when mothers discount daughters' memories of their painful childhood. This is called "gaslighting", as in the movie. I'm sure the daughter's book is accurate, especially since she published this while her mother is still alive. I salute you, Brooke, for your courage.
Shirley MacLaine is the same kind of mother as she was a wife. She and her husband had a completely "open" marriage, seeing each other briefly only two or three times a year. Shirley saw her daughter only briefly a few times per year. Shirley treated her with the same love and admiration one would give to a card table, which would be taken out a few times each year to play a game of cards, with friends, then shoved back into the storage closet after use. Shirley MacLaine fits into that category of people who should never become parents. People who are obsessed with themselves, their own needs, their own careers and their own interests, and who use and discard other humans at will. The number one responsibility of any decent, loving parent is to be selfless, and to be devoted to their children as their number one priority. Not constantly doting on them, but always being there to nurture, guide, help, teach, advise and love them. You don't plant a flower in the ground and then walk away, starving it of sunlight and water while expecting it to grow and become beautiful.
You Phrased it so Beautifully and very Enlightening. Especially that I know a person 🙄 like that but I could never explain her behavior. Usually mothers like this always, Near People, play a Role of devoted mothers. Pretends to be Good mothers but in Exaggerating 😢 Manner, Artificial, that looks a bit Psychotic and OverReacting, like Actress Shirley MacLaine in this movie. This mother can Neglect, Abuse and be Violent towards her daughter but in front of People, she Hysterically !! 😳 🙄 Pretends to be a good and devoted mother. Efrat.
@@bbtrixie2653He probably read the book of Sachi Parker the daughter of Actress Shirley MacLaine. 😃 If you read 📚 her book you will also know this. Sachi Parker told in her book 📖 that her mother, Actress Shirley MacLaine Sent her, in an ✈ 🛩 Airplane, totally alone, when she was a Baby, only 2 Years old to live with her father in Japan. from Hollywood USA 🇺🇸 to her father that lives in Japan. Sachi Parker grew up with her father, in Japan, from age 2 Years old until she was 18 Years old. Sachi Parker grew up with a father that didn't love her 💔 😢 and was Abusive to her and she had a nanny that took care of her until she was able to be sent to a Boarding School in Switzerland 🇨🇭 or England. Basically 😢 Sachi Parker, Shirley MacLaine's daughter grew up in Boarding Schools, like an orphan 😢child, Far Away from her parents and with No Love from both her Parents. 😢 Efrat
Hard to imagine Shirley being ‘heartbroken’ over her abandonment of her daughter. What she cannot or will not fathom is how horribly emotionally painful it was for Sachi. Step up to the truth Shirley. Despite your talents, you’ve been an abusive parent, and you should own that. To be abandoned is a searing primal emotional pain, and it doesn’t go away. Too sad.
@Arlene: well said. Although I'm a huge Shirley MacLaine fan: a fan of her spiritual, metaphysical work, a fan of her as an actress, I was very intrigued by this when it came out several years ago. I think it's possible that in the grand scheme of things there was probably some karma here between these two meaning that perhaps Sachi as a soul in another lifetime abandoned Shirley... truly nothing happens by accident but that said I do feel for Sachi as that must have been incredibly painful. It makes me wonder as I have never really wondered before if maybe Shirley MacLaine is a covert narcissist. Covert narcissism is just so much harder to detect than malignant narcissism. They'll give you the shirt off their back, they're generally very sweet and nice and friendly to the outside world but they show a very different side to people in their personal life. And the fact that she said she was heartbroken....well, I doubt she was, as you said, and it's interesting that she's making this about herself instead of about Sachi who is really just you know in a very extreme way reaching out to her mother. This was many years ago, I certainly hope they've made amends by now or mended the bridge so to speak. I'm sure Shirley won't be with us much longer.
To be a performer, you have to be at least somewhat narcissistic. Especially if famous. Everyone tells you how great you are all the time, and you really start to believe it and the world revolves around you
@@lorihoop3831Shirley was a full-blown Narcissist. She should never have been a mother. Sachi's father was no better. How she turned out so well is kudos to Sachi for practically raising herself.
If you watch the film 🎞 🎦 Mommy Derarest about How Joan Crawford raised and treated her adopted children 😢 you see how much suffering the Children of Famous and Gleamrous Hollywood Actresses 💔 😢 had to Endure . Such Tragic Childhood 😥 and they were So much Neglected that they Barely stayed Alive. They Barely Survived. 😢 It is a Miracle that they are still Alive, but Some of them died 😢 at a very young age. 💔 The kids of those Hollywood Actresses. Efrat
Shirley's statement sounds like a self-righteous parent who refuses to acknowledge the pain she has inflicted on her child or take responsibility for her actions. It's all about her, not about her daughter's experiences. Some people can't handle the truth.
Sadly, it appears Shirley MacLaine is a narcissist. I've always loved Shirley MacLaine and still do, just would not want her as a mother. (very late here)
Abusive parents are almost always sent what they have done. Mentally they either justify it and blame the child or act like they have no clue what they have done. Possible borderline personality in Shirley
@@clairecopeland1548: From Sachi's book, I'd say full-blown Narcissist. So was her father. I have a few in my family. Not nice people. I needed to distance myself. Sad thing is, they'll never change.
Somehow I feel that Sachi is telling a painful truth and my admiration for Shirley is waning down the drain because she failed what was supposed to be her noblest and main role: Being a MOM
I believe the daughter. I felt really felt sad for her as a child at 2 years of age to be sent to Japan on her own. This is not good. Shirley could have at least taken her daughter with her to Japan instead of putting her on a blame all by herself. I would never do that to a child that is mine. Big Mistake. Children remember the injustice of these so-called memories and don't forget.
Sachi was considered for Scout in "To Kill a Mockingbird," but Shirley put a stop to it. She basically told Sachi she was on her own from the age of 17, so why shouldn't she cash in, and tell the truth about her mother. Team Sachi for me!
@@davidyatesmckay Did you not read the sentence above yours? If it's true that Sachi had an opportunity but the mother put a stop to it, it makes the mother a ruthless, cold-hearted bitch. Aside from that, kids are on their own at 18 when the parents lack resources to set their children up for success, via running or starting a business, attending college or trade school, or other avenues to set their children on a path to success. If Shirley was unwilling to provide these opportunities, she should have helped her daughter break into films.
My heart goes to Sachi. My mom was a narcissist beauty who never wanted me around, but paid for my food and dressed me as a doll, so people could "see" how spoiled I was. All bulls..t, she made me feel always unwanted, I was left in the care of relatives and her friends constantly. Unfortunately I was the victim of physical and sexual abuse by those people.
I doubt MacLaine is "heartbroken". I just finished reading Parker's book and Shirley MacLaine is so self-involved she's barely aware of anybody else in her life and that includes her only child, Sachi Parker.
Catherine Murphy Uh, I doubt a 17 year old girl, who was told by her mother she's on her own now, would actually fit into the category of 'poor little rich kids', especially one that had to work as a maid to support herself. Face it, McClaine is a self-absorbed bitch.
shadelings Not only that, you can tell by her interviews about her marriage and everything else that if she wasn’t ready to have a conventional marriage, what the hell made her think she was ready to be a parent?
Catherine Murphy If that were the case, she could’ve written this book a long time ago. She would’ve also waited until her mother was dead. So much for that theory. I do agree with you about Shirley McClane though. She’s flat out nuts.
Sachi is brave to tell the truth about her horrible childhood her parents were terrible to her I'm glad sachi decided to be a good mother to her own children than repeat the cycle of abuse
I really feel sorry for what you had to go through, as a mother and as a dentist I always placed my children first.I am glad you told your story to the world.
I've read the book and watched these interviews and I think it all comes down to Shirley MacLaine should never have had a child and had she been from a later era, probably would not have. As for Sachi, I think she would be a happier adult if she had gone into another line of work and forged a completely different path all her own.
Shirley MacLaine should beg this girls forgiveness. Owe up Shirley it isn't 1960 anymore. You really want o be famous be the first movie diva to apologize for making an innocent little suffer from loneliness. Thinking back to my childhood not having my mom around would have killed me. There are times in a child's life when they need and want their moms and no one else in the world would do. What you did was and is a crime of abuse. Time to put aside excuses and apologize.
Wray Rae lmao she completely neglected her daughter. It’s not that “she was working” or whatever. She simply didn’t care. You see other actors like Angelina Jolie, Will Smith that are very involved and supportive parents and they work a lot. Her job is not an excuse.
I actually feel sorry for these children of celebrities. Their physical needs are cared for, but their spiritual ones rarely are. Everyone wants to forgive and idealize the parents in these situations, but never consider the child's reality and the consequences of absent parenting.
Richard Mayora--Those of us who grow up seeing these people and knowing people who worked with them know most of them are narcissistic assholes. The LAPD hates them because when they stop one for a traffic violation they get "Do you know who I am?" They can't understand why the police don't give a shit. They also don't understand why children are upset that their playground is taken away for days or adults are upset about their street is being blocked for outdoor filming. After all, they're next to God. 😒
Go on washing your dirty linen Mrs make plenty of money go back to your neck of the wood and be grateful for what you’ve got must be a horrendous have a daughter like you. Look at little sad me.
Susan Weston: Shirley MacLaine is a sociopath. Her daughter had the exact same upbringing as a child growing up in foster homes and orphanages. Institutionalized, left with unfit people, and then thrown out in the street after graduation from high school. $50,000,000 and she wouldn't even pay for trade school for her daughter, let alone college, and wouldn't even leave 1% of that as a safety net for her only child and grandchildren. No money for charity either; she doesn't think of what at least some of that money could do for a child somewhere living friendless with a disfigured face or facing lifelong blindness if s/he doesn't get an operation within a couple of years. Everything MacLaine has will go to flying saucer freaks in New Mexico. MacLaine also slept with other women's husbands and encouraged her daughter to have sex as a teenager on the rare occasion she was allowed to be in her mother's house. Miserable old bag now living as a hermit in a desert self-contained luxury cave, almost never venturing out because the people there don't like her and she doesn't like them because other women are more attractive than she is now that she's old.
There's nothing much here to dispute. Not only was the daughter neglected; other than for photo shoots, she was pretty much superfluous as far as her parents were concerned.
