel you back in- but when someone shows you their true character- we must believe it! ❤
@@LuxeSuy you’re not alone girly! Stay strong! One thing that really helps me to let go of my ex who I know is a call and question away from ‘satisfying my sexual urges’ is that on this difficult pathway of obedience is a huge blessing and that is promised. Stepping away helped me to re-recognise my value and my worth & theirs something so powerful about finding it in God! Obeying what God tells or shows us to do isn’t always easy BUT it protects us, gives us peace and in this situation saves us for the person who deserves our goodness & will value it & so much more that we wont even be able to count. Stay strong girly🩷
@@ElmarijaAmen! There’s something so empowering about walking away and finding our value in Christ! Really makes you feel like a high value woman that ain’t settling for less than God’s best! 💅🏽👸
This is the type of message single people need to hear. I can totally relate as i am on the same journey. I would like to point out that there are so many women on an abstinence journey trying SO hard to honor God with their bodies. Sadly until more men start practicing the same thing and view sexual immorality as a sin, we will continue to feel frustrated as single women. Many women keep falling into temptation because they are not meeting any men that are practicing abstinence. I pray God raises up more men that lead in the area of purity so women won't continue on this cycle of falling into sexual sin or choosing singleness. At this point we have to admit that abstinence in the Christian community is more encouraged amongst women than men and that is a problem!
I love what you’re saying sis and agree 100%! I will say that I am proud of the progress that we’ve made as women really pressing in to honor God with our bodies. If all of us can continue to band together with this, men will have no choice but to get themselves together and marry us just like in the old days these guys had to have some money and marry the woman if they wanted to have sex. We are the gatekeepers 🙌🏽💯❤️
This happened to me 2 weeks ago. After being celibate for 5 years from my ex as well. God delivered me from him. I have been trying to bring myself up from this shame and pain. I was ghosted which makes the process harder.
You got this sis. I know its harder said then done because of where you're mental. Take it from me . Get up dusty the shame off because Jesus took that. Dont prolong running to God, because devil want you to stay there. Stand up and adjust your crown. I love you and eventually you will get stronger.
@@destinybenavidez2996 I went through this exact same thing in November last year and am STILL recovering I was extremely depressed and in pain and am now only starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel so I can only imagine how you must be feeling. Stay strong & work on yourself! Find your value and worth in christ & do not beat yourself up for your mistake, we all make them. Confess to God what you did & whatever pain and hurt you feel in the aftermath and ask him to heal you and know that its a journey n it wont be easy but you will come out stronger, wiser and ultimately better! There are consequences for what we do I knew I shouldn’t had slept with him, God had delivered me from him but in the heat of the moment I gave into my feelings and it started this journey. I regretted sleeping with him cos then I wouldn’t have had to go through this heartbreaking valley but bc of how great God is he turned my mistake and the consequences into a journey where i’ve learnt things i would’ve never learnt, i’m so much stronger and wiser and its pushed me to a place of purpose. My ex had contacted me last month after 6 months no contact wanting to try again and although my feelings wanted it I knew he didn’t deserve this new version of me so I told him I still loved him as I do but I let him go as he is not the one for me and left him on seen. God is a great God who can turn your consequences from a mistake he warned and delivered you from already and turn it into something so great that you can’t even imagine Romans 8:28 and its a promise! Anyone’s inability to love or value you is in NO way a reflection of you or what you bring but a reflection of them and what they are only limited to see. You might be going through a dark valley but your story doesn’t end there. Stay strong sister🩷
Girl i fell after 3 years!! The connection i had with an individual was so strong that i felt this person was my husband, the enemy is cunning and we must always be aware of his schemes. When you create a soul tie with an individual, not only do you become 1 but you take on the same demons that they are fighting!! ladies and gentlemen STOP PLAYING with sin!! 5 minutes of pleasure is not worth years of deliverance
I loved this, we have so many similarities in our journey. I was celibate for 3 and a half years and gave my body to someone who didn't even value me like that. I deleted and blocked him and I have since been celibate for over a year and I don't even use toys anymore. I keep reminding myself that no man deserves my body except for my husband.
I needed this detailed story. Omg i laugh and cried. This is a serious struggle when transitioning in our walk. Be strong, yall. With the strength of the Lord, we could do this.❤❤❤❤
❤❤❤❤❤ Im 38 and I’ve been celibate/ abstinence for 8 years now.. I have struggled with masturbation also.. you have to depend on God and set boundaries.. i can relate to when you said that your celibacy was tied to your identity..in my celibacy journey I’ve been guilty of making my celibacy journey my identity.. I don’t brag about being celibate anymore cuz I can fall short!!! I try to stay humble and cry out to God cause we need him!!! We can’t do this without him.. thank for this video!!! You’re soo pretty ❤ keep doing big things for God!!
good evening I am a 26 year old girl. and I have been single since I was 23 so since then I have been sinking into pornography and masturbation almost every night before going to bed. please I feel alone with these sins
I went 5 years, the biggest mistake I’ve made was breaking that commitment, I gave the devil leverage in my life, and now I’m paying for it in more ways than one
@@TwilaRob-yj1jn but God is a restorer so don’t think everything is punishment bc that how we fall into victim mindset. You are still blessed and highly favored in spite of your mistakes
32:07 OMG! This sounds like me, literally. I would always buy them then throw them away. I prayed to God to make me disgusted with the act. Till this day, I am disgusted with porn and masturbation. Even if I wanted to indulge in the sin, I can’t. I literally get sick from it. I was tempted last week but I told myself “nah, I made it this far!” I took a nap instead
Not even a week ago, I fell into my old habits again after abstaining. Literally what you described with falling to desires, and convincing myself that if i’m not sexually active, it’s ok to self indulge. I’ve been feeling the shame and guilt of my sin and thought that my relapse somehow meant God thinks of me as a lost cause. This video conveniently taught me that what I’m experiencing isn’t rare and is defeatable. The devil is certainly working 24/7. Thank you for reminding me to stay vigilant and that God will never stop loving all of us. Your testimonies are truly beautiful. 💗
good evening I am a 26 year old girl. and I have been single since I was 23 so since then I have been sinking into pornography and masturbation almost every night before going to bed. please I feel alone with these sins
By far the best most relatable testimony. I gave my life to the Lord 3 years ago. I’ve been single 4 years. Every 11 months I fell with the same man. A man I’ve known for 6 years. Barely no boundaries with him. He isn’t even saved. He used to be nice until I got saved. The soul tie was so strong. The emotional turmoil is wicked.
the same way men say they feel “post ___ clarity” - I believe women feel it MORE and deeper. they feel it in the flesh, we feel it in the flesh and soul. Almost instantly after or even during the act, I feel the consequences.. I’m not a person who masturbates - I don’t drink or smoke but that didn’t stop me from my past mistakes. I still cringe from thinking about the past - I am working on forgiving myself because HE said he would forgive me. God is kind, loving and his arms are open. Pray for me to release this shame of the past. I’ve been celibate for one year - I have not dated anyone either in that year, Pray that I keep my walk with God strong that nobody or anything is able to trip me up. Love the authenticity in the comments and video- the last person I was with sends me messages every now and then and I stopped replying. I’m turned off by how we left off, I try to focus on the future not my current emotions. “How will you feel after you throw away the time you put into this commitment with God?” Yes we can pray and start over - but taking time to step back and think before we act is very helpful.
Amen sis! Thank you for releasing this message and being transparent! I went through a very similar situation and I was celibate for 4 years. When you go back to something God sets you free from it is literally a nightmare and torcher! Don't ever go back into bondage! Stay in the spirit, in the presence of God, true freedom and never give up the joy and peace of the Lord! All glory to Jesus Christ, for always making a way out of no way!!!!🩵🙌
Sis can I SAY. that teaching… pastoral grace is upon you. I can SEE IT and I glorify GOD. When you said ‘ let me not get into my message’ I said HEYY let’s go🎉🎉🎉😌🙌🏾 preach preacher !
