Marriage Real Talk: Fighting Fair || STEVE HARVEY

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  • To find out how to have a happy marriage, Steve invited several couples to talk about their experiences. First up? How to fight fair.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 117

  • @tryingthings9036
    @tryingthings9036 5 років тому +411

    49years married said communication
    32years married said not calling each other by names ie respect nomatter what it is.
    13years married said never bringing back past arguments, best thing about arguments is making up.and finally
    20years married said no going to bed mad at each other,thanks guys i just a premarital counseling.

  • @heliaalves9062
    @heliaalves9062 5 років тому +119

    1:36 "When I forgive you, it's done." That's exactly how it should be, this woman is doing it right.

  • @hellothere9318
    @hellothere9318 5 років тому +186

    My heart dropped when she said her husband was heading towards the trade center. 😱

  • @princesscasie9051
    @princesscasie9051 5 років тому +251

    This was a wonderful segment. I’m not married but I learned from this.

  • @mrsyoung8503
    @mrsyoung8503 5 років тому +86

    Please keep these segments coming. Hearing advice from successful married couples (more than ten years) is really helpful.

  • @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862
    @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862 5 років тому +117

    *Understanding each other is the key to a successful relationship.*

  • @rayecaters2u
    @rayecaters2u 5 років тому +242

    Marriage isn't for the selfish. ❤️

  • @toddntasha
    @toddntasha 5 років тому +62

    Yes I 100% agree! Not to go to bed angry at each other. Work everything out. You don't know if you will wake up to see the next day because tomorrow is not promised.

    • @secondopinion53
      @secondopinion53 5 років тому +2

      Real Talk!

    • @ictpilot
      @ictpilot 2 роки тому +1

      Friend of mine from grade school had his mother have a seizure one night and never woke up. After several months they had to take her off life support and she died. That always stuck with me to where I told myself if I ever got married I'd make sure the last thing I said at night before I went to sleep, was tell my wife I loved her so it was the last thing she heard if either one of us never woke up. Even if you say it kind of grudgingly, at least if something happened, the other person will not have the guilt for the rest of their life that there were harsh words instead of I love you.

  • @godisgoodfaithful.803
    @godisgoodfaithful.803 5 років тому +46

    LOVE. RESPECT , FORGIVENESS AND UNDERSTANDING MUST ALWAYS BE PRESENT.
    " NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY..."100%

  • @jo-pj3rf
    @jo-pj3rf 5 років тому +37

    Thank you Steve Harvey for this premarital counseling. Really great segment!

  • @Rashaadthegr8
    @Rashaadthegr8 5 років тому +42

    Caprice deserves another and bigger and better wedding ring because 99% of women bring up the old arguments to the new argument aka compounding sins is what I like to call it.

  • @flowergirlpower1991
    @flowergirlpower1991 5 років тому +82

    That's straight from the Bible. don't go to bed angry with you spouse. Lots of things that we do and say is right out of God's word to us. Most people don't know that. Some don't believe in The Bible or God. If we do read the Bible and put into practice in the right way we will be very happy people living in harmony.

  • @jayyahmad9225
    @jayyahmad9225 2 роки тому +3

    “When I forgive you, it’s done.” Lord that’s very rare.

  • @maryfarwell265
    @maryfarwell265 4 роки тому +10

    Another one i have learned from my family and all of them have passed the 20 years of marriage and divorce isn't even an option here! My dad told me that the golden rule is it's not you against your partner it's you and your partner against the problem! 🤗

    • @ictpilot
      @ictpilot 2 роки тому +1

      Some friends of mine would joke the word divorce was not in our vocabulary. But murder is. 😂

  • @stevefranktv8086
    @stevefranktv8086 5 років тому +26

    I like this segment!! Because it's about Understanding, perspective and learning how grow an adapt while not being selfish because everyone has an Vantage point.

  • @lifegoeson6461
    @lifegoeson6461 5 років тому +6

    The lady is red is gorgeous and your advice is gold ma'am-don't bring up past argument!

  • @Menooy22
    @Menooy22 5 років тому +25

    My advice ...from someone who's never been in a relationship lol don't give each other the silent treatment because it's manipulative. I know people go days without talking and I think that's pointless. Some time to cool off is understandable however.

    • @etf42
      @etf42 5 років тому

      yep, i recommend giving women a 24 hour time limit for the silent treatment. after that she can either clearly communicate her feelings (since women are such great communicators) or else be done with her.

