The thing is if she rejects you, don't take it personally. You don't know what the reason is for her rejection -- she might be playing hard to get, she might be testing your reaction, she might have a husband or boyfriend who she is trying to be faithful to, or she might not like you. Who cares ? You tried, and took a chance -- no harm, no foul. Just tell her have a good day, forget it, and move-on to the next one.
As a young man in my 20s, I had more confidence talking to women older than me who were in their 40s. They seemed nicer than women my own age and often talked to me, and these were good-looking woman. Now, I know how to talk to girls in their 20s, but I still have my best luck with women older than me.
It's because you are more mature than them. No joke. Keep talking to them all. You can break the ones your own age out of their shells if you keep working them.
"You are not ugly, you just haven't found the woman that finds you handsome". There is truth in that from my experience. Also, I used to get rejected so often that I just adopted the attitude of "...so what" and maintained my composure with a smile and just went about my business like it was no big deal. I found out later that it gave me a look of self confidence and worth. Later a woman who had previously rejected me was impressed enough with how I handled being rejected that thought "that was a confident man". I got a date out of it in the long run. I'm a sensitive man and being rejected hurts but just own it and carry on. One of my best friends growing up was very successful with women. He was very good looking and it seemed like he got all the girls. He told me one day that he actually gets turned down 9/10 times. He just keeps trying until he succeeds. No one sees that part.
Best response to any rejection, "Have a nice day" with sincerity. Any negativity only aims to affirm her choice to reject. And yes, even the Chads get rejected, and even the Chads don't enjoy it. Brilliant comment!
Anna-Stay Warm!!!! Perfect advice!! I saw a woman that I work with in the break room. She was talking with a coworker. She was told by another coworker that I really care about her. I talked to her. The three of Us were Laughing. She knows I’m Not a doucgebag. A few times after that I said a few witty things to her that really made her laugh. She saw the more relaxed, fun Confident Me!!!
Great insights! As a fellow dating coach, I appreciate your emphasis on the balance between being an interested introvert and an interesting extrovert. Your tips on pattern interrupts, personal stories, and creating memorable experiences are spot-on. Adding to the conversation, I'd highlight the power of genuine curiosity and active listening. It's amazing how a sincere interest in your date can elevate the entire experience.
That's good for self development really just because so awesome to goes out from comfort zone but without asking for trouble (keep in mind always). I really like Anna's advices! Always watching from start to finish. Never trivial.
@@YourWingmam Oh yes, agreed. And before our life starts we sit in comfort zone at least 9 months but meanwhile it's our live also. So, I want to say that before going out comfort zone we should be in comfort zone for a while just to be ready to real life it's unavoidable. It just for explanation Anna's answer more clearly if I can do it ofcourse. Correct me if I'm wrong.
I love that place where you are standing while recording this video and the weather was fine and I think it's cold and snowing there in Vancouver Island bc, Canada. So, confidence is one of the greatest strength for a man. So, about approaching woman recently I am successful in doing so, although I have that nervousness. You know even if I meet you as a person for the first time I will be little nervous but probably it won't be known outside. Sometimes something in my head used to tell me to approach beautiful womans often and try harder to talk to them, but the conversations would only go normal. So, that's my recent history when it comes to approaching a woman which is something very new for me.
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Yeah! I tried this, my buddy from college introduced me to a woman he knows, at a bar. I said, “Hello, my name is … I went to school with (mutual friend), I am a doctor, and I am recently divorced.” “Oh, um, it sounds like I'm being read a Match profile. So, you say you are recently divorced? How long have you been planning this?” “Oh, I've been planning this line for seconds, if not minutes now.” Damn, I'm smooth. 😎
@YourWingmam Always look for anything in the river like a crocodile I wouldn't want to see anything happen to you cuz I care about you I seen a video once a croc came out of the river and swallowed a woman whole
I think the intention behind is also very important. It's not about APPROACHING her, in order to____ but rather about willing to get to know her as a human being and simply connect.
More and more this is going to be relevant to me now. I think i need to start just talking to ppl again. Just getting out there. Infact i will put it on my todo for this week. Talk to 1x person. Talk to 1x woman It wont be easy coz of limiting childhood conditionibg (thanka mom) And coz ive list my light heartedness after the sheet ice been through. But we didnt get this far by not daring. Here to daring to be better and do better!! Thanks so much. I appreciate you and your videos. Kinda regards from Germany
Yes, this! I remember when I started in real estate sales many many moons ago I ended up in tears the first day and wanted to quit because of a really nasty rejection (the dude used every cuss word in the book on me including the "c" word). I found out later he was known in the community for h8ting realtors. (Side note: after 20 yrs in the biz, I understand why lol though they're not all bad.) Anyway, after I got over my snowflake meltdown, I decided I would never let a rejection personally affect me again. I call or knocked on 100 doors a day or until I got an appt. I learned to hone my approach and soon became successful. Same principle. Remember, rejection is God's protection and redirection! You got this!
@@YourWingmam many days i could just hug you . Please remember that! Especially on those days when you could do with one. There are scores of people that appreciate you, to bits Lots of warm and fuzzies for you 🤝
Very few people genuinely are not confident enough to talk to women. I thought I was until I went to a work party with someone I know & was very easily able to converse with the other people there. Not only that but I could tell that they were genuinely interested in what I was saying because I knew how to do it simply from watching Mind Your Manners on Netflix which I highly recommend everyone watch. But most importantly, I learned that the only reason women always rejected me was simply because they didn’t know me. You can’t just go up to women, ask them on a date & expect them to say yes if they don’t know you which is why “cold approaching” is so awkward. Instead, you meet women through some prearranged way. That’s part of why arranged marriages only have a 5% divorce rate on average.
What a great video, Anna! You are so funny and smart. I think “don’t be a douchebag” has to be the best bit of advice I’ve heard. So simple and direct. My guiding principle when socializing with women is “don’t act like an asshole.” Same basic notion. Nice location, BTW. What is that torrent rushing behind you? Somewhere in Vancouver?