It is difficult at times to hear the stories/perceptions from our children that we failed them in some areas as a parent. As we are living our lives, so are they. Shirley Macclaine is a grand actress but failed as a mother. She needs to acknowledge this and not shut her daughter out. Shirley is in her twilight years and now is not the time to cut off a relationship because of a book.
I've never heard Shirley McClain talk about her child... If her daughter was important to her she would have spoken about her during all of her interviews over the years, In the books I've read of Shirley MacLaine I have not heard about her daughter I surely don't remember her mentioning her daughter.
Read the book. I give Sachi a ton of credit for writing this book while her mother is still alive and can respond. There are too many people, credible people who were and are witnesses to everything Sachi has written, to render this book a fabrication.
Totally agree about Parker publishing the volume during her mother's lifetime. While I do believe some stories were exaggerated, I believe the content of the anecdotes. Some friends and family members gave interviews publicly at the time to corroborate Parker.
For her to write this book is fair. It is fair to lay it out for her mother to read in broad daylight. I dont believe for one moment that a parent who neglects their child to that degree would 'listen to reason' over a dinner, or even take a heartfelt letter seriously. The only thing, I think, that would really get through to a parent who is in the public eye because of hard-won fame, is telling a public story. Yes, Shirley Maclaine, since you didn't listen to your daughter during her whole life, you can now hear her story over a loudspeaker, and it may be an embarresment.
You are wrong. My mother was worse and when we sat down to talk, we cleared the air and a way to be loving adults for each other. McClain's Daughter is her fathers daughter and is a con artist.
@@myocdtv7935 if your mother sat down to talk and assumed responsibility then she's not a narcissist (just a parent that made a few mistakes) and nothing like MacLaine. And if your mother isn't a narcissist you simply have no idea what it's like to grow up with one - and you're very lucky you don't.
I think Sachi was and is brave to share her story. Her parents were both very neglectful of her. Scars from our childhood follow us forever and it is quite Impossible to ever forget the pain of our childhood.
The allegations seem to be true based upon Shirley's other interviews; her beliefs and her desires. What I find difficult to believe is that she's writing the book to get closer to her mother, maybe for her own daughers but it's just common sense that writing a negative book on someone will make them angry whether the book is true or not. BD Hyman, the daughter of Bette Davis also said years ago that she wrote about Bette to get closer to her and now that she has her own religious you tube channel and now admits on one of her videos that she wrote the book so that her mother would stay away from her for good. She believes for sure that her mother Bette Davis was a genuine witch.
That reporter is really heartless! It's as if she (the interviewer) thinks that she is conducting a "hard-hitting" interview with a corrupt politician or business mogul, in which case blindsiding the person would be fair game. Being that cold or heartless doesn't work in this type of interview, she could use some tips from Barbara Walters or Oprah on conducting interviews and showing compassion for someone who just wrote a memoir about their abusive childhood. I hope the Sachi was informed about her mother's response before going on air - if she was blindsided, as it appears she might have been, she did an amazing job of keeping her emotions in check!
I didn't see where the reporter was heartless. I think Sachi could probably anticipate her mother's reaction ahead of time. I don't think you would expect Shirley MacLaine to say yes. Good job Sachi. You're right. I was a bad mother.
I've read Parker's book, and none of the stories are beyond belief. If it were a work of fiction, MacLaine would have better been able to counter the stories rather than to be 'heartbroken' and to say it is 'virtually all fiction'. Sachi Parker has every reason to be bitter, especially if her mother continues not to acknowledge her wrongdoing.
I read her book. I feel bad for her… She just wanted a mother! I can't even fathom putting a 2 year old on a plane by herself how very sad… I believe everything she wrote.. Shame on Shirley...
Oh please . The times were much different then. Kids were often put on planes very young and they sat with the stewardesses. That was how it was in 1958 when Stephanie Sachiko "Sachi" Parker was claimed to be only age 2.
That scene at the beginning from terms of endearment ALWAYS gives me the chills. WHERE WAS SHE ABLE TO PULL SUCH RAW EMOTIONS FROM CONSIDERING THE TYPE OF MOTHER SHE IS TO HER REAL DAUGHTER , IN REAL LIFE???????!! .....Cannot wrap my head around it .. at all 😑.
Acting. and Shirley is damn good at it - otherwise, she would be very hard to employ after her claims about New Life and crystals, etc came out. I resisted even watching her films for years but the lady has so much talent. But do please remember - this is one side of a story, and it has been a while, and it didn't hold up like most stories of truly terrible childhoods do. I do appreciate that you care about a person who claims to have had a hard childhood.
Cathy Paulino: Yes, everything Andrew W said is true. I'm not in Kansas or North Dakota; I and a family member and friend have worked with these miserable people, and seen them in other places. The older ones have often been horrible to their children and spouses. Promiscuity, philandering, and disrespect for women are also rampant. Also, a lot of bad interactions with the police.
Being raised by your dad is one thing but a mom sending her two-year old daughter alone on a plane to Japan to a man that she believed was a clone and then rarely seeing her throughout her life is another.
Actors are a breed unto themselves. They can make you see what they want you to see. Who knows what any of us are capable of behind closed doors. Do I believe her daughter? Yes. It's so easy to believe that MacLaine could be this person. She admits during many interviews that she would let nothing stand in the way of her career...and that obviously included her daughter.
@@travelseatsyellowlab if she had a heart perhaps spending her last years alone would matter to her. But I don't think it does. She lives in her own narcissistic fantasy land and probably feels the victim of her terrible daughter, which to her would be some sort of karmic lesson serving her spiritual evolution....since well, the universe revolves around her. She probably tells herself she'll resolve her issues with her daughter in her next life and stops thinking about it altogether.
MacLaine cannot be heartbroken - she would need to have a heart in order for that to occur. And, if she had a heart, she would NOT have neglected her daughter for years on end. She is truly a sick & evil person!
I don't think Shirley is evil, but her brain has a glitch and won't let her feel empathy or remorse. She doesn't think she did anything wrong. Full-blown Narcissist.
We all make mistakes. Mothers especially. The problem lies in the fact that children who have been hurt by their parents, who acted out of selfishness and problematic issues, never get an apology from their parents. We makes mistakes, but it is a parent's duty to own up to those mistakes and reach out to a hurt child. The coldness, refusal to face up to that egoism, and mistakes is perhaps the most painful issue here. Shirley probably could not have been the amazing actress and artist she was if she had not been a narcissist. The problem is she hurt her daughter and refuses to admit it. That is so selfish and cruel. It is time she owned up to her mistakes and tried to heal the hurt she created.
I had a mother very much like this. She was a homemaker. Her cruelty to me both as a child and an adult affected me to such a degree that I went to years and years of counseling. I begged my mother to go to therapy with me - but in her eyes, she had been “a perfect parent”. At a counselor’s advice, I finally ended the toxic relationship with my mother, which I never regretted. Thank God I have a wonderful husband who always helped me so much with my severe lack of self esteem. I also have a wonderful son of whom I am so proud. My horrible upbringing gave me the skills to be a loving and supportive parent. I am now 67 years old and my entire life with my mother still haunts me.
@@Kayte-tv2cw Your situation is so frightening and unfortunate. I'm sorry. Having had a dad who was narcissistic, self-centered, abusive and alcoholic, the pressure weighed both physically and mentally for years. When I confronted him about incidents such as drunkenly trying to shove me out of a moving car, pointing a loaded gun in my direction as I was mowing the lawn, he denied that said accidents ever occurred. I used to think he was in denial but now understand that as he was hammered 90% of the time, he probably doesn't remember. We have occasional communication for the benefit of my siblings and grandparents but the pain is so raw and deep, I will eventually cut off contact if I survive both grandparents.
texan903, I appreciate your comment to me. Your story really affected me, because I know exactly how you feel. It took me a long time to come to the realization that my mother was “toxic” to me. We did not have a relationship of any kind for the last ten years of her life. She did not even contact me when I had cancer in 1998, and had to have a kidney removed because of it. I have never felt guilty for cutting off ties with her, because I knew in my heart that I had tried everything that I could do to make our relationship a better one. My father was an alcoholic, also, but clearly the better parent. He was not a “mean drunk”. Most of all, I knew that my father loved me, which is all a child really wants. Unlike your situation, I am sure that my mother remembered everything - she just would not admit to it. Both of my siblings talked to her about the way she treated me. When I got the courage to ask my mother why she treated me like she did, her response was “my mother treated me like that, and I turned out just fine”. My husband always told me that at least I was able to stop the cycle of abuse. The incidents you described in your comment are truly horrific. Unfortunately, they will probably stay with you for a lifetime. Just know that the way you were treated is not your fault. I am so very sorry that you have to go through this. My heart goes out to you. Please take care of yourself!
@@Kayte-tv2cw How selfish and cruel for a parent not to be present or at least make contact during a grave illness of their child. Sadly, appallingly, your mother showed her unwillingness to accept responsibility when she tried blaming her mother. When you know that you have tried everything, anything beyond that is a mental draining, also not healthy. Self-preservation is important. Fortunately you have your husband and father and son. Most of the worst incidents happened about 25 years ago, like the car situation. When I think back, it's baffling, almost tear-jerking, so I forget as much as possible. The less contact I find is better. For five years when I lived in Europe, he would never call or make contact, it was strange but he is also narcissistic to the point that he felt that providing a roof, food, utilities, good education, everyone should be happy, that was supposed to be all it took. My dad's mother has stage four kidney cancer and has since a recurrence in 2017. The bad kidney was removed about 15 years before that. Treatment is keeping it at bay for the time being, thankfully. Should she stay free of the COVID-19, she will be 77 in two months time. Having read Ms. Parker's book, I was horrified at the behavior of Shirley MacLaine. You and Ms. Parker clearly share an amazing willpower. Time is precious, valuable and I believe we must love ourselves first, most importantly and then we better learn how to love others. We just have to make the most of the one life we're guaranteed to have.
texan903, Everything you said is so true, and full of many years of wisdom. Unfortunately, my dad passed away in 1989, due to his alcoholism, and that is when my mother really escalated her negative treatment of me as an adult. I think it was because my dad was no longer there to “protect” me. I worry that you hold the abuse you suffered inside and try to forget it, because it truly can be toxic to your life. Counseling can be beneficial for a lot of people, although it did not help me that much. I think that the pain is just too deep when you are a child who is hurt by someone who should love and protect you. However, counseling did give me the strength to break away from the negative relationship with my mother. I understand how that would be difficult for you to do right now because you don’t want to hurt your dad’s parents. I am so very sorry to hear about your grandmother’s cancer ordeal. I pray that medication will continue to help her. As for you, please take care of yourself, stay strong, and know that you are in my thoughts.
