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I don't disagree. But, another possibility is that she wants to mold herself (temporarily) into what you say you're looking for in order to hook you. Chameleon behavior.
@@bbaattttlleemmooddee Be honest about your intentions and don't lead them on. The problem with a lot of people is they don't know how to communicate and set boundaries. By telling her you're only going to settle down if you meet a person that does these things you're looking for it gives her a challenge and she'll perceive you as high value.
@Mark Zaney Hypergamy forbids long term. Most of the time, that question is her asking you what your favorite bait is. Once you commit that's when you get the switch. Chameleons looking to be better chameleons.
Nope. It means " i always get mentally hurt by giving my pussy and commitment away to guys who are bad to me because i make bad choices". But she blames it on the guys or the one night stands but not on herself who is choosing and falling for the wrong guyd
Dating apps are a complete waste of time: what you 'see' is - not - what you will get. Work on yourself: meet women in public places (e.g., shared activities), hobby pursuits, etc.
Churches, volunteering, focus stores (music, books, records, etc...), popular hiking or biking trails, PTA meetings (for those with kids already), and so on.
@The Loner Millionaire Age has nothing to do with it. I'm referring to the 'type' of woman you will meet. If you're talking about meeting for a hook up that's in a completely different context.
The answer to that question is “I’m not looking to settle down right now, I’m just looking for something casual... if the right girl comes along then i would definitely be open to something long term if that makes sense “ I guarantee this works
Some women supposedly are (or will at least say) they’re only looking for a serious relationship so that could put those ones off. Maybe “I like to casually date first and go with the flow, (second half of your response)” so you’re not coming off like a hookup guy. Not all guys try to hook up with as many women as possible.
A real douchey answer would be does it really matter? lets just go with the flow and see where it takes us.Not sure if it will work unless you are giga chad.
Her: "What are you looking for?" Translation: "I've already decided what I think you're looking for, and I want to see if your answer deviates from that."
100%. Girl on Tinder matched me and started messaging me for a bit, then dropped the question - to which I responded "I'm just looking to meet people; whatever happens, happens, whatever doesn't, doesn't. She had already figured out I wasn't long term boyfriend material and just wanted it confirmed. She stopped responding shortly after that.
@cool finally someone said it. Surprisingly not finding much of these comments. I really do hope people know these demonic humans an demonically assisted people exist.
I guess when you pay attention to someone's question, you can spot their true intentions. A lot of guys nowadays see the package and get too emotional to realize the red flags.
A nympho sounds nice, and I know this is just a joke. But a nympho is a woman who loves to have sex for her own physical stimulation. You don't want that. You want a woman who loves to please you
Always respond with "I'm always open to meeting a great person and getting to know them." Says a lot without saying anything at all. Total mind fuck and works like a charm
@Duck-Rider Yea, slip of the thumb and made a typo. I shouldn't reply to comments on youtube when I'm at orgies. Ahh fuck done it again! Hold on lemme edit...
I've been asked that by women. I respond by asking the woman to be more specific, which puts the ball in her court to define of her question. It'll catch her off guard while at the same time take the pressure off you on how to answer her question. I always use this approach when in doubt. It never fails to avoid confusion and get respect.
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@Matthew Poreda well said. i'm 47 and am at a point where idgaf what women think in terms of why i stay 2 myself. you just explained the science behind "owning your life, your responsilbilities and your happiness." a woman should complement a man's life, not be the 24-7-365 focus if it. wishing you continued success, personally and professionally.
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Why God invented beer music children and dogs . Men are made to be alone working with there hands .Not have babe got 100 I can have? For a new pair of shoes trying to impress the next guy in your sights. With the chamber loaded off safety . Yeah no thanks
This is right on the nose. If you're ripped and a 10 out of 10 physically women want to "hook up" but if you're average the same woman will switch to "oh I'm not just looking for something sexual I want to settle down." blah blah blah
in my experience women on dating apps that have a bio filled with "not here for hook ups or onenight stands" are the ones that put out the fastest if you tell them what they want to hear.
I know this goes against the narrative but most of the "NO HOOKUPS" girls actually mean it. I've been on dates with them and they are hard as fuck to bed.
@@scottmoering9810 well the one thing you need to realise is your time is valuable. Make your move and if she playing hard to get and saying no. Get up and leave. Tell her you got too much shit to do then to be fking around with a tease and leave. The longer you engage a woman with her bullshit hard to get games the more she gonna look at you as weak and not deserving of her pussy
Guys, why do you waste time on dating apps? Alongside social media, they're one of the main reasons why women feel their SMV sky-high. Don't waste your time nor contribute to the distortion of the healthy relationships among men and women.
"Just looking to meet new people and see where it goes really, no expectations. You?" Is exactly how I respond (I literally pasted this from my clipboard). And I can't tell you how many women will say they want the same when in their profile it says 'only looking for serious blah blah blah'.
We often talk about the ways in which men try to guarantee ideal outcomes in dating, but this is an example of a woman trying to. It's a desperate power play, one that I never entertain. Women tend to prefer to communicate covertly. The fact that they go overt here reveals that it's now dire straits. I have a reliable reframe that just plays to the fact that I don't even know her yet, so how would I know how she even fits in my life, if at all.
Well if you’re on a DATING app why wouldn’t she ask about your intentions. How else would a woman know what she’s getting her self into? No I’m not going to waste my time if you’re just planning to use me. It would be nice to get an honest opinion of what you want out of a dating app. Not everyone wants to hook up.
