Being good doesn't get you loved but used: look at it from this angle

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  • @RJ-is9ko
    @RJ-is9ko 2 роки тому +130

    You will find that just because you have a big heart doesnt mean people appreciate you and most times people want to be around those who benefit their needs.

    • @bryanoconnor6897
      @bryanoconnor6897 2 роки тому +9

      Or are in need badly

    • @funwithtoshabrown4519
      @funwithtoshabrown4519 2 роки тому +8

      Facts on top of facts. An they can see it to

    • @Lover-of_TRuth
      @Lover-of_TRuth 2 роки тому +5

      💯 facts!

    • @billyjack4933
      @billyjack4933 Рік тому +4

      I listen to my inner voice all the time I watch body language face xpressions every time I walk into a store or room I know when to shut somebody down

  • @jackedkerouac4414
    @jackedkerouac4414 2 роки тому +49

    This world caters to thieves, cowards, liars, and narcissists. Honest, decent folks who try to be fair and compassionate are always the victims. The biggest takeaway from that to me is 'this world'. I'm going to calmly observe the lies knowing in my heart this is all an illusion.

    • @TylerJTI
      @TylerJTI  2 роки тому +5

      Yes you are right and that compassionate folks are the target.I want to let you know that I have sent another email to you.

    • @jackedkerouac4414
      @jackedkerouac4414 2 роки тому +3

      @@TylerJTI Yup. Saw it and replied.

    • @trialanderrorbym.f
      @trialanderrorbym.f Рік тому +2

      I agree

  • @a.y.7738
    @a.y.7738 2 роки тому +53

    If you are too nice, they will take advantage of you, it could also send out “sucker” vibes to predators.

    • @bryanoconnor6897
      @bryanoconnor6897 2 роки тому

      What is to nice to you? I only here them say your an a*shole, you don’t give me no time, you barely even call me lol

    • @anti-narc1343
      @anti-narc1343 2 роки тому +9

      Yup

  • @Lover-of_TRuth
    @Lover-of_TRuth 2 роки тому +111

    😍 Yup! manipulators are the ones who mistake kindness for weakness.. I only give of myself according to how I feel others deserve.. I’m selfish with my energy and am much happier! 🤸🏾‍♀️

    • @bryanoconnor6897
      @bryanoconnor6897 2 роки тому +7

      Exactly

    • @victoriasegall3404
      @victoriasegall3404 2 роки тому +8

      Good for you! I have become the same way, myself.

    • @johnq4520
      @johnq4520 2 роки тому +13

      In this day and age being selfish isn't being mean. No it's looking out for #1 and yo if you aren't hurting anyone than I see nothing wrong with your thinking.

    • @Lover-of_TRuth
      @Lover-of_TRuth 2 роки тому +7

      @@johnq4520 ❤️ thank you for this confirmation.. I have someone putting a guilt trip bc I stopped communicating, but something deep down says don’t engage, so I’m not. Like you said, I’m not hurting anyone or being malicious, I am simply protecting myself, sanity and energy 💅🏾

    • @Lover-of_TRuth
      @Lover-of_TRuth 2 роки тому +4

      @@victoriasegall3404 way to go! It’s time we took our power back! ❤️

  • @topwreckfleece8122
    @topwreckfleece8122 2 роки тому +13

    A person can smile and shake your hand, but your spiritual dreams will reveal the spirit behind that person.

  • @Thecelestial1
    @Thecelestial1 2 роки тому +41

    Sad but true. I’m not nice, but I’m kind. I’ll help you but have become so used and cynical that once I think you’re using me you’re done.

    • @victoriasegall3404
      @victoriasegall3404 2 роки тому

      I'm the same way, too. Once I think you're using me, I kick you to the curb.