I loved how raw and honest you were in this video. lust is such hard thing to overcome especially when dealing with soul ties. it starts to become such a burden. but this video genuinely blessed me and I feel was almost a reminder from God regarding my EX...Thank you sis.
I don't normally comment on videos, but I just had to thank you for being obedient to Christ in sharing your testimony. I was crying my eyes out throughout this video because I could relate to EVERY detail of your story (self-righteousness in abstaining, after years of waiting falling for someone who wouldn't commit, feeling convicted then lost but still praying to God to make a way in the midst of my struggle etc). Its been just under a month since I fell, so I'm still at the very early stages of giving it to God and allowing him to heal and restore me. This walk can feel so lonely at times. The enemy will really try to convince you that your the only one struggling & you're not a true follower of Christ because of your mistakes, but hearing this story reminded me of 1 Peter 5:9, that in essence all believers are going through the same sufferings/ struggles! Then following that in verse 10, we can be comforted in knowing that God will restore us and make us strong, firm and steadfast. God bless you
@@XB5luvaforlifey96X thank you🙌🏾🩷 I remember feeling so alone when I was trying to heal and come out of this situation. I use to search UA-cam videos hoping to find someone with my exact testimony and it was very rare. I was so desperate to to be free from shame, bondage and pain I was even dm’ing people I didn’t know just to get advice. So I’m glad to be used as a vessel to promote goodness of God
good evening. I have also been single for almost 5 years. and I don't know how to overcome the urges. and I sink into pornography and masturbation I don't know if it's the same on your side or how do you manage this celibacy without masturbation please. help me. I feel alone in this. thank you.
I was celibate for 8 months 😢and gave in to someone god delivered me from too. I felt soooooooo low! I felt sooooooo worthless after that. I really felt ashamed all that hard work went out the window I was so angry. I wanted to just end it all. I felt ashamed like god was mad at me. Then god intervened, if you fall get back up and go even harder! Don’t stop, even if you felt like it set you back, it didn’t. You get better and better each time . Now I know that I can do it, I also know how it felt to fall off that. I don’t wanna feel that again❤️
I almost had a baby with my soul tie since I was 16 to 28…. Wooo chile when I say I’m BEGGGING God to break that soul tie, every year… like clock work. Alone for 5 minutes and boom. So yeah God has been putting purity and celibacy on my heart and I know it’s God because I wouldn’t have chosen this BY MYSELF, Amen. Im here for this~ thank you for your vulnerability 🌸🌷💕
I watched this video about a week ago and I took it as a warning and liked it because it made me feel less alone in this journey. Then yesterday, or rather very early this morning, after years of abstinence, I broke my commitment. It hurts so much! I feel like a failure. I took this video as a warning and still failed to resist. I feel ashamed. I'm terrified, disappointed, sad, embarrassed, etc. I'm writing this comment under my alias because of the shame, but I came back to this video for comfort and to feel less alone. Thank you for sharing your story. I needed it.
good evening. I have also been single for almost 5 years. and I don't know how to overcome the urges. and I sink into pornography and masturbation I don't know if it's the same on your side or how do you manage this celibacy without masturbation please. help me. I feel alone in this. thank you.
@@ShantiPrefinah You are not alone. I've had to overcome the urges before, and it wasn't easy, but after continuously resisting, the urges ceased. [7] Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7 ESV I hope this helps. God bless you.
@@ShantiPrefinah I have struggled with sexual immortality for years before I realized God can free me. I think you need to realize that we were created for God. this means we need to crucify our flesh and submit to the WILL of God. The Lord doesn't want you to be in bondage. When you satisfy your fresh and cravings, you are not doing what's pleasing to the Lord. we should try to strive in honouring the Lord in ALL we do - our speech, and also what we do with our bodies. we know watching porn and satisfying our sexual desires does NOT glorify God - it glorifies self. You have to decide and make the choice that you want to please God more than yourself. This world teaches us to do what feels good and whatever makes you happy. The Bible is not religion, it's an instruction manual with principles and guidance that will lead us to life. If we are on our own, it will lead to death. think about all the shame and condemnation you feel after you give in to these desires and know that it is straight from the enemy who wants you trapped in this cycle. he also wants you to believe that GOD can't free you from this bondage - WRONG. Don't be a slave to sin. Once you decide that you need help from God, He will meet you halfway. Cry out to Him and He will give you strength. But you have to really identify the root of this sin, otherwise it won't work. Jesus came to crucify his flesh and break us free. He has already forgiven you. Repentance means to turn away from the sin; go in the opposite direction. Run to the Father and he will sustain you and change those desires. Ask Him to change the desires of your heart and line them up with His desires. Just know, God sees you and He KNOWS how hard this life is. If you place your trust in Him, He will NEVER let you down. He always return to you more than you could ever asked think or imagine. God bless
This is the gospel that they're not teaching in churches. This is what this generation needs to hear. Thank you. Thank you. Keep teaching the real salvation of Christ. So many things I identify with, as a single, Native Black American, 39 year old woman, with no children. We need this . Also, listen at some of John Hagee sermons. The 7 wonders of hll , it will bless you.
vanessa, thank you for following God's call and posting this. the spiritual warfare is real. i was able to take notes on this video & remind myself i am only human & i make mistakes. like you said, we can't do it alone & we can't depend on our willpower because we're still human! God is God! not us! God bless you on your journey🥹❤️
Awesome, powerful testimony! You and I have similar experiences. I had been celibate for about a year (either a little over or a little under a year) and I fell February of last year. I went into a deep, dark depression that lasted for a very long time. I’ve currently been celibate 18 months and I refuse to put myself in that situation situation again! I pray that you remain steadfast on this journey. You got this! ♥️✨
This came in such a perfect time! God delivered me from the father of my child but I found myself intimate with him again 8 months ago and I went through such a heartbreaking journey after as he chose to be with someone else to which God has helped me go through and just as a breakthrough came of truly letting go within and levelling up he has now come back and the temptation of sexual immorality is so strong because its whats so familiar but the realisation of what God has delivered me from and that God has such great things ahead for me and it's promised is so much stronger!
@@Elmarija definitely being in prayer and also setting up the boundaries because if he’s trying to come back in your life, but it’s not doing anything new like actually putting a ring on your finger actually getting married there’s nothing to discuss. There’s no relationship that needs to be built because y’all already know each other so what’s the holdup?
Hang in there 🙏🏾❤️ sometimes when we have already had sex with someone and especially if we have a child with someone it seems ok to have sex with them again. I’ve been there. Pray and seek God and ask him to keep you strong.
My God. God knew EXACTLY what he was doing when he made this the first video. Praying for strength to resist and keep going. Thank you for this Vanessa, truly 💜
Thank you for this. I recently fell weak to sexual temptation after a year of abstinence and I feel conviction because i got saved in June. I am struggling with wanting everything in my Christian walk to be perfect and I know it won't be but I do want ti keep trying even though I feel completely lost.
Thank you for sharing we overcome by the power of our testimonies was lukewarm most of my life got truly save in 2023 and been celibate for a year and fell I really thought I was strong in that area but were no longer under condemnation I pray we all endure and boundaries is key 📌📌📌📌
This video is completely life changing, thank you for having the courage and i thank holy spirit for giving you the courage to post your testimony & where you fell. They say in the bible a person falls 7 times but they get back up again! You completely opened my eyes, Thank you God for putting this on my fyp, ive struggle with this sin for 26 years and im completely ready to let go after being used, abused, two children out of wedlock. I wanted to please people so bad so they wouldnt leave due to fear of abandonment, but now i see that pleasing God is way more important & ive seen the horrible effects fornication and masturbation brings on you physically, mentally, and emotionally its not worth it. I know God loves me and he's been calling me to stop & stop being so fixated on a husband, i didnt want to be a single mom but it's a consequence of my actions that i have to deal with and focus on my purpose and being a mama, because children either way are a gift from God. I saw this right on time after starting my abstinent journey and recently fell and got ghosted after expressing a behavior i didnt like. In due time, God willing i might get a husband but even if i dont i'll still be satisfied with Jesus. All Glory goes to him! 🤍 Thank you sis, seriously.