@@californiachik619 lol. Same as a guy who goes out and pays for a meal, hopefully not to get burned. There are no ideal outcomes guaranteed in dating, sorry. Even if you ask that question, which you just revealed is not as innocent as it appears, you're not guaranteed an honest answer. Many men know just to tell women what they want to hear. I'm not into that. But here's my truth: I literally don't know what you are going to be to me. Could be nothing, could be something, could be a great deal. And the only way to suss that out is through the natural dance of dating which can be both satisfying and, unfortunately at times, painful, too.
@@californiachik619 ....about that study done on reddit where the women disregard the bio of the “childmolester” trying to make good. It appears in a majority if not all of cases the women who swiped right did not really care what they were getting into. So to me the overt questioning as to intent is just a waste of time.
@@nathanlacy6466 those women speak to the belief of contemporary American beliefs where sex is more important than anything else. However if you want to be honest, men are the first ones to go after looks.
@@mariavidal6224 No. In the first sentence you generalise pessimistically, the second is a standard argument 'men do that too!', and in the third you are pure idealistic. Men are thought to be 'a man of his word'. Some are. If a man's words mean nothing, he's nothing. A woman.. a woman is a different story.
Not even an exaggeration when I say this. Every single woman that I matched with on dating apps that had "NO HOOKUPS" or any other variation of that in their bio, we hooked up on the first date. Some weren't even dates. I'd just have them come over. Easiest women on the planet to sleep with
I had one say this in her bio and was bobbing her head in my lap so to speak within 20 min. of getting in my car. Surprised the hell out of me when she went for my zipper. What a freak I thought.
Yyup I slept one on the first night I bought her flowers an chocolates she said she never slept with some one on the first date butt I made her feel special lol
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@@dhilonstephan you need to watch Pulp Fiction. It’s a classic. Great movie. This is from the diner scene. Now I’ve ruined it b/c I had to explain it to you 🤦♂️
What are you looking for? Translation: How much of your resources, time, and energy are you willing to waste to prove she should be TEMPORARILY loyal to you?
My response: "I am looking to explore the world. people are part of the world. you are one of them./Or what i am looking for depends on the moment, right now I am looking to know what you are". its the truth, woman lives on a moment to moment basis, they can betray and lie if the moment makes them feel so. I also change on moment
@@sonofcatachan2886 that’s basically saying you’re “casually” going about life. For some women that’s fine but for others it’s not enough. If you want a long term relationship you have to establish that in the beginning or vice versa, if you want casual dating let women know so you don’t waste their time.
Guys, whenever a woman describes her ideal man she's actually describing a slave. This maria chixk doesn't even know what she will eat for dinner so why you asking her for her input?
My ex Girlfriend kept asking me that and I wasn't sure what she wanted. So I asked her to go first so I could get an idea of what she was asking. She went loony narc on me and tried to start an argument that I wouldn't participate in. We broke up shortly after this question was asked.
“I’m not really sure because I haven’t seen it yet” that’s a perfect line. It fits me perfectly. Ok so what do you do if you saw it and want to pass. What’s the best way to let the guy down without hurting his feelings?
"What are you looking for?" Or the more obvious, "Where is this relationship going?" Either way, it's a trap question, attempting to make you verbalize your commitment. Whatever your plans may be, she has begun moving you towards fulfilling hers.
my response is normally: why do you ask ? what difference does it make ? we both know that underneath it all, it's really what YOU are looking for anyway. Generally, the response i get is: shocked silence + blank stare + long pause + awkward laugh / half hearted giggle, then I look them dead in the eye and ask: So, shall we start over and you ask me a real question .... either they rise to the occasion and keep my interest or they fail and mumble something about me being a jerk and shuffle away ... either way, i win.
@@sunkintree actually, i dont do it 'loudly or obnoxiously' at all. i deliver it with razor sharp, ice cold, laser focused precision. additionally, i'm not ever delivering in a condescending tone. It's best (i have found) to be direct and "strong" - despite your assertion to the contrary - and my body count suggests that it is completely effective. All that said, while i respectfully and genuinely understand how you may feel that way (feel = beta and feminine, ergo the opposite of strong) i would also suggest that to grasp the nuance and subtlety of delivering this correctly, one (presumably you) would first have to not only understand but also grasp the larger concept of its use and a tool. Again, respectfully submitted and not in any way intended to be pejorative or deprecating to you the person.
Have had several female friends offer to cheat on their b.fs with me. Not even really financial status, just attitude and they aren't getting that from their man. Things changed when I found your channel, the confidence is huge.
I'm not the most successful man when it comes to finances but I am 6'4 - 230 pounds and considered highly attractive by women. I say that to say this every woman that has no hookups in their bio usually hookup with me. They ask me questions like what am I looking for. I say something vague like exploring my options if something serious comes along then I'll be open to it. I never get to that point because I ended up smashing on the second date pretty much every time there's a second date.
I use this line when I was 23 and we both wanted a serious relationship resulting in marriage and kids. 6 years later happily married and expecting number two! My only regret is being a social autist and not realizing that he was interested in me earlier. But fuck no I was not going to wait into my late twenties or thirties to start searching for a good husband.
This happened to me 2 months ago. My buddy and I are early 30's were at a bar and we were minding our own business when my buddy spotted a girl he used to know. Her and her two friends came over to us (they were early thirties, two single and one married. The third was divorced). The lowest value of the three was the one my buddy knew. They talked with us for almost hours and very early in the conversation the lowest value woman kept asking us "what are you looking for? Are you here to get laid or looking for a girlfriend?" My buddy replied "to get laid." I replied after her asking me 3 times "I'll let you figure it out." The red pill is real fellas. Don't show the hand you're playing to these women.