Once again, great advice. Thank you for another fine video. You looked like you were having fun making that video and I had fun watching you with your sense of humor and cute giggle. May God richly bless you. 🙏
Like you said Anna the goal is to make them Laugh and treat them as a bratty little sister. Don’t put her in a pedestal and think she is so beautiful that you can’t approach her. You do that and she will look down on you and you will be so flustered and nervous and awkward
Was in Vancouver a few weeks ago, that bridge has been tagged more than some of the women I have recently met. I wait for a smile a or a wave to eliminate the don’t come near me phase. There are not that many smart and attractive women with a sense of humor, all requirements. There are only douchebags in sex museums, the resultant contemporary meaning is smileworthy. I still get the leave me alone response as you say. You are right there are so many women, meditation breathing 3 in 8 out is a great suggestion, thanks, waiting.
If it's her BF or husband, approaching is a douchebag move. (Sorry players.) In my opinion, and this is just my opinion, the safest bet is to compliment the guy, "Is this your lady? You're a lucky man." Saves you from getting clocked and allows him to tell you if she's just a friend or sister etc. You can also gauge her reaction to see if she's put off or flattered. If anyone has any other ethical suggestions, please share 'em!
@YourWingmam thanks. Can be hard to guess... and if I don't take the shot, I regret it very hard. I'm bizarrely attracted to only a very specific look. Like "narrow tasted"
Hi Anna JörgenSON. - how many actually noted the cat and wrote about it? Just curious because I get major hit in health and that thing try to kill me and take my foot away. God sake I just mostly lost my skin from one foot. And I was unconscious 3 weeks and cognition's make rolercoast. I just try to test who sane or insane I am.
Funnily enough, just last week I was in a store and I really wanted to talk to this woman I saw, I found perfect excuse at the till as she dropped her bag and I helped pick it up for her (her hands were full of other bags). I know it sounds corny but I felt we connected for a few seconds.. Really wish I'd have said something as I felt it was a missed opportunity, chemistry was there, hope I see her again I'll remember your tips, she had beautiful ginger hair like yours, Take care ❤🐈
Put a note on craiglist missed connections or whatever is similar in your area! Good luck and next time say something, anything. If there's any interest on a woman's part, she'll think it's cute even if corny!
Very good and entertaining advice, thank you Anna. If I see a lady on a phone, looking at text or a video, I think to myself, she does not want to be disturbed. Maybe if she flashed a smile, that might give me a signal to approach. If a lady sees a man she likes, why does she not approach him?
I was reading a book with JP approached me. If he was worried about bothering me, we'd never have met. But if you're terrified, that'll come across. Instead, start by simply smiling at women. Start where you are and work on getting to the next level. Women don't approach men because, as mentioned in the video (watch again), women prefer men who are brave, approaching a woman takes courage; and because women are more influenced by personality than looks (biologically, it's the other way around for men), so if she approaches and find out she doesn't like his personality it's doubly awkward to then reject him. But mostly #1 and that's not going to change.
Because, chicks aren't built that way. Put a change order in with God. Until it does, we go first And I didn't say it was easy Mark, but it's just the way it is. Like wiping front to back . Or is it back to front?
@@64maxpower Ladies have shot me down in flames. Looked at me in disgust and OTT rejection. A small number of ladies have asked me out and I always accepted. I was surprised by their beauty and younger age, they asking me. Then I ask ladies and they look at me like wtf. I know I have had too much weight on me the last few years, so I have lost a lot last year and continue now. Strange thing is, I think ladies like to be approached. It is good for their ego. Like to be approached, just not from me! lol.
graffiti definitely adds to the ambience....and the spanglish....sounds like you want to go from the wing....to finding your "thing"....once again...nice job. Keep up the good work.
I promise you, women want you to approach them. It's the way we are all built. You will make her day even if she isn't attracted. Anna Jorgensen wouldn't be setting you up for failure. She on our side
So some guy gets up and thinks "My lucky day - it's my weekend, it's January, the river's up in the brush & almost clear." He zips off to his favorite steelhead drift - the one under the bridge. He parks the truck, scrambles down the steep muddy trail, looks around & sees an attractive redhead making a video right where you would ruin it it if you tried to fish there. He stops, sits on a rock and checks out the show.. He sees she's making a dating coach video. He fishes a notepad & pen out of his vest and starts to take notes. After she's done he walks up & says "hi I'm Melvin Flobbert looks like you could use a warm cuppa go juice - the trucker place up the road always has good fresh stuff - btw I liked your vid do you post these somewhere?" Fast forward they go have some coffee and he gets the digits, then goes back & catches a big bright steelhead. Then he wakes up...
Hey Anna - thanks for the video, it seems like good helpful advice. Just one piece of constructive criticism for you - when you say "But Anna!..." like its a grown man saying it back to you, but we've got a high pitched squeaky voice, you're subtly de-manifying your target audience - and i think thats the opposite of what youre trying to achieve with this video! Other than that, keep up the good work :-)
Thank you for the feedback! I can't do a deep manly voice but also, and I'm sorry to say this brutal truth, but that's how women view fearful men. Please don't shoot the messenger for that harsh reality, I'm not the Creator just the decoder and I wouldn't be doing fellas any favours by lying to save myself here. Hope I haven't lost you over this one! :)
@@YourWingmam Hey Anna, thank you for replying. I'm not suggesting you should put on a deep butch voice, your regular voice would be fine. When you exaggerate, it feels like mockery - when everything else about the video says that you're trying to help (even the "grow a pair" line). Just my observation, I'm sure you're not trying to take the Mickey out of your target audience. You haven't lost me, your content is still good :-)
Women liked all of them because a woman will settle for a sub5 or normine untill they can level up.....hence breakeups, assuming they feel they won't get dumped on an untimely instance...........so yes.
1. Be honest "I saw you and wanted to say hi" 2. Comment of something situational "What book are you reading?" "How long have you been coming to the archery range?" Whatever is relevant to the scene. :)
I would like my former girlfriend back. She doesn't go to cafes. She just came out of the closet. 😮❤ Plus I have to talk to her in French. She is from France.
What i see,a beautiful woman offering free great advice but makes me wonder if she's aware of the safety issues on her specific location at the time of recording the video😮! That place screams Serial Killer dumpsite!Take care,Anna,much love!
3:21 And yet, you say you aren't condoning and excusing. And as someone who had a woman start yelling rape when I attempted to introduce myself in a church coffee shop, leading to someone almost calling the police on me, sorry, courage ain't the problem. Not wanting to be arrested is. But no,just say I'm selling myself some crap. That's fair!!!!