    • @ashleyperry8993
      @ashleyperry8993 2 роки тому

      @Colin Miller Exactly Once I see That You Only Come Around or Fuck with me When I Have Something For you Oh We're Good & Done💯

    • @BlingedNails
      @BlingedNails Рік тому

      @Celestial Exactly And When They Get What They Want Out Of You You ain't Gone See Them No More or Until They Want Something Else , Fuck'em🗣️💯👊

  • @TASconfidential
    @TASconfidential Рік тому +11

    Being “good” to those who don’t t deserve it (users, manipulators, leeches and soul-suckers) has no benefit. You’ll spend your entire life drained, and the only benefit you’ll get is a packed funereal.
    Once you’re dead, everyone who used you will talk about how great of a person you were, and how you’d “give your last” for them.
    But here’s the kicker:
    1.) They’re still here to see another day.
    2.) You won’t be at the funeral to see any of this.
    Be good hearted, but ALWAYS put yourself first. Don’t let anyone use you!!!

  • @jonny-hdadon614
    @jonny-hdadon614 2 роки тому +27

    🗣️5 Rules
    1. Always keep it real with yourself first; others second.
    2. Stay humble....watch out for fakes because they spot us good hearted people a mile away.
    3. Never let others take advantage of you...trust your intuition.
    4. Listen to Tyler 💯
    5. Be good to one another.

  • @ameerahrashada4515
    @ameerahrashada4515 2 роки тому +32

    Its ok to be good as long as you know how not to be a fool Thank You so much for this video

  • @iamgoddessoflove
    @iamgoddessoflove 2 роки тому +13

    When you go searching for love, they seem nowhere to be found, but when you don't, they come into your life at the perfect time.
    💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

  • @donnadaniel4448
    @donnadaniel4448 2 роки тому +28

    You are so right on with this message. I have been feeling like something was not what it seemed to be with a person very close to me, just my intuition that I was being taken for a fool so I went with my discernment and cut them off completely. I just found out I was right, then I see your video as more confirmation. Thank you Tyler I hope to listen to your podcasts on karma as I think I need to hear about it.

    • @asiaparks7158
      @asiaparks7158 2 роки тому +3

      Same God Bless u and your journey💯🙏🏾

    • @bryanoconnor6897
      @bryanoconnor6897 2 роки тому +5

      Just try to set standards & boundaries beforehand. That’s the easiest way to explain to another why you don’t give your energy to them no longer.

    • @ashleyperry8993
      @ashleyperry8993 2 роки тому +2

      @@bryanoconnor6897 I Totally Agree With You You're Gut And intuition Will Alway's Let You Know About a Person God Will Alway's Show You Who You're Dealing With🙌🕊️🤍

  • @markcooperartcomofficial
    @markcooperartcomofficial 2 роки тому +35

    Sometimes discernment doesn't even work cause people can be complete liars.

    • @Princetonx2
      @Princetonx2 2 роки тому +18

      Facts sometimes you just gotta know how to remove yourself from toxic minded people

    • @TylerJTI
      @TylerJTI  2 роки тому +28

      If one doesn't practice thier craft at discernment you will never catch thier lie.

    • @stars8924
      @stars8924 2 роки тому +10

      @@Princetonx2 lmaooo 😂😂😂 the entire point of discernment is seeing through the lie

    • @Princetonx2
      @Princetonx2 2 роки тому +1

      @@stars8924 you not telling me nothing I don’t know already kid

    • @stars8924
      @stars8924 2 роки тому +3

      @@Princetonx2 Obviously not when you just said facts and I’m not a kid 😂😂😂

  • @Sunshine-rb5tc
    @Sunshine-rb5tc 2 роки тому +12

    Ecclesiastes 7:16-18, Dont be too good or too evil...I've been learning this lately.
    Edit:I wanted to say from experience, that when the user realizes you're not a fool/pushover, they try to make it seem like you were the problem.

    • @msliberated3899
      @msliberated3899 Рік тому +2

      They sure do

    • @trialanderrorbym.f
      @trialanderrorbym.f Рік тому +2

      Amen

    • @BlingedNails
      @BlingedNails Рік тому

      Yea They Half Tell Shit They Will Sit Back and Watch People Talk Bad About You But Won't tell Other's What They Have Done to You , Snakes in The Grass🗣️💯👊

  • @bigmantings8131
    @bigmantings8131 2 роки тому +6

    UA-cam must be recommending me this for a reason. I wholeheartedly believe in this message

  • @SpiritualBabe101
    @SpiritualBabe101 2 роки тому +6

    I always tell my kids to be kind, and it's important to at least try to be good; Don't be a people-pleaser, that's mum's job. And I'm quite firm when I am.