@@jemand8462 the more I held back, the more interested she became. She went from acting professional and well put together (thinking I was maybe beta need ) to acting more promiscuous. Touchy and talking sexually (thinking I'm in the alpha seed category). My buddy asked her if she was still seeing a guy she was dating and right away she rejected it. I later found out she was in a serious relationship with him LOL.
28yrd old 6'4 , chad , get regular Thor comparisons. My experience with dating apps from the 5 years i have been on them is as a good looking dude you can hookup with females a few points below you on the smv scale, all i got from tinder is a bunch of 5's to 7's max. The real good looking women are not on there, or do not respond and only want you to follow the social media accounts for more free attention. The best thing is to go about your day/ purpose and approach attractive women when they are in your surroundings, now you don't have to deal with women in the epiphany faze asking dumb questions like what are we. As you are only approaching young good looking girls.
That is what I am trying to do now....it is tough. Cause it seems like a lot of good looking women just sit at home and don't get out...and of course I seen some good looking women at the gym, but you are told "Don't approach", so I don't. But I get told similar as you...a lot. You look like Thor or a Hemsworth brother....or when I shave my beard off, I look like Capt. America.
@@sethdunn96 are they actually telling you to not approach in the gym or do you mean in general? Imagine if men actually wouldn't approach a woman for 1 months all around the world. women would BEG to be approached again.
Tell her you are not looking to settle down. I'm keeping my options open and have no expectations. If I meet someone that does all of the right things then I'd be open to something long term. Every guy always answers this question with "I'm looking for a relationship". This doesn't give her a challenge and requires no effort from her part. Give her a challenge folks. Know your value. I guarantee you'll see a major difference in the girls reaction. If she's not on board with your frame then she's not worth it.
when they ask me what im looking for i just say...A woman...she laughs and the subject is dropped. likewise when they ask why i am single, i will say...because i dont have a girlfriend.
I agree that most women would ask this question if they are looking to settle down with but I know most of them still go for the good looking alpha male
Very good video and wish I answered that question in practice the same way. My response usually was vague like ‘I am not really sure at this moment but open to whatever possibilities make sense in time’. That did not appear to be well received so I think those hearing it usually jumped back on the carousel
I been asked that a lot and I watched the video for an inkling as to how to respond, examples etc to stimulate to my particular situation, but you left us hangin man!!
My experience is when a woman asks me this, it's so they can try to be that person when they are not. Then they put on the show. It usually can only last for about a month or so because I have an extremely low tolerance for what I will put up with. Then I see the real person, which is nothing I want to be with.
"I am looking for someone who doesn't annoy me." is a good one. Thanks. I will just use that and see how cool she reacts. It's almost like a shit test regarding her character🤔
"I want a nice guy." (bad boy) "I want a guy who treats me good." (makes me feel inadequit and lucky to be dating him) "A guy who likes to do things." (pay for everything) "And enjoys spending time with me." (Has other ambitions than spending time with her)
Good responses. I've been using "good company" and sometimes adding "...are you?" But generally when women say this it doesnt go anywhere. It's a disqualifying question.
It is the typical question of women who hit the Wall or close to hitting. Mostly 28y old and above. She wants a stable guy but she wants options for herself. Often a typical Single mother question.
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This question has been discussed a lot of times among my friends and the fun thing is that the 2 best looking guys among us never get this question from girls on dating apps. The girls are just happy to sleep with them. We´ve come to the conclusion that this is a question that >28 Years ask guys who they see as BETA in order to quickly determine whether they will wife them up or not. If not, she is gone to the next guy. If you try to give her uncertain answers, typically what you´ll hear is "I feel that you´re a guy who is only after one thing, and I´m not that kind of girl and then she blocks you" and 3 weeks later you find out that the alpha guy you know slept with her. Solution to this, if you happen to be the beta guy who always get asked this by girls is to play the game and tell them what they want to hear, sleep with them and decide later if you want to keep seeing her. She doesn´t care about your feelings so why should you do it? :)
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She could just be wanting to settle down. But consider this. Would you really want to give someone the blueprints to your castle? It could certainly be used to infiltrate and destroy you, if someone so intended. 'Exact same thing. Some broads are the chameleon type, and if they ask what you want, and you tell 'em, it tells them exactly what mistakes not to make. It cuts their learning curve and they won't even have to put in the work to figure you out as a man. Don't live paranoid but just be aware 😐
Never get the chance. I have 0 interest in the dating scene. If I go out, I'm usually with friends or solo and I don't approach any woman. Those that approach me are given the friend treatment from the start so that usually shuts it down quickly and I go back to doing what I want. My SMV is 0 and I don't want to play the game again. I have me, my family and my business. That's all I need.
Half the time I here that on dating apps it a scammer trying to tell me what I want to here. No matter what you’re answer is it’s oh yes that what I’m Looking for. The other half is her wanting to here what she wants to here
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"Women are not particularly honest with men."
In other breaking news, water is wet.
From a woman who is honest with men, none of you have been able to take it like a man
Woman don't change after you marry them.......
They just get tired of acting.
LMAOOOO
@@forcedtohaveachannel Sounds to me like the men you encountered know what they want, and you aren't it. At least, not for more than about 5 minutes.
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I don't disagree. But, another possibility is that she wants to mold herself (temporarily) into what you say you're looking for in order to hook you. Chameleon behavior.
That's why you tell her what you're looking for and that there will be consequences if you cross the line. Most men don't have the balls to do this.
