Men Fall In Love & Bond WHEN... (#1 Secret)-Dr. John Gray

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  • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
    @MichelleMarchantJohnson  12 днів тому +17

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    • @awhappy
      @awhappy 12 днів тому

      Hi Michelle, Happy weekend. I’ve been enjoying many videos featuring Dr. John Gray-thank you for producing such great content! I believe there are various types of men in the market. Would it be possible to have him speak about dating busy, successful, middle-aged men who are divorced and have kids? I’m very happy with my partner, but he is extremely busy, traveling every month due to his demanding business. While I’m also a career driven woman, his level of busyness is on another level. Thanks very much!

  • @jencrews
    @jencrews 5 днів тому +17

    I’m a menopause denier… Meaning I deny the way people talk about menopause hormonal changes like it’s out of our control. I feel more feminine than ever post menopause and I’m experiencing all the physical benefits of that. I think it’s because of all the healing work I’ve done on myself. I propose that perhaps the hormones follow the experience not vice versa and I think John Gray makes a great case that hormones can be affected by our life experience.

  • @AD-hh6dd
    @AD-hh6dd 10 днів тому +28

    Listening to this and realizing I did all the things that John Gray said he wouldn’t have his wife handle (talking to the neighbors, the attorney etc) and realizing what a coward my ex was and why I became so turned off by him. I resented him turning into the woman of the relationship. That’s what I wanted to be

  • @AD-hh6dd
    @AD-hh6dd 10 днів тому +34

    Thanks for this btw! My boyfriend did something really well yesterday so after hearing this video I went and told him how much I appreciated him with specific details on how he was able to make me feel happy and I’ve never seen him light up that much before.

  • @RG-hf4et
    @RG-hf4et 8 днів тому +24

    Tell men to keep the kitchen sink empty, empty the dishwasher, keep the kitchen garbage clean & every day his partner will want him even more. The kitchen is the source of love, comfort & family but at the same time, stressful bc of all of the necessary ongoing cleanup!! Women are tired of getting stuck in the kitchen all the time. It's very tiring. That's a way to keep your wife very happy!

    • @nawalm7279
      @nawalm7279 7 днів тому +2

      🤌🤌🙏🏼😂

  • @Mindsetolympics
    @Mindsetolympics 12 днів тому +22

    31:58 awww
    Michelle is so good she knows how to interject respectfully and get the good comments she had to say in. John is so great at speaking just as much as he is a writer! So grateful for this content!!!

  • @GenRN
    @GenRN 6 днів тому +7

    I always get taken for granted. I feel like I do all the right things but it just gets taken advantage. I think I need to demand more.

  • @Here4TheMusic765
    @Here4TheMusic765 8 днів тому +6

    I'm in my 40's and this man was refreshing to hear which allowed for this woman to be educated today 😊

  • @CarmenPerez-kz6rw
    @CarmenPerez-kz6rw 11 днів тому +39

    I’m addicted to exercise and Jesus. People think l I’m 28. I’m 50. I also don’t have premarital sex. That hasn’t worked yet but I still believe in it and will keep trying. Heh.

  • @theresas.3808
    @theresas.3808 9 днів тому +17

    It’s important that a woman has more value for man than sex.

  • @Mary-t2p6p
    @Mary-t2p6p 10 днів тому +40

    2024 we’re still studying how to get along😂

    • @SanctifiedLady
      @SanctifiedLady 2 дні тому

      It’s insanity! Doing the same thing and getting no where fast 😂

    • @elliegonzaleza
      @elliegonzaleza День тому

      That’s funny cause it’s true😂

    • @babydoll4698
      @babydoll4698 18 годин тому

      insane😂

  • @karenschell9822
    @karenschell9822 12 днів тому +55

    I live alone and have to do everything for myself, and have for many years. It would be nice to have help, especially fixing things or hiring handymen. But it’s not that easy to find a compatible partner we are aligned with, after age 55…

    • @SheenaRea
      @SheenaRea 12 днів тому +16

      I hear ya! In the same boat. Hang in there, he could be right around the corner 🙂 God bless!