  • @CJ_Pharaoh
    @CJ_Pharaoh 5 років тому +23

    Any kids watching the show? What that lady meant by making up is you shake hands, hug real tight and kiss each other on the cheeks.

  • @NewbieSoaper
    @NewbieSoaper 5 років тому +15

    Love This!!! Post more like this!

  • @normanjanproductionhunter9765
    @normanjanproductionhunter9765 5 років тому +12

    Very good topic very good indeed yes if you forgive you forget you will erase it from your mind and if you have problems with forgetting it you don't speak it you concentrate you ask God to clear it from your heart thank you for sharing God bless you have a good evening

  • @pazvababe89
    @pazvababe89 5 років тому +3

    This is beautiful,God bless me and mine please like these.

  • @husnakh5136
    @husnakh5136 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you sooo much 💞
    Learned a lot, real talk ✔️✔️✔️

  • @ndnadia9
    @ndnadia9 5 років тому +3

    keep up with this segment. It's amazing

  • @masoumeh416
    @masoumeh416 5 років тому +1

    I agree with that lady - the idea is:
    when you FORGET - there is nothing left to forgive
    but if you FORGIVE - you necessarily don't forget.

  • @NYDB
    @NYDB 4 роки тому

    More conversations, less clapping. Great segment.

  • @kingkjoy3955
    @kingkjoy3955 3 роки тому +1

    At 3:34, considering her story... Bag choice of words

  • @jstblessed8081
    @jstblessed8081 4 роки тому +1

    Valuable points 👏needed this

  • @ntiayungclodiankenneh281
    @ntiayungclodiankenneh281 2 роки тому

    I'm single and this session was really empowering

  • @tracyaohikeni-prakash1564
    @tracyaohikeni-prakash1564 5 років тому +1

    Really good insights. Im getting married in Oct.

  • @waheedahsrecipes5004
    @waheedahsrecipes5004 5 років тому +1

    Knowing your boundaries how far to go watch what you’re saying to each other

  • @SheniceSays214
    @SheniceSays214 5 років тому +9

    It’s I forgive you period, not I forgive you but you.......

  • @kingkjoy3955
    @kingkjoy3955 3 роки тому

    I'm envious of the 10 years at 1:40

  • @49ers_red_and_gold2
    @49ers_red_and_gold2 5 років тому +22

    There is no such thing as a happy wife happy life. Work together as a team. A man will leave his mother and father and, stick to his wife as one flesh, that means marriage is team work. 😇

    • @peacheskong2245
      @peacheskong2245 5 років тому +2

      It's a vicious cycle really I think...he makes her happy, she makes him happy. She makes him happy, he makes her happy... Pingpong

  • @chaineyroot4329
    @chaineyroot4329 5 років тому +1

    I guess these marriages are really healthy because these people look YOUNG.

  • @linhtrinh5730
    @linhtrinh5730 5 років тому

    True. I don’t bring up the past😬

  • @shingiraibondai747
    @shingiraibondai747 5 років тому

    I approve this video 😊

  • @hamdaismael8477
    @hamdaismael8477 5 років тому +2

    First like and first comment.

  • @localone1597
    @localone1597 5 років тому +12

    You can be right or be happy? That's garbage. In other words treat her like a child to let her think she's always right. B.S. I never have and never will live in a relationship like that. And yes, I am in a relationship but we are two adults and treat each other as such.

    • @etf42
      @etf42 5 років тому

      You are correct. Women have NO RESPECT for men who believe and adhere to this philosophy. You will be viewed as a weak man with no balls or backbone.

    • @kendallboultsjr
      @kendallboultsjr 5 років тому +5

      That doesn’t just apply to his marriage though. He lives by that in general. I agree with it plus it works for him. What’s the endgame if both of you are “arguing” for the sake of being right or the other person being wrong? You’d just be going in circles like that. Being right or being happy only means to pick your battles. Some arguments are necessary, others are completely pointless. That’s all.

    • @EugeneMungin1984
      @EugeneMungin1984 5 років тому +1

      Jonathan Collins
      Exactly!
      Because choosing the “HAPPY” road can bite you in the butt if you’re not careful.