@@ryanj357 For certain. Of course, the chameleon only changes herself for a high value man.
Like a narc
@@bbaattttlleemmooddee Be honest about your intentions and don't lead them on. The problem with a lot of people is they don't know how to communicate and set boundaries. By telling her you're only going to settle down if you meet a person that does these things you're looking for it gives her a challenge and she'll perceive you as high value.
@Mark Zaney Hypergamy forbids long term. Most of the time, that question is her asking you what your favorite bait is.
Once you commit that's when you get the switch. Chameleons looking to be better chameleons.
It's like the salesman saying, "what do I have to do to get you into this car today?"
The worst line in sales: "whats it gonna take to get your business today?"
Give me it. For free
It's a great car. (With broken transmission and dead engine and needs but can't pass smog)
My....that is very close in it's connotation.....good one! But very bad sales protocol...
BAM!
Keep saving my life one video at a time.
Jesus in the flesh. Lol
@@thereelaceofslayz3898 I don’t think he’s trolling.
@Alyyse I looked at your thumbnail/picture and thought you said "keep saving my life one video game at a time."
I was like, dam... same here...😄
😂 so true
No cap
Lol. "No one night stands" means "I do one night stands all the time, just not with betas".
Men are getting left and right regardless of alphabet these days
"no hookups" a girl who's had a lot of hookups
Nope. It means " i always get mentally hurt by giving my pussy and commitment away to guys who are bad to me because i make bad choices". But she blames it on the guys or the one night stands but not on herself who is choosing and falling for the wrong guyd
@@koma7778 same thing
If u get her on the first night Its because she seen you as alpha if you try.
Dating apps are a complete waste of time: what you 'see' is - not - what you will get.
Work on yourself: meet women in public places (e.g., shared activities), hobby pursuits, etc.
much harder these days with the Rona going on.
Churches, volunteering, focus stores (music, books, records, etc...), popular hiking or biking trails, PTA meetings (for those with kids already), and so on.
Was checking out match today and all I seen today was 🤮.
@The Loner Millionaire Age has nothing to do with it. I'm referring to the 'type' of woman you will meet.
If you're talking about meeting for a hook up that's in a completely different context.
@@RT-cn5hl that always worked for me.
One could reply, "I don't really know yet... It depends on how you act"
Shit test passed.
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Perfect. Playful, yet sets expectations from the start.
She will stop communication
This is good
The answer to that question is
“I’m not looking to settle down right now, I’m just looking for something casual... if the right girl comes along then i would definitely be open to something long term if that makes sense “
I guarantee this works
Oh yeah, true. That makes them think.
@@southwest3671 exactly and if her interest level in you is relatively high she will do what she can to accommodate you and be that “RIGHT GIRL”
Trade mark to @Darius m! he's good wisdom!
@@matthewscarpetta ayy same here heard it from him too.
Some women supposedly are (or will at least say) they’re only looking for a serious relationship so that could put those ones off. Maybe “I like to casually date first and go with the flow, (second half of your response)” so you’re not coming off like a hookup guy. Not all guys try to hook up with as many women as possible.
“What is it you’re looking for?” = “I’m a chameleon and will shapeshift to whatever is needed to land you.”
A real douchey answer would be does it really matter? lets just go with the flow and see where it takes us.Not sure if it will work unless you are giga chad.
Not if you tell me you’re looking for casual sex. That’s an automatic no for me.
@@californiachik619 aw rats
@@kaputasri How is that douchey? And yeah, it works (though i phrase it differently). I'm a bit above average, but no Calvin Klein model...
Winner winner chkn dinner
Her: "What are you looking for?"
Translation: "I've already decided what I think you're looking for, and I want to see if your answer deviates from that."
nah if youre attractive enough shell ignore all her decisionmaking and that question just helps her to fund out if youre beta bux
100%. Girl on Tinder matched me and started messaging me for a bit, then dropped the question - to which I responded "I'm just looking to meet people; whatever happens, happens, whatever doesn't, doesn't. She had already figured out I wasn't long term boyfriend material and just wanted it confirmed. She stopped responding shortly after that.
@cool no just women
@cool finally someone said it. Surprisingly not finding much of these comments. I really do hope people know these demonic humans an demonically assisted people exist.
I guess when you pay attention to someone's question, you can spot their true intentions. A lot of guys nowadays see the package and get too emotional to realize the red flags.
“What are u looking for”
Me - “a mute, nymphomaniac”
Usually get a good chuckle out of that and they don’t ask again
Stealing this....
With 36d and also a trust fund
A nympho sounds nice, and I know this is just a joke. But a nympho is a woman who loves to have sex for her own physical stimulation. You don't want that. You want a woman who loves to please you
I will never be with a women who has a kid that isn’t mine I’m sorry but that’s not my problem
Dont be sorry.
Never wear another mans underwear.....
Me either, but nowadays that severely limits our options
@@kojack635 yeah but it’s crazy young men are having relationships with women who have kids, unreal.
@@Kubai they're thinking with the small brain
Always respond with "I'm always open to meeting a great person and getting to know them." Says a lot without saying anything at all. Total mind fuck and works like a charm
That's no mind fuck. That's some basic shit. No offense
@@brianallen140 Interesting. I said the same thing to your Mum last week and she is now a part of my rotation.
@Duck-Rider Yea, slip of the thumb and made a typo. I shouldn't reply to comments on youtube when I'm at orgies. Ahh fuck done it again! Hold on lemme edit...
@@brianallen140 I agree it's something pretty basic lmao.