    • @Deborah-go3kh
      @Deborah-go3kh 12 днів тому +13

      Go younger

    • @sandramichaud8033
      @sandramichaud8033 12 днів тому +4

      Same here.

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  12 днів тому +21

      This is true for so many women and it's not easy. Don't give up though because I work with many women 50 and above who meet a great man! Sending you love and thanks for watching too!

    • @wayaca47
      @wayaca47 11 днів тому +3

      ​@@MichelleMarchantJohnson Where did they meet the men ?

  • @msmartyaz
    @msmartyaz 8 днів тому +8

    I practice talking to men like even with my doctors. It's funny to watch as I tell them how much I appreciate them which I do btw.

  • @napertandy3579
    @napertandy3579 10 днів тому +21

    Going out with a man and him giving other women, young women the once over, no matter how briefly, is a passion killer. The way to destroy any respect or feelings a woman would have for her man. Men's piggish behaviour is so disgusting, hurtful, off putting it can ruin a car drive as he gawks at a womans butt in tight yoga pants, a lovely meal where his eyes roam the breasts and crotch of a young waitress 6 inches in front of him, even a holiday where flesh is on display.
    No matter where you are, if his eyes are roaming over another woman's body, even for a second, it is destroying any closeness. Not jealousy, just disgust at betrayal. Ive seen women with their husbands actively turn away when waiters, young men look for attention. However, men can be so demeaning to their wives ogling other women. All other women in the area can see it, as well as the woman being ogled, so it's public humiliation for the wife/girlfriend. There's a way of looking too that's actually flirting. To me, like the Bible says; if a man looks at a woman with lust, in his heart he has committed the sin. The worst part is when they deny what the woman has seen right in front of her.

    • @ashleykathryn9038
      @ashleykathryn9038 9 днів тому +6

      Same here, I think I'll stay single then deal with someone who does this. I know there's men out there that don't I just haven't been lucky enough to find one yet

    • @username604error5
      @username604error5 6 днів тому

      BTW … the dress doesn’t make you look fat … your ass makes you look fat. Stop asking stupid questions

    • @brittanyb5942
      @brittanyb5942 6 днів тому +1

      I agree! I’ve dealt with that in the past and it’s hurtful and embarrassing. I have mad terrible choices in men in the past and now I don’t trust my judgement. That’s why I’ve remained single for 4 yrs now.

  • @HananBenNafa
    @HananBenNafa 43 хвилини тому

    Thank you for this great conversation, much appreciated 🥰

  • @sandramichaud8033
    @sandramichaud8033 6 днів тому +2

    Michelle, your show is always awesome. Sometimes I rewatch them and save them.

  • @Lic.en.derecho
    @Lic.en.derecho 8 днів тому +3

    This interview is so what I needed to know at this particular moment...I was doing it all backwards...I appreciate your generosity.... thank you! Blessings ❤

  • @JennyGump-k1x
    @JennyGump-k1x 11 днів тому +16

    Can you please do a session with John and what to do when we are dealing with feminised men, they are everywhere it’s a huge problem. How to get them out of depression.. anxiety etc.

    • @MWroses
      @MWroses 11 днів тому +4

      And how to bring out the masculine in them? I often wonder if they would be awakened to discover this better version of themselves once a woman taps into it. Like, is there any hope that a man with a slightly more dominant feminine side become more dominant in his masculinity by a woman?

    • @greatrunner1
      @greatrunner1 11 днів тому +4

      The boys are screwed. Mothers hovering over their little boys. Saw a boy with mom. Pink,purple shirt and wearing earrings……. :(

    • @Michelle-o9z7h
      @Michelle-o9z7h 10 днів тому +3

      Great suggestion! Men who are wounded, hurt, etc. & how we can encourage trust, vulnerability & their healing.

