Hey hey hey...I finally got to a good TT that didn't have a comment...yet! I'd like to thank my mom for all her support of my goals! Good ideas. Good, concise delivery. ☮️
There are also not enough people talking about the rights & acknowledging and having boundaries , each individual rights when it comes to walking away from a toxic friendship & not convincing a friend to not be close to a person that have been toxic to me and my life at one point. At first I couldn’t accept or understand the kind of situation whenever I see my friends are still friends with people who have hurt me mentally. But later as I read more and more resources about emotional quality & emotional intelligence, I have learnt / learned and will try to understand that no human being is 💯 / perfect. Have you seen a quote that says something like “Hurt people, hurt people”? Yeah so I understand it this way, I will not take away the right of choice anyone I care have... including how they can be friends with people I don’t click & don’t get along with. Example: I had bad experience with person A, doesn’t mean person B has the same bad experience with person A. So there is no reason for me to break person B & person A ‘s relationship. However, I also have my rights. I have the choice to not to be around them when they hang out for the sake of my own peace of mind. Basically knowing & creating my own boundaries & this is part of a personal growth. And I make sure to be honest to my friends that I care for the genuine reasons why I won’t wanna be around if they hang out with the people I don’t wanna be around with. I’m grateful for the maturity levels of my close friends though, they understand me and never invited me to a gathering that includes certain people anymore which I’m happy about. There are also some challenging situations that are almost impossible to avoid, for example if person A is a friend of my family member or my colleague... there will be time where I can’t avoid seeing person A, if I’m happy in my work I would try my best to work well with anyone including person A. But I will certainly have the right not to be around person A outside of work. If I’m not happy with my current job, and having person A as my colleague is making my work life even tougher, I will certainly start applying a new job and prepare to quit my current job. And if my family member that I live under the same roof is friend with person A, I have the right to express my concern to my family and I will let them know that I don’t wish to see person A in our house. But my family can stay friends with person A, it just would be considerate for my family to meet person A at different place.
Hey hey hey...I finally got to a good TT that didn't have a comment...yet! I'd like to thank my mom for all her support of my goals!
Good ideas. Good, concise delivery. ☮️
There are also not enough people talking about the rights & acknowledging and having boundaries , each individual rights when it comes to walking away from a toxic friendship & not convincing a friend to not be close to a person that have been toxic to me and my life at one point.
At first I couldn’t accept or understand the kind of situation whenever I see my friends are still friends with people who have hurt me mentally.
But later as I read more and more resources about emotional quality & emotional intelligence, I have learnt / learned and will try to understand that no human being is 💯 / perfect. Have you seen a quote that says something like “Hurt people, hurt people”?
Yeah so I understand it this way, I will not take away the right of choice anyone I care have... including how they can be friends with people I don’t click & don’t get along with.
Example: I had bad experience with person A, doesn’t mean person B has the same bad experience with person A. So there is no reason for me to break person B & person A ‘s relationship.
However, I also have my rights. I have the choice to not to be around them when they hang out for the sake of my own peace of mind. Basically knowing & creating my own boundaries & this is part of a personal growth. And I make sure to be honest to my friends that I care for the genuine reasons why I won’t wanna be around if they hang out with the people I don’t wanna be around with. I’m grateful for the maturity levels of my close friends though, they understand me and never invited me to a gathering that includes certain people anymore which I’m happy about.
There are also some challenging situations that are almost impossible to avoid, for example if person A is a friend of my family member or my colleague... there will be time where I can’t avoid seeing person A, if I’m happy in my work I would try my best to work well with anyone including person A. But I will certainly have the right not to be around person A outside of work. If I’m not happy with my current job, and having person A as my colleague is making my work life even tougher, I will certainly start applying a new job and prepare to quit my current job.
And if my family member that I live under the same roof is friend with person A, I have the right to express my concern to my family and I will let them know that I don’t wish to see person A in our house. But my family can stay friends with person A, it just would be considerate for my family to meet person A at different place.
Best talk on friendship
I related more of these points to myself than my friends… 💀
Nabil Farooq is my favorite writter ❤️❤️
4:19 just gonna stamp this for later