Dear Anna: If i were there, rhia is how i would approach you. "Hi, my name is Joe. Can I ask you, why are you under a bridge?". Now, in all seriousness, why are you under a bridge, Anna? Great video again. Hard to believe it is so complicated now. I bet past generations laugh at us now. I wonder if we will ever cycle back around to arranged marriages. What do you think? Anna, I did find value in this video. I have never had too much trouble approaching women, but of course, my success rate is not grea. Thank you so much again for going through all the trouble and you explain everything so well. And you even endured the elements for us. That is all for now Anna. One again thank you for an amazing video. You look so adorable when you are cold and all bundled up. I hope you have a nice warm week. Big warm hug and a peck on each cheek. (Wow, you are cold). Sending you warm love from TEXAS!!!! You rock, Anna.
Lol Answer: it was raining, protect camera and coif ;) Arranged marriages? Hmm, not formally, but perhaps informally they'll come back. Rise Of The Matchmakers. Thanks for appreciating the outdoor setting! Love to TX!
9:21 This is so important. Do the attempt, without emotional currency in the outcome. Collect the fails, each one will at minimum, take some edge off the next one. The success will be that you'll quickly overcome the irrational fear of the approach itself, and the following approaches will be less strained and stressful. That will make it easier for you to do them. IT DOES WORK.
I have watched your videos for many years and found some useful info even at my age (77). After my divorce 9 years ago from a 43-year marriage, it took me a couple years to start to approach women. I found that all of my attempts to talk to someone (you are right) did not kill me.😁 By the way, You have a cute giggle. 👍
(LAUGhing) FINALLY CAUGHT YOU IN TIME. And here's our Wingmam, reporting live from Vancouver Island's Museum of Modern Art. (Warning: She is a little naughty today.)
Anna, always respect and value your work. I often revisit the blogs. Even when you wear the red skirt that you brought to our attention. However, too much caffeine in this one. Please less caffeine and ban the skirt and talk about it.
yup, another reminder, on how i have had a sarcastic mindset over the years, men are the only gender that have to practice when it comes to getting better at or learning how to talk to, interact with the the other sex
You are wiser than your years & more than the sum of your parts. You teach at highschool level (where most people are) & can go to PhD level instantly when necessary. I am a 70 year old widower. Trust me, I can relate to everything you are teaching. If I could have only run across your channel in my 20's. Sadly, there was no social media then. Please continue guiding us. ❤
I can talk to women, but I have never found any meaningful relationship in such a way. Beautiful looks doesn't match the character. Yeah, but go chatting and no pressure.
Don't do the deep breathing thing. Instead, consider any fear or anxiety as a good thing. A positive energy that will fuel the encounter. Be glad you are anxious because that means you are ready. And don't think. Just do it.
Thanks for sharing! Of course, confidence is believing in yourself and your abilities. I used to wonder why women don't have as much confidence as men do and why they almost never approach guys in the dating scene. I discovered it's an ancient, instinctive trait women have. Hence, they want the guy to make the first move. They want to see the emotional strength and courage in a guy. It's good to kind of clear ones mind and just get on with beginning the interaction instead of overthinking the negative "what ifs"!
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, well ex girlfriend now, mainly due to not having had one until late in life, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game. I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again. I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life. Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot. Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing. Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training. It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general. I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male. "Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together" Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad, that its no appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further. Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do. I know I'm not alone in thinking this way in which I have the mindset in which I feel that if I was born a woman I would not have been alone or single that long. I like to think this way and I know that a lot of people agree with this and that is being born a woman basically guarantees you will always have options because you are on the receiving end of sexual attention just for being born a woman because it's often said that women are in abundance by default but men are in scarcity by default because for all time women are the ones that get pursued and hit on or sought after or get advances made on them and when you are in that position it basically means you are simply by default attractive to the other sex. I'll never get over it and I will be angry and upset and bitter and resentful that I was a late bloomer for the rest of my life I know I will never get over this. I get very angry and pissed off whenever people still think men have it better than women do, especially in dating. Even Tripp Advice says " Men by default or men are naturally in scarcity when it comes to women, but it's the opposite for women when it comes to men". I agree with that because women by default or are naturally an abundance by default because for all time when you are on the receiving end of sexual attention or when you are the gender that gets propositioned or pursued and hit on or approached and gets advances made on you or has the opposite sex bombarding your DMs or swiping on you in the masses. It means simply by default you always have options. Yet a lot of people still think men have it better than women do
My fear when approaching women is my situation.50 this year and no experience, and i mean non whatsoever! Sad I know but true. It must be easier for guys out there that have had at least a few gf's. Confidence is key but sure if I had experience it would be much easier to initiate conservation.
No, it has not. Alternative scenario: One is biking on a trail next to the canal. At the end of the 24 miles of biking near where I am parked, I notice two big ships coming in my direction. I position myself to get a few photos of the ships going by with my bike in the foreground. I passed a good-looking woman jogger just a few minutes earlier, and she rounds the corner coming towards me. I have no intention of talking to her. Concentrating more on the photo. Near the time of the photo, I look around for anyone around. She is gone. I get a few photos and wait for the second ship. I look around and see her in the parking lot area, just walking. She goes to the access road, which is past me and continues on jogging. She was not going to be in the photo. Yet, she went across the grass island, around the bathroom building where two other bicyclists were to the access road and back on the jogging trail How do I combat these circumstances? I got a lady that I knew and danced into a conversation on what she was looking forward to doing when it got into warmer weather when a 'Chad' ( both in looks an much better dancing skills) asked her to dance. She danced with him and also with others, staying on the other side of the dance studio floor, never getting a chance to finish the conversation. Again, Anna, how can one adjust to that other than shaking one's head and moving on?
Next time if you want to meet her and she makes eye contact for longer than a cursory glance, say, "Deja vu, didn't I just see you or are my eyes playing tricks on me?" Just like with art, you have to take risks.
I agree. But the jogger did not even look my way. She went out of her way and walked slowly by the two gentlemen bikers near where they were standing, returning to the trail past me to keep on jogging. I was food shopping in a store. It c so happens that I went down one isle while a lady was coming up the same isle. It happened multiple times. The fourth or fifth time we passed it each going in opposite direction looking for food items, I jokingly said to her,"Heh, you know we have to stop meeting like this." Never saw her again.