@@mtay__2218 love how you are self aware and take full accountability for actions that’s good. It’s so important to repent of these things and than live a life free. You said you might get get a husband, you should declare it and if it’s his will it will happen but you have to first believe it’s for you. I’m pray that keep being strong on this journey and remain steadfast.
Thank you for sharing because I am going through this and it’s been very hard. I feel so lost and I’ve been so hard on myself. This cycle has been going on for the past year. I keep trying to break free of this cycle but still I find myself in it
This video showed up more than once and I’m glad I clicked on it today.. I’ve been celibate for a little over 5 years and there is this man in my life who is patient and doesn’t even mention sex.. i think you’re right, it’s me who has those dormant desires. This man isn’t tempting me.. I still have work to do
First, thank you for sharing your testimony. Secondly, I went through something similar. It felt like I was listening to someone tell my testimony. Lastly, I pray that God continues to help you fight off the spirit of lust, perversion and anything that will make you fall into sin again. In Jesus name, AMEN! Stay strong beautiful! 💞
Thank you…SO much. I didn’t watch the full video yet, but I can say that I broke my celibacy of a year and a few months…and felt so much shame afterwards, as if the Lord wouldn’t take me back. But, I still have hope!! So thank you so much for posting this!
This happened to me two weeks. I regretted it instantly! I couldn’t sleep due to the regret and then at church I cried to god forgiveness. I’ve been praying forgiveness. I also asked god to give me signs that this person isn’t meant for me and he answered today. I never want to go back or be with someone I’m not meant to be with. This video has helped me and I’ll be thanking god tonight. All I can say is that god shows us the signs but we keep overlooking them. The devil will test us coz we get so bold thinking we’ll never go back or do ungodly things. These men don’t care, it took me so long to be right with god, my body and myself… it wasn’t worth it. Stay blessed and stay humble.
I'm so glad you popped up on my yt, this is so relatable. It's hard being celibate while watching everyone else around you being in relationships having sex outside of marriage I feel of my celibacy journey too after 3 years now I'm starting over. Btw you are stunning may you continue to make content that uplifts and inspires a new generation.
Great Word!🙌🏾. New subscriber. Girl, I understand about falling back🤦🏾♀️. I’m on the same journey!!! The twisted part is that we actually pray together and both love the Lord!!!! Staying away is the best decision. It’s been only a few weeks, but with God, I will come out of the furnace without smelling like smoke!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾. I won’t answer the text! Love your content!🥰
God has used you to open my eyes about a situation I was playing with. 2 years of celibacy almost wasted on a man that would hurt me..thank you for being honest and being deliberate with your explanation because I was right THERE. I'm turning back to God now. Another big revelation is that God is the one that empowers me to honour Him and stay celibate..it's not me that has the strength to do this on my own. Thank you.
First of all, I'd like to say thank you: for your vulnerability, your open-mindedness, your transparency too. It can't have been easy to share this with people most of whom you don't even know. However, our Father is wonderful and infinitely merciful, your repentance is sincere and He has already forgiven you. Give thanks already for all the goodness this mistake will bring forth. Because yes, through you, many Christians will be wiser. I have been immensely blessed, thank you again once again.
This is so Good Thank you! I had the strongest soul tied ! Got baptized and I felt like God had delivered . Started to entertain the person God had delivered me from thought I was strong enough not to fall back into the same trap and I did! This video have given me so much conformation ! Thank you 🙏🏽
Listennnnnn when you get baptized you the enemy attacks you with the last thing you struggled with, I fell after being baptized but that’s what prompted me to feel the conviction so strong that I desired to stop and obey
Thank you Jesus for your daughter and her love for You. She is using her testimony to glorify You and save others who are suffering from the same situation. Thank you Vanessa, your words bring healing Jesus knows His children need to hear in order to turn back to Him instead of shame and destructive patterns. ❤
I can relate!!!! I been struggling with my abstinence journey as well , at one point I went 2 years and then broke it in July 2023 . When I tell you I bawled my eyes out , I was so disappointed and the conviction was all over me . I was down in the dumps , felt shame , and wouldn’t talk to GOD . Finally , I got over it and decided to start over I felt like the first go round GOD wasn’t in the center of my decision to abstain . I brought myself a promise ring and I started over , 6 months after I broke it again . Long story short and I’m sad to say it’s been about 2 weeks since I’ve broke my promise again 😫. At this point I don’t trust my decision making , I felt like I have no purpose in life , I feel shame , and I didn’t feel like I could even ask GOD for forgiveness . Im learning that when trying to live for Christ the temptation only gets stronger it doesn’t just go away because you decide to live for GOD .
@@paigesmith3798Ive been there, just give it all to God let him lead you. Focus on him and being In love with and married to Christ because we are his bride. If you think of it that way, it’s harder to cheat on Jesus who died for you. Maybe you can try deliverance as well maybe there is a spirit of lust.
I'm praying for you girl and all of us wanting to please God by honoring our bodies. I realized it's about trusting God, if we trust him we can trust himthat s3x in marriage will be better than having it outside of it, we can trust that he will help us find the right spouse. We can trust him that life is still fulfilled and wonderful without physical pleasure. Trust God stay in his word and ask God for help knowing how to date without s3x. All the best y'all, God is with us ❤
Girl your story spoke to me I just been through this exact thing been celibate for 3yrs and fell with the same man I prayed to God to keep me away from. I'm still going through 5he emotions cause it ended the same way and I am beating myself up.
@@jdtamikaadams4855 good morning sis do not beat yourself up that’s what I did and it made me continue living a life of sin, turn to God, repent and dive into your word get in community: church that preaches sound doctrine and most importantly forgive yourself
I can imagine what you went through after keeping yourself all that long n just to be back . The devil is a liar . I stayed for two months and slept with someone I was so broken n disappointed with myself now am just imagining what five years can do to me 😅thanks sis thank for this I needed it . Thank you God bless you we serve a God of many chances
Ahhh I needed this !! My current situation 😭 I said we can be friends. It took only a day alone with him for me to realize my heart was not in the right posture. I ended it 😭 but this man stay coming back. This time around I became so drained and was just over it.
Girl, you need to know how much I needed to hear this. This video quite literally saved my life. Thank, no seriously THANK YOU. I NEEDED this. God spoke to me through you. You're changing lives here! Your testimony saves lives. Thank you 😭💗💗💗✝️🙏🏻🌷🌷🌷
Girl your story ...I felt like you were speaking about my life.... Thank you WOG for your transparency and your Testimony ❤ I needed this 🙏🏾 continue to be a blessing 🙌🏽
I’m so glad you shared this !!! I felt like you was telling my life story this WHOLE video 🥹 it’s definitely not by accident that I came across this video . I felt all the conviction n God definitely used you to get through to me !! Thank God for you obedience n boldness to share ❤️🫶🏾
This video is my life right now. I feel like God is speaking to me thru you.. I was on my journey for 6.5 years and I just met someone 6 months ago and gave in after trying to keep boundaries. He wasn’t the one and I had been praying that God would end it since it was so hard for me to. It ended yesterday, and as much as it’s hard I thank God for freedom because it’s tormenting to try and please God and flesh at the same time. Plus I was allowing everything but the penetration for the first little while too 😭.
This is a beautiful video!! I've recently divorced and I too am a on that journey. It's not easy but empowering. And you're right God does not condone sexual immorality. not immortality. That's two different meanings sis
It's the fact I gave into temptation of 3 years celibacy for someone who was not deserving 🥴...will not dwell though and needed this message. ❤ Thank you, love this!