  • @Fleur_2desert10
    @Fleur_2desert10 4 роки тому

    I can be right or be happy

  • @anitamazyck8603
    @anitamazyck8603 5 років тому +1

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👍

  • @cookycooky1627
    @cookycooky1627 5 років тому +1

    Steve my marrige is in so much trouble because my mother will not move out . iv been married for 12 years . My husband and i let my mother move in because she fell on hard times ,well those hard times been over with for 3 years now and this woman will not move out . every time itz time for her to move she throws attitudes and makes me feel guilty about her moving she claims im putting her out . She acts as thow because i ask her to move out that that means i dont want to have nothing to do with her anymore and all types of stuff omg do she pull up all types of suff. my husband complains constantly that im not acting as his wife any more . So of course things happened. On both our parts that almost brought us to a divorce we decicided we still truly love each other and want to wrk it out and grow old togeyher but itz hard when my mother is still walking around the house monitoring my marrige. Monitoring My kids monitoring my dogs monitoring my life . please do a segment on how to get mothers out there daughters house. Or just give me some tips . Please help

  • @zero1188
    @zero1188 5 років тому +15

    "im well trained" i can never respect a man for saying some stuff like that. no matter how long he been married

    • @etf42
      @etf42 5 років тому +7

      its emasculating and dehumanizing.

    • @EugeneMungin1984
      @EugeneMungin1984 5 років тому +3

      zero
      Thank you for saying this.........I absolutely hate the intent behind that phrase.
      I’m not an animal to be tamed or trained to do what you want when you want.
      Now, I bet if you say a woman can be “trained” all unheavenly things will happen.

    • @EugeneMungin1984
      @EugeneMungin1984 5 років тому +1

      etf42 Exactly

    • @IWantToMature85
      @IWantToMature85 5 років тому

      Zero, are you a mgtow?

  • @canandwill1
    @canandwill1 5 років тому

    Dont dude talk like kirk franklin 😂😂

  • @publicinfo926
    @publicinfo926 5 років тому +1

    Vadia jii how r all

  • @elenarotestan5823
    @elenarotestan5823 5 років тому +1

    Agree with most of the couples advises, but the one with the break up and make up no thanks. Personally I think as a couple you might not make it to the make up part. Its toxic.

  • @royalefazeentertainment
    @royalefazeentertainment 5 років тому

    Great couples ⚠️💣💣💣💯🤘

  • @tenzingyuthok8078
    @tenzingyuthok8078 5 років тому +1

    All I learnt was for the husband to surrender. Is that right? Doesn't seem right, crocodile tears don't count. Most argument seem spot on!! Don't go to bed mad.

    • @etf42
      @etf42 5 років тому

      steve will never get strong men on the show

    • @Jay-jb2vr
      @Jay-jb2vr 5 років тому

      That's all you learned??

    • @tenzingyuthok8078
      @tenzingyuthok8078 5 років тому

      Yup, people get offended too easily.

    • @IWantToMature85
      @IWantToMature85 5 років тому

      These men are strong.

  • @7saany
    @7saany 5 років тому +4

    I keep bringing up the past because he keeps acting the same as he has the past 5 years. How can you not bring up the past when you don't see the progress?

    • @earlonaweary9155
      @earlonaweary9155 5 років тому +1

      It doesn't help, though. Maybe try a different tactic, and you'll see different results. There have been times where it's been really difficult for me to change, but I try anyway; but how I used to be isn't easily forgotten, so I'm EXPECTED, by this other person or people, to fail, so they can tell me about myself & bring up how I've always done this & that. What you may not see is the struggle; and the reason behind why it is a struggle for them. Have you ever asked this person, sincerely, "What can I do to help you?" If you REALLY want to help them, and you love them, you'll do whatever you can, including throwing your pride away.

    • @blastinkaps8826
      @blastinkaps8826 4 роки тому +1

      7saany then y r u with him. Stop wasting your time

  • @mindfulmindfulness442
    @mindfulmindfulness442 4 роки тому

    what if i am right and i know am right should i still apologise?