I have to think not all situations are conducive to meet women. As there are times a woman might not feel safe enough to be approached. Not saying it can't be worked, just look at it from her view also. I think that you're doing great learning to understand others. And being here with the rest of us. You're here empowering yourself instead of watching a Men's Victim channel
Trying to find someone before you find yourself is a blessing, so finding someone that can expand your awareness of life itself as opposed to material possession of everything we leave behind. We're all terminal so live long and prosper ✌️
Great insights on overcoming approach anxiety and building confidence to talk to women! Your emphasis on genuine interest over manipulation is spot on. As a fellow dating coach, I appreciate your practical advice. Adding to the conversation, remember that active listening and creating a genuine connection go a long way. Keep up the fantastic work in empowering men to navigate the dating scene with authenticity and courage!
"She's facing you even gives you a slight smile, I wont" 😅 You're funny Anna so youre the type to want the guy to go up to you without any hints eh? 😂 You seem very animated in this video, did you have a latte before this video Anna? 😅😜 Just teasing. Appreciate the video, unfortunately for a guy like me I suffer from anxiety disorder so these situations I'd most likely get at least a mini anxiety attack. It's one reason why i stopped trying I admit. Appreciate the video though as always.🙂
The physiological sigh is specifically for anxiety. (I used to have it, too.) Challenge yourself in other areas that are manageable or try online dating. If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got. So either be brave and step out of your comfort zone *where it's manageable* or surrender and accept what you have, whichever is best for you. :)
@@YourWingmam Yeah that's a good point. For me I did used to try online dating years back on 4 different sties, I either hardly got responses or would get some but ghosted, randomly blocked or at best make a few friends that added me to their FB. The rest just played games, the thing I learned about online dating specifically is women treat it like shopping for shoes. They may grab 10 different pairs that look interesting but then they know they can't afford all 10 pairs so they narrow it down, and use the process of elimination down to 2 then they pick one. The rest get the shaft. This is what I believe women do with online dating so I gave that option up years ago. For in person, while I admit to trying less I've always either gotten turned down or in a few cases got a few numbers but one girl had like 10 other guy friends, red flag and a BF but she told me flat out "she didn't care she hangs with who she wants" so that actually turned me off from hanging with that girl and another who wouldn't give me her number but gave me her myspace and snapchat... at the time. The rest pretty much came to me were the aggressor which was like 2 in like 20 years of jobs, events, leagues etc. I am not sure God wants me to be with someone to be honest but I appreciate the advice. I'm trying to be happy in other ways since dating feels nearly impossible now especially for someone in particular situation.
The foundation of marriages was for two people to grow together, nowadays it's considered the cherry on the top. I had always wanted to be that Cherry and really didn't grow as a person,
Fear of rejection certainly can be an issue and yet "logically" we know the majority of women are not for us. I guess basically you fail fast until you don't LOL easy to say not easy to do...well mostly!
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The thing is if she rejects you, don't take it personally. You don't know what the reason is for her rejection -- she might be playing hard to get, she might be testing your reaction, she might have a husband or boyfriend who she is trying to be faithful to, or she might not like you. Who cares ? You tried, and took a chance -- no harm, no foul. Just tell her have a good day, forget it, and move-on to the next one.
Exactly! And always remember that just because you like the look of her doesn't mean you will like *her.* You're just giving her a chance!
As a young man in my 20s, I had more confidence talking to women older than me who were in their 40s. They seemed nicer than women my own age and often talked to me, and these were good-looking woman. Now, I know how to talk to girls in their 20s, but I still have my best luck with women older than me.
Don't lie
@@SuperZippyzippy 😅🤣
It's because you are more mature than them. No joke.
Keep talking to them all.
You can break the ones your own age out of their shells if you keep working them.
@@cliffthecoolcat You are one cool cat Cliff. Thanks for the encouraging advice.
Cause older women have less options it’s not rocket science
"You are not ugly, you just haven't found the woman that finds you handsome". There is truth in that from my experience.
Also, I used to get rejected so often that I just adopted the attitude of "...so what" and maintained my composure with a smile and just went about my business like it was no big deal. I found out later that it gave me a look of self confidence and worth. Later a woman who had previously rejected me was impressed enough with how I handled being rejected that thought "that was a confident man". I got a date out of it in the long run. I'm a sensitive man and being rejected hurts but just own it and carry on.
One of my best friends growing up was very successful with women. He was very good looking and it seemed like he got all the girls. He told me one day that he actually gets turned down 9/10 times. He just keeps trying until he succeeds. No one sees that part.
Best response to any rejection, "Have a nice day" with sincerity. Any negativity only aims to affirm her choice to reject. And yes, even the Chads get rejected, and even the Chads don't enjoy it. Brilliant comment!
There is a point where keeping trying until you succeed (with women at least) is sad and pathetic.
Anna-Stay Warm!!!!
Perfect advice!!
I saw a woman that I work with in the break room. She was talking with a coworker. She was told by another coworker that I really care about her. I talked to her. The three of Us were Laughing. She knows I’m
Not a doucgebag. A few times after that I said a few witty things to her that really made her laugh. She saw the more relaxed, fun Confident Me!!!
Love it!!
Great insights! As a fellow dating coach, I appreciate your emphasis on the balance between being an interested introvert and an interesting extrovert. Your tips on pattern interrupts, personal stories, and creating memorable experiences are spot-on. Adding to the conversation, I'd highlight the power of genuine curiosity and active listening. It's amazing how a sincere interest in your date can elevate the entire experience.
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That's good for self development really just because so awesome to goes out from comfort zone but without asking for trouble (keep in mind always). I really like Anna's advices! Always watching from start to finish. Never trivial.
Thank you for watching from start to finish!! And yes, life begins outside our comfort zones :))
@@YourWingmam Oh yes, agreed. And before our life starts we sit in comfort zone at least 9 months but meanwhile it's our live also. So, I want to say that before going out comfort zone we should be in comfort zone for a while just to be ready to real life it's unavoidable. It just for explanation Anna's answer more clearly if I can do it ofcourse. Correct me if I'm wrong.
I love that place where you are standing while recording this video and the weather was fine and I think it's cold and snowing there in Vancouver Island bc, Canada.
So, confidence is one of the greatest strength for a man. So, about approaching woman recently I am successful in doing so, although I have that nervousness. You know even if I meet you as a person for the first time I will be little nervous but probably it won't be known outside. Sometimes something in my head used to tell me to approach beautiful womans often and try harder to talk to them, but the conversations would only go normal. So, that's my recent history when it comes to approaching a woman which is something very new for me.