I needed this video in more ways that I will allow myself to admit! You literally described my battle! Please pray for me! I’m officially 1 week and 3 days celibate and 1 week and 3 days sober! ❤
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your transparency. I needed this. I’m going through this now. I keep trying leave this person and I keep falling. I thought it was too late and God didn’t love me anymore. But God. ❤
I’m going through this struggle right now and was about to fall again. This video just popped up and I’m grateful that I clicked on it. Thank you so much!
I needed to hear this right now and that I'm not the only one going through this. You have such beautiful energy that you radiate its felt miles away even here in the Balkans. May God continue to bless you in everything you do, in Jesus mighty name! ❤
So glad you brought out that we need not to think that we are that powerful. It is good to remember that we are just flesh and the enemy is way more powerful than we are. We are living in his world so we literally need God to fight for us.
16:00 the devil and the demons decieve but God gives confirmations that is why we always have to align everything with His Word and Prayer and He gives us Peace about it 😊❤❤
❤ thank you for this awesome message- I myself in a that journey of no sex 🙌🏾I refuse to let anyone who don’t mean anything get the best of me I rather be alone then to be with a man who don’t value my values 🙌🏾🙏
19:10 God made sure she was safe, and that she got to her destination even though she was on her way to sin😂😂😂 This literally took me out, because the number of times it's happened to mee...!!Countless I just came across this video, loving every bit of it❤
*ATTENTION: I deleted a clip from the beginning of the video where I explained the difference between abstinence vs celibacy, as I looked up the word celibacy it states at that time- Celibacy can mean both being unmarried and sexual abstinence, but not all people who practice celibacy abstain from marriage.
I DO NOT WANT TO STEER SOMEONE IN THE WRONG DIRECTION! Or be responsible for any word curses so please when praying please seek after the Lord’s guidance. Use the word abstinence when speaking about waiting for marriage instead of celibacy. I hope I made myself clear
I have been misusing the words 😕. Thank you for making this clear.
Thanks for caring and taking the time to clarify this sis. I really enjoyed watching the whole video after coming across it randomly.
You're blessed 🙌 ...and your makeup is 💯 👌
I understand Celibacy to be abstaining from sex and to never marry. Nuns and Priest take a vow of Celibacy. I use abstinence now because I desire marriage.
@@keepthefaithwithtori my understanding as well. One can abstain from ANYTHING (food, internet usage, sex) but a vow of celibacy pertains directly to sex which in the kingdom of Christ is only had within marriage anyway 🤷🏾♀️
@@JustBee03amen sis 🙏🏾❤️
I did that too after 2 years but now I’m going on 3 years and recently changed the term from “waiting till marriage” to honoring God with my body.
I also have done that switch with terminology it has been a game changer for me. Because I need to be doing that everyday, and if God blesses me with a husband, I still need to be honoring Jesus with my body in marriage. Purity doesn't end when a ring is on nope it’s a constant deveotion to the Lord. Our sin impacts ourselves and others and so does our devotion to the Lord!
Amen❤
Yes!! It’s literally a mindset shift!!
Amen
Amen. I use both terms depending on the context in a conversation. I start off by saying my commitment is to honor God with my body and for that reason in doing so I decided to wait until marriage.
“God, this time around I want it to hurt so bad that I never comeback” … BOLD and dangerous prayer but I love it
@@Tsunamilott veryyyyyyy
Yes it was very bold! 😅 God does answer prayers!
said this prayer in my last relationship. I’m now married to my husband. timing is so intentional❤️
i asked a similar thing that God would brand me from this kind of thing, it was a hellish 3 yrs but I learned my lesson and I can fully say I've been branded and I'm in freedom . That was a great prayer!
For starters, let us applaud this beautiful woman of God for posting this testimony. She is helping people who made this mistake. I would also like to add please don't be quick to judge. This could happen to you. There is no condemnation in Christ Jesus. Also, pride comes before the fall. Some people get amnesia when God finally calls them out of sin. Let's be humble and remember not too long ago, we were lukewarm and or up close and personal with the enemy.
@@DanaeLaurenTolbert thank you sis🩷🫶🏾🙌🏾
Beautifully said!!
I was abstinent for 4 years and I fell once not too long ago. I CRIEDDDDD. NEVER AGAIN.
You got this Sis!! You are covered by the blood of JESUS!! He walks with you and forgives you!! You can push forward!! 🥰
Was celibate for years going for 4 years and also fell 3 weeks ago I cried so much I will never again too. Thank God for his mercy.
Be encouraged sisters xo God's love covers our faults and shirt falls ! U will be forgiven - press on 💜💜💜💜💜
I LOVE you sis!!! You are worthy of a wonderful man of God!!! Praying for you!!!
I’ve been waiting for 7 years and still waiting on God to send me my husband❤ but some man walked into my life and almost made me break my celibacy, he wanted sex,But God helped me hold on, and I’m still holding on until marriage in Jesus name🙏
Well, what a testimony I pray that I can be that strong
So proud of you beautiful! 🙌🏽🎉🎉
What if you don’t get married
Proud of YOU!!!
Did he leave you because you didn’t want to be intimate with him ?
I hate the enemy he attacks when you’re the weakest.
YES!!! I hate him too!!! BUT GOD…we do have the VICTORY!!! 🙏🏾
I HATE him with a passion sis!!! BUT GOD…we are more than conquerors!!!
Yes!!!!
That's called a coward!!! 🙏🏾
Smh. 😢
Satan is sneaky. Don't underestimate the flesh. Absolutely no Netflix and chillin y'all!
Periodddddd, I’m not even staying out past a certain time
Thank you ❤
Same here.
I'm CONFIDENT you will be found by a true man of God. You will marry & have a phenomenal testimony.
Fasting, praying and worshiping the Lord, humbly asking Him to free you from lust, perversion, and lukewarmness will break the spirits off a person. And as well keeping the boundaries Vanessa discussed here. Cry out to Jesus and tell Him you want to honor HIM in every way. He really honors those that turn down the plate and seek him wholeheartedly. Jesus understands first hand how difficult fasting is. I’m a new sub, and really enjoy your content even as a married woman. God bless you WOG! James 4:8, Hebrews 4:15-16, John 14:15-31 ❤
Masturbation and abstaining is a slippery slope. My understanding and life experience, When we abstain from masturbation it cleanses our thoughts of temptations of not having a sensation or feeling that mimics the idea of sex. Some may think because there's zero penetration then masturbation, oral, and foreplay is a pass to participate. Telling God and ourselves that we are committing to waiting is devoting all the desires and self-pleasures and that's when step by step God gives us the strength when we feel tempted. You will get to the point that the thought of turning against your commitment and participating in that act is off limits. The enemy will tempt you, but you'll find strength in the midst of it and then the urge goes away.
Thnak you so much for this. I have recently started my journey of waling with Jehovah seriously and this was something I was struggling with, I keep falling back to masturbation and it makes me feel worse than before. I am more motivated to keep moving.
This message is for me. My fiancé was the one that helped me in my celibacy journey. We prayed together, he supported me and held me accountable. I had never in my life abstained from sex but we both are now together until we are married 3/1/25!!! I just wanted to be pleasing to God and treat my body as the temple, having meaningless interactions will hold you back from his blessings.
@@MrsCulpepper congratulations 🩷🫶🏾🙌🏾 and yesss
Each time I hear you pronounce sexual morality as sexual mortality, I realize God wanted me and others to hear it as it is, and that is death to the soul. And in many cases to the body with diseases that are incurable. His word said the wages of sin is death. It hit.
Thank you for sharing.
@@MarNicole76 wowwwwwwwwwww now that is deep thank you for your comment. I was beating myself up the whole time. I was editing because I know how to pronounce the word and I can’t believe the whole entire video. I was pronouncing it wrong.