    • @sqoishicasette
      @sqoishicasette 4 роки тому

      Me and my bf made a pact that whenever we have a fight, no matter who is more right or wrong ... We both still find our point where we might have said something we should not or even just that we fought we still apologize to each other for our part in the fight and it has been the best thing we did

    • @mindfulmindfulness442
      @mindfulmindfulness442 4 роки тому

      @@sqoishicasette i get but all the men look so beaten down and have no will inside them. that guy literally said that he has to choose btn being happy and right. how are those options

  • @etf42
    @etf42 5 років тому +2

    The key to a happy marriage is a masculine dominant man and a submissive feminine woman

    • @Carousel5883
      @Carousel5883 2 роки тому

      Happy marriage for a man but not for both

    • @etf42
      @etf42 2 роки тому +1

      no, effeminate men make women miserable

    • @Carousel5883
      @Carousel5883 2 роки тому

      Submissive woman is for a weak man.A strong man can handle a strong woman

    • @etf42
      @etf42 2 роки тому +1

      @@Carousel5883 why would a dominant man pick a dominant woman?

  • @rolandclark918
    @rolandclark918 5 років тому

    My favorite couple is the Burrells, which one is yours?

  • @rachellepeterson6225
    @rachellepeterson6225 5 років тому

    You disagree with out being disagreeable.

  • @foodwithprincess1756
    @foodwithprincess1756 2 роки тому

    . We weren’t called to forgive and forget, we’re not God. He’s the only one who forgives and forgets. We are humans.

  • @junior.beatzzz1376
    @junior.beatzzz1376 5 років тому +1

    Steve can I come on your show and beatbox

  • @GarrettLeeGuitar
    @GarrettLeeGuitar 5 років тому +2

    Men are not stupid robots to be trained, a real relationship unlike those old idiots, is 50/50 respect for each other

  • @shawmou3493
    @shawmou3493 5 років тому +1

    No! Stache! Again!

  • @Tha_Chad
    @Tha_Chad 2 роки тому +1

    Smh…

  • @galewilliams3969
    @galewilliams3969 5 років тому

    Why do husbands/men like alot of sex?

  • @mohammadanis1679
    @mohammadanis1679 5 років тому +1

    😐

  • @roshanlackhan110
    @roshanlackhan110 4 роки тому

    Mgtow

  • @shamarthompson926
    @shamarthompson926 5 років тому +2

    Don't get married OK
    *consider it* .

  • @r1yamahamini
    @r1yamahamini 5 років тому +4

    Ok.. Don’t get married. . .I got it:)
    Women just want a man they can own.

    • @pearlljewels7330
      @pearlljewels7330 5 років тому +5

      If that's your opinion...you're entitled to it but this is about getting along wih your spouse. NOBODY gets along great all the time. Even with those in the same household but you learn to respect them and agree to disagree...and still maintain the peace of the household. You know...people skills. Treating others as you'd want to be treated.

    • @silvershadow7655
      @silvershadow7655 5 років тому +5

      Some real losers hang out in the comments section. I'm really not sure what incels get from watching them. It's not like they have a hope of being married anyway - that requires being able to actually have an adult relationship (instead of watching porn and looking at mgtow videos).

    • @rebecca4829
      @rebecca4829 5 років тому +1

      @@silvershadow7655 lol dang, that was too funny.

    • @boitumelomonare8647
      @boitumelomonare8647 5 років тому +1

      @@silvershadow7655 bitter ?

    • @silvershadow7655
      @silvershadow7655 5 років тому

      @@boitumelomonare8647 Yeah they are. They probably do this 'in real life' too - gatecrash weddings only to snort and shake their fist about how much they plan not to get married (when there isn't a hope in hell of that happening anyway lol).

  • @nnena3631
    @nnena3631 5 років тому +1

    The woman in the red dress talks too much and seems to be a lot about keeping up appearances

  • @kathope4484
    @kathope4484 5 років тому

    That lady with the red dress talks too much

  • @shawna8134
    @shawna8134 5 років тому +1

    Marriage is pointless. A huge huge waste of time

    • @silvershadow7655
      @silvershadow7655 5 років тому +4

      You routinely go to Steve Harvey videos to make this exact same comment, stating how anti-marriage you are - even in a positive video like this. You are pathetic. Get a life.

    • @shawna8134
      @shawna8134 5 років тому +1

      A Jackson The truth hurts and you can’t handle it

    • @rebecca4829
      @rebecca4829 5 років тому +1

      @@shawna8134 That's your opinion.

    • @silvershadow7655
      @silvershadow7655 5 років тому +3

      ​@@shawna8134 Don't flatter yourself. Nobody cares that you will never be married. Sad lonely troll.

  • @NiltV23
    @NiltV23 5 років тому +3

    Moral of the story,Dont get married!!