Somewhat basic Response... the Comebacks were complete 🔥🔥🔥 however lmao
Her. "What are you looking for"
Me. "My 10mm wrench"
Lmao!
That's f#*@$ing funny and true !!!
Absolute best answer.
Lmfaooo
ur not wrong.. such a pain to find that thing in my shop XD
I've been asked that by women. I respond by asking the woman to be more specific, which puts the ball in her court to define of her question. It'll catch her off guard while at the same time take the pressure off you on how to answer her question. I always use this approach when in doubt. It never fails to avoid confusion and get respect.
The most valuable lesson I learned in this world is the road to happiness is paved alone. Your wisdom, physical health, financial success, or anything worth having is dependent completely on you. Any success I have attained is through my efforts and the help of G-d alone. You are extremely fortunate if you have even one friend ( or girlfriend / spouse) that loves you for who you are, and will help you from a place of unconditional love. In fact, the greater you become, people envy you. Women, knowing the power of their beauty to seduce men, are no different. They size you up in a few minutes if you can satisfy them sexually as a handsome man, or a rich guy that can pay the bills. They never see the real you. If you hold your self value based on what others think of you, women included, you are going to be miserable in this world. the first step to personal freedom is defining yourself, owning it, and not giving a shit what others think.
Very very very true
@Matthew Poreda well said. i'm 47 and am at a point where idgaf what women think in terms of why i stay 2 myself. you just explained the science behind "owning your life, your responsilbilities and your happiness." a woman should complement a man's life, not be the 24-7-365 focus if it. wishing you continued success, personally and professionally.
@Debarghya Das not sure what you mean by hitman. that said i agree 100% with what matthew wrote and i stand behind what i wrote.
am looking forward to getting back to work, getting ahead of bills, getting in better physical shape and developing a side stream of income...and when covid buzzes off, im going to go watch stanley cup games in person. being single is not for everyone i guess LMFAOO 🤣🤣🤣
@Debarghya Das lol shut up 🤣
Why God invented beer music children and dogs . Men are made to be alone working with there hands .Not have babe got 100 I can have? For a new pair of shoes trying to impress the next guy in your sights. With the chamber loaded off safety . Yeah no thanks
This is right on the nose. If you're ripped and a 10 out of 10 physically women want to "hook up" but if you're average the same woman will switch to "oh I'm not just looking for something sexual I want to settle down." blah blah blah
in my experience women on dating apps that have a bio filled with "not here for hook ups or onenight stands" are the ones that put out the fastest if you tell them what they want to hear.
I know this goes against the narrative but most of the "NO HOOKUPS" girls actually mean it. I've been on dates with them and they are hard as fuck to bed.
@@scottmoering9810 well the one thing you need to realise is your time is valuable.
Make your move and if she playing hard to get and saying no. Get up and leave. Tell her you got too much shit to do then to be fking around with a tease and leave.
The longer you engage a woman with her bullshit hard to get games the more she gonna look at you as weak and not deserving of her pussy
Guys, why do you waste time on dating apps? Alongside social media, they're one of the main reasons why women feel their SMV sky-high. Don't waste your time nor contribute to the distortion of the healthy relationships among men and women.
@@alejandrop.s.3942 could you explain more please on why you’re saying not to be on dating apps?
@@alejandrop.s.3942 exactly.
Q: What are you looking for?
A: What do you have to offer?
Good one.
Merchant art 101 : P
Damn, this is smooth
Guy=paycheck
"Just looking to meet new people and see where it goes really, no expectations. You?" Is exactly how I respond (I literally pasted this from my clipboard). And I can't tell you how many women will say they want the same when in their profile it says 'only looking for serious blah blah blah'.
We often talk about the ways in which men try to guarantee ideal outcomes in dating, but this is an example of a woman trying to. It's a desperate power play, one that I never entertain. Women tend to prefer to communicate covertly. The fact that they go overt here reveals that it's now dire straits. I have a reliable reframe that just plays to the fact that I don't even know her yet, so how would I know how she even fits in my life, if at all.
Well if you’re on a DATING app why wouldn’t she ask about your intentions. How else would a woman know what she’s getting her self into? No I’m not going to waste my time if you’re just planning to use me. It would be nice to get an honest opinion of what you want out of a dating app. Not everyone wants to hook up.
@@californiachik619 lol. Same as a guy who goes out and pays for a meal, hopefully not to get burned. There are no ideal outcomes guaranteed in dating, sorry. Even if you ask that question, which you just revealed is not as innocent as it appears, you're not guaranteed an honest answer. Many men know just to tell women what they want to hear. I'm not into that. But here's my truth: I literally don't know what you are going to be to me. Could be nothing, could be something, could be a great deal. And the only way to suss that out is through the natural dance of dating which can be both satisfying and, unfortunately at times, painful, too.
@@californiachik619 ....about that study done on reddit where the women disregard the bio of the “childmolester” trying to make good. It appears in a majority if not all of cases the women who swiped right did not really care what they were getting into. So to me the overt questioning as to intent is just a waste of time.
@@nathanlacy6466 those women speak to the belief of contemporary American beliefs where sex is more important than anything else. However if you want to be honest, men are the first ones to go after looks.
Nathan Lacy Honestly it’s waste time for people read bio. When most just fake made up put on fake image. Most ladies that have dated know this so lol.
If a woman could have 100 years of being 18-24, she'd spend 99 years, 364 days, 23 hours and 59 seconds of it on the CC.
Good thing is not possible and the wall is our savior
The CC?