  • @hailhekate
    @hailhekate 2 роки тому +19

    You always speak facts discernment is everything! Take care Tyler and keep up the content we love

  • @jamesbreeden9016
    @jamesbreeden9016 2 роки тому +11

    I never try to react to a situation. I respond. I do not do things for things (love, favors, stuff, ect). I do good and expect nothing in return. Great video Tyler. Blessings!

    • @johnq4520
      @johnq4520 2 роки тому +3

      Yeah they really are.

  • @courtneygillespie
    @courtneygillespie Рік тому +3

    I agree 100 percent Tyler....You have to be the master of your own destiny.

  • @OG-COLD-N-SOLID
    @OG-COLD-N-SOLID 2 роки тому +16

    Thankyou Brother Tyler for the message...
    Sometimes the best Offense is a Great Defense...
    Salute to you bro.

  • @anti-narc1343
    @anti-narc1343 2 роки тому +4

    Oh yeah totally agree with this
    And be ready to attract all the narcissists who might be around you
    Lesson learned

  • @love83forever
    @love83forever 2 роки тому +9

    Tyler JTI- I have overcome the need to be nice or good over the years, it is no longer an issue. I am only nice and good to people on the job, because I want to make sure I keep getting paid. If I don't make money from it, I am not interested.

  • @JS-Jms
    @JS-Jms Рік тому +1

    Yup. Another good one Tyler. Word for word. Discernment and intuition. 👍

  • @SundaysHealing
    @SundaysHealing 2 роки тому +6

    Always the TRUTH. I know from experience.

  • @wondreel
    @wondreel 2 роки тому +7

    I want to thank you Tyler for helping me deal with these family members and other people BS and jealousy keep doing what you doing

  • @yourstruly1984
    @yourstruly1984 2 роки тому +11

    Thank you so much for this message Tyler.
    I'm a no nonsense type of person and it's really validating to know someone else takes life seriously.
    Again, thank you !!

  • @PunkMartyr
    @PunkMartyr 2 роки тому +11

    There is a question I ask myself:
    If I married a beauty pageant queen today and won the powerball later this week, who would be happy for me? I have found this question weeds out the acquaintances and fake friends.

  • @chrissanders3398
    @chrissanders3398 2 роки тому +10

    This channel surrounds my fro with a shield of armor.🛡️

  • @gw3327
    @gw3327 2 роки тому +8

    I got used today... then lied on... Its getting hard to believe in karma... seems like the lying people who use others are winning...

    • @KofiCashh
      @KofiCashh Рік тому +1

      Bruh I'm literally feel like this. Karma can't be real.
      And I'm reminded of this everyday! Horrible people are the ones who win in life whereas decent honest people are stepped on.

    • @TelliVision87
      @TelliVision87 Рік тому +1

      They may be...for now. Later always comes around

    • @trialanderrorbym.f
      @trialanderrorbym.f Рік тому

      @@KofiCashh because Karma never rush

  • @victorjordanjr1109
    @victorjordanjr1109 Рік тому +2

    Im kind and generous to a select people. Only to people that are caring and empathic.

  • @miak6859
    @miak6859 2 роки тому +9

    Thank you, Tyler for another truth filled video bless you Tyler

  • @kenzo9644
    @kenzo9644 2 роки тому +5

    Well said Tyler brother. You have a blessed day my brother. Cheers from down under

  • @featheredserpentofthewest2049
    @featheredserpentofthewest2049 2 роки тому +3

    Tyler... you are a very wise man. Cold cut truth.

  • @PunkMartyr
    @PunkMartyr 2 роки тому +5

    I consider this man a prophet called to a higher meaning. The timing of his advice is just uncanny. I’ve learned most people don’t want your help because thats a positive sharing of energy backed by Love. They want to use you because that allows their subconscious (or troubled soul) to feel the Power of Control and Manipulation. Some people in this life they have trouble seeing and understanding Love so they pick the closest thing to ot they can comprehend, Power.
    I had a friend that made as much money as I do. If he could get $20 out of me even though he had the money that was a win in his book. He quite literally gained enjoyment from this.