Awesome, glad you're moving past fear and going for it! And proof you didn't die lol
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Love is the answer, people! Don’t give up. DO. NOT. GIVE. UP. HOPE. God loves you and so do I! You got this.
If you think you can or you think you can't...you're right. ~ Henry Ford
Got the confidence Anna,just waiting for the opportunity.😅 Great insight as usual.Thanks😊
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
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You bet.👍
Great advice! It works. Try it. Wish I knew it 35 years ago.
Yeah! I tried this, my buddy from college introduced me to a woman he knows, at a bar. I said, “Hello, my name is … I went to school with (mutual friend), I am a doctor, and I am recently divorced.”
“Oh, um, it sounds like I'm being read a Match profile. So, you say you are recently divorced? How long have you been planning this?”
“Oh, I've been planning this line for seconds, if not minutes now.” Damn, I'm smooth. 😎
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Good content. I love the background. Good video
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
@YourWingmam Always look for anything in the river like a crocodile I wouldn't want to see anything happen to you cuz I care about you I seen a video once a croc came out of the river and swallowed a woman whole
I've read her memoir; good read and it reveals a lot about her.
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I think the intention behind is also very important. It's not about APPROACHING her, in order to____ but rather about willing to get to know her as a human being and simply connect.
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Anna, you have it locked in. An excellent color choice, coordinated and sleek (contrasting with the background). Your content is first rate.
Thank you so much, glad you're here!
More and more this is going to be relevant to me now. I think i need to start just talking to ppl again. Just getting out there. Infact i will put it on my todo for this week. Talk to 1x person. Talk to 1x woman
It wont be easy coz of limiting childhood conditionibg (thanka mom)
And coz ive list my light heartedness after the sheet ice been through.
But we didnt get this far by not daring.
Here to daring to be better and do better!!
Thanks so much. I appreciate you and your videos.
Kinda regards from Germany
Yes, this! I remember when I started in real estate sales many many moons ago I ended up in tears the first day and wanted to quit because of a really nasty rejection (the dude used every cuss word in the book on me including the "c" word). I found out later he was known in the community for h8ting realtors. (Side note: after 20 yrs in the biz, I understand why lol though they're not all bad.) Anyway, after I got over my snowflake meltdown, I decided I would never let a rejection personally affect me again. I call or knocked on 100 doors a day or until I got an appt. I learned to hone my approach and soon became successful. Same principle. Remember, rejection is God's protection and redirection! You got this!
@@YourWingmam many days i could just hug you .
Please remember that! Especially on those days when you could do with one.
There are scores of people that appreciate you, to bits
Lots of warm and fuzzies for you
🤝
Very few people genuinely are not confident enough to talk to women. I thought I was until I went to a work party with someone I know & was very easily able to converse with the other people there. Not only that but I could tell that they were genuinely interested in what I was saying because I knew how to do it simply from watching Mind Your Manners on Netflix which I highly recommend everyone watch. But most importantly, I learned that the only reason women always rejected me was simply because they didn’t know me. You can’t just go up to women, ask them on a date & expect them to say yes if they don’t know you which is why “cold approaching” is so awkward. Instead, you meet women through some prearranged way. That’s part of why arranged marriages only have a 5% divorce rate on average.
One of your Funniest Videos Anna!!!❤️🙏😊😉
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback!
What a great video, Anna! You are so funny and smart. I think “don’t be a douchebag” has to be the best bit of advice I’ve heard. So simple and direct. My guiding principle when socializing with women is “don’t act like an asshole.” Same basic notion. Nice location, BTW. What is that torrent rushing behind you? Somewhere in Vancouver?
In the real world, it's the real douchebags and a-holes that do go to jail. Vancouver Island :)
Once again, great advice. Thank you for another fine video. You looked like you were having fun making that video and I had fun watching you with your sense of humor and cute giggle. May God richly bless you. 🙏
Glad you enjoyed it, I did have fun making it! God bless!
The first minute of description is ME, spot on :D
You are not alone!
Anna is laying the law down in the video. Love it! 😂
Like the background.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I appreciate that 🙏
Like you said Anna the goal is to make them Laugh and treat them as a bratty little sister. Don’t put her in a pedestal and think she is so beautiful that you can’t approach her. You do that and she will look down on you and you will be so flustered and nervous and awkward
Exactly! Remember, just because you like the look of her doesn't mean she qualifies for you.
Stuffy under a bridge !!?? I am HORRIFIED ! Anna, yeah, well, but I thought Stuffy had hist life so much more together. :) :) :)
❤ 🙏
your hair is cute that length, Anna
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Was in Vancouver a few weeks ago, that bridge has been tagged more than some of the women I have recently met. I wait for a smile a or a wave to eliminate the don’t come near me phase. There are not that many smart and attractive women with a sense of humor, all requirements. There are only douchebags in sex museums, the resultant contemporary meaning is smileworthy. I still get the leave me alone response as you say. You are right there are so many women, meditation breathing 3 in 8 out is a great suggestion, thanks, waiting.
Always better to look for signs of interest *and disinterest*... if in doubt, take the shot. :) p.s. tagged bridge, thanks for the chuckle!
What if she's with another dude? Approach? Any tips on assessing if the guy is a date or just a guy?
If it's her BF or husband, approaching is a douchebag move. (Sorry players.) In my opinion, and this is just my opinion, the safest bet is to compliment the guy, "Is this your lady? You're a lucky man." Saves you from getting clocked and allows him to tell you if she's just a friend or sister etc. You can also gauge her reaction to see if she's put off or flattered. If anyone has any other ethical suggestions, please share 'em!
@YourWingmam thanks. Can be hard to guess... and if I don't take the shot, I regret it very hard. I'm bizarrely attracted to only a very specific look. Like "narrow tasted"
Hi Anna JörgenSON. - how many actually noted the cat and wrote about it? Just curious because I get major hit in health and that thing try to kill me and take my foot away. God sake I just mostly lost my skin from one foot. And I was unconscious 3 weeks and cognition's make rolercoast. I just try to test who sane or insane I am.
Thanks Anna, you have inspired me. 😊
Yay!
Alot has changed in one year. I'll make a video updating you on my progress.