@@kenconceptsThe wall doesnt play bro. 😁
@@aetherblackbolt1301 the carousel
@@mr.makedonija2627 the wall doesn't play. It is formidable. It the almighty. It is dangerous. It is the great equalizer
The best thing that had ever happened to me is my last breakup
God bless her 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm looking for a company with a strong work culture, great benefits etc...
How can you tell a woman is lying to you ? ,,Her lips are moving..."
"Women are not particularly honest with guys". More like, "Women are not particularly honest, period". :-)
Women are not honest. Their words go with a wind.
Amen, brother.
Neither are men. It's both genders. Both parties should be honest with each other.
@@mariavidal6224 No. In the first sentence you generalise pessimistically, the second is a standard argument 'men do that too!', and in the third you are pure idealistic.
Men are thought to be 'a man of his word'. Some are. If a man's words mean nothing, he's nothing. A woman.. a woman is a different story.
@@mariavidal6224 True, and sad
Her: What are you looking for?
Me: Left hand tail light for a 1969 Dodge Charger. I've been to every wrecking yard and I can't find one.
Me: My 10mm socket
Try Hemmings.
Not even an exaggeration when I say this. Every single woman that I matched with on dating apps that had "NO HOOKUPS" or any other variation of that in their bio, we hooked up on the first date. Some weren't even dates. I'd just have them come over. Easiest women on the planet to sleep with
They will never admit that they are in a sexual drought. So you can just assume it and you are in. This ain't the past.
I had one say this in her bio and was bobbing her head in my lap so to speak within 20 min. of getting in my car. Surprised the hell out of me when she went for my zipper. What a freak I thought.
Can also verify this lol
Who reads bios?
Yyup I slept one on the first night I bought her flowers an chocolates she said she never slept with some one on the first date butt I made her feel special lol
Dating apps are a joke and a waste of time . There’s a lot of scammmers on the dating apps also
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“I’m not looking for anything. I’m divorced with two kids. I’m done looking. At this point, I’m just wandering the Earth like Caine on Kung Fu.”
“They have a name for that, Señor Slowly: it’s called a bum. And without a job, a residence or legal tender, that’s exactly what you’re going to be: a bum.”
- Vincent
@@AnimalMother60 it was clearly a joke that you ruined🤦♂️
@@dhilonstephan you need to watch Pulp Fiction. It’s a classic. Great movie. This is from the diner scene. Now I’ve ruined it b/c I had to explain it to you 🤦♂️
@@AnimalMother60 yeah, you just ruined it again 🤦♂️
@@AnimalMother60 I didn't know that was an extract from that movie, so I ruined everything🤡
I always answer: Tonight or long term?
Heads lights up like a deer
Great answer!
I love this one
Legend
Good one
What are you looking for? Translation: How much of your resources, time, and energy are you willing to waste to prove she should be TEMPORARILY loyal to you?
Say it louder for the ones in the back
Yup.
My response: "I am looking to explore the world. people are part of the world. you are one of them./Or what i am looking for depends on the moment, right now I am looking to know what you are". its the truth, woman lives on a moment to moment basis, they can betray and lie if the moment makes them feel so. I also change on moment
That’s not stable enough for most women. You’d probably get low tier women with that response
@@californiachik619 What tier are you ?
@Maria To elaborate, if you would, what is an example of something "stable" enough?
@@sonofcatachan2886 that’s basically saying you’re “casually” going about life. For some women that’s fine but for others it’s not enough. If you want a long term relationship you have to establish that in the beginning or vice versa, if you want casual dating let women know so you don’t waste their time.
Guys, whenever a woman describes her ideal man she's actually describing a slave. This maria chixk doesn't even know what she will eat for dinner so why you asking her for her input?
I NEVER get asked that question
....because I am the one who asks it first.
Always Be Qualifying, gents.
First prize: a new Cadillac
Second prize: a set of steak knives
Third prize: you're fired
Oh. Do I have your attention, now?
"giga-chad"
ohmygod - immediate. death. funniest shit EVER! and totally spot on
She wants to know which of her masks to put on to dupe him into falling for her.
Damnnn
Facts 💯
Real shit
The short answer is always...not you and your 7 kids from 7 different dads.
It's always the women with loads of kids that write "No one-night stands"
Damn bro, you have the same A.D.D problem I have ( All Different Dads ) I stay away from girls with 3 kids with A.D.D
Simple answer: "I know what I'm looking for. Be your damn self and I will decide"
Wise answer.
My ex Girlfriend kept asking me that and I wasn't sure what she wanted. So I asked her to go first so I could get an idea of what she was asking. She went loony narc on me and tried to start an argument that I wouldn't participate in. We broke up shortly after this question was asked.
congrats.
“I’m not really sure because I haven’t seen it yet” that’s a perfect line. It fits me perfectly. Ok so what do you do if you saw it and want to pass. What’s the best way to let the guy down without hurting his feelings?
I usually reply: honest, equal and respectful relationships hoping they will last. This is the answer they hate.
Everytime you speak its just makes so much dam sense. Thanks again. Just the best ive heard ever
"I'm looking for someone who is honest" that should end the conversation right there.
Thanks Rich! Truth 100%. You’re like the older brother/father figure/cool uncle every guy should have.
"What are you looking for?" Or the more obvious, "Where is this relationship going?" Either way, it's a trap question, attempting to make you verbalize your commitment. Whatever your plans may be, she has begun moving you towards fulfilling hers.
What she means is, _"I'm all you will ever need but I can't say the same about you."_
my response is normally: why do you ask ? what difference does it make ? we both know that underneath it all, it's really what YOU are looking for anyway. Generally, the response i get is: shocked silence + blank stare + long pause + awkward laugh / half hearted giggle, then I look them dead in the eye and ask: So, shall we start over and you ask me a real question .... either they rise to the occasion and keep my interest or they fail and mumble something about me being a jerk and shuffle away ... either way, i win.