But this is what God wanted everyone to hear
@@Vanessa_Elaine yes, it is! You’re most welcome.
I thought the same thing!
I actually had a similar thought!
I let him spin the block this second time after I cut him off. Initially I didn’t have my boundaries in place. I was pretty much a “yes woman” to him. He came back consistent, putting in the effort, only 1 date in since May. He got cold recently, and ghosted me, it’s been 10days since we’ve talked. So I blocked him(no need for closure).I am so proud of myself for not giving up my body again, he didn’t deserve it. God knows I wanted to, but I stayed obedient. But still have the urge. All they do is fantasy talk, actions don’t match their words. Alcohol really was my issue. I left it behind bc when I do, those spirits wake up. There was just never peace between us. Always conflict(def God protecting me). Also music, and tv shows I no longer watch or listen too,they bring nothing but temptation!
Ty for this ❤
same here! I realized they never change, they might for a little bit to try to reel you back in- but when someone shows you their true character- we must believe it! ❤
The same here you are not a lone girl
Continue to go no contact and never look back bc he will only hurt you again! You got this girl 💪🏾 🙏🏾❤️
@@LuxeSuy you’re not alone girly! Stay strong! One thing that really helps me to let go of my ex who I know is a call and question away from ‘satisfying my sexual urges’ is that on this difficult pathway of obedience is a huge blessing and that is promised. Stepping away helped me to re-recognise my value and my worth & theirs something so powerful about finding it in God! Obeying what God tells or shows us to do isn’t always easy BUT it protects us, gives us peace and in this situation saves us for the person who deserves our goodness & will value it & so much more that we wont even be able to count. Stay strong girly🩷
@@ElmarijaAmen! There’s something so empowering about walking away and finding our value in Christ! Really makes you feel like a high value woman that ain’t settling for less than God’s best! 💅🏽👸
This is the type of message single people need to hear. I can totally relate as i am on the same journey. I would like to point out that there are so many women on an abstinence journey trying SO hard to honor God with their bodies. Sadly until more men start practicing the same thing and view sexual immorality as a sin, we will continue to feel frustrated as single women. Many women keep falling into temptation because they are not meeting any men that are practicing abstinence. I pray God raises up more men that lead in the area of purity so women won't continue on this cycle of falling into sexual sin or choosing singleness. At this point we have to admit that abstinence in the Christian community is more encouraged amongst women than men and that is a problem!
I love what you’re saying sis and agree 100%! I will say that I am proud of the progress that we’ve made as women really pressing in to honor God with our bodies. If all of us can continue to band together with this, men will have no choice but to get themselves together and marry us just like in the old days these guys had to have some money and marry the woman if they wanted to have sex. We are the gatekeepers 🙌🏽💯❤️
So true!
This happened to me 2 weeks ago. After being celibate for 5 years from my ex as well. God delivered me from him. I have been trying to bring myself up from this shame and pain. I was ghosted which makes the process harder.
You got this sis. I know its harder said then done because of where you're mental. Take it from me . Get up dusty the shame off because Jesus took that. Dont prolong running to God, because devil want you to stay there. Stand up and adjust your crown. I love you and eventually you will get stronger.
@@InThisSeasonOfFaith❤❤❤ AMEN
@@marinaavant lol seriously need to spell check
Oh no! 😥 that is tough! We ALL fall and WILL get back up again 🙏🏾❤️
@@destinybenavidez2996 I went through this exact same thing in November last year and am STILL recovering I was extremely depressed and in pain and am now only starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel so I can only imagine how you must be feeling. Stay strong & work on yourself! Find your value and worth in christ & do not beat yourself up for your mistake, we all make them. Confess to God what you did & whatever pain and hurt you feel in the aftermath and ask him to heal you and know that its a journey n it wont be easy but you will come out stronger, wiser and ultimately better! There are consequences for what we do I knew I shouldn’t had slept with him, God had delivered me from him but in the heat of the moment I gave into my feelings and it started this journey. I regretted sleeping with him cos then I wouldn’t have had to go through this heartbreaking valley but bc of how great God is he turned my mistake and the consequences into a journey where i’ve learnt things i would’ve never learnt, i’m so much stronger and wiser and its pushed me to a place of purpose. My ex had contacted me last month after 6 months no contact wanting to try again and although my feelings wanted it I knew he didn’t deserve this new version of me so I told him I still loved him as I do but I let him go as he is not the one for me and left him on seen. God is a great God who can turn your consequences from a mistake he warned and delivered you from already and turn it into something so great that you can’t even imagine Romans 8:28 and its a promise! Anyone’s inability to love or value you is in NO way a reflection of you or what you bring but a reflection of them and what they are only limited to see. You might be going through a dark valley but your story doesn’t end there. Stay strong sister🩷
Girl i fell after 3 years!! The connection i had with an individual was so strong that i felt this person was my husband, the enemy is cunning and we must always be aware of his schemes. When you create a soul tie with an individual, not only do you become 1 but you take on the same demons that they are fighting!! ladies and gentlemen STOP PLAYING with sin!! 5 minutes of pleasure is not worth years of deliverance
I loved this, we have so many similarities in our journey. I was celibate for 3 and a half years and gave my body to someone who didn't even value me like that. I deleted and blocked him and I have since been celibate for over a year and I don't even use toys anymore. I keep reminding myself that no man deserves my body except for my husband.
Amen! Good for you!
I needed this detailed story. Omg i laugh and cried. This is a serious struggle when transitioning in our walk. Be strong, yall. With the strength of the Lord, we could do this.❤❤❤❤
@@linglang7322 yesss🙌🏾
You so real for this🤣❤ I sure laughed and cried also
❤❤❤❤❤ Im 38 and I’ve been celibate/ abstinence for 8 years now.. I have struggled with masturbation also.. you have to depend on God and set boundaries.. i can relate to when you said that your celibacy was tied to your identity..in my celibacy journey I’ve been guilty of making my celibacy journey my identity.. I don’t brag about being celibate anymore cuz I can fall short!!! I try to stay humble and cry out to God cause we need him!!! We can’t do this without him.. thank for this video!!! You’re soo pretty ❤ keep doing big things for God!!
I’m 38 and have been celibate for 4 yrs. Stay strong 🙏🏾❤️
@@brittanyb5942 yes ma’am ❤️
That was me too in my younger years then it happened now I’m back and I need to repent of it again. 😢God I just want to please you.
good evening I am a 26 year old girl. and I have been single since I was 23 so since then I have been sinking into pornography and masturbation almost every night before going to bed. please I feel alone with these sins
I went 5 years, the biggest mistake I’ve made was breaking that commitment, I gave the devil leverage in my life, and now I’m paying for it in more ways than one
@@TwilaRob-yj1jn but God is a restorer so don’t think everything is punishment bc that how we fall into victim mindset. You are still blessed and highly favored in spite of your mistakes
“The enemy is tempting you with what’s already inside of you.” 34:40 that’s an eye opener!
32:07 OMG! This sounds like me, literally. I would always buy them then throw them away. I prayed to God to make me disgusted with the act. Till this day, I am disgusted with porn and masturbation. Even if I wanted to indulge in the sin, I can’t. I literally get sick from it. I was tempted last week but I told myself “nah, I made it this far!” I took a nap instead
I’ve been there as well 😔 it’s a constant battle.
Amen! I pray this over me in jesus name.
I can relate to this too!! It feels good knowing I’m not the only one who has done this.