Most people who have had difficult relationships would like for things to be better, to have a happy ending, and that is not limited to Hollywood families. It's common for a child to want a relationship with their parents, even if they were abused and neglected. I wanted that too until I realized that it would never happen since my mother is incapable of giving love and is very self-absorbed. People like that will NEVER admit that they've done wrong and will deny it until their last breath. Sachi needs to stay away from Shirley, as the woman is a narcissist and will never apologize or change.
I agree, You should keep a safe distance from anyone including your loved ones if they are not a possitive presence in your life, and if You are a grown person and you take care of yourself, and honor and love and accept your parents as they are at a healthy distance if needed and move on as a normal adult woman you don't think or need to make public your problems and less make money hurting your mother with writing about them. Maybe Shirley McLane was not a good mother but her daughter is even worst making money talking badly about her mother.
I was given away for adoption and only recognized after both my adoptive parents had died and l was desperately ill. Immediately my biological parents both made excuses for decisions they had made which forever impacted me, and used revisionist history when it suited their individual yet similar stories. Fate had me born to the wrong parents but raised by the mother l was meant to have, which has helped me heal from the truth of my beginnings, accept the narcissists l was mistakenly born to, and be eternally grateful for the wisdom and insight l gained by the decent upbringing l had. The narcissist will never apologize, as blame only exists in their vocabulary when it applies as a term for others to shoulder.
+Cynthia Lyman your words are beyond wisdom, sadly many of us are stocked with our narcissistic parent or parents, you were more than blessed and wise in accepting the reality of your biological parents that at least were mature enough in giving you forma adoption to wiser parents and being thankfull and appreciative of your adopting parents and teachings.
I might add, that even though she claimed to have a special bond with her dog Terry (who she believes communicated with her via ESP while the dog was both alive and dead) but she allowed that poor dog to suffer for years instead of putting her out of her misery when she was blind, deaf, completely incontinent, and couldn’t even stand without wobbling. Terry the dog eventually threw herself into the family pool to end her own life! That is not love. It is the epitome of selfishness! If you want to hear it from Shirley Maclean’s one words, read about this poor little dog in “Out on a Leash”, her book about Terry (and UFOs and ancient civilizations where she first met Terry who was a god, among other craziness). MacLaine needs to grow some empathy and focus outward, her time is running out.... sad.
Let go of any and all expectations about your parents - what they did or didn't do, etc. - they are human. Took me 52 years to figure out I was part of the problem because I expected my parents to be some version of what I considered "good parents" - and they did the best they could. I'm sorry for the pain involved for both mother, daughter, and grandkids. This type of thing is very common in human nature if you study family systems. May you all find some measure of inner peace - even if reconciliation does not happen.
+Angie Wilson Well, the kids are children. So they are not part of any problem with the parents in their parenting skills. If a person is going to live a narcissistic life, why have kids?
Robin Gagan: Her mother did that? If so, then I guess she's an evil piece of shit who hated her daughter. There are people who hate their innocent children because they hate the other parent or for some other stupid reason. I remember reading a woman's account of her father abusing her constantly because her mother died having her. Mercifully, he died when the child was elementary school age (murdered actually, by someone outraged over the sex abuse of the daughter) but she had been left an angry bitter man-hating woman who abused her own son. He later killed himself in his 30s. An evil person can wreck so many lives.
I think sometimes we forget how children were not obsessed over in passed generations. In retrospect, I'm sure Ms McClaine would have thought better of her parenting choices, but she was doing what thousands of other wealthy parents of her era were doing with their children, and they both need to acknowledge and make peace with their past w each other
When Oprah interviewed Shirley McLain she did point out UFO's in the sky they were clouds but Shirley truly felt they were UFO's. She is a little nuts.
Linda York I agree with you totally. These others on here are just 'that'...the same ones who would give me shit on some comments I make that are , yes, judgmental. They never see themselves! I wish I was famous because I had a disfuncional relationship with my mother, that impacted my life tremendously, but who would care to read it? haha. So, I don't care one way or the other about the fact whether it's true or not. Like you say.... we're all either alittle nuts or strange. And, that's probably ' normal'!!
Shirley Maclaine is a great personality and actress, but I always suspected something else about her, something I read between the lines of her books and statements about herself, even way before Sachi spilled the beans. She's a consummate narcissist. Narcissists don't stop to consider whether their choices are going to hurt someone else. Those considerations are not a part of their consciousness. They operate solely out of their own needs, and consider that to be its own justification. My mother was a clone of Shirley. She never once stopped to think about anything other than what would satisfy her own needs and agendas. It's a form of illness. The best thing Sachi can do is get into therapy, see her mother's limitations and failings, let go of it, find other sources of love and validation, and move totally on. That way, she wins. She's not a victim. Since I believe in karma, her mother will have to one day pay the price. That's how it works. You go, Sachi.
DivineSimply Personally, I think you've nailed the issues between Shirley Maclaine and her daughter. Many or most of the commenters here are critical of Sachi because she's stepping on their fantasies of Shirley's character and personality by telling "her truth" as she put it in one interview. But each person has a personal "truth" that may bear very little resemblance to other people's perceptions. Most of Sachi's detractors seem to characterize her as "a spoiled rich kid" who wants to get revenge on her mother for not being the mommy of her dreams, and incidentally, to make lots of money in the process. But hurt is hurt, loneliness is loneliness, and it really does seem that Sachi's mom sacrificed her relationship with her child in favor of her own career. She sent large amounts of money to Sachi's father as a way to avoid having to deal with a reality she wanted no part of. Somehow I doubt the results of her book are going to be satisfying to Sachi, though. You're right: she may have a real chance to free herself of the past and find peace of mind through therapy.
DivineSimply I agree. I have worked with quite a few actresses (dressing them) and it's amazing what goes on behind the scenes. I could tell you some crazy stories. Most actresses are narcissists in some form - as there are different types of narcs. No mother puts her 2 year old on an airplane by themselves to Japan. I never even knew she had a daughter.
While I do question Parker's motives for writing this book, I don't doubt much of her story. What kind of person leaves their only child, age two, to live w/her father she's still married to, & his mistress in another country? The whole situation right there is unkosher! It may be possible that there was some personal reactionary reason for this book. Though, while, I do like Shirley Maclaine as an actress, she has always struck me as an egotistical diva that you don't cross.
Even if the book was a lie or an exaggeration, any parent who loves their child more than themselves would avoid insulting him/her publicly, and try to reconcile the misunderstanding. I get the feeling that the daughter saw this as the last chance to maybe get her mom's attention, and/or something she had to do for her own sanity.
Well, Shirley McLane said in an interview in 1992 THAT NO ONE WAS GOING TO INTERPOSE IN HER CAREER, NOT EVEN HER DAUGHTER, for that reason she sent her at 2 years old to live with her father in Japan. I believe what Sachi says!!!!!
Poor Saachi. Shirley SHAME ON YOU! Why didn't you just adopt her out. Not showing up at boarding school and left out in the cold for two weeks. I feel so sorry for Saachi. She is telling the truth.
Ppl dont remember but there was a time when the world was truly in LOVE with Shirley MaClaine. Not just as a movie star but as a human. She knew it, too.
I read a biography about Shirley McLain 20 years ago. I remember thinking her daughter's Mommy Dearest book was just a matter of time. It took longer than I thought.
God bless those children who have celebrities as parents.I think most celebs are married to their careers.Their marriages don't work out most of the time so I can imagine what the children must deal with.It must have been really hard.But ALWAYS two sides to every story.Both can learn to FORGIVE and that's a challenge but possible.
I can't understand how people take sides here. None of us who comment know these two women. They have obviously shared a lot of good and bad in many years. Isn't this normal? How many out there who are parents/daughters/sons can claim to have had a happy/unchallenged/safe/and harmonious upbringing? Even in the best families stuff happens. People who grew up in the 50, 60, 70s often had parents who were sort of traumatised by war events, discipline often meant physical punishment, many of us did not grow up rich... So, come on, they have issues. Yes, maybe she should have tried to sort it out with her mother before she wrote a book, maybe that wasn't possible, maybe her mother could've made amends but didn't. Who knows! Just stop judging people with your small mindedness.
Eva Wilhelm American children didn’t experience any war. They couldn’t possibly be traumatized by it, maybe by the loss of one serving parent, but let’s keep in mind that not every loss and not everything bad is necessarily a trauma.
Sashi isn't the only child of a famous person who's whole life was filled with pain and rejection. I think anyone who wants to criticize her or her intentions should realize that money and power doesn't flow down to family members for many. If she can make a few bucks from her book, more power to her!
I'm just reading it. MacLaine was one of those celebrities not suitable to have anything to do with children-the names Boone, Crawford,Crosby, Lewis,Mullard, Stanwyck and Sullavan come to mind. A child's place is in the home,a mother's place is with her child-not dumping her for years on end to boarding schools , especially a cane-happy one, and then denying her a college education when you're worth millions!
Everyone believes Sachi but poor Christina, Joan Crawford's adopted daughter, is called a liar by so many. I believe Christina because my sister and I lived her life.
The mom chased the Hollywood fame with "all means", the child was in the way and was dumped far away. All that fame isn't really worth a hug from a child who really loves you.
I watched a bio of Shirley MacLaine and she admitted she wasn't the best mother in the world but if her career was really impeded by a child she would have aborted it. She didn't. She did what she considered best at that time, in that era. As for her kookiness, well, you take what you need and leave the rest. Sometimes, while you journal, what you write years ago is usually tempered by age. I can only relate as what I felt towards my father growing up, and the first time I saw him strike my mother, all love for him was sealed off. My sisters. Received all the attention. I asked about Big Brother club in eighth grade because no hunting, fishing, etc ever done together. So I went hunting with him one time. So my journals whined about being clothed and fed but little else. When I joined the Air Force he did stop by to say how proud he was, etc. My perception was he put me on Earth and then, grow on your own. When I turned 30 and had a youngun of my owwn, I remember wondering how my father clothed and fed 5 kids and it was tight with one One Christmas he was Ansy that I open up one present, which I did
Yes, if she had a loving mother this book wouldn't have been written. You never get what u want, you tell the world and your mom so u can be free and be understood... huge amount of pain, whether or not the book should have been written.