Awesome , i am noting this down 💯💥
I don't like this at all because you are loudly and obnoxiously stating your desire for her opinion and direction. I don't think it's strong at all
@@sunkintree actually, i dont do it 'loudly or obnoxiously' at all. i deliver it with razor sharp, ice cold, laser focused precision. additionally, i'm not ever delivering in a condescending tone. It's best (i have found) to be direct and "strong" - despite your assertion to the contrary - and my body count suggests that it is completely effective. All that said, while i respectfully and genuinely understand how you may feel that way (feel = beta and feminine, ergo the opposite of strong) i would also suggest that to grasp the nuance and subtlety of delivering this correctly, one (presumably you) would first have to not only understand but also grasp the larger concept of its use and a tool. Again, respectfully submitted and not in any way intended to be pejorative or deprecating to you the person.
Nice one - reframe and take the lead.
Have had several female friends offer to cheat on their b.fs with me. Not even really financial status, just attitude and they aren't getting that from their man. Things changed when I found your channel, the confidence is huge.
I'm not the most successful man when it comes to finances but I am 6'4 - 230 pounds and considered highly attractive by women. I say that to say this every woman that has no hookups in their bio usually hookup with me. They ask me questions like what am I looking for. I say something vague like exploring my options if something serious comes along then I'll be open to it. I never get to that point because I ended up smashing on the second date pretty much every time there's a second date.
I use this line when I was 23 and we both wanted a serious relationship resulting in marriage and kids. 6 years later happily married and expecting number two! My only regret is being a social autist and not realizing that he was interested in me earlier. But fuck no I was not going to wait into my late twenties or thirties to start searching for a good husband.
I always answer with, "Depends on how much value you bring to my life"
This happened to me 2 months ago. My buddy and I are early 30's were at a bar and we were minding our own business when my buddy spotted a girl he used to know. Her and her two friends came over to us (they were early thirties, two single and one married. The third was divorced). The lowest value of the three was the one my buddy knew. They talked with us for almost hours and very early in the conversation the lowest value woman kept asking us "what are you looking for? Are you here to get laid or looking for a girlfriend?" My buddy replied "to get laid." I replied after her asking me 3 times "I'll let you figure it out."
The red pill is real fellas. Don't show the hand you're playing to these women.
still waiting for the climax of this story...
@@jemand8462 the more I held back, the more interested she became. She went from acting professional and well put together (thinking I was maybe beta need ) to acting more promiscuous. Touchy and talking sexually (thinking I'm in the alpha seed category). My buddy asked her if she was still seeing a guy she was dating and right away she rejected it. I later found out she was in a serious relationship with him LOL.
and you think she is the lowest value so this dynamic clearly did not work in her favor
The girl must have been stupid to ask that question in a bar after only talking for a few hours.
@@wernerranchlife8677 she asked within the first 15 minutes.
28yrd old 6'4 , chad , get regular Thor comparisons. My experience with dating apps from the 5 years i have been on them is as a good looking dude you can hookup with females a few points below you on the smv scale, all i got from tinder is a bunch of 5's to 7's max. The real good looking women are not on there, or do not respond and only want you to follow the social media accounts for more free attention. The best thing is to go about your day/ purpose and approach attractive women when they are in your surroundings, now you don't have to deal with women in the epiphany faze asking dumb questions like what are we. As you are only approaching young good looking girls.
That is what I am trying to do now....it is tough. Cause it seems like a lot of good looking women just sit at home and don't get out...and of course I seen some good looking women at the gym, but you are told "Don't approach", so I don't. But I get told similar as you...a lot. You look like Thor or a Hemsworth brother....or when I shave my beard off, I look like Capt. America.
Good for you brother. Keep hammering 👍🏾
@@sethdunn96 are they actually telling you to not approach in the gym or do you mean in general?
Imagine if men actually wouldn't approach a woman for 1 months all around the world. women would BEG to be approached again.
@@jemand8462 In general. You read stuff, and women are like if my hat is on and ear phones are on....then I don't want to be bothered.
@@sethdunn96 go watch some AMS and stephiscold videos. You need the redpill asap.
100% true. Spitting facts Rich.
Tell her you are not looking to settle down. I'm keeping my options open and have no expectations. If I meet someone that does all of the right things then I'd be open to something long term. Every guy always answers this question with "I'm looking for a relationship". This doesn't give her a challenge and requires no effort from her part. Give her a challenge folks. Know your value. I guarantee you'll see a major difference in the girls reaction. If she's not on board with your frame then she's not worth it.
Absolutely 👍🏾
Good information
I ended a 30 year marriage a year ago and didn’t know any of this stuff
I did just buy your book!
when they ask me what im looking for i just say...A woman...she laughs and the subject is dropped. likewise when they ask why i am single, i will say...because i dont have a girlfriend.
Nice to see you are able to drive your R8 again, Rich. Knee injuries ain’t fun. God Bless ya, sir!
That's not an R8. It's an RS5. I work for Audi by the way.....
Peace.
That's what I'm looking for.
Thank you for this channel, man.
Saving my life.
I agree that most women would ask this question if they are looking to settle down with but I know most of them still go for the good looking alpha male
Very good video and wish I answered that question in practice the same way. My response usually was vague like ‘I am not really sure at this moment but open to whatever possibilities make sense in time’. That did not appear to be well received so I think those hearing it usually jumped back on the carousel
I'm looking for a girl with a short skirt and a looooooong jacket.