Baby them naps will get you right when you feel lustful
Not even a week ago, I fell into my old habits again after abstaining. Literally what you described with falling to desires, and convincing myself that if i’m not sexually active, it’s ok to self indulge. I’ve been feeling the shame and guilt of my sin and thought that my relapse somehow meant God thinks of me as a lost cause. This video conveniently taught me that what I’m experiencing isn’t rare and is defeatable. The devil is certainly working 24/7. Thank you for reminding me to stay vigilant and that God will never stop loving all of us. Your testimonies are truly beautiful. 💗
good evening I am a 26 year old girl. and I have been single since I was 23 so since then I have been sinking into pornography and masturbation almost every night before going to bed. please I feel alone with these sins
Thanks for being so real and sharing your testimony . I have been in some situations because I didn't think I was good enough
By far the best most relatable testimony. I gave my life to the Lord 3 years ago. I’ve been single 4 years. Every 11 months I fell with the same man. A man I’ve known for 6 years. Barely no boundaries with him. He isn’t even saved. He used to be nice until I got saved. The soul tie was so strong. The emotional turmoil is wicked.
This came RIGHT on time 🙌🏾
the same way men say they feel “post ___ clarity” - I believe women feel it MORE and deeper. they feel it in the flesh, we feel it in the flesh and soul. Almost instantly after or even during the act, I feel the consequences.. I’m not a person who masturbates - I don’t drink or smoke but that didn’t stop me from my past mistakes. I still cringe from thinking about the past - I am working on forgiving myself because HE said he would forgive me. God is kind, loving and his arms are open. Pray for me to release this shame of the past. I’ve been celibate for one year - I have not dated anyone either in that year, Pray that I keep my walk with God strong that nobody or anything is able to trip me up. Love the authenticity in the comments and video- the last person I was with sends me messages every now and then and I stopped replying. I’m turned off by how we left off, I try to focus on the future not my current emotions. “How will you feel after you throw away the time you put into this commitment with God?” Yes we can pray and start over - but taking time to step back and think before we act is very helpful.
I believe we as women feel things on a greater level as well especially when we do things we know we aren’t supposed to be doing.
8:35
1 corinthians 10:12
“So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!”
praise God for sustaining and helping us always 😊❤❤
Amen sis! Thank you for releasing this message and being transparent! I went through a very similar situation and I was celibate for 4 years. When you go back to something God sets you free from it is literally a nightmare and torcher! Don't ever go back into bondage! Stay in the spirit, in the presence of God, true freedom and never give up the joy and peace of the Lord! All glory to Jesus Christ, for always making a way out of no way!!!!🩵🙌
I agree! The guilt is so bad that you just want to die. It’s best to abstain and stay away from temptation as much as possible!
Amen!
aesthetics are giving sis😍😍 loving the quality content ‼️
@@atokmajur9767 thank you 🩷
Sis can I SAY. that teaching… pastoral grace is upon you. I can SEE IT and I glorify GOD.
When you said ‘ let me not get into my message’ I said HEYY let’s go🎉🎉🎉😌🙌🏾 preach preacher !
@@Yourfavekee My Lord 😫🙌🏾
I loved how raw and honest you were in this video. lust is such hard thing to overcome especially when dealing with soul ties. it starts to become such a burden. but this video genuinely blessed me and I feel was almost a reminder from God regarding my EX...Thank you sis.
I don't normally comment on videos, but I just had to thank you for being obedient to Christ in sharing your testimony. I was crying my eyes out throughout this video because I could relate to EVERY detail of your story (self-righteousness in abstaining, after years of waiting falling for someone who wouldn't commit, feeling convicted then lost but still praying to God to make a way in the midst of my struggle etc). Its been just under a month since I fell, so I'm still at the very early stages of giving it to God and allowing him to heal and restore me. This walk can feel so lonely at times. The enemy will really try to convince you that your the only one struggling & you're not a true follower of Christ because of your mistakes, but hearing this story reminded me of 1 Peter 5:9, that in essence all believers are going through the same sufferings/ struggles! Then following that in verse 10, we can be comforted in knowing that God will restore us and make us strong, firm and steadfast. God bless you
@@XB5luvaforlifey96X thank you🙌🏾🩷 I remember feeling so alone when I was trying to heal and come out of this situation. I use to search UA-cam videos hoping to find someone with my exact testimony and it was very rare. I was so desperate to to be free from shame, bondage and pain I was even dm’ing people I didn’t know just to get advice. So I’m glad to be used as a vessel to promote goodness of God
Woooow bless your honesty, I didn’t even think that me being celibate could be idolization, but I definitely see how. God Bless you
Thank you for your story. Fell off my purity journey also. I was 8 years celibate 😭 BUT I’m back on it. Definitely moving smarter moving forward 🫶🏽
good evening. I have also been single for almost 5 years. and I don't know how to overcome the urges. and I sink into pornography and masturbation I don't know if it's the same on your side or how do you manage this celibacy without masturbation please. help me. I feel alone in this. thank you.
I was celibate for 8 months 😢and gave in to someone god delivered me from too. I felt soooooooo low! I felt sooooooo worthless after that. I really felt ashamed all that hard work went out the window I was so angry. I wanted to just end it all. I felt ashamed like god was mad at me. Then god intervened, if you fall get back up and go even harder! Don’t stop, even if you felt like it set you back, it didn’t. You get better and better each time . Now I know that I can do it, I also know how it felt to fall off that. I don’t wanna feel that again❤️
I almost had a baby with my soul tie since I was 16 to 28…. Wooo chile when I say I’m BEGGGING God to break that soul tie, every year… like clock work. Alone for 5 minutes and boom. So yeah God has been putting purity and celibacy on my heart and I know it’s God because I wouldn’t have chosen this BY MYSELF, Amen. Im here for this~ thank you for your vulnerability 🌸🌷💕
@@savannahmuniz3421 those soul ties will have you chains for real😫 but thank God for deliverance 🙌🏾
Amen!
I watched this video about a week ago and I took it as a warning and liked it because it made me feel less alone in this journey. Then yesterday, or rather very early this morning, after years of abstinence, I broke my commitment. It hurts so much! I feel like a failure. I took this video as a warning and still failed to resist. I feel ashamed. I'm terrified, disappointed, sad, embarrassed, etc. I'm writing this comment under my alias because of the shame, but I came back to this video for comfort and to feel less alone. Thank you for sharing your story. I needed it.
@@gigidubois7214 thank you for being vulnerable, I know how you feel and don’t let shame keep you from running to God. He’s going to rebuild you
good evening. I have also been single for almost 5 years. and I don't know how to overcome the urges. and I sink into pornography and masturbation I don't know if it's the same on your side or how do you manage this celibacy without masturbation please. help me. I feel alone in this. thank you.
@@Vanessa_Elaine Thank you! 🤍
@@ShantiPrefinah You are not alone. I've had to overcome the urges before, and it wasn't easy, but after continuously resisting, the urges ceased.
[7] Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
James 4:7 ESV
I hope this helps. God bless you.
@@ShantiPrefinah I have struggled with sexual immortality for years before I realized God can free me.
I think you need to realize that we were created for God.
this means we need to crucify our flesh and submit to the WILL of God. The Lord doesn't want you to be in bondage. When you satisfy your fresh and cravings, you are not doing what's pleasing to the Lord. we should try to strive in honouring the Lord in ALL we do - our speech, and also what we do with our bodies. we know watching porn and satisfying our sexual desires does NOT glorify God - it glorifies self. You have to decide and make the choice that you want to please God more than yourself. This world teaches us to do what feels good and whatever makes you happy. The Bible is not religion, it's an instruction manual with principles and guidance that will lead us to life. If we are on our own, it will lead to death.
think about all the shame and condemnation you feel after you give in to these desires and know that it is straight from the enemy who wants you trapped in this cycle. he also wants you to believe that GOD can't free you from this bondage - WRONG. Don't be a slave to sin. Once you decide that you need help from God, He will meet you halfway. Cry out to Him and He will give you strength. But you have to really identify the root of this sin, otherwise it won't work.
Jesus came to crucify his flesh and break us free. He has already forgiven you. Repentance means to turn away from the sin; go in the opposite direction. Run to the Father and he will sustain you and change those desires. Ask Him to change the desires of your heart and line them up with His desires. Just know, God sees you and He KNOWS how hard this life is. If you place your trust in Him, He will NEVER let you down. He always return to you more than you could ever asked think or imagine.