I agree,..that education thing,...refusing to pay for a college degree,....I cannot believe a woman with Shirley's means refusing to educate her daughter,...wow,..
These are strong women, they will both be okay. Someday they may validate each other's experiences. But they both seem to know peace. This is representative of the Hollywood Culture and maybe we shouldn't buy in. I will just appreciate their art.
Shirley MacLaine was born without the maternal gene. That's not her fault. What was her fault was dumping her two year child on her playboy husband who lived halfway around the world. She could have kept Sachi with her and hired a nanny like just about everyone else in Hollyweird. When Sachi graduated from boarding school at age 17, instead of cutting Sachi off financially, she could have at least loaned her the money for college. It's crystal clear that she never wanted her daughter in her life, considered her to be a financial burden and cut her off financially when she was still a minor.
If she feels pride on succeeding on stardom and money in life but cares nothing about failing to a child that she gave birth to, leaving the toddler alone , the highest of acts of cruelty is to hurt a child. Narcissism at his best.
Drewtazy thank you for your perspective! We cannot verify her accounts just as you pointed out. This world is a very messed up place and children are dying daily of famine still, being beaten and held in closests, and many many horrid things! So much worse than anything she has alledged here! I just dont understand ppl sometimes! Perhaps there is more to this story than state that would change many views on this. But if so why not state it now? We all have hard times, we make mistakes as parents, we want more and better for our children than we had. The important thing is to admit our mistakes and make up we can and do better in the future. Thats so much more than many cjikdren ever get!
All of you who posters who can't imagine a woman obsessed with her career and neglects her child must have had mothers who couldn't or wouldn't do that, and how lucky you are. For those of us who didn't we look at you in amazement.
i know exactly how she feels, i went thru it too, with actor parents.. tossed here and there.. very lonely and isolating..i will have to read this book
I`m 47y old austria/vienna. i do think, as shirley mclaine was a great actress and one of the beautiest at her time, i do beleive, she could have been far from easy going.
Also, the only reason people wouldn't believe Parker is because MacLaine is a world renowned star and think people like that can do no wrong. I believe MacLaine's parenting skills were severely lacking.
Dan Bolivar Love your irony! In my opinion family problems should stay in the family, irrelevant as to whether your famous or not. Seems to me she wanted to make money from her Mothers fame, as did the Daughters of Joan Crawford and Bette Davis.
mark prescott: No, her mother gave her nothing. She was treated like a foster child; abandoned, given only food and clothes, and thrown into the street the minute she graduated from high school.
@@oldfart4751 Abuse and neglect is a crime; it shouldn't be "kept in the family". What messed up priorities some people have. I guess the Turpin children and Elisabeth Fritzel should have "kept it in the family" as well.
I believe Sachi---Shirley's career comes before her daughter. Might have been better to give Sachi for adoption to a loving family instead of absentee parents. Good thing she turned out OK instead of her parents.
I remember Shirley Maclaine talking about sSachi being far away from her in Japan and how much angst she had over a Hollywood career and not being able to see Sachi. So, I don't think this is a _Mommie Dearest_ so much as a tell all from Sachi's viewpoint. I believe her and have no doubt that a lot of Hollywood kids feel left behind.
only they know the truth-but I caught the daughter saying in interview- i never meant to hurt her- i just wanted her to know how i felt- ok then- why not tell her over dinner-on a one on one conversation or send her a letter-why publicly humiliate someone you supposeably care about
Sachi didn't do it privately because she needed the money, obviously. She earned somewhere in the neighborhood ten-to-twenty million dollars for "Lucky Me." And she'll get even more $$$ for selling the the movie rights. Sounds like a pretty boring book, though. Hope it was worth it to her to sell out like that. It's sad no matter how you look at it.
exactly. I have a similar mother, but not rich and famous. her way to avoid anything "negative" I had to say, was to run away. literally, she moved uncountable times in her lifetime, and in the end, now, she's senile and dependent on my sister and me. it's hard sometimes, but we take care of her, I have to admit, sometimes I do tell her how horrible she was at times, and how hurtful. she listens now, because she can't run any more, but she obviously has no idea what I'm talking about. she just looks at me and shakes her head, as if to say - wow, I did that? lol
Shirley MacLaine showed more love and caring for her dog Terry than for her own flesh and blood daughter. I didn’t even know she had a daughter! She obviously never spoke about her much. Having read a couple of Shirley Maclaine’s books, I believe Sachi. Shirley sounds self-absorbed, and seems to think she’s so enlightened, but can’t even “see” the pain she’s caused her own daughter!! I feel bad for Sachi, to have that kind of mother. I can’t imagine what it does to a person to not feel wanted (apparently Sachi never spent more than four hours in a stretch with her mother, and from what I’ve gleaned in books and interviews, I completely believe everything Sachi says.
Sachi Parker is very lovely Woman, she looks like Barbara Eden( I Dream of Jeannie) glad she survived to tell her Tough Life Story. Hope it gets a Happy Ending. Wow!!
the daughter I feel wants to make her own mark in the world. It is a way to raise her self-esteem by knocking Shirley MacLaine....famous actress, accomplished dancer, singer, and book Author. Her mother outshines her a million times over...and she feels she can never compete that her success.
Shyann1 no, she's tried to bring Shirley in her life many times, she wants her mom .wake up people, she wants her mom in her life.wake up people it's not hard to realize, and she said so in her book..again wake up.
This interviewer. Sounds too. Choppy to listen. To. Thank you though, Sachi, i'll just respect you & your mother both & best wishes to you both as well.
It's definitely a pattern when it comes to old hollywood stars & their children. Many of them seemed to have difficult childhoods even with all the wealth their parents had. Maclaine isn't the first on this list. There was Loretta Young refusing to publicly acknowledge her daughter with Clark Gable as her biological child even to her dying day. Gable was worse, at least Loretta raised their child while he behaved like she was nonexistent even with the glaring resemblance. Ingrid Bergman left daughter & husband for her lover, ZsaZsa Gabor & Hilton did not do right by their only daughter who died a wretch, of course many of us know the story of Joan Crawford & Bette Davis' relationships with their daughters. I think it's unfortunately the way hollywood was (& is) set up. A lot of hurt wounded people from dysfunctional homes find fame & fortune, become parents without any idea of how to love their children. Maybe some years from now, they will be tell-alls for some current hollywood stars.
Her voice sounds like her moms and she has the same eyes. I feel for her. Her mom is nutty. Talented lady, but nutty. I would never in a million years could be separated from my daughter ever. And she let the dad take her at 2 years old?!!! That's awful.
when mothers discount daughters' memories of their painful childhood. This is called "gaslighting", as in the movie. I'm sure the daughter's book is accurate, especially since she published this while her mother is still alive.
I salute you, Brooke, for your courage.
Shirley MacLaine is the same kind of mother as she was a wife. She and her husband had a completely "open" marriage, seeing each other briefly only two or three times a year. Shirley saw her daughter only briefly a few times per year. Shirley treated her with the same love and admiration one would give to a card table, which would be taken out a few times each year to
play a game of cards, with friends, then shoved back into the storage closet after use.
Shirley MacLaine fits into that category of people who should never become parents. People who are obsessed with themselves, their own needs, their own careers and their own interests, and who use and discard other humans at will.
The number one responsibility of any decent, loving parent is to be selfless, and to be devoted to their children as their number one priority. Not constantly doting on them, but always being there to nurture, guide, help, teach, advise and love them.
You don't plant a flower in the ground and then walk away, starving it of sunlight and water while expecting it to grow and become beautiful.
How do you know this??
You Phrased it so Beautifully and very Enlightening. Especially that I know a person 🙄 like that but I could never explain her behavior. Usually mothers like this always, Near People, play a Role of devoted mothers. Pretends to be Good mothers but in Exaggerating 😢 Manner, Artificial, that looks a bit Psychotic and OverReacting, like Actress Shirley MacLaine in this movie. This mother can Neglect, Abuse and be Violent towards her daughter but in front of People, she Hysterically !! 😳 🙄 Pretends to be a good and devoted mother. Efrat.
@@bbtrixie2653He probably read the book of Sachi Parker the daughter of Actress Shirley MacLaine. 😃 If you read 📚 her book you will also know this. Sachi Parker told in her book 📖 that her mother, Actress Shirley MacLaine Sent her, in an ✈ 🛩 Airplane, totally alone, when she was a Baby, only 2 Years old to live with her father in Japan. from Hollywood USA 🇺🇸 to her father that lives in Japan. Sachi Parker grew up with her father, in Japan, from age 2 Years old until she was 18 Years old. Sachi Parker grew up with a father that didn't love her 💔 😢 and was Abusive to her and she had a nanny that took care of her until she was able to be sent to a Boarding School in Switzerland 🇨🇭 or England. Basically 😢 Sachi Parker, Shirley MacLaine's daughter grew up in Boarding Schools, like an orphan 😢child, Far Away from her parents and with No Love from both her Parents. 😢 Efrat
Any woman that would put a 2 yr old on a plane alone is not fit to be a mother. I’m glad Shirley didn’t have anymore children to hurt.
Hard to imagine Shirley being ‘heartbroken’ over her abandonment of her daughter. What she cannot or will not fathom is how horribly emotionally painful it was for Sachi. Step up to the truth Shirley. Despite your talents, you’ve been an abusive parent, and you should own that. To be abandoned is a searing primal emotional pain, and it doesn’t go away. Too sad.