🙏 ❤️
Will try, but it won’t work
Thank you Anna for this video
You're welcome!
Funnily enough, just last week I was in a store and I really wanted to talk to this woman I saw, I found perfect excuse at the till as she dropped her bag and I helped pick it up for her (her hands were full of other bags). I know it sounds corny but I felt we connected for a few seconds.. Really wish I'd have said something as I felt it was a missed opportunity, chemistry was there, hope I see her again I'll remember your tips, she had beautiful ginger hair like yours,
Take care ❤🐈
Put a note on craiglist missed connections or whatever is similar in your area! Good luck and next time say something, anything. If there's any interest on a woman's part, she'll think it's cute even if corny!
You did miss an opportunity. To pay for her stuff.
@@YourWingmam I'm pretty hopeful I'll see her again. I'll remember your advice. Take care 💗 🐈
Beautiful video!
Thank you very much!
Thanks for sharing honey! You seem like a very intellectual person...
Darealdeal
Very good and entertaining advice, thank you Anna.
If I see a lady on a phone, looking at text or a video, I think to myself, she does not want to be disturbed.
Maybe if she flashed a smile, that might give me a signal to approach.
If a lady sees a man she likes, why does she not approach him?
I was reading a book with JP approached me. If he was worried about bothering me, we'd never have met. But if you're terrified, that'll come across. Instead, start by simply smiling at women. Start where you are and work on getting to the next level. Women don't approach men because, as mentioned in the video (watch again), women prefer men who are brave, approaching a woman takes courage; and because women are more influenced by personality than looks (biologically, it's the other way around for men), so if she approaches and find out she doesn't like his personality it's doubly awkward to then reject him. But mostly #1 and that's not going to change.
@@YourWingmam Thanks for the reply. I see your point.
Because, chicks aren't built that way. Put a change order in with God. Until it does, we go first
And I didn't say it was easy Mark, but it's just the way it is. Like wiping front to back . Or is it back to front?
@@64maxpower Ladies have shot me down in flames. Looked at me in disgust and OTT rejection.
A small number of ladies have asked me out and I always accepted. I was surprised by their beauty and younger age, they asking me. Then I ask ladies and they look at me like wtf.
I know I have had too much weight on me the last few years, so I have lost a lot last year and continue now.
Strange thing is, I think ladies like to be approached. It is good for their ego.
Like to be approached, just not from me! lol.
True confidence will have them fidgeting like nervous schoolgirls in your presence.
Anxiety responses.
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Truth! (If they have any interest whatsoever.)
You're a BRILLIANT woman. I wish you wouldn't act like a 12-year-old girl.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I love BC Canada! I need to schedule another vacation soon
graffiti definitely adds to the ambience....and the spanglish....sounds like you want to go from the wing....to finding your "thing"....once again...nice job. Keep up the good work.
A poet and you didn't even know it! And yes, I've got a new creative itch, just not sure what to do with it yet...stay tuned!
I promise you, women want you to approach them. It's the way we are all built.
You will make her day even if she isn't attracted.
Anna Jorgensen wouldn't be setting you up for failure. She on our side
My issue is I have a difficult time telling her age. I don't want to be hitting on a chick younger than my daughter
Thanks Anna!
Welcome, and thank you for watching!
No makeup, this is my favorite look on you goose
Thanks, gander!
You're beautiful and strong.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
So some guy gets up and thinks "My lucky day - it's my weekend, it's January, the river's up in the brush & almost clear." He zips off to his favorite steelhead drift - the one under the bridge.
He parks the truck, scrambles down the steep muddy trail, looks around & sees an attractive redhead making a video right where you would ruin it it if you tried to fish there.
He stops, sits on a rock and checks out the show.. He sees she's making a dating coach video. He fishes a notepad & pen out of his vest and starts to take notes. After she's done he walks up & says "hi I'm Melvin Flobbert looks like you could use a warm cuppa go juice - the trucker place up the road always has good fresh stuff - btw I liked your vid do you post these somewhere?" Fast forward they go have some coffee and he gets the digits, then goes back & catches a big bright steelhead.
Then he wakes up...
You’re a natural storyteller, use that! In real life ;)
PS thanks!
@@YourWingmam
That's the plan ;)
I wrote her a nice letter. People like nice letters.
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Hey Anna - thanks for the video, it seems like good helpful advice. Just one piece of constructive criticism for you - when you say "But Anna!..." like its a grown man saying it back to you, but we've got a high pitched squeaky voice, you're subtly de-manifying your target audience - and i think thats the opposite of what youre trying to achieve with this video! Other than that, keep up the good work :-)
Thank you for the feedback! I can't do a deep manly voice but also, and I'm sorry to say this brutal truth, but that's how women view fearful men. Please don't shoot the messenger for that harsh reality, I'm not the Creator just the decoder and I wouldn't be doing fellas any favours by lying to save myself here. Hope I haven't lost you over this one! :)
@@YourWingmam Hey Anna, thank you for replying. I'm not suggesting you should put on a deep butch voice, your regular voice would be fine. When you exaggerate, it feels like mockery - when everything else about the video says that you're trying to help (even the "grow a pair" line). Just my observation, I'm sure you're not trying to take the Mickey out of your target audience. You haven't lost me, your content is still good :-)
Women liked all of them because a woman will settle for a sub5 or normine untill they can level up.....hence breakeups, assuming they feel they won't get dumped on an untimely instance...........so yes.
I don't get nervous. I just don't know what to say or do.
1. Be honest "I saw you and wanted to say hi"
2. Comment of something situational "What book are you reading?" "How long have you been coming to the archery range?" Whatever is relevant to the scene. :)
Jesus over you and yours😊. Always a pleasure and a privilege. Good stuff 👏.
God bless you!
There have been times that even when a woman thinks a man is handsome, the man may not think that she's attractive and or his type. Just saying
RED ❤️🥰🙏💯🤞🤞
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That cat was hard one!
Too early peekaboo!
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I would like my former girlfriend back. She doesn't go to cafes. She just came out of the closet. 😮❤ Plus I have to talk to her in French. She is from France.
No douche baggery and don't run with a pencil in your hand. 😎 Got it.
Exactly... empale thee not! ;)
What i see,a beautiful woman offering free great advice but makes me wonder if she's aware of the safety issues on her specific location at the time of recording the video😮! That place screams Serial Killer dumpsite!Take care,Anna,much love!