    • @cutechiangels
      @cutechiangels 2 дні тому +1

      ​@@Michelle-o9z7h
      Sissy boys... No possible change.. Point. Alas.

    • @cutechiangels
      @cutechiangels 2 дні тому +1

      ​@@greatrunner1
      Totally screwed up.
      Sissy boys. Ugh. Due to single mom parenting. A son king. That's what happens. And it's been going on for 40+ yrs... 😑

  • @BeckyJB
    @BeckyJB 12 днів тому +9

    Yes 11:52 I have been practicing my ability to receive and appreciate a man when I run into a man. I’m in my late 30s and feel like I’m learning all of this too late. 14:38 why should I ask 😂 very true! Thank you ❤❤❤❤

  • @elliegonzaleza
    @elliegonzaleza День тому +1

    This is so interesting 😮❤

  • @firefly198
    @firefly198 5 днів тому +1

    LOVE John Gary - this is just so true! I've been there! I'm a recovering over-giver...

  • @nancyderksen1650
    @nancyderksen1650 12 днів тому +3

    Amazing. Thank you Dr John and Michelle. I’m looking forward to seeing more videos. Sooo helpful.

  • @dunjavincek1725
    @dunjavincek1725 День тому

    Amazing advices,thank you John,God bless you

  • @martapaweek3188
    @martapaweek3188 8 днів тому +5

    and what if he always has a gloomy face when I ask him for something? Or when he takes every request as an attack and says: I know!
    I'm afraid to ask for anything because I don't like fights

  • @GalacticWoman
    @GalacticWoman 6 днів тому +2

    ...I handle the lawyers,neighbours, plumbing, organising, DIY....would be great to have someone to help with all this

    • @sandramichaud8033
      @sandramichaud8033 6 днів тому +1

      I have to do it all also. It would be nice to have someone help relieve the stress, help make decisions…to have a soft place to fall.❤

    • @cutechiangels
      @cutechiangels 2 дні тому

      ​@@sandramichaud8033
      I haven't found such a good man, yet!! It would be a good thing if men would be educated that way...
      I wish to find my M. Right, soon, nevertheless! 🙏🌟
      Hope you do too, if that's what you wish for. Take care.

  • @theheartstorycoach
    @theheartstorycoach 7 днів тому +1

    Very good info! Thank you for this interview

  • @AnnaWhite-go6nz
    @AnnaWhite-go6nz 5 днів тому +2

    I love Dr John gray!!! ❤

  • @pamelaloveroses
    @pamelaloveroses 10 днів тому +7

    This was a great video, thank you:).
    Question: I've had male friends tell me they could sleep with a woman and not love her and not sleep with a woman and love her.
    So, im curious.. is this video saying men require sex to feel love in relationship?

    • @cutechiangels
      @cutechiangels 2 дні тому +2

      Same here. John generalises a lot. Which is easy, but not real. Especially nowadays, where men are very different to 30-40+ yrs ago... He says not to give into a man who complains or is a sissy boy. But, so many men are, nowadays!! Ugh.
      I haven't come across any man who wants just sex, or intimacy. In Western countries. Often, it was even me who was longing for the physical intimacy really badly, in the relationship. And that's extreemly frustrating. So, that last years I prefer staying on my own. At least no triggers...
      A lot of men have huge problems with that subject.
      In their heads it's all upside down, and in their bodies they don't get erections, or come extreemly fast, etc... Don't wish to cuddle up, etc. 😓
      A lot of women experience these phenomenon. Our societies are really f**ked up. How can we put that straight again? I'm so nostalgic of the 20ies, and to finding my Mr. Right, today! 🙏👌🌟