@Arlene: well said. Although I'm a huge Shirley MacLaine fan: a fan of her spiritual, metaphysical work, a fan of her as an actress, I was very intrigued by this when it came out several years ago. I think it's possible that in the grand scheme of things there was probably some karma here between these two meaning that perhaps Sachi as a soul in another lifetime abandoned Shirley... truly nothing happens by accident but that said I do feel for Sachi as that must have been incredibly painful. It makes me wonder as I have never really wondered before if maybe Shirley MacLaine is a covert narcissist. Covert narcissism is just so much harder to detect than malignant narcissism. They'll give you the shirt off their back, they're generally very sweet and nice and friendly to the outside world but they show a very different side to people in their personal life. And the fact that she said she was heartbroken....well, I doubt she was, as you said, and it's interesting that she's making this about herself instead of about Sachi who is really just you know in a very extreme way reaching out to her mother. This was many years ago, I certainly hope they've made amends by now or mended the bridge so to speak. I'm sure Shirley won't be with us much longer.
I call b.S
To be a performer, you have to be at least somewhat narcissistic.
Especially if famous. Everyone tells you how great you are all the time, and you really start to believe it and the world revolves around you
@@lorihoop3831Shirley was a full-blown Narcissist. She should never have been a mother. Sachi's father was no better. How she turned out so well is kudos to Sachi for practically raising herself.
If you watch the film 🎞 🎦 Mommy Derarest about How Joan Crawford raised and treated her adopted children 😢 you see how much suffering the Children of Famous and Gleamrous Hollywood Actresses 💔 😢 had to Endure . Such Tragic Childhood 😥 and they were So much Neglected that they Barely stayed Alive. They Barely Survived. 😢 It is a Miracle that they are still Alive, but Some of them died 😢 at a very young age. 💔 The kids of those Hollywood Actresses. Efrat
Shirley's statement sounds like a self-righteous parent who refuses to acknowledge the pain she has inflicted on her child or take responsibility for her actions. It's all about her, not about her daughter's experiences. Some people can't handle the truth.
Sadly, it appears Shirley MacLaine is a narcissist. I've always loved Shirley MacLaine and still do, just would not want her as a mother. (very late here)
Exactly.
Abusive parents are almost always sent what they have done. Mentally they either justify it and blame the child or act like they have no clue what they have done. Possible borderline personality in Shirley
Shirley was a full-blown Narcissist. She will never admit she did anything wrong. She will never change.
@@clairecopeland1548: From Sachi's book, I'd say full-blown Narcissist. So was her father. I have a few in my family. Not nice people. I needed to distance myself. Sad thing is, they'll never change.
She was a beautiful baby, and now a Mother. Very articulate.
Somehow I feel that Sachi is telling a painful truth and my admiration for Shirley is waning down the drain because she failed what was supposed to be her noblest and main role: Being a MOM
I believe the daughter. I felt really felt sad for her as a child at 2 years of age to be sent to Japan on her own. This is not good. Shirley could have at least taken her daughter with her to Japan instead of putting her on a blame all by herself. I would never do that to a child that is mine. Big Mistake. Children remember the injustice of these so-called memories and don't forget.
I would feel sorry for her to ship her off to Japan? I wouldn't be able to cope!
Catherine Murphy Good point! Ryan O’Neal abandon two of his kids in an apartment after he got with Farrah Fawcett. Tatum was still a kid.
I believe her also because I don’t see a reason why anybody would write lies in their own journals.
Sachi was considered for Scout in "To Kill a Mockingbird," but Shirley put a stop to it. She basically told Sachi she was on her own from the age of 17, so why shouldn't she cash in, and tell the truth about her mother. Team Sachi for me!
@@davidyatesmckay Did you not read the sentence above yours? If it's true that Sachi had an opportunity but the mother put a stop to it, it makes the mother a ruthless, cold-hearted bitch. Aside from that, kids are on their own at 18 when the parents lack resources to set their children up for success, via running or starting a business, attending college or trade school, or other avenues to set their children on a path to success. If Shirley was unwilling to provide these opportunities, she should have helped her daughter break into films.
@Lala lalala Poor parenting philosophy.
My heart goes to Sachi. My mom was a narcissist beauty who never wanted me around, but paid for my food and dressed me as a doll, so people could "see" how spoiled I was. All bulls..t, she made me feel always unwanted, I was left in the care of relatives and her friends constantly. Unfortunately I was the victim of physical and sexual abuse by those people.
I'm sorry that you where abused
And Sachi was subjected to a horrible interviewer too.
So sorry you went thru that. Children have no choice. Too many people should never have children.
I doubt MacLaine is "heartbroken". I just finished reading Parker's book and Shirley MacLaine is so self-involved she's barely aware of anybody else in her life and that includes her only child, Sachi Parker.
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But that is only one side of the story.
Read at least her mothers book as well to be fair.
Catherine Murphy Uh, I doubt a 17 year old girl, who was told by her mother she's on her own now, would actually fit into the category of 'poor little rich kids', especially one that had to work as a maid to support herself. Face it, McClaine is a self-absorbed bitch.
shadelings Not only that, you can tell by her interviews about her marriage and everything else that if she wasn’t ready to have a conventional marriage, what the hell made her think she was ready to be a parent?
Catherine Murphy If that were the case, she could’ve written this book a long time ago. She would’ve also waited until her mother was dead. So much for that theory. I do agree with you about Shirley McClane though. She’s flat out nuts.
Sweet lady. I feel so bad for her. I hope her mother realizes one day.
Shirley is a full-blown Narcissist. She will never acknowledge she did anything wrong. Great actress; lousy mother.
Sachi is brave to tell the truth about her horrible childhood her parents were terrible to her I'm glad sachi decided to be a good mother to her own children than repeat the cycle of abuse
I really feel sorry for what you had to go through, as a mother and as a dentist I always placed my children first.I am glad you told your story to the world.
Sachi, congrats on writing your story and your memories. Hopefully it is healing and therapeutic. And know that your voice matters.
I've read the book and watched these interviews and I think it all comes down to Shirley MacLaine should never have had a child and had she been from a later era, probably would not have. As for Sachi, I think she would be a happier adult if she had gone into another line of work and forged a completely different path all her own.
Lol she did. He mother abandoned her at 17. She told her she was on her own. Shes a loving mother and very happy despite all that neglect and abuse.
@@arleedennis791 Has Shirley ever acknowledged her missteps?
Shirley MacLaine should beg this girls forgiveness. Owe up Shirley it isn't 1960 anymore. You really want o be famous be the first movie diva to apologize for making an innocent little suffer from loneliness. Thinking back to my childhood not having my mom around would have killed me. There are times in a child's life when they need and want their moms and no one else in the world would do. What you did was and is a crime of abuse. Time to put aside excuses and apologize.
Sheba Nipperschnackles , take a chill pill, as she is right. you idiot.
Wray Row so dont jave kids, noone is forcing you.
Wray Rae lmao she completely neglected her daughter. It’s not that “she was working” or whatever. She simply didn’t care. You see other actors like Angelina Jolie, Will Smith that are very involved and supportive parents and they work a lot. Her job is not an excuse.
No one should ever be ashamed to tell their own life story. It's their life and like she said their memories.
Sachi was and is beautiful! Best of luck to her✨
I actually feel sorry for these children of celebrities. Their physical needs are cared for, but their spiritual ones rarely are. Everyone wants to forgive and idealize the parents in these situations, but never consider the child's reality and the consequences of absent parenting.
And you know this for fact because...
Richard Mayora--Those of us who grow up seeing these people and knowing people who worked with them know most of them are narcissistic assholes. The LAPD hates them because when they stop one for a traffic violation they get "Do you know who I am?" They can't understand why the police don't give a shit. They also don't understand why children are upset that their playground is taken away for days or adults are upset about their street is being blocked
for outdoor filming. After all, they're next to God. 😒
Go on washing your dirty linen Mrs make plenty of money go back to your neck of the wood and be grateful for what you’ve got must be a horrendous have a daughter like you. Look at little sad me.
Susan Weston: Shirley MacLaine is a sociopath. Her daughter had the exact same upbringing as a child growing up in foster homes and orphanages. Institutionalized, left with unfit people, and then thrown out in the street after graduation from high school. $50,000,000 and she wouldn't even pay for trade school for her daughter, let alone college, and wouldn't even leave 1% of that as a safety net for her only child and grandchildren. No money for charity either; she doesn't think of what at least some of that money could do for a child somewhere living friendless with a disfigured face or facing lifelong blindness if s/he doesn't get an operation within a couple of years. Everything MacLaine has will go to flying saucer freaks in New Mexico. MacLaine also slept with other women's husbands and encouraged her daughter to have sex as a teenager on the rare occasion she was allowed to be in her mother's house. Miserable old bag now living as a hermit in a desert self-contained luxury cave, almost never venturing out because the people there don't like her and she doesn't like them because other women are more attractive than she is now that she's old.
Maybe that's the life lesson Shirley Mclaine is here to learn since soul ; life lessons are her thing.
There's nothing much here to dispute. Not only was the daughter neglected; other than for photo shoots, she was pretty much superfluous as far as her parents were concerned.
At least she wrote it while her "mother" was still alive
It is difficult at times to hear the stories/perceptions from our children that we failed them in some areas as a parent. As we are living our lives, so are they. Shirley Macclaine is a grand actress but failed as a mother. She needs to acknowledge this and not shut her daughter out. Shirley is in her twilight years and now is not the time to cut off a relationship because of a book.
I've never heard Shirley McClain talk about her child... If her daughter was important to her she would have spoken about her during all of her interviews over the years, In the books I've read of Shirley MacLaine I have not heard about her daughter I surely don't remember her mentioning her daughter.
Read the book. I give Sachi a ton of credit for writing this book while her mother is still alive and can respond. There are too many people, credible people who were and are witnesses to everything Sachi has written, to render this book a fabrication.
Totally agree about Parker publishing the volume during her mother's lifetime. While I do believe some stories were exaggerated, I believe the content of the anecdotes. Some friends and family members gave interviews publicly at the time to corroborate Parker.
For her to write this book is fair. It is fair to lay it out for her mother to read in broad daylight. I dont believe for one moment that a parent who neglects their child to that degree would 'listen to reason' over a dinner, or even take a heartfelt letter seriously. The only thing, I think, that would really get through to a parent who is in the public eye because of hard-won fame, is telling a public story. Yes, Shirley Maclaine, since you didn't listen to your daughter during her whole life, you can now hear her story over a loudspeaker, and it may be an embarresment.