3:21 And yet, you say you aren't condoning and excusing.
And as someone who had a woman start yelling rape when I attempted to introduce myself in a church coffee shop, leading to someone almost calling the police on me, sorry, courage ain't the problem. Not wanting to be arrested is. But no,just say I'm selling myself some crap. That's fair!!!!
Even Shrek has a Princess Fiona. And it didn’t get good until they both revealed their true selves.
Amen! Better out than in I say ... as in the real you! ;)
Dear Anna:
If i were there, rhia is how i would approach you. "Hi, my name is Joe. Can I ask you, why are you under a bridge?". Now, in all seriousness, why are you under a bridge, Anna?
Great video again. Hard to believe it is so complicated now. I bet past generations laugh at us now. I wonder if we will ever cycle back around to arranged marriages. What do you think?
Anna, I did find value in this video. I have never had too much trouble approaching women, but of course, my success rate is not grea. Thank you so much again for going through all the trouble and you explain everything so well. And you even endured the elements for us.
That is all for now Anna. One again thank you for an amazing video. You look so adorable when you are cold and all bundled up. I hope you have a nice warm week. Big warm hug and a peck on each cheek. (Wow, you are cold). Sending you warm love from TEXAS!!!! You rock, Anna.
Lol Answer: it was raining, protect camera and coif ;) Arranged marriages? Hmm, not formally, but perhaps informally they'll come back. Rise Of The Matchmakers. Thanks for appreciating the outdoor setting! Love to TX!
1st step ask her out and treat her like a lady...Eddie Rabbitt
I'm a lesbian woman.
9:21 This is so important. Do the attempt, without emotional currency in the outcome. Collect the fails, each one will at minimum, take some edge off the next one. The success will be that you'll quickly overcome the irrational fear of the approach itself, and the following approaches will be less strained and stressful. That will make it easier for you to do them. IT DOES WORK.
Thank you! Yes yes yes!
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You in a relationship Anna?
You can find all the personal info I share here: www.naughtypottyblog.com Warning: not PC. :)
Her blog is enjoyable. It will make you enjoy her more.
Must talk to her like anyone else. Then mention something about her thats either funny or interesting or flirtatious.
Careful with that graffiti. It's a sign that weird evil doers are around the area.
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I enjoy your videos because you are such a sweetie with penetrating insights and techniques! I need a lady in my life like you.
Wow, lovely compliment, thank you!
Many men could use a woman with her qualities. Especially if you like a chick that explains things to you with analogies
Seen any hairys about that place??
Stop taking dating advice from women ask the fishermen not the fish gentlemen
Plus studies show women lie about what they are arroused by
I agree! I even did a video on that topic here: ua-cam.com/video/BDY5hc7V8_I/v-deo.html
You must be new to my channel, welcome!
I have watched your videos for many years and found some useful info even at my age (77). After my divorce 9 years ago from a 43-year marriage, it took me a couple years to start to approach women. I found that all of my attempts to talk to someone (you are right) did not kill me.😁 By the way, You have a cute giggle. 👍
(LAUGhing) FINALLY CAUGHT YOU IN TIME. And here's our Wingmam, reporting live from Vancouver Island's Museum of Modern Art. (Warning: She is a little naughty today.)
Yes she was! Get those bars of soap ready, boys, that mouth may need a-washin!
Thanks for showing up! Let me know what you think after watching! #nosoap ;)
Thank you for this excellent video! It was really helpful to me! God Bless You for looking out for us!
I'm so glad and God bless you too!
Key point
😁 Which one made the most impact for you?
Oh, you are so fantastic and giggly, in the very good way🌹🙂
Great way to meet Women-Go to a Dance!! Women don’t expect you to be a Great Dancer. They like the fact that you asked them to Dance!!
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Anna, always respect and value your work. I often revisit the blogs. Even when you wear the red skirt that you brought to our attention. However, too much caffeine in this one. Please less caffeine and ban the skirt and talk about it.
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yup, another reminder, on how i have had a sarcastic mindset over the years, men are the only gender that have to practice when it comes to getting better at or learning how to talk to, interact with the the other sex
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
AMJ is sooo funny...I would watch her even if I was a priest.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Vancouver island is surely one place to search...amazing scenery. Nat geo-esque.
Thanks Anna 😉
My pleasure ❤️
Your laugh is so cute. I can't help but smile. Thank you for what you do
You're welcome, glad to make you smile and thank you for watching!
I love happy women. A cute laugh on a chick is a superpower
You are wiser than your years & more than the sum of your parts. You teach at highschool level (where most people are) & can go to PhD level instantly when necessary. I am a 70 year old widower. Trust me, I can relate to everything you are teaching. If I could have only run across your channel in my 20's. Sadly, there was no social media then. Please continue guiding us. ❤
Thank you! 🙏
Hmmm. It seems the fairy tales warning about what you would find under bridges were lies...
I can talk to women, but I have never found any meaningful relationship in such a way. Beautiful looks doesn't match the character. Yeah, but go chatting and no pressure.
Don't do the deep breathing thing. Instead, consider any fear or anxiety as a good thing. A positive energy that will fuel the encounter. Be glad you are anxious because that means you are ready. And don't think. Just do it.
Thanks for sharing! Of course, confidence is believing in yourself and your abilities. I used to wonder why women don't have as much confidence as men do and why they almost never approach guys in the dating scene. I discovered it's an ancient, instinctive trait women have. Hence, they want the guy to make the first move. They want to see the emotional strength and courage in a guy. It's good to kind of clear ones mind and just get on with beginning the interaction instead of overthinking the negative "what ifs"!
Absolutely! Do it take courage to approach a woman? Yes. Do women prefer brave men or fearful men? Exactly.
Simplicity .
13 Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
(yes or yes ?)
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, well ex girlfriend now, mainly due to not having had one until late in life, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again.
I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life.
Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot.
Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing.
Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training.
It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general.
I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male.
"Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together"
Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad, that its no appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further.
Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do.
I know I'm not alone in thinking this way in which I have the mindset in which I feel that if I was born a woman I would not have been alone or single that long.