    • @victoriasegall3404
      @victoriasegall3404 2 роки тому

      Well said, and much appreciated! 👍

    • @user-eu3qy8uf7f
      @user-eu3qy8uf7f 2 роки тому +1

      You are,so right about this sub topic. I had a problem for a timr eith people like that until I realized I was being used for power games, hustles, let me see if I can shake him down for something.
      The very good thing that happened during the pandemic is the CREATOR blessed me with the spirit of boredom. In the sense that I'm just NOT interested in worldly 💩 anymore.
      I radiate this now. People approaching or dealing with me see the invisible boundary anf move on. Nothing to be gained here (So they think)
      Good

  • @TellSamyra
    @TellSamyra 2 роки тому +2

    Following the advise of the Holy Spirit is 🔑

  • @mirouu13
    @mirouu13 Рік тому

    Its very good point that you should not give up your goodness. Also understanding people will help. Trying to even understate them.

  • @JazzGaming26
    @JazzGaming26 2 роки тому +2

    If you're too nice you will be taken advantage of.

  • @ramoncrocodiliansproductio3865
    @ramoncrocodiliansproductio3865 2 роки тому +2

    I'm a remember Observe, Discern, and Intuition. I always trust my Intuition no matter what 💯. I just need to practice observing and discerning.

  • @andycampano
    @andycampano 2 роки тому +3

    Great video, thanks Tyler 💯

  • @-33-
    @-33- Рік тому +2

    This is so true man!! Exactly and I always listen to my gut and how I feel about it myself.This is exactly what happens to me.I’ve had people that put hate on me just because I post my feelings a lot and they don’t care at all.I end up having to block them because it’s useless trying to get them to understand.

  • @wondreel
    @wondreel 2 роки тому +6

    Can you do video about how so called friends associates family members try to get close to you to only to try to hurt you or hold you back from your dreams success progress the truth is one who are the closest are the main haters don’t want you to be happy and fulfill your dreams

    • @deltahomicide9300
      @deltahomicide9300 2 роки тому

      Those are the ppl I talk to about movies, music, news, weather. Keep it surface level. No mention of my dreams, what Im working on even exercise routines

  • @sweetberries683
    @sweetberries683 2 роки тому +1

    yes agreed, been there done that, no more, better alone

  • @Kayvan79T
    @Kayvan79T 2 роки тому +2

    Love your channel bro

  • @sugerlipsxjamiewright4170
    @sugerlipsxjamiewright4170 Рік тому +1

    I believe that one Can only be treated Badly if one Allows it! In retrospect And I don't. if something doesn't please Me then as I see it it has No requirement in a in a sense we Only have one life so I choose too have positive people and perspectives whenever possible around Me as This brings the best out in them and Me too truthfully!

  • @Rose-kz8ws
    @Rose-kz8ws 2 роки тому +3

    Well put. You can be good, but only to the right ppl.

  • @yesyoga
    @yesyoga 11 місяців тому

    Wonderful!

  • @evongrossberg5971
    @evongrossberg5971 2 роки тому +2

    Good Morning Tyler. I have been going through your Treasure Chest of Wisdom and is always feeling more enlighten. I Thank you!

  • @victorjordanjr1109
    @victorjordanjr1109 Рік тому +1

    Amen brother you speak what i always felt inside

  • @cayennesinivassinel6977
    @cayennesinivassinel6977 2 роки тому +1

    Tell the truth brother 🙏 🙌 💯 Now they know so if they want to continue with the insanity...more power to them...
    It is easier to Know ThySelf 🥰

  • @twinpyramid5985
    @twinpyramid5985 2 роки тому +2

    🔥🔥🔥🔥Tyler💯

  • @Keshia.means.GreatJoy
    @Keshia.means.GreatJoy 2 роки тому +3

    It truly seems like it,Tyler 💝

  • @MrSilus2000
    @MrSilus2000 Рік тому +1

    I used my intuition and discernment and ended up cutting everybody off.