CAKE
Love the reference, but not my type.
I usually say I am just looking to get to know you better and go from there and see how things go.
Her: "What are you looking for"
Him: "Someone who's not trying to manipulate me all the time"
Her: "Wow, what a coincidence!..."
Giga Chad. New phrase, Great descriptor. Known several in my lifetime.
Everytime I hear no hook ups..they have a mouthful of pipe at the end of the night
I like those responses. Great stuff Rich!!
Reminds me of that Star Trek TNG episode "The Perfect Mate."
I just got ask this question just now. Good thing I saved this vid and looked back on it. Thank you
A girl recently asked me that on a dating app. I told her I'm looking for somebody interesting and we'll take it from there...
I been asked that a lot and I watched the video for an inkling as to how to respond, examples etc to stimulate to my particular situation, but you left us hangin man!!
My experience is when a woman asks me this, it's so they can try to be that person when they are not. Then they put on the show. It usually can only last for about a month or so because I have an extremely low tolerance for what I will put up with. Then I see the real person, which is nothing I want to be with.
The short answer to their question might as well be something like "brutal honesty" before you bring your own questions around and see how they fare.
Really nice to hear this kind of subject spoken about without the dogged negativity.
"I am looking for someone who doesn't annoy me." is a good one. Thanks. I will just use that and see how cool she reacts. It's almost like a shit test regarding her character🤔
Videos like this are saving young men's lives. Please keep up the good work!
my usual answer is: "a sweet pretty and intelligent girl. Do you know someone like this?"
Stop making shit up.
And then she replies: "I know of no one who meets those criteria"
I heard that questions before few time...Good points Rich.
"I want a nice guy." (bad boy) "I want a guy who treats me good." (makes me feel inadequit and lucky to be dating him) "A guy who likes to do things." (pay for everything) "And enjoys spending time with me." (Has other ambitions than spending time with her)
Spot on, Rich. I look forward to your book. You definitely get it.
A very popular question women ask? They are trying to size you up with that question.
they should bring a ruler.
Good responses. I've been using "good company" and sometimes adding "...are you?" But generally when women say this it doesnt go anywhere. It's a disqualifying question.
It is the typical question of women who hit the Wall or close to hitting. Mostly 28y old and above. She wants a stable guy but she wants options for herself. Often a typical Single mother question.
What options do you mean for example? Thank you
I have never had any success with dating apps at all. I’m totally off the apps now and content with being single, and not looking to date.
2:38 "Women aren't particularly honest with guys". Understatement of the century right there, brother. Lol
Your a good man brother, your videos / topics have been confirming everything I been slowly coming to realize for the past few years , the first time I saw you talking I said to myself “I KNEW IT”
"What are you looking for?" "A unicorn. You?"
You're glowing man. Your face has a strong fresh glow/tan/aura. Weird to explain, but yeah that's what I noticed straight up. Your energy seems very strong, almost like you came back from vacation or meditating on the beach.
A strong independent woman to take care of me so I can be a stay at home Dad.
(Have your phone ready to snap her facial reaction)
Someone to compliment not complicate my life!
This question has been discussed a lot of times among my friends and the fun thing is that the 2 best looking guys among us never get this question from girls on dating apps. The girls are just happy to sleep with them. We´ve come to the conclusion that this is a question that >28 Years ask guys who they see as BETA in order to quickly determine whether they will wife them up or not. If not, she is gone to the next guy. If you try to give her uncertain answers, typically what you´ll hear is "I feel that you´re a guy who is only after one thing, and I´m not that kind of girl and then she blocks you" and 3 weeks later you find out that the alpha guy you know slept with her. Solution to this, if you happen to be the beta guy who always get asked this by girls is to play the game and tell them what they want to hear, sleep with them and decide later if you want to keep seeing her. She doesn´t care about your feelings so why should you do it? :)
Bought your book bro. Thanks for looking after me and other men. We definitely need help.
Dating apps don't work lmfao I'ma Gigi Chad 6"3 235 LB shredded good looking face and dating apps and social media doesn't work, in person always works for me
Lmakooooo
The women on the dating apps probably think you are posting a fake picture.
Good for you brother 👍🏾
Thank you for these videos, I'm struggling with addiction in my mid 40's with weed. I used to get laid..but not now. I'm trying to find my way again..this helps. Cheers mate
She could just be wanting to settle down. But consider this.
Would you really want to give someone the blueprints to your castle? It could certainly be used to infiltrate and destroy you, if someone so intended.
'Exact same thing.
Some broads are the chameleon type, and if they ask what you want, and you tell 'em, it tells them exactly what mistakes not to make.
It cuts their learning curve and they won't even have to put in the work to figure you out as a man.
Don't live paranoid but just be aware 😐
Short, sweet and straight to the point.
Never get the chance. I have 0 interest in the dating scene. If I go out, I'm usually with friends or solo and I don't approach any woman. Those that approach me are given the friend treatment from the start so that usually shuts it down quickly and I go back to doing what I want.
My SMV is 0 and I don't want to play the game again.
I have me, my family and my business. That's all I need.
Are you talking about your mom and dad? Why would you be intrested in another woman? your a scum bag then.
What family? Do you want to be alone forever
Half the time I here that on dating apps it a scammer trying to tell me what I want to here. No matter what you’re answer is it’s oh yes that what I’m Looking for. The other half is her wanting to here what she wants to here
Translation: What version of me (chameleon) do you want? I'll pretend to be that.