I like to think this way and I know that a lot of people agree with this and that is being born a woman basically guarantees you will always have options because you are on the receiving end of sexual attention just for being born a woman because it's often said that women are in abundance by default but men are in scarcity by default because for all time women are the ones that get pursued and hit on or sought after or get advances made on them and when you are in that position it basically means you are simply by default attractive to the other sex.
I'll never get over it and I will be angry and upset and bitter and resentful that I was a late bloomer for the rest of my life I know I will never get over this.
I get very angry and pissed off whenever people still think men have it better than women do, especially in dating.
Even Tripp Advice says "
Men by default or men are naturally in scarcity when it comes to women, but it's the opposite for women when it comes to men".
I agree with that because women by default or are naturally an abundance by default because for all time when you are on the receiving end of sexual attention or when you are the gender that gets propositioned or pursued and hit on or approached and gets advances made on you or has the opposite sex bombarding your DMs or swiping on you in the masses.
It means simply by default you always have options.
Yet a lot of people still think men have it better than women do
Happy Sunday spicy señorita Anna! Hope you're enjoying your weekend 🤗❤
My fear when approaching women is my situation.50 this year and no experience, and i mean non whatsoever! Sad I know but true. It must be easier for guys out there that have had at least a few gf's. Confidence is key but sure if I had experience it would be much easier to initiate conservation.
You Rock thanks for your help 😊
No, it has not.
Alternative scenario:
One is biking on a trail next to the canal. At the end of the 24 miles of biking near where I am parked, I notice two big ships coming in my direction. I position myself to get a few photos of the ships going by with my bike in the foreground.
I passed a good-looking woman jogger just a few minutes earlier, and she rounds the corner coming towards me. I have no intention of talking to her. Concentrating more on the photo. Near the time of the photo, I look around for anyone around.
She is gone.
I get a few photos and wait for the second ship. I look around and see her in the parking lot area, just walking. She goes to the access road, which is past me and continues on jogging.
She was not going to be in the photo. Yet, she went across the grass island, around the bathroom building where two other bicyclists were to the access road and back on the jogging trail
How do I combat these circumstances?
I got a lady that I knew and danced into a conversation on what she was looking forward to doing when it got into warmer weather when a 'Chad' ( both in looks an much better dancing skills) asked her to dance. She danced with him and also with others, staying on the other side of the dance studio floor, never getting a chance to finish the conversation.
Again, Anna, how can one adjust to that other than shaking one's head and moving on?
Next time if you want to meet her and she makes eye contact for longer than a cursory glance, say, "Deja vu, didn't I just see you or are my eyes playing tricks on me?" Just like with art, you have to take risks.
I agree. But the jogger did not even look my way. She went out of her way and walked slowly by the two gentlemen bikers near where they were standing, returning to the trail past me to keep on jogging.
I was food shopping in a store. It c so happens that I went down one isle while a lady was coming up the same isle. It happened multiple times. The fourth or fifth time we passed it each going in opposite direction looking for food items, I jokingly said to her,"Heh, you know we have to stop meeting like this."
Never saw her again.
I have to think not all situations are conducive to meet women. As there are times a woman might not feel safe enough to be approached. Not saying it can't be worked, just look at it from her view also. I think that you're doing great learning to understand others. And being here with the rest of us. You're here empowering yourself instead of watching a Men's Victim channel
Trying to find someone before you find yourself is a blessing, so finding someone that can expand your awareness of life itself as opposed to material possession of everything we leave behind. We're all terminal so live long and prosper ✌️
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Great insights on overcoming approach anxiety and building confidence to talk to women! Your emphasis on genuine interest over manipulation is spot on. As a fellow dating coach, I appreciate your practical advice. Adding to the conversation, remember that active listening and creating a genuine connection go a long way. Keep up the fantastic work in empowering men to navigate the dating scene with authenticity and courage!
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I like how you are using different backgrounds in the new vids. Yea.. i saw the cat in the back.
Glad you appreciate the change of scenery! Will do more as long as the weather cooperates :))
"She's facing you even gives you a slight smile, I wont" 😅 You're funny Anna so youre the type to want the guy to go up to you without any hints eh? 😂 You seem very animated in this video, did you have a latte before this video Anna? 😅😜 Just teasing.
Appreciate the video, unfortunately for a guy like me I suffer from anxiety disorder so these situations I'd most likely get at least a mini anxiety attack. It's one reason why i stopped trying I admit. Appreciate the video though as always.🙂
The physiological sigh is specifically for anxiety. (I used to have it, too.) Challenge yourself in other areas that are manageable or try online dating. If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got. So either be brave and step out of your comfort zone *where it's manageable* or surrender and accept what you have, whichever is best for you. :)
@@YourWingmam Yeah that's a good point. For me I did used to try online dating years back on 4 different sties, I either hardly got responses or would get some but ghosted, randomly blocked or at best make a few friends that added me to their FB. The rest just played games, the thing I learned about online dating specifically is women treat it like shopping for shoes. They may grab 10 different pairs that look interesting but then they know they can't afford all 10 pairs so they narrow it down, and use the process of elimination down to 2 then they pick one. The rest get the shaft. This is what I believe women do with online dating so I gave that option up years ago.
For in person, while I admit to trying less I've always either gotten turned down or in a few cases got a few numbers but one girl had like 10 other guy friends, red flag and a BF but she told me flat out "she didn't care she hangs with who she wants" so that actually turned me off from hanging with that girl and another who wouldn't give me her number but gave me her myspace and snapchat... at the time. The rest pretty much came to me were the aggressor which was like 2 in like 20 years of jobs, events, leagues etc.
I am not sure God wants me to be with someone to be honest but I appreciate the advice. I'm trying to be happy in other ways since dating feels nearly impossible now especially for someone in particular situation.
Anna, why are you under a bridge? Were you kicked out of home? Surely it was not an under the bridge date?
Lol because it was raining and I wanted to film outside... so far not kicked out! ;)
The foundation of marriages was for two people to grow together, nowadays it's considered the cherry on the top. I had always wanted to be that Cherry and really didn't grow as a person,
Fear of rejection certainly can be an issue and yet "logically" we know the majority of women are not for us. I guess basically you fail fast until you don't LOL easy to say not easy to do...well mostly!
Yes, I forgot to mention that part...just because you like the look of her doesn't mean *you* want her!
Wait, Godzilla AND an upright sharp pencil (amongst assumed precarious footing) are in the street I need to cross? She better be worth it, Anna.
lol agreed!