  • @sarah.j.777
    @sarah.j.777 7 місяців тому

    I have both a really good heart & a vicious temper. so I am good to the innocents who cross my path ❤ but anyone who tries to cross me in the wrong way is going to pay.

  • @kyokonshino6448
    @kyokonshino6448 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you

  • @freedommakers101
    @freedommakers101 2 роки тому +1

    Damn rights it gets you used. Turning the other cheek just enables other's mistreatment and disregard.

  • @daryusi9347
    @daryusi9347 Рік тому

    you are super wise, sir.

  • @glx3846
    @glx3846 Рік тому

    A few years ago, I knew someone who claimed they were my friend and they just insulted me and their other friends. I dumped this person and they lost me

  • @amuroray1085
    @amuroray1085 2 роки тому +14

    People that attempt to use people are extra corny.

    • @Scott-nr2ji
      @Scott-nr2ji 2 роки тому +8

      I never heard it phrased that way and I love it! The irony is that they think they're "cool" for a second..(they don't do it initially but once you see that mask fall off, you'll see one delusional fuck!) Then after all that, once they see that car SPEEDING OFF past them leaving them in the dust (sometimes with their fake ass hoovers after, haha, before they blow it again), it's obvious that they aren't as cool as I thought they were!
      PS--if it was they who sped off from you, good! You don't need that garbage in your life. What that means is that you asserted too many boundaries for them to tolerate anymore. They did themselves in either way with that sort of behavior

    • @bryanoconnor6897
      @bryanoconnor6897 2 роки тому +5

      Not even corny, more like poor with low energy.

    • @amuroray1085
      @amuroray1085 2 роки тому +1

      @@Scott-nr2ji Xactly.

  • @lakeishahawkins4285
    @lakeishahawkins4285 Рік тому

    I love u Tyler 😍😍😍

  • @victorianjohn
    @victorianjohn 2 роки тому

    Dis is a GREAT Teaching KING👑🤴🏿
    💯%Thx 4 da reaffirm edification🤺
    ALL Praises 2 YAH
    👑
    🕊

  • @sabak3340
    @sabak3340 2 роки тому +1

    I love tyler jti!💗

  • @Hustlegaming64_
    @Hustlegaming64_ 2 роки тому +1

    What’s up Tyler ! 💯🔥 back to back !

  • @james2398
    @james2398 2 роки тому

    You are absolutely right Tyler you speak the truth I must have people don't want to hear that

  • @featheredserpentofthewest2049
    @featheredserpentofthewest2049 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks alot man

  • @shekiLane1166
    @shekiLane1166 Рік тому

    No good deed goes unpunished

  • @billyjack4933
    @billyjack4933 Рік тому

    Always watch the face expressions and the body language you can feel the vibration whether it's good or not what I notice any bad feelings or uneasy feeling or bad face expressions you can feel the bad vibes I can see the red flags a mile away I shut them down immediately

  • @danieltaylor1568
    @danieltaylor1568 2 роки тому +1

    Facts

  • @TomasCarterKing
    @TomasCarterKing 2 роки тому

    Just subbed yesterday and you just happen to put out this title which I had problems understanding my whole life. Thanks!

  • @privateprivate8366
    @privateprivate8366 2 роки тому +4

    Tyler is always great but, this is not binary.
    Part of the reason why is because we are a society that increasingly feels that good = stupid. For some, it is as clear as black and white and, when they see a nice person, ignorance is assumed. As a result, a very long line of predators can form and you can spend the rest of your existence fending them off.
    Another is that, when you’re dealing with the narcissistic type, while it is often said that they reveal their true selves and intentions, within weeks or months, some of them are on what’s called the “long con”. People, like my mother, can take decades to reveal who they are and it isn’t entirely because you’re overlooking and dismissing red flags or don’t know how yo recognize patterns.
    And, speaking of parents, the people who tell you to always be kind and respectful to your parents and the people who ask you why you allowed your abusive parent to abuse you? They’re the same people. They have zero idea about covert abuse and subsequent unmasking.
    So, it can be quite complicated.