God bless
This is the gospel that they're not teaching in churches. This is what this generation needs to hear. Thank you. Thank you. Keep teaching the real salvation of Christ. So many things I identify with, as a single, Native Black American, 39 year old woman, with no children. We need this . Also, listen at some of John Hagee sermons. The 7 wonders of hll , it will bless you.
I’m 19yrs old and I feel as though this is the sin that’s truly in my heart and won’t leave so hard to get out of it!!
Fasting helped me. God will guide you. I started small. Just a missed meal. It gets easier in time. Very effective .
I wish I was 19 again watching this. I’m only 24 but wish I saw this when I was younger
@@GabriellaMorales-l1q aww I get it don't beat yourself up about it tho. it's always better then never. God bless you💕
@@danilaroche1156 i’ve been doing this but now i can’t eat
Love! Love! Love this!! Thank you for sharing your story! Im approaching 1 year of celibacy.
You got this!
vanessa, thank you for following God's call and posting this. the spiritual warfare is real. i was able to take notes on this video & remind myself i am only human & i make mistakes. like you said, we can't do it alone & we can't depend on our willpower because we're still human! God is God! not us! God bless you on your journey🥹❤️
Yesss🙌🏾
And the Truth and Obedience to God Will Set You Free! Amen!!!
Awesome, powerful testimony! You and I have similar experiences. I had been celibate for about a year (either a little over or a little under a year) and I fell February of last year. I went into a deep, dark depression that lasted for a very long time. I’ve currently been celibate 18 months and I refuse to put myself in that situation situation again! I pray that you remain steadfast on this journey. You got this! ♥️✨
This came in such a perfect time! God delivered me from the father of my child but I found myself intimate with him again 8 months ago and I went through such a heartbreaking journey after as he chose to be with someone else to which God has helped me go through and just as a breakthrough came of truly letting go within and levelling up he has now come back and the temptation of sexual immorality is so strong because its whats so familiar but the realisation of what God has delivered me from and that God has such great things ahead for me and it's promised is so much stronger!
@@Elmarija definitely being in prayer and also setting up the boundaries because if he’s trying to come back in your life, but it’s not doing anything new like actually putting a ring on your finger actually getting married there’s nothing to discuss. There’s no relationship that needs to be built because y’all already know each other so what’s the holdup?
Hang in there 🙏🏾❤️ sometimes when we have already had sex with someone and especially if we have a child with someone it seems ok to have sex with them again. I’ve been there. Pray and seek God and ask him to keep you strong.
My God. God knew EXACTLY what he was doing when he made this the first video. Praying for strength to resist and keep going. Thank you for this Vanessa, truly 💜
The similarities in our stories is scary .. Holy Spirit sent me here . Thank youuuu sister 🙏🏾 your testimony has surely blessed me
Thank you for this. I recently fell weak to sexual temptation after a year of abstinence and I feel conviction because i got saved in June. I am struggling with wanting everything in my Christian walk to be perfect and I know it won't be but I do want ti keep trying even though I feel completely lost.
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Lay me down, but won't give me a title. Whew Sista I felt that!!!!!❤
went 3 years and recently fell...been trying to navigate through it with Jesus
Thank you for sharing we overcome by the power of our testimonies was lukewarm most of my life got truly save in 2023 and been celibate for a year and fell I really thought I was strong in that area but were no longer under condemnation I pray we all endure and boundaries is key 📌📌📌📌
Yeah, you’re right, we don’t have great self control, that power is given by God. Self control is the fruit of the spirit.
10 minutes in and i’m only crying. Thank you for the vulnerability you don’t understand how helpful this is
This video is completely life changing, thank you for having the courage and i thank holy spirit for giving you the courage to post your testimony & where you fell. They say in the bible a person falls 7 times but they get back up again! You completely opened my eyes, Thank you God for putting this on my fyp, ive struggle with this sin for 26 years and im completely ready to let go after being used, abused, two children out of wedlock. I wanted to please people so bad so they wouldnt leave due to fear of abandonment, but now i see that pleasing God is way more important & ive seen the horrible effects fornication and masturbation brings on you physically, mentally, and emotionally its not worth it. I know God loves me and he's been calling me to stop & stop being so fixated on a husband, i didnt want to be a single mom but it's a consequence of my actions that i have to deal with and focus on my purpose and being a mama, because children either way are a gift from God. I saw this right on time after starting my abstinent journey and recently fell and got ghosted after expressing a behavior i didnt like. In due time, God willing i might get a husband but even if i dont i'll still be satisfied with Jesus. All Glory goes to him! 🤍 Thank you sis, seriously.
@@mtay__2218 love how you are self aware and take full accountability for actions that’s good. It’s so important to repent of these things and than live a life free. You said you might get get a husband, you should declare it and if it’s his will it will happen but you have to first believe it’s for you. I’m pray that keep being strong on this journey and remain steadfast.
Thank you for sharing because I am going through this and it’s been very hard. I feel so lost and I’ve been so hard on myself. This cycle has been going on for the past year. I keep trying to break free of this cycle but still I find myself in it
Omg that one man you see and your entire body seems to sigh dreamily just watching him walk. It’s a hard journey-! Only in the Lord!
Yes it’s tough!
To all the girls reading thank you for sharing your story ❤
This video showed up more than once and I’m glad I clicked on it today.. I’ve been celibate for a little over 5 years and there is this man in my life who is patient and doesn’t even mention sex.. i think you’re right, it’s me who has those dormant desires. This man isn’t tempting me.. I still have work to do
First, thank you for sharing your testimony. Secondly, I went through something similar. It felt like I was listening to someone tell my testimony. Lastly, I pray that God continues to help you fight off the spirit of lust, perversion and anything that will make you fall into sin again. In Jesus name, AMEN! Stay strong beautiful! 💞
Thank you…SO much.
I didn’t watch the full video yet, but I can say that I broke my celibacy of a year and a few months…and felt so much shame afterwards, as if the Lord wouldn’t take me back. But, I still have hope!!
So thank you so much for posting this!
This happened to me two weeks. I regretted it instantly! I couldn’t sleep due to the regret and then at church I cried to god forgiveness. I’ve been praying forgiveness.
I also asked god to give me signs that this person isn’t meant for me and he answered today. I never want to go back or be with someone I’m not meant to be with. This video has helped me and I’ll be thanking god tonight. All I can say is that god shows us the signs but we keep overlooking them. The devil will test us coz we get so bold thinking we’ll never go back or do ungodly things.
These men don’t care, it took me so long to be right with god, my body and myself… it wasn’t worth it. Stay blessed and stay humble.
I'm so glad you popped up on my yt, this is so relatable. It's hard being celibate while watching everyone else around you being in relationships having sex outside of marriage I feel of my celibacy journey too after 3 years now I'm starting over. Btw you are stunning may you continue to make content that uplifts and inspires a new generation.
Great Word!🙌🏾. New subscriber. Girl, I understand about falling back🤦🏾♀️. I’m on the same journey!!! The twisted part is that we actually pray together and both love the Lord!!!! Staying away is the best decision. It’s been only a few weeks, but with God, I will come out of the furnace without smelling like smoke!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾. I won’t answer the text! Love your content!🥰
Wow, as a guy this was me!!! This is revelation for me. Thank you for your obedience 🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing. I’m grateful to God for rescuing me out of a relationship that did not honor him.
God has used you to open my eyes about a situation I was playing with. 2 years of celibacy almost wasted on a man that would hurt me..thank you for being honest and being deliberate with your explanation because I was right THERE. I'm turning back to God now. Another big revelation is that God is the one that empowers me to honour Him and stay celibate..it's not me that has the strength to do this on my own. Thank you.