You are wrong. My mother was worse and when we sat down to talk, we cleared the air and a way to be loving adults for each other.
McClain's Daughter is her fathers daughter and is a con artist.
@@myocdtv7935 and how can you be so sure; this is her story, not yours
@@myocdtv7935 if your mother sat down to talk and assumed responsibility then she's not a narcissist (just a parent that made a few mistakes) and nothing like MacLaine. And if your mother isn't a narcissist you simply have no idea what it's like to grow up with one - and you're very lucky you don't.
One has to have a heart in order to be brokenhearted. MacLaine does NOT qualify as one with a heart!
I think Sachi was and is brave to share her story. Her parents were both very neglectful of her. Scars from our childhood follow us forever and it is quite Impossible to ever forget the pain of our childhood.
You are so right that scars from are childhood do follow us into adulthood
Stand up to the truth Sachi, bad mothers beware!!!!
I believe the daughter, absolutely!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
+italiangal56 The next 'MOMMIE DEAREST ' ?
Bullshit protecting the Hollywood spoil Brat Morons
The allegations seem to be true based upon Shirley's other interviews; her beliefs and her desires. What I find difficult to believe is that she's writing the book to get closer to her mother, maybe for her own daughers but it's just common sense that writing a negative book on someone will make them angry whether the book is true or not. BD Hyman, the daughter of Bette Davis also said years ago that she wrote about Bette to get closer to her and now that she has her own religious you tube channel and now admits on one of her videos that she wrote the book so that her mother would stay away from her for good. She believes for sure that her mother Bette Davis was a genuine witch.
italiangal56 yeh I was
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This is a great book and I believe every word of it. I read every word,a real page turner!
Shirley MacLaine was a great singer, dancer and actress, before she went absolutely moonbat crazy.
Catherine Murphy; Moon bat crazy is a good way to say that when people open their minds to demons, they'll march right in and take over.
That reporter is really heartless! It's as if she (the interviewer) thinks that she is conducting a "hard-hitting" interview with a corrupt politician or business mogul, in which case blindsiding the person would be fair game. Being that cold or heartless doesn't work in this type of interview, she could use some tips from Barbara Walters or Oprah on conducting interviews and showing compassion for someone who just wrote a memoir about their abusive childhood. I hope the Sachi was informed about her mother's response before going on air - if she was blindsided, as it appears she might have been, she did an amazing job of keeping her emotions in check!
I didn't see where the reporter was heartless. I think Sachi could probably anticipate her mother's reaction ahead of time. I don't think you would expect Shirley MacLaine to say yes. Good job Sachi. You're right. I was a bad mother.
I've read Parker's book, and none of the stories are beyond belief. If it were a work of fiction, MacLaine would have better been able to counter the stories rather than to be 'heartbroken' and to say it is 'virtually all fiction'. Sachi Parker has every reason to be bitter, especially if her mother continues not to acknowledge her wrongdoing.
Narcissists always play the victim; they never do anything wrong. It's always someone else's fault. Fits Shirley perfectly.
I read her book. I feel bad for her… She just wanted a mother! I can't even fathom putting a 2 year old on a plane by herself how very sad… I believe everything she wrote.. Shame on Shirley...
Oh please . The times were much different then. Kids were often put on planes very young and they sat with the stewardesses. That was how it was in 1958 when Stephanie Sachiko "Sachi" Parker was claimed to be only age 2.
@@GOLDENFLYWARRIOR i completely agree with you.
That scene at the beginning from terms of endearment ALWAYS gives me the chills. WHERE WAS SHE ABLE TO PULL SUCH RAW EMOTIONS FROM CONSIDERING THE TYPE OF MOTHER SHE IS TO HER REAL DAUGHTER , IN REAL LIFE???????!! .....Cannot wrap my head around it .. at all 😑.
Acting. and Shirley is damn good at it - otherwise, she would be very hard to employ after her claims about New Life and crystals, etc came out. I resisted even watching her films for years but the lady has so much talent.
But do please remember - this is one side of a story, and it has been a while, and it didn't hold up like most stories of truly terrible childhoods do. I do appreciate that you care about a person who claims to have had a hard childhood.
Sasha Thomas , Shirley was close to her mom.
I just don’t have the words!
It’s called Acting.
Shirley is just a very odd person. She is utterly focused on herself, her own career and happiness. Anyone and anything else is secondary.
Just because she may be "odd" in your opinion doesn't mean everything else you said is true.
Cathy Paulino: Yes, everything Andrew W said is true. I'm not in Kansas or North Dakota; I and a family member and friend have worked with these miserable people, and seen them in other places. The older ones have often been horrible to their children and spouses. Promiscuity, philandering, and disrespect for women are also rampant. Also, a lot of bad interactions with the police.
And that wouldn’t be bad per se if she hadn’t had a daughter and hadn’t neglected her.
I believe her entirely .
Being raised by your dad is one thing but a mom sending her two-year old daughter alone on a plane to Japan to a man that she believed was a clone and then rarely seeing her throughout her life is another.
Actors are a breed unto themselves. They can make you see what they want you to see. Who knows what any of us are capable of behind closed doors. Do I believe her daughter? Yes. It's so easy to believe that MacLaine could be this person. She admits during many interviews that she would let nothing stand in the way of her career...and that obviously included her daughter.
Shirley is now 80 years old. She probably will spend her last years alone. This is something to consider when making life choices.
@@travelseatsyellowlab if she had a heart perhaps spending her last years alone would matter to her. But I don't think it does. She lives in her own narcissistic fantasy land and probably feels the victim of her terrible daughter, which to her would be some sort of karmic lesson serving her spiritual evolution....since well, the universe revolves around her. She probably tells herself she'll resolve her issues with her daughter in her next life and stops thinking about it altogether.
MacLaine cannot be heartbroken - she would need to have a heart in order for that to occur. And, if she had a heart, she would NOT have neglected her daughter for years on end. She is truly a sick & evil person!
I don't think Shirley is evil, but her brain has a glitch and won't let her feel empathy or remorse. She doesn't think she did anything wrong. Full-blown Narcissist.
We all make mistakes. Mothers especially. The problem lies in the fact that children who have been hurt by their parents, who acted out of selfishness and problematic issues, never get an apology from their parents. We makes mistakes, but it is a parent's duty to own up to those mistakes and reach out to a hurt child. The coldness, refusal to face up to that egoism, and mistakes is perhaps the most painful issue here. Shirley probably could not have been the amazing actress and artist she was if she had not been a narcissist. The problem is she hurt her daughter and refuses to admit it. That is so selfish and cruel. It is time she owned up to her mistakes and tried to heal the hurt she created.
I had a mother very much like this. She was a homemaker. Her cruelty to me both as a child and an adult affected me to such a degree that I went to years and years of counseling. I begged my mother to go to therapy with me - but in her eyes, she had been “a perfect parent”. At a counselor’s advice, I finally ended the toxic relationship with my mother, which I never regretted. Thank God I have a wonderful husband who always helped me so much with my severe lack of self esteem. I also have a wonderful son of whom I am so proud. My horrible upbringing gave me the skills to be a loving and supportive parent. I am now 67 years old and my entire life with my mother still haunts me.
@@Kayte-tv2cw Your situation is so frightening and unfortunate. I'm sorry. Having had a dad who was narcissistic, self-centered, abusive and alcoholic, the pressure weighed both physically and mentally for years. When I confronted him about incidents such as drunkenly trying to shove me out of a moving car, pointing a loaded gun in my direction as I was mowing the lawn, he denied that said accidents ever occurred. I used to think he was in denial but now understand that as he was hammered 90% of the time, he probably doesn't remember. We have occasional communication for the benefit of my siblings and grandparents but the pain is so raw and deep, I will eventually cut off contact if I survive both grandparents.
texan903, I appreciate your comment to me. Your story really affected me, because I know exactly how you feel. It took me a long time to come to the realization that my mother was “toxic” to me. We did not have a relationship of any kind for the last ten years of her life. She did not even contact me when I had cancer in 1998, and had to have a kidney removed because of it. I have never felt guilty for cutting off ties with her, because I knew in my heart that I had tried everything that I could do to make our relationship a better one. My father was an alcoholic, also, but clearly the better parent. He was not a “mean drunk”. Most of all, I knew that my father loved me, which is all a child really wants. Unlike your situation, I am sure that my mother remembered everything - she just would not admit to it. Both of my siblings talked to her about the way she treated me. When I got the courage to ask my mother why she treated me like she did, her response was “my mother treated me like that, and I turned out just fine”. My husband always told me that at least I was able to stop the cycle of abuse. The incidents you described in your comment are truly horrific. Unfortunately, they will probably stay with you for a lifetime. Just know that the way you were treated is not your fault. I am so very sorry that you have to go through this. My heart goes out to you. Please take care of yourself!
@@Kayte-tv2cw How selfish and cruel for a parent not to be present or at least make contact during a grave illness of their child. Sadly, appallingly, your mother showed her unwillingness to accept responsibility when she tried blaming her mother. When you know that you have tried everything, anything beyond that is a mental draining, also not healthy. Self-preservation is important. Fortunately you have your husband and father and son. Most of the worst incidents happened about 25 years ago, like the car situation. When I think back, it's baffling, almost tear-jerking, so I forget as much as possible. The less contact I find is better. For five years when I lived in Europe, he would never call or make contact, it was strange but he is also narcissistic to the point that he felt that providing a roof, food, utilities, good education, everyone should be happy, that was supposed to be all it took. My dad's mother has stage four kidney cancer and has since a recurrence in 2017. The bad kidney was removed about 15 years before that. Treatment is keeping it at bay for the time being, thankfully. Should she stay free of the COVID-19, she will be 77 in two months time. Having read Ms. Parker's book, I was horrified at the behavior of Shirley MacLaine. You and Ms. Parker clearly share an amazing willpower.