  • @MrsWanderingWife
    @MrsWanderingWife 9 місяців тому

    ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @ramoncrocodiliansproductio3865
    @ramoncrocodiliansproductio3865 2 роки тому +1

    Awesome video Tyler like always 💯👏🏾. I'm going through this on Snapchat with Females either leaving me on delivered for days, delivered for days and they're posting online, or read people that act like this aren't worth it. Fuck them 💯. Karma doesn't miss no one. Just have to keep grinding and strive towards our goals,dreams,missions, and/or visions and leave the energy vampires behind 💯💯.

  • @andreavictory1334
    @andreavictory1334 Рік тому +2

    I don't trust anyone anymore I'm fed up

  • @hannehartmann9562
    @hannehartmann9562 Рік тому

    💪💪💪💪

  • @hillarisosa7032
    @hillarisosa7032 Рік тому

    Thank you Tyler 🙏

  • @alishia6656
    @alishia6656 Рік тому

    Good Message, thank you!!!

  • @johnq4520
    @johnq4520 2 роки тому

    And Mr. Tyler bro you know what your talking about. I like your videos because they're short and make sense. Take care.

  • @Zvynb
    @Zvynb 2 роки тому

    you’re absolutely right

  • @danpatrickth2759
    @danpatrickth2759 2 роки тому

    I totally agree with you

  • @serene2414
    @serene2414 2 роки тому

    appreciate your words Tyler💞

  • @earnyourimmortality
    @earnyourimmortality 2 роки тому +2

    Your "gut" will always expose disingenuous individuals. Consistently practice *discernment* 🧠 in combination with *intuition* ❤️...
    They'll become transparent.
    Never allow them to close off your heart.

  • @B1gDevin
    @B1gDevin 2 роки тому +2

    👍

  • @candacewebb120
    @candacewebb120 Рік тому

    I'm so sick of HIM 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @mvxxderxnxx3078
    @mvxxderxnxx3078 2 роки тому

    It goes to everything

  • @charlesmiller7958
    @charlesmiller7958 Рік тому

    😇✔️🙏

  • @embracinglogic1744
    @embracinglogic1744 2 роки тому

    Just subscribed, Mr Tyler. Thank you for the content. Can you do a video on how some people (example, me) keep meeting the wrong people, such as users and losers?

  • @Amishpeople
    @Amishpeople Рік тому

    If somebody calls me ugly to my face and I haul off and bust their teeth out will karma get me

  • @pimziengs2900
    @pimziengs2900 Рік тому

    Dear Tyler, which books would you recommend? And what 3 lessons are you talking about? I havent seen al your videos yet.

  • @Bhappi137
    @Bhappi137 Рік тому

    Oh yes Karma does work , it may take it’s own good time coming but it will come , I have had it happen to someone who did a very bad thing to me many years ago , I didn’t need to lift a finger but I found out that Karma came to that person and when it did it was swift and very nasty I can confirm

  • @zetswall2427
    @zetswall2427 2 роки тому +1

    Good Message Tyler 👍

  • @uniquelydifferent7605
    @uniquelydifferent7605 2 роки тому

    Truth

  • @PlatinumSpirit
    @PlatinumSpirit 2 роки тому

    Yes i had one person ask me if i was jaded... it dont matter I am just not dumb because in a wk after that question Her friend was requested the mula

  • @jazminbarbarayoung8150
    @jazminbarbarayoung8150 2 роки тому

    True

  • @abtheone7825
    @abtheone7825 2 роки тому

    Red ♥️ flags are important

  • @johnsmith-rd3zx
    @johnsmith-rd3zx 2 роки тому

    if i dont rule others others will rule over me instead.

  • @kyokonshino6448
    @kyokonshino6448 2 роки тому +1

    Wow... so much time wasted

  • @johnsmith-rd3zx
    @johnsmith-rd3zx 2 роки тому

    im not racist ive had black girlfriends and asian girlfriends not just white women and latinas

  • @oya_the_goddess8854
    @oya_the_goddess8854 Рік тому

    Just set strong boundaries

  • @milz5032
    @milz5032 Рік тому +1

    I just don't cars about people anyway