  • @carolewright6474
    @carolewright6474 3 дні тому +1

    Enjoyed your talk very much ❤ r thank you both

  • @clairefoxall2313
    @clairefoxall2313 12 днів тому +3

    Yes…I’ve learnt so much over the years/ podcasts 🙏🙏 Thank you both ⭐️⭐️ Listened to this twice already 🎉

  • @SarahBatsanis
    @SarahBatsanis 10 днів тому +1

    Fantastic video! One of John’s best! Jam packed Thankyou both! Feeling blessed ❤

  • @lifeseries7944
    @lifeseries7944 7 днів тому +3

    I asked him to fix the leaky roof & broken air-conditioner (think Texas summer), repair the front door lock & gap around the door, fix the flickering kitchen light, change the dripping faucets, fix my car's leaking roof & side window as well as suddenly-come-on-engine-light & broken key & back door remote control, fix the cracked & peeling cabinet & walls, fix the rotten wooden patio, organize his hoarding garage & closet, clean up after himself, flush the toilets, the list on & on....but he just wants to fill up my car's gas & expects me to give him lavish praises.

  • @Katrica670
    @Katrica670 19 годин тому +1

    13:29 -13:51
    13:53-19:11

  • @secretshaman189
    @secretshaman189 9 днів тому +1

    Wonderful review, thank-you both for all your work and research.

  • @Fendora
    @Fendora 4 дні тому +4

    Men definitely STOP putting in the same effort that they did in the beginning. Everyone I know, myself included have complained til we were blue in the face about how little effort they put once men "made it" in the relationship. We fall for men for the CONSTANT little gestures and displays of attention and effort. DO NOT love starve your woman when you have proven to be able to provide her with more. It would be like you signing up to work for someone who pays you extremely well for doing a job, and once you sign a 5 year contract that employer starts putting more and more on your agenda without any increase in pay. IT's like ... nah fam. I know you got money to pay, so pay me for my time. Same thing. We know you got the time to spend with us, the energy to spend with us like when you were single so stop making excuses and pay up with your attention and company.

  • @Katrica670
    @Katrica670 19 годин тому +1

    22:38 -23:47 -24:39

  • @Katrica670
    @Katrica670 19 годин тому +1

    11:22 - 13:12
    13:18 -13:21

  • @Katrica670
    @Katrica670 19 годин тому +1

    19:40
    20:14- 20:16

  • @cosmic_curves3339
    @cosmic_curves3339 10 днів тому

    Loved this! Thank you for this content!❤ please keep making more videos!❤

  • @cutechiangels
    @cutechiangels 2 дні тому +1

    Thanks for your interview. I enjoy the way you listen well and put questions out, afterwards.🙂I read two of his books, 20 yrs ago. Hated them. Especially venus vs mars. So linear, very sexist, his facts, and only based on hormones..No advice, nor tips. Nothing.
    It was very boring and frustrating to read though. I threw them away. Amazing they sold so well!! Trash.
    Women and men aren't so black and white nowadays. In this interview he's evolved a bit. And at last he gives some advice, but it's still so linear. My God, if it where so black and white, we wouldn't have any trouble with relationships !
    Plus, I have never encountered a man who likes doing diy chores around the house, nor for his wife, and even less if his she asks it. He'll wait until she forces him or gets into a rage!! Be it with European or Oriental men, house chores were always mine. I hated it. And I learned to diy too, because otherwise I would've waited an enternity.
    Or, sometimes the man would hire a worker in urgent or very heavy duty work.
    I can't see John doing any diy, btw, either!! And, I think he only does a minimum of house chores, too! So...
    I wish it were as easy as he says...

  • @greatrunner1
    @greatrunner1 11 днів тому +3

    Interesting. My husband had drinking problems, because he had problems sharing his feelings???

    • @shannonbates1635
      @shannonbates1635 10 днів тому +3

      Yes. People have addictions because they are trying to avoid feeling their feelings.