Time is precious, valuable and I believe we must love ourselves first, most importantly and then we better learn how to love others. We just have to make the most of the one life we're guaranteed to have.
texan903, Everything you said is so true, and full of many years of wisdom. Unfortunately, my dad passed away in 1989, due to his alcoholism, and that is when my mother really escalated her negative treatment of me as an adult. I think it was because my dad was no longer there to “protect” me. I worry that you hold the abuse you suffered inside and try to forget it, because it truly can be toxic to your life. Counseling can be beneficial for a lot of people, although it did not help me that much. I think that the pain is just too deep when you are a child who is hurt by someone who should love and protect you. However, counseling did give me the strength to break away from the negative relationship with my mother. I understand how that would be difficult for you to do right now because you don’t want to hurt your dad’s parents. I am so very sorry to hear about your grandmother’s cancer ordeal. I pray that medication will continue to help her. As for you, please take care of yourself, stay strong, and know that you are in my thoughts.
Wow she has her Mothers voice... little girlie.....I love Shirley MacLaine, but she is a FRUIT CAKE.. No doubt about that lol
Most people who have had difficult relationships would like for things to be better, to have a happy ending, and that is not limited to Hollywood families. It's common for a child to want a relationship with their parents, even if they were abused and neglected. I wanted that too until I realized that it would never happen since my mother is incapable of giving love and is very self-absorbed. People like that will NEVER admit that they've done wrong and will deny it until their last breath. Sachi needs to stay away from Shirley, as the woman is a narcissist and will never apologize or change.
+Muirmaiden Amen.
I agree, You should keep a safe distance from anyone including your loved ones if they are not a possitive presence in your life, and if You are a grown person and you take care of yourself, and honor and love and accept your parents as they are at a healthy distance if needed and move on as a normal adult woman you don't think or need to make public your problems and less make money hurting your mother with writing about them. Maybe Shirley McLane was not a good mother but her daughter is even worst making money talking badly about her mother.
I was given away for adoption and only recognized after both my adoptive parents had died and l was desperately ill. Immediately my biological parents both made excuses for decisions they had made which forever impacted me, and used revisionist history when it suited their individual yet similar stories. Fate had me born to the wrong parents but raised by the mother l was meant to have, which has helped me heal from the truth of my beginnings, accept the narcissists l was mistakenly born to, and be eternally grateful for the wisdom and insight l gained by the decent upbringing l had. The narcissist will never apologize, as blame only exists in their vocabulary when it applies as a term for others to shoulder.
+Cynthia Lyman your words are beyond wisdom, sadly many of us are stocked with our narcissistic parent or parents, you were more than blessed and wise in accepting the reality of your biological parents that at least were mature enough in giving you forma adoption to wiser parents and being thankfull and appreciative of your adopting parents and teachings.
Thank you sincerely. The insight and wisdom has been, and is, hard earned.
You cannot change a narcissistic parent. They never wake up
I might add, that even though she claimed to have a special bond with her dog Terry (who she believes communicated with her via ESP while the dog was both alive and dead) but she allowed that poor dog to suffer for years instead of putting her out of her misery when she was blind, deaf, completely incontinent, and couldn’t even stand without wobbling. Terry the dog eventually threw herself into the family pool to end her own life! That is not love. It is the epitome of selfishness! If you want to hear it from Shirley Maclean’s one words, read about this poor little dog in “Out on a Leash”, her book about Terry (and UFOs and ancient civilizations where she first met Terry who was a god, among other craziness). MacLaine needs to grow some empathy and focus outward, her time is running out.... sad.
Your eyes are like your Mom’s eyes! So sorry that you missed her but she was concerned about your safety for a reason. Big hug to you👩❤️👨🌹
I'm sure trying to protect her from satanic hollywood and their rituals and initiations
Let go of any and all expectations about your parents - what they did or didn't do, etc. - they are human. Took me 52 years to figure out I was part of the problem because I expected my parents to be some version of what I considered "good parents" - and they did the best they could. I'm sorry for the pain involved for both mother, daughter, and grandkids. This type of thing is very common in human nature if you study family systems. May you all find some measure of inner peace - even if reconciliation does not happen.
+Angie Wilson Well, the kids are children. So they are not part of any problem with the parents in their parenting skills. If a person is going to live a narcissistic life, why have kids?
+Angie Wilson how RIGHT you are.
Angie Wilson, you are a wise, wise person.
And what if your mother taught you how to commit suicide
Robin Gagan: Her mother did that? If so, then I guess she's an evil piece of shit who hated her daughter. There are people who hate their innocent children because they hate the other parent or for some other stupid reason. I remember reading a woman's account of her father abusing her constantly because her mother died having her. Mercifully, he died when the child was elementary school age (murdered actually, by someone outraged over the sex abuse of the daughter) but she had been left an angry bitter man-hating woman who abused her own son. He later killed himself in his 30s. An evil person can wreck so many lives.
I believe Sachi.
I think sometimes we forget how children were not obsessed over in passed generations. In retrospect, I'm sure Ms McClaine would have thought better of her parenting choices, but she was doing what thousands of other wealthy parents of her era were doing with their children, and they both need to acknowledge and make peace with their past w each other
When Oprah interviewed Shirley McLain she did point out UFO's in the sky they were clouds but Shirley truly felt they were UFO's. She is a little nuts.
arent we all
+Linda York You see UFOs in the clouds too?
+sableblonde no but I think you can't take life so seriously- we spend too much time judging others
Linda York I agree with you totally. These others on here are just 'that'...the same ones who would give me shit on some comments I make that are , yes, judgmental. They never see themselves! I wish I was famous because I had a disfuncional relationship with my mother, that impacted my life tremendously, but who would care to read it? haha. So, I don't care one way or the other about the fact whether it's true or not. Like you say.... we're all either alittle nuts or strange. And, that's probably ' normal'!!
I find it incredible there are those who think we are the only planet in the universe to be inhabited. Come on open up a little, course we’re not.
its therapy and its healing--Maclaine won't acknowledge her lack of parenting in private obviously so the daughter wrote a book about it--why not?
Shirley Maclaine is a great personality and actress, but I always suspected something else about her, something I read between the lines of her books and statements about herself, even way before Sachi spilled the beans. She's a consummate narcissist. Narcissists don't stop to consider whether their choices are going to hurt someone else. Those considerations are not a part of their consciousness. They operate solely out of their own needs, and consider that to be its own justification. My mother was a clone of Shirley. She never once stopped to think about anything other than what would satisfy her own needs and agendas. It's a form of illness. The best thing Sachi can do is get into therapy, see her mother's limitations and failings, let go of it, find other sources of love and validation, and move totally on. That way, she wins. She's not a victim. Since I believe in karma, her mother will have to one day pay the price. That's how it works. You go, Sachi.
DivineSimply Personally, I think you've nailed the issues between Shirley Maclaine and her daughter. Many or most of the commenters here are critical of Sachi because she's stepping on their fantasies of Shirley's character and personality by telling "her truth" as she put it in one interview. But each person has a personal "truth" that may bear very little resemblance to other people's perceptions. Most of Sachi's detractors seem to characterize her as "a spoiled rich kid" who wants to get revenge on her mother for not being the mommy of her dreams, and incidentally, to make lots of money in the process. But hurt is hurt, loneliness is loneliness, and it really does seem that Sachi's mom sacrificed her relationship with her child in favor of her own career. She sent large amounts of money to Sachi's father as a way to avoid having to deal with a reality she wanted no part of. Somehow I doubt the results of her book are going to be satisfying to Sachi, though. You're right: she may have a real chance to free herself of the past and find peace of mind through therapy.
Exactly.
DivineSimply I agree. I have worked with quite a few actresses (dressing them) and it's amazing what goes on behind the scenes. I could tell you some crazy stories. Most actresses are narcissists in some form - as there are different types of narcs. No mother puts her 2 year old on an airplane by themselves to Japan. I never even knew she had a daughter.
I worked in Hollywood too, on the Universal Lot. What a town, huh?
P.S. Don't feel bad that you didn't realize Shirley had a daughter. Shirley didn't realize it either.
While I do question Parker's motives for writing this book, I don't doubt much of her story. What kind of person leaves their only child, age two, to live w/her father she's still married to, & his mistress in another country? The whole situation right there is unkosher! It may be possible that there was some personal reactionary reason for this book. Though, while, I do like Shirley Maclaine as an actress, she has always struck me as an egotistical diva that you don't cross.
Even if the book was a lie or an exaggeration, any parent who loves their child more than themselves would avoid insulting him/her publicly, and try to reconcile the misunderstanding.
I get the feeling that the daughter saw this as the last chance to maybe get her mom's attention, and/or something she had to do for her own sanity.
in the mini series Out on a Limb, about Shirley MacLaine's life and "spiritual quest" not once does Shirley mention that she has a daughter.
Yes she does
Well, Shirley McLane said in an interview in 1992 THAT NO ONE WAS GOING TO INTERPOSE IN HER CAREER, NOT EVEN HER DAUGHTER, for that reason she sent her at 2 years old to live with her father in Japan. I believe what Sachi says!!!!!
Poor Saachi. Shirley SHAME ON YOU! Why didn't you just adopt her out. Not showing up at boarding school and left out in the cold for two weeks. I feel so sorry for Saachi. She is telling the truth.
Ppl dont remember but there was a time when the world was truly in LOVE with Shirley MaClaine. Not just as a movie star but as a human. She knew it, too.
I read a biography about Shirley McLain 20 years ago. I remember thinking her daughter's Mommy Dearest book was just a matter of time. It took longer than I thought.
God bless those children who have celebrities as parents.I think most celebs are married to their careers.Their marriages don't work out most of the time so I can imagine what the children must deal with.It must have been really hard.But ALWAYS two sides to every story.Both can learn to FORGIVE and that's a challenge but possible.
I can't understand how people take sides here. None of us who comment know these two women. They have obviously shared a lot of good and bad in many years. Isn't this normal? How many out there who are parents/daughters/sons can claim to have had a happy/unchallenged/safe/and harmonious upbringing? Even in the best families stuff happens. People who grew up in the 50, 60, 70s often had parents who were sort of traumatised by war events, discipline often meant physical punishment, many of us did not grow up rich... So, come on, they have issues. Yes, maybe she should have tried to sort it out with her mother before she wrote a book, maybe that wasn't possible, maybe her mother could've made amends but didn't. Who knows! Just stop judging people with your small mindedness.
Eva Wilhelm
American children didn’t experience any war. They couldn’t possibly be traumatized by it, maybe by the loss of one serving parent, but let’s keep in mind that not every loss and not everything bad is necessarily a trauma.
See E S Curtis reply !!!