Yessssss it’s Him
She spoke that real 💯 and I’ve lived it too sis thanks for your transparency
First of all, I'd like to say thank you: for your vulnerability, your open-mindedness, your transparency too. It can't have been easy to share this with people most of whom you don't even know. However, our Father is wonderful and infinitely merciful, your repentance is sincere and He has already forgiven you. Give thanks already for all the goodness this mistake will bring forth. Because yes, through you, many Christians will be wiser. I have been immensely blessed, thank you again once again.
This is so Good Thank you! I had the strongest soul tied ! Got baptized and I felt like God had delivered . Started to entertain the person God had delivered me from thought I was strong enough not to fall back into the same trap and I did! This video have given me so much conformation ! Thank you 🙏🏽
Listennnnnn when you get baptized you the enemy attacks you with the last thing you struggled with, I fell after being baptized but that’s what prompted me to feel the conviction so strong that I desired to stop and obey
@@Vanessa_Elaine That’s exactly what happened to me! Thanks for sharing I felt so bad . This help me a lot 💕
I am going through this exact thing. Literally exact same thing. Thank you for sharing this, I don’t feel so alone now.
The authenticity here is unmatched! Thank you for being obedient and vulnerable! 💕
Thank you Jesus for your daughter and her love for You. She is using her testimony to glorify You and save others who are suffering from the same situation. Thank you Vanessa, your words bring healing Jesus knows His children need to hear in order to turn back to Him instead of shame and destructive patterns. ❤
I can relate!!!! I been struggling with my abstinence journey as well , at one point I went 2 years and then broke it in July 2023 . When I tell you I bawled my eyes out , I was so disappointed and the conviction was all over me . I was down in the dumps , felt shame , and wouldn’t talk to GOD . Finally , I got over it and decided to start over I felt like the first go round GOD wasn’t in the center of my decision to abstain . I brought myself a promise ring and I started over , 6 months after I broke it again . Long story short and I’m sad to say it’s been about 2 weeks since I’ve broke my promise again 😫. At this point I don’t trust my decision making , I felt like I have no purpose in life , I feel shame , and I didn’t feel like I could even ask GOD for forgiveness . Im learning that when trying to live for Christ the temptation only gets stronger it doesn’t just go away because you decide to live for GOD .
I also struggle with masturbation 😩
@@paigesmith3798Ive been there, just give it all to God let him lead you. Focus on him and being In love with and married to Christ because we are his bride. If you think of it that way, it’s harder to cheat on Jesus who died for you. Maybe you can try deliverance as well maybe there is a spirit of lust.
Consider surrounding yourself with Godly council ❤
I'm praying for you girl and all of us wanting to please God by honoring our bodies. I realized it's about trusting God, if we trust him we can trust himthat s3x in marriage will be better than having it outside of it, we can trust that he will help us find the right spouse. We can trust him that life is still fulfilled and wonderful without physical pleasure. Trust God stay in his word and ask God for help knowing how to date without s3x. All the best y'all, God is with us ❤
Girl. This so real. One of the realest Christion platforms I have experienced yet. Thank you!
Girl your story spoke to me I just been through this exact thing been celibate for 3yrs and fell with the same man I prayed to God to keep me away from. I'm still going through 5he emotions cause it ended the same way and I am beating myself up.
@@jdtamikaadams4855 good morning sis do not beat yourself up that’s what I did and it made me continue living a life of sin, turn to God, repent and dive into your word get in community: church that preaches sound doctrine and most importantly forgive yourself
I can imagine what you went through after keeping yourself all that long n just to be back . The devil is a liar .
I stayed for two months and slept with someone I was so broken n disappointed with myself now am just imagining what five years can do to me 😅thanks sis thank for this I needed it . Thank you God bless you we serve a God of many chances
Last night I prayed and asked God to send help because I needed it and here is this video. Thank you Jesus ❤
@@Iamconverted and I pray God gives you the strength and the healing you desire
@@Vanessa_Elaine Amen and thank you 🙏🏾 blessings to you and your ministry.
Ahhh I needed this !! My current situation 😭 I said we can be friends. It took only a day alone with him for me to realize my heart was not in the right posture. I ended it 😭 but this man stay coming back. This time around I became so drained and was just over it.
It’s tough for sure! Stay strong ❤️
AMEN! What a story. Thank you for sharing your testimony sister in Christ. 💕
Girl, you need to know how much I needed to hear this. This video quite literally saved my life. Thank, no seriously THANK YOU. I NEEDED this. God spoke to me through you. You're changing lives here! Your testimony saves lives. Thank you 😭💗💗💗✝️🙏🏻🌷🌷🌷
@@totalstarkitty 🥹🥹🥹praise God 🙌🏾
Girl your story ...I felt like you were speaking about my life.... Thank you WOG for your transparency and your Testimony ❤ I needed this 🙏🏾 continue to be a blessing 🙌🏽
@@purposepowerhousel.l.c.5673 🙌🏾
I’m so glad you shared this !!! I felt like you was telling my life story this WHOLE video 🥹 it’s definitely not by accident that I came across this video . I felt all the conviction n God definitely used you to get through to me !! Thank God for you obedience n boldness to share ❤️🫶🏾
This video is my life right now. I feel like God is speaking to me thru you.. I was on my journey for 6.5 years and I just met someone 6 months ago and gave in after trying to keep boundaries. He wasn’t the one and I had been praying that God would end it since it was so hard for me to. It ended yesterday, and as much as it’s hard I thank God for freedom because it’s tormenting to try and please God and flesh at the same time. Plus I was allowing everything but the penetration for the first little while too 😭.
@@lateshachanel proud of you, your healing starts now. Now you sit at Gods feet don’t let the enemy trick you into condemning yourself
@@Vanessa_Elaine thank you 💓 never again
This is a beautiful video!! I've recently divorced and I too am a on that journey. It's not easy but empowering.
And you're right God does not condone sexual immorality. not immortality. That's two different meanings sis
@@roxyrussell-shanks5344 yess sis I know but I’m glad you received the message
This hit home for me. Still on my celibacy journey of making it through longer without hiccups. I will be delivered from it
Let me go watch that Soul Tie video. ❤ Who coming with me🤗
The soul tie . . . 😩
On my way!
It's the fact I gave into temptation of 3 years celibacy for someone who was not deserving 🥴...will not dwell though and needed this message. ❤ Thank you, love this!
Thankyou so much for talking about this and putting out this video. God bless you.
I needed this video in more ways that I will allow myself to admit! You literally described my battle! Please pray for me! I’m officially 1 week and 3 days celibate and 1 week and 3 days sober! ❤
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your transparency. I needed this. I’m going through this now. I keep trying leave this person and I keep falling. I thought it was too late and God didn’t love me anymore. But God. ❤
I’m going through this struggle right now and was about to fall again. This video just popped up and I’m grateful that I clicked on it. Thank you so much!
@@emeliag.kolleh828 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾God is so faithful and on time
I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾 God bless you
I needed to hear this right now and that I'm not the only one going through this.
You have such beautiful energy that you radiate its felt miles away even here in the Balkans.
May God continue to bless you in everything you do, in Jesus mighty name! ❤
So glad you brought out that we need not to think that we are that powerful. It is good to remember that we are just flesh and the enemy is way more powerful than we are. We are living in his world so we literally need God to fight for us.
16:00 the devil and the demons decieve
but God gives confirmations that is why we always have to align everything with His Word and Prayer and He gives us Peace about it 😊❤❤
❤ thank you for this awesome message- I myself in a that journey of no sex 🙌🏾I refuse to let anyone who don’t mean anything get the best of me
I rather be alone then to be with a man who don’t value my values 🙌🏾🙏
19:10 God made sure she was safe, and that she got to her destination even though she was on her way to sin😂😂😂
This literally took me out, because the number of times it's happened to mee...!!Countless
I just came across this video, loving every bit of it❤
Thank you for your tangible testiomies ..Keep them coming