    • @brittanyb5942
      @brittanyb5942 6 днів тому +1

      Yes! Or they’ve been thru something traumatic and drink to not “feel”

  • @4seasons546
    @4seasons546 12 днів тому

    Good chat thank you 🙏 😊

  • @oceanwater2wave
    @oceanwater2wave 11 годин тому

    As a woman…
    Give too much…
    They hate you.
    Pull back…
    “You made me lonely, so I had an affair.”
    I’m good alone. Lol

  • @GoodvibesGoodlife11
    @GoodvibesGoodlife11 11 днів тому

    Very helpful video 👏

  • @AdrianaJSC11
    @AdrianaJSC11 12 днів тому +111

    Ok… thanks for addressing strong, single women… but let’s be real. Men need women more than women need men. We have love and happiness on our own, and most men have too many issues to be able to make our lives better. A lot of the time men actually provide no value. Taking the trash out is not difficult 😂 It’s not our job to “keep” a man or keep him from cheating. That message is pure misogyny and puts the blame on women

    • @Deborah-go3kh
      @Deborah-go3kh 12 днів тому

      Wow you are full of crap

    • @creative45630
      @creative45630 11 днів тому +29

      Men are hugely valuable when women have babies and in bringing up children and looking after a house. I was widowed when I was 31 and my boy was 2, and really notice the difference. It’s not insignificant when you have a good man.

    • @CarmenPerez-kz6rw
      @CarmenPerez-kz6rw 11 днів тому +8

      I don’t think it’s a competition.

    • @CarmenPerez-kz6rw
      @CarmenPerez-kz6rw 11 днів тому +24

      Moving furniture. Fixing our cars. Disposing of dead cats. Getting on the roof. Reaching items in the top cabinet. There are a million things men are needed for. Women with these attitudes of devaluing men have male energy and therefore have a hard time attracting masculine men.

    • @AdrianaJSC11
      @AdrianaJSC11 10 днів тому +12

      @@CarmenPerez-kz6rw dead cats? 😳 are you ok?

  • @Tina-wk2pr
    @Tina-wk2pr 10 днів тому

    very interesting, thank you!

  • @kyriakiepantazidou1624
    @kyriakiepantazidou1624 9 днів тому

    Thank you ❤

  • @sparkyin3d
    @sparkyin3d 10 днів тому

    Thank you ❤!

  • @GwendolineDuduzileMkhasi
    @GwendolineDuduzileMkhasi 8 днів тому

    Great conversation!! What's the name of the book Dr mentioned?

  • @trudydaley1965
    @trudydaley1965 10 днів тому +1

    Would if your taking estrogen blockers from cancer?

  • @julianawellman2235
    @julianawellman2235 2 дні тому

    1. 💪 raising his testosterone around you … polarity
    1. 💪

  • @sarahenry5162
    @sarahenry5162 11 днів тому

    Omg... this is the hardest thing for me 😅

  • @OlderWomenRock
    @OlderWomenRock 11 днів тому +6

    Dr John I would love to know why my ex was very physically attracted and felt immense chemistry , sex was wonderful but He did not feel love or deeper feelings
    I did unfortunately
    We got along well . He said He felt comfortable with Me
    Why does this happen ?

    • @Artbynbru
      @Artbynbru 10 днів тому +7

      Good question. It could be that he doesn’t know how to accept love, or feels like he deserves it. If he grew up with emotionally unavailable parents (or prior abusive relationships) he is probably used to trying to get love from people who are not capable of loving. I don’t think it has anything to do with you personally.

    • @bl7817
      @bl7817 10 днів тому +1

      I'm a woman and was able to have a relationship with good sex but not feeling I was in love with him. It's not uncommon.

    • @Nomad.Hawk_87
      @Nomad.Hawk_87 9 днів тому

      Men and women bond differently :) Men need prolactin in order to bond with you specifically... if there is no prolactin produced after sex, they can be attracted to somebody else shortly after... because novelty is a simple way to rebuild testosterone (chasing, conquering, etc.) If they are addicted to that, it can become like a habit... A lot of men do that without understanding why their feelings suddenly "vanish" for no apparent reason an why they become apathetic towards their woman...

    • @mYsTiCaLiEs
      @mYsTiCaLiEs 7 днів тому

      He’s using for sex!!!

    • @brittanyb5942
      @brittanyb5942 6 днів тому +3

      Maybe he was gay?

  • @sherriclark1290
    @sherriclark1290 7 днів тому

    I had breast cancer n on a hormone blocker . How the hell do i do that .😢

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  6 днів тому

      I had breast cancer myself and hormone blockers as well, so I do understand your concerns. I do believe we can still be centered in feminine receptiveness and bring out the best in men. Best wishes for your good health!

  • @Jan-qv8ku
    @Jan-qv8ku 11 днів тому

    Thx💛

  • @petra5499
    @petra5499 11 днів тому +7

    shallow reasons for having a man. we re not our hormones

  • @Mindsetolympics
    @Mindsetolympics 12 днів тому +2

    34:34

  • @mrc3226
    @mrc3226 12 днів тому +1

    Correct

  • @brendavillanueva1447
    @brendavillanueva1447 8 днів тому +5

    He is great made valid points.
    But one thing that’s off.
    I think God made woman and man on purpose, not for them to be so different and things to be so hard. If a man isn’t a man and he not pursuing you, which is his natural nature, actually nothing a woman really does or doesn’t do, turns off a naturally healthy man. So if he doesn’t overall like your APPEARANCE, which men like 99% of woman anyway, he won’t pursue. That’s a man’s nature. Very visual. A real man understands a woman is like the moon.
    We do not have to be perfect.
    He explains us like estrogen makes us completely different creatures. We are definitely almost identical to the man. That’s what he absolutely doesn’t know. We are 98.2% identical.
    If it’s not working then move on. Don’t try to change a million things about yourself. A real man wants a woman with depth. Not just a nice sweet girl. Trust and believe

    • @Nitabita_
      @Nitabita_ 4 дні тому

      I’m very glad you said that. The Bible states we were created in his image, meaning both man and woman….men have hormones and they have feelings and their complex and to signify women as so strange..is very interesting, we are not so different…But it’s a man explaining it.

    • @elliegonzaleza
      @elliegonzaleza День тому

      You got me thinking 🤔. I believe God made men and women different because God wanted men and women to be different. It’s ok to be different 😉. Otherwise God would’ve made us all men or all women , don’t you think?

  • @Fatimah12325
    @Fatimah12325 8 днів тому

    8:00

  • @Moon_Dancers
    @Moon_Dancers 12 днів тому +4

    Can someone give me the answer to when….? Because I don’t have time to see full video

    • @BadItchBay88
      @BadItchBay88 10 днів тому +3

      It’s when they feel appreciated and valued. Cherished. Bc of something they were able to do for you

    • @BadItchBay88
      @BadItchBay88 10 днів тому +3

      Little things you may request of him. Something he can accomplish easily for you and you reward for doing w appreciation

  • @mirzabeg2274
    @mirzabeg2274 12 днів тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @BeckyLoweSwansea
    @BeckyLoweSwansea 8 днів тому +7

    This is ridiculously sexist. How about both sexes just respect one another, take equal responsibility for their lives and show appreciation instead of taking one another for granted? Basic respect, kindness, empathy.

    • @Bonnie-nq6cx
      @Bonnie-nq6cx 4 дні тому

      I agree somewhat but I try to keep my negativity to myself. Thank you for your kind words 🙏

    • @JulieMorales-z3w
      @JulieMorales-z3w 4 дні тому

      Sure. But in reality. Humans are complex..That would be ideal, Humans want to protect themselves. Especially emotionally.

    • @elliegonzaleza
      @elliegonzaleza День тому

      What does sexual mean for you?