Yes. True. Unless you are there then you can't know them properly.
In this video, MacLaine is quoted as only wanting the best for her daughter. That is a “far cry” from actually giving her daughter the best!
Sachi worked all her adult life...Read the book.
Sashi isn't the only child of a famous person who's whole life was filled with pain and rejection. I think anyone who wants to criticize her or her intentions should realize that money and power doesn't flow down to family members for many. If she can make a few bucks from her book, more power to her!
I'm just reading it. MacLaine was one of those celebrities not suitable to have anything to do with children-the names Boone, Crawford,Crosby, Lewis,Mullard, Stanwyck and Sullavan come to mind. A child's place is in the home,a mother's place is with her child-not dumping her for years on end to boarding schools , especially a cane-happy one, and then denying her a college education when you're worth millions!
I probably believe Sachi more than Shirley, children of extremely successful people often suffer emotional neglect
If you listen to even one interview from Shirley Maclaine..you know this is absolutely true
Everyone believes Sachi but poor Christina, Joan Crawford's adopted daughter, is called a liar by so many. I believe Christina because my sister and I lived her life.
The mom chased the Hollywood fame with "all means", the child was in the way and was dumped far away. All that fame isn't really worth a hug from a child who really loves you.
I watched a bio of Shirley MacLaine and she admitted she wasn't the best mother in the world but if her career was really impeded by a child she would have aborted it. She didn't. She did what she considered best at that time, in that era. As for her kookiness, well, you take what you need and leave the rest. Sometimes, while you journal, what you write years ago is usually tempered by age. I can only relate as what I felt towards my father growing up, and the first time I saw him strike my mother, all love for him was sealed off. My sisters. Received all the attention. I asked about Big Brother club in eighth grade because no hunting, fishing, etc ever done together. So I went hunting with him one time. So my journals whined about being clothed and fed but little else. When I joined the Air Force he did stop by to say how proud he was, etc. My perception was he put me on Earth and then, grow on your own. When I turned 30 and had a youngun of my owwn, I remember wondering how my father clothed and fed 5 kids and it was tight with one
One Christmas he was Ansy that I open up one present, which I did
Yes, if she had a loving mother this book wouldn't have been written. You never get what u want, you tell the world and your mom so u can be free and be understood... huge amount of pain, whether or not the book should have been written.
I agree,..that education thing,...refusing to pay for a college degree,....I cannot believe a woman with Shirley's means refusing to educate her daughter,...wow,..
Becasue a Narc will always not want you to Be too smart and see their game and how they have fooled you..
These are strong women, they will both be okay. Someday they may validate each other's experiences. But they both seem to know peace. This is representative of the Hollywood Culture and maybe we shouldn't buy in. I will just appreciate their art.
my own mother and myself were once very close..she has turned her back on me..its heartbreaking
Somebody has to be wrong ya know, and we hurt the ones we are closest to sometimes. ....
What a horrible response from Shirley McLaine about her daughter's very real pain.... That says everything!!!
That statement from Shirley was cold and distant. Especially as a mother
mothers need to take accountability and even if they think the daughter is wrong should still apologize. I would
Shirley MacLaine was born without the maternal gene. That's not her fault. What was her fault was dumping her two year child on her playboy husband who lived halfway around the world. She could have kept Sachi with her and hired a nanny like just about everyone else in Hollyweird. When Sachi graduated from boarding school at age 17, instead of cutting Sachi off financially, she could have at least loaned her the money for college. It's crystal clear that she never wanted her daughter in her life, considered her to be a financial burden and cut her off financially when she was still a minor.
If she feels pride on succeeding on stardom and money in life but cares nothing about failing to a child that she gave birth to, leaving the toddler alone , the highest of acts of cruelty is to hurt a child. Narcissism at his best.
Drewtazy thank you for your perspective! We cannot verify her accounts just as you pointed out. This world is a very messed up place and children are dying daily of famine still, being beaten and held in closests, and many many horrid things! So much worse than anything she has alledged here! I just dont understand ppl sometimes! Perhaps there is more to this story than state that would change many views on this. But if so why not state it now? We all have hard times, we make mistakes as parents, we want more and better for our children than we had. The important thing is to admit our mistakes and make up we can and do better in the future. Thats so much more than many cjikdren ever get!
All of you who posters who can't imagine a woman obsessed with her career and neglects her child must have had mothers who couldn't or wouldn't do that, and how lucky you are. For those of us who didn't we look at you in amazement.
Well said.
Great actor, singer, and dancer on film and stage but without motherly instincts in real life.
It won't be long before Angelina Jolie, and Charlize Theron kids grow up and start writing their own books.
connie bracamonte can u imagine ???
Nonsense! Hey both LOVE being mothers. Some people just really should never have kids. LOTS on women have children and are just lousy mothers.
i know exactly how she feels, i went thru it too, with actor parents.. tossed here and there.. very lonely and isolating..i will have to read this book
I`m 47y old austria/vienna. i do think, as shirley mclaine was a great actress and one of the beautiest at her time, i do beleive, she could have been far from easy going.
Also, the only reason people wouldn't believe Parker is because MacLaine is a world renowned star and think people like that can do no wrong. I believe MacLaine's parenting skills were severely lacking.
Her facial expressions, her mannerisms and her speaking style are so like her mother. Sad.
Oh yeah, and she shows so much respect and love for her mother by publishing this book... such an example of how to love someone dearly.
Dan Bolivar Love your irony! In my opinion family problems should stay in the family, irrelevant as to whether your famous or not. Seems to me she wanted to make money from her Mothers fame, as did the Daughters of Joan Crawford and Bette Davis.
***** It's about making money off her mother. Dear God, doesn't she have enough from that source?
Dan Bolivar: She called her mother out. And her mother doesn't deserve love.
mark prescott: No, her mother gave her nothing. She was treated like a foster child; abandoned, given only food and clothes, and thrown into the street the minute she graduated from high school.
@@oldfart4751 Abuse and neglect is a crime; it shouldn't be "kept in the family". What messed up priorities some people have. I guess the Turpin children and Elisabeth Fritzel should have "kept it in the family" as well.
She's awful to do this to her mother. Keep your memories in your family. Don't blast your mean words out to the world. Disgusting.
No one knows the real truth but the two of them, and it should remain between the two of them.
I believe Sachi---Shirley's career comes before her daughter. Might have been better to give Sachi for adoption to a loving family instead of absentee parents. Good thing she turned out OK instead of her parents.
I remember Shirley Maclaine talking about sSachi being far away from her in Japan and how much angst she had over a Hollywood career and not being able to see Sachi. So, I don't think this is a _Mommie Dearest_ so much as a tell all from Sachi's viewpoint. I believe her and have no doubt that a lot of Hollywood kids feel left behind.
only they know the truth-but I caught the daughter saying in interview- i never meant to hurt her- i just wanted her to know how i felt- ok then- why not tell her over dinner-on a one on one conversation or send her a letter-why publicly humiliate someone you supposeably care about
Sachi didn't do it privately because she needed the money, obviously. She earned somewhere in the neighborhood ten-to-twenty million dollars for "Lucky Me." And she'll get even more $$$ for selling the the movie rights. Sounds like a pretty boring book, though. Hope it was worth it to her to sell out like that. It's sad no matter how you look at it.
Linda York Because she doesn't listen.
exactly. I have a similar mother, but not rich and famous. her way to avoid anything "negative" I had to say, was to run away. literally, she moved uncountable times in her lifetime, and in the end, now, she's senile and dependent on my sister and me. it's hard sometimes, but we take care of her, I have to admit, sometimes I do tell her how horrible she was at times, and how hurtful. she listens now, because she can't run any more, but she obviously has no idea what I'm talking about. she just looks at me and shakes her head, as if to say - wow, I did that? lol
Shirley MacLaine showed more love and caring for her dog Terry than for her own flesh and blood daughter. I didn’t even know she had a daughter! She obviously never spoke about her much. Having read a couple of Shirley Maclaine’s books, I believe Sachi. Shirley sounds self-absorbed, and seems to think she’s so enlightened, but can’t even “see” the pain she’s caused her own daughter!! I feel bad for Sachi, to have that kind of mother. I can’t imagine what it does to a person to not feel wanted (apparently Sachi never spent more than four hours in a stretch with her mother, and from what I’ve gleaned in books and interviews, I completely believe everything Sachi says.
bless their daughter Sachi!!!
Sachi Parker is very lovely Woman, she looks like Barbara Eden( I Dream of Jeannie) glad she survived to tell her Tough Life Story. Hope it gets a Happy Ending. Wow!!
There is no such thing as “the truth”. There’s what you observe and what you make it mean. Something about this woman I don’t trust.
the daughter I feel wants to make her own mark in the world. It is a way
to raise her self-esteem by knocking Shirley MacLaine....famous actress,
accomplished dancer, singer, and book Author. Her mother outshines her
a million times over...and she feels she can never compete that her success.
Shyann1 no, she's tried to bring Shirley in her life many times, she wants her mom .wake up people, she wants her mom in her life.wake up people it's not hard to realize, and she said so in her book..again wake up.
This interviewer. Sounds too. Choppy to listen. To.
Thank you though, Sachi, i'll just respect you & your mother both & best wishes to you both as well.
It's definitely a pattern when it comes to old hollywood stars & their children. Many of them seemed to have difficult childhoods even with all the wealth their parents had. Maclaine isn't the first on this list. There was Loretta Young refusing to publicly acknowledge her daughter with Clark Gable as her biological child even to her dying day. Gable was worse, at least Loretta raised their child while he behaved like she was nonexistent even with the glaring resemblance. Ingrid Bergman left daughter & husband for her lover, ZsaZsa Gabor & Hilton did not do right by their only daughter who died a wretch, of course many of us know the story of Joan Crawford & Bette Davis' relationships with their daughters. I think it's unfortunately the way hollywood was (& is) set up. A lot of hurt wounded people from dysfunctional homes find fame & fortune, become parents without any idea of how to love their children. Maybe some years from now, they will be tell-alls for some current hollywood stars.
Her voice sounds like her moms and she has the same eyes. I feel for her. Her mom is nutty. Talented lady, but nutty. I would never in a million years could be separated from my daughter ever. And she let the dad take her at 2 years old?!